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[ - ] OK, honestly, does no one else give it a second thought sending your dd away for an hour, behind closed doors, with a strange man (potentially), for the ERB? I know this is a professional environment, but I admit I wish the testers were all women. Please don't flame, just wondering. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.28.09, 03:56 PM Flag
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you can hear everything because it's just on the other side of a door and believe me, they KNOW the parents are listening [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:57 PM Flag
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op: really? oh my goodness, that makes me feel so much better! i was imagining a walk down a long hall and around a corner and out of sight ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:58 PM Flag
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No. Not really. Have been through the process 2x and not once was one of my dc's "just on the other side of a door" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:35 PM Flag
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for SB it is right outside the door. for ERB that was also my experience. olsat (which takes place in a school) they do take them down the hall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:09 PM Flag
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ITA . plus when I went there were no male testers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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I think this post is silly but it's sillier to flag males as more potentially abusive; I'm just saying... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 08:07 AM Flag
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That's not true at all! They take them out of the main room at the test center adn go down a hallway and bye bye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:34 PM Flag
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np The hallway, as I recall, is short. My dc was in the first testing room to the left of the waiting room as I could hear every word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:38 PM Flag
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maybe for olsat but not for erb and sb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:06 PM Flag
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you really need flaming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:10 PM Flag
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Are you ready to send your dc to school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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op: How can you compare the two? She does go to pre-school, and there are male teachers/assistant teachers. This would be someone we've never met, completely alone in a room with her. Statistically, something bad is more likely to happen with a man. Much more likely. Those are just the facts, and I'm a cautious mom. Can't believe I'd be the only one for whom this would spark a question! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:13 PM Flag
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I've thought about this but honestly I'm sure they screen there testers very well and also my DD does better with a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:05 PM Flag
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i was in a waiting room , i wasnt on the other side of any door. good thing is dc's are old enough to tell you everything now. don't worry about it, it's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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My dd had a female tester, but I the walls and door are paper thin and I could hear everything (tested in summer and for most of the test I was the only person in the waiting room). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:18 PM Flag
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most of the men are gay anyway. the psychs are quite normal, imho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:13 PM Flag
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what? most men psychologists are NOT gay. what an odd thing to say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:16 PM Flag
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np: I think they are, but even if they aren't gay, its sort of a wussy job, don't you think? would not want to marry a psychologist. not quite a doctor, and too touchy feely. no sex appeal whatsoever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:21 PM Flag
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do people really feel this way? I am so surprised. I guess a guy should be a lumberjack or rugby player... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:23 PM Flag
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doesn't have to be a lumberjack, but a little masculinity is a good thing. I just do not find guys in traditionally female jobs all that appealing. psychologists, social workers, interior decorators, nurse, french maid,whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:26 PM Flag
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yeah, a therapist is JUST like a french maid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 08:08 AM Flag
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lol, this is hilarious. thank you for making me laugh tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:24 PM Flag
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yes, but do you agree. sorry, but the guy giving the wiipsi to all the tiny 4 yos is not doing it for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:29 PM Flag
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That's true. That's why I married a violent rapist. Now THERE'S a REAL MAN! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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op:LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:25 PM Flag
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Wasn't there a scandal a few years back with a female psychologist who was filming/molesting kids? I think bad people come in all flavors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:14 PM Flag
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op: ITA, I'm just saying statistically, it's usually men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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op: ok, so for the ERB, at the testing center, they don't take them THAT far, do they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:15 PM Flag
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NO. I could hear my kid talking and laughing throughout the 1 hour 15 mins she was in the room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:39 PM Flag
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there are female pedophiles too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 08:09 AM Flag
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except for the olsats I could hear every word between testers and both of my DCs through the process [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 08:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think older moms/parents are more patient/better? I always see older moms in the park have a ton of patience with their kids' antics and I don't know where they get the strength to be so zen about it. On the other hand, I also think my limited tolerance for misbehavior makes my DC better behaved. What do you think? I guess its two questions in one... in a patient mom better for child's psyche or is discipline better in the long term? And does an older mom have more patience? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:51 PM Flag
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it's not black and white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:54 PM Flag
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I'm an older mom and it totally depends on the day. We only have one child, which helps, and most days I can calmly reason with him (even as he melts down). I know that by getting louder or emotional, his behavior will only escalate. Of course, I also spent 10 years teaching 1st grade before having my child which probably helps too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:56 PM Flag
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i think it's a huge generalization and i'll be flamed. but here are my thoughts. "older" parents fall into two categories: the people who have their first kids when they are older. these moms tend to be very patient, think that if you continually instruct your child in a positive manner the child will be ok. these moms tend to be very patient and understanding and they preach understanding and tolerance and generosity. other "older" moms have btdt with previous kids and they have both the experience and also the lack of energy to come down hard on their kids. "younger" moms fall into two categories: the inexperienced, immature moms who don't have patience to instruct their kids and don't have the knowledge of what is normal behavior for kids and how to adjust to it, and the young energetic enthusiastic moms who discipline more actively but are also more pro-active with their kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:05 PM Flag
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i'll agree with that. signed older mom, with younger friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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That's pretty much my experience as well. Signed, older mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:11 PM Flag
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My mom had me in her early 20's and she was neurotic - yelling and screaming for the littlest things. This did NOT make me better behaved... it made me grow up thinking yelling hysterically is an acceptable thing to do. And now I yell at my poor dc... and can't help myself :((( It's a vicious cycle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:11 PM Flag
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In my world patience and discipline aren't mutually exclusive - I like to think I'm actively engaged in setting expectations and communicating consequences, but I don't let things get to far out of control before I'm willing to exert a little more control (older mom). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:14 PM Flag
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Me too (another older mom). I just don't get "excited" while I'm setting limits. Kids need to be told explicitly what is good behavior and what is bad behavior. They also need to know the consequences of bad behavior--if you don't follow through with consequences now, they will be adults who live in a world where everything is someone else's fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:16 PM Flag
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you hit it right on the head - I think 99% of discipline is simply following through on the consequences you set up. I know lots of moms, young and old alike, that don't have the stomach for it and I'll say that the couple times I've been the mom hauling her kid out of the mall kicking and screaming it was on the most gut-wrenching of experiences but one DD remembers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:22 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:36 PM Flag
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I'm a nursery school teacher and I've found that that type of older mom is also more likely to have done some "research" on parenting or discipline - they've read the books or gone to the lectures or spoken with the experts...and then have the "stomach" to follow-through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:45 PM Flag
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This post backs up that the perfect age (IMHO) to have kids is your early 30's- you're old enough to do your research and have more resources at your fingertips, have some more maturity to be zen when your kid is pitching a fit yet you still have the energy and enthusiasm. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need to find a job and i'm pretty upset at my options. my kids go to bed at 6:30ish. I don't want to take a job that gets me home at 6pm. Any btdt moms who went back to work f/t care to share their experiences? is it the kind of thing that once i do it it'll work out and feel normal? b/c i'm thinking that this isn't the life/household that i want. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:50 PM Flag
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Teacher? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:56 PM Flag
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i'm not really qualified. i was thinking of doing preschool assistant but it's not going to give me the money i need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:00 PM Flag
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Do you have a college degree? If so, you can add on certification through PACE or an online program... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:02 PM Flag
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i didn't know that. i'll look into it. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:09 PM Flag
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DS used to be in bed at 7pm before I went back to work. But my job got me home at 7, so I instructed nanny to let him nap 2hr a day. He goes to bed at 9pm. I get 2 hrs with him at night and 1 hr in the morning. [ Reply | More ]
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op: thanks for posting. how old is your dc now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:02 PM Flag
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my kids used to go to bed at 6:30, and gradually their bedtime shifted later. my 18mo still goes to bed at 7pm, but my 3yo (who still naps) is up until 8pm most nights. [ Reply | More ]
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op: are you happy with it, did you end up adjusting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:03 PM Flag
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my 2yo goes to bed at 8pm but i also shifted my hours so i start earlier and end earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:04 PM Flag
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op: i can't start earlier b/c of the school bus. if anything, i'd have to start later and then end later. or else hire someone for an hour in the morning (ha. good luck with that, right?). but then i'm already getting home close to 7. And i'm very unhappy with that idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:31 PM Flag
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What do you want to do? If you're just looking for an hourly type job, why not try and cater for a company that does corporate meetings or craft services and get on an early shift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:39 PM Flag
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i went on a job interview and i loved the job. but when i think about the hours it'll take out of my life, i can't get enthusiastic. it would probably help if they were offering more money, at least i'd feel like for every year i work, i can put away some money to stay home next year. i think i'm just really bummed about the prospect of working so many hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] why am I so excited that Apple is in talks with Verizon re: the iPhone? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:46 PM Flag
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Oooooh, is this true?????? I'm excited too! I get the best deal with Verizon, plus it's the only service that works at all (though not great) at our weekend house so I'd pretty much gotten over having an iPhone. It would be great if they work something out! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:14 PM Flag
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Not worth being excited about, IMO. I got an iPhone (which I love), but part of why I love it is because I get much better reception with AT&T reception than I ever dreamed of with Verizon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:15 PM Flag
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really! wow -- where do you use it in general? I've always heard AT&T reception sucks, which is why I've been avoiding the switch to an iphone. Would love to be persuaded otherwise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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I use my phone in Brooklyn and out in Westchester. AT&T has been excellent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:06 PM Flag
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Interesting...for years only Verizon would work in my UES apt, but I've noticed from friends visiting that AT&T is definitely improving. But since I just re-upped with Verizon I'm super excited by this post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:42 PM Flag
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really? i'm on verizon and get excellent reception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:58 PM Flag
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because AT&T sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:01 PM Flag
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YES!! This would make my life so much better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:07 PM Flag
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me too! In NYC AT&T doesn't hold a candle to Verizon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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AT&T sucks in Manhattan. I constantly get dropped calls or a busy network signal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I am self-medicating with food and need to lose 20 pounds. Any moms btdt and care to share how you did it? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 04.28.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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watching this... i am the doing the same.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:40 PM Flag
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op: I meant, I need to lose 30, actually. ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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oh, ok; i've lost the first 10 of my 30, so i've got 20 to go. it's tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:42 PM Flag
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me too...OK--where are the BTDTs?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:52 PM Flag
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op: I guess it's just us! I am so bummed because honestly I am quite a looker when I'm fit, lol ... feeling sooooooooo gross but just can't stop the hand to mouth thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:53 PM Flag
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put up photos of your fit-self on the fridge, pantry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:00 PM Flag
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I was in the same position and decided that I was sick of wearing my maternity clothes and wanted to fit into my old wardrobe this summer (I had twins in the fall). I started South Beach a month ago--it's a VERY EASY diet--and have lost 12 pounds...and feel amazing! I highly recommend it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:43 PM Flag
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op: I'm breastfeeding, which of course doesn't help. Are you dying of hunger? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:48 PM Flag
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No--the diet is boring, but I'm never hungry. (And I went from 100 to 165lbs during my pregnancy...I like to eat!!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:54 PM Flag
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What is South Beach exactly? What does it do for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:01 PM Flag
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Cut out sugar and some carbs--lose belly fat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:08 PM Flag
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How? Do they send you pre-made food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:13 PM Flag
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No--if you go on their website or buy the book, you'll get a list of "approved" foods and recipes. It's really easy. And most of the food is yummy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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Which means...I have to cook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:32 PM Flag
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If you want--if not, you can order in per the "south beach" instructions. But the cooking is sorta fun--honestly--it takes time, so you appreciate what you are eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:37 PM Flag
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I just don't have much time. Where can I order in per the "south beach" instructions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:16 PM Flag
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that was me. you can do small things to help (e.g. don't buy certain snacks that you know you'll over-eat, have easy to eat healthier choices at hand). but the bottom line is that you'll only change when you are good and ready. one morning you'll wake up and say "i've had enough of this" and it'll give you the strength of will to really change your eating habits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:56 PM Flag
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op: damn, that's what I thought. :) but hey, if I quit smoking five years ago and haven't looked back, I guess I can do this too, one day. [ Reply | More ]
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weightwatchers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids are not teens (yet), but really, would you approve an unchaperoned spring break trip out of town for your high school senior? Chaperoned high school trips are bad enough (plenty of stuff gets by the chaperones, at least it did in my day), but honestly, I can't see letting my kid go with friend to Mexico. Not talking about the whole swine flu thing, really just curious if I am in the minority in thinking this is not appropriate. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nope - ITA that even on chaperoned trips, a LOT happens, and the issue would be that it's in a foreign country. Lots of stuff can happen here, too, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:38 PM Flag
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my high school French class went to Paris. It really is quite common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:39 PM Flag
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op: Hm. Somehow that sounds more civilized (and chaperoned, which exempts it from my original question). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, but maybe it depends on the hs class. I took class trips to lots of interesting places in high school, and we got a way with A LOT. To be fair, it wasn't anything we weren't doing back home, necessarily, but still. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Right, that's what I'm saying. Just that even if it's chaperoned, they're still going to be getting away with stuff, if that's what they're about ... but to not have any sort of chaperone at all just seems ridiculous. Anyway that's just me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:47 PM Flag
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your HS SR will be on his or her own at college the next year for the whole year. a week away is just a warm up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:27 PM Flag
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I would probably allow my high school senoir to go on a trip unchaperoned. I did. The vase majority of the students in my high school did. They will be off to college in a matter of months. Time to cut the apron strings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:18 PM Flag
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ITA. I went to Hawaii for 10-days, unchaperoned, with a co-ed group of about 20 when I was 17. It was fine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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First of all, it truly depends on who your kid is and who they'll be with. Second of all though... 5 months later they're off to college... if you can't trust them in the spring, what are you going to do come September. My 14 yo has been on a chaperoned trip to Europe and one to New Orleans... "working trips"...one with a chorus and one to do community service. It's the vacation aspect of the spring break thing, but that brings me right back to my first point above. [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't go away on my own on a trip until college. Only trip in high school was a school trip to Italy (and yes, stuff went on and we all got caught for most of it!( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:53 PM Flag
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i went on an unchaperoned trip to mexico my junior year--it was a rite of passage (from the midwest). lots of stuff happens, but that's the fun! there are just a few months between your high school senior and your college freshman... we went wild on chaperoned trips too. i remember an especially fun one to france. you can't be in control forever... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:56 PM Flag
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ita with you. in fact, i think natalee holloway was on a supervised trip, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:57 PM Flag
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Depends on the circumstances. I probably wouldn't approve over spring break (while still in HS). But if dc was 18 and had graduated, it might be hard to say no especially if dc had worked and saved money to go. After all, they will be completely unchaperoned the following september. But again, it would depend on the crowd, the location, length and other circumstances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:05 PM Flag
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np: My decision would also vary according to the circumstances. I would have less of a problem with a ski trip where they would be doing something active during the day, rather than a trip to Mexico where the primary activity is drinking. I am not naive - I know in either circumstance things would be going on, but one sits less well with me than the other. It would also depend on my dc's temperament and whether they had been trustworthy in the past. [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't (and I am the parent of a teen). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:57 PM Flag
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absolutely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 10:28 AM Flag
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Unchaperoned? Absolutely not. No way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 10:30 AM Flag
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No, except college visits. In hs I traveled abroad, but always on a chaperoned or school-related/enrichment trip. When I was a jr & sr, I visited older friends at college, but only friends my parents knew well. My dcs can wait until college to frolic on the beach with their boy/girlfriends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 10:30 AM Flag
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It would depend on my kid and the trip. My #1 seems likely to be a huge egghead. I'd let him go on a learning trip. His younger brother seems destined to cause me lots of sleepless nights. If #2 is the teen I seem him becoming... NFW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 10:51 AM Flag
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I can't tell you how many kids from my high school came back from the "Biology" trip to Jamaica in love with smoking pot and working on growing their fredlocks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 11:02 AM Flag
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i love it! biology trip to jamaica? i wish my school had a trip like that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 11:04 AM Flag
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Nope. Came up last year and we said no. Now as a college student, if he can pay, he can go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 11:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions on dealing with all day "morning sickness"? I have this constant upset stomach and it seems like neither eating nor not eating seems to make it just feel better? I will try anything at this point..HELP 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:33 PM Flag
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These all helped me for a little while then stopped and I tried something else. Microwave popcorn, sucking on those red and white hard peppermint candies, gum, ginger ale and crackers. Giner ale all day, caffeine free pepsi, altoids and mac n cheese (the cheap stuff in the box) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:21 PM Flag
[ - ] no more swine flu: call it the H1N1 virus, please. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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Who do you work for--Armour? Oscar Meyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:34 PM Flag
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Why? A virus by any other name is still a virus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:02 PM Flag
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What does it matter what it's called? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:04 PM Flag
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does mad cow disease offend you too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:07 PM Flag
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I think the swine flu is much more catchy (pun intended.) [ Reply | More ]
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Only someone with a vested interest in the pork industry would give a sh*t what they call it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] just curious if your daycare/preschool/kindergarten has a rule about CANDY, where I live, bags of candy are commonly being passed around in school, especially on birthdays and holidays, seems bizarre to me. I am not anti-Candy so please no remarks, just sincerely wondering if most schools have rules about it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 04.28.09, 03:07 PM Flag
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My ds was at a Montessori school last year and they very very anti junk food. I even brought in fruit for ds birthday instead of cupcakes. His current preschool is very relaxed about junk food. I prefer the relaxed atmosphere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:31 PM Flag
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no candy, nyc daycare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:20 PM Flag
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Mine has a "no candy" policy, but that doesn't stop the teachers from passing it out. Really pisses me off, and if I tell them not to give any to my DS, they won't, but then he'd feel excluded and I don't want that. I just wish they followed their own policy - which is in written form and handed out to all parents at the beginning of the year! [ Reply | More ]
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last year, my dd's teachers were fanatic about it. they wouldn't let me give crackers for snack or pretzels. but then she'd constantly be coming home and saying "we had donuts or ice cream today". it really irked me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:29 PM Flag
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manhattan preschool--kids are not allowed to bring candy to school, and parents are not supposed to give their kids candy on school premises. there's a mom in our class that always breaks this rule and has several times handed her kid a lollipop while picking her up, and sometimes another child. i wish the teachers would say something to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't think my Husband has ever seen a piece of trash and thought "I should pick that up." 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:59 PM Flag
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Wow, so many levels that could be read on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:03 PM Flag
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I know! That was a beautiful masterwork of double entendre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:27 PM Flag
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My wife is like that about turning off a light or fixing a dripping faucet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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I actually wish I could get my dh to stop cleaning for a minute. Literally, he vacuums behind us as we enter the door! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:58 PM Flag
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oh my god that's me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] so last night dd comes to get dh because she thinks she hears a woman being hurt. turned out it was a couple having very loud and enthusiastic sex. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:44 PM Flag
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welcome to apartment living. we are waiting for DD to ask about the noise coming from the apartment downstairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:47 PM Flag
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Hey, if you were in the countryside, it would be wild animals...There is nothing like cows mating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:04 PM Flag
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Cows? Do you live in the wilds of Park Slope? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:06 PM Flag
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I remember when I was a kid listening to the cows crying when their babies were taken away for slaughter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:13 PM Flag
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"silence of the calf" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:16 PM Flag
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i thought they stood upright in dark pens before they were made into veal. not slaughtered right away. shows how much i know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:02 PM Flag
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np- agree, as for cows in labor- terrific noise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] We're moving from NYC to CT & I need to find movers. any recommendations? any ball park for what it will cost to move a small 2 bed apt? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 04.28.09, 02:28 PM Flag
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Flat Rate Movers. did the same move a couple of months ago. we were in a Jr 4, but had ALOT of stuff. paid $1500 all in. Paid extra to have them pack the kitchen for us. totally worth it! GIve them a call they will come over, look at what you have & give you a quote. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:36 PM Flag
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For NYC moves- I really love Big Johns- didn't ruin a thing, were fast and had a large crew. I've also worked with Moving Man Inc- and loved them- I think they are affiliated with a larger national moving company- both immediately send in-home estimate people and were fairly accurate- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:19 PM Flag
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R-Way, the Rooney Brothers. outstanding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:20 PM Flag
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Found Deland honest, efficient and fast! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Grammar: At any time neither my husband nor I AM living? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:21 PM Flag
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no, your tenses are mixed up as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:23 PM Flag
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Well then fix it please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:24 PM Flag
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I don't know what you're trying to say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:25 PM Flag
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english teacher here: the verb is actually correct; when using neither/nor, the subject closest to the verb determines whether the verb is singular or plural, so your subject is "Neither my husband nor I" so your verb needs to match with the noun closest to it, which is "am." What about the opening prep phrase, "At any time"? What's that connecting to. (I love grammar!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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I actually meant not to specify singular or plural, but the conjugation of the verb in accordance with its subject - so, again, "am" is correct for "I" in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] random post: why do wealthy women need to have small dogs as pets? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:15 PM Flag
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LOL. They don't (at least not all of them). The wealthiest woman I know (member of the duPont family, with more money from other sources) has a Rhodesian Ridgeback that is around 110 lbs. However, most people have small dogs for a few reasons - they need less space, less excersize, shed less, eat less food and are much easier to travel with than a big dog. You can carry a purse dog into a store while the 80 lb lab will be turned away at the door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:46 PM Flag
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all true. I think this is generally the case only in the city. The country folks I know with money all have huge dogs, but having an Irish greyhound or a Weimaraner in the city takes serious dedication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:38 PM Flag
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i am wealthy and have two standard poodles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:21 PM Flag
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I have a miniature pinscher and I am not wealthy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:38 PM Flag
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op: okay, okay, I'll stop stereotyping. I just keep on seeing them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:43 PM Flag
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I have often wondered why police officers and firefighters must have mustaches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:49 PM Flag
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hmmm...fascinating. Mustaches look good with big hats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:54 PM Flag
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I'm from a rural area and many farm women had a small dog in the house as opposed to their husbands' working dogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:34 PM Flag
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I do ok and I have a medium sized Aussie as a pet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Where is the worst behaved (i.e. mean, bully, etc.) kid in your dc's preschool class going to k? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.28.09, 02:14 PM Flag
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St. Bernard's. Should be interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:15 PM Flag
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Oh, great, so are well. Signed, mom of a very wimpy boy. Constantly lets other kids cut in line, take his stuff, etc... Can you give me a clue about the bully so we know who to avoid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:49 PM Flag
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Sorry. I would give more info but seems wrong to out him - maybe he will change. If not, you will figure it out right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:05 PM Flag
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maybe if you didn't work so hard to avoid more assertive kids, your kid would learn to cope better. they are all learning to ocialize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:12 PM Flag
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so sad that you have this view of your son, no wonder he has confidence issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.01.09, 04:08 PM Flag
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Ditto. Not mean, though, just v. poor impulse control and low tolerance for frustration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:43 PM Flag
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moving to Long Island to gen ed there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:31 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:44 PM Flag
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Ethical Culture -- isn't that a hoot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:34 PM Flag
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Lady of Pompeii (sp?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:37 PM Flag
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St. Ann's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:53 PM Flag
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I don't like this question. It is mean spirited, and just the stuff that makes you sound like the bully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:13 PM Flag
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right on. there are bullies in preschool? give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:05 PM Flag
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There are mean kids (mostly from mean selfish mothers). We had a hitter, biter, crier who lashed out at other children infront of his mother and she did nothing--I swear she was on meds. He will be in kindergarten next year...good luck to who ever has him in their class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:14 PM Flag
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agreed that some kids are more difficult (as are some people). but to make generalizations or to be so obsessed with "mean" 4 yos reflects badly on you. even saying that their mothers are uniformly mean and selfish just reveals your own issues. asking people to post schools where these kids they didn't like will be going is YOU being a bully. give it up and move on. fnd a different hobby that disliking young dcs and competing with their mothers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:30 PM Flag
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NP and St. B. mom: Don't worry, they are very good dealing with the boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 09:11 AM Flag
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Let me see. The worst bully in preschool used to throw a sneaker at a kid's face when a kid woke up from nap time. He stabbed another kid in the neck with a plastic fork. He bit and punched kids on a regular basis. I hope he ended up in juvy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:12 PM Flag
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ok. are you over it now? have you gotten your hatred for a toddler out of your system? I hope so. you sound like you cannot move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:18 PM Flag
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ita. Plenty of preschool age kids have lousy impulse control, and grow out of it, especially if the adults don't label them as bad kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:32 PM Flag
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ITA. At this age, it's a reflection of the parents. I think this post is very mean spirited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:20 PM Flag
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PS 41 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:41 PM Flag
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another 41 here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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Two of them: Town and Collegiate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 04:33 PM Flag
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Shocking to say, but there are no badly behaved kids in my dc's preschool class this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:09 PM Flag
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lucky you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:18 PM Flag
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All the parents seem very happily surprised! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.01.09, 04:07 PM Flag
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Brearley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:16 PM Flag
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Meanest/bully - buckley. worst behaved - browning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:16 PM Flag
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Worst behaved, Dwight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:23 PM Flag
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us too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:39 PM Flag
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PS 6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 05:35 PM Flag
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Hewitt, seriously [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:13 PM Flag
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Trevor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:45 PM Flag
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Ramaz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:54 PM Flag
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Buckley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 07:14 PM Flag
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Hunter. Not so much a bully but obnoxious, no impulse control, know-it-all who never lets others talk or talks over them, never raises hand, crybaby, over-indulged (by SAHM with team of nannies), definitely prepped future narcissist. I realize this post will make me seem like I'm jealous, but I'm really not. This kid is the quintessential future Type A NYer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 09:24 AM Flag
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you have described my dc who is a special needs child - PPD NOS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 09:27 AM Flag
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Packer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.09, 03:08 PM Flag
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hope he's not in my dd's class next year! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.01.09, 04:06 PM Flag
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It's a she!!! Good luck!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.09, 09:05 AM Flag
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Yawmmit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.01.09, 04:12 PM Flag
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i don't know that school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.19.09, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] If you have a full free ride for a school like Trevor or Dwight or Columbia Grammar, would you go? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.28.09, 01:43 PM Flag
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depends on what my other options were. I would pick PS9 G&T or Anderson over those schools in a heartbeat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:46 PM Flag
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nah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:48 PM Flag
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np: Seriously? You would choose a public school with all the DOE issues and facilities problems over a free ride at a private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:50 PM Flag
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yes. i'm in a general ed school and more than satisfied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:50 PM Flag
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people the DOE have a very short stick and don't effect the day to day of dc's education. I don't care about designer facilities, I care about the best education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:58 PM Flag
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NP: LOL. You think that your child is getting the "best education" at a DOE school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:59 PM Flag
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snob alert [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:18 PM Flag
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np delusional mom alert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:20 PM Flag
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maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:50 PM Flag
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Free ride at trevor or cpgs - hell yes. And DC is currently at a TT we love. No FA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:51 PM Flag
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ITA!! (And I'm a teacher elsewhere and picky - and I'd still do it!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 01:55 PM Flag
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No way. Dc at tt (we pay full tuition). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:01 PM Flag
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absolutely! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 02:04 PM Flag
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Seems to me the only reason NOT to do this is to prove some point, i.e., that you are not a snob. Just give your kid the best education you can, however you can do it legally and basically ethically, and be glad. A free ride at a private sounds good to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 03:38 PM Flag
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np Peer group is important. Sure, some kids are connected, but the smartest dcs in private schools end up at tts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:18 PM Flag
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No, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:07 PM Flag
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:08 PM Flag
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Yes. And then if your child works hard and uses his intelligence to get to grades, then not only will he feel a wonderful sense of accomplishment and develop confidence, he will probably end up in a better college program than the average or below average tt private school student [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:24 PM Flag
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Top students at cgps, trevor or dwight are getting into ivy league caliber schools. Unconnected average kids at tt are not going to ivy caliber schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.15.09, 02:32 PM Flag
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no, but dc has fa at a tt (not full ride) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.09, 06:55 PM Flag
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Free ride to Trevor or CGPS - yes, of course. I don't have any knowledge of D. The knocking these schools take is unwarranted and ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.15.09, 02:50 PM Flag
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Yep. No question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.15.09, 04:39 PM Flag
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Of course. What kind of dumb question is this? What is the point? obviousl a private school like Trevor or CGPS (I dont' know dwight) has a ton of resources, smaller class size, etc., that just can't compete with local public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.15.09, 09:25 PM Flag
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