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[ - ] My ds is 4 and getting too old for a sippy cup in his bed at night. He still wants some type of cup in his bed. I don't want to do a sports bottle or sigg because I know he won't close them and I don't want water to spill everywhere. Any suggestions of other types of cups? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Did you say a cup in bed? Don't dcs stop that at 12 months when they go off bottles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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my kids have always liked to have water in bed. tehy get thirsty during the night and they don't wake me if they have a cup. In another year they will be old enough to jus thave a regular cup next to their beds but now they still need it in their bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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don't they knock it over in their sleep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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^^doesn't it spill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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something with a straw? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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they don't pee? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I fainted last night in the bathroom and banged my nose on the sink when I was going down. It bled. Would it be obvious by now if it were broken? How would I know? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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When I broke my nose as a kid, it was clearly out of place (cringing at the memory) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] What was the biggest change after you had your first child? What was the most unexpected change? I am due in four months. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 06.15.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Although I had heard about the lack of sleep, there is no way to know what it's like until you experience it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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i thought dh and i would still go out and have our life we had beforehand, but what surprised me more was that we wanted NOTHING to do with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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How much you and your DH will wind up sniping at each other - I adore him and our dd, but was really surprised at how traditional our roles got and that mine turned out to be a bit of a shrew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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ITTA. I was also shocked by how much responsibility it was. I couldn't believe that it was all on me while DH worked. It took me a while to find my feet, and until then I was terribly whiny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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in many ways iw as suprised how easy the transition was. we jsut had #2 and dh and i both can't get over how much easier it was going from 0-1 than 1-2. the lack of sleep is by far the worst, you think you know tired, but you have no clue, you know no sleep ofr a day or 2, not for months, night after night, it is very hard. my fuse w/ dh was also much shorter... gl, it is so wondeful though and the tough parts shall pass! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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How the ablility to go somewhere by myself (or DH any myself) would be such a big deal, Esp the first few months. I hated being pregnant, but looking back, oh the freedom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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tivo was brand new and we did not have it - i hated not being able to watch my shows - we got it 5 months later and that helped [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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how much money we did NOT spend. jesh, we saved a ton of money having a baby because our social life totally changed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 09:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever taken a child to the ped for a bug bite? just curious if i should take my daughter in. She has a bite on her ankle that is somewhat swollen and red. Not sure what to do. Insane to go to ER? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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Do you have any idea how long you will wait in the ER for a bug bite? Unless there are other symptoms like fever etc it's kind of insane. I guess you could call ped in AM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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The ER is for people with gun shot wounds, heart attacks, unstoppable bleeding, poisoning etc!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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If only this were true. State of medicine now is that ER is for a lot of routine care. I had pneumonia and my dr sent me to the ER. There were no beds available, so he couldn't simply admit me to the hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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ITA, except it sounds like your doc knew you would need to be admitted and was trying to make it happen as efficiently as possible. Different than looking at a red foot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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i was hospitalized once of a spider bite that became infected with staff. i'd definitely take her to ped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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^^staph [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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If it looks like a bulls eye, is weeping, or there is any sort of an allergic reaction (hives, throat swelling, etc) see a doctor ASAP. Otherwise, call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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have you treated it with something topical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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I'd call ped first and run it by him/her. If they think you should go to the ER then you can, oterhwise it's best to avoid it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 37 w/ a 2.6 yo & a 3 mo. Am I too old to consider having a 3rd in 2 yrs? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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No way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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absolutely not too old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think it would be a good idea to look at an art school around here for a college student to come a couple hours one or two days a week for art lessons? my four year old and 6 year old really want some sort of art class, but i don't really want to send them out to a teacher just yet. any suggestions where to look? what schools? any ideas? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.15.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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childrens museum of the arts, church street school have lots of good options for those ages [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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you don [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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yeah, i would definitely suggest getting in touch with some of the resources in the city, we have atleast three notable art schools here - i live right across the street from parsons and have been thinking of getting a parsons student to come do some art projects with my ten year old son [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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^^ as an artist, I think this is kind of weird--something some rich person would do. Let your kids create with other kids around! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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np - as an artist i fully support this! i could have used the money as an art student at risd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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you don't want to send your 4yo and 6yo out to an art teacher? why on earth not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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i prefer to wait until they are a little bit older, i would rather save some of the money and bring in a student to the house and see if the kids are serious about it before we get too dedicated to another new activity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Wow! Why so serious? Children eat paste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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not serious - that is why i want the student rather than a more formal class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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childrens museum of the arts has cheap drop in stuff-just do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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art relies on community - better to find less formal artistic activites. Look at [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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^^Time Out or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] what was your wedding song? if you were previously married, what was the song for that wedding? mine was crazy by patsy cline 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 06.15.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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happy christmas war is over by john lennon - we got married on christmas eve 9 years ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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happy together by the turtles - married june 13, so we just celebrated our third anniversary! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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whenever wherever by shakira [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] am I being silly? finally found someone that could be my future partner (divorced) and he went out last night with his friend and his daughter (17) who i am clearly jealous of and we;ve talked about...called him at 7AM (not home yet) and she answered the phone. I know they did not do anything at all...but freaked out (in a calm way) to bf and he says Im being rediculous - am I? Why was I balling then? What's the solution here? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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how old is SO? how old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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^^the reason I ask is because i can't imagine being jealous of a 17yr. old, at least at my age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.15.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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Who are you jealous of? The friend? Is the friend a man or woman? Is the 17 year old your BF's daughter or the daughter of the friend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Liked the reasoning of this UBer so re-posting: Anderson offers 2 classes. Even if 1 class is only made of D3 kids, D3 still has 130 kids over 97+. PS9+PS166+PS163 (even if assuming zero sib seats)=100 seats. Assuming 25/class. So, that leaves 30 kids above 97 not getting any of those G&Ts. Unless you think these kids ranked 145/191/185 before 9/166/163.[ 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.15.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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yes, it does seem that d3 kids are kind of screwed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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np: too many smart kids here. not enough choices since they are more likely to go public than UESers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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too many well prepped kids, but that is another store [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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no more than elsewhere. certainly not D2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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Unless many of them chose private and did NOT submit G&T application after they got the score (97+). But I wonder how many of those are there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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I know of at least 5 who sat put with private and Hunter and a few others who only applied to anderson and thus would not have taken 9, 166 or 163 seats out of the "pool". Plus there are a few Nests too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Brearley - visited this spring, and as much as I try not to love the school, and I expected nothing, those girls seemed joyous and unstoppable. I know that it is known for pressure, but the girls seemed so happy. Anyone else get that sense? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.15.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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BFF attended B. One of the most troubled, joyless people I know. perhaps it has changed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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OP - scary to hear. But don;t you think that as a parent, who cares, if I can see my daughter is miserable, I'll pull her out. The younger years seemed so happy. In particular the respect b.w the teachers and girls was palpable. But that said,it is comments like yours that FREAK me out about puruing it so strongly. Thanks! Anyone else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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well, perhaps it is not related to having been at Brearley, but my idea of the upper school sort of fits how I see her. She is very smart, dark, bleak and troubled. Also, very wealthy, but with a need to accomplish nonetheless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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np; they value competition but do not seem to value cooperation so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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nnp. ITD. We had dds there and in my experience they value both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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^ Have, not had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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you will find people like that from every school. plus, let's keep in mind that our own experiences are from years ago, not like or's bff is 16 and about to graduate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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Is dd starting in the fall or are you just looking at for next year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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Lower school girls looked happy. HS girls were rather rude to people on tour that I did not find at other schools- snickering and making snide comments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Brearley doesn't have spring tours. I think it is a great school. We personally ranked it third among the "TT" girls', but it is a fabulous school and we really liked and am sure that dd would have been happy there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Me, too. We ranked it behind Chapin and Spence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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In that order? That was ours too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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Yes. I really, really liked Dr Hayot, got to meet with head of lower school also and liked her, too. Liked the new head of Spence. Met acting head of lower school at B and did not like her at all and never met Dr Hull - but I've heard some transitional difficulties at B since Dr Hull and the people at B who were there before Dr Hull had tension. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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I met Dr. Hull and really really liked her. That said, I still liked Chapin and Spence better as overall schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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She cancelled on meeting my group which is fine as things happen. But the acting head of lower school was kinda bitchy. I heard head of lower school left bec of conflict with Dr Hull. Not sure why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Good luck getting in then! Why bother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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np. I don't understand this. She shouldn't bother applying if it's not her 1st choice? Why on earth not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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brearley has spring tours for older applicants who have applied previously and legacy families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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Brearley '87 here. Any questions? I have two boys but I loved that place from top to bottom and my best friends are the Brearley ones. The pressure didn't bother me but it did get to some. Depends more on personality type than intellectual abilities. I was as happy as can be for the duration. With a gun to my head I wouldn't send a daughter to Spence or Chapin. But it's a matter of personal preference, I suppose. Seems strange to me to love all three. They're so different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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"With a gun to my head" Bit extreme, no? I actually really liked all three, B was not my favorite, but they all have a lot to offer and many of the difference s seem surface. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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OK but you get my point. I honestly believe I'd take our local public gen ed (a good one) over the other two. Culturally, they'd just be a terrible fit. I'd say that the difference run deep and it's actually superficially that they seem interchangable. The cultures/values are the thing. They all offer top-notch academics but I just couldn't have a little Spence girl running around my apartment. Or a Chapin one. So no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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np: I don't even know how to respond to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Really? I know someone who chose B for one dd and S for another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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What kind of ERB score do they look for? DC got 97. Is this OK score to apply? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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It is fine for all three. My dd got into one of the three with a 96 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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I'm the B mom from below and ITA. That's a great score - GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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np. We're a current B family and have met a lot of Chapin families over the years. I can't comment on Spence, because I only know 1 girl who attends, but the Chapin and Brearley girls and their moms seem more alike than different to me. Maybe the schools' cultures have changed since you were there, or maybe the differences seem more significant when one is a child/young adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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Possibly a little of both, although I know (and like) two Chapin Moms now who very much resemble my 1980s stereotype. In 1984 in the school mock elections Reagan killed at Chapin and practically didn't get a vote at Brearley. That was quite telling at the time. To me Brearlet moms (I don't know about the girls) now are less into appearences, probably less socially aware, active and interested, more intellectual, badly dressed, more Jewish and liberal etc. Wrong? Couldn't swear to it and I suppose I don't care. I am a little curious though and would put a little money on me being right. Just a little though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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I am a Chapin mom and am as far left as they come. All the UES schools have their spattering of Republicans though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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I'm sure they do. Maybe the Brearley ones just keep it on the DL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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I am a Republican Brearley alum and the school was not tolerant of moderate, let alone conservative viewpoints under Mrs. Halpert's thoughtless regime. That changed under Winn-Barlow, who was wonderful. I was not on the DL and took a lot of flack from knee-jerk liberals. There were many thoughtful liberals there, as well, but certain socialist faculty members really did the student body a disservice. The ones I am thinking of have all retired, so the school may be a more thoughtful place now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 11:24 PM Flag
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Brearley has just managed to come out of the Dark Ages it experienced under Mrs. Halpert and a few of the thoughtless socialist faculty who tried to indoctrinate students rather than give them all the facts and teach them to be critical thinkers. The school is in a better place these days then it was in the '80s. Now, more than one viewpoint on complex issues of the day is accepted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 11:29 PM Flag
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You’ve obviously given this a lot more of your attention than I have, but for the most part I would say you’re wrong. Maybe in the ‘80s families could self-select into these schools based on their social values and “type,” but I think there’s too much competition for that now. A conservative-leaning family may have a preference for Chapin, but if their dd gets into B and not C, guess where dd ends up? Ditto for a family that might have preferred B to C. Most people don’t feel as strongly as you do, and they apply to both schools and consider themselves lucky if they get either. And many other people realize there’s a range of types at all the schools, and so some conservative families prefer B and some liberal families prefer C. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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^ and some liberal families prefer C. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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We are one of them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I hear you. Which is why I know we're going to have a hard time looking this fall. I was at a place that was just perfect for me and I realize it's not always that easy. I still can't imagine an easy-going, strongly leftward leaning family with a choice choosing C. But you're right. Few have a choice these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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We did [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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It's not always about lack of choice. Some people are lucky enough to have the choice and still prefer the school you might not expect. I pick my younger dd up from Clubhouse at Chapin 3 days a week, and I've seen lots of Obama for President pins. I talk to the other moms at the playground and have a good sense of where they stand politically. There are a lot of liberals and laid-back types at C these days, and I'm sure many of them preferred C. It's been 20 years since you were there. A lot changes in 20 years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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Brearley alum who taught at Spence here. Some of the differences that used to exist are still there, but they aren't nearly as stark. There are a number of girls at Spence these days who would have fit in with my Brearley class perfectly well. Spence has become more like Brearley; Brearley has shifted, too, but not as much. I cannot speak to Chapin's culture, as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 11:32 PM Flag
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You sound absolutely insufferable. DD is at Spence and we would have been almost equally happy with Brearley or Chapin. The schools are more alike than they are different. You couldn't handle "a Spence girl running around your apartment"? Really? How many do you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.16.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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OP - I agree. I do think that they all have lots in common. And I also agree that for most families, whichever one your daughter/s go/es to she and you will integrate and learn to love the community at each. And most of the girls who can handle any of these girls schools are adapatable and could fit in at any. They are ALL Great. And thanks everyone for your thoughts on Brearley!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.18.08, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if only high scorers got their letters this weekend? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.15.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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No - I know a low 90s that got their score on Saturday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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99 here and still waiting... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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same here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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Us too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Us three [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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and us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] how come there are so few NEST postings? I hope it means all the NEST parents are sanely staying away, or otherwise occupied this weekend. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.15.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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they all posted yesterday believe the letters are coming in waves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] So if, say, 20 of 40 spots are taken by siblings in a G&T program, how do they choose between 35 99ers vying for the 20 spots that are left? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 06.15.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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Put the names in a hat??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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reportedly it was a lottery. all the 99s in a hat, and if your number comes up early, you get your 1st choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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Okay, and then otherwise you get your second? So, a 99er can't get shut out of all their choices? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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depends on how many schools they listed. If your 1st choice was full when your number came up, then they look at your 2nd, etc. a 99 could conceivably be shut out if they ranked too few schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] looking for music class on UWS side 4 mo old and nanny. suggestions? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 06.15.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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No idea really but I know there is a Kidville on the UWS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Music Together. She does it in various locations I believe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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definitely music together [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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that's pretty young for a class, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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look at lucy moses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Don't do Hands On. It's painful. Little Maestros or I suppose Hands On for that young. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Pros and cons of Ardsley vs. Edgemont? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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