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[ - ] 2yo has a raised white spot surrounded by redness on his arm, I'm concerned it might be lyme disease, does this seem likely or could it be something else? thanks 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Could definitely be something else, but get it checked by a doctor to be sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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see a doc, but try checking google images to see pix of lyme rash. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks i did and it looks a lot like some of the pics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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call your doc asap, in that case. my impression on lyme treatment is that the timing of treatment is very important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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OK, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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call a doc - no sense in self diagnosing this one. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] anyone use flat rate movers? would you recommend them? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.02.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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We did a couple of years ago to move uptown. I don't really remember any issues so they must have done a decent job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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used them - they were cheap & good [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] wwyd- dh and I have been having trouble lately. We had a long talk about it, he told me he isn't satisfied and wonders constantly what he is missing, he's not sure what he wants right now. Is this even remotely close to "normal" dh behavior? I was under the impression that, once you're married, you've decided what you want. He is also not trying anything to reconnect with me, avoids being alone with me, etc. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 06.02.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Not normal. he's going through a crisis and he's being very honest, which is unusual. Couples therapy would help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, that must be so hard to watch him pull away. I don't think it's normal, but I doubt it's uncommon either. Can you suggest he start therapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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op: I've tried, I've begged in fact- he went himself for a few months but claimed nothing helped. I'm really at a loss in this- torn between being furious and frustrated. Not good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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I'd go to therapy myself to figure out what YOU want. Because when someone acts like your DH is, everything in life becomes trying to please him. You'll forget whether it's worth it anymore. Best of luck, hope he snaps out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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op: he did this early in our relationship, broke up because he wasn't sure what he wanted, etc. I thought it was just a phase (we were early 20's). Now, dc and house later, he seems to be doing it again. I don't think I can go through that again with him, but I feel like I owe it to dc to try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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The friendship with the other woman is troubling. I think emotional affairs can be even more damaging than a fling. Really, see a therapist and discuss what your options are and what your boundaries for his behavior will be. He will otherwise erode all your expectations and goals, and you deserve better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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find a great counselor to facilitate conversation... dh and i went through a rough patch and did this weekly for about a month and we totally got back on track... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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i'm sorry to bring this up, but do you think he's interested in someone else? it's strange that he isn't even trying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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op: I didn't want to bring it in to my post because everyone jumps on the affair thing, but he has become really close with a woman who has gone through some rough stuff in the last few years. I've been uncomfortable with the relationship because it seemed that becoming friends with her started this whole mess. I can believe it's not an affair, but I think it's something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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trust your instincts. try to get him to go to counseling with you. chances are it will not get better if you don't act [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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i agree. you have to get him back into the marriage. make it a big issue that you want to go to counseling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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op: sigh, been there. He really just won't go. Maybe I'm just deluding myself, maybe this is all his way of getting me to call it quits so he doesn't have to. He swears he doesn't want to divorce. I wish I'd never taken him back years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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what does he say when you bring up the relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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np: yep, he's putting it on you, making you do his dirty work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Thats so hard. My dh has a very close female friend- and they are just friends- have been since they were in high school- but the relationship still sometimes gets on my nerves. i think you need to address it with him. you two are a team. he needs to be in this as much as you are and willing to work on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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how long have you been married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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how did he meet this woman? is she a mutual friend of exclusively his friend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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I thought he was cheating before I read this part (see my response below). Now I'm sure of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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sometimes when i pull away from my dh, it's because he's been really busy and i feel hurt. also, i tend to catch myself wanting him to initiate the reconnection process during those times. could that at all be what your dh is doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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op: I've tried everything to reconnect, but he rejects it and I get hurt. Even going to a movie, he won't do it. It's so hurtful, I tell him this and I still get nowhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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that sounds different than what i do. i'm really sorry that he's doing that. in your shoes, i would find a good therapist so that i'd have a regular outlet to talk about how i was feeling, etc. a was in therapy a few years ago and it was great. if you can afford it, go twice a week at the beginning to jump start things. good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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He's cheating. Big time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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not necessarily. but i agree he is probably THINKING about cheating which in my book is just as bad as the actual deed. OP- would you leave him if he were cheating? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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op: at this point, it would be a relief to find that out and be able to end it for that reason. So yes, I would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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is she a mutual friend? do you know her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] this is why i love nyc/people from nyc. on vacation we were telling someone how great the qual of life is in baltimore. we have a big house, really inexpensive, good schools. she said turkey's really cheap too (the country turkey). i thought it was so quick witted and true. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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I don't get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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like she equates baltimore to turkey. yes, the housing is cheaper, but no inkling of a desire to ever live there. outside of ny there si nothing else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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Funny. But also like a lot of shit we say in NYC, not exactly true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:51 PM Flag
[ - ] How meaningful a predictor are those height/weight percentiles anyway? Should we waste any time interpreting them beyond - 'baby is growing appropriately.' 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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i don't know, but i always leave feeling like ds is too small... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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breastfed? The charts are based on formula, so bf are often lighter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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not anymore & he's still small. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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np: Ditto. He's on the low end of the curve and that damn chart quantifies it in an awful way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] downtown manhattan want fun place for dinner, maybe something outside, where should I go 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 06.02.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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how far downtown? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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Garden at Ono, Gansevoort Hotel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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nolita, good people watching. south st seaport-yummy italian at arqua [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] 21 mo has screamed for almost an hour at bedtime nightly for the last 6 weeks. But he's gone done w/o a peep the last 3 nights. Can I pop champagne yet?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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noooooooooooooo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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it is absolutely a reassuring sign of progress [ Reply | More ]
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Can I put it in the fridge? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] must find reliable nanny who doesn't go MIA w/no call to me. Drives me insane. Dreading the whole Craigslist prospect. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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Where are you, how many kids, and what are you looking for? I have been desperately trying to help fine my amazing nanny find work when we move at the end of the month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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just 1 nearly 4 yr old. need 50 hrs/wk (possibly flexible). In NYC on UES. I posted in early apr & emailed 2 people from UB. Are you moonpenny? [ Reply | More ]
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No. But we love our nanny and we're moving at the end of the month. She had something lined up but just today found out that the mom decided to SAH after all. She's incredibly reliable, very sweet and nurturing. Email greatnanny29@yahoo.com and I will give you more info and her and my contact #s if you want. [ Reply | More ]
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awsome, will email you later tonight after bath & bed time. -L [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] A coworker offhandedly mentioned today that a mainly black neighborhood is pretty much a poor neighborhood. I didn't hear what came next, I was too busy trying to decipher if his statement is racist. Yes or no, ub? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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the "pretty much" is right. there are affluent black hoods but the majority [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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^^^^^^^^^^^are not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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did he say "mostly black neighborhoods are bad" or "that neighborhood (which you know is mostly black) is bad"? Makes a difference. either way, what are you going to do, make the guy not a racist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] where would you move that has a funky eclectic vibe with some diversity in the US. Have chance to move anywhere and i am seriously considering packing it up and taking it on the road. 125 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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I'm watching this post. Diversity is hard in the USA except in cities (and not always then!). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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i know i am thinking i am living in a fantasy world but perhaps it could exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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We looked in the Hudson River Valley. Any town with diversity had crap schools. We decided to go with good schools in another area. And thank goodness for Southern Italians or my kid would be the darkest child in school. On top of that, we are learning the hard way that good schools = nothing more than good test scores in many districts. Keep that in mind when looking. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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I'm Italian. DH is of mixed British background. They aren't hugely dark, but at least have olive skin. Everyone else is snow white. DS has dark brown hair, he's one of 4 kids in his class that aren't blond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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let me guess: chappaqua? bedford? yorktown heights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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honestly you guys are Full of Sh&T - when did becoming "dark" Italian become an ethnicity??? I am a blind Italian in New Canaan CT FROM the Hudson Valley and I have one blonde son and one 9 month old with DARK hair - everyone here comments on how "dark" he is but I would expect that from WASP's and wanna-bees are you kidding that you just posted that about our "dark I-talian ethnicity and acceptance in the US- Most people here are pissed about the loss of a woman pres - Goood LORD - no you have me fired up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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OR: What is your damage exactly? That many Southern Italians have darker skin? It is an ethnicity. It's my ethnicity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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np: This is a bizarre response, yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Places I've thought about: New Orleans, Austin, Tucson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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really? i have a weird bias against the south (not very open or diverse of me i know). but i have never been to any of those places. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Well, what you're saying is pretty stupid so you must be right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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i told you so... soon i'll start wring snarky posts to people i don't know on urban baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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np. I love you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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i live in the south and am brilliant and articulate. your intelligence is fleeting if you lose it according to location. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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and modest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Just my opinion, but you should get a sense of humor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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seriously... wasn't that clearly a joke ?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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not everyone from the South is biased and stupid. These generalizations don't seem very open minded [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 09:38 PM Flag
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they might not sound open minded, but I live in the South and it is another world. Leave a major city or some of the college towns and you are in "Deliverance". That is a reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Austin?? I lived there, and it is hardly Deliverance land. You may "live" in the South, but you don't know it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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i don't count Texas... perhaps i was not specific enough. i am refering to NC, SC, GA, MS, AL, LA... not Fl and not VA... I never really think of texas as "The South" even though geographically it clearly is... Austin is also a college town which makes it somewhat immune anyway... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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and i was raised in the south, live in the south, and feel i "know" the south... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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you're the worst kind of snob - acting like you are better than the people who raised you or at least around whom you were raised. get the hell out of the south if it's so terrible. have you been in the rural areas of any state outside of the south? there are rednecks everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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OK... I guess you're right. I'll pack up and move and maybe experience something real like you have. I won't form any opinions - even after 30+ years wherever I go - and I'll pretend that everything is buttercups and happy... probably all the stats about education and school success and rebel flags and anti-semetic comments and fear of anthing "different" are my immagination... thanks for opening my eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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I'm still here and here's the thing. I have lived in all regions of the US. Also have lived in three countries abroad. I'm educated and have chosen to return to the south to be near family. I don't love everything about it - am far from pretending everything is buttercups. But I don't think it makes me superior to dismiss all non-urban areas of the south as "delieverance land." I truly believe that people who feel the need to do that are insecure about being raised in the south and are trying to find a way to separate themselves from the people who never left. Just my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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What I feel is honesty you feel is superiority... I have also lived abroad, in NYC, the West Coast and am now back in the South again. I am secure enough to tell the truth as I see it... you see it another way... Try a few years far from a major city and see how you feel about it then. Would you raise a fmily there ? Eager to have you DC raised without variety and amongst people who aspire to not a whole hell of a lot ? I have no need to be PC about what I see here, but if you want to toot your own horn or "defend" the rural south as a good place for someone looking for an eclectic vibe and diversity, have at it ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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"redneck" is a farmer or worker who is in the sun all day. hence "redneck". it is not someone backward, FYI, as you seem to be saying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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thank you. i've very clear on the origins of "redneck." but i think you can infer from the thread that i was talking about the uneducated people in "deliverance land" (not my words.) i appreciate the enlightenment, though. I'm not the snob here. I know you can find interesting people whereever you go if you're willing to have an open mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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that's right, you're educated... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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. . . and you'd say that everywhere but major cities and some college towns is DELIVERANCE? Oh please . . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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np: not deliverance, but pretty segregated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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cross off New Orleans... not a good place right now... two days in the Quarter, good... more than that, not good... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Most people don't live in the Quarter. New Orleans is an amazing place to live. [ Reply | More ]
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I know most res. don't live in the quarter, but all of our friends who are still there or have gone back say it is a really hard place to live right now... services are not up to where they were, crime is very bad, and it's still not something they feel good about yet. I love NOLA, but I don't think it'd be my first choice right now... that's all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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austin is segregated, isn't it? latinos on one end, white on the other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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i fantasize about living in NOLA also. i have a relative in tucson and it's not what i expected. it's actually quite odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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san fransisco baby. love it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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But San Francisco is one of the whitest places in the country. (Well, maybe not the country, since like the poster above said, diversity in the US is hard to find.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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wrong-o tons of asians, latinos (not many aas i suppose) [ Reply | More ]
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Maine is the whitest place in the country [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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well, after my ass. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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are you kidding?! it's half asian. (i'm from there and i'm asian american). you've never been there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 04:03 AM Flag
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Also large Black population. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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No way! San Francisco area has large black, hispanic and asian populations as well as a lot more people of mixed ethnic backgrounds. Also more with native american backgrounds. And more tolerance of diversity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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i'm asian, have lived in sf, now live in brooklyn. brooklyn is diverse. i thought i knew everything about the world when i lived in sf. truth is, even if it's ethnically diverse, it is so segregated in terms of socioeconomic groups. everyone IN san francisco proper is relatively well-off, in terms of educational background, if not monetarily. none of us 'poor artists' were actually hobnobbing with the working class black, hispanic and asians. we were hobnobbing with other minorities, yes, but we were all privileged minorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Asheville, NC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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asheville is the definition of funky eclectic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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and great weather ! love it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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hey, i live in Quincy mass and it's pretty diverse but i wouldn't say it's the hottest place o live in the us! and teh schools are not so good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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How about Jamaica Plain, MA--that's where we are. Tho we are moving to Melrose, MA--not quite a suburb, but has a great main street, good schools and diverse. And affordable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Melrose is very suburban [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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hijack- where in melrose? we live there too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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Do you think it is suburban? [ Reply | More ]
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Prospect Street--where are you? [ Reply | More ]
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university towns [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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I think so - you'll get more racial diversity not limited to economic inequality [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Plus interesting people and businesses. [ Reply | More ]
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Right, b/c brown people are great to have around whereas poor people suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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you miss the point - what I meant that in many cities "racially diverse," means rich whites/poor blacks and/or hispanics in segregated neighborhoods [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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First OR: I don't think she meant it quite like that. My parents live in a town where there are a lot of Latinos. They are separated at school a lot for ESL, and my fear living there is that DC would just think Latinos cut lawns and clean houses. Much different than their experience in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks, yes, this is what I meant [ Reply | More ]
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i live in a university town. it's very culturally diverse, but it's not economically diverse. [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up in one, and this was true. But it was a great place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Miami Beach; very cultural and diverse economically and ethnically. Old, young, black, white, latin, international. everything . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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I found Salt Lake City to be extremely diverse. And it's *only* 40% LDS. [ Reply | More ]
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I've heard really good things about SLC post Olympics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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It was really nice. A city vibe but nice big houses w/in city limits. Great parks. Close to skiing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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houston can be funky if you live in Montrose or the Heights. But once you leave those neighborhoods its much less so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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When I visited Houston recently, I was struck at how diverse and integrated it has become. I grew up there in the 70s, and where I lived was completely white. Minorities were, as was said above, servants, if we saw them at all. I saw all different ethnicities in my old neighborhood on my last visit. Restaurants were fully integrated. It seemed like paradise for black people! All the black people I saw looked prosperous and confident. There may be a different reality at the ground level, but Houston is not the lily-white southern town you picture or that I grew up in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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portland, me but not racially diverse. funky though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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asheville rocks! if i could make money there i'd move in a second [ Reply | More ]
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I was just in Austin and it was okay, but man, I didn't love it. I expected it to have more of a main shopping downtown area, and there just wasn't. Barton Springs was fab though. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:40 PM Flag
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SO expensive and not $ diverse. Its upper middle/lower upper well educated types and a huge homeless population, not much in the middle. [ Reply | More ]
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I moved to Austin 2 months ago and so far I like it a lot. Cute downtown, gorgeous weather, interesting people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Austin is so white. Totally segregated! [ Reply | More ]
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Berkeley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 09:39 PM Flag
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Santa Fe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 09:48 PM Flag
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diverse in what sense? SF is pretty segregated - white and anglo/native americans/hispanics - few blacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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We just moved to seattle and it is VERY diverse and interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 12:19 AM Flag
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not to rainy and depressing? That was one of my top choices but i am freaked out by the weather [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 04:34 AM Flag
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PORTLAND OREGON!!! all that and more! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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We are moving to Portland next year - but I've heard there's a large white supremacist population there. Is that true? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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np: i'm from oregon, and it's a pretty white state historically, but it's not true that there's a large white supremacist population in pdx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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home of the self-righteous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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The weather is mostly great in Seattle, seriously. No storms, no hard rain, no cold winters or humid summers. It's mild (I lived there about 4.5 years, and finally missed having more discernable seasons), and you most often get some clouds / very light rain *and* sun in the same day -- it changes a lot. It's beautiful. You may get several cloudy weeks in a row in the winter with no sumnny days, but that's the only "depressing" time. Summer weather is often California-beautiful (80 and sunny). If worries about the weather are the only thing keeping you from Seattle, definitely get on the next plane! It is really white, though. Diversity and intellectual discussion were the other things I missed about NY (that was before I had a child). No place is perfect-- Good luck :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I disagree, the weather definitely made me move away from Seattle. I love the city and the region, but I just can't live on 50F year round (even in the summer at night, ugh). I need warmer weather and more sun than I can get in Seattle and the Pacific Northwest coast (Portland, OR included). Have you seen the stats for overcast days in a year? Seattle, Portland and a bunch of cities in that area all have more than 200 days/year. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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I lived in Seattle for three years and I must disagree with your assessment. Seattle is not the wettest place in the USA, that is true. The thing, though, is that most of the year it is very gloomy. You can always expect that when it is sunny and nice it will turn around any time. When it rains or it's gloomy don't expect it to get better anytime soon. Seattle is trapped between the Pacific Ocean and the Cascades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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Where are you finding this diversity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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San Francisco. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Philly, Northampton MA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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Not OP but curious, anyone like Philly? I'm a real New Yorker, but DH wants out. Know the schools suck, but we could afford private since real estate is less. [ Reply | More ]
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native ny-er and loving philly. we technically live outside of the city on the main line, but so close to philly. lots to do, great restaurants, good diversity, lacking ny's "edge" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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op: i have spent a lot of time in northamton and do love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Philly is a good idea. It's a real city with a much more manageable cost of living than NYC and you can live in a suburb with great schools (like Lower Merion) and a real town center and still be only 20 minutes from downtown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Portland [ Reply | More ]
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brooklyn [ Reply | More ]
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ho! [ Reply | More ]
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THIS IS IT!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Berkeley [ Reply | More ]
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Harlem or Spanish Harlem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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New Orleans!!!!!!! So much fun to live there. The people are fantastic. If you want funky, eclectic and diverse this is your place. [ Reply | More ]
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bROOKLYN BABY! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I am so proud this made the most popular! I feel like perhaps i should make a speech or get an award. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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go for it! but start a new thread for your speech b/c the board is s.l.o.w. tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Providence would be great for you. Funky, eclectic, and there is some diversity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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I love Providence! and it' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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^^it's super diverse: Laotians, Dominicans, Cape Verdeans, Portuguese, Italian, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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np: and it has Alfornos! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Portland, Oregon! Great town, very eclectic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.04.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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Why, Ithaca New York of course! Very good public schools, huge amount of great music, theatre and movies thanks to Cornell and Ithaca College, very international community, farmer's market, supermarket with international ingredients, beautiful nature (winter is tough though). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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do you live there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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yes I do (sorry I stepped away, don't know if you are still here) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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oh no! another Ithacan on the site! I have always been the only one when I've said I lived here...we'd better not reveal too much information...or maybe I already know you :-) [ Reply | More ]
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How funny! I think this might be my first post. Chances are we probably know each other--I suppose we should mention in the disadvantages of Ithaca that the town is very small! (And you can find out way too much about any man you may be interested in by asking all the people you know who have already had truck with him.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.05.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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truck, huh? :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.06.08, 12:08 AM Flag
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New York City, baby!! [ Reply | More ]
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brooklyn! queens!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I'm in Cambridge, MA. My block is half white, and half black. The half that's white includes Russian, French and Australian families (as well as American-born WASPs like me.) The public schools are getting better, plus there are privates. Lots to do; not sure if it's "funky." Economic diversity, also, if that is of interest. Weather sucks, but my kids like the snow. I moved here under duress but I have grown to love it! [ Reply | More ]
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San Diego [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] For some reason I don't want to think about, I have been pondering the "peeing on the curb" post and wondering about calling pee "tee tee." Never heard that one. Tinkle, pee-pee, bien sur. But never tee-tee. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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OP: oh, and another thing. Why not call it "urine"? I mean, I'm not pointing fingers here. I don't. But why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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urine isn't cute sounding... tee tee is Southern... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:29 PM Flag
[ - ] asking again:8 weeks after a miscarriage (at 11 weeks) and still feeling tired plus gaining weight.anyone btdt?go to see a doctor? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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your body must still 'think' your pg, b/c of hormones, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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op:so,goto a doctor or not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] dd is having serious and lengthy tantrums these days, almost daily. it's reminding me of when she was a colicky infant. someone, pls help! i'm at my wit's end. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Exact age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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2.9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Ok, got to amazon, look for "You're two year, friend or enemy" by Ames. explains these phases perfectly, 2 - 2.6 is calm, 2.6 - 3 is brutal-every 1/2 year age from 0 - 5 yrs old is like this. i got the three year old book, helped me so much. not so much ahow to, but rather gives you the EXACT explanation for this behavior. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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np: THANK YOU. I'm hiding for my 2.6yo DS right now. Posted earlier about him turning into a monster houdini who is trashing the house and making me fear his safety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Just fantasizing here. But how hard, single moms, is it to find somebody to date when you've got a three-year-old? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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If you're attractive with a nice body, it's not hard at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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So just out in the world, grocery store, park, etc., there are single men out there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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No. You have to go on Match.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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i am a single mom with a 3 yo. so far, not many dates. but i am about 10lbs overweight, so i guess that makes me untouchable :) [ Reply | More ]
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oh jeez 10 pounds is enough to disqualify you? Now I know there's no hope for me. [ Reply | More ]
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i'm short....and i have a bad attitude, [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] anyone on who has dealt with a person with borderline personality disorder? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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Yes. One of the hardest things I've ever done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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who was it? i am nearly certain my soon to be ex dh has it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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One of the warning signs: trying to put a wedge between you and anybody else in your life. Another: rampant solipsism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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yes. sadly, i let him drive them wedge in a lot of cases. well, my big concern now is dd and how it will affect her. and how how treatment of me and my family will affect her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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^meant "his treatment" [ Reply | More ]
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what is solipsism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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What it really means is thinking that the only reality is your own mind. But colloquially, means that somebody thinks their own subjective viewpoint is the only way to see anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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all about self - cannot relate to others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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almost all borderlines are women. What are his symptoms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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unstable moods (quick to change), loves/hates every one, irrationally angry, sometimes paranoid, only ever really thinks about himself or what people think of him....occaisonal violent or angry outburst (will yell at strangers, drive like maniac etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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wow this describes me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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i don't know if you are being funny, but i mean every word of that literally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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most of his romantic relationships have followed same pattern of intense courtship followed by intense, awful, angry breakups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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maybe look into A.D.D.. It presents the same in adults. Sometimes they just don't have that thing in their brain that stops implusive thoughts/actions. I've known several adult ADD, they present this way too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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yeah,i've considered that too... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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also, not sure what position i am in to do anything about it. we are nearly divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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is this really true? [ Reply | More ]
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I was in a sorority...lots of crazies under one roof [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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My MIL has it. Very hard to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
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