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General Topics 01.10.09, 08:29 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] i've been reading a lot of the posts about ds in school, and i'm struck by all the paranoid assumptions and excuse-making (along the lines of "boys will be boys" and everyone's out to get a ds who so much as runs down a hallway so they can put him in special needs class). apparently there's no such thing as a bully or a discipline problem anymore. simply misunderstood "'typical" boys, evil teachers on the take and lots of judgmental mommies. wtf? signed, mom of a 6 y/o ds who behaves himself. 53 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 01.10.09, 08:16 AM Flag
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Can't you just count yourself as lucky? it is a very hostile environment out there for many boys. signed, mom of 2 boys-- one very who behaves and one who doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:21 AM Flag
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^^^ and by the way, I'm not saying it's this way in every case, but the naughty, bouncy, impulsive one is by far the smartest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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isn't it better to acknowledge ds doesn't behave and do something about it instead of blaming the teachers, the other parents, the system, etc.? enough with the victim psychology. take responsibility for your dc, for heaven's sake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:45 AM Flag
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ITA. Some kids, I'm sure, have some neurological/physical reasons but many kids just have parents who are unwilling or clueless about discipline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:50 AM Flag
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and then there are the children who mature a bit slower and will out grow it too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:06 AM Flag
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of course some of it is luck and some of it is just maturity. some dcs learn to control their emotions earlier than others. but any time anyone suggests teaching these dcs how to do so, there is an uproar. we're stifling them, we're punishing them, we're stigmatizing them! please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:50 AM Flag
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some of it is that some kids are more emotional too. never big on tantrums when they were toddlers, and not that excitable later. temperament is a big factor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:05 PM Flag
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how about testosterone? I am a big believer in boy/girl differences from very early on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:23 PM Flag
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Most boys I know are well behaved. There are few, though, who are really awful. Absolutely no impulse control, hitting/punching (causing bleeding), kicking and throwing things non-stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:41 AM Flag
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I have had 3 kids in nyc publics in the past 7 years, and I have only seen one dc like this. it is by no means common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.11.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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I think the controversy is at what point "misbehaving" becomes a "dysfunction" (e.g., ADD, SID, ODD) that needs therapy and/or drugs. I'm all for disciplining misbehaving kids (time-outs, suspension, etc.), I disagree with the over-diagnosis though. I have a 10 year who was "diagnosed" with ADD at the tender age of 4 (I was bullied by preschool to seek an "eval" by their "approved expert"). I completely diregarded the dx. With hindsight, I was right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:54 AM Flag
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this is indeed the problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 02:58 PM Flag
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you're wrong. i have a ds that's almost 3. full of energy, curious, active and yes hits, pushes, throws things. he's not a bully or has a discipline problem he's a boy. you, my dear, have an exception. most boys like my ds are like this. they have no impulse control but will grow out of it. what teachers fail to recognize, and i'm a teacher, is that boys are active learners with very vivid imaginations. they fantasize about guns, blood, killing, etc. not because they are violent or have a problem but because they are boys. you need to educate yourself. pick up a book - try "raising cain." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:42 AM Flag
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If your kid was physically violent ("hits, pushes") with my kid, I would sue your ass. - Moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:49 AM Flag
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her child is 3 yo. You are really nuts if you would sue for that. It's very normal behavior at that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:50 AM Flag
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they are 3 year olds! moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:50 AM Flag
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somebody needs to teach that child that hitting is NOT OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:51 AM Flag
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yes, and I'm so sure that a lawsuit will get through to a 3 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:53 AM Flag
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It will get through his mom. She's responsible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:54 AM Flag
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you are dillusional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:57 AM Flag
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which we do of course, but they still hit. like i said they are LEARNING impulse control. i don't condone hitting, or let it slide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:55 AM Flag
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it's not just the hitting or an issue of impulse control. it's the unprovoked punching, followed by the lying ("mom, he hit me first!"), followed by the threats and the taunts. mean dcs who are being given a pass because this is how ds behave naturally? sorry, i don't buy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:46 AM Flag
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this sounds like an isolated incident, not a generalization. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:52 AM Flag
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no. there are many dcs (and ds in particular) for whom bullying is not an issue of impulse control. rather they are deliberately cruel, hurtful and physically aggressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 12:07 PM Flag
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I knew you were a nut. the boys I know in ds's class are not mean bullies like you suggest. hyper sensitive, revved with testosterone, wanting to be the biggest and the best at everything and annoying at times, but NOT bullies or abnormal. the bullies tend to be the girls from what I have seen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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I think you are the poster who is often here. the discussion is often about rambuncious behavior, and then you turn it into some lesson on cruelty, torture and practically murder. I understand that you were traumatized as a dc, but you really need to find a way to work through the issue. seeing bullies everywhere is psycho, IYKWIM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:56 PM Flag
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nope. this is the first time i've ever posted on this issue. weird that you think it has something to do with me being traumatized as a dc. i had a totally normal childhood maybe it's just our particular public, but there are a lot of ds who are out of control and i'm not the only one who has noticed. as to poster above, why am i a nut just because your experience is different from mine? two very weird responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:36 PM Flag
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the part where you talk about boys being bullies, deliberately cruel, etc etc. I think that is unusual, and not the norm. you seem to think it is the norm. just so tired of these posts. you sound like the crazo a few days ago who said she was cut with a bottle by a "bully" and has since been a complete lunatic, seeing bullies under every rock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:52 PM Flag
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at what age should they have learned and at what age should they be disciplined? serious question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:48 AM Flag
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you must have a newborn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:51 AM Flag
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3yo, sort of understandable (though I've met most 3yo boys who didn't hit/push/kick constantly). In Kindergarten or 1st grade, no excuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 10:05 AM Flag
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didn't say constantly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 10:11 AM Flag
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for a teacher, you certainly have reading comprehension problems! we're talking about school-age dcs, not 3 y/os! that said, most boys of ANY age do NOT fantasize about killing! so get off your stupid "you, my dear" high horse and book an appointment with a shrink. your dc needs one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:26 AM Flag
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3 is school age. duh. ask a boy what he thinks about. more than likely a super hero, or something frightening like killing. and you, for a parent, are ignorant. again pick up a book or watch the documentary "raising cain." and the shrink comment is so typical. you have anger issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:49 AM Flag
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um, no. 3 is PRE-school-age. thinking about a super-hero is not the same as fantasizing about killing! i hope you are never my dc's teacher. because you are a moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 12:26 PM Flag
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np: lady, you are a nut. you happen to have a calm dc who is actually a bit of an outlier among young boys. you think you are superior and that your ds is. but it really has nothing to do with anything other than being on the lower end of the normal curve. if it weren't so normal, you wouldn't even be talking about it here. obviously we are talking about normal male development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:50 PM Flag
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I have a DS and I just spent a half hour putting ice and bandages on him after a 'darling' girl just creamed him for no reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:51 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:03 AM Flag
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most of you are completely unreasonable, uninformed and alarmist: I have boys at a single sex school. boys push, shove and occasionally hit. biting, if a problem, should end the earliest, hitting is really a 2,3,4 year old issue. Pushing shoving and other attitude problems reall evolve through 6,7,8,9......... Boys are often treated terribly through unrealistic expectations--behave, sit still -be calm, pay attention when they are for the most part not wired that way. they take longer to mature and need a different approach. additionally children didnt go to pre-school and often not even nursery school until the 60's. they used to stay home with their mothers until kindergarden. the modern working world and the evolution of women in the job place (i work) have changed all of this too. the pressure on good behavior at early ages has intensified with earlier attendance and burgeoning classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 10:45 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:47 AM Flag
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again, we're not talking about pre-schoolers and we're not talking about fidgeting. we're talking about school-age bullies. and please don't tell me that telling poor ds to sit still turns him into a thug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:55 AM Flag
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wwe are not talking about school aged bullies. we are talking about normal male development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:51 PM Flag
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This is so easy! There are bullies, discipline problems, evil teacher, judgemental mommies, and well behaved boys. They can ALL exist. Radical idea I know, but the world is not black and white, either or. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:05 AM Flag
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In my 7 yo child's school, there are a couple bullies of course. But the problem is only one or two boys seem to have the level of "focus" demanded by the teachers. The rest are getting failing grades for "focus." My ds got the highest possible mark for sportsmanship, and his report card noted he is a good friend and plays well, compromises, shares, etc. High grades for academic achievement as well. But out of about 25 items rated on the report card, he failed half a dozen relating to attention or focus. I've seen several report cards of other nice boys and the other report cards are very, very similar. SOmeone outside the school who did not know almost all the boys are getting failing marks in these would think our kids have ADHD. The school seems to think they all have ADD or ADHD, even though we seem to be talking about a majority of the boys in the class. This is the problem, and it creates a negative vibe for the boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 02:53 PM Flag
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are you at our school? sounds just like my ds's class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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we are in Brooklyn at a private co-ed school, and looking to switch ASAP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 02:59 PM Flag
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we are city-guess this is "normal" most of the 8 year old boys have focus and attention issues............ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:49 PM Flag
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problem is, at our school 10 percent of first graders were already shown the door, and now they are pushing for many of the 2nd grade boys to be evaluated, giving failing grades for "focus" even when the academic performance is strong and the boys play nicely with others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:39 PM Flag
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there is nothing like this at our gen ed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:54 PM Flag
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thank you. Next year ds will go to our zoned public, and I hope it will be a better experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:56 PM Flag
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there is a lot of emphasis on positive reinforcement and on the community being rewarded for good behavior rather than the individual dc being punished for bad, so that everyone pulls together for dcs who aren't quite there yet behavior-wise. it seems to work pretty well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:01 PM Flag
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thank you. my ds does well in other settings so I am hopeful a new school is the answer for us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:05 PM Flag
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good luck -- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking ahead to next year, what are the private options for Downtowners. Specifically Tribeca. We've only been in NY a year and I don't know dd's psd very well to ask yet, especially since she's so focused on this year. TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.10.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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This list is all over the map in terms of school type (totally depends on what you're looking for), but just geographically here are a few "downtown" schools: Claremont, Little Red, City and Country, Grace Church, Friends Seminary, Village Community. Claremont is probably closest to you, only private I know of south of Canal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:40 AM Flag
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I would add to above poster's list the Brooklyn schools: St. Ann's, Packer and Friends because they are all in Bklyn Heights just over the bridge literally 1 mile from Manhattan City Hall. Berkeley Carroll is just a little farther out maybe 2-3 extra stops on the train. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:47 AM Flag
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I think your "best" options from Tribeca are to commute to St. Ann's, Grace Church or uptown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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why limit yourself to crummy downtown ongoings. kids at the tt schools uptown come from harlem, brooklyn, queens, downtown and elsewhere. it is worth the effort to commute to a good school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:49 AM Flag
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You're leaving out St. Luke's the best of the downtown schools. Downtown has great school and you have to visit all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Marymount or NBS? Have good feedback from both 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 01.10.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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I know some lovely familes/girls at MM, but have no idea of the academics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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Last year we were much more impressed by Marymount, despite what is said here by some ill-informed people, academics are great. That said, both schools are good. I'd go with my gut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:16 AM Flag
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My friend's dd is at NBS. She's very smart (99erb in fact) and nice. But very shy and the school's been great for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:49 AM Flag
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friend's DD from NBS at MIT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 01:17 PM Flag
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No contest on academics and prestige, if that matters. NBS is the top girl school in the so called 2nd tier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:53 AM Flag
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How about "values" and "community spirit"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:57 AM Flag
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very strong in both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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Sorry I have to say NBS is not about values. Have many friends that are unhappy about the mean girl enviroment-the mean moms do not help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:56 AM Flag
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Heard nothing but good things about low key families there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 12:26 PM Flag
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No contest? My dc attends a TT so no horse in race as you all say but They are comparable status wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:59 AM Flag
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Bull. College admissions much like Dalton at NBS and about 3-4 girls per class may do better at Chapin. MM is 3rd tier. Ultimately one has to go with what feels right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 12:29 PM Flag
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You have feedback already? would our PSD have feedback yet? i thought all the info didn't come until the end of January. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:58 AM Flag
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I do not get this feedback thing-should be taken with a grain of salt imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:35 AM Flag
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It's important to pay attention to the feedback, if a school isn't interested I'd believe it and if they are you can use that info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:48 AM Flag
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who gives that feedback, to whom and when? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] is valentine's day more for you and your spouse or the kids? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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neither of us. We don't really celebrate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:39 AM Flag
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both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:43 AM Flag
[ - ] my 3.5 yo stutters and when he stutters he blinks his eyes or squuzes them shut. Anyone have experience with this? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 01.10.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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Get an eval with a neurologist. My DH did this when he was a kid and outgrew it. He took meds to help then stopped needing them in Junior high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:35 AM Flag
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really, a neurologist. It is just related to stuttering [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:39 AM Flag
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Well, talk to your ped first, and see what they recommend. People who stutter, who have not experienced trauma, can have a little chemical imbalance that can be corrected. Or it could be a mild form of turrets. Or he could outgrow it. The question is: does it affect him socially or developmentally, if it does, then talk to your ped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:59 AM Flag
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they are highly correlated. many kids grow out of it but with my ds it comes and goes still. He is 9. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:01 AM Flag
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my ds, 3.5, stutters, too. When I asked about having him checked, I was told it's extremely common for 3-5 yr olds to stutter, and that they'll eventually grow out of it. BUT, that if the stutter was accompanied by a facial twitch, I should have him looked at. So, it sounds like you might want to have him evaluated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:59 AM Flag
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Neurologist here - assuming that he is wide awake when they occur (not zoning out), it is most likely tics, which are very benign and typically outgrown. If it is tics he may be able to suppress it for a while ("hold it in"). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 01:02 PM Flag
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^^^ If it is tics, the best thing to do is to do your best to ignore it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone with kids in more than one schools? How is it working. I have 1 DC at Hewitt and 1 at Horace Mann and it's not working very well 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 01.10.09, 07:41 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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The keep asking why we're not in the same school...and they don't find my explanations satisfactory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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Just keep saying that they are in the best school for them. It is common enough for kids not to be in the same school. Did you do it intentionally or did #2 not get in #1's school? If the latter, maybe you will change at later date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:50 AM Flag
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I already said too much. I don't want to out myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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I think you already have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:42 PM Flag
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np; I assume bec the dd at Hewitt didn't get into HM. Why would anyone ask this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:43 AM Flag
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because they are little kids, that's why they ask. Do you want me to say to her "Sorry, you were rejected by every tt school you applied" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:56 AM Flag
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I have one kid at boys private and younger one in public because she got waitlisted across the board. My kids have never asked me this question but my answer would be because Mommy and Daddy wanted you to each be in the school that was best for you. I have to believe that your attitude has something to do with the way your children are acting. You need to believe that they are in the best place for them. If your daughter did not get into HM because they she couldn't handle it take them at their word. good luck. i know this is a difficult situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:36 PM Flag
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So you're lying to your kids, right?? It wasn't your decisions. The decision was made for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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np: would you suggest she tell her daughter that she didn't get in anywhere else? what a ridiculous post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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The decision was in a way made for us, yes. but we only applied to 4 schools because we had made the decision that the right school was more important to us not just any private school. And we felt that our zoned school was pretty high up on the list. So no I do not feel like I'm lying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:51 PM Flag
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you don't think at some point/age the kids understand the private school acceptance practice. i would guess by 3rd grade if not sooner they understand the "rankings" of school and that their school may be considered better or worse than a sib or a family friend's kids. kids aren't stupid or naive, not matter how you spin it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:55 PM Flag
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no kids are not stupid! My DS is older than third grade and he knows that his school is good (not from me!) but he also believes that his sisters school is good. and BTW it is good. I believe wholeheartedly that how we, as their parents, deal with the situation and the questions makes all the difference. I know first hand how difficult this can be but both of my kids are thriving and happy and to me that's all that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:12 PM Flag
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I think your situation is hard because they are in such geographically different places. Is there anyway that one of them can take a bus to and from school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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i have three kids in three different schools. I say, you are each in the best school for you and leave it at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:31 PM Flag
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Did dd bomb the erb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:43 PM Flag
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Hewitt's a great school. I wouldn't change the situation if they're both doing well where they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:00 PM Flag
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If you told 100 people to take their pick of the 7 girls' schools, Hewitt wouldn't be chosen by many (if any). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:04 PM Flag
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Well, they haven't read much about it lately, in that case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 05:06 PM Flag
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Categorically wrong! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:03 PM Flag
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how's that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:08 PM Flag
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why would someone post this. how petty and insecure have people in this city become. someone posted a question which is difficult and requires some level of compassion and for the above poster it was yet another cheap oppty to knock a school. sad really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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Why would OP divulge the schools? Why not ask the Q without mentioning schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:22 PM Flag
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don't know. are you suggesting it's fake and meant to provoke all of the ub foolishness? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:29 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:31 PM Flag
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well then i've been duped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:34 PM Flag
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if I were OP I would post different schools but ones with similar profiles, then you get the responses you need without outing yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] names i like - levi, holden, graham, ezra. names dh likes henry, cash, alexander, jack. we can not agree. recommend something we may both like please 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:24 AM Flag
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Nathaniel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:54 AM Flag
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dh is a douchebag. dump him and have someone else adopt the kid. in the end you will be better off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:56 AM Flag
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tell dh his picks are too trendy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:09 AM Flag
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Cash? No. Love Graham. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:11 AM Flag
[ - ] any moms on that moved from nyc to s.orange/maplewood/milburn area? how are you adjusting? are you happy with your move? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:13 AM Flag
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We moved from NYC, but years ago. It was a very easy adjustment. Last night we were at a party at a neighbor's, and there were plenty of people new to Maplewood from NYC. They all seemed to be very happy as well. You meet people easily here, and there is a healthy post-urban vibe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.11.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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I line in NYC now and find those areas to be deeply strange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.11.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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i am dying to move to lewellyn park! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.11.09, 04:43 PM Flag
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Moved from NYC to Maplewood and hate it! Moving back soon if we can sell our house without losing too much money. HOwver, I am in the minority, everyone I know here moved from the city & loves Maplewood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.11.09, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone looking for a nanny on the UWS or UES? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 01.10.09, 07:13 AM Flag
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UWS looking for a MANNY, not a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Any idea how many spots at Dalton K for new families? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.10.09, 07:11 AM Flag
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Based on last year, about 1/2 the class (45 dcs) are new (ie not sib or legacy), signed Dalton mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:15 AM Flag
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Thank you so much! Do you have a sense of the maximum number of kids they take from any particular preschool and what preschools send the most there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:17 AM Flag
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Last year, ellen stein said they took kids from some 40+ preschools (nursery schools, daycares, homeschooled - I imagine). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:46 AM Flag
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We were at an off the radar preschool and they accepted 3 new kids. They also take quite a few every year from Merricats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:55 AM Flag
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Also some from public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:27 AM Flag
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That's true (and has been for a number of years). However, most of the smaller/ no-name schools send only one ... the rest come primarily from the 92nd St Y, Temple E, All Souls, MAP, Beginnings, WSMS, PAS, Stephen Wise etc. If you have less "big name" preschool, one is probably the max they'll take (though there are, obviously, always a few exceptions). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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not necessarily true - last year only one or two siblings from MAP and 2 children from TE (not siblings). A bunch do come from 92nd St Y. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:17 PM Flag
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Some from 92Y but not a ton, with some years being exceptions. If anything they accept a few from the Y because Y people want co-ed almost exclusively and Dalton is everyone's top pick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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How many do they take from each of those big name preschools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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np; my dc's class is only 1/3 sibs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:45 AM Flag
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think they accepted more siblings than usual this year. who knows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:23 PM Flag
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Really? Why do you think that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:23 PM Flag
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np: I think that too. Too bad for the rest of us :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:25 PM Flag
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Did you guys hear this from someone at the school? I wonder if it's true ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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Current Dalton mom, and, FWIW, I know TONS of girl sibs starting K next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:33 PM Flag
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In this bad economy, siblings are less of a financial risk for the school. Plus Dalton has the Madoff DDs there, they probably lost money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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Why are siblings less risky? Everyone is equally risky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:52 PM Flag
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np: I'd agree ... lots of the sibs are from families already getting financial aid, and the others are all equally as likely to end up needing it as everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 03:53 PM Flag
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Interesting point-FA family and sib preference rights-wonder if Dalton's infamous sib policy is due to their rejection of families on FA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:28 PM Flag
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nnp; Dalton parent here and No. They want to fill their diversity "quota" and existing kids on FA often tend to be diversity kids whose parents, at least, hvae been vetted. Lots and FA sibs. Of course, they have to prove themselves as well (the kids, I mean). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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What about a paying diverse applicant/family? Do they qualify for the diversity "quota"-would hope so, assuming they are up to the school's standards [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 04:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I am sooooooo embarrased I can't get over it...have my period, when I got home from work yesterday i had a stain on my pants, I wear OBs, 1st time this happens in my and I'm 38 yo!!!!!! some of my male coworkers must have saw it..... I just feel I want to crowl underground... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:09 AM Flag
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DH here. Trust me, if we saw it, we wouldn't have laughed or made fun -- more likely our personal reactions would have been "shit, I'm glad I'm a guy so I don't have to deal with that bs." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:12 AM Flag
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oh boy thanks for that although I imagine them talking to each other about it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:14 AM Flag
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Wear red pants Monday and be prepared to chuckle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Prepared a bottle of formula an hour ago and db fell back asleep. Can I feed it to her when she wakes up or do I make a new one? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 01.10.09, 06:59 AM Flag
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I think it says on the formula that you should use it within an hour. So when the baby wakes up, just prepare a new bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:41 AM Flag
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assuming you put it in the fridge it will be fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:16 AM Flag
[ - ] recos for a 'special occasion' restaraunt? DH and i are long overdue to celebrate both of our birthdays.... nothing too touristy or hyped up - looking for great food and excellent service - open to places of the beaten path. TIA!!! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 01.10.09, 06:57 AM Flag
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budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:20 AM Flag
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"Of" the beaten path, or "off" the beaten path? They're two completely different things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:23 AM Flag
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had an excellent meal at Centro Vinoteca, West Village, nice atmo too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:32 AM Flag
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I love Daniel for special occasions. $$$$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:06 AM Flag
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Gramercy Tavern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:43 AM Flag
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really? off the beaten path? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:45 AM Flag
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She didn't say it had to be off the beaten path. Read the post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:46 AM Flag
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ya, but if she bothered to put that in she's probably looking for something a little "hipper" than Gramercy Tavern with the partners from her husband's firm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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dressler in willaimsburg. trust me- it is lovely and delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:44 AM Flag
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Mas Farmhouse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Need double stroller recs for newborn & 16 mo. NOT P&T. Babyjogger Citymini or Bumbleride Indie Twin? (can you jog w/both of those?) Also, does anyone have the Kolcraft Contours Tandem? Thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:46 AM Flag
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you need to test drive before you buy. Find a store that carries them if possible. I tried and failed to jog with 2 db's (borrowed a stroller from a friend) . I was incredibly happy with my P&T [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 08:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone's child take the Hunter HS test yesterday? I'm down b/c DS (strong math student) took it and said the math section was the hardest part and ran out of time! I attribute it the fact he was probably stressed by the time factor and couldn't focus! Oh well...thought he had somewhat of a decent chance. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Teenagers 01.10.09, 06:46 AM Flag
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My dd (not a math student) guessed the entire second page of the math and got in - go figure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:48 AM Flag
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Has your child had any experience with timed tests? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:53 AM Flag
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DS goes to private so they take the annual ERB's (timed). DS mentioned those are less stressful for some reason or another [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:11 AM Flag
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I guess that's a downside of low-stakes testing. My dd is in 7th grade in a K-8 school and the school is just starting to give timed exams in all subjects (semester worth of material) to prepare kids for the ISEEs. Good luck with your choices for your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 07:23 AM Flag
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It matters more how many he got right. Even if he didn't finish, if he got the ones he did do right, they'll proceed and look at the rest of his test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 09:58 AM Flag
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Do they look at the total correct throughout the whole exam or just section by section? How strong is the essay counted? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 10:49 AM Flag
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np - I don't know how the test is scored or whether the OR is correct. However, I do know that the essay is the "tiebreaker". They only read the essays of the kids who make the cutoff score for the reading & math parts, and the top kids chosen from the essays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:54 AM Flag
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that doesn't make sense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 11:14 AM Flag
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Yes it does: the math is so challenging and so few kids can do most of it, that a kid who worked carefully (albeit slowly) and got all he'd completed right (as long as it was most of the problems) would be far ahead of most kids who finished but got many more wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions on what to do in the city today? 8yr old dd. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:36 AM Flag
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Let her do her homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:37 AM Flag
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You gave me this same reply two months ago- do some housework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.09, 07:28 AM Flag
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this post is more than a month old. wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.09, 07:35 AM Flag
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lunch and a movie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:45 AM Flag
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any museum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.10.09, 06:48 AM Flag
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