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[ - ] Overreaction or justified -- stranger taps your shoulder while saying excuse me and you say don't touch me. You heard their verbal request and you moved. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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Over [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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overeaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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Justified but I don't like being touched by random people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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Overreaction. So many people wear headphones now tapping is getting more common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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Did the stranger say "excuse me" several times before and you didn't hear him/her or ignored their original request to move because you were on your phone per chance? In any case what is the big deal about having your royal self touched on a shoulder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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No one verbal and simultaneous tap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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For your other question, I just think it's rude - I'm not the royal one the one tapping me to get out of her way is royal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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Overreaction, and rude. I can't imagine saying "please don't touch me" as if the person was some diseased or dangerous person. Seems very aggressive. We are talking a shoulder tap, not a grope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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You don't think tapping someone is aggressive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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Repeatedly tapping yes..One tap . no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:43 PM Flag
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No, not at all. A gentle tap on the shoulder is just a human interaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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Personally I find it aggressive as if i can't get out of your way soon enough. Especially in a crowded and busy place where there's not even anywhere for one to go you just have to wait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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Okay, so you asked, but you really just wanted people to agree with you that you were justified in reacting like an exposed nerve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:35 PM Flag
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It's interesting to me when people exist in a city with a lot of people and then are surprised when people interact. You would be horrified in other countries where people don't have the space bubble that Americans think they are due. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:45 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:48 PM Flag
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Different countries have different social norms... your point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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It would piss me off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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Was this a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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Another woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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Are you PMS or something? Seems like a major overreaction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:17 PM Flag
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Well, did stranger simply "tap"? I did respond that way when someone shoved me while they were saying excuse me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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I mean I don't want to split hairs because what I experienced is probably different than her perception but what I felt was her kind of "hit" me on my shoulder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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Did you have earphones in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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Crazy overreaction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] A a mom of one DS divorcing in my 40s, tell me what I have to look forward to. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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Freeeeeeeedom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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It can be overwhelming. Make sure you have reliable child care and back up. Work out a lot and find a therapist. It will help you tremendously. Do not focus on dating until you are well established as a single parent. Your dc need you more than ever. You will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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NP. Divorced mom here. What she said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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Depends on the divorce, for me the thing to look forward to was not having to deal with beingb married to Ex, I didn't realize how awful it was and how unhappy I was until we split. It was like a giant weight was lifted (and he left me!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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Not having to be a person you're not. I LOVED raising my boy alone (although his dad was super involved) -- I loved that when I was with my sons, I made the decisions. I loved that I was financially doing it on my own. I loved the lack of anxiety. I made all my own plans. I did what I wanted. I was FREE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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And now? Are you financially stable? Are you healthy? Who is taking care of you if you get sick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:02 PM Flag
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Financially stable -- absolutely (always was). Healthy -- Yes. Who is taking care of me when I'm sick? -- when I have been too sick to take care of DS, XDH has taken him. When I thought I needed to go to hospital, XDH took me. In the future, not sure -- I have great neighbors. I'm sure I'll manage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Another reason why I hate Facebook. Post a pic of your three DCs on a chair. Make sure you put East Hampton (or insert any nice Hamptons town) in the location of where it was posted. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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Meh. I'm not a Hamptons type, but I post vacation pics of my kids too, even if it's a chair in my hick hometown that nobody's ever heard of. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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This. OP is clearly jealous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP here. Interesting how "jealous" is always a knee-jerk accusation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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why does it bother you then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:26 PM Flag
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++ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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People are so jelly that DH and I have money, so we do not use Facebook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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I disagree with the posting of DCs on Facebook in general. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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Of course you do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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I do. Have never once posted a pic of my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:59 PM Flag
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I have no doubt - there's a whole faction of you out there and you reguarly make us all aware of the evils of posting our kids pics. Doesn't bother me - I just unfriend you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:03 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:11 PM Flag
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So dumb. Never geo tag yourself or your kids!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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T H I S [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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You want anyone on the internet to know the precise real time location of you kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:15 PM Flag
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For one thing, if you are not at home, you are advertising it. Please come rob me when we are away on vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:03 PM Flag
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Thanks for the tip, mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:06 PM Flag
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I think this is probably rare, but it does look really thirsty to geotag IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:37 PM Flag
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I never share pics of my kid on social media. Not worth the risk. I email pics to whoever wants them (grandparents). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:11 PM Flag
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Yeah, I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:11 PM Flag
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If you don't want to see vacation pics, maybe you should just not be on FB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:15 PM Flag
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Totally with you!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:16 PM Flag
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why? people can't post about their lives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you put your beta / cheating dad bod husband aside for a night and slum it with Conor McGregor? https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=D3ocHTDHpqY 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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I'd rather never f*k again in my life than to have that thing on top of me. If there was ever a "wigger" then this guy is it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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I was hanging around with a bunch of Irish guys last week and they all said they hate McGregor. They think he's a total asshole and hope he loses to Floyd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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ew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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Not my cup of whisky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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He's not an "alpha" - he's more like a trained animal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My son's father and I are have a friendly relationship (10 years together, 11 years divorced). Recently while at his house (he has a home by the water and I take our 12 yo son there regularly in the summer) I was looking for a rubber band in a drawer and found a box of condoms. To "torture" him I said something to the tone of "aha! I knew you had someone...." in pure jest and because he always used to deny having a relationship with anyone..He told me about this "lady" that he was interested in but she declined since he was much older than she. He is 62 and she is 35 or 36..I told him he should consider someone more age appropriate to which he replied :"I don't wasn't to settle myself with some bimbo who is always complaining about her back or her headaches or her xxxxx. I'd rather be alone"....Urgh... I am 52 now, 1- years younger than him. I was 31 when we met 21 years ago...To think that his old ass believes he is entitled to a woman of the age I used to be all these years ago is mind boggling. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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Men suck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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Not sure what the point of this post is. Plenty of older guys with money get to date younger women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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This! Duh. Sixteen year old girls who are sick of obeying their parents can escape their parents by dating rich old guys. Google Courtney Stodden ... She jumped on an older guy as soon as she was 16 and says it is the best thing that ever happened to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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What is the age of consent in Manhattan? Can 16 year old girls meet finance guys using Tinder in Manhattan / [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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DUH! Jerry Seinfeld dated many 16 year olds when he was in his 40s. Manhattan is like a buffet an all you can eat buffet for old guys with cash, like Seinfeld! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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When I look at those pictures I can't believe this guy wasn't strong up for pedophilia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:43 PM Flag
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That is a vomit inducing age difference at that stage of her life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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He appears to have mental issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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He has no money, otherwise I would/could understand why he would even try to get someone that much younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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You said he lives by the water. Duh that is $$$$$$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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Huge misconception. Not everyone who lives by the water is made of $$$...he has a coop in the rockaways for god's sakes. Half a block from the ocean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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don't bring up subjects you don't want to talk about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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I did want to talk about it. I was just surprised that he is that stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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maybe he was just trying to "torture" you back, ever think of that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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lol. Why would I care>? its not like I am lacking for male attention :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:41 PM Flag
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you obviously do care or you would not have brought up the condoms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:50 PM Flag
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Stop reading meaning into my post. I just wanted to comment on the idiocy of men. He was always making comments about old men being stupid over young women when we were together. It was just somehow satisfying to see him fall into the same category of old idiots. I guess one should never say "never" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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I think you should have stayed together. Sounds like a really good match. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] My ex husband, who was an alcoholic and a cheater, sent me an email on 8/8 saying that, since I left three years ago, he has been in and out of rehabs and has finally reached Step 9 (making amends). He asked me to meet for coffee. I absolutely do not want to. But I never responded to the email and I feel guilty. Just reading the e-mail brought up such bad feelings. I'm remarried with a baby now, and I just don't want any contact. Is it horrible to not respond? Should I respond and say that I don't want to meet? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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Respond by saying congratulations, You are happy for him and his success, but because of some things going on in your life you abolutely can not have contact with him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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Just like when you dump guys you are dating ALWAYS say it is not you it is me. blame yourself so that they can exit with their head held high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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No, I think it is wise. This is for him and not for you, you have moved on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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DON'T DO IT! YOU OWE THE SOB NOTHING!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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Say: "good for you! I've completely moved on though and lack interest, sorry". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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Recovery mom here. Read the step. All he has to do is try. You may decline. If he tries, he has swept his side of the street. Try to be kind. Addiction and regret sucks. Believe me, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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He's the addict, not her. We don't owe addicts anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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except some compassion. Fine to say that she's happy for him but she's not comfortable meeting with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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this is correct!! another recovery mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:17 PM Flag
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Tell him that due to personal circumstances you will be not able to meet with him, however, after extensive soul searching, you understand that he is trying to make amends and you appreciate it, forgive him and wish him well. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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Ding Ding Ding. This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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Beautiful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:46 PM Flag
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this made me teary - perfect response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:34 PM Flag
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You don't owe him this, feel no guilt. I had a bf (more of a hook up, really) in college. Some tragic stuff between us. 20 years later he wanted to meet up and discuss and I imagine it was part of his steps (he had drug/alcohol issues). I didn't go and I really feel no guilt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Mom adopts a baby girl and then starves her to death. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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DES MOINES — Natalie Finn, the West Des Moines teenager who starved to death in October, was wearing an adult diaper and lying on the linoleum floor of her bare bedroom when police and medics discovered her, according to newly unsealed court documents. The 16-year-old "appeared to have been laying on the floor ... in her own waste for some time," West Des Moines police Det. Chris Morgan wrote in an affidavit. She died a short time later at a hospital [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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Between stories like this and then when I read this morning of the New Jersey nanny beating the infant, to pizza gate and just child abuse in general… We deserve to be nuked off the planet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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Just the abusers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:35 PM Flag
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not "we".. "they"...I don't do shit like this and probably neither do you...I don't deserve to be wiped out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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I meant humanity. We know about and witness all kinds of atrocities that if we wanted to we could Eradicate. But as a race, we have chosen not to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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Pizzagate? Oh ffs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:50 PM Flag
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16 year old? or 16 months old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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I assume 16yo if she's wearing an adult diaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you encourage your kids to participate in team sports if you absolutely can't stand the whole "coach" culture? Every year I offer to coach my kid's team, and every year I get passed over in favor of one of the coordinator's friends or a husband of his wife's friends. My older kid already gave up on team sports at age 10 because starting in 1st grade these dads get very invested in winning and essentially teach nothing. They focus on the kids who are already good, because they are being pressured by their own dads, and then ignore all the other kids on the team who are actually there to learn. So no one learns anything, and the kid gets bored sitting around learning nothing while some strange guy barks at him for being bored. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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What town do you live in? This has not been my experience at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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A rich NJ town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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Really? I live in a rich NJ town and every league is constantly begging for coaches. Also, my experience with the coaches, especially for kids under 10, is that they really try to be fair. FWIW, I live in a town that is known to be very competitive with sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:57 PM Flag
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Not sure how it works in NJ but here in NYS (I live out of the city) the schools start modified (aka everyone gets to play) in 7th grade, no parents, no paying for prviate coaches, etc. What is it like in NJ? Can your kid get involved outside of all the insane sports' parents? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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No. Around here the "everyone gets to play" is supposed to be from 6-12, if you play on the rec teams. But the dads just follow the letter of the law exactly - they don't actually teach any of the kids how to play, they just take the kids without experience and tell them to stand on the field in the least active position for the minimum amount of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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OK then it sounds like you need to find a sport where your kid isn't going to be coached by volunteer parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:12 PM Flag
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You dont let your own bias influence them. Its a network like anything else. In our town, they ask the current coaches to coach for the next year. Often times, people with older kids get the slots because the coordinator knows them. I will say, my kids have almost exclusively been coached by parent coaches that played the sport at a Division I level in college. I have no complaints [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] My dd got 4.15 ELA and 4.16 MATH. Is this a good score? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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YES! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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Depends on what grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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Its excellent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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6th grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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Than you know that's a stupid question. Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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Are you in G&T program? Do you tutor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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She is at one of the top district schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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Booker T? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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Mine did better. These are fine, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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Yes. Although ai just looked at our MS scores and most kids scored 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:40 PM Flag
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OP: Yap. more than 80% got 4s at my dd's school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:46 PM Flag
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WOW which school? I want my kids in it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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ESMS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:33 PM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me find a billionaire! Newly divorced, 40's, super attractive in a very natural way, Ivy educated, two kids. I just don't want to worry about money anymore! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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You smell of cheap perfume and desperation. :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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40s is too old. Can you turn back to 25? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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What do you bring to the table? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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Baggage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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What do you do for a living? What are your hobbies that you might be able to exploit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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You need to temper your expectations a bit. Aim for millionaire ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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If you're in your 40s, your best bet is to look at 70 year olds or higher. You're not really prime beef anymore, but you'd look okay in a stew or chili. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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Good friend of mine married someone with tons of family money...she was 50, he was 55. They said hello in a Starbucks line in Santa Barbara, and just clicked. A lot of it is location, location, location. You aren't going to meet a megarich guy on the bus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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First, be successful in your own right. No one wants to be viewed as a meal ticket. Second, go where the rich go: auctions, charity events and broaden your social circle so that you get invited to private parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] D2 Mom here Dc Is going into Fourth grade. He scored a 3 on the ELA. Any advice going forward. His report card is mostly 4s. TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:13 PM Flag
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get an ELA tutor immediately [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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np - don't be an ass. FWIW, my dd on occasion gets 3s on ELA and has done just wonderfully acadmically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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He attends mathnasium but I don't know a great LA place to send him for tutoring. Any suggestions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:37 PM Flag
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hire an essay tutor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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Get a tutor who is specifically versed in the State Tests.Start tutoring in February will bill be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] My DS's school report says he is "a natural at math." This is so not the case, we just drill him on it a lot and play with math at home. Meanwhile he taught himself to read at 3, is one of the top readers in the class, and reads like a 3rd grader in K, but his reading teacher only notes how he does better in small groups than large groups in terms of attention. This sounds so sexist to me, and it's private school. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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How is it sexist to make observations about your child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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Boy = good at math when his obvious gift is reading; Boy = attention problem even though he's at the top of the class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:12 PM Flag
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You're being oversensitive. Kids are different at school than at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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this. I wouldn't worry about what the teacher in K said about my kid, as long as she continued to be an acceptable teacher in all other ways, her opinions worry me not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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LOL... My ds attends private too. Teacher made same observations. Teacher is a bit ridiculous because she doesn't teach a thing to kids. Lower school is a joke in terms of academics [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] How is Huma Abedin making money/affording the designer clothing she's always wearing? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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Doesn't she still work for Hilary? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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1. She's made tons of money from Hillary. She was paid not only from the US government when Hillary was SoS, but also from the Clinton Foundation. 2. Some of it she gets for free in exchange for pictures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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She has family money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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Not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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This, DH was selling D@ck pics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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What is she up to these days? Did she get back with Carlos? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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Hilary is paying her a private salary from the Hillary millions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:35 PM Flag
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Consignment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay, time to look up twat scores for 4th grader.GULP. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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OK, DC got 4's on both math and ELA, but the %-ages were a little worse than last year. 4.2 in ELA vs 4.3 last year. And only 4.1 in Math which is disappointing...he nailed a perfect score last year. Question - do MS care? Or are the 4's enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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Lol. No, they don't care that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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Vba clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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Np. That or a nut job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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Anderson & NEST do factor it into their rubric. Low 4's may not be enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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OP - damn. I can't understand what happened on the math test. He's always been advanced in math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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np - they make stupid mistakes like we all do. dd forgot to square the radius on an area calculation this year among other things. It's not about giftedness, but about stamina, patience, attention to detail. It's going to vary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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Guess he dropped the ball. He must be such a disappointment to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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It is plenty for nest. How many spots does Anderson even have? The poster sounds like a loon. She would fit in well with those parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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A friend's DD got into Anderson for 6 th grade. She had a perfect attendance and of course all 4's in everything.She did not get into Hunter, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:45 PM Flag
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I know a DC who got into A with some 3's. But has an IEP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:51 PM Flag
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how do you interpret the "%-ages"? can you calculate the % -age from the scores with decimal? Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] DC scored 3-------he is in third grade. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] A boy who went to Riverdale (NOT Horace Mann) made serious cash. He was Jewish, married a hot blonde Scottish trashy shiksa and now she is embarassing him 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:01 PM Flag
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All over the news, Scottish girl is posting about brand names of her clothing and handbags. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steven_Mnuchin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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I doubt this is "all over the news"....and remind me again why we care about someone low class enough to brag about what she wears? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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Because she's married to Mnuchin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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And Mnuchin is what to you exactly?....relative, close friend?...no? then its NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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He's setting policy for our country. If he thinks, like his wife seems to, that wealthy people deserve more from the government, I've got an issue with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:13 PM Flag
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Valid point...Where did he say this? Where did she claim that? May I see a link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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In her instagram post she heavily implied it. He has said nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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Np: and it's pretty gross that a treasury secretary's wife would mock someone for not being wealthy. Makes melania look like Eleanor Roosevelt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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She did that? Shows that the woman has no class and no clue...May I see the link where she actually did that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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Front page of the garbage NYT. we are in serious trouble as a nation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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Mnuchin is a billionaire. He was a Pre IPO partner at Goldman, and then invested very wisely (he produces movies too--The Lego Batman movie, the Accountant). He doesn't care what the internet thinks, and neither does his wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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Then why did she take the Instagram post down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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Why draw more attention to this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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Produced "Sully." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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Clearly she does, as she is responding on social media. Twit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:44 PM Flag
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Curious, what does HM have to do with this post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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She doesn't want you to think that he went to school IN Riverdale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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It already showed up in Wikipedia. Let's see how long it lasts there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] The eclipse confirms to me that we are in the end of times. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:01 PM Flag
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+1000 but it's just the cherry. Every other sign is there too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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I've found that those obsessed with the end of times have a self centeredness that is unchristian. The Bible clearly states that no one knows when God will return, yet some seem to believe they are special enough to know this, that they have some ability or are set apart so they can see this when other Christians cannot. They also believe their own special knowledge can save them, when the Bible makes clear that no one can save themselves. They're relying on their own perceived cleverness rather than Christ for their salvation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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I think what you're saying is true for a small percentage of those of us who are staying tuned in to biblical prophecies. The Bible instructs us to watch and pray. The disciples asked Jesus what would be the sign of his return and he said no man knows the day or the hour, but he did say to watch for the signs signaling that we were in the season. We are clearly instructed to be ready. That means we need to be watching for the signs he told us to watch for. Otherwise, the ones not watching will be caught off guard as though by a thief in the night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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Don't you think God would always want you to be behaving and loving your neighbors as if the end were imminent? Whether it's tomorrow or in 1000 years, your actions should be the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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Absolutely. But his will is that no one perishes. As time is drawing to a close, he is sounding the alarm by giving us "great signs and wonders" of which there is too many to list here. It is up to the church to be on the watch and interpreting the signs andreaching out to the lost while there is still time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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I guess my arguement would be that we should always be doling that anyway. I don't think we actually are in disagreement about what God wants from us - although I'm not convinced about the end of time being near (but I don't focus on it) - I just worry that some Christians become focused on it for the wrong reasons, or they let their supposed knowledge make them proud. The other problem is that every time religious leaders try to name the date of the end of times and they're wrong, it can discredit the church. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:37 PM Flag
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I totally agree with you. I cringe every time I see someone setting a date when it's so clearly written in the Bible no one knows the day or the hour. There are believers like you who get it without needing all of this to stand firm in the faith. Most people need things on this end of the spectrum to get with the program [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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Every line I've written here has a corresponding scripture but I didn't cite each of them. I will if you would like meet to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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Thank you (sincerely), I am familiar with the passages. I'm not suggesting this applies to you, but I think it can be dangerous to encourage Christians to focus too much on the end of times. I think it can make some callous, they'll be focused on escaping this world rather than improving it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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That's an interesting point of view. I can understand where you're coming from. But this whole matter is an extremely time sensitive issue. Everyone's eternal life is at stake. Deuteronomy has much to say about the duties of the watchmen. Every saint has been charged with the Great commission - reach the lost while there's still time. And as far as the possibility of making people focus on escaping the world, that's why the Bible makes it so clear what's on the other side of this earthly life. So logically you think they would be focused on finding a way to not die, right? And isn't that exactly what we're seeing right now? Trans humanism. These people are making no bones about the fact that they want to live forever. And when I see these people I think you know who I'm talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:37 PM Flag
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*When I say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:37 PM Flag
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The desolation of abomination, The Clay and I are in feet of Daniel etc. etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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*iron. Dictating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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I think you are (rightly) focusing on the joy, when God establishes his kingdom on earth and "wipes every tear from every eye", and you want everyone possible to participate in this joy. For those that aren't believers though, I think it's better to share with them the wonderful promise of the gospel rather than tell them, hey, time is running out so shape up now. I don't think we should focus on the threat, but on the abundant good news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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Jude 1:22 be merciful to those who doubt; save others by snatching them from the fire; to others show mercy, mixed with fear – – hating even the clothing stain by corrupted flesh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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Everybody takes a different approach but I hear you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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Everybody needs a different approach I mean. I know people who were saved by the message of love, but I know for myself and many others the consequences of not being saved was what motivated me in the beginning. I've definitely grown way past that point but that was what got me on board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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You know, I was just coming back on the concede this point. I think I'm a better messenger when I share love and acceptance with others, but some won't hear that message. I used to be an interrogator, and I'm rather small, so the aggressive over the top approaches didn't play to my strengths, but sometimes that was what was needed. (I'm not saying your approach is aggressive/OTT - just that some people need to hear messages in a different way, and some of us are best at delivering them a certain way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:02 PM Flag
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I'm totally aggressive!! I work to not be because I know it puts most people off, but I've been good with hard heads :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:25 PM Flag
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Right on - I didn't want to assume! Hey, if it works for you then that's great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:52 PM Flag
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God does not return... God is, was and ever will be. Obviously you are not much of a Christian either. Or anything else for that matter if you claim that "God will return" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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Excuse me, are you saying that I am obviously not a Christian if I don't believe in the return of Jesus Christ? You need to hit the Bible a little harder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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No, she's saying I'm not a Christian. Obviously I know the Holy Spirit is with us - I was using a shorthand to describe God coming to establish his Kingdom on earth - something the OP would understand. I apologize for the shortcut, if it was confusing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a cross-body everyday bag. Carry a laptop in a slim backpack and hate the idea of also carrying a tote since everything just falls in there. I like the shape and size of this Gucci one (would never buy Gucci or dream of spending this much). Any other options I should consider? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What should or could I have done better in this situation? Details below. 96 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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Flying with 4 yo dd to visiting my very ill grandmother cross country- had been up since 4 am, with an unexpected 3 hour delay of connecting flight. Last leg of trip, dd watching show on iPad, super tired meltdown and won't stop kicking the seat in front of her. Dude in front of her curses loudly at me and her- I apologize profusely and try to get her to stop but she is having a full on tantrum. The third time he told me to f off I snapped "deal with it" and ignored him after that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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Would YOU like to have someone kick the back of YOUR seat on a flight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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OP: No I would hate it! Genuinely asking if there's anything else I could have done! I felt I was doing everything I could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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I don't think I would have snapped at him. Your kid was causing the problem and although you were trying your best, ultimately the buck stops with you. I would have said "I'm doing the best I can, I'm sorry for the inconvenience." and then if he kept at it after that, I would have rang for the flight attendant and asked for assistance. I would also deal with my kid because that is unacceptable. Tired or not, she needs to learn to behave and 4 is old enough to know better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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NP, a grown-ass-man is "old enough to know better" than to curse out a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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For sure, the guy was a dirtbag. But OP asked what she could have done differently and I responded. She got short with someone who was annoyed by her family -- and her family was indeed being annoying. OP wasn't a victim here even if the guy in front was a grump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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I think what you should do differently is this. Stop paying it and him any mind. Stuff happens, kids are kids. You did your best and he was an ass. I'm like you, I let this shit play on my mind, but we shouldn't. I wish your grandmother well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:01 PM Flag
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I am sorry but I disagree. The other passenger paid for his fare and he is entitled to the same peace and quiet experienced by other passengers on that flight. The misbehaved child is not his kid. He didn't bring it on board. OP should have a better control over her child. If I was that man, I would have asked flight attendant to get involved if the child continued kicking at the back of my seat and didn't spot despite several requests for the mother to do something, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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Me 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:25 PM Flag
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Agreed. Kids will be kids is not a rationalization for a child acting like a beast. OP should have some additional parenting gear that she can kick it into so that her kid knows she means business. Four is not the same as a baby which you just can't get to stop crying. A four year old who doesn't respond to the parent is a brat and OP needs to nip that in the bud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Have you ever had a 4 year old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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Clearly not. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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NP: I currently have a 4 and a 7 year old, and yes, I know it can be challenging. In a confined public place (airplane, train, etc.), our primary concern is to not disturb others - our comfort comes secondary. If (after exhausting all normal disciplinary tactics) it means I have to physically hold my kid's legs down, move seats, or give bribery treats that we don't normally give at home, so be it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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Np everyone's different and the degree of tantrum varies. We should all be more understanding of each other, enough with the tunnel vision of our own experience. One of mine has never done anything like this, the other, at 4, was big and strong enough that in the confines of an airplane it would have been impossible not to disturb a single person around us in her worst moment. Surely you can imagine that not everyone is like you and not everyone's children are like yours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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It's not about that moment, in the airplane, but all the other times OP set down boundaries and expectations so that parenting works better when you're in a clutch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:04 PM Flag
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This post is actually all about that moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:16 PM Flag
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You're missing the point. OP has to set boundaries all the other times so when she gets on a plane and tells her 4 yo to stop kicking the seat, the 4 yo stops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:18 PM Flag
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And YOU'RE missing the point that 4 year olds don't always respond perfectly according to their training, especially when they're tired and out of their routines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:22 PM Flag
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To stop kicking a chair on an airplane? Yes, yes, they can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:24 PM Flag
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Lots of perfect moms on this board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:27 PM Flag
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The whole point is that no one is perfect, but kicking an airplane chair certainly falls under the realm of unacceptable behavior. God, you guys are all raising entitled little snowflakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:29 PM Flag
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I completely agree. It's not about being a perfect parent, it's about having a parenting style that has the parent as the authority figure rather than the child careening around in some uncontrolled state and the parent wringing her hands making excuses. It's not the kid's fault, the parent needs to be the boss every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:36 PM Flag
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OP doesn't detail what exactly she did, but why do you assume she didn't do any of that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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Yes! Agreed. You don't have the luxury of just throwing up your hands and saying "oh, she's tired" when you are in public and bothering other people. Worst case, you get up, pick up the kid, carry her to the bathroom and break it down for her. I'm not saying that as a euphemism to spank, I'm saying physically remove the child from the situation where she's a problem and then address her with whatever you have that gets through to her. If you don't have that level, there's your problem, and this is your wake up call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.22.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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Yes! I have three kids and they aren't that much older than 4. I'm not claiming that they are perfect, or even close, or that I'm a perfect parent. But I can promise you that they wouldn't kick a set on a plane for an extended period of time and ignore me when I told them to stop. I am 100% certain because we've flown with them at that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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I think those of you who claim that your 4 year old was never beyond your ability to control are either misremembering or FOS. Maybe it never happened on an airplane, but I bet anything it happened. And I include parents who spank their kids or whatever. I've seen kids this age get spanked and go right to doing whatever the parents said not to do. Maybe 99.5% of the time a 4 year old can be controlled by a good parent, but tantrums at that age may be less frequent than at 2, but they still happen. If it was my kid I would have tried to hold her legs and if at all possible I would have picked her up and tried to take her to the back to calm down.... and people would have complained about that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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Amen np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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I'm not claiming I can or could control my kid all the time. I'm answering OP's question about what she could have done differently - and there are other things. I do think though that there's a cost to being a squishy parent and it comes out in times like these when the parent doesn't have the ultimately authority over her kid. It's the ability to stop them on a dime when they are darting into the street voice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.22.17, 07:31 PM Flag
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Np: I've never had that issue with my child and don't care if you believe me or not. Not all children are tantrum throwing, uncontrollable, etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:49 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.22.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, but I can say my 4 yo never kicked a seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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This kid is 4. 4. Not 2. People do their kids no service by not having expectations of them, and always excusing behavior because of age (which incidentally keeps getting higher... used to be that it was the terrible twos, now people talk about how three year olds are awful, and four year olds are apparently now considered uncontrollable and irrational. C'mon. At a certain point, it's the parenting style that is producing this). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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THIS!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:27 PM Flag
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ILY. This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:38 PM Flag
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Flight attendants should make the parent sit in the front seat with the kicking child behind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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I might do this next flight with my dd. She'll behave better sitting between strangers if I set her up with activities than she would sitting next to me and her younger sister. & can still see/heat each other... I like this plan, I'll report back np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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Oh hell naw. I'd rather be kicked than sit next to an unsupervised child who is up and down talking to you the whole flight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:40 PM Flag
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could you have put her on your lap facing you? just hold her and hug her?, swing her legs over to you so she is kicking you and not the seat? or taken her for a walk down the aisle to distract her? I do understand his frustration [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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You were doing the best you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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I know you're tired but your kid can't kick the seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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I would've picked her up and locked ourselves in the bathroom. If seatbelt sign was on I would've pushed call button and apologized and asked on the guy's behalf if there were any other empty seats he could move to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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Also let me find some YouTube videos for safe holds to use if this ever happens again. I used to work with special needs kids and just had to use one of these holds on my 4yo dd when a similar situation happened on a boat. So embarrassing but it's life, whatever. Sorry you're dealing with all this on top of your grandma's illness. Everything will be fine but I hear you, shitty travel days with kids make you question everything lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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+1 Solid advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:36 PM Flag
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It's a shitty situation and it sucks that you were in it. He was a douche and your kid was acting up. Chalk it up to a humbling parenting experience and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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You did fine, shake it off. He deserved it. He's on public--he's not entitled to an experience free of annoyanc s just because he bought a ticket for an airborne bus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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Um, he is completely entitled to have a kid not kick his seat. Give mea break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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Not hard to see where the entitled kids come from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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People like OR drive me absolutely nuts. The other day our neighborhood FB post posted about a 4yo playing her iPad with the volume on at dinner in a restaurant and half the people were like "You don't deserve a quiet dinner" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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OR: OP's story is very different though. You can't always control kids. Anyone in a public place should know that people try their best but it just may not happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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He doesn't "deserve" it. He is entitled to have a 4 yo not kick his chair if he asks. Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:08 PM Flag
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You don't. People go to Applebee's and then want it to be to their liking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:10 PM Flag
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This wasn't Applebee's but that's beside the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:11 PM Flag
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Any restaurant where a 4yo is sitting is going to be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:27 PM Flag
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No, it's not, it's not okay at a nice place at 8pm for your 4 yo to be playing the iPad without headphones. Christ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:30 PM Flag
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fucking eyeroll. Learn to survive in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:48 PM Flag
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I love it. The person who apparently can't get a kid to function with any level of appropriateness is telling someone else to learn to survive in the world. OHkay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:01 PM Flag
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Your snowflake can survive with headphones. Spoiled little brat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:12 PM Flag
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I don't let my kids use screens at a restaurant. We go old school with tic tac toe and hangman. Do I get an award? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:16 PM Flag
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No, it's called Parenting 101, you don't get an award for not being a spoiled brat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:24 PM Flag
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OR: Come on, OP did her best. He's not entitled to anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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He didn't deserve to have his seat kicked. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:12 PM Flag
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not sure she did her best, she only mentioned an Ipad - not one word about anything else she might have tried [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:24 PM Flag
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He is, actually. He's entitled not to have his seat repeatedly kicked. I'm sure the airline would have agreed had he called the flight attendant. When they get involved, it's never to tell the kickee, "suck it up, sir. The child can kick your seat with impunity." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:31 PM Flag
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Where does this mindset come from, that just because it's hard to have kids behave, that the other people in the world are not entitled to exist free from physical impact from the kids. This isn't someone complaining that the flight wasn't silent which would be unreasonable. It was someone repeatedly kicking the seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:32 PM Flag
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We're all "entitled" to this or that but at the end of the day, we all live together and coexist in this world and should just have a little flexibility and consideration for others. Including tired 4 year olds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:35 PM Flag
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No, just no. Kids need to learn to behave and OP needs consideration for her fellow passengers. Who are you people who let kids run crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:48 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:54 PM Flag
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This is the problem though. No one in this scenario is letting a kid run crazy. It's not black/white. She was doing her best and her kid was tired. The guy acted like an ass. No one here is perfect but you all want to play Judge Judy and of course, blame the mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:51 PM Flag
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I am not blaming OP. I am simply disputing that the guy "deserved" it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:53 PM Flag
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No one said he deserved it. I am arguing that, no matter what you think you are entitled to, the world is full of inconveniences and discomfort and annoyances and how you react to it is your choice. Best just to roll with it, in my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:56 PM Flag
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"You did fine, shake it off. He deserved it." It's literally the first two sentences of the OR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:01 PM Flag
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Splitting hairs, but I was responding to, "Where does this mindset come from, that just because it's hard to have kids behave, that the other people in the world are not entitled to exist free from physical impact from the kids. This isn't someone complaining that the flight wasn't silent which would be unreasonable. It was someone repeatedly kicking the seat." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:03 PM Flag
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OR-I wrote that. I meant that he deserved to get snapped at, because he was being an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:26 PM Flag
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Who said she did her best? OP never said what she did other than to tell her kid to cut it out. At that point I would've moved, physically restrained, or bribed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:03 PM Flag
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"I felt I was doing everything I could." -OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:11 PM Flag
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Oh, okay, we'll just take her word for it then even though she's said zero about what she actually did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:18 PM Flag
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I mean, are you calling OP a liar? You weren't there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:23 PM Flag
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Fine, then OP can tell us exactly what she did and didn't do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:30 PM Flag
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Why did OP post this mess then to begin with? She asked if she should have done something else. You say no. I say yes. And so goes the life of a message board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:44 PM Flag
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no, but all OP claims is she had an Ipad, never came back to answer any questions, etc. never said she took her daughter for a walk, never said she tried bribing, never said she picked her up and held her facing her, never said she did anything! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:06 PM Flag
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She could've said "Oh Suzie, I know you're so tired and you're just expressing your feelings, but we should try very very hard not to disrupt other people who need a little quiet time. So let's try not to kick the chair in front of you even though I know you're just expressing your feelings." I would've turned around and told you to STFU for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:40 PM Flag
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I disagree that no one was letting the kid run crazy. OP didn't get up and carry the kid to the bathroom. She didn't physically hold her kid's legs down. She didn't put the kid on her lap, barrel hold her and hiss in her ear that if she didn't knock if off (insert threat here). She said she yelled at the grumpy ass in front of her and that the kid was tired and had an ipad. This child is four years old. She's not an infant who cries or a two year old who might be developmentally appropriate and having a frustration tantrum. I'm saying that if you are the kind of parent who thinks a four year old having a tantrum is the same as a two year old, you might have contributed to this problem. It absolutely sucks to have a kid misbehave in public and a plane is ten times worse. I feel for the OP. And there is never a call to curse at someone on the plane so the guy in front was a jerk. But big picture, OP asked if she could have done more and the answer is yes. She needs to change her parenting style and realize that a four year old having a tantrum is being a brat. Making excuses and blaming everyone else just lets her kick that can down the road and ignore it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:43 PM Flag
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Honestly, if I saw someone treating a kid that way on a plane, I would worry about that kid's well being. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:47 PM Flag
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I'm comfortable parenting in front of any audience, including their pediatrician, a police officer, a CPS worker or a plane full of (grateful) people. Wonder how much of the behavior problems in kids are because parents are afraid to discipline (again, not a euphemism for physical punishment, I just mean a negative reaction instead of a cajoling positive pleading whine from the parent), thinking it's synonymous with abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:59 PM Flag
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Barrel hold and hiss threat in ear? You're sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:11 PM Flag
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Are you serious right now? Sitting your kid on your lap, wrapping your arms around her and hissing in her ear "you are being VERY rude, you will NOT kick that man's seat again" makes me sick? Holy smokes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:18 PM Flag
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Barrel hold and hiss threat in ear? You're sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:11 PM Flag
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I've got to know - how old are your children? Are they well-behaved? I guess you've got no motivation to be honest now, but I am seriously shocked that normal parenting methods are so scary to you. What DO you do to address poor behavior? Your kids must be so anxious. It's not good for them to sense that they are in charge of the adults in their lives. They get security from boundaries and authority (again, this is not the same as physical anything). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:20 PM Flag
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Lol, whatever. Your visible anger is on every thread here today. Sad to think you share it with your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:23 PM Flag
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My visible anger... I do not think that means what you think it means. In any event, have a lovely evening and best of luck to you and yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:26 PM Flag
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Jesus! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:26 PM Flag
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Was your child wearing shoes? A child wearing shoes kicks A LOT harder than one not wearing shoes. I was once sitting in front of a toddler who kicked the entire flight, hard enough that the whole row shook and the woman next to me (not even directly in front of the child) was more upset than I. The mother refused to pick up the child for awhile, so he was always strapped in his seat, which fine. But she also refused to take off his shoes so it would be uncomfortable for him to kick as hard as he was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:17 PM Flag
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