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[ - ] i think i need a kick in the pants. our income is going down to lower middle class but i don't want to live the lower middle class lifestyle. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:38 AM Flag
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kick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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define "lower middle class" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:43 AM Flag
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take home pay is being halved. i'm going to have to find a new job. but meanwhile i'm struggling between cutting expenses to save money or living the way we are living b/c we have the money now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:48 AM Flag
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I don't think anybody really wants to live the 'lower middle class life-style' including the people living it. whether it's temporary or has been their way of life for years. I am 'middle class' but I am happy because I would hate to spend my whole life wishing I had more, I'm going to be happy for what I have (a healthy loving family, food on the table, and roof over my head) and thankful instead of being sad for what I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:52 AM Flag
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i know. i'm just debating between taking dc out of her daycare while i'm out of work. i did get severance so we can afford it. but i think the responsible thing would be to keep her at home. why pay extra when we'll need it later one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:04 AM Flag
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You make it sound like you have to embrace NASCAR and cozy up with a Coors. This is where the UB tendency to dictate class solely via income is shown to be ridiculous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:08 AM Flag
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sorry. didn't mean it to be a class issue at all. meant it to be an income issue and the things a higher income can buy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Slightly random, morbid question: For those of you without sisters, just sisters in law, what will you do with your mother's jewelry and things when the time comes? Do you expect to get everything? Share a few key pieces but keep the bulk? Or share equitably? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:37 AM Flag
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why would you give a sister in law your late mother's jewlery? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:39 AM Flag
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Because brother should get mementos too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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ok - share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:42 AM Flag
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OP: Exactly. But I can't get my head wrapped around the idea of sharing equally. I helped my father design or pick the bulk of that jewelry, or went with my mom to get things reset. It's been something we've done and shared together. Neither my brother or sister-in-law have ever been a part of that and I'm feeling like I don't want to give such a large part of my mother or our shared experiences away. Yet I wonder if I'm just being selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:43 AM Flag
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i posted below. my dad got some of his mom's jewelry and i have a piece and my sister has a piece. it's very nice for us to have that connection to her. and it enhances the heritage of my father as well. it's normal to feel an attachment but not healthy to feel a possessiveness over your mom's jewelry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:46 AM Flag
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np: what a great way to help your nephews and nieces appreciate their grandmother... "I remember going with Nanna to this little shop in the East Village where this man reset the stones for that ring your mom is wearing. He had a Persian cat and Nanna just thought it was the most delightful animal... After we left there we went to Katz's for pastrami. What? you have never been to Katz's. OK, next Sunday, family trip to Katz's..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:01 AM Flag
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np dh: If I were in this situation, I would expect that my daughter and my wife, with the expectation that it will later go to the daughter, would get some of the jewelry. I would not expect, request, or care to get an even division. I think my wife would feel the same, except maybe she wouldn't expect or ask to get any at all, but would want daughter to. But that's just me and my wife. YMMV with other guys and their wives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:08 AM Flag
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my dad has one sister and a lot of brothers. each sibling took the same number of pieces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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I'm an only child, so will probably take everything. I'll offer some to my aunt, and keep the rest. I have 1 ds by the way, so can't even pass along to any daughters. This is a sad, sad question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:42 AM Flag
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It is sad. See above and you'll understand why it's preying on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:43 AM Flag
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In that case, I would take charge of it - take everything and offer a few pieces to brother/sil. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:46 AM Flag
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So what? You will get half of it. Do brother/SIL have children? I am sure they would love memories of their grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:59 AM Flag
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why would a sister have more claim to mom's jewelry than a brother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:44 AM Flag
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np Because a brother can't wear it. Obviously the mother's decision, but I would keep all jewelry if I were in this situation and it was left to me. Especially if my brother hadn't been married for long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:57 AM Flag
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Odds are it would not be all left to you, siblings normally share estate. And your brother may well have a daughter that would love to have a piece of grandma's jewelry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:00 AM Flag
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OR (and a dh) I only have brothers but I would fight you on that one. I remember going to Tiffany with my dad several Christmases. Especially the year we went to pick out my mom's onyx necklace and ring. That was the day I started shopping for engagement rings. I would love to see my wife in some of my mom's stuff. (In truth a lot of it I would not care about because I have different taste than my mom/dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:06 AM Flag
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np: ITA, I assume my brother and I would get same amount. My brother has a daughter so it would go to her eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:57 AM Flag
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I was amazed to get a diamon ring when dh's grandmother died. Didn't expect it (we had been married a short time). But I've always been very grateful. I loved his grandma and I wear the ring quite often. It reminds me of her. When dd is old enough, it will go to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:57 AM Flag
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I'm surprised at these responses. When my dh's grandmother died, all the jewlery went to dh's mother, except one piece to each granddaughter (dh's uncle had 3 dds). Dh's uncle didn't get anything, and while dh's sister got some, I certainly didn't, nor did I expect to. When dh's mother dies, that jewlery will largely go to dh's sister, with probably one piece to my dd. And when my mother dies, I certainly don't expect to be sharing anything with my SIL (although she has my mother's engagement ring already) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:14 AM Flag
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My grandmother just distributed all of her jewelry a couple of years ago. She gave most of it to her 2 daughters and granddaughters but did give her daughter-in-laws some with the intention that they would eventually give it to their daughters. You could do the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:19 AM Flag
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i think it's incredibly selfish to say that it should all come to you. if you are so sentimentally attached to it, have it appraised and let your share of the estate consist of the jewelry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:19 AM Flag
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Has your mother recently passed or is she extremely ill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:32 AM Flag
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Isn't this your mother's decision? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:22 AM Flag
[ - ] ugh my nail just broke low only on 1 side...what should i do? file it down? ouch 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:35 AM Flag
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file down and then do the rest short. makes typing strange for a few days but they grow back... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a sense of whether there were many private schools that over-enrolled their K classes for next year? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.12.09, 09:35 AM Flag
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since most schools went to their wls, that doesn't seem liklely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:36 AM Flag
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how do you "most" schools went to their waitlists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:37 AM Flag
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UB reports of getting of wls [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:40 AM Flag
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right. very reliable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:43 AM Flag
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and yet you are asking the same source to confirm your hypothesis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:44 AM Flag
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I heard from a reliable source that several schools added classes this year because they are concerned about significant attrition from economic fallout so they intentionally overenrolled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:00 AM Flag
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Most schools just don't add classes. It's about available space and many are already bursting at the seams. Overenrolling by a couple of kids is one thing. Adding entire classes is something entirely different. Doesn't sound like much of a source. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone with a Freshdirect code? thx. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.12.09, 09:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Madoff Ordered to Jail Immediately Following Guilty Plea 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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unless they order him to direct them to the overseas accounts where he stashed the dough for his complicit wife and sons, they didnt do enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:33 AM Flag
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Get serious. Do you really want your kid speaking with an accent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:31 PM Flag
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sorry wrong post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to confess . . I didn't think I was capable of it . . . but I totally cheated. It was hot and awesome. Please don't tell me how selfish and destructive it is - I know. Anyone on who can relate? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:27 AM Flag
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why? so you can justify it? brush me off as being a fuddy-duddy? give you a thrill all over again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:29 AM Flag
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no . .. I am dying with no one to tell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:31 AM Flag
[ - ] what do you write in a decline letter? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:25 AM Flag
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You decided to pursue other options and want to release the place to another child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:26 AM Flag
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write it as a business letter type of thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:32 AM Flag
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can't you just call? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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just call, it will release the spot sooner for someone else and the school will appreciate it - all they are likely to ask is where you've decided to send dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Would Bristol and Levi have broken up if Sarah Palin was our current Vice President? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:15 AM Flag
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They named the baby Tripp. What a freak show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:16 AM Flag
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A teenager that got pregnant is such a shock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:25 AM Flag
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Probably not because he'd by famous...by association. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:22 AM Flag
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noooooooooooo way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:34 AM Flag
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THEY BROKE UP??? I'm shocked, shocked I say! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone tried Dr Lu, acupuncturist? would it even help with a dh with extremely low sperm count? i was told that chances of conceiving through ivf is very low... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:10 AM Flag
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With a low sperm count they would just use the ICSI protocol and your chances of success with IVF would be similar to anyone's. Unless there is more of a problem then just the low sperm count. How is your egg quality? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:13 AM Flag
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She's right. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] that perennial: Do you tip haircutters who are also proprieters of the shop?? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:09 AM Flag
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no. I don't. except if I go around Xmas I bring a bottle of wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:10 AM Flag
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Don't tip the shop owner. But the previous post is right about a gift if you are there around the holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:45 AM Flag
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I go to a small local place and do tip the owner. He's a business owner but also works for a living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 12:06 PM Flag
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and gets a percentage from everyone else in the shop. Still, I'm sure he's happy to get the tip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] was preschool admissions easier this year b/c of the market and ppl not being able to afford it? i heard all the stories about how hard it was to get into preschool, and dc was admitted just about everywhere we applied (we're on uws and limited to west/upperwest schools), even the so-called competitive schools. we sent no fc letters and did no legwork apart from applying and attending the required parent interviews, and we have no connections. (except not admitted at claremont.) i'm not trying to be smug at all--i just wonder if the so-called competitiveness of the process is concocted to make parents crazy and psds kings for the day. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:06 AM Flag
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We admitted to 2 out of about 14 UES schools. Mostly waitlists. So I'd say the competitiveness completely lived up to its reputation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:11 AM Flag
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Congrats to you. It wasn't like that for everyone. Still very competitive. Was happy to get 1 accept amid the WLs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:48 AM Flag
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which schools? also applied uws and got 3 accepts, 2 w/l. did you f/c claremont? i think that is the hardest one to get into now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 11:57 AM Flag
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We got rejected from Claremont even though we fc-ed (or I should say never got off the wl). What makes you say that it is the hardest one to get into? Is it based on some anecdotal evidence? What have you heard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 06:10 PM Flag
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np: We have friends there who told us they got well over 100 fc letters for about 40 spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 07:32 AM Flag
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do you think that is different, more, than other preschools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.13.09, 10:20 AM Flag
[ - ] I am so sick with a young child under four and three months to go of the pregnancy. I don't know how to keep going some days. Hyperemeisis, hypertension, headaches, nausea, bedrest. Any words of wisdom? I feel like I want to just die sometimes. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 03.12.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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Right now your just overwhelmed but it's normal. It sounds like you have a lot to deal with. Just hang in there. It will all be worth it when you hold your baby for the first time. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:26 AM Flag
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It is horrible . . . totally understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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take it one day at a time. or even a half day at a time. is your 3yo in school? do you work? are you bedridden? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 09:29 AM Flag
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I was in the same boat as you, do you have any family around to help? Let dc watch tv. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.12.09, 10:22 AM Flag
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