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[ - ] Brooklyn moms, how would you compare ps 29 and 261? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 08:13 AM Flag
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29 is less diverse and more affluent parent body. 261 is a great school and, I believe, has a more "artsy" feel. Also has (or at least used to have) the city's best science teacher, Carmelo. But, both schools only take kids who live in the zone, so you don't have a choice unless you are choosing a new home in one of the zones. 261 used to get lots of kids from Brooklyn Heights who wouldn't go to PS 8, but now that PS 8 is much better, they are staying put. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:50 AM Flag
[ - ] My dd is a July birthday so will likely stay 3yrs in preschool. What are some of the good 5s programs? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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my dd is an aug. bday and she did 2 yrs of preschool. Going to K when she's 5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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^^^I mention it so you can know that it's possible for your dd to start K when she should [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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92nd st y, Temple Emmanuel, Brick, Garden House, all of the Montessori schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:34 AM Flag
[ - ] I know a number of families in our private that at this point pray for a miracle to be able to afford private next year - income drops of 30-50% are not unusual 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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everyone in our school seems fine.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:06 AM Flag
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how would you know that? do you think they would share their financial issues with you? not!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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reading comprehension problems? OR did say "seems". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:10 AM Flag
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If this is what people pray for, they don't know how "blessed" they already are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:09 AM Flag
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no one at our school is talking about this. I really have no idea what is going on with other families. Except that at parent's day, fathers I haven't seen at school even once in 3 years were there in force. I don't think they were necessarily laid off though, I think they just aren't busy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:36 AM Flag
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maybe they just are realizing that family is what truly matters because tomorrow all their material wealth may be gone . . .. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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income drop of 50% here and thank god every day we're in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:37 AM Flag
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ditto! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:06 AM Flag
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Same at my school. However, people are feeling that market is improving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:41 AM Flag
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Just so you know, a lot of Wall Street types can suffer income drops of 30-50% and STILL be able to afford private school! My family is one of them. We may no longer be AS rich, but we're still rich! We can actually retire and never work again and we haven't hit 40 yet. And there are a lot of us in this city... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:45 AM Flag
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Np; So what are you here for? can't you afford to do something more interesting and meaningful? I'm only here becasue i can't afford any other entertainment. By the way, public relations is not your strong point. Dale Carnegie should be in your future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:50 AM Flag
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We're ok too but I don't jknow what you were trying to achieve by posting this here. This is a very difficult time for much of the world. Keep your good fortune to yourself, give a little to charity and try and look outside yourself a little. It could be YOU on the street corner someday. Hubris is ugly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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So it's okay for people to come on here and spew their venom against the Wall Street types and hope for their downfall, but it's not okay for us to come on here and reassure everyone that us types for the most part will do just fine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:10 AM Flag
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No, it's not OK. Both groups are acting like asses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:20 AM Flag
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"reassure everyone"? why does anyone need reassurance that you're still wealthy? why would you presume anyone cares? do you think the general public is staying up all night, concerned that your "types" are no longer wealthy? your post is simply odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:49 AM Flag
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This must be a yank. Nobody would be crass, uncouth or hostile enough to seriously post up that they still have enough money to retire before 40. If so, you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:08 AM Flag
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I am NOT naming the school, so do not ask, but neighbor just told me she received a letter from her children's private school in NYC that they have a serious financial problem. DOn't know too many details (not enough contract renewals? too many renewals newly in need of FA? don't know....) But I personally am surprised this is not talked about more. I wonder if schools are in distress or anticipate big problems and are hiding it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] my father died 2 months ago, no will, everything (about $2M) understood to go to my mother. i am one of 4 children. i would like to get something of my father's to remember him by. he had about a dozen pricey watches. how do i ask my mother for one without sounding like a money-grubbing kid? should i discuss with my siblings first? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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FIRST: I'm sorry for your loss. as a mom, I would want my kids to have something they loved of their father. I would let them choose esp. since you said their are many watches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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^^I don't think asking for a watch makes you sound like a money grubbing kid. Makes you sound like you want something to remember your father by [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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ask her for a shirt or a sweater or something from his office. maybe she will suggest the watch. otherwise you will sound like a money grubber. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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first OR: ITTTD. I don't think asking for 1 watch is horrible. Now if OP was asking for the entire collection that's something else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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op - thanks. on the one hand, money is really not an issue for her so it doesn't seem fair for her not to share with the kids. on the other hand, these watches are 10k average, so it is a considerable amount of money. should i really ask for a sweater? to do what with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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you know your mom...I know my family. I wouldn't hesitate asking my mom for something that I loved of my dads..but my mom wouldn't hesitate giving all the kids something either (regardless of the value). It's the sentimental value that means more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:09 AM Flag
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Do you not get along with her? Because if you do, this should not be so hard. Just say you want something of your dads to remember him by. She is likely going to ask, and you'll suggest a watch. Or she may suggest something else, but sweater is not likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:10 AM Flag
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Doesn't seem *fair* of her not to share with the kids? I don't object to you wanting a memento of your dad's, nor do I think the watch is excessive, but as for *fair*...? It's their money. Inheritance isn't a privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:28 AM Flag
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ITA! OP is not entitled to anything. I assume when the mother dies, then all four children will split the estate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:42 AM Flag
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Dh and I have told our parents -- repeatedly -- to spend it all. It's their money, they made it, they should enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:50 AM Flag
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The sweater thing would make sense if that's what you remembered your father by, but it sounds like the watches were more personal, so I don't get that suggestion. How does asking her for a watch sound money grubbing? OP never discussed selling it. I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Probably best to discuss it with your Mom, not siblings. People(esp sibs) may act very strangely,upon death of a beloved parent and I've really btdt. I agree with the poster recommending being straightforward with your Mom. Perhaps you should ask her if there is something that she sees as significant of your father's, in relation to a time of their lives as your parents or to him as your Dad. I know I asked my Mom for something I've not received and doubt she'll put it in a will of her own. It's probably best to cherish memories you have and leave the stuff as stuff-whether you get an object or not. Be Well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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btw, It's your Mom's stuff now-I think it would seem very conspiratorial to discuss possession of her property among your sibs. She's going through a period of tremendous change and loss. Their connection pre-dates any of your arrivals and she is also likely feeling her own mortality-much more acutely than you may realize. Ease up and ease into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:37 AM Flag
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Give her some time and then offer to help her go through his personal items (clothing, shoes, papers). When you go through them find 1-2 small things that you would like to keep and ask her. You could also offer to find 1-2 things for each of your siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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Don't offer to find stuff for your siblings, let them pick their own stuff, assuming your mom will agree. Why would she not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:06 AM Flag
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ita. i think it would be weird if the mom wouldn't want her kids to have something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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Be honest with your mom. "Mom, I would like one of dad's watches." Don't discuss but don't hide. There is nothing wrong with your desire/feeling and anyone who thinks so has their own issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:10 AM Flag
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AMEN..ITTA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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If you have to ASK your mother for something like this, you apparently didn't have a close enough relationship with your father to justify such a gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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You are an asshole. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:16 AM Flag
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np: I do find it a bit odd that OP is worried about asking her mom. Seems to suggest that the relationships in the family are a bit strained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:18 AM Flag
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np again: when you have an estate without a will, four siblings, and quite possibly four spouses -- this does not surprise me. And to make a personal attack out of a post like that is uncool. PERIOD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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^^ first -np not second np: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:23 AM Flag
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The siblings don't matter. All of the estate goes to the surviving spouse. If it was OP's stepmom I'd understand the hesitation but it is her mother. And 2M is really not that much if she is to live another decade or more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:25 AM Flag
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In NY, if you die intestate (without a will) 50k plus one-third of the estate goes to the spouse, the balance is divided among the children (if there is one child it is 50k plus half). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:32 AM Flag
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np: Really? My understanding was since we own everything jointly if either of us dies the other one keeps it all? But you must be talking about third of his half right? Anyway, I guess it is a good thing we do have a will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:35 AM Flag
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Jointly owned assets aren't impacted, it is just things that are in his name alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:40 AM Flag
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-np again: of course the siblings matter. We are not talking here about a bunch of charities fighting over scraps. We are talking about brothers and sisters. And people's feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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That was a pretty stupid thing to say. This is a grieving family and you don't seem very sensitive to how altering that may be. If you have to SAY something like that, you apparently don't have much acceptance for the differences in people's cultures or interpersonal relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:40 AM Flag
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BS. If the father had wanted his daughter to have one of his watches, the mother would have known this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:13 PM Flag
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when your mother goes you will get a watch...I know that sounds awful, but if you don't feel comfortable asking, you will eventually have something to remember him by [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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It sounds like you really want more than the watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:37 AM Flag
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Just tell your mom you want something to remember your dad by. Tell her you would like a watch because that is an object you can pass on to kids and grandkids someday and it would be meaningful to you. If your mom does not want each of her children to receive at least watch, she has some weird issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:49 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:52 AM Flag
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Same here. I think she should have offered already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Dear public school teacher: You have been really good at letting kids read at their level. Why don't you do something similar with Math. Why is my DC bored to death by your endlessly repeating the same shit over and over and again? Since 2nd grade you and your colleagues have introduced nothing new in math 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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which public school? i think my dc is challenged in math (also public school). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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Math is much harder to differentiate than reading. Are you saying your teacher did not cover multiplication and division yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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Dear Overly-Concerned Parent Without a Clue: I appreciate your taking the time to write. I'm sorry your DC is "bored to death" by my math class. I didn't realize it was my job to ENTERTAIN him. The reason I "endlessly repeat the same shit over and over again" is because the bulk of my 38 students in the class STILL DON'T GET IT. It would be pointless for me to continue forward if it was only for the benefit of your precious little Enstein -- who, by the way, is only pulling a "B". I know he can do better, but the problem is he's not "bored to death", but rather intellectually LAZY. This is something you might want to work on, while I try to deal with more pressing issues facing my other students, including broken homes, neglect, substance abuse, and a blossoming pasttime in shoplifting. Sincerely, Public School Teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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substance abuse, and a blossoming pasttime in shoplifting. Sincerely, Public School Teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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OP: Dear fake teacher: Actually the real teacher has been kind enough to give DC straight 4s in Nov. and acknowledge that DC participates and always raises hand. I know you need to teach everyone. Why not breaking them up in groups, by level? You do that in reading, so it is not impossible. So 2-3 "slow kids" will have to hold back the remaining 27? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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Dear Fake Parent: If it's only two to three "slow kids", we put them in another class. And no, it's very difficult to teach math in groups, like you can with reading. Math is much more "hands-on" intensive for the teacher ... we can't just be hovering from group to group like reading teachers can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:15 AM Flag
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Dear teacher - i am np from below and i love you. ignore this entitled hag who thinks her average child is exceptional. he misbehaves in class because he is overindulged and spoiled, not because he is gifted and underserved in your classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:25 AM Flag
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OP: Sorry to disappoint you, my DC does not misbehave in class and teacher loves him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:27 AM Flag
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not for long with a delusional pia such as yourself up her ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:30 AM Flag
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OP - why don't you apply to one of the gifted programs if DC is so far ahead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:31 AM Flag
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she has no response for that. wonder why? i guess it's easier to insult the teacher and blame children than to admit the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:34 AM Flag
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np-sounds like they are going TT for MS. why all the hostility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:39 PM Flag
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NP: If your teacher loves your DC why are you cursing at her to make your case. Very disrespectful. You can offer your DC advanced instruction at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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exactly. anyone who claims to have such a bright child and who implies to have such respect for scholarship would never refer to anything academic as "shit." i suspect she's pissed b/c the teacher doesn't fawn all over her and her genius. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:38 AM Flag
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np - it is impossible to customize the classroom to suit any one student-even your little precious. i sincerely doubt that there are only 2-3 children determining the pace of the whole class. perhaps if, as you claim, yours is so exceptional, it behooves YOU to supplement his education instead of expecting everyone to bend to your needs, which we all know you have overinflated. your kid is just fine with the situation as is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:19 AM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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nnp: The teacher never teaches the slowest 2-3 kids except possibly right before the math test, normally most of the instruction is given to the middle of the class, so both the advanced kids and the kids that are behind have to find ways to deal. It is how it is, with one teacher and 28 kids that is really the only realistic option. Teacher has to cover the curriculum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:29 AM Flag
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I'm a real teacher on maternity leave - and I have to say that the OR above is spot on - they actually could be a teacher. Gave me a good laugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:09 AM Flag
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send your brilliant child somewhere else.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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and this is exactly why I pay so much for private school. Public schools just don't have enough teachers to differentiate in math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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it costs a lot to have teachers stroke you and tell you your average child is exceptional; that's what your ridiculous private school tuitions pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:29 AM Flag
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you know, I didn't say my child was at the top of her class. For all you know, she could be at the very bottom of her class. My point, though, is that she taught math in a group of 7 children who are all doing math at the same level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:38 AM Flag
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whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:41 AM Flag
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what is wrong with you??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:24 AM Flag
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that's why zoned public schools suck for smart kids after first grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:23 AM Flag
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Pick a different zoned public. I was willing to work with mine, and now my math nerds get differentiated instruction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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Provide additional instruction and support in math at home. Teachers cannot do everything, whether in public or private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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They SUCK for smart kids in K also [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:09 AM Flag
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not for my dc, who scored 99 on the olsat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:03 AM Flag
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G&T? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:27 AM Flag
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Be glad they have catered to the advanced reading at least. At our school, you don't even get that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:08 AM Flag
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You could ask the school to send DC in higher grade for math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:00 AM Flag
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OP: I only used the word "shit" because I know that bad words attract more responses - every time I post something in a really polite way I get more responses. As far as my DC is concerned he's heading to a co-ed tt for MS - thanks to the tons of enrichment we did at home. I have to say though that grades 2,4,5 were totally useless academically at school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:40 AM Flag
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So what's the point of your original post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:48 PM Flag
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does not surprise me. That's what I've been told by every ny parent I know who has tried public. Public school good until 2nd, or 3rd and then have to go private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Birth control question--has anyone had used the Mirena IUD? Are you happy with it? Any problems/issues? I may or may not want to ttc in a couple of years--but need something now. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:55 AM Flag
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I am debating the mirena and it sounds like the perfect thing - anyone know the downside? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 08:38 PM Flag
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Yes. Death. Just lost a good friend because it punctured the wall of her uterus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 08:53 PM Flag
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My friend is due in seven weeks with a baby conceived while using the Mirena! That's the only bad story I've heard (and it's not so bad, just a second sooner than they really wanted). Enough for my DH to get a vasectomy instead of bothering with the IUD, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 08:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a completely unconnected August child accepted to private school to start at age 5? Only interested in August. Thx. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 07:54 AM Flag
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yes dd will start this fall (K) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:57 AM Flag
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where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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city and country [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:06 AM Flag
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Yes, dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:03 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:00 AM Flag
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yes, early Sept. b'day if that counts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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If you're willing, will you name the school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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Yes, but school does not have a Sept. 1st cutoff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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I previously asked this question because I also have an August dd. A dc had multiple accepts at downtown schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Not the best book, but FUN easy read recommendations needed! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:52 AM Flag
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Posted earlier - Savannah Breeze and Savannah Blues are both easy and fun. Also Emily Giffin Something Borrowed and Something Blue are both fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:55 AM Flag
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ita emily giffin books are mindless fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Redshirted August boys: if you don't even apply to private ongoings or if you do and get all "too young" letters, are you then at risk of getting a bunch of "too old" letters the following year? How do older August boys generally do-are they still at a big disadvantage? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 07:50 AM Flag
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if you get a too young letter that's a good thing. It basically means that they were interested in your dc but he's too young. Please reapply. When you reapply you have a better shot at getting an accept since this is your 2nd time applying to this school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:53 AM Flag
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Why not apply to schools that have a more flexible cut-off. I personally know that Collegiate, Manhattan Country School and Metropolitan Montessori take younger kids. I'm sure there are others especially the K-8s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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This has nothing to do with "cut-off" date, but unwillingness to take younger boys. Many times it is the parents' choice as well to dc hold back. Most schools (except Buckley) take a young summer birthday if they feel the child is mature and can handle it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 02:16 PM Flag
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I think some schools see young boys as wild cards. could potentially disrupt due to social youngness or academic youngness. Its an unfortunate bias. Should be illegal to age discriminate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 02:19 PM Flag
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We applied, but regret is now since we just got rejections, not too youngs. Did not apply broadly thankfully, and some schools (Ethical, HM) will not take your application a year later, so you have to try on time if you want to try at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:13 AM Flag
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If you apply to start at 5 and get flat out rejections, can you reapply to start at 6 or are you "out" forever? Also, I know HM and Ethical say they don't take redshirts but do they actually take young summer (esp. August) boys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:24 AM Flag
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They admit them to Pre-K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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ITA. We applied and got a lot of too young letters. but surprisingly, we also were w/l at a few. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 06:50 PM Flag
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What is the deal with summer girls? No redshirting or too young letters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:22 PM Flag
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My August girl got into Claremont. WL at Ethical and Riverdale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Any dh's on? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:24 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:24 AM Flag
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would you be more upset if dw was having an emotional affair or had a one-night stand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:30 AM Flag
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Hmm, emotional affair probably, but not much difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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would you leave her either way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:49 AM Flag
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Depends. Almost certainly not if she wanted to work it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:02 AM Flag
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that's nice to hear :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:55 AM Flag
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np dh: Maybe. Either would be devastating. But in the end I'm pretty attached to my dw and I don't know if I could bring myself to actually leave. I'd probably stay, but without much self-respect and would unconsciously passive-aggressively retaliate for years, long after I thought I had come to terms with it. Not saying that's the right way, just saying it's probably what I would do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:54 AM Flag
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new DH: emotional affair, but i wouldn't mind an open marriage, so that's just me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:49 AM Flag
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depends on reason. maybe her dh doesnt care or is doing the same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:19 AM Flag
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Strange answer given that the person being asked the question re his feelings on the matter is the dh in question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:55 AM Flag
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np dh: One night stand. Unless I'm not understanding what an emotional affair is. What's an emotional affair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:35 AM Flag
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frequent emailing, longing for each other, sharing intimate stories, histories, details, becoming very close, acknowledging attraction and yearning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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Wow. Both would be pretty awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:41 AM Flag
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Still, assuming in each case that it was definitively over and she felt honest remorse, I think the one night stand would be worse. Based on certain people who post here, it seems to be fairly common for women who have affairs to believe that they have the right to do so, and that they shouldn't feel bad about it, and it seems common though not universal for other women to support them in that self-justification. In either example, that attitude would be a killer even if I felt sure the particular transgression was over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:48 AM Flag
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nnp/dh: That is one of those choices like, "whose snot tastes better." There is no ok answer. I'm not going to choose. My wife has close relationships with other people (male and female.) I'm not threatened by that. But the "affair" part of emotional affair implies deception. That I find unacceptable. (My feelings about the one night stand issue I assume are obvious.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:51 AM Flag
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Is there a particular reason or inspiration for this question? I hope it's not because you're trying to choose which one to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:17 AM Flag
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why should I answer you, so I can be flamed and everyone can get whipped into another self-righteous frenzy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:12 AM Flag
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That would be one reason. Or maybe because you're asking an unusual question and context helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:46 AM Flag
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OK, I'll take that answer as saying that either you have or you intend to do one of these things. I think this is an important difference because, at least to me, attitude and intent matter a lot. It's like the legal difference between different degrees of forethought/ intent/ recklessness/ negligence. Same act can have a different meaning. So if this is a planning session, that fact would in my mind make it much worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:52 PM Flag
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It was not a planning session. I've already had sex with the other guy, several times. I also happen to be intensely emotionally involved with him. I was wondering which was likely to be more hurtful to my dh (and the actual answer is neither, because hopefully he will never know). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:46 AM Flag
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Then I think your original question was not well designed to get the relevant information, since you did not include option 3: full-fledged affair. There's a synergy making that more than twice as bad as either alone. I'm guessing you already knew that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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Also, the fact that you've now had enough time to stop and think, and even inquire into this aspect of the topic, and yet (I gather) choose to continue with the affair moves you into a very high category in the intent/reckless/just-happened scale, regardless of how this affair originated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:54 AM Flag
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no, the affair is over, and it was not entered into lightly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:55 AM Flag
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You used the present tense in saying "I also happen to be intensely emotionally involved with him." This makes this sound like a current situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:57 AM Flag
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Yeah. Love doesn't go away the second you stop sleeping together, unfortunately. We're not sleeping together anymore. I still love him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:01 AM Flag
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Are you still in contact with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:03 AM Flag
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a little. It's hard to cut off all contact at once. The contact now is mostly just sad, not romantic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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Sad/romantic seems to me like the same thing in this context. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:06 AM Flag
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okay. so yes, we are in infrequent sad/romantic contact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:09 AM Flag
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Then it's not over. If the goal is to prospectively minimize the blow to your husband when he finds out, the only good thing you can do now is send a clear and definitive final communication saying you will communicate no more, and then stick to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:33 AM Flag
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I can't do that. It's a relationship, like any other important relationship it's unnatural just to cut it off. It's already so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:35 AM Flag
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^^and why do you say "when he finds out"? Why do you think that's a given? do you know how many people successfully keep this kind of thing a secret? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:36 AM Flag
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Unnatural? We do things all the time for the people we care about that are unnatural. Important relationship? I guess it depends on whether you think your loyalties on some things ought to be decidedly in a certain camp and not another. As to whether it's already hard, I think clinging to it is unlikely to make it easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:42 AM Flag
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Btw, now that I have some of the details of your story, I would say that if this were me and I found out about this I think it's one of the few things that could absolutely make me leave dw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 10:03 AM Flag
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Sounds like you are trying to get a different response out of him. Stop trying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 10:08 AM Flag
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why is a full-fledged affair necessarily worse than a one-night stand? Some dhs might be more compassionate about their dw having truly fallen for someone, rather than having risked losing everything just to get laid once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:58 AM Flag
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I'm not sure what compassion has to do with it. The question was about which would be more upsetting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:02 AM Flag
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Exactly what would that compassion involve? Seriously, I'm trying to picture a scenario and I can't figure out how compassion would enter into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:54 AM Flag
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I think sometimes the line between "friend" and "emotional affair" gets blurry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 08:59 AM Flag
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Not in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 09:54 AM Flag
[ - ] 11 weeks pregnant and planning on telling my parents over dinner tonite. Feeling very anxious about this, though I'm not exactly sure why. Not sure if I'm nervous about my mom's reaction, or worried about making the pg "official" when I haven't even had an u/s yet. Can anyone relate? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 03.12.09, 07:42 AM Flag
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I think you are just anxious about everything. So normal...just enjoy it and don't let anyones reaction bring you down. This is your time..enjoy it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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^^btw why worried about your mothers reaction? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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thanks for your thoughts. no clue why i am worried about telling her. i think she is dying to be a grandmother. we get along very well and have fun together, but don't talk about emotional things very deeply or successfully. also, she doesn't like it that i'm not married (not surprisingly). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:45 AM Flag
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well since you are going to give her THE BEST GIFT EVER...just expect LOTS OF TEARS..happy tears. Congrats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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^^^ btw, it's my first, and we aren't married but have been together for 5+ years and my parents love him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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^^^ oops, the above is from OP, not OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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ahh then you will be fine! Your parents know that he loves you and they love him. Not like you're Palin's dd.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:45 AM Flag
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don't want to be debbie downer, but I would wait to tell until you have an u/s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:45 AM Flag
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you want her to wait until 20 wks? are you kidding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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^^these are her parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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Even if I won't see them again for a few more weeks? Want to tell them in person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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first OR...don't listen to this person. I'm sure your Dr has listened for the HB by now right? it's ok to tell your parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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just my 2c - i waited until 20 weeks/amnio results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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you aren't the norm..but you have patience I tell you. With all 3 of my pg I wouldn't be able to wait if I wanted. I showed very early with all 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:51 AM Flag
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confused by "no u/s". have you heard heart beat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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OR here - yes, i heard the heartbeat, loud and clear, and pg seems to be going great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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go for it! It's your parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:52 AM Flag
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Oh, tell her -- if you wait much longer, she might be ticked off that you didn't tell her sooner! Congratulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:55 AM Flag
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good point, and thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:00 PM Flag
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i can relate. if you're nervous about your mom's reaction - i can really relate. mine said "oh, wow, i didn't even know you could get pregnant." which was . . . erm . . . unexpected. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 03:16 PM Flag
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NP: I've got to know ... WHAT did she mean? Did she think you were infertile? Or was she just nervous and shocked and spewing out words? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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i have NO idea what she meant. i had some issues with a cyst when i was 16. but im 32 now and have not had any more issues since. she does not deal well with . . . most things. lol but after i told her, she didn't talk to me for 2 weeks. shock maybe?!?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Admitted to preschool that requiers DC to be potty trained by fall. DS has shown no interest in potty so far. He's 2.5, but I'm not sure he has any idea beforehand that he's about to pee or poop. Any tips on how to potty train him by the fall? Good books on potty training or specific methods for a stubborn boy? Many thanks. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.12.09, 07:38 AM Flag
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he'll do it when he's ready. really. you cannot make it happen. he's not being stubborn, he's being 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:39 AM Flag
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What's the school? J&J? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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LOL. I was just going to post the same. And they are not particularly forgiving if dc are not fully trained by the time school starts, from what I've heard! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:10 AM Flag
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I'm in your exact situation. What about hands on potty training specialists or consultants who come to your house? A while back I saw something on TV about a woman (not in NYC) who had a potty training "boot camp" where she basically potty trained all the kids in a day. Anyone know if there's something like that in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:55 AM Flag
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i have potty trained by twins at 21 mo. Just stay home for 2 or 3 days and have dc in underwear, not pull-ups. he will soon figure out pee (1st onr 2nd time he gets wet). poop may take 2 or 3 days. do not give up and insist that he sits at the potty. it is easy, do not make a big thing out of it, BUT HE HAS TO BE IN HIS UNDERWEAR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:00 AM Flag
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Sorry to say, you're probably going to have a rough time. Start as soon as it's a little warmer and he can run around without anything but underwear on for a few days. Ditch the diapers fully and be prepared to do a lot of laundry. Stock up on paper towels and clorox wipes. Get some kind of reward for peeing and pooing in the toilet (m&ms or whatever he likes). Use a potty for the first couple of weeks, then transition to a child-sized toilet seat with a splash guard. Be patient. Chances are, he'll get the hang of it really quickly, but then decide it's not worth the trouble. There will be many accidents. Keep up the rewards and stick with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:13 AM Flag
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^^^ also cut down on his juice/water consumption the first couple of days. If he's drinking a lot and has to pee a lot, it makes it harder. my ds trained in the summer, drank a can of gingerale the second day, and FREAKED OUT when he peed it out twenty minutes later all over himself and there was a huge puddle on the floor. Obviously was my fault, but he was traumatized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:16 AM Flag
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boys typically don't train until 3. mine trained in a day once he was 3, gl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:14 AM Flag
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Have as naked and underwearing a Summer as you can. Avoid pull-ups at all costs and let him try out daily life(with it's successes & accidents)with all the real circumstances. Have a consistent praise fund ready and prepare yourself to deal with some accidents, without projecting shame. By his age, it's often more 'convenient' for parents to not live a 'test flight', but it's the best way to help him develop higher awareness and have real control in listening to his body. He's got time before Sept, but start now, to allow time for the inevitable backwards steps. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:07 AM Flag
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Wait until August. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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my little brother started preschool at 2.6---not potty trained. Sent home. Next year started again in two-year old class. By this time he was a mature 3.5, potty trained, etc. skipped to 3 yr old class. Then skipped 5th grade, 8th grade. Went on to ivy education and happy work and family life. This stuff can drive a person crazy, Resist! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:55 AM Flag
[ - ] what can i get a friend for her 40th bday? nothing extravegant, looking for up to $50? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:38 AM Flag
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I would love a GC to sephora! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:45 AM Flag
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gc for a pedicure with reflexology [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:53 AM Flag
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OH, me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:00 AM Flag
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nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
[ - ] best place to get a decently-priced and good-tasting kids bday cake for 30 people with sesame street on it? in gramercy/east village, preferably. TIA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.12.09, 07:37 AM Flag
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google this. Newyorkmag did something on their site for kids bday cakes. unfortunately, you will find getting a character on the cake generally adds $25! Do you have any guests who live in the burbs? I eneded up getting a very reasonably priced cake from a bakery in CT near my mom. The city cakes all ran about $80 for a character and I needed a smaller one than you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:40 AM Flag
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I love Black Hound [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:28 AM Flag
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OP- me too, but not spending $150 on a kids cake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 12:04 PM Flag
[ - ] shopping advice please--my brother's getting married next month and i need a cute boy's outfit--any recs for special occasion infant wear appropriate for weddings--preferably online shopping. TIA 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:36 AM Flag
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i saw cute seersuckers i think it was banana rep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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it wasnt banana but i cant think of the other site but its one of those ..let me see if i can find it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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oh sorry just read it was an infant!...wow my mind is shot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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pottery barn kids has very cute and elegant clothes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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littleboychic.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:54 AM Flag
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An infant is never appropriate at a wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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I would have to agree with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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too bad i wasn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:33 AM Flag
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When my boy was little I brought him to several weddings in one of those "silk" Chinese sets. They are not too expensive and look great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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[ - ] re. the thread below, I can't believe people DON'T spy on their nannies and/or get a nannycam. Even though my mother has dropped by the park where ds was playing with nanny, and two SAH friends of mine who live in the hood have called to tell me they've seen her with him (and everyone has said she is amazing, plays with him constantly, full of songs and smiles), I STILL drop by home unexpectedly from time to time. I trust my nanny but why not by careful? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:36 AM Flag
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sorry, BE careful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:39 AM Flag
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ITA, I still check up from time to time for my own peace of mind, even though kids are now old enough to report on what they do during the day. I did it much more frequently when they were little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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nanny's with me for 6 months now (db is now 11mos). Never checked on her and never felt the need to. My daughter is happy, healthy and smiling when i come home every day and my apt is spotless. Maybe I am in the majority, and I consider myself fortunate that I would not want to nannycam her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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don't all the stories about bad nannies ever freak you out? I'm not saying your nanny is bad. Maybe I'm paranoid, but for a non-verbal child especially, I felt it was important to check. A clean apartment isn't indicative of good baby care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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I would not nannycam, but I do spot checks from time to time. With flexible job it is easy to do and gives me peace of mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:54 AM Flag
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I know what you mean, but I'd check anyway. DB is always so happy I'm certain she's great with him, but I'll occasionally go home early or ask a friend if she sees her. Doesn't hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:10 AM Flag
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^^ doesn't have to be nanny cam, just ask friends, neighbors, etc., how she interacts with your DC. Also dropping in early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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agree. find it amazing that people don't check up particularly with all the lousy nannies you see out there. but based on things I've read on UB, it seems like some people really don't care if their dc is strapped in the stroller for hours while their nannies shop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:51 AM Flag
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I check, all the time. Have a webcam and nanny cam. Ask my SAHM friends what they think of her, drop by unexpectedly. I love her but I'm sure everyone thinks their nannies are wonderful. I only work part-time so I take my son to classes where a surprisingly good number of the nannies seem awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:53 AM Flag
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We have a couple of those in the building. Maybe they don't qualify as awful, but it is glaringly obvious they don't like their job at all and never engage the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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You get what you pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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np: I don't think so really. A friend of mine paid really well and ended up with a really crappy nanny twice in a row. She just had hard time picking the right one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:58 AM Flag
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Define "really well". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:58 AM Flag
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The nanny cleared $700 a week after taxes for one child, which I consider quite good as they paid all her taxes and health insurance too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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Watch out; "You get what you pay for" poster is one nanny trying to justify $30/hr salaries. She posts on every nanny-related topic and is pretty relentless and unreasonable. Just don't engage her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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I think that's part of it. I have a friend who could not pay their nanny much and she definitely knows her nanny isn't the best. She has a very young child so I'm sure she'll do daycare when the baby is older. In my own experience, there was a HUGE difference between the nannies I interviewed who asked for alot of money and those who didn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:59 AM Flag
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UES manny here. You couldn't be more correct, sister. I'm with these dreadful fellow "nannies" all day and I'm appalled at what passes for "nanny" these days. When I was growing up they wouldn't have even been used as babysitters ... or HOUSE sitters, for that matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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Not for me. But I never cared for career nanny with years of experience under her belt, I prefer young energetic one that engages the kids. I don't care so much about cleaning and other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:04 AM Flag
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I do a lot of spot checks (and it's even better to send friends IMO so your nanny doesn't know anyone is looking), but something about a nannycam just kind of feels wrong to me. I can't explain why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:05 AM Flag
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I'm pretty well convinced my nanny is great from how well ds is doing. At 18 months, he talked in sentences, sang songs, and knew all his letters, colors, and numbers from 1 to 10. I never taught him a thing - it was all her. He has memorized books that she reads to him repeatedly (some that we don't even own). There is no way she ignores him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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Really? at 18 months? That seems a little unusual - your kid is probably just really smart. Not saying your nanny isn't great but I wouldn't give her too much credit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Joel Klein will be on WNYC radio in 5 minutes (10:35AM Thursday) (talking about Obama educational policies). You can listen on-line as well as on radio. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 07:30 AM Flag
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Just heard him and still HATE him. He totally ignores parents... Funny how the Fed is looking at NYC schools as a model. A model of what: uneven funding, too much testing, low graduation rates?! UGH! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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I am an involved NYC public school parent and still think that any chancellor would be a fool to listen to the loud UMC/MC parents. Most of his constituents are kids that no parents are speaking for, and his success is far more dependent on helping them than the UMC kids that have parents who make sure they will graduate and end up going on to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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Hear, hear! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:35 AM Flag
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keeping MC/UMC in the system is one of the best ways of improving the system [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:41 AM Flag
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not so far... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:42 AM Flag
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For those few schools which are in MC/UMC neighborhoods, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:59 AM Flag
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Exactly. Only works for a few schools. The vast majority of failing or almost failing schools have non-existent middle class population. And he can't be busing kids to South Bronx, so needs to come up the way to improve those schools with the families that attend them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:02 AM Flag
[ - ] sububrban mom with only one db-are you in the total minority? Am 39 thinking of moving to the burbs debating another db. Feel like I wil lfeel like an outcast with such a small family plus want a #1 to have a sibling. Anyone btdt? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:13 AM Flag
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If the reason you're going to have the child is so that you won't be a suburban "outcast", for the love of god, DON'T have the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:16 AM Flag
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well also because I always envisioned that the family would feel complete with a 2nd db. Just afraid I'd be overwhelmed with 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:18 AM Flag
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np; you will be fine with 2. how old is your dc? I had #2 when dc was 4yr old. SO EASY..no jealousy. I had #3 when #2 was 4 and #1 was 8yr...super easy and I was also 40 when #3 arrived [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:22 AM Flag
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db is 11 mos. Would start trying when she is about 16-18mos. FWIW, DH is very good at helping with db. although at that point we'd be in the burbs and he'd be commuting and not able to help as much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:27 AM Flag
[ - ] a classmate of my dc is moving to another state. we really like the family and want to get them something. any suggestions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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are the kids good friends? Get a nice pick of the kids together and frame it. Also maybe some stationary for the kids to write (if they are old enough). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:07 AM Flag
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We had friends in similar situation. Went to the MTA store in Grand Central and got a couple of compact umbrellas with the NY subway map on it, and also some magnets featuring NY well known buildings for their fridge. They loved them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:07 AM Flag
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ahhh, i love it. i will check it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:22 AM Flag
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what a nice idea. budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 07:16 AM Flag
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