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[ - ] Why do people create trust funds for DCs? This messes up so many people. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Because some people love their children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Please, money and love are two different things. Setting up DC with automatic payments is not in their best interest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Life happens. Need to buy an apartment, pay for their DCs' education, health situations, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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So they should set up their lives to be able to handle those situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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I would never buy anyone a place to live. School and medical expenses, sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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It protects assets from a great deal of taxation and makes the passing on of wealth more efficient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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But the DCs don't need the money, and I think giving it to them can really mess-up their life. Let them earn their own way, and give your money to charity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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but if you could give them money so that they could have a career they love that is low paying, but still have a nice house, afford healthcare and so on, then why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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I'd rather they live their own lives. A "nice" house is relative. Depending upon others your entire life is not the road to happiness and fulfillment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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How do you know they don't need the money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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You prepare them to make their own money. You can always choose to step-in and give them money if there's a dire need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Are you part of the "It's everyone's money" crowd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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No, in fact it's MY money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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I had a trust fund and am not screwed up. I agree you have to monitor, and I would never make it enough that they could do nothing, but enough that they could travel or take a job that was contributing to society but low paid. Why not if you have the money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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The vast majority of adults who have trust funds are pretty divorced from reality. They might think they're contributing to society, but they're not. A good example is a friend who "worked" in the arts, and then moved into a medical field and realized how her former life was more enjoyable, but her current profession is much more fulfilling because she's actually contributing (and making enough to support herself). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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This. I had a trust fund that allowed me to pursue a career in the arts. Our DCs will also have trusts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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OP: Sorry, but the vast majority of careers in the arts do not contribute to society to any significant degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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NP: that is your opinion. I think that of most financial jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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NP: This. I teach art at a high school that would terrify most of the women on UB. I would love to hear what OP does that is so meaningful and contributes to society. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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We created a trust fund for our daughter so she can marry for love. We want her to marry a kind nurturing loving man and the rtrust fund allows her to do yhis and still live in Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Sorry.., without a trust fund she would be forced to marry some finance asshole just so she could afford to SAHM in Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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I really, really hope you're joking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Good luck with that. She'll end up with a sorry, mooching SAHD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Because they can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Mess up their DCs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I think Atheism hypocritical and just as narrow-minded and dogmatic as religion. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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some atheists are for sure, but not all. just like there are religious people who are not narrow-minded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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I wouldn't disagree with that statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Every group has its extremes. I imagine that most people who don't believe in a god, though, don't go around talking about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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True, but I haven't seen any atheist kill another person for being religious. Choose your religion, they've all done this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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well, arguably the Soviets did this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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I can't say it didn't happen but I though Stalin had people slaughtered because he was crazy (mass slaughter of the Ukrainians) and paranoid (many perceived enemies), not because of their religion. However, I do see your point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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no, they also killed jews and other religious leaders (who didn't toe the Party line). its not exactly the same, but pretty close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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That's because historically there have not been cultures organized around atheism. Atheistic regimes in Russia and China have executed citizens for practicing religion though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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UB folks can be super intolerant of religious differences. I get ridiculed if I try to discuss certain practices here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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They love karma though. I guess this placed is filled with hindus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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How is atheism hypocritical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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x2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Because they inevitably believe in karma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Being an atheist who proselytizes yes, quietly not believing in god, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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Whatever makes you happy, sweetie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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This. Yawn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me figure this out. Our nanny was first hired when I was pg with #2. She did all housekeeping and most cooking and was still amazing with db and #1 for a few hours after school. I had #3 when #2 was just turning 2 yo and I hired a pt housekeeper for 20 hours a week since I felt the housekeeping and 2 little kids would be too much and 6 mo later I took over all housekeeping when db started sleeping through the night. Last year #2 started nursery school 8-1 but nanny never went back to doing her original house work accept for kids laundry. Starting this fall both older kids will be in school till 3 pm so she will be home with 1 2yo child most of her day and I need her to take on the same workload she had her first year with us. She makes almost 2x what she made when we first hired her. She doesn't really want to do it and feels I will not replace her even if she doesn't step up. What would you do to fix the situation? We are not wealthy enough to have a housekeeper and a nanny and both dh and I work a lot. WWYD? TYIA 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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Replace her with someone new who's ready to sign on for the job you need now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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Should I replace her now or wait another year until my youngest starts nursery school as then I can easily get a housekeeper/nanny at much lower rate since kids will not be home for half a day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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I wouldn't live a year of my life with this kind of aggravation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Tell the nanny you will hire someone once every other week for deep cleaning but if she doesn't want to take on the day to day cleaning responsibilities then you have no choice but to find someone else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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I would just say the second part of this sentence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Its not just the cleaning but also cooking kids food. She tends to serve them processed food only and will not feed them the food I make as she doesn't like my cooking which means kids don't eat it with her around [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Cooking for the kids is standard nanny responsibility. She needs to step up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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she makes them plain pasta or cereal. I think my idea of healthy cooked meals and hers are way different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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tell her hwat you want. if she still won't do it, fire her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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this is crazy. what she likes is irrelevant to what she feeds your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Cleaning for 3 DC household is way different when they are older then younger. What do you want her to do on a day to day basis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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She does do laundry now so that is great. I want her to make lunch for the 2 yo rather than serve him processed food like cereal and I want her to make healthy snack for after-school for the older kids. I guess cooking for the kids is where I see the biggest contention [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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That's it!! She's gone..bye bye [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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problem is you took those duties away from her...no one wants to go backwards, however saying that - I think you need to be blunt, you need to xyz and if you do not I will have no choice but to replace you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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You are right but I couldn't ask her to do all this and take care of a newborn and a 2 yo as well as an older kid after school. The issue is that she is paid a lot and I can easily get someone who will do everything for less [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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That's exactly what you say. Give her the choice to stay and do the other duties or go and find someone new. It really isn't that difficult to find someone new even if you must do so 2 years in a row. BTDT as needs changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I am engaged as of Sunday! 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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ooh. congrats, what does the ring look like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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that is so lame. ask the woman about her fiance, how he did it, if she is excited, not the ring... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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That's the last thing I'd wonder about - the ring. Never wanted a big engagement ring. More interested in what the fiance is like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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NP: me too (even though I have a gorgeous ring, that is not the important part) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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I agree...the ring is such a nothing part of this process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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It is beautiful. Gold setting shaped into little points set with diamonds, which surround an oval emerald and smaller emeralds that go around the front of the band. I can't really describe it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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don't tell people on here this stuff. someone is sure to flame away. Enjoy and best wishes for a long, healthy life together!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Congrats and best wishes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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Four carats, I hope! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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Guess you like your rings a little on the trashy side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Hooker mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Very nice; I'm happy for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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All the very best! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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congrats!!! enjoy this moment!! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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Congrats!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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27 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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How is he hung? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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How are you hung? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Lawyer moms, are there any online forums that I can join to get career advice? I desperately need a mentor. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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There's a lot of us here. What do you need advice about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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I am currently in law school in Canada but I have to move to Michigan. I was wondering how I can qualify for the bar without having to go to law school again in the US. Secondly, I want to specialize in IP law, and I was wondering if it is better to go BigLaw or IP boutique. I would like to work at a top firm and I have been looking at firm rankings online but I don't know which rankings are accurate. I want to know which firms I should focus on in Michigan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Michigan is not a hot bed of IP work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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LOL..big law is virtually non-existent in Michigan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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op - I recognize that but I meant relatively. Basically how do I find the best in Michigan? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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Best is relative but US News is a start [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Ok, thanks, I have looked at those but I didn't know if that was a good place to look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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I'm pretty sure you need to at least get an LLM, though maybe some northern states have a special reciprocity program with your province. As for IP, if you want to sit for the patent bar you need to have a specific undergrad major -- the requirements are stricter than many people think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Foreign attorneys at my law school did LLM and then sat for the bar exam in NY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Just wondering if anyone else has experienced this and can offer advice. I'm a new mom to a beautiful, healthy two month old DD. Everything had been fine, but sometimes I'm almost crippled with anxiety about something happening to her - either her getting sick, or me dropping her or something awful. Is this normal and does it go away? Is there anything that helped you calm the heck down? I don't want to be a veal mom! Thank you - my DH is very loving but doesn't really understand. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Every new mother experiences this to some degree. It's hard to have your heart taken out of your body to roam out there in the world without you. I can't say it gets easier, but you get used to it and you find a new normal. Plus once your hormones are back to normal and you're sleeping through the night you'll start to feel better all around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you! Those are almost the exact words I used when trying to explain to DH, that I feel vulnerable like my heart is living outside of me. She had a minor transition problem and spent her first few days in the NICU, so he's worried that I'm still traumatized from that experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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It is very normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Thank you! My DH has been getting worried because I'm normally so steady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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I dropped my kid at two months. She's a good 3rd grade student now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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Thank you for that! I'm afraid to even have a small glass of wine if I'm going to be walking around with her in the carrier. I used to live in heels but now I wear my pumas with almost everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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I agree it is normal! That said, if it doesn't start to subside, you really should talk to someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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I fell carrying my 2 month old in a bjorn. Needed an ambulance. He's a crazy active super adorable 3 year old now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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It's so good to know these things aren't the end of the world! Really, all your comments have helped. I haven't wanted to talk to my friends/family because I was afraid they'd think I was insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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I felt this way on and off. It happened again when I travelled without my kids, which I only do 1x year, max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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Normal. I also panic about myself dying because I worry about who will love them as much as I do. P.s. I dropped both of my kids. They're perfect and healthy now. :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Absolutely normal: our DD is leaving for college next week and I'm a total wreck. Enjoy these years - they go by so fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Thank you everyone. My husband was getting really worried about me because he's used to be being pretty tough (I used to be a soldier and still work in a high stress career). We got married later than most so I'm an older mom, so most of my friends are old pros at it by now so I feel silly asking these things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Parents of college age kids ... What do you personally really still do for them? What are things you believe they need to do completely on their own? Would you refuse to help them with anything in particular on principle? Now you all have me curious. Is your goal to actually make them 100% self sufficient adults as soon as they go to college? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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Yes. They should be able to make their own food, do their own laundry, earn their own money for the things they want beyond the necessities. No car when they turn 16 and they must pay for their own driver's Ed. Jobs as soon as they turn 15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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It was very hard for dd to get work. She is an athlete and traveled so much on weekends to tournaments. Practices were held two or three nights a weeks - year round. She'd get a few babysitting gigs here and there, but really didn't work until Senior year summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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She couldn't work because she had a demanding hobby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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She played a sport competitively. If you have a child that plays any sport at this level, it requires a lot of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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I don't do much for them. When they are home I cook for them because we eat together as a family. If they want lunch or something they make it themselves. They do laundry. I pay some of their bills (car insurance, phone) so I guess that is coddling to some degree, but I felt so lucky that I didn't have to work during school year in college that I wanted that for them. They get summer jobs, but don't work while away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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I am afraid to say on this board what I do. I would get attacked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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Me, too. I am the one who put name tags on my son's clothes last week. But he's gone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Away or at home? Away she does all she has to. When she is home, my dh or I cook dinners and do laundry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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The problem is that this is not a question to ask when your kids are college aged. You're supposed to ask this question over and over from the time they're two. You figure out what they can do on their own and make them do it, then you figure out what they're ready to start learning to do on their own and start teaching them, and you only do for them what's left. And you keep adjusting this list month by month ans year by year so that by the time they're adults there's nothing left on your list. By college age, your list should be down to limited financial help and mentoring only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] So glad I'm an American. Men wearing black hoods and gowns and who use big knives scare me. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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how do you feel about white hoods and gowns and a cord of rope? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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The KKK is a joke compared to ISIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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black here. fuck you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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They are not the same thing. The KKK was and will always be abhorrent but they are not comparable to Isis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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When is the last time the kick sliced anyone's throat idiot?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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In it's current state, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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Or uniforms, bullet proof vests, and guns? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Yeah, Darth Vader always gave me the willies too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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RIP JF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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I already saw the Daniel Pearl video, they need to get more original. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Feeling hunted and terrorized is not so nice, is it? ---signed Black mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, problem is that the ones "hunting and terrorizing" blacks are other blacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for some tips for making LinkedIn work for me...Should you follow up with the hiring person after submitting an app? What's the protocol? Any other tips appreciated!! Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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I've had a lot of success with LinkedIn. You should instead look for people who you know who may know the hiring manager or someone else at the company. If you can figure out who the hiring manager (not the HR contact) is for this position, look that person up on LinkedIn to learn more about their background and contact them via email. I've done this several times and it has almost always gotten me an interview within a few days. I think it helps that I have a very strong resume, but it's still worth a try. If you haven't built your network up yet, do so. You'd be surprised how your past contacts can help you in the future. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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How do you figure out the hiring manager for the position? Esp in a big co. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Sometimes the job description will say the title of the person who the job reports to. For example: "In this role, the director will report to the VP of XYZ, supporting ..." It doesn't always work, but when it does, it's a great way to stand out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Have any of you had the presence of echogenic bowel spotted at the 20 week anatomy scan? I did today and am slightly freaking out, even though I read that in most cases it's overly sensitive ultrasound equipment. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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No I had a spot on the heart detected which is a marker for Down syndrome. The maternal fetal medicine doctor couldn't find what the tech had shown me. Panic for nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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YES! I freaked out for no reason. The new ultrasounds pick up all sorts of things now. DS is 2.5 and no issues at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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Don't freak out about these things! They can be very subjective findings and need to he taken in the context of everything else (eg. echogenic focus in heart is irrelevant if you've had a normal cell free DNA test). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:20 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the latest with the specialized high school admission criteria? Are they changing the test-alone policy yet? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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The admissions policy will require an act of the State Legislature to change. And that hasn't happened yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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but it is in motion, right? I thought there was something drafted... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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np: lots of legislation gets drafted and doesn't pass (or even get introduced). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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True. I just feel there has been much more noise on this lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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Correct. But it will have to pass the legislature and not be vetoed by the governor. How old is your DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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We have a couple of years but I am paying attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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As are we all. If I can offer a small piece of advice, if your DC is in MS, then consider taking some school tours in both 6th and 7th grades. The schools won't mind, and you may have an illness or conflict situation in 8th grade when you were originally planning to tour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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NP: also talk to parents. The tours really don't give you more than a feel for that day at that time. The schools tell you all sorts of things that may or may not be true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Correct, and speak to the students at the open houses, preferably without the adults listening. Kids are usually very honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Good advice, thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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So the test takes place at the very beginning of 8th grade, correct? So any tours would have to be in 6th or 7th grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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PP the test is traditionally given the last weekend in October of 8th grade; you take your tours in 6th, 7th or the beginning of 8th grade. There are sometimes tours for accepted students, but that depends entirely on the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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It isn't going to change this year -- already too late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o When someone repeatedly turns you down when you invite them to visit are you obligated to still keep inviting them? I have invited my sister for years to visit and she refuses. We are currently estranged so I don't really care for her to visit anyways, but if I ever invite my parents and not her and her family she becomes enraged. Then we invite her the next time and she turns us down again. This has happened at least15 times. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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don't invite her. ignore her tantrum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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That's stupid. She just wants attention. Refuse to give it to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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Tell her directly that repeatedly declining your invites hurts your feelings and gives you the message that she doesn't want to be invited. Hopefully that will help clear the air. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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does she express her rage to you? then tell her this, that you have never had her accept an invitation so you figure she doesn't want any. if she's expressing it other people, its not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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gee if she isn't going to come, then just invite her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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np: That is the first thing I thought when I read this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Tell her your door is always open and when she want to come, she will be welcomed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] how do you balance wanting a "slow" lifetyle (lots of evenings and weekends at home cooking, reading, yard work, family game nights) with the constant busy barrage of social obligations? i want a "slow" life, but i also want all my friends, and parties, and invites. i find that invites dry up if you keep saying no. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Invite people to your house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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this is confusing. you want people to invite you places so you can say no and do yard work instead? there are a limited number of hours in a week--use them as you wish! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Hanging out with friends is part of a "slow life" IMO as long as you're casual about it. The idea of a "social obligation" is a bit of an oxymoron in this context. Just be glad you're not working evenings and weekends like many of us schlubs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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Friday nights for family ("slow"), Saturdays for socializing, Sunday can go either way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:30 PM Flag
[ - ] This will be a shot in the dark but anyone on here use Boston IVF? What was your experience? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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They turned off all the lights and gave me a shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Go on SART.org and check their stats. Nothing else matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Having loads of stomach issues (will be seeing Dr soon...), and want to change my diet drastically as I can see improvements with mild changes. So, trying to cut Dairy, Wheat, Red Meat and Alcohol. Breakfast is my dillema - I don't like too much fruit in the AM, maybe a smoothie (whey, banana, almond milk...) or banana. I am allergic to eggs too. What else can I eat that will be healthy and keep me full until lunch? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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I like chicken in the morning. Or oatmeal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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I eat plain greek yougurt with slivered almonds and fruit everyday- blueberries, strawberries, nectarines, etc. it is very filling. Not dairy free though but does have the good bacteria for your gut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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Whey is dairy. I like oatmeal with cinnamon, nuts and raisins. This black rice breakfast pudding is easy to make and really wonderful: http://www.mynewroots.org/site/2014/01/coconut-black-rice-breakfast-pudding/ and there is also this recipe, which I haven't tried yet: http://www.mynewroots.org/site/2014/07/raspberry-ripple-buckwheat-porridge/ Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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You can make quinoa breakfast cereal and use almond or soy milk. Martha stewart has recipe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:13 PM Flag
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polenta with smoked salmon. ezekiel bread with sliced zucchini and tomato jam. tofu scramble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Oatmeal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying to get a sense of who's on here. Do you prefer interesting jewelry (from street vendors, art shows, travels across the world) or recognizable jewelry (Cartier love bracelet, Hermes bangles, David Yurman)? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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i don't wear much jewelry. generally, i only wear my wedding and engagement rings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Me too, plus diamond studs my grandmother gave me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:22 PM Flag
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Same here. I hate the feeling of necklaces and bracelets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Me too. Signed Inmate Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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i wear zero jewelry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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are you shilling for noonday or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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interesting, but that's for earrings which are all i wear besides my pretty basic rings and watch. i'm not a big label person in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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I don't wear jewelry either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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All of my jewelry is inherited and it's mostly all European gold. I don't like flashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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I have some expensive pieces but am really into cute costume jewelry lately. This year I have been into stacking bracelets around my watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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hate anything recognizable. I wear my engagement/wedding rings, my late mother's ring, and a variety of hanging bead earrings I get at a kiosk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I wear more classic and expensive jewelry than costume or funky, though I like that too. I don't need my nice stuff to be recognizable as a certain brand though, just nice stone and cut. Fwiw, I don't have tons of jewelry, but what I have is fairly nice. If I had better sense of style I would experiment more . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Is how you get a sense of who is on here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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Yes. It's vapid and crunchy types, all in one place! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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Neither. I like expensive pieces with a history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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No jewelry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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I only wear my engagement ring and occasionally a small stud so my earring holes don't close up, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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I have inherited 3 generations of jewelry. I never buy any. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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I am a big jewelry person. I prefer interesting jewelry but I don't wear art show or street vendor stuff (I'm conjuring up images of bracelets made from telephone wire and colored dough). No way would I buy a Cartier love bracelet or Hermes bangle, but I do have, for example, jewelry from Ilias Lalaounis, Elizabeth Locke, Tamara Comolli, Mish, Nicholas Varney, etc. When I wear funky jewelry, it tends to be Stainless Steel German industrial design. I also have a lot of unsigned pieces and inexpensive things I buy from around the world or even TJ Maxx (they sell really interesting silver jewelry from Israel). I buy whatever strikes my fancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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OP thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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Meant to add what I wrote in my original post was just a few examples. Not absolute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] After how many days of a kid crying and refusing to go into the classroom will he be thrown out of private? Age 9. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.20.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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wow age 9 is rather old for that isn't it? did something happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:04 PM Flag
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I got him in by suppressing this information via a 504 plan. Not a nyc private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Take the kid's cue and get outta Dodge. Why suffer?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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Because op is delusional and wants her kid at hogwarts elementary instead of public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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is something more going on? 9 is a little old for that behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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Yes. This would be a much bigger concern to me than getting thrown out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Not to pry to much but are you going through a divorce or any other problems at home? If you're going through some form of separation/divorce keep the school abreast. They're more inclined to work with the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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No he's always been a terror. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Not to be snarky but how'd you get a spot? My dc was like that and we were shut out. DC is much better now at 7 but still has some issues with being impulsive or shutting down and refusing to listen every few months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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Outside of nyc, privates are easy to get into. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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He is defiant, doesn't want to go to school ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Can you bribe her? Promise her after school pizza or whatever she likes if she stays calm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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She said "he". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Yes I bribe him with everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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np- I'd be incline to take stuff away for that behavior, not give him more stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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Nine is a little old for the crying - but kind of young for the refusing to go to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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With privates the most important thing to do is to work with the school. They don't want to kick kids to the curb but will not tolerate you refusing their feedback regarding behavior/social/emotional issues. It's when you start refusing evaluations, blame the school, teachers, other kids, won't accept constructive criticism that you run into a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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You will likely be counseled out pretty quickly and you were nuts to take him out of public. What has the school said so far? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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School hasn't started yet but moms are bashing me at the public for hiding the 504 and getting him into the private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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they should, you did your child no favors and by the way, the private will request his school records and see all of that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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He doesn't belong in private so let him get kicked out and go to public, or try to hoodwink another private into taking him. If you feel little Timmy is a genius who needs the intellectual stimulation that only a private can offer, get private tutors. But I'd bet he is just average academically and public will serve him well enough. Plus they can't kick him out just for being a big cry baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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He totally belongs in private -- a special needs school maybe, that can deal with these outbursts. Why should public school kids have to deal with this kind of behavior? Because the poors should just be happy with scraps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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My nephew did this at a Lutheran school in Indianapolis and was thrown out within a few weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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What kind of monster do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Depends on how connected his parents are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Fake post. 9 yrs old exhibiting this behavior wouldn't get admitted to a NYC private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Perhaps not, but all bets are off after he's accepted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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Meaning they have to keep him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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Real. Not nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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^because of the 504 plan, his issue couldn't be mentioned in the recommendation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Corn-and-tomato salad: Use raw corn straight off the cob, or blanch it first? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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I'd blanch. Love fresh corn but do not love the milky raw flavor straight off the cob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Blanch just a bit. Totally raw has a little something funky to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:05 PM Flag
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who eats raw corn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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When it is just picked it is actually REALLY good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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I do once in a while. Just a few niblets. It's real sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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I do...use it in lots of recipes. Fresh from a farm stand - wonderful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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I use it raw. It's fine and goes really well with a lime dressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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and some black beans. I just got hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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+2, the crunchiness will be a nice balance to the tomatoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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If you roast it in the oven it is amazing in salads and salsas! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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just microwave first [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks ladies!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.20.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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