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[ - ] In this paper, we evaluate the association between wedding spending and marriage duration using data from a survey of over 3,000 ever-married persons in the United States. Controlling for a number of demographic and relationship characteristics, we find evidence that marriage duration is inversely associated with spending on the engagement ring and wedding ceremony. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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‘A Diamond is Forever’ and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration [ Reply | More ]
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Not surprised. [ Reply | More ]
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ha! Did you actually read the "study"? It's an absolute mess. The correlations are all over the place and sometimes contradict each other not to mention there is a serious question about the sample they used. [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't read the study but did they adjust for inflation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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Not that I saw but I stopped reading a few pages in. I think it's an undergrad's research paper for a class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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Andrew M. Francis. Associate Professor of Economics Emory University. Ph.D., Economics, University of Chicago, June 2006 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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Atlanta, not Chicago. From the conclusion of the paper "We find that marriage duration is either not associated or inversely associated with spending on the engagement ring and wedding ceremony. Overall, our findings provide little evidence to support the validity of the wedding industry’s general message that connects expensive weddings with positive marital outcomes. In future research, it may be useful to construct a population-representative longitudinal sample of dating couples, following them through the multiple stages of their relationship and gathering prospective information on wedding expenses and marital quality" [ Reply | More ]
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That link is for a download. Were you trying to direct me to his CV? He's an econ professor, not a social scientist. He also tried doing studies on HIV. Regardless, his conclusion and his statistical findings on this topic go no further than the rather obvious conclusion that spending more on your wedding or engagement ring does not improve the odds of positive marital outcomes. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Going through tough times with 14 yo dd. She constantly complains that she's "fat", "ugly," and "disgusting." The truth is she is slightly chubby but it's nothing serious. She is seeing a therapist and doesn't seem to be making any progress. Not sure where to go from here. 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Is there something else going on in the family right now? 14 is a tough age. Your body is getting more feminine fat on it and everyone starts dieting. [ Reply | More ]
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No, nothing else going on. I don't know how to deal with this [ Reply | More ]
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Are you skinny? Does your husband comment on women's bodies/weight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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I am overweight, DH is average and very non-judgmental about bodies. Never comments on weight, ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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I'd talk to her about how much time women waste worrying about this type of thing and tell her not to get caught in the trap and to spend her time and energy working on her schoolwork, developing her talents and having healthy habits. Compliment her on all the things she does well. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Ok, I don't mean to sound snarky, but having an overweight mom tell you "you're not fat!" is probably not as comforting as you think it is. Why don't you instead say "You are beautiful, but let's work on getting healthy together". Then take a class in healthy cooking, join a gym or take a class or join a running club or something together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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She already plays 3 sports. [ Reply | More ]
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Weight lifting, field hockey and softball? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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No, swimming/basketball/tennis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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But she's obviously not feeling good. Sports are fun, but gym classes make you feel like you're really accomplishing something/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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LOL omg [ Reply | More ]
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Um, you clearly have never played a sport at a high level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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I did, actually, I was a gymnast for 14 years, quit when I was competing at Elite level. If you are "chubby" you are probably not playing a sport at a high level. Which is fine, like I said, sports are fun, but it doesn't mean you can't also go to the gym or go running. [ Reply | More ]
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I am not OP, and I'm not chubby. But competing in a sport is a much bigger "accomplishment" than going to the gym. [ Reply | More ]
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I get what you're saying. I think I miscommunicated. In an overall, well-being, life-lesson type of way, yes, playing a sport is more of an accomplishment. I meant in a strictly body-improvement sense, a gym class FEELS like a bigger accomplishment. I'm sure I burned many more calories doing a floor routine than I ever have in SoulCycle, but I always walk out of Soul feeling like I'm in better shape than when I walked in. KWIM? [ Reply | More ]
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np I don't KWYM. I felt just as much like I'd accomplished something after a hard practice as any other kind of workout back when I played sports. [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. She is big, but she is good at sports. She is headed to the state swimming championships this fall. [ Reply | More ]
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Congrats to her but she should drop about 60lbs if she wants to be Missy Franklin [ Reply | More ]
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Why would she want to be Missy Franklin? [ Reply | More ]
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Is this a joke? [ Reply | More ]
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Having a thin mom tell you you're not fat isn't comforting either. I generally think this is a terrible idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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Is the therapist skinny? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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^This never even occurred to me. Do you think the therapist might have said something to her about weight? Therapist is a skinny marathon runner. [ Reply | More ]
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Time needs to pass and move forward. Phases like this don't get resolved quickly ... She has to walk through the age. Just keep telling her that everyone her age feels awkward, that she is a perfectly lovely girl just like anyone else, and consistently remind her of the things to appreciate about herself. [ Reply | More ]
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It's a tough time and the other kids can be rough too. You can always talk about things to do when she is feeling down. Stuff that doesn't involve eating, spending money or anything dangerous to herself or others. A website that makes her happy, a good smell, petting an animal etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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I suggest talking to her about being healthy and suggesting that you both try a workout class together and some healthy recipes (skinny taste has some good ones). I'd also have a makeup artist work up a routine for her that is age appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
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I watched the 7 Up film series on dvd with my then-14-year-old daughter. (The series that follows a group of Brits every 7 years.) I think it helped her put the age in perspective. 14 was a dip for everyone. By 21 things were looking up again. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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how old does it go up to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Tell her you don't want to hear about her body, you want to hear about her mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Does she have a sport? I think girls who are into sports may have healthier body images since they are focused on what their body can do vs just how they look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Yes, she does swimming, basketball, and tennis. She's good at all of them. She gets a lot of exercise but is still big. [ Reply | More ]
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Is chubby 5'4 and 150 or 180? [ Reply | More ]
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She is 5'8" 200 [ Reply | More ]
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^^But does not look nearly that heavy. She is active and has a lot of muscle. [ Reply | More ]
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That is not chubby..it's obese. Help the poor girl get her diet under control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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She's really not obese. She's been huge since she was a baby, always followed her growth curve. Pediatrician says this is just her body type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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np: i'm pretty darn accommodating on the body type thing - but as someone who is 5'8 and was not that long ago 200 lbs, i can tell you that it's really unhealthy. even w a lot of muscle. 5'8 is tall enough that if you are well-proportioned you don't look obese, but no matter how much muscle, your BMI is way too high. [ Reply | More ]
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np: ok so what size is she? [ Reply | More ]
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You're delusional. She's 60 lbs overweight at 5'8". Even if she was 40, she shouldn't be much more than 160lbs at that height. [ Reply | More ]
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Is this for real? If it is she needs to lose weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Yes, I know she could drop some weight. She is already very active. She knows how to eat healthy (though whether she follows through is a different story). There's only so much I can do as a parent. [ Reply | More ]
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I would focus on getting her to a healthy weight. That will help her in the long run more than going to a therapist. Take up running with her and do some healthy meal planning with her. [ Reply | More ]
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No way could I keep up with her running [ Reply | More ]
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then just get her to go running. running will help her lose weight - much more than swimming. [ Reply | More ]
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how can i force her to run?? [ Reply | More ]
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you can't but you can tell that if she's concerned about her weight that running is a good sport to take up. you can also tell her its a great life sport too. [ Reply | More ]
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Then ride a bike while she runs..or get in shape yourself and take your DD to Weight Watchers so you can both lose weight [ Reply | More ]
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Np. Who are you people...why would a 14 yo want to run with her MOTHER? WTF? Do you have toddlers? [ Reply | More ]
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Hey! I am 5'4" 150 and don't consider myself chubby. :( [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry - you're chubby. Short and fat is not a winning combination. [ Reply | More ]
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np: i'd rather be short and fat than have your winning personality. idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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Someone has to tell her. Can't have the poor lady waddling around, clueless. [ Reply | More ]
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it's so hard. try to discourage her from reading magazines like Seventeen,etc. Even though all the female actresses they see are so thin. what's her peer group like? [ Reply | More ]
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She is definitely one of the heaviest girls in her class, despite being very athletic. It never seemed to bother her until this year. I think the problem is that some of her friends have started to date, and she feels left out [ Reply | More ]
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She won't get dates. She's the fat girl. You really need to get her help losing 30 lbs. then she can still be big boned but normal. Maybe she needs to see a nutritionist? Or a different therapist [ Reply | More ]
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This. I'm sorry op, but I'm 5'8, athletic and was 200lbs when I gave birth. I need to be about 150-160 to fit into a size 8, and most importantly, feel good. Get your daughter on a diet. She can do weight watchers online, my fitness pal on her phone, whatever. No one has to know. But she will be so much happier if she's not heavy. High school isn't esy to begin with. Everyone here is giving you honest advice, and while some of it sounds harsh, I think you would be wise to get on top of this. I think a lot of us have been the fat girl and can relate. It sucks. [ Reply | More ]
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np Call it healthy eating, not a diet. My fitness Pal is good. Oh, and if you have soda and juice around, stop buying it! Easy to knock back hundreds of cals a day. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Tried out possible nanny today. Ran an errand and asked her to burp the baby and put her to bed. Came back an hour later to baby crying and her telling me she didn't burp her because she fell asleep so she probably just needed to be burped. She told me DB slept and just woke up but DB looked really agitated and tired. Just not sure I believed her about any of it. Do I try again or just move on? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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move on [ Reply | More ]
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Go with your gut feeling. You'll never know the facts. [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you go out when you are doing a trial? [ Reply | More ]
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In front of me she is attentive, etc. Wanted to see how it goes when I step out. [ Reply | More ]
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Move on because she couldn't follow a simple instruction! This is also why people put in nanny cams. Your poor infant can't tell you anything. Was the nanny flustered? [ Reply | More ]
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She seemed a little overwhelmed and right away started making excuses. Saying she just woke up etc. The cry sounded tired and aggravated, not like she just woke up. Wish I had a camera. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes please consider this especially with a young baby. No she is not the right nanny for you. How much experience did she have? [ Reply | More ]
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She was a housekeeper but not nanny. Came recommended from a friend but admittedly friend said I would have to evaluate her differently since different skill sets. [ Reply | More ]
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Move on because she couldn't follow a simple instruction! This is also why people put in nanny cams. Your poor infant can't tell you anything. Was the nanny flustered? [ Reply | More ]
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She is really inexperienced. What the hell [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. She tried to do some housekeeping while I was away which was nice but not the important factor here. I want to know if she can care for my baby, nothing else. [ Reply | More ]
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If this was a single incident I'd give her a little more time. [ Reply | More ]
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(and I say this because she came recc'd by a friend,which is a really nice place to start) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Tried out possible nanny today. Ran an errand and asked her to burp the baby and put her to bed. Came back an hour later to baby crying and her telling me she didn't burp her because she fell asleep so she probably just needed to be burped. She told me DB slept and just woke up but DB looked really agitated and tired. Just not sure I believed her about any of it. Do I try again or just move on? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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move on. you don't see to trust her. Is this your #1? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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You know how I knew I found the right nanny? She took him for 10 minutes so that I could get dressed and ready to get out the door and it was like db new she has done this million times and she was so so good at this and so much better than my 1st self. She was great and I had her for 3 years. This is what the right nanny feels like. Like a mentor to a new mom. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Please do not be the mom who tries to speak for (and fails) for an ENTIRE region of the country or for an entire city. Usually it is only jackasses who do this however, it makes me crazy. Also, please do not give treats to your child's class during a holiday entirely based on candy consumption. signed, moms who have a effing clue. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What are treats entirely based on candy consumption? [ Reply | More ]
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I think she meant the holiday? [ Reply | More ]
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oh, ok! [ Reply | More ]
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I wasn't sure either until I read it a few times. That said, I don't think candy is a big deal. Whatever. I have never restricted candy and my kids are not weird about it. We have a candy drawer in the kitchen and I know there is still candy from last Halloween in there. [ Reply | More ]
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Please learn to express yourself clearly. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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What holiday is going on right now? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/o lunch post. DH has recently started packing lunch for the kids. The school called me last week because he was putting GRAPE SODA in their thermoses. On the one hand, I was like wtf DH? But on the other hand...should the school really be getting that involved? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Was the grape soda already in the house or did he run out and buy it? [ Reply | More ]
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It was already in the house. I keep soda on hand for special occasions. This was left over from a birthday party. [ Reply | More ]
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who keeps grape soda in the house? [ Reply | More ]
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People who have fun in life. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah because nothing says "fun in life" more than grape freaking soda. [ Reply | More ]
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Grape soda is fucking awesome about four times a year, you fun-sponge. [ Reply | More ]
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Grape soda can go with some recipes. You'd be surprised [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Schools have gotten tired of dealing with cranky, tired and disruptive kids who haven't eaten a proper meal so there is currently a big focus on giving kids a decent meal. [ Reply | More ]
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He packed plenty of healthy stuff too. Sandwiches etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd tell the school to screw themselves. Not that I love grape soda, but it's not a safety issue for other kids, so it's not their business. [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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If you care about your child's education you don't tell the school to screw itself. [ Reply | More ]
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Why didn't they call your DH? No you can't send soda. But you're not his mom [ Reply | More ]
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They called the house. [ Reply | More ]
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Do they have a policy about not sending soda? [ Reply | More ]
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Not that I know of. [ Reply | More ]
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That's insane. If there were a morbidly obese child I can see how they might want to intervene with some health education but calling over having soda (just a few times recently?) is insane. They are missing the mark big time. [ Reply | More ]
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did the soda explode and make a mess? [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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^^DC said the teacher asked what he had in his thermos. That's how she found out. [ Reply | More ]
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They called and said what? Don't send soda? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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That would annoy me so much. I'd be tempted to just keep doing it out of spite. Or sending even more outrageous things. Pixie sticks. Sacks of candy. Slices of confetti cake... [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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The school was over reaching but they weren't wrong. So don't get hung up on whether the school was right or wrong to get involved. Just get your kids something better to drink. [ Reply | More ]
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Unless your DCs are acting badly because of the soda or it's causing problems with the other kids, it's really none of the school's business. I don't send soda but it is up to each family what to send. Also, I know schools want kids to have a healthy lunch but it might actually make sense to include treats at lunchtime where they are easier to regulate and burn off during the rest of the day. [ Reply | More ]
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Get some grape juice instead. Tastes great; or try cranberry. No soda, it's for the weekend but DH meant well. [ Reply | More ]
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In thermos it must have been flat. Yuck! [ Reply | More ]
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So grape juice that's not really juice would be any better? They need to MTOB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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He should not be sending soda to school. That's disgusting. Why do so many dh's care so little about nutrition? As for the school, I don't know...I've had teachers confide in me how upsetting it is to see the junk kids bring for lunch. Of course what they eat has a big effect on their behavior and ability to learn. It's just not fair to do that to your kids, and teachers are people too. They get upset. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] No bigger turn-off than a man wearing shiny, pointy shoes with his suit. I don't care how much they cost - it's emasculating. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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ITDA [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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If his suit is nice enough, my gaze doesn't go much further than about 6" below the belt. [ Reply | More ]
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Word! You're checking his cock! You dirty bird. [ Reply | More ]
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;) [ Reply | More ]
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How about a man 60 pounds overweight in a dirty Darth Vader t-shirt. Would that be a bigger turnoff for you? [ Reply | More ]
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Is that your DH? [ Reply | More ]
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op: My husband just bought these because I said his other dress shoes were too faggy: http://www.church-footwear.com/en/UK/man/triple-sole/shannon/polished-binder-black [ Reply | More ]
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should have gotten balmorals rather than bluchers if he's wearing them with a suit. which he probably is if they're in black. imo. [ Reply | More ]
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These scream "middle management" [ Reply | More ]
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ita [ Reply | More ]
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op: He's a journalist, not a captain of industry, so they'll pass. [ Reply | More ]
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I like these. [ Reply | More ]
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How pointy are we talking here? [ Reply | More ]
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how about these https://i.imgur.com/BaDMjhe.jpg [ Reply | More ]
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op: Like the color, but still too pointy. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, I'm a dude who admittedly knows nothing about shoes. Can you clue me in to what IS acceptable to wear with a basic, navy suit? Or with basic khaki pants on a day like today? To give you a sense of where I'm starting from, these are the boots I'm wearing today with said khaki pants. http://thumbs4.ebaystatic.com/d/l225/m/mDsts2E57t3lXqfPI4K8vRA.jpg [ Reply | More ]
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op: I think Alden boots and shoes are both manly and awesome - for example: http://unionmadegoods.com/product/alden-stanyan-plain-toe-boot-in-burnished-dark-tan-d3811c/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do men want to sodomize women so much anyway? Are they secretly homosexual? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The taboo of it, I think. [ Reply | More ]
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It is a demonstration of dominance. [ Reply | More ]
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But that's not universal among men, even in more "patriarchal" cultures. Anecdotally, one of the warnings that Chinese women give to each other about dating westerners is that western men "will put things in your butt." Western societies are generally a lot less patriarchal than Chinese society, but Chinese men apparently aren't as interested in sodomizing their women. Why is that? [ Reply | More ]
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Everything is socially constructed. Just add this to the pile. [ Reply | More ]
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True. I've been flamed for saying this before but my guy friends all say this is something they only enjoy with women they don't love and would not/have not done it to their serious gf or wife. [ Reply | More ]
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+ They know it's painful. [ Reply | More ]
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New hole. [ Reply | More ]
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violence, dominance, control, power, contempt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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All of the above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Girl buns are nice [ Reply | More ]
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I think so. [ Reply | More ]
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Sodomy means oral as well as anal. You don't mean that, do you? [ Reply | More ]
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I think that as sex becomes more available in society and less taboo, people will continue to push the envelope into new areas to keep it exciting. it used to be that sex was something you had w prostitutes and then when you were married. and your wife did not do anything but plain vanilla sex. now, most guys have done 100x more than that before they are 21. [ Reply | More ]
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I love anal or being fingered in the ass or played with. DH hates it and has never tried it with me. I am amazed that so many men like it now. Before DH some of my bf's liked it and some didn't. I have been married for 20 years. I guess the new generation is more open about it [ Reply | More ]
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I have never met a guy who wasn't into it. [ Reply | More ]
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My dh sadly and I am so into it. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't need to be homosexual to appreciate a tight hole. [ Reply | More ]
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They want to do anything they see in porn. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O what time is your 7 yo in bed? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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7.5 year old in bed 8pm last year was 730. weekends 9 maybe 930 [ Reply | More ]
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830-9 [ Reply | More ]
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Is dc tired the next day? [ Reply | More ]
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No. She is actually 6.5. We put her to bed around 8. She reads until she falls asleep. [ Reply | More ]
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8:30-9. [ Reply | More ]
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10pm [ Reply | More ]
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730 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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between 8:30 and 9. [ Reply | More ]
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My 6yo goes to bed 7:30-8:30pm and will probably continue to do that next year too. [ Reply | More ]
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7:30 on school nights but we are up by 6:30 AM. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] For several months, I have been suffering from migraines. The past few days, I have been getting sharp pains on one side of my head that seem to come and go randomly. Could this be something more serious than just a headache? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Worst case would be trigeminal neuralgia. More likely case is something related to migraine or issues in the neck. Do you spend a lot of time hunched over? Might help to strengthen your core and mid-back to hold yourself more erect. [ Reply | More ]
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omg thank you dr google [ Reply | More ]
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I do hunch all of the time. What is trigeminal nerualgia and is it serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you pack in DC's lunch box on a typical day? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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sandwich & fruit [ Reply | More ]
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fresh lard spread on hardtack [ Reply | More ]
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Sandwich (turkey, roast beef, ham, or bologna), cheese stick, chocolate milk, piece of fruit, and one junky item (small bag of chips or a few cookies) [ Reply | More ]
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fluff and nutella sandwich, cookies, juice box, some fruit [ Reply | More ]
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really? [ Reply | More ]
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? [ Reply | More ]
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np. My kid loves fluffernutters [ Reply | More ]
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yes really and my DC is not fat [ Reply | More ]
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My kid is 11 and super picky. He gets the same lunch every day: Bologna on white bread with Kraft Deli Deluxe American cheese, mayonnaise and yellow mustard. Carton of juice. Bag of ruffles potato chips. Apple. [ Reply | More ]
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This is amazing. [ Reply | More ]
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How so? An entire generation grew up on that exact same lunch and we were a hell of a lot skinnier than most kids today. [ Reply | More ]
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And they are now battling cancer and autoimmune diseases. [ Reply | More ]
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omfg. get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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And I knew a 115 pound vegan yoga freak who had a heart attack at 44. If she had died at least she'd have had a good lunch during her time on earth. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see anything wrong with it, either, to be honest. [ Reply | More ]
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Varies but usually leftovers from the night before in a thermos (eg lasagna, chicken/rice, wedding soup, etc), piece of fruit, some sort of vegetable (eg snap peas, cucumbers, tomatoes), some kind of carb (pretzels, crackers, tortilla chips) and water [ Reply | More ]
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Hard-boiled egg or sandwich with a little cream cheese and ham or salami, yogurt smoothie, cucumber, carrots, fruit (melon,grapes, strawberries,orange), cheese stick. Sometimes a small ziplock with popcorn or pretzels for later, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Different every day- pasta, rice, couscous, veggies, fruit, rice cakes, yogurt, cheese, burritos... [ Reply | More ]
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soup, 1/2 a sandwich, apple slices and a yogurt. [ Reply | More ]
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Pumpkin or sunflower butter sandwich, fruit, veggie sticks, crackers and cheese, beans and rice, avocado, crackers and cheese etc. also those dr praegers broccoli bites. Sometimes leftover soup [ Reply | More ]
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leftovers (soups, rice and beans, cut up meat) or sandwich. Usually vegetable (tomatoes or carrots) and a fruit or yogurt and nuts. Check out 100 days of real food. Much of it is lunacy but she has good lunch ideas [ Reply | More ]
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ham or cheese sandwich or roll up, apples or carrots, pretzels and something sweet. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What should I work on next? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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M theory. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok. Will get back to you after I've proven it. [ Reply | More ]
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Sweet. Can you get that to me by like 7? I have somewhere I need to be. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
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The entire string project is a waste of so much talent. Curve fitting run amok. [ Reply | More ]
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I will google this and be back to you soon with a witty reply [ Reply | More ]
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finding the cure for herpes - i'm having an outbreak right now and sure wished there was a cure [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, after I unify all string theory, I will do that. [ Reply | More ]
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Cold fusion [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Michael Brown's autopsy backs up the cops's story that Brown reached for the cop's gun. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Thug criminal black was in the wrong when a cop shot him? This is a shocking development indeed (said no one with half a brain) [ Reply | More ]
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This is getting buried in the news. And of course no one here wants to discuss it [ Reply | More ]
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They want to use the fact that the grand jury returns no indictment as a way to "Get Out the Vote" closer to the election, so it's important that the media not publicize the fact that the cop was telling the truth [ Reply | More ]
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Oh yeah people will stop rioting now. They will believe the autopsy. [ Reply | More ]
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How does it feel under that ton foil hat of yours? [ Reply | More ]
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It doesn't back up that he reached for the gun, only that when at least one of the shots was fired Brown was near the window of officer Wilson's SUV. The bigger issue, I think, is that after this altercation at the Police SUV Brown fled and was shot some twenty feet away from the police officer. [ Reply | More ]
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No they look at the angle and the distance as well as many other metrics. How much more proof do you need? [ Reply | More ]
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What metric contradicts the statement that Brown was over twenty feet away and unarmed when he was shot in the head? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Name Poll: Augustus and/or August 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I like both. [ Reply | More ]
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both are nice but August is a little more gentle to the ear. My dc know a few Augustus and the go by Gus (a few are French and they pronounce it Goose). [ Reply | More ]
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Love both. Would probably lean toward august. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Is it cheesy if bday is in fact August? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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It is. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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don't like either of them [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Love them. Also, love "Leo." [ Reply | More ]
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Augustus Gloop, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
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my first thought [ Reply | More ]
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Augustus is pompous as hell. I actually like August. [ Reply | More ]
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I hate the nn Gus. Hate it. [ Reply | More ]
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how about Augustin? [ Reply | More ]
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Really? [ Reply | More ]
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Love this Spanish name. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] What happened to Tory Burch's line? It got all logoy (It was more subtle in the beginning and kind of cool/different) and suburban. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's so awful. If I see those flats or that logo I think secretary. [ Reply | More ]
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the flats are the worst! I think of someone who says things like "are these 'in' or is this 'trendy'"? gag. [ Reply | More ]
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God forbid one should look like the help [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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It's perfect for the PTA meeting in Columbus, Ohio. [ Reply | More ]
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Hahaha [ Reply | More ]
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who also wears wedge flip-flops, no just no. [ Reply | More ]
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I love flip flops. Different category they can look hip. TB never looks hip. [ Reply | More ]
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PSA: Flip flops never look cool off of the beach. Sandals, maybe, but wearing flip flops in the city is just disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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And Atlanta [ Reply | More ]
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It is to 2014 what Coach was so 2004. [ Reply | More ]
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Great call. [ Reply | More ]
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She's also annoying as a person. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please spill the beans???? [ Reply | More ]
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typical self involved control freak, who has a serious case of tunnel vision with the light shining only on her success. [ Reply | More ]
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np: she is Jewish, graduated from Penn, and her mom was a bit actress who had an affair with marlon brando. i think that's pretty cool! [ Reply | More ]
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one 1 out of 3 of those things is cool. [ Reply | More ]
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one = only [ Reply | More ]
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taken together, is very cool. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] The soldier in Canada died. RIP. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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aweful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.22.14, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here, I want to fuck my coworker really bad but she's married and I think some kind of a Christian. Any advice on making this happen? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yawn. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm serious, I'd like some advice here. Never done this before. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm serious too. [ Reply | More ]
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Listen troll, just move on if you're not going to be constructive. [ Reply | More ]
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Ditto! [ Reply | More ]
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Fantasies at home are all you'll get [ Reply | More ]
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No we're well past that already. [ Reply | More ]
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Then you don't need any help. [ Reply | More ]
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I need help with a *married Christian coworker*. Please read the thread. [ Reply | More ]
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You have definitely come to the right place. We are very pro-adultery on here. Go pedal it elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
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Enough women here have been on the receiving end of the coworker D, I'd like to take advantage of the wealth of expertise. [ Reply | More ]
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*peddle* Learn to spell. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell her you are Jesus and the only save all the sinners is to sleep with you [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Do you think this will work? [ Reply | More ]
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If she over reacts just pretend nothing happened and make her seem crazy to other coworkers [ Reply | More ]
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Go to hell, idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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Christian girls are the freakiest in bed. They love to fuck! You see her religion as a hindrance, but unless she's older and more of a "church lady" type I think she'll be down to fuck, as they say. SO MANY handjobs on the bus to Bible camp. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks, this is good advice! [ Reply | More ]
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