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[ - ] Tax question: my first full year in co-op. I was told that 50% of my $700/month maintenance is tax deductible. I just got statement from co-op saying my mortgage interest paid was around $800 for the year. Does this sound correct? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 02.03.09, 04:25 PM Flag
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Yes. Who told you the original 50% figure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:28 PM Flag
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co-op board at interview [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:31 PM Flag
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Call the management company and get it straightened out. Board members (and I'm among them) aren't always well-versed on the intricacies of the building's financials. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:32 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:38 PM Flag
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$700! i want your maintenance!-- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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We live in the Bronx. It's nice: beautiful parks, good transportation (and full-time doorman). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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I have $500 maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:35 PM Flag
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Where?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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SoHo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:48 PM Flag
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Co-op? Walk-up? 200 square feet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:05 PM Flag
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Elevator building. 4200 square foot loft. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:06 PM Flag
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I take it utilities aren't included in maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:11 PM Flag
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LOLOL ... no. Only water and heat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 05:16 AM Flag
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We pay $550/month for 1600 square feet. Walk-up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:07 PM Flag
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Really it is? How about common charges for condos? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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Definitely not for common charges for condos. It's only co-ops that can have the tax deduction, due to the underlying building mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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Got it - that makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:35 PM Flag
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My co-op has an underlying mortgage on the building. My share of interest paid on this mortgage through my maintenance fee is deductible. Charges that pay for porters, supers, doormen and fuel are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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And charges that pay for property tax ARE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:39 PM Flag
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We own a co-op and we (as far as I know) don't get to deduct half the maint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:40 PM Flag
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It depends on the building. Yours might not have an underlying mortgage. Many buildings do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:41 PM Flag
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ours is $3500. half is tex deductible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:49 PM Flag
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Insane! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:50 PM Flag
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Seriously! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:53 PM Flag
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Generally percentage deductible refers to your allocation of the mortgage interest and real estate taxes. so you may only have part of the information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:44 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 03:12 AM Flag
[ - ] DW just found out she is pregnant. I have never seen a sadder person in my entire life. Any tips for this? Anyone BTDT? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 02.03.09, 04:22 PM Flag
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Why sad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:23 PM Flag
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She barely speaks. And I think she's been crying a lot, but she is good at hiding it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:24 PM Flag
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She also doesn't want to tell anyone, get out bed, or do anything that is associated with having a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:24 PM Flag
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btw-not telling before 12 weeks is customary so I wouldn't get on her about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:45 PM Flag
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but I mean why doesn't she want to have a baby? Did she have a rough pregnancy before? Is your marriage ok? Is she overworked with baby #1? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:25 PM Flag
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this will be our first. is there something i should do? sister says that we should make a shopping day or something ...you know to be positive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:26 PM Flag
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yes go shopping and then drop her off around 4 or so for some spa treatments...a facial etc. And then see if she wants to see a therapist. Maybe she needs meds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:28 PM Flag
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but don't do prenatal massage unless she is out of first trimester. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:28 PM Flag
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So far she hasn't even contacted a doctor. She hasn't asked anyone or anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:31 PM Flag
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Were you trying to get pg or is this a surprise? If the latter I've been there and it does take some time for it to sink in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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Surprise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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Have you asked her if she is ready for this and if this is what she wants? You should really be trying to talk this out with her. Get her to communicate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:36 PM Flag
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She says that she is fine and that she doesn't want to talk about things. She has other things to deal with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:38 PM Flag
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well something is clearly bothering her. I wouldn't let this go. I would drag it out of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:44 PM Flag
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np: ITA...OP are there financial issues? Did she have a messed up childhood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:45 PM Flag
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she had a very unhappy childhood; she doesn't want to tell her mother because she thinks that he mom will get a kick out of seeing her options become more limited. I know. That's a mouthful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:49 PM Flag
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she told me two weeks ago and she hasn't called one doctor other than her gyno to find out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:35 PM Flag
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I would ask her if she wants to go ahead and make a doctor's appt or if she would prefer that you did it for her. One of the first questions they will ask is whether it was planned and if she's happy about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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thanks. I will see if I can ask the doctor about it as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:40 PM Flag
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The doctor probably won't be able to discuss it with you directly without seeing your wife first, but at least getting her in there will open lines of communication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:44 PM Flag
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How long has this been going on? If for more than two weeks you should probalby try to get a doctor on board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:35 PM Flag
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Maybe it's not yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:25 PM Flag
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well, even it isn't doesn't the law say that it's still mine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:25 PM Flag
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Not if you get a paternity test and it proves otherwise. He'll be on the hook for child support for the next 18 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:26 PM Flag
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lol. I'll ask her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:27 PM Flag
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Should get her some help. DW and I are divorced and she demanded that i take our dd. She is fucked up and I spend so much time making sure it doesn't affect dd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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So sad. I'm glad you are stepping up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:31 PM Flag
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Is it possible for her to have pre-natal depression? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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My sister had my niece and when she saw how she looked after giving birth she sobbed for hours. She had a mini breakdown. refused to breastfeed, hold the baby or see family, completely freaked out the lady in the next bed. Get this fixed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Theodore or Everett 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:22 PM Flag
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like them both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:26 PM Flag
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op: thanks. Does Everett seem feminine to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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np: to me just the opposite & I like both too, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:30 PM Flag
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well maybe a bit but i still like it for a boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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everett [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:41 PM Flag
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I like Theodore a little bit better, but I also like Everett. I especially like the fact that Everett is more unusual, but in a good, not "freakish name" way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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op: I agree I like that it is less used but Theo just sounds so cute to me and I don't love the fact that there is no real nn for Everett [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:48 PM Flag
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neither really. And I'm not mean or anything, just don't like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:56 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:11 PM Flag
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Everett. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] how do i know if my coffee maker is a drip cone or drip basket? the basket is sort of shaped like a cone? does that mean it's a cone? freshdirect wants to know for my coffee order! i've never heard of this making a difference. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:11 PM Flag
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if it's shaped like a cone, it's a cone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:12 PM Flag
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why does this matter? have you ever heard of this mattering? this is the first i've ordered FD coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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omg, seriously! gl to op's dc taking the bracken. if the apple doesn't fall far from this tree, dc will have no clue when it comes to the shapes section! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:16 PM Flag
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hey, i'm new to coffee machine and i wasn't sure if it was truly referring to the shape or if it was something more. what a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:20 PM Flag
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cone. you want the filter to fit snugly into the receptacle, which sounds like it's a cone for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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this is the thing, i'm not ordering filters. i'm ordering coffee ground up for a drip coffee maker. not sure why the shape matters. just curious. i figured it was cone, but it's sort of a cut off cone. not a real cone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:15 PM Flag
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maybe it has to do with the fineness of the grind...why don't you ask them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:22 PM Flag
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i think i will! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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np: posted below, it's about the fit. Nothing to do with the grind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:00 PM Flag
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i believe it is the type of filter your coffee maker uses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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this could be the dumbest question i've ever seen posted here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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no, not really, b/c it's not an obvious cone, it's sort of a cut off cone. also, not sure why it matters in regards to the grind of the coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:14 PM Flag
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it has to do with how quickly the water flows through, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:39 PM Flag
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lol!! ita! "um, how do i tell if my filter is a cone?" that would be if it looked like an inverted pointy witch hat, einstein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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this is a funny thread but it's OK b/c it's anon. A regular filter won't sit properly in a cone shape holder and vice versa. You'll end up with coffee all over the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Just saw 2 y/o dd on the monitor masturbating during her nap. I'm afraid to google it because I don't want to end up with kiddie porn. Any info that can help me? Links? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:11 PM Flag
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was she asleep? let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:14 PM Flag
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She was falling asleep. I just want to make sure it's normal - would never tell her not to or scold her for it. If I did it at that age I can't remember...seems a bit early? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:15 PM Flag
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totally normal. don't freak & don't bring it up unless she starts doing it in public. If so, then just tell her that's for private time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:01 PM Flag
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totally normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:17 PM Flag
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100% normal...why do you still have a baby monitor for a 2 yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:57 PM Flag
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Just wait until you leave the baby monitor in place into her teen years. Then it gets REALLY interesting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:03 PM Flag
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ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:53 PM Flag
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completely normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:59 PM Flag
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No links, but know from experience/pediatrician that it is TOTALLY normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Will be moving with a 14 mo ds this spring. If you could pick any neighborhood in Manhattan where would you live and why? (We rent). Thanks. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:58 PM Flag
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west village. charming nabe, great schools, good restaurants, decent shopping. only downside is not lots of green space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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Thanks. Which schools are there that are great? Public/private? We're not looking at schools yet, obviously, but it's a good idea to think ahead - I'd hate to move again in 2 yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:02 PM Flag
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public: ps41, ps3 and new school set to open in 2013. private: st. luke's and vcs, and grace church isn't so far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:06 PM Flag
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^forgot little red [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:07 PM Flag
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ah, thanks a lot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:08 PM Flag
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friends is not so far, either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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you forgot city and country school on w. 13st [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:43 PM Flag
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w70s b/c I like being near the park [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Does St. Ann's send out rejections or only WL? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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they send both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:50 PM Flag
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I know that their WL probably doesn't move but do you know if they still put a ton of kids on the WL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:51 PM Flag
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not sure how many they put on wl..gl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:52 PM Flag
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thx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:57 PM Flag
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I believe they put all of the preschoolers who are not accepted onto waitlist, because they don't want to "reject" kids that young -- so that waitlist is meaningless. For K and beyond, I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:17 PM Flag
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That is certainly nicer than Chapin telling someone their girl is socially unfit as per earlier post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 05:45 AM Flag
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sent both last year for K and 1st. but 1/4 of pool is on wl and it never moves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 05:42 AM Flag
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they also tend to go outside the waitlist if a spot actually opens. I know people who have gotten spots when they were moving to the city and did not go through the admissions process at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Hmm... Saturday afternoon? Um, how about never? Playdates.. you can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:47 PM Flag
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we never do playdates on the weekend...that's family time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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I try to keep playdates to a bare minimum. I'd much rather spend the time with my children since I'm WOHM. I know they are necessary to help foster and strengthen friendships, but I simply don't enjoy chit chatting with the other parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:57 PM Flag
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I'm with you..there are few ppl in dcs classes that I want to chat with..I actually hate when they send their nanny and she sits there starring at me. I'm all for small talk but not no talk at all. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:16 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone know when nursery schools send out acceptance letters? Is it true that you have one week to decide? we're going away first week of march. will we miss the deadline, assuming ds gets in anywhere? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:40 PM Flag
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3/3 is the day they send them out..must reply by 3/11 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:42 PM Flag
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reply by noon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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If you get WL then you need to work the phones to get a spot somewhere...need to have the letters right away our you may be SOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Yet another baby name post...Anya, Eliana, Maya or Sophia? We really like Sophia, but would prefer something slightly less common. We like Maya too (and like the fact that it works in so many cultures), but where we're living we know lots of Any thoughts? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:33 PM Flag
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Sorry - accidentally posted before I was finished. That was supposed to read, 'but where we're living we know lots of Mayas too. Any thoughts?' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:35 PM Flag
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I like Anya. Sophia is very common but love it. i know one other Maya. Eliana don't like so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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meh. makes me think of anyanka. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:05 PM Flag
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LOVE sophia and Eliana [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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really like anya (i've heard of one other born last year). Maya and Sophia are so common [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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I know one of each except Eliana, if that helps. They all work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking of moving to an apt around 95th St on the UWS. Anyone live there? Good restaurants? Safe? All thoughts appreciated. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:32 PM Flag
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That is where we are...Publics bad, so plan on private school for dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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Restaurants north of 97th and South of 94th. Express Train, Safe, Projects between Amsterdam and Columbus seem quiet. Never had any problems. Hippo park (in Riverside) is great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:50 PM Flag
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What is going on in between? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:02 PM Flag
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MSC is great and around the corner (but lottery). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:07 PM Flag
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Terribly unsafe. Stay away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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HA-written by someone who doesn't live there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:51 PM Flag
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95th and what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:59 PM Flag
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CPW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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Fine - it's a bit of a hike to Broadway, where most of the shopping (and the 1-2-3 trains) are, but the park there is great, obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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It is right on top of the B/C, which are generally more reliable. There are many stores on Columbus and Amsterdam - including two or three wine shops right on Columbus b/t 93 - 96. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: DS's birthday falls right in the middle of winter break. Have the party over the break or wait until after? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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after...many will be away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:30 PM Flag
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during - many will be away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know where I can find a plain cotton velvet altar cloth in Manhattan? TIA. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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ANYONE?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:22 PM Flag
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google [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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They have a store in Manhattan? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:32 PM Flag
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try a table runner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:32 PM Flag
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Totally doesn't work as an altar cloth, but thanks for the suggestion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I workout at a small local gym... Since being pregnant, I look like I have "gained wieght." I was in competition shape, and have now lost some muscle definition and just look like I am "soft." People that have always watched me workout now think that I have just given up.. Annoyed! Kind of intimidated to show up at the gym bc I dont like the weird looks and wonderous eyes.. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:22 PM Flag
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Keep going because eventually you will start to show and people will then be even more "impressed" with your rigor. (Also, not going because of what people think is just going to bum you out and make you truly soft and make it harder to lose the weight.) I worked out throughout entire pregnancy and still struggled to put off the weight, though I was able to pick up almost where I left off workout-wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:37 PM Flag
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Thank you for the wise words. It is sometimes frustrating for myself because I worked so very hard to have the body I do/did after first ds. He is now two, but it took over a year to really have a great figure that I was very proud of. I dont look the same as I did 4 months ago, and I get down about that. I am getting a little of the armpit fat the pokes out between the tank and shoulder. It seems impossible to stay in the exact same shape and just have a growing belly. Seems like as soon as the pregnancy hormone started flowing my thighs have swelled up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 03:42 PM Flag
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