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[ - ] Sorry -- haven't been here in some time so feel free to ignore this: I cried at Clinton's speech. I adore her. She is a fucking rocket scientist with a heart of gold. I salute her tonight. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I actually agree. She's stiff and awkward, but she is what you said [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Oops. Missed her speech [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] someone posted on insideschools.org that they heard the DOE will not be notifying us on G&T placements but the actual schools will be the ones contacting us. Anyone else hear this? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.07.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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link please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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it was on the Kindergarten Blog post number 60 I think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Yeah, I posted that. I heard it from a DoE source and am sort of freaked out, since the G&T application arrived with a student ID# for my kid(who isn't in the DoE system) and a crazy phone # for our contact info- not even in the same borough! I called to correct it while filling out the app and they couldn't have cared less, so I crossed out the # and wrote in the correct one. I mention this because we [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 09:55 PM Flag
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didn't apply to any district g&t's and only listed one citywide. We haven't gotten any calls/mail from the DoE asking about our lack of app for district(6) schools. I looked over the chart of stats from the DoE and see that they only listed 1 child in entire district qualifying for 1st grade citywide! I'm very suspicious of this- is that my child or is that a bogus report? They are not even backpedaling, so I'm inclined to believe the report that citywides will be first to notify families-not DoE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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just fyi, nearly everyone's phone number was wrong on the app. no biggie. just cross it out and put the correct one. someone at doe confirmed this was fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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I can't get on to inside schools. what's up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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I can get to the blog section: http://insideschools.blogspot.com/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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^^^ I can also get to the main page this morning; I couldn't yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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That will be awful--I am sure it would add an additional week to the process and I can see different schools sending things out at different times and us trying to figure out by process of elimination where we have been assigned...Can anyone tell us if this is what they did last year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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Why would they do it that way? Didin't they outsource this to that same company in PA that f^cked up the pre-K admissions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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np: that's what I had assumed also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Why would they do it this way? It seems contrary to the whole push to centralize the process with the DOE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.08.08, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think having a dc with a serious disability is the most awful thing that can happen? does anyone think there is something behind it all? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.07.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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I think thier could be a lot worse things. I would think it is a hard thing for any family to face. But I think it will make you strong parents advocating for your child's every need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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The most awful thing that could happen would be the death of a child, so no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I'd rather have my child alive with a serious disability than dead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] where can i go strawberry picking w/the dcs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.07.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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I bet there are farms in New Jersey. Try googling strawberry farms and pick your own and NYC area [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I am shaking my head and laughing over this troll who is lambasting me for my "vapid" post about my son's birthday party and telling me how "tacky" I was to say no gifts. What is the world coming to? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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omg. not only are you vapid and tacky, you are one of those ppl who have to start a whole new post to whine about another post. get a life!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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no need to start another post about it - just ignore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Consider it done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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have a good night :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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OP can't. she needs everyone to pat her on the back for being such an AMAZING mother who throws lavish park parties for her kid and asks nothing in return! W.O.W. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I think it's rude to say no gifts for a birthday party. It makes guests feel uncomfortable and unsure--no one likes showing up empty handed to a party, especially for a child. It also says: we don't need the cheap/dumb toy you'd select. Plus, it's stingy for the birthday dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Finally, someone who gets it! I think all these other ppl who are so crazy about this idea are just lazy cheap asses! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I wouldn't go so far as to say it's tacky, but the no-gifts rule makes me uncomfortable if the dc is anything other than a baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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I have no idea whether you're vapid and tacky, but I also dislike the no gifts thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny here: I'm starting a nanny share on Monday for two infants, who coincidentally have the same name. Any suggestions for ways to differentiate when talking about/to them? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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stupidest post of the day award [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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what is the name? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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thanks, that's really helpful. Perhaps it is hard to understand but it is already confusing when talking to the parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Let me guess: You're "tacky" and "vapid" mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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yes. perhaps she can call one Vapid and the other Tacky! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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haha nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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I would call one of them by a nickname [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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the name doesn't have an obvious nickname [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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jack and jack? call one of them by their first two initials like CJ or JJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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yeah, I guess I could try that. Does seem a little unfair that one gets his real name and the other gets stuck with a nickname. ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Call them both by a nickname. Jack B and Jack C or JB and JC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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no one has any actual suggestions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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just tell us the name and we will give you suggestions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I'm afraid it would out me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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it won't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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last initials? DS knows several kids in his class as, say Jack M. or Sara B, when there is more than one kid in the class with the same name. He hardly ever calls them by just their first names when talking about them to a third person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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OK....will try this. I just think it is so funny that they have the same name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you handle this? My 6 yo ds has become good friends with one of his classmates - she's the sweetest little 6 1/2 yo little girl and we love having her over but the kid's playdates tend to go way over time-wise which can be hard because my ds needs some down time and today, for instance, he didn't have any because he went from soccer to an unexpected quicky playdate with a friend & neighbor to a planned movie playdate with this little girl. It gets hard because our family starts making plans for dinner, bath and bedtime and this little girl's mom STILL hasn't picked her up! And when I try to call her mom, I tend to get her voice mail. And then like an hour or so later she'll call back - and by the time she comes to pick her dd up, MY ds is cooked, stick a fork in him, OVER DONE. Sorry so long but how would you handle this, in the future? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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Don't you just ask her to pick up dd by a certain time? And she doesn't? That's weird. She's taking advantage. I would just be clear that you have plans for TK time, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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OP: well, I think part of it is cultural - they're Latin and just not as hung up about time as we are. The mom will say something like, "so around 5 o'clock, then?, ok - give me a call - I'll be around ..." and then I'll give her a call at 5, get her voice mail and leave her a message saying that my ds is beginning to fade so why doesn't she come pick her dd up now ... and then she'll call back an hour or so later, as her dd is saying she's hungry and wants dinner, and THEN she'll finally come pick her dd up around 6:30 or so. This has happened every time the kids play together at our home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Then say, you HAVE to pick her up at 5 pm - NO later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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don't be a doormat. Say no to the 3rd playdate in a day or say, you have to pick her up by 4 - so the playdate is over then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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"could you please pick up doreen by 5 today? we have plans" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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OP: BTDT ... the other week dh and I had anniversary dinner plans and I was clear on the time I needed her to pick her dd up. She ended up being over an hour late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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then I guess I would stop having playdates with the little girl. Explain to her mom why. I still think she's taking advantage, Latin or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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OP: perhaps - but this mom is a very hard working single parent ... she's in real estate and can have a crazy schedule - thus, the reason why I get her voice mail so often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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I'm a hardworking single parent too. That only gives you so much of an out. You are being nice about it, but you can't have open-ended playdates, so.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Next time say - " hmmm...we're really not free for a playdate unless you can be 100% sure you can be here by 5 pm to get her because I have plans." If it happens again, no more playdates at your apartment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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^if it happens then , take the girl and ds to an inconvenieint place and have her pick her dd up there!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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she is using you. you either have to decide to suck it up, or stop the playdates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] xpost: Have 2.4 yo twins that will be starting school in September. DW is pregnant with 3rd ds, due end of August. Besides the obvious - things will be insane, what can I expect from older twins reaction to new sib. Can I take any solace that they will have each other and have never been the sole center of their parents universe? Any other good advice from 2+1 families? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 06.07.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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I'm a 1+1 and the older child did not react well. Can you send the twins to a summer program so they don't think you are shipping them off b/c of the new baby? FWIW- About 10 months later, the older child is much better. It might be better since your twins have always had to compete. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Have 2.4 yo twins that will be starting school in September. DW is pregnant with 3rd ds, due end of August. Besides the obvious - things will be insane, what can I expect from older twins reaction to new sib. Can I take any solace that they will have each other and have never been the sole center of their parents universe? Any other good advice from 2+1 families? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Have no advice (I only have one ds), but I felt bad that no one answered you. All I can say is, it will all work out...eventually! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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Thanks for responding. I remember when this site used to be for people to get information on parenting, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.12.08, 11:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Does your nanny use bjorn or ergo with infant so she can help 3 year old 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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no. when i interviewed my nanny, she stated that she will never wear those things bc it hurts her back. i still hired her, and she turned out to be worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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so what did she do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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bouncy seat, stroller, etc. she managed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] if your dh said some really cruel stuff to you and about you in front of in laws as well, has yet to apologize or talk w/you, would you continue to wait for him, or broach the topic yourself? if yes to start, how best to phrase it? fear is he will still be adamant he did nothing wrong and i will be numb and devastated. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.07.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I would broach the topic myself, but in as nonconfrontational a way as possible. If he still thinks he has done nothing wrong, then you can have it out. Better than letting it fester and being pissed off at him when he might not even know why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Broach it this way: What you said hurt my feelings terribly. I feel really devastated and need to talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Are we as bad as I think? Two kids. HHI: $135K. Savings: $60K, Retirement: $40K (low, we know, but we're freelance and it took us a while to be able to put $$$ away). No cc debt. Rent: $3000. Watching Suze Orman and feeling woefully behind in the financial game. College savings fund: $3000 for each kid. (Again, not a lot but we're trying.) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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36. Dh is 39. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Won't let me reply under your age response. FWIW, I don't think your stats are too bad. Ramp it up now though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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You're doing better than most people, and you have no debt. Just keep working at it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] if you are a sahm w/2 kids, no $$ of your own, dependant on dh, own house (dh bought w/his $). if facing divorce, how would this bode for the wife? is she totally screwed? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.07.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Not an expert, but I think she'd get the house if she has the kids, alimony and child support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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She'll get something. Child support? That being said, she will most likely have to get a job. How long married? Any prenup? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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If no prenup, I'm pretty sure she would get at least half of all the assets accumulated since they got married..so even if he bought the house, she would get 1/2 of the appreciation of it, plus half of all the money he's saved since marriage. This would be in addition to child support, alimony etc (but the alimony could be contingent upon her looking for work) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:48 PM Flag
[ - ] so depressed. my wedding jewelry was stolen from my house by workers who have been here w/out incident for over a year. in laws think i'm an irresponsible mess, it's all my fault, dh blames me, is hurt and furious. thinks i'm a careless mess. no compassion, understanding, forgiveness, etc. feel so scared, that we mutually feel we married the wrong person. he wants me to be anal homemaker (his mom). i just want him to understand, know what i'm going through, love me, etc. mother died when eldest dd was a few months, things have been very hard. he's made no apology or attempt to connect with me. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.07.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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How do you know it was the workers? Did you file a police report. Is insurance covering the loss? Are they family heirlooms or something? Sorry about your mom and all the angst right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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not family heirlooms. from store and diamond district. still very sentimental, feel horrible, wish i had them locked up. wish dh understood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. I know they had great sentimental value. This too will pass, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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i'm sorry--but things like this happen. dh needs to come to terms that his family is more important than stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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how much do you drink? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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don't drink at all. father was alcoholic. not going to be my fate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Having a baby in July and the other one child will be 3. Should I buy a double stroller or should I just let 3 year old walk and have baby in stroller? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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3 yo should walk but don't expect too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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should I buy a double? How long will the 3 year old be in the stroller [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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personally I wouldn't. my dc was done with the stroller by 4. I only took it if we were going to be out for the whole day when she was 3. get one of those board ride on thingys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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How good a walker is older dc now? You can always carry nb in sling or Bjorn for at least the first 6mos or so, so 3yo can ride when tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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baby in bjorn or stroller and buggyboard sounds great thanks ladies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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you're welcome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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my 2d db was born when #1 was 3.1yo, didn't bother with double stroller. used bjorn/ergo a lot in first few months, and in any event, #1 really didn't need stroller much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate posting like this 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.07.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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