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[ - ] Go UP DOW. UP I say! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Lesson for all mothers: Dont EVER post a picture of your child in a car seat in Instagram/Facebook. No one has ever come out unscathed. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
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I think she means that whenever people post a photo of a car seat, someone always says it's unsafe and your kid is buckled in wrong. I see it all the time, don't know why people don't leave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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*learn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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So, so true. Great advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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Never happened to me. Posted plenty of pictures of them in their car seats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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+me too, never had this problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Seems like an easy way to figure out whom you need to weed out of your social network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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Hilarious. We use The Car Seat Lady for installations and consults on safety (both my father and FIL were in serious car accidents). When I posted pics of our rear-facing DC at age 2, people flamed and I loved it! Education is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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I'm a first time mom and was googling about rear facing because DD's legs reach the back of the seat. I found out that in Sweeden kids often rear-face until three or four! I'm definitely not in a hurry to change DD to front facing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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Go to carseatlady.com and use as a reference. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a single mom (by choice) living in NYC in a large 1br. My commute is 40 minutes door to door. Should I move to a suburb? Will it be easier? HHI 175? TYIA 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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Why would you think that will make your life easier? I would think it makes your life harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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I could afford a bigger place. Hoping it would be easier financially. I am not sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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or: I don't think it will be easier financially. It will be about the same. More space, but you won't have the easy access to transportation that you have in NYC. In the suburbs, you will have to rely on a car. Cars are expensive to maintain e.g. oil changes and any other issues that come up with the car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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Is by choice meant to indicate no child support? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Yes. No father [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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Your commute would be longer and more expensive than it is right now. Other things might be easier, but you would be spending more time commuting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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ding ding ding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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Nope - 1 br is fine for 2 people and if you are a single parent time with DC is more important than square footage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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np - agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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i agree w this. the only reason to make the move is if you can shorten commute, reduce childcare costs, hagve better school options or have more family support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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Fellow single mom, life is much easier with 2 bedrooms, esp as DC gets older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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I think a move to the suburbs as a single parent, if you work in Manhattan will cause you anxiety on a daily basis, unless you have a live-in or nearby family. Any number of commuting issues could occur, and you really need to have someone to rely on to give you piece of mind. If I were you, I would move to a small 2 bed in a good school district so at least you will have privacy when db gets a bit older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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I wouldn't, there are so many times that there are issues with the trains or buses, or times when you have to pick up sick child at school, doctors appointments, school meetings, I would not want to work far away from school & home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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No. Don't. You will be the rare single mom in a married town. It will be hard to make friends (because you are single). Wish I could tell you different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] What have you been told that said you were really doing something right (or wrong) with DC? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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"ma'am, open up, it's the police" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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My son says that I yell too much. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Told DS that his friends weren't coming over in time for an event "Because they weren't ready to leave yet" and DS said "But I thought kids weren't in charge" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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I like that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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Yeah, made me feel good about my parenting and a bit scared for the friends. They were only 6. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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I like that the nursery volunteers at church say my DD is one of the few who never cries for me after I drop her off, and that she never gets fussy. I'm hoping that says she's secure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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My teen DS told me his friends think I'm very nice...but he doesn't see it, LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] I have noticed when most UBers post their dinner plans, everyone generally has a grilled protein and two vegetables for sides, composed dishes with separate ingredients. I rarely see people post that they are having stews, chilis, curries, or tagines - food with several ingredients but served all mixed together. Why is that? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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I use my crock pot so that means, stew city. But the protein and two sides is a standard american meal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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mush is not marketable. neither is take out. so the phenomenon owes itself to a concept called reporting bias- i.e. you dont say if it isn't something nice to read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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That is so interesting. So the grilled salmon with asparagus is the aspiration all meal, but my family's favorite chili and cornbread is too pedestrian to post about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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^aspirational, auto correct [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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cornbread has too many carbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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Some of us enjoy carbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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Maybe they are cooking themselves and not having it slopped into a metal tray with a big spoon? I'm just speculating, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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I don't eat anything stew-like. This is my adult way of rebelling against my mother who used to make stew-like things when I was growing up (I am now 53!). We were forced to sit at the dinner table until everything was eaten--even if it took until 11 pm. My brother and I concocted ways of hiding food (in baked potatoes, shoved up the gums in our mouths until we could get to the bathroom to spit it out, etc.). We were very happy when we finally got a dog. Funny how things often "accidentally" fell on the floor! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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We do both but more frequently we serve the dishes separately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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It's easier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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We eat a lot of soups and risotto, but right now it's just too hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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tagines? FUCK YOU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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What's wrong with tagines? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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It's the summer. You'll probably see more of those dishes posted in the colder months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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People don''t make stews, soups, or other long-cooking meals in the summer? I certainly don't, and I cook these constantly in the winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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because in general, those require more cooking expertise and more time/effort. dh makes big meals like that bc he loves to cook - sheppard's pie, risotto, sausage & pepper, spaghetti & meatballs, lamb curry stew. my mom makes tons of homemade soups w beans and veggies, etc. i'm lucky that i can grill chicken and saute some veggies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Different season. I'm all for chili and stew but not in August. Check back in October and November and you will get a different result. Summer is all about grilled meats and fresh veggies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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this. I make plenty of one pot dishes when the weather is colder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] DH will be gone for the next 3 and a half months on business in Asia. I'll visit him once, but we can't really afford multiple visits at this point. And my job keeps me here in the U.S. It's been two days and I really miss him, and it's so hard. No kids yet. (We will start TTC next year.) Anyway, I'll probably be posting a lot in the next few months. Any advice for long distance marriages? Or any cute stories from people who have BTDT? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Clean out closets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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op: yes, I plan to have the cleanest apartment I've ever had these next few months. He's going to be very impressed when he gets back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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Catch up on sleep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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Is he in the military? [ Reply | More ]
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op: no, not military. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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pocket rocket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Lol!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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OR: Hey, just callin' em like I see 'em. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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op: haha. I don't really have a very high sex drive, so I'm not worried by the lack of sex as much as the lack of cuddle time. And with the time difference, it's hard to find times to talk and IM in real time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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it sucks. btdt. try to keep yourself as busy as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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op: thanks, I'm trying. Work is especially busy this time of year, so that's helpful, but nighttime is the worst. I never used to have trouble falling asleep, but it's taken me hours to fall asleep the last two nights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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make plans w people. sinc eyou don't have kids this is way easier! go to the movies or for drinks w friends. when i was childless, dh worked in asia for 2 weeks at a time, 6x/year and sitting at home alone was the hardest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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op: you're right. That's what I'm doing now. I really should be offering to take out the new teachers and get to know them better. But it's so tempting to just curl up on the couch and complain on UB! Okay okay, as soon as this thread is no longer on the front page, I'll go initiate an outing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you committed it will be fine. Try to enjoy missing him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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op: you're right. I tried to start a romantic email chain and told him let's write each other every day, and then in 30 years when we're growing annoyed of one another and longing for some alone time, we can go back and read our emails and think wistfully about how much we missed one another and how cute that was. So yesterday I sent him a vivid 6 paragraph description of my day and my new students and how excited I am about the school year. He responded with 3 lines saying basically "that sounds nice. Glad the year is off to a good start. That's annoying about the fire alarm." Nothing about his day. His job is classified, so he can't really talk about it, but ugh, this is going to be harder than I had imagined. He's not the most outwardly emotional person. His love language is acts of service and physical touch rather than words of affirmation, so he mainly expresses love by doing tasks and physical affection, but those two things are the hardest to do long distance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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facetime! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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why is his job classified if he's not in the military. Is he a diplomat or something? State department official? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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op: cyber security engineer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Sext via skype assuming you're both into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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op: yes, that does sound fun. I'll wait until he suggests it. That way if he do it less often it will be more special. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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OMG are you 12? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Magic Wand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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op: lots of good tips for vibrators. I'll have to write these down haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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You'll get used to it, first week is the hardest. Make sure to facetime/skype! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Hey, what's the matter man? We're gonna come around at twelve With some Puerto Rican girls that are just dyin' to meet you We're gonna bring a case of wine Hey, let's go mess and fool around You know, like we used to" 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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DH here. Sounds great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Doo doo doo doo doo doo doo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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I've been walking Central Park, singing after dark. People think I'm crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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I've been walking Central Park Singing after dark People think I'm crazy I've been stumbling on my feet Shuffling through the street People ask me, "What's the matter with you boy?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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Fake. Homey woulda said "box of wine" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O "If you yell at your kids..." Just curious if there are people who don't yell (like, ever). 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Some dont [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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And their children are brats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Not the family I know. YMMV [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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saying no and yelling are two different things, don't necessarily go together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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This. Look at teachers, they are constantly disciplining children but they don't yell at them (or at least the competent ones don't). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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I know this mom who proudly declares: "we really try to limit our use of the word 'no' with our DC"......yes, and we can tell!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Ha, wish my dc felt the same way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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I remember a friend who thought if she didn't say no to her daughter, the daughter wouldn't say no to her. That didn't happen with her second kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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I definitely get snappy but I really don't yell...I am soft-spoken in general. My kids are young though (4 and 2yo). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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I try not to yell ever. But I slip up sometimes. I firmly believe kids will do what you do, no matter what you say to them. So if you yell and act aggressive they will do the same. Saw s huge decrease in aggression and drama amongst my kids after I stopped yelling but not 100%. I have no problem saying no to them though. I just say it directly and matter of fact. It's very confusing to a kid if you don't say no because they don't understand what's ok and what's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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+My SIL is my role model as a mom and this was her way of doing things. Lots of clear, strict boundaries but always very calm in her discipline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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I yell constantly but am friends with someone whom I suspect yells never. It can happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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My brother and his wife don't yell. I admire their calm, but their six year old rules the roost as a result. I prefer screaming and kids who are kind, respectful, and know how to behave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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You can have kids like that without yelling. You can discipline without loosing your cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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You can, but I find that sometimes I yell. My kids are generally well behaved - they are good kids - but sometimes they don't listen and I end up yelling. It isn't my preference, but my point is that I choose to yell and have my kids than not yell and have theirs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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I pretty much yell for two things, danger like my child is grabbing something off the stove or surprise such as when my toddler squirts her food pouch all over my face. Neither time do I continue yelling. Just a brief exclamation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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+I'm the same. I've sworn a few times when the "surprise" yells happen like a pouch all over my suit, but I yell for about 8 seconds, maybe 20 if I'm in pain (no my hair is not something grab and swing from). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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OP, I have always been curious if there are other non-yellers out there, and if it's just luck (getting a kid who doesn't push your buttons) or if it's parent's personality, or a conscious choice. My dd is almost 18 and I have literally never yelled at her (dh did once when she was 3 and bit him hard). But she was also a very easygoing kid, plus I only had the one, so that was easier too. Dh and I both grew up in yelling households and didn't want to repeat that, but I don't think it would have been so easy had we had a more challenging kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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I decided about 5 years ago to stop yelling as it never really helped. It definitely has made a positive difference. Instead, there are boundaries and consequences. Example: Earlier this summer DS didn't clean his room after being ask 2x. I didn't yell, but I took the power cord to his computer and he got it back after his room was clean. Since then (so far) he has cleaned his room when or before I ask. I just make sure the consequences are meaningful (hit them where they live ; ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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I don't, and I'm very purposeful about not yelling. I get frustrated with my kids all the time but I had two experiences that prevent me from yelling. One, I grew up with a mother who yelled all the time, and at some point it just didn't work anymore. We stopped paying attention. So, I realize that if I start yelling I'll just be yelling forever with diminishing returns. And second, I had a grandfather who never once in his life (that I know of) raised his voice. But everyone around him respected him and would never cross him. He told me - "if you want people to pay attention to you, speak quieter than them." And it's true. So I deliberately don't yell. If my kids are frustrating me I stop, stare at them, and then speak quietly. It works very well for us, and I don't have to go crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here. OP from S/O on MP says DCs get benadryl for flights, but most NPs and ORs seem opposed. I wonder if DWs opinions change regarding DCs, if DS, DD, DB, or in cases of SN. WDYT? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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OTT post. TITBC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Any DWs want to TTC and play OW, maybe get PG? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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ITDA, BTDT, DEGT. AISI, U R AITR. DAMHIKT. DIY, DRCOWOTO. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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SMH and BF'ing [ Reply | More ]
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CSB [ Reply | More ]
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We're all guessing you don't get out much. [ Reply | More ]
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np-SAH [ Reply | More ]
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+1. FFS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Are we really raising a generation that doesn't have to spend the night at older relatives if they don't want to? Is this where we are? 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Yes. Duck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Is that a problem? [ Reply | More ]
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Is what a problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Sorry, I meant to respond to all - I don't see how a kid not wanting to spend a night somewhere is a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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If I say you are going to grandmas - you are going to grandmas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Agreed. It shouldn't even be a discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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What if grandma is a pedophile or yells all the time, or an alcoholic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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I'm the OP of other post: As I said, if SIL were babysitting, DD would be happy to go. She just didn't want to go on some random weekend to do nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Wow your veal child might be bored for one weekend how horrible. I wonder if she could even live through such a trying time in her life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Obvious troll is obvious. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a troll because you're raising a veal child? [ Reply | More ]
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Your a troll because you are using terms like veal child and drawing a hard inflammatory line in the sand to pick a fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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Where is this coming from? Why would anyone force their child to sleep somewhere they don't want to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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Scroll down: someone's SIL wanted her DD to do a sleepover and the kid didn't want to, for whatever reason. Her DH told SIL, who got bent out of shape over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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np: sooooo this! wth?!?!?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Yes. You may start clutching your pearls now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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Yes. Even grandparents shouldn't be able to demand a DCs overnight presence (though I would be more inclined to go along with it). An aunt and uncle, nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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Good luck with that lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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With what? Resisting the aunt and uncle who demand that my child come solo for sleepovers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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With raising a child who only thinks about herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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man are you trolling hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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What about the aunt who is only thinking about herself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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Clean out your basement... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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Generally I think kids should do as we ask, eat what I cook, go to bed when I say etc. In this case, I agree don't send a kid where s/he doesn't want to go. Abuse happens and I'd rather be rude and support DC than send to a possible abuser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Now everyone that wants to connect with their niece is an abuser? Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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Of course not. But it's a sleep over, which is not mandatory, not a visit. Look you raise your kids your way, I will mine. I read a lot about sexual abuse and I believe that you don't force kids to sit on laps or kiss people they don't want nor do you send them to homes they don't want to stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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Oh FFS... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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NP, I think it's better to teach them to tell me no matter who it is. And they are going to grandmas I don't care how bored they are unless they are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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OR I think that listening to them includes if they don't want to sleep over somewhere they don't have to. If I want them to have a relationship with that person, it is up to me to set up times that the child is comfortable with that. And for those (daytime) visits, no DC don't have a choice, they are going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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No, but they can connect during the day. The insistence of having a child spend the night against her will is creepy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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OR THis is my point. And my kids have to do a ton of crap they don't want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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Dh and I are going to "connect". DC is going to grandmas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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ha! That's a little different. Mom and Dad saying we need you to sleep at your relative's house vs. the relative repeatedly inviting the child to sleep over without there being a need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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I wouldn't force my son to sleep somewhere he felt uncomfortable (and uncomfortable can mean whatever it means to him. I also don't force him to hug someone hello or good-bye if he doesn't want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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I bet you did CIO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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No, I didn't - my son slept through the night from day one, I did get in "trouble" at his 2 week checkup because I didn't wake him in the middle of the night to feed him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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smile [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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This isn't new. This is how the whole generation of Millenials were raised. It is only going to get worse from here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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I get what you're saying, but some of us don't feel the same way about family. I have never understood why someone MUST be respected just because they are related. If the aunt had developed a relationship with the niece, she would want to go over there. I would never make her go, and I find it weird for the aunt to be insisting. As others have said, that's a common place for abuse to happen, so I'd just as soon not do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Developing a relationship is also on the OP's part. She can talk up SIL and say how great it will be. Sounds as though OP's attitude toward SIL is rubbing off on her dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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It doesn't sound that way to me. OP's dh is the one repeatedly telling his sister no and making up excuses. Sounds like the Aunt is a bit of an odd duck and her brother, SIL and niece all feel it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Where the kids will be entitled assholes? Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Where the kids will be entitled assholes? Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Huh? My parents never made me sleep over at relatives houses. It's really not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Does your PA use paper or electronic communications? Our PA is refusing to switch to electronic. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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Both. Is there a legitimate concern that some households may not have access to email/internet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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Both (and I agree) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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To not switch to electronic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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To do both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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Both, though I prefer electronic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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I agree with both and selfishly want paper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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OR: LOL why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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I need it on brightly colored paper in my house on door or fridge to remember :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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Ha, you sound like me. It needs to be in my face or I forget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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I hear ya. I WOH and to distribute paper I have to spend an hour in the office photocopying and putting in mailboxes and I don't have that kind of time during the work day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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I think they are required to do paper because some families do not own computers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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It is weird that they will not do both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] One of my eyes has been watering/tearing up constantly for the past 48 hours. Can seasonal allergies affect one eye only? Or might it be a blocked tear duct or something else? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Is there stinging or no stinging? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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OP: no stinging [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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How old is your mascara? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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OP: So old! Could this be it? Ok- throwing away... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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Has your nanny been using your makeup? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the Suburbs: Not knowing where in the neighborhood your 9 year old is for an hour or two but just assuming that he's still around somewhere because you can hear him yelling to his friends when you open the front door. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Is that supposed to be a bad thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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No, it's a delightful thing. A scene from a suburb! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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Ewwww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Sounds like my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Isnt this what people in the burbs want! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Roll eyes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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FUCK. STOP. No one cares! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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np: Calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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Stfu asshole [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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I miss that living in the city. Good times! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone used a preschool consultant for Manhattan schools? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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omfg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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Lol, I posted this question yesterday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Which schools did you apply to, omfg mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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really it's just organization and making sure you can get out of work for 1-2 tours/playdate interviews a week from Nov-Jan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Yeah you need one to get into the best [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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total BS- we just went through it last year's cycle- shocked how many we know got into Episcopal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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Yes, definitely get a consultant to help you pick the best consultant. It's PREschool FFS!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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honestly, depends where you live if it's helpful or not. Which part of town, OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Yes, I did. What do you want to know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I am in debt. Credit cards maxed out. Living from paycheck to paycheck. I make 6 figures. Married with two DC. I could earn more money but I chose quality of life now that my children are young and hope that I can lean more into my career when they are older. I'm not going to beat my self up about it anymore! 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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Can you cut expenses? I was you and finally managed to pay off my credit cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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I'm cutting expenses and paying off debt slowly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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How slowly? Do you have a set plan (three years, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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Three years at most. As the need for childcare decreases, I will have extra money to apply to debt. I am considering withdrawing from retirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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Don't withdraw. Take a loan if you think your jobs is stable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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Three years at most. As the need for childcare decreases, I will have extra money to apply to debt. I am considering withdrawing from retirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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In tease income too. Sell stuff, babysit, tutor whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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Do you have a budget that you are sticking to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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You are a fool. With CC you pay more for every item than I do. I have financial freedom living below my means with no CC debt and my children are fine and have a good life. HHI 100k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Good for you. I hope to get to where you are in the near future! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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Stop charging [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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Do you live in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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Yes, manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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Ok, cunt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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So people who are maxed out on their credit cards are cool and sensible people deserve horrible names? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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Ignore her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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Ok, judge-y cunt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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this lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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That is totally crazy. Why are you living above your means? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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OP- I'm no longer living above my means. Having CC debt is a snowball effect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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Which is why people should avoid it like the plague [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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I think OP has figured that out. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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We will see... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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OP - this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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Lots of people continue the cycle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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OP - YOu are right but this anxiety I feel everyday is just too much for me and I cant do it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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Sounds like you will have to "do it" for a couple years. Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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It's not like going into debt is a good thing; you SHOULD be working to pay it down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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I am working to pay it down. I could change positions to make more money but at this time in my life that is not ideal hence it is taking longer to get out of my current financial state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Debt is fine. Just pay it off, eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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A couple options: Get creative with 0% balance transfers. Move stuff around every 9 months or so, or whatever the 0% grace period is. Declare bankruptcy. Stiff all the credit cards and ruin your credit for 7 years. Or do the honorable thing and cut up the cards, and pay off the highest rate ones first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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With maxed out cards, my credit is already ruined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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That's what I did. If you have good credit you will get offers for 0% with a fee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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One other thing - be sure to keep the credit cards open. What credit scores like to see are multiple credit cards, open for a long time, being used occasionally, and paid off in full. No late payments. I charge everything I can but never carry a balance - every paycheck it all gets paid off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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I open and close CC accounts quite often. My credit score is 830. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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What are your most long term (several years old), and how many are there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:23 PM Flag
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K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Fine, just don't ask your siblings for money. Seen this a million times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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OP- I'm an only child - i don't have that option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Sweet, I own bank stocks, live that high life and pay that interest. Daddy needs a new pair of shoes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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what you need to think about is the fact that your DC will probably need you more when they are older. I think many women do this backwards - they choose to stay home when kids are toddlers (when really a loving nanny or family member makes a good proxy) and then they think they can gear up and go back to work when kids are in grade school. But that's when all the juggling, after school, sports, homework, etc. come in and your time is needed even more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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np: DH and I reconciled ourselves that we were living a "bailing out the boat" lifestyle until younger DC goes into pre-k. Together we make low 6 figures, so we're "UB poor." Now that we're finally not going to be paying for f/t childcare for at least one kid, we're going to be in a better position to pay things down. Our CCs aren't maxed out but they are high. If you have a long-term plan to dig yourself out you will be OK. If you *don't* have a long term plan to dig yourself out, make one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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OP- Thanks. This is pretty much where we are right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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OR: the trick is don't let that debt *grow*. I guess if you're maxed out then it can't. We make sure to pay more than the minimum every month, pay outright any extra expenses we think spike the debt too much... we come up with short-term payoff plans for things like veterinary bills that went on Care Credit, etc. We throw a chunk of DH's bonus at the credit cards every year. But there was no way we could seriously pay down while paying $1850 in childcare every month. And it also made no sense for us to go to one income or for me to go p/t. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help :( Just had a bad experience with repair guys that was not bad enough to call cops but still weird and unsettling :( Need your useful suggestions, UB. A repair guy showed up today to repair my dining nook floor, and one of them wandered into my kitchen. He moved into a place behind a wall where I could not see him or whatever he was doing. I heard a kitchen cabinet close from when he was there. Should I let this go or what? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:01 PM Flag
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^^ Repair guy and some other guy who seemed to be an assistant of some sort. The assistant was the one who stayed in my kitchen for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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Probably looking for prescription meds. Let it go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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You saw nothing. You have nothing to report. Come on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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NP - Uh, they were not supposed to be in her kitchen. Come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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Hello floor company, I'm calling to report one of your emouees walked into my kitchen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Learn how to work your auto-correct first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Why didnt you just ask him what he was looking for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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I was too nervous! These are two guys and I was alone against them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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np: I'd act like you assume they doing something normal and you were curious about how it helped the project. Their reaction would tell everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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They have gone now. I'll keep this in mind for the future. Do you have any suggestions for what I can do now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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Against them? Drama much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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Given your high-strung overreaction, you are the one with the drama problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Is there a supervisor you could complain to? Are they coming back another day? I once had a grocery delivery guy ask to use my bathroom and I heard him going through my medicine cabinet. I assume your guy was also looking for drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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Yes, there is a supervisor. And I really want to call him right now and let him know what happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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Yes, I would call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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"Can I help you with something." Stand up for yourself, girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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I was nervous. Now I feel better and I want to do something about what happened. Hence my question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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Well now he'll just deny it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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That's his problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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No, it's YOURs because his supervisor won't give a shit. You can't even say what he was doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Is the job finished? [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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Sounds like he was checking what was underneath the flooring by checking where the flooring meets the wall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Yes hire different co. Next time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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Just hide your desireable meds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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Tell us what you would say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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I am a delicate flower and he scared me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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"Hi, I'm here to fix your floor." Sounds like the beginning of a dirty movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone please recommend a hotel in Cape Cod, Martha's Vineyard or Nantucket? Thank you!! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Seacrest - North Falmouth - http://www.seacrestbeachhotel.com/. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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It doesn't really work like that. That's like saying "can someone recommend a hotel in California." You need to know where you're going first - they're all very different places. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I want to take a 4 days off work. Will pick based on hotel and availability. Thank you :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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When? With who? What are you into? My point is - don't take a 2 and 5 year old to Nantucket in October. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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The Winnetu in MV is really pretty and near the beach, but you need a car. Harborview is in Edgartown village. On the Cape there is Chatham Bars Inn and the Wequasset or Ocean Edge for a little more reasonable prices/rooms. Or the White Elephant in Nantucket. For most of these destinations there isn't a lot between beach motels and these super luxe places - many people rent houses when they go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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harborview hotel in Edgartown mv [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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SO expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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Tripadvisor [ Reply | More ]
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Wauwinet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] if you could move to any school zone in D2 or D3 and your HHI was about $300K, which would you move to and why? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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I already live somewhere so don't feel like moving [ Reply | More ]
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I like progressive, so I would move to 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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what age kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:57 PM Flag
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3 yo. Looking at elementary schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:59 PM Flag
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Yorkville / UES. More elementary choices than D3. [ Reply | More ]
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Are the schools better there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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All D2 schools are good except one or two [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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np: this is pretty true. makes it easier to apt shop when the difference between schools is more size/philosophy/facility, than "good" vs "bad" [ Reply | More ]
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Which one or two? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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51 isn't so great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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np - on the UES, the one that is not in the same league as the others is 198 which encompasses the upper portion of the UES and the lower portion of east harlem. up and coming G&T there (i think it's first class is now in 5th) and popular prek though. not sure about D2 outside of UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Traffic is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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And subway sucks too [ Reply | More ]
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Not to mention the proliferation of just-graduated kids who flock to certain parts of the UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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traffic is awful in all of manhattan these days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Yeah, thanks UBER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Following [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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Way more good options in D2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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BPC. 276 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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Isn't that school overcrowded? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Fuhgedaboudit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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District 2 has more choices for middle school and high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] We've moved to a new state & suburb, dc will start K and I'll be looking for a preschool for the youngest. I really want to get off on the right foot and make nice, new friends; in our last town the moms were very cliquey, a lot grew up together and they were reliving high school with the frenemy nonsense so I just had a couple of friends and mostly stayed out of it. Advice for a good, fresh start in the new town and with the parents at the new schools? I truly am a very friendly, considerate, community-minded person. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Try a community based preschool - a ymca or jcc. Otherwise, if you plan to get involved in a church or synagogue, do their preschool - that way you all are part of the "community" and I tend to find that people make more of an effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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Op: yeah, that's what I did in the last town -- synagogue preschool and got involved in both the school and the synagogue. I guess I'm just a little gun shy now, I dealt with some serious crazies in the last town. And no, it wasn't just me -- details are irrelevant here but in any case I'm just hoping to navigate things a little differently this time around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Make your own friends. Socialize without your children. Be kind, don't gossip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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How do make non parent friends? I [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:57 PM Flag
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Church, neighbors, work, book clubs, knitting groups, friends of friends, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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Op: I appreciate the advice but I've got my youngest who I'm still very involved with (too young for preschool and I SAH) and we're sending my oldest to a private school that is very much about community, involvement, volunteer work, etc, so we've pretty much signed on for immersing ourselves in that community. When I've got a little more me time I'd be happy to make friends other ways but for now I'd like to use the avenues I have, namely schools, classes, a synagogue once we start attending again (after Labor Day, we've been away). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:01 PM Flag
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Your mistake to make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Is your new town full of locals? Much easier when people are coming and going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm going to a wedding at The University club this fall. It's my first post baby formal event, so feeling a it self concious about my noticeable tummy and boobs. Any dress suggestions? Black tie Saturday night in the city, so I want to look fab. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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Just curious, do you really feel like you are going to walk around all evening with people looking at you and judging you? Who cares what you look like. You're married and have a baby. Is there some kind of ongoing competition? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Nope. I just would like to feel comfortable. You understand the difference between feeling good about yourself, and being worried about what others think of you, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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This is kind of hostile. We see people asking for fashion advice all the time, geez. It's probably her first big event post-birth - maybe she wants to look great for herself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:54 PM Flag
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Oh cut her some slack, she's postpartum and feeling self conscious but looking forward to a fancy evening out and wants to look her best. The horror!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:54 PM Flag
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So when you are married with a baby you should stop caring at all about what you look like?? It's so sad that you feel that way. You still have worth! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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np: half of UB says you shouldn't care, the other half makes fun of moms who don't care... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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Ffs what do you recommend, sweat pants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Something with an empire waist should flatter, if it's floor length could look very elegant with the right jewelry, heels, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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NO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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V neck usually minimizes bust. Spans take care of belly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:49 PM Flag
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Agree on the V Neck. Get Spanx one size smaller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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Or wear double if you can stand it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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Caftan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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spanxs? black dress in matte fabric [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Unless you want to wear a mumu you have to either let your boobs or you tummy be somewhat visible. I would opt for boobs and go with a wrap dress. Go with a long skirt and tummy control stockings or spanx if they won't make you uncomfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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Empire waist will emphasize both breasts and tummy. You need something with structure. Go for a sheath style with seams in strategic places. Cut the big areas down visually - v-neck will lessen the boobs, color blocks, seams or the like will break up the expanse of tummy. Get great shoes. Have fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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^ this is not dressy enough for black tie but give some of the ideas: http://www.elietahari.com/women/dresses/jaydn-dress-in-brushed-ponte/?color_code=DL0 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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^ this style if you have nice legs - sort of a more straight dress https://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/dresses/day/PRDOVR~E0078/E0078.jsp?color_name=grey-ivory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Or something by Chiara Boni or Nicole Miller [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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