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[ - ] I'm nine weeks pregnant and had one glass of red wine last night and am really stressed about it. I'm a banker, it was a closing dinner, all men, and I didn't want to out myself. I feel so, so bad about it. Do you think I did any damage? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:02 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:03 AM Flag
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nope. your stressing about it may be worse than the wine itself. relax :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:03 AM Flag
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you and baby will be fine. discuss with obgyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:03 AM Flag
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I had just seen my OB that day and she said no alcohol. Just in giving me the rules of what I could and could not do - not that I asked her specifically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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well, one little glass is not harmful. just don't do it again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:05 AM Flag
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no, I'm sure your fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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no. chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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I'm just so, so worried about miscarriage... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:05 AM Flag
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you are OK-our parents drank throughout their pregnancies. Don't do it again but you are OK!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:16 AM Flag
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one glass is not a biggie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 AM Flag
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Not a big deal, but in the future, you could get away with ordering wine and sipping without actually drinking. No one really notices (except maybe other women trying to scope out pg women. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:16 AM Flag
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Thanks. I have another closing dinner next Tuesday and am already stressing about what I'm going to do at that one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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No problem. It's normal to stress especially with your first. I am a coffee addict and with db#1 I cut coffee cold turkey. Didn't even drink decaf except on occasion if I was really exhausted. This time around, I'm doing a cup of decaf a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:55 AM Flag
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No, but why do you have to pretened to drink? You can have one glass of wine. But is there pressure to drink or what? What if you just did not want to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:51 AM Flag
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I just don't want to out myself and if I didn't drink, they'd all be telling everyone I was pregnant the next day at the office. Even if I wasn't! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:57 AM Flag
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No... I'm in the same exact situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:51 AM Flag
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Even my OBGYN, who is very conservative said 4-5 glasses of wine over the course of your entire pregnancy won't hurt the baby. Just don't make a habit of it, and you'll be fine. If you have an amnio, they actually tell you to have 1 glass of wine for the cramping (at least some doctors). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:18 AM Flag
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[ - ] morning ladies. I reached a plateau. I don't care if dd gets in anywhere on Feb 13th. She's going to be a cool, smart kid with lots of friends and interests no matter where she goes to school. This is not a rationalization- I really just turned a corner on this and am totally relieved. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 02.03.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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keep telling yourself that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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OP: Believe me, I've spent the past few months stressing and increasingly have become less and less stressed about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:08 AM Flag
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good for you. i'm lurking b/c i'm a year out. i have to say, i hope at this point next year, i will be as sanguine as you. clearly, i'm not starting there! i hope things work out for you next week! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:39 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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You are in a good place and have a good head on your shoulders. It's important to keep reminding yourself of the fundamentals as you go through this process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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Good for you. You're totally right by the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:13 AM Flag
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as they said in the film "Meatballs", IT JUST DOESN'T MATTER! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:14 AM Flag
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:-) i love that movie bill murray at his finest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:23 AM Flag
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I know - me too actually. I toured our PS and loved it. thinking now, what am i doing? it's so much more convenient, is FREE, seems pretty great actually. and I am really confident that my kid is going to get in - and probably will - and now am really torn about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 AM Flag
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what's your PS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:20 AM Flag
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PS 9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:32 AM Flag
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Op: I know! Now I am torn too. As we are getting closer to the date of reckoning I am mourning the experience of going to the local school with all our neighbors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:24 AM Flag
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why are you so confident that dc is getting in? feedback? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:35 AM Flag
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probably deluded... but I just feel good about it. no feedback at all - at an ongoing preschool, so we won't get any from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:44 AM Flag
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I am sure you are not deluded. You probably are confident because you know your dd has a good package. I feel the same way. We don't need feedback to know that we have great kids! I think schools will be lucky to have my ds at their schools. They should know!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 11:06 AM Flag
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aww... that brought tears to my eyes. GL to you whatever happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 11:11 AM Flag
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and you know what is so crazy? we all have these incredibly great kids - but there are so few spots available. so it really is a crap shoot more than anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 11:13 AM Flag
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Yup. Did the same two years ago. DD is happy and in good hands in our zoned public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:16 AM Flag
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You are right, depending on what the goal is. I think some people here believe the ultimate goal is social status, in which case they are probably right to conclude that all of these little milestones of social status are crucial. On the other hand, if a well-rounded, well-educated adult with healthy social relationships and good values are what matters in the long run, then 'getting into the top Law school, which means first having gotten into the top Kindergarten' is really a stupid way to go through childhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:18 AM Flag
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I got into the top law school despite my "sub par" education (public elem - public HS - state U), so even if that's your goal, the top K isn't really a requirement! :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:40 AM Flag
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also true! (yes, but you don't have the social connections, dear!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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I think that's great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:19 AM Flag
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Good for you!!! I think the same way but still cannot get away from this stupid K obsession. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:26 AM Flag
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it's hard cuz everyone wants what's best for their kid, and there are so many unknowns. But we have been really happy with our decision to go and stay public. dd is now in 10th grade and doing really, really well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:29 AM Flag
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which schools all the way through? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:31 AM Flag
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150, then PPAS (6 through 12) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:36 AM Flag
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Sing it sista- I'm going through the nursery school process now and can't believe how many unknown variables there are for us- that are beyond my control- this made me rational- we're on wait-list for daycare in the fall- it's all about socialization at 3- not whether or not they have music and multiple language courses. I still applied to 6 schools mind you, but.... my gut is screaming at the insanity of it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:29 AM Flag
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Good for you, and even better for your dd! That's a great place to have gotten to. My dd is in 2nd grade and I only recently reached that point. You're way ahead of the game! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:41 AM Flag
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This happened to me too. Can't say why exactly. Some of it is disgust over the process, even though we had a great experience (lovely interviews, fun seeming playdates). Just tired I guess and perhaps ambivalent about private school environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 11:00 AM Flag
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exactly. I agree 100%. still a bit stressed about it but thinking it is all so crazy and we'll be just fine whatever happens, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 11:10 AM Flag
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I don't actually beleive you, but I am glad you are at this place right now. I'm not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 11:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it ok for k'ers to give kisses (pecks on the cheek) to each other in school? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 02.03.09, 07:00 AM Flag
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imo, no. if i saw my dc do that, i'd explain that it's not appropriate and he/she shouldn't do it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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why? what's wrong with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:08 AM Flag
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would it be appropriate for two ten year olds? i wouldn't have a problem with a 2yo doing it. but i think by the age of 5, kids should start learning appropriate behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:11 AM Flag
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np:I don't think a kiss on the CHEEK is inappropriate, and in fact, in many cultures it's quite normal. Just like as adults we greet each other with hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:15 AM Flag
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good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:31 AM Flag
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or, in many cultures, kisses on the cheek as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:33 AM Flag
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freak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:23 AM Flag
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of course it's okay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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it's fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:10 AM Flag
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as a parent, I would be fine with my dc receiving a kiss. Some schools strictly forbid it though (punishable by a time out) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:13 AM Flag
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public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:31 AM Flag
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catholic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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figures [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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as a catholic, I reluctantly agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:09 AM Flag
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which school? my niece attends catholic (ny) and teachers are pretty relaxed about the kissing thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:17 AM Flag
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on ues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:27 AM Flag
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I greet many people with a kiss on the cheek so it would be confusing if I told my child not to! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:34 AM Flag
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Perfectly fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:39 AM Flag
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my 4yo ds kisses his friends in school---male and female. i also kiss my friends when i see them. male and female. it's all good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:40 AM Flag
[ - ] How much did you give away to charity this past year? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:56 AM Flag
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50k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:56 AM Flag
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give away has a very odd connotation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:57 AM Flag
[ - ] when are we going to hear from Doe re. OLSAT result. anxious parent. tia 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 02.03.09, 06:55 AM Flag
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The DOE purposefully leaves it vague. They will say things like "April" or "early April." Then they blow the deadline, and a week or so later, they will make a new announcement along the lines of "early May." Be prepared for delays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:06 AM Flag
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If you are so anxious, why not check the DOE website or insideschools.org? You would learn that the results are due to be mailed out April 6. I would chill out, because last year there were a number of delays. What's done is done, there is nothing you can do. Who cares really? It's a public school, there are lots of good publics in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:10 AM Flag
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As a btdt parent, I recommend just forgetting about it and get off this site and insideschools.org -- all it does is generate anxiety and the testing/placement process something you cannot control anyway. You will learn score and placement in due time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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Awww. So cute. That deadline is sure to be blown. Have been through the process 2x and it's a new game every time but the only consistent thing is the way they never meet their own deadlines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:50 AM Flag
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Big deal! Not really worth mentioning now is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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The fact is, one must wonder about an entity that cannot even meet its OWN deadlines time and time again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:08 AM Flag
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Just because the DOE messed up a bit with the deadlines does not mean they are going to do it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] What are people's thoughts/opinions about joining a country club? Would you do it? Why or why not? I am just sort of taken back by the whole admission process..... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 02.03.09, 06:54 AM Flag
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I grew up at a country club but it isn't one that was very stressful. I would love to join but it's an hour and a half from the city. It's gotten very family friendly. It gets a little gossipy there, but my parents always have had so many friends, things to do (family events, golf, cards, tennis, swim, dinner parties, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:58 AM Flag
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-- I mean, the admissions procss isn't stressful. You just have to show you've given to charity and stuff. The recession is hurting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:59 AM Flag
[ - ] are most of you talking about preschool or kindergarden? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:53 AM Flag
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both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:53 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone have nanny recommendations? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:52 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:53 AM Flag
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yes - email me at neshwas@hotmail.com for details [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:52 AM Flag
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full or part time? where? nyc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 04:07 PM Flag
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yes what are you looking for?please email me at richardsphyllis@yahoo.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 08:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone bathe their newborn in a small basin on the floor instead of a sink or tub? It seems so dangerous lifting a wet, soapy baby out of a tub or down from a kitchen counter. I'm looking for safe suggestions. Thanks! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:38 AM Flag
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nope. sink, then tub. just rinse soap off before you lift. you'll be fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:45 AM Flag
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We used a baby tub in our bathtub [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:47 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:57 AM Flag
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DD is older now but we just put the baby tub in the tub. I am not sure how we could drain the baby tub otherwise -- it gets really heavy -- and the bathroom floor is just as hard as the tub. We just used to do it together and pass the baby carefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:51 AM Flag
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I put the tub on the floor with a towel under it and sat on the ground. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:51 AM Flag
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first kid, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:56 AM Flag
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yeah- first baby. she's 2 and a half weeks old. our bathtub is a very high claw-foot tub, and we're terrified of lifting her so high to get her out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:05 AM Flag
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i hear you. it's hard with such little babies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:10 AM Flag
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I use the Safety First tub on the floor in my bedroom. I was afraid of dropping her, so that is why I decided to do it on the floor. Furthermore, by doing it in the bedroom, I can turn the heat up and make it nice and toasty for bathtime. She loves it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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so you just fill the Safety First tub using pots of warm water? that sounds like a good idea.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:06 AM Flag
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Bathe with your baby: wonderful together time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:05 AM Flag
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Eurotub [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:06 AM Flag
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yes, we had minitub on a towel on dining table. It was easier on our backs, and was right by the heater in the winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:07 AM Flag
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We used the kitchen counter. Worked fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:41 AM Flag
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I understand how you feel because its a first baby, but in my case I also had a back back at that stage and was still recovering from delivery, so not fully in control of my body. So bathing ds standing up was more stable and I had a surer hold. With baby on the ground and bending over, I was more likely to fall over or let baby slip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:53 AM Flag
[ - ] What's the deal with Babystyle? Are they out of business? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:38 AM Flag
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Looks like it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Just wondering when is your spring break and where are you located? (My kid's is March 16-27 in NYC.) Trying to figure out where to go... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:38 AM Flag
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same date, going to Mexican Riviera (Playa del Carmen) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:55 AM Flag
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just curious, public or private school? 2 weeks seem kind of long, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:55 AM Flag
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private. They get two weeks in a row rather than one in Feb and one in April that NYC public gets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:51 AM Flag
[ - ] anybody besides me still have an interview left? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 06:38 AM Flag
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Nope. Where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:38 AM Flag
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it doesn't matter where. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:45 AM Flag
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we do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:53 AM Flag
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st b's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 07:59 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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I know someone with a Riverdale interview on Thursday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Off school topic (but school age topic): At what age does a child typically learn to ride a 2 wheel bike without training wheels? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 06:28 AM Flag
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around 4-6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:31 AM Flag
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Taught both our kids at 4. Boy and girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:41 AM Flag
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my 7 year old is still using training wheels, but she only uses her bike a few times a year, so I think she is very late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:41 AM Flag
[ - ] my nanny just called to tell my dd's highchair fell over with her in it. !!! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:26 AM Flag
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is she ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:27 AM Flag
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my nanny thinks so. i'm just so worried and mad at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:28 AM Flag
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What kind of high chair do you have?? So scary - hope your little one is okay! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:30 AM Flag
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of course, I'm sure dd is ok, but I totally can understand. accidents happen and it could have happened while you were there. She was responsible enough to call you. Is there any way you could run home fast to see her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:30 AM Flag
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who are you mad at? the nanny? accidents happen,it could of happen with you,just make home baby is okay when you get home and ask nanny to monitor baby's behavior throughout the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.04.09, 08:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Heard Diversity is the first thing to be tossed out the window when times are financially tough. Do you agree? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:13 AM Flag
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Where'd you hear that, here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:17 AM Flag
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Elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:18 AM Flag
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If by "diversity" you mean "FA applicants," I'd say it makes sense. It this environment schools probably need to save their FA for current families. But diversity applicants who can pay full freight are still going to be very attractive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:22 AM Flag
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absolutely-there just arent very many [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:25 AM Flag
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This is why there should be an independently financed scholarship fund for needy applicants. If the schools didn't have to worry about providing FA, diversity applicants would be on more equal footing in the application process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:30 AM Flag
[ - ] So let's say you really like School A and think it would be a great fit for dc. However, you've gotten no feedback from School A and good feedback from School B, also a good school but maybe not as good a fit. What do you do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.03.09, 06:09 AM Flag
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Cry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:10 AM Flag
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well we got horrible feedback from our #2 & still fc'd our #1 - maybe a dumb decision but we'd hate to not have gone w/ our gut & gave it our best shot (our fc doesn't give feedback btw) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:11 AM Flag
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i think u need to make a distinction between no feedback and that the ongoing has given the pre-school feedback but didn't mention ur dc. if ur pre-school has truly gotten no feedback on any kids, i'd still think about fc'ing ur 1st choice. if the preschool has gotten feedback from the 1st choice but no mention of your dc, then i'd fc the 2nd. i'm of the view that the ongoings call the preschools about only the kids they're interested in, and the preschool is in no position to push any kids outside of that list. that's not to say kids outside that list aren't great -- they just don't happen to fit what the ongoing is looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:13 AM Flag
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This is us. Good feedback from two schools that are nice but not as good a fit for us. No feedback from the two schools we think would be the best fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 09:54 AM Flag
[ - ] I pulled an upper back/neck muscle last weekend and it's killing me. Also could be pregnant. Anything I can do about it? Stretching, heat, etc helps but it's keeping me awake all night. Ugh. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:06 AM Flag
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You can't take Aleve? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:10 AM Flag
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spasms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:15 AM Flag
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tylenol would be the safest if pg. you could try acupuncture? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.03.09, 06:48 AM Flag
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