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[ - ] OTM here. Any questions? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Is it supposed to rain tomorrow? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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More important, any eco moms on? The rain always brings more mosquitos. I've been using the Raid plug-in mosquito repellent, and it really seems to work. Does that mean it's probably bad to breathe the chemicals all night long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:58 AM Flag
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use a fan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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Good question. S/o: Any boot recommendations for lots of city walking in the winter? I'm meeting a friend in Moscow in February, and she can walk for days and days. I need a comfortable, supportive boot that doesn't look like a Welly and has a flat or low heel. Shopping moms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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Good question. Following up, what is the largest single human-built structure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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Benin, maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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Stop it. I am OTM. You are a fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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No! I am Giselle! Whp-tisshh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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lols Susan's Bar for Australians!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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All the Australians know Susan! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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"What do you do if you need to fix something around the house?" -- "I just get a man in." -- "You know, I think I've been using that phrase all wrong..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:27 PM Flag
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Omg "The Cupboard of Patrick's Love" when they were all watching Patrick's tape of Susan, but it wasn't even her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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Best. Scene. Ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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Spoiler alert!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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Why don't you have morals or ethics? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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This. People who turn to "tarot readers" or "psychics" are usually undereducated and desperate. People who take advantage of that, even just for attention on social media, are not good people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Or, it's just a game, and no one is getting hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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If it's just a game, go play it someplace where you put your name and face to your claims. See how much people respect you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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I'm not OP, I'm not making any claims. Tarot is just a fun spooky game where you can laugh at coincidences if something is true, and brush off what's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:11 PM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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+1 Or have your kids put it on their high school and university applications, to show off their TT education! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:19 AM Flag
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Project much? You've obviously fallen victim to scams in the past; most of us are not as uneducated and desperate as you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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"Psychics" rip of tens of thousands of people every year. The fact that you support it tells us everything we need to know about your morals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:07 PM Flag
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Does OTM claim to be psychics? I've seen her say many times she is not. Do you have a link where she's said this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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Hi OP. You're either a liar or mentally ill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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Well, aren't you superior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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To someone who uses people's desperation to get her own attention fix? Yes. Yes, I am. I hope you are, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:11 PM Flag
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Eh. She's not charging, and in my experience she's a thoughtful poster who doesn't promise things she can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Hi OP. Nice try. But whether you're doing it for money or attention or practice so you can do it for money, you're still slime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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I'm actually Turkey Carcass mom. Happy to meet you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:36 PM Flag
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My baby just had her 3d birthday the other day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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Did you make turkey broth with the carcass? Did it freeze well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:13 PM Flag
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Heh. Someone was triggered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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You are confusing "triggered" with "aware of right and wrong". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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Does your psychiatrist know you have gone off your meds again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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tarothub.com. Solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:55 PM Flag
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+1 Read your own cards yourself. Every website and every deck comes with the same instruction booklet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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I'm glad you brought this up. Has anyone here gone to Maine in the fall? How early does the Atlantic get too cold to swim? Should we bother with the coast in September or October, or just stay inland? TIA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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How our finances will be next year ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:19 PM Flag
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Crappy, unfortunately. Start saving more now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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On the other hand, Trump won't get reelected. So there's that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:30 PM Flag
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who or what is OTM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:50 PM Flag
[ - ] RIP Peter Fonda 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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RIP. Funny (not in a ha ha way), but was watching a film with Dennis Hopper last night and thing about his passing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Thought, not thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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s/o How upset will you be if they cure aging, but too late for you to get the cure, and you die knowing that most people younger than you will not die of old age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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Not as upset if I knew I was going to be the victim of the Holocaust or similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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I'm torn. I'd love to live for hundreds or thousands of years, if I'm in good health and mobile. But only if my best friends are there, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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No one's going to cure aging, nor should anyone want to. The planet would quickly be overwhelmed and we'd all suffer terribly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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How do you figure? As birth rates decline, we can sustain longer lives. And we have to move off of earth anyway, and out to other parts of the galaxy, if we want to survive as a species when the next asteroid hits or the sun fries us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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Honestly, you don't have the intellect required to argue with you. But enjoy your fantasy novels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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Says the person who thinks no one lives to be 100 years old... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:04 AM Flag
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General Topics 08.17.19, 02:13 PM Flag
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Agreed. Right now one third of 85 year-olds have dementia. Who wants to get dementia and live another 65 years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:33 PM Flag
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That's why I posted above that I want to live as long as possible *if I'm in good health. Almost all of the people in my great-grandparents' and grandparents families lived past 85 in reasonably good health, but most ended up with dementia in the last few years. My parents are both now over 80 and still going strong. My mother had both knees replaced between 74 and 76, and my father is still on nightly alligator patrol in their suburb in Florida. I'm all for living as long as possible, but I have a suicide plan for the day dementia starts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:07 AM Flag
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Csn you say more ? Reminds me of that scene in movie with Julianne Moore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:50 PM Flag
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I have heroin, a strong sedative, and a surfboard, if things go perfectly. Or just an overdose of the sedative, if not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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I don't understand statements about science or medicine that start with, "No one is going to..." The entire history of humanity is people who did. We may not have solved every puzzle -yet- but we have turned imagination into reality over and over and over. I could totally understand saying, "It will take a lot longer to cure aging, not in our lifetimes." But never? Don't bet on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:24 AM Flag
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+1 Researchers looking for fame and pharma companies looking for profits ALWAYS get it done eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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We'll all be dead in 100 years. Even the babies born today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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A lot of researchers are optimistic that the first person to live to 150 has already been born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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I plan to stay healthy as long as possible to find out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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Well these researchers will all be dead before they are proven wrong, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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I tend to side with the "optimists", even if I don't always bet on their timeline. Look at all of the things over the last 1000 years that people said couldn't be done or were science fiction, that are now part of our daily lives... Eventually, research always wins out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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"A lot of researchers" want to sell you shit disguised as youth serum, plain and simple. It's fine if you're okay with being parted from your hard-earned money for a fool's promise, I've purchased the odd lottery ticket, but it's not real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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That's why we read medical journals, not click-bait articles that are selling you things. The researchers who say aging and age-related disease will be cured (one day) are not selling anything, and they work for reputable universities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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No they don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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Yes, they do. You could look it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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Let's hope that person is RBG. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:17 PM Flag
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Yes!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:00 PM Flag
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❤❤❤ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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Untrue. "In total numbers the United States has the most centenarians with currant estimates as high as 72,000. If the population of centenarians continues to increase at its current rate of expansion there could be close to 1 million people of 100 years of age or more by 2050 residing in the US." -- http://www.thecentenarian.co.uk/how-many-people-live-to-hundred-across-the-globe.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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That’s just because of population growth. US life expectancy is currently trending DOWN for the first time since WWI. Americans always think they’ll live forever, but no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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Life expectancy is trending down IF you include violence and drug overdoses. For people who make it to 50 in good health with good healthcare, life expectancy is higher than ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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This. Take out opioids and the US's gun violence, and LE is up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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Sure. Take away cancer too, and LE is off the charts! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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Deaths due to cancer are trending lower too. If more people die of cancer, that's just because they don't die of other things first (expect opiods and violence as others have pointed out.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:32 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:25 AM Flag
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This. As someone who grew up in the 80s watching women panic and agonize over breast and other cancers, it is incredible to me how far we have come in a generation. There are cancers now that are effectively curable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Are you being deliberately obtuse? Or do you genuinely not understand the difference between a normal, natural, healthcare-supported life expectancy, and a life cut short by violence? For those of us who are lucky enough to have healthcare and not to be exposed to violence and drug addiction, life expectancy is very, very good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:27 AM Flag
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This. It's like when people say "150 years ago, life expectancy was only 50 years old" because they included the high infant and child mortality rates. For the last 300+ years, anyone who made it past 10yo had a life expectancy of 70+. But people like drama. Opiates and guns kills people under 35yo. Make it past 40 these days, and you have a good shot at 100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:18 AM Flag
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He's one of those celebrities that I've heard of, but I'm pretty sure I've never seen any of his movies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Takes me back to my childhood. My parents used to take my brother and me to inappropriate movies at the drive in. Easy Rider was one of those inappropriate movies. RIP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Funny - my parents also used to take me to inappropriate movies as well. I'm puzzled by it when I look back on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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They though you were going to go to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:49 PM Flag
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Tbf, did you really know they were inappropriate back then, or did it all go over your head until you were a teenager and realized? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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OR: Oh, I knew they were inappropriate at the time. Some were VERY wrong for kids. Movies like Myra Breckinridge, Valley of the Dolls, Last Tango in Paris. We closed our eyes during the nude scenes. We were pretty much desensitized to the drug stuff since we grew up in San Francisco in the 60s, but still.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:25 AM Flag
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So US - the "nude scenes" and drugs were inappropriate, but guns and bombs are patriotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:28 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:13 PM Flag
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Really no idea who this is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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Son of Oscar Winner Henry Fonda, brother of Oscar winner Jane Fonda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:21 PM Flag
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NP: and movie star in his own right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:26 PM Flag
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Do you know who Jane Fonda is? Henry Fonda? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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Somewhat. But not really into any of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:48 AM Flag
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I bet you haven't heard of Jane Fonda or Henry Fonda either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:29 PM Flag
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He was in that Bee movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:13 AM Flag
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It's okay. People fade. For example, my teen has no clue who Princess Diana was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:55 PM Flag
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So good in The Limey. A must-see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] My two 20-something sons are finally in the same place at the same time and they just texted me to show me they got matching tattoos together today. I'm not a fan of tattoos but this makes me feel warm and fuzzy that they would want to do this. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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What did they get? On that show tattoo disasters, I saw 2 brothers with a tattoo of a penis on their thighs. They had to stand side by side to see the whole penis. They were drunk when they got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:22 PM Flag
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op. They won't show me until I see them in person. Right now they're texting me pictures of things I know they did not get. They're having beers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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They have texted me the "MOM" already, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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They didn't get that one, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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That’s very sweet. I think it’s always a nice testament to how kids were raised when the siblings are close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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Tattoos are common now, and they're not that expensive or painful to remove anymore, so they are fun when you're young. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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eww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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I would be appalled and feel like I failed as a mother. But that's me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:03 AM Flag
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NOKD even though you are trying for VBA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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Gross. Years ago, DH and I visited my mother. We decided to play a joke on her and apply fake tattoos around our ankles. When she saw them, she was really, really upset! Luckily for her, we let her in on our joke pretty early on and she breathed a great sigh of relief. I would not be pleased about tattoos on my children, but whatever floats your boat. Maybe the tattoos are fake? ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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Jeez. Take it easy folks with the NOKD and 'appaled and 'gross'. You sound OLD and uptight... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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There is not a single attractive tattoo. They are HIDEOUS and they only get uglier as time ravages the body. Enjoy your nasty tattoos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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I don't have any tattoos. But I don't think the take away here is a pearl-clutching anti-tattoo issue, unless you're a conservative grandma who no one wants to spend time with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:40 AM Flag
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Whatever. I think they are ugly. That is hardly pearl-clutching. I call it as I see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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I'm with you. So trashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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There are a lot of really old people on this board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you know anyone who had chemotherapy? How was recovery? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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based upon the small group of people I know who’ve had it, it varies quite a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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This. A couple were very ill, others just very tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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This is the truth. Some chemo regimes are brutal and others are fairly well tolerated. You need to know the drugs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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My cousin and best friend had it. Awful experiences for both. Sadly, both lost their lives to cancer in the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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exhaustion and loss of appetite seems to be the very least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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MS mom who keeps posting about stem cell therapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Op. Yes. MS mom. Aren't you wasting your life away? Get a job, get a hobby, go entertain your husband and kids. Find something better to do in life instead of spying on me... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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Spying? LMAO. You're putting it out there for all to see. Oh, and try to not be so nasty when someone asks a simple question! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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Give it up. You sound weird. Leave OP alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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OP. Get lost, do me a favor. Next time you see my posts, just ignore it. Please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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UB Moms are so weird. This poster above and the one who thinks that every mom who posts about sports is skating mom. Who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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^ to answer your question, OP. My father had chemo and it helped him a lot to eat ice cream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Yes, my mom ate sherbet and frequently wanted steak. She lost her sense of smell and taste but that flavor was one she craved and could taste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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NP: I don't think the OR was being particularly mean - she was just asking a question that was a logical one to ask! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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2 friends had it. Both were very tired, drained by it. Took anti nausea meds. Did well though with no evidence of reoccurence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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Port chemotherapy or pill chemotherapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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Port [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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Port [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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I knew two that did port and pill. Days one and two after port chemo were the challenging, fatiguing ones. Loss of appetite, smell and taste, nausea, neuropathy, itchy hands, hair loss, swelling of arms, legs, ankles, feet and foggy chemo brain. But...both women were able to work through treatment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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me. for breast cancer. I actually did work through it, on modified hours. Acupuncture REALLY helped me, so did light exercise, like walking 30 minutes a day. It is a bitch though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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I 2nd acupuncture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:35 PM Flag
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Question: is the chemotherapy used for MS the same as that used in cancer treatment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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Continued: in other words, is it the same process? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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I know a bit about MS infusions, in that it is a similar process, but I think each person's treatment is unique. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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My sister did. It was tough especially for a couple days after each round. She was exhausted and felt like crap. I think anti nausea meds helped. She had breast cancer and has been cancer free for 10+ years. BYW, in retrospect she should have done physical therapy post surgery to help prevent lymphadema...it was big mistake not to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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BTW (not BYW!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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For two dfs who went through stem cell transplants for blood cancer/ related diseases, brutal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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Sorry, meant bone marrow transplants, where the “ conditioning” chemo in advance is intended to completely destroy the immune system prior to transplant infusion. This was a few years ago, hopefully regime is more survivable now than it used to be, so don’t seek out old stories like this, only the very latest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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I had it. I was only nauseous really. it took a few times to figure out what drugs worked best to combat that and in the end I had that conquered. I wasn't really tired until maybe the last session. the key is to work out a lot - even if that just means walking. I even walked around the infusion center with my IV bag on it's stand. also, eating really well is key. no sugar, no alcohol, and lots of good food. I went to work through the whole thing except for just the immediate days following the chemo. the losing my hair thing was a pain, but it grew back quickly. I have residual neuropathy which is common and I mostly ignore it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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I had it for breast cancer. It was surprisingly ok. The anti-nausea drugs have been revolutionary. I only had breakthrough nausea once. I did acupuncture throughout and drank a TON of water on chemo day to get my kidneys flushing. I had to work through it, which might have been a blessing. It forced me to get up and get moving every day and focus on something else for a while. But make no mistake: when you're on it, you're on chemo time. The chemo cycle dictates your life. Chemo day was always a Wednesday; on Thursday I went to work and was flying high on the steroids. Friday I crashed and stayed home, and the weekend felt like I had the flu. By Monday I was ready for work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:41 AM Flag
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I had chemo two years ago for breast cancer. Honestly, it was not that difficult. Went every week for twelve weeks followed by radiation. Had a port. I scaled back on exercise and housework (SAHM.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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I’m going into my 5th round of chemo after a short break for some brutal surgery. I’m dreading it. One of the side effects of my protocol is joint and bone pain. Three days of it. I just endure those days, and know they will pass. I’ve been able to avoid neuropathy thus far. All my hair is gone, including my eyelashes. My gums bleed if I floss too hard. I have limited energy. All in all, it sucks. But I’d be six feet under by now without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:36 AM Flag
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Just wanted to say, I'm so very sorry for all of you who are going through this. My father is about to enter his second round of chemo to fight multiple myeloma. The first round was brutal and landed him in the hospital for weeks. He wore a backpack 24 hours a day for four days with chemo going into him through a picc line (sorry if I get the terminology wrong). It was just too much for him. He just started another round on Wednesday and I'm praying this is milder (that's what they say at Sloan, where he is now). It's just a horrible situation. I'm not saying he was a perfect parent but he is one of the nicest, happiest people you'll ever meet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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Honestly no. Many of the patients in my support group ( breast cancer) were wary of chemo brain and had surgery followed by radiation and arimidex tx. I was among them. Members who had chemo sat together and were silent when chemo brain was discussed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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Well it sounds like a shitty support group. I can tell you that people are so afraid of chemo but so many things are incredibly rare and radiation nd arimidex have their own side effects. You sound judgmental of their choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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I'm in SoCal and chemo brain has been a hot issue for 9/10 years, maybe because of a book by a local breast surgeon. I'm not critical at all, and agree about the overall helpfulness of the group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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Interesting. I had breast cancer and the research I could see indicated that chemo brain may be more related to the estrogen issues. I had chemo and had no side effects. SoCal has a much more holitisic approach overall I think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] OK this might sound strange, but is there any trick or secret to shopping for clothes on amazon? Brands to look for, brands to avoid, etc. Are they good deals, or is the quality really poor? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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All over the place. Some prices are outrageous. Given the number of fakes beware of brands. Good deals sometimes in stuff only available in one size, as if they are truly overstocks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:41 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o why do kids nowadays have to take 2 years of college, basically, in HS? why can't they just take HS classes and leave the college classes for college? what's the massive advantage of taking all these AP classes in HS? does it really make a difference come college graduation time? I guess it probably does.. just makes me sad for our kids... why does life have to be so rushed! 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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I think generally the kids taking the heaviest AP loads arent doing it for college credit but because they get these constant messages to “take the most challenging course load and the high school offers” which tends to be all the APs. So if they’re interested in the elite competitive colleges they really feel obligated to go this route. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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Ironic. Those elite colleges know the AP classes are nowhere near college level [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Well this is exactly what competitive colleges want. The good news is when APs aren't offered by a HS the kid will not be penalized by competitive colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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Guess I was ahead of this curve? I graduated a year early, and yes did 2 years of college in Hs too between Ap and actual college! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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you graduated college 2 years early? aside from the financial benefit of this, are you happy you rushed it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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sorry 1 year early^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Yes. I was bored and an old soul. Sometimes the american academic industry feels like a scheme especially now between the costs versus probability of immediate, reliability, consistent, profitable, worthwhile employment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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My DS is an incoming college freshman. The AP scores may get you out of a prerequisite level course, or out of a math requirement, for example, if you are a liberal arts major. But gone are the days you could graduate in three years by coming in with a lot of AP credits. Colleges aren't giving up all that tuition! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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op. good point.. so why the rush/pressure? just to get into a better college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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You can graduate from McGill in three years using AP credits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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State schools too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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AP credits can open up your schedule quite a bit if you don't need to take required courses in math or writing, or do pre-reqs, which allows a kid to do a double major or take things that are just interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Yes, this was the advantage for me - double major. DH’s parents were relieved to save a year of tuition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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Because HS curriculum in the US is substandard. In most European public universities they don’t even accept kids from the US unless they have AP classes. It’s sad to me that you think it’s ok to waste children’s youth and not teach them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Because you need to take the most challenging levels in every subject even to get into even 3rd schools these days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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They don't have to do anything. Tell your kids to make their own decisions and choices, based on their own values and priorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:32 PM Flag
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We did this. I’ll let you know how it works out college wise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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My daughters didn't take/aren't taking AP classes. They started a business together the summer before they were in 11th & 9th grades, and they didn't want to have to drop projects and clients during the school year. Oldest just graduated and is taking a gap year so they can expand their business and she can work full time for a year, to see what they can learn and if they can make it really work. I'm nervous, but honestly, college will always be there, and it's not like they're on track for Stanford or MIT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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Bravo :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:24 AM Flag
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The AP system is a scam and a cash cow. Should be abolished. Thankfully, colleges are aware the empires wears no clothes. Elite schools severely limit AP credit. State schools won’t be far behind. But with massive amounts of revenue st stake college board won’t give up easily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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agree totally. it's just another grift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:37 PM Flag
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Cheaper than private school though. and now we are all pretty much equal in the college admissions process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:04 AM Flag
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emperors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:07 AM Flag
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You may not value the AP because you are rich and your kids are privileged. The AP is extremely valuable for kids in lousy schools who have no access to courses that admissions people can use as a proxy for rigor. An "honors" class in a failing school is useless to them. Do try to realize there are other people in the world who may not be coming from your elite circles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had a keratin or Japanese straightening treatment done? Are they worth the $? Is they aftercare for your hair a pain in the neck for someone who is a low maintenance kind of person? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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I've done both. Keratin didn't help my hair - it was still too frizzy. Japanese straightening is life changing. I did it in a cheap place in queens for 10 years but this year started going to a legit place in the city. Don't skimp. I'm never going back to queens for this again. They basically use horrible chemicals that you will smell when you shower for weeks and it's overwhelming. If you do it at a good place, the whole process is a lot more civilized (they wont ask you to blow dry your own hair) and you'll be done much quicker (2hrs vs 6), you wont look greasy when you walk out the door, you can wash after 2 days instead of 3 and most of all you'll be able to breathe while they put it on your hair. It still stinks but it's not as bad. There is no aftercare - just use a very hydrating non-sulfate conditioner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:09 PM Flag
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Keratin didn't help your hair because you used a formaldehyde-free formula. If you used a formula with 4% formaldehyde, or even just 2%, it would have worked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:37 PM Flag
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Formaldehyde is also what is cheap places in queens use on the Japanese straightening. It's poison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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I had Brazilian keratin done twice, and then I just bought the product and I do it myself at home. Completely worth it, but I only have to do it 3-4 times a year and each treatment costs me about $30. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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What product do you use? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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Do the Brazilian blowout. It is worth it if you have frizzy hair due to humidity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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I did Japanese magic straight years ago and it makes your hair stick straight and shiny. Super easy to maintain as you won’t have any frizz and your hair will lay stick straight no matter what for months. It almost look unnatural bc it’s so straight. I would recommend it if you have thick hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:09 AM Flag
[ - ] ds has the potential to become a GREAT soccer player but obvs it takes huge commitment/sacrifice in terms of practice times, games, etc. we have two younger kids and I'm basically making the decision in my mind that I won't have them sacrifice their time and childhood for the sake of their older brother's potential and chose to see this soccer thing as a nice extra-curricular, will bring lots of benefits to his life, etc.. but won't go through hoops and hurdles to make something nearly-impossible come to fruition. why do I feel guilty for that choice? like I'm short changing him? and certainly other parents making me feel this way doesn't help.. but I refuse to do that to my younger kids. 103 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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Why do your younger ones have to suffer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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bc younger kids constantly left behind at home w sitter for older ds' practices/games when we could be out doing something enjoyable/productive/educational for the whole family... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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This is self fulfilling. If you're hiring a sitter, no reason that the sitter can't take soccer player to games. Or even better, share drop off/pick up with other parents. You don't have to sit there and watch practices/games. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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agree. in the city with an EC crazy mad dc who has a lot of after school activities due to high interest and is very engaged. I never take dc to any of these classes, and just show up for performances (dance + music only). dc does several things that I have never seen dc do even. OP - let your dc decide what he wants to do and then if you have the funds, outsource getting him there. is uber a possibility? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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Doesnt sound like he is 18 SO NO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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I don’t have a kid like this but I tend to agree with you. I think people pour themselves into their kids soccer “careers” but honestly there are a ton of little soccer stars out there. If you’re thinking about college by the time you pour all that money into elite travel and hotels etc. etc. there isnt really much of a financial benefit, and it’s a lifestyle thing as you have identifies there are costs. Let your kid be a really good player, have fun with it in middle and high school and then move on to other pursuits. I honestly don’t think the sacrifice is worth it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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op. I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly. time to let go of the guilt... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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Yes, if he is good he will be captain of his HS team, which he won't be able to do if he plays Academy Soccer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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And that is a whole other level of bs. I feel bad that I am going my kid won’t be able to play HS soccer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:50 AM Flag
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The only way I’d consider it would be if my soccer kid was insanely driven and motivated, and had demonstrated that level of commitment and interest over time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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Even that is not worth it in the long run. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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op. thanks for chiming in. I would do it if ds was an only child, no question! but considering there are two other kids to take into acct, I don't see how it makes sense... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Yep, unless you are a psycho soccer parent, which I was not. But there a plenty out there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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What is it that you plan to do? My dh played baseball and played on school teams and the local travel team. Neither was a huge commitment and he plays in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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DH or DS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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Sorry, DS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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Baseball is not soccer. No much international competition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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I doubt Op’s kid is going to play in international tournaments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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The competition is for college, kids from all over the world want to play college soccer in the US [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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I see. I knew my son would not be professional to get a scholarship. He just enjoys playing and has always played. It did help him get into his first choice school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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What is your goal? College? If he is white he will be competing against black/brown American kids, plus all the international ones. Professional? Same. Soccer is a very hard sport for white American boys, sorry. White American girls have it much better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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Reading comprehension issues? What do you need explained? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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Why is it hard for white boys? Because lots of kids play soccer? Surely this would make it equally hard and competitive for everyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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But it's especially hard for WHITE boys, because they DESERVE it more. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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Grow up, loser. We are talking reality here, not your PC everyone is equal BS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:51 AM Flag
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Well, you sound lovely. Explain to me why achieving at soccer is harder for white boys than for any other boys? Lack of talent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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Because for competitive college admissions, black/brown boys do not have to have the same GPA scores as white boys, so can get in on their own, while white boys are held to a higher standard academically. How old are you? How old are your children? You obviously have no fucking clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:18 AM Flag
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DUH!!!!! White boys have to have higher grades and test scores to get in. Moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:50 AM Flag
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To get in to soccer? Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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Yes, you fucking moron. The All-American white boy at our school with mediocre grades could not get into to any elite schools. If he was hispanic or Somalian, he would not have had a problem. Do you live under a rock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:21 AM Flag
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"All-American white boy". Wtf. We're talking about soccer, not "elite schools" you idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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Yes, you're quite right. Things are VERY HARD for white boys, in every way. When is the last time you saw a white boy at an elite school, or a white man in any position of power? It's tough for white boys because they have no role models. :( Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:02 AM Flag
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I dunno, my kid (White) is playing right now at a D1 school (goalie). There is, as I am sure op knows, one of the country's best teams right here in NYC. He got recruited super heavily and got a very good scholarship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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I bet there are many, many professional soccer players played on the street My son is a guitarist and we could not afford lessons and he learned on his own and got a free ride to college. if he is an amazing talent, he ill practice on his own and be great. If he spends all of his free time practicing because he has a great love than revisit it as he gets older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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This is true, particularly for soccer, which isn't about expensive equipment, but about talent and practice. This is why so many great soccer players came from poor backgrounds. Rich kids can't just buy their way to success in soccer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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This is not the case in the US. It's a pay to play system, sadly. Signed, professional soccer coach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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Well, that's disappointing to hear... It's true, I'm not American. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Yeah, very different here. The US Soccer DA (development academies) teams are where 97% of our youth national team players are pulled from. They ARE subsidized now, but to get to that level requires a lot of committment, family buy-in and in most cases, $$$. The girls' DA only started 2 years ago, and before that almost all elite players (youth national team pools) came from the ECNL where club fees where >10K/yr. Plus, it's a *national* league so the travel is exorbitant. Girls DA is struggling to get its feet off the ground so many top players still play ECNL, and from a coaching perspective, the DA also presents many curricular issues... Basically the MLS clubs only recently became profitable, so our clubs don't have the funding that European giants do to run their own academies, instead they take USSF money which has its constraints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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On the boys side though all the MLS free teams are made up of kids who can’t afford to pay to play, at least where I live in CA there are a lot of free/low cost club teams that get the attention of LAFC/Galaxy. Maybe this isn’t true elsewhere [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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SoCal is somewhat of an exception because there are so many quality youth programs in the area, also the large latino population. As I mentioned, the boys DA is also more established and is the singular option in terms of elite boys' socccer. Still, it's likely many talented players across the country are overlooked because of financial or geographic barriers... if you look at the map of DA clubs (which USYNT coached are pretty much required to pool from) it excludes large swaths of the country. http://www.ussoccerda.com/2017-girls-club-map [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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SoCal is somewhat of an exception because there are so many quality youth programs in the area, also the large latino population. As I mentioned, the boys DA is also more established and is the singular option in terms of elite boys' socccer. Still, it's likely many talented players across the country are overlooked because of financial or geographic barriers... if you look at the map of DA clubs (which USYNT coached are pretty much required to pool from) it excludes large swaths of the country. http://www.ussoccerda.com/2017-girls-club-map [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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So if there was some extremely talented kid who was poor, what would they do? I find it hard to believe that there are no opportunities but I know nothing of soccer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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Poor is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:25 AM Flag
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Assuming you’re talking about men’s soccer- there might be opportunities to play college soccer which perhaps could lead to being drafted to MLS. But men’s college soccer is not the typical pathway to playing professionally. Most MLS (which is a pretty crappy league fwiw, bottom of the pro soccer totem pole, not highly compensated, etc.) players are internationals or would’ve been good enough to forgo college. More likely (if going the pro route from college) would be to go from D1 to USL/NPSL, the domestic minor leagues so-to-speak. Also, said talented/poor boy would’ve had to had access to quality training and coaching to have been able to continue developing in the pre-college years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:41 AM Flag
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Honestly, most kids never make the major leagues at sports. I think Op is wrestling with how much time and money to invest in a sport. I doubt she thinks he will be on the national team. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:25 AM Flag
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No one is thinking professional soccer. They’re thinking about a serious hook for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:25 PM Flag
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OMG my daughter plays ECNL and it’s so refreshing but to hear someone who actually knows WTF they’re talking about! Out of 72 ECNL players in her age group 64 have D1 offers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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Haha, thanks! Glad someone appreciated my lengthy posts :) some of the misinformation makes me want to pull my hair out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:45 PM Flag
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My sister lives in Larchmont and she pays for all of these elite leagues and the poor Mexican kids who play in the streets end up as good or better. If her kid is a real talent, he can practice and play and be totally fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Money can't buy talent and determination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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No but an elite team puts you in front of college coaches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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Makes no sense that coaches would not want the best talent which may not be the kids with the most money. It is not true of the other sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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Makes no sense that coaches would not want the best talent which may not be the kids with the most money. It is not true of the other sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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You think college coaches are roaming the streets looking for kids practicing in their back yards or playing pick up games? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:45 PM Flag
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You are so mistaken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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I live in CA and this isn’t true, it may be pay to play but there are a lot of teams that have kids from all backgrounds that make it work for those who need it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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which college gave your kid a free ride for guitar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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University of Miami, Belmont, USC and Purchase [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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Sorry, USC offered a lot of $ but not a full scholarship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:07 AM Flag
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Wow! Amazing, congrats! Where's he going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:10 AM Flag
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He is in Miami. He is very happy. We are proud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:11 AM Flag
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And thanks! I thought you were going to say that he had awful choices! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:20 AM Flag
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I was you and didn't do it either. My son was a passionate soccer player, we did as much as we could but didn't go nuts. And he had a lot of say in the matter. He did have to take Uber when he was 12, but it was a learning experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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How old? Things change a lot after puberty and boys are usually well into adolescence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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To give you another perspective, I was the sibling here. My brother was/is a gifted athlete. It was evident from a young age. I grew up in the gyms at various games, tournaments. Family vacations were to the Junior Olympic tournament. I wouldn’t trade any of it. Watching him play, and win, was fulfilling for everyone. It opened doors for him that never would’ve opened with out it. And me? I had my own things. I was never short changed. My parents just got creative re: who took who where, car pooling, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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You sound sane and nice , and proud of your brother. What are you doing on UB? Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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Haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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What sport? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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Men’s Volleyball. But easily could’ve been basketball too. He may not have gone D1 with basketball, but he still was afforded a lot of opportunities because of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:28 PM Flag
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That is so sweet. My son is the guitarist that I mentioned on this thread. His brothers go to his shows and are his biggest fans. It is so sweet and makes me happy. I am glad you support you R brother and I hope he supports you as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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in case you don't see my response above: which college gave your dc a full ride for guitar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:24 PM Flag
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I answered above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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Third perspective- my sister and I were the siblings and we still roll our eyes about all the time wasted in the car / traveling for brother’s elite sport. My own kids are now signed up for only things I want to attend : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:38 AM Flag
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For a boy in the US, the odds of a serious soccer career are about 1 in 100 million. If you wanted him to play for real, you'd need to move to another continent. If he were a girl, he'd have a worthwhile shot. The girls' and women's soccer programs in the US are pretty decent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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Lol, this couldn't be further from the truth. There are far fewer opportunities to play professional women's soccer and those that exist (unfortunately) aren't paid a living wage. Signed, pro soccer coach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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But girls and women get better coaching and teams, on a worldwide level. The men's US soccer teams can't compete with the rest of the world. The women can. Don't waste your sons' childhoods on dreams of soccer careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:49 PM Flag
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The male players still have a career, MLS may not pay great for homegrown but there are a lot of US players in it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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But they will always be watching from the sidelines while the women go to World Cup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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The US men’s team isn’t that bad, we made the round of 16 in 2014. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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I really doubt OP’s child has that level talent and if he does, she is not going to just not pursue it. He probably is a great player in his area but not Pele [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:52 PM Flag
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You must be joking now. The best coaches in the world are coaching men's club teams- Pep Guardiola, Jurgen Klopp, Zidane, Simeone, Mourinho... (btw the gender disparity in coaching is a whole other huge topic) and there is NO country in the world that equally funds its womens and mens teams. I'm not talking about salary, I'm talking about marketing, merchandise, coaching staff, medical staff, equipment, etc. Female footballers simply do not get the same resources as men. The USWNT is so successful because of the large talent pool (thank you Title IX) and because other countries fund their nationals teams even less. BTW, international soccer is not a good barometer for the viability of a career, soccer is club-oriented. Look at your local NWSL club- Sky Blue FC, most players make less than 20k and only got showers in their locker room last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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You must be joking now. The best coaches in the world are coaching men's club teams- Pep Guardiola, Jurgen Klopp, Zidane, Simeone, Mourinho... (btw the gender disparity in coaching is a whole other huge topic) and there is NO country in the world that equally funds its womens and mens teams. I'm not talking about salary, I'm talking about marketing, merchandise, coaching staff, medical staff, equipment, etc. Female footballers simply do not get the same resources as men. The USWNT is so successful because of the large talent pool (thank you Title IX) and because other countries fund their nationals teams even less. BTW, international soccer is not a good barometer for the viability of a career, soccer is club-oriented. Look at your local NWSL club- Sky Blue FC, most players make less than 20k and only got showers in their locker room last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:06 PM Flag
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This is a huge exaggeration! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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I have a son like this but my other kid doesn’t suffer, we either all go to tournaments where younger kid hangs out with siblings or we do things separately. The other parents are our friends. The cost of travel is probably the worst part of it but there have been lots of other benefits too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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You THINK the other kid doesn’t suffer. Don’t make the point of travel for one kid’s thing. The other one knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:40 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:48 AM Flag
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Totally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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Other Kid here - really didn’t mind that much. Truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:28 AM Flag
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Isn’t there a single person here who is concerned about the long term effects of heading a ball?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:57 AM Flag
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Kids do not head balls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:25 AM Flag
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They certainly do after like 5th grade. And yes concussions are a concern. I think there was a study that it is a concern in most sports. Maybe not golf and swimming?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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one bad flip turn and you could get a concussion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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AYSO starts heading at 14U, when the players are 12.. At what age do travel teams start heading? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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Your DS probably isn’t nearly as good as you think he is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:35 AM Flag
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How old is your ds? There is a poster on this thread who knows what they are talking about. I also can add some perspective as have a son in the DA system, and have watched the trajectory of other boys who were in the DA and are now young adults. The very best boys went to Europe in their late teens and got picked up by second tier clubs. These boys largely came from families where at least one parent was European and that helped having the EU dual citizenship. The more upper middle class boys who were very very good and whose families valued education, and didn’t put false ideas in their heads about being the next Ronaldo, got into good to great schools - Ivy or top tier LAC. The rest who had dreams of soccer careers - a tiny number went to the big Div 1’s where soccer is a full time job but the school is high tier (like UNC), vast majority went to regional schools like Monmouth. Kids change a lot around puberty too. The good little dribblers with amazing skills and footwork may or may not end up with the bodies needed to compete - it is a very physical game and you just don’t know who is going to be “great” in the end, despite all the boys putting in their 10,000 hours. If your kid is truly great, you personally don’t have sacrifice the whole family for this sport. Let him juggle at the park. Find pick up games. It doesn’t have to be all organized and a huge time commitment for your and the rest of the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:37 AM Flag
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You feel bad because it’s ssdd: you’re denying your son for yourself but trying to make it about the family. You’re trading places with your son. (If you don’t believe me do 6 therapy sessions on this topic.) There are several posters here with great advice and insight: a coach although what level or region I don’t know, a parent with btdt experience although again what sport and how long ago this was, and several siblings — what a dream! It’s like your ghosts of xmas past, present and future spoke with you :p but forget everything I said and check in again with your emotions. You’re rationalizing your choice but it doesn’t sound like you’re listening to your feelings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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I’m just throwing this out there because BTDT. Our son was on an international hockey team starting at age 11. He has played all over the world. He is now playing juniors, fielding offers from TT D1 schools and his draft year is coming up. He will most likely be drafted to the NHL. Nearly all of his friends from that original team already have NHL contracts and college commitments or soon will. His younger sister is currently on a similar path in a different sport. He may never play professional soccer but being a stand out player will move the dial for college admissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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Does he want NESCAC or NCAA? Some of those important hockey schools are not academic powerhouses (Bemidji State for example). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:13 PM Flag
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We’re well aware [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Any fellow cave dwellers on? We have a 1 BR on a low floor. No views or bad views (gravel rooftop of adjacent building and air compressors). I need natural light. What do you do -- translucent shades then curtains? Blinds? tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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I have the lights on all day, but still pull the blinds up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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Use a lawn chair to sit outside on the sidewalk. Catch a breeze, socialize and get some sun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:56 PM Flag
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lace curtains [ Reply | More ]
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do bottom up blinds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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Move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Where do I go to find fabric for dining room chair seat covers? I want an off white jacquard. Have googled; not finding it. tia 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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I do a lot of sewing and won't buy something online and need to look at it / feel it. Best place to look is in the Garment District around 37th and 38th Streets, like Atlas Fabrics - who deals in upholstery and drapery fabrics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Oh good point -- thank you -- I'll check out those stores. Appreciate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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OR: places like Mood or others may be able to place an order for you too if they don't keep it in stock at the store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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Good I'll stop there -- thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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I have had good luck ordering fabric online, but I always get a swatch first. I don't sew but my mother sews whatever I need. I follow a lot of bloggers and their recommendations have been good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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It's just the way I work. Glad that works for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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I don't live in a place with a lot of fabric stores. If Joann's doesn't have it, I have to order online. Sounds like you have B&M stores to choose from so the situation is different! Seeing in person is ideal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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No worries, I remember the Joann days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:04 PM Flag
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Beckenstein, West 19th St. The place to go for biggest selection in upholstery, curtain fabrics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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I wish I were in NY, I’d be in the garment district. But most people tell me they’ve had good luck with Fabric.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Recs for men's crew-style socks (to wear with sneakers, either in white or dark color) that don't make feet sweat? I usually get teen DS the ones from Target (maybe Hanes?) but he says they are too heavy and make his feet sweat. Thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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I don't know much about socks, but DH has worn the same Gold Toe socks since I met him. Every now and then he'll buy himself a new pack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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OP: My father wore those when I was little! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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I bought DH a pack of Puma socks at Costco to wear with sneakers, that he seems to like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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Dunnes has a bamboo-cotton blend that is really good for keeping feet fresher. New Balance makes a great running sock with arch support and a wicking liner layer inside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:40 PM Flag
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look at nike, puma, reebok, etc.. maybe switching to a real athletic brand will help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I am devastated - was enrolled in a great UES preschool, but now can't afford it due to lost contract. We just cant swing it at the moment, but that means no "fast track" to ongoing schools for us...Are we going to have any chance at ongoing privates? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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You will be fine! You don't really need a preschool director. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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Also, did you ask your preschool for FA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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OP here - I am so devastated! Can't sleep thinking of the missed opportunity...its all irrational, but... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Again: Did you ask for financial aid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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FA wont help this year...crying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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I don't understand your reply. You said next year will be better. So ask for FA for one year! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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Are your hands shaking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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If you can’t afford this preschool, do you really want to commit to the private school tuition? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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OP Here - the money situation is temporary for this year. It's more the nanny salary than the tuition per say... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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So you're paying $50K to a nanny but it is the additional $15K that is putting you over the edge? And you can't apply for FA because you're rich? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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If you can afford a nanny then you shouldn't be getting FA, it should go to families truly in need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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The UB conundrum. Living on the edge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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Per se [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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If you explain the situation to the school, they are very likely to offer you FA. If your financial situation changes next year, you can full pay and maybe even give a little bit to the annual fund [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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This post is insane. One contract and you can't afford private? Get off the private track altogether. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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This. Unless OP knows she's coming into a large inheritance in the next few months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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If you can't take out of savings the tuition needed for 1yr of preschool, then you are in no position to be doing private school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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Exactly this. Private school is insanely expensive. It was a stretch for us, and we ended up switching to public in 2nd grade. Best decision ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:06 AM Flag
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I'm guessing that her DH will pay for private but thinks that preschool is waste when they're paying for a nanny. She has to pay for preschool out of her freelance/contract work. She lost a contract so she can't pay for preschool, but they have plenty of money for a nanny and for private. How close am I? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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I knew a family like this. DW had to pay for preschool and Catholic school out of her earnings. Divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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The preschool director will favor the wealthy families anyway. And private schools are over-rated. Your child will be fine. Make sure that the child is with a stimulating adult during the day, or in a good daycare. That's the most important thing at this age. You'll be fine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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If you can't afford it you can't afford it; you don't want to be the poorest family anyway. What is your public option? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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If you're convinced it's a temporary liquidity issue, get a credit line to tide you over. If you miss K admissions, it's very hard to get your kid into a Manhattan private until middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:00 AM Flag
[ - ] What’s your favorite portable speaker? My Sonos is too difficult to deal with. Thx. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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General Topics 08.16.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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Op- something small and easy enough to move from room to room or play in the backyard at Grandma’s house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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I use this thing in vacations, but it’s nowhere near the sound quality of sonos. https://theoontz.com/products/oontz-angle-3-portable-wireless-bluetooth-speaker-black [ Reply | More ]
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Sonos [ Reply | More ]
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Bose Soundlink Mini [ Reply | More ]
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I have 3 of these around the house. love. tho they don't always connect to the sound source, which is annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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I have a good little JBL flip that has good sound. All of a sudden, my sonos app won’t play any music. Are you having the same issue? [ Reply | More ]
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When it works it’s awesome but lately it’s update this, download that, can’t find find the whatever-it-needs. I just want to play songs for my 3 year old. I’ll look at the JBL or the Bose Mini. Thnx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 40 and my grandmother died almost 4 years ago. I think about her house a lot. I remember what it was like and the good times we had there and look at the old listing online sometimes. I kind of can't believe I'll never go to that house again and do the things I did there. Are other people like this? When will I stop thinking about it? I miss my grandma but I also miss the house 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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I still dream about one of my grandmothers. She died in 1990. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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I barely knew my grandparents. Good that you have fond memories. My kids' lost their grandparents within the past 5 years. They were especially close but don't seem to be grieving. The grandparents were old and getting insular in the past 10 years so it may be that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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Yes, I know that feeling. Those are happy memories of happy times. I can remember moments of my childhood like they were yesterday. It’s nice you have your sweet memories, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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My nana died 15 years ago. Every time I go to the town, I ride by the house to see what it looks like. It’s changed a lot. It isn’t s sad thing. It’s just something I do now. It was sad for a few years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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I wonder how I will deal w selling my mother’s house. My parents bought it a year before I was born and my Mother still lives there 48 Years later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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This is me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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It's a great memory to have, cherish that. We will have to deal with selling grandma's house soon and I am sure my mom will have a very hard time doing it, if she agrees at all. We all have great memories, I most of all because I was their favorite grand-child and spent every school break and weekend there. But the house is big and needs a lot of maintenance. I'd rather see someone buy it and keep it in good shape, my parents never will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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Yes. I understand. Don’t look at the listing. Your feelings are not about that house, but about the home it was. Your grandma could have lived in any house and you’d feel the same way about it. There are places I feel very strongly about and I’ve NEVER gone back, because once the people who inhabited with you are gone, it’s just a shell. I honestly never visited my old campgrounds or even my college. It’s too hard because it’s not the same once you and your friends no longer live there. The house , those places are alive in your memory, and they are preserved the way they should be. Even if you owned your grandmothers house, it would be impossible to have the same experience in it, without everything being intact- the people, even the age you were when you spent the most time in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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extrapolate this to a whole farm... we were all so eager to "keep it in the family" we agreed to let my cousin and her dh live in my grandma's house and host holidays etc.. and we co-own the farm together. her dh, however, has been selling parcels of land without our knowledge and keeping the proceeds, etc.. to the point where we are now fighting with them and trying to sell the whole thing (save their house, which they have a title to) around them, don't feel comfortable going there for holidays anymore so kids never get to go... it's ridiculous. nothing lasts forever. save yourself the headache. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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I sort of work in real estate so I see plenty demolitions of homes, and new buildings going up. No one really cares about the history of a home. With few exceptions, memories fade away. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Have we discussed the Nora Quoirin case? Terribly tragic. It seems most likely to me that she wondered off on her own and got disoriented/lost - but the family things this is impossible given her abilities. Thoughts? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Is that the girl who was on vacation and wandered off of the resort? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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Yes. Family is saying (and I quote) "she couldn't button her clothes herself, much less go anywhere" but - walking out of resort is very simple and could happen innocently enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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I agree. She could have easily wandered off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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I actually think family members know their own kids tendencies. My 7 yr old is very timid and would never leave her room at a hotel. Wandering out at night is not a typical thing. I think it’s more likely she was lured out, abducted, and maybe she started screaming a and they abandoned her, and she became lost. Getting undressed is not something you’d expect a frightened girl to do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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Well two things here, I’m sure the family needs someone to blame it on other than “she wandered off.” And she was in a new setting, she very well may have gotten confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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All I know is what I read in the news, and an autopsy determined no foul play in her death. If you have other info, OP, feel free to share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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I'm pretty late to the story so I'm just seeing the same stuff over and over again, but I'd be curious about the timeline of when she left the premises. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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And why? Nosy and ghoulish. [ Reply | More ]
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I think she was found w/o shoes and not dressed.Sounds like she wandered off and got disoriented. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 09:52 PM Flag
[ - ] How many AP classes is your 10th grader taking ? and what are they ? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think she took European History and Java. [ Reply | More ]
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Only 1, AP global history [ Reply | More ]
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2- calc AB and world history [ Reply | More ]
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Did DC finish geometry by 8th grade ? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Global history, human history and biology. [ Reply | More ]
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Is this STUY ? [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry. World history, not global history [ Reply | More ]
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what is "Human history"? [ Reply | More ]
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Human geography. Man, I was off on two. [ Reply | More ]
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One. World history [ Reply | More ]
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2: Euro history and Stats [ Reply | More ]
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zero - seriously don't believe in them, and dc is a really strong student. [ Reply | More ]
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Private ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:22 AM Flag
[ - ] After reading Elon hildebrand’s book. The Identcals I desperately want to visit Nantucket. I have been to the Hamptons many times. Will I like N? Also will I feel odd as a south Asian? I like the idea that it’s small bikeAble. The beach is not far from anywhere. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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Read a travel book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Russian troll is back [ Reply | More ]
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Op: why would a Russian troll want to visit Nantucket from nyc? [ Reply | More ]
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Who knows why? Sneaky Russians. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes you will love it. Special place. [ Reply | More ]
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was. Now it's overrun and depressing. [ Reply | More ]
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Did you feel odd as a South Asian in Hamptons? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:23 PM Flag
[ - ] What are you best comfort shoes/sandals. I am in no way in need of any great beauties on my feet. i have worn finn comfort, tevas, keens. my knees and back ache and it always comes down to the shoes on my feet. i schlepp alot. tia 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i am a fan of clarks. [ Reply | More ]
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oh, good one. thx [ Reply | More ]
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birks [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+another one [ Reply | More ]
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My feet are really messed up with arthritis. I've found that Rockport makes good shoes for my feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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Reef flip flops [ Reply | More ]
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Birkenstock’s, Naot [ Reply | More ]
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FitFlops hands down. They aren't all ugly. I like the kind with the flat leather footbed, but if you have narrow feet, they won't fit. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks, too bad my feet are so narrow.. [ Reply | More ]
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Today it's sweatpants, t-shirt and Nikes. Pure comfort. [ Reply | More ]
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In the summer, I live in my Tevas. [ Reply | More ]
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I had plantar fasciitis and someone here suggested Crocs. I bought a pair and became a believer. They’re cute sandals, not the smurf looking shoes. [ Reply | More ]
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I like Merrill and Clark. My friends who are on their feet all day swear by Dansko [ Reply | More ]
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Dansko and Their sandals great too [ Reply | More ]
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running sneakers or Birkenstocks if you have to wear sandals. I walk a lot, and only running shoes are actually comfortable and keep my feet from hurting. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Hi, can anyone tell me anything about P.S. 234? We just moved to the neighborhood and I know that it's supposed to be a good school, but is there anything I need to know? Nice parents? Good teachers? Heavy/light on homework? Thanks. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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That article does not address, let alone support your claim. I am going to assume that you are either a Russian troll or a someone who is mentally challenged. Therefore, I will not read nor reply to any more of your nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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Kinda late for those questions, no? Anyways its a great school. [ Reply | More ]
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Some of the teachers really suck tho [ Reply | More ]
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Light homework [ Reply | More ]
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New principal this year. Historically it has billed itself as progressive, but in practice, they offered “we sit at collaborative tables instead of desks” as an example. [ Reply | More ]
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It's fine. Hopefully with Lisa what's her name gone they will ditch that awful math program. Otherwise, teachers are great and school is well run. Very nice neighborhood feel. [ Reply | More ]
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Welcome to the neighborhood! We love living here. My DCs go to PS 150, but all of our friends send to 234 and 89, both of which are fabulous schools. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry for the late response, but thank you all for your responses! I missed whatever happened with the removed posts, but it looks like that's a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I’m visiting in laws with DH and DC right now. We brought DC to a public pool and DH is great, playing in it with her. I hate to be a downer but I’m just sitting in the shade and honestly grossed out by the whole pool scene. It’s just a visceral reaction to lots of people in bathing suits in a giant communal bathtub . I’m very pale skinned, so I have to be all covered up. I feel like an alien at the pool. Can anyone relate, or am I alone here?... 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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When we were younger, my siblings and cousins and I used to joke about how my dad and aunt wouldn't go into the water. Guess what happened? I'm the same way now. I'm not pale or grossed out about it, I just don't like to get wet anymore. [ Reply | More ]
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I can't swim (bad phobia and parents that never took me anywhere where swimming might occur). I used to hate pools and beach scene but with my kids I've gotten very acclimated for their sakes and now I like it. I sit under an umbrella mostly but play with them at shoreline late afternoon. Not a fan of public pools but again, it's about my kids' enjoyment and learning to swim. [ Reply | More ]
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Can’t relate. To me, it’s a simple pleasure. Not everything needs to be uptight and serious, some things are just about simple pleasure and playing in water on a hot day is pleasurable. Think about the elephants at a watering hole! (That imaging probably doesn’t help if you are already clasping your pearls at the uncultured! :) [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I love the thought of elephants at a watering hole. We go hiking and I love swimming in a lake or washing off in a waterfall. A big noisy chlorine-filled pool is nothing like that! [ Reply | More ]
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I don't really like to get wet anymore either, but if the kids are occupied and having fun, that is great! Also, a day of swimming always leads to very tired kids who sleep well! [ Reply | More ]
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I love the feeling of water moving over my body and while being alone is certainly better, I can deal with a bit of a scene on occasion just to have that feeling. [ Reply | More ]
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I completely relate. There is nothing appealing about it. No amount of chlorine can get rid of the sweat germs and urine in that pool. [ Reply | More ]
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After my last several visits to the derm, it's no more hanging at the pool or beach for me. Wear a hat and try to stay in the shade. [ Reply | More ]
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I like pools and oceans and rivers. Not thrilled with lakes. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
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I loved playing with my kids at the pool. Now they are 12 and do not even look at me at the pool. I miss it [ Reply | More ]
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Haha, this is exactly how I imagine everyone on UB - sitting there in the shade beside the public pool watching everyone play in the sun, wearing something from exactly the correct designer store in NY, pale, thin, fashionable, and completely grossed out. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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You're wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.16.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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OP: lol. I am pale and thin, but not fashionable. All in black, but just in clothes from LOFT. But yeah, grossed out and not fitting in. I do feel bad about it though!! [ Reply | More ]
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