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[ - ] So if we didn't get off the waitlist today is all lost? Ugh... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.11.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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Not yet. I just spoke to someone who is holding 2 spots and still hasn't decided. UWS schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:29 PM Flag
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Contracts were due today for both the schools I'm waiting for, downtown. Thanks for some hope though! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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Things may still change. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:34 PM Flag
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What schools are you waiting for downtown? I hear there might be movement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:24 PM Flag
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where'd you hear there might be movement? any of the ongoings downtown?? hmm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:27 PM Flag
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OP- Chelsea Day and WMS. Also WLed at Beginnings but not holding my breath. We had a bad playdate there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:59 PM Flag
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WMS stinks...count your blessings DC did not end-up there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:01 PM Flag
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np: i know someone who got offered Beginnings late this afernoon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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I know people who have gotten off the CDS waitlist as late as summer. It really does continue to move, make sure they know you really want to send DC there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:58 PM Flag
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She's not holding them anymore: :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:12 PM Flag
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No. When we went through the process a few years ago we got a call out of the blue over the summer. By that time we already had a spot elsewhere but we had shown no interest in the waitlist for the school we got the call from (although it is a nice school) so it makes me think that there was a lot of movement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Preschool Poll: Did you get in to your FC? If yes, was it straight up accept or off the WL? If not, did you end up somewhere you are happy with? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.11.09, 03:09 PM Flag
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Yes and yes- I think, in our case it was us being very perceptive about what school would be a good fit for us and understanding how the process works- being flexible with AM/PM also helped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:13 PM Flag
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FC accept. WL at others except for 1 reject. Very happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:14 PM Flag
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Yes (although we had 2 favorites (WL'd at the other) and didn't write a FC letter to any preschool). Accepted straight up, so we released other accepts and declined other WL's early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:18 PM Flag
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Yes and Yes. We didn't write a FC letter, but wrote a nice TY note. We got into two others, WL at a fourth, and flat-out rejected from a school that asked for a FC, but we didn't. We are unconnected and normal NYC UMC $$, not $$$$$$. Part of it is we are lucky DD is just very outgoing and charming during the playdates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:23 PM Flag
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Yes dc got FC and straight up accept. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:04 PM Flag
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For those who got FC, what's your secret? Are you very rich, live in very fancy neighborhoods, work at well-known banks and law firms, have famous friends who wrote letters on your behalf? I'm really curious what it takes to get into a first choice school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:43 PM Flag
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did not get into our fc and did write a fc letter. we got into three other places but it was a hard call as they were all very distant seconds. And I did not write letters to any of those places. I was torn up until the last minute today. Think I made a good choice but I'm not feeling overwhelming excitement about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:46 PM Flag
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FC accept. Wealthy, fancy address, but very down-to-earth in person. Ivy undergrad and grad-both parents. Don't know anyone famous and definitely was not "connected". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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^^Also DC had very good playdates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:25 PM Flag
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for the poster who got a pm spot at the fc, did you take it? did you get am spots at the others? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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No no no to all of your presumptions. We just got the school's progressive philosophy- dh was a montessori kid and I teach at an alternative school. We talked shop for a while with the admin committee- had a very long interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:50 PM Flag
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We got into FC, but we are normal, we rent in the neighborhood, kinda cool jobs but not super $$. Totally goes against everything I thought about the admissions process from reading UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:29 PM Flag
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^^ I didn't even know what a FC letter was until now!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:31 PM Flag
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we are none of these things and got offered an AM spot at Beginnings (no sib, etc). I think, actually, we came across as pretty low-key and normal and my kid fit some profile they were looking for in the class and had the same birthday month as a sib who left. That said, I do think ds came across very well in playdates and that really helped him. He is a big chatterbox and very good-looking and directors often commented after playdates about how charming he was. But in the end, i think it was just a numbers game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yes. Accept. But PM spot at first choice school. Wrote fc letter. Multiple accepts at other schools--wrote I love you letters to those. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:45 PM Flag
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We applied to 3, got into 2 right away and one after a couple days on WL. Still a tough decision, we only applied to schools we liked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:28 PM Flag
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No; WL at FC, accepted at SC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:38 PM Flag
[ - ] WHY do ppl do this. So this man in Brooklyn won the lotto (a scratch off) for 3 million dollars. He opted for 20 yrs of payments and after taxes he will get 96k a yr. SO what does he do??? He quits his job! AND he plans on buying his mother a home..and himself one of those BMW trucks. Where is he getting the money to do this? It's only 96k a yr...he needs to not quit his job 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:47 PM Flag
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his money. his life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:50 PM Flag
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op: yes I understand this but I just think he will blow through the 96k very early on and will have nothing for the rest of the yr and without a job it will be hard. With this economy ppl should hold on to their jobs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:52 PM Flag
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i always wonder about the people who are so sure that everyone else can't handle things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:06 PM Flag
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op: you are right..maybe he will but it was the way he spoke about what he will do with the money. Buy that $$$$$ truch, buy a home, ect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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I watched a documentary recently on how people say the lottery ruined their lives. People that all the sudden come into large sums of money don't know about using it in moderation. They think that will be enough to last a whole year and have some left over. You know the saying "A fool and his money are soon parted." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:53 PM Flag
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op: I saw the same documentary and this is why I feel this way. Many went through the money so quickly and found themselves in so much debt or sometimes homeless because of the way they didn't budget themselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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Um, HHI of $75K in Manhattan here. I'd sure as HELL quit my job! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:53 PM Flag
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lol. ditto with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:03 PM Flag
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This is why vast majority of lottery winners are in bankruptcy in less than 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:04 PM Flag
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What was his job? He was probably making 30K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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ITTA! What an elitist cunt for calling it "only 96k a year". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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op: excuse me but I'm no elistist cunt..watch your damn language. I grew up extremely poor and know what it is to have hardly anything to eat. This mad lives in Brooklyn (so it's not cheap in NYC)..and 96k is a lot of money in many places but in NYC and for what he was planning on doing with the money..it's not that much. I'm not rich, I live carefully on about that much money and I know it's not easy with a large family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:11 PM Flag
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np: i know this is not your point and i don't know where this guy lives. but not all of brooklyn is expensive. for all the park slope type neighborhoods, there are also the east new york areas where rents are very cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:15 PM Flag
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yes I know that some of brooklyn is cheap (manhattan too like in the projects) but my point is ..I hope he just settles down and realizes to not spend the entire 96k on a truck (considering he's not returning to his job) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:17 PM Flag
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96K a year AFTER taxes is a nice amount of money. I could live on that, easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:09 PM Flag
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op: yes many of us can...read what I wrote on what he's planning on doing. His dreams (which are great because he wants a big $$ truck and to buy his mother a home) are a little out there for 96k a yr. I'm just hoping he doesn't do what others in his place (lotto winners) have done in the past..just blown their money even before their next check arrived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:12 PM Flag
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I don't think a mortgage and a car payment are so "out there" on 96K net [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:18 PM Flag
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op: true but in this economy good luck to many who will try to get financing. I got the impression he was planning on just buying it outright..but he may have been just excited [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:19 PM Flag
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His income is guaranteed by the state lottery for the next 20 years - I think he's a good a candidate for financing as there is right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:21 PM Flag
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I wouldn't say he shouldn't quit his job, but he will hopefully realize that he cannot buy all that on 96k - but he can do well on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:16 PM Flag
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op: THIS is my point..I personally wouldn't quit (maybe take some personal leave) but buying all of that esp. the $$$ truck can easily cost 96k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else getting back a huge tax return? HHI 200K. We're getting back approximately 160K this year due to AMT changes. Three accountants have confirmed. Thank you Obama! 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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How can you be getting back 160k? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:48 PM Flag
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OP: It goes back on a AMT tax credit from years back. He paid taxes on 8 million in 1999 then the 8 million was gone. We take credits against it every year, but until this year, we've been limited to the amount of the credit. Now, tax change this year only forces us to take entire credit. So the 160K isn't on 200K, obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:52 PM Flag
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then why did you include your current HHI? it has NOTHING to do with your post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:54 PM Flag
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Because it is a huge windfall and that's what I'm thanking Obama for. It's due to an AMT change included in the stimulus bill. If our HHI was 1.5 million, it wouldn't be a big deal. It is a big deal because it's a hell of a lot of money for a middle class family. (Obviously, it's our money we overpaid, but it's still an amazing windfall that allows us to get our money back and use it for what we need rather than the government tying it up for another decade.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:58 PM Flag
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You're NOT a "middle class family". Middle class families don't make 200K and they CERTAINLY never have $8mm to take AMT credits against. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:59 PM Flag
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OP: OK, fair enough. I agree. I only say that because on UB, it seems 500K is middle class, but you are right, it is absurd. In any case, it's great for us. The 8 mm was a one time thing. Instead of buying a lot of crap with it, we paid enormous taxes and then promptly lost it all. SF--height of boom. We've never made more than $175K-$200 since. I'm just happy and although we have a very specific, odd situation, we are being put in a much better situation to stimulate the economy by the bill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:04 PM Flag
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What happened to the millions DH made? Did you lose it all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yep. It was all paper anyway. But dh paid a boatload in taxes on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:04 PM Flag
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All paper? If you made 8M you should have gotten to keep at least 4 of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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Nope. Taxes paid on options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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OP: and believe me, we wouldn't be getting an AMT tax credit every year since if we'd gotten 4 million! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:10 PM Flag
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160k on 200k, I doubt it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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no you are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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OP: Yes we are. See above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:52 PM Flag
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You are just trying to get people riled up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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OP: I'm just really happy actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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we got back 12k (HHI 100k) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:52 PM Flag
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Is that more than usual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:54 PM Flag
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no..that's normal for us..we purposely claim at the end of the yr..if not we would never have money to save as we do with this. If we get it during the yr (by claiming early on) dh would SPEND IT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:14 PM Flag
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OP: we always do this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:17 PM Flag
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glad to see we aren't the only ones. If I don't do this he will spend it and then there goes money we have toward private school tuition [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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HOw on earth can you get 160K back on 200K? You probably paid only 80K or so in taxes to begin with! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] favorite restaurant dish ever, that you would never attempt at home? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:42 PM Flag
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Swiss chard & sun dried tomato rice lasagna from Gobo. Except I have tried it at home and I can't even get close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me about D2 schools in NYC. Kindergarten up... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:29 PM Flag
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Watching this post as considering buying in the area with 2 young dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:33 PM Flag
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No one responded yet, though. They will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:54 PM Flag
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what do want to know? d2 schools are, in general, the best in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:18 PM Flag
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and crowded [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:26 PM Flag
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my d2 gen ed has some of the top scores in the city and there are 21 in our k class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:36 PM Flag
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i thought they capped the classes? specifically PS40 -- right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 05:26 AM Flag
[ - ] help-just moved recently to Ardsley and need for tonight a recommendation for a nice restaurant in the area of Hastings/Dobbs/Irvington/Scarsdale (medium priced, somewhat lively if possible) and/or a wine bar or tappas place. My best friend just hopped on a train from the city as a "surprise" and I am scrambling here, not knowing where to take her. Please make me look good.....thanks so much! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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Place called Uno in Irvington might be an ok place if you like seafood. Harvest in Hastings has an interesting menu. Moscato in Scarsdale is a nice place for Italian food. None of these are cheap, but you asked for a good place to take your friend. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:33 PM Flag
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called One,not Uno. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:42 PM Flag
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np: Harvest on Hudson in Hastings is yummy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:56 PM Flag
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I work in Ardsley (live in NYC) and suggest Harvest. You can also look on opentable or chowhound for ideas. (I'm blanking on other places at the moment!) There is a place in Irvington that I like, but I can't think of what it's called. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:58 PM Flag
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I would suggest either Mima's (wine bar/Italian food) or the Red Hat Bistro, both of which are in Irvington. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:59 PM Flag
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Thanks everyone for their ideas and taking the time to respond. We went to Mima's last night, and really liked it. Nice space and what I felt was the right mix of good food yet not being too stuffy. Next on my list will be Harvest. Since I am finally starting to find my "spots" in the area, what is a nice bar in terms of people, atmosphere and decent wines and cocktails? I understand it will probably be more low key than in the city (which is fine, just moved out of the Meatpacking district, so really "seen that-done that"), but I'd like to have at least one good place on hand for the occasional visitors from the city or abroad to have a glass of wine with and maybe even be in the company of a few moderately attractive people under the age of 60. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:38 AM Flag
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The red hat in Irvington [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone tell me what Weston CT is like? How does it compare to Westport CT? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:20 PM Flag
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weston = country, westport = beachy... westport more jewish, weston more farmish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:35 PM Flag
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my sis lives in Weston and she used to live in Westport so I can answer some- Weston has more homogeneous housing stock - in that it has the 2 acre zoning so almost every house is of considerable size on considerable land. It's also more rural as there is not a real Weston town vs. Westport having a big town and a larger variety of housing. People prefer Westport due to the commute factor and proximity of the train but, if that's not such a huge issue - Weston is much more bucolic/rural and the school system is amazing- probably better than Westport. You can't go wrong with either town though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Maybe it's just me, but I'm starting to find the UB board kind of depressing. I think it's the unrelenting b*thcing and moaning over just about everything. I picture all these posters sitting at home wringing their hands 24/7 over something or other. There doesn't seem to be much joy - for lack of a better word I assure you - among anybody about anything. Hey, I have plenty of issues I'm dealing with and like to b*itch and moan as much as the next person, but sometimes one has to look around them and say, "Wow, things could be a whole lot worse than they are right now." I mean, I just read about a cancer cluster among 10 year olds in Garden City Long Island! 10 year olds! Now those moms and dads have something to wring their hands about. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.11.09, 02:19 PM Flag
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I'm glad you posted this. I was thinking the same thing. These poor mothers who are so stressed out and judgmental about food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:24 PM Flag
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np: glad you mentioned that post. it was the worst of UB type of post that really characterizes what I dislike most about being a parent in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:32 PM Flag
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lol! so you thought you would come and bitch about others having problems that you deem insignificant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:24 PM Flag
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They are insignificant you idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:25 PM Flag
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doesn't change the fact that you are here griping like everyone else. your post is hateful and angry...sort of pointless, really. Like most of what we read here. I agree. It is sort of depressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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I did not deem anybody' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:26 PM Flag
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Sorry about that. I did not deem anybody's problems insignificant. That's really not fair. I was commenting on the UNRELENTING nature of the stress that I perceive in the posts. The tone of many of the posts suggests that the person posting in not only in stress over the individual issue, but generally stressed out and unhappy. It's a tone that I'm picking up on, as opposed to the specific subject matter. If you don't agree, that's cool with me. Just as observation. Would welcome rebuttals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:29 PM Flag
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can you give examples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:30 PM Flag
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Rebuttals? Where is Hyperbole Mom when we need her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:31 PM Flag
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the judgemental posts are the worst. yours is typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:32 PM Flag
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OP: Are you referring to my original post and describing it as "judgmental?" That's ridiculous - and on that I am being judgmental, in that I judge your comment to be ridiculous, OK? I am making an OBSERVATION on the prevailing tone on this board. And the prevailing tone leads me to believe that this (skewed) sample of people are probably bent out of shape about an inordinate number of things: five year olds' school placement, HHI, best friend's HHI (if higher), size of apartment, size of best friend's apartment (if bigger), deterioration of quality of life in Manhattan, deterioration of quality of neighbors in Brooklyn, and the list goes on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:39 PM Flag
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and what do you worry about? why are you here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:41 PM Flag
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OP: Why am I here, as in on this earth? Or why am I here as in on this board? Two very different questions. Both of which require a bit of thought before I post up an answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:45 PM Flag
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on the board. I will leave the existential wondering to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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people dealing with a stressful issue tend to be stressed out and unhappy. btdt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:35 PM Flag
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np-ITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:42 PM Flag
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Actually, that is not clinically true. People dealing with a stressful issue tend to be stressed out. They do not tend to be unhappy. Further, I am also talking about what one defines as stressful. The fact that one is stressed out because they make $200K and their kid's classmates parents make $750K doesn't make the issue important. One has free will as to what they will get stressed out over. And I think alot of posters on this board are stressed out over inappropriate things. And that is my judgement, so I guess I am being judgmental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:43 PM Flag
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depends on the type of stress, the intensity of the stress and the duration of the stress, not to mention the person undergoing a stressful situation. Agree that some of the posts here are ludicrous, but I doubt people are really stressing about silly things. this is all make believe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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what happened to you today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:51 PM Flag
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sounds like you are having a bad day. when this happens to me, I ask myself how I am contributing to the problem. it makes me less hateful towards others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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It is depressing - I bearly get on anymore. These women are (for the most part) pretty sad! No Joy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:30 PM Flag
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Lots of venting is happening here. Some things need to be read as entertainment instead of taken seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:31 PM Flag
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I think OP is depressed because she has done what she is complaining about, and sees just how vile it all is. she is right. that we find this entertaining or fun is sort of sick. i am outta here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:11 PM Flag
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While the board has lots of traffic because it is anonymous, it is the same thing that allows people's ugliest side come out. I don't mind the moaning at all. I do get turned off my the outright mean posting. There is no point to it but to make the readers feel bad and the poster have a little moment of "Ah, look how smart I am, or witty, or stick it to you". It's the evil side of society right here for all to see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:52 PM Flag
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UB is a playspace. it is make believe. you need to take it with a grain of salt, and look for the helpful info when it is here. otherwise, it is a S&M club for mostly mothers of young dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:55 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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Hey, now you're talkin! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:35 PM Flag
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ITA. There seem to be so many people that just need to get a life and get over themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:46 PM Flag
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and yet, you are still here. i don't get all this ragging on other UBers. You are all guilty of the thing you accuse others of here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Jamie Dimon is a smug asshole and they all (for the most part)deserve to become convicted felons. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:15 PM Flag
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Not disagreeing, but what did he do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:17 PM Flag
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Did you just lose your job at JPMorganChase? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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Did they have layoffs today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:48 PM Flag
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nah, he's a good guy. you're clueless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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Why do you say that? He actually did a great job in this mess, and I say that as someone fired from jpm last year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone tell me why I am here today? I got the PS I wanted, and have no reason to be on UB, other than Pavlovian. Please explain... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.11.09, 02:14 PM Flag
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You love me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:17 PM Flag
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You now crave approval and adulation for getting the PS you wanted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:19 PM Flag
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Actually, we were a hair away from complete shut out. I am grateful to have a seat anywhere. But, I can't figure out why I automatically come here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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OK, approval, adulation, and sympathy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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Boy, your glass is half full. Perhaps you ought to try Scotch...it could only help with your negativity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:30 PM Flag
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Only if it's peaty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:32 PM Flag
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OP: Well, you heard it here first. Tomorrow, I am going cold turkey....No more UB. Ever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] The person in front of me at the ATM today left her pen behind. It's white and has a logo for the Speyer Legacy School! Does it really exist? Do you think it was SpeyerMom (she was short and kind of dumpy looking)? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:12 PM Flag
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I CALL SPAM!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:17 PM Flag
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OP: hook, line and sinker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:26 PM Flag
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OR: Making fun of SpeyerHater Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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btw, it's a true story. i could care less about Speyer, but it stirs up a hornet's nest to mention it on this board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone use a sonicare? Is it practical to share a handle with DH or should we both have our own? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:11 PM Flag
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don't be such a miser - go buy your own! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:50 PM Flag
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haha you are right.. I realized it wouldn't work anyway because he travels frequently.. duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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I like the other kind not sonic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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You need your own, for the sake of your marriage. They are great - I've had mine for like 6 plus years now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] ok ladies...how many times do I have to take cheating DH back? Threw him out yesterday after catching him for 4th time (varying degrees of severity) though first time after having a baby. 1 db, another on way. Hopeless case or therapy? I am numb... 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:10 PM Flag
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fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. fool me 4 times and you are just a doormat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:21 PM Flag
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I know, I know, so you vote no therapy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:22 PM Flag
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NO THERAPY....DIVORCE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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how long have you been married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:21 PM Flag
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You need to get rid of him. He will keep cheating because he knows you will keep taking him back. I guarantee he will do it again. He needs to be out of your life, you deserve better!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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You don't have to take him back, but plenty of women make that choice. Nothing wrong with that as long as you're realistic and admit he's a serial cheater. In my case, I took the cheating personally and let it beat me down into an insecure mess. It was very negative for me and I eventually left, but I know people who think it's worth staying. Figure out what works for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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So sorry you have to go through this, and pregnant yet! Please go talk to someone. You sound like you have a lot to deal with and could use the support. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:29 PM Flag
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But wait... according to UB affair moms, he could be in LUUUHHVVVVE (four times). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:30 PM Flag
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^^on a serious note, if at all possible, find a way to send him packing. He's a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:31 PM Flag
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No, you're a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:55 PM Flag
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it's getting old. Get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:59 PM Flag
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I feel so bad for you and your dcs. He is a pathetic loser and I believe you will realize that when you're ready and kick his ass out, FOREVER. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:34 PM Flag
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therapy for you. divorce for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:16 AM Flag
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it really depends. what happened after the first time? what do you mean by varying degrees? do you want to stay married? do you like him? love him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:11 PM Flag
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sounds like he wants to get caught. How did you catch him, and what exactly was he doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:26 PM Flag
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he didn't have sex with all of them (but at least one). I truly don't know if we should stay together, though our professional lives are completely intertwined and leaving him means dismantling of my entire life...like and love him, though not either at this moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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np: i'm sorry. it sounds like a really hard situation. i'd recommend that you speak to a therapist, that you communicate with your dh to find out what exactly is going on (is he having problems dealing with the kids, the pregnancy, does he want out, is he bored, is he feeling neglected, is he just a womanizer, etc. not because any of this excuses his behavior, but so that you have a better idea of where you stand and why you are standing there). don't do anything hasty. even without your professional lives, you are pregnant, you have a young child. it's not the time to make rash decisions. good luck and please let us know how you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:54 PM Flag
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so how'd you catch him this time? how'd you catch him the other times? does he just confess to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:59 PM Flag
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did you get pregnant without his consent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 04:05 PM Flag
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yes, clearly she did and now he's punishing her. Are you retarded? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:11 AM Flag
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how does he get caught so much?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:24 AM Flag
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typical suspicious behavior, ie obsessive phone checking/texting and then I checked his email... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:37 AM Flag
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what kind of things did he write to her? I'm so screwed if my dh ever gets a chance to check my email... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:41 AM Flag
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she was a pro...just logistical details [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:42 AM Flag
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that's an important distinction b/c at least it would indicate it's not an emotional issue...were the others like that?...any real affairs?...is he just not getting what he wants sexually from the marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:34 AM Flag
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You're really mining this distraught woman, dealing with a cheating husband, for tips on how you can keep cheating without getting caught? Now that's what I call class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I am convinced of the powers of the Omegaaa 3s. I notice a definite lift in my mood the day after eating haddock. I also feel more clear headed. I recently noticed my son had improved behavior, too. Fish is good mood food. I think I might look into a supplement. Anytone know if it'll have the same affect? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:08 PM Flag
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my shrink tells me to take omega 3 1000mg (3x daily) after I deliver so I won't go all postpartum D. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:10 PM Flag
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are you planning to bf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:15 PM Flag
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yes, and she knows that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:24 PM Flag
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I have taken supplements for a long time. Think they work fine. Buy a high pharmaceutical grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 02:36 PM Flag
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