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[ - ] What should I get: (1) Godiva truffles (Key Lime), (2) Choc Chip cookie dough ice cream, (3) make my own mint oreos and vanilla ice cream mix, (4) regular choc candy bar. I need some choco-BAD! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Coffee Heath Bar Cruch Ice Cream [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I don't like Heath Bar candy. Sticks in my teeth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Dang! Then the Choc chip. I love ice cream. It's my favorite food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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I like to get a choc ice cream and let it get a bit soft, then I use those giant hard Dutch pretzels to scoop it up instead of a spoon. Sweet and Salty and soft and crunchy all at once ! And nothing to wash afterwards ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] when do you stop BFing on demand? 1 mo woke up almost every hour last night (sleeps all day) and wants to nurse but cant possibly be hungry. sooo tired today. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.01.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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Newborns nurse perpetually. That's their job. Just try to sleep when the baby sleeps. This will all pass, more quickly than you can now imagine. You stop BFing on demand once you choose to. I did when I introduced solids at 6 months. But demand lessens eventually as baby puts on the weight he needs and gets more interested in other things. After 4 months there will be an opportunity to set a schedule. But even before that you and baby will establish a rhythm that works for both of you. Hang in there!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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ok - thank you. I dont want to start any kind of schedule yet... but I just wish she would sleep for 3 hrs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Yeah, it's hard in the beginning. One book that really helped me (I always give it as a shower gift and recommend it here a lot) is Kathleen Huggins' "Nursing Mother's Companion". My husband also did a lot of walking around at night with our new ones sucking on his pinkie when I needed an hour off. He also ended up with hickies on his chest because the skin to skin contact was calming but they just weren't convinced that he didn't produce milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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op - lol! my db is covered in dh's chest hair. Poor dear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I honestly think that daddy-nursing may be one reason my kids turn to their dad as much as to me when they need comfort or guidance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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that's so sweet. I hope that for our family too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I also nursed on demand and couldn't / wouldn't establish a schedule. Actually, how can you ?! A newborn is hungry and needs comfort when they need it. In the end, you will get your groove as will DB and I wouldn't trade all the sleepness nights (and there were MANY) for anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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I dont really mind it -- I enjoy meeting her needs & it is very satisfying but at the same time I feel like it is limiting our 'bonding' to an extent -- like, 'who is this person sucking on me all day???' I dont know how to explain it -- I just feel like I dont even know her yet... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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You don't know her yet, but I don't know how you're being there for her is limiting your bonding at all. In fact, she's learning to bond with you ! She's learning that you're her mom and her source of protection of comfort and sustanance and you are figuring out her personality as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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I hope so. I just dont want to let her down by not knowing how to help her sleep longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Just let her put on weight for a few months. She'll adopt your schedule eventually, just as she'll pisk up everything good and bad from you as life goes on. My kids are so like me and their dad it's a little scary sometimes... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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she has already gained 4 lbs in one month - she's a little Sausage :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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I've only heard brits use that term of endearment. Congratulations to your little sausage. She may be exhausting you but she's getting her job done :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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i lived in London for 6 years :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Ever see film of marsupial babies making their way from the birth canal to the pouch. I think of new babies this way, creeping across our bodies to a safe place to finish the transition from gestation to full citizenship in the world; squinched up faces and searching mouths. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Are you able to nurse in a side-lying position? Even if you can't fall asleep it's more restful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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yes I def. do a half-assed job of nursing at night! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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I wasn't suggesting she position the babe quite that low down!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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lol! most of the time we both fall asleep with the nipple in her face. lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Just think. If we were raising kids in the 1950's, then _______. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.01.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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I would be able to stay home with the kids. I would converse with my community and I would be in 40k of student loan debt. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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^^sorry wouldn't be in 40k of SL debt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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And I wouldn't feel like a bad mom for working - because I wouldn't have to work - DH's salary would be enough for us to live on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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But if you did have to work, you could be freely discriminated against without consequence. You could be fired for being pregnant. You could be required to obtain your DH's permission to open a bank acount with your own earnings, or to buy yourself a car. Those good old days weren't so good for women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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np I thought they changed those banking rules in the 40's no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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I thought it was the 60's but could be wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I could totally be wrong but I thought it was earlier. Trying to look it up but not sure what to put into google.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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Me either. Specific examples aside, I think women underestimate how prevailing the climate of patneralism was - both legal and social. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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np: i just watched an episode of mad men last night--when one of the secretaries came up with something clever, the dumbstruck men said "it was like watching a dog play piano." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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LOL! Funny but of course that show is exacgerating stereotypes and not a true representation of how life was then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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What I want to know is did people really get all dressed up even when they weren't going anywhere? All those 50's TV shows the men wore suits to sit in the living room and the women were dressed in dresses and heels. I would have hated that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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LOL! Good question. I think people were more formal then but I doubt they were always as dressed up as the TV would have you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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At my mom's house they were. Here dad wore jacket& tie to dinner every night, she& her mom dresses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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I would not be wasting my life on UB and could let the kids run around the nabe without supervision. Also I would not feel at all guilty about the 3 glasses of wine I had while pg with DD! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Or the cigarettes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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what about the malted milkshakes we could drink? The cheap gas? The good manners... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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I could whip my brood in and out of the car with ease - no car seats, heck - no seat belts! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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And when they died from spinal cord injury the doctor would tell you to forget them and have some more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be raising kids. I adopted my daughter as a single at 44 years old. That wouldn't have been possible in the 1950's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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My married aunt was required, by the adoption agency, to quit her job (as a teacher) when she adopted my cousin in 1971. They wouldn't even permit a WOHM to adopt, never mind a single mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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I have a friend that was required to stay home after an interenational adoption 12 yrs ago. Of course, totally unenforceable at to first child but they could have refused her a second. Yikes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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you would put down your cigarettes to refreshen your cocktail before serving up the meatloaf and mashed potatoes to DH who would be wondering what the fuss is all about. This parenting is a breeze ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I would be addicted to "mothers little helper" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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i don't know if my life would be that much different. i'm not sure what that says about me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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LOL! Me too! ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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I would have to worry that my lesbian teen would not have the option of enjoying her life as much as I do mine. Children would only be hers if she was willing to engage in a sham marriage. Marrying the love of her life wouldn't even be a remote possibility. My pleasure at watching her grow up a strong, beautiful young woman would be diminished by my sadness for her future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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She could have been a librarian and had a "roomate" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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np my Dad's cousin did! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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And did you have the sense that that was a happy way to live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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I never thought she was unhappy. My family at least had the attitude that they didn't want to know specifics but were welcoming to her and her "friend". I have a cousin who is gay though and he tried talking to her about it. She refused to acknowledge anything. Kind of made me sad for her but I guess it was a different time and she found a way around the barriers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Funny but true. She would have been a 'spinster' at 25. But conceiving was not on the menu even for the librarian set. There was a scene on Mad Men last year when one woman came on to another - the big redhead - who she was rooming with. The gay man on the show rebuffed a suitor with such derision. I love that show but it is so very very sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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or like my DH's aunt - a Nun with a roomate.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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My options would be limited by sexism, racism, and anti-semitism. No thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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like they aren't now, hello [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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np you can't be saying things haven't gotten better since the 50's though. It's not perfect but at least there are laws protecting us now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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we are still limited by sexism , racism and anti semitism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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of course. But not anywhere close to the same extent. That's all I'm asking for - a modifier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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Nobody has called me a kike that I'm aware of. My parents were not so lucky. My kids are in class with all sorts of other children but I don't know of any n-word stuff going on. Nobody's telling my girl that she should go to college to find a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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We wouldn't be second guessing every move! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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I would have to explain to them why the can't used the same water fountain as the white children. We would have to explain to them why the neighbors put up hate fences when we moved into our house in Bklyn. I wouldn't have to explain the n-word to her. She's heard it too many times not to know that it means her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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There would've been no choice (once pregnant) between having them or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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They'd be visiting us in the nursing home today... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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Mine wouldn't know her their birthparents are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I would be bored out of my skull and have limited options for employment or financial independence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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My bi-racial marriage would be illegal, and my kids would be seen as an abomination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Exactly, the 50s were great...I could be a nanny or a housekeeper... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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And I would still be barred from emigrating to this country, even to join my husband, because of laws limiting the number of Chinese allowed into the country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 09:09 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband and I are planning a trip to New York with out kids. One is almost 3 and the other one is 1.5 yrs old. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Site Feedback 08.01.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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well I did not finish the post before I posted it. Anyway, my husband and I have been to New York before but now we are looking for things to do with the kids. Does anybody have any suggestions as to places to go with the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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On the first post I meant to type with the kids. So we are taking the kids with us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband and I are planning a trip to New York with out kids. One is almost 3 and the other one is 1.5 yrs old. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You shouldn't come here. We eat kids about that age. Just kidding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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that is probably what I want..jk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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They sell them at the Souvlaki stands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:01 PM Flag
[ - ] how long have you been coming to urban baby? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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two weeks. It's like crack. I plan to detox this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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too damn long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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over a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Talk to boss before TTC? I work at a very small law firm (20 attorneys) with no formal maternity leave / mommy track policy. I am contemplating TTC #1 in the next year, but I hate the idea of "get pg first, ask questions later." 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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^^^^^OP -- Only one mommy at the firm, but she's in a different dept. I don't really care how long my mat leave is (I assume from the other mommy that it will be 3 months, half paid), but I want to iron out how things will be afterwards, whether I can come back part-time, work from home, etc. Should I just ask the partner I work for? We have NO HR dept. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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You ask the partner you work for after your first trimester [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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God no. It could take you awhile to get pregnant and you could get mommy tracked before you want to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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OP -- We can't afford for me to SAHM fulltime. In my case, you would just go ahead and TTC and hope for the best? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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Yes. The mommy track isn't being a SAHM, it's working on the less critical projects that don't require you to work around the clock to complete them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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NP ITA with OR. You never know. It could take a very long time or it might happen right away. Just do what you need to for your family and deal with work later. If you tell them now and it takes you a year to get pg, wouldn't that be awkward? They know you are young and married and probably have already thought about the possibility that you will get pg. Don't worry about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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Not only would I not say something before TTC, I would wait until it was way obvious before telling. BTW, also a lawyer. I felt that once I told them things got dumped on me big time. Definitely changed my work dynamic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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OP -- I guess what I'm saying is, I'd like to say, I have no immediate plans for a baby, but I'd like to know what the policy is for part-time work after a baby. I'm am scared that if I just go ahead and get pg, they will say, come back 4-5 days a week or no job. Ideally, I'd like to be in the office 2-3 days a week, give up my benefits, and do what I need to do from home in order to complete projects on time. I have no ambitions for making partner, etc. I just don't want to have to start all over when I have a newborn, trying to find work somewhere else. I feel like I'm at a huge disadvantage not having a formal policy handed to me on the first day on the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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^^^And of course I would take a pay cut too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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In a firm this small it honestly depends a lot on how much they like you. I wouldn't say anything now, especially since you do not have any immediate plans of becoming pregnant, since it will look like you are already pregnant, and it could only hurt you. You'll deal with this once you are pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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I just find that terrifying. I feel like I can't make the decision about whether or not to get pregnant until I know how (if at all) my firm will accommodate me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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That's the way it goes. I didn't know how it would work for me....I wound up quitting my job because they wouldn't allow me to work part-time (not a lawyer) and then going back to my company as a freelancer (with no benefits, but that's fine because my hourly rate is good and I'm on my husband's insurance) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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Hoenstly, the only way to know how they will accommodate you is to actually have the baby and return to work. Everything up to that point is lip service and people making nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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But that's the thing -- I have absolutely no intention or desire to work 5 days a week after I have a baby (or even 4 days a week). I don't think I can possibly make the decision to get pregnant unless I know that I'll be able to work 2 - 3 days a week. Otherwise I'll put off TTC until DH makes enough to support us all. I seriously do not care about my career future, good projects, etc ... just whether or not I can switch to part time. I really appreciate all the advice and opinions -- I'm just so frustrated! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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But I think what everyone here is trying to tell you is that you never know that you can switch to part-time. Even if they tell you yes, that doesn't mean they'll be accomodating when the time comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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So if you were in my position, you would seriously just wing it, and TTC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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I was and I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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np LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Yes, you can't control everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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I did. Went back to my firm part-time, struggled to make it work for a while, ultimately left for in-house where I work 5 days but probably less hours (and MUCH less stress than my prior job). And DH is now a SAHD, which wasn't an option at all on the table when we first talked about having DC. IMO, it's never going to be the "perfect" time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I don't know any woman in any field who was handed a formal policy when she started working. It's very vague in most places, and often it does depend on how long you've been at the firm and how much they like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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um...no Say nothing until you are well along! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Mum's the word ! Get a hold of that need to confess everything ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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LOL, you have me pegged. Orthodox Christian, here -- we're worse than Catholics! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] how long did it take you to get pg the first time and how old were you? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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A minute. 38. And it took about a minute for #2 at 40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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1 month (I'm amzed I never had accidental pregs before), 30 yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
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tritto-37 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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3 years. Started trying at 32. Succeeded with IVF at 35. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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First month TTC, 31. [ Reply | More ]
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first month, 34 yrs old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Can I fly 2 days after amnio? TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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sure can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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Ask your doctor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:46 PM Flag
[ - ] So irritated....I'm mostly a SAHM, but I do a little freelance writing/editing on the side. I had a new client dump this rush project on me that I said I didn't think I could do because DD was sick. The client begged me to take it and said to do my best in terms of timing. I finished it a week later than the original deadline--which I told them I would miss from the beginning. Today I got a scathing email from client's boss saying that I had totally sidetracked their project. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.01.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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politely respond that you had notified the client of the date you'd have the project ready and you are sorry he didn't pass along the information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I feel like that will turn into a giant game of he said/she said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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it will, but you don't have to continue it. you gave your response and you're done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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calm down, don't put anything into email when you are angry. sounds like the client sold you out to the boss, so it depends on what sort of relationship you want with them. do you sell out the client to the boss or stick up foryourself? is there a way to clean up your name without smearing anyone? and, do you really want these hassles naymore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I would just call the boss and say there must have been a misunderstanding because you told the client you wouldn't be able to make the original deadline before taking on the project so there must have been some "miscommunication in the process". Ask if the boss would prefer to be cc'ed on decisions like that from now on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] so my 8.5 month old is still not crawling. he gets from point a to point b by rolling. is this normal? typical? i'm so sick of everyone (yes, everyone!) asking "is he crawling yet?" 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 08.01.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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My daughter only crawled at 8 months (she loved to roll too) and then walked at 10 months. Crawling is no longer considered a developmental milestone as many babies actually skip it so I would not worry too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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it is still considered an important milestone. a lot of kids don't crawl because they are in contraptions (like saucers, bumble seats, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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No, pediatrician says it is NOT a milestone. Many children don't do it. They scoot on their butts or do a commando thing on their bellies or roll. All perfectly fine ways to get around. He'll walk just fine when he's ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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many children don't and there is a correlation between low muscle tone and not crawling. also a correlation bw learning to crawl and learning to read later on. but OP should NOT be worried at 8 mos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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my ds crawled at 11 months. no issue with muscle tone and he's an early reader. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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ita, it's NOT a milestone. signed mom of db who crawled at 6 mo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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we have him on the floor as much as possible. fwiw, i never crawled, and didn't walk until 15 mo. i talked at 11.5 mo however..... i said "up up mama" at 13 mo. apple, meet tree I guess....... [ Reply | More ]
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my ds did not crawl until 10 or 11 months and walked at 15 mths. TOTALLY fine here! Can't keep up with hin! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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both my dcs crawled at 11 months and walked soon after. you'd knowby now if db had low muscle tone. he'll get there, not to worry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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My daughter never crawled as far as I know. When I met her at 17 months in a Russian orphanage she was not walking or crawling but she was rolling! She's now nearly 6 years old and I can't wait until she's old enough for track. She runs like the wind :-) Don't worry, they all develop at their own pace and if there is an issue you will address it and get appropriate services, but I don't think there's an issue! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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beautiful image. NY Road Runners has programs for kids and some middle schools have track teams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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My oldest niece never crawled - just rolled around and then started walking one day at 12 mos. I wouldn't worry at all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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I didn't walk until I was almost 18 months - and I turned pretty well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:50 PM Flag
[ - ] what are good blogs to read? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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dooce [ Reply | More ]
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love dooce [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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NP: I'm sort of over here. Enough with the pictures of the dog, already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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^^"over her" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Which ones do you read now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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petiteanglaise.com. It's in English [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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cupcakestakethecake.blogspot.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] any women on here who believe that tampons are too uncomfortable to use and CHOOSE pads ? Our nanny is adamant that tampons hurt too much and it really curbs her activities in the heat (no beach, pool, etc) and I just have never heard someone complain about this. I'm not trying to judge so much as trying to understand if maybe she's just not doing it right ?! 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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It could be a cultural thing and she's embarassed to tell you that, so she says it hurts. Plenty of middle eastern women (my relatives) are horrified by tampons. Could be common to other cultures as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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she's Italian. It's not uncommon in her culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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OR -- never mind! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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I never liked them and usually use pads. But I do use tampons to swim etc. I don't let it stop me from partici[ating in activities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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we all went to the pool today and had a great time. She stayed in the house. It seemed sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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ITA. My body must have a wierd shape. Tampons almost always leak when I wear them. I have basically given them up except for swimming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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She's a DUMBASS or does not know how to insert correctly. Pads are gross. Women that bleed excessively and use only pads--you can smell it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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well, I have never "sniffed" an issue, but not trying tampons does really change her life. We were on a trip recently to Mexico and she stayed in the room for a couple of days ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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Like I said, she's a dumbass (for letting a little thing like a period put a hold on her life). I would never hire someone like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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you must be a super-together person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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OK, is this really a tampon issue for her or is it a lazy issue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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or. good point! she uses it as an excuse to get out of work for a few days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I think it really is a tampon issue. I have seen her also decline invitations of friends as well, so maybe it's a shyness about her swimming as someone else posted ? Maybe her body is diff than most women's ? I don't know, but I feel badly for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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np LOL! Well they bother me. I wouldn't say they hurt, but I always feel them. I never knew this was an indication of my level of intelligence! Thanks for the info random stranger! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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So now next time some woman comes up to you and sniffs your crotch, you'll know who it is :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Stop using the jumbos! Use a smaller size. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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makes no diff. I'm in menopause now though so it doesn't matter anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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she does, but she is afraid of getting wet ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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^^ but I had never heard anyone else cite that they were uncomfortable when used correctly. maybe she is using them properly ?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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maybe she's not a swimmer--or not a strong enough swimmer and is embarrassed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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Poor woman. That said, I hate tampons. I use the DivaCup, a reusable silicone cup, which I absolutely LOVE, and have been using for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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Jeez. I have no idea how to even try to translate that one for her ! Thank you though ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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LOL! If it's the idea of having anything in her vagina, that won't help her anyway. For me, tampons always felt like they were pulling at the tissues and so bleached that they were leaching all my natural moisture. I really hated them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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My nanny wears pads--though she's never said why. It's never been an issue with her activity level though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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she's supertight and therefore more desirable in bed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I'll let DH know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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You are really wierd to ask this question, but yes I CHOOSE to wear pads. It is much healthier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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why is it a weird question? She is curious... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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Your nanny probably has some form of vulvodynia, in which case inserting a tampon is painful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 04:03 AM Flag
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Actually me. I had a kid vaginally but it is painful for me to put tampon or insert any kind of cream (for vaginitis). I am prone to vaginitis and I stay clear of tampons. Plus, I am also concerned about bleach or any other chemicals (absorbant?) that might leach out... There are probably organic tampons, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 04:32 AM Flag
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I used tampons forever but then stopped when trying to get pregnant. I didn't any cotton going astray or picking up an infection. Maybe she heard it affects fertility. Anyhow, tell her the cold water stops the menstrual flow so she can swim with you and use a pad later. If she is passing up social invitations too then she may have dysmenorrhea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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cold water stops your flow ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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It slows it, but if you are flowing it will be a mess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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I have never liked tampons. I'm glad to see this thread because my husband has said, more than once, I never knew any woman who doesn't use tampons. My teenage daughters also think I'm weird. I will use tampons when swimming but I don't like them because I feel them, and because I am a very heavy bleeder and go through them quickly. I never knew that people could smell me - no family members have told me that - how embarassing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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They are very uncomfortable to me, but I have used them in a pinch. I haven't tried them since I gave birth though....I am a kotex lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone else wonder if they made the right choices in their life ? I love my DC and DH, but I wonder if I just should have traveled a lot, worked here and there to support myself, and not settled down. I miss the freedom of having nobody to answer to and be responsible for. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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I miss that too. But being a mother is an inevitable part of being a woman, IMO--honestly it suddenly became an inner need I HAD to fulfill. My true nature is to be a loner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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The loner line struck home with me. I am too. I would really like to have a backpack and a ticket to somewhere - not to escape from my family - but because that's who I am. That's who I was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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or. Me too--in many cases the more is the merrier, but honestly the times that I traveled alone were pretty awesome and just gave me a super re-charge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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I envy people whose careers allow them to travel and change venues and scenery and I really envy friends who have the cash to stop working and travel how and when they want. I don't like the feeling of envy though... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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I think it's normal to feel this way. Caring for others is draining and can be frustrating. I also miss just BEING--just me and exploring and going and checking out the whole wide world how and when I wanted to. SOoo different now...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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the unexpected... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:34 PM Flag
[ - ] SO....had a growth ultrasound today at 36 weeks.....put the baby above the 90th percentile at 8lbs...OMG...Do I have options? Like inducing or C-Section? I am so upset!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyone btdt? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 08.01.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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why are you upset ? You have a healthy baby ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, one that will potentially be over 10 lbs....I had a very difficult time w/ delivering a barely 7lb baby....I am scared!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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These numbers are guesses. Did OB say anything about his or her concerns ? Did you voice yours and how were your fears met ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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Only saw PA today....made appt w/ doc for early next week to discuss.....PA seemed concerned and did mention working on "a plan." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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OK. So they hear you and will help you through it. It really is only the size of the DB's head that you need to think about ! I wouldn't let a number worry you though... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Those scans are estimates only. You should not take them as accurate. Is your OB concerned? If not, you need to just calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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those things are pretty inaccurate. it also doesn't matter the wt, unless all that wt is in the head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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i dont know one person (including myself) where they didnt overestimate the size/weight of baby...dont worry about it. just go in with the attitude that you can do this and dont let them freak you out. good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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It is all about the head! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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OP: My son's is HUGE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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They estimated my DB would be 9 lbs+. She was 7.3 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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ditto ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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i also had db estimated much bigger than she was. (my doctor was worried about low weight, ultrasound estimated normal weight, turned out my doctor was correct and db was 5.5 pounds at birth.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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yep, they estimated mine 8 lbs and she was 6.4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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My sister was told her db would be over 9 lbs, she was 6 lbs 8 oz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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i delivered a 9 lb 14 oz ds (my third) vaginally, with no problem... depends on your physique! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Do you know that these are weight ESTIMATES, and that they are usually OVERestimated at that?? This is not something you should allow to throw you for such a loop. You will have a big, healthy baby, and you should be happy. DO NOT let them induce you for this, let alone section you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I really miss laying out on the beach and getting a deep dark tan. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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eww. tans look like dirty skin to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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So what do black people and olive skinned people look like to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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oh please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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Well, OR is essentially saying that the only "clean" looking skin is porcelain white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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I love how I look with a light tan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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OP. For one, I am cold alot so I like sitting in the sun. I also think my skin looks better when it's a shade or two darker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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I think I look healthier with a cancer-causing "glow". sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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OP. I hear ya--I've resolved myself to airbrushing and bronzing lotions. Gets tiresome though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Lame Post - Just started back to the gym after many years. Noticed many women wearing nylon what I would gym shorts (kinda an updated version form the 70s). Stripes down the sides. Looks comfortable. ANy idea who makes and where to buy? Looked in Super Runners and did not see them 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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they sound like adidas? maybe check athleta or title 9 too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I don't wear shorts at the gym. Most women I see with shorts on at the gym look terrible in them. Makes your butt look fatter than it really is. If you run you'll see all the thigh jiggle (unless you are in your 20s) on the treadmill. Certain lighting makes cellulite show up more. Also, if you are short, you'll look even shorter having your thighs chopped my shorts. Stick to yoga pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Yeah, or capris if you're hot. I've had good luck with lightweight capris from Title Nine and Lucy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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got a pair at century 21, very cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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