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[ - ] Did anyone read NYT article on giving up on fertility treatments? I think a couple of my childless friends fall into this category and it must be hard. On the other hand, they didn't really give adoption a chance, it seems. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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maybe they didn't WANT to give adoption a chance. for many people it isn't an alternative they are interested in, and that's okay... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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I haven't read the article, but my best friend struggled a long time with the decision to stop trying. it's hard to give up the dream of a biological child. they adopted, and are very happy, but it was a tough road to get there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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if you listen to the interviews, they sound pretty sad. It's a depressing article IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:43 AM Flag
[ - ] 14 month old son STILL. DOESN'T. WALK. Its driving me nuts, b/c he just wants to get down and explore but b/c he can't walk, I can't really let him in a lot of places. Any thing I can do to help him along? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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leave him alone, he'll get it. 14 months is not late for walking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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oh, i'm not worried about it, i just can't take it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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Mine was almost 18 monts before he walked. Very frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think Private school parents tend to be more protective (ie driving kids to school 6 blocks, not having kids take the school bus, hovering at drop off, etc) or is it just my small sample distortig my views 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.10.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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a bit of both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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^^^Meaning they are more protective, but not as much as I think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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sorry, meaning yes some are really protective, or can't fathom the use of plebian public transportation, and it is also the people you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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Yes - especially private school parents who have excellent public school options. Choosing public schools requires a certain tolerance for adventure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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OP: lol at your phrase. I have a pretty high tolerance for adventure, btu couldn't do it for the kids education...some times I feel like a fish out of water though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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I think that part of the reason behind sending kids to private school, esp among the wealthier segment, is to keep them in a certain bubble, keep them away from the hoi polloi, so to speak. Same goes for the parents' own lives. But if you had the convenience of a driver, wouldn't you use it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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I wouldn't have a driver take my kid 6 blocks to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I just came across an interesting site about the wealthiest neighborhoods NOT zipcodes in the country - www.higley1000.com. In the top 100, two neighboorhoods in Mamaroneck Village (Orienta and Shore Acres on the water), one in White Plains (the Ridgewood Country Club area), two in Harrison (Purchase and Westchester Country Club area), four in Scarsdale and the Old Edgemont/Coltswolds neighboorhood in Town of Greenburgh, Hewletts Bay Park in Long island and Mid-town Manhattan made the list. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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^^There were also 6 neighborhoods in Greenwich,CT, 2 in Millburn, NJ (incl. Short Hills), 1 in Summit, NJ and 1 in Ridgewood, NJ on the list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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great. now I know where to start my burglary spree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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op: oh oh I didn't think of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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don't worry, if it's public, it's out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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op: I didn't think of that, moderator please delete this post!. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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because burglars lurk on UB for tips like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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^^^ oh I forgot to mention one neighborhood in Bronxville (Bronxville East) was also in the top 100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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What's the link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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A lot of the "wealthiest" lists are country clubs/golf courses FWIW. So these are older, retired people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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No not only country clubs and golf courses. The top 1000 list which is a broader list includes lots of other neighbourhoods in NJ, Long Island, Westchester, NYC and CT. Neighborhoods in Weschester include some in Rye (Greenhaven, Manursing Island, Milton Point) Larchmont Manor, Town of Mamaroneck (Larchmont North/Winged Foot Area), Hastings and Irvington (on the Hudson), Pelham, Armonk, Bedford, Pound Ridge, North Castle and so on. In the city it includes Tribeca, UWS, UES,Sutton Place, Beekman Place, Brooklyn Heights, Fieldston in the Bronx, Neponsit in Queens and so on..............mostly regular neighboorhoods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Any ideas for birthday party for 5-yo girl? She loves mermaids. We live NYC WEst side downtown-ish and have already done NYKids Club and Appleseeds. Chelsea Piers? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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let's dress up on east 84th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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can you rent pool time there, or at the Y or a private gym? she could have a mermaid party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Love, love Chelsea Piers for this age. Have Little Mermaid invites and dishes. Kids a just alittle young for a pool party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] who knows how long we have to accept it???? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
[ - ] seeing a guy i am exclusive with, however, when asked about the future he says "i can't think that far ahead". we use condoms right now and he wants me to go on BC, but i don't do very well on it. now he tells me he has been researching and wants me to have a copper IUD put in and he will come with me. WTF. i told him "an IUD is a big commitment, so for now we should stick with condoms". i then said "for someone who can't see into the future you certainly have big plans for my birth control." he denied ever saying that. WWYD. is this a situation where he is using me for sex?? its so weird 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.10.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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Why do you keep posting this? What are you hoping to hear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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i posted last night late for the night crowd, and posting again for the day crowd. curious of peoples opinions. whats the big deal. its my second post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Not a big deal at all and I am sorry if I sounded snarky. I am genuinely curious about what you are looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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no idea. just strikes me as odd and makes me feel uneasy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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So why not trust yourself? I think you are right to feel uneasy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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what do i do? i plan on discussing this with him but dont want to sound like a nag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Put the ball in his court. "An IUD is a big commitment and it seems that neither of us is ready for that right now. We can talk about a roadmap to get to that state in our relationship but right now that is not where we are." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I've never used roadmap in a romantic conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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ITA. he's shifting the burden on you without a committment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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why do you care? why are you still on here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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He uses condoms till you get a ring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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interesting... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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obviously no ring is in the future [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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why do you say that? (op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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be happy that he's proactive with birth control. I slept with a lot of guys, and very few even asked about birth control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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How old are you? Do you have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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yes. we both have kids from previous marriages. but i would like another someday (if i ever get married again) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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I don't know if this has changed, but IUD was not advisable unless you know you're STD-free and monogamous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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I agree. If he's not ready to commit, you shouldn't be either. Sleeping with someone without condoms is like committing to them and all their past flings. If you do go through with it, make sure he gets tested. He sounds a bit pushy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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I find SAH mind numbing and boring yet the most important thing I could do, so for me...it's the hardest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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He's nuts. I would never use that thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 11:19 AM Flag
[ - ] AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. That is the sound of my screaming in frustration at being tossed out randomly to re-login when I go to reply to certain posts (and it doesn't wrok, even then)AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Just hit the back button and then reply to the original post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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Yeah, what I finally did instead of replying to the subthread...but soooooooooooo frustrating. No wonder they can't fix the collapse post feature. Dopes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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beyond annoying. I just go to the post above the one I'm trying to respond to and hit the look-up key (^^^) to show which post I'm actually responding to. Besides the nice little message, they haven't fixed a damn thing in over 3 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know when private nyc schools have spring break next year? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.10.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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it's always the last two weeks of March [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Great, someone just got an email from DOE saying G&T letters are going out in the next 7-10 days 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.10.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I wish this is a joke! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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It was just posted on Inside Schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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Then why does it say on the home page of their website that all families will RECEIVE them this week?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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LOL, why are you asking me? Don't shoot the messenger! I still think it'll be this week or the DOE is really jerky - they've PUBLICLY posted that all will be RECEIVED this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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OR: Sorry, didn't mean to shout at you! I think this email was fake or wrong. They would not put it in a big banner on their homesite if it was false information. They would bury that update! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I cannot f-ing believe this! But of course, I really can b/c they have no regard for anything or anybody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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Ugh. And how long do we have to accept? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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I just can't take this any longer.,,, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Where is this on insideschools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I don't buy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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I'm with you. Someone is trying to make us all crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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If they had said "I just received an e-mail from __________... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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The parent coordinator at ps 9 mentioned that they will have their orientation on June 19th whether or not g&t families have their results by that date. General ed & lottery children parents will still be able to attend. I'm just hoping they don't have the welcome picnic on that day too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.10.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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Sounds right to me. got call Sat night asking why we had not returned form. To me that meant they had not yet ranked all the 99s then the 98s. then they have to see what you put down. I would be surprised if they finsihed the "lottery" this week. Let alone type up the letters and mail them. Who knows if we were even the last call. Maybe they we still calling people Monday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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I posted on Insideschools asking Helen to reach out to her OSEPO contacts to verify this. If true, it might indicate that they discovered a big problem after they had finished the placements, a problem they need to address before notifying parents of placements. Or, they're just REALLY far behind. They have had our rankings for 3 weeks now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Buying a bunk. Wanted to buy a pillowtop twin mattress, but I think I need a low profile for top bunk. Any recommendations? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.10.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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pillowtops are terrible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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That wasn't very helpful. Can you recommend a low profile mattress for a bunkbed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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ittttta, mine is horrible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:28 AM Flag
[ - ] So will the letters be coming tomorrow, Thursday or Friday? I HOPE they don't mail them end of the day Friday! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.10.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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I think they will mail them tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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They can't - they said parents will receive placements this week...they have to be mailing today is my hope!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:17 AM Flag
[ - ] So tomorrow, Thursday or Friday for letters? What's you guess? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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Post. To. The. Stupid. Schools. Board! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't think my stomach can take the waiting much longer. I am running to the toilet every hour. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.10.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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Yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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what are you waiting for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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To find out where dc will be going to K in September! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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what are the choices? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I'm waiting, too, but is it really such a huge thing that you're spending all day in the bathroom? Depending on DC's placement, we may move to be closer to school, esp if she gets in a citywide and will be there through MS or HS, but we'll find out soon enough. DC doesn't seem to mind not knowing where she's going. In fact, she seems oblivious to the whole process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Well, mine keeps asking because most of the kids in his preK class know where they will be in September. Also, this process has been dragging out over a year now for us (Hunter/Privates). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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I'm the poster above you, but I can't seem to reply directly to you. I'm in the same spot as you, in that a lot of kids from DC's preschool class know where they're headed in the fall and we have spent a year on this process, too. I just don't think it's healthy for you (or your kids) to make yourself physically sick over this process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone read the Bob Lape review of South Gate? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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work at the mag - should i go get it? what issue date [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I really liked ps11, but it doesn't seem to be in favor here. Am I missing something? I thought the principal and teachers were really great, nice facility, great arts program, etc. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.10.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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I have friends with a dc there and they love it. I think it is a really nice school although I am not sure I would commute to far for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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We loved it - listed it after A and Nest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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I really liked it as well. I would have ranked it second after Anderson - did not return form - we are moving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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What score did you get? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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99 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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I really liked it, but after thinking long and hard, I'm still not that comfortable with it. I think it would be great for K and elementary but am worried about middle school. We are holding a private accept, and we will probably just go ahead and spend the $$ although I am still undecided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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I don't understand your post. PS 11 only goes to 5th grade. Kids apply out for MS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Same here, but maybe private puts her dc in a better position for MS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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np: if the privatse goes through 12, she's eliminated that worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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If the private schools goes through 8th grade, she's eliminated it also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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OR here (UB won't let me post under response) I mean I don't want to reapply for MS. Our private accept is only through 8th, but exmissions are good. But a lotta $$$ which is why I'm torn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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some people are scared of the GenEd population. too many so-called "project kids." I think its a lovely school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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I admit I'm one of those who is scared of "project" kids, as much as I hate to, and of the "have/have not" mentality that could exist there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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It's a lovely school. The principal and staff are thoughtful and caring. they know all the kids by heart. don't listen to the gossip mongers and elitist moms. this is an up and coming school which people will be dying to get into in a few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.10.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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PS 11 is a hidden secret. I can't believe what some of you elitist moms and gossip mongers are writing. PS 11 probably wouldn't be right for you; most parents there are much more down to earth. My child is in the G&T program at PS 11: he loves going to school everyday; loves his teachers and principal; and doesn't judge any other child whether they are in G&T or not . Stay away type A parents! You already had the preconceived opinions about the school before you toured or if you even toured. Oh and by the way...for those who are scared...my second child did not pass the G&T 90% but I applied for the "placement request" thru the DOE for gen ed there because of everything the school has to offer. What other school offers the chance for a modern dance company to come in and teach the entire second graders a performance to die for? We have theater arts, music, computers, gym (in a real gymnasium), a beautiful auditorium for our plays and a solid PTA that made a substantial amount of $ this year for our children next year. Oh and the class trips -- theater, theater, and exploring NYC!!! To have your child look forward to going to school in the morning is the best feeling; and from our present experience, most of the children in his G&T class feel the same way. We hope that our other child gets in as a sibling to experience all that PS 11 offers, even in general ed! For all the parents putting down PS 11 -- you have no idea... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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