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[ - ] how do you say "pain in the ass" in spanish, slang obviously. tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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'dolor de un burro' would be pain in the donkey, and a donkey is another word for ass, so, there you go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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then tell her instead of saying nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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dolor en el culo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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What do you want to say? Are you trying to insult someone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] 38 weeks pregnant, I just had a contraction that made me drop my cereal bowl I was eating over the counter, oink, It's probably a Braxton Hicks, but Holy Shit that was crazy! FYI, I ate another bowl and nothing since. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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this is funny! good luck. i went into labor at 37 wks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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It's been a half hour since, so I don't think it's real labor, although I feel like it's a brewing! And I feel little tense since that one really caught me off guard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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this is week 2 of staying home with 3.5yr ds. its actually not as difficult as i thought it would be. we have been out every day and going someplace fun and different. only 4 more wks to go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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OP: I was thinking of working until Friday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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I guess that post wasn't meant for my Braxton Hicks post! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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Did it hurt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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OP: It was so sharp and unexpected I dropped a glass bowl and yelled, "Oh, Shit!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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That's not a Braxton Hicks contraction, that's the real thing. If you already have a kid, I would line up child care for tonight, just in case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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But it's been a half hour already and nothing else. I don't have any kids, this is my first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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And it only lasted about 5 seconds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I mean, believe me, I hope it is labor, but I don't think it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] my 2yo eats pasta EVERY single night. she outright refuses anything else i have tried. And she will wake up hungry if I just dont give it to her. anyone have any advice? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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Do you mean she wakes up in the night hungry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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no, in the morning she is asking for food immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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np: isn't it normal to be hungry in the morning? I am. And most people I know are, especially kids. Give her whole wheat pasta and wait it out, it's a phase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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It's ok if she wakes up hungry. If she doesn't like it, she'd start to eat what you served her for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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Offer her other foods along with her nightly pasta. Let her choose what she eats. This is not an area where a power struggle is worth it or smart. Eating disorders start with food power issues. A child has a right to eat or not eat what's offered. Your job is to offer several wholesome foods at each meal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] hello 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Special Needs 08.04.08, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever dealt with a young child with anger management issues? DC is 5 and is always saying he is mad, hates this person or that person, doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere. I'm wondering if he needs a therapist or antidepressants. He is exhausting to be around and neither dh nor I enjoy being with him anymore...which I'm sure he senses and of course it makes things worse. If anyone has a recommendation, or has dealt with this successfully, PLEASE give me some advice! 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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look around you. We were at a club med yrs ago and my 2 1/2 y/o looked at a man at our group breakfast table turned beet red and said "me hate that guy"!. We laughed so much until later that day I turned to dh and said "Oh I hate that guy"... we laughed then too but not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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I think most five year old children are a pita and are not always fun to be around. As far as hating other children, you simply put your foot down and tell dc that hate is a powerful word and it is no longer allowed in your home. Figure out what the punishment will be if he says it again and tell him in advance and follow thru. I am amazed at the number of parents who let their dc run around saying I hate Johnny. I don't know about the not wanting to do anything or go anywhere - that seems a little odd for a child - is it the he doesn't want to do what you want, or go where you want? Have you given him the chance to pick? I think we all struggle with what the fine line is between normal (this is the hardest thing I've ever done and I soemtimes don't even like my kid) and needing therapy. How ever it turns out, good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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he doesn't just say it about his friends....he says he hates preschool, hates his teachers, hates me, hates dh, hates his siblings...and he says it in a very angry and scary tone. He seems angry or unhappy most of the time and I can't figure out if it is for attention or if he is really just miserable for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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ban the word hate for starters. He can be angry, he can dislike all of the above, but you have to get rid of the H word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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Don't you hate that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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talk to ped and get a rec for a therapist. there is something going on which may be bigger than what you may be able to handle. would also make sure in looking for someone to get a therapist who will work closely with you as well as dc. gl. ps, I would not jump to meds-there are many talk therapies which can be helpful at this age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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I agree, talk to a therapist and don't jump straight to meds. While meds are indicated in some children, they are wildly overprescribed in children when the FDA has, for the most part, not approved use in children for most of the drugs prescribed. Try a good psychologist... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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be careful with therapies, there are many (most?) that are unhelpful. I remember many children who lived downtown during 9/11 did badly bc of therapies. What your child needs is not having someone delve into the supposed psychological baggage causing this. You need to try simple behavioral methods, like don't react to the "hate" comments, act like he is saying something neutral (like saying carrots are orange). Then give big reactions to comments you approve of, like positive statements about people or places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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most parents I know who took their dc to therapists ended up with meds recommended. the parents are not the ones making the recs. once you are in the therapist's office, you need to deal with the recs coming from that person. SO many kids are on meds these days it is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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You realize it's your child and a prescription is a recommendation. You don't have to take it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.06.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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do a search on the library site and see if you can find any good books to help you out first. Just do subject, childhood anger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Check out the Ames "Your 5 year old" for a start. I'll think you'll find that it's not that unusual at that age and it will give you some tried and true coping strategies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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this is the best response. For a five year old, unless there is a serious developmental problem, what you need is good parenting strategies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.06.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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He just needs a spanking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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lol you're evil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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that's the LAST thing he needs is more anger directed at him which he will only internalize and direct outwards. I'm sure you're kidding though, right?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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No, I'm not. Get over the psychobabble. Spankings are the only discipline they understand at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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np: that's ridiculous. this child needs to learn to respond without anger, not with more anger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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the child is five, you don't think he understands anything other than spanking as discipline? And what do you mean get over the psychobabble. Abusing an angry child will only make him/her more angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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be careful what you are modeling when you are angry too. he may be imitating on some levels. or just testing his boundaries. tell him it's ok to be angry, not to insult other people or use hate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Have you looked into nutritional triggers? Does he melt down when he hasn't had enough protein, that kind of thing... Also, find out what is happening at school. Give him a chance to talk to you about what is happening and what it's like for him (an opening not in the moment like, "remember when you said ___?" and then don't say anything else, *just* listen. And really try to look at it from his perspective, how it could be scary not to feel in control, scary to feel disconnected from you, how he is so young and just does not have the tools an adult might have (that is, *might*!) Finally, find ways for him to release energy, stress, anger, etc. in a physical way -- e.g., are there ways he can throw things, destroy things (gotten expressly for that purpose), kick and punch (controlled a la martial arts, or punching bag, pillows,etc.), yell (maybe into a pillow), etc. -- in an environment where you are working as his ally in this? Just some ideas. Maybe *you* should speak with an appropriate counselor (not someone you will look to as an outside authority, but someone who is willing to work with you to find solutions that work for your family) before problematizing/stigmatizing ds. You may also want to, if you are into this kind of work, look at how ds is a mirror for you, and focus on changing your own relationship to anger. Just some thoughts, hth, I wish you luck and I'm sure things will improve with time even if all you do is try to maintain a connection w/ ds even though you don't want to at times, even though it's hard... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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(gotten expressly for that purpose), kick and punch (controlled a la martial arts, or punching bag, pillows,etc.), yell (maybe into a pillow), etc. -- in an environment where you are working as his ally in this? Just some ideas. Maybe *you* should speak with an appropriate counselor (not someone you will look to as an outside authority, but someone who is willing to work with you to find solutions that work for your family) before problematizing/stigmatizing ds. You may also want to, if you are into this kind of work, look at how ds is a mirror for you, and focus on changing your own relationship to anger. Just some thoughts, hth, I wish you luck and I'm sure things will improve with time even if all you do is try to maintain a connection w/ ds even though you don't want to at times, even though it's hard... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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a connection w/ ds even though you don't want to at times, even though it's hard... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I have a 5 yo ds with similar issues. The best thing I've done for him was to enroll him in a social skills group where they role play typical situations like waiting in line, winning/losing a game, etc. They also practice self calming techniques (breathing exercises) that have really helped him. I am in LI but I'm sure there must be similar groups in the city. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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Our five year old has many gripes but is extremely verbal and descriptive. She hated preschool because a teacher aide used cheap tricks to get the class to cooperate. She started out with "I hate school and want to stay home" and after gentle prodding she told me stories that made me hate preschool! Can you have a quiet talk about what he hates about the kids or school etc.. Maybe he's being bullied or not included in an activity. Perhaps a teacher is not connecting or he just misses you during the day . Find out why before you put him on drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] no. my husband and i having same debate over him kissing on lips our DS (3 months) 101 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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I can't think of any appropriate time or circumstance to kiss a child on the lips [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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HUH? How about, I love you, you are my child? How is kissing on the lips sexual? YOU are making it sexual (in your head I mean)...it is not inherently sexual... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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Please don't put down words/thoughts and attribute it to me. I'm entitled to my belief and code of behaviour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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Of course you are. Do you mind sharing then what is your belief about why there are no appropriate times to kiss a child on the lips? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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I don't do it OK! I don't care what you do with your child. It's not something I have ever been remotely tempted to do. I don't think about it! Please stop attaking me - you asked the question and you obviously don't like the answer. So what? I kiss my dcs all day we are very tactile and very physical and say I love you all the time. We don't do the lip kiss. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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"it's not something I have even been remotely tempted to do" - wow, the language you're using about this is kind of strange, given the overtimes and connotations. Please realize I'm not attacking you. I actually asked you why you don't kiss you children on the lips and you didn't respond. See other's comments, you're the outlier here, not the other way around. PS - I didn't ask the question. I'm not the OP... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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but it's OK. I don't post about people who kiss kids on the lips. As a matter of fact I have never thought about it until OP asked the question. She said there was a debate. That means there are two opinions in her house. I'm not wrong, you're not wrong. I just don't think it's the thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Right, and I'm asking why? Can't you answer that? You seem to feel so strongly about it but yet you won't answer a simple question...you're the one that came out of the gate swinging with the word "appropriate", implying that lip pecks are not... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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I think each family is different and certainly cultures are different in their attitude about this. It's intuitive - I can't imagine kissing my older sons on the lips. It just wouldn't feel right. The question is since my opinion was solicited why does it aggravate you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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^^ I came out swinging? omg get the midol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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oooh, sounds like someone is a little oversexed in the head. Kiss the child on his lips for God's sake, there's nothing wrong with it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I don't even think about it. I just answered the question that you asked. If you don't like the response then be careful about asking questions. I say I love you all day to my dcs and we are very kissy and tactile. we just don't do the lip thing. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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np: This is bizarre...my original "HUH?" comment was a NP, not OP. I didn't ask the original question...I was just so shocked at your response... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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"Shocked"? That's a pretty strong word. Chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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I was shocked. I.e., I found it shocking. You chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Well I find it shocking that you kiss your dcs on the lips. How will that fly when your son is 17? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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lol ittta. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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what do you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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np: I think her son will stop when he hits puberty. These things resolve themselves. Not sure why you're so invested in what she does anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Can you read? I was asked for an opinion and apparently it has to be everyone else's opinion. Not sure why you are all so invested in my disinterest in lip kissing my children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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Just trying to give my opinion as well. Or are you the only one entitled to one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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You didn't give an opinion, you asked a question and I answered it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Why are you so nasty to OR? You asked a question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I don't think the OP is even here...if you are OP, show yourself! :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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You are crazy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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I think your response and the name calling suffices as a comment about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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"you are crazy" is also not from OP... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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I've never hesitated to kiss my kids on the lips nor has their father. Sexualizing this is a bit nuts, ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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OP indicated that there was a debate going on. There is no reason for nae calling if there is disagreement. Or are debates only open to your opinion.? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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Debates ARE open to your opinion, so let's have it. What's your OPINION on why it's not appropriate? you haven't offered that in any of your many posts/responses... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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see above. What's you justification as to why it's appropriate? You don't seem to understand I don't care if you kiss your dcs on the lips. Really - I don't. It's just something I don't do. I don't owe you any response. Why should I justify my opinion? No one here is being asked to justify their position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Not asking to justify opinion, asking for your opinion. You stated your behavior but not the underlying opinion guiding that behavior... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Original respondent is way outside the norm on this one. Parents kiss babies and kids on the lips ALL THE TIME. It's normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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Well good for you.Respondent will continue to operate outside your norm. ALL THE TIME [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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huh? I kiss my ds on the lips daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Well what is your debate about OP, if he is doing the kissing and you are defending it? Is he being forced to kiss your db on the lips? lol Get your act straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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np: what? what are you saying? I'm not following... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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These sentences don't even make sense. What is she saying?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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The question is why did OP post this? What is the debate about in her house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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NP: dude, this non lip kissing woman is nutty. The post above is clearly not the OP...it's another poster... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Dude I'm the "nutty" non lip kissing poster. Learn how to read these threads before you respond and start name calling. BTW I am entitled to my opinion or are you saying that I'm not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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woah. You're the one that was reading the posts wrong, right? You though the person that said she kisses her son daily was same as OP. I was just saying it's not. You are angry, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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No I did not. You're very literal which goes along with your antagonism and free wheeling anger. At the end of the day I am entitled to my opinion and you are entitled to yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Go away you name calling trailer trash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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"you name calling trailer trash" - is that supposed to be ironic? who is the trailer trash? I can't even keep up with this anymore. And you're name calling while calling people out on name calling? That's not hypocritical or anything... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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that was not me btw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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not me who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I kiss my ds on the lips. And my parents kissed me on the lips, as did my grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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what? wow, i can't imagine not kissing my little baby on the lips. out of curiosity, was your family physically affectionate in other ways when you were growing up as a child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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my kids kiss me on the lips. they both do. i never taught them to, they just do it. should i make them stop? they are 2 and 4 yrs old. until now i thought it was sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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if you think it's sweet, it is... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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When I was a kid, I never dreamed of kissing my parents on the lips. That said, I kiss my children on the lips. Like the poster above, it seems sweet to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Well I'm the poster who is being attacked. What's good for you may not be good for me. I didn't post about this - I answered a post. It's not something I've ever given any thought to until the question was posed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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np: you seem to have a persecution complex. you are not being attacked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Being called crazy, bizarre, "sexualizing a topic" "coming out of the gate swinging" to name a few responses. I just don't do it. I don't kiss my kids on the lips and I don't think it's the thing to do either. Big deal. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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OK, you don't think it's the thing to do - WHY NOT? Why can't you answer that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I've been fielding questions for quite awhile. I responded above to that same question so why don't you read the thread? Why do you feel it's the thing to do? Should you lip kiss you teen age son? I don't think so and lots of people would agree with me. That said I'm not out there starting posts about it. I responded to a post asking for opinions. And again, I don't care what you do. I just don't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I THOUGHT YOU WERE LEAVING!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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not OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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I think OP and OR left quite awhile ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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because there's nothing wrong with it. It's a sign of love. What's wrong with kissing teenage son? Again, I think you are sexualizing the behavior if you think there's something wrong with kissing teenage son. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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np Well Ita with whoever is saying lip kissing is not good with moms and teenage boys. Kissing is fine but... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Who lip kisses their teenage son? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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I don't think there's a right or wrong answer or that anyone thinks or cares about it that much. I think the only thing people reacted to was the strength of your conviction that you were right. Who cares where you kiss your children as long as you kiss them often? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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ITA. Vive la difference! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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I wish I knew. I think a nerve was touched...lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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OR - have to go. I think we've exhausted this topic. Kisses to all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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good riddance... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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you're an ugly ill person. All your "kisses" won't do your poor kids much good. You love to attack don't you? Well...smoooooches! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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wow, whose name calling now - see someone else's post - they said it beautifully: "I think the only thing people reacted to was the strength of your conviction that you were right." realize how you came across starting from your first post...very dogmatic.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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and you of course are not. All the passion this elicited... you must be kidding. I really hit a nerve lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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you don't seem like you're laughing. I don't think I'm right at all. I wanted an exchange of ideas but you still haven't said why you think it's wrong to kiss kids on lips except that is doesn't feel right to you...It's hard to discuss something with someone that has no basis for such a strong conviction, that's all. You started this with your language, I'm not the only one who has said so, CLEARLY! I'm sorry you feel so persecuted though, maybe explore that a little... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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You have no right to say I have no basis for a strong conviction just because it's not your conviction. You've never felt something intuitively? Well I do and I stand by my feelings. What is so surprising is all the ugliness that surfaced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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Actually... I do have a right to say it, it's called free speech. So because you feel it is so, IT IS SO? I guess I just have a more academic, intellectual, rationalistic (and I mean rationalistic in the true sense of the word, please don't freak) approach to debates like this, rather than the approach traditionally associated with religiosity "I think it, therefore it is so" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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What in the world are you talking about? Lots of "big words" misused. Please read my original response. It starts with "I can't think" It does not say because I feel it is so that it is so. I've said repeatedly that I don't care what you do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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This feels like a merry go round. I just read it again. My question...why? You are basically conveying you think therefore it is so, without saying why. Sorry if I used too many long words for you. None misused BTW, but nice try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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im almost 30 and still kiss my mom on the lips [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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and I bet you love your mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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^^^and I think that's why I kiss my kids on the lips...because of the families I've observed, the ones with the closest relationships seem to be the lip-kissers :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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You're a silly person and a real lightweight. OR has said she was close to her dcs. Do you really ascribe closeness to kissing dcs on the lips? lolol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Hey, just my observation. At least I'm willing to change my mind after observing rather than being completely single-minded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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ITA. "A real lightweight" - what is she talking about?? This is getting comical... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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She is saying that anyone who associates close families with lip kissing is not too bright. Her feelings... don't come after me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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I'm in my early 30s and kiss my Dad on the lips whenever I see him after time apart (we see each other a few times a year) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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I think OR has some English language issues, or else just problems with expression... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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I disagree. I didn't want to post and get involved in the cross fire but or is right imo. She seems to be saying that it's not right for her. She does not say it's verboten for everyone else. Why does that bother you? It's pretty clear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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OR here. Thanks and a big kiss for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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Her opening line was "I can't think of any appropriate time or circumstance to kiss a child on the lips." Sounds pretty dogmatic to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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that wasn't even me, the person who first responded with "HUH?" and has been responding ever since...glad I'm not the only one who read her post as dogmatic...it's even harder to take when she's got not basis for it beyond "doesn't feel right"...and seems to condemn others with use of terms like appropriate... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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The first time I asked (and I was genuinely interested to know why) why she thinks what she thinks, she responded this way: "I don't do it OK! I don't care what you do with your child. It's not something I have ever been remotely tempted to do. I don't think about it! Please stop attaking me - you asked the question and you obviously don't like the answer. So what? I kiss my dcs all day we are very tactile and very physical and say I love you all the time. We don't do the lip kiss. Get over it." I just want to understand but I am realizing she is unable to express her views about her beliefs. I am just not used to dealing with people that don't have underlying reasoning for thinking the way they do... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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It's laughable that you all tried so hard to get me to fall in to your trap but were unsuccessful. Oh I have reasons for my thinking I've just been in ub too long to make myself open to abuse. Nice try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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"fall into your trap" - you really do have a persecution complex... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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I am 48 and always kiss my family members on the lips. All of them do the same. That includes my parents, my siblings, and my children. Obviously, I kiss my spouse on the lips but often with a rather different intention than simple greeting or affection. I wonder whether adults who find this uncomfortable are anxious about their behavior being misunderstood as sexual in other contexts as well, whether it might have to do with unpleasant encounters in their own childhood around kissing and a desire not to be the icky person they were bothered by... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I totally agree. Unfortunately I think the possibility of those individuals who are uncomfortable with it being able to identify and recognize the roots of their discomfort (or even being willing to explore them) is slim to none.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 04:13 AM Flag
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OP: I was responding to someone else's question regarding kissing babies with my response - and by accident created a new post. (maybe it will happen again now....). I do not believe in kissing babies on the lips because of the potential of passing germs -- not because of any kind of sexual innuendo (that never crossed my mind). My DH likes to kiss DS on lips, but says he will stop kissing DS on lips when DH is sick (as if he knows he is sick before he gets sick......) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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Kids develop strong immune systems by being exposed to 'germs'. Can't keep your child in a bubble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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That depends. With tongue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.06.08, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] my crazy landlords kids schedule -- sleep till noon, up till 3, nap till 6:30 - dinner at 9pm, bed at midnight or later... They live upstairs & the kids are 7 and 10; they are noisiest when we want to have dinner & go to sleep. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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so they don't ever do camp or school?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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np: it's summer, if they aren't at camp, there is no school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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this is the the summer schedule - no camp. During school months - they go to school & nap after until 7 or 8 dinner at 9 and up till 11-11:30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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Wow, that is odd. I guess they nap b/c they get six hours or so of sleep a night? I would go insane if my kid were up that late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] trying again: Hope this works Be our guest, be our guest, put your income to the test, Bring a wallet full of money and let Disney to the rest, You're away form it all, so we've got you by the b@#*s, Try the burgers, they're delicious - twenty dollars - aren't we vicious! Ten by ten, twenty by twenty - we're rob you of all your money, And while we do we'll treat you second best, You worked so hard to make it, come and let us take it, It's our quest to rob your nest so be our guest!!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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why do you care so much if Dinsey jacks up the price? seriously [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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I knew the hike was coming and purchased our tickets on Friday. I just thought the song was pretty darned funny. Guess we don't share the same sense of humor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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So don't go there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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Seaside Heights is calling! Bring your tentand enjoy the Boardwalk! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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i went to disney in may & it was worth every penny, we were treated great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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Anyway one vacations at a BRAND deserves the hosing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Actually, I secretly like the increase in fees for Disney. Maybe it will reduce the number of people (it was super crowded when we went) and a lot of people who were there... were... really cheesy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Just say it - they were poor. Blue collar types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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Actually, you can be cheesy and have money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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But that's not who the OR is talking about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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Are you "Matchmaker, Matchmaker" mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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i think you get what you pay for. never had a bad time at disney - as a child or an adult. you know things are going to be expensive before you go so there are no surprises. plus, i think they give great service and take care of the place really well. i have been there on new years eve - the busiest day of the year - and had no complaints whatsoever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 08:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Going to lunch with my 3yo and aunt. Need a good weekday lunch spot that has good food but also kid-friendly in the Gramercy, Union Square, East Village, Flatiron area. Thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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Believe it or not, Craftbar. We take our 20-month old for brunch fairly often and they are extremely nice, great menu. Broadway and 19th. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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Rosa Mexciana, your dc can eat a quesadilla, Patsy's on 10th and University, Reservoir (University), Il Cantenori (sp), there is a Dean and Deluca around University and 10th, I can't remember the name of the Brewery on 15 the and Union Square West, Otto I think serves lunch, Velseka Dinner 3rd Ave maybe 3nd Ave, in the EV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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^^^I meant 2nd Ave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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City Bakery on 18thSt bet. 5th&6th has a good setup but there is no waitstaff. It's cafeteria/bakery style w/good food and very kid friendly; there's a milkshake/grilled cheese cafeteria counter toward the back. Books of Wonder is across the street and tons of other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] DD has been taking swimming and piano but really wants to take ballet and ice skating. I'd prefer she stays in swimming and piano, which seem better as life-long activities (plus she's really good at them), and I don't want her to take four classes (she's only 6). WWYD? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.04.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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If she is 6 how about you pick one she picks one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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not a bad idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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let her pick one new thing and keep one old thing (I would keep piano), just take her to the pool ever 2 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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Good idea. I also would keep piano, but that's the one she really dislikes. Maybe I'll change her teacher (who seems really tough). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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try changing the teacher, but if she does not like it I would then stop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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ITA. I disliked piano lesson, but was forced to take lessons until I was 16--my mother was also of the opinion that every little girl should learn and that playing the piano was as you say a lifelong activity. It really ruined me for music lessons. If I'd been allowed to choose my instrument, I might have enjoyed it. Meanwhile I missed out on a lot of other activities I was really interested in but couldn't do because I was involved in the activities my mother preferred. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Ouch. You've convinced me! Ballet and ice skating it is! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I would let her do what SHE wants, not what you want her to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Taking ballet for most of my formative years was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I loved it (was never professional), it instilled great discipline, and its something I'll always know/have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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She tried it before (at ABT) and didn't like it (it was too serious, she had to wear one outfit every week). Now she wants to take it at some place more relaxed. Seems frivolous, but I'm realizing that may be because I'm being a bit overbearing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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Yea - my mom followed my lead with dance. She dropped me off and picked me up for classes, but certainly didn't push it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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sign her up for a week of ice skating at chelsea piers, either now or during the winter break and see how that goes. You can also do swimming in the fall and then ice skating in winter, that's what we do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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That's what happened...she went to an ice skating party and loved it! Like your idea of one for the fall and one for the winter... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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We always do that, with team sports too - soccer in the fall, t-ball in the spring. Otherwise it's just too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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hadn't thought about that, but it makes a lot of sense. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] TO the person who posted earlier about Pancreatic Cancer..I have replied to your earlier post. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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search term? I searched under pancreatic cancer and cameup with a post on 8/2 about someone's sil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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That just happened to me as well..not sure where it landed...I wanted to let you know that there is something called Cyberknife which is a new procedure that can zap previously inoperable tumors..it has been used on some pancreatic cancer patients. Not sure about Sloan Kettering specifically but there is a Dr in NYC Dr. Gonzalez who does holistic/newish treatments with some success in pancreatic patients. Hopefully she will be able to have the Whipple Procedure which can prolong life..although Stage Four is very very late in the game..so sorry to have to tellyou that...she can also try Gemzar which is a new drug treatment for pancreatic cancer patients... Pancan.org and the Lustgarten foundation are good resources online..the news you will find online is grim and unfortunately she will probably not make it past 5 months with stage four..they will be brutally realistic with her and miracles do happen every day...i pray she does not have any children...thinking of you and her as you embark on this horrendous journey through a brutal brutal disease...please post here if you need more advice...peace [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.05.08, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] advice needed - feel like i don't have great milk supply in evening at 3 mo DD's bedtime. Last night I nursed her and then gave her a few ounces of pumped milk in a bottle and she drank it all. at what point is it time to give bottle in addition to nursing. i would like to nurse exclusively but wonder if she would sleep better if she has bottle too. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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It is fine to give bottles whenever you want but one thing to try is to keep yourself really well hydrated during the day and you will probably find your supply increases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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thanks - i have been trying but maybe it's not enough. i know it's easy to drink fro a bottle so maybe she did not really need it. she seems happy and goes to sleep within 15 minutes of putting her down but i wonder if she would sleep longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] When does the older child jealousy thing wear off? My DS is almost 4 and seems to get mor eand more jealous of his younger brother every day. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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Oh no! Signed Mom of murderous 2.5yo and poor baby. I really hope it gets better soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I need to transfer money from my European account to my US account. Is it better to do that when I'm in Europe in a couple of weeks or can I just take care of it here? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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If you can do it online via a wire transfer you can do it from here. I usually have to go to the bank to do a wire transfer, which at this point is the only way you can really transfer. It used to be much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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You can do it from here, we did, but I'm not sure how as dh dealt with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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