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General Topics 08.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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4months [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 08.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Nanny been with us a year. We pay her hourly. What is an appropriate raise/compensation adjustment at this point? She is amazing and I want to treat her well, but still with room for advancement in the future... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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$1/hour is the standard...or give her alittle less + something else - like help out with her metrocard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] repost, sort of: any advice how to deal with my recently very difficult 5yo? Constant battle of wills. He's too big for me to toss him into a timeout, so he just refuses, I start threatening him with lost privileges, etc., eventually start yelling. It's a mess. I know I shouldn't yell, but any other advice would be a great help. This is only with me, btw. He's great in school and with other adults. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I posted to you below. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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I responded. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Do you follow through on the lost privleges? Supernanny would say you've got to keep putting him on the naughty seat every time he gets up. Don't say a word, just put him back down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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I do follow through. Up until recently, I could put him on our equivalent of the naughty seat, but he's really too big now to physically move him if he doesn't want to be moved. (I can do it, but it is a battle and really feels wrong, since I'd have to use more force than I'm comfortable with.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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That's hard then. I end up screaming a lot too and it makes me feel terrible. He doesn't mind if you take away something he likes or wants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Thanks again for responding. He is that stubborn. He minds, but it seems more important to him to battle with me than just give in. Today I explained to him how he would have been done with his time out in far less time than it took him to fight with me about it, and that he lost TV privileges too, but that logical approach doesn't work with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I wish you the best. I have no idea how to deal with that other than to google discipline. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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in that situation i threatent to take away a favorite toy for a day unless he sits in time out . usually works but have had to take away legos til morning -you would have thought I was killing him, but I stuck it out and now when i threaten toy removal he knows I mean ti. good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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I don't know what to tell you, but my five year old is like this these days as well.I am at the end of my rope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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At least I know I'm not alone! It helps to know that it may be in part developmental, and not just my lousy parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Mine, too. He's bratty, bossy, and battles about every little thing. Example: Me- "Please stop jumping on the bed." DS-"I can jump on it if I want to! I can do anything I want to!" He's lost toys, TV, other privileges, had timeouts, and I nearly spanked him last night for punching me in the face while play-fighting. I'm not sure where to go next with the discipline. I find myself being a lot meaner and louder that I like to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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do we parent the same kid? seriously...though I just started a job chart which has helped immensely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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What's on the job chart. How does it work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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it is a spreadsheet of everything dc has to do (make bed, set table, etc...there is an ear for listening, some sample of behaving nicely). dc gets a star for every day the task is completed whole day. started it this week and dc is like a new child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Sounds good. DS's misbehavior is more random mischief than refusing to do chores, but maybe I can adapt that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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it helped me to set more of a structure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I find distraction works really well. Now have 5-y-o DD (who is different), but when her brothers were younger, they'd want to pull me into a power and anger struggle. If I could step in in time to redirect and ignore ('could you water the plants?'), I could kind of switch the behavior off its track, if that makes sense. And I'd ignore the refusal to sit or take time out--just give consequence and end the conversation, so he's not getting more power/attention from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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thanks. That sounds good, especially the ignoring the refusal and giving the consequence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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don't yell. just remove privilege, i.e. dole out a consequence. no discussion other than stating the wrong and its consequence is needed. toughen up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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i find the whole "time out" thing ridiculous because you are right: it becomes this battle of wills. what is the point? not to punish yourself and escalate the tension, that's for sure. So I simply remove the privilege etc. as i posted above. the "time out" thing is overrated stuff that i find pretty impractical and NEVER do myself for that reason. I refuse to engage in power struggles over relatively simple punishments or lessons in how to behave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Toss the timeouts and loss of priveleges. Get down and just be with him, really willing to connect. Drop the agendas and expectations. This is no doubt a phase while he goes through a developmental shift. Love him through it, imperfectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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I read a good book recently called Scream Free Parenting. It was most helpful to me, library has it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:06 AM Flag
[ - ] 18 month old still taking 2 blttles a day (AM and before bed) we have tried to break him from this habit - but nothing seems to work - any advice. Dr. is stressing me out - says we have to get him off bottle - I don't understand why??? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 08.01.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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It's easier earlier than later (1 year is a great time). Why not just go cold turkey? He's old enough he doesn't need them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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ITA. cold turkey baby ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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its harder for you than for him to take it away. youll have a few hard days, but then it will improve and be like it never happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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I don't want to go cold turkey because he is under weight and needs the milk (we have to go to Dr. every 4 weeks for a weight check in) that is why the Dr. said I continue the bottle a little longer, but now he is 18 months and won't take milk from anything other than the bottle. He is great with a straw cup and drinks water all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Wait, the doctor does or doesn't want him on the bottle? Is he genuinely underweight/not thriving or is he and always has been small? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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keep him on the bottle. no issues other than the ones pointed out below. no big deal really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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i went cold turkey at 2 years. her milk intake went down significantly but by that age i thought it was ok. don't do it if you don't want to as long as he doesn't sleep with the bottle in his mouth and doesn't keep in his mouth for too long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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Dr. said it was OK to continue at 12 month and 15 month check up. His 18 month check up is coming next week and I'm pretty confident she will want him off the bottle. He has always been off the chart small - once he was in the 4th percentile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I posted to you above--someone has to be small. Is the doctor worried about his growth? People seem to think it's only good if their kids are over the 50th %ile on the chart, but that's not true. My oldest started not on the chart (preemie) then got up to the 5th and hangs tough between the 5th & 10th now (he's 6). He's handsome, smart, healthy, eats different foods, it's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Dr. not "so" worried - he has gained every month - he is just not as big as other kids. I'm worried only because I want to be sure he is getting the nutrition he needs. I'm worried if we take the bottle away he will not get milk and I know how important milk is at this age. Any advice... Anyone know why we have to get them off the bottle - I know of tooth decay, but we feed him the bottle and brush his teeth after he is finished so that is not an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Well, for one thing it is easier early on. And he doesn't need tons of milk. Does he eat cheese? Yogurt? They can get calcium from other sources. Too much milk fills them up and takes the place of real food. If he's just small then the issue is yours and you need to move past it, for his sake. I'd highly recommend Ellyn Satter's book, Child of Mine--lots of great advice for feeding (from bottles all the way to teen years). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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no issues other than tooth decay so if you're brushing etc., its fine. seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow. haven't been on since the redesign. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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You get used to the design, but so many people have left, it's really, really slow here. Stay around and keep us company, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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...what do you think? i kinda miss the times of postings, there's no organization...or anyplace for nannies to post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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I used to find the posting times helpful. It helped me decide if I should bother to join the conversation or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Settle an argument. Our child is extremely attractive. DH believes praising the child for their good looks is important and valuable. I think praising children for looks isn't healthy while praising them for their efforts is what counts. WDYT? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I think everyone likes being told they're pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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Absolutely, but I don't want to raise an arrogant kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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As long as you teach your child to appreciate things other than beauty, no big deal. Agree with above, it cant hurt to be told you are beautiful. if you resist that urge and suppress it youll create some other issues anyway ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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I think a reasonable parent can find a balance. You're clearly not entering the child in pageants, or setting looks up to be the only important thing. But a little kid (and a teen, and an adult) does like to be told "Don't you look great! You're so pretty/handsome/etc.." consistently. It's nice to hear. Just because you say this to your kid, doesn't mean that you can't say "Good job on that tennis game." They're not exclusive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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that's no reason to tell that to a child who doesn't understand concepts of beauty etc. i agree with op entirely. i would never tell my dd that she's pretty. have seen too many kids have issues because of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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you would never tell your dd that she's pretty? sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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you tell your 2 or 3 y/o kids that she's pretty and she'll think she's special or "better" because of her looks. there are 2 girls in my dd's pre-school class like that. really messed up. think they are "princesses" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I think you have confused a normal parent telling a child s/he is "beautiful/pretty/handsome/cute/adorable" for the actions of parents who say things like "You're such a princess - there's no one in the world as beautiful as you, you're prettier than every other child in the universe." There's a huge difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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maybe you're right. if its simply telling a child, you're pretty" but not emphasizing his/her looks too much and encouraging other qualities, its fine. i did assume that emphasis were put on the looks which will affect the child's self-perception and perception of others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I don't where you get the idea that kids don't understand beauty or don't like to be told they're pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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beauty is a complicated concept unless of course you mean that she's pretty because she has blue eyes and blonde hair. then its easy. otherwise, yes, 2 or 3 y/o don't understand beauty other than "barbie-doll" beauty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Unattractive kids are probably told their good looking too (because to their parents they are) I don't think it will give someone issues unless the whole focus of their life is on thier looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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I think it is fine to get some positive feedback for innate positives (being pretty, coordinated, focused, whatever). But putting too much emphasis on it and not enough on the effort or more character-based traits (consideration, kindness, diligence) isn't great. You need balance. I think about this a lot because my youngest is strikingly pretty and very charismatic. That parts a given--I want to cultivate all sides of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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OP here; Does it matter if I say that the child is a boy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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no, I don't think it matters. when you put your ds in a nice shirt or start out the day for school in clean fresh clothes, I see nothing wrong with saying, "Don't you look handsome!" or "This shirt matches your eyes." I don't think any reasonable person would say you should fawn all over your child constantly about his looks, nor should you shower your kid with false praise about his efforts, like saying "Great job." when he really didn't put in an effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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ok I agree with the attractiveness that comes with being healthy and well groomed. But DH tells DS about how the girls are going to be all over him, how lucky he is to be so handsome, etc. It freaks me out. My brother is extremely handsome and my mother was very careful to never comment on his looks. Consequently he is remarkably not-conceited (about his looks at least). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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can i just say that beautiful people know that they are beautiful and leave it at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I think this is a fake post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 10:42 PM Flag
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Of course you son is beautiful; he's your son. If he wasn't as undeniably 'attractive' to the whole world, you'd definitely be telling him he was beautiful. Why would you refrain in his case? My kid used the word ugly to describe the appearance of something for the first time, several months ago. I was heartbroken a little; Ugly had only be used to describe behavior- up to then. So your kid is pretty-So many kids are. Telling him you see it and all his other beautiful aspects is hardly unhealthy. Just don't pimp him out to the media or get caught up... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 11:10 PM Flag
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Waht I say to my dd is that she is beautiful in her own way. Her friends are beautiful, too, even though they have different hair color or skin color. Everyone is beautiful, including her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 04:34 AM Flag
[ - ] On day 22, typically have 28 day cycle, although last month was 30. TTC, when should I take a test? The box says 5 days before expect period. Suspense killing me, but dont want to waste my time and emotions! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 08.01.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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If you test early, you could get a positive and still get your period (which sucks, I've had that happen) so better to wait until the day of your expected period [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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wait - I dont understand -- why whould you get a false positive from testing too Early? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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I know what you are going through...I'm holding out too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] for bottle-feeding moms -- how many ounces does your 5m/o have each day? how much does he/she weigh? trying to figure out if my dd is doing ok. tia. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 08.01.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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What I'd say: is she healthy? Alert? Feeding? You're not forcing it? Let go of the numbers. This is the disadvantage of bottle feeding--you can see exactly how many cc's or ounces they're getting and get hung up on it. Can't do that with the breast (mine were bottlefed, for the record). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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i agree but can't help seeing that she's tiny in comparison to all other 5m/os that i see. she is otherwise healthy and alert though not much interested in feeding. getting an idea of other kids' feeds helps somewhat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I have smallish kids (oldest was a preemie). With him I had to monitor his intake the first few months so he got min. a certain # of cc's. But once he got big enough I was able to let it go. Just let her be. I think if you start out obsessing about her relative size and intake, it sets the stage for food battles later (I've seen moms I'm friends with do this). Some kids are big, some are small. If there's no one on the low end of the chart, there's no chart. Just let her eat and don't fret yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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ok. thanks all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How is it that I had so much patience with 5yo ds when he was little(r), but now I have almost no patience at all? I am really a sucky mom right now. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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I found with my five yo that I had to change my tactics. I had to relearn how to discipline him. Once I figured out what worked for him, things were much easier. I suppose that's how it is all the way until they're out of the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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what did you figure out? My ds has been so difficult lately. If I give him a time out, or want to send him to his room, he just says no. He's too big for me to pick him up and drop him in his room, so then it becomes a battle of wills, with me just yelling and upping the punishment (no TV, no X, no Y) till he gives in. It's absurd. I feel like an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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any help? I know it's pathetic, but I'm seriously losing my mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I'm not that poster (and I'm curious too). But my DS was very difficult at 5 (and stil can be at 6). One thing that has worked with him, when he is just really not civil or able to be around us, is to tell him that (calmly) and then stop talking altogether. I take him by the hand and walk him to his room and do it over and over until he stays there. Then when I go back in to get him, if he pretends to shoot something, or gives me lip, or anything like that, I just walk back out w/o saying a word. No attention at all for any of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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thanks. Sadly, walking him to his room won't work for my ds. I'd have to manhandle him in there, and that doesn't feel right to me. I do walk away from him, but that doesn't seem to have any positive affect, since he just goes about his business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
[ - ] someone sent me a word document that is ending in .docx instead of .doc and it seems that they have used microsoft word 2007...and i have MW 2003. it won't open! how can i get it to open on my computer? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Do you know the person who sent it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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business email so she is probably not available right now and i want to read it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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has to be resent. I cause this problem all the time. I always forget to convert before I send. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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If you're on a Mac, download NeoOffice (free). It will open word documents. Or I guess you could upgrade to the latest MW right now, and pay for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Happy World Breastfeeding Week! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 08.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] This year I made a request that my DS not be in the same class with another child. I have never done it before, but I used the "Mommy Card" and I feel very justified in having done it. OK. Today I get a call from the mom of the child I think is - shall we say - a bad match with my DS. She wanted to know why and what my reasons were. I don't know how she knows and I felt totally ambushed, but explained as politely as I could the reasoning. She called me "irrational and unkind" for having made the request. Do I call the school ? Find out how this happened ? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Just leave it alone. You made the request; they are honoring it. Pursuing it further will have you tagged as annoying, loony mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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i wonder though if someone was talking about it in the office and she overheard, if she was called in to talk about her DS's behaviour, etc. When I asked how she came by the information she said that the how wasn't important, and I guess it isn't, but i didn't appreciate the "out of the blue" call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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I would be curious too, and perhaps even angry, but I think it's better, nevertheless, to leave it alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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^^^btw, a friend of mine found out someone asked that her child not be in class with theirs. I believe the teacher told her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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np: I think you should keep a polite and very marked distance from this woman for the rest of your child's time in this school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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that will be a long time... if neither changes schools, we'll be together for another 8 years ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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it's what I'd do. I don't think you have much of a choice, really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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yes. I guess the strained "Hello" is going to be our thing. I actually think she's an OK mom, but clearly overwhelmed (3 boys and a snarly-seeming DH) but she gave me an earful. I actually wouldn't be surprised if regretted the call right about now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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so what's the deal with her dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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He is the "ringleader" or a group of four boys who spent last year cutting my son to the quick at every opportunity. Called him a nasty nickname, teased, etc and just made him very self-conscious and sad. I think it would be nice for him (my DS) to have a break from him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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curious, did you tell her ds had done? had anyone ever brought her dc's behavior to her attention? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I never confronted her last year and thought this would be painless. I know this has been voiced to her by other moms whose children had issues in the past. It's not something new to her. Maybe it was just the cherry on the top of something today, who knows ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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There was a kid like this in ds's class this past year. He really divided the kids. My ds was in his in group, and that bothered me more than it would have if he were on the other side. None of the other parents want this kid with their kid. Kind of sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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yeah. I know that these things change year to year and - like you - I told my son that I was proud of him for NOT being part of the pack if that's how they related to the others, but DS wanted to be liked and was regularly reminded that he wasn't... I also suspect that this boy is hearing the same things from his older brothers and he just spreads his upset around. sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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hope both these kids grow out of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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what's the "mommy card"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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we just call it that when you make classroom requests that may override the school advisory people. just a phrase... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Ugh. I feel your pain. There is nothing you can do. Whats done is done. She will of course hate you forever and probably talk nastily behind your back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Just drop it. I did something similar--mentioned to DS's teacher (when she initiatied a discussion of thinking it would be good for DS to have one or two friends from kinder in his 1st grade class) that it not be a specific kid. It didn't get back to the mom, but negative feedback from other families has, and I'm sure she felt an overall cooling off from the beginning of the school year. Maybe it will help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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There is probably nothing you can do now, but the school shouldn't have told her that the request was made. One of ds's friends in his class was bitten by another child, so they told the mom that he was bitten, but wouldn't tell who did that. The teacher said that they have told the parents and they didn't want other parents to be negative towards this child, which makes sense to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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but I don't know if the school volunteered that info. She may have heard from one person who shouldn't have said, she may have heard in passing in the office, I can't be sure. It isn't like the school to tell her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Forget it, move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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will do... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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Well, this stuff gets tricky. A large child w/physical compulsiveness(among other) issues caused injuries and other regular disruptions in my kid's class. One child was seriously injured and the parents chose to keep it quiet-to avoid ostracizing the child who caused the harm. This seemed odd, as the child that got hurt was very worried and spent the remainder of the year in fear. I heard the story -in detail- from the young child that got hurt. My own child was hit, pushed and afraid, yet encouraged to maintain a close proximity to the kid at the root of her fear- by her teacher. I lost any respect I had for her teacher when I discussed it with her. She point bank denied any of this was going on and questioned why my child had singled out this child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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out this kid, as though there was no basis for it. I tried the 'Mommy Card" and found my wishes had been disrespected by the teacher; They were pretty basic too. I encouraged well- supervised interaction between that kid and mine-but asked they not be seated together in situations which would prohibit escape for my child. This was a sweet, emotional kid who required more services, supervision and positive reinforcement than she seemed to be receiving in that particular teacher's rooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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>>so I'm saying: you did what you thought was best for your kid, the fallout is unfortunate but if it only gets as far as you-and not your child-then you did well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I hadn't even thought of the other mom telling her son that my DS didn't want to be in class with him... that would suck... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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We asked that our dc be separated from a particular child in his class this year. I don't think that it will ever get back to the mom of the other child that HER child was the reason, but she will know we asked to move - these situations are always tough. I think the only thing you can do is be polite and graceful, don't lie (the truth is always easier to keep up with) and be positive. The catch all phrase - we felt it was best for (insert dc's name here) is really all the infomation you need to give. Sorry for the stress, hope it works out great for you and dc next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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thank you. I was honest with her without being explicit or "then he did this and then he did that" and now that I reflect on the call (it was yesterday) I believe she may have been lashing out a bit at me for being the one (maybe the latest) to make her recognize an issue she may not want to have to confront. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Wow, I am posted and "experiment" yesterday and am amazed at the responses I got. There really are all types of people in the world (and on UB). BTW, the post was ECFS vs Anderson acceptance. Only 1 or 2 of you even remotely thought that post was a fake- you were right, it was 100% made up. I would never have held onto 2 accepts this long (I actually did not even have a dc old enough to apply for K this year- she will be in her 2nd year of pre-school in Sept). some of you really went- especially the mom who said I screwed her 99 across the board kid. ughhh. I can;t believe some of the responses. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.01.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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F-off freak. Get a life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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op; Why on Earth would you get so upset. It was and "experiment" and it obviously brought out the true feelings of most people. No harm done, like I said, it was fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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ITA with OR. You don't need to do a FAKE post to figure out what most of the women here are about. I think you need more to stimulate your mind if this is what you're spending your free time doing. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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your "experiment" does nothing but prove you're a complete tool. get a life. i hope your dd is completely screwed by the system in two years. that you wind up the bitter shut-out you seem to enjoy mocking so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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^sorry, meant for op. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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FWIW - I posted today that I could see where you were coming from - as it seems like an overwhelming decision. I am still wondering whether I made the right choice for DC. I hope in real life you have such great choices in the spring (or next spring depending when you apply out). GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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op: Thank you and best of luck to you. I am sure you made the right choice for your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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np: She was being sarcastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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do you feel that psychiatric help would aid you ? do you need more to do with your time ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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op: You fell for it, you are a fool too I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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I wasn't that invested in that thread, actually. But people like you are just annoying. Trying to rile people up just for the fun of it. You know that tensions & emotions run high around the school issue. Karma, baby. What comes around goes around, and you'll see for yourself in a year just how it feels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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I agree - your "experiment" was stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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I think that's fine if you are a zoned public school mom (I am, we didn't even apply/want G&T and liked our zoned school alot, which does not even have a gifted program, but does have lots of smart kids). But if you are thinking of applying to a gifted public/private school for your dc, I'd be afraid that karma would mean your dc was shut out so you'd know how people who responded felt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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You have no life, but, with that said, we were in this position (slightly different name schools), and we know 2 others also. So its not that crazy of a concept. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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omg, you are a nutcake. seriously [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I just became aware of your fake post, that you're now saying was an experiment. The findings are unanimous: It's clear you are an ass. Karma is a boomerang, Baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 10:52 PM Flag
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if you have enough time on your hands to post and watch a fake thread created with the impulse to cause a catfight, you certainly have enough time to do some good in the world. go volunteer at a shelter or a hospital... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 04:53 AM Flag
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So what was the purpose of your "experiment"? What was your hypothesis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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she wanted to see how many women it takes to send enough bad energy to one women to screw with her karmic possibilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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Interesting. You posted a fake story about a controversial issue and you got real, emotionally charged responses to it. Tremendous. Better not leave home today; you might be getting a phone call from the Nobel Prize committee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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I wish I had the free time you seem to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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Your experiment is pointless. I know people in the past who have had to choose between Anderson and ECFS, so why should anyone think that's an obviously false choice? The fact that you can mimic the sound of a real post.. it's pretty easy. I think you're an idiot to run an experiment that proves nothing other than it's hard in this forum to tell what's real and what isn't. You have to trust the other person is not lying in a significant way. Thanks for making that a little harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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It may not be long, before your belief that you'd "never hang on to 2 accepts for this long" smack you with more hubris than irony. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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* smacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.02.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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Why would you do this? you have problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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Did you read last weekend's NY Times Magazine. It had a very interesting article about internet trolls. You should read it. You will probably find yourself in that article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.08, 07:40 AM Flag
[ - ] I need a good place to have a 5 year old girls birthday party. Any ideas? Boys and girls will be attending. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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We had a party at bowlmor lanes and the kids loved it. The food they supply is crazy expensive (like $50 for chips and salsa), but order minimal adult food and bring your own cake and its manageable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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op; I just emailed them for more info. Do you have to use their food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Not for cake but for everything else and the prices are nuts. We landed up just getting pizza for the kids (included in the price and not bad), sliders, and one other thing that escapes me but was fine (maybe chicken). In the end they did not charge us per pitcher of soda as they said they would and we did not offer drink tickets to our guets for alcohol. The kids really enjoyed it as many had not been bowling before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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op: Great, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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The Queens Science Center does really nice parties. We have done several there (for our dd) and all the kids had a great time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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np--I think the name is the New York Hall of Science (in Corona, Queens), and I agree, the parties are nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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we had a dance party for our little girl. we had it all taken care of by a party coordinator who catered the party around my daughter and the copious amount of questions that we, the parents answered about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.06.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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why answer if you don't bother to read the question? She specifically said it's a co-ed party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.06.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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