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[ - ] I discovered infidelity from my long term partner this past summer. After months apart, for various reasons, I have decided to give it another try. The problem is my family especially my mother. She wants to constantly remind me how stupid I look, how he will do this again, what kind of example am i setting for the kids...the list goes on and on. I don't disagree with her, i am well aware of all these things. I don't want or expect her encouraging me to try. I am just sooo tired of hearing about it. I have said this nicely and not so nicely. What can I say to friends and family when they express their feelings? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:57 AM Flag
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You over shared. You wanted their sympathy. Now they have opinions. And maybe they have some insight. Is it possible they are right and you just don't want to hear it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 09:01 AM Flag
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Do they just bring up the topic of your relationship out of the blue? Say Thanks, it will think about what you said. Then change the subject. But if you are still talking with them about your relationship, you have to expect their comments, if they care about you at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 09:33 AM Flag
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Both of the above replies are super solid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 11:50 AM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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Listen to your mother. She's right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 11:57 AM Flag
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This. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Oh please that's such bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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You should have stfu until you decided what's to do. Too late now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] If Christianity falls into a "Judeo-Christian" values system, does that imply that Judaism is part of a "Christo-Judaic" system? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:39 AM Flag
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Probably, but the first term is chronologically correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] We are temporarily moving to NYC for 4 months starting in Jan. We live in CA. What do suggest I bring/buy to survive the winter? I have a fairly warm parka and sorrels...anything else essential? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:09 AM Flag
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Hehehe. No, that's all you'll need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Mittens, hat, and a scarf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:16 AM Flag
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silk long johns for everyone--my kids wear theirs under their clothes when it's really, really cold. You are lucky b/c there's no way it can be as bad as last winter! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:33 AM Flag
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Ski masks for each family member [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:39 AM Flag
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No. Don't move here now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:10 AM Flag
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God, why? Witness protection? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I get the sense that celebrities are largely incapable of "real" relationships - they don't have actual human "feelings;" merely simulacra of emotions deployed strategically for dramatic effect. So in that sense they're kind of like sociopathic robots rather than humans. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:03 AM Flag
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how many do you personally know? know-know, beyond a hello, that is. genuine question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:26 AM Flag
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What you see in public is not who people are in private, celebrity or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 09:04 AM Flag
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I know one. He's a normal human being. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 11:51 AM Flag
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You're insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I just picked up thw wrong phone and accidentally found out that my dd (who's 20) lost her virginity last night to her very sweet boyfriend who she loves. I am busting a gut -- I feel like it's such a Red Tent moment! I can't believe she waited this long... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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Omg! Accidenly? Come on you had to do some reading to figure this out... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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Nope, my text notifications went off, and I pitched up the phone. The text from her best friend, said " so you FINALLY turned in your virgin card!! Woo woo! How do you feel?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:32 AM Flag
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:33 AM Flag
[ - ] My son is getting married!! Just got the call and couldn't be happier! My baby is getting married!! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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Congratulations!!! I hope you have a wonderful DIL :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:49 AM Flag
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She's great, couldn't be happier. Absolutely perfect for my son. I still can't believe this is happening lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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Thought he was gay, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:53 AM Flag
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Wonderful!!!! Congratulations again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:53 AM Flag
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Congratulations!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:23 AM Flag
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Your 45 year old baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:31 AM Flag
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Yay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] If you didn't care about the weather or the cost, would you choose to live in London or NYC? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:45 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:45 AM Flag
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NYC. Although the weather is a big factor, you still have the awful people and the food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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Food in London is much better now than it was 10 years ago. Weather still sucks though... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:57 AM Flag
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London is much more sophisticated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:17 AM Flag
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NYC, but would love a few years in London [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:18 AM Flag
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+1 Easy access to the rest of Europe would be awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:37 AM Flag
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would kill myself in london over one winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:48 AM Flag
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London. Lived in both cities. London has a much more integrated international crowd if u live in South Ken area. U get to travel every holiday (every 5 weeks in private schools). I loved it. U get 4 weeks for Xmas, 3 in April. Food is fantastic. If u have money it's one often he best places to live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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London, hands down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I haven't had a drink in a month and haven't lost a single pound...what an old wives tale. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:37 AM Flag
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+1000 Actually when I drink socially I lose wa few pounds (eating tiny appetizers and moving around). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:51 AM Flag
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Depends on the person. My dad drops about 15-20lbs in a month when he cuts out alcohol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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Good god. How much is he drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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My college roommate lost 20 pounds when she switched from scotch to light beer. Congrats, OP, for not drinking. Even, if you haven't lost weight, do you feel better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 09:09 AM Flag
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you have to stop drinking and then not eat those calories, something you must be doing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you judge people who send you photo cards of their kids they ordered off of JC Penney or Walmart? As opposed to a more tasteful site like Tiny Prints? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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I got cheapos from vistaprint but they don't say vistaprint. Only ones I judge are those skinny rectangle photo paper cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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I really don't notice the pics quality. I notice the paper, but even the nice sites sell all different qualities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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a little, yes. but then I feel petty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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only notice the quality of the crispness of the shot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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Oh well, guess people think poorly of us. This year did photo cards from shutterfly. I vary it each year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:21 AM Flag
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me, too. i did a skinny photo card with a low resolution shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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I did mine with snapshots from my phone printed at Costco. You'll look like royalty compared to me. I did handwrite each one, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:28 AM Flag
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Ehhh, I did Snapfish. Judge away (but my kids are beautiful, so there.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:03 AM Flag
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i don't judge any card. but i don't really understand why people send out hundreds of cards automatically, just using the school directory. if you don't hand write a few words, i don't really feel like your good wishes are very genuine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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I judge people with mortgages and crappy "great suburban" public schools who send out expensive cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:28 AM Flag
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you're acerbic and on point. ily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:30 AM Flag
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Hehehe Ty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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+1000000000000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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I try not to judge people on this stuff. Life's to short. Who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:28 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 11:51 AM Flag
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No, I judge them all the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:29 AM Flag
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Well since I haven't done them for the third year in a row, I am in no position to judge. I love and appreciate everything that gets sent to me. I know it is a PITA at a time of year when no one has any free time whatsoever, so I generally open the envelope and feel happy to have such good friends that still send us a card even though we haven't sent one in three years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:33 AM Flag
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WTH what is there to judge????? a card is a card is a card it will be tossed and destroy our environment plus the carbon prints et all...... I do it because my husband insist we should reciprocate to those who send us cards I wish I did not have to send any.As far as I am concerned holiday cards are meaningless and an exercise in futility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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No I judge the Moms that select the pics where they look great and everyone else crap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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+1 -- so true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:32 AM Flag
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No, I hadn't even noticed. I love receiving holiday cards. I do mine on a Mac. So mine are always glossy vs everyone else's are more paper like, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Psychic mom or Tarot mom? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Have any K applicants received feedback already?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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None here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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I just read some post below about getting feedback and it made me wonder if it was us or our preschool not being in the loop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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I think we are ok try not to stress! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:27 AM Flag
[ - ] My DD brought her BF home tonight. She is in love with him and wants to get married. He is a wonderful young man but not sure what he is thinking of this relationship. They are both 18 and in college. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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you never know. ask her to wait. DH and I were like this at 18 and we are now married 18 years +.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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+ I met dh at college when I was 19. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:34 AM Flag
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i'd let DD know that you liked the guy and you support their dating. but marriage? if they are meant to be together then they can be together and get married in 5 years or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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Wants to get married in college? Just smile, and say he is wonderful and after college they can get married. Then let it play out. Could go either way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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One of the ways you can be considered independent for financial aid purposes is to be married, and my friends and I joked about marrying each other all during college. Four years after graduation I did marry one of them--think of the money we could have saved! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:32 AM Flag
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Do they go to the same college? Did they meet in college 3 months ago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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Wants to get married now, or just wants to get married someday in the future? If NOW, then encourage her to wait until they're done with college. If in the future, then who cares? Maybe they'll stay together, maybe they won't, but they're happy now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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Encourage her have an "oops" baby to lock the BF down now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] May I brag? MIL's bday today. She told me I am her favorite DIL. She has 4. I love this woman! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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she said the same to the other 3. but who cares. she loves you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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I have 4 brothers. My mom says the same thing to each son and each DIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:21 AM Flag
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Ha! I'm not my MIL's favorite anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:38 AM Flag
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That's sweet. I have 5 siblings. Four of us are happy that we're not the favorite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Oh please she says the same shit to all the others. You were just dumb enough to actually fall for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone told me today that at Hunter Round 2, they write the initials of your DC's tester on the DC's nametag. Is this really true? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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i think i remember that. was a few years ago now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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really? so this is true? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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Why, what does it matter who the tester was? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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cos some testers are known to test high? also maybe they want to see kid interact will with other types of people? it's such a crap shoot to pick kids at such a young age. [ Reply | More ]
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You are so overthinking this process your anxiety will drive your dc mad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:22 AM Flag
[ - ] My downstairs neighbors are such low-lives. My apartment keeps being filled with marihuana smells and my family is being exposed to it.What should I do? They are not very responsive and landlord is pretty hands off about everything. Please help with ideas. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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seal up all your vents/outlets. sorry they are such assholes. we have a downstairs smoker as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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I never thought about the outlets, I'll do that. I think it's coming up through the wood floor too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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seal baseboards [ Reply | More ]
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Start smoking with them. It won't bother you at all [ Reply | More ]
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STFU [ Reply | More ]
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Np case in point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:35 AM Flag
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move [ Reply | More ]
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call the cops [ Reply | More ]
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i thought "low-life's" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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You're correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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You're both wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:35 AM Flag
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Haha. Do you also say, "I painted four still-lives today?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:50 AM Flag
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Drank three Miller High Lives? Watched four MTV True Lives? Hmm just made myself a nice little Saturday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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Nope, no apostrophe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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An apostrophe is used for either contraction or to make a word possessive. Neither applies here. MW says lowlifes or lowlives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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i'd call 311. if they don't have anything to say, call cops. it's unfair to expose you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:26 AM Flag
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Tell them that you really don't want your children exposed to the smoke and you don't want to call the police. Suggest they get an air filter(do your research a recommed a good one) and ask them to blow the smoke out a window. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:22 AM Flag
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You should get air purifiers too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:35 AM Flag
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Tell them to get a vaporizer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:36 AM Flag
[ - ] 2.63% of all Americans live inside of NYC city limits, and about 6.9% of all Americans live in the greater NYC metro region. It's a strong plurality compared to any other city or metro area - the comparable figures for runner-up LA are 1.2% in the city and about 5% in the metro. What's interesting is how low this is compared to many other countries. For example, London city is around 15.9% of England's population, and Greater London is around 30.2%. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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Four out of nine of the current Supreme Court justices are from New York City. Interestingly, they are from four different boroughs (with Staten Island not represented). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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np - And even more remarkable, 3 out of 4 are women - the only women justices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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^^Out of the 4 NYC justices, two went to public HSs and two to Catholic HSs. None to independent private schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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That is interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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Which schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:23 AM Flag
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Scalia: Xavier, Georgetown, Harvard Law; Sotomayor: Cardinal Spellman, Princeton, Yale Law; Ginsburg: James Madison H.S.; Cornell, Harvard Law; Kagan: Hunter, Princeton, Oxford, Harvard Law [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ Sotomayor has said she was woefully underprepared for Princeton though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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She couldn't have been that unprepared since she did really well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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In her book she says she really worked hard to catch up and to understand what the professors wanted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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Better schools inside the cities in other places. More good schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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More good schools in those cities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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You do know how small England is relative to London, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:21 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:48 AM Flag
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The Seoul metro area is 53% of South Korea's population. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] There is a fellow mom in my 18m old (second child)'s private music playgroup who is already trying to exclude me. Maybe she's a racist (who knows, I'm asian) but she is always saying things to other people in front of me like, "I'll email you..." or announcing to a group without looking at me saying, "on new years eve, come to this etc." It could be her personality (aggressive bullying type) but I find it polarizes the group a little. Play the game back? what should I do? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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are you being too sensitive (and trust me, I am sensitive myself) but maybe she and the other women are friends outside of class? I've periodically been in the same music class with other friends and could easily see one of us saying this to each other. A music class that meets 1x a week for 1-2 months is not even preschool for these types of interactions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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This. there is a difference if people are friends, get along better with each other. But at the same time, I am sensitive too and it sucks to get left out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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OR- yes, not to minimize OPs feelings at all--I was trying to put some context around it. FWIW, I've also been in classes without knowing others and have heard these conversations around me but seeing it from both sides lets it roll off my shoulders [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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OP: music group meets every week rotating each other's houses.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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how did you get involved? it seems like you all know each other then, so that changes it a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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OP: the organizer included me but I don't particularly hang out with them. In fact, I haven't had a seperate playdate with any one from the group [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Is she inviting everyone else but you, OP? or just couple moms from the group? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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OP: I have to find out if its everyone but me. But I dont understand why there would be any beef between us. I've been very cordial... but so far it seems its most of the moms, although not all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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no matter if the others are friends, it's very rude and hurtful to talk about a party to which one person in the group has not been invited. [ Reply | More ]
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