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[ - ] Can you recommend a professional organizer in nyc? TIA! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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Laura Cattano. She's great. Google her and you'll find her site. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If a baby shower is at a restaurant, are we all expected to pay for the food? Or do the hosts pay? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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The hosts should pay, but people are very tacky and rude these days. Bring cash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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they sent an email saying "we will order family style for everyone..." -OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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That suggest they're paying OR that they're sticking everyone with an equal share of bill. [ Reply | More ]
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that's my confusion...why even mention how they are ordering? Obviously there will be food. The mentioning of it makes me think they expect $$-op [ Reply | More ]
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+1, sounds like they want you to chip in....which is rude! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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seriously considering we are bringing expensive gifts :-/-op [ Reply | More ]
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Who's hosting this party? Please tell me it's not the parents to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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no it's the new mom's 2 friends -op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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Sounds like they are paying and pre-ordering platters of food for the table rather than giving menus. IF you don't know the hosts, not a bad idea to bring cash just in case. Take a look at the menu for the place online and make a guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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I would never imagine being expected to pay but I guess you never know. Usually (in my experience, at least) there is a little room or area reserved and a preset menu for the shower. If you want to go off menu (let's say it comes with one mimosa and you want a second) then you would pay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Drop off/ship presents and order a drink [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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do you know the host well enough to ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone pls suggest fun gifts for a 7 yo girl? I need to mail it and it has to arrive by this weekend. She isn't a typical princess kind of girl but is no longer boyish. TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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GC to barnes and noble [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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classic board games? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Op: they have quite a few as she has older siblings although boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Some kind of craft kit or science or building kit. Go on amazon or national geographic kids sites, you can search by age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:03 PM Flag
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Goldie Blox! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Not in NYC, but a few kids in my DC's class got Fs in first grade. I think that's so harsh, have you ever heard of that? I am from a country where a C in elementary puts kids on a vocational track and Fs are unheard of. I feel like an idiot now because I was worried that my DC had 1 B. What do they do with. Fs? Make them repeat a year in first grade? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Our district has numbers 1-4 through sixth grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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The worst is 1, which means not having a significant grasp of the material, needs improvement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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But if someone has a 1, do they fail the class? What happens in that scenario? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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If you have all 1s you probably should be in another kind of school. Lots of kids might get a few ones but 2s in most of everything else. The kids are graded in like 42 different areas, like ten categories for reading "understands concepts" etc. My dc has had 1's and she just gets special attention in an IEP in her deficient areas. They do not "vocational track" kids in the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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What? Where do you live that first graders get A-F grades? That's awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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Florida. This is one I the best public schools in the state but I think this is so harsh. How crushing and demoralizing for a 6 year old to be stigmatized as stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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That's insane, really, and runs counter to everything known about how to motivate young children to learn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Kids don't really get left back unless they really cannot even function at the peer level. Maybe not even then. It costs money to give kids extra years in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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1 = far below grade level (same as an F), 2 = below grade level but passing (same as a C), 3 = grade level (same as B) 4 = far above grade level (same as an A) there is no D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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That means the teacher isn't doing his/her job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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in germany they wait till 4th grade to put them on a vocational track [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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5th grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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I have never heard of letter grades in 1st grade, and have certainly never heard of a child failing first grade! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny. The family I work for is Indian. I'm sure it's cultural, but I can't stand the way the dad talks to the mom. He over rides everything she says, he doesn't listen to her at all. He an awkward little tyrant. This morning the mom gave the baby a spoon to eat with, the dad came and took the spoon away from the baby. He then turn to the mom and said, your distracting the baby from eating. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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Do you still plan to sleep with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Op. My dh would mop the floor with this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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There's nothing you can do. Just do your job and go home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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I know Indian men who are respectful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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Ii was giving him the benefit of the doubt. He's just an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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It isn't about being Indian; the guy just seems to be a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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I thought it had to be because he's Indian because he treated to his mom the same way when she visits. I love this job except for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Ugh. Indian men suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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This. A good old MCP. Could be from anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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What's mcp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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I don't think it's cultural - I am married to an Indian man and he would never do suck a thing. Neither would his brother or father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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^^^ such [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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I can't stand him. He told me two weeks into the job that they were getting a nanny can because he doesn't trust me. Then he would see me out at the end of the day and you can hear him change the code on the door so I can't come back in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Watch out!!! He is planning to sexually harass you. Seriously, get another job. He is controlling and wants to control you too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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So true. OP: Stop generalizing and stereotyping Indians.. it's about that particular guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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He comes from a sexist culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Not cultural, he's simply an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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It is most definitely not Indian. I have tons of Indian friends. He is just an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] OMG...A friend moved out of the city 2 years ago. They gut renovated a house, like put 800K into it. And now they plan to move back to the city. Won't they lose a ton of money? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Maybe. Depends what they paid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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A lot, 1. Million or so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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What county [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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^ lives in upper class town though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Where is the house and was it a wreck when they bought it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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Can't say. Doing want to out her. Starts with an "S" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Why are they moving back? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Probably overrated schools. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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no, the schools are good. Who moves back to the city for the chaos of the schools? This is why people move out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Teaching to the test. Budget cuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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She said she misses the city, doesn't love the town. But I think she doesn't remember the cons. Going through the motions that grass is greener. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Hope she's got school figured out is all I can say. It's going to be the thing that pushes us out, I'm afraid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Are zoned for good public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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No, we're not. Been paying for private but it's now beyond the point of ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Ugh, that's tough. Can I ask you how much for private? How many DCs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Tuition is about $42K per child per year at this point. It's OK, it was our choice to move here and it'll pay off hugely when/if we sell our place. But we can't swing the tuition payments on our HHI anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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Can you get aid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Nah, I doubt we'd qualify. Our HHI isn't that great but we have nice assets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Same here. Ugggh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Will you stay or go? We're having a real problem pulling the trigger and leaving because we know we'd never get back in here again if it didn't work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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Staying because kids are happy and we don't have a mortgage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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Nice, sounds as if you can more easily afford the tuition, then. We're hitting our principle now to pay and that can't continue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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We will be there soon if dd doesn't get into specialized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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Please, it's doable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Is it Short Hills or Summit? If so at 1.8m she is very likely to get all or at least most of her money back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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What if it's Scarsdale? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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Sorry I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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Most realtors would tell you that you should plan to stay at least five years to recoup the value of the renovation. But there are a lot of variables. Do they live in a desirable area with high demand, low volume? Did they add bedrooms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Yes and yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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^ well maybe not a wreck, but needed to be updated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Unless the house is huge, 800K into updated will result in a loss. And in the meantime, city prices have gone up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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Any real estate moms on who can help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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obviously it depends on how much they paid for the house and what things sell for it that area right now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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D and K? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] How bad is it if I left a tampon in for 11 hours? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Not bad if just a couple of times. I have left in a lot longer than this with no issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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np. same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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Are you alive? Then it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
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This is probably TMI, but in an emergency situation I left one in for two days. I was fine. [ Reply | More ]
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What emergency situation would require this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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I was a soldier. Was supposed to be on a short mission but ended up being away from base for a week. [ Reply | More ]
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oh my lord. that's awful. wow. thank you for your service. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! I should have been better prepared! [ Reply | More ]
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Stalking a pre school [ Reply | More ]
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Prepper Mom from last night probably has 20 years' worth of tampons in her basement. For emergency situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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You never know. I knew someone in college who got toxic shock. It was ugly. So no, don't take it for granted that it is OK. You could get a systemwide infection which could damage your brain. Please don't be flip about this. [ Reply | More ]
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TSS is not nearly as big of a threat as it used to be. If you don't have a fever or a rash, you're fine. [ Reply | More ]
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How soon would those develop? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Within 24 hrs. You are almost definitely fine. [ Reply | More ]
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I once left a tampon in for 7 days. I had totally forgotten all about it, couldn't feel it or the string. I figured it out because of the smell. No TSS thankfully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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How did you know you left in it for 7 days? That's also totally disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh. Don't make a joke about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm Beginning go think about starting a solo law practice. My main goal is to find something flexible and on a fee based model (v's hourly billing). I am in a new city and state, taking my 3rd bar exam in February, have a baby and 3 yo, and I'm just not willing to start back up as an associate working crazy hours. I have about 4 yrs of firm experience. Any practice areas I should start focusing on (and how to build some level of expertise?) I'm thinking of maybe doing simple wills/estates or special Ed law (I have a personal interest in the latter). We don't need a second salary at this point, but I am going nuts being sahm and hope to start something I can ramp up as kids get older. Also, if you know of any good resources for starting a law practice, please share! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Sorry for typos- just joined the rest of the world and got an iPad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Can't believe you didn't get slammed for that. [ Reply | More ]
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I am a CPA, what many CPAs do is look for older sole practitioners who are going to be retiring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Thanks, that's a great suggestion [ Reply | More ]
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Np. It is a hugely great suggestion. DH intentionally chose a practice with two partners over 50. We are out in New Hampshire. He had half of his own law practice within 5 years when the senior guy retired and DH started buying out his partnership. [ Reply | More ]
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That's a big investment, though. Do you have $250k laying around to buy into a firm? [ Reply | More ]
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Do you like to sell? Because that's what you'll be doing - selling, and probably for a long time. Businesses like this are 75% selling and 25% professional work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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That's a good point. No, I don't love selling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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I know of several moms who went into divorce and family law after their own divorce. [ Reply | More ]
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Where are you? I'm sure most cities have local bar associations where you can network and get ideas. For example, the New York County Lawyers Association is a great resource here in NYC, mainly because it is local and it has a lot of resources. If think if you're going solo, community is a very good thing. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. I am in a smaller city but we do have a city bar association. That will be my next step after I take the bar. Right now I am home with the kids so trying to spend any free time I have studying instead of networking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Next time, listen to Tom Skilling from wgn 9 Chicago. He predicted that new York would miss the bulk of the snow storm. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I love Tom. [ Reply | More ]
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Tom is the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Better get grilling... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Snow anyone? In Westport it is still coming down like crazy - they keep saying it has stopped, but it still looks bad. Anyone else? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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I am in southern NH and it is Armageddon [ Reply | More ]
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My front screen door opens out, and it is completely blocked, we can't get out the front door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Very serious question: Have any of you ever had a dc/tween tell they've though about suicide? 12 (almost 13) ds got angry then started crying. Called me in and said that he was sorry and when he feels this way he thinks about suicide. Real threat or manipulative behavior? How do I tell the difference. Is this normal? First time it happened. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I would always treat it as a real threat. Better safe than sorry. And if it is manipulative behavior, he will stop doing it as soon as he sees what's involved . [ Reply | More ]
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I would call the pediatrician. Not worth taking a chance. [ Reply | More ]
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op here: Thanks. The pediatrician is going to suggest talking to someone. Any recs of psychologists who deal with this? Is this something kids say today? [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's something all teenagers say at some point, but I think it is something that should be taken as a real threat every single time. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't have any recs. A lot depends on your insurance, too. Good luck. Everything is probably fine. Maybe he needs to learn some better coping mechanisms. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: I would take this very seriously. Adolescence can be the time of onset for depression-- it was for me. Personally, I would want dc to be seen by child psychiatrist. At the very least, I would call Ped and arrange for DC to talk to someone. Gl! [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
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I would interview ones who take your insurance. The cash ones are not any better. [ Reply | More ]
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My personal experience was that the ones who were fully covered on the insurance were not as good. The best therapists don't want to bother with the plan paperwork, and they don't need to because they get plenty of clients anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok we had the opposite experience but I've heard your scenario many times from people [ Reply | More ]
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op here: May I ask who you went to? And how much? You said opposite so I'm assuming not as expensive. [ Reply | More ]
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Co-pay. Dr vaccaro. 1841 broadway. [ Reply | More ]
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^but I would go on your insurance and just start calling everyone in your neighborhood. You will know from the phone call if they're ok. [ Reply | More ]
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My DD (below) had a good therapist, but we live in Westchester so the Therapist was in White Plains, NY. I'm guessing that the chances you want someone in White Plains aren't likely. My therapist in Manhatttan at first recommended a woman in Manhattan named Marsha Levy-Warren (author of The Adolescent Journey) but she was too expensive for us. ( As I remember she charged around $300 a session). [ Reply | More ]
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op: We can't afford that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I posted below. We just picked up the phone and called some local counseling practices, asking them if they took our insurance. Once we found one that did, we just made a first appointment with someone who did dc's age group. Insurance pays for 12 visits per calendar year, after that the therapist has to write something justifying more sessions. DH brings a check for a $15 for a copayment [ Reply | More ]
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Our insurance did not require a referral, we just started going [ Reply | More ]
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My 15 year old casually dropped the bomb that he had been suicidal for two years 12-13. I truly had had absolutely no idea and it scared the heck out of me to hear him say that. He swore he was not like that anymore, but I got him into therapy anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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op here: Thank you. I agree that this could be the beginning of depression. It was really scary to hear. I also feel like a complete failure. I've been really there for my kid. I think there is social stuff at school and being off brings that out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Not a parent here, so I understand my advice doesn't mean that much, but when I was 12 or 13, I also contemplated/threatened suicide. I have no history of depression. As an above poster suggested, I think this springs up from a lack of coping mechanisms at that age. Your brain isn't fully developed, you don't really understand the weight of what you're saying. I would absolutely take this threat seriously, but I would not necessarily worry that this is indicative of a life of depression. [ Reply | More ]
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op here: Thank you and your advice really matters. This is very helpful to hear. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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You're welcome and good luck. And FWIW, this does NOT make you a failure of a parent. Not in the slightest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Thank you for saying that but I definitely feel that way. If it weren't true he wouldn't say that. If a kid even think about this he must be unhappy which means something is very wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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Trust me, it is not your fault, all my kids ate the same food and were raised the same way, they have totally different personalities and weaknesses. I have one who likes to smoke pot and one who is like a DARE officer. I also have one that sees a therapist and one who could be one, he is so level headed. [ Reply | More ]
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You as mom are only one person in their lives. You have no control over the dynamics of his friendships, which is a lot of their world at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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PP: He might very well be very unhappy, but you have not failed him as a parent. You said in a below post that he was having trouble with math homework and that he feels left out socially. At 13, you lack the ability to articulate your frustrations. You feel a bit out of control of your own life- you can't NOT go to school, you feel that your friends and classmates are the center of the universe; you lack the experience and perspective to think, "Ok, 10 years ago I thought X was the biggest deal in the world, and now I realize how insignificant it was- I bet in 10 years I'm going to think this problem is not a big deal either." Plus you have a Molotov cocktail of hormones coursing through your body. I'm 25 now, but I remember those days. It is a hard time for all kids, and you are NOT a bad parent for having a kid go through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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Op again: not sure anyone is still on. Thank you. Your words really helped me. You are very wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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My DD (now 23) threatened suicide. She went to a therapist for a few years. She also would regularly visit a website called takethislife.com, a forum for people contemplating suicide. (I saw this on her computer). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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op here: OMG that is a real site? That is very scary. I can't imagine how that made you feel. What did you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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It actually tries to dissuade people from committing suicide. It doesn't encourage it - not at all. But people go on there and they post things like, "I can't take anymore. I'm going to kill myself." Others try to talk them down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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I didn't answer the "what did you do?" part of the question. We took her to a talking therapist and for a while she went to a psychiatrist also who put her on anti-depressants. She did not like the effect that the anti-depressants had on her and she stopped taking them after a fairly short time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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op here: Do you know what the root of her depression was/is? I worry that the stress of NYC school and life is too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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My DD was very slow to develop. She didn't get her period until she was over 16 and still had a girl-like body passed the point that the other girls did. The hormonal aspects of puberty were missing, and all of her friends became interested in boys. They all dumped her. She finally started to catch up, but emotionally she has always seemed young. Now, at 23, people who meet her think she's in high school even though she has graduated from college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Sorry "past" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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op here: Thank you. Ds is similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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Do you know why he was angry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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Btw I wouldn't take any chances and call md asap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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op here: I'm not sure. He was doing homework. He asked dh for help with a math problem. Was resistant to the help. Spoke in a rude manner. Was sent to his room. It escalated from there. He then started crying saying that he heard all the kids in his grade talking about sleepovers and that he is never invited to anything. To make it worse dd was at a sleepover last night. I think he feels lonely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Maybe not sending a kid to his room for minor infractions (rude speaking IS rude but can be addressed in a kinder way). Your son was already upset about feeling left out, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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op here: I didn't know about the feeling left out until after. He holds it all in. Once he began crying it all came pouring out. He was very rude in his behavior. We don't allow our kids to speak to us this way. He was sent to his room for a time out. There was no yelling except on his part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:00 PM Flag
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One thing to ask when trying to assess a suicide threat: "How would you do it?" It's scary to ask, but you're listening for something important. Does the young person have a plan? That is an indication of seriousness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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op here: I really don't think I could ask that question. I feel like it would make him think about it more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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I'm not a professional so I won't give you professional advice. My POV as a fellow mom is that you have to be frank in your conversations with DC and talk about the scary thing. If you are afraid to talk to him frankly, then you most certainly do need professional help. You sound smart enough in your other posts to know that sweeping this under the rug and only talking about non scary things is the wrong way to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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op here: Thanks. We have a very good relationship and talk about most things. I meant I didn't want to ask 'how would you do it'. I'm not equipped on this topic at all. I will be reading a lot today. Thanks everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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NP - please read this link http://samaritansnyc.org/myths-about-suicide/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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Talking about suicide is always serious. Don't ignore. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Therapist. Now. Also give him a suicide hotline number in the meantime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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op here: I am a very open person but you think giving him a suicide hotline number is a good idea? Isn't like giving your dd birth control pills, in that it has them thinking about it more? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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op back: Thank you for the link. I just read it. Very eye opening especially the part about discussing it with them. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do about back talk? Like serious back talk? Ds called me an asshole this morning and I am totally lost with how to deal with this much anger from such a little person. He's only 11. 77 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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1. Take away his electronics. Send him to his room to do homework. 2. Why did he say it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Yes and yes. He and other dc got into it and he was upset that I took his siblings side in a dispute (which I didn't). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I still think he should be punished, but my guess there is more behind this. Are you certain you do not favor siblings? Think about that very carefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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This. While you do not need to have one set of rules for all siblings, you do need to evaluate whether you are being fair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Really????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Consequences. I'd be taking away his computer, phone, video game system and tv watching privileges for at least a week for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I'm the poster above you. Maybe kids are acting like 'The Shining'. The snow is making them all crazy. Sorry trying to lighten up my very serious morning. I agree with above poster. Take away electronics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Thank you. Helpful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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"I am the asshole who drives you around and cooks for you and who has all the money." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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More likely it is DH who has all the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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What a fucked up segue into the never-ending battle of WOHM vs SAHMs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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Heah, OR brought up money. Even 11 YOs are smart enough to realize that if mom doesnt go back to work at some point, she is a leach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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OMG. Bitter much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Nope. But realistic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Well, my name is on the bank account, so ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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If you are OP, your kids likely realize who earns the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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OP here. Stfu, seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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Do you mean the money that DH is able to earn because DW sacrificed her own career to be at home caring for the family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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This. It's generally a mutual decision. Definitely was for us. My dh couldn't work the hours he does or travel if I worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Let's drop the "SAHM are self-sacrificing martyrs" mantra, ok? SAH is a luxury and a very cushy lifestyle that some women prefer to working. And yes, it does make the life of a DH easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I'm not suggesting SAHMs are martyrs. I'm merely acknowledging that it's not 'his' money. It's theirs. If it's not theirs together, then what...is she just some random who shows up at his house pro bono to take care of children? Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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itttta [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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Op. Nope. I am single mom. Ex DH is a bit of a deadbeat in fact [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Is there any possibility that you do favor other kids? Think hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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NO. That is being sarcastic. Sit down calmly and say "you are NOT allowed to speak that way. Period". You lost electronics for the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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np A day isn't long enough for calling a parent an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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What if parent really has been favoring other kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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np: Doesn't matter. I'd do a week. F him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Uh, mom needs to address her behaivor. Or it will get worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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He still doesn't have the right to talk to her like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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he needs punishment but what's he so upset over? does he need help over coming anger and acting appropriately? meditation has actually helped my friends kid process disappointment/frustration so not as many outbursts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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omg. Meds are the solution for everything, huh?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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meditation, not medication [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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lol. I need more coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Personally I would walk over and slap him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Oh yeah, that would be teaching good behaivor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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yes it would. I am the parent. Children should never speak like that to their parent. And children know when they deserve it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Never right to slap anyone. Never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Oh he deserves it. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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+1 Jesus - we're raising a bunch of coddled, disrespectful psychopaths! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Write a paragraph about what made him so upset and a paragraph about how he thinks you feel when he said that to you. Then discuss. Also take away electronics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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No wonder you people have such snotty kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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I'm sure your children are as lovely as you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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They really are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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Karma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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Are you serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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Yes what was your suggestion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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I would have slapped him and taken away his electronic s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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What if he hits you back? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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Then he can go stay with his grandparents etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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Poster from above. Then I would ask him to leave. My kids will never raise their hands to me. I may slap them if they ever curse at me. That is why I'm the parent. I don't understand why parents think its okay for kids to behave like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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OR - I agree with you. I don't cater to disrespectful children. Period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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9 yo got in trouble at school and also dropped the f bomb in conversation with me within a few days of each other. I took away tv and electronics and had him clean the basement. Threatened to take away gifts for upcoming holiday if further problems. By the time DH got home at the end of the week, dc was in tears about what a bad week it had been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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Guess you are not much of a mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Because I gave my DC consequences for his actions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Because your DH seems to be in cotnrol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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How do you get a 9 yo who's being a brat to clean a basement? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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IDk. Just told him to do it. He's had to help us before, so he knew to dust rec rm and sweep main area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:14 PM Flag
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1st. Stop treating your kid as a baby, a little person do not call others "assholes". 2nd where did he learn this? 3rd. You need to act in the moment, what did you do? Why is it so hard to teach your kid some respect, this is not a brainer. I would take away electronics at least for a long while. Seriously! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Btw, There is not reason that excuses his behavior, I can't believe the answers here, I am not saying go and hit your kid, but this "let's talk about it honey bs" is annoying, he shouldn't be calling his parents assholes because little snowflake is frustrated, period. Respect is given to my kids and I expect/deserve same respect back from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Them* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Maybe she does not respect the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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mom of 2 teens here, it's about the lack of respect, my teens have to do something to earn back my respect before they are forgiven..."asshole" would get them a 1/2 day at a soup kitchen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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I like that a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Doing a good deed/volunteering = punishment? Not really the best message to convey, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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it's not a punishment it shows them about respect, punishing a teen is not the way to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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"Jack, you called me an asshole, so you to go learn about respect by spending half of your Saturday at the soup kitchen." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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you don't get it do you? children, teens and adults need to learn there are consequences to their actions. if you are disrespectful to someone you have a lack of self respect and have to do something that will make it right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Serving up soup doesn't undo calling a parent an asshole. Consequences should be somehow related to the transgression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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works for our family, showing, giving and teaching respect is all related. how does slapping someone across the face or taking things away from them relate to the action? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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fyi, nothing can undo calling someone names, but you can do something to be forgiven. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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thank you, it has really worked, plus they actually volunteer on their own, because they understand how much people don't respect the people that need soup kitchens and some food and a smile goes along way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Oh Jesus!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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What? He would have gotten to know the back of my hand really well. You have to shut that shit down immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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now he might not say you are an asshole, but he will think it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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So what? You can't help what he thinks but he will learn that his words have consequences. NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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hope you have a plan for your golden years that does not include your son taking care of things, lmao... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Everyone relax. Soul Cycle is open. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Thank the Lord Little Lord baby jesus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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FLYWHEEL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Those classes are going to book up soon though! Hurry hurry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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My prayers have been answered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Never tried soulcycle. Is it realky that good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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it looks totally lame. I would never go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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now if only I could take my DS who is home from school . LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] What time does Hunter K announce on Feb 6th? I am planning a surprise party for my friend. TIA 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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What if her kid does not get in? Are you crazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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She will get in. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Oh, she has the hook up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Can't say, but she will get in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Enjoy the party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Np. She came out with a drawing and it was a masterpiece [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Why do you keep asking this lame question? Can't you think of some other more creative way to rile up Hunter applicants? Or better yet, find something more productive to do with your time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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I know the date, I just need to know the time for my friend's surprise party. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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I really can't see how this is a serious post. If you have inside information, which would require a professional breach of conduct by admissions staff, then you would be so on the inside that there's nothing someone on this board could tell you that you don't know. Plus, it would raise questions of how you knew, beforehand. On the other hand, if you just assume your friend's kid got in bc they're very smart, then realize the odds are against her and leave her alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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I don't have inside information. I have information my friend told me. I do not work for Hunter or know anyone who does. Why else would I need to ask here about the time the emails go out? I'm just trying to do a nice thing for a friend, that's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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You could always just plan for Saturday brunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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I guess I will just do that, then. I sort of wanted to do it while the excitement of her official acceptance was fresh, though. But yes, Sat brunch is a good idea. Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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That's about the lamest idea I've ever heard of. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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This is for a dear friend who has worked hard and deserves to celebrate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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lol. Make sure you order the cake without writing on top. Then you can buy the reading made writing frosting and customize: Congratulations! or Condelences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Has your friend worked hard or their child worked hard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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If friend is anything like you and her kid actually gets in, I pity the other families in the incoming k class. Yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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There are very dark corners of the dreary Hunter building reserved for people like this OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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Just throw it now. Why wait? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Indeed, in the lobby of Hunter, invite the admissions staff too. Does Kyla like cake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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That would be gauche. I would like to wait until she gets the email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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11:11 am. Because 11 is Kyla's favorite number. If you didn't reference that number in your app, you are doomed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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NP not funny, not clever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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I thought it was hilarious, as proven by the person below who took it seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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I was the below post and was just kidding as well. Thought it added to the OR's post. [ Reply | More ]
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I know the rest of this thread was in jest, but is it true that Kyla's favorite number is 11? And should I really have referenced it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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you sound mentally ill [ Reply | More ]
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x2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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You should make her a congratulatory lasagna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Will NYC schools be closed tomorrow? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I doubt it [ Reply | More ]
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No way [ Reply | More ]
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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I hope not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Of course not. We could have gone today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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really, for 6 inches?. should have been open today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Doubt it very much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:21 PM Flag
[ - ] What NJ/NY towns to real middle class people move to (not UB middle class) when they have to leave the city because of schools and the inability to fit families in tiny apartments. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Livingston [ Reply | More ]
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Is that commutable to the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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By bus. But I agree with BH poster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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Oh god, the most obnoxious of Jews move there. Go to Berkeley Heights, which at least has a train station. [ Reply | More ]
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BH is very boring [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Yep, boring but good schools. People who use public schools and community pool, not country club. Take the train, not drive, like the Livingston people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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You live in BH? [ Reply | More ]
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Livingston is just so darn jewish- better get your GL now. [ Reply | More ]
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It is also extremely Asian. [ Reply | More ]
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Maplewood [ Reply | More ]
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Summi [ Reply | More ]
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You want to move out? Why? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't want to, but the reality of my situation is that I have to. [ Reply | More ]
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How much can you spend on a house? [ Reply | More ]
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Are schools really tough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Summit, Springfield, Maplewood, South Orange, Livingston, Chatham, New Providence, Madison, Westfield... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Summit is a world of two groups. Large numbers go private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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Only 13% go to private [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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But in Westfirld and BH the number is much lower [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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And? 13% is not a lot at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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It really is a lot for a town with good schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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Almost 90% go to public. You're joking, rt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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What's bad about going to private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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Why do they send to private then?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Maple wood and south orange are not nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Not true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Neither are you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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I am watching this. Many of my cousins can no longer afford manhattan and must move to burbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Westfield and Ridgewood have areas of different price ranges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Verona is actually a nice, affordable town--I have friends there. Beautiful park and community pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Merrick, Bellmore, Wantagh, Seaford (LI). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Do you have to move to NJ???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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True middle class will move to towns like Woodbridge, Edison, waldwick, west Paterson, Wayne etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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By the truest definition of middle class, you are 100% correct, but by the NY-area definition, most of those towns are borderline working class and would be culture shock from most parts of NYC. Wayne is a bit nicer and more commutable than the others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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Convent Station and Morristown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Nice towns but long commutes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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I used to live downtown, 129th Street, Convent, everything's upbeat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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West Orange [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] If a parent died in 9/11 does that enhance dc's legacy status at an ivy 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.27.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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omg, i hope not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Why not. You don't think children who have lots parents deserve a leg up on college emissions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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No. I think think they should be helped and supported in many ways but this is not one of them. I would want to know that my doctor got his degree on merit and gives me the best treatment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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Probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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sure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Having a parent in any disaster does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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I hope so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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Yes, but I'm sure the child would happily trade enhanced Ivy status for the return of his/her parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Doubt it, unless they write an essay that connects the loss of their parent in 911 to something about themselves that makes them a more desirable candidate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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I think this would make the application get a second look from the person who reviews it, which is always a plus if the applicant is a strong candidate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Yeah! Aren't those kids lucky ducks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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prob not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone suggest a good restaurant for a low key baby shower - basically dinner for 7 women? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Ferry to waterside restaurant in nj [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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I went to one at Supper that was nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Any restaurant that the guest of honor likes that takes reservations for 7 women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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I went to a really cute tea place downtown for a baby shower. I forget the name- it is in the village [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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