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[ - ] How much weight have you lost and how did you do it? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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I just lost 18 lbs since early August, going from 161 to 143. I still have another 7-10 to go so I don't feel skinny. Just can now wear comfortably all the clothes I wore before having my DCs. So it took 3 months to lose 18. 6 lbs a month? Not so fast but consistent, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Congrats! How did you do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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OR: meh, not to be a naysayer, but I actually didn't really cut carbs or any particular food group, per se, but have cut my calories down to 1200-1400 max. So some days, I eat 2 boiled potatoes and a full avocado and nuts (the fat! the carbs!) but I find that it satisfies me enough that I don't go over my calorie max of 1200-1400. I try to just eat only whole foods (nothing processed like chips or bread even) but I eat a boiled potato or 2 a day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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I also run considerably--but I always did even at 161--20 miles a week--and the new thing has been a barre class 3-4 days a week (so I am now building muscle). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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And some days, when I do eat too much, I really skip dinner the day later so I'm around the 800-1000 mark. It really is about cutting out food. The week I skipped exercise because I was sick, I dropped 3 lbs! Not healthy to do that but just saying it is about the food reduction of no more than 1400 max if I exercise and 1200 if I don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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It CAN BE DONE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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cut carbs significantly, exercise 6 days/week, count calories. it's not rocket science but it is so stinkin' hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Did you use any tools to count calories? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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read a lot of labels, google. still do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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livestrong’s “my plate” works well for this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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^ free online site plus they have an app [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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If I cut carbs how many lbs can I expect to lose a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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1-2 lbs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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If you cut carbs *without replacing them with other foods*, you will lose 1 pound for every 3500 calories you cut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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I only eat carbs once a day (almost always) a croissant for ~350 calories. So that's only one pound every ten days! I want to lose 10 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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^not even because I would have to eat something let's say a Greek yogurt so that's only a 200 calories saving. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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If you want to lose 10 pounds, you would probably do well with one of the health.com slideshows. They have one that has ways to drop 500 calories/day with simple swaps, and another the is something like "16 ways to lose weight fast" and includes diet changes & new exercises. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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It's hard because you cut carbs. Just cut calories and don't worry which foods you're eating as long as you don't go over 1400 calories. Then you won't feel deprived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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+1 plus eat bulky low-calorie foods to feel more full [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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np: itd. if you eat a more nutritious diet, you won't feel deprived and don't need to be nearly as strict with the calorie counting. lots of fresh veggies, lean protein and limit your starches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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120 lbs. Lapband [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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70 pounds over a year. Exercised, drank less and ate sensibly (good breakfast, healthy lunch and health dinner). There are no short cuts. You have to pick something that works in your lifestyle. Moderation over drastic measures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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+1000 says the NP who just lost 18 lbs. Do whatever works! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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Just lost 6-7 pounds in the last 2.5 months. Used MyFitnessPal and increased my exercise from 2-3x/week to 3-4x/wk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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^^^MyFitnessPal helped me track my calories and distribution of calories. Essentially I cut back on carbs, which I realized I was eating a lot of. That said, I didn't need to lose much or any [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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65 lbs on Dukan (well, lost 75 but gained back 10). Basically just cut carbs other than vegetables. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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I'm not sure how much weight I've lost because I don't weigh myself but I've gone from a size 6 to a size 4 in about 6 weeks doing something really unhealthy. I skip breakfast, don't snack and don't eat anything after 7. This is only weekdays. On weekends I eat what I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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that doesn’t sound too unhealthy. i like my breakfast, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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35 - chemo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Deepest congrats to you for surviving this. Take care of yourself. Life is more important than weight loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Thank you. Have made some significant changes to my diet & exercise program. I believe that has also contributed to the weight loss. Be healthy everyone - much more important goal than just losing weight to look skinny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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I'm down over 45 lbs since the end of January. Revamped my diet and started working out consistently. As is generally the case for my body, the first 20 came off slowly, the next 25 much more rapidly. Hoping it continues for the remaining 30 lbs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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2 simple rules to lose weight no matter where you're at: 1. Count calories and limit to 1400 max (use spark people.com for example) a day. 2. Eat whatever food group you want but try to stick to whole foods--meaning if it grows or has no more than 3 ingredients, eat it guilt free. That includes avocados, potatoes and olive oil but excludes things like most pastas and breads. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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15 pounds. Counting calories and working out. I did not cut out any one food group AND I drank every day. The secret to losing weight is to burn more calories than you consume. Weird, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on with 4 in NYC. Kinda freaking here. 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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I know a couple of families with 2 natural, 2 adopted. You just go in knowing the $$ will be tight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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are the adopted children unnatural in some way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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I know families with 5. Its all about the $$. We have 3 and it is tight in NYC but we "only" make 300 (dual income) which is low by NYC standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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The median HHI in NYC is $55K. Over $165K and you're in the top TEN percent. Over $250K and you're in the top FIVE percent. $300K is by no rational measure "low", even by NYC standards. Get a fucking grip, princess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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Look, I honestly don't care about this BS. This is mostly a discussion board for well educated NYC families trying to raise dcs in at least semi-safe neighborhoods, feeding them healthy meals, and having access to at least mediocre schools. Childcare alone for 3 children with 2 WOH parents is more than median HHI in NYC. So what do your numbers mean to a family like mine? Pretty much meaningless IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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^ by the way my employer sponsored healthcare costs alone for a family of 5 are 12K a year. minimal basic childcare for 3 kids is 40K and only 5K of it is pre-tax. so what do your numbers mean exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Sounds like you need a better job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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I have a good job where I get paid 150K a year. I am not complaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes you are. You said your HHI is "low by NYC standards", which it objectively most certainly is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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I was talking to OP in regard to 4 kids in NYC. If you feel I am wealthy I congratulate you on being solidly middle class and well off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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# of kids has absolutely no bearing on whether your HHI is "low for nyc". It's HOUSEHOLD income, not personal income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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It has very high relevance in the context of the OP and answering her question. Your median blah blah reply has 0 relevance to the question of having another child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Actually, it does not. Just because you "feel" poor with another child does not change the fact that relative to the rest of the city, you are, in fact, rich. You just don't know how to budget the money you're making. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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I never said I was poor. Those are your words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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You said your HHI was "low by NYC standards" which was absolutely absurd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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low by NYC standards is not the same as saying I am poor. I am sure OP has a certain lifestyle in mind. For one, I don't consider family of 5 living on 89K middle class. This family is poor for NYC cost of living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Strictly speaking, the $89K family is actually UPPER middle class. "Middle class" in NYC starts with the "lower middle class", at $33K/year. "Upper middle class" ranges from about $79K-125K. Over $125K is solidly "upper class", since at that point you're in the upper fourth quadrant of households in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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ROFL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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My numbers mean you're making lifestyle choices to live above your means. Doesn't mean your income is "low", it means you're blowing too much of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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It is totally meaningless. I don't give a shit what type of lifestyle choices you make. OP is asking about 4 kids in NYC. I am assuming she wants lifestyle choices that include her kids getting adequate childcare, attending decent schools, and eating healthy meals. All these things are expensive even in Queens if you need good schools. We are discussing the choice of 4 children. Children are expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Yes, they are. So are most UB moms' perceived "needs", which are out of whack with reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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I believe my families basic needs of decent school, adequate housing, somewhat safe neighborhood, decent childcare, and healthy meals are pretty much the norm for a middle class non third world country family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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See, that's the problem. Women in NYC have this unbelievable sense of entitlement. They think that "decent school" for their kids = $30K/year private school. That's like me saying the only "decent" transportation to work for me is a $500K Rolls Royce, and because I had to spend $500,000, I feel "poor", my finances are strapped, and my income is "low for nyc". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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Are you a moron? 30K a year school for 3 kids would be 90K of post tax income that would be almost all we net. Obviously I am talking public schools. There is a reason your HHI is what it is... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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So you feel the need to buy a home that you really can't afford to get into a school zone you really shouldn't be in, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Your point will not work. This post made it clear that we are talking about NYC. NYC including all the borrows is expensive. One of the less expensive areas with a good school that I know off is Riverdale in the Bronx and even there housing costs are high. Taxes in NYC are high. Healthcare costs for a large family are high. You can't deny that NYC has is an expensive area. Yes, you will say just move but the entire post is specifically about NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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lolol!! "Excluding all the burrows". Oy. Did you even graduate from high school, or did you really mean to imply we're not counting donkeys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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I am ESL and speak 3 languages + have a masters in engineering. Thus I am capable of earning 150K even if I make spelling mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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And again, the median HHI in NYC is $55K. There are plenty of places in the non-Manhattan BOROUGHS in which to live. No one ever said Manhattan was largely for anyone but rich people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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As I said, anywhere in NYC with a good school zone is relatively expensive. Even in Queens and Bronx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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That depends on your definition of a "good" school zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Honestly, I am done. I wanted to give OP my 2 cents. I am really not interested in your life choices of being SAHM and your kids college costs not being your concern. We have very different expectations from life and I am pretty sure mine are closer to most UB posters which is what OP was interested in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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^ To OP, I applogize your thread took this turn. That was never my intent. I was super freaked out with an oops #3 but we made it work and we are very happy. I don't see any reason why you should be freaked out. It sounds like you have a great apartment, your kids go to public schools and you have great HHI. You will be very happy in the long run. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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It means your HHI is very high by NYC standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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No it does not. Being single on 80K HHI is much better off than dual income family with 3 kids. Kids are not free and do require childcare, housing, food, clothing. Each extra child comes at cost and with NYC housing and childcare costs median income is completely meaningless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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This is why it's best when one parent stays home. It's amazing how affordable children are when you raise them yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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It only makes sense if you lack the brain cells to earn enough money to make it worth while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Well, clearly you don't have enough brain cells to earn more than a mediocre $150K living. Sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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I do, I just enjoy the type of work that makes a little difference. I could earn more if I was after $$ alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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So you allege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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You can't be too "educated" if you don't understand the demographic makeup of the city in which you live ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Again, completely meaningless statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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OR is only interested in the demographics of the Joneses she is trying to keep up with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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For one, the demographic of families with 3 children would be the only demographic of relevance. right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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It doesn't matter how many kids. A household is a household is a household. There are single gay guys making $100 million a year, and there are families of nine living on $45K. It all evens out in the wash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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what is your point? OP asked about having another child. I am sharing my experience. My experience is that HHI is very important in this situation. If that isn't your experience go ahead and reply to OP with your wisdom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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That's what I've been trying to do. You don't "need" an income of over $300K to "afford" children in NYC if you know how to manage your household finances properly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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How much is your net worth? Have you enough saved for college for all of your kids? Are you going to be able to retire at 65 year of age? If by "afford" you mean living paycheck to paycheck and paying your rent on time then we have entirely different definitions of what "afford" means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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My children's college is not my concern. They can put themselves through college the way DH and I did. And we are on track to retiring by age 60. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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This is why one parent traditionally stays home. That way, there are no childcare costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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Great. Do you feel good about your choices? congratulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Someone's got a bug up her ass this morning ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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OP- You're right. I was just saying to my DH its all about $$. We're living well with 3 but a 4th is going to push us over and things will be right. And FWIW we make 700+ combined (depending on my year) and everyone is in PS. NYC is expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Do you own your apartment in good school zone? How many bedrooms/square feet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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We own. 4 bedrooms but not huge 1800sq ft- good school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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I can't tell you what school- there aren't enough with 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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I think that is great. I would love 4 and would absolutely do it on your HHI. Get a ft nanny who will agree to do all housekeeping in addition to childcare. I think the right amount of help makes all the difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Or you could do it yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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yeah, and live on 89K like the wise poster advising you. Your life will be so much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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Oh for fuck's sake. If you feel crimped on $700K you are clearly not doing it right and you're blowing money (probably up your arm or your nose). We're raising four kids in NYC on $89K/year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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I don't see where OP said she feels crimped. Congratulations on managing on 89K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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The only family I know with 4 kids in Manhattan is pretty wealthy. I know a family with 4 kids in Queens and they are immigrants w SAHM and lived very frugally until the husband's business took off - kids are now older and they are solidly MC at best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Both of my sons are going to be really short, I know I shouldn't but I feel badly for them. One of them might only get to 5'4", other possibly an inch taller. Obviously, both me and dh are short (5'2'' and barely 5'5"). Just can't help but feel bad - thinking of how they will be made fun of, etc. Think life is just harder for really short men. Boo hoo. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Feel bad, not badly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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^ You got it right the second time you said it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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op - definitely always get mixed up w/ this one. never mind being corrected so, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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+1 Also, "DH and I are short". [ Reply | More ]
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np: I am jealous of you women who received a better grammar education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Pick up a book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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growth hormones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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You don't live in NY do you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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op - no, but I used to...how could you tell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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lol -- all the men are short here. OP, bring them to NYC and they'll be fine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Or Guatemala! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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how do you know? How old are your kids now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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op - 6 and 8 yo. i know, still young but they both have been trending the same for years. 3rd and 5th percentile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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How tall are they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Well, their dad's doing alright. They'll be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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if you and dh are short how the hell did you think they'd be tall? Some of the things people feel bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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op - never said I thought they would be tall. am still allowed to feel bad. it's like if you and your dh had gigantic noses or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Fortunately, your dh can set a great example for them. And clearly, you thought a short guy was the one for you! But yeah, it might be easier in a city like NY, where there are so many people whose genetic pool guarantees that they will be short. (I'm 5'2", and all the men on my side of the family are short.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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op - so interesting about NYC. I live in a MC/UMC suburb where there are a lot of very successful, very well educated people - all the men are on the tall side. have even heard other people comment on it. must move to Central America or something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Get your dcs reading/watching Harry Potter. Daniel Radcliffe is only 5'5" or something and seems to do pretty well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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it's not really that bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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the richest guy in n NYC is only 5'5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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true that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Who? Bloomberg? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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What has your husband said about his experience as a short man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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op - he said he got made fun of some but, he's super bright and a successful MD so, that def helped. i'm sure he leaned on that as a kid. like...."I know I'm smart so I'm special" kind of thing. he does feel bad for them though and we've talked about hormones. don't really want to go that route though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do the hormones. They will do fine in life. Maybe less romantic options but still plenty, especially if they have great personalities! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Try not to even think that, they'll pick up on it. Try to think they're going to be awesome. They will pick up on that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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op - have never, ever mentioned anything to them negatively about their height. we try to tell them they can really do anything they want but we do steer them away from basketball :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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I know how you feel, OP. Except my DS is 4 and obsessed w/getting tall and big, and he keeps asking me why he is so short. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Being short for a man is like the kiss of death. At least a fat woman can always lose weight. You can't will yourself to be taller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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hmmmm - way to make me feel better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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just ask Mahatma Gandhi, there's no point in doing anything at all if you're short [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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The thing is, EVERYONE gets made fun of. EVERYONE has some thing that makes them different, and the key is to know that when people are making fun of you, it doesn't mean they hate you it just means they're trying to come to grips with your differences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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What makes short men unattractive is not the fact that they're short, but the fact that they're self conscious and insecure due to their height. I know a couple of really attractive, sexy guys who are crazy smart, successful, have a great sense of humor and are around my height (5'4"). The thing is neither of them is insecure, at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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one of my ds’s friends is short and has always been shortest in the class, etc., and he has a great attitude, is smart, upbeat, attractive, funny — he will do great in life. he’s already happy and productive with plenty of friends and a girlfriend. being short is only one attribute! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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My son is going to be really tall. He'll get made fun of too. We just have to teach them to deal with that Sort of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Short men make great dads. I see them all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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kind of a random comment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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not really. It's a major success in life to be a great dad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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make sure they have confidence and a good sense of humor and they'll be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Hoda and Kathiee as Waynes World is kinda funny. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Loved all the Today Show SNL costumes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Any moms thinner NOW than before being pregnant? How much less and how did you do it? How long did it take! Any tips!!? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Fatty mom here too - all ears. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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I'm not so thin anymore, but I EBF for 6 months and weighed less than I did before getting pregnant. I ate a lot and drank lots of milk and water. Exercise was mostly walking with the stroller. I SAH then so that definitely helped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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The nice older couple next door mixes me a daily drink with herbs and tannis root. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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have fun storming the castle! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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I'm under my pre-pregnancy weight. I'm 9 mos pp. I BF and run 2-3x/week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Yes. Lost about 60 pounds when I was pregnant. Mine was all booze weight. The biggest key was to not return to old habits. Pregnancy also made me eat healthier. I didn't really have cravings and ate sensibly throughout my pregnancy. The doctor use to tease me that the scale either went down or never changed because I was replacing fat with baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Yes, I am, probably by about 10 lbs. I didn't do anything in particular, but had my kids really, really young so that may have had something to do with it. I also really struggled to gain weight while pregnant, so I actually ended up leaving the hospital weighing less than pre-pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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zone diet delivery for 2 months, power pilates. maintenance through eating basically no breakfast, lean cuisine for lunch and just unsalted nutes & string cheese for snacks. then anything I want for dinner. I know that's opposite from how you are supposed to do it - but dinner is my favorite meal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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yes. was at adult all-time low of 107 before iu got pregnant with #1, gained 50 pounds and then got back to pre-preg weight and kept going- gettting down to 101.5/102 before i got preg with #2. gained 50+ pounds with #2 Am now about 102.5/103 but a lot more toned and actually look a lot better. thanks pilates! keep think i should try to lose extra pound but not super motivated. took me 6-7 months with #1 and alomst a year with #2 (was just less motivated). did it by counting calories and weightlifting 2x per week, pilates 1x per week and body sculpt class 1x per week. plus increasing daily walking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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I know a lot of women who are thinner now than before pregnant, myself included. It's the hectic schedule of the toddler stage, the physical exertion, and lack of time/energy to go out for nice long, calorie-dense dinners. Probably more of a reflection of my pre-baby life than anything else. I also know a lot of exercise bulimic types who just get SO skinny because in order for them to lose that tummy fat, they have to be extra skinny everywhere else. It's unfortunate because the face fat goes too and it makes them look tired/older/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:26 PM Flag
[ - ] This is the only time of year I will drink Starbucks because of the holiday drinks. The salted caramel mocha is addictive. I will only allow myself one a week and that's IF I go to the gym 3 times a week. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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It's the holy trinity of salt+sugar+caffeine. That's all there is in life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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right? it's just the worst. but so good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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don't forget the fat from the whipped cream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Awesomely good!!! Nothing wrong with one a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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I'll stick with the pumpkin cheesecake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Exercise will not mitigate the chemicals you ingest from those crap drinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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thanks grinch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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You know that she is secretly laxative mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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How's that control working out for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I am interviewing nannies and one left a message and when I dialed her number it came up as someone I interviewed 2 years ago when I needed a back up. I don't remember her at all it is just saved in my phone as (nanny-like-summer-2012). She must have answered my advertisement then and is answering it now. Are there nannies who are always looking for a better gig or is this likely a coincidence? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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2 years seems normal for nanny turnover, lots of people have a 2nd kid and move to the burbs, decide to SAH etc or decide to do preschool/daycare when they are older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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I only posted these two times so what are the odds of the same nanny looking at the exact same time unless she is always looking or rotating through jobs. KWIM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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i tend to consider that a red flag- have fallen for it at work a few times when hiring staff and have always regretted it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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really? Do you think these people are just always looking? what is going on? (I somewhat remember her and I remember that I liked her and I am pretty picky) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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hiring staff at work and hiring nanny for baby>toddler/preschooler stage are two different things in my book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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It means they can't keep a job. Red flag! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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thanks. I will not call her back then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Because of what some poster on an anon board says? If you liked her before, call her now. And,btw,I'm always on the look out for my next job. Why shouldn't a nanny be too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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I don't want someone like that. It means she will always want more $$, more benefits, more something...its not what I want in a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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in my experience best nannies rarely look for jobs through ads and are usually hired by friends or neighbors so if she is constantly on looking through ads for the last two years its a red flag. what are the chances she and op are looking at the exact same time 2 years later. most likely she is always on a look out for the next short term gig. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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2 yrs later? I agree with the above poster who said that's a natural turn-over time. And if she kept a nanny job for 2 yrs, that does not,imo, indicate a prob keeping a job. OP - call her and ck it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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op: my concern is that she is just always looking. I looked 2 x in 2 years and she answered my ad both times. odd... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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np: and these last few years have been hard on the nanny market - fewer kids, more people leaving for suburbs, more people switching to PT as soon as they can. my nanny's mom is a former nanny and she had had several long term jobs - say 5+ years each. she's lovely, experienced, still young enough to be active, legal, English-speaking, hard working, etc. but around 2007, she was having trouble finding a good fit for a long term job. After about 3 years with 3 different jobs and too much time unemployed, she went back to school for nursing. That was after being a nanny for 25 years! But during those 3 years, she was always looking for a job, because she knew that none were families that she was going to be with long-term - but she needed the work. Sometimes, it's coincidental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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You are OVER thinking this. Just call and find out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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if you liked her, call her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] What are the best streets to Trick or Treat on in Greenwhich Village/ West or East Village? Thanks! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 10.31.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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bleecker and Christopher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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I wouldn't want my kids trick or treating in those neighborhoods. It's too crazy down there tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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OMG not today - you should have come over last weekend. Go to Brooklyn Heights or Boerum Hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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Please stay out of Brooklyn Heights unless you live here. Not fair to the residents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Hey I live in the West Village...my neighborhood is already ruined for kids on Halloween. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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The West Village was never intended for kids anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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East 9th St. between 1st and 2nd Ave has a lot of small shops (including Dinosaur Hill) and is great for kids. Go early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Kids who are 18 - 22ish are still adolescents and prone to making bad choices when in the company of their peers. College kids need to reside in supervised housing, otherwise they may very well drink themselves stupid on a regular basis and get into some serious trouble. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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my dorm roommate was an alcoholic and drank peppermint schnapps every morning for breakfast. “supervised” housing doesn’t prevent alcohol abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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did not say it did however someone so irresponsible needs an adult looking out for them, clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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clearly. But dorm supervision goes only so far. I had a good friend in college who got drunk on a regular basis, was unfortunately raped after a fraternity party. While living in a dorm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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or- dorm supervision? i scoff. same roommate also was sexually assaulted at a frat party (and undressed by a guy in the main room in front of 50 people). the main activity of college was underage drinking. when i got a job and a boyfriend off campus, my RA called my parents to tell them i was missing out on the social aspects of college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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I do agree. And many kids start college before they're 18... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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yes and that is why so many of them drink themselves to death or do other stupid things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Darwinism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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Would hardly call a dorm supervised. The RAs are a year older sometimes. The advantage is group living. And peers often, but not always, help each other out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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IMHO, your best bet is so see if your kid will sign up for a substance fee dorm room, many colleges have them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Well, I'd be a hypocrite to try that. My freshman year drinking buddies are now the godparents of my children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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guess i am lucky i survived off campus housing since my school ran out of dorms rooms the year i started [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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This, but the vast majority of them get it together by junior year. The first 2 years are pretty scary tho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Are you fucking kidding me? 18 is old enough to vote, go off to war and die for your country, etc, etc. parents like you make me sick. Stop coddling your children and teach them personal responsibility and they'll ,are better choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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*make [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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Have you read ANYTHING about brain development? The part responsible for impulse control and decision making does not fully develop by 18. Biological fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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"does not *fully* develop" -- 18 is developed enough to make reasonable every-day decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Um, they go off to war BECAUSE their brains aren't fully developed. You can't get mature men to engage in the crazy that an 18 yo would-soldiers specifically included. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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So I assume you are campaigning to move the draft back to age 21, along with the minimum age for entering the military. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Where the heck do you get that?? I am simply pointing out that youth is a requirement to be a boots on the ground soldier. I am sure the military higher ups would totally agree. They do what you tell them & they believe in their missions the way more mature men are not likely to. And BTW I am grateful that we have such people willing to fight & protect this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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+1 18 is a legal adult and responsible for consequences, so an 18yo *should* have been taught by her parents how to make good decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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You're back again? FFS, your daughter has made her decision. She is staying at UVA, she is living with her friends, and she has not got into any trouble yet, so just breathe already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Seriously. Back the F off mom or she will cut you out of her life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Those who drink themselves stupid deserve what they get. They are also a minority of kids in college. Not everyone does this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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DHs who are 38-42ish are still adolescents and prone to making bad choices in the company of their peers.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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My DH is 49 and only just recently became a grown up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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I was on my own at 18 - and responsible. Thanks mom and dad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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This only applies to veal children of helicopter parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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It always seems like the RAs should be older since they seemed so old to me when I was a college freshman. When I met my dd's RA I had to remind myself that they are barely adults themselves. As for the college life - what I hear scares me. Despite the "nothing up the nose or in the arm" speech dd said the RAs gave her … she tells me cocaine is rampant and kids do it regularly. I was just getting used to the fact that pot is everywhere. Scares me to death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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These are the children you crazy women are raising these days: overscheduled, sheltered, coddled. Organic-only, nut-free, Purelled up the ass. No wonder they can't think for themselves when they go to college and end up going hog wild. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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Are you a born-again Christian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I just realized that a lot of times, my life sucks and I need to do something about it. Not terrible depression sucks, just no fun and too kid-centric. This past week, I've been rushing to either go to work/pick up dc from school/prepare meals/shop for mealsshuttle to activities and parties/buy gifts for parties/go to weekend kid entertainment stuff. What about me? I'm an adult and I want to decompress and be entertained, too! Waaaah! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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Weekend babysitter so you have a few hours to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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This is what my therapist told me. But dh feels bad because he works f/t, so weekends are the only time he gets to be with dc. We do need to schedule more dates though. Calling a sitter now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Good for you - enjoy! We sometimes do a sitter at night and other times we do a sitter for brunch (or free time) during the day. It made a big difference in how I felt just having a few hours off of the treadmill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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thanks! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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you’re right — you need to do something about it. schedule in some self-care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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Hire ther babysitter late. We often go to dinner at 9. Put kids to bed ourselves, then sitter is there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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this is a good idea. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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Why don't you schedule a massage during those weekend hours when DH is with the kids, maybe taking them to parties? And look into ways to simplify your life. Could you order groceries from Fresh Direct? Buy a few standard birthday gifts for kids your kids' ages to keep on hand, or sign up for Amazon Prime, order gifts from them, and get free 2-day delivery. I buy a lot of things through Amazon subscribe-and-save (open to anyone) and Amazon Prime Pantry (open only to prime members). The prices are very low through these services. I buy vitamins and supplements, Bob's Red Mill items like rolled oats, steel-cut oats, lentils, beans, toiletries and beauty products, toilet paper and paper towels, laundry detergent, dishwasher detergent, hand wash, bottled iced tea - the selection is huge. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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These are fantastic tips, thank you very much! I had never heard of amazon pantry, I will definitely check it out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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You're welcome. Subscribe-and-save is great, too. The prices are lower, you set up a delivery schedule (e.g., once a month, once every 6 months) but you can change it, cancel a shipment, or cancel completely at any time. Shipping is free. And if you have at least 5 items delivered in a particular month, there is an additional 15% discount on everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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You've really got it together! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Not really, but I have had to streamline some things just to survive! Two teenaged boys, one vegan, means lots of food has to come into this house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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I can't wait to hear your response to "what are you thankful for?" On thanksgiving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Not sure I understand your comment. I'm very thankful for many things. Just need more time to slow down and not feel like I'm always rushing off to the next activity/preparing for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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i hear you - single mom on top of it. I try to remember that it's better for kids to spend less time with you happy than more time when you're stressed out and grumpy. Come home after they're in bed two eves a week - possible? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] [Repost for the morning, hoping to get some advice] ....Advice needed-Dh started this new business and he has a female business partner. I am okay with it even though i haven't met her (she is based in a different country). However, today, just out of the blue, messaged me on Facebook to say she is not having an affair with dh, they are just friends and they are doing business together. I didn't think they were so i don't know what to respond. Actually, i don't even want to respond. What would you do? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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How weird. I'd show DH and see if he has any insight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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I don't want him to go back and ask her. I am curious why she would even think that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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He needs to find a new contact. This is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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np - srsly, show it to your dh. she’s his business partner. you’re his wife. he needs to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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Yes. You NEED to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Don't dignify it with a response. How does DH even know this person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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He needs a contact in that country and she is it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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I wouldn't reply. I would just send the message to dh and ask him to please address. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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this. wonder if HER spouse or partner made her do this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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I don't know her at all. I am thinking maybe she just wants to stir things up and start trouble in someone else's family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Sounds like this. Drama queen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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your dh should have more of a sense of why she said that — and he can decide what to do about it. she’s his problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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I would ask dh what prompted this message from her - also is she ESL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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show dh. ask him to work through it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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I'm a man and I'd want my wife to show this to me if she received something like it because I'd want to know that my business partner was a crazy person. With that said, it is possible that she's ham-handedly trying to throw you off the scent, but that would be a pretty amateur move on her part. Even my eight year old knows that if he says, unprovoked, "Just so you know, I definitely did NOT throw a banana into the washing machine" I'm just going to stop what I'm doing and go look in the washing machine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Thanks for a man's perspective. I just don't him to go address it with her and she would take the position that she didn't mean any harm and was just trying to allay any fears I might have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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^^^ Meanwhile, she gets the validation that she has gotten me worked up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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lol, there are ways to throw this back at your dh without getting worked up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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I just don't want her to think I am threatened by her because I am not. I think ignoring her will deprive her of that satisfaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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She's crazy and your husband needs to stop working with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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I would forward to my dh and ask what is up w/ his partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] 11 yo dd always forgets to brush her teeth. I have set up a brushing calendar, I have taken her iPod away when she forgets, I have gotten mad, I have gotten sad, I have shown her my teeth (I developed juvenile gingivitis and my teeth are a mess).......nothing (so far) works. Advice please? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Before bed: dd have you brushed your teeth yet? No? Please do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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exactly! She's still at an age where you can say "please do this now." Please do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Set an alarm in the bathroom wear she brushes her teeth. When it rings, she goes in to turn it off and brushes her teeth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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How about she doesn't GET her iPod until she brushes her teeth? She comes home from school and brushes her teeth. Then gets the iPod. In the morning, before she leaves for school, she must brush her teeth. How hard is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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I have kept the iPod for days because she kept forgetting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Does she ask for her iPod? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Then freaking REMIND her. Tell her to go brush her teeth. WHAT THE HELL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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So, if I have to remind her, she doesn't get her iPod. So, she ends up losing it for days because I had to remind her continuously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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stop making this so hard - in the morning after she eat tell her to brush her teeth at night before bed tell her to brush her teeth....kids need reminding constantly, that is part of your job as a parent to make sure she is doing these things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Okay, I am going to take to reminding her twice a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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remind her to brush her teeth at night? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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+1,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Stop getting mad and sad. Geez. You're overdramatizing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Lool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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+1 you obviously have had a bout with dental issues yourself and are imposing all this emotional crap on your daughter. she is just a kid who is forgetful. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think so. So I shouldn't remind her? She won't brush for days and her teeth have yellowed and you can chunks of the white stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ you can see chunks... [ Reply | More ]
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OMG, gross [ Reply | More ]
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it seems like you want to take yourself out of the equation? that might not be possible. she needs you to remind her. maybe she needs you to remind her because she wants a little extra attention. give it to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Yes, you are right. Just hoping she would be more independent, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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a tween who isn’t independent is zero indication of what she’ll be like later on. give her the love and support now and when her hormones and brain are straight, she’ll take over. [ Reply | More ]
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Just tell her to do it twice a day. Nothing else happens until she does it. It takes 3 minutes FFS. Just get it done. You're being passive aggressive and not getting what you want by saying she has to remember. The goal is healthy teeth not you win the power trip. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't get how I am being passive aggressive? [ Reply | More ]
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
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Why don't you take her to the dentist for cleanings more frequently if her self-care isn't up to par? And do keep reminding her. After a month or so it should become a habit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Sounds like my DD. [ Reply | More ]
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google cavity image. showing my kids disgusting cavity pcitures usually does the trick. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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You understand how kids work, don't you? They're not adults. You can't expect to tell them something once and have them remember it. Expect to remind her to brush her teeth every day for the next ten years. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What colleges are on your dc's short list? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Chapman, Earlham, Santa Cruz, Boulder [ Reply | More ]
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hippie? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Chapman is kind of So.Cal preppie, actually. Great film school [ Reply | More ]
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Go Banana Slugs! [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh to Boulder these days--the football culture there is totally out of control. [ Reply | More ]
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MIT, Stanford, Carnegie Mellon [ Reply | More ]
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Computer science or engineering? [ Reply | More ]
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Computer Science [ Reply | More ]
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Vassar, Sarah Lawrence, Wesleyan [ Reply | More ]
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Princeton. That's it. [ Reply | More ]
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good luck [ Reply | More ]
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tt hs legacy ? [ Reply | More ]
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U Chicago, Stanford, MIT, Madison [ Reply | More ]
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11-yo wants to go to Columbia so he can come home for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
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that is fairly adorable [ Reply | More ]
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UT Austin [ Reply | More ]
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Yale, Johns Hopkins, UChicago, McGill [ Reply | More ]
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McGill a safety, correct ? [ Reply | More ]
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They don't call it that anymore but, yeah. [ Reply | More ]
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Georgetown, American, George Washington, wants stop be in DC [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My dh does well and I don't need him to do anything more though he is not content with what he has accomplished so far. Has anyone else been in my shoes? I just want dh to be happy and satisfied. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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The curse of ambition. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, same here. It makes me sad that DH can't be happy with what we have. He does very well but is always comparing himself to others that have accomplished more or make more money. [ Reply | More ]
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discontent drives a lot of careers [ Reply | More ]
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Wish I had a DH like that. Mine has no ambition. He is happy with whatever shit is thrown at him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] What private school is the least cliquey? Kid is smart, friendly, but marches to the beat of his own drum. May be gay. Want a school that is very tolerant and where kids aren't snotty. Does this even exist? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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So sick of this "may be gay" shit with kids. He's a kid, stop labeling him FFS! [ Reply | More ]
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Where people like the poster above don't send their kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have any idea how damaging even subconsciously labeling your kid is? Let your dc be a kid and back off! [ Reply | More ]
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Chill out. You know nothing about my family, so zip it. [ Reply | More ]
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how damaging is it? he’s either gay or he isn’t. she’s fine with it if he is. how terribly scarring. [ Reply | More ]
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That's fine to say. He may have come out yet, but she knows. [ Reply | More ]
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“may” be gay — it’s not locked in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Gay Uncle here. LOLOL!!! Oh I assure you, honey, the "gay" is most certainly "locked in" by birth. Perhaps even earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Unicorn Prep [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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LREI may be the most gay-friendly, but the kids are pretty entitled. [ Reply | More ]
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Not Dalton - gay boys don't feel comfortable coming out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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I think this is true about Dalton. They are doing a big push to attract gay families though. And there is a visibility/ally club that has some heat behind it. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: i can't speak for how comfortable gay boys feel coming out, bc my oldest is still in early MS, but overall the community is very inclusive. ds has classmates w gay parents and has had at least one gay teacher who was out and it doesn't seem to be an issue. there are definitely boys that fall into the quirky/offbeat category and they are not alone, have friends, etc. Are those boys hanging out with the more traditional/athletic boys? maybe not, but they all get along in school and work on school projects together - and i know that at least one such boy has one hobby that overlaps with some of the more athletic-type boys and therefore they hang out. but i have been told that our year gets along very well and that other years are more cliquey. [ Reply | More ]
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Dalton is a cult. [ Reply | More ]
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Avenues [ Reply | More ]
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Bank street [ Reply | More ]
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You are obviously homophobic to assume someone thinks this "label" is a bad thing. Not everyone would be upset to find their child as gay. Sounds like they want an environment that is accepting, in case this is true. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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I'm watching this post. In the same position, but with a DD no longer in elementary school. Would love advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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So much depends on each particular class. Some are just more cliquey than other yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Packer very gay-friendly [ Reply | More ]
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St Anns [ Reply | More ]
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Any public high schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Laguardia, PPAS, Saint Ann's, LREI all have visible and happy LBGTQ kids, but they are ALL cliquey. [ Reply | More ]
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Interesting. Ok, forget the gay thing. What about private schools that just aren't cliquey? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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They all have clicks. Some schools are more committed to helping children work through them. Some schools have more effective anti-bullying policies. I'm not sure what the list is anymore but it used to be: St. Lukes, Brooklyn Friends, Steiner, LREI and Trevor. [ Reply | More ]
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Any school can be cliquey. Really depends on the grade of the particular year your dc is in. All private schools that I have seen in nyc are very tolerant and welcoming of diversity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Once you have a group of people who are paying to keep their in a specific group at the exclusion of others, it's going to have cliquey-ness. Go public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Right. Because there are never any cliques in public school. Are you living in an alternate universe? [ Reply | More ]
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Bank Street? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Hunter Elem open house? Anyone go? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] Our building did trick or treating last night. I'm eating candy for breakfast. Ugh. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I just ate four mini twixes. They are delicious... [ Reply | More ]
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I am NOT eating sugar my will power is greater than sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:23 PM Flag
[ - ] re: the Central Virginia disappearances of young women - one of them was very um active in social media with come-on photos and interactions with older men, one of which killed her; the other was very active on social media regarding her rep as a Blackout Drunk and with pix of her in the dorm with a shelf of liquor bottles (hard liquor, plus malt liquor, wine, Fireball, etc) 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Hannah graham? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Was she the slut or the alcoholic? [ Reply | More ]
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boozy [ Reply | More ]
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So? [ Reply | More ]
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'innocent' victims? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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So they had it coming or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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exactly., wtf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Not at all. There should be no consequences in life. [ Reply | More ]
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Well put it this way, if they were studying at the library instead of being drunk at midnight, Hannah Graham would be alive. [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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OH MY GOD. Stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Certainly not. We all did dumb things as teens and young people. But you play with fire, you may get burned. Also reinforces that complete stranger abduction/rape is rare - usually there is something the victim does to put themself at risk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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though the Pakistani girl walking home from the grocery store in Fairfax did appear to be guilty of nothing except being female and alone [ Reply | More ]
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Women who drink should get murdered, clearly. It's only fair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Savage Inequalities: Children in America's Schools is a book written by Jonathan Kozol in 1991 that discusses the disparities in education between schools of different classes and races. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Working through your "to read" list? [ Reply | More ]
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relevant to rapes at Bronx school post [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't that book more about funding? [ Reply | More ]
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$ is everything [ Reply | More ]
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School funding isn't, though. [ Reply | More ]
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he is the biggest hypocrite in the world. Interviewed him once and he insisted on-air that all the parents he was working with LOVED their public school, then told us off the record that he was paying for his favorite kid in the group to attend parochial school. Yet totally against charter schools/choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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great book [ Reply | More ]
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That was our Freshman orientation book at my 99% white, UMC, northeastern liberal arts college. Ironic. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Bucknell? [ Reply | More ]
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Why is that ironic? The college wanted you to look outside your bubble. [ Reply | More ]
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Remember when he went to the school in Rye? There were kids saying things like "I don't see how improving schools in the Bronx benefits me." Sounds like adults on UB. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe I'm the only person who didn't think "Death at an Early Age" was all that great. There have been many people since Kozol who say the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
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I loved that book. [ Reply | More ]
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