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[ - ] question for moms who formula fed their DBs - what type of formula did you use when DB was newborn? hospial used similac advanced with iron, so thats what i bought. but wondering if there is something better. tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 09.28.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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my ped recommended Alimentum, ready to feed. Worked terrific, but $$$$. Worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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similac advance bc that is what the hospital used, and db seemed ok with it. but I preferred the powder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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If you are using powder, I found that the Enfamil dissolved easier in water. My ds had bad gas and if I had to shake the bottle too much to mix, he had terrible pains. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ideas for toppings to make construction bday cake for 2 year old? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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crushed oreos and graham crackers for dirt, peanut brittle for bricks, small bob the builder figures....there is actually a birthday set that comes with maybe 5 pieces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] dh and i haven't had sex in 3 years. we live like friends/roommates... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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you could be me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHMs: what do you do when dc's school is closed for holidays? What's your childcare on those days? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 09.28.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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backup daycare, babysitter or one of us takes the day off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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i take off, dh takes off, our PT afterschool sitter fills in for the whole day if she can. rarely, i'll take my dd to work with me (she's 7, so can largely entertain herself). sometimes i'll work from home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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We have toddler at home, so we already have child care worked out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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we've kept our nanny just for this reason (and for sick days). she cleans, does errands, etc. while the kids are in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] can someone please confirm? one of my friends told me that all the isaagny schools have an agreement that they will not accept an applicant if the he/she is currently enrolled at another isaagny school. is this true? my dc is currently enrolled in a 2s program at a nursery school (an isaagny school) and applying for the 3s at the same school. we are also applying to a bunch of other nursery and ongoings (all isaagny schools). 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 09.28.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Not true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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any school that makes you re apply for the 3s program from the 2s program is telling you that they may not keep you. they would not expect you not to apply elsewhere. But if you do sign a contract with them, you are not supposed to sign with anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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it's not really a full 2s program...it's actually a class created for 2s wl'ed for the official 2s class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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which school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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Not true. Sounds like your friend is getting that mixed up with the way ISAAGNY schools handle acceptances and waitlists during admissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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They can't make you an offer if you've signed a contract with another isaagny school. But if you are already at a school, they will make you sign a contract for the next year several weeks (or even months) before you would know if you are accepted at a new issagny. And if you sign the contract, the other schools are not supposed to make you an offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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If you already are in a school, you are not obligated to sign a contract for the next year until after the notification date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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^^^if you are in an isaagny school applying to other isaagny schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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That is absolutely incorrect. The school you are in will ask you to sign a contract before the end of the calendar year, so they know whether they have any spots to fill in the older classes. The "new" schools don't notify until early March. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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The above is correct. This was us last year. At one isaagny applying to another. We did NOT have to sign at the earlier deadline once we notified our current school we were applying to another preschool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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What sane person is going to risk telling their PSD that they are looking at other schools until they find out that they are "in" at the better school? Talk about a sure-fire way to sabotage your kid's exmissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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an ISAAGNY school can't offer you a contract for a 3s program if you have already signed a contract for a 3s program with another ISAAGNY school. Your 2s contract doesn't affect anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 09:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Trying to set up playdates for DD in K class. She had a playdate with a girl a week ago and I emailed the mom about setting up another one. She said let me check dates and get back to you. I haven't heard anything-OK to email her again? I hate this-it's K and I am paranoid she is blowing my DD off! 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 09.28.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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I don't understand the obsession with playdates. Once they're in K, the kids are with other kids nearly 7 hours a day (if they'd don't do classes after school); isn't this enough most of the time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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np: ita. do people really do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I'd love to blow off playdates. My DC is an only and begs for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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OR Yes. My dd does stuff after school most days, so I avoid playdates most of the time. Second dc started preschool a few weeks ago, though, and has had several playdates already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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yes, people really do set up playdates for their kids. in k, we usually had at least one playdate a week. now in 2nd grade, and dc still typically has one playdate a week. she loves them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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no problem if it is driven by the child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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correction. if it is driven by both children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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Depends on your dc's school, but for a lot of dc those 7 hours are very structured. My dc wants to PLAY with her friends at the end of the day. There's a big difference between that and what she does at school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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most schools recommend them for dcs at ths age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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Lay back a bit. Nobody wants to be with someone needy...kids are the same. Maybe they want to make play dates with other kids as well. You can't force a friendship but you can nurture one. Calling a week later seems like you think there is something wrong with your dd otherwise you would know that kids would love to play with her. Call someone else and wait a few weeks on this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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is this a mis-post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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"most" schools? Where did you get this knowledge from? Definitely not from my DC's school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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Ditto. If another mom and I click we usually set something up. Or if the kid is friends with some other kid. Beyond that? No way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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what "beyond that" is there? you've pretty much summed it up... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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You cannot think of other reasons why some parent wants her child to have a play date? Come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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i can of course -- just don't think they're relevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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leave her alone. it is too soon for another playdate with the same kid. your dd should branch out a bit in K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I wouldn't email her again. I would just leave the ball in her court. It might be her 2nd child, she could have other stuff going on, I wouldn't overanalyze it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 10:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Any divorced moms here who can support my vision of an amicable split? Where dh and I will actually agree on just about all terms, walk away with no hard feelings, continue to cooperate in raising our children and even enjoy "family time" at some point? Am I on crack? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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I've never heard of that outside of the fluke magazine articles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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this could not happen with me and my ex however, i really could see this if dh and i split up. i think it's def. possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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I know families that have been able to do that, although not always at first. I had friends whose parents got divorced due to father's alcohol/drugg addiction. By the time I met them (about 7 years post divorce) their parents were both re-married, both had had another child w new spouses and both families got along very well. My friends always said that the only "issue" had been their father's addiction, so once that was over, their parents could once again be friends. If you saw them together at like a parents event, you'd never have known they were divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Funny, that's why I'm splitting with dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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or: i do imagine though that if the addiction issue had created a lot of animosity in other areas of life (say infidelity, money, abuse) that would be a different situation. or if the addict spouse was not able to get clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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if he's still an addict, I wouldn't count on being able to have a good relationship afterwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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np: obviously not now but she did say later & I assume she's giving him the benefit of the doubt that he'll clean up his act eventually. I think it's very mature and healthy attitude. And the best for the kids if he's really under the influence (though you should be careful with custody, OP). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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this sounds like an episode from "Rescue Me" ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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Yes, and I can also support your vision of alien abduction, bigfoot, the tooth fairy and santa claus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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I've seen it, but the two parties have to be very mature and still respect eachother in order to handle it. Its very rare. In many of the cases where the split was amicable the couple ended up getting back together at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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Child of divorce here. My parents were extremely civil to each other and after some years, even "friendly" -- no bitterness, if either felt anger they did not speak of it EVER in front of me, and def. did attend some events together (my high school graduation and lunch after, e.g.) and were very respectful to each other. Always calm with each other, and never used me as a pawn. Of all my friends, I have found my parents' divorce was least traumatic, I am 100% positive it was b/c of their behavior towards each other. It can be done and it SHOULD be done whenever possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Np: similar childhood experience and ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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Glad to hear it is not just me. I actually find it weird when people claim that they would do ANYTHING for their kids (lie down in front of a truck etc) yet cannot manage to behave in a civil way towards the child's mother/father. I know it is very very hard but that is why couples go to negotiate a fair settlement so as to avoid constant battles and so on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I have a friend who actually switches with her husband, going to the family house so that the kids aren't being uprooted in the middle of the week. She stays there for 3-1/2 days and he does the same. It kind of makes sense not to make the kids lug themselves all over and they get to stay in their same room all week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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My best friend and her ex bought houses that back up to each other from their back yards so the kids can come and go freely but the parents aren't in each others faces [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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I did it. Much better for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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My grandparents had that relationship while I was growing up and it was great. They had 3 kids and we have a very close extended family as a result. It was very strange especially for that time when few people were divorced in the first place, but it just worked. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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Yes, my sister had a divorce like that. It was fairly amicable from the beginning, but also improved over time. Each had a disastrous 2nd marriage which ended. My niece, who was 3 at the time of the split, is today a beautiful, intelligent, accomplished and happily married adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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My parents had a divorse like that. Even babysit my kids together, spend holidays together. Good for you for trying to make it amicable- it CAN be done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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That's how we are -- five years after the split. We are both happily re-married, I view my ex like a brother that I can count on when I need him. Our divorce was the best thing that ever happened to our friendship! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm working on a montage of baby's first year - I want to use U2's new song - but I don't know the name of the song or album - it's just music no words - does anyone know the name?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Don't know it, but I'm sure you can look it up on iTunes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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thanks - but I'm on Itunes and can't find it... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] First hand knowledge only please: What was STMPG's 2008 exmissions? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.28.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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Why not worry about this once you're accepted to multiple preschools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Because you need to first choice one them to get in, idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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Still, they ding MOST people who write fc letters, so no point in fretting about exmissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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true, though most people I know FC'd it with enough connections that their chances were good. [ Reply | More ]
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what does SEIT sand for? [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 09.28.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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be nice. help me out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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entourage, and you're missing true blood (when i first heard the promos it sounded bizarre, but it is actually quite good) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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what channel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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HBO - entourage is at 10 EST [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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i think they replay true blood later. it is weird, but very good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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also on HBO [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How are asst teachers generally? DD says hers screams at the kids all the tme when the head teacher isn't around. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.28.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Public? I believe it. Many times, para's are called "asst teacher" but they're not really qualified for anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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our "second chair" seems at least as qualified as the teacher. is that unusual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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apparently she is a real asst. but she yells a lot and threatens the kids. also, very strict, even at recess. DD is well behaved, so no problems, but dd is scared of her, and worries when the head teacher is not around. Is this normal? I am a bit concerned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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can you speak to the head teacher about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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well, dd has no trouble with her directly. also, its early in the year, and I don't want to make problems. but I am wondering if this is not unusual, and how parents handle it generally as a class, or if they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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I would speak to the head and principal. this should not be happening. just because it is public, doesn't mean you should put up with this. our kids deserve to be happy at school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Is this public or private? You didn't answer before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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sorry. public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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np: does it matter? public or private, the issue is the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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It can make a difference as far as recourse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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please explain. I am naive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Main issue I had in mind is that public school teachers have a union. The assistant may or may not be a part of it, not enough info from OP. But if the teacher is union it's much harder to get rid of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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My dd's is very nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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np; how the hell is a kid's fault? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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did you not see the apostrophe there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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i was an assistant teacher in a kindergarten while i was getting my teachers certification. i was there to help the teacher. talk to them when they would have issues so the teacher could be teaching the class. help with lunches listen to kids. while there probably were a few instances where i would have to yell (it was in 2003), i can hardly remember. i spent a large amount of time talking to the kids, helping and listening, i just can't imagine having to spend a lot of time yelling, especially as an assitant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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thank you. we did not have this issue last year. (dd now in 1st grade). Just seems odd. DD is pretty happy at school generally, and rarely tells me much of anything. seems so early in the year, and the idea that assistant is so unpleasant worries me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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maybe it was an off day for the assistant, which is still no excuse. or is it all the time? if your daughter mentions it again i would follow up with other parents and with the head teacher. maybe even see about helping out in the classroom on a day the class needs it so you can observe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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she says it is often, if not all the time, but who knows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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np: I would ask around casually and see if others have a similar take from their dcs. if it seems to be a known among others, I might do something about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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so glad we didn't go public. you have no say in anything when it comes to these sorts of problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Publics don't have the market cornered on this. Was just talking to df a few days ago and they're having the same problem with their dc's assistant teacher. This is at a "tt" private. And no one complains because no one wants to rock the boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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We had this problem with the head teacher at tt private. Assistant was great, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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what ddid you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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if she is not a para and just an assistant hired by a parents group like i was - then the assistant is not union and then you do have recourse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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np: be careful. find out the general consensus first. head and assisstant may be tight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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np She should be careful with this. She might end up being seen as a backbiting gossip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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so what to do? if the AT continues in this way, I think the parents should do something. perhaps her dd is sensitive, but it sounds like its true nontheless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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I would talk to some of the other parents and ask if their children have said anything. If so, talk to the class parent about it. We had an issue last year in public with an assistant teacher in K that was yelling at the children. She wound up doing some rather inappropriate things and due to parent complaints she was removed from the classroom. Assistant teachers are not usually in the union and unlike one of the other response suggested, parents can do something about problems in public. The assistant may just need to be spoken to about her style. It is difficult to replace assistant teachers mid-year so if the assistant is removed you may not have another for a period of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 04:10 AM Flag
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This isn't a public/private issue. My dd had the worst assistant teacher last year and she is in private. Ironically, she left our school and is now an assistant at another private school. I pity the dcs in her class. I will be curious to see if she survives in her new school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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Ours is very nice but she has her means to make the kids behave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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such as? that sounds ominous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.08, 08:33 AM Flag
[ - ] when you buy ice cream, do you go for a chocolate based flavor or a vanilaa based flavor ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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when i wasn't pregnant, definitely chocolate based flavor. but now all i want is a vanilla based flaovr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.28.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I am soooo vanilla but DH is Mr. Choc. He'll jump to my flavor when his runs out - never fear - but I don't switch hit that way. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone have any simple desert recipes for the holidays? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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cheesecake is simple and easy and always seems like a big deal. but go with one that uses 4 - 5 packs of good cream cheese. [ Reply | More ]
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