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[ - ] are twins births always be cesarean or some natural? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 07.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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^by^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Had my twins vaginally in the OR. Was induced & Baby A came flying out -- dr. and nurse said it wasn't time, but they could barely get me in there. Baby B was sunny-side up so he came out 2 long hours later, all purple, but at 3.5 he is now a big, tough bruiser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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i know one person who had natural. everyone else had a c-section. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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I had mine naturally, which was a big surprise to me and my doctor... we were all set and scheduled for a C, then they decided they wanted out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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did you have to do reconstructive surgery after that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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Reconstructive surgery for what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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maybe she thinks your vagina exploded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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that is correct to put in crude terms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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??!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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reconstructive surgery is sometimes performed if natural birth stretches the vagina so much so that it causes discomfort and makes sex unpleasurable. Clear enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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you're nuts. Do you think that's common ? Regularly done ? Something most women do ? Enough Doctor 90210 for you. Take Dr. Ray off the speed dial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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why so agro and reading things into the original question? no where did it state that such a thing is regularly done? that was not the point. it was a question this particular woman who had given birth to twins and how it affected her body. calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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I'm preety calm, thanks for your concern, but the woman needing a bit of calm is the person responding to a simple "I had twins" vaginally" to "did you have reconstruction ?" That's a big wacky jump, wouldn't you say ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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why? that could have been the original point of op's query in the first place. c-section v. natural birth with twins and the effect it has on a woman's body. this is not a highly charged issue or a "wacky jump." I don't understand why you have such a problem with the topic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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don't tax yourself by thinking about it further then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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not sure why you assume this would happen after twin birth... not really any more than single or breech [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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You realize that it's much more likely to have problems with stretching/tearing on a first delivery than a subsequent one? So that second twin is like nothing - whatever damage might have been done would already be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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I see. I assumed it would be putting even more pressure on the area with a second one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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once the door is open, it's open for whoever's coming out ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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actually, that's not more likely, it's the common mismanagement of labor these days that's the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Or that both twins came out at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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not for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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No. I'm in the US btw. First children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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lawsuits !!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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^^ the legal profession dictates OB care in this country ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np. it certainly influences them imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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so whoat does the legal profession leaning on these days? C-section or natural? what is considered more risky? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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C-section is quicker and easier with less chance for complication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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less complications for the baby, you mean. maternal deaths from c-sections are vastly underreported (and apparently not much of a concern for anyone). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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link, please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I know people who had natural twin births but in the UK not US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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bingo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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np: I know a bunch of people who have in the US. It really depends on the person - many people don't want to go through labor and pushing knowing there is a decent chance they will also then get a c-section. Others are okay with the idea and try anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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my friend had them naturally [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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two friends had them vaginally, but delivery had to be in the OR, I guess in case emergency C was req'd. All went well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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By natural do you mean without drug or vaginally? I had mine vaginally . They were both head down, weeks before delivery and it worked for me. Generally it depends on the position of the first whether vag. birth is an option. I delivered in an OR with an epi that way if there was a problem they could do the c-section. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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I know six twin moms, three had c-section and three vaginal delivery. One even sans drugs (second labor and quite fast). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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i gave birth naturally at 37.5 weeks 8 months ago to twin girls weighing 9lbs 4ozs and 7lbs 8.5ozs, my 2nd and 3rd, so yes it can be done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Holy Crap! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I delivered twins at NYU last year. The NYU faculty practice is pro vaginal delivery for twins. We tried our best, baby A was vaginal delivery, but baby B was C section delivery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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That sucks...to labor, push one out, then only to be sliced anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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my mom had my younger brothers (twins) not only naturally but at home. of course people can have twins naturally! what, did you think all mothers of twins previously died in childbirth!?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Having twins naturally is common. I had my first single birth c-section. He was breeched. I absolutely hated it. I got pregnant with twins a couple years later and had them VBAC(vaginal after c-section. it's really up to your doctor for this situation. For yours, there is no reason (healthy I assume)for your doctor to just schedule a c-section. It's more money, more painful,more traumatic , and less bonding for the new family. Just try ti have them naturally and let nature takes it;s course, if you can't you can't. No big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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less bonding? please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone under 35 opt for amnio? Why? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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CVS sounds like a better bet all around, combined with the nuchal. Done much earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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even though it is riskier then amnio? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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Yes, but it's done at 10 weeks. A lot easier to have to think about terminating at 10 weeks than after you've felt the baby move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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i've heard that with an experienced practitioner, the risk is not really higher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I did, only because we had a bad 20-week ultrasound (for #1). For #2, I did CVS - getting an amnio at 21 weeks and no results until nearly 23 weeks was one of the most distressing times of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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yes, but actually i opted for cvs. the reason for that is i worked for years with disabled kids, and dh has a brother with autism. i know what that's like, and i was more scared of a disabled child than a miscarriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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yes because the quad screen came back with an elevated risk for downs. The amnio was not as bad as I thought, but the 2 week wait was horrible. The dr I had does hundreds of amnios a year so the procedure was very quick and minimal pain. The risk for miscarriage is a lot lower if you have an experienced dr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.03.08, 06:22 AM Flag
[ - ] do you travel with a bed (travel bed) for a 2 year old, when you go away? if not, what do you do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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put mattress on the floor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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sometimes bring pack and play or blow up bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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todder Aerobed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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and you like it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Hoboken moms on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] how much did your invisalign cost? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
[ - ] We are about to let our nanny go. No particular reason, we just feel in general our daughter needs to be challenged more as opposed to babysat all day. Should I tell her in advance or on a Friday tell her it's her last day? We plan to make up a reason why we're changing nannies. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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Tell her in advance, especially if you have a good excuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Have you ever been employed? How would you like to be treated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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exactly ! That makes me angry. You let her stay with your child and expect that she respect your family, yet you question how much respect - really - you should afford her ? Egocentric and unkind... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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If she was so great, she wouldn't be fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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np: In large corporations, people are always fired on Mondays and told to go home immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Do the children of of those corporations get emotionally attached to their employees? And vice versa? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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If you think it's a good idea to leave a small child with a disgruntled employee who already knows they are fired, you are mental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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You'd be surprised -- I think the kids get less emotionally attached than you'd imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np: agreed, we had to fire a nanny who had been with us nearly a year. Things got ugly and I didn't let her say goodbye to him. He asked once, dropped it and had no problem moving on to our new nanny who has been with us 3 years. Completely forgot about the other one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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That's absurd. I work for one of the largest corporations in the country ($80B in revenue) and this is not done, unless it's firing for cause which is immediate whenever the cause is found. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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Oh good lord, it's totally different and you know it. This is a person who takes care of OP's child. Also, at my company, you are told you are fired and escorted out b/c they know that employees who are fired tend to act out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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I would tell her as she leaves on friday and give her a few weeks severence and offer good references. I wouldn't want someone who had a beef with me watching my kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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Thanks. That what my husband wants to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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ita also [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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Would you not consider discussing her job with her and letting her know how you feel, and where she needs to improve/ stretch herself? Like a formal job review. Particularly if your girl is comfortable with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I tried that a few months ago. And for the first few weeks after our talk things were great, but slowly they went back to they way things were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Fair enough. Anyway, it sounds like your relationship with her has turned sour, so probably best for everyone to cut free. Might be tough on your daughter though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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if you want a teacher hire one - a nanny is not a tutor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Totally disagree. Part of a nanny's job is to challenge a child and help them grow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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maybe you should be a better mother or put your child in day care or maybe preschool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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np: That's bullshit. Our part-time sitter does all sorts of games and activities that are fun and have some sort of educational/developmental benefit. The last was figuring out as many words as possible starting with a certain letter (for a 4yo) - they did it on craft paper to see how long the list would be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I hope you pay her well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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We do. But I don't think people should watch children for a living unless they want to be around children. So many nannies don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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yes we must make sure our children are developmentally challenged all day long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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I never said it was all day long. But she is creative and fun with the kids in ways I never would have been, I've learned a lot from her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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then you got lucky. you cannot expect to hire people at relatively low wages with no benefits and little recourse if you treat them badly and expect that type of interaction. that is more typical of people with a fair amount of education in child development - which is not true of most nannies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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It's not such a low wage for those that are off the books, and it's a great wage for the level of education and working conditions. We've never had someone full-time, so perhaps that is the difference - it's not so many hours and I'm around, so less chance to either get bored or be lazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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You have very low standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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no I don't have a nanny. I do that myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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So, do you have equally low standards for your mothering skills? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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you bet your ass I do. I don't sit on the floor and play with my child 8 hours a day. She plays very nicely by herself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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Wow. Just wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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yep - I also don't read parenting books either or go nuts about comparing my child with others. I don't judge others either - apparently you do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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np: I like you. I feel the same way about our nanny. She's very hands on with our 2 year old but hands off with our 5 year old. I used to worry she wasn't engaging him enough until DH pointed out that he's old enough to play and act independently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I hope you are giving her severance pay. It would be so unethical to cut off her financial support with no notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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How long has she been your nanny? If a long time and your child is attached to her (and vice versa), I would try to work something out in advance - unless she has been very unprofessional. Two things: Give your daughter some time to get used to the idea and you may want her to have the option to see her nanny again in the future for a playdate (eve if it never happens, the idea that this won't be the last time she sees her nanny will make it easier for her), it would also be nicer to your nanny. If you speak to nannies, you realize that a number of them get very attached to the children and leaving them can be pretty hard - here again, offer to see her again in the future. 2 of the best nannies I know said that the hardest time of their professional lives was when they were asked to leave with no notice (in one case, the Friday before the family went to Europe for a 3-month extended vacation). The abrupt separation from the children was very hard to them. Having said this, I would be a bit nervous about leaving my child alone with someone who has been asked to leave. Can you have a parent or a family member come and visit for a few days (or take a few days off) in order to make sure there is no major issue? Would also be a good distraction for your child. Also make sure you are fair in terms of severance, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:10 PM Flag
[ - ] is it too hot to go to the park? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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No. You are fine til it reaches 94°, and then pull the shades, crank up the a/c, turn on Dora, and stay cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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ok, i guess i should go out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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humid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh has been home for a week (starts new job monday) and he seems angry all the time, at either the kids, or at me. When I ask him about it he says I don't appreciate him enough and that he feels like I put the kids first all the time. But when he's so angry all the time it's really hard for me to want to be anywhere near him, and I feel like I have to defend the kids. Any advice? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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Probably cabin fever. Be patient. He'll probably feel better once he's back at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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actually, it's been going on a long time. but now we've spent a lot more time with him than usual. I used to think it was the stress of his old job and now that he has a job he's excited about it would calm down. It hasn't. He often gets mad at the kids for being kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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I put the kids first. What mother doesn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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doesn't put her kids first? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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mine didn't. in fact, she taught all her dd's that you should always put dh first. not that I agree with her, just saying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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For me db has been #1 since birth. I can't imagine feeling otherwise. And I love my dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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ditto - he needs to grow up. my dh gets like this and it SUCKS - also gets made at kids for being kids and then if i try to discuss it's a huge fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Mothers of sons: any of you have morning sickness? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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had it awful with DD, very slight in comparison with DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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Nope, not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I did. Not quite as bad as with DD but pretty bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Oh yes - with both - for almost 16 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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I had it with all 3 pregnancies. 2 boys and a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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virtually none, maybe a few moments of queasiness/lightheadedness but they were very brief [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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None twice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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very little [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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no. was nauseated on 2 or 3 days, but that was it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] All day I have told myself that I will go to the gym today at around 3:00. I WILL do this. Now the clock is heading toward that time and I'm thinking of a million reasons why I should not go to the gym. I hate exercising. I honestly resent having to do it ! Anyone with me ? A full-on boycott of all exercise for the sake of exercise ? Help ! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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I love exercising, but no time. I am jealous. Do it for me. I find if I can get through the first 15 mins the endorphins kick in and then I get my exercise high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I meanthis honestly, not snarky me right now. What do you love about it ? I bring the ipod, have a magazine (sometimes many) there are TV's overhead, and I am miserable. I have sweating. I hate the monotony. What do you do to "pass the time " ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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^^ meant I hate sweating... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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np I love how it makes me feel. I love the results but I also love the time alone in my head. I'm rarely bored. Sounds like you need a differet work out routine if you hate it that much. Take a class, dance or bike or something. There are fun ways to do this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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The sweating is cathartic for me. I really feel energized after. I sleep better. It hellps controls stress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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I do feel good after, both because I can finally stop and because I feel I did something for "me". I must need to do something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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tell yourself you only have to stay for 15 minutes and if you're still totally hating it, you give yourself permission to leave. i bet you'll stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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I have to admit that there I times that io drive over there and sit in my car talking on the phone in the parking lot and thenj drive away. I'm sure they see me out there and think I'm a loon ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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i'm 40 wks pg and *wishing* i could go to the gym -- i was never a big exerciser before, just did it because i had to, but now i'm missing that feeling of really getting sweaty and feeling my heart pound. looking forward to getting back to it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone send their elentary school aged kids on a school bus that takes 45 minutes or more each way? What's the impact (if any) of the commute on your child? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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DB is scheduled for 7:15 p/u this fall. School starts at 8:20. Not sure what time bus arrives, my guess is around 8. Thinking DH may drive hims to school, seems like too much, especially since DB still naps. So worried about the start of school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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How far away is the school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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first, stop referring to your soon to be K dc as db. second, he will get a rest time in school. third, why the heck did you opt for a school so far away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I will refer to my son anyway I want, thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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poor child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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db still naps? oy...db IS growing up, ya know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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np. Eh. It's not so strange. My dc has a July bday and was still napping the summer before K. And sometimes she'd fall asleep during rest time in K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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np: You and all the "oys" - enough! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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i may drive my dc to school in the fall also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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This is what we will be doing too, although both of us work, so we don't have a choice. I will be able to drop off and pick up DC at school 2x/month, but that's it. DC will just have to cope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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We're probably looking at an almost 1 hour commute to a citywide G&T next year for our 5 year old. I'm shocked how many others are in the same position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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lots of stupid people out there. I just cannot see doing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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It's not stupid if you are happy with the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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many have good local options. i think the citywide concept is a bad one for elementary, but that's just me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Some don't have good local options, so they make a wise decision to send dc to schools outside zone and kids adjust to bus rides. The stupid ones sacrifice the comute for a lousy school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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commute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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so quit asking about it here. you made your choice, now deal with making your elementary school kid commute 2+ hours per day, 10 months per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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oh, and consider moving if the school is that important, and your dc's quality of life matters at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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i so agree. is it really worth bragging rights to send dc to nest if it means a 2+ hour commute every day? not imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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They adjust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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DD's starting at Brearley in the fall and we live downtown. I think she will be fine. We will probably move closer to school in a year or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Where DT? They've been taking a lot more girls from downtown the past few years. You might be able to find other families to share the commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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My dd is on the bus for 30 minutes in the morning and an hour in the afternoon (last one picked up, so last one dropped off). Honestly, she hates it and it does have a negative impact. Luckily her school doesn't give homework until 3rd grade and by then we will likely move near school (we are waiting to see what happens with younger child). She loves her school and doesn't want to go to a different school, but she often says she wishes we lived near school. I think it would be better if the longer commute was in the morning and I may see about swiching her to a different bus next year where she would be first on/first off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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we did that for preschool for two years (45-60 minutes one way). For K she'll be on the bus but that's probably also going to be 45 minutes each way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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i would never do this in a million years. a lot of these people going on and on about the commute could have sent dc to a closer district-wide school even if their zoned school sucks, but chose not to. so enough with the whining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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My two cents. I wouldn't, at least in the beginning...although, I understand from one elementary school principal that after the first week or so all the kids want to ride the bus. So, most likely you will have to play it by ear. I, too, have a child who will be five in the late fall and still naps if given the opportunity and/or falls asleep in transit and for that reason alone I would not do it. We turned down a g&t placement which would have required a 45 minute bus ride each way if I took child to school, not to mention the wait for the bus and/or the walk from the bus to school/home. Just too much....but, that said, it just wasnt right for my child. I think only you can make the decision after careful consideration of what is best for your son! Good luck with it!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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It turned my kid gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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Best post ever on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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Our 6 yo takes the bus 45 minutes in the morning, 7:15 pick up. dc LOVES it. It's like this little community before "real"school starts. dc has made friends in other grades and is begging to be allowed to take it home as well- and I KILL myself to get there in the afternoons...Fatigue is not a probem, but bedtime is now earlier than it was in pre-k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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This was us, too, but with a 7 am pick up for a 1 hour commute. dd loved the bus friends and the chatty time she had before the quieter classroom time. It got all her talkativeness out of her system so she was ready for school. But, sometimes she just liked to read. She started right away in K and did it for as many years as she was in elementary school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 04:48 AM Flag
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DC is starting K in Sept and will turn 5 in late fall. Although we LOVED NEST, we felt 45-60 minutes on a school bus 2X's a day would not be good for our DC. WE ranked 2 good district G&T's before NEST on our placement form and got one of them. Also we like to be involved in the schools parent community, and felt it would be difficult to do so living so far away from the school. But everyone makes choices that work best for their own family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:39 PM Flag
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DC was accepted at citywide and we are moving closer to the school to avoid 60 min. commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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If that works for your family, great! That option would not have worked for us. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] everytime i have a party, my single friends never come. its very annoying, since i go to all of their parties. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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dh's friends have been like this recently - they assume that it's just boring couples. ironically lots of single women who complain that there are no single guys. you can't win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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i dont know why, but its really bothering me, since i go everywhere for them. i didnt do this, when i was single, its just not nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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some people are rude. i have a friend who really cannot be bothered to come to any party i give. she doesn't think it's rude to say "no" year after year, wo any excuse or apology. i wouldn't care except OTHER people notice that she's never there and always ask why? i've stopped pretending i know. you can say something like "what are you boycotting my parties" or you can ignore it. i've chosen to ignore it, but i'm not as close w that friend anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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Have you ever simply said, "I miss you and wish youd come by. You know, it's not all couples." Maybe one simple call could change this for you ? As my DH says, "You never get what you don't ask for". I then try not to lecture him about ending sentences with prepositions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I like you :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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op its hard to say i miss you, when i always see them, its just not at my parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Why do people let themselves get excessively overweight? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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i don't know, why did you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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depression [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I've wondered the same thing. A few pounds over the years or after db I can understan, but when you weigh 500 pounds I just don't get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I don't think anyone who isn't that large could "get it". It has to be a mental disconnect, no ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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I think so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Ds has had diarrhea for 4 days now, otherwise she is acting fine. what could it be? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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too much coffee... sorry. It's probably just a bug. How old and has she been eating a lot of fruit in the summer heat ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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not really, but yes i am thinking its just a bug, waiting for a dr to call back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Teething? My dd gets the d when teething. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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no, he is almost 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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well then, maybe he ate something or it can be a little bug going around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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i guess, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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me too! But he's 10mo. He has no teeth yet and I don't feel any in there, but I suspect that is what is going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] I am hosting a (hopefully) casual 3rd birthday BBQ thing for my son. Any suggestions on a good way to do the presents? There are about 11 kids coming - and about half of them are older siblings ages 6 - 12 yrs. and the rest are kids 5 and under.... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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don't open presents there. have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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ita. Save them for later. If they are opened at the party they will get spread all over the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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So...just tuck them away as they come in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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yep, stack them on a table or something and people will just put their stuff there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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np: I never opened presents at my kids' parties, but when I had a really casual bbq the family and a couple of really close friends stuck around past everyone else and wanted us to open the presents. Since almost all of the younger kids had left we opened them and it was a lot of fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] My barely 15 year old daughter is spending time w/ an older crowd (15 - 18) and wants to be driven around by them. I feel she's growing up too fast and not mature enough to handle the situation I fear she's getting in to. Any advice? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Teenagers 07.01.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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without knowing your dd or her friends, I would say I agree with you. There is a big difference between a barely 15 yo and a 17yo or 18yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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^^^as for advice? just set up your house rules. no matter what they are, she'll probably tell you that no one else's parents are so strict. my dd says this and I think she believes it too, but I've talked to other parents and we're pretty much midstream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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^^^the other piece of advice that I find really key is talk to the other parents. Find out what their rules are; talk to them about your concerns. You may be surprised to find some allies there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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^^^finally, set consequences and disobeying and stick to them. The main thing really is that she knows what you expect of her, cuz when she's making those critical choices, you're not going to be there. Sorry for the chopped up response, but UB kept cutting me off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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Thanks all for the advice. It's reassuring to know that I'm not being overly protective. 15 is young, and I don't yet feel confidant in my daughter's decision making skills and judgement. I fear she cares more about being accepted by "the cool kids" and it's a constant struggle to keep her on track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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my 15yo gave me a button that read Raising a teen is like trying to nail jello to a tree. another parent with 2 grown kids told me the single most important thing you can do is make sure she knows she is loved. after that you just need to keep the lines of communication open, make sure she knows she can come to you if she's in trouble, and hope for the best. good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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