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[ - ] can ladies who have had c section give me insight on how you felt when you returned home with db- what were you able to do and not to do??? i am in great shape (tennis pro) hoping that will help TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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no lifting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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no sex for about 18 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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Is this your first dc? My first cs was fine...other than a little pain during recovery, I was fine. My second cs was more difficult due to post op complications (lots of water retention) and the fact I had an older dc to deal with. You just don't get as much rest/recovery with the 2nd no matter what method of delivery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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oh, i forgot about the water retention! I felt like someone had pumped me up with water, especially legs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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it took a month for it to go away...I was so full of it I could not wear the outfit I wore into the hospital to give birth. Sad but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] COOKING moms: I just had a thought...can I stuff fresh raspberries with goat cheese and serve this as an app? Is this gross? I am not the best in the kitchen but want to be more adventurous...tia. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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raspberries are not going to hold up to being stuffed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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How would you stuff the raspberries without them falling apart? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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with raspberries and goat cheese, I would add some mesclun and either pecans or walnuts, with a light vinaigrette [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I might soften the goat cheese a bit in the mixer, and then hand fold in the raspberries and serve with crackers or fresh bread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know if its possible to rent an infant car seat from a rental car company in LA? If so which one? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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most rental car companies will rent you an infant or toddler seat for an additional fee. You won't know which brand seat it is until you're there. bring a seat cover if you have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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great thanks>! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] http://youtube.com/watch?v=KK0R4A4-82Q 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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^^This proves Mr. Big leaves Carrie at the alter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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altar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] why does it seem so hard to get a conversation on the new ub site? veru frustrating 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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because no one's here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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where is everyone??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Hellloooo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I did my first IUI with injectibles today. Had six mature follicles. (between 18-20 mm). 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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op: sorry - i got cut off - i meant to ask: am i right to be cautiously optimistic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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yes anyone doing fertility treatments should be cautiuosly optimistic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Is "Golden Compass" appropriate for a family movie night with 7 yo and 3 yo? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I thought it was ok. Maybe 7 year old will like it but not the 3 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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7yr old yes. 3yr old won't get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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3 y/o might be bored and/or scared [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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ok. I'm okay with that--he just loves sitting with us all eating popcorn and watching whatever. I'm really wondering if 7 yo will enjoy it. She's a pretty mature moviewatcher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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nP then it's ok. My 3yr old has watched Star wars with us. She likes being with the crowd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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what is it about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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that movie is a waste of time. rent the Black stallion, wizard of Oz, back to the Future, Howls moving castle ANYHTING but that stupid compass movie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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too bad! I already got it from Netflix today. (But we LOVE LOVE LOVE Howl's Moving Castle!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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try the black stallion next time or the ORIGINAL Dr. Doolittle (rex harrison) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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secret garden, Sounder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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that movie was AWFUL , just ask my 5,7&9yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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oh, shoot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] is it complicated or time consuming to install booster car seats (ones with the back)? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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not really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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it isn't that bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] this denise richards is making me SICK!!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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she is a whackadoo...you can see it in her eyes. Crazy tends to travel in pairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I had sex on the subway last night! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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did you wipe the seat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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No wonder those subway cars sway so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.08, 11:07 PM Flag
[ - ] bought suchi 2 nights ago, still good? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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not unless it's cooked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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its all cooked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] ok what celebs are you SURE had ivf? where did they go? post only of you are sure...and how you know 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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asking the whole damn world, I see [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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20/20 vision - i am impressed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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I am so clever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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stop posting on all these boards! this is not a SN issue, board whore! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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just for that i will continue to post this way...biatch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] sent dh an e-mail hours ago asking him to come home early, when I say early I mean not 9pm. talking 6. He has a desk top computer, a lap top computer and a blackberry phone, there is not way he did not get this message, he never answered. I know he out at a summer associates drinking lunch still. This guy works his butt off, he really does, but when I ask him for one small favor (i am preg. and dd is sick and he was away all week) he can't even do that for me. why? 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.23.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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putting it off, knows you'll yell at him when he gets home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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With that kind of biglaw money you can just hire some help. Do that instead of ragging on your poor overworked DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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np: that is such a bullshit way of thinking. Why should she have to hire someone to do what HE as the other parent should be doing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Um, why doesn't she get a job then so that BOTH of them have the same responsibilities? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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what? you don't think staying at home with her dc is work? it's a hell of a lot of work. Even if she did have a job outside the home the parents should be parents. They should work as a team. If one is sick the other takes over. Why have this BUY mentality..let's just hire help and not have to worry about being a parent? He needs to be a dad and a husband. If the roles were reversed, I'm sure he would be pissed and annoyed she was leaving him to deal alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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I was a SAHM mom for 2 yrs. Sorry, it's not that hard. Yes, you need a break once and awhile but it's nothing like working at a law firm. Plus, since her DH is the only breadwinner, there is extra pressure for him to succeed at his job (heard about the biglaw layoffs lately?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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oh please. Just because you had a good time at home for 2 yrs and found it easy doens't mean your experience is everyones experience. I stay at home with 2 dc and am disabled (with no help). When I am too sick, my dh steps up to the plate. He's my dh, he's their father. Why shouldn't he be helpful when he's needed. Yes he works long hours too but so what? That's part of being a parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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I am the OP and He is not the only breadwinner, that is beyond the point and I am sorry that you think he deserves special treatment because he "works" harder by getting to leave the house and sleep through the night while tend to sick child because I have a flexible schedule. I work every bit as hard as he does and he has never even spent more than 5 hours with his dd without help from his mother, so I don't think he thinks this is an easier job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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And yet you decided to have another baby with him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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wow, just, wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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If the situation isn't working, then she needs to fix it - not just add another DB to the mix. If DH won't step up and she's overwhelmed, then she should arrange for a sitter/nanny a few hours a week. I hate it when ppl complain about the status quo but just keep maintaining it anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP: this is hardly the situation, I am just venting, I suppose you or someone you know is having a major issue in this area, but really, this is not me. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Who the hell are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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exactly and who raised her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Ok, so why doesn't she get a job so that her DH can work fewer hours and spend more time with his kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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OMG, I work part time from home with no help. I hardly asked him to be a big shot lawyer and I am about to give birth in two weeks, you guys are ridicolously hard on other women. I never ask him for help, never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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don't get worked up over their ignorance. You are 100% right in feeling like he needs to step up and not ignore your email [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Thanks.Jeez, I never thought I'd get so little sympathy from other women. Is it just me or are other moms that much harder on each other lately? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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this is just entertainment for them. sorry you're angry and overwhelmed. not answering your email is unacceptable, even if it is to say he can't come home early tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Hire part time help. Once you have the second one you are going to lose your mind. Definitely hire some help. Don [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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yeah ok blame the pg, sick wife. Geez who raised you ppl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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I agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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really, you think he shouldn't come home and that I the overworked, pregnant mother is wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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Yes. I think that he works hard enough so rather than add to his problems you should just hire some help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Well, I guess it is weird to me to hire someone when DH is the father and I never ask him for help and I just need him to come home tonight (did I mention that he's been away all week, that dd is sick and that I preg?) so sympathy from you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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see how bad it is, I said I is instead of I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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because you allow him to get away with it. I'm not blaming you but ppl treat us how we let them. Put your foot down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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Emotionally, ita with you. You want your dh to be available, doing his share, etc. Realistically, he can't jeopardize his standing at work. It's a toss up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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He's a partner, he is really ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Then this isn't new, is it? Meaning, he does this all the time, right? Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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Yeah, that was the point of my post, why can't he do this one favor for me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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np: He's probably a creature of habit. If you usually seem like you can handle everything and don't regularly ask him for help, then he's probably more likely to think you can still get by. Perhaps have a serious conversation with him when he gets home about the help that you need, and perhaps enlist his help on a more regular basis so he sees 1) what it takes and 2) is used to it. (This is all based on your post above where you say you never ask for his help.) Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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You're right. You are 100% right. as good as I am at being capable, it makes me seem less needy, I do have to convince when I am need help with most things. You're right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Good luck. I don't get the people above. Having a job doesn't absolve a person of all responsibilities at home. That's just ridiculous. Your kid is sick, you're pregnant -- you have every right to try and enlist his help. The idea that any woman, SAHM or WOHM, should have to go it alone because the DH has a power job is stupid. Of course you ask each other for help. That is called a marriage. You're not asking him to scrub a toilet...anyway, good luck. I hope your dd feels better soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Thanks again. I appreciate your understanding nature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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I was you just a few months ago (e.g. toddler + pregnant + I was sick). I had a very, very similar situation with my DH -- we both work and he was always coming home at random times, not really helping at home, etc. With one kid, I was actually okay managing things at home, but when pregnant and sick, things were a disaster. He told me he wasn't used to my *really* needing his help. Anyway...the conversation helped a lot and things have vastly improved. I hope that you can do the same!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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np - I think giving specific duties/suggestions is helpful. For example, I give laundry to dh. He has to do it by Saturday AM but he can squeeze it in whenever he can. Other things, like emptying the dishwasher etc. are things he can do when he can't think of anything. Guys are just different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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totally agree with the poster above. DH's can be really blind sometimes (or in denial) (or scared shitless about all the new responsibilities) Doesn't mean they are bad people. But they need to get a swift kick in rear sometimes. It really helped me when I gave that swift kick to my DH. He totally stepped up to the plate once I was VERYVERY clear about what I needed. I wish you all the best. In the meantime, while you are sick and while your DH is integrating this new info, hire help. I hope you feel better very soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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put your foot down, yes. but in the mean time hire help so you don't lose your mind. One solution does not preclude the other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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come on..sounds like drinks is more hanging out than working [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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drinks is part of the culture [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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((Hugs)). You know, if my husband couldn't leave work, he might also be tempted to pretend he didn't get my voicemail/email. Why? It's the male "avoid confrontation" gene, LOL. Plus, my DH might be afraid if he called me back he might have to listen to my wrath while he's sitting next to his coworkers/clients. Anyway, talk it out when he's home and tell him you are going to really NEED him to have reasonable hours when at all possible. Tell him to pack his briefcase/laptop and announce to his co-workers that he'll be working at home as leaves at 6pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.03.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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why do you respond to a post that is 6 months old????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.03.08, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] had a hard week- pg, been sick with virus the past couple days, working full time, db is having bad allergic reactions all week to unknown substance, and dh has been on business trip all week. He's coming back tonight, but is going off to Atlantic city tomorrow with friends. I hired a sitter for tomorrow to help with db since I'm sick, but feel hurt that dh is going off for the day for fun. Am I overreacting? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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no you aren't. He should stay home and be a dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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Long weekend and he's off to AC? I would be annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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Oh, man, no. You are right to feel this way and he should know that he is asking a lot of you. I feel for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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He was away all week and is off again with friends? That would annoy me even without all the other stuff you have going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] do you hang a flag for mem day? When I do, my 85 yo neighbor who is a WWII vet always says 'thank you" 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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awww that would make me get a little weepy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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It always does...he stands at intersection every Meme. day with other vets selling those mini poppy flowers for 1$..I love him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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nice - nyc hi-rise here - no flags [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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tape one in window, just for the sake of it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] what are your weekend plans? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.23.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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picnic in the park, brunch, boatride of some sort with ds (circle line or staten island ferry), possibly the beach (largest sandbox out there) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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