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[ - ] We are thinking about moving to the neighborhood to the school which DC is accepted. We have DC#2 in nursery school and we have to change the school also. Will it be too late to apply to new nursery/preschool in the spring? BTW, our DC#1's FC school is UES. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.06.09, 05:13 PM Flag
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Anything is possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:15 PM Flag
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Why do you want to move to the school's neighborhood? We live in a different neighborhood than dc's school & it is not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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Hard to switch preschools. We moved to Carnegie Hill when our #1 dc was accepted to ongoing. Walk a half hour or take cab to #1's former preschool which #2 now attends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:19 PM Flag
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OP: We live in Brooklyn. I think it makes our life easier if we move to close to school, walking distance, for example. Not only drop off, pick up will be difficult considering we have 2 kids. From where we live, it takes for 1 hour one way to get to UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:22 PM Flag
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Why it is hard to switch preschool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:23 PM Flag
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Babby helped DF find last minute spot at a local preschool for DC#2 when family moved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:05 PM Flag
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It is nice to hear that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 04:25 PM Flag
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Contact the parents' league - they will know of any UES preschool openings for next year. you may get luck if you're looking at a 4s program especially. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Sometimes I'm afraid that my 3.5 ds is going to be just like my father and it freaks me out: super smart, amazing at languages, charming, handsome, but totally unempathic, selfish, oddly self-involved. I just keep hoping that it's not possible. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:12 PM Flag
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Nip Nip Nip in the bud! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:14 PM Flag
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If it's his personality, do you think that I can really influence it that much? I see that my sister is so much like my father also that it's scary. Maybe it's genetic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:15 PM Flag
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Nuture plays a real important role inspite of nature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Can your 8.5 yo button, snap, zip everything? Or still needs work? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:08 PM Flag
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she can do it all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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can she or will she? totally different questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:11 PM Flag
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My dd only wants to wear sweatpants to avoid having to button, zip or snap anything. I find it really annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:13 PM Flag
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Are you kidding? My dc is 6 and can do up everything but the occasional back zipper on her own. [ Reply | More ]
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Ped suggested not stressing about it and just letting her wear what she wants, but I think that's avoiding the issue rather then really teaching her how to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:16 PM Flag
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is there a problem? can she do other things that use the same skills? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:19 PM Flag
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my 6.5yo can do all of that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:13 PM Flag
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My 4.5yo and all his classmates do all that. He can't tie his shoes though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Divorced DWs: Did you keep your ex's last name after you split (if you took it when you got married)? If so, why? If not, why not? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:08 PM Flag
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If there are kids, it's still nice to share a last name. Otherwise, switch back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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ITTA. Mom and kids with different last names is very ghetto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:16 PM Flag
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What if you remarry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:18 PM Flag
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That's a weird thing to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:18 PM Flag
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np. No, it's quite accurate. What's so "weird" about it? Kids in the ghetto rarely have the same last names as their mothers ... and often don't even share the same last names with siblings! Trashy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:20 PM Flag
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ITA. My parents were divorced when my sister and I were two and three. My mom kept her married name until we moved out of the house, then switched back to her maiden name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:24 PM Flag
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You are a judgmental, prejudiced bitch. Your ignorant opinions make you sound very trashy, my dear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:33 AM Flag
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trashy is judging other people for their personal decisions. v. ghetto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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I never changed my name when I got married. Is that "ghetto"?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:21 PM Flag
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Only if your kids don't share your name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:22 PM Flag
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np: this is one of the most bizarre things I've read on here. Signed, Ghetto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:58 PM Flag
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I kept my name. Whatever you mean by ghetto, I doubt I'm it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:59 PM Flag
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Ghetto does not really describe us, yet I kept my name, my dcs have dh's name. That post is just bizarre. I bet that's "Stay-at-home-and-raise-your-own-dcs-mom". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 10:17 PM Flag
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you are so offensive. the majority of the world has women who keep their names after marriage and don't match dc names. is the whole world ghetto? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:57 PM Flag
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very GHETTO?? Actually it's just modern. My kids attend a private school and easily 60-70% of the moms don't have their kids last names. Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:01 PM Flag
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i am a single mom. dc has my last name not his "baby daddy's". is that ghetto? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 07:43 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 08:19 AM Flag
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Which ghetto? old Harlem, East Harlem, Warsaw? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 08:43 AM Flag
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most of the professional, upper middle class moms i know have their maiden names. looking at my son's class list at a private preschool 50% of the moms (who are married) have different last names than their child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:04 AM Flag
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np I don't care what anyone does. What I hate is when women switch back and forth between two last names. Like one day you're Jane Doe and the next day you're Jane Smith. I chaired a silent auction for my kid's school and many women RSVPd using one name and bid on auction using another (usally their maiden name), so no one knew who they were. Pick ONE name and stick with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:29 AM Flag
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I'm of the mind of Tina Turner or Bianca Jagger. I earned the name and I'm keeping it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:00 PM Flag
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i took my last name back and dont regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] So do the schools all make their final decisions this weekend and then get the contracts and stuff ready this coming week for mailing out? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.06.09, 05:07 PM Flag
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No, some decisions are already made - some are not made until the day the letters go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Any educated guesses as to how many first grade spots there really are for the unconnected at Packer? St. Ann's? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.06.09, 05:06 PM Flag
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None [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:07 PM Flag
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oh come on now. there have to be at least some, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:08 PM Flag
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My None is in reference to educated guess. Perhaps I should have written No but I wanted to pull your body part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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Honestly, my guess is 2 to 3 at each, max. And I think I'm generous. And I'm hoping to be one of those 2 or 3. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Dalton parents - can you describe DC's peer group? Are there any DCs have behavior problems? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.06.09, 05:05 PM Flag
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Personality is a range. From very very very shy to extremely outgoing. Most kids are extremely well behaved but there are few quirky kids. School does not intervene for normal kids stuff and they allow the kids to work thing out on their own, but if it's outside the norm, they do step in quickly. I heard, though, few CEO kids are not really dealt with despite their mishbehavior from a few people. Kids are all very bright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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OP: DS's preschool is full of wild boys. My DS picks up bad things daily and I am not happy about it. Hopefully this won't happen if DC is in Dalton since they screen DCs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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My dc went to prek full of wild boys. I know what you mean. In dc's K class now, I would not characterize kids there as wild. Many are spirited and energetic but still well behaved. Just normal boys who like to have fun. The kids go up to the roof playground twice a day and the kids get to vent steam. If a kid uses physical violence (I know it sounds bad but), it will be dealt with seriously. But I like that kids can be kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:27 PM Flag
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CEO= ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:39 PM Flag
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DS is a very vebal, quirky, but amazing kid. Some of the other boys are more typical boys and aggressive and very physical. Girls are in a range. I guess I would say they are all bright, but very in social behavior. Why do you ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:41 PM Flag
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All the kids seem very smart, and a good number are beyond smart. Wide range of personalities and temperaments, but skewed slightly more toward the gregarious, outgoing, verbal type. There are quiet types, too, but fewer of them. Lots of high energy kids, especially among the boys, but I wouldn't say behavior problems. School's philosophy seems to be very forgiving of what they see as normal energetic behavior, but anything overtly aggressive--like pushing, hitting, etc., is addressed immediately and seriously. In short, they let kids be kids. Also, there is lots of discussion of why good behavior is important. What it means to be part of group, to be respectful, to be a good neighbor, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] This is going to sound neurotic and insecure from the start, but I've got to ask it. Does anyone else ever feel hurt, left out or otherwise disliked by other moms at pick up and drop off at their NYC private school? Its getting to where I don't look forward to it. Always try to smile, be friendly, nice, check in... but the groups seem to have formed, and I'm almost ignored most days. Several models and socialista types, but this should be easier? I wish I didn't care, but I do... 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:04 PM Flag
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Are you minority? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:06 PM Flag
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No. I'm practically incandescent and freckly. But one of the few mom's I'm actually friendly with and like a great deal, who I don't see much, is. One of the only in the class. This is so depressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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Hang in there and hopefully over time you'll get achatting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:13 PM Flag
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Maybe that's the problem. I'm not good at chitchat. Oh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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I feel like the groups have been formed but I don't care. We started at this school at K and they parents were already there because of preK classes..many were nice but never let me into their group. [ Reply | More ]
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I rarely do either, but did feel like that the one time I did pick up - - but I figure it is still early & there is plenty of time to get to know people -- I don't think people intentionally act that way, but they sometime know each other from another setting & so it is natural. Is dc happy? If so, I really think that is all that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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You're right, I know you're right, but it is such an odd experience. We even ran into one of the parents at a playground last weekend, and it was like we were annoying him or something just acknowledging our commonality and saying hi to he and his son. He bordered on being rude. I said to my dh as we left: "Well, nice to know that the parents in our kid's class are so friendly and welcoming of one another!" Even dh said "really! Not stalking you dude". And he never notices those kinds of slights. Doesn't even seem to care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:16 PM Flag
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Must be a real self absorbed father. Hopefully not typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:18 PM Flag
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Well, his wife is a fairly well known model, and we had thought they were just charming at first. Now I don't think either would recognize me if I fell in front of them. Though their kid knows ours and was excited to see him. Genuinely weird. Okay. I should stop or I'm going to analyze myself into a dark place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:22 PM Flag
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You're me. The annual moms' dinner out is coming up, and I'm dreading it (part of me doesn't want to go, but I feel I should). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:21 PM Flag
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Ugh. Hate those things. Unless you have a really nice friend or two in the group it absolutely sucks. I always expect and hope for the best with mom's and am continually disappointed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:26 PM Flag
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Last year it was in a room at a restaurant. Everyone milled around for about a half hour having drinks. Made a bit of small talk. Everyone sat down--tables full. Except for two empty ones. Guess who was the odd man out? MORTIFYING. After about five minutes, one table made a spot for me. No real friends in the group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:29 PM Flag
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Did you go alone? Couldn't you have gone with a friend if your DH could not attend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:33 PM Flag
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^^^sorry just read thread - annual moms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:35 PM Flag
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It's only for moms in dc's grade. Went alone. Hope it won't be as bad this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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Have you thought about just making an excuse and ditching this year? Sounds awful. I can barely stand such awkward situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:37 PM Flag
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Yeah. But is that really the best thing for my kid? This is a K through 12 school. If mommy can't hack the mom's night out, what hope does dc have socially? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 07:31 AM Flag
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She said it was a mom's dinner. You know, the "mom's night out" thing we all dread? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:36 PM Flag
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Don't worry about it. It will vary year by year. As you stay in that school longer, you will become more comfortable when you see more and more new families. I was almost like an outcast in one year, was very popular last year and so so this year. In fact, it gets easier as you care less and less about these things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:43 PM Flag
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so what school are you in? personally i would love to know this type of situation at the various schools. Dalton, Brearley, Spence, Buckley, Allen-Stephenson............it would be helpful to hear from a mom at all the schools. you dont have to say the class so you wont out yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:53 PM Flag
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np I'm one of the posters above. My dc goes to one of those schools. Very easy to out yourself by talking about moms' dinner, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 07:35 AM Flag
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no--they all do them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:07 AM Flag
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In every grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:25 AM Flag
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you're probably better off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:54 PM Flag
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This happens everywhere. My approach school is for my child's education, not for my social life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:21 AM Flag
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ITA ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:43 AM Flag
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Except your social life will affect theirs. If the classmates' parents hate you, will the classmates make playdates with your child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:02 AM Flag
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No. No they won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:05 AM Flag
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No offense, but are you sort of weird looking? I know the model/socialista type aren't welcoming of non-beautiful (or non-plastic-surgery) people. Could you try to dress a little better? My other suggestion is to have a party for your child and invite some of the parents too (just a few from each clique). Then you and dh can mingle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] is it difficult to knit? looks overwhelming 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:00 PM Flag
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No not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:02 PM Flag
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It's not easy for some people, but it's easy once you get the hang of it. Mostly you just have to get your hands used to holding the needles and the yarn. But once you learn it's one of the best hobbies EVER. And I have a lot of hobbies. Knitting is great. truly. [ Reply | More ]
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it totally does look overwhelming and I wish I knew how [ Reply | More ]
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There are great videos online that take you through it step-by-step and are free to watch. Or any knitting book. It's really worth it. [ Reply | More ]
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It isn't, but it does take practice. Best learned from a patient friend. If you don't have one, you might want to go to a local yarn store and ask the owner if you bought some yarn and needles if she would give you a lesson. There are some good books out there and some online resources.....a helpful yarn shop owner may be willing to get you on your way, so you might want to go to your local yarn store. I LOVE knitting...and have many beautiful knitted garments, one of kind, that I made all by myself! [ Reply | More ]
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If generations of uneducated women could do it ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:21 PM Flag
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If you have decent dexterity, it's not hard at all. Take lessons - that's what I did. All of the yarn stores offer them (I went to Gotta Knit). It's a great hobby!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] My 4yo dd and I were having lunch today with my MIL and an elderly man who was sitting at a table alone started talking to us. He was a perfectly nice gentleman and he started telling us about his children and a story about when they were young. As we were walking away he offered my dd a dollar coin. I let her accept, not thinking anything of it. I feel now I shouldn't have because he was a stranger and it was a bad example for my daughter, but I felt at the time if I didn't I would hurt his feelings. Ugh. Should I bring it up again to her and tell her anything? At the time I didn't think anything of it. Advice please. TIA. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:57 PM Flag
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if it bothers you so much bring it up (but in a way that she doesn't feel like she did anything wrong). Just let her know why you allowed her to accept it, ect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:00 PM Flag
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That's actually a tough one imo. Probably by the time you finished talking to him he didn't feel like such a stranger anymore and he was clearly just trying to be friendly. I think that I might have said at the time, "Oh we couldn't possibly take it, but thank you so much anyway." and it probably wouldn't have hurt his feelings. I think that you can tell her that in general she shouldn't really talk to strangers unless she is with one of her parents/grandparents etc. [ Reply | More ]
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See that was my initial reaction, but I felt bad for him. He seemed lonely and it really made him happy to give dd the coin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:05 PM Flag
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I think that it's totally fine. But she's not too young to have the stranger conversation with anyway. Not a scary conv, just a normal discussion. What a great jumping off point for it. Turn it to your advantage. Anyway, it's nice that you talked to the man. Not everyone is a predator and some people just need conversations. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh that is so sweet. My granddaddy always had gold coins in his pocket for any kid. But I understand your concern about taking things from strangers. It's a tough one. I have no practical advice but I don't think it will hurt to talk to her about stranger danger again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:03 PM Flag
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Don [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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Sorry, hit return. Don't make it such a big deal. You accepted the coin because she was with mommy. Stranger danger isn't about a nice man talking to a mom and daughter and then giving a dollar. Let it go. [ Reply | More ]
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Exactly. Kid can talk to strangers IF she's with mom or dad. Otherwise, no way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is very pretty, age 5. Boys seem to be mesmerized by her. Is this normal? They all want to be her BF, and will do anything for her. Even older boys stop in their tracks ( like age 8) and become playful and offer to help her or whatever. I am average. she is stunning according to everyone. If this is how it is in K, what can I expect in the coming years? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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give me a fucking break. [ Reply | More ]
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it is true. kind of weird since dh and I are not all that good looking. we seem to have given birth to a potential future super model [ Reply | More ]
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not really. haven't you seen pictures of super models when they were kids? many many were ugly ducklings who blossomed later on. [ Reply | More ]
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Rude Mom again. Hi Rude Mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 10:05 PM Flag
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post a pic. let us decide [ Reply | More ]
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You can only hope she is not a changeling in the making.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:57 PM Flag
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The cute 5 yos aren't always so cute when they are teenagers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:58 PM Flag
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NP. I agree with this. Some extremely cute children stop being cute, and have to wait until they are adults to be attractive again. I was downright ugly for a good 10 years (from about 10 to about 20). [ Reply | More ]
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she's not cute, she is beautiful. it is true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:28 PM Flag
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Fine then. Beautiful 5 yos aren't always even cute when they are teenagers and adults. As poster above points out, some of the most striking adults were ordinary to strange looking as children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 08:24 AM Flag
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what will happen is one of 2 things...her beauty is only one part...IF she is a great kid and beautiful then she will have guys falling all over her for many years to come. IF she turns into a child that feels like she's beautiful and deserves ass kissing, then you won't have to worry about them falling all over her. [ Reply | More ]
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ROFL [ Reply | More ]
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
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story of my life... [ Reply | More ]
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does she have an agent yet? [ Reply | More ]
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My dd is not that pretty but all the boys and girls want to be BF. [ Reply | More ]
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She'll be ruined if her mama cant learn how to contain herself and get over it. [ Reply | More ]
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YOU ARE GROSS [ Reply | More ]
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why the caps? You must be one of those moms that scream at her kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:08 PM Flag
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Wow, tough crowd. The woman seemed genuinely perplexed and a bit concerned about it. Beauty and handling it aren't just a cake walk. Especially for girls today. I'd start talking about it in a way that makes her feel comfortable coming to you. I'd also begin emphasizing that so much about beauty is on the inside, and that she'll need to develop both. [ Reply | More ]
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thank you. I am concerned. She doesn't seem to understnd it, but she does love the boys. she is only 5, and I can see she enjoys it. [ Reply | More ]
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She'll be pregnant by junior high school. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. Pray she's a lesbian. [ Reply | More ]
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No. THAT ^^ is "gross". Grow up and be useful. We're talking about a little kid here. Karma's a bitch, lady! [ Reply | More ]
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And I wasn't talking about the lesbian reference (which wouldn't be 'gross') I was ^^-ing the pregnancy comment. [ Reply | More ]
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I think the pregnancy comment is accurate. She'll have her cherry popped by the 7th grade, IMO. [ Reply | More ]
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ewwww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 08:38 PM Flag
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I have a dd who is striking (and let me assure you, she did NOT get it from dumpy old me), and I do get concerned about how her looks might affect her. I will probably get flamed for saying this, but I think at this age, they sort of know somehow that they're pretty. I can see it in my own dd, and I don't like it. I try to emphasize academics, spiritual life and values, and downplay or ignore the physical appearance stuff. And of course I am aware that I am and will be the most powerful role model for her. [ Reply | More ]
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I'll bet there aren't many UBers who DON'T think their dds are "striking". Ditto bright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:39 PM Flag
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i was considered a beautiful child/young adult, but my academic parents made me feel guilty for my looks. they deemphasized it so much that i grew up with a complex of thinking that being pretty is somehow bad. i wish i had a mom that was like, let's go to the spa! you are smart, but you can use your looks too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:47 PM Flag
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You sound dumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 09:01 PM Flag
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why would you do that to her? what is wrong with knowing you are pretty or smart or whatever? I think you people go overboard here. kids aren't stupid. let them be who they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:32 PM Flag
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Whatever. You raise your Barbie doll dd to be a ditzy vapid shell of a person, and I will raise my dd the way I see fit, okay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 05:02 AM Flag
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Please try, as she grows older, to stress inner beauty, kindness, compassion.....nothing sadder than an aging beauty, and let's face it, it all fades after awhile... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:49 PM Flag
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she is a very sweet girl. not at all full of herself. the boys just look stunned. even babies follow her around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:30 PM Flag
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okay, you sound a little weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 08:36 PM Flag
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fake post! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 08:52 PM Flag
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np Let's hope so. If not, OP is a total nutbar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 08:56 PM Flag
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I am now picturing something out of an old Disney cartoon when the heroine (Snow White or Cinderella or whoever) steps outside and the sun starts shining and birds start singing. "Even babies follow her around"?? LOL. That may be, but trust me, babies at least do not differentiate based on looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 11:52 AM Flag
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"why do birds suddenly appear...." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 08:39 PM Flag
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Not to mention the pigeons in the park and everytime she passes cats from every apartment jump out of the window to follow her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:15 AM Flag
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"stunned"? okay, your kooks. i am sure she is pretty, but no boy this age will be "stunned" by even the most gorgeous supermodel child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:25 AM Flag
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FREAK ALERT!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 08:55 PM Flag
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I know a girl like that! She's five and she is just cool. All the boys love her for her in-depth super hero and baseball knowledge! She has an older brother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 09:58 PM Flag
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Emphasize the more important things if you don't want a vapid, self-involved child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:23 AM Flag
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I have a similar child, who's thankfully very smart. She knows she's pretty -- she's told it too often to not know -- but I really try to underplay it. There are so many more important qualities to a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 06:27 AM Flag
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Watch her like a hawk because older men will feel the same way. Teach her that education and hard work will really get her what she wants. Teach her to not abuse her "power." GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.07.09, 07:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Stuyvesant or LaGuardia or Beacon? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:52 PM Flag
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Stuyvesant by a mile [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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It's very hard to get personal attention and not be just a cog in the grinder at Stuy. Easier at LaGuardia, although it's nearly as large, because of the various majors which subdivides student population into more managable groupings. Beacon probably has the most flexibility of the 3 schools and will advance a motivated student in coursework if they can handle it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:57 PM Flag
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It really depends on your kid - all are good schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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It depends on your child. If they are "artsy", or obviously have an interest & talent in music/theater/art/dance, then LaGuardia. If they are academically competitive and/or with an interest in math/science, then Stuyvesant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:27 PM Flag
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This was us last year (not Stuy but Bronx Sci) We ended up going to private. DS's friends at Beacon are under challenged. Friends at Stuy and Laguardia are happy after a rough start. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.11.09, 07:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have Lupus? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:50 PM Flag
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millions of people do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:55 PM Flag
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on the board [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:59 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:00 PM Flag
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both my sister and father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Seriously, WHY do people love Pride and Prejudice so much? I am reading it for the first time and it is just not that good. Maybe I'm missing something. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:41 PM Flag
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Mr Darcy is hooooooooot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:43 PM Flag
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you need to watch A&E's version of P&P, you will be hooked, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:46 PM Flag
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The BBC's adaptation of P&P is absolutely to die for. Colin Firth was mr Darcy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:49 PM Flag
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The first hundred pages aare a bit of slog but if you keep going it is great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:18 PM Flag
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I LOVE P&P. If you don't love it yet, watch the BBC three-part miniseries with Colin Firth. I watched it last year, re-read the book and it was a lot better the second time around. Whatever you do, DO NOT watch the Keira Knightly version!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 10:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: how old were you when you had your first dc? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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36 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:38 PM Flag
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33 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:38 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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General Topics 02.06.09, 04:39 PM Flag
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same here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:44 PM Flag
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39 [ Reply | More ]
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38 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:45 PM Flag
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31 - I think. I honestly can't remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:46 PM Flag
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Lol. Don't you know how old you and your eldest are now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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30 [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 02.06.09, 05:01 PM Flag
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General Topics 02.06.09, 05:23 PM Flag
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22. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:24 PM Flag
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General Topics 02.06.09, 05:25 PM Flag
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39, am I the oldest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:28 PM Flag
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you, and responder #4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:32 PM Flag
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i am still ttc, and i am turning 40 in may! so i am the oldest....sadly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:44 PM Flag
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40 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody else interested in the enneagram? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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Yes! What type are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.14.09, 01:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Okay UB'res, my dd was wait listed for 3 schools and turned down at 2. I need advice from people who've BTDT. How do I help her turn a wait list into a yes? I've called all the schools, now do I just sit back and wait? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.06.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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For middle school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:34 PM Flag
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Yes, sorry, middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:48 PM Flag
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Keep calling every other day, tell them how much you love the school and how enthusiastic you are. You have nothing to lose at this point. Keep calling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:48 PM Flag
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you call, feel them out. sometimes they will tell you no way. if they are encouraging, tell them you will come if offered a spot, and then put it in writing and hand deliver. if you have any contacts have them call for you. call back as directed, and if not directed, call anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:51 PM Flag
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op, I spoke with one school today and they were very encouraging. It was nice to hear and they were very specific with dates...made me feel like my daughter had a good shot, but also cryptically said that other parents were sending additional materials...not specific...just thinks that would give the school a bigger picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:58 PM Flag
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"Other materials"???? What - bribe checks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:00 PM Flag
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op, I actually heard this from 2 of the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:04 PM Flag
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Does anyone know what they want? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:05 PM Flag
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np: Maybe reference letters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:14 PM Flag
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op: I got the feeling it might be additional academic materials. Wondering if anyone can confirm this? Has any one ever submitted additional materials and had success with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] My 4-year-old is a brat. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:32 PM Flag
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But of course! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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I'm glad you've noticed, because frankly I didn't think it was my place to tell you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:12 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.06.09, 05:31 PM Flag
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