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[ - ] I need to transfer money from my European account to my US account. Is it better to do that when I'm in Europe in a couple of weeks or can I just take care of it here? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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If you can do it online via a wire transfer you can do it from here. I usually have to go to the bank to do a wire transfer, which at this point is the only way you can really transfer. It used to be much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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You can do it from here, we did, but I'm not sure how as dh dealt with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:31 PM Flag
[ - ] How does bad economy has affected you? Are you more careful with money then you have been 1 year ago? What do you do to cut corners? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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it's perversely had a good effect on me. i think we're going to buy a house whereas two years ago prices were too high for us. we always were very careful about budgeting (for instance, we generally spend under 100/week on food) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think its ok to feed your toddler pizza once a week. I am otherwise pretty careful with my dd diet (all vegies and organic). But, when we go out as a family, I order pizza for her because I know that is what she likes. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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there is nothing unhealthy about pizza! unless you are feeding her the frozen crap that is full of perservatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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what's unhealthy about pizza? Sounds like may be micromanaging your child's diet if you think pizza is not "ok"... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay, really and truly, does it help your dc with admissions if you went HYP? Do these schools care? I know it can't make or break your child, but would it put dc over another child if you did go there? Also what if dc had three generations of HYP before him? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.04.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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Only helps as a tie breaker but your dc will have to be very smart, super high ERB, etc. HYP probably means old money, so $ will help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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HYP is pretty common. It would help if you family had donated a building to HYP though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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Yes, it helps. Why do you think that they ask about education? It is not the only factor, but it helps. I forget which school it was, but one school did ask about grandparents' education. I thought that was a bit much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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No building. But they really ask about grandparents? While I publicly would decry that, secretly I'd be kinda happy. I was H, father went to H undergrad and Penn med, mother was Penn undergrad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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My father left school at age 14. This is of interest to many schools as well. People mistakenly assume because schools may ask a question, they are looking for only one type of answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 12:35 AM Flag
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I went to HYP and I don't think it helped DD one bit (99 ERBs and not one TT admission). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Did you end up somewhere you're happy? Funny enough, other than Dalton, I'm not really interested in any TT. I seem to like the second tier schools better for ds and for us as a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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We started out feeling like you, and ended up feeling like you, but in the process somehow we (or at least I) got caught up in the TT nonsense. My only concern with the school we picked is that DD is very smart, and I'm a bit worried she will not be challenged. Hopefully that won't be the case. Socially, I think it's a MUCH better choice for our family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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*eyeroll* is there any full-of-themselves hyp parent who doesn't think their soooo smart dc won't be challenged enough? your dc will be fine. seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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not full of myself, just full of my DD ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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np: me, but we didn't apply to private schools. my kid is smart, adn he's challenged plenty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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Look at the others & at other "tiers". You never know, I thought we would feel that way about Dalton, but after we toured & spoke to parents & others we discovered it was not for our family. It may still be for yours, but my advice is to keep an open mind. You may be surprised how some schools are very different from the UB & other stereotype [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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ITA. I was surprised that I felt uncomfortable at a number of TT schools. Like I didn't fit in and didn't want to fit in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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np - I'm another who felt just like you. Only applied to non-TT schools and ended up happily at public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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it isn't going to hurt but there are so many ivy grads in the city, so it isn't going to be a huge deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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Newbie here. What's HYP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Oh, just figured it out for myself, is that Harvard, Yale, Princeton? If so, should be Harvard, Yale, PENN!! :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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My kid had none of that. Did have 99/99/99 erb (and matching sb), though. Tt's were lined up. Didn't need FA and dc is extremely bright. It's really not all that complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 11:04 PM Flag
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My rule of thumb is the following (from someone who has none of the following): most people applying went to an Ivy, most people have money, and most people know "someone." And because most have these things, they just don't matter as much to the schools. Everything I hear is that schools want a curious, smart kid and a "normal" family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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np - Hit send too soon - This sounds exactly right based on our experience and those of our friends (most of whom went to Ivy colleges and grad schools, so I agree that it all cancels out) - the exmissions outcome was totally dependent on the child's personality and scores, not on money/connections/parents' colleges. By "normal," btw, I assume OR means "nice, polite, sensible, involved parents who see their child clearly and realistically, and won't be a pain in the neck when there's a bump in the road." Doesn't matter if you have a lot of money or very little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Best double stroller? And if you say Phil & Ted's which one? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.04.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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sorry, i'm a graco gal. i didn't want to spend that much on a stroller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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I have the sport and its great. We travel with it a lot too. Very sturdy, very useful and people love discovering the second child tucked in the back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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ditto - but if I was getting a new one I'd consider getting the Vibe if only for the handbrake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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also folds down with second seat in back position. This is one thing that annoys me about my sport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] dh is going to come in soon and ask me why i didn't make supper for dcs. and i have no idea what the answer is. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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breakfast for dinner tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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i guess. i actually bought fish which should be pretty quick to make. if i would just stand up and do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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did you feed them something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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no. maybe he'll fire me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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smores are good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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hey, sounds good to me :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] does it make sense to register even if i am not having a shower? And soon before baby's arrival shall i do this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Yes - people look to see if you're registered so if they're going to get you things anyway, might as well have it be something you want! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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yes, because some people will use it for gifts after the baby comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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you can also get discounts for registering, even if you plan to buy everything yourself. BRU gives you 10% off everything left on your registry after baby is born, and amazon is giving away 6 mos of free 7th generation diapers if 750 worth of stuff is purchased off of your amazon registry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you recommend your RE on the UES? Aside from Rebarber. TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 08.04.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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copperman - he's more midtown, but he's fantastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Nabil Husami, in midtown. American Fertility Services. Very old school in his approach, doesn't feel like hte factories that are Cornell and Columbia Pres. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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Susan Lobel does her monitoring out of her UWS office and procedures at American Fertility on E 57th. She is the most caring, personal, and bright RE I've dealt with - and she got me pregnant on one try after a long ordeal at a big clinic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] need btdt potty training advice. DS has been pee trained for a few months, just pooped on the potty for the first few times this weekend, now is asking for diapers again and gets hysterical if we even suggest pooping on the potty. Any advice for how to handle this? I don't want to push too hard, but also don't want to go backwards. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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how old? adn in general if kid is getting hysterical, i'd back off for a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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He's 2.5. I know, I really don't want to push, but were these few times a fluke or something? He was really into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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np: at 2.5yo, i'd leave it for a month or so and then try again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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that's pretty early for potty training especially a boy. i'd definitely lay off for a bit and see what happens. its not usually a straight line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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yeah, that's what I thought. Dh is being very male about it, though, which is frustrating. Very "I don't understand. We were doing this before just fine," etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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my friend would put a pull up on her dd when she asked for it to poop, but kept her in underwear the rest of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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i know several people who did this. Very common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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This was my son. He is now 3.5 and absolutely refuses to go to the toilet-will sit in his stuff all day long. I have pretty much given up and I am waiting for him to decide when he wants to start using the toilet. The more you push, the worse it gets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] 10.5mo ds does not clap his hands. Granted we don't clap in front of him that often but I'd imagine other parents don't do it day and night either... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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some babies develop on their own path. especially if he's "ahead" in other areas, its fine to be "behind" in others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Need idea for a nearby location (Adirondacks or similar.) Something romantic with hiking and some variety. Kids-free. Any ideas? 5-6 days. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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^^^prefer B&B and not super fancy (but not camping/motels either). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Margaretville, N.Y. or Mohonk in the Shawangunks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: do you give your small kids a kiss on the lips? (say under 4?) 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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yes. my bigger kids too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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why? just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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to me that's a very intimate (e.g. sexual) thing and i just don't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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yes, mainly because my DD started doing it -- I used to kiss her on the cheek, but she always kisses on the lips. i guess that's because lips are for kissing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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op- I do btw, dh says it is strange, we are in a debate over it... TIA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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np: I don't think it's strange. It's not an open mouthed kiss!!! My grandmother was a lip-kisser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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op -exactly, that is how I feel, it is a sweet peck on the lips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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It's totally fine. And I'm guessing by the time your kids are about 7 they'll want nothing to do with it anyway! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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Yes, and my five year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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My whole family (dad, mom, brother and I) is and has always been like this. (Except for a few years in high school.) I will be crushed that first day my son is embarrassed to kiss me good by (or hello) in public. a dh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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i plan to, but my dh says that he won't. why not? not like you are giving him tongue. duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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Whoa...I'd be concerned w/ the notion that lip kissing(your own!) kids is sexually intimate. Intimate, of course-but anything else, needs therapy now. That stuff needs to be examined before a child comes into the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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I totally agree! If there is a concern that lip kissing one's own child is sexual, that is because of the meaning that the parent is putting on it, not because of inherent meaning in the behavior itself... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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Never [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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yes all the time. with my infant, i kiss him on the cheek. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] DH wants to spent what I consider an exorbitant amount of money to re-do our apartment. He has his own money from a trust from his parents; this would be about 20% of that. Should I just go along? It is a real sore point for us right now. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.04.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Is he renovating in a way that will add to the apartment's market value? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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to me it depends on how you are doing financially. do you have a good amout of savings, are you on track for retirement adn to pay for kids' schooling? if so, then maybe let him blow his money this way. but if you might need it for soemthign else, then no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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do you own? why does he want to fix it up? why don't you want to fix it up? how about a compromise? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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is it your thinking prices are too high or his wanting things that are obscenely expensive? will you guys miss having the nest egg? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Mostly him wanting to do things I think are unnecessary and expensive, like surround sound, fancy hardwood floors etc. ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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By fancy are you talking like some exotic wood? I mean over the life of an apt, hard wood is probably a good investment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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can you compromise? do some of waht he wants but not the crazy stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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some stuff will be good for resale value. it depends though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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Trusts are supposed to be preserved for future generations and that you should only really spend the interest, or use for purchases that could be considered investments such as homes, etc. My dad convinced my mom to use a good amount of her trust for renovations on our country house when i was a kid, and now she really regrets it (not just because they are divorced) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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I think it depends on what the total amount of the trust is. For example, if he has 1 mil in trust, and you are spending 200k on a total redo (kitchen, baths, etc.) that will increase value of apartment or at least is not out of scale for the value of the apartment, and it will increase your enjoyment of your home, then why not? You've still got a large amount in reserve. If it's a trust of 500k and you are spending 100k on the renovation, I'd be more hesitant, especially if your other finances are not in order. Btw, I would not spend any on the reno unless your are credit card debt free, and are on target for retirement and college savings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] 11.5mo dd does not crawl, can't get into a sit by herself. Mainly just wants to pull up on me. She does want to stand and and walk holding on to my hands all the time, should I be worried? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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i'd ask my pediatrician at the one year check up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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I'm planning to, but that's a month away. I'm freaking out right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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the no crawling does not bug me, the puling up and walking is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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i'm not so worried about the crawling either, but i am concerned that she can can't get into a sit and doesn't try to stand on her own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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my dh didn't crawl, sit or do anything until 12.5 months - he didn't walk until 19mos, because his mother and older sister carried him everywhere. He had no other developmental "issues", went to Yale, Columbia, and is a highly successful professional... don't worry too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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thanks, I try not to worry, it's only when i take her to class and all these babies younger than her are crawling and sitting and trying to stand and she just sits there clapping her hands that i start to freak out. fwiw, i didn't crawl either and walked at 13 mos, so maybe she will surprise me soon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:38 PM Flag
[ - ] i have moved from obese to very heavy. i'm so excited about it. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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woo hoo! Go you! I admire you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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thanks. it's actually been a few years and i finally got fed up enough to work on it. it's slow and i don't think it shows so much on the scale but i went down a full size (if not more) and i'm feeling much better about myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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that's great!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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Congrats! I'm trying to get there myself!!! GL and keep up the great work!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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thanks. i decided that as long as i'm moving in the right direction i should be happy. and i compare myself to how i was even six weeks ago and it's a nice difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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ya know, I was behind you the other day and thought you were looking pretty good from back there but I didn't know how to say it without it sounding weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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lol. thanks. you should've said something :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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you are a great person and I wish I knew you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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Good for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] we moved into a new, smallish building in the past year, and one of the toddlers has our baby girl name. now we are expecting a dd and want to use that name, but i feel like we are going to have to tell everyone we didn't copy. I know everyone is going to have some annoying reaction. yes, this is silly, but it bothers me. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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will they really? do people care that much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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i know. my dh has no problem with naming her that, but you know how it is with your first. you think about EVERYTHING [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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no one will care unless the name is incredibly unusual. What is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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i thikn that nobody else in your building wil care about this much, if at all. and if this annoys them i can't imagine what they do if you don't sort your recyclables! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Just use the name! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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unless it's an extremely unusual name, I wouldn't worry about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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here is your reply, "Yeah we know it is the same as Bertha down the hall. We debated and figured the only thing dumber than naming our kid the same thing as the neighbors' kid is not giving her the name we have loved for years because we happened to live next to someone who had that name already." That should shut everyone up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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You're good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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I continue to fight the desire to abuse my gift and use it for evil purposes. UB is a good outlet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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I don't think anyone will think twice about it. If you're really worried, tell people she's named for your grandmother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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