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[ - ] Were you a wild teenager? How did your parents deal with you? Trying to figure out strategies for my high school student who is out of control. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.29.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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Get a good shrink and also don't be afraid to say no and set limitations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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Please don't go down the shrink route (unless your dc has an illness) a shrink will only do damage to a teen who just needs boundaries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:48 PM Flag
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np I disagree. I was a little wild and my shrink was the only person I could talk to about my insane family life. I totally trusted him and still would. You just have to find someone GOOD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.09, 04:00 PM Flag
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Wild? Probably not. Honor Student, popular, homecoming court... but, smoked, drank, had sex. Nothing my parents could have done to prevent this. It may be too late for most of it, but I really loved the book Hold On To Your Kids. Maybe it will help. It's been a while since I read it and my child was young. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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You don't call that behavior wild? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:24 PM Flag
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np. when they're still a good student, no, unfortunately. It's the definition of a popular kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.10, 04:27 PM Flag
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lol - did the same, parents didn't care since I got into an Ivy (but then again, been in therapy for 12 years since they didn't care) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.10, 04:58 PM Flag
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I have teens. Sit down, and get them to set rules for themselves, and clear consequences. Example, if they stay out 30 mins past curfew, then they have to come home 1 hour earlier next weekend. But try to get them to come up with rules. And write them down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:35 PM Flag
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This works for kids who are basically following rules, but maybe just pushing a little. A child who comes home thirty minutes late is basically following the rules. It's the kids who come home at 4 AM who are not following the rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.10, 04:56 PM Flag
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I would really have to know what the child is doing to be able to offer suggestions. Is this for an article? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:37 PM Flag
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No. Not an article. Real life. Staying past curfew - drinking - hanging around really wild kids. Always excuses with lateness. Her best friend has absolutely no curfew at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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np. I found really helpful(although it did not increase my popularity) to track down the parents of my teen's friends, and we all agreed on curfews, expectations etc. I also made clear what would happen if they got picked up for smoking and drinking by the cops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:42 PM Flag
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The police in your town pick up children who smoke? Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:45 PM Flag
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dope, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:47 PM Flag
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I see, when I posted above (honor student...) I meant the legal kind of cigarette. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP, can you define out of control? Not trying to flame you, just want to know what kinds of problems you are running into, as perhaps some parents on UB have already had to address those and can give advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:40 PM Flag
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Typical teenage mischief - going to clubs in NYC and drinking. Probably smoking too. Staying past curfew. Other parents are so much more lenient. Also she has chosen really social kids who couldn't care less about school. I wish I could forbid her to see this new crowd but I'm scared that will make these kids seem more popular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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you haven't told us how old she is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:46 PM Flag
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How are her grades? Equal to her ability? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:59 PM Flag
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Definitely don't be overstrict. My parents were, and it made me a 1000x worse, because once you start lying about little things (yes, boys will be there and there will be no parents), you feel find about doing anything and then lying about it. (Taking the train home from a club at 4am, sex, pot,etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:01 PM Flag
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Set limits. I would have RAGED against them, but I really needed the guidance. I had a 25 yo boyfriend when I was a senior in HS -- he had a GED, a car and a job as a clerk at a liquor store. It did not end well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:47 PM Flag
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She is 16 but looks much older [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:48 PM Flag
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all 16 year olds look much older. Can't do much about clubbing. You could print out the article about the two girls who did it, got drunk, separated and a murderer picked up one, took her to hotel, raped, killed and stuffed her in a suitcase. You NEED to make sure she has safe sex. Find some woman with advanced AIDS and talk to them, have her volunteer with you in a a home for teenage moms. She's going to drink, teach her how to do it responsibly. My dad told me when your lips and nose tingle YOU MUST STOP. It will get worse from there, he told me to always just walk around with a glass with some in it, or a beer with some in it and when people tried to offer me more, to say I'm good. It works. Curfew - work out with her. My house, my rules. If you break curfew - I will take away privaleges, I will also call all the moms of the people you were with and tell them you broke curfew and I was not allowing you to see them (not because their sons and daugters did anything wrong, but because you needed to learn to live by the house rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:53 PM Flag
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PS, Where does her money come from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:54 PM Flag
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She is also posting really lewd pictures of herself and friends on facebook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:59 PM Flag
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Money comes from rich friends. Incredible that even in this recession, some teens have cash to burn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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Her friends always treat? What is she doing for them in return? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:02 PM Flag
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Does she want to go to college? What does she want to be? I would explain to her that ANYTHING she puts on the internet WILL be accesible by college admissions and ALL future employers. She needs to be very careful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:04 PM Flag
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I really think it's time to get drastic. You might lose her if you are not strong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:57 PM Flag
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OK, this is easy. Take away her computer, cell phone, and source of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:02 PM Flag
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ITTTTTTTTTTTA agree. Who is the parent here?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.09, 04:03 PM Flag
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I wasn't because my parents didn't give me anything to rebel against, my mom once told me, when we were at the mall, that I should remember that if I was ever in a bad situation that she would come pick me up, no questions asked...that being said, they did put the fear of god in us by having us be very aware of our own mortality (no "invincible teen" stuff for me) by making us watch the news, read articles, telling us stories about good times gone bad...etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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Thanks for all the advice. Yes, she wants to go to college. And she is a great student. This is a new development. Her old friends were not so social and more into school. For some reason she has changed her social circle. And yes, I tell her all the time about the Internet. Teenagers only listen to what they want to hear, alas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:06 PM Flag
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not true, they may not agree with you, but they hear you - they may not admit they hear you, but they hear you. You were a teen. Just remember. Talk to them in non threatening times. Riding in the car, taking a walk. Go on vacation with them and NO FRIENDS. Talk. Talk. And talk. It gets in. Just don't preach, and don't try to control. At 16 it is time for her to get out, make mistakes, learn. That's what it is about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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np: and I always say that as a parent I want to be a soft place to fall, that my dcs understands that they can come to me before things get out of hand and I won't judge...imo, most teen issues come from the kids trying to hide stuff from their parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:17 PM Flag
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I agree with the soft place when they are small - but the fear of God works great with teens!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:20 PM Flag
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Keep in close contact with her school. If grades start slipping, you want to find out sooner rather than later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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My mom gave up. Including going away every weekend with stepfather and my siblings and leaving me in the house alone. She gave me absolutely no boundaries, no rules, nothing. I knew I had no safety net; though I have to say I'm still amazed I made it through high school A) alive and B) not pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:22 PM Flag
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Okay, I am 24 so it hasn't been terribly long since I was your daughter. Now, I am assuming you guys don't live in New York (where I was raised), but I would advice you not to be overly strict with your daughter. It's hard to say whether you're making too much of this or not; I drank, smoke, partied all night long, had sex, ran around with boys, did drugs, etc. But, I was, as a previous poster wrote, an honor roll student, I was polite and well-mannered, I babysat, and then I went to Stanford. So, if your daughter is "okay" in some aspects (i.e. she does well in school, she's respectful to you and teachers, she has college plans, she's not shooting up heroin or doing crack)--I think you should give her a break. She will grow out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:30 PM Flag
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ITTTA. I was a wild child myself. Drank, smoked cigarettes and pot, tried coke and acid. Got pregnant at 15 by 20yo boyfriend, my mom figured out I was preg b4 I did. (had abortion). I lied about everything bc I knew if I told the truth, my parents would say no and not let me do what I wanted. All the while I got good grades, went to great college and grad school, as did 90% of the kids I was partying with. It's totally normal to party and have sex in high school, but you've got to be responsible about it. Your daughter will outgrow it, but what you need is open communication between parents/child. Make sure she knows that she can come to you and count on you, and that you aren;t suggesting abstinence from fun, but having responsible fun instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:41 PM Flag
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Maybe, just MAYBE, this mother considers the worth of her daughter to be measured in more than her attandance at Stamford. MAYBE she actually wants a daughter with moral standards unlike you. Not all moms want sluts for daughters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 10:37 PM Flag
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^ n, not m in Stanford. Typo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 10:38 PM Flag
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DITTO. To say it's "totally normal" (and OK) to act this way in high school is a total crock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 10:42 PM Flag
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ITA. OR has extremely low standards. Guess Stanford Admissions makes mistakes too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 11:03 PM Flag
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NP. Have to say that at my junior high/high school, partying like above poster was pretty normal. I went to a crazy Catholic school where a number of the girls had had abortions by the time they graduated and people would snort coke in the senior lounge... believe it or not, most of us somehow got into great colleges, went to grad school or got nice jobs, and turned out to be well-adjusted adults. kids party. even when they have great parents. i don't think it's fair to label that woman a slut for being honest. you might be surprised about how your kids behave when they get to high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 11:21 PM Flag
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np: I think some kids are able to handle it and lucky enough to come out relatively unscarred, but there are no guarantees. there are still huge risks of pregnancy, STDs, date rape, alcohol poisoning, car accidents (drunk driving or not), alcoholism, drug addiction, drug overdose, the poor judgment of teems combined with drinking/doing drugs, etc. i was no angel as a teen, but i think to downplay the very real risks inherent in those behaviors is naive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 11:08 PM Flag
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Absolutely. I lost two friends to drunk driving in high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.10, 05:00 PM Flag
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Wow, this really freaks me out. I was a totally wild runaway, did it all by age 13, but have tried very hard to keep my dd close to me and respectful of the good boundaries I [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.09, 04:07 PM Flag
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Oh yes. My parents set very few rules and trusted me to make the right decisions. Problem was, I made all the wrong ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.10, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] does anyone here pray? how often? 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:11 PM Flag
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I do. I say prayers with dc each night - myself - probably every other day ish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:14 PM Flag
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All the time in my head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:19 PM Flag
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what do you say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:21 PM Flag
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I pray for my dh's safe commute to and from work. I pray for my ds who has a tumor will have a healthy and seizure free day. I pray for the health and well being of my friends and loved ones. Talking to God keeps helps me get through the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:24 PM Flag
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nr: are you christian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:57 PM Flag
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I'm OR, I pray for things/people, I pray for guidance and I say prayers of thanks too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:29 PM Flag
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hijack: are you christian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:30 PM Flag
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Yep - Episcopalian to be exact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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curious why you asked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:38 PM Flag
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why I asked about the religion or why the OP asked about praying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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why you asked each person if they were Christian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:42 PM Flag
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because I was curious, my friends who describe themselves as Christian are the only ones who talk about prayer, so I was interested to know if the people on here who were talking about it were also christian (I have friends who are Jewish and Muslim who don't really talk about prayer in the same way) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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Muslims pray several times a day en mass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:47 PM Flag
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but they don't say things like "I will pray for you" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:48 PM Flag
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^^at least the ones I know, who are pretty secular, so that probably isn't the best group to judge by...I wasn't being snarky by asking, I was really just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:48 PM Flag
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Oh, I see. You are asking more about when you share a problem with someone and they respond, I will say a prayer for you - which is different than how many prayers I say in my head about my business. kwim? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:55 PM Flag
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yes but also what people pray about, I get the sense the christian folks tend to pray for things, and about people or situation when I don't really get that impression from other religions...or I mean I guess they do pray for things or about people but it is a more generalized prayer...oh, I have no idea what I am talking about, which is why I asked!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:58 PM Flag
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lol. Christians as a group don't have a set of prayer rules. It's all different. Much different for a Baptist than a Catholic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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np: I'm catholic and while I find moderate catholics to be less "preachy" than other christian religions, I kinda get what the nr is saying about christian religions across the board being more focused on the idea that you can pray for things to happen or pray for specific people and that god will answer by either action or non-action [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:04 PM Flag
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I believe it is biblical. Christians are told to pary. "Ask and you shall receive" and the other one about your hearts desires... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:06 PM Flag
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good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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OP, I think if you google something like bible verses having to do with prayer or praying, you might get some interesting stuff. Heck you could do it with all religions and compare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:11 PM Flag
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that *would* be really interesting!! I wish I knew more about religion, especially now that I have dcs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:15 PM Flag
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You can do a search at your public library and find some books on world rel I'm sure. Or tackle them one by one. Maybe they have Christianity for Dummies, etc. series. you never know!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:17 PM Flag
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My DH's family is Hindu, his mother and father pray every day. His mother is also always saying "god bless you." I also think that some Hindus pray like you describe Christians in that they pray for specific blessings or people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:23 PM Flag
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this is very interesting, I never knew that about hindus (np, btw) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:37 PM Flag
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this is b/c in the US, christianity is the only religion that is also the social background of the country. they are the only people who feel comfortable enough to bring the religion into daily conversation, even with others who are not religious or not of the same religion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yes, I always ask for guidance and thanks as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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never [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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not even like a little "please let this envelope have some good information in it" in your head to no one in particular [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:45 PM Flag
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np That isn't a prayer. It is a wish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:57 PM Flag
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that totally depends on how you define "prayer" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:49 PM Flag
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well, you can call it whatever you want...but that's a wish, not a hiccup even if you feel like defining hiccup that way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:52 AM Flag
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or- yes that's what it is. I don't pray period. I wish all the terrorists would die - I pray for all the terrorists to die = same thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:57 PM Flag
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I pray every night before bed, or in the morning. I am Episcopalian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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I had a job last year, taking care of a middle age guy w/ dementia. He was of Hindu faith, but obviously couldn't practice. His sil came from India for a month long visit. She HAD to pray directly out after her morning shower. She had a little booklet or card, and it sounded like she basically just recited what she read. I also cleaned for another Indian Hindu, and he had a "shrine" set up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:44 PM Flag
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Never pray, but I wish I did. Was brought up Catholic, and over the years have tried and tried to believe but I just don't. Hence, praying to me seems pointless. But I think it would be comforting and nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:50 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:53 PM Flag
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you can still gain a lot of peace and pleasure from just silently stating your thoughts, thankfully recapping your day, and giving individual attention to each of the people in your life who are dear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:02 PM Flag
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Yeah, that's true and it sounds useful. However, I don't consider that "praying" - as far as I'm concerned, I'm talking to myself which is less comforting than talking to someone else, someone who listens, who cares unconditionally etcetera. Gee, reading back over that, I think I really need to get myself a God. Far cheaper than my psych. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:36 PM Flag
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I say I don't believe in god but then I pray when I want something (we're talking major, major things, NOT even things like "please let me get the promotion." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:01 PM Flag
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again, not praying, but wishing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:03 PM Flag
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what qualifies as "praying"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:10 PM Flag
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there are no atheists in a foxhole, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:11 PM Flag
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yes. unofficially fairly often. a set praying time about once a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:05 PM Flag
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I am a rabid atheist. And not superstitious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:24 PM Flag
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They have shots for that, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:00 PM Flag
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yep, too unpleasant though. plus i am not contagious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:04 PM Flag
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Is there a saint who covers education? I have been wondering this for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:26 PM Flag
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I hardly think that the saints care that much if an already privledged five year old gets into a school that basically ensures his place at a top school - whether or not it is deserved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:34 PM Flag
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Come on. My dc is in a crap public; just want a better public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:27 AM Flag
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St. Bridgit, I think. Patron saint of students, artists. I used to pray to her all the time in college and law school right before exams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:57 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:51 PM Flag
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I kind of think that praying is often distasteful and selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 09:33 PM Flag
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I am Jewish and pray every morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:48 AM Flag
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twice a semester [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:56 AM Flag
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I just remembered something. My mother & the rest of her prayer group (at her Episcopal church) are praying that my dc get into good schools (public) this year. I felt kind of bad because the others they pray for often have "real" problems but my mother said it was OK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:54 PM Flag
[ - ] once you cut an avocado, are you stuck with eating the whole thing? how do you stop one half from going black? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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use the other half to make a hair or face masque [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:09 PM Flag
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leave the pit in it and put, and pull saran wrap around it so it's touching the meat - at most you'll have to shave off a small amount of brown from the top [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions for back pain relief while pregnant, besides Tylenol or Advil? I'm only 22 weeks and it's really starting to kick my a--. TIA! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:06 PM Flag
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Anyone? Please help! Kind of desperate... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:14 PM Flag
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Chiropractor. Mine was invaluable during my pregnancies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:18 PM Flag
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Thanks--were your visits covered by your insurance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:21 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:56 PM Flag
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Heat- traditional heating pad, one of those microwaveable heating compresses, or the air-activated heating pads they sell in the first aid section of the drug store. There's not much you can take by way of medication (I think you're not even supposed to take Advil while pregnant), so heat was my only savior! Oh- and a maternity pillow seemed to help a lot, too! GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:23 PM Flag
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Thank you--what's so frustrating is I just had a massage today, and all of the kinks and cramps have returned right where I left them! Grrrr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:24 PM Flag
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And some people say a maternity belt can help also (to "hold up" the weight from the expanding stomach), but it didn't help me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:24 PM Flag
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Yoga Journal has a prenatal dvd that I swear by. It has multiple workouts, including a 20 min relaxing one that I did nearly the entire pregnancy. It helped so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:24 PM Flag
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Thank you, everyone! Much appreciated! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:00 PM Flag
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Swimming- the only thing that helped me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:22 PM Flag
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np: Is it back pain or sciatica? For me, the sciatica didn't end until the baby shifted, then I was fine. For back pain, those pregnancy body pillows (snoogles?) were good. Swimming and yoga helped, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:25 PM Flag
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try acupuncture, made my third trimester easier. also helps with allergies when you can't take drugs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:47 PM Flag
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are you allowed to take advil? my OB only lets me take tylenol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:42 PM Flag
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tylenol is just fine. you shldn't take nsaids like advil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] what, if anything, do you refuse to do in front of your DH or SO? Me? Anything that has to do with my colon... 86 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:55 PM Flag
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no nose picking, farting, pooping or tooth brushing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:56 PM Flag
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Do you remove your teeth or have bleeding gums? I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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i just replied below...i don't know why it grosses me out so much but watching someone brush their teeth makes me physically sick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:09 PM Flag
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I won't pluck my lip hair...I like to leave that illusion as an illusion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:56 PM Flag
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ditto but w. chin hair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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lol, yep, when I see one of those, he won't see that either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:58 PM Flag
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you pluck your lip hair? ouch! use scissors. i'm getting laser next month, by the way. had enough of this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:12 PM Flag
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period care, change pad/remove tampon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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does anyone actually wear pads anymore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:00 PM Flag
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I do. I sleep like a madwomen and do NOT care for any stains in the bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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if you just had a baby you do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:07 PM Flag
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I'm sorry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:12 PM Flag
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np: people wear pads after they give birth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:12 PM Flag
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Thank you. She must be superwoman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:13 PM Flag
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what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:18 PM Flag
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Responding to person who asked if people still wore pads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:21 PM Flag
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I asked and I wasn't including instances like after child-birth, sorry to be unclear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:22 PM Flag
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ita with you--no one i know wears pads (outside just having had a baby) anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:23 PM Flag
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I don't think anyone WANTS to wear a pad, but some people have heavier cycles. I believe it is a personal choice. I'm thankful we have options. Personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:29 PM Flag
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LMAO! Have you done a survey? If you're out for drinks with friends do you ask them "do you wear pads"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:30 PM Flag
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no survey, but people will often remark that "pads feel gross" or something like that, when its contextual [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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You are a snarky little thing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:32 PM Flag
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What are you not understanding? It is a choice. Some people prefer pads on the first couple of days of their cycle. What is this a high school locker room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:34 PM Flag
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i didn't say that i don't understand why people wear them, i was just saying that no one i know wears them anymore (now when i was much younger people did)...are you sensitive about wearing a pad or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:36 PM Flag
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How do you know that NO ONE wears them? Maybe your group of friends don't but clearly some people do because they are still on the shelves at my store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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obviously SOMEONE wears them but no one I know, that is why I asked "does anyone actually wear pads anymore" because I don't know of people who do... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:40 PM Flag
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No, I'm not sensitive about this at all. Maybe I read wrong, because I thought you said nobody wears them anymore, which is not true. I will go back and read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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please do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:42 PM Flag
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I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:46 PM Flag
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I wear pads by choice. It is much healthier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:34 PM Flag
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Since having kids, I have to wear pantiliners almost daily. It sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 06:48 PM Flag
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my friend in college only used pads b/c she thought using a tampon would ruin her virginity! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:40 PM Flag
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nothing, dh basically had to bathe me after my last c-section, so there is not much he hasn't seen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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ITA, I don't understand this phenomenon of women refusing to let their husbands see them doing certain things, my DH was at the birth of our children and if it doesn't get more "natural" than that, I don't know what does! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:59 PM Flag
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i don't think it is a new "phenomenon" as you say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:00 PM Flag
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ita, and am also wondering about the OR who said toothbrushing. Has she never shared a bathroom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:00 PM Flag
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i'm the or who said toothbrushing and I don't know why that bothers me so much, I usually just pull the door shut a bit when I am brushing my teeth and I don't watch when he is either...it makes me gag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:06 PM Flag
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Do you look away from the mirror? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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ITA. I try to avoid farting and other gross stuff, but that is a courtesy I would extend to anyone, not just dh. He certainly knows I am human and I do fart; but there is usually no reason not to do it privately. He certainly knows all about pads and tampons, so if he sees me its no big deal, but again, usually I will do that privately. Occasionally when we start to get amorous in bed he will notice the tampon is in. Usually he will simply grab a kleenex and say something like "shall I get rid if this?" I have no problem with him taking it out; nor does he. A couple of my friends think that is gross, but it doesn't bother me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:18 AM Flag
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I will not remove any hair from my face in between threadings in front of him. I try to wait to go do the "big one" when he is safe at work. (I can't go if he is home). When My "kid sister" is here once a month, I keep all of that away from him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:01 PM Flag
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Are you trying to preserve his belief that you are not actually human? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:02 PM Flag
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Not at all. When My ds was born he saw it all, plus he is a physician. I CANNOT physically shit in front of him. I also choose not to show him a used tampon/pad. Is that okay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:04 PM Flag
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defensive much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:13 PM Flag
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No. I have no reason to hide anything from dh. I choose to keep the above private. Personal choice/upbringing. Passing judgement? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:17 PM Flag
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I was nr, btw, and no, you just seemed totally ready to jump down the other persons throat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:17 PM Flag
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Not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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ita with the "is that okay" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:21 PM Flag
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np The snotty comment about preserving her dh's belief that she's not human was a *trifle* obnoxious, don't you think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:23 PM Flag
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i was a nr! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:24 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:26 PM Flag
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pig out, like I mean, major, eat with your fingers, lick the plate, pick the crumbs off your shirt pig out, that lovely display, I save for myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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LMAO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:11 PM Flag
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you can come over and we can do this together, I won't watch you because I will be doing the same thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.29.09, 06:38 PM Flag
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Nothing is off limits. He has held my head while I vomited, given me suppositories, held ice cubes to my hemorroids... the list goes on! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:13 PM Flag
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given you suppositories??? yikes, I wouldn't go there! good man! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:17 PM Flag
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My man is a saint, I admit it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:30 PM Flag
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Hey, mine gave me an enema before surgery and about 1,000 shots for multiple IVF's (he told me to add the shots because it kind of freaked him out--not the shot itself--the drop of blood that would come out later) Once he witnessed 2 c-sections, really what mystery was left? Although I do poop and attend to period maintenance alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:43 PM Flag
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nothing really and DH certainly doesn't hold back!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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Sometimes after I fart, I say "fart". I don't do that when he is around. Same thing as when I say "pssss" as I pee. I like the keep all bathroom activities private - poop, pee, farting, plucking, perioding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:25 PM Flag
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hahahaha...you do what, exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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np Bbbbbbbppppptttttffffff. "Fart". By the sounds of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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I am so confused...hahahaha...why would you do that...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:32 PM Flag
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I have no idea. But sometimes, if i rip I really good one, I'll sort of exclaim, "fart!". And then I'll laugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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are you my sister? she does stuff like that!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:40 PM Flag
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i am laughing outloud [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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hahahahaha, you are a weirdo and I totally want to be your friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:05 PM Flag
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So you let one rip and say "fart" if you're alone?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:28 PM Flag
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And you say "psss" as you pee?!?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:25 PM Flag
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Yep. My first summer in camp, I told my friends how I hated peeing in the bunk's toilet because I didn't like anyone to hear me. So whenever I would go in, they would all yell "pssssss" to cover any sound I made. And I would say it from the inside of the bathroom. Every now and then, I'll still say it and laugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:46 AM Flag
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Poop or change tampon or pad. Will pee with kids in the bathroom but not dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:27 PM Flag
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My guy's seen pretty much everything and still manages to find me attractive...although I won't let him watch me do my hair or apply make-up before we go out, that drives me nuts (I guess I need to concentrate, looking nice is a rare occasion for me!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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nothing, sadly, we have moved past the point of any sort of human decency [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:38 PM Flag
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Sigh. Me too, and I think we've come too far to backtrack. Oh well. We're certainly comfortable with each other, and it hasn't affected our sex life anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:47 PM Flag
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get dressed, period stuff, but will fart til my heart's content - go figure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:10 PM Flag
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like loud farts??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:52 PM Flag
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sometimes... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:54 AM Flag
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my DH thinks gas is hilarious--he actually admires me if I have a loud fart-- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:28 PM Flag
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have sex with my lover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:54 PM Flag
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tee hee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:54 PM Flag
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smart ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:56 PM Flag
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poop or change tampon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:42 PM Flag
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UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 08:35 PM Flag
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lol. me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:20 AM Flag
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nothing--there really isn't anything he hasn't seen me do--or anything i feel like he would care if I did--nothing grosses him out--although he did offer to give me an enema when I was suffering from iron pill constipation--i had to draw the line there and was able to do it myself--but he totally would have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:10 AM Flag
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colonoscopy prep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 11:10 AM Flag
[ - ] any californians on? is CA really more broke (and broken) than other states? i keep hearing terrible things about schools, work furloughs, etc. but can't tell if it's really worse or if CA is just in the spotlight. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:53 PM Flag
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I live in CA. I'm not really sure about that though. I feel like it is hard here but I have no other experience to compare it too. I live in a small town with an excellent school system that is highly rated so I don't think will be any problem. However, we are having state workers lay-offs because the state budget is terrible. Also a lot of lay-offs are taking place in CA because they are so many businesses here, not that there is not a lot in New York. I think we are more in the spotlight right now because our state budget is as messed up as the national deficit and lots of people are leaving because it's getting more and more expensive to live here. With so many people leaving, it drives up the prices for everything. So higher prices, less people, more lay-offs and everything else probably puts more of a focus on us right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:25 PM Flag
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what you are hearing is true, thanks to the many illegal immigrants not paying taxes but taking advantage of benefits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:29 PM Flag
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yes, CA has had budget issues for years, but you cannot blame illegal immigrants for it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:32 PM Flag
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then who can you blame for all the additional spending? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone got their dc OLSAT scores? PreK teacher said some of the kids had heard but I thought they all came out at once 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:52 PM Flag
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Nobody has. According to the DOE website the cores will go out in "Mid April" this can be translated a number of ways depending on how cynical one is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Tantrum coping tips? DD is 19 mo and just started throwing ridiculous tantrums - can't even really tell what sets her off. I have happiest toddler book but DH seems to think there is something wrong with her... Even if you just tell me it is normal and will pass - anything?? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 03.29.09, 02:43 PM Flag
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He thinks something is wrong with her medically? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:44 PM Flag
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how much experience does your DH have with toddlers? Yeah, tantrums at 19 months are totally normal -- usually there are obvious triggers (tired, hungry, frustrated) and it's your job as parents to help her through them not decide something is wrong with her. Seriously, describe a tantrum that made your DH say something is wrong with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:47 PM Flag
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i'll ditto this. offhand, i'd say that tantrum at that stage are very normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:52 PM Flag
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we have tantrums in our house too, 21 mo dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:53 PM Flag
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Tantrums here, too - newly resurgent, totally out-of-control tantrums at 29 mo. Usually, these phases coincide with a developmental leap, which doesn't make them easier to live through, but somehow easier to understand...sleep, food and frustration all contribute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:04 PM Flag
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And I just kind of ignore it. I say, let me know when you have finished crying. And dc now does. I have not found what causes it really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:06 PM Flag
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My dd is 21 months old and since 19 months has been throwing the worst tantrums. People tell me to talk to her and tell her that is not the way to get what she wants but she's screaming the whole time so I don't think she hears anything I say most of the time. Time-outs (started a month ago) are starting to curb the behavior a little bit but it's most worst when she's tired or hungry. What sets her off is us not giving in to what she wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:28 PM Flag
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Normal. I would ignore her (make sure she is not somewhere where she can get hurt) until she comes out of it on her own, then go back to normal, or try sitting with/holding her till she gets over it without talking or reacting. See which method helps her more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 07:35 PM Flag
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thanks for the replies. the tantrums are typical in my book - lying on the floor crying, crying louder as we talk to her. neither of us has much/any experience just trying our best. i stay pretty calm and try all the tricks until one works. he get frustrated and wants to walk away from her. i think it must be trial and error until her "caveman" period is over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 02:57 AM Flag
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walking away during a tantrum is sometimes the exact right thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 05:23 AM Flag
[ - ] how do you feel about kid/family who receives financial aid to go to preschool? do you have a playdate w/ the kid? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.29.09, 02:34 PM Flag
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Fairly certain my dc's preschool doesn't give FA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:37 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't you? Why would I care? Why would you care? What's wrong with people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:42 PM Flag
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not everyone thinks the way you do, it's sad, but that's true. heard nobody talked to this nice mom because her dd went to preschool on scholarship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:45 PM Flag
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that's awful.These are the type of people who I don't care if they lossed their jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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clearly then it's the people who didn't talk to her who should have been shunned, not the mother herself. I just don't get this mentality, and while I hate to use a broad brush, I find it really is more pervasive in certain Manhattan circles than other places. These people think money gives them class, when really it's graciousness that gives a person class. Okay, end of rant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:48 PM Flag
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ita and I guess since I only have a 2 yo haven't been exposed to this except for this board. Although other think all of NYC is like this, it is not. There really are great down to earth people here too. Wish they would just leave the city for stepford suburb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:50 PM Flag
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Loved NYC as a single person and newlywed, but based on my friends' experiences in the city and this board (which I am aware is not real life), I am so glad not to be raising ds in City. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:07 PM Flag
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My school doesn't give it - if it did I would have applied. Why would I not have playdates with kids due to financial reasons? Gross [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:45 PM Flag
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let me ask you this, when you were in college, did you care who was there on FA, who had a scholarship and who was paying cash? Did the success of the student change at all based upon the payment source they used for their education? I would say that I would be more interested in having my child play with a child who was receiving FA since I am more likely to find a less spoiled and indulged play-mate there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:45 PM Flag
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I don't know or care who gets FA. The only DC who I will not let my DC have a playdate with is the DC who started coloring on my dining room walls and whose mother sat, watched and did nothing to stop him. He has not been and will not be invited back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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You and I should have a playdate. LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:50 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:50 PM Flag
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This is my 4th year (2 DD's) at our preschool and I don't know who the FA recipients are -- though I know the exist. My DD's have play dates with the children they ask to play with; I am friends with the parents, or not, based on how we click. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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Did none of your college friends receive FA? What is the issue...it's not like the kid has scabies or anything. It's just assistance. IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:47 PM Flag
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We used to get fa, and nobody ever shunned our dcs. Silly question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone get into St. Ignatius in grades 1-8? We applied for 3rd.... did not get in.... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.29.09, 02:20 PM Flag
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we applied for 1st, and did not get in (we accepted a spot at another school months ago). We applied to a handful of schools, and it was the only one that my dc said she didn't want to go to. You can try again in June. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:15 PM Flag
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No. DD got waitlisted for 1st. Would have turned it down anyway, going to a k-12 private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:11 AM Flag
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how many spots did they have open in 1st, do you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:18 AM Flag
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I dont think they had any from what I recall from my tour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I mortified that I can be perceived as PITA. Let's run a diagnostic test. You ask me questions, I answer, and you give me a verdict. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:19 PM Flag
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Do you call someone in the school (teacher or administrator) at least once a day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:20 PM Flag
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not unless i reported dc sick to the receptionist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:23 PM Flag
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op: forgot, wrong - called PSD a couple of times 2 weeks before letters came out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:25 PM Flag
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^^ops. misread your question. somehow thought you meant "once a week". Once a day? Of course not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:35 PM Flag
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Do you insist that teachers use a special potty seat insert for your dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:25 PM Flag
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Didn't even know it existed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:26 PM Flag
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toilet seat insert. Even though toilets are child-sized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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Oh, I see. No. we didn't use it at home either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:32 PM Flag
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If your dc tells you that a kid pushed him, do you make sure to call the school immediately to request further info? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:26 PM Flag
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no. if anything I am afraid my dc pushed anybody (super active), but thanks god, nothing was reported to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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Do you let dc bring a sippy cup to school even if the teachers have asked parents not to do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:27 PM Flag
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No. But I realized that dc was bringing toys (lightening McQueen type) for a several days (nanny brought dc in so I didn't know). I sent email to the teacher and apologized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:31 PM Flag
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The word "mortified" means very embarrassed. Sounds like you meant to say "horrified?" Sorry but this is such a pet peeve of mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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Hmm. English not first language, you are probably right. But wouldn't it be correct to say "I am very embarrassed to think that I could be perceived as PITA?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:55 PM Flag
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Absolutely. It makes more sense than saying horrified. You would be embarrassed and not scared to the point of horror if perceived as a PITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:32 PM Flag
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Every time your DS gets into a scuffle with another kid, is it always the other kid's fault? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:51 PM Flag
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Absolutely not. The opposite. DC used to be very toy possessive, got into scuffles because of that. So I am sort of programmed to think that it is our fault anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:57 PM Flag
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OP: so, no? The standards were pretty low though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Whenever I see one of these posts calling special needs 5-year olds "basket cases," I have trouble not wishing bad things upon the poster and their families. Try a little "there but for the grace of G-d, go I" -- your next child could be one of those "basket cases" and you'd certainly wish for empathy rather than hostility. Off my soapbox. Go back to your manicures now. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.29.09, 02:15 PM Flag
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I feel empathy...but I also feel empathy for the DCs whose learning/school experience is harmed by "highly disruptive" DCs. Maybe these DCs are not in the right setting. Certainly putting a DC with "sensory/ADD-type" issues in a loud classroom with 30 other DCs an d1 teacher is not doing this DC any good. OTOH in zoned publics unless the parent AGREES TO TEST the "highly disuptive" DC, the zoned public is forced by law to educate this DC without a para. So everyone is screwed, the teacher, the disuptive DCs, AND the other DCs (incl. mine). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 03:37 PM Flag
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A couple of points: many parents like you think these 5 yos are ADD/Sensory kids, but most are not. Most grow out of being antsy. even with mild ADD/sensory stuff, these kids are better off in a mainstream school, and most parents are smart enough to know this. I have had 3 kids in public school in NYC over a 15 year span of time, and I have yet to know of a "highly" disruptive kid in the classrooms of my dcs. Most of the kids that people like you see as highly disruptive are not SN. they are wiggly 5 yos who calm down by 2nd-3rd grade with no intervention. I have yet to see hordes of kids getting screwed by having these kids in class with them. Also, some teachers are wonderful, and handle the range of kids with positivity and energy, not to mention patience. Some do not deal well with things being out of order. those teachers get overwhelmed and would be better off doing something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:09 PM Flag
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^^^energy, not to mention patience. Some do not deal well with things being out of order. those teachers get overwhelmed and would be better off doing something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know where i can take my ds for chess classes? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:04 PM Flag
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we go to ps 116, 33rd St. (between 2nd & 3rd Ave.), NYChessKids. Info is on NYChessKids.com. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:14 PM Flag
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^^amazing program. Saudin Robovic is an international master(!!) who enjoys teaching K level kids. My dd loves him, and other teachers. Highly recommend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:16 PM Flag
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thanks. ds is 3. too young? how much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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You should check with the teacher, we started at 5 sharp. Just email them - it is on the website, prices - something like 250 per 9-10 lessons. they also offer private lessons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] if my ds just turned 3 in feb. when should he take the erb?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 02:03 PM Flag
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anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.29.09, 05:02 PM Flag
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