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[ - ] Who drank during the 2ww after IVF ET? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 02.26.09, 09:38 PM Flag
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I did. I still drink occasionally while pg. Less than twice a week and less than 1/4 of a wine glass each time. I've stopped now, but will probably do so again in my 3rd trimester. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:41 PM Flag
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op: I had a couple of glasses of wine tonight...was wondering if people thought that was a big deal or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:51 PM Flag
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YOU'RE DRUNK!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:52 PM Flag
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op: LOL. totally not. 2 small glasses over 3+ hours. well maybe i got a tiny buzz from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:56 PM Flag
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God, I would love a glass of wine. Nothing in house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:58 PM Flag
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now that's just poor planning ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 10:03 PM Flag
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true, true. if you were talking about choco cake, i am sure i would want that too.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 10:07 PM Flag
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Not a big deal. Most people who aren't going through ivf don't even find out they're preg until weeks later and have been drinking through that period. I will say though that during my ivf 2ww I was so nervous that I put myself on bedrest for a week and didn't drink. I'm now preg with dc2 (shockingly without ivf) and I was drinking A LOT (holidays) not knowing I was preg! it is what it is. baby will be fine, but you should probably chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Who drank during the 2ww after IVF ET? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 02.26.09, 09:38 PM Flag
[ - ] What are good things to put into loot bags for 3 y/o ds's party? Are lollipops acceptable, or should I stick with little boxes of Sunmaid Raisins? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:29 PM Flag
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I love oriental trading. So much stuff. I got cowboy hats for my dc's favors for 1$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:32 PM Flag
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Great idea. Where is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:38 PM Flag
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online, or by catalogue. They have everything for parties, at 1/10th of the price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:39 PM Flag
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Will definitely keep in mind for next year (party is on Sunday) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:44 PM Flag
[ - ] my hubby got a new job in grenwich ct, so his ida is to move there... i don't know what to do? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 02.26.09, 09:03 PM Flag
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I have a friend there who says hat you can get unbelievable real estate deals right now, if that makes you feel any better about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:07 PM Flag
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well i love the city and i am scard to nd up as a stpfordwive. we havent applis to private schools xcept of huntr and unis which dd didn't gt in so w ar stock with ps 111 or wovong to a better zip or to greenwich....help yitkkes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:11 PM Flag
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sorry th leyyr e doesn't work as well anymore on my pc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:12 PM Flag
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It could be fun! You won't become anything like that. And the schools will be better. You could garden. Sounds good to me. An adventure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:13 PM Flag
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my hubby as much as i love him showed bad bhaviour lately....means coming home from customer dinnrs at 4 am who would b pissed i WAS SORRY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:18 PM Flag
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How many dcs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:21 PM Flag
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2 one boy 4.5 and the other one 15 month.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:24 PM Flag
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Just imagine how much fun they will have in a big house, and running around outside, and think how much easier your life will be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:27 PM Flag
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thank you very much for your words and tim a sure will sleep better tonight:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Caught my horrible downstairs neighbor listening at our door tonight, we've been told by 2 others they have seen her doing this. She has been harassing us for about a year now, she basically stalks me- watches me with my dd outside, writes letters to landlord which i have read detailing what she thinks we do all day, right down to what time we shower. any advice? is there anything we can do to stop this crazy person from harassing us? does it sound like we would be granted a restraining order if we applied? thanks! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 02.26.09, 08:56 PM Flag
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What is her agenda? Are you too noisy for her or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:58 PM Flag
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well its a veyr long story, basically she doesnt like kids, and complains about the noise we make. we dont even play music lol. we are in compliance with lease for carpeting etc. she has no grounds, is just a crazy old bat. she even stole another neighbor's cat...so who can say what her agenda is? The landlord says he is on our "side" but of course can't just kick her out. Its so creepy, though it bothers me so much.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:02 PM Flag
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Does she have family members you could speak to, that would explain to her how she is stepping over the boundaries a bit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:05 PM Flag
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not that anyone knows about, she seems to be all alone. other neighbors have told us she has declined mentally in the last few years. she is just creepy, and a little violent- she has grabbed my arm, yelled in front of my daughter and made her cry, etc. i just want her to leave us alone! will be in apt 1.5 years mroe, at least. would move if i could afford it right now... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:07 PM Flag
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Aww, I am sorry, it is so hard to live over someone like that. Could you conquer her with kindness? Pick up groceries fro her and stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:11 PM Flag
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Wow, do you live in the UWS. I have the exact same problem (though she doesn't stalk, she does harass non-stop). In our case, her unit is even a rent control... so the landlord is really on our side, but not willing to stick his head in. And to poster above... no kindness will not win anyone over. Our woman is quite a shrew and at one point trying to sue us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:39 PM Flag
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I still remember the lovely feeling when our old lady moved out, and i did not have to stop the kids from doing stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:43 PM Flag
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op: this sounds like our situation, exactly! oh there si no kindness anymore, I have a policy of not speaking to her or letting her goad me into a discussion or argument. what did she try to sue you for? ours is supposedly trying to sue the landlord or something but she used to be a legal secretary so she probably just had some old letterhead paper lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 04:36 AM Flag
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That is sooo creepy! My advice is to start documenting everything. Every time she stands at your door, makes a threatening remark, touches you, etc. It's possible she is losing her mind and you want evidence in case you need a restraining order. Tell your landlord you are doing this and that you are worried about her health/safety as well as your family's, and that you want to contact her relatives. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 05:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it wrong with wish transgender children on every conservative on this board? I wouldn't want to do it to the kids of course, but it's kind of like Cheney's daughter being gay. I loved it! Being "against" transgender anything is not an acceptable option. People responded to the other post as though that's ok! To me it's akin to saying you're a Nazi. It's just WRONG! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:50 PM Flag
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the jews will be on you in a sec [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:16 PM Flag
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wow you are a peach--as mean spirited and petty as you imagine those you rail against [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:23 PM Flag
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It is acceptable to be against it, especially if you are religious. Most religions prohibit this. As a religious woman I do not understand it at all and I prefer that my daughter know that I do not think it's acceptable for people to do this. I won't be mean or rude about it but I think it's wrong, regardless of how many people disagree. What's next? First we have gay/lesbians, then transgenders, pretty soon (I fear) men and woman are going to be able to have male and female parts. It's too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:26 AM Flag
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Wow, there is someone else like me on this board! And I can almost 100% guarantee you are not the same religion as me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:32 AM Flag
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how can you be against something you are born with? If GOD really prohibited it then people wouldn't be born with ambiguous genitalia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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You are speaking of hermaphrodites. This discussion is about transgenders. If you do not know the difference then you do not have the right to participate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:35 AM Flag
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hermaphrodites have both types of genitalia. Ambiguous genitalia (or intersexed) people are part of the transgender umbrella. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:39 AM Flag
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So if it's a physical trait one is born with, how could any rational human be "against" it for "religious reasons"?? That's like being "against" blue eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:42 AM Flag
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precisely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:42 AM Flag
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They comprise a VERY small portion. Most transgender feeling is psychological. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:55 AM Flag
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so? I was making a point that the intersexed are born that way. How can you be against that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:56 AM Flag
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Fine, people who were legitimately born with ambiguous parts and think their parents chose the wrong ones, do whatever you want. But for the vast MAJORITY who do not fit that criterion, yes I am against that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:59 AM Flag
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I know the difference between the two. I choose not to post my religion here because many people seem 'anti-religion'. I for one do not believe God makes mistakes. If you are a man, you were meant to be a man. Spare me all the "I was born this way" stuff that people tell themselves so that others will hopefully understand and say "oh poor thing...". It just doesn't work that way. All this stuff is the devil getting to them, getting inside your head and convincing you that God does make mistakes, that your different, and that you can be your own God and change his work. Whether you believe in him or not we were all made in his image and he loves us deeply. He created us as we were meant to be. Most of it is about control and keeping your soul open to the devil. I feel very sorry for this people when it comes time to see God face-to-face because I don't image it going well in their favor. Yes he loves them still but I don't think that's going to get them into heaven. I'm glad that I'm religious and I love the Lord but why is it that people get all bent outta shape when religion enters the world in places like schools or building with Bible verses on them, yet when I feel my religious rights are being violated (say: by having a transgenders teacher) it's WRONG. You have your religious rights and I have mine and nothing you can say will change them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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Um, so god doesn't make mistakes except when he makes someone Gay? or transgendered? or intersexed? How about black, or jewish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:52 AM Flag
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np You just don't get it, do you? She's saying God made us man or woman, so why fight so hard to change what you are? You can't change the fact that you're black either, or that you were born into a Jewish family (you can convert later of course). Transgenderism is a psychological aberration and should not be encouraged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:57 AM Flag
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Thank you!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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I'll say it again....NO I do not believe God makes mistakes. God when he created us gave all of us a thing called 'free will'. He wanted us to love him but what good is love without free will. If all of us had no choice but to love him then that's not really love. Love that is pure and true goes hand in hand with free will. He wants our love so free will has to apply. However, with that free will comes the devil in our minds to mess us up and convince us otherwise. Here he comes to make us scarred, confused, and unhappy with God's work. He does this because his main goal is to stop you from believing. It's sad though because I have gotten through a very hard life, I lived through 11 years of sexual abuse(by 3 men), because of my faith and my love of the LORD. Do I after all that abuse believe that the LORD makes mistakes....absolutely NOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] suggestions please for a 4yo boy's birthday dinner w/his two best buddies. Preferably mid/uptown Manhattan. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 02.26.09, 08:50 PM Flag
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What time/day of the week? Dallas BBQ, JG Melon, Luke's, Blockheads, Burger Heaven, Fetch, Dinosaur Bar-B-Que (very uptown!). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:57 PM Flag
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OP: Was hoping to find someplace where they'd have an activity too... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:59 PM Flag
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hmm, tough with boys. Most places are girl oriented. If downtown I would say Cowgirl hall of Fame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:45 PM Flag
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Chuck E,. Cheese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 04:28 AM Flag
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ESPN Zone, Mars 2112, Hard Rock..any of those heinous theme restaurants! You'll cringe, they'll love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 05:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Ok. My df claims that her 5 yo writes short poems (3-4 lines), can do algebra (like 18:x=3, solve for x), reads Hobbit, plays chess in tournaments (beginning level) - can it be true or slight exaggeration? Or half NYC kids are like this? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:44 PM Flag
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The truth is you are gullible and she knows it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:52 PM Flag
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sure. not half the kids, but there are kids that do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:57 PM Flag
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My kid could do the math and play chess at that age, so it can certainly be half-true. But now he's 9 and he still can't write a poem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:48 PM Flag
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The math sounds a bit far fetched, any of the other things most 5 yo's could do if encouraged to regularly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:50 PM Flag
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yes this can be true. My dd at 5yr was writing poems and short stories, playing chess and reading very well...she just started addition..but her classmate is a math genius and amazed me at his skills at 5 (in K) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 05:04 AM Flag
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Does your dd go to GenEd or a gifted program? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:43 AM Flag
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she was in a private school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:17 AM Flag
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Did you write the stories for her (meaning she was dictating) or she used inventive spelling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:54 AM Flag
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she was using inventive spelling and I would never write a story for her. She needs to do things according to her abilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:17 AM Flag
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It can be true but your df is a jerk for bragging about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 05:06 AM Flag
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I don't think she was bragging. My dc is much younger - 3.5 yo, and I was asking her about developmental milestones - what to expect at 5. Was hard to believe but I guess there is a huge difference between 3 and 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:25 AM Flag
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really? it was hard to believe there is a huge difference? wow. i can't believe you actually think that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:05 AM Flag
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no, was hard to believe the milestones. Of course I understand that there is a difference between 3 and 5 but my dc is soooo far away. I can't even teach him to play Sequence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:16 AM Flag
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gee i wonder why? come on, quit making yourself look worse. 2 years is a HUGE gap. remember the difference between a 2 mo and a 6 mo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 10:46 AM Flag
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This can be true. Many kids learn to play chess when they are little and can be competing in K...I believe there are still weekend tournaments held at Browning that are open to all. My ds wrote mini poems like that in K...was an early reader and got inspired by Shel Silverstein to give it a shot. Hobbit...seriously doubt it...maybe could read words, but comprehension? Doubt that. Math...hmm...maybe, maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:31 AM Flag
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NP: reading the words in Hobbit is one thing. comprehending it is another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:45 AM Flag
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ITA. Many people don't get that. And knowing the rules of chess does not make one a good chess player either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:56 AM Flag
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this is true, her friend's child may be able to "do" all these things...but well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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NP: It actually can be the other way around. My dc reads complex books and follows the meaning but he skips the words he doesn't know ("foe", etc) and then pick them up from the context or asks me later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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well that's comprehension for the most part. Your dc is comprehending. Not all do. There are many many children who can say all the words on the page and get to the end and not be able to tell you what happened. Those are the ones we [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 07:06 AM Flag
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Hobbit is actually not a very complex book, it is much simpler than LOTR. Tolkien wrote it for dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 07:06 AM Flag
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I read it in 7th grade for class (not NYC) so I'd say it is more complex than most 5 yos reading level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 07:09 AM Flag
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If the child sticks with the book, it means they understand. Of course would get more out of it if older, but that's beside the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:47 AM Flag
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you truly underestimate the power of the Alpha-mom who subtly manipulates her 5 yo dc to sit 'reading' The Hobbit on the subway as to attract the admiration of the masses of strangers around her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:54 AM Flag
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hey, i used to get a kick from stangers giving a look to my book-reading dc, nothing wrong with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 11:03 AM Flag
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says you if your dc is only 'reading' the book to improve your self-esteem but is crushing his because he doesn't really understand it so feels stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 11:07 AM Flag
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i couldn't even get my dc to eat her vegetables, this alleged subway ploy is way beyond my capabilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 11:26 AM Flag
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that's what I was saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:03 AM Flag
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My ds is at Hunter and could do all of those things at 5, but did not necessarily understand what he was reading, so we did not give him books like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 06:58 AM Flag
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Yes of course can be true, but she needs to chill out -- unless you specifically asked for a list of all the things her dc could do she shouldn't be so detailed. My kid can do all kinds of things her friends can't do, I would never tell of her activities unless a df specifically asked me. What's the point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 07:15 AM Flag
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Op: to be fair, I specifically asked. She also mentioned some things her dc was clearly behind: still not riding a bike at this age, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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Oh then that's kind of a different thing. I have to admit I am curious about other kids my dd's age and whether they can do some of the things she can -- I know there are lots of things she can't do that others can, specifically social (easy separation) and physical (scooter use!) things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:49 AM Flag
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My 5 year old can't read or write, but makes up silly four line poems that I write down for him. In math, he can do simple stuff like "how many threes in six" but I wouldn't call that algebra, he figured it out by himself playing with his blocks. Played chess for a while before he lost interest. He's bright but I would say more or less average by NYC standards. Summer birthday so will be starting K next year, and I assume most kids will be at around his level, based on what I saw in older DC's class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:46 AM Flag
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Are you going to public or private to K? BTW, agree, my example was not really algebra per se, I just found it interesting to see at what age dcs can grasp a concept of a variable (unknown) vs. arithmetics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:12 AM Flag
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or: private K, that's why we had to wait a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 10:51 AM Flag
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A GIFTED child in NY! What a concept!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 08:48 AM Flag
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Good point. Why do you think it is NYC phenomena (not Chicago, for example)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:02 AM Flag
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It's something in the water... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:18 AM Flag
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in subway air... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:29 AM Flag
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if you expose your dc to it, chances are they will pick it up. my dc just turned 6 and is in kindergarten. i am amazed at how much he knows - reading, music, math, sports etc. and it's all because we exposed him to it. we are not big on chess so he doesn't do that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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i agree. in my generation we didnt go to school until kindergarten, so thats when we were exposed to reading, math, etc. Watching my dd, i now understand is that kids have the mental capacity to learn these things at a much younger age. you have to be careful not to push or overload them but it's great to expose them to a lot of things and just watch them absorb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:09 AM Flag
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If our generation had the toys, learning devices, etc. that's available to kids now, we'd have mapped the human genome 30 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:22 AM Flag
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You are so right. I buy my dc interactive educational computer games from time to time, but don't actually follow up on the usage. When I tried to explain the concept of slavery to her, she immediately quoted me the definition. It turned out that it came from a history game I gave her a couple of weeks ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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That's why the IQ tests are renormed every ten years. The population gets "smarter" with technological progress, not to mention better nutrition, etc... Basically, a 100 IQ today is much smarter than 100 a century ago. The number of "geniuses" remains constant, but the average intelligence keeps rising. (Source: "Everything bad is good for you") [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 11:08 AM Flag
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I have learned to take claims of parents, like your df, with a grain of salt. Some children do have amazing gifts which are clearly measurable at the age of five and these dc are scattered all throughout this world of ours (NYC does not hold a monopoly of gifted dc). If you chose to dig deeper you will learn that the "talents" mentioned by your friend will rarely reflect what is a measurable skill at this time and that over time her perceived signs of genius fade away. As long as undue expectations are not foisted upon the child I have no issues. Young minds truly are a wonder and a joy! Please don't measure your dc or your expectations for your dc against such random braggings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:18 AM Flag
[ - ] oops: meant to post this in new york: dc's teacher called today--dc in 1st. have gotten such calls before. dc is being too disruptive in class: hums under her breath, won't always follow directions, doesn't wait her turn, talks to other kids when she should be listening to the teacher. etc. she's also very touchy feeling and doesn't give other kids their space, enough. teacher said other students wind up feel disrepected by her and that she, the teacher, feels disrespected. i'm going in tomorrow to talk further with the teacher, whom i like a lot. and the teacher said some nice things too--that my daughter is very loving and lovely, that she's one of the only kids in class who leaves at the end of the day saying, "Bye, I love you Ms. X"--the teacher thinks it's nice. She says she loves my daughter. But it doesn't change the fact that she thinks all this other stuff is problematic and must be dealt with. I feel very frustrated and impotent. I feel unsure how to tackle the problem and i worry that in some way not completely clear to me I'm "causing" the problem. After I've talked to her teacher I don't know what to do next. How do you calm/focus a kid, and get them to think as much of others' feelings as they do their own? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 02.26.09, 08:32 PM Flag
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public or private? just wondering. my ds is at a private, in 2nd, and the teacher is not so nice, seems not to like the kids, and wants to refer almost all the boys for evals for "focus" issues. She is constantly meeting with the moms of the boys, but rarely says anything nice, to the parents or to the kids directly. Thinking of bailing for public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:41 PM Flag
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this is a public. my problem isn't with the teacher--i like her. it's just wondering how to get a grip on dd's behavior, or teach dd how to do it, and the generally bad feeling you have when the teacher calls and says your kid has a problem that's affecting the class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:48 PM Flag
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Have you read "The Out Of Sync Child"? It sounds like she may have some sensory processing stuff going on.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 04:19 AM Flag
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"Raising a Sensory Smart Child" is also a good book on this subject. i havent read "The Out of Sync Child", but I know some books can be sort of alarmist about sensory issues, and "Raising a Sensory Smart Child" is not. Dc had/has mild sensory issues and what OP is describing certainly sounds familiar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 05:54 AM Flag
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i hate new UB. i think the answer i wrote to you got deleted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:48 PM Flag
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public. like her teacher...just want to know how to get dd to settle down! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:49 PM Flag
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I moved my dc from public to private, and the same kind of issues have stopped completely. She was so bored with the DOE curriculum before. Endless worksheets, dull projects, lot of time sitting down at desks, no encouragement of interests, just rote learning. We gave it 2 years, liked her teachers, really wanted it to work, and in the end just gave up and bailed. So happy we did. The educational style just was bad fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:56 PM Flag
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interesting. is the private more progressive than the public was? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:58 PM Flag
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Yes. But the order is kept in the classroom in a very different way. No shouting. Lots of humor. Very calm and loving. Only 2 less kids, and same teacher kid ratio. But a completely different approach. I can hardly believe the difference. Although they are a year behind the math that dc was doing last year. So what. She runs to school everyday as fast as she can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:01 PM Flag
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well that;s encouraging. thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:04 PM Flag
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My DC does some of these things (touching, not aware of social space, impulsive). DC has sensory integration issues and has been in OT and it's helped a lot. Entering private K in fall (and NO will not name school). I may be completely off since I'm not trained and have never seen your DC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:08 PM Flag
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but at least if you get an evaluation, you'll know for sure and can cross that off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:08 PM Flag
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What does your lack of ability to conceive children have to do with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:18 PM Flag
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??lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:22 PM Flag
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This sounds exactly like my df's dd -- our preschool advised her to take the girl to occupational therapy, which has helped a great deal. She went for a year and still does some "music therapy" with headphones an hour or so a day. Some of the problems are still there but there is a real difference, and I don't think it's just being one year older. You should talk to someone at your school about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 03:12 AM Flag
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the teacher is calling you with reporting on problems not ideas for mutual problem solving. this is not good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 05:45 AM Flag
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The teacher should offer suggestions and help figure out a consistent plan. That is what she is trained to do, it's not like disruptive behaviour in 1st grade is rare. She certainly should try some different interventions before sending you off to a therapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:46 AM Flag
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There's a difference between an evaluation and a program of therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.09, 09:48 AM Flag
[ - ] This is my kid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G7YXn-lfHXc 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:18 PM Flag
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hope he enjoys saint ann's next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:20 PM Flag
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haha - really? That's a funny vision of St. Ann's I will never let go of [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:25 PM Flag
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just kidding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:30 PM Flag
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I love it when he brings in the wheel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] dc's teacher called today--dc in 1st. have gotten such calls before. dc is being too disruptive in class: hums under her breath, won't always follow directions, doesn't wait her turn, talks to other kids when she should be listening to the teacher. etc. she's also very touchy feeling and doesn't give other kids their space, enough. teacher said other students wind up feel disrepected by her and that she, the teacher, feels disrespected. i'm going in tomorrow to talk further with the teacher, whom i like a lot. and the teacher said some nice things too--that my daughter is very loving and lovely, that she's one of the only kids in class who leaves at the end of the day saying, "Bye, I love you Ms. X"--the teacher thinks it's nice. She says she loves my daughter. But it doesn't change the fact that she thinks all this other stuff is problematic and must be dealt with. I feel very frustrated and impotent. I feel unsure how to tackle the problem and i worry that in some way not completely clear to me I'm "causing" the problem. After I've talked to her teacher I don't know what to do next. How do you calm/focus a kid, and get them to think as much of others' feelings as they do their own? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:09 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:12 PM Flag
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Teacher here: have you seen these behaviors (and these reactions from other DC)? What is your theory (and the teacher's theory) about why this is happening? Is DD overwhelmed? Is it attention-seeking behavior? Does she realize that she is bothering her classmates? What type of learner is she? What might motivate her? How many DC in the class? (My gut is that she may be over-stimulated in class -- and that she might also need concrete instructions about appropriate behaviors. Would a "star chart" work for her?) A situation like this takes some balance -- you don't want it to become a self-esteem issue, you don't want to be caught in a pattern of getting a "report" on her day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:17 PM Flag
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np Going through something similar with my first grade dd and your last sentence struck me. We've been doing this "report" on her day thing and I never really thought it could be damaging to dd. See your point, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:24 PM Flag
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Teacher from above: it does sometimes work, but it can sometimes be hard on the DC and that's why I'm wary. If it's working for you (and for DC and for the teacher), keep it up (but if not, find another system). GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:31 PM Flag
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thank you. these are all very good questions that i haven't necessarily thought to ask in this way; i'll write them down, look them over, and try to bring up when i talk to the teacher tomorrow. what i'm hearing about her from the teacher--none of it is surprising. i heard it from her K teacher last year and preschool teacher too. she's a very active, energetic kid whose attention does wander and who has a tendency to just start doing what she wants to do in the middle of some other activity. she can be very affectionate (hence the grabbing of other kids). so this isn't something that started recently or only happens at school. it's just becoming more problematic as school becomes more structured. and i don't know what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:25 PM Flag
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I don't know your DC (or the teacher or the school), so it's hard to give advice on where to go from here. I think that you need to come up with a "plan" for DC -- she may just need to "learn" how to act appropriately (and develop strategies for what to do when she's about to have a problem). I do suggest that you "catch her being good" and give lots of positive reinforcement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:35 PM Flag
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well, that all make sense. your questions above were helpful--i do plan to print out, think about, and discuss some of them with her teacher: i might not have thought to ask stuff like "what's your theory on why this is happening?" or "Is she seeking attention?" or "What kind of learner is she?" I feel like those cold help guide the discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:40 PM Flag
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GL. Sounds as though you're ready and willing to help -- and the teacher will appreciate that and this help going forward, you want to form a partnership. I'd find a balance between positive reinforcement, clear expectations, known consequences, and consistency (none of this is ground-breaking, but it usually works). If DD is incentive-driven, work in some rewards (but it make manageable). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:54 PM Flag
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thank you very much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:59 PM Flag
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i can't seem to get this reply button to work but trying one more time: thank you very much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:01 PM Flag
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Just needs a bit more direction on what is appro, and why. Also, sounds like classic case of cabin fever..once the spring comes, and the kids can get out for some decent recess time, I think behaviour like this will lessen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:26 PM Flag
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what kind of school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:27 PM Flag
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She sounds very cute. Very Junie B Jones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:30 PM Flag
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ah that's nice. appreciate your saying. it does console me that the teacher calls her a lovely/loving child--doesn't sound like it's a matter of her not being liked. but on the other hand, the teacher is clear that this disruptive behavior has to be curbed. and i just don't feel sure i'll be able to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:36 PM Flag
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I hate to say this, but maybe she needs a school setting which has a different approach to engaging/enjoying her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:40 PM Flag
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believe me, i think about it. it's just that the torture we went through to get her in this school--well, i'm not quite ready to write it off yet. but ultimately, if it's the wrong place for her, then we'll figure that out and find another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] What did you do tonight? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:07 PM Flag
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book club [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:07 PM Flag
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Watched TV, talked on the phone with my mom (although I wanted BF to call), browsed online shopping sites (going shopping after work tomorrow). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:10 PM Flag
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married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:12 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:17 PM Flag
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kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:25 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:30 PM Flag
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had fun... with myself... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:16 PM Flag
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huh - really...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:37 PM Flag
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Was vomited on by db, again, worked for 3 hours. Now I am tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:23 PM Flag
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yikes - busy night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:26 PM Flag
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drank a lot of wine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:26 PM Flag
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read twilight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:26 PM Flag
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Lied in bed sick with cold and surfed the web including UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:01 PM Flag
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sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 09:39 PM Flag
[ - ] someone told me that brearley only takes propeller heads? true? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.26.09, 08:01 PM Flag
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what's a propeller head? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:05 PM Flag
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a geek...remember the cartoons we watched when we were kids with the little things on the head> [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:06 PM Flag
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Are you actually saying this about kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:11 PM Flag
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npLOL. Oh, the insult! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:13 PM Flag
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what is a propeller head [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:05 PM Flag
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Actually they are incapable of dealing with seriously gifted students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:06 PM Flag
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lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:07 PM Flag
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troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:07 PM Flag
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They like Euros, bilingual kids, celebs, billionaires more than unconnected kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:11 PM Flag
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We are Euros, bilingual, wealthy, 99x3 ERB - dinged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:27 PM Flag
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wl or ding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:39 PM Flag
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ding loud and clear. didn't bother too much - commute to the east end is a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:48 PM Flag
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My 99/99/99 erb/99+ SB dd was dinged, fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:12 PM Flag
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WL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:14 PM Flag
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No. Ding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:14 PM Flag
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don't think that erb is all that much...dd got 95 and was wl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:14 PM Flag
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You're disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:19 PM Flag
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Crazy B is in da house!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:20 PM Flag
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Wrong. idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:23 PM Flag
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OP is yet another Brearley hater, what's the matter, your monolingual super brilliant gifted DD did not get in, so it must be a conspiracy, right? I do not even attend the school and I find this attitude pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:55 PM Flag
[ - ] how can i put this? i think it's ok to spank my kids, i resent FA parents, i'm thinking of cheating on my dh, i'm going to donate my eggs to my ex, and i need some new shoes. WWYD? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:00 PM Flag
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i love you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:01 PM Flag
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Hey- I only need new shoes- OK , don't mix me up with the other propellerheads [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:03 PM Flag
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op: you're right. you have my sincere apologies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:05 PM Flag
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I am you except for the eggs thing, but then again none of my exes want them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:03 PM Flag
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I too need some new shoes, so I can help you with that one. Shopbop.com has some good ones on sale as does bluefly.com. If you are not as impacted by the financial crisis (you did mention you would DONATE your eggs, not sell them), you may just want to walk over to Saks. They've decided to do away with discounts on prestige brands because it undermines their 'luxury' message. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.26.09, 08:04 PM Flag
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