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[ - ] Anyone know of a low key baseball program for 6 yos - preferably on UWS? Not interested in team/games so much as just giving dc a chance to learn the basics with other kids. TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.11.09, 06:03 PM Flag
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even the low-key programs have teams/games. baseball requires outdoor space, which is at a premium in this city when it comes to baseball programs. that space is used for games, not learning the basics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:15 PM Flag
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the baseball center (74th and amsterdam) has classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:16 PM Flag
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I have heard great things about this place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been on antideppressants during pregnancy? Advice? TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:55 PM Flag
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yep, during late 2nd and 3rd tri [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:19 PM Flag
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Consult with a psychopharmacologist who specializes in this issue; it's very complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that contracts are in, which celeb kids are going to which preschools? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.11.09, 05:45 PM Flag
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Come on ladies. I thought we were supposed to gossip here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:48 PM Flag
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How would anyone really know this until they got their class lists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:52 PM Flag
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that's why it's called gossip, its not based on fact!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:15 PM Flag
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Rush Limbuagh himself will be attending the Hempley School. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Where does one find a ranking of private independent schools in NYC? How do you know what's tt? (Googled to no avail...) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:42 PM Flag
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this is circulated solely on UB. Try searching right in the box at the top of the screen. Just search "tiers" and you'll be in tears for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:52 PM Flag
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Co-ed: Dalton, Horace Mann, Trinity Boys: Collegiate Girls: Brearley, Chapin, Spence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Hello, I'm looking for advice but I know I'll probably get flames -- nothing I haven't told myself, I'm sure. I'm coming out of a period of depression (started last year with the death of my father, intensified over the winter with my usual "winter blues" amplified). Yes, I'm in therapy, yes, I'm on medication and the clouds are finally starting to part. My question: I'm a SAHM and during this period I have gotten very lazy with my parenting. I almost never go out with my 3 year old during the day, we have had very very few playdates this year. I've let my older son watch way too much tv and play too much nintendo. This is not the mom I want to be, and not the mom I know I can be. I just have to dig myself out of this lazy mom pit and fight back to the fun, adventure mom I've been in the past. When my older son was three we went to the museums and had playdates and had adventures almost every day. I need to fight through the guilt and figure out where to start again. Any advice? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:40 PM Flag
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^^^lazy mom pit and fight back to the fun, adventure mom I've been in the past. When my older son was three we went to the museums and had playdates and had adventures almost every day. I need to fight through the guilt and figure out where to start again. Any advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:41 PM Flag
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Just start small, make plans - friday go to the museum, make a playdate with an old friend next week, etc... doesn't have to be something everyday. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:43 PM Flag
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^^^in addition i need to kind of start small because in addition to the energy-zapping depression, I've had pretty severe anxiety (fears over losing kids in big crowds, fears of crowded places in general) which may not be as under control as the depression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:42 PM Flag
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just think about how much they'll resent you when they grow up. You'll be the star of their memoir of how their mom didn't give a shit. (This is tough love, not really flames:) GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:43 PM Flag
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And you'll be the star of your kids' memoirs about what a nasty and judgemental mother they have. This is tough love, not really flames. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:45 PM Flag
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oh, stop it. I'm just telling OP what she already knows & having her think ahead to how it might actually effect them long term. If she wants to keep making excuses and have everyone tell her it's OK then she shouldn't be on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:48 PM Flag
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OP: Sorry, but I'm missing where I'm making excuses. Or asking for people to tell me it's OK. Maybe you got my post mixed up with someone else's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:52 PM Flag
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or: No, I meant you *were* making excuses for the year & you wouldn't be here if you wanted to keep doing it. and if you wanted people to tell you it's OK you shouldn't have come on UB b/c everyone flames (which you anticipated). This board is feeling particularly lovey tonight for some reason, but I hope that doesn't give you the OK to continue your behavior. You might as well get your kids a nanny if you aren't going to "get out of the pit." I hope you do. I'm a believer in tough love not enabling. So flame me, it's OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:00 PM Flag
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OP: Ouch. I've already thought a lot about that. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:46 PM Flag
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Ugh, OP ignore this. You obviously give a shit or you wouldn't be here asking for suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:47 PM Flag
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Don't beat yourself up too much. You're not always going to be super mom and contrary to what some people will say on this board, it is quite possible to have happy healthy kids who sometimes watch more than the recommended amount of TV ot play too much Nintendo. You said, yourself, that it's worse in the winter, so just look forward to sunnier days and more outings. There are very very few city people who can (honestly) say that they are as active as they'd like to be with their kids in the winter. I hope things look up for you soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:44 PM Flag
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I am not flaming you. Your story breaks my heart. I feel so sorry for you, and, more importantly, I feel sorry for your children. What a lousy way to live! DS will be 4 tomorrow, and I can't imagine keeping him cooped up all day. I have had bouts of depression over the years, even since my kids were born. And, the thing I did was go out every single day. Sometimes it lifted my spirits, sometimes it was a real struggle to leave the house. I did it for the kids, and there were days where it was hard. But, they need stimulation and interaction. They need to see friends, stores, places. I know it's hard, but take it one day at a time. You can't change the past, but you can make a better present or future. Just take it one day at a time and keep in mind whatever goals you have for being a mom (playing a game, going out w/the kids, etc). Hang in there and just try your best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:47 PM Flag
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^^^ keep trying your best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:49 PM Flag
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Thanks. I guess to clarify, we do leave the house every day -- DS goes to school in the am, so it's not quite as bad a picture. But I've avoided playdates and not had any afternoon adventures like I used to do with DS #1. Many days it's been a struggle just to do this much -- anxiety attacks, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:55 PM Flag
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OR: I'm sorry. I responded before you wrote about the anxiety attacks. You are having a tough time, and it's wonderful that you are getting help. Just hang in there and don't beat yourself up. I know, easier said than done! I hope things get better for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 07:01 PM Flag
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Start small. one trip this week. Go to CMOM. Next week, NHM... force yourself. you'll get out if it... and FORGIVE yourself, that is the most important thing. Let go of the guilt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:48 PM Flag
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OP: That's the hardest part. The guilt! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:51 PM Flag
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Forgive yourself. you had to grieve. now move forward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:08 PM Flag
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couple of questions. how are your finances? do you find you have a time of the day when you are more energetic or more willing to tackle things? if you were going to start being a more active, fun, hands on mom, what would you be doing differently? do you like to do arts and crafts? do you mind messes? do you love the outdoors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:14 PM Flag
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My mom was depressed when I was growing up - its never too late to make a difference. Your children will remember the mom you become, not the mom you were if you really make a change. Good Luck!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 07:08 PM Flag
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OP: I just wanted to thank posters for the chance to vent. I'm happy to say today was a no tv day! And we went to the playground for an hour after school to run off some steam. No big stuff, but it made me feel better. Thanks for reminding me it really is one step at a time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have a gymboree coupon code? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] well, what am I supposed to do now? I was thinking drinking 2-3 beers or glasses of wine every evening (between 6-ish and 10-ish) might be getting problematic. So I decided to do an experiment this week and go cold turkey (I really can't have just one). And in the evening (only in the evening) i'm a raging lunatic toward my kids. I need to take the edge off! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:31 PM Flag
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meditation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:35 PM Flag
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I hear you. I have always had issues with alcohol, but my kids make it very hard not to drink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:40 PM Flag
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blame the kids, great idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:42 PM Flag
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try just cutting back - one beer or glass of wine, or a couple of low-alcohol cocktails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:08 PM Flag
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try a non-alcoholic beer or wine (there are some good ones - Jung - but can be hard to find). the process, smell and taste of the drink may help you to relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:28 PM Flag
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This could work. I would also recommend a hot bath or shower and music, preferably with earphones. Works for me, and I also have a slight alcohol dependency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone have a gymboree coupon code? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Ongoing parents: Has your school cashed your deposit check yet? if not, I wonder why not. You'd think they'd want to start earning the interest. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.11.09, 05:29 PM Flag
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My ongoing school has not cashed my check either. Should I be worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:31 PM Flag
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OP and I know they got it but why would they sit on it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:34 PM Flag
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I think it depends on the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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sure. just seems so odd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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I agree...very odd. may i ask if it was a boy's school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:41 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:42 PM Flag
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Hum..Given the size of the deposit, you would think they would want that interest.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:48 PM Flag
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NP it shows they dont have their shit together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:49 PM Flag
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I wonder how much interest they are losing and that they will come begging for at fundraiser time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 07:12 PM Flag
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Yes, cashed a while ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:32 PM Flag
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Cashed about a week ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:41 PM Flag
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C'mon y'all.Stop obsessing....if you were lucky enough to be sending a deposit check, you got a place! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:52 PM Flag
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I dropped off our contracts and check on a Friday, and the check was presented for payment the following Monday. Some schools may just be lax about depositing checks, or somebody may be on vacation, yada, yada. Honestly, I wouldn't sweat it. Accepted is accepted. Having said that, if you give it another couple of days and the check still hasn't been cashed, just call the school's business office and see what's up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Colonoscopy prep: have taken an entire bottle of miralax as prescribed and NOTHING is happening. What am I doing wrong? It has been 90 minutes now. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:24 PM Flag
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don't know. My mom uses Go-lightly (I kid you not..that's the name of it) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:25 PM Flag
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When is your appointment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:27 PM Flag
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Tomorrow morning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:11 PM Flag
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Hijak: DH is going for one next month. What's the recovery like? Should I expect to take the whole day off to help him or can I go back to work in the pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:49 PM Flag
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Btdt, the prep is worse then the procedure. he should be fine in the pm. might be groggy depending on what they give him during, so I would not have him watching the dcs but he sld be ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:12 PM Flag
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The recovery is a piece of cake other than the massive abdominal pain from the gas. They blow some air in your colon and you have to fart it all out and it takes a bit of time. Have anti-gas pills ready for when you get home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:51 PM Flag
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OP: Recovery is a piece of cake, provided you have had enough fluid the day before. Felt groggy for about 30 minutes and then totally back to normal after that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:40 PM Flag
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Drink a bottle of prune juice, trust me it works .. or use senokot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 06:13 PM Flag
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The whole bottle? That stuff is intense. Be careful. I also got a delayed reaction to it once...4 days later...consider you self warned. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't wait for mad men season 3! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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I can't manage to see Season 2 :( So annoying... it's not on Netflix yet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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itunes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:11 PM Flag
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would I have to watch it on my computer then? I have a crappy little laptop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:15 PM Flag
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unfortunately, yes... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:23 PM Flag
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I see one of the actors all the time. He's YUMM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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so do I. One of the main characters is a dad at our school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:19 PM Flag
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hee hee..we have our kids in the same school! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone suggest a great camp site( tents ) in the northeast/tri-state area that is great for families, with a lake. TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:08 PM Flag
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I know there are great places up near lake george but sorry don't have names [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:28 PM Flag
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It's a hike, but if you have the time, go up to Acadia National Park in Maine. I promise that you won't regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I have been TTC for sometime. I felt really down last couple of days and anxiously waiting to do home pregnancy test in couple of days. this evening my dh casually asks me during dinner "you are pmsing now right?" 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:02 PM Flag
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OP: i accidently hit return; anyway, i was hurt by his comment. he explained that that's not what he meant. he meant to ask what are the symptoms i am having (either pregnancy symptoms or otherwise). he also said that for some reason he was confused that thought one can have pms and then be pregnant. some horseshit like that. he doesn't apologize for insensitive remark because i misunderstood what he meant... can't even begin to argue with him as his logics are so screwed up often times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.11.09, 05:05 PM Flag
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sometimes they just don't get it...I am also ttc and I am just trying not to get stressed out. But it will be my first, and I am so nervous that I am going to have some problems (no reason, jsut irrational worries). My husband just wants to wing it and have sex "whenever"--- I try to explain we are alittle old to go about it that way--- They can be frustrating, but we love 'em, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.14.09, 05:27 PM Flag
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dh's don't get it at all. Dh and I have been dealing with infertility for years, but dh still cheerily announces every one of his friends' pregnancy announcements not realizing it will send me into a funk. I'll be going along just fine and then -- boom -- dh will say, "Oh, by the way, Joe's wife is pregnant, due in June." Ugh. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.14.09, 06:02 PM Flag
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