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[ - ] WTF? The parents at my daughter's daycare are SO unfriendly. It appears people go out of their way NOT to look you in the eye, speak, or even acknowledge that you're both headed to the same room everyday. I could get one or two, but all of them. There's one parent that says hi, that's it. I'm not asking to be friends, I'm just used to acknowledging people when I pass them, when we're about to bump into each other at the door etc. Does this happen to others? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:13 PM Flag
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are they overwhelmingly east asian? (e.g. chinese, japanese) I experience that a lot with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:17 PM Flag
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OP: No, all are white. The only one that speaks to me I believe may be hispanic. However, I don't think race plays a factor here...but for the record we are black. I should be fair and say there is one other family that is really nice, talks about how their kid talks about our child at home etc. However, during a recent open house, it was so uncomfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:24 PM Flag
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are they the same parents as in your daughter's class at school? if so why don't you throw a small cocktail party for the parents of her classmates? you can't be mad at somebody you break bread with :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:28 PM Flag
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OP: Yes they are all in my dd's class. A gathering is a good idea. Here's something funny though, the really bad offenders, the ones that won't even speak to me when I say "Hello!" also have kids in the class that are mean (hitting other kids) and skiddish. Hmmm, I wonder if this is a coincidence? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:48 PM Flag
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I'm white and our daycare is like that also. Not sure why... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:36 PM Flag
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are you new there? when i first started at dc's daycare i felt like that and over time i found my friends and everyone warmed up. i think it was partly me, just being kind of nervous. i felt like it was my first time at a new school and it was cliqueish but actually not so once i got over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:36 PM Flag
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OP: Not that new. I also noticed during the open house, one woman who was really icy towards me, totally warmed up to another parent when she walked in. Introduced herself, laughed etc. I went on to talk with others, most of whom weren't in my dd's class. Odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Spence or Grace Church? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 08:10 PM Flag
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depends - where do you live, do you have a younger DS, do you mind / like the UES girls school scene [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:11 PM Flag
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Have a DS. Don't mind the location. Love both schools! Very torn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:13 PM Flag
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I was in the same situation as you - my dd got into both & we choose the one that is closest to us - far more important for your dd to have neighborhood friends & a managable afterschool life than the minimal difference between the two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:40 PM Flag
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i love both these schools as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:34 PM Flag
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Hmmm... I think travel time should be the deciding factor. It will feel great for your dd to be able to go to school by herself (or with a posse of friends) at a younger age... Also, you can still apply to Spence for 9th grade when Grace ends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 06:23 AM Flag
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Do you know that you are being accepted at both? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 06:23 AM Flag
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Grace Church is a more normal enviroment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 06:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Spence or Grace Church? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Ever feel like some of the posters here are from a different planet than you? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:01 PM Flag
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All the time. I have no idea what's with all the school stuff and weird topics but I feel out of place. I don't put much time in here so it doesn't always bother me but some people seem to be ruthless with no reason. Like they have nothing better to do then criticize people. A reason why I really don't ever want my dd on the computer because you never know. I only come on here occasionally to ask questions as a first time parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone think the cap in comp will change IB and trading jobs in that they will become less stressful, fewer hours and not involve the boss breathing down your neck for every trade? DH and I are both in finance and while we were initially worried about comps, the more I'm thinking about it, the more I feel (I'm pg now) I wouldn't mind it being a regular job without the constant pressure to make numbers. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:52 PM Flag
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really? I am in trading and have never had the boss breathing down my neck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:58 PM Flag
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I trade index options. Very liquid and very stressful. Esp when pg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:08 PM Flag
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gotcha. anyway, the hours are not so bad are they? 6 to 6 usually for me, which is nothing compared to i-bankers who make a comparable if not lower salary than us. for a while I was actually worried about the opposite effect - 24-hour markets. But now - I don't know - a little more relaxation would be nice, but would it help get our banks back on track? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:16 PM Flag
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The hours are MUCH better, but if I can get to work at 8, an hour to hedge before market opens, and get out at 6:30, wouldn't it be lovely. And I'm also a 2nd yr assoc--- so my boss still has a close watch on me. I'm never sure how I'll feel if the market/job changes. I chose this job, yes, but not the life. If they remove the bonus, no one is going to care about making tight markets. That's bad for banks' bottom line but also eventually bad for NYC's place in finance. On the other hand, the job will be a lot less stressful. I'm not sure I'll like that. I doubt anyone on my desk who is a director and up will work for $400k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:32 PM Flag
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this is the problem--let them go someplace else --what crap...........they wont work for $400,000!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:35 PM Flag
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I'm guessing you aren't OR. Yes they will go someplace else, or start their own shop. a) 400K is not that much for what they do because if they trade for a much smaller buy-side shop, they will still bring in millions for the firm and b) a compensation cap does not align the trader's interests with the firms. Its not a corporate job where you are rewarded for good performance... you are rewarded only for bringing in money. Anyway, I don't want to start this again. Its not the point of my post at all. I'm nowhere close to that mark, so I'll obviously stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:44 PM Flag
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whats OR? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:20 PM Flag
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true, but problem is there aren't many good exit opportunities right now. ibd, buy-side, and pe have been hit too, and it doesn't make sense to start a hedge fund in the current environment. what's left that uses a similar skill set? entrepreneurship or a corporate finance job? those would result in significant pay cuts too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:40 PM Flag
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maybe all these people should calm down and be grateful they have a job--especially one that pays 200-400,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:43 PM Flag
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Lost the post I was writing. I'm OP. Anyway, even without the opportunities, don't you think changing the compensation scheme changes how people behave on the desk? If you gave the car salesman a salary and not commission, wouldn't he sell fewer cars or at lower prices? I'm pretty sure a corp. compensation scheme will make my boss a lot less likely to live on antacids (and a lot more likely to let stressful trades just go). That means it changes the environment on the desk for all of us too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:50 PM Flag
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I tried. Almost died from boredom and came back to IB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of ERB scores do you need for Heschel? Seems very competitive -- so few slots, like everywhere else, I guess -- but feels like the Jewish Saint Ann's -- they see many people but don't really have places because of sibs and faculty kids hogging them all. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 07:42 PM Flag
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I don't see it as being insanely competitive. Obviously a select audience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:15 PM Flag
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I'd compare it to Town. Full up, but not top top top notch. One step down. Equivalent of UB Tier 2-3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:18 PM Flag
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Cannot compare a dual curriculum school such as Heschel to regular schools and UB tiers. Apples and oranges. You go to Heschel first and foremost because you want a dual curriculum and it is the priority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] PSD told that our top three are possibly maybe interested but didn't mention anything about the other 6. Does this mean she told them that they should focus on other children? Are they totally out of the picture? How does it work exactly? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 07:40 PM Flag
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We knew our fc very early on. Psd gave us "will accept" type feedback about that school and our 2nd choice, and really didn't want to discuss the other five schools (really, what's the point?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:54 PM Flag
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I guess because our positive feedback wasn't enthusiastic sounding and we are less sure about FC and liked many of the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:05 PM Flag
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If it wasn't "enthusiastic sounding", it wasn't positive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:08 PM Flag
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She's kind of like that though. Or am I deluding myself? She felt comfortable that he'd do well. Didn't get much more than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:14 PM Flag
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NP - if PSD said something along the lines of "I'm comfortable," you're fine. He will get one of the three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 05:42 AM Flag
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You'll get one of the 3. But why can't you ask her this question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have GEHA health insurance and OBGYN suggestions? Ideally NYU, but at this point anything would help. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 02.03.09, 07:37 PM Flag
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i have oxford and go to spring obgyn- they deliver at nyu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.10.09, 09:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Last year I was stressing like mad about the admissions. Dh just made fun of me and was difficult. We didn't get in - "too young" letters (late summer dc). This year I don't really care that much (barely enough to check UB for the news) but dh was a nutcase over the process: made me rehearse school interviews and personally checked what I am planning to wear to the interviews. I can make no sense of this reversal (both ways). 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 07:34 PM Flag
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are you getting good feedback this year? I am in your last year's situation right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:52 PM Flag
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I am not getting any feedback. Supposedly, same for most of the parents in our school. I don't really care though. I mean, I care, but I do realize that it is just completely blown out of proportion. So not worth it. It ruined my last year. What is funny that dh had a complete turnaround. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:57 PM Flag
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That is annoying. no feedback. Have you called your PSD? I do think it is funny your DH is stressing out this year. May be it will happen to me next year - how refreshing it will be! GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:00 PM Flag
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I sent email but the reply (even though very polite) made it clear that I am not going to get much info. BTW, I had tons of feedback last year, and it didn't make any difference (as you can see from the fact that we are reapplying) except for adding yet more stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:05 PM Flag
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Did you consider public school? if you did consider, why did you decide against it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:07 PM Flag
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See, I view this as a self feeding frenzy. Last year I didn't even think about PS - don't ask why. I checked it out this year, realized that it is a very good option (we are in a good school zone), and now totally considering it as an option. It was more about winning/losing the game last year, I guess. This year it is more about dc and quality of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:12 PM Flag
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That is a very good way of looking at it. We are in a shit zone. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:14 PM Flag
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NP - You get more feedback when things are going south. PSDs are fine with not giving you a preview of good news (as they should be, in my opinion), but they don't want you to be surprised by a shutout. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 05:43 AM Flag
[ - ] I decided to leave work and become SAHM if dc doesn't get into a good private. I make much more than the tuition difference, but I feel that I will have to supplement like crazy. And it has to be managed - I realized that it takes more than just providing the nanny with the list of destinations and schedules. Does anybody agree? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 07:29 PM Flag
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No. I have kids in public school and I think you're being reactionary and starting off with an attitude that your child will be wholly deprived. What happens when your dc is fine, at school 6 hours a day and you have nothing to do during that time and less money to show for it? I'm all for being there for your kids when they get home from school, but I think your desire to be proactive is coming from fear and not based in the reality of what a public school can offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:31 PM Flag
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How do you deal with after school activities? Do public school offer sports, music, etc? I just don't know. BTW, I didn't grow in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:37 PM Flag
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Our public school has chess, spanish, art and music (in K). Afterschool is amazing- too many activities for me to even begin to list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:47 PM Flag
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thank you. i didn't realize that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:51 PM Flag
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np - Before making any career decisions, maybe you should tour 41 and 3 and ask questions of the administration and the PTA. Don't you know neighbors or playground friends with kids at the schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:55 PM Flag
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not really, just recently moved to the city from Europe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:58 PM Flag
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Ask around. And try to visit the schools. Also look them up at insideschools.org - there are links to the schools' websites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:00 PM Flag
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np - What are your public school options? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:47 PM Flag
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41/3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:50 PM Flag
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ITA. Great response. Also, it's K! Why on earth would you want to put so much pressure on a 5 year old? He or she has a loooong childhood ahead of him or her; just let the kid be 5. You know, some kindy kids have (gasp) NO extracurricular activities and are allowed to just chill out and play with matchbox cars and polly pockets after school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 03:53 AM Flag
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op: It is a very good point. The problem is that dd is insisting on the activities. She loves her music lessons, sports, etc - would not let us skip it. I wouldn't push her if she didn't want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:46 AM Flag
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but why can't a nanny take her to these activities? its not like you are participating at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:48 AM Flag
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This is what I have been doing this year. But it is hard. You need to know what they are doing so that you can help, provide support or guidance. Complete outsourcing doesn't work at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 10:14 AM Flag
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Hmmm - I can't relate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:33 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 10:09 AM Flag
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oh grow up, in fact yes- give up tour job, there is someone out there who needs it better than you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:35 PM Flag
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sorry, tour job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:38 PM Flag
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your [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:40 PM Flag
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it might be true but I am not making my decision based on the community needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:43 PM Flag
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Most schools have good afterschool programs and this city is filled with every possible enrichment. But 5 year olds need downtime and hang out in the playground time too - especially when adjusting to being in school for most of the day (not just preschool/daycare). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:58 PM Flag
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The enrichment part worries me. It won't help my dc that NYC is filled with opportunities but I can't really take advantage of it because I am tied up with work most of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:02 PM Flag
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np - If you have a nanny, it's fine to send the nanny with dc to various classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:08 PM Flag
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Guess what? If you lose your income, there's a good chance you won't be able to afford all the opportunities that NYC is filled with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 03:55 AM Flag
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op: no, dh will take of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:41 AM Flag
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some men are gettign laid off these days too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:49 AM Flag
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no, independently wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:52 AM Flag
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FWIW at dcs' various lessons and activities, there are plenty of private school kids too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:09 PM Flag
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you are really crazy. First of all it's K. Secondly Public school is actually a lot more acedemic that private so if you want to suppliment anything suppliment arts and sports. I should know I have 1 child in public and 1 in private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:19 PM Flag
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You might want to note that PS 41 does not offer a foreign language during regular school hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 02:58 AM Flag
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most publics don't because many believe it's a waste of time and precious $$ at that age unless it's an immersion program. otoh, french is offered as an after school option through education francaise at ps41. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:52 AM Flag
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This sounds like it is more about you than your kid. Step back and think about it for a second: supplementing in K or 1st grade? That's insanity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 03:00 AM Flag
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OP mentions sports and music. It's nice when these are part of a regular school day for a child. Public schools are lacking in sports programs during the school day. Gym once a week isn't enough. Watching videos on cold or rainy days isn't the physical exercise kids need. Music in public schools can be better. PS 3 is said to have a great music program. As posters will note, music is often supplemented in public and private schools by 3rd grade or earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 03:21 AM Flag
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But there are plenty of afterschool options for sports and music. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:49 AM Flag
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I am with you. Only reservations would be 1) can you afford it? and 2) are you OK with leaving the workforce, becoming completely dependent on your husband? 3) can you go back to work later if you want to/ need to? Agree with the need to supplement, also to be involved in the school. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 03:33 AM Flag
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op: Money as such not an issue, dh is very well off. Being dependent on him is another matter. But then I choose between my psychological comfort and dc's. Regarding 3) - I don't know. Definitely will be able to come back, but doubt that on the same level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 09:10 AM Flag
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Level not so important IMO, as long as the job and skills don't dry up. I've worked part-time ever since I had a child, and don't regret a minute I've spent with her. Especially now that she's older -- i have such nice memories of picking her up from school and walking places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 10:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I decided to leave work and become SAHM if dc doesn't get into a good private. I make much more than the tuition difference, but I feel that I will have to supplement like crazy. And it has to be managed - I realized that it takes more than just providing the nanny with the list of destinations and schedules. Does anybody agree? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:27 PM Flag
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So you are saying that if your kid doesn't get into private, you are going to 'fill the big gaping hole' in his education by making him your next 'project'? I completely disagree. I've been home for 2 yrs now and I'm going back to work, but I see a lot of moms who gave up careers for DC. They just make their DC their project and its awful how they push their kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:38 PM Flag
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np- and their marriages fail because that is the only thing they can focus on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:41 PM Flag
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op: my marriage is not failing per se but suffers greatly because I am constantly torn between my career and dc. Things are way too stressful. Can count all the times dh and I fought who is taking dc to see the doctor because both have urgent job demands... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:33 PM Flag
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totally agree-these privates are not worth 35,000 a year. we are in top tier and i think its a big scam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:50 PM Flag
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So don't sign your contract; I'm sure there are HUNDREDS of kids whose parents would like to apply for your dc's spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:56 PM Flag
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we are doing just that................ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:01 PM Flag
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Which school (no need to mention grade) is a "big scam"? This won't out you as there will be kids leaving all schools this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:03 PM Flag
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i really think anyone is leaving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:26 PM Flag
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I for one applaud you for taking the initiative and raising your own child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:51 PM Flag
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troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:53 PM Flag
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Bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:10 PM Flag
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classy troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] why does it seem so hard to get feedback from psd. they don't call you, you just have to "run" into them at the right time. Seems random...and annoying. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 07:26 PM Flag
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ITA! I spend my days walking around and pretending I have a real purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:39 PM Flag
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Call PSD ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:52 PM Flag
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YOU call. And you make an appointment. How is this a difficult concept? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:02 PM Flag
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Or email. They are dealing with lots of families. If you want an update, ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:49 PM Flag
[ - ] “Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.” - Booker T. Washington 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:17 PM Flag
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I think this is really relevant to everyone waiting to hear if their kid got into the "BEST" school -- the ONE that will guarantee a path straight to harvard, or wherever. get over yourselves, the lot of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:23 PM Flag
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ITA, I was raised in a house with a very heavy academic focus (ivy all the way), I feel very strongly that it is a dangerous path to take with dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:26 PM Flag
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Yep, it's about the journey not the destination [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:23 PM Flag
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if uptight moms place child in a seatbelt on the "express train" to "success," is it really a journey? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:25 PM Flag
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^^^ or really "success"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:25 PM Flag
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There was a good article I read that parents today try to make everything too easy for their kids -- but growing up without struggling is really harmful for the psyche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 11:02 AM Flag
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where is the article? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 11:15 AM Flag
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[ - ] what is alternate minimum tax (amt) and who has to pay it? i've never seen this on our tax returns before, but see this yr amt of 1800$ and wondering what it means. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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once your income and certain deductions get byond a certain level, taxes are calculated two different ways, and you have to pay the larger amount -- i.e., certain deductions are capped. It's a bummer, because with gradually inflating incomes, more and more people are being hit with the AMT, which was originally passed to hit high income people with what were deemed "excessive" deductions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:19 PM Flag
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yeah, we make 200k, and have 40k in deductions. i was really expecting a decent refund, and now it seems this is not going to happen! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] just found out thru friend who works in ds's school that both his assistant teachers quit 10 days ago. ds is in k, and has been asking me since last wk where his teachers are, i've been insisting they are prob sick, etc. saw teacher and psd a bunch of times in last wk at drop off/pick up. nobody said a word to me, and it seems nobody said anything to the kids. am i right for feeling pissed? how would you handle this? i think it's a big thing for a k kid to lose 2 teachers in a wk. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:14 PM Flag
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I'd be TOTALLY pissed. They get attached to their teachers, they can't just disappear!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 PM Flag
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i guess if they quit they quit (though if they both quit the same day something must have happened!) but at least these kids must be spoken to, parents shoujld be told, etc. its like they are pretending nothing happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:17 PM Flag
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sounds like there may have been a blow-up with the psd, and she couldn't say anything beforehand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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but theyve been out since last monday. i spoke to psd today, and not a word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:17 PM Flag
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then she's keeping quiet for some reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:18 PM Flag
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you pay money for this school? hahahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:17 PM Flag
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its no joke. its been a huge disappointment since day 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:19 PM Flag
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care to name the school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:22 PM Flag
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wish i could, but no. but its not in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] was New in Town any good? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you choose ps 41 over Columbia Grammar if you lived next door to ps 41? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 07:11 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:13 PM Flag
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op: assume that money is not a decisive factor (not that I can't find a way to use it - save, for example). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:14 PM Flag
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yes. decent school. Columbia Gammar is a LONG HAUL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 PM Flag
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Columbia Grammar. Both solid schools but I still think you will do better in the long term with private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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I realize CGPS does not get high marks on UB but I would still take that school over PS41. There are alot of schools downtown though? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:20 PM Flag
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The only downtown we applied is Friends. Had to exclude others for various reasons. Not that many choices, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:21 PM Flag
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i vote for private but it depends on your dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:23 PM Flag
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You won't know if you get 41 or 3 until after have to turn down cg, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:38 PM Flag
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I guess so, but 3 is also good, and not that far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:40 PM Flag
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CGPS is a great school! Good academics and a great sense of community. It is only here in UB that Columbia Grammar get trashed, and only because it is not labeled as "TT"!! If you can afford private, go with CGPS (signed mom of K applicant with 99x3) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 06:41 AM Flag
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Your post would have way more weight if you were actually a parent at the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 06:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Instead of worrying about hurting anyone's feelings if they're not invited to a party, can we all agree to teach our kids that not everyone gets invited to all parties, and there are lots of reasons why that is? Come ON, people!!! No one had parties for 20 or 30 people when we were kids and somehow we all survived. good grief. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:10 PM Flag
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Please don't start this again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:12 PM Flag
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i'll start anything I want to. you're not the boss of me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:12 PM Flag
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hee hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:14 PM Flag
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i'm with or. stfu already. let's all simply agree to disagree and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 PM Flag
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I agree. Let's not sit here and complain about our kids not being invited to all the bday parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:19 PM Flag
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exactly. who wants the whiny bratty kids there anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:21 PM Flag
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or complain about those who complain about kids not being invited to.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:21 PM Flag
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actually growing up, until around 6 or 7th grade when we started with sleepover parties, we pretty much all invited the whole class. then again, nobody was having parties in museums and spas where you pay per person. parties meant a cake and soda and maybe pizza in somebody's living room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:22 PM Flag
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OP: Oh, I guess I never got invited to any of those really cool cake and soda parties. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:26 PM Flag
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Since no one said you had to have parties for 20 or 30 people, you are just trying to make an excuse for the fact that you are fine with your kid inviting everyone to the party except the 1 nerdy girl from class. I don't care, even if I'm the mom of the nerdy girl, but yes, I do think less of you and realize you are passing on your unkindness to your kids. I hope my kid never attends a school with kids of parents like you. I just don't want them to influence my dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:27 PM Flag
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Oy gevalt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:29 PM Flag
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Sorry. My dh has his own company with 75 employees. He'd never invite half of some department to some special event. He might take a few out to lunch or invite everyone to a company party, or do something for all the employees in one department. Hey, I know it's unusual to find a company run with kindness, but his employees love it there. I know in your world, a company should be cutthroat and yes, most are run with the same values parents who think considering other kids' feelings are "hypersensitive". That doesn't mean that some of us can't live our lives with different values and teach our children to do the same. Get used to it, since we aren't going away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:34 PM Flag
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^^^to clarify, dh runs a very successful business and is sensitive to the feelings of his employees. No, he can't make everyone happy, but that doesn't mean he shouldn't try to do things to minimize hurt. Most companies could care less about this and say, as many of you do: "you can't avoid all hurt, so why bother to try?" I want my dc to have the same values as their dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:40 PM Flag
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I think you or your dc got your feelings hurt. this feels way too personal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:48 PM Flag
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Feel free to think this is about me if that makes you feel better. I just don't understand why it's so hard for you to believe people can actually try to be considerate of other people's feelings, especially kids. I'm responding to everyone who says parents who are this way have something wrong with them. Sorry, but when I hear people disparaging someone for being kind, I do take it personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:54 PM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:35 PM Flag
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All the more reason why we should just put an end to this party nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms who work part time - how did you go about finding part time work? I have an ivy league MBA and am looking for a part time job in marketing. I am hoping to capitalize on the bad economy in the sense that I don't need benefits etc but companies still need workers. Any advice would be much appreciated. TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:09 PM Flag
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I'm and MD so easy enough to get per diem or moonlighting gigs. I have a couple mba friends who work pt but all transitioned from ft to pt within the same company after they have already established themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:10 PM Flag
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