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[ - ] how old should db be before i drop her at gym daycare. 6 wo now. really want to workout. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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too little. i say 3 months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I started at 6 months but only b/c I wasn't ready before...I just didn't want him sitting in a carseat with the other kids around [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Can't you get a sitter? I would never leave my DD at the babysitting room. Crawling with germs. Plus my gym time is my getaway from it all time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
[ - ] I am flying to Australia soon with 2 dcs, aged 5yo and 3yo, and am dreading it. Any tips from btdt moms pls on how to make it less painful for me and people around us ..worried about all the schlepping and potential for tantrums and bickering ..they can be terrific kids but meltdowns a reality, especially for 29 hours plus in little seats ..tia 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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I will pray for you ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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hehe, i suspect a lot of people are already! but thanks .. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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It will be fine. I flew with 2yo and 4.5yo and they were fine (and I was 8 weeks pregnant). Just bring pjs for sleeping, some new toys, DVDs if your DCs like them. Best of all, upgrade and fly business if you can on the upper deck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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ahh that would be nice ..but it's massively pricey to fly biz to Australia ..would rather use the money for something else! Did you take loads of snacks etc ..if so, what is good in the air? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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2 portable dvd players. lots of dvds. go to dover publications and order a lot of sticker books. and bring candy. m and ms, lollipops. good luck! you'll survive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I've never flown that long but I do fly often w/ dcs (but only 3hrs). My suggestions would be to hide a few small, new toys as surprises...a new DVD or new coloring book w/ markers or just anything that is portable that you can 'surprise' them with. Also, I'm a big fan of giving kids information and schedules. Say "WE're going to color and then watch the DVD and then get into our PJs and sleep"...it may help them w/ the 'endless' feeling of sitting in the seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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I took 20 hr flights recently with 2 DS's - 6 and 2. Tire them out in the airport as much as possible, even find an empty part of the terminal and do exercises, sprints etc. My older ds slept very well, through meal service even, using blindfold and we got one of those kid neck rests. I wouldn't have thought of the blindfold but they gave them out on the flight and now he always uses it. New Dvds - we borrowed lots from friends of all kinds of movies they hadn't seen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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I flew to Fiji w/1 & 5 yr olds, really no problem. Stick to reg schedule - after dinner, bush teeth, change into pjs & read bedtime stories then tuck them up in blankets for "bedtime". Otherwise, yes, bring one bag for snacks, one bag for books, videos, crayons & paper, etc. Don't forget spare clothes for them & at least one spare t-shirt for you (in case of accidents_ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] How much do you pay nanny if she stays overnight? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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100 for the time dc is n bed. Whatever you pay her otherwise for awake time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Is there a good children's bookstore in Manhattan? So hate the chains. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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Bank Street bookstore on 112th and Broadway is excellent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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ditto. great resource for books and educational aids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Tritto. It is one of the best kids' bookstores I've found. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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best in the world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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Books of Wonder in Chelsea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else with a DC who won't drink milk? 19 mo has refused for two weeks now. I'm giving him cereal w/milk and lots of yogurt to compensate but worried about it. I've tried chocolate milk, milk w/honey, and nothing works. He'll only drink water. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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not a big deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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Does he eat cheese? How about calcium fortified juice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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ever since I d/c the bottle dd won't drink milk. She eats a ton of cheese and yogurt and will have a sip of milk once in a blue moon. Nothing else I can do. I used to really worry about it, but it's been 9 mo or so and what can I do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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why didn't you give the bottle back - not really that big a deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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didn't want dd on a bottle for a long time. nb was arriving and I didn't want her stealing her bottles, etc. Big mistake. With #2 I will keep her on longer if she refuses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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i wouldn't worry as long as he eats yogurt, cheese, etc...my daughter stopped at one year when we took away the bottle....and now she's thriving at 2 1/2 and still never drinks milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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i don't understand you people - better to drink milk in a bottle than to not drink milk at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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np: And that's equivalent to eating lots of yogurt so who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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My ped says yogurt and cheese are just as good (esp yogurt) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I was this way. Turns out I was lacto-intolerant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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op: Thanks all. My DB never took a bottle, so that was never an option. (When I stopped nursing, he would only take a sippy cup and hardly drank milk before he stopped completely.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] new to UB DH - quiz away 294 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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um, welcome I guess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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do you manscape? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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of course. neat and trim, but enough to still look masculine. whats your preference? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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what does DW think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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she's used to it by now, so doesn't comment much. she likes it this way - likes the smooth aspect. likes that i don't have much on my chest - and none on my back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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np: I prefer manscaping to the alternative but I don't want dh to be metrosexual or hyper obsessed with his appearance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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whats wrong with metro? there is an in between - doesn't have to be full blown. I take care of myself, and like to look good - but don't spend much time getting myself together - and don't own lots of product [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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or: My ex-dh turned out to be gay so I find great comfort in my dh's traditional masculinity. He takes care of himself and looks great but until we were together worse awful clothes and shoes and had very bad glasses! He is extremely straight though! I really hate to sound like I am stereotyping but it just turned out that my gay ex-dh could arrange an amazing floral bouquet and got himself waxed while my dh now considers his deodorant to be his high maintenance beauty product. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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sorry to hear that. You had no clue? I agree that he was overkill - i don't wax anything, never have had a manicure, or to a barber. I stick to most manly things - but i also appreciate a good moisturizer - that dw turned me onto. If i turn out to be gay - all her fault [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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boxers or briefs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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boxers for nearly everything - boxer briefs for the gym [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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what brand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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mostly calvin klein [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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sexy....what color now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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gray pattern [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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doesn't that get expensive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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np: they are sold in tj maxx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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they're not much more than some other brands - and when you find ones that fit well and you wear that brand every day - its worth it to spend for quality/comfort. I don't buy $200 jeans, so this is my luxury if you think they're expensive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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very cool.....hope you look good in them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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as do I! I won't accept letting myself go - at least not at this age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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what do you look like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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on here? black text - sort of the the small size, kind of like everyone else. is that what you meant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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in real life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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oh, in real life. I've been compared to anderson cooper, although not as much gray and I assume I'm taller. haven't shaved since saturday... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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sexy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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age and occupation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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34, serial entrepreneur [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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any success? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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yes - and some failures - but learned a great deal from all of them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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what brings you to UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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see above - just sold a business and now consulting to them - but its slow going thus far. Evaluating a new opportunity - along the lines of social networking, so i'm playing with a bunch of sites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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very cool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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How involved are you with your kids/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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I'd say very - and I think dw would agree. But with us - can depend on my work schedule. Now i'm essentially home all the time - so we split everything or I try to do a bit more. When fustrated my dw will say i need to do more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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How many kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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ever cheat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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nope. never tempted honestly. we have a pretty good sex life and even better line of communication - which I think is the key. May not always see eye to eye on frequency, etc - but both of us end up satisfied. That and my wife is beautiful, great shape and a great person - so very little incentive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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How often do you have sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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of course it depends on everything - my work schedule, the kids, what dw has going on, cycle of the moon... on average, 3-4x a week. If the kids are away or we're on vacation, generally at least once a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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very very nice.....who usually initiates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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depends - if during the week and she's tired - me. Weekend, its usually her beating me to the punch - but just because I know that she will -and she prefers mornings, where I'm more a night guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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How did you meet DW? How long after did you ask her on a first date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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she was a waitress in a bar near where I had an office. I used to go in there to conduct meetings, as the office was unimpressive. She was in school at the time. We developed a good repertoire, and she made me out to seem like a big fish to perspective clients. I was so focused on work I wasn't thinking about how great she was - so she essentially asked me out. Knew her for maybe 6 months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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what did you do on the first date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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as in where we went? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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yeah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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first date was dinner and to a golf range. She had to play in the bar's charity golf tournament that was coming up- and wasn't a golfer, so the date came out of her asking for help. From there I planned the next date and it was more romantic - no clubs involved! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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how far did you guys go on the first date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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heavy making out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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how soon after did you have sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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was the first week - date 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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where? how was it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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her apt - wanted to make sure she felt comfortable. First time was great - we had and have amazing chemistry - honestly can't say there was any awkwardness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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why so quick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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is that so quick with two adults? we both knew this was more than a hook up and both felt our relationship was ready for it. How long did you wait? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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2 weeks with DH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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so 3 dates, having known each other for 6 months is too quick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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nah that's pretty standard.....did you know at the beginning of the date that you'd have sex/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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pretty sure. 2nd date we had to hold ourselves back. I don't think anything would have changed had we done it night one or 10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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westchester, formerly NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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where in westchester? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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When was the last time you had sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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that would be sunday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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What position? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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a fun mix of probably 3 or 4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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cool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Most unusual place you've had sex overall? Most unusual with DW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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depends what usual is I guess. College days and post were a bit extreme. This was all before DW - at a party in sight of others, club bathroom, tennis hut. with dw - I guess our honeymoon - all over the island and resort - or on hotel balconies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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very nice! Did others see you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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party - yes, but we were young, drunk and craved attention. Way before the risk of us ending up on youtube that night! as for other times - i'm sure some did - but even if they didn't - imagining they did is half of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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How many people saw you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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not a clue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Where on the island and in resort/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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we took some hikes - off the trail, on desserted beaches, waterfall. Resort, beach at night, beach hut/cabana, off on a walk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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What does DW do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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stay at home and part time with a not for profit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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How many women have you slept with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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i'm sure there is some approvable amount that i may exceed - but for sake of honesty - in the 30s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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no problem with that....does DW know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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yup - was discussed early. We both accept that we had pasts and don't hide from that. She enjoys hearing some stories, and says she takes comfort in knowing I got in a lot of what i wanted to try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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what are some things you did that you wanted to try? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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some of your typical male fantasies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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do tell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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sex in public, sex with people watching, threesome, same room- pool, hot tubs, beach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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who was in the same room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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roommates, another couple [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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they watch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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yes - part of the draw of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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how was it? Who were they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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for the most part - it adds an exciting element to it. The idea of watching and being watched is fun. In most cases- they were friends of an ex, and her roommate - that was a bit odd, but i just went with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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Why so many? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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much of it was after i broke up, in college, with a gf of 2 years. new found freedom - the crowd I ran with. It was fun, I was safe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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you sound like a man whore! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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we're all allowed our opinions. if thats yours - so be it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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oh please, I have him beat by double. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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What would you do if your best friend told you he had an affair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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i'd be disappointed -would have expected better. I really only have remained close with people who I feel are "good" people deep down - and thus I wouldn't expect it. But then again - everyone deals with demons and has issues from time to time - so i'd try to understand him/her - but ensure they did right by their dw/family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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you enjoying yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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seriously! why are people encouraging him? no one grills a new female poster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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ha - yeah its fun. I don't see this as grilling fwiw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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>> np: b/c we don't talk to men all day (How pathetic, never thought my life would come to this. haha) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I get the vibe some women wish this site was only women, and others like the opportunity to interact with men. great thing is you can choose what you read and what you skip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Under what circumstances would you do somethign sexual with a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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none that i can think of. if its super hypothetical - if family's life was in jeopardy,etc - but i still think i'd find a way out of it before i was forced to... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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really? even if your family's life were in jeopardy? sheesh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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sorry - was saying if the family's life was in jeopardy- sure, but i would still find a way to save them, avoid a man, and help an old lady cross the street all at once [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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ever wear briefs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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ever - yes. recently - no. Its been years and years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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why did you switch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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i think i switched in my teens - comfort [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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Ever have a threesome? give details! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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yes - post college years, and once with DW. you really want details? not like movies - usually drunk, good for the most part [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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give us details for both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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too funny. is this a dh or a dw? (not that I'd be able to validate!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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DW.....curious about both.....espeically with DW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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college i dated a girl who at the time was more experienced than I was - so I sort of fell in line. I was enamored with what she was into - was a new world for me. She and I were all about sex - not much relationship - so it was empty but it worked then. She was just a big party girl, so she had a way of making situations materialize. She was into other women. DW - she had a fantasy of two guys, and it was something I was into doing for her - so, we made it happen. We were engaged at the time. And no - I wasn't with the guy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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who was the guy? did you mind being naked with him? did you mind seeing her with him? what positions did you guys use? any accidental touching betwene you and him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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he was an acquaintance from a sailing club. Someone we knew but not in our circle of friends. Single, bachelor type. Didn't mind being naked with him - not much different than a locker room really. The whole idea was for them to be together, and thankfully that was the erotic part. Yeah, it was fun - not like I imagined, but didn't know what to expect. We mixed it up - some with just me, some just him, some all three of us. No touching between us - did we bump arms or legs- probably, but he was the same as I was - not into it for that reason. It was on a boat so - it was tight quarters to begin with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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have you seen him since? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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saw him after, but not in years. We moved away. Somehow, he never made it onto our xmas card list - must be an oversight! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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what was it like seeing him have sex with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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honestly - intense. It was really a mix of emotions. With an ex that we had done similar - it was different because we weren't at the same emotional level dw and I were at. But I think that actually heightened it. It was something she really wanted to try, so I was into it for her, and surprised myself by how much I otherwise was into it. The hottest aspect was that she enjoyed it and fulfilled a fantasy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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I can believe it was intense.....you get jealous at it? Or turned on by it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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both. more turned on than anything, but at first - and once she settled into it - there were points of being like wow, she is really into this - but then i remembered its her fantasy, and what was i to expect - they weren't going to play Uno. I think i mentioned that i was surprised that it turned me on as much as it did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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what did you think when she first mentioned it to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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well it was in the course of fooling around - years before and it was interesting - but not something I was ready for. Subsequently - it was very hot to discuss. I never felt she wanted it it because I wasn't enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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did you guys have any limits on what either of you would/wouldn't do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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she beforehand said she wouldn't kiss him - but she called an audible. other than that - we had a safety word, used condoms - and she was in control [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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how did you approach the other guy? how did he react? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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no approach or discussion before - It was after a race - we had been drinking for hours, and she took the lead and said we should keep partying on my boat - as she wasn't having fun with everyone else. That was the bait and it was clear to him her/our intentions on board. At that point- it was just go with the flow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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"called an audible?" huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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sorry - football term - she called for a change of plans on the fly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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you mind that she kissed him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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mind no - but it was her rule, which was important to her to establish. but she felt that the reasons she didn't want to, didn't make sense. and she just felt it made her feel cheap or something that they didn't kiss, and he didn't really know she wasn't so - he was confused at first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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did her changing plans on the fly freak you out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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freak no. surprise yes, but it was her rule, so it wasn't like she broke mine. I was fine with that from the beg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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new dh: you're a better man than i. maybe it's different when you're in the situation, context and all that, but just the thought of my wife having sex w/someone else would make me insane. [ Reply | More ]
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don't get me wrong, its not a decision for when you're sober, and this was pre kids and such. Also - not sure if your dw has expressed a desire for it - but when your partner puts it out there the way mine did - it makes you want to do something for them - at least it did for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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Another new Dh: how did she put it out there? [ Reply | More ]
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is this so you can give dw ideas?! details are fuzzy, but in such a way where it could have been innocent or it could have been more. She just invited him back with us - as the scene at the bar was getting old and she told him it would be more fun on the boat just the three of us [ Reply | More ]
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i can understand that - but i think i'd feel differently once i was in the situation - watching another man have his way with her, seeing her get off - i honestly don't know about that... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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i totally understand. It was uncharted territory, but it was fun. We were younger and such - so- maybe wouldn't do it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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what was teh double penetration like for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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didn't do it - not sure it even came up - but it was a small bed on a boat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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why the boat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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we were at the marina - and it wasn't either of our beds I guess- maybe too personal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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would you do it again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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well things are different now with kids, but, i would never say never. If we both wanted it, and we were away w/o kids, I'd go for it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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What is something kinky you want to do with DW that you haven't? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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well it will never happen, but I like the idea of "cacthing" her with someone. I'd settle for catching her flirting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Have you thought of going to a bar with her and having her flirt with a guy while you watched and then going home with her? DH and I did it and he was an animal in bed it was a turn on for him [ Reply | More ]
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yes - we have and its bar far one of my favorite role playing. But its so scripted - but still fun. I'm sure I was just like you dh the times we've done it. We all have some jealousy - and this gets to the heart of it. Plus she loves the attention, where she normally might not get as much when we're together, from other random guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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How are you when your watching her flirt with other guys? When do you step in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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how am I - i prefer to step back into the shadows and just watch. Have tried to be close to hear her - but end up getting into a conversation of my own - and then can't really watch her. We had a signal if she needed me or he got creepy, or if she couldn't take anymore. I really left it up to her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Have you done it with a woman flirting with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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we did try it - but its so different as you can imagine. A guy will make it clear they would be looking for sex - when i was talking to a woman one time, she was more into having my babies. Not so fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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New DH: That would be a big turn off for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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old dh: agreed. I approached the woman I felt was most looking to be picked up, and she turned out to be the one most looking to settle down. We laughed about it later - so much easier for a woman to find a guy to flirt with. When I haven't tried to find a woman, they appear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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how did you react to that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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it was actually an engaging conversation, but not what i was looking for. That and I was interested to see what DW was doing at the bar. I eventually had to be rude and say i had to leave - and she was a bit taken back, so I felt bad for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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What is your most humiliating moment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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business meeting - was well prepared, but a stakeholder turned it into a rant against me and the opportunity, to the point it got out of hand. As close as I've gotten to crawling into a corner and hiding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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What did you do to get DW in the mood the first few timesafter having the babies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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good question. I really let her dictate when she was ready. I made sure she knew it would only go as far as felt ok for her, and I made sure that she felt sexy, and wanted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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awww...that's nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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What is a deep secret you are holding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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really no good ones come to mind. Sad, but true. one maybe - Supposedly a family member had a child that was given up for adoption, but i don't know the truth and it has since blown over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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any none good ones? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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sorry to disappoint! how about you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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That I once gave his best friend a BJ before we started dating. How would you react if your wife told you that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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i assume i'd be ok with it - it didn't happen when we dated? I'd wonder why it never came up before - but I'm sure i've done similiar. Maybe we'd turn it into a fun night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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would you be comfortable inviting your best friend to join you and DW in bed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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best friend hits too lcose to home. Her best friend - different story! kidding. I think ideal is someone you casually know - so you know they're safe, but not someone who will be cheering on the same sideline at soccer at 9am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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it happened about a month before DH and I had our first date [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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ah - and why did you never tell him - don't you worry it will come out? living with guilt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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we didn't want DH to think that he was getting "sloppy seconds" and all that, and its never really come out....only the best friend and I know about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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does it come up between you guys at all? do you think about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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i've thought about it a few times and no it doesn't come up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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how do you think about it - as a turn on or the guilt from not telling him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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turn on.....i'll be honest his best friend is bigger than he is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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i thought size wasn't everything! see - it seems to me its an issue, and not so much that it was his friend- but more that you're non content with your current sex life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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I am really content with my current sex life.....I love DH nad he's my best lover....mainly the idea of the bigger dick was nice.....and size isn't everything, but you do remember your biggest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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I see - so then its a good memory for you, no reason why you can't look back on it and smile time to time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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What do you think of this chat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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its interesting - and a good insight into this demographic for me. I am curious who is asking the questions - gender, age, socio economic - but I realize we'll never know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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you mind sharing all of this with everyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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no - i'll tell dw later- she'll get a kick out of it. I'm sure no one will be calling her and saying - was that your dh on here??? And if they do - so be it, most of it is our past. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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DW here: If my DH told me about this chat, I'd kinda be turned on, just my perspective [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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really? good to know! I told her I was coming on here so she would have asked regardless if it turned to sex et all or not. I didn't expect this though! Why is it a turn on - the honesty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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What's your favorite sex position? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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nothing beat missionary for intimacy and joint pleasure - and so many variations to make it different for dw. others may feel better or are kinkier - but its the best mix [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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very cool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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and what about the female perspective? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Where is a place you haven't had sex but want to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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one that comes to mind is an airplane - but honesty not a huge desire. Maybe behind a screen at a club - people seeing our shadows. Oh - and i'll toss in a bachelorette party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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what with a bacherlette party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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or a sex toys party, or book club. Some gathering of women, with dw where they want the male perspective and it alcohol takes over and caution is thrown to the wind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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so something like where DW invites you to her women's book club so you can give the male perspective on the book and the wine flows and the discussion gets hot and they start tearing your clothes off and have woman on women sex and then one after another engage you in verious sex acts until you are exhausted on teh floor covered in sweat [ Reply | More ]
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thats a bit too pornish for me. I liked everything up until it turned to an orgy. Maybe its a smaller group and they encourage - or dare us to do stuff to each other and we more put on a show - maybe they touch her a bit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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NP: that would be fun to watch......another couple doing whatever we told them to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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a group of women telling the couple - or another couple? I agree - but it just seems so impractical! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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telling the couple what to do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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set it up - we're there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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How much do your friends' know about your sex life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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my friends don't know much about stuff with dw and I. Thats private (although - now public sinse I've divulged.) They knew things years after about some exs - but i didn't tell them as it happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Have you ever done a fuorsome? Would you consider it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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with an ex, yes. with dw - no. Would I consider it with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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would you consider it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I'd never say never. Would have to be ideal situation - she is curious for the female aspect - i'd see that before another couple [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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When you are in a locker room do you casually look to see how you compare to teh other guys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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casually no. Do you catch a glimpse with peripheral vision, sure, but it really escapes your mind moments later. I'm more about getting showered and out of there. I've been around enough lockerooms and sports and what not that you just go about your business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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what is the worst crime to happen to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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knock on wood - nothing thus far. Had my companies been broken into, or money stollen - but nothing major [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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When and where did you lose your virginity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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16, HS gf, her house, we skipped a party and went to her house when her parents were out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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what was it like for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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fun. Thankfully not painful for her - first for both of us - so we figured out way through it and didn't want to stop. Went to the party and came back and repeated when her parents went to sleep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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did you worry they'd wake up? did you use protection teh first time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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worry that they'd come downstairs - yes. but they were I guess 2 floors away - so we could always hear them, and we quickly got dressed and just watched TV. Yes we did, first few times until she was on the pill I guess or we felt comfortable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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You sound liek a really fun guy..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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thanks - an unexpected compliment! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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You and your DW sound a lot like me and my DH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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oh yeah? what aspect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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the sexual openess.....we've done a couple wild things ourselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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don't let me be the only one to share - go for it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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threesomes with a man and a woman, foursome with another couple....public places like the subway, cabs, boats, other places [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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very fun. Never tried the subway - have gotten frisky in a cab. Only one life to live - might as well go for it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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how far did oyu go in the cab? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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kissing, touching, some under the clothes - but it was a short ride [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Is there a couple in your circle of friends who you would consider having a foursome with? Why them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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good question and one dw and I have totally discussed! short answer - no, not one we'd both agree on. There is one couple where I find the wife attractive and think the guy would be a good compliment to my dw. dw is always surprised by the women I say I'd be into - as they're different than her. And even if they were ideal - they still are friends - so I wouldn't do there. Turned back to you - do you have a couple? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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DH and I also disagree....we each have a top choice....in mine the DH is someone I think is very cute and would be fun in bed and the wife is something who has a lot of energy so she can keep up with DH in bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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you just can't agree on the couple? would you ever do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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I think we could come to an agreement, but I am not sure if we would. If we did, probably not anyone we know. But maybe a casual couple, something like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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i agree 100% - just hard to find that ideal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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Did you ever have a pregnancy scare before you got married? How did you react? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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scare - yes. react - lets get you tested so we know for sure. Of course played through every scenario only to find out it was false. Learned from mistakes - tried to be more careful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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What would you have done if she was pregnant? Was this DW or someone befre DW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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well i'm pro-choice, so depending on the situation and what would have been best for the baby. With dw - not so much a scare but- not long after our 2nd, a possible - even though we were safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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what would you have done if she said she wanted to keep the baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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no choice really. Support her and try to be in the baby's life as much as possible. I'd like to say get full custody, but I know that might not be in best interest of baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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This is another DH: Got a question....any advice on creative ways to seduce DW? Some new ideas that worked for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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is she not into sex now? If so - if she's tired, etc - ease what makes her tired - let her rest up - then go for the seduction. I love to run a bath, have a friend watch the kids/take them to dinner to give us a few hours alone. Let dw take a bath and then set the bedroom with candles, music. If she doesn't have body image issues - maybe she'd like lingerie - or better yet - money or GC to her favorite store- to buy a dress or outfit for dinner - and plan a date [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Thanks.....right now its a combo of tired and I would love something new....get back to the early seduction days of our relationship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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remind her of those early days - not just the sex- but a great date - recreate it all, and i'm sure it will work out well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Here are some places DH and I have had sex in, curious of your thoughts on them and would you do them wiht DW? Subway, cab with a cab driver driving, Staten Island Ferry, Ellis Island, Central Park, Hoboken waterfront, tunnels of Rockefeller Center, Grand Central Station, Shea Stadium, a cemetary and coat room at a wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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wow - all in one night? you guys are quite adventusous - you have us beaten. Wedding sounds funm as does the ferry. As long as no one gets hurt or offended, its great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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LOL....not in one night, over our entire relationship.......any place you'd like to try? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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oh, more than one night! (you know I was kidding I hope!) SI ferry sounds fun, upscale bar/club bathroom, limo driving around, hot tub at friends party [ Reply | More ]
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here are two of my fantasies....in the hot tub with another couple doing it in teh same hot tub and in a limo swapping with the other couple [ Reply | More ]
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I love them both - interestingly both involve small spaces, which i think adds to it. DW and I have discussed the hot tub one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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The small spaces appeal to me. Here is another one.....curious what you think.....DH and his 2 brothers and his best friend each take turns with me all night long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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hmm- not my thing. Are you attracted to his brothers? I would be more inclined to after the game or poker game, dw and friends, not brothers. Whats the appeal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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They are both cute....but I can do him and some friends instead....what woudl you think if your DW said she wanted you and 4 other guys taking turns all night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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i;d say - maybe start with 1 or two first! I'd love that she felt open enough to ask - thought she had a wild side and i'd aim to go a bit tamer at first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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If she let you pick the two friends for it.....do you know who and why them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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I think i could guess which ones, but maybe i'd be wrong on one of them. It would be part looks and body for her, and part chemistry I think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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Any top pick? [ Reply | More ]
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oh sorry - misread. If i got to pick - hmm- yeah I'd have two in mind. I think she'd be into them and they'd be respectful and just keep it fun and respect her/our boundaries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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Do you think they'd be up for it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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well i'd pick ones that were I'd hope - but i can see one or both saying no way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Do you plan on having sex tonight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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plan - no. Don't really plan for sex - takes the fun out of it. Hope, want - sure. She'll be exhuasted from her day trip, so I think no, unless there is a joint shower tonight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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surprise her in teh shower! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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well that would be her time to unwind - so unless she really lets me know she wants a guest - i'll leave her be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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you sound like a really good and decent DH......DW is lucky to have you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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thanks - at least what you gleam form here! Not sure who is who - but most of you sound pretty down to earth and fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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What have you learned about UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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that there are some interesting people and a lot of honesty (or seems it) some good questions, and a lot of people curious about other lives. Everyone has been polite- didn't expect that at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Would you, or have you, done an orgy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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have I - no. Would I - possibly - under the right circumstances. Its a bit appealing - but many more fantasies I'd prefer. Seems like too much going on at once [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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What are your top five fantasies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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us with a friend of dws, walking in on dw with a stranger, dw letting me meet a woman while away on business and her listening on the phone, dw and i on a trip on an amazing yacht all over the world, i'll grab the book club one from above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Nice....now what are the top five fantasies most likely to happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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hmm- posted top 5 above - will have to think of ones likely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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ok- most likely to happen: on a boat somewhere, with another guy, with another woman, tropical deserted beach, and friends/hotel/resort hot tub [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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Who was the last couple you saw having sex, that you weren't planning on seeing have sex? How did you and they react? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I guess when we moved from the city - we could see people in the building across the street. They never saw us and always left windows open - can think of 2 or 3 apartments. A few times it got us both in the mood - once we sort of watched and played but it didn't last long - ended up in bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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I like that, DH and I have done that [ Reply | More ]
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NP: When DH and I lived in the city, we had a few floor to ceiling windows in our bedroom, adn we used to do it in front of the window, either leaning against the glass with him behind me or me giving him a BJ and we figured people watched us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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yeah, we didn't have floor to ceiling - but did similar. Building across was all windows- thus we could see a lot. Wonder if we saw you guys! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Where did you live? You know if anyone watched you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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upper east side. No one held "10" signs up - so can't be sure for certain, but I feel like someone must have been able to see something. Regardless- shades were left open and it was fun for us - so thats all that mattered! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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We lived in Murray Hill so you didn't see us then! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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I could have sworn... you have light brown hair - petite... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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yes! I do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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i must say - you have great technique! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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Obama or Hillary? Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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is bloomberg running? I'm unhappy with either, but quite liberal. My preference was HRC, but seeing as she's all but lost, I'll support Obama. Best of what we've got to choose from [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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Tell us about the toughest thing you have head to tell your wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I actually have to get going - so no time for the deep question, and I'd have to think about it anyway. sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP: goodbye everyone, its been fun and interesting! - I'm off of UB for now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 02:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What's your best tip for losing a quick 5lbs or so that doesn't include starvation? Want to look extra good next weekend. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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5 lbs? cut off an arm. add your head and it'd be 10! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Bingo, thanks! My arms are kind of fat though, so if I just lose 1 I might be down 7 or so. You are a genius! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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No carbs, lots of water. Stop eating after 6PM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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np- and eat very light at night. almost go to bed hungry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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laxatives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Young coworker asked how late she should wait to get married. What would your honest advice be? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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til she finds the right person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Wait until you find the right guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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no later than 7pm (you want time for the reception afterward) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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The sooner the better. IMO things just get more complicated the older you get. People seem to date the same guy over and over again too, from what I've noticed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Depends on how young this person is. I wouldn't give that advice to a 19 yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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I was 35 when I got married, and am very happily married. It just took that long to meet the right guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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When she finds the right person (as long as they are done with college and settled in jobs). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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She can wait forever to get married but she should have her 1st kid by the time she is 30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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IMO, marriages take two years to "cure." Sadly, women should plan to conceive in their early 30s. So, marriage at 30 seems to be the latest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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I say 29 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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if she has found the right guy, later than 25 to be mature enough. but depends how many kids she wants - younger than 35 if more than 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't get it. I just got an email from my second friend from college who is at home (not working) and doesn't have kids and doesn't plan on having kids. They live in the midwest and their dhs make decent incomes (150K-200K) and their homes are paid for so their dhs just say "don't work, I don't care." Maybe I'm jealous but I just cannot imagine it - not doing anything all day. This second one just made her decision so I don n't know how she'll spend her time but the first one doesn't volunteer or anything..shops, works out, meets friends for lunch, hangs out w/ her mom. I'd feel so wasteful. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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I think it would be great. I'd have all sorts of art projects going and read 4 books at the same time abd volunteer. Sigh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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less wasteful than having a child AND staying home [ Reply | More ]
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NP: at least if you are at home you are raising your dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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who does that...are they planning on being housewives without kids. BORING shallow life imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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it would be pretty nice! [ Reply | More ]
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depends on person and life i guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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admit it - you are slightly jealous. i am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I think I'd be jealous for the summer or several weeks but after that - I'd be bored to tears and wonder why they aren't (or at least the first one isn't) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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I'm a working mom but I hate this attitude. Our society has a HUGE bias against "non-traditionals," e.g. people who don't do the married and kids route. I've had friends who stayed home w/o kids and more power to them. They were easily able to fill their days and their choices are no less wasteful than someone who makes the same choice to raise kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
[ - ] My baby loves YoBaby. My pediatrician recommended it. I remember there being some controversy about it on UB but never paid attention. What's wrong with it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Kind of a lot of sugar. Most babies just love plain yogurt, so why give them sweet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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YoBaby is simply full-fat, organic yogurt w/ sugar (flavoring). Because of all the sugar, it is more like a dessert than a source of protein. I always bought full flavor plain yogurt and cut it with full-fat falvored or added real fruit for sugar. [ Reply | More ]
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It's still a source of protein. I'm not a freak about sugar, so I let my dc eat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
[ - ] OK, so no one was impressed yesterday that Eli Manning played with DD at Target over the weekend and said she was cute. Geez, you'd think people here would know who he was! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'll bite. I love Target & Eli Manning so I'm so impressed. Then again Christian Slater & Jon Stewart have both said my ds is a great kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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oh that's cute too! what was the situation? this is DD's first celebrity encounter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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B&N w/both celebs. Which Target? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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which B&N? we were at the Target in Jersey City. He lives in Hoboken. So weird that he'd be in town for Memorial day, but he was shopping with his wife like a normal couple. i like him even more now!!! he even shook her hand and said what a cutie she was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I think BOTH your stories are cute! I'm sorry I wasn't on earlier to say so! :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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thanks! DH didn't even realize who it was until he looked up to see who DD was smiling at. Eli Manning's wife was helping my DH with an item that was falling off of his cart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:11 AM Flag
[ - ] i know this is a little heavy for ub, but, single mom...my dc died and i'm feeling very bad, his little sister is just all over the place emotionally and i feel like i can't deal with her. at first she was really affectionate and confused but now she is aggressive and inconsolable. i feel like i have nothing to give 66 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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oh sweetie. Losing a child is the hardest thing to go through. How long ago did it happen? I lost my son at 3 days old. He would have been 6 now. You can get through this but it will take a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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a couple days ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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oh good grief! That is so soon! Of course you and your DD are both confused. You need some help. I know when youa re in the pit of this, it can feel impossible to reach out, but you may have to. Can you call someone to come and help you for a week or so? I see below that you just want to be alone,but you need someone to make sure you are eating and sleeping and help you care for your DD. Please call someone. I will wait here while you do if you want me to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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maybe i'll have to. i just can't do it today. i'm just letting her do whatever she wants which, at the moment, is laying under the couch as i type [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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that works. You ladies will make it through this, somehow and someway, you will. DS would want that for you both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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OR and that is fine. But please please find someone who can help you. You will need all sorts of support during the next few months. Make sure you remember to eat and sleep ok? Grieving is hard work and you need your strength. I mentioned a website below that saved my life and sanity after my son died. There is nothing that can help more than talking to someone who has BTDT. Hang in there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Who do you have for support? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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i don't know. i have a lot of emails from people "so sorry, call me if there's anything i can do" but i don't want to call anyone and i really have no idea what they could do, so, i guess, no one? i really just want to be alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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np: so, so sorry. how old is dd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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she's 4 and i feel like she can tell that i have no idea what i'm doing and doesn't trust me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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it is very early and she is raw...get some help for both of you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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No no. You are projecting your own feelings. I'm sure she can sense your overwhelming sadness and remoteness. Do you have family who can come? Friends who can help fill out the house? I know you want to be alone, but some company might help out DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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how did your dc die? was it sudden? can y ou join a support group...also therapy will help both you and your daughter through this tough time. was there a dad that can pitch in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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i've arranged for a therapist, but, really, i can sort of see the depth of what is going on with her and it scares me...it was sudden and she went from this silly little kid to these complicated emotions in a flash. i instantly knew it would be awful for her, of course, but i didn't think things would change this fast and i didn't really think about it, but didn't think that i would have to deal with this before i could arrange support or something for her and i guess i assumed i'd have something to give, but i'm just numb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Give yourself a break. You lost a child, which I cannot imagine. You have your own grief to deal with too. Can some family members come over? Maybe take up some of your friends on their offers to take DD out for a bit?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through. Don't feel guilty about taking care of yourself. I'm not in NYC, but maybe someone could recommend a great therapist??? I'll be thinking of you... [ Reply | More ]
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there's no one i could ask to come here who i would feel like i had to "host" them, and i can't deal. i want to send her away, or go away myself, but i know i wouldn't do that...i'm just going through the motions but i don't want to see anyone, i can barely deal with having to look at the doorman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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np: do you have family who lives close by? i don't think any of your friends would expect you to host them. please take their help. you can't do this alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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nnp: This is good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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maybe just ask them to take dd to a playground or for ice cream on a regular basis, so you know that you have one or two hours to yourself every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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If you were my friend or family member I would be there in a heartbeat and would not feel at all like I needing hosting. In fact, when things like this happen friends and family feel so helpless and wish there is something they can do. They would jump to help you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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Same here, I wish I knew OP so I could help! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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is dd in preschool? if so, I'm sure school could set up some kind of help w/dd--playdates, meals--parents would be grateful to be able to help you. really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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that is a good idea too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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i am so so so sorry. i can't even imagine what you are going through. perhaps you should have your friends help out. they can come over and take DD out or watch DD while you sleep and grieve. I know that if you were my friend, I would WANT to do this for you. Don't feel like you are putting anyone out and take the help that your friends and family are offering you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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What happened to your DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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NP - I think it's so rude of you that this is the only thing you have to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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ITA. Of course you are curious and anxious, but even on an anonymous board you should check that impulse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine. Does DD understand what is going on? Was his death sudden or were you able to prepare for it (not that you ever can of course)? What is she saying to you? Are you guys talking about him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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it was completely sudden. she was there and knew before i did. she's ferocious...i went to touch her head and she basically growled at me and bit me. then she was talking about him as if he were her invisible friend and now she is just quiet and unreachable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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oh lord. My entire body aches for you both. How overwhelming and scary for everyone. Have you been to the therapist yet? Quiet and unreachable sounds normal for right now, she's shutting down and it's protective in the short-term. It must be so hard for you right now when all you probably want to do is breakdown and you have to be strong and care for her. Who will watch out for you? Can you help explain to her what happened? Does she understand what's going on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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i think she understands. i think she thought it would be over when she woke up. i can't deal with my therapist yet, though i have one - but i got an appt for her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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that is understandable. Good for you for getting an apt for her. I really like the idea someone gave to you about having the preschool people help out and make food, etc. Somewhere inside you is the strength to function and help her and yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Where is dd's father? Can he help out a bit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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She sounds like my DD. She had such a PERSONAL relationship with her brother. Your just being there is key. Really don't sweat about the details of your presence. She just needs you nearby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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np: Where are your parents or dd's grandparents? Is there anyone you can think of that can deal with her right now? I wish I knew you and could help you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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I'm the poster above who also lost a child. There is a fantastic website that saved my life after I lost my son. Missfoundation.org. The forums are there 24/7 and make no demands on you. Go there if you need someone to talk to or just want to read about how other people are dealing with the feelings this brings up. There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better except that I got through this, other people have and you can too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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np: are you the mom who lost dc to the heart condition? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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yeah - that's me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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I'm the mom whose friend's dd had the heart transplant on day 8. You were an amazing resource and source of strength. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I'm so glad I was able to help. How is your friend's DD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Doing pretty well. Still not out of the woods yet, but every day she gets stronger and stronger. They are just waiting for a pesky virus to go away. Cardiac function is perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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that is so great! I love hearing success stories. I hope she will continue to do well. ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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thanks, me too! [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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Is there anything we can do? I know it's odd, and we're a bunch of strangers... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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My heart hurts for you both. I cannot even contemplate the pain you must be feeling. How old is dd? How old was the dc who passed? My lord that is so unbelievably sad. What happened? Do you mind telling us what happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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i really can't talk about what happened specifically, but it was a freak accident and he died very quickly. he was 7 and she is 4. but everyone in my building, everyone i work with, everyone i know knows and neither dd or i are prepared to go out and have all of the "i'm so sorry" things yet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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do you have one friend you can reach out to -even via email - and tell them what you've told us. That you're not ready to deal, you're not ready to talk, but you could probably use some practical help (groceries, taking dd for a playdate, to school, or around the block for a walk if you don't think she should be out for so long.) The one person you contact should then set up an email list or chain and should make all the arrangements so you get some space and things are taken care of. Please take the chance on one person - I'm sure your friends are wishing they could help but unsure what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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np -- i also think your friends actually do want to help but don't know what to do... that is exactly how i would feel in their position. this sounds like a reasonable way to let them know how to help. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know how you get out of bed after something like that. But, if I'm reading the posts correctly, it sounds like your DD witnessed your DS die in a freak accident. If that's correct you are really going to need to get some help for her. It's raw right now but you really need to find someone to help both of you. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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np: ITA. I am so terribly sorry for your loss and can't imagine what you are going through right now. I agree with your above instinct, too, to not send her away, even though you might desperately need time to yourself. If she was there, it's quite possible she's blaming herself for what happened, and you wouldn't want the gesture even though completely innocently intended to be misinterpreted in any way. I wish I could say something to comfort you right now. I am so terribly sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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np: me too. This is an incredible tragedy. I hope that everything will always be good for you from now on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.08, 10:27 PM Flag
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i am so sorry. do you have a therapist for yourself? be careful to not overlook the damage that was/will be done to you for sake of your other DC and yourself. take care of yourself and your other DC. i will pray for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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I'm really sorry. I'll pray for you and your family. You need to be strong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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I'm sorry that I don't have any practice advice but I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am. My thoughts and prayers for you and your dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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^^^practical [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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i am so sorry for you but why cant you talk about specifics? i find this a very odd post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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np: because it's TOO painful obviously. Have you ever had anyone close to you (and I don't mean some just happen to know) pass away? obviously you're a bit clueless... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.08, 10:24 PM Flag
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my parent recently died unexpectedly. I still cant even say that he died. I can barely talk about him. I can't use the past tense for him. When you have a sudden death sometimes it just doesnt sink in and its unbearable to talk about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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I am sorry for your loss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 09:44 PM Flag
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OMG, you are not able to take care of her right now, Have someone take her for a few days so you can GRIEVE. Let them take her out to have a good time, she is 4, You have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.02.08, 08:11 AM Flag
[ - ] My baby loves YoBaby yogurt. My pediatrician recommended it. I remember there is some controversy on UB. What is wrong with it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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UBers think it's evil b/c it has sugar. I give it to my db. I think it's fine. I tried giving him plain yogurt and he spit it out, as would I! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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it is fine. i think people say that there is too much sugar and the plastic is bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Can this rash be baby acne?!? 3 mo has pimple like bumps COVERING her entire head, i'm kinda freakin out! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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or prickly heat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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oh dear, you mean she can have these pimples for a long time? how long does baby acne usually last? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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i agree with the prickly heat, this is the right weather (stuffy) for it. was she wearing a hat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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she was, on sunday. that's when it started and hasn't gone away since, so can't really be prickly heat, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
[ - ] OMG OMG, There are reports of tornados in Oklahoma and DH is on a plane for Oklahoma City and I am really worried. I have been trying to get the airline to land the plane someplace else so they don't fly into the tornado. Or worse yet, they land and DH is sucked into the tornado while on the moving walkway at the airport! 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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Wow, you need to cut back on the caffeine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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get a grip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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calm the f down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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How can I be calm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Here, OP. Call the FAA. 1-800-IAM-CRAZY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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just take your finger off of the panic button [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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you again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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How small do you think Oklahoma is? Signed, Missouri mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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I am worried teh tornados will travel and DH could be hurt, what if a pick up truck lands on him in the airport or hits his plane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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you get the 1 mil life insurance policy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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I don't want that, I want DH....he must be so scared, bouncing around int eh plane, trying not to get hit by flying luggage and an out of control snack cart and worried a pick up truck could hit the plane in mid air [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I'm sure he's clinging to his gin and tonic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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OMG, the G&T is probably spilling! SPILLING!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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STOP! I NEED TO GET SOME FREAKNG WORK DONE! (and this is tooo funny!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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^ Now I know you are fake. Go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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np areyou new? Of course she is fake! This is classic UB freak out mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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She's Da Best! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I know! I love her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Very very small. Signed, former Oklahoma Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I used to live in Oklahoma and your fears are unfounded. They will not allow the plane to land while tornadoes are about or threatened. Most likely scenario is that your DH will be very inconvenienced by a flight delay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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Still I need to talk to the airline and they have me on hold, I want to know if they will land the plane in another state [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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They *totally* will, doll. Stay on them! Fight the good fight! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Probably Tulsa or Dallas. Then he'll cool his heels there before going back to OKC. Really, no big deal. Quit bugging the airline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Stay informed, OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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I would prefer Dallas, since Oklahoma is an unsafe state right now, the tornados could be anywhere! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Dorothy! Dorothy! Get down in the cellar! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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I hope you are joking. If not, you should really look at a map. Or have DH's G&T. At least yours won't spill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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no, i heard they usually just flew directly into the tornado and were like "if it crashes, no biggie" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Don't tell me that! I know this could happen and I am really really worried, I need to talk to DH! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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use your Vulcan mind meld. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I need to make sure DH is ok and to warn him so he knows what could happen when he is in the airport. I mean he could be on the moving walkway and then the tornado hits him and picks him up and blows him away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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OKay, you can do it. Think of DH Now visualize him. Warn him, OP. WARN HIM!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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right, yes you MUST warn him of that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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I am really worried, especially if he survives, the tornado could tear his clothes off and he'll be left on a street corner, bruised, naked and confused and random Oklahomans will try to use him for things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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i'm sure it will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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God is punishing you for the threesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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snort [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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It's CRAZY MOM! I heart you. Smooch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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the more things change.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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I love you! [ Reply | More ]
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