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[ - ] At my daughter's 4 month pediatrician visit (which happened to when she was about 4.5 months) the doctor noticed that the whites of her eyes are gray and told me to watch it because it could be a sign of a bone disorder. I looked it up, and she's talking about osteogenesis imperfecta - brittle bone disease. Now I'm freaked out. It's been over a month and the gray color is still there. Do any of your baby's have this? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Newborn 03.30.09, 07:51 AM Flag
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no but I hope that all will be ok. Is the entire white of the eye grayish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:01 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:16 AM Flag
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I was looking it up and it said "Blue tint to the white's of the eyes". Not sure if that's' true but look on www.webmd.com. It;s better than a lot of those other non-reputable sites. If it doesn't put your mind at rest, call your pediatrician and let her know your concerns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:17 AM Flag
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Why is the doctor not more concerned? I would take her in for a second opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:21 AM Flag
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I really didn't notice that her sclera (whites of eyes) had a grayish tint until the doctor pointed it out to me. I'm going to take her to a pediatric opthamologist. I [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 11:46 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm applying for the Pre-K spot at a zoned school, but the program is full day. I am currently bringing dd to a language emersion class that I would like to continue next year, too. It starts at 1:30, though, so I would have to pull dd out of class twice a week earlier than the end of the program. Will the school let me do that? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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Program ends at 3? They won't love it and will probably recommend against it, IMO. Wait til you're in, then discuss... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:53 AM Flag
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clearly you need to find a half-day program to meet your needs then. otherwise, you're going to take that pre-K spot away from someone who will really use it. I think missing that much class would be detrimental to your dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:09 AM Flag
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I definitely think the zoned school would give you a very hard time if you did this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Ashkenazi Jews who married a Sephardic on? How do you handle the differences and the CRAZINESS?? They drive me nuts sometimes. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:45 AM Flag
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A gentile here... I love New York. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:53 AM Flag
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not personally but i work with a lot of sephardim and there are a few from "mixed" marriages. it's pretty hard. where's your dh's family from? do you live in a sephardic community? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Can we please get the DOE to embrace technology? My twins are in public PreK & every Mon. morning I bring them in at lunch time because I have to take them to downtown Brooklyn for physical & occupational therapies. As a fluke I took them to school this a.m., because there was a workshop the principal wanted me to attend. I stayed for half & hour & then went to get twins. Teacher said I had to go to main office to sign them out. Went there & parent coordinator says " I am not supposed to tell you this but your kids are being observed for their 'Turning 5' evaluation now, so you should probably cancel their therapy." This is the 3rd week in a row I have had to cancel my daughter's therapy (she was sick before.) As it is because of the therapist shortage they both only receive 1/2 of what they are mandated for & I could only get slots during school.... 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Special Needs 03.30.09, 07:42 AM Flag
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HEH? We all know the DOE is effed up but frankly, have no clue what your story was about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:51 AM Flag
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You wouldn't if your child doesn't get services. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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whatever. I agreed that the DOE is a mess. Just that your writing is uniformative and incoherent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 10:05 AM Flag
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School has more important things on its mind than making your schedule easier. It's a drag, but I don't see any system that is that parent-centric. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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op Actually kind of worked out better for me in the end. Because if they weren't there this morning (as they never are on Mondays) the social worker who came from across Brooklyn would have had to resched. for God knows when & who knows when the twins would ever get their K placements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:13 AM Flag
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what does any of that have to do with technology? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:57 AM Flag
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op Yeah, that wasn't clear. Point was the need to have calendars that are accessible by all staff; need to embrace email. For God's sake if the even looked at a paper calendar would have done the trick. The fact is that my kids are never even there on Monday mornings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:10 AM Flag
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public school's purpose is not to serve an individual child. It is you, the parent, who needs to schedule around the school not the other way around. If you don't like that go private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:48 AM Flag
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ITA. you sound like a piece of entitled work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 10:22 AM Flag
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I did schedule. They just didn't bother to ask me if kid would be there when they came to school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 10:24 AM Flag
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do you know how much time would be wasted entering everyone's information into computers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:23 AM Flag
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Luddite much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:44 AM Flag
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YOU UNDERSTAND THAT AFTER DECADES, THEY CAN'T EVEN MEET THEIR OWN DEADLINES ON ANYTHING RIGHT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 10:07 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD?? Called a relative to say sorry we won't be able to attend a family wedding this summer because DB unfortunately needs to have a serious surgery. Her reaction "you mean you don't want to wait till after the wedding to have the surgery?" followed by a suggestion that maybe just DH could attend...leaving me home alone with a post op infant. I don't even know what to say to her now and she's emailing us for updates. I've just been ignoring but clearly it can't go on forever. I want to express how angry and hurt I am by her complete lack of sensitivity but don't want to create a family war. 56 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:37 AM Flag
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is it your side or dh's? if his - let him deal with it. sorry about the surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:38 AM Flag
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Ignore. Sounds like you made the right decision!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:38 AM Flag
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ignoring could possibly create the war she's trying to avoid. Just tell her that you're really, really sorry, but it can't be rescheduled. Period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:40 AM Flag
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When she emails you with updates, write back that no one is attending because of DB's SURGERY. Underline, bold, cap it. How insensitive can a person be? Is it her wedding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:42 AM Flag
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OP - MY FEELINGS EXACTLY - how insensitive. It's her daughter's wedding and it would require us to travel 2500 miles to attend. It's not like we're backing out of a wedding that's 20 minutes away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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I agree with you but please do see her side of the story. It's her daughter's wedding and YOU relative's wedding. She must be hurt, too, that you decided to set a date for the operation BEFORE the wedding. Do what you have to do but don't just look at your side of the story and call her insensitive. Remeber that to her, you are insensitive, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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OP - I called her to express how sorry I was that we would have to miss the wedding and that unfortunately we don't have much choice in the matter of when the surgery is scheduled- it's going to be when the doctor thinks its necessary. I didn't decide anything - this surgery needs to occur as soon as possible after db turns a certain age which aligns with the wedding. I felt like I did my very best to take her feelings into consideration [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:52 AM Flag
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np: what you have done is completely appropriate. She is out of line to suggest that you should rearrange db's medical care in order to attend. I would not re-open the discussion, and when the actual invite arrives just RSVP no. end of story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:15 AM Flag
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It's a wedding! And while yes everyone thinks their wedding (or their daughter's wedding in this case) is the most important thing to ever happen in the world, it isn't and it certainly does not trump surgery on a child. The relative is being insensitive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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are you f'ing kidding me? shes scheduling surgery for her child? you are ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:03 AM Flag
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OMG it's a sugery for an infant not a damn face lift for OP. I'm sorry but my dc health TRUMPS everything. If the relative can't understand too damn bad. She needs to grow the hell up. It's a damn wedding..not like OP is the step mom and telling the father of the bride not to attend. IT's a cousins wedding. THAT'S IT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:06 AM Flag
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You can't be serious - OP is insensitive? For not going to the wedding as a guest (not like she was MOH) to have surgery for an infant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:34 AM Flag
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Please see her side of the story? A you f*cking kidding me?? Unless OP went out of her way to BEG her doctor to schedule her baby's surgery to coincide with the wedding, you are INSANE. This is a wedding. Say it with me, wedding. As in a CEREMONY which is nice and all, but is come on. Enough with the "it's all about me and my special day" bullshit and imagine the fear and stress that comes along with an infant needing surgery. The last thing this poor woman needs is to worry about offending someone because she won't be one of two hundred people the bride will be too busy to notice anyway. OP, unless you are leaving out large parts of the story, you are a saint for not going off on this callous bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:38 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:40 AM Flag
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Are you the mother of the bride? Seriously, what you are suggesting is crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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Absolutely, ITA. Because when I'm scheduling serious durgery for my DB, I worry about hurting the feelings of the mother of the bride whose wedding I am about to miss. I mean, I could worry about the doctor's schedule, my DB and his welfare, insurance claims, work/home schedules pre- and post- surgery, but that's so selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:53 AM Flag
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im glad you finally see it my way, signed, "mother of the bride" LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:00 AM Flag
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is she asking for wedding updates or surgery updates? just tell her no one is going to the wedding. if dh's relative, let him deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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OP She's asking for general updates about DB - which in theory is nice but it's very clear that she just really wants to know whether DB will require surgery much sooner (which would be bad for us bc then it is much more serious)making us possibly able to attend the wedding because db would have recovered by then. It's DH's family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:49 AM Flag
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tell dh to deal with her then. neither of you will be attending. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:57 AM Flag
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that's insane. I would cut off contact [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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This person is obviously self absorbed and/or clueless. Just firmly tell her - write a SHORT note - that you are sorry but you cannot reschedule surgery and that you will be thinking or her and wishing her well on her big day (Bridzilla!!!). Then don't give it another thought. You need to do what's best for your dc. Some people just think the world stops when they are getting married ( and in some cases when they have a db). Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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Make sure she understands this is not elective surgery. Your baby isn't going for lipo or a boob job. When she says, "of course I understand that..." POUNCE. Let's face it. You are going to have a war here. You might as well get the first strike in. Shock and awe, baby! Shock and awe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:50 AM Flag
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There is no need for a war here. Just state that you are not coming, again, and don't play games. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:54 AM Flag
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OR: I agree it is unnecessary HOWEVER I think at this point, unless OP is willing to just bite her tongue and eat shit it is unavoidable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:02 AM Flag
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NP: you sound like you want to create more friction. Sometimes a little honey goes a long way. A win win would be to have bride unoffended ( clod that she may be) and Op able to concentrate on her db without this non-sense. You can get your way without ruffling anymore feathers - unless you really do want a confrontation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:06 AM Flag
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How did OP ruffle feathers in the first place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:35 AM Flag
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ORP: She didn't, it was her feathers that were ruffled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:41 AM Flag
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OR: I am a huge fan of honey. But after having dealt with a handful of really horrible brides in the past few years. Women who grew up thinking the sun rose and set out of their asses and that on "their special day" only their needs mattered. I guess I'm a little hyper jaded on the subject. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:44 AM Flag
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Fair enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:45 AM Flag
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OR: it would be an interesting study to look at "Bridezillas" and the mothers they become. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:53 AM Flag
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i would write back and say something like "our db is our priority right now. she/he needs our constant attention and care..." i agree, how insensitive on her part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:53 AM Flag
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do not bother trying to express your hurt and anger. she's being quite insensitive and the best thing to do is say that as far as you know now, none of you will be attending. you wish them the best and if you see the recovery is going smoothly, your dh will consider attending at the last minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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OP - I defintely don't want problems but the reality is that shes going to be in our lives for a long time and I honestly don't feel like I can have a relationship with her unless we get past this. I don't feel like I owe her any more apologies about this wedding I think she owes me an apology for acting like an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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move on - suddenly it seems clearer that you are more concerned with getting an apology than with the surgery for your db. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:12 AM Flag
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OP clearly im more concerned with the health of db, bc it's DH's family I just wanted suggestions for how to deal without having further issues. I guess I will just let it go and ignore the garbage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:18 AM Flag
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ITA with this assessment. you need to let it go. stop reading into every little email and comment and just move on. your righteous indignation seems a bit over the top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:31 AM Flag
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you are not going to get one until well after the wedding. telling her that she's being insensitive is not going to make her realize she's insenstive. the best way to deal with this is to be very specific about who is going or not going to the wedding and offering polite regrets. (regrets are not the same as an apology). if you want to get her to stop talking about it, ask her if she wants updates on the pre-surgery and post-op developments. that should be the last time she'll mention it. the same way you are not getting into her wedding, she is not into your dc's surgery. just drop it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:14 AM Flag
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watch that marriage end in divorce. My general rule of thumb is that people who put all their energy into the wedding are doing it to avoid underlying issues in the relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:28 AM Flag
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interesting theory. i was going to ask how old the bride was and if it's the bride or if it's the bride's mom who is asking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:30 AM Flag
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OP it's the brides mom - in fact im sure the actual bride would be understanding. Her mom is just completely and entirely absorbed with the wedding stuff which I get - it's her daughter's wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:34 AM Flag
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You just have to ignore. I went through a similar thing with my own sister last year. They scheduled their wedding for a week before my due date, wouldn't you know I had DB the night before the wedding. They are separated already and she is still pissed at me, as if I had any choice in the matter. Some things you just have let go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:22 AM Flag
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Some people get crazy when it comes to their weddings. I know someone who got really angry at her sister because she was newly pregnant and her due date was the same day she wanted to have her wedding, so she had to reschedule for a different weekend. She was pissed off, neglecting to even consider the fact that her sister had probably been pregnant for weeks before before she was even engaged. Her sister miscarried a few weeks later and her reaction wasn't sympathy for the sister but more like "she screwed up my original plan for no reason." Talk about insensitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:17 AM Flag
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SPAM block her emails and tell DH to step in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:32 AM Flag
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OMG. This is so awful of her. And the last thing my DH would ever want to do is go to a wedding solo, let alone one that took place right after his child's surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:34 AM Flag
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Tell her how much you would LOVE to help her celebrate her big day and how mad you are at your DC for getting sick and requiring serious surgery. Follow it up with how stressed you are at the serious risk factors of surgery on an infant, how sometimes you can't sleep from the stress, how you are worried about coping with with a post op infant, and how much you would seriously love to travel around the world to spend the day with her. Maybe she will get the hint. p.s. Good luck to your DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:08 AM Flag
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I always like the phrase "I'm sure you understand" when people are being a bit dense. Example: It's unfortunate that we'll miss the wedding but the scheduling is completely out of our hands and we have to trust db's doctor with something as serious as db's health. I'm sure you understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:20 AM Flag
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this is good, polite, but to the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 10:43 AM Flag
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Oh quit playing poor victim. Clearly you're pissed that someone in DH's family has the nerve to plan a wedding around your personal tragedy. I hope everything is well with your baby, but seriously -- drop it with the aunt. She's not walking in your shoes and she doesn't have to. Send a nice gift and let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 10:51 AM Flag
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Not OP but I think I can reasonably say that I can speak for her when I say she couldn't care less when the wedding is, much less be pissed that it's been scheduled near her DB's surgery. God, what's wrong with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 11:03 AM Flag
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Are you on crack? Considering that the OP is talking about an infant, I think it's safe to assume that the wedding was planned before her baby had the AUDACITY to need surgery. I hardly think the OP cares when the wedding takes place and I think you're a totally douchenozzle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:06 PM Flag
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OP definitely wants the relatives to change the wedding because of her baby!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 01:34 PM Flag
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loser [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 01:42 PM Flag
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Cousin was very upset I 'couldn't attend her wedding 1 month after I lost my premature DB. She said, 'Bummer! But it'll be good for you too. It'll make you forget.' We were so close before then and I've never really felt inclined to spend much time with her since. I put it down to insensitivity people normally hide well, but forget to do so in the middle of marriage mania. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 11:59 AM Flag
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Weddings tend to turn people retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:07 PM Flag
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This may be the most true statement in the history of UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Life magnified: this is a little gross - broke my eyebrow plucking mirror this weekend and got a new one that is 10x magnification. OMG. had to go back out and buy nose strips, blackhead scrub and better tweezers. good news is i really got rid of a ton of blackheads and all random facial hair. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:31 AM Flag
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I just bought a 10x'er too. I call it the ugly mirror. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:33 AM Flag
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shocking isn't it? i looked in the broad daylight too. every little spot jumped out at me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:37 AM Flag
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it's awful! I look like WC Fields when I look into mine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:53 AM Flag
[ - ] need advice on how to proceed: want to tell 16yo dd that I was briefly married when I was 19. I just don't want her to learn it from another family member even though it's something no one ever talks about. How would you bring it up? I'm afraid she's going to feel like I was hiding something from her, but it really was a different lifetime 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:26 AM Flag
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sounds like a great bonding opportunity. i would do a special lunch or spa day and just explain yourself and your actions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:56 AM Flag
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take her out to lunch, tell her you don't want to freak her out, but there's something you want to tell her. tell her you hope she can learn from your mistakes. but at the same time, downplay it. unless you have kids from that marriage you've never told her about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:58 AM Flag
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no kids! that would be awful! (not the kids but not telling she had a half-sibling!!!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:03 AM Flag
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And remember: you're afraid she's going to feel like you were hiding something from her because. . . . you were hiding something from her. That's not an attack, it's just a fact, and you should feel neither bad nor good about that, but be prepared for her feeling that way, and for how you will deal with that. But not by pretending that you weren't in fact hiding something from her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:11 AM Flag
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I realize she may feel that way, but it only occurred to me recently that I should tell her because she's getting older and someone might mention it. But honestly, it's not something I was consciously hiding. It just isn't anything I think much about. It was almost 40 years ago (I'll be 56 soon). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:23 AM Flag
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I'm not saying you did anything wrong, just that you should keep in mind that just because she's angry at you about X, that doesn't mean X is false. You can have good reasons, or there can be other things that make things better right away or over time, but don't give in to the temptation to deny. (Even if you weren't consciously hiding, you have to admit that on some level it was hiding). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:28 AM Flag
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definitely do it soon. My uncle made us all swear never to mention his 1st wife. One of his girls found out via google and they all flipped out, are still upset after a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:15 AM Flag
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thanks. more motivation to just do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:24 AM Flag
[ - ] am newly pregnant with #2 (#1 is 9 mos). our NANNY is amazing. she is great with dd, cleans, cooks, runs errands. am i being overly optimistic to think that having her around is going to make life easier when #2 comes (especially since there is a chance this preg is twins - we did ivf and first us showed one heartbeat and some shadow that may be twin) i know i am going to have my hands full regardless especially since family is out of towm, but am trying to think of bright side. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Expecting 03.30.09, 07:25 AM Flag
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you're the one who chose to do ivf when you had a baby. why are you on here now whining about how hard it's going to be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:13 AM Flag
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i'm not complaining - i am thrilled to be pregnant. i just realize that its going to be a lot of work and am starting to think about the help that i am going to have aside from dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:53 AM Flag
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you made your bed, lady. don't ask us to help you lie in it. oh whoops, you won't have time to lie in bed for a very long time. or make a bed. good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:55 AM Flag
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are you dense?!?!? i am not asking for your help! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:58 AM Flag
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seriously--i would normally be sympathetic--but you must be nuts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:21 AM Flag
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op: how am i nuts? many people have children this close together - even closer. i am not looking for sympathy - just the perspective from people who have 2 Dcs and how helpful their nanny was when #2 was born [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:54 AM Flag
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sorry to rain on your parade but you are counting your chickens way before they are hatched here. you barely have a heartbeat and you are wondering about how helpful nanny is going to be with your new child and potentially twins? IVF SUCCESS IS THE BRIGHT SIDE LADY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Can someone please recommend a good dentist who takes Aetna. Would prefer midtown or UES. Thanks! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.30.09, 07:24 AM Flag
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try dr. cheung, 212-355-5225 tell him maggie sent you. he's on 57th street [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Grammar advice please: "It was a gift that our friends had given to my husband and I a few years ago." or "...given to my husband and ME..."??? Thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Toddler 03.30.09, 07:23 AM Flag
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me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:24 AM Flag
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me - I is a subject, Me is an oject. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:26 AM Flag
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Object. - anyway, think of it like this - My husband and I gave a gift. Someone gave a gift to my husband and me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:28 AM Flag
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drop the other person and say the sentence w only you in there. friends gave me a gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:44 AM Flag
[ - ] i want to start using coupons when i go the supermarket. i bought yesterdays paper but there really wasnt anything in it that i use. what are some good places for me to find coupons? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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I always buy Newsday coz they have thicker inserts (coupons) than those found in other NYC papers like Post, Daily News. A lot of stores like Pathmark, Shop & Stop, Waldbaums accept coupons..even those printed on the internet. Drugstores like CVS, Walgreens, Rite Aid are coupon friendly as well. Match the coupons (visit afullcup.com) with what's on sale and for sure.. you're going to save money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.13.09, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] How many parents were at Anderson on Saturday for the 6th&7th Grade testing? How does your child feel about the test? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 03.30.09, 06:56 AM Flag
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my dd came out crying, said the math was at 8th grade level and she couldnt do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:01 AM Flag
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How many students were there for the test? What is the chance of getting accepted? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:04 AM Flag
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aww, i am sorry. is she ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:05 AM Flag
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Seems so unfair to put these young kids through an SAT-type experience. Are there prep courses for these? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:08 AM Flag
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NP: Unfair? Anderson has accelerated math. There is nothing unfair about anything here. Choosing to sit for the exam is voluntary. Even if your kid does well enough to get admitted, it's again a voluntary CHOICE to select an accelerated program for your child. It's not for everyone, but there is nothing unfair about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:12 AM Flag
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NNP; true, but it's hard on these 11yos, they must have been the top of their class, facing this is difficult to handle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:16 AM Flag
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NP: Okay, I can see that. It's not unfair, but maybe a little too competitive at such a young age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:24 AM Flag
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Sorry but this is ridiculous. You know in advance that Anderson is a year ahead. So either you decide to give dc the tutoring needed to cover the missing grade, or you skip the test. Just sending dc is setting them up for failure. At our school, most families decided to pass on Anderson for this reason even if dc had excellent math scores, but there are a couple that did the tutoring needed to catch dc up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:31 AM Flag
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no argument there, but still couldn't help feeling for these kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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Uhm, the only reason why you would send your child to a citywide G&T is because of its accelerated curriculum, no? The kid couldn't hack it. Blame goes to the parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:45 AM Flag
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It is not really about not being able to hack it. Anderson tests on material that kids in other schools didn't get taught at all, because it is not in the curriculum until a year later. So the parents either had to get the child tutoring, or if really a math genius perhaps dc could have studied it himself/herself from a textbook. But if the material has never been introduced, the child has no shot. Then again, you do know this in advance and I don't get why anyone would sign up for the test without having covered the extra grade in math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:30 PM Flag
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i don't see why we should blame parents for encouraging dcs to reach high. maybe dd was crying because she's very hard on herself. you have no idea how well she did on the test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 05:17 PM Flag
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what is the big deal? You live in NYC, there is going to be competition for everything, especially going into middle school. time to get you dc to grow up a little or she will be lost... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:29 AM Flag
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Is there an additional test they have to take other than the OLSAT or is it the OLSAT that is asking 8th grade math questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:30 AM Flag
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NP: I think Anderson has its own middle school test, but i could be wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:45 AM Flag
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OP: 500 kids total will take th test for 9 spots, noone is leaving this year. Although it was a math/ela test, I was told by reliable source they look first at the math test result then later at the ela results if need be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:47 AM Flag
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This makes sense since the math will weed out most kids right away. I am surprised nobody is leaving as I know a couple families that talked about switching to private for MS. I guess the economy must have put a stop to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:43 AM Flag
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They don't know whether or not people are leaving - Delta results are not out yet and there are always some kids who leave for Delta for 6th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:56 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:59 AM Flag
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Why leave for delta? because some families feel it is a better MS than Anderson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:03 AM Flag
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In what way that Delta is better? genuine question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:05 AM Flag
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Longer track record, more languages, science lab in the school, bigger facilities, some fabulous teachers. Since it's larger and everyone's new it's easier for all kids to adjust - you're not the 'new' kid among a small and established group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 09:12 AM Flag
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np: The kids that leave Anderson for Delta leave mostly for social reasons, not so much academics. Just want new blood and new group of kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:28 PM Flag
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How many students per grade at Delta? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:52 PM Flag
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200 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 01:40 PM Flag
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Didn't a handful or so leave after 6th grade for Hunter HS? Or are you just talking about 6th grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:46 AM Flag
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For the past 2 years out of about 64 kids in the 6th grade, 12-15 have gotten acceptance to Hunter. The odds of getting a seat at Anderson for 7th grade are MUCH better than in 6th, as more seats are available and far fewer kids apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:24 PM Flag
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Yes but unless you are unhappy with where you are or are coming from out of town that is just a lot of changing schools. Middle school years are hard enough without changing schools 4 times in 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:32 PM Flag
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If you're talking about going to Hunter HS from Anderson, that's only one change. If you're talking about someone who went to another elementary school, then Anderson, then Hunter HS, that's only 2 changes. Why do you say changing "4 times in 5 years"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 05:03 PM Flag
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Talking about entering Anderson in 7th grade in this sub-thread. So the child goes to K-5, 6th grade at another MS, then 7-8 at Anderson, and then 9+ to HS. So 4 schools from grades 5-9. Way too much change for most kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.09, 08:27 AM Flag
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Only the "dumb" kids are left after the "bright" ones leave for Hunter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:53 PM Flag
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what a horible thing to say... I guessed you btdt, was one that's left behind while you were in school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 01:05 PM Flag
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^^ "horrible" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 01:08 PM Flag
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i happened to be there for an unrelated matter (my dc goes to anderson) and the few kids i saw coming out looked happy -- smiley, sweet-looking -- didn't see anyone who looked upset. i was there just about the time the test ended (a bit before noon). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 12:51 PM Flag
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i was there too,some of the kids came out early but the test ended after 12...don't know what you're talking about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] We are going to Bermuda in June and DD's passport expires in October. Anyone know if this is an issue, that her passport expires within 6 months of travel? Supposedly some countries will not let you in, was wondering if Bermuda is one of them. TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 06:55 AM Flag
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If your & DH's passports are good for longer, I can't imagine they'd be concerned about a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:14 AM Flag
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call the airline for the most up to date info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 07:21 AM Flag
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I would just apply for a new passport, enough time to get it done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.09, 08:36 AM Flag
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