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[ - ] Nearly everywhere I shop I receive such bad service, what is wrong with ppl today don;t they want your business? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I know what you mean. I don't get bad svc everywhere but a lot..esp. with the younger ppl (college age) or 20's. Not even a good morning or your're welcome (to my thank you) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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I have been spending $$ on new house and its been awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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that sucks. I hate bad service [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] My 4yo DOES NOT stay in bed. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] What are you reading? I'm finishing "Unaccustomed Earth" by Jhumpa Lahiri (sp). Need a recommendation. I found "The Bell Jar" and started it but not sure I'll like it. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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I'm reading your post :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Well, that's a start. Was it good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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sure..I read it beginning to end. Tx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] looking to buy a home in Upstate NY 3-4 hours from city. strong school district is a must. im not from NY, so please advise which areas i should consider. budget is 500K. thank you. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Elmira? All I know is that every family I know from up there has sent their kids to amazing colleges and universities. The kids are so mature and well spoken too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Parts of Albany and surrounding area can be quite beautiful with some good schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I don't know, maybe college towns like Saratoga or Ithaca would have good public schools? It is closer but I love Rhinebeck, not sure what the schools are like there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Ithaca is 5-6 hrs away. Great public schools (no private and all the professors send kids there). Too far, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Sorry (OR), I went to Cornell so I had to throw in in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Wilton is really nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Some beautiful towns in the Finger Lakes region (though may be 4-5 hours from NYC?) Skaneateles is one that has a strong school system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I'm from Albany. Not a bad place to grow up, good schools, cheaper than NYC yet close enough to visit, decent arts/things to do. gl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Albany [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I've heard Oneonta is very good. Also a college town. (Rhinebeck schools are weak. A lot of people send their kids to private school in Poughkeepsie.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.17.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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Look first at any towns that have colleges/universities. Those will tend to have the strongest school systems (both SUNY colleges and say, Skidmore, Cornell, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.17.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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I agree. We have friends in Saratoga, where Skidmore is. They are very happy and it is lovey town, with some nice restaurants, places to shop etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.17.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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We're selling our house upstate - 3 hrs from city, beautiful property. OUr neighbors have been thrilled with the school system. If you want more info, let me know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.17.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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would love more info pls email me directly at amd9@mac.com thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.17.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Binghamton, N.Y. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.17.08, 09:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, the unthinkable happens and you and dh buy the farm. What happens with dcs? Have you arranged guardianship/Trust etc? We're in our will updating mode as you might guess from this post. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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They'd go to SIL (DH's sister) and her DH. She and DH are close and have a nice relationship and I feel okay about this choice (I'm an only child, so it's not as though I have a sibling to consider!). For now, my parents would handle most of the $ -- but my ILs are in better health, so I'm not sure that it should stay this way (I trust both sets of GPs), but I'd also want my parents involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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you're lucky you have such a big support network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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DC's will go to DH's sister. Our assets will go into trust, with a trusted friend/lawyer as the trustee. Funds will be disbursed from the trust to SIL for dc's expenses as necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Yep, they go to one of my sisters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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We have designated guardians and then have a trust w/ several people designated as the trustees (not the same as the guardians). We also set up the trust to the money doesn't just vest when the kids hit 21. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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Yes, we have chosen a guardian. Luckily, dh and I agreed from teh get go. We do not have a trust per say - but all of our assest (medium amount) will be sold and controlled by the childs guardian. Its my dh's sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] ugh. just tried on some pants that were loose on me 3 months ago. No more. How did this happen? Work stress, candy. Blech. I'm petite, too, so it shows. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 07.16.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Don't worry I'm tall and there is nothing worse than a "big girl". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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the dryer shrunk them ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] In a bit of a panic. Any Banker moms on??? I have over the FDIC limit in Wachovia. They are getting all sorts of bad press. Should I run and get everything out and can they release funds over 100K right away? Thanks in advance. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.16.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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take it all out and stash it under your mattress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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I'll be flamed I'm sure but we had way over the limit at Citibank a few months ago and moved it out. Yes, I would take some action without panicking. No one on this board would have predicted Bear Stearns going down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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where did you move it to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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But any cash or securities held at BSC was fine. There was no run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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you need to give them some notice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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no you don't. You give them wire instructions and the funds are sent out same day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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is it a joint account? if so, you are covered up to 100k for each person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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If you are over the limit (ie: 100K per person on the account) just open a second (or third, or fourth) account. You are protected per person, per account. Not total per institution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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Wrong. It's per person. Go find another bank. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Um ... did you actually *read* what you just posted? From the FDIC website: "The basic insurance amount is $100,000 per depositor per insured bank." In case you didn't know, "per depositor" means per PERSON. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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np: Posts are not always continuous. The person posting this might have been responding to the "If you are over the limit" comment. UB has been funky lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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The Fed and OCC are not going to let any banks fail. Don't worry. If you are truly concerned, just open up additional accounts and spread your money out so that no one account has more than $100K per account holder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help! We have month old twins, (born 1 month early). One has acid reflux and is very fussy, although, we have just started Zantac and are hoping that helps. How long can we "let them cry," when we are fairly confident that they are not hungry, wet, etc? The crying/not sleeping is drying us nuts! Any suggestions for scheduling? Any twin tips? HELP! When does this get easier? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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too young to let them cry - hire help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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do not let them cry at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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sad to say, it's hard when they're this young. time will help, and for now get friends/family/pay someone to come be with you so it's not so insular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Sorry wait until 4 months. At 1mo you can not guess anything. Hire help if you need it but no CIO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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At 1mo you have no idea what is the problem. Keep feeding, burping etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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It's hard in the beginning. You have to hold and feed and hold and feed and carry and sing and dance and bounce it's unending. Do you have a swing for them? those can help. Hang in there and get as much help as you can, beg everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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My daughter had reflux. I know exactly what you mean. Nothing we could do would make her stop crying when her stomach was upset, which was every third hour around the clock (after every feeding). Alas, the Baby Papasan swing was our lifesaver. Side-to-side cradle mode. That and a pacifier, worked like a charm every time. Once I even left her in there rocking for 4 hours in the middle of the night while I slept next to her. I felt so guilty but you do what you need to do to get through it. Luckily, she got over it pretty quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What chores do your 6-7-8 year olds do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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My 7 y/o is a chore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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lol, I totally agree - but what are they doing to "help" around the house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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he tries to help with the trash, he's "in charge" of his room, he makes his bed when prodded, loves to bake and carries the food bowls to our cat and dog. I'll keep thinking... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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clears own dishes from table every meal. Cleans bathroom sink about every other day, cleans room including vacuum (loves to vacuum). Help sort laundry. Takes trash to put down chute (with adult along). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone see the study today that shows 15 year olds get less than 30 minutes of physical activity on the w'ends? Terrifying. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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For the whole weekend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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Was it in the Times? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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np--i saw it in the post . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I'm not surprised. Monkey see, monkey do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Our 1yo is watching Wizard of Oz with her 4.5 yo sis. So much for Baby Einstein. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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The original one? I have the best memories of seeing that every year. The only time I was allowed to eat dinner by the TV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone read the Stephenie Meyer's books Twilight, Eclipse, ... they are targeted to teens but so fun - you can't put them down. I'm I the only adult reading the whole series? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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spam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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np: believe me, stephanie meyer doesn't need anyone spamming for her. she's hugely successful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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OP here - you're right, her book outsold Harry Potter at some point last summer. I was more curious to see how much her books crossed over to the adult market. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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My 25 yo assistant really likes them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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i just started the fourth book.. my 16 year old is reading it ... I had high hopes because i'm a big anne rice fan - however, these books are quite obviously written for teens and NOT for adults. I'm no high brow reader - but having a teen myself with so many of the same faults and fears as the lead character in this book - makes me anxious to know that she is reading it ... like it validates all of her fears and insecurities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.06.08, 09:25 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone find out they were pregnant while taking an antibiotic? did you finish your course or stop taking? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 07.16.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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don't stop taking them. Call your doc and ask. Maybe it's ok and maybe they will give you something else. Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I finished. OB said it's a few weeks before you share blood with the fetus, so no worries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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6 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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I took antibiotics during both my pregancies...both dds are fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] wow 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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DUDE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:00 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm trying really hard to not hate on dh right now. he gets to go camping for three days while i take care of 4 mo. help. i want to embrace my jealousy and wrap up in it like a blanket. but i know that i shouldn't. help. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 07.16.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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My dh did things like that when I had a newborn. Now my dh plans on doing a trip for himself shortly after db #2 arrives. He's a good dh but it feels like these men have no idea of how hard it is to be a mom. (p.s. we're equal breadwinners, too!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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It took me five years of motherhood before I could gracefully (well, mostly) accept that DH will always have more free time, more freedom and more opportunities to enjoy himself. Thats just the way it is. Kick, scream, bitch and moan but at the end of the day acceptance will make your life a lot easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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ittta with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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I completely disagree. This is complete BS. It is hard but DH needs to pull his weight and watch DC"s while you have your time. If my DH did this, I would have his head on a stick. There needs to be balance and it up to you to demand this if your DH does not give it to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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And THIS is why women like you get divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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LOL! Yes, get respect and treatment I deserve and surely I will end up divorced. It's women like you who think you have to play second fiddle to stay married that gives the rest of a bad rap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I'm not a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why don't they get it. My dh will decide to go somewhere afterwork never worrying about picking the kids up or making dinner. I know he doesn't understand it's not that he's being mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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op here: i know. he's a really great guy. i just can't help it. i want to do something to make him feel the same way that i do. it's so petty but i'm tired of being tired and grumpy and jealous. i want to be happy and buzzed and act like a twenty-something again, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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^^oh, and i totally work full time and we take turns taking care of ds. it's not like i sit around all day shopping or anything. jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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thanks for the vote of confidence for SAHMS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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so make some plans and assume he will take care of the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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I so agree. Live your life just like he is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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It's not going to happen. Instead you can be cuddled loved, spit up on, sucked on and worn out. It's not going to be the same for you dh either. Life has completly changed it's just bigger for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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I disagree with all the above. Dh may go off and do something. So you plan and do the same. It is only guilt stopping you..YOU tell them what /when you are away. (household things are not the same- you come back and the place is a disaster, so what) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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That never works. Moreover its a long and bitter marriage for you both if you spend your time keeping score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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we do not keep score. Dh has 1 thing he does at weekend- and so do I. If he needs a morning then I get the next morning. Dh can cope without you. Most women will not let go for 4-6 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Oh please, I totally disagree that its about gatekeeping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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whatever- I never said it was about gatekeeping. OP cannot let go and let her dh have some free time away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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ah, that is what gatekeeping is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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why is that bad? why don't you plan a quick getaway for yourself as well? i'm going away this weekend, with dh's encouragement, with a girlfriend--and he'll have 2 kids under 3 by himself all weekend. stop hating him for being able to enjoy himself, and start enjoying yourself as well. your being miserable doesn't help anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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look at the reply above you- I am being flamed for the samw thing as you say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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or: the problem with women like OP is that they're control freaks, so insist on doing everything themselves the RIGHT way, but then they're pissed off when their dhs want to live a normal life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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enjoy your weekend- and I will enjoy mone!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Totally! no matter how "Fair" your marriage, its always different for mom, and I htink that sucks, too. Dh does little things like this all the time, even though hes a great dad. I never "just walk home because its nice out" I run home to relieve the nanny, but he never gives it a thought. a million things like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Sorry -you need to recheck . You may need to tell Dh to get home by??? for the nanny. Men are men you tell them what to do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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And your point is??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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np and I think it's important to recognize that when your baby is this young, it has to be more on you b/c of nursing, etc. When db is older, you can leave him/her with DH for a three day trip of your own. It can't be equal every single day, esp. where biology is concerned, but it can even out over time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.16.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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