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[ - ] I am 45, divorcing. Bought H out of apt worth $2.5 mil but now have $1 mil mortgage. Roughly, $600k in 401k, 1.3 mil in other liquid investments and another $250K in cash. I wanted to retire at 50 but now that isn’t happening. I am scared about the financial future. If you started over late in life how is it working out? 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:28 PM Flag
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50 year old Divorced Dad here - you meet someone like me who is in the same boat and together you retire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:30 PM Flag
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Wow, you are close to where I was when I got divorced at 50. I had always wanted to retire early, still working in my 60s. What do you do for a living? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:30 PM Flag
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Lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:32 PM Flag
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If you sell the apartment and move to slower cost area you would be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:34 PM Flag
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I can’t until I retire...job is in a specialized field and also until DCs in college (can’t move them far from H...it’s in the agreement must stay in City). So, we are talking another 6 years and then I have to pay for college so another 5-6 Years from then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:37 PM Flag
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How were you going to retire at 50 w college tuition in the first place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:40 PM Flag
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I should clarify, I only have to pay for half. DH was going to continue to work and not up stop working in his business so he could travel all over the place. The business I help start and he built from scratch while I was the sole breadwinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:43 PM Flag
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You have 1.5 million in equity in your apartment, which between paying down the principal and increasing property values will probably be over 2 million in 6 years. You have $600k in your 401k which will be close to million in 6 years, 1.3 in liquid investments which will presumably appreciate in value over six years, and 250k in cash which you have time to add to. You should have a net worth of something close to $5m at 51. Move somewhere you won't get taxed out the ying-yang and you can retire well but not extravagantly at 55. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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That makes me feel better. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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I would sell the apartment and move somewhere a lot less expensive. Done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
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Not so easy. See above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:38 PM Flag
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Cry me a river. You never mentioned your children in the OP. Once children are out of school sell and bail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:42 PM Flag
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Why the hostility? Just because OP has worked and has some $$? Would she had been better off as a SAHM with no career prospects? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:46 PM Flag
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I don't have much time for idiots who think they need $50 million to retire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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OP here. I don’t think I need anywhere close to that. I do need to stay put in the City and to do that i need a place to live with DCs and a job to support myself and them for the next 12 yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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You have $3 million plus in assets, at least. You can buy a house or condo almost anywhere in the U.S. (including burbs of NY or most cities) for $1 million or so and live well for the rest of your life starting now. Or you can work a bit longer. Seriously, shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:36 PM Flag
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I know my situation isn’t dire. I didn’t ask for the divorce. I can’t really move at the moment because of DCs. I also think it would be a bad time to quit my job and move away from my friends who are my support network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:40 PM Flag
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Divorced here as well, you are lamenting what could have been - it is natural - my spouse and I were financially solid pre divorce - life's plans didn't work out I catch myself having the same thoughts as you expressed from time to time - my family usually puts me in my place when I talk about ending up on the street - they are like no you will not - your worst case is a nice condo somewhere boring which is not the end of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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I get it. I am mourning the future I planned to have. Option B is being forced on me. I hate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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OR above: I totally understand you. This would be me if I divorced at 45. Of course there are people in circumstances more dire, but it is normal to feel upset when your expectations about life will be upended. But you are okay and things will get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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This is a very reasonable and normal OP. Seriously, you are very bitter and likely need a lifestyle adjustment. Don't listen to these people, OP. I agree with the person who said that your net worth should be close to $5m at age 51 and then you have to decide whether you want to live in NYC and keep working or downgrade and retire. Personally, I would do a combination of selling my apartment when the kids are in college and moving to Brooklyn with the aim of retiring in late 50s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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OR: I am not bitter in the least, just trying to put things into perspective. And calling someone with $3 - $4 million in assets, plus a job (OP is not dealing with unemployment as some posters are) 'reasonable and normal' is insane. About 95% of Americans are a lot worse off than OP, and outside of Manhattan she can live very well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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She had certain expectations out of life which got upended. It's natural for someone in that situation to be upset. That is what is reasonable and normal; I never said her life circumstances were typical or average. As for living outside Manhattan, the problem is that her Agreement stipulates she cannot do that. Telling someone to "seriously shut up" is not putting things into perspective. It reflects some bitterness or jealousy on your part and is in no way a normal response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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Well, still married (more or less happily) and financially well-off. Just don't like whining, sorry. And for UB, it is actually a pretty polite response actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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You can say whatever you want, but we all know you are not financially well off or you would not be so nasty to this OP. And you're right about UB -- that's because among the helpful advice, there are lots of trolls and bitter, nasty people like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Why are you sitting on all that cash rather than paying off your mortgage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:37 PM Flag
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Mortgage rate is 3.25%. I get the deduction on taxes and make more in investments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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You still don’t come out ahead doing that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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My portfolio made 12% last year. I guess I don’t understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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My portfolio made 12% last year. I guess I don’t understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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What will your portfolio make next year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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NP: It doesn't matter year to year. If you look at historical data on the market, investments over an 8+ year period do significantly better than 3.25% and that's not even factoring the mortgage deduction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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Of course you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Because that was supposed to be her money and her husband was supposed to pay off the house with his money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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Sell the apt and get a nice studio or 1br in a cheaper part of town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:38 PM Flag
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With 2 opposite sex tween/teen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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Wait until one is out the door for college then get 1br. Give room to the kid for a year or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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My kids rarely are home--it goes by very quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do that. Wait till they are in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:45 PM Flag
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Can you afford your mortgage? It will get better, this is the scary part but it will get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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Thanks. Yes. My mortgage plus taxes and maintenance is about 30% of my take home pay before bonuses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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I think just hang in there and save your bonuses. I would not pay down your mortgage now because you want to build your nest egg and then possibly downsize your housing once kids are out of the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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If I were you, I could retire tomorrow and live happily. I would sell the apartment and buy a house in a borough or outside the city for no more than 750k, paid in full. You have enough liquid assets to cover college tuition, down payments on first apartments, cars, and weddings for both dcs. And then all you need is enough money to cover your property taxes, home maintenance, and your own personal expenses. You could do that easily between a small part time job and then social security when it kicks in. And you still have the 401k and the cash savings for emergencies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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You are delusional [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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OP, do not do this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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she is only 45, why does she need to retire? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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Move to Jersey City and take the Path or ferry in each day--easy peasy lemon squeezy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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DH insisted on a clause we live in the City...in return I got a good deal on the Apt. Cannot move to Jersey City. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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Does it have to be Manhattan? What about Riverdale or Washington Heights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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You should do fine, assuming that your job is secure. Max out your retirement account each year. I'm assuming your 1.3 MM in other liquid investments consists of stocks and/or mutual funds? The most important thing to do is to not panic when inevitable downturns in the stock market occur. That's when people panic, just at the point where stocks are at a bargain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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If you were planning on retiring at 50, were you also planning on having children in your 20s? Having children when you are in your 30s pushes that number out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible for families who have members who fell victim to gun violence to make the US government answer to these crimes like war criminals? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:23 PM Flag
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If they were US soldiers or working on behalf of the govt...perhaps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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This is the dumbest thing I've read this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:32 PM Flag
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On what grounds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone bought personal care items (makeup or skin care) from Poshmark? I'm seeing unopened, wrapped product at half the price. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:09 PM Flag
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No, but I’ve bought some on ebay with no trouble. They were probably gifts or in a subscription box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:18 PM Flag
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I don't shop on Poshmark, but I shop for cosmetics a lot. What exactly are you looking at? Some things are cheap because there have been packaging changes, they are discontinued, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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^^I just looked at Poshmark. Gross. People selling their old, dried out MAC eyeliner remnants. Hell, no. I would not shop there. There are legit places that sell brand new products heavily discounted. It depends what you are looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:32 PM Flag
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OP is talking about new products though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
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op: Have my eye on some Clarins products that appear to be brand new, in packaging, sealed, etc. I obviously would never buy opened product. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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They could be really old. I would be concerned if I were buying serum, sunscreen or skin creams that have active ingredients that could expire. I also would not buy lipstick. Powder products? Go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for gay men or those of you close with gay men. When did you know you were gay? do most gay men know that they are gay from a very early age? If you knew you were gay from early age, what were the signs of it? What might have stood out to others as obvious that you were gay? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:03 PM Flag
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My gay friend was effeminate and sensitive from day one. Talked to girls on the playground while the boys played sports. In high school he had a girlfriend but finally came out in college. I think it took so long because of religion and because he was bullied in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I have a rocky relationship. He told me, “I haven’t cheated on you yet. But I am close.” He is angry because we haven’t had sex in 4 weeks. I said, “let’s see if you can go for a whole month without calling me a name first.” He reluctantly agreed and texted me last night, “I refuse to lose this game.” Is this whole thing messed up? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:57 PM Flag
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I feel that same pain! who wants to have sex with a name calling husband?? Jeez, what are men thinking?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:59 PM Flag
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Op: exactly. It kills the desire after a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:00 PM Flag
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Very understandable. But I'd give in first here and be enthusiastic and hopeful. If he name calls, then do one week penalty or whatever. But see if you can take the first step to change the dynamic and show faith in him being able to improve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:04 PM Flag
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I have not had sex with mine for seven years because of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:48 PM Flag
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How are you still together? Does he complain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 06:02 PM Flag
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Yes, text him you forgot to wear underwear today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:00 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:01 PM Flag
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I thought he was "good" for 2 weeks already and that you were going to give him sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:00 PM Flag
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Yes, its ALL messed up. Without excusing whatever shit your asshole DH does, the whole "no sex for a month" thing is itself twisted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:00 PM Flag
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Like teasing a dog with food all day but not giving any. Inciting rage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:02 PM Flag
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Is the name-calling due to sexual withholding or just an everyday type of thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:01 PM Flag
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You guys should cut your losses. Why are you even together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:02 PM Flag
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People say things. It's not messed up, it's just the ups and downs of marriage. You can make it through this with a stronger marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:04 PM Flag
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No. Name calling and personal attacks are NOT " just the up and downs of marriage," it's part of being a nasty, immature, selfish person. There's a correct way to handle disagreements and even fights. Calling someone names is juvenile and shows but the other person is entitled and thinks that they are completely right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:18 PM Flag
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People are not always at their finest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:50 PM Flag
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I think my dh is gay. Every time I ask, he doesn't want to. I'm calling him names in my head. It's so messed up. I didn't know commitment meant someone can have a monopoly on your sex life and refuse to let you have one. I hate it. At least there's the showerhead. I do fantasize about being loved and wanted again. That would be heaven. It really makes me hate dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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You have the causality reversed. Sex isn’t a reward for a husban who is sweet. It’s a mehod for making an angry husband sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:06 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:12 PM Flag
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I used to think and act this way. Then DH called me some names and say some things that I felt like a person with any self-respect could not sleep with him again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:49 PM Flag
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What you need t understand is that sex is the primary way by which men express their love. So by withholding it you are cutting off communication, which leads to more resentment and name calling, which leads to less sex. There is only ove way to fix it: fuck him every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:12 PM Flag
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This. Just think of it like walking the dog. You don't always feel like it but you made a commitment and now you can either suck it up for ten minutes a day or have shit all over your house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:17 PM Flag
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very well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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Wow great analogy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:51 PM Flag
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Sexual frustration makes me much angrier than I think I should be and frequent sex makes me feel on top of the moon even though I think it's silly. It's a powerful regulator of mood and well-being. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:08 PM Flag
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This. I have sex with DH so he will do the laundry happily when I'm at work on Saturdays [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:25 PM Flag
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You both sound psychotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
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Damn! I would have been gone a long time ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:36 PM Flag
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after four week of no sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:51 PM Flag
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How did you reply? Did you say something like, "When you talk to me that way, it is not hot. It is just a turnoff." He sounds very immature, but maybe you are dragging this no sex out a little long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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Yet another reason to never get married. Having someone threaten you and call you names to force you to put out. Hmmmm. Doesn't that sound like sexual harassment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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Sex is a part of marriage. Her husband shouldn’t have to go a month without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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Is it 1647 again and the wife is chattel? Why get married and lose your sense of self? Oh, yeah. You need his paycheck. Kind of like a prostitute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:52 PM Flag
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*eyeroll* The clock gets turned back yet again on UB. Waaay back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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Let this asshole go. NOW! But then again, I have self-esteem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it okay to listen to a movie at work while doing menial tasks? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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I wouldn’t. Your company likely can monitor your web usage. They won’t be able to tell if you were listening to it or actually watching it. If you must, I’d use your personal phone and data. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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At my office, no one would tell you not to do it, but everyone would think you're not a serious person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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Its fine if your employer doesn't mind. Like filing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:01 PM Flag
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Yeah I’m on my phone/copying a document over [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:03 PM Flag
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And you fuck up the menial project, what might have been passed off as a simple harmless mistake will be blamed on you listening to a movie while doing the project and the consequences will be 10x worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be the first one to test it out. It might give the impression that you are distracted and more prone to mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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on your computer screen? or on phone? I listen to stuff all day long on my phone. rarely videos/movies but lots of podcasts and books on tape [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:19 PM Flag
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On my phone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:22 PM Flag
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i think thats fine. but do you have to stare at the screen to watch the movie>? or are you only listening to it? wireless ear buds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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no, very unprofessional [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:22 PM Flag
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In an office, probably no. While I'm scrubbing the toilets, why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] While Salma Hayak definitely did not deserve the torture Harvey levied on her, her boo-hoo article was a little annoying. The fact that she is a strong and determined person was the reason she was never raped but Harvey did take a chance on her and gave her a career and opportunities she never would have gotten otherwise. Things worked out pretty well for Salma. She has had an A-list career and married a billionaire who heads the most important fashion company in the world. If she had it to do over again and knew the torture she would have to endure with Harvey to get where she is now, I really wonder if she wouldn't still do it again. I think she would. Don't you agree? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:53 PM Flag
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Fuck you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:53 PM Flag
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+1M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:55 PM Flag
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He didn't give her a career. She had one in spite of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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Bullshit. Frida was her turning point. You are hearing one side of the story in regards to that production. It sounds like Harvey made her work harder than she has ever worked: bringing in talent, rewriting the script, finding the director. And she is basically saying Harvey made her do this because she wasn't fucking him. Maybe he was doing this because she was a prima-donna and he was worried the project was a dud. Harvey is a POS, but please remember what he was good at, ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:07 PM Flag
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You obviously didn't read the story. He tried to thwart her at every turn but she wouldn't be thwarted. Nor would she suck his dick. As a reward, she had a nervous breakdown on set. He was good at victimizing women. I hope he rots in hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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Do you think she would do Frida again knowing what she knows now or no Frida at all? Do you have no ability to read into things and consider the other side? I've worked in Hollywood. Actress are no picnic either, especially ones on the verge of super-stardom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:25 PM Flag
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Look at how she put this together!! She had her fucking boyfriend rewrite her movie script. Please, she didn't deserve to be mistreated but she sounds like she was also an unprofessional pain in the ass! How much of this wrath from Harvey was because of that and not because she wouldn't fuck him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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It was her turning point but it was all her. She did everything to make that movie happen. Harvey did nothing but make her beg like a dog in hopes she'd fuck him. He is an evil, evil man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:14 PM Flag
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Did you see anyone else willing to make Frida? Do you think anyone would touch that with a 12 ft poll? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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Yes, on all counts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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Look, two assholes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:57 PM Flag
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She's replying to herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:12 PM Flag
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Harvey is in a class by himself but the casting couch has been around Hollywood for generations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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You’re disgusting. Fuck off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:57 PM Flag
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How is that disgusting? I'm saying this Oped, by Salma is a little out of touch, especially to the poor actresses who got majorly fucked and nothing in return. Instead she is standing there acting like a victim. I wish she would have rewritten this and maybe described how she resisted Harvey and how she protected herself. Total failure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:09 PM Flag
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It's not "out of touch." She got majorly fucked and got something by sheer dint of will and was traumatized in the process. She IS A VICTIM. FUCK. YOU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:11 PM Flag
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Absolutely agree. OP has issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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Dint of will? She worked her ass off. Really so many ways to read this. You need to learn women will never be free of all this shit if we act like victims. That will get us back to square one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:20 PM Flag
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She didn't act like a victim. She defied him and got her movie made. She was simply revealing his shittiness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:27 PM Flag
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Man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:57 PM Flag
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I look to the future where I can shove a broomstick up a guys anus and hold a job over his head if he complains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:05 PM Flag
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The pic of her smiling with him says it all to me. They have to put on an act to have a career. So in a way they sacrifice their integrity to do anything for a role. It shouldn't have to be like that and I feel for the ones who walked away from acting because they knew the truth of Hollywood. The ones who kept their integrity and changed their dreams of stardom. I am so glad that disgusting world is being exposed. I hope women can take an equal place helming projects just like men, and I hope for more representation of diversity, and Asian and Latin actors are finally allowed to become prominent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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Salma paid the piper in her way. I'm not begrudging that. I think she is a fine actress and artist but I think she took the victim route here and I don't think that is helpful. I look forward to the day when half or more of Hollywood executives are women. Hollywood needs to change and I'm also glad this world is being exposed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:19 PM Flag
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YOU ARE SO FUCKING DAMAGED you ignorant twit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:25 PM Flag
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You have rage issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:31 PM Flag
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The weird part was with Ashley Judd in that movie. It shows how ruthless they had to be to put up with the harrassment or in some cases use sex to survive. I think she is stating what she went through. Maybe being a billionaires wife is not that joyous at thispoint. Money doesn't always buy happiness. I'd rather have the sensitivity and victim mindset than the past where women were chucked out like sex objects. In that sense, I think twitter SJW and all the outrage is really working out to the advantage of women and I'm very grateful they have a voice even if it we haven't heard from a woman who kicked Harvey Weinstein in the balls. However, Angelina Jolie refused to work with him and warned other people about him so she's an example of a woman who is not the victim, if it makes you feel better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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Have you ever heard the phrase, sex sells? Maybe this scene was not survival but a way to make the movie profitable. You know, so that the company makes back it's investment and can stay solvent and perhaps make more movies? Here you have a gorgeous star who is wearing a unibrow and limps. That's not sexy. If you can't understand why they wanted this scene in the movie you're hopeless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:33 PM Flag
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I can understand why men wanted it. It's very cringe to watch these scenes with family members. Rent a porno if you want sex. Really, this is why I watch classics like 12 Angry Men or Mildred Pierce, or Harold and Maude. You'll notice there's no shower orgy of men in 12 Angry Men and the movie did just fine. If the writing of Frida was up to par, it would not need some lecherous Harvey Weinstein apprived sex scene. I think censorship does have it's place. Serbia is a place that has no censorship and it produced the worst film imaginable, A Serbian Tale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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That's a terrible thing to say. I'm Team Salma here. She was hounded, harassed and threatened. Someone needs to come forward with fresh evidence to land him in jail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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And I'm sure there are equally horrible stories from men no better working with Harvey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone's kid get in ED to college this week? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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Yes!!! Stanford! We are all over the moon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:50 PM Flag
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congrats. which high school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:53 PM Flag
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Prefer not to say, but not in NYC (PA state) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:55 PM Flag
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aw, come on. public or private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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Many congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:53 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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Congrats!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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Yes! Athlete who had already committed, so a little different, but still exciting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:50 PM Flag
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Congrats amazing!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:51 PM Flag
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I know someone who got into Johnson & Wales for equine studies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:59 PM Flag
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Old dominion with a 4k scholarship on my facebook! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:01 PM Flag
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I met a kid who got in to Penn State. He didn’t didn’t seem like Ivy material but off he goes anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:34 PM Flag
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You mean Univ of Penn?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:42 PM Flag
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Yes! That is the main campus, he is at another part of the campus network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:47 PM Flag
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Never get sold to you, does it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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I would love to buy it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Penn State is not Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:43 PM Flag
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Are you on UB 24 hours per day or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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No more or less than most. I was kind of proud of him to accomplish such a feat despite seeming low IQ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:48 PM Flag
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Stupid troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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Not nice, nasty woman! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone at work sent an email stating “this is what is left in my cue” instead of “queue”-moron 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:41 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:43 PM Flag
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I would actually welcome cue as the new shorthand for queue, like tho can be shorthand for though. Queue is such a bitch of a word to remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:52 PM Flag
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No! Stop dumbing down the language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:53 PM Flag
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For the feeble minded. [ Reply | More ]
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NOKD. [ Reply | More ]
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NOGAS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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Like whilst. Whilst is the ultimate bitch word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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No. It's just not American English [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:31 PM Flag
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I only realized after I sent it! You didn’t have to come on here to embarrass me Eleanor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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They may have been using a voice app that isn't very good. I have made similar errors like using the wrong form of there when using voice to text or voice to email. Really, calm down. Unless you know this person is otherwise illiterate and makes mistakes in documents that are actually proof read it really doesn't mean anything. For Christ's sake somebody here jump down my throat yesterday because I meant to write the word put but why in t or right next to each other and when your texting quickly it's easy to hit one instead of the other we actually got into an argument about it. In your case I give the person the benefit of the doubt that it was a voice are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:06 PM Flag
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Voice error, see what I mean? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sandy Hook: five years since the massacre and it's especially poignant for me because my child is now in the 1st grade. A lot is new in schools. DD tells me that in addition to fire drills there are now "soft lock-downs" so that guards can warn classrooms if someone threatening has entered the building, they can lock the door and hide. Nothing has been done about the guns though. Until something changes this will keep happening. Please use this anniversary to donate to Sandy Hook Promise or Everytown. If you care about this you need to do something. 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:25 PM Flag
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I was crying reading the paper today. It's still a shock. How the families live, I can't imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:26 PM Flag
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I follow one of the moms, Nelba Greene, on twitter. She's both heartbreaking and inspiring at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:50 PM Flag
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My ds was in 1st grade when it happened. I remember going into his classroom in the days afterwards and holding back tears as I couldn't imagine the evil that would want to hurt those babies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:30 PM Flag
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Our preK did drills while I worked there. We had to herd the kids into the small bathroom that was attached to the classroom. b/c we were a suburban school there were rows of windows on all walls and same too on the classroom door. The bathroom door did not have a lock, so ....clearly it was a moot point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:31 PM Flag
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We have training like that at work. If you can't escape, you're supposed to hide. Where? It's an open floor. The third step is to fight back. With what? I have a crystal award I won that I guess I could try to bash a man with an automatic weapon in the head with..? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:34 PM Flag
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VBA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:41 PM Flag
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Are you kidding me? This isn't s post to make jokes in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:44 PM Flag
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Well, I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:48 PM Flag
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You're a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:15 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:45 PM Flag
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I think if someone can fight back they can maybe reduce the carnage, but I agree with you in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:46 PM Flag
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And it just makes people feel like they can try instead of sitting there waiting for the bullet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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There is no escape for people when the offender has an automatic weapon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:47 PM Flag
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This actually isn’t true. The problem is you need enough people to rush in at the same time and risk getting killed. If there have five or more people you’ll take them down. Bullets usually don’t kill you right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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And still, nothing has been done to curb gun violence in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:34 PM Flag
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People have been taught that the 2A is their literal god-given right. In the meantime, we'll continue to shoot at each other. The 2A is right up there with cancer in terms of the harm it's caused in this country. And I say this as someone who comes from a hunting family (we use crossbows). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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Hunting is not the problem. Hunting rifles are hardly ever used to kill people. I'm pro-hunting and think it is fine but the guns, the military grade killing machines need to go. They are weapons of mass destruction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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it was put in an Amendment to the Constitution in response to Monarchs not allowing their citizens to be armed. I have seen the muster rolls from the early 1700s and my family as non-Church of England were not allowed to own any weapons, the Anglicans were required to - it is no wonder that when they got to this country they said Fuck that never again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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We had a shooting at my workplace a few years before I started working there, on my floor. A partner I worked with would have died if he hadn't stepped out for lunch. But it's important to remember that one of the most famous advocates of gun control historically was Hitler. It was a central part of the Third Reich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:19 PM Flag
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King George as well was in favor of gun control, heck most authoritarians are, what better way to control people than disarm them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:26 PM Flag
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If they're armed, you have to control them with CNN, which is somewhat more difficult. Esp now that the ones who are armed aren't watching anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:36 PM Flag
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Let's not forget how mental health in this country is barely funded. The number of homeless people wandering around speaks to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:36 PM Flag
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Name one country who has mental health under control? I can't think of one. What you can name are countries who have gun violence under control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:41 PM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:44 PM Flag
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Affordable medical care is a big deal in most of the first world countries. That's what I'm talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:10 PM Flag
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Like China, where they have mass school stabbings instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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That is better! Fewer victims. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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There were a large number of victims in the most recent one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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yep that guy was Aspergers as fuck and was allowed to carry on in everyday society; we had a guy like that in my coop - Adult son of a shareholder (around 26 years old) one day I hear screaming outside my door and he is randomly choking my 40 year old female neighbor - fortunately, there was a construction crew in the place next door who came out to wrestle him off her within a minute. The coop banned him from the building - the father pleaded he had no place to go and we threatened to throw the father out too if his son comes back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:42 PM Flag
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You’re pretty vile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:44 PM Flag
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it is tools like you that allow innocents to be murdered [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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I live in Newtown and we are new to the school system. DD is 8. She has no idea that Sandy Hook happened and I'm worried this will be the year she hears about it. I don't know how those poor parents go on with their lives. I have met one of them and I just wanted to put my arms around her. It is unthinkable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:44 PM Flag
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Don’t wait for her to hear. If you do she will hear along the way. I would tell her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:51 PM Flag
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I will when the time is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:02 PM Flag
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I am surprised they don't talk about it at school. My kid goes to school in the shadow of the World Trade Center, and they discuss what happened, how kids at that school were affected, etc. In age appropriate way, but it happened right there, so they should know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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I posted about how worried I am now that I have a kindergartener entering school next year and was told I was a horrible troll. I still remember being pregnant with dd when it happened. I eish the police would make visits to all elementary schools every single day. Something so that this doesn't happen. It makes we seriously consider home school. Is schooling the way we have it set up necessary? Public schools were started to prepare workers for factory life. The bell ringing mimics the bells in factories. Obviously, elite boarding schools were different and were for wealthy or bright students only. Still, it makes me consider private school because this seems to only happen in publics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:45 PM Flag
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You should not homeschool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:47 PM Flag
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Said the mom who has never homeschooled and knows nothing about it other than her judgement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:49 PM Flag
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I know you should have a baseline intelligence level to teach anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:51 PM Flag
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And many do. I have an undergraduate degree, a master's degree from a top European school and I'm bilingual. My husband is a tech guru. We homeschooled just fine. My daughter is at the top of her class now in private. There are plenty just like us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:01 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:12 PM Flag
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Or: It's very easy to become an elementary teacher. The major is in education, not a particular subject. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:19 PM Flag
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Teaching one's own child is pretty easy and if you are someone like me, who was raised when public schools were very good and not immersed in CC bullshit, it's a preference. As I said, my child is excelling in school now. The proof is in the pudding but keep your judgy pants on, size XXL, they suit you well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:23 PM Flag
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I'm not judging. I don't know what your argument is but at this point it's not helping prevent future Sandy Hooks. I am very interested in anything that prevents Sandy Hook from ever happening again. Obviously, I would take no education over a Sandy Hook incident. There's no judgment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:36 PM Flag
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I homeschooled for a while. Sandy Hook was one of the many things that pushed me in that direction. We stopped homeschooling when it no longer worked for us but I totally understand your fear. We ended up in private school. Agree with you on the public school environment. Chances of SH happening again in your area are very, very low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:48 PM Flag
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Oh, and be prepared for people here to tell you Lanza was homeschooled. He was not. [ Reply | More ]
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Or: If I had a well educated homeschool circle, I would. Unfortunately, I have to work to survive. I posted the other day and my only private option I can afford is Catholic private school or a large, 8 or 9 GS rated public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:54 PM Flag
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I hear you. This is why we left the world of homeschooling. There weren't enough like us with similar goals, education levels and values. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: when my DD told me about the drills I felt very sad for her in this day and age where this is necessary. Now the Conceal and Carry reciprocity bill that has gone to the senate and will probably pass. Do we really want some psycho, racist Texan carrying a gun in New York City? It never ends. Everyone needs to do their part to defeat the NRA. These children are such a painful reminder that the problem is getting worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:47 PM Flag
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They don't have to be Texan. They need only be psycho like Lanza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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I think you would be surprised to understand that Texas is not as racist as you might think. Half the state is Hispanic American. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:58 PM Flag
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It is becoming more like Florida and California. [ Reply | More ]
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It might surprise you to know that Texas belonged to Mexico at one point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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Oh gee? Really? Is that why it's called Six Flags over Texas? I never knew that learning Texas History in 7th grade in a Texas school when everyone blasted Selena on boomboxes. I'm so surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:39 PM Flag
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Charlotte. Daniel. Olivia. Josephine. Ana. Dylan. Madeleine. Catherine. Chase. Jesse. James. Grace. Emilie. Jack. Noah. Caroline. Jessica. Benjamin. Avielle. Allison. "This is our first task, caring for our children. It’s our first job. If we don’t get that right, we don’t get anything right. That’s how, as a society, we will be judged. And by that measure, can we truly say, as a nation, that we’re meeting our obligations? Can we honestly say that we’re doing enough to keep our children, all of them, safe from harm? Can we claim, as a nation, that we’re all together there, letting them know they are loved and teaching them to love in return? Can we say that we’re truly doing enough to give all the children of this country the chance they deserve to live out their lives in happiness and with purpose? I’ve been reflecting on this the last few days, and if we’re honest with ourselves, the answer’s no. We’re not doing enough. And we will have to change..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:47 PM Flag
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Hollow and extraordinarily manipulative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:10 PM Flag
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The truth hurts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:13 PM Flag
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Fuck off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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You're incredibly sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:36 PM Flag
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This is pure emotional manipulation to further a political goal. Think whatever you want about gun control, but at least see this for what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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It is five years later and I still become hysterical when I think about this. My son was a baby at the time and is now a first grader. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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Plan to donate to Sandy Hook Promise. My son is in kindergarten this year and today's anniversary terrifies me. It's so sad to have your kindergartener tell you how much fun he had hiding and the bathroom with his class and seeing how quiet they could be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Who did you tell when going through IVF? Any regrets? If you haven't been through it did other moms or friends ever gossip about this sort of thing? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Dh. No one else knows I had any fertility issues. No regrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:24 PM Flag
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Just DH. It’s private. People need to stop talking about their conception plans. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. a close friend asked if we planned to tell DC. WTF? I asked if she was going to tell her kids the details of their conception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay I finally read Car Person. I thought it was sad. The woman was obviously too young to handle sex. The man was too timid (not sure that's the word I'm looking for) to realize that he shouldn't be pursuing a woman 14yrs younger than him. I hope my dc are nothing like either of these people. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Is car person the vehicle-based response to cat person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:21 PM Flag
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Sorry, typo! But you have an idea, write it up and have it sent to the NYer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:24 PM Flag
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^^^cat person [ Reply | More ]
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I am so sorry I wasted my time on that article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:40 PM Flag
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It's not an article. It's a short story. Not knowing the difference is part of what's wrong with America today! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:48 PM Flag
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Whatever. It was vapid and boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:56 PM Flag
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That's totally your creative right. I'm just saying that it;s important to know the difference between fiction and non-fiction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:59 PM Flag
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Omfg so defensive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:21 PM Flag
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I thought it was sad too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:18 PM Flag
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I think it's absolutely excellent. The man was threatening - that's why she kept having strange ideas about him hurting her. The author's commentary makes it clear that this was intentional. Fantastic because this is real - sometimes you know things before you know them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate having to function when I have my period. Every time I stand up, I feel a rush of blood. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:45 PM Flag
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Yup, sux. My first two days are insanely heavy the last 2 or 3 yrs (perimenopausal). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:52 PM Flag
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Ditto. Wipes me out, and tampons don't fit anymore post - DB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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so get a hysterectomy. problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:09 PM Flag
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As someone who's had one, if you're done having kids, this is the best operation ever. Going on 7 years of no-period bliss for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:14 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:22 PM Flag
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But what about hormonal imbalances? Doesn’t that bother you? [ Reply | More ]
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I am asking seriously because I have to contemplate it for a health reason. Right now seeing if I can manage with medication but might come to that and my doctor himself is not too excited about a hysterectomy and prefers to manage it with other options if possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:26 PM Flag
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They leave your ovaries in most cases. You still have hormones, just no bleeding (uterus is removed) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:33 PM Flag
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or. Yes, I kept my ovaries. The surgeon said she would take a look at them and if they looked healthy, she'd leave them, if there was anything that didn't look right, she'd take them out. Later she said she only removed my uterus (which had a ton of fibroids and polyps) and cervix but left my ovaries. Bonus: no cervix - no pap smears anymore, either. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. I may have the option of keeping my ovaries as well. So guess shouldn’t be so averse to the surgery option. [ Reply | More ]
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Does one have to pay out of pocket for an elective hysterectomy? What is the going rate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:19 PM Flag
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I would think that your dr can always make up a reason to get it covered by insurance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:22 PM Flag
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Sort of like potentially "cancerous" moles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:25 PM Flag
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In order to get mine paid for by insurance, I had a failed uterine ablation (periods came right back) and I expelled an IUD within 2 months of putting it in. They never found out what happened to it. It just couldn't compete with my heavy periods. Bingo, hysterectomy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:57 PM Flag
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It's not "elective" if blood loss means severe anemia (my case) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:33 PM Flag
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My doctor put me on Lysteda and it has changed my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:50 PM Flag
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That's good. My practice (never saw the same doctor twice in a row!) rx'd that over the phone but didn't explain what it was or what it was intended for. My pharmacist said it was an anti-cancer drug so I never got around to taking it b/c it seemed full of side effects...good that it gave you relief! I was crying b/c this was so painful and messy and I could barely function at work (teacher). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:15 PM Flag
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Wait until you hit perimenopause and you don't have a period for six weeks and are basically psychotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:20 PM Flag
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Or you bleed for 6 days out of every 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:26 PM Flag
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Yes no period for 6 weeks then bleed for 22 days here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:03 PM Flag
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Mine was so bad and I had back to back periods towards the end..I ended up having to have a transfusion of 2 units just to stave off the horrible anemia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Spanish teacher mom here with a couple notes from my work - the first is an observation on intelligibility vs. fluency. Spanish is considered a relatively easy language for English-speakers to learn because there are a lot of cognates, and you can become UNDERSTANDABLE relatively quickly. But this is like a vase with a spindle-stem and a trumpet-mouth - you get to a certain point, and then it takes A LOT more effort to fill the vase further. I'll illustrate by way of the way we'd translate a phrase that is not even an idiom: 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:16 PM Flag
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Let's say we want to translate the phrase "She wanted to put on her wedding dress again." A well-taught (but non-native) Spanish student would return something like Google Translate does: "Ella quería ponerse su vestido de novia otra vez." This is intelligible. But it's mechanical and stilted. It fails to capture the spirit of why she would want to do that. There is an aspirational element here. To make this sound NATURAL in Spanish, we need to swap the verb and rearrange the sentence construction. This phrase is more native: "Quiso ceñirse de nuevo el traje de novia." Some comments on that: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:21 PM Flag
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What is quiso [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:24 PM Flag
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It is a past-tense form of the verb "querer" - to want or desire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:34 PM Flag
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cheese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:45 PM Flag
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That's queso. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:07 PM Flag
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"Ceñir" is a versatile verb with different shades of meaning. Non-natives usually learn it in the sense of something that CLINGS to another object, or implies some strict limit - "Ella debió ceñirse al tema" - she had to stick to the subject. When we imagine a woman putting on a wedding dress again after some period of years, this is the sense we want. We need a more precise verb than "put"/"poner" for this. And to fit that verb in there, we have to make it more sensible - she doesn't want to "cling-fit" her wedding dress; she wants to fit into it all over again - "de nuevo." And "vestido" is too "starchy" here - "traje" (which carries a sense of a 'getup') is better. These fine-grained verbal distinctions take a lot of time to learn properly, but make the difference between non-native and native speech. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:27 PM Flag
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Interesting! I am a native Spanish speaker and would not have thought to use the “ceñirse” word. My parents immigrated from South America to NYC 2 yrs before I was born so I learmed English in kindergarten (ESL). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:39 PM Flag
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Too early [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:22 PM Flag
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Zzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 12:36 PM Flag
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Hey it's the Spanish pedant mom, que pasa chiquita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:16 PM Flag
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Tell them to learn English [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:43 PM Flag
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No me gusta estudiar las linguas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 01:50 PM Flag
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Pues se nota, guapa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:08 PM Flag
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No sabo, maesstra [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:20 PM Flag
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I think like any translation you should never try for a word for word. You have to use the more common expressions and inflections. I have friends that translate poetry from another language. They once showed me a word for word and it was a total mess. You have to go for nuances that are particular to the language you are using. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:16 PM Flag
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Mil gracias, I would not have thought to use ceñir. Why not vestirse? I would have used vestirse but I am clearly not a native speaker. Spanish translation is an art. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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