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[ - ] What is so good about The Book of Mormon? What is the best demographic for it? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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It's so funny and so wrong. It's for people who like humor that is smart but also really wrong. Age doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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It is really funny. My DH hates broadway, but he really enjoyed this show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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it's totally OTT and irreverant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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what's OTT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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over the top [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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I hated most of it - and not because I'm a prude, but because that's just not my brand of humor. It was shocking and certainly commanded attention, but I found nothing smart about it at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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thanks! this helps a lot... guess not the place to take my religious MIL after all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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is that a joke?? no, do not take a religious person who is in any way serious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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np: fwiw, this musical has been successful bc it appeals to way beyond nyc types. i think the fact that the religion it spoofs is mormon which is not a mainstream form of christianity, actually makes it appeal to more religiously conservative types. HOWEVER, one needs to be comfortable with the language and other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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Makes fun of upright, self-righteous religious folks but ends up accomplishing what religion tries to accomplish in a completely absurd and heart-warming way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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it hurt my face it was so funny. don't bring your catholic grandma who hates rude words or small children who would repeat curse words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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Thanks! Is it harder for Catholics? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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or: My catholic grandma left early because she couldn't handle the foul language. It's actually an incredibly heart warming and good-natured show--but they've got foul mouths. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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It South Park on stage. I thought it was overrated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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i have to agree. while i appreciated what they were trying to do, i think i would have liked it better if it wasn't so built up by the time i went to see it - so glad at least that i didn't pay ridiculous prices for the tickets! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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I loved it. Took my then 10 yr old dd and 14 yo son. Very funny, clever, silly, smart, satirical and fast moving entertainment. I've taken my kids to see most anything and everything. They are adults now; turned out just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Don't take your super religious mother in law (well don't take mine) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate flying makes me so nervous. Flying for work this week and I am freaking out. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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Can you drink? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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morning flight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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So? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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people drink on morning flights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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op - I then need to walk into a meetings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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After a couple of bad flights I started taking regular Dramamine (make sure it doesn't say non-drowsy on the package). Basically let's me sleep until the plane lands. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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+1 the best hour of sleep you'll ever get. Make sure you buy a neck pillow for the plane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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what made flight bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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pp: we almost made an emergency landing due to an engine that went out, plus issues with landing gear separate from first issue. I would have shaken that off but my return flight was a constant elevator ride as we crossed the country filled with storms spawning tornadoes. Ever since then I've been a nervous flyer. Dramamine is great tho! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 07:27 PM Flag
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Why worry? So useless. I'm a worry wart about so many things but not flying, or zip lining or rock climbing or whitewater rafting or downhill biking, because I feel like the odds are way in my favor of being just fine. And if not fine, then dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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download guided relaxation and deep breathing podcasts onto your phone & bring (noise-cancelling) headphones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 07:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I am trying to rebuild my work wardrobe post-baby. Although I am pretty much the same weight as before, nothing that I owned pre-baby fits. I am now a size 6 in St. Johns. Are there other designers with similar cuts to St. Johns (since replacing everything with St. Johns is going to cost me a fortune). 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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What styles do you like? Maybe try a personal shopper at Bloomies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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I'm a lawyer. Most of my clothes pre-baby were Theory, but Theory just doesn't work for me anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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I'm a lawyer too and the previous poster. Bloomies has some good personal shoppers. I used them to re-build a wardrobe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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Ok. Thanks for the tip! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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Go cheap for now bc you may end up back in your old clothes. Try banana republic, century 21 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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St Johns? What are you, 60? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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LOL; I would have thought the same before, but they actually have nice pencil skirts and blazers that don't scream ladies who lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Could you ever be close friends with someone who talks negatively to you about her other 'friends'? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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I would steer clear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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This. I wouldn't really engage too much with a person like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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And tell her NOTHING that you would want to keep private. She's basically not trustworthy at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Right, don't say one word about yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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I know this sounds ridiculous, but it's not that she spreads personal information - it's more like she picks out something to judge - like someone's house, or that she's a SAHM - and ridicules the person behind her back. So childish, I know, but it just rubs me the wrong way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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That is personal information, this woman sounds like a 7th grade bitch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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OP - LOL, maybe that's what is eating at me - our DDs are in 7th grade now and going through all the girl-drama that comes along with it, so maybe I'm just more sensitive to it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Oh then you are in tune with it. It's the same behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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It depends what she says and who the people she's talking are to you. There are negative statements and then there are NEGATIVE statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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I wouldn't say it's anything over the top, but it just bothers me that she'll be 110% nice and friendly to someone's face and even spend time with them but then will say later how obnoxious someone was, or just generally criticize. I really like her but just can't get over the reality that she's capable of treating me the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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If you really like her then continue to be friends. Just don't tell her things about you that you may not be comfortable sharing with people you don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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that is always a red flag to me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Fade! Huge red flag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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I probably would. She's probably fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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No but I have a friend who is still close with this woman (former friend) who used to gossip to me about her all the time. And I told her. She's either a bigger person than me (more forgiving) or it doesn't bother her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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Yes, I have a group of friend who all talk crap about each other. But they do it with love and humor. They are extremely close and the behind your back talk is just part of the deal. I assume they talk about me and I'm OK with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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No. Toxic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I was thin with a very nice figure prior to getting pregnant with my first db (due in one month). I gained a ridiculous amount of weight with pregnancy. I'm 38 and so worried that I will never have my old body (or anything close to it) back. Has anyone done Weight Watchers to lose the baby weight? I'm thinking I might try it after the baby comes. Thanks. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Just get through the rest of it, and the birth part. Don't worry about any of this now. And I'm 100% not being snarky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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+1 you can totally but most will come right off esp if you can BF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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I was 40 when I had first DB and got my figure back within 4 months, but I didn't gain more than 30 pounds and I worked out my entire pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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np: my least favorite UB response. Unhelpful in any way + VBA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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I felt like I'd never be the same again after both babies and somehow it all went back to normal. For me, it's true what they say- 9 months to get that way, 9 months to go back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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I did WW after DB and it worked well. You may find that the weight comes off more easily than you expect. I wasn't able to lose the final pounds until I stopped breastfeeding, which my OB/GYN said is not uncommon. Take one step at a time and don't be too hard on yourself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Yes. I had to do it TWICE and used WW both times. while at 46 i do not have the same body i had at 33 pre-kids, I am actually a bit thinner and more fit and can still wear a bikini ;) but i didn't get it done right away, i carried a lot of weight for a pretty long time after each baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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How long did you carry the weight before you worked to get if off? How much did you have left to get off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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i carried 30 extra lbs w the first. didn't really commit to losing it until 2years later, but it only took 6 months. w the 2nd one, i was 5 years older and there was a lot of other shit going on in my life, gained WAY more weight and kept it on for 5 years - lost 75 lbs - the last 10 lbs though made me thinner than i was since my 20s. have kept it off for a few years now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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Great job! Can you eat what you want now or do you still minimize sweets, alcohol, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Everyone I've known who's done WW was wildly successful - it seems to be a reasonably balanced diet plan that people can stick with over the long term. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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it mostly teaches you portion control - i think it works best for people who never had to think about it their weight/eating too much and maintained a "normal" weight so they don't really have a sense of how calorically dense some foods are. it works least well for those who don't really know to eat healthy and think that as long as you stay wi your points it doesn't matter what you eat - it's hard though to stay full/satisfied if you don't take advantage of the 0 point veggies and eat junk instead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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completely agree with this. I'm in that first category of never having to worry much about my weight, but now at 48 I have to be way more mindful of where my calories come from, and limiting my carbs to 30% has done wonders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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how many grams does that translate to, for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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90/day - and that goes quick if I have toast with breakfast. I'm finding the bigger challenge is taking in as much protein as I'm supposed to (120g/day). I feel like I'm eating egg whites and grilled chicken or fish at every meal and it's still not enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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There's a woman on IG that is my body ideal. She's had two kids and her body is even better today. She does reasonable weights and yoga. Muscle bound yogi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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name? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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Muscle bound yogi - all one word. Might have "the" first [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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Her transformation is incredible. Her entire look changed including her face! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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thx! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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i know many women who became visibly overweight while pregnant and it all just fell right off over the first few months post partum. So much of it is fluid, or hormone related. I would be gentle on yourself for the first few months and just do what you need to do to get through it because you'll be sleep deprived and hormonal, most likely. If the weight didn't fall off the way you wanted it to by the time your baby is 4-6 months old, then by all means do WW but don't kill yourself trying to do something that's time consuming and possibly 100% not needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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I think that if you get your diet back to normal and do reasonable exercise, you'll get back to normal after a bit. Don't put pressure on yourself during the first 3 months, enjoy your baby and be reasonable with yourself. Also keep in mind that some women store fat while BF'ing. DB is 3 months and I have a bit more fat than before but I know that will come off after he weans. Also watch out for diastasis recti which causes the tummy pooch and treat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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i was always very thin and then gained 50 lbs during pregnancy. I ate a lot of ice cream! It mostly falls off over time. Just don't plan to start a diet right after giving birth. Your body is changing drastically so you can breastfeed, and you are healing. You'll be surprised that you will still look very pregnant for weeks after you give birth. I wouldn't even weigh myself until the baby is 4 months old. If you are still carrying substantial weight, use the free app myfitnesspal and track your calories. it will tell you what you need to consume to lose weight, once you enter your goal. Honestly, you wont have time to eat with a newborn, You will be breastfeeding, rocking them so they dont cry, changing diapers. If you have free time to eat, you will probably fall asleep ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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Yes, lost the baby weight 2x with WW. The nursing mom program is awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I was talking to a mom at a playgroup when she suddenly went Trump crazy- it was super weird because I am hispanic and look it. It was almost like Jerry at the wedding with the anti-dentite. That is all. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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I don't understand what your issue is? Because you're Hispanic no one is allowed to talk to you about a candidate you may (or may not) dislike? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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ikr. I'm Latina but nobody who knows me a little bit will confuse me with a member of La Raza. But then, I'm not Mexican either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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Well, I'm not part of la raza, but even if I was, you don't talk to strangers about politics! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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I don't think anyone should have to be 'talked to' about any political candidate. If she was just overhearing it it's one thing, but right now, in a playgroup? It's in very poor taste to be talking politics and presuming everyone there wants to hear what you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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I have only talked to her once or twice before. I don't even know her name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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lol I'm Latina and will vote for Trump. But came to USA legally and nobody in my family is an illegal. So it's different I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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No. It's not. I'm white, here legally... Not different, he's still an awful human. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Hillary had the balls to say her best friend and role model for FP is the war criminal Kissinger. I'm Latina, from Chile. The monster is Hillary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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Kissinger is brilliant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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ok so this is your opinion....she may have another...why do you get so stupidly emotional about a casual conversation with one of the other parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:08 PM Flag
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Op: It was funny!! Like Jerry and the anti dentite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Yes it is very different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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My SIL is Latina (Mexican and Puerto Rican) and in TX. She thinks Trump is dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:08 PM Flag
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How strange. Your SIL sounds like an outlier. Every Hispanic I've met is definitely voting Trump. He is polling very well with the Hispanic community and they will tell the truth when they are not afraid of being attacked by violent liberals for their views. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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Right. And climate change is a hoax! Stop lying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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She is not lying. Baby daddy is from El Salvador and he's voting Trump and so is every person that he knows and that can vote. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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If Trump wins and the total racist hate he encourages is sanctified I don't think they'll ask to see your papers before they attack you. Ask Jews who were in Germany in the '30's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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ok Chicken Little. Calm down! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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The MC ones are kind of like Italians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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In all seriousness, how do you explain the video of him mocking a disabled reporter? Honestly, how is that ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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+ 1 trump hates women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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Just curious, because I was born here and don't feel so passionately about illegal immigration. Do you think that people who have really screwed up situations in their home countries should just wait it out so that they can go through the process legally? I wonder because I can say definitively that if I were somewhere else and had kids and things were horrible and I had the opportunity to come to the US for a chance at a better life for my children and I , I think I would go for it, legally or otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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def some disconnect in those folks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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She sounds socially maladjusted. I'm white and not Hispanic and would be very taken aback if a casual acquaintance suddenly started ranting to me about Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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I feel this has to be a troll because I am married to a Hispanic person (legal immigrant, not the Guatemalan day laborer variety) and I know that they are not some monolith who all vote and think the same. The full political spectrum is represented. "Looking" Hispanic doesn't make you untouchable as far as being talked to about politics by randos with no boundaries or social sense. Also, many Hispanics pass for Asian, Middle Eastern, Jewish, Indian and white European so even if a person thinks she looks Hispanic doesn't necessarily mean that everyone around you knows you are Hispanic. My husband looks Middle Eastern/European. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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+1 i am from a family of dark skinned dominicans and am always dismayed that many people including Hispanics have such a narrow view of what being hispanic is. and that poor rural mestizo mexican assumed to be the default. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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I am Latina and voting for Hillary as are all my relatives. i cant understand why you would vote for Trump. Its like a black person voting for David Duke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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nbd. Many legal Hispanics like him. I think they don't want their relatives coming to visit indefinitely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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It's the crabs in a barrel syndrome. The feeling of superiority because you made it out, and screw anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] this would be me: http://nypost.com/2016/09/21/woman-totals-her-car-when-she-finds-spider-on-rearview-mirror/ I've only been in one accident so far, and it was insect-related 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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work on your phobia. If things continue as they are you may need to learn to use insects as a source of protein....mua ha ha haaaa! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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Just moved down south and had two hornets in the car yesterday. Spiders everywhere and caught 2 snakes in the house already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My friend and her husband (late 30s) are coming to NY for a visit. Which Broadway show should we go see together? It will be their first time! Thank you 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Did they say they wanted to see a show? Not trying to be nasty but it might not be their first choice if it's their first time to NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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Yes, they want to go see a show :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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OK then! I liked School of Rock; On Your Feet is supposed to be good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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Book of Mormon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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Drama or musical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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if drama - The Humans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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If they are looking for a classic Broadway musical experience (that's far from the Disney scene), then you can't do better than An American in Paris. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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So good! [ Reply | More ]
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Waitress is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Was thinking of UB over the weekend. DCs will be almost 8 years apart (had a very hard time getting and staying pregnant with #2) and we just started telling everyone. Immediately went from 8 years of getting grief for having an only to "why are they so far apart in age? Was this planned? Are you at risk because of your age?" and the like. How about "hey, congrats Jane!" There is no pleasing people! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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Ignore, and congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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You should not be concerned about "pleasing people". I never am. What other people think about you is none of your business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Not concerned about pleasing people - it's an expression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Happened to me too and I did actually get pretty bitchy with people - a df of mine (or so I thought was a df), asked me if it was planned....and I said "what happened to congratulations and I hope you are feeling okay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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Ugh, I'm sorry. It's irritating! I had a family member respond with "is this something you're happy about?" Ummmm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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I would have and probably have responded the same way. Obviously you didn't seem too happy when you have the news. At 8 years apart people are probably thinking oops baby or mid life crisis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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What? I am THRILLED about this news. It's a rude response regardless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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pp - wow, people really are just insensitive these lately...I was thrilled when I got pregnant and it stuck so to speak, I was as sick as a dog, but I really hoped my excitement was evident....I think they were just being snarky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry (and congratulations!) If I were you, I'd steel myself for some stupid responses and have a joke ready. "You know Irish Twins? They're like the opposite of that." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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Haha, thanks, that is funny. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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"That's such an odd question to ask. <> We're very happy to be expanding our family." Sashay away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:43 PM Flag
[ - ] How did that poor baseball player die? Did he drown? So sad. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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physics. reckless speed + bad direction + low visibility + obstacle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Boat accident. Nothing good happens on a speed boat in Miami at 3 AM. Really sad, he was very talented. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Physical Trauma. Whoever drove is dumbest man alive- 3am no light at full speed into a rock formation every boater knows about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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So was he thrown from the boat & drowned? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Or did he bang his head on something ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Look at the pictures of the boat shattered on the rocks. It's like asking how victims of a plane crash died. "Did they hit their head?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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Why such an ass? I didn't see the photos. How did he die? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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google is your friend. here is the photo of the accident. it will show you how he died. https://thenypost.files.wordpress.com/2016/09/boatcrash.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&strip=all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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You could type this question into a search engine and get your answer much quicker than asking the people on UB. Hence the snark, I assume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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Yeah. I don't get that. I mean don't we all come to UB to make conversant with each other. Lots of stuff can be googled here. But sometimes it is nice to "talk" to people. If people don't want to answer they can collapse instead of being snarky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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Was drinking/drugs involved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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Idk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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No sign of this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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Well, just that tmz is now reporting he was at a Miami club 90 minutes before the accident. I mean maybe people go to clubs and don't drink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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It was a speed boat accident, and the pictures look like it was pretty gruesome. Apparently the boat was going way too fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Was trying to out run his fast ball. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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Boat going way too fast in an area with obstacles. Boat crashed and flipped over. No lifejackets, which I'll never understand. Men in their early 20s make all kinds of very bad decisions at 3am...especially when in a group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] HR moms: Had a 2nd and final interview last week with CFO. Recruiter called me the next day to ask me about my projected EOY bonus and if I had any garden leave policy at current employer. Thoughts? I thought the interview went pretty well... 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why did recruiter need that information? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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I dont know... I am assuming the company asked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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Why would a recruiter need to know about a garden leave? because she wouldnt be able to start a new job for 1-6 months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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I have no idea what a garden leave is that's why I asked. No need to be snarky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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It would have been clearer to ask "What is garden leave? I have never heard that term" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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thank you for correcting me, oh mighty and wise UB poster. I bow to your infinite wisdom...so...what is garden leave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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Garden leave or gardening leave describes the practice where an employee leaving a job – having resigned or otherwise had their employment terminated – is instructed to stay away from work during the notice period, while still remaining on the payroll.[1] This practice is often used to prevent employees from taking with them up-to-date (and perhaps sensitive) information when they leave their current employer, especially when they are leaving to join a competitor. The term is in common use in banking and other financial employment in Britain, Australia and New Zealand. The term originated in the British Civil Service where employees had the right to request special leave for exceptional purposes. "Gardening leave" became a euphemism for "suspended" as an employee who was formally suspended pending an investigation into their conduct would often request to be out of the office on special leave instead. The term came to widespread public attention in 1986 when it was used in the BBC sitcom Yes, Prime Minister episode "One Of Us". Employees continue to receive their normal pay during garden leave and must adhere to their conditions of employment, such as confidentiality, at least until their notice period expires.[2] The term can also refer to the case of an employee sent home pending disciplinary proceedings, when they are between projects, or when, as a result of publicity, their presence at work is considered counter-productive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Sounds good. Wish my company has something like that :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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You are getting the offer. You tell us if there are thorny issues around you giving up a bonus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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What do you mean? Current company has screwed me at bonus and raise time for the last 2 years so I don't trust them that they won't do it again. New offer should *HOPEFULLY* come in with a 50% salary increase [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Calm down- just figured new co might wonder if you would leave now if you expected a year end bonus. You didnt say you were blanked in the OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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when I got asked about bonus I expected, it was cause they offered it as a sign on bonus. Same $$ -- had I only known! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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This is what I am thinking - that it will be worked into my offer somehow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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^^IF I get an offer!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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OP- Um- I'm perfectly calm. Was just replying to your answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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Calm down before you lose your offer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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She sounded like she was ranting. About being screwed at raise and bonus time. When you get the offer, now is not the time to sound unhinged. I hope she did not have this conversation with the recruiter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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Wow. YOU sound unhinged!! I was explaining WHY I am willing to give up any year end bonus at current employer and take a new job at the EOY. I don't understand how that came off as aggressive or "unhinged" at all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] So, my 11 year old dd, has been sleeping in my room and my dh had been sleeping in dds room, because he snores. I know it is bad, but I hate the idea of going back to him going to bed a hours after me, waking me up and then 1t minutes later begins snoring. I end up on the couch because I cannot stand the snoring, even with earplugs! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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Why is DH in DD''s room if you are on the couch anyway ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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No, right now dd2 is in my room with me and I am living the sleep I can get, after years or interrupted sleep! But I know it's not a great arrangement! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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Why doesn't he seep on the couch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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He needs a sleep study. BTDT (I'm the snorer in the situation though). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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I know! I put DH and DS together in the same room because they both snore. I wouldn't be able to sleep with any of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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Sleeping apart from DH was the best decision I ever made! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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Op, well I feel better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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2 master brs. saves my sanity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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Sleeping apart from DH will save the marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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have you tried noise cancelling headphones? lifesaver for me, in ear bose ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Your 11 yo should have her room. The issue is you sharing room with her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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We each have our own bedroom. We are so much happier. Hang out together until We both want to sleep. I used to resent my husband fur snoring, keeping me up. I would be miserable and tired all day. I would rather be divorced than have to sleep in the same bed again, and I love my husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Ack! Just took rescue cat to vet for one-year checkup and rabies and distemper shots -- $275. Is this normal? To be honest, we never took our indoor/outdoor cats to the vet when I was a kid... 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 09.26.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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That alot. Where I am it's only about $100 if that. I'm in a different state that for exam rabies and vax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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NYC, so I know it's going to be a lot, but Christ! [ Reply | More ]
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that is a lot! where are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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also you should only need rabies shots every 3 years. and many people dont' give their indoor cats rabies shots at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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That's what I was thinking! And yeah, the vet said this one is good for 3 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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Rabies is usually required by law. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Not for cats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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It is here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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in NYS for cats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Village [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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in the future just go yearly to the clinic at petco on Union Square [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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Sounds a bit higher than what we paid in Brooklyn with our older cat. Second cat already had the shots from the shelter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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These were her one year boosters -- got her as a kitten last year. I mean, they examined her and clipped her nails, but I wasn't expecting nearly $300! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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You can order the shots online 4.99, no joke. Well not the rabies but distemper. I don't know about rabies shots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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Good to know, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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Rabies can only be done by a vet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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Or at a vet office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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Also try petco, they have a vet monthly that charges 50.00 for a package of shots. Vets are crazy expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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Ah! Also good to know, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Its NOTHING...You don't want to know my bills for two shelter cats..One has FIV and one has Bartonella. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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wow! so lucky to be pet free! (my building doesn't allow pets) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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Are you the same idiot who posted "wow so lucky I don't have a car" on the speeding ticket post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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NP: ha, ha, that was my first thought too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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OP: Sorry to hear that. We love her but like I said, I grew up with strays who barely cost us a dime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Long time ago (I don't know when you grew up of course) people thought pets were disposable. And if a pet got sick they let the animal die rather than take money away from more "necessary" expenses such as another dress or a new purse. I take responsibly of pet ownership seriously. If you accept a life into your home than you're responsible for that life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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I grew up in the 70s. We always had at least one cat or one dog or both at any given time. They all lived long, healthy lives and died of old age -- except for the last dog we had. He was a lab and had lots of medical issues in his last years -- which we of course treated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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you were lucky. And so was I until this pair I adopted in 2013. They are fine now but the EXPENSE of getting them there was beyond ridiculous for someone like me. Never again will I be dumb enough to trust a shelter when they tell me animal is disease free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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That's a lot! I don't know in NY but here in CA legally you don't have to give rabies shot to cats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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That's normal. Once you get on the 3 year plan for rabies it's a bit better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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OP: Also, we feed her Friskies in a can. Vet said to get some of the "better" cat food. I've never spent so much $$ on a cat in my life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Please don't buy cat food from the vet. It's a scam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Not from her, but she told us to look into better brands, like Wellness, Blue Buffalo, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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cats get a lot of UTIs. buying better food is like insurance against future vet bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Just stick to grain free wet food [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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I tired the wholesome food for my two assholes. The flatly rejected all the expensive cans/dry food and would not eat until I provided them with tasty treasures (friskies). So too bad for them and good for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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LOL. I know you meant that lovingly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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yea I did... but still...they're assholes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Meow! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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unfortunately, vets like everyone else need to pay rent in nyc which is expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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OP get a new vet. This one is nickel and dimeing you. And be up front that you are on a budget [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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It's funny: I had decided against another one in the area because the online reviews said they nickel and dime you. This one had gotten better reviews with no mention of priciness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Tip: go to one in a poor area of town [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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they're still expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Hunter K Question: understanding that this is purely speculation, what does it mean if dc took 50 minutes to test. Do they come out with drawings and/or stickers? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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It means nothing. Not snarky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Thanks. Definitely reading into it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Well, most people here would say stop trying to read tea leaves, but from what I've read about the test, taking long could mean that either your child took a very long time to warm up and your tester was patient, or it could mean that he/she was able to answer the more difficult questions. The tester starts out with age appropriate questions for each section, and then increases in difficulty until the child starts to have difficulty answering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Appreciate the info. I'm definitely the type to over obsess and analyze. Need to change that... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I just bought Hamilton tickets for family of four. The problem is they are partial view orchestra. ( all the way to the left). This is the only way we could get standard ticket price and my kids are dying to see it. Anyone have experience with those seats? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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OMG, what a great website. I can't believe I never saw this before, I'm a big theater fan. I'll certainly be using it next time I get the chance to see a show. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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I know I've also bought Broadway tickets before where the website shows you the view from the seat section, but maybe it was just a specific theater - I can't find it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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all seats in that theater are great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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Just sell two and let your DCs go alone. Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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I was in a box and they said "partial view" - it was fine, great even. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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how did you buy the tickets? did they release a new block? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Curious parent, what activities do your 7 & 8 yo DDs like to do at play dates? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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They do carwheels, play dolls, make up games like going on a trip. Sometimes they color. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. I never know if I have enough to entertain them, but sounds like they just find their own way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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np: ime, they do, and it's never what I expect they will do play with. DD just played with a friend and in a room full of toys they made a game out of some bottlecaps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 08:25 PM Flag
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If I knew the mom would be ok with it I'd let them make cupcakes and frost them and eat one or two [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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Crazy world we live that you'd have to ask the other mom about this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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I know! Seems so benign but I did it once without asking and got the whole food police thing raining down on me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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np: unless there's an allergy issue, not your problem. i mean, i wouldn't let a kid eat a box of cookies or 4 cupcakes or anything, but really, one cupcake? ugh. so glad my kids are now older and i got lucky and thye never had friends w moms like these. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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You have to screen those kids out pre playdate LOL! Offer the kid a juice in front of their mom so you can hear the "They dont drink juice. They dont even LIKE juice! Weirdly they like Kombucha" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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np: was just gong to post that when my DD was this age we made tons of cupcakes and decorated them on playdates. Easter cupcakes, Halloween cupcakes, summer cupcakes, basic sprinkles - was a huge hit & I let kids take home for siblings etc.. Now DD is 13 and bakes very well herself, also decorates more professionally than I ever did :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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Whatever they decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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Whatever they decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a colleague with severe Borderline Personality Disorder. This person -- who does not report to me, but with whom I work -- has regular, time-consuming fits of rage and self-pity, which they consider to be everyone's problem but their own. I cannot now avoid working with this person. How do I deal with him/her? How do you keep the BPD person from wasting your time in a pressurized, deadline-oriented, work environment. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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Set super clear boundaries. Don't get sucked into their drama. If she wants to have a tantrum, don't respond. Act as if she were your toddler and simply let her have her fit while you go on with your work. Don't indulge her. Speak to her supervisor when she doesn't meet expectations or when she is unprofessional. How long has she been working there and why hasn't she been fired? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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If i try to walk away, I get screamed at for "not listening" and "not respecting" the crazy person. Most of all one cannot interrupt. This occasions hours of wasted time being yelled at about interrupting or trying to walk away and say one has work to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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She doesn't report to you but do you report to her? Why do you feel obligated to listen at all? Let her scream. Walk away if you don't have to stay there. Where is her supervisor? Is everyone aware of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:08 PM Flag
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What does her supervisor say? Can't you just tell her you don't like to be spoken to that way and you'll be happy to talk to her when she can be more appropriate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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My sister has BPD so I totally empathize. What the poster said about ignoring and not engaging is right on. You have to let them spend out their rage etc and any input from you -- no matter what it is -- is only gasoline on the fire. What kind of work is this and how on earth hasn't she been fired?? My sister is unemployable because of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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how do people like this get a job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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They can get jobs because they can pull it together and be charming for a very short amount of time. It's keeping the job that's often the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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Exactly this. I'm the poster above with the BPD sister. She gets every job she interviews for but always blows them up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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op: this is a bright and hard-working person. Also, as far as I can see, very seriously mentally ill, and not treated. (I would add that this person has some kind of OCD, mania and narcissistic disorder on top of the BPD). Person may be on the way out the door, if they cannot get it together. But in the meantime, life is HELL here. And it's a hard enough job without this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Is there any kind of manager to deal with this? Or is she the boss? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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If your company has seen fit to hire her that means they think she can do the job (unless she's some big person's relative?) You do your part and if she/he cannot keep up with her part then let her sink. I personally enjoy sob stories from other people, makes my life look better in comparison and makes me grateful I am not them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] We got married 3 years ago. Had a very simple wedding. Felt like a big party with our friends and family. Didn't spend a million dollars on flowers, decor or the fancy extras. Food was excellent, but casual. Only area we dedicated $$$ towards was alcohol. Did just beer and wine but it was really nice stuff. My parents paid about 80% of everything and we covered the bar. So basically we didn't go overboard or overspend on anything. Have now been to 20 or so weddings since we've been married and in about 8 either friends' weddings and I'm irrationally now wishing we splurged on some of that stuff. And can't help thinking that my friends having these fancy weddings must have seriously looked down on ours since it wasn't a luxe experience. Anyone BTDT? Please tell me I'm being silly! 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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you are silly but can't believe your parents paid 80% of your wedding either. why get married if you can't afford it yourselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:19 PM Flag
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Its an old tradition for the parents of the bride to pay. My dad paid for my wedding and I will pay for my daughters. OP, you shoukd feel good about your wedding. Don't worry what others do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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When they are 20 it is a tradition. When you are past 30 it becomes silly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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OP: We were 25 btw! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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jesus another generation of snowflakes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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OP: TY! I appreciate it. In my head I know this. After helping friends select 15 person bands and giant centerpieces, I started to worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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We also got married 3 years ago and I wish I had done what you did. I feel like we were "trying too hard" and would have been better off with an event that better reflected us as a couple - low-key and casual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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You are being silly. And as I explain to my kids frequently: 1) If someone offers us any hospitality at all, we dont make fun of it/criticize it 2) If someone criticizes/makes fun of your car, your house, your party your whatever, you dont want them as a friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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you need to get over this - seriously it was 3 yrs ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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I had a wedding that was on low-key side for a fancy wedding 12 years ago (abigail kirsch, but daytime wedding, not black tie, simple flowers etc), our parents paid probably 80K all in. Two weeks before our wedding we attending the wedding of friends in flyover—they were on a tight budget and had a gorgeous bagel brunch with mimosas etc for their reception. Everything was tastefully done and with a lot of heart and joy. Their wedding was easily as nice as mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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I like you. My wedding a long time ago was very low-key and low-cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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Thx! Would have done more low-key in my case if I could have, but both sets of parents wanted to invite a lot of people and it was better to avoid the strife. So we picked a beautiful, turn-key venue that accommodated a big crowd and kept it easy. It was nice, but would have ideally preferred something more intimate. My philosophy at the time was that the wedding was about more than just us, but getting the marriage right was the important thing. And so far so good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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i'm sorry. are you arguing that an $80K wedding is low key? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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Low-key for a big fancy wedding. The venue and caterer were $$$$, but we didn't do anything flashy. It was expensive but budget was not an issue, and parents wanted to include a lot of people. We were too lazy to do things a la carte, so we went with a turnkey venue. My point was that my friend's wedding which probably cost 10K was just as nice as mine and I ideally I would have preferred to do something smaller and simpler. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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And saying to OP that cost has little to do with how enjoyable a wedding is. A great wedding can cost 200k or 5k. A lot is in the intangibles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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I would so much prefer to go to your wedding. Mine also was like a big cocktail party, no assigned seats, no sit down dinner, few flowers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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Less stuff to organize is so much less stressful also. None of the 10,000 decisions to make on what color for this or how many of those. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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I'm sure your wedding was great. IME, the clearest indicator for how fun a wedding is is the number of people on the dance floor. I've enjoyed all sorts of weddings, but some of the most fun were when we were younger and a good DJ teed up a lot of dance music. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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P.S. Literally no one under 60 cares about centerpieces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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Your wedding sounds ideal!! Comparison is the thief of joy!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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I know what you mean, but honestly, no one else thinks about it. We did a low-key wedding with beer, wine and iced tea in the middle of a cow pasture and it rained the whole time...best wedding ever. I am sure you're wedding was lovely and perfect!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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I have the opposite opinion, I had the big wedding in a fancy hotel and wish instead I had had something casual with good food and alcohol because the other stuff is such a waste so I certainly wouldn't look down on what you did! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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I had small wedding, and did not do the luxe stuff. It was 80 people, a nice dj, open bar but only wine and beer, nice dinner in a country club but we did not do favors, or dessert table etc. We were in medical school and took a great honeymoon instead. Its one day, save that money or take a nice trip. I went to a nice wedding and the couple broke up on their honeymoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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Regrets are normal. Most people would change something about their wedding day and a good number wish they had not spent so much! Hindsight is 20/20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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you're being silly. Good for you for not getting out of control with a meaningless party and spending your money to where it will benefit the two of you most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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i had the big fancy (although not OTT) wedding in my 20s that my parents paid for (immigrants, so in our culture this was a must). my friends did say it was awesome and fun, but 2 of my favorite weddings that i've attended - one was in texas, totally casual, beer and margaritas and a DJ and food stations with all sorts of ethnic foods, LOVED it and had the best time - way more like a great party. the other was in a huge tent at the bride's parents "farm" and it went from 4pm until the wee hours, there was the reception part and then the post party and there was a whole late night 2nd meal and an ice cream truck and everyone changed and went swimming in the pool (or at least the under 45 people). both were so different from mine, but a ton of fun. so no, i don't think people who have a fancy wedding look down on other kinds. and FWIW, the only thing i take issue with is BAD food (or not enough food) and bad music - i don't care if you order pizza as long as it tastes good and there's nothing worse than a bad band (like no one recognizes the music and htey're off key) - you can gte a HS kid to DJ and it would be 1000x better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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This was exactly what we did also; people said it was the best food they'd ever had at a wedding and they appreciated being able to eat and move about as they wished, instead of stuck at some table with passive-aggressive relatives or with strangers struggling to make small talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.26.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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