• Filter the conversation
[ - ] Mom with rehab DH and son showing signs of autism - I didn't get to reply to your post a few days ago. Wanted to tell you you're not alone, lots of parents (myself included) are in the waiting game to see how their children with neuro-differences will develop. I've found this to be a very helpful resource even though it's not NYC based. Wishing you the best, try to take it day by day and enjoy your son. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/forums/show/36.page 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:18 PM Flag
»
I'm here! Thank you SO much. This is really so thoughtful. I spend hours on BabyCenter's Worried about Autism forum, but I will try this one. Had the most wonderful weekend with my son. He was so engaged, seems to be using the word "ball" in context and started signing for "more". He's an amazing little boy and I love him to bits. As you know, it's fear of the unknown, fear for his future. How severe might it be? But he's doing great right now and I'm SO proud of him. You take all of this for granted when you have NT kids - not that there's anything wrong with that! My DD was the easiest baby and amazed me every day with her new-found abilities. She didn't have to work for it. I just want to know that I'm doing everything I possibly can for him. That, above all, is my priority. Thanks again and please keep me posted on your child(ren)! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:27 PM Flag
»
Great! Sounds like a wonderful weekend with DS. I only have one child so this is the only kind of parenting we know. It's hard to see other kids get things seemingly by osmosis when she works so hard for every new milestone. I completely understand your fear of the unknown but I've learned the more you stay in the present the better off you are. No one knows who their child will become, NT or not. A happy healthy child whatever their challenges may be, is a joy. I'm sure you're doing everything you can. Just being aware and starting early is the very best thing you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:42 PM Flag
»
np. I'm also glad you're hanging in there. I went through the lowest point of my life on UB, got called a troll, had people post yawn, csb, collapse, troll ... but the women here on UB helped me get through the worst without having to spread my business around IRL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Thursday Boots. Has anyone tried them? I wanted to get Blundstones but they can look too hiker-ish for everyday wear but so comfortable. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:15 PM Flag
»
SIL has a pair and we wear the same shoe and I tried hers on and wore them around for a bit. Really liked them and am thinking I'll get a pair. Have Blundstones too but wear them more for weekend/really bad weather days than everyday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:16 PM Flag
»
op: thanks! Yeah, I really want to minimize the amount of stuff I have and just want one nice, somewhat durable pair. I have LL Bean boots that I'll wear for bad weather but something that won't get ruined in the rain with a pair of jeans but still look nice is what I need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:21 PM Flag
»
hijack: are bloodstones completely waterproof? I mean, could they replace a rubber boot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:22 PM Flag
»
I find mine to be. I've worn them in downpours, through puddles, mud etc. and my feet have always stayed dry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:35 PM Flag
»
They are the best- very durable and comfortable (but a bit clunky). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:23 PM Flag
»
Don't have Thursdays but both Lucky (Basel maybe?)and DR. M make a less clucky version of Blunds that work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:08 PM Flag
»
Those are cute! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that Lab and Baruch changed their admissions policy, my dc will meet the screen and have a chance at getting in. Because they are lottery does that mean that it doesn't matter where we list them? I mean, will every single kid who lists it as one of 12 and meets the screen get put into the pool for the lottery? We are working on our order of preference this week and aren't sure how to handle these schools. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.21.19, 03:07 PM Flag
»
It absolutely matters how you rank a school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:41 PM Flag
»
Of course it matters, and it matters more with Lab since they assign anyone who passes the screen a 1. Baruch uses random numbers, so it is less important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:45 PM Flag
»
Those who put lab as first , second or third choice, are they placed in the same lottery pool ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 06:54 PM Flag
»
I think only those who place first choice will have a chance . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any thoughts on Russian Math? So expensive :-( 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:50 PM Flag
»
Everyone I know who has kids there loves it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:54 PM Flag
»
how old is your child? how does it compare to ny math circle, or math M addicts program? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:42 PM Flag
»
If your child is interested in math I would recommend math circles followed by math m addicts. Or math m addicts to begin with. The math m teachers are all extremely qualified and they have a very rigorous approach. These are both not for profit organizations and charge enough to cover costs but are not very expensive. And they will also give you aid if you need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:00 PM Flag
»
Np: do you know the difference in curriculum between the 3? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:32 PM Flag
»
Math circles and math m addicts are not extensions of school curriculum. It is more of an exploration of math outside the school and testing. But a huge number of math m kids are on the NYC Math team, make it to the math Olympiad program etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:45 PM Flag
»
Have always found it interesting that so many instructor from MathM are from DE Shaw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 08:25 PM Flag
»
Thanks for the info! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:37 PM Flag
»
My DS started this year - I used to be a math champ myself and still use quite a bit of math in my work so instilling that in my DS is important to me. I met the teachers and checked the curriculum - it does compliment what my DC has in his (challenging) school. Online homework assignments and practices are very helpful. Yes, it is rather expensive. I heard good things about Math M Addicts - will have DS try that when he is older (there is an entrance exam). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:22 PM Flag
»
thank you for the insider's view sharing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:31 PM Flag
»
It's $200/month for 4 2hour classes. So $25/h for a group class and homework with help if needed. I think it's a great program for the math inclined child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are having massive fights about DC's education, and I think it may mark the beginning of the end. DH is hell-bent on private school, and I am hell-bent on public. DC is in private now, which is a big concession on my part. We are UB poor, but not poor enough to qualify for aid. WE need to save a lot more for college, and it won't happen with private HS. DH took DC to an open house this weekend. DC is in 6th grade, so it's early. DC and DH were obviously impressed by the sales pitch, aesthetics of the campus, enthusiasm of the student body. DH doesn't seem to care that I don't want to work to age 75 to pay off student loans, and doesn't seem to care that we have a great public. In short, he cares more about a fancy school than about our marriage. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:25 PM Flag
»
Didn't you post this last week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:27 PM Flag
»
WE live in a falling apart crap house, which is ok for him because DC goes to a private school. We do not have enough to travel or live in a home where we can host family gatherings (too small). DH doesn't care, because DC is in the fancy school. My vision for our future is umimportant to him. And yes, have invited him to counseling countless times, and it's always just me going. He refuses to join me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:28 PM Flag
»
this is more than a disagreeing about school, but you know that. he doesn't respect you or listen to you and he doesn't want to make things better. He's not going to change unless he suffers some consequence he cares about for this behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:16 PM Flag
»
Divorce is costly so this won't solve your issues. I'd say just go along with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:33 PM Flag
»
Agree. If money is the issue here, divorce won't solve it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:39 PM Flag
»
Agree. It'll just make all of this more expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:11 PM Flag
»
I would tell DH you are opening to listening to his perspective as well as touring yourself (should DC get in) with an open mind, if he will listen with an open mind about how much it is going to cost. I would suggest sitting down and going through a real budget about what college is going to really cost, as well as what the cost of private plus other expenses (orthodontic treatments, camps, extras) really is. It’s also worth looking comparing the real benefit of private school in terms of college placement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:01 PM Flag
»
If you can afford private HS you can afford college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:08 PM Flag
»
Not at all true. Even in NYC, Private school costs less than private universities (when you factor in all costs such as room and board), and you don’t know that she lives in NYC (in much of the country top. private schools are 20-30k). Lastly, you can’t always rely on making the same amount of money as your kids go to college - in many fields people age out by mid 50s. Not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:12 PM Flag
»
That is totally ridiculous. She said they need to save for college which implies they will not be paying it all out of their current earnings. I am going to be able to afford afford private college because I’ve saved I will have $400,000 ready to go. That does not mean I can afford private high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:20 PM Flag
»
Would you consider Catholic school? Xavier and Fordham are $20k. None of the privates bells and whistles, but none of the public school bureaucracy. Plus great alumni networks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:01 PM Flag
»
This is good advice if you live in or close to NYC and you have a ds. If you have a dd, Catholic girls schools are even cheaper. Notre Dame is about 10K, and a couple on UES are a bit more but not crazy expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:10 PM Flag
»
What does your DC want? My DCs went private during first six years and then I switched them to public. We live in a highly rated public school area. While many would argue that kids don't know what they want, my DCs had an opinion and they were really well thought out. College is expensive and going to a nice private doesn't guarantee a better change of going to a top university. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:14 PM Flag
»
DH here: obviously it would be good for you to improve communication in order to find compromises. But for sure divorce would make your financial situation MUCH worse so if this is the only issue in your marriage - don't fool yourself and stop thinking along divorce lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:26 PM Flag
»
There are many wonderful high schools in NYC (assuming this is where you live). If he is thinking about college admissions, excluding legacies, top kids from top public schools do just as well as private school kids. Private school costs a ton and if UB poor, I think a very bad financial decision unless both parents feel very strongly about sacrificing across the board ot make it happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a Manhattan doctor who specializes in hair loss for women. It's been asked before but no recommendations given... 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:16 PM Flag
»
Not in NYC but did PRP and grew all my hair back and more. Highly recommend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:19 PM Flag
»
Tell me more. What is it? how does it work? Cost? Pain level? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:21 PM Flag
»
You had thyroid check? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:33 PM Flag
»
Yes, it's not that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:15 PM Flag
»
What is the cause of your hair loss? What have you tried so far? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:41 PM Flag
»
Blood test all good, so nothing really. I take vitamin D, I tried Biotin and iron which didn't help at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:16 PM Flag
»
Is there an external hormonal issue causing this (eg have you asked a derm or PCP), or is it normal age related thinning. If it’s the latter, I’ve had great luck with Harklinikken, but they won’t take people who have autoimmune hair loss issues. They will do an evaluation however so may be worth calling ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:05 PM Flag
»
Never heard of it. I'm late 40s, always had thin hair but now i shed like crazy. Can you tell me about your experience and the results that you are seeing? is t something that you need to continue doing over time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:19 PM Flag
»
Yes, early 40s and have always had thin hair but it’s gotten worse. The premise is that basically hair follicles narrow and hair gets weaker as you get older. They pointed out the frizzier fly away hairs and said they could make those into full length, thicker hair. They also address the root cause of breakage. You Apply an extract nightly and use their shampoo and conditioner. I’m 6 months in and my hair stylist commented on how much healthier my hair seems, and I didn’t tell her. The before and after on their website are pretty incredible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:33 PM Flag
»
My doctor told me every several (up to 10) years your hair goes though a shedding phase. It then grows back normally. You likely have it. And genetics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:44 PM Flag
»
I think some dermatologists do hair treatments. don't have specific name though. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:50 PM Flag
»
David Orentreich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Bed Bath and Beyond return policy - has it changed? tried to order online something that I ordered before with a coupon and now not accepting coupon for this item. I know they used to honor expired coupons as well. What changed? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:08 PM Flag
»
They may not accept expired coupons online ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:54 PM Flag
»
think expired coupons only work in person, not online. sign up for text and get new coupon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:43 PM Flag
»
They are planning on closing a bunch of stores. I’m guessing their coupon policy will be less liberal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:48 PM Flag
»
They definitely stopped honored expired coupons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:52 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC parking garages: do they jack the prices up on you after a few months? I'm reluctantly getting a car and will need a garage. I'm looking at those in my area on the ICON app and I stopped by one this morning to ask if they had any special rates and the manager said: just use the ICON app but know that the price will probably go up after a few months. Is this how they all work? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:42 PM Flag
»
We use icon. It’s gone up once per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:06 PM Flag
»
The icon in our building offers an “intro” rate for the first couple of months, but not sure if it’s reflected in the app or not (we booked directly with them). The rate definitely goes up to the posted / rack rates after that, but doesn’t go above the posted rates, so they shouldn’t start at the posted rates and then go up. Definitely negotiable too, esp if there are multiple garages nearby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:37 PM Flag
»
Ours has gone up at a reasonable rates over the years. Nothing out of line from inflation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:16 PM Flag
»
You lock in your rate for as long as you can. But, yes, they do intro rates. You either renegotiate, find a better rate and move or find a better rate and threaten to move after it expires. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:22 PM Flag
»
We use Icon and move garages at least once a year, because they always raise prices every few months. It seems like they can set their own prices, and adjust according to demand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know if the Costco in Yonkers sells alcohol? I’ve tried googling but all I’m told is that they can’t deliver to me 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:53 AM Flag
»
It's a pity stores don't have phones anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:42 PM Flag
»
They weren’t open yet. But thanks for the snark. FYI, they do not. Only one in ny state is Oceanside. WAYNE no does [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:16 PM Flag
»
They do have alcohol. It's a different entrance adjacent to the left of the main one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:29 PM Flag
»
what type? Hard liquor like vodka, etc can only be sold in wine stores in ny state. doubt they deliver even beer cause who is checking age of person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:45 PM Flag
»
Actually, there are two separate licenses to sell alcohol off-premises: one for beer and wine (same license), and the other for distilled spirits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Having a hard time losing weight and need someone to tell me what to eat. Criteria are: no dairy and I don't like to cook. No breakfast, just lunch and dinner. What should I eat? I think I should be within 1200 calories and it's ok if lunch is bigger than dinner. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:00 AM Flag
»
Salad no cheese no dressing. Fish. Roasted veggies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:30 PM Flag
»
Hardboiled eggs for protein, tuna without mayo (not too often though). Roast chicken, skin removed. Portion control. I like roasted vegetables so I make a tray of those to last a few days. Roasted carrots, asparagus, brussel sprouts. You want to fill up with low calorie healthy items. Limit carbs. No pasta/rice/bread. You can make lettuce leaf wraps with roasted chicken and a dab of low cal dressing. Nuts portioned out for snacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:04 PM Flag
»
More protein and vegetables, try to cut out bread and pasta. And try not to skip meals: have something small with protein and you'll feel better & won't overedo the next meal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:07 PM Flag
»
do you go on the reddit board 1200isplenty? I get inspired there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:33 PM Flag
»
I think the key is jut to count calories. You are probably eating more calories than you think. I know I was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:33 PM Flag
»
More protein. Boiled eggs, Greek yogurt, etc are surprisingly filling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:55 PM Flag
»
yogurt is dairy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:35 PM Flag
»
Coconut yogurt then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:53 PM Flag
»
I would say pretty much anything in moderation. Chicken, fish, whole grains, vegetables, fruit. Salads are easy, toss whatever vegetables you have, drizzle with olive oil and season with salt, pepper. Roasted chicken is quick. Bake fish for 10 min at 400 degrees in the oven and you are done. Boil brown rice, quinoa, or whatever grain you like. I've never had a problem with weight, but started tracking my calories recently out of curiosity, and most days i am around 1200 without even trying. I have breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks... I can list more ideas for what my day looks like if that helps, but I do eat dairy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:31 PM Flag
»
Protein and veggie OR salads with healthy add ons.....lots of healthy options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] My NYSchool account is telling me that the shsat is scheduled for 11/2 at 8- same day/time as my dc's Lag audition. Can this be correct? Anyone else is the same situation? Thx. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:35 AM Flag
»
...Call Lag and ask?... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 08:08 AM Flag
»
yes. there is a note in the SHS book that i believe says you go on the other day that weekend that isn't your SHSAT. ask your guidance counselor to confirm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:51 PM Flag
»
Thanks. I am trying to follow up but difficult to reach anyone. It says to go on the other day that weekend- but tech auditions aren't offered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:31 PM Flag
»
I had to reschedule my sons LaGuardia audition last year and it took countless phone calls and emails to the parent coordinator but it finally happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:23 PM Flag
»
Thanks!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] 4S surf club. Looking for a beach vacation... will this tick the box? Too many Miami party types or typical 4S? We would come with children... thx. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:30 AM Flag
»
Just go to Lahinch, Ireland. Never overcrowded, good sand, good facilities, good surf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Hi night crowd, I hate my DH's friend and I will never go to his house. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:17 AM Flag
»
I'm pretty sure everyone has one of those. My husband has one friend who has just always felt creepy. I avoid. I almost married a man in my 20s who had two friends who were total womanizing misogynists. They weren't the reason I didn't marry him, but never seeing them again was a big bonus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:27 AM Flag
»
Why do you hate him? Mine has an awful friend too. It’s the worst. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Taking dd to LA for a quick vacation. She’s a tween who loves art. Any sights or restaurants you would especially recommend? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:11 AM Flag
»
LACMA! The Getty! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:36 AM Flag
»
LACMA is great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:08 PM Flag
»
A good part of LACMA is now closed for their upcoming renovation so look at the website. The collections are terrific but it's not all on view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.19, 12:45 AM Flag
»
The Broad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:41 AM Flag
»
reserve Broad now, it will fill up. Otium next door is lovely for lunch or dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:50 AM Flag
»
Geffen Contemporary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:47 AM Flag
»
Some cool shopping in the Arts District, and Hauser & Wirth is usually interesting. If a clothes person, think about a visit to the Row DTLA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:52 AM Flag
»
If you are going to the east side, visit the Norton Simon in Old Town Pasadena (good shopping and eating farther down on Colorado), or the Huntington in San Marino, which is spectacular but located in a very rich dull neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:54 AM Flag
»
Gjelina in Venice is amazing but be strategic about timing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:55 AM Flag
»
take the TMZ bus tour - it's a riot and you get to see a lot. our whole family loved it. it was recommended to me by an LA friend with a dc and didn't regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:09 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the chances of transferring from MS 51 to Mark Twain in the middle of 6th grade, or in 7th grade? DD score very high (93 and 97) on talent tests. TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:06 AM Flag
»
Not sure. If there's a spot you can probably transfer. What's the problem with 51? Curious 5th grade parent... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:00 PM Flag
»
Our dd has a verbally and emotionally abusive teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] 4 year old bday party. Are favors really necessary? It will be at an event space. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:11 AM Flag
»
Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:12 AM Flag
»
It's a payment to get them out of your house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:45 AM Flag
»
Yes. Nothing elaborate though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:52 AM Flag
»
ITD. Not necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:53 AM Flag
»
+1 Be firm about start and end time on the invitation. Start on time. Keep each activity short. Don't open gifts at the party. Sing a goodbye song 10 minutes before the end time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:29 AM Flag
»
This. We don't take the favors or goody bags. We distract DCs, say thank you for the party, and leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 08:25 AM Flag
»
Coloring books or a book is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:14 AM Flag
»
yes but pricey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:17 AM Flag
»
You can find inexpensive ones. Go to the dollar store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:17 AM Flag
»
I’d rather get nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:54 AM Flag
»
Why? Coloring books are nice gifts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:25 PM Flag
»
np. I liked giving away the Mister Men books at that age. Buy a box set and they are quite reasonable. Also, Costco carries a good selection of popular books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:28 AM Flag
»
OP: great idea! I loved these as a child. Forgot about them. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:13 AM Flag
»
YW! I love those books too and was sad to give them away in the latest book purge, but DCs are too old for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:25 AM Flag
»
Too sexist. The whole line is called "Mister Men" and the female characters were only added when people complained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:30 AM Flag
»
Why can't an author write a series about only one sex? Seriously, this is going too far. They are really fun and witty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:39 PM Flag
»
Skip the cheap plastics. I like edibles - a nice cookie or some candies. Kids can eat them, be happy and no waste. The cheap toys always break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:16 AM Flag
»
Yes, trying to stay away from plastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:20 AM Flag
»
You can’t give kids edibles freak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:21 AM Flag
»
Not the fun kind of edibles obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:26 AM Flag
»
Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:54 AM Flag
»
Like a bag of snack like pirates booty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:45 AM Flag
»
Oh jeez, don’t give pirate booty as a favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:50 AM Flag
»
Why not? Not by itself but I like it better than candy that many people add. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:52 AM Flag
»
+1, why not? All DCs love them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:53 AM Flag
»
They will not be recognized as favors. They will be perceived as part of the party food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 09:51 AM Flag
»
I don’t think I’ve ever been to a party without them but honestly go by what your child wants. If they don’t care you can skip it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:56 AM Flag
»
Skip it!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:54 AM Flag
»
I didn’t give favors. Had games with prizes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 10:47 AM Flag
»
I think favors need to stop. Start the trend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:24 AM Flag
»
Did you give favors at your last children's party? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:31 AM Flag
»
One year we gave out inexpensive small chalk boards and a pack of chalk. The kids liked playing teacher or doing doodling and they could wipe them clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:23 AM Flag
»
I love this idea. I hate giving/receiving junk but my child loves gift bags so I always try to think of real, usable items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:21 AM Flag
»
Pez dispensers with extra candies, I bought a truck one and there are so many cute choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:52 AM Flag
»
Plastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:31 AM Flag
»
I've been to several parties where the host asks for a book exchange or game exchange. You bring a new book (or game) wrapped in lieu of a gift (and gift bag). Everyone goes home with something. I think this is a great idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:23 AM Flag
»
+1 We have been to three of these this year and they are great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:32 AM Flag
»
I think it’s a horrible idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 10:47 AM Flag
»
weird way to host if you have to bring two presents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 09:24 PM Flag
»
only one present. The birthday child gets the same as the others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.19, 02:05 AM Flag
»
NO. Wasteful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 10:38 AM Flag
»
You can give a book as a favor. Also, doesn’t the event space give stuff away too like a water bottle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:24 AM Flag
»
Go to amazon and get packs of bicycle playing cards in bulk. Add a fun snack. An extra deck of cards around the house can be useful, & it’s not plastic crap. And four year olds can play simple games with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:37 AM Flag
»
This is a good idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 04:32 PM Flag
»
If there is a craft involved, that does double duty as a favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:45 PM Flag
»
Something small. I just skipped favors for the first time for my 9yo. They like to get something little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:54 PM Flag
»
Skip them. Who cares. The earth (and many families) dont want anymore crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:45 PM Flag
»
x1,000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:14 PM Flag
»
Agreed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:01 PM Flag
»
I am in SF where we are a bit more environmentally conscious and here many parties skip the favors. They are just plastic crap that ends up in the trash. Books or food are nice. Kids grumble but they get over it and won't hold it against your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I’m falling in love with my boyfriend of 5 months. Can I say ily first? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:10 AM Flag
»
Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:13 AM Flag
»
No!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:37 AM Flag
»
This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:45 AM Flag
»
Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:48 AM Flag
»
BC he should say it first. You can wait to tell him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:50 AM Flag
»
Unfortunately, saying it first could change things. It shouldn’t but happens all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:51 AM Flag
»
Itda BUT definitely remind yourself that "I love you" does not mean anything more than "I feel like I love you right now in this moment." Saying it to someone is just communicating one feeling in one moment, and it's usually more about making yourself feel secure and good, than it is about making the other person feel loved. You should only say it if you mean it whether he says it back or not. And most important, "I love you" does not make a commitment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:54 AM Flag
»
Exactly. Which is why it’s fine to keep it to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 11:25 AM Flag
»
And also fine to say it, as long as you know what you mean and what you expect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:43 PM Flag
»
Do you think he’s in love w you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:51 AM Flag
»
Absolutely! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:53 AM Flag
»
I wouldn’t just come out and say it. But you should def ask him how he feels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:06 AM Flag
»
I always waited for them to say it first and they always did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:17 AM Flag
»
This is the most dispiritingly retrograde thread. Express how you feel! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:42 AM Flag
»
This!! Is it 1985? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:55 AM Flag
»
lols FWIW, those of us in college & our 20s in the late 80s had no hangups about saying it first, asking out men, paying for dates, or any other way of being equals in the relationship! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 08:48 AM Flag
»
I was just referring to whenever that stupid rules book came out. Maybe it was the 90s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:23 PM Flag
»
I said it first. Married 20 years. And if it had turned out differently, I would still say, do it if you feel it. Being real is not a mistake, no matter how it turns out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 03:02 AM Flag
»
+1 If you are thinking about spending your lives together, you don't want to start out fake and playing games. Be real, so you know you are going into the relationship with open eyes and realistic expectations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 08:10 AM Flag
»
Have you met his parents, his siblings, his best friends, and at least two coworkers? Have you heard at least two stories from people he has known a long time, about times he was really there for them and came through when they needed him? If not, it's too early. If you're "falling" in love, as opposed to choosing to love him and be there while he does the same, it's too early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:34 AM Flag
»
Nah, wait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 10:39 AM Flag
»
I said it first at 3 months while drunk. I was mortified, but he said it back and the rest is history. I still believe that he should say it first, but shit happens and if he loves you then it's fine if you say it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone succeed at getting a sexless marriage back on track? Any recommended book, therapy or mindset shift? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:01 AM Flag
»
Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:43 AM Flag
»
Fake it until you make it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:10 AM Flag
»
+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:35 AM Flag
»
Np: does this actually work ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:41 PM Flag
»
nnp. it can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:46 PM Flag
»
First, be sure you want it. DH and I haven't had sex in over a year. We have had sex maybe 5 times in the last 5 years. Every time we have sex, I remember why we never have sex, and I'm glad he never initiates. The rest of our marriage is near-perfect and I'm happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:36 AM Flag
»
Np: but don’t you want to have sex, if not with your dh than someone ? Are you both free to see other people ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I am volunteering my professional services to an organization. The last time I made a recommendation they didn’t believe me and attacked me in front of the whole board. Now the board president who didn’t back me up at all, asked me another question via text message. I don’t feel like even answering. Do I have UB permission to ignore? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:52 AM Flag
»
Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:10 AM Flag
»
I would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:25 AM Flag
»
If you plan on cutting ties, ignore. If you plan to keep offering me the services, answer. But I’d also say something to the effect that you are donating your time and expertise and expect to be treated w respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 01:52 AM Flag
»
+1. You are completely within your rights to ignore it but it's burning a bridge - just make sure you're ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 02:18 AM Flag
»
I would respond by email, to start. Questions over text lead to unreliable (lack of) conversation. If it's a question that requires your professional expertise, it requires a paper trail and more than 10 words. I would also consider being upfront and direct about your position, if you are ready: "It is clear from the response I received on (date of meeting) that the organization does not have confidence in my advice and opinions. It is time for you to consult a new professional for these questions. I wish you the best of luck in the future." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 07:40 AM Flag
»
I wouldn’t ignore, but if I was done with them I would say something like “Unfortunately I won’t be able to help out going forward” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.19, 12:43 PM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions