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[ - ] Need a good dermatologist - preferably on UES who takes Oxford 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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Dr. Victor is amazing. 70s off Madison. He takes Oxford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Male or female? I'm looking for a female. I have lichen sclerosis on my vulva so more comfortable with a female [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Thanks for sharing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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it's steven victor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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np: what is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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what is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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I know this is an old thread, but I have been CURED from lichen sclerosis by my dermatologist, using a cutting edge treatment called photodynamic therapy. Her name is Macrene Alexaides-Armenakas, nyderm.org. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.25.08, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] am i bad? i took a job as a tutor that doesn't actually start for two weeks but i have an interview for another better paying job next week and am thinking about taking it if they want to hire me. i feel really bad because the first job is going to be screwed if i quit because they will have to find a new tutor on short notice. wwyd? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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don't you have time to do both? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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Let them know this is a possibility, so they can have backup if necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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If you didn't work out with them, they would fire you without a thought. Take the better job if it's offered [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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np: this isn't a case of it not working out. it's a case of getting a higher paying job and i don't think it's fair to drop them before you even start and with little notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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I would do what is best for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] i'm almost afraid to type this. i'm starting to dislike my husband. i don't like him, i 'm not attracted to him. i don't want to be with him. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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mine always brings down the mood of the house when he's home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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np; i know , mine too....why do they do that? I showed mine the door today, and he calls me a drama queen, but he is just as dramatic just in a passive aggressive kind of way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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how old is dc/s? are you having pms? i feel like this sometimes. i think it is just marriage. maybe you just need some time away from him. even just a weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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you might have a point. we recently had a late miscarriage (12+ weeks) and i didn't think of it but maybe this is the residue of it. i know marriage has its ups and downs but i've never felt this down about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I am so sorry for your loss. Hopefully time will work everything out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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BTDT. Much happier and have much higher self-esteem without him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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divorced? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 21 weeks pregnant with #2. Last night, dh opened the fridge with me standing behind the door. The handle smacked my face, mushing my glasses and causing a minor scratch. I was seriously jolted but didn't fall. I called the nurse this morning and she said the baby is well protected. I've felt him move since but I'm now nervous about every little ache that it could have caused early labor. Any thoughts (it happened 16 hours ago) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 08.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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You mean't you're pregnant with #1, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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be nice, she's worried about her baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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common sense please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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omg, how did you ever survive the first pg? no offense, but you need to get a grip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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what the hell are you talking about? Did the fridge hit your belly? It would have had to hit it VERY HARD to hurt the baby, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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Is this the real story? Doesn't make sense that you're so scared. Did your husband maybe hit you on purpose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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maybe he should have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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never wish that on anyone. seriously. your karma will haunt you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:17 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone eat lots of cereal and still have a baby girl? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 08.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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yes but I also work out regularly and gave up beer for lent. (WTF kind of question is this?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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this study sounds ridiculous...only 700 babies, and the mothers are reporting diets after the fact, not as they go...and the difference reported is 56/45%...all of that makes it not a "good" study and not statistically significant results... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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sex is directly linked to the sex of the sperm, it has nothing to do with women!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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a huge british study recently showed that there is indeed a link between mother's diets and the sex of the baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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700 babies is not huge. you obviously don't know what you're talking about... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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This is all bogus. There are no scientific empirically based studies that indicate that any behavior, other than high tech intervention, influences sex of child... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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I'm 20 wks and obessed with cereal - I could eat it morning, noon and night. We're having a girl! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Lasik Eye Surgery - have you done it and if so, who was your doc? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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I saw Dr. Haight 212 772 9474. I was ultimately ineligible for the surgery -- too nearsighted -- but I really valued his opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
[ - ] 2.5 yr.twins need to switch from crib to beds. Not enough space for two single beds (we plan on moving to a bigger place in a few years). All the toddler beds seem to have a 50-70 weight limit. Isn't there a toddler bed that would allow an adult to sit on it with the kid or accomodate 2 little boys jumping on one bed? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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i sit on my dc's toddler bed. i have no idea what the weight limit is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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yea, we got rid of ours cause our two girls couldn't sit on it together, and I def. couldn't ...we switched to a twin low to the ground, works wonders and she sleeps better b/c she has more space! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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futons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Can they share a full/double? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] do you eat more or less than normal when you're stressed? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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MUCH more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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less if my stress is due to being overscheduled (which it usually is) and more if my stress is more of a general anxiety or depression. (because with the former i'm not at home enough to raid the pantry and i'm too cheap to spend money on snacks when i'm out and about) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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more. oy. i started working full time in march and am unhappy. i have put on 20 lbs from march - may. working feverishly to take it off, b/c my bp is also high. :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Less. And drink more coffee/diet soda, which is a bad combo in terms of mental health, but does create weight loss. I switched to a less demanding job, and now am a calmer, happier, and 15 lbs heavier person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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So much less. Lost 20 pounds before the bar exam (needed to!) and lost about 8 before the wedding (didn't really need to). My dress had to be taken in 3 times the month before the wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:01 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you want to do this weekend? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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I want to go visit friends out of town by myself. I probably will stay home and clean the basement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
[ - ] i am this close to texting him 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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glutton for punishment are we? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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or some excitement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone have a recomendation for the strongest deoderant out there? I'm in menopause and the hot flashes make me sweat and stink. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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i've been looking for that arrid clinical strength that i see on tv, but i can't find it. we use mennen speed stick (the clear gel). just make sure that your deodorant is also an antiperspirant, not just a deodorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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a sweaty friend of mine swears by Old Spice - for men! (they have unscented, i think). i also read an interview with a professional female athlete who mentioned that she used mens' deodorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I went into early menopause and I found that a good antiperspirant PLUS baby powder was the way to go. Be careful abut what you wear (babypowder can stain) and take two showers/day. There's an antiperspirant that works overnight (forgot the name, sorry) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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for those of us who are older moms and done with kids - any gyn recommendation, someone to deal with bad bladder, perimeno issues and women's cancers - you know all they GOOD stuff! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
[ - ] if my ds doesn't get back into bed and out of my face in the next forty five seconds i'm going to smack him. and then i'm going to scream at him and smack him again. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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fake post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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not a fake post. a mom at the end of her rope. but don't worry, he did get back into bed before any harm befell him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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but what if he hadn't? If he was 'in your face' why were you posting to the board instead of engaging with him? I don't get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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he was not supposed to be engaged. he was supposed to be in bed where i put him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Have you smacked him in the past? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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i plead the fifth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.08, 12:43 PM Flag
[ - ] ok. i am this close to texting him 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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I told you yesterday to stay away from him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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i can't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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yes you can. He is a man. He farts in bed and leaves his dirty socks on the floor like the rest of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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AMEN!!! They all end up the same! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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that doesn't do anything for me... i just want to have sex with him. i don't want a relationship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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gross [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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he's far from it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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it is really about you feeling wanted not about you wanting him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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and? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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it isn't going to last. you are going to need him again (or another him). Serial cheating for the rest of your life. Just find another way to feel good about yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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i actually feel really good about myself now for the first time in years - so that's funny you think that. and i don't want it to last, just want to have some fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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the need to have some guy want you is not going to be satiated with this bout of fun. You'll need another bout and another bout. Seriously, do you want your life to look like this? Nothing more pathetic than a serial cheater. You need to figure out some other way to get a charge out of yourself and your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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maybe i just need to do it once to get it out of my system. you assumed i am not happy with myself and now you assume i'll be a serial cheater [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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haha, you don't get it out of your system by doing it. that is the rational of a future serial cheater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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i'll remember that. can't i just text him something witty, but not elude to sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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so go do it! why are you wasting time here when you could be having him ejaculate on your face? go, go! (Please.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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omg. that was weird. it actually sounded good to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] what brand of rice cereal did you feed db when introducing solids? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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happy bellies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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is this an organic product? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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gerber with the dha added [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
[ - ] decorator moms - my fireplace has really ugly pale yellow 4x4 tile (like a bathroom) Want to replace it but with what? Like blues and greens if that helps. House is from the 50's 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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how about slate tiles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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I thought about that. Are they hard to install? DH wants to do it ourselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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blue and green tiles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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go to www.ecofriendlyflooring.com and check out their reclaimed tile selection and their recycled glass and seaglass tiles. The palettes will inspire you; it's hard to get specific w/out a visual of your fireplace/area. It is good to break up or accent blues and greens w/a color that throws off reflection reds/pinks/gold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a question about Portland public preschools. If I live in a school district that offers pre-K, do they have to accept my kid or are their space limitations like at a private preschool? THanks, I'm relocating to Portland and the school district offices don't open for a couple of weeks and I'm trying to find some preschool for my 4yo...tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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The rule with public schools in Portland is that they have to make space for your kid if you're within their boundaries. The district itself is huge - the specific school you'd go to has small boundaries. If you want to go to a diff school within district, you have to apply for School Choice - deadline was in the spring. For K, it's only a half-day they have to give you. I think it could be the same for pre-K. Go to this website: http://www.pps.k12.or.us/schools-c/ - also there are plenty of private preschools for around $250/month that may have a last-minute opening, you can look at the site urbanmamas.com for a list of preschools or to ask more questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 01:53 AM Flag
[ - ] would you be annoyed if you didn't receive written thank you after attending a child's bday party? 103 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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no, people are busy, i don;t care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I think TY cards are a waste of paper - I'd rather not receive them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 07:26 AM Flag
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not annoyed. but i find it tacky. takes 2 seconds for person to write and they could have bought the thank you cards when buying all the other stuff for the party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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store bought thank you cards are tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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NP: Oh, so you hand-make the paper and use a calligraphy pen to send thank you cards for your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Yes, my child learned how to do it at the Marth Stewart Academy where she goes on Wednesdays after her cello lesson but before her Japanese lesson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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lol i have a friend like this. her dc is in 3 activities right now... along with school 5 days a week. i think their only day "off" is sunday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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no, you get nice card stock and hand write or use printer. there is a staples on every other block. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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oh come on already. it's people like you who give thank you notes a bad rap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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if you're gonna send a thank you at least do it right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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you're ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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honestly, anything is better than nothing. and if your dd had a dora party, dora thank yous are totally appropriate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Here here.......I second that emotion.....if you can buy and send invitations, you can buy and send thank you notes....a friend makes these gorgeous home made invitations, crafts, games, treat bags......and apparently contracts carpal tunnel when it comes time for the THANK YOU! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 11:25 AM Flag
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I think it's rude but it happens all the time. I'm impressed when someone writes them and think highly of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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same here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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I honestly have no idea whether or not we got a thank you for any party that DD has recently attended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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classy friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Would you send thank yous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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Yes, I send them. And I think most of the other parents do also. I just don't keep score like so many on UB seem to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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stupid response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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You're much better than I am than I guess. I don't keep score but when I've taken my time and my money to go buy a present I find it rude when someone can't write a simple card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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But this requires you to actually (a) think about the party after it occurs and (b) open your mail. I don't really do either! It's more like All I was saying is that I don't do that. It's more like "E [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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^^^(ugh) "exit Chuck E Cheese, be grateful it's over, move on to next crisis" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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I don't stew on it forever. It usually occurs to me that I didn't get one when I get a thank you from another party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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"Would you"? I do, and don't really know people who don't. I assume they didn't really have parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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no. i'd think it's more unusual to get one than not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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i'm glad i send them all the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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i don't think we've ever gotten one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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like i said, classy friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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i dont' think it's a question of class. i think it's a question of socially accepted norms. in this neighborhood, it's not done. it's not considered necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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why are you laughing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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ditto. not sure what was lol-worthy about this comment, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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You have to be in the "thank you notes are the glue that holds the fabric of society together" camp to see the humor, I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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It is a question of class. You send thank you notes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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you guys are ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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I'm not ridiculous. I realize that in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter but to not send thank yous is rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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rudeness is a social norm. as are manners. if your social network doesn't require it, then it's not rude to disregard the practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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^^^let me rephrase. manners are a social norm. rudeness is a deviation from normal expected behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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NP: Immediate family is a good example. Some families exchange thank you notes, some don't. In mine we say thank you by phone or email, no one is offended, no one has been rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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I suppose you're techinically right but has your entire network discussed it not being relevant? Because I would bet there are some that think it's rude they just don't mention it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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i have *never* gotten a thank you card from any of dcs friends for birthday party gifts. i suppose it's possible there are some that think it's rude. but either they aren't doing it either or they haven't ever gotten gifts from us b/c they've never sent us thank you cards. And even if there are some that think it's rude, i think at this point, for this neighborhood, it's more of an "people used to do this" rather than "this person is being rude b/c they didn't send a thank you card". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I guess I'll post a reply because the "class" reference is intriguing; in which context are you using it? Upon reflection, It seems more Thank You media has come to my child from 'well-mannered' families of lesser economic means, than the minority, which came from more clearly affluent families. Please let's mind our manners and sense here. Why do you care? Do you need approval on your gift choice or do you constantly seek inane proof of societal divisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Oh brother! Class has nothing to do with money, no one ever said on here it did. You're just justifying your laziness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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Oh Sister! Is this your first day on UB? This is a stronghold of $$wealth=class mentality;, My first visits made me slack-jawed from all the usage of terms like white trash, project kids,welfare moms and plenty more. when describing unsavory aspects of neighborhoods, schools, MD offices and oh, so much more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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btw I responded to you; that is an acknowledgement. I was raised to understand that it is positive to acknowledge the efforts and well wishes of others. My child makes her own Thank Yous, now that she is able. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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People who use the word "classy" even in jest, are generally the exact opposite, though clearly they fancy themselves otherwise. You think you're nearly a member of the house of Windsor because you write thank you notes. Get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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Thank yous have become a PITA. I actually enjoyed writing them in the past for my wedding, baby shower etc, however, for every single gift! Sorry, not into it (even though I continue to write them). I ENJOY buying people gifts and I know that my close friends and family appreciate and enjoy them, and now, they don't have to write me a note. I have asked them to please stop wasting their time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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They are a PITA, so is cleaning the toilet. Some things aren't fun but you do them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Yeah . . . no way. thoughtful response. as i said, i write them , but have told people to STOP writing them to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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When I was a kid, I wasn't allowed to play with any of my gifts until the thank-you notes were in the mail. Mom addressed them for me and stood over me while I wrote them (when I was very young) but it was my job, and my lesson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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NO... UNFINISHED... THANK YOUS! What are you doing playing with those toys when I told you NO UNFINISHED THANK YOUS EVER! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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haha no, she wasn't like that at all. My mother has the patience of an angel. She almost never yelled. We just understood that presents stayed in the spare room (or under the Christmas tree) until the thank-yous were sent. We usually didn't take very long to do it. I made the same rule for myself with wedding presents, and I'm glad I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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I was raised the exact same way. I try to make my children write thank you notes before playing too but the 2YO isn't too compliant :) My 6YO is good about them. I have noticed that among my "friends" who are always preaching the "Manners" rules to me NEVER send thank yous. The one never sent them after her wedding that my husband was in. I think it is a reflection on the children today that they are allowed to do whatever they want and not expected to just do certain things just because they should. Also preprinted thank you notes with the child printing their name at the bottom is sufficient in my opinion. There needs to be a certain level of respect maintained. And yes, if you do not open the present in the presence of the giver, absolutely write a note just to let them know you received it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 07:18 AM Flag
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Our children's b-day parties are very large and fully attended. The gift bags that the children get are usually more expensive than the gifts that come in. All siblings are included and we always provide a full meal. Typically, we spend about 100 per child that attend my children's parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Why are you trying so hard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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I like to throw parties so that when someone comes they really do enjoy themselves and do not see it as an obligation to come. In NYC, it is hard to dodge the B-day invites without hurting some feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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^^^I usually do not write thank you notes, because I have three children and do not have the time. If the guest is upset that I don't send a note then I am not aware of it since they all seem to come the following year also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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But the attendees took the time that they might not have had to buy a present. I'm sure you could scrape a half hour to write some thanks you notes. You choose not too and no matter how big the goody bag it's rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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they could have just not come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Well who can turn down such a generous goody bag?! Too bad generous didn't apply to your manners as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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It is bad manners to 'expect' a thank you card. To receive one is a gift unto itself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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Just keep buying people's love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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and just keep up with the social judgments and may be you will one day find yourself without any friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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Brava; this is an excellent point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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I was replying to the above poster- pointing out the poverty in decorum of expecting a thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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So? Do you send thank you cards or not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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and your point is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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No. I'm a busy mom with 2 kids...I understand that some times life gets in the way. (FWIW, I do send thank yous but they're always late.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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No, People always thank you at the party and people are pretty busy now a days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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Isn't a goody bag a thank you for coming already? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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good point! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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I send them out all the time but that's just me. I do appreciate when I get them because I usually try to pick out the perfect gift and it's wonderful to get that acknowledgement, but I don't get annoyed if I don't get one. I am more inclined to worry about how I do things rather than how others do things and that's stressful enough! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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No. For some reason I actually get annoyed when I get them - I guess because I can never seem to find the time to send them myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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Number one focus: teach the kids to thank their guests graciously at the time. I do my best to have the kids send thank you cards (probably 90%) because it is teaching them good manners. That being said, there are those snotty people who get their panties in a wad about not getting the thank you note that they are so richly entitled to. I have stopped inviting those folks because they are just too high maintenance. Try to do the right thing and have a little understanding when people don't do what you think they should. Geez. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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I totally don't care. Then again, I am a bit lax with thank you notes myself. The only thing that sort of bugs me is I sent my SIL's DD some terrific clothes for her birthday and haven't heard a thing. I don't even want a note, just a phone call or email would be fine, because I'm wondering if they got lost in the mail, but it's awkward to say something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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ITA, I am usually late with Thanks yous but I try to get a note out as soon as I can if someone mailed me a package. Had a lot of friends with new DBs this year and mailed a lot of packages but never heard from three of the recipients whether they arrived. The first recipient actually emailed me asking me how I was doing (I was pg at the time) but never mentioned the package so I had to write an awkward email to her saying something about maybe it got lost. I think at least if you have an email address or a phone # you should let the person know you received the package. I don't really care about a thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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I wouldn't even notice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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I once received a thank you note on Tuesday for a kid's birthday party on Sunday which means the mom had to have written the cards the night of the party. Now that's freaky! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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Actually, that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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^^that's polite! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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Perhaps. But still freaky :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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I don't understand. People aren't required to send out thank you notes for attending a party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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no, but I am annoyed when I receive a generic one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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new money here... i want to buy a vacation home in the northeast. must be within 3 hour drive of nyc, family friendly, and not too remote from shopping, etc. any recs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Not annoyed, but I do want my gift to be acknowledged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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yes if they didn't open presents at the party and thank my child then. How else would we know if the b-child even got our gift? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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not annoyed. but I do notice. we all learned this as children, didn't we? it's just basic good manners--you send a thank-you note. DC does them (I make sure they get done) so it takes a few weeks to get them all out, but it's important. (that said, I am kind of annoyed by the ones written by new moms in the newborn infant's voice! but, hey, at least they're thanking.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.11.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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Hanging my head in shame. . . we scheduled ds' bday party in sept, asked for no gifts, but had to cancel the party at the last minute b/c the weather was so bad (the party location flooded!). Some parents dropped off gifts for ds anyway. Rescheduled ds' party for October, asked for no gifts again, but got more gifts. I wrote thank yous to family members and had EVERY intention of writing notes to classmates as well, but life got in the way. I almost lost my job, the holidays happened, illnesses, etc. I feel terrible that those notes didn't get out, and now it's 3 months later & it's definitely too late to send them. I feel like a toad when I see ds' schoolmates' parents now. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 07:39 AM Flag
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dd's first bday was end of AUG! I never sent thank yous out as I was pg and had severe m/s start immediately after. Now I am just too tired to do them. I've never not sent thank yous before and I think it'll bother me forever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 08:55 AM Flag
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Darien, CT mom here--i ALWAYS receive thank yous (even if just email) for party. Also, I ALWAYS write them. Kind of the norm up here for better or worse. Sometimes it's really annoying to write them but I like showing off my son's custom letter press stationary from The Printery. Plus I enjoy judging whether other's is tacky. Can I audition for Real Housewives of Fairfield County now ;-)! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 09:54 AM Flag
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Not at all. Most people in attendance at the party have already thanked me and my boys for the invitation. I find most greeting cards and notes to be a waste of natural resources (just my opinion). My children's parties always turn into rip roaring events with unexpected (very fun relatives or celebrity guests) or little kids bringing their instruments to jam like they are the next coming of the Jackson 5. I've had such a good time and my kids had such a fab time I'm not even thinking about thank you notes. But when I do received one I do get all warm and fuzzy because it's reminder of the wonderful day. My thank you is everyone having a good time and I hope they come to the next one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 10:10 AM Flag
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nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 10:16 AM Flag
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I always write thank you notes, and when our DC becomes older, he'll do them on his own. It really makes a difference in a world where people don't write them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 12:44 PM Flag
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I think its rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.01.09, 12:53 PM Flag
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