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[ - ] I think most of the moms posting here that want to see citywide go away are not the demographic that the city created this for. If there hadn't been this option for my Brilliant DH who came from a crappy neighborhood with a single parent he would not be where he is today. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.05.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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What demographic would that be. I think we need more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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if you create citywides in each borough, they will come to reflect the population in that borough. people given the option of a citywide close by will choose it 9/10 times regardless of what is being posted here. they will only be diverse as the region in which they exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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True, but Brooklyn and Queens are quickly becoming rather diverse (i.e., white Upper Middle Class are moving there in large numbers). Those I know who live in Brooklyn would love racial and economic diversity, they just want good school and a parent body who supports education. A Brooklyn citywide would have that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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why make it citywide? doe should be creating gifted k-8s...district wide makes the most sense. there is diveristy in every corner of the city [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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I guess to leave open options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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Maybe they are fantastic in bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you take your 3.5 yo to a screening of a G rated film at 6:30PM? DH would be coming with us. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 07.05.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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why not ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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Just wondering if its too late? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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if he gets fussy just leave. no worries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:51 AM Flag
[ - ] omg, did anyone go running today? It's like running in soup! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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be careful. those are the days you get dehydrated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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yes! I'm drinking a glass of Emergen-C right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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I am partial to tangerine, but also like joint health formula which DH hates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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I like tropical, but dh keeps buying raspberry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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I'll do anyhtin but the acai berry which is nasty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:34 AM Flag
[ - ] 40 wks today. absolutely no sign of the baby. anything i can do??? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 07.05.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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wait... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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have sex ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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ita - worked for me twice - GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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baked ziti from Sam's in Cobble Hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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^^^actually, SLEEP. Nothing else.Just sleep, sleep, sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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do some yoga, have some sex, make an acupuncture appt, do not let them induce you, and know the baby will come when she or he is ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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Wait. Give your future DB the chance to to have to compete with a holiday weekend for his birthday. One more week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Indian food and sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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relax. Enjoy the time to yourself. As said above, sleep as much as you can. I went to 41 weeks, 6 days, btw, so I can relate to the impatience. I never dilated naturally, had to be induced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 10:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Went with friends last night to their country club for 4th celebration. The place is beautiful and very relaxing and sooooo easy for DC and we have been toying with the idea of joining BUT historically it was a closed and segregated club, it has a reputation for being so, and seeing the all-black staff in uniform gives both DH and I the creeps. We know many great couples (not racist, anti-semetic, etc) who belong. Could you join ? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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No, I couldn't. I would feel too weird about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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I feel like such a hypocrite for even entertaining the idea. My initial response is always "ick. never" and then I selfishly think about the convenience and luxury of the place. I disgust myself ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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I'm sure I would be tempted by that too. Are there any other options around that are less ideologically fraught? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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Yes, there are. It is a city with many of these clubs. Some have a better pool, better tennis, better food, etc. One couple at this particular club is Jewish and they tell me I'm nuts. I tell them they are blind to the place. I wish they were right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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I live in a community with clubs like this and do have a few friends who join these clubs despite their (recent) history. It does affect how I see them. I see them drinking the Kool Aid and I feel bad that they would debase themselves - thats at least how I see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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OP Thank you. I needed to hear that. I'm right near the punch bowl, and the hotter the summer gets, the more refreshing it looks ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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I hear you. Stay strong! There will be comfortable ways to enjoy your summer and you will feel even better when its time to talk to your kids about these issues and you can show them your strength of character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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not a chance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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based on the history ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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I quote, "it has a reputation for being [closed and segregated], and seeing the all-black staff in uniform gives both DH and I the creeps." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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that was the question. is it the past history even though it has changed or your belief that it could not have changed and is probably still this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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from "being" I interpreted OP to mean that the club is still closed and segregated (whether overtly or covertly) so... I have no desire to spend my time at or my money reinforcing those types of environments. I reject an argument which says it "could not change." And also, I would hate to think what it would mean about me if I joined and eventually got used to this situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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OP it is no longer restricted as their are jewish and black members, but the numbers are small. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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Is it your impression that it is restricted today or not? Where I grew up there were clubs which admitted a few (token) members. That gave the younger folks moral cover, it protected the club and it made some think, "I'm gonna be able to help change this place." But if you hadn't voted against FDR...you weren't getting a chance to change anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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It sounds like you're leaning against it. If you have other clubs as options (post above suggests so), I'd look elsewhere. That darker people are in uniform is creepy, given the place's history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Yes, there are other options. This club has the best of the "things" as in pool, teams for kids, golf, food, etc. but saying you belong there says "a lot", I think. What it says today is what I am not sure of exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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If your initial vibe was against joining, maybe you should listen to that? It's tricky; I see both sides. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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People who belong there that I know personally are telling me that they are the club today, but most of them would never have been able to join even 15 years ago (maybe less !). I want to believe that, but that may just be the salad bar aclling... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 10:37 AM Flag
[ - ] What would you think if you saw a 50 year old man on the subway reading a Gossip Girl novel? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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he's a dad deciding if it is OK for his DD to read [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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He's an English teacher wondering if his students can read it; he's a principal wondering if he should listen to the parents who want to ban it from his school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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Yeah, I'd agree with this. I wouldn't get a creepy vibe, if that's where OP is going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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I am a 40 year old woman who read one on a train--research purposes. He's probably in publishing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here convert to Catholicism and feel good about the decision in that you believe all that it teaches ? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I'm the exact reverse: left Catholicism after having been raised in a devout household because I believe almost nothing that it teaches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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how do your raise DC ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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So far, agnostic. They're 3 and 1. We did not baptize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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As a non-Catholic I think that there is a lot of comfort in a lot of the teachings, but then there's a lot of other things too. Are your parents upset with your choice ? DH ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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DH isn't religious so it wasn't an issue for him. He was willing to baptize if I wanted to, but I really didn't want to. My parents have also grown somewhat dissatisfied with the Church so they sort of understand, but wish we had baptized. I would like the kids' to have some sort of faith, but I'm not sure which one. Unitarianism and Quakerism appeal to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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Great friend grew up Quaker and I went to her father's funeral. I was blown away by the honesty of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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np: I'm a Unitarian, and it's a good place. You can start by going to a couple of services. Congregations' styles vary a LOT; some are traditionally churchy in the service organization (hymn, reading, sermon), others are much looser and more like organized discussion groups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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np-I'm a unitarian too. It's wonderful. Also family of origin is Catholic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 07:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Girlfriend is pregnant and about to have number 3. She is petite normally (pretty big now !) and very cute. So, last night at 4th celebration, DH of another friend says to her #1 "How many are you eating for tonight ?!" #2 "Elizabeth never got that big, but she's a petite woman" and #3 "Where'd you put your ankles ?" The last one had my jow about on the floor... What a tool ! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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I hope his wife elbowed him to shut up. waht an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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She was not in earshot, but she is so kind and sweet that I can't imagine how she deals with him. Three idiotic comments at three different times ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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I have no trouble calling my friends out for acting like a-holes. (a dh) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 09:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here believe in a literal heaven where you are reunited with the people you loved and you live in some type of paradise because you were good while here on Earth ? Do you also think that only believers of your faith will be there ? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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I believe in Heaven in a comforting way. That I'll be reunited with only the people I love and miss. I don't think it has anything to do with being "good." I think serial killers and pedophiles will also be in heaven with people they love and miss, that their essence will be stripped of its badness, like a reversion/conversion. Crazy sounding, maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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I like your heaven. tell me my dog will be there, and we are all good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Your dog will definitely be there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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excellent! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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Do you think serial killers/pedophiles are born or made? I would think you think they are made. In that case, I don't think your ideas are crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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NO. I like tyour idea. I have been thinking about it a bit - I don't honestly know why now - but someone yesterday mentioned heaven and in the discussion she said that she believes that only Christians will be in heaven and while it doesn't sound nice, that is sort of a tenet of the faith. Things that make me go hmmmmmm..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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I'm Jewish, not religious, and my ideas about Heaven have very little to do with religion. It's more about comfort. I want to believe in Heaven. I want to believe I'll be reunited with my best friend who died of a brain aneurysm. I want my dd to know that comfort too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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OP I am Jewish too and was just sort of upset by this woman - who I think is very educated and kind - saying that I was shit out of luck in the heaven thing. Sorry Charlie ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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She's less educated than you think, then! That's all you need to know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Yes, in a sense. But if you are a person who believes in the tenets of your faith (ie jesus is the redeemer and the only way to the Father is through Him) you sort of have to believe that it's that way or the highway. Now insert a joke about the "Highway to Hell". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Yes, but she's still uneducated about OTHER religions and other points of view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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she may be, but she believes in hers and even though we're friends and she likes me and thinks I'm a good person, she thinks I'm hell bound ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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If a man dies and he has a wife and a mistress who have also died, and he misses and loves them both, would they all be in heaven together if the wife and mistress don't find being together heavenly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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I would guess that all of that is meaningless in heaven and they'll all be cool with one another [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Yes, they are all there for that man. I don't believe in a heaven with people walking around and chatting. I believe it's more a souls thing, where you are at rest and in comfort and at peace. The wife and mistress are unaware of each other in heaven. This is my own personal version of heaven, mind you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I like our versions better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Which Manhattan public library has the largest children's section? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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Dunnell has a nice children's sectin. (I may have botched the spelling or the name or both!) It's in the 50s, near Rockefeller Center. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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[ - ] for the past 2 days my 17 mo is basically refusing to eat....he is eating very little and just drinking milk.. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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keep offering food, he'll come round [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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when they are hungry, they eat. Don't worry. I think that sometimes they just want to decide something for themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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