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[ - ] Any tax accountant moms on? If we rent our primary residence once in a while and use the income to put in our son's college fund can the income be his income at tax time? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Income from the rental goes to the owner of the rental, income derived from the college fund is attributed to the owner of the college fund. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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If you rent less than 14 days per year, not taxable at all (the "Augusta" rule). Other than that, your house, your income. But you can pay him to do yardwork, etc to accommodate rental. Deduction for you, income to him. Only works if he is of a certain age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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TY! We don't rent more than 14 days. TY!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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No, why does it matter what fund/asset the income ends up in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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I bought dd a house in her college town, she had 2 roommates that covered mortgage, we put the rental income on her tax return, thus - she had enough income to be considered "in-state" and tuition was 70% less than out-of-state tuition with no cost for "room." Sold when she graduated but wish I had kept it. Values skyrocketed but you should consider that once you know where ds is going to school - if only to save on board. Yes, I do the 14 days of "free" rental of my own house as I live in a town that is very desirable for short term rentals at graduation time (local university.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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OP: how long dies it take to convert status to in state? Can this be done after enrolling? Can you please share more info? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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Has to be in DDs name to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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No, it's the income of the owner of the property. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Food writer: Dean & Deluca was just purchased by some global development agency in Thailand. Plans are to open hundreds of new stores - probably in a Target near you. Damn it. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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it's been poorly managed for so long. everybody in pe has looked at it and passed. the founder needed liquidity and certainly couldnt run it anymore. maybe now they'll be able to attract some talent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Wow,you're so racist. If this was a global development agency from France, would you have made the same comment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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no such thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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op: It just happens to be headquartered in Thailand. I'm always saddened when a independent US company is taken over by a multinational conglomerate - just like when Ben & Jerry's was taken over by Unilever, based in the Netherlands. Same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever used Rent the Runway? Concept is intriguing but I'm wondering how it is in practice... 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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i don't like it. seems like a bunch of sorority girls paying too much for old designs that have been worn 100 times before them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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My friend has a couple of times. One time good, one time bad - dressed showed up unhemmed and she had to go but something ASAP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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I have had three great experiences and one bad in that the dress didn't fit at all. They refund it if you don't wear it, but you always need to have a backup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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+++ I have had good experiences, but yes, you need to have a backup plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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this. SILs did it. One thought dress was fine other didn't think it fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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I've used it. Perfect when I need a fresh look for something! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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I've used it a couple times and it was great. They send 2 sizes so you don't have to worry as much about the fit. I have really liked how they post pics of people wearing the dresses so if you see someone close to your size and shape it can give you an idea of how it will look on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Yes, rented Dolce and Gabana dress. They sent two sizes, they were gorgeous. Worked great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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They actually have a place in Soho where you can try on dresses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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Also on 18th Street [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Which school is considered "stuffier": Brick Church or St. Thomas More? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Brick. But neither are particularly stuffy at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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So which do you think are the stuffiest ones on the UES? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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Episcopal has a strong poser attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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Blech. didn't even apply there. What are known as nice and relatively down-to-earth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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Brick is relatively down-to-earth. 92Y is also pretty down-to-earth. Garden House as well. Hollingworth on the UWS is also fairly down-to-earth. Those are all great options. Some other options that would be down-to-earth are St Barts, Brownstone, First Friends, William Woodward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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92y has some loud families [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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That they do, but its not stuffy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:14 PM Flag
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I thought families there were actually rich and connected, no posing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Can someone please do a TT preschools list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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no such thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Episcopal, 92Y, Brick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Not Episcopal. Temple E, 92Y, Hollingworth, Garden House, Montclare, Brick, Christ Church, All Souls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:16 PM Flag
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Was episcopal never tt or did it fall off? Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:32 PM Flag
[ - ] For those very few on here who have dcs applying to public HS, have you heard back from Bard regarding your dc's assessment test? We took it Nov 1, but still haven't heard and the list is due very soon. So stressful. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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That is annoying. However, the good news is that you can just rank them wherever you would rank them if you got the interview. It does not affect dc's chance at getting into another school. And no school knows where the kids rank it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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The whole process feels very mysterious to me. With the selective schools she knew how to rank them in order, but it sounds like rank order doesn't matter in this case. I am so confused about how the DOE sorts these choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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The schools rank the kids who apply. The have to rank 2 or 3 times as many kids as they have spots, since they don't know who will match. Once the rankings are in, the student matches with his top choice that also ranks that dc somewhere. He can be the lowest student ranked, but if it is dc's first choice, dc will match with that school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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This is not actually quite accurate. It is significantly more complicated than that, and the process has to go through a large number of iterations to attain the "optimal" (as defined by the algorithm) set of matches between schools and students. Unlike the SHSAT ranking, there is the possibility for strategic ranking for the nonspecialized high schools. This is why they won't release the algorithm. Without knowing exactly how the iterative matching works, it is difficult to make good strategic choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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To illustrate why this is not correct: Elro will "rank" about 1500 schools, according to their admissions director. They send that list to the DOE. A kid who is ranked 1500 by Elro will most likely not get in, even if he ranks Elro first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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^^students [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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Obviously. The school doesn't want that dc. School picks the top dcs that rank them. Many dcs more qualified than your example ranked Elro first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Small biz moms: how hard is it to use QuickBooks? Do I need to take a class of something? Do you enter stuff (receipts etc) daily? How do you like it? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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It's fairly intuitive to start, but there are some advanced things that you have to learn to use (like classes and jobs). Do you generally pick up technology quickly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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it is basically the default for small businesses - you can watch you tube, I've looked at many small business accountants, most of them were setup wrong but did the job, the most important thing is to setup the bank account correctly and reconcile that account monthly. When times were tight we used to reconcile that account daily . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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If you are completely clueless it might be a good idea to work with an accountant for an hour to help you set up all the accounts. Also consider having a CPA go thru the books annually and help you with your tax statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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I need to do this too but I'm such a moron when it comes to these things- I'm intimidated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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I don't do anything complicated on it, but entering income and expenses is very easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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I don't do anything complicated on it, but entering income and expenses is very easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] About to sign on an apartment in PS 166 zone (Manhattan). Is there any chatter about the zone changing for next year, or will I be safe? Thanks you. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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I didn't hear anything. Is your dc going to K in 2015? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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I think you are safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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how much for rent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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Haha...too much! $5000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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how big is the apt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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Fine, they've never had a waitlist for non-GT (which is what drives zone changes). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Got it. Can I pretty much go by what I look up on schools.NYC.govt? No need to call and confirm what I get when I plug in the address, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Its hard to say. De Blasio may decide the racial makeup is not to his liking and decide to "bus in" from poorer neighbornhoods [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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ps 166 will not be his top target in D3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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I hope not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Can't have dc around minorities! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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No, not my point at all. I actually prefer PS 166 because it seems to be one of the most diverse of the high performing UWS schools. I wouldn't want the zone to change because I wouldn't want to be zoned to a lower performing school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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don't forget that the G&T classes account for half the scores at 166. Gen-ed kids likely score much lower. not saying it's a bad school but fyi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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np: ps 166 had very good scores this year even if you account for the g&t. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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G&T isn't half the school. You don't know squat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Two of the four or five classes per grade are G&T. two out of four...wait for it...that's half. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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idiot. The reason 166 is not top priority is because its actually more diverse and is also a good school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] We are moving out of NYC in exactly 6 months. Help me come up w/NYC food bucket list! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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donut plant tres leches donuts [ Reply | More ]
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yum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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are you planning to kick the bucket soon after the move? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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we are moving to MO. So, yeah, kind of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Ferguson? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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LOL, St Louis, Wash U Med Center [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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Phew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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Stl is cool. You will love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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my home city - beautiful and so livable - you will love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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Di Fara pizza, Lam Zhou dumplings, Suillvan street filone bread, Piccolo Angolo meatballs, Minetta steak, Carbone for anything and everything Italian, socarrat for paella, sandwiches at Lioni's in BK, Pilmeni at Glechik in Sheepshead bay, Il Laboratorio del Gelato, steak tartare at Blue Ribbon, enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:55 PM Flag
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Ramen at Ippudo, Sushi Nakazawa, Greek at Pylos, Bone-in filet at Quality Meats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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per se [ Reply | More ]
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ice cream at ample hills [ Reply | More ]
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Soup Dumplings [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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Rent control apt? If so, let's do lunch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Sushi Yasuda [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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We did this. Mostly all our favorite pizzas and cheesecakes, though we ended up going to Lucali's and Monteleone again and again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] "Today is the best day ever". --Bill Cosby 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Yeah. Thanking his lucky stars for all those uneducated embarrassments who didn't pull up their pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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nah, al sharpten said it first [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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I thought it was Spongebob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone notice how poorly written the RS UVA story is? It's full of uncited sources, loaded terms, and generalizations. This for me makes it less credible. It is kind of a shame. 107 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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I only started to read it so can't comment on it. That said, did you see the massive amounts of comments from other victims, or those who attended UVA--who very clearly agreed with the culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Oh, I personally don't doubt the story, but I think it's credibility is hurt by poor writing/editing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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Hello, Teresa Sullivan. Is your bursitis acting up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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It is clear to me that UVA does not seriously punish known rapists. That is a story to me. The administration admitted it. Please tell your son not to rape. That no means no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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OMG moms are never responsible for anything their precious sons do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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NP- what about dads? To a large extent, I think it is more on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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Parents are not responsible for their adult children's crimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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How many women has your son raped? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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None, that I'm aware of. Of course, he's 8, so I can be fairly certain. But guess what? When he turns 18, if he commits a crime, *he* goes to jail, not his father or I. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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Apparently at UVA they do not consider rape a crime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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Again, UVA is not a police department. It is a university. If victims want the crimes prosecuted, they need to report the crimes to the police and let the police investigate - not report the "incidents" to the dean and then go hold hands with 1 in 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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And again, mother of boy, they have the power to expel. They do not consider rape an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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Would you have stood for being expelled from your university for something that was not proven? Or would you have lined up a bunch of lawyers and sued for a chunk of the endowment fund (and a LOT of loud publicity)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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How hard is it for you to understand that boys who have had admitted to rape suffered minimal conseuqneces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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You are an idiot. No one is responsible for another person's crimes. Ever. Even a parent with a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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I am not telling my son not to rape. He won't rape. He is not a pig until someone tells him not to be. Fuck you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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NP: Fuck you too. It's your job to raise a decent man. If you want to shirk that responsibility, don't fucking throw tantrums when someone insists that you step up and do your fucking job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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I am raising a decent man. One who IS NOT A RAPIST UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT. Get it?? Fuck you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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So he is a rapist until proven guilty? Which means rape is not a crime? You sound like a great, coherent, intelligent mother. I do get it. You're not the greatest mom. So nope, fuck you again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Yeah, fuck you. Every accused criminal is innocent until proven guilty, stupid cunt. Except you seem to think with boys it's different. They are all rapists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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NP: Good lord. You're unhinged and severely mentally unbalanced. I feel pity for your son. Calm down. What is wrong with you? There's no excuse for using filthy language like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Fuck you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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np You provoke and provoke, and then you're surprised when you get the response you deserve? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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"Tell your son not to rape" is provoking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Telling every mother of a boy that her son needs to be told not to rape is provocative, and you know it. You're a troll, and you've been trolling her for several days now. I'll be flagging & collapsing your posts from now on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Mispost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Oh right, asking your kid to not traumatize other women is so horribly triggering to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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Do you ask your daughter not to traumatize people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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The day women commit gang rapes on men is the day I tell her not to rape men. Why are you so reluctant to tell your son not to rape women? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Because I have taught him to treat others with respect and that sex is consensual. I don't have to tell him not to rape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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I teach my kids not to steal, but that doesn't mean they are THIEVES UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT, crazy lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Do you teach your dd not to get drunk and spread her legs? That might be worth your time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Wow, that makes you sound really not crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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np: You DO sound like the mom of a rapist now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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With a mom like you, I'm sure he'll be a rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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All men aren't rapists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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yeah but maybe your son is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Some are well brought up, just not yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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How would you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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I've read your replies ITT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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PO: Your statement in no way responds to my question. Yes, rape is bad, but did you think the writing was poor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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np The writing was at RS's usual level, which is mediocre-to-okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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The story isn't true. It's an amalgam of bits and pieces of stories, some reported & accurate and some not so much, all put together under one pseudonym in order to grab the biggest reaction and generate the most click-thrus. This is why "Jackie" can't be identified. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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That may be true, but the University deans have admitted they do not punish known rapists (other than maybe taking away dining privledges). Big woop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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University deans do not have jurisdiction to investigate and punish felonies. If victims do not report the crimes to the police, there is not way to investigate, try, and convict. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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They have power to expel. They have expelled known cheaters. Known rapists do not get expelled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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I guarantee there are no convicted rapists taking classes at UVA. People can talk about "known rapists" all they want, but until the rapists are arrested, tried, and convicted, UVA cannot just expel students on the say-so of students who won't even give their own names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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They can absolutely expel students based on less than a criminal conviction! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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Exactly. And there have been no convictions. All of these people are screaming for expulsions and for frat house closures, but none of the alleged criminals has been tried. Guess what? If a rapist is convicted and sentenced, he won't be on a college campus because he'll be in jail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Only if they want to get sued for defamation, slander, and a slew of other things. No university can expel a student for unsubstantiated rumors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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A number of students have admitted to rate. Some lost dining passes or student pool passes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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A private university can do anything it wants. A public university needs to follow due process (which does not require a criminal conviction). And assuming a confidential discplinary process, the university isn't involved in defamation or slander. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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They have admitted to rape. UVrape has expelled 183 cheaters in recent history who were not convicted in a court of anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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That's because there's an honor code that students must agree to adhere to. If they violate the honor code, they are expelled. Things that can't be tried in court (like cheating, plagiarizing, etc). I am not defending the rapists or their rape policy. I am just explaining why it is that cheaters can be kicked out so easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Sure you are defending rapists. UVrApe should have changed student code decades ago. Rapes are on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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Are you ESL? I can't understand your post. I am simply explaining why cheaters can be expelled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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They have admitted to rape. UVrape has expelled 183 cheaters in recent history who were not convicted in a court of anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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that's what happened to jesse matthew. he was kicked out of school instead of reported to police so he went off campus and onto the greater world where he raped and murdered non-campus women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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This is such a good point for debate. I'm not sure it's even the university's place to investigate and punish rape. Shouldn't the police do this since it is a felony? Should the university have investigators? (UFBI?) Maybe the best the university can do is encourage women to report. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Disagree. RS is a reputable paper. Some details not material to the story may have been changed to protect people(as in I suspect that Drew and Jackie worked at the library, not as lifequards), but I think the main story is true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:55 PM Flag
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No way. Why use a pseudonym for "Jackie", if she is already so well known on campus that assault victims call her up and approach her after class, and the men who hate her (alleged) fight against rape openly yell insults at her on the street and throw bottles at her in public? It's because she is not that person - she is made up. [ Reply | More ]
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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You cannot have it both ways. If she wasn't really assaulted, why are people yelling at her? Maybe she doesn't want her name in public for eternity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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This is what I'm saying. "She" doesn't exist. RS went out and interviewed dozens, maybe hundreds, of women on college campuses, gathering stories of assault - some of it may have been true, some of it may have happened at UVA - and then rolled it all into one "person" in order to sell the story big. Without "Jackie", the rest of the article becomes very technical and bogged down in university policy and he-said-she-said and unsubstantiated allegations against Big Evil Frats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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So who is this person that these boys are yelling at? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Zzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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Hi rape apologist. A man, or just a mother of sons? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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Calling names and bullying people who disagree with you solves nothing. Nor does making up fake stories and publishing them in RS instead of prosecuting the real crimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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I trust RS a lot more than I trust you. If you are so offended by the "jackie" pseudonym why are you posting anonymously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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That makes no sense. NP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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I don't know where you get "offended" from. I'm able to read critically and figure out what's really going on behind an article. I know what's click-bait and what's sensationalism and what's actual investigative reporting. Some people fall for everything they read on the internet; other people know that you can't just blindly accept at face value everything you read, anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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THIS. np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Zzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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I assume RS does not pay their reporters and editors very well and they are sub par. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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I went to UVA for grad school, and these stories are completely believable to me. I was older and not part of that scene, but I went to a frat party or two and they were really awful. There were a lot of rich entitled brats there who paobably never heard the word "no." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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I went to Duke and it was similar there as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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+1 I was just thinking that to myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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Dartmouth. The same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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And there were also a lot of not-rich, not-entitled, not-bratty normal students -- otherwise, who would be the victims? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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rolling stone is known for this type of journalism. their standards are different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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My dh reads it in the bathroom. I can't get through any of their expose article because they are so poorly written. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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It isn't a journal article, it's not supposed to have footnotes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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Um, journalism must adhere to certain standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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That doesn't include footnotes, sorry. It does include an editorial review process, which I'm sure happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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LOL. You're sure. OK. BTW, it's called fact-checking. Not "an editorial review process." [ Reply | More ]
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No, the article was fine. I suspect what will make UVA change is when they get hit with a decline of out of students (who pay much higher tuition) who want to go there. Yes, they will always get students, but the ones who have choices will shy away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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No it wasn't fine; it was awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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My friend (a man) was in a box w Teresa sullivan at Saturday's football game and said she was bad mouthing the article, the writer, the alleged victims, etc. saying it's so hard for UVA to take action bc it's all he said/she said, the alleged victims aren't credible, etc. Ugh. What a horrible woman! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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She's right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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She isn't, pro-rape mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Why can't some of us question the quality of the reporting in this article without being called "pro-rape"? I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Because no one wants to believe they are susceptible to sensationalism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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This. Let's say for a moment that "Jackie's" story is true. She would have been covered in DNA, plus she knew two of her attackers personally. If she had gone to the police that night, or even just to the hospital, evidence would have been gathered and convictions would have been a slam-dunk. But instead, she waited almost a year, and then hemmed and hawed in a dean's office. She is not a credible witness; UVA couldn't use her to fight against rape if they wanted to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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I don't believe you are actually a woman. Go away MRA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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I think the quality of the Rolling Stone magazine has declined instep with writers and editors pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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This is true for Newsweek, Time, almost all of the 'second tier' type publications. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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I haven't read it yet but I'm a journalist and I'd be surprised if the RS lawyers weren't all over every word, which can lead to uncited sources and generalizations. The loaded terms are just melodramatic editing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Exactly. The idea of a made-up Jackie is just wishful thinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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Good article in InHigherEd [ Reply | More ]
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Key point to me -- "Part of the controversy at Virginia is that the university, famously, has an honor code for which expulsion is the "sole sanction" for lying, cheating or stealing. The contrast between "sole sanction" for nonviolent offenses and a range of punishments for sexual assault is part of what has drawn attention to the university, as opposed to other institutions. The Rolling Stone article quoted the mother of a U.Va. student who reported a sexual assault as saying this: "Think about it," she said. "In what world do you get kicked out for cheating, but if you rape someone, you can stay?" " [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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This is why UVa is getting hit hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:21 PM Flag
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NP, even worse, one victim was threatened with expulsion if she reported anything involving the school "investigation." Feds told UVrApe they violated Cleary Act with this gag order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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Good article in InHigherEd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Women in truly happy marriages: how long have you been married, and what is your husband like? Describe him. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Married 5.5 years. Dated for 6 years before that. Met in college. We have 1.5 & 3yo. I feel like we are just at the beginning but still very happy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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^DH is very rational, even-keeled, intelligent/intellectually curious. [ Reply | More ]
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Mine is the last one but not the first 2. Not so happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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5 years. DH is independent and self-reliant. Runs his own small business. Usually has a fling about once every month or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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a fling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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An affair? If this is cool with you, sounds like you two have it all worked out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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is he sleeping with them? that's a lot of flings... i'd be worried for my health [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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We've been nonmonogamous our whole adult lives. We're up to date on risk management. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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does he just not come home some nights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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how many flings do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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I don't. I'm not into sex with other people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Are you worried about stds at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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you are getting the short end of the stick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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You again. Are you writing a book on the almost perfect husband? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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I'm having a tough time. Trying to make it work with someone who isn't calm and rational a lot of the time, among other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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np- Me too. [ Reply | More ]
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We've been married for seven years, but we were together since we were teenagers. He's sweet, gentle but not a pushover, always sticks up for what he believes is right, very charming, everybody always loved him. [ Reply | More ]
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5 years. DH is above all very even-keeled. in finance but not douche-y. More of an introverted type but extremely loyal. Very caring father. Thoughtful. Doesn't get easily riled or upset over anything. [ Reply | More ]
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8 years. Kind, generous, affectionate, hard worker [ Reply | More ]
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Married 8, dated 5 years prior to that. Met in college. Professor, cooks, cleans, super brilliant, sensitive, sometimes too sensitive. We fought a lot during dating because he wanted to get married, like yesterday. I almost let him go because he was my first boyfriend and I wasn't ready to settle down. Would have been the biggest mistake of my life. [ Reply | More ]
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If you have a marriage that is "truly happy" then you haven't really experienced long term marriage yet. There are always compromises and challenges along the way that you don't expect. [ Reply | More ]
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6 years, together for 9. DH is smart, kind, goofy and intellectually curious. He makes me laugh, loves me a ton, loves our kids (and is great with them). Unfortunately he has to work a little too much right now but he's great at his job and generally enjoys it. [ Reply | More ]
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Married 13 years, dated one year. I am a Chinese, he is a Caucasian. Kids love to be with him more than me. Maybe because I am a tiger mom. He is very caring, rational. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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S/O: What makes you a TM? What behaviors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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They have to play piano (30 min a day), chess, learn Chinese. [ Reply | More ]
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Married almost 30 years - adores me, smart, respectful of women (lesbians like him) and we have always had the same values. Oh, and we've had many challenges. [ Reply | More ]
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Married for 12 years, together for 15 years. He is smart, funny, charming, considerate, calm, loving and rational and a great great dad [ Reply | More ]
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Married for 2 years, together for 5. Met him while in undergrad; he was doing his doctorate part-time (and is 14 years older, so already had his life in order). So happy. Kids starting probably next year or the year after. [ Reply | More ]
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15 years and he is far from perfect (so am I). He's very smart, often funny, works hard, is a great cook and will pitch in around the house and with childcare if given a hint. He can be thoughtful (plans date nights) and fun (also plans our vacations). But he can also be impatient, competitive with other men and lecturey sometimes and used to be a yeller (counseling broke him of that). I'm a huge bitch when I get tired but he seems OK with putting up with that. The point is, the man isn't what makes the marriage happy, nor is the woman. You decide together that it will work and then you make it so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think the riots that happened in Ferguson last night would have happened in your town (if everything else was the same)? Where do you live? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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Raleigh, NC. No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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Things seem to be racially balanced & well integrated, much more so then when I was in NY. There doesn't seem to be frustration and hostility. I am not sure of the numbers but there does seem to be a fair representation of African-Americans in the policy force. FWIW, the police chief is an African-American woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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^^police force [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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Are you white or black? What does your black best friend have to say about all this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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I am white. I have black friends/acquaintances but I haven't seen or talked to them today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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You do realize that the Moral Monday protests have been organized in Raleigh largely as a response to institutionalized, pervasive racism, right? But hey, as long as the weather up your ass is great, you should keep your head there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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LOLOLOLOLOLOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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No, because everything isn't the same. No black people live in my town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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So a white unarmed teen would get shot - would no one in your town protest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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Nope. Grew up in a town with 40% AA, but they would not have done that. They are smarter and more reasonable people. Maybe at the fringes there would be a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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I find it strange that there are no protests in the south. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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There was some "unrest" in Miami, actually. [ Reply | More ]
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Raleigh poster from above, why do you say this? Do you spend much time in the south? Not trying to be snarky but I think many who are unfamiliar with the south (or parts of it) think of it as being more racially divided then it is [ Reply | More ]
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It's divided in certain ways. For example, there are parts of New Orleans, Jackson, Birmingham, etc. where you'd have to be soft in the head to "visit while white." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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Because the south has many majority black neighborhoods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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and NYC doesn't? Chicago doesn't? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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and NYC doesn't? Chicago doesn't? [ Reply | More ]
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You're an incredibly clueless woman. I'm black and I can tell you straight up that NC is horribly segregated. You're just another silly, oblivious white lady who doesn't pay attention to minority issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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OR- I did not say that issues don't exist, but I don't think the North is better (and I lived up north for 37 of my 40 years) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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Uh you said earlier that NC is much more integrated than NY and there's no frustration and hostility in the South. So don't backtrack now. You're just revealing more and more just how oblivious and clueless you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Nope. The city is like 0.8% black, so, that wouldn't be a viable response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH has no hobbies. It bothers me. He's very successful in his career (engineer), but after work he just wants to come home and play video games. Same with weekends. (We don't have kids yet.) I prefer going to museums and theater performances on weekends. I usually do this alone or sometimes with friends, but it's starting to really bother me that he spends so much time playing video games. WWYD? 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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How old is he? [ Reply | More ]
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op: 27 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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He has a hobby. Video games. You sound judgmental. [ Reply | More ]
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op: It's a stupid hobby. And I don't like listening to the same sound effects for hours on end. Even when he wears headphones, I can still hear it. It's annoying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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So leave. You like doing other things outside the house, anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Why are you judging him? You like museums, he likes video games. You need to grow-up. Do you even have DCs yet? If this sets you off, honey you've got a VERY long road ahead of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Np, yep judgemental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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So why do you say he has no hobbies, when he has a hobby, just one you don't like? [ Reply | More ]
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ita - video games ARE a hobby. my husband is also an engineer. he has a lot of hobbies, but they are all boring as f*ck to me, including video games. i like going to museums and theater as well - my dh, not so much. he finds those activities boring as f*ck. after 15 years and two dcs, i am fine with going to museums and the theater with friends and watching foreign films by myself. i am happy that he has a hobby that he enjoys that helps him relax when he isn't working or helping with the kids. you are being unfair and judgmental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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My DH is the same way. I do not blame him because he works so hard during the week and just wanted to chill in his downtime. Let him do his thing! [ Reply | More ]
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op: I don't give him shit about it, I just complain on here. I know he works hard, but I can't help but feel annoyed. Did your DH start playing less as he got older? Or did you just care less over time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Clearly, the headphones are meant to tune you out. [ Reply | More ]
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the headphones are probably his way of being thoughtful! tuning out OP is just a side benefit. [ Reply | More ]
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Neither. I didn't marry someone whose habits annoyed me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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or- my dh doesn't play video games, but he watches football/tv/movies instead of having real "hobbies." He is almost 40. I think it's good that you're willing to go it alone or with friends; this is all you can do. he probably won't change much and that's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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does this bother you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Yes, it does somewhat. But I try to be understanding about it..he works hard and just wants to relax. he's simply not going to go out and train for a triathlon in his downtime. the main thing that does bother me is when tv is always on around dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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dh engineer here. This is v common, most engineers have no hobby outside work as the brain is constantly engaged at work. Need to zone out after office [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
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He is a nerd. Welcome to the world of the STEM professional. You should dress up in a Wonder Woman costume if you want him to pay any attention to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Anybody watch House of Cards? What is Frank Underwood's hobby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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murder [ Reply | More ]
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And buggery. Love that show. [ Reply | More ]
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And the Battle of Spotsylvania. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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I'm a DW engineer here. You can probably get him to go to museums and theater performances like once a month if you make sure it's something super exciting. Some video games are amazing, maybe he can try to find some you'd be into too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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What are your fave FPS games? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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I like exactly zero FPS games. I play Road Not Taken and Here Be Monsters mostly. If your DH has a playstation I hear Journey is really good (and designed by a woman) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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ty! is Journey an fps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Journey is very much NOT an FPS. It is different from just about any game you may have played. Give it a try. [ Reply | More ]
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np: I am an engineer and have 0 interest in video games and same goes for my dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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And you spend your free time on a Mommy Message Board and you don't even have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:58 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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zing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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The video game that is Urban Baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Divorce. You married a loser guy. He could be spending that time doing something constructive... furthering his career, learning new skills, volunteering, whatever. Terrible role model for kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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In other words he could spend his time doing something to make your life better. You sound like a taker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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OR. Not at all. He could be doing something to make HIS life better... all he is doing is wasting time on unproductive pursuits which don't involve his family. I'd say the same if all he did was watch football all weekend long. Total loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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What does your DH do with his free time? Serious question, not trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Better still, what does she do with her free time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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He works hard, teaches our kids things (sailing, camping, swimming), volunteered a lot before DC, and yes, enjoys sometimes playing video games. Just not all the time. Or even most of the time. Now teaching DD how to play chess - and really getting into it with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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How often does he play? (How many hours a day, and how much during the weekend?) [ Reply | More ]
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I'm surprised so many responses are in favor of the DH. [ Reply | More ]
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i'm not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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For people replying- what do your DHs do with their free time on nights and weekends? How much of that is together with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Every time someone that I haven't spoken to in 5-10 years randomly adds me on Facebook, they are selling doTerra oils or Jamberry nails or Scentsy... and I fall for it every time. "Oh yeah, I remember you, thanks for finding me on here!" 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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I hate when people sell on Facebook! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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It's like you can't go anywhere without being sold to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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I hear about this stuff all the time from my facebook mom's group but I don't have a single friend who has tried to sell any of this stuff. I bet most of my friends have never heard of this stuff. Yes, that makes me proud, haha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Sounds like they're in need of a seller! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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The second someone tries to sell me something, I skip blocking their posts and just go straight to unfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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I swear every other FB friend of mine sells something, I don't understand it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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I have several friends who are rabidly shilling Isagenix on FB, very annoying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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Me too! It seems like such an awful scam but they're proselytizing it all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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So sick of the Jamberry nails. Also tired of having to say "no thank you" to people pretending to be my friend so they can shill garbage to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Is York avenue preschool any good? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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fabulous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Not "TT" but seems like a nice place! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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+1, DD had a good 2 years there. Many of the kids (I don't know the current numbers) go to the local public elementary schools, which are among the best in the city but which will, alas, permanently keep the school from being TT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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Is it close to your house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Then its good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Hey ladies, do you think your hubby posts ads like this on CL? "I am married, I have kids and a good job in ___; I'm a normal guy. I'm looking for a normal woman with whom to share some time with every once in a while (typically mid-day). I love my family and if you have one I hope you love yours too, but perhaps you are like me and want to add a little excitement or intrigue into your life. I can be very passionate, sensual and intense and I want to share that. I'm very fun loving. Perhaps you'd like to have someone to send fun texts to, you'd like to escape for secrete rendezvous together. I've realized that life is short and that we are all very different people, we all have different needs and have different interests. I need another woman in my life, I need to share my intimacy with them and love them. Of course this relationship would need to have its limits just like all the others we have, but that's fine with me. I'd rather live my life, taking advantage of each day, cherishing close relationships, enjoying what we can. Again I ask you to consider what fun we can have together, even if it's only for a short time. Discretion is a must, but that doesn't preclude our getting together. It will only make it more fun. Let's figure out how to make this work." 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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Doesn't sound like my DH at all. He's not that corny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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:( So he's not "very passionate, sensual and intense"? Is he not "very fun loving"? Has he not realized yet that life is "short" and that we are all very different people who have different interests? Man, he's really missing out on a heck of a revelation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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My DH has that defective gene that makes him avoid anything romantic like the plague, so I don't think so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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This guy seems like a total douche [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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I bet he makes mix CDs for his ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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omglol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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mine didn't need to. he was capable of finding this all on his own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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sorry to hear :( How did he pull that off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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My husband is way too lazy to write all that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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Do you like piƱa coladas? And getting caught in the rain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I rent a minivan (or similar to dear 6 people) in NYC for Black Friday? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Hertz. Have done it a few times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Are you driving to the outlets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Any truth to the Brearley rumor? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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this topic is off limits so why don't you stfu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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off limits? sez who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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says decent people who don't post lies concerning DC on the internet. So again STFU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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are you an alum? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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more likely a current B family. a previous thread on this topic suggested the administration had instructed families to, well, stfu. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Is STFU part of the Brearley parent body's common parlance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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Yes. They fired the alleged molester. Why would they fire if there was no truth to it. The stand behind the school right or wrong mom above can STFU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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If there was molestation, shouldn't there be a criminal investigation? I'm not buying these rumors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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They told us there is an investigation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Which is somehow not making it into the news? How likely is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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No. Go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Cover-ups to "protect" the institution rarely work out well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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It worked great for the Catholic Church, HM, Bill Cosby, Tricky Dick Nixon, et al. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Spence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Trevor [ Reply | More ]
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Riverdale [ Reply | More ]
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CGPS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.25.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Chris Christie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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What's the brearly rumor?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Middle school teacher molested students. He got fired. They told parents to shut up. They are prepping kids for UVA. They need to start in middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Are you sure? Someone posted yesterday about an affair between a teacher and high school student? Which would of course be horrible, but still. Maybe slightly less awful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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You're not a parent at the school, are you? What are you basing this on, aside from unsubstantiated UB gossip? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] If the topic of Ferguson comes up on Thanksgiving, what are you going to say? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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Would you mind passing the mashed potatoes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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That I am sick of the complete lack of empathy when it comes to Black lives lost. Pass the cranberry sauce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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especially black on black crime [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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No not especially. All of it. Including the white privilege, supremacy, police brutality, mass Black incarceration, racial profiling, biased war on drugs, whitewashing of history and religion and other aspects contributing to this crime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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+1, I would want to discuss with my children how/why this country automatically sees a thug or an animal when a person of color is killed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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Excuse me, I think the water is boiling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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To the people saying nothing, do you not care? Do you have any opinion on the fact that silence is consent re: racism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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I don't care. Like actually don't care at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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Oh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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The "racism" card was played-out by the 90's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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It was always played out because there is no such thing, racist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Sure there is. In the 60's and 70's it was called "mau-mauing," but at least back then it had more justification. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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Grandpa is drinking the gravy again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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That the Brown case was complicated but it speaks to our need to talk about racism in our criminal justice system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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It was made complicated by the prosecutor who could easily have obtained an indictment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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So the grand jury was racist? They had all the evidence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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We need to address the topic of race in a meaningful fashion. Lots of angry black people think everyone else is out to get them. What do we do to change that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Start by discussing why they feel that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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Read a history book. Then the news. Then review. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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Because their grandparents were exploited - first by their countrymen (when sold), and then by US-whiteys. Some things the generations never quite get over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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I don't want to ruin my dinner. Let's discuss it another time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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That I support Officer Wilson. If people don't like it, they can talk to someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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How about you go eat on the curb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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It's terribly gauche and low-class to take offense in real life to someone's differing opinions on social matters, as long as the disagreement is voiced politely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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The vast majority of people on this site are idiots, really and truly idiots. do you know how difficult it is to NOT get an indictment. http://www.stlamerican.com/news/columnists/guest_columnists/article_c98ba178-50b9-11e4-8b41-83bc8185f474.html#.VHTxsmFPdiY.facebook educate yourselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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It probably won't. When it does in casual conversation, I find myself not saying what I really think--that this was a complicated and frightening few moments and that the kid was truly menacing. Doesn't mean he should be dead, but he wasn't exactly an upstanding citizen and when you behave like that, there can be consequences. I'd bet the same ould have happened if he'd been white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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Geez I was with you until that last part. Where are the consequences for Jared Loughner. James Holmes. Boston bomber. It goes on and on. But Black boys can't even walk while holding toy guns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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That's different. This was a kid who was directly menacing a police officer. And I do think if he'd been a thuggy white kid, he'd still be dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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np, it's always "different" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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No kids can walk holding toy guns. And the little black kid waved the damned thing at police officers in a playground. Fuck, I'd have shot him. Moron kid. Now dead kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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How bout the black boy holding a BB gun SOLD AT WALMART? You people and your endless excuses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Excuses for what? Policeman acted lawfully. Kid, on the other hand, broke every rule in the book... He'd be alive if he hadn't. Frankly, the race thing is just horseshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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You must be White. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Very brown. But not AA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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That was next. Many Brown non White people are more racist towards Blacks than even Whites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 11:21 PM Flag
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Since when have our laws been set up or enforced equally? He would be alive if he were not Black. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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The vast majority of people on this site are idiots, really and truly idiots. do you know how difficult it is to NOT get an indictment. http://www.stlamerican.com/news/columnists/guest_columnists/article_c98ba178-50b9-11e4-8b41-83bc8185f474.html#.VHTxsmFPdiY.facebook educate yourselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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That she was a good Duchess of York. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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