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[ - ] DH went to bed early last night and I finished all the wine we had left (1.5 bottle). He went to grab a glass of wine and it's all gone. He is so mad at me now. Giving me the cold shoulder. I feel like I should go get a bottle for him but wtf, can't I finish up the wine without his attitude? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:08 AM Flag
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Well can you buy wine on Sundays where you live? That's the only reason I would be pissed as you cannot where I live. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:10 AM Flag
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Yeah we can buy wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:13 AM Flag
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Then he can go out and grab a bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:15 AM Flag
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He won't. He is pissed I finished it all so he will slam around instead of getting a bottle. Someone has to finish it, right? But I guess I over indulged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:17 AM Flag
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Ignore. My DH doesn't drink but if this happened I would just run out and replace. NBD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:28 AM Flag
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I just don't feel like it. I'm tired, I haven't showered, I just can't be seen in public. I am ignoring him, pretending I don't notice. I went in and asked him if I could make him a sandwich he said no, he would do it himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:35 AM Flag
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Days of Wine and Roses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:42 AM Flag
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Gosh. I won't if you're tired and unkept because you drank more than a bottle and a half last night? Just a guess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:45 AM Flag
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Ding ding ding ding. You must be clairvoyant. [ Reply | More ]
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oh, my! aren't you charming:) [ Reply | More ]
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This is one reason I'm happy to be single [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:10 AM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:13 AM Flag
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Are you an alcoholic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:16 AM Flag
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No, alcoholics go to meetings. I don't go to meetings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:21 AM Flag
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haha! That's the line of a sad ole country song - 'the difference between us drunks and an alcoholic is we don't have to go to those dang meetings!' That said, a bottle and a half? Dude. That's a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:41 AM Flag
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I know it's a lot. But I had the half bottle, which was really less then half. Then I opened the other bottle. And just kept tipping the bottle. And then, suddenly, it was empty. Shit happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:49 AM Flag
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Just wondering, what were you doing as you drank? Just looking out the window? Watching tv? reading? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:57 AM Flag
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Watching tv. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:02 AM Flag
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There is NO DEFINITION of an "alcoholic" That's the thing. It's not like "If you drink 3 drinks a night you are fine, at 4 you are a pre-alcoholic, and at 5, that's an alcoholic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:51 AM Flag
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I don't drink every night. Maybe 1-2x a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:58 AM Flag
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What an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:30 AM Flag
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1.5 bottle is a lot. Why not stop at 0.5 and heave 1 for the next nught [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:34 AM Flag
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Are you DH? If so, quit slamming around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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Because OP is an alcoholic, but she is also selfish and self-centered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:39 AM Flag
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Whore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:42 AM Flag
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Why don't you go buy a bottle of wine? You're the one who drank it all. Maybe you should buy 2 or 3 bottles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:41 AM Flag
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np. this is what I do; if I was the one to finish off the wine I always make sure to replace it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:46 AM Flag
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I will replace tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:52 AM Flag
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I answered that above. Read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:47 AM Flag
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You're hungover and unwashed. You'll feel better if you shower and brush your teeth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:53 AM Flag
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I brushed my teeth. I did feel better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:58 AM Flag
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at least you're funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:17 AM Flag
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Or hell, get some delivered! [ Reply | More ]
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That's an idea. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What to get for DS's friend for his bar mitzvah? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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A cross with an inscription that says "in case you change your mind" [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
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Gift card, one share of a good Stock to follow or a bond [ Reply | More ]
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in denominations of$18, depending how close of friends they are [ Reply | More ]
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Denominations of 18 are not necessary. It's nice, but don't over do it. $25, $50 or $100 is fine. [ Reply | More ]
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$700. They keep track of who gives what. [ Reply | More ]
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Cash [ Reply | More ]
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Boggle [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My father is a quadriplegic and my stepmom will be away for two weeks. They have a 24 hour aid but they need two people to shower my dad. Do you think it's awful that I said I would prefer that could find someone else to do this besides me? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:07 AM Flag
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Not awful. I'd be uncomfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:08 AM Flag
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Totally uncomfortable. I have an aide that showers my mom, I just can't do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:10 AM Flag
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My dad has said that when my moms Alzheimer's progresses, he is going to hire an aide. And they've been married 50 yrs. hire someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:14 AM Flag
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Thanks! I had only a week to look because it was a sudden thing that she was leaving. I was surprised when they asked me. So far I haven't found someone to help except my cleaning lady and they didn't like that she doesn't speak English [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:27 AM Flag
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Try a nurse service [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:01 AM Flag
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Aw, sorry you are going through this OP and NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:31 AM Flag
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Would your DH do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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I wish....but he passed away recently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:40 AM Flag
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Can his aide suggest someone or at least the name of her agency? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:54 AM Flag
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I think my dad would insist it wouldn't be me. [ Reply | More ]
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If it's that big of a deal, your dad can wear his bathing suit right? [ Reply | More ]
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How is a quadriplegic supposed to get his bathing suit on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:10 AM Flag
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I'm sure his aide changes his clothes daily. He can wear underpants or bathing suit in shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:19 AM Flag
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I got over any squeamishness fast with my parents, but if it makes you uncomfortable and possibly him uncomfortable, hire someone. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank u [ Reply | More ]
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Wonderful [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I think HS were some of my most fun years. Remembering the 90s and going to the movies, learning how to drive, studying for SATs. Anyone else? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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Miserable for me. I enjoyed college. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Felt I never fit in [ Reply | More ]
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Op-ok then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:42 PM Flag
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Nothing like youth and lack of responsibilities for good times. College was great, too. Better, actually, for me. [ Reply | More ]
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God not for me. I only really started enjoying my life after 32@ [ Reply | More ]
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Yea, after 30 for me too. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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In my case dh convinced me to try Paxil. Life so much better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:21 AM Flag
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I had fun in high school. Hated college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:43 PM Flag
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Um, no. I barely remember it. The rest of my life has been exponentially better. I remember all of my friends saying, "High is supposed to be the best time of our lives!" And my mom telling me, "Anyone who has their best years in high school is going to live a very sad life." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:51 PM Flag
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Op said fun, not best. [ Reply | More ]
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She said, "most fun." That means best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:01 AM Flag
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No, fun is fun. Best is best. The best moments of my life have been the quiet times I had as a single woman in NYC and as a mom the last few years. The most fun were in college and the few years after graduation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:06 AM Flag
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Op-this. I didn't say best. College was good too [ Reply | More ]
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I had a lot of fun in high school. [ Reply | More ]
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Not at all. I didn't enjoy being a kid. Things got better once I became an adult. [ Reply | More ]
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
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My fun began sophomore year in college until my late 30s. Tons of parties, independence, and living a fabulous, childless life. [ Reply | More ]
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I had fun junior and senior yrs in high school bc made good friends. Then college again junior and senior year bc made good friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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I loved it!! [ Reply | More ]
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HS was a non event for me. Just putting in time until college. Had friends, got good grades, but it was all just a means to an end. [ Reply | More ]
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Sad [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need a low key, fun bat-mitzvah ideas? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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bbq [ Reply | More ]
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This. Suckling pig. Yum. [ Reply | More ]
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Baby killer! [ Reply | More ]
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Take the girls to a camp after a nice oneg [ Reply | More ]
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Camp? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Rent a bus and take the kids to a camp for an overnight. Hire a counselor and they stay ina bunk, marshmallows songs whole thOmg. You do a fancier than normal ones but still cheaper than5 hr affair and kids have a real bonding experience [ Reply | More ]
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Fancier than normal oneg [ Reply | More ]
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What's an oneg? [ Reply | More ]
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cheep [ Reply | More ]
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Said the birdie! [ Reply | More ]
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Rent out a sports place and DJ for an evening kids party. [ Reply | More ]
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Family trip to Israel [ Reply | More ]
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Or family trip to Miami [ Reply | More ]
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Pig roast [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone go to the Suzuki institute at Ithaca? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Drunk and waiting for kids to go to sleep before sex. Any questions? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Position [ Reply | More ]
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I like doggie. Dh likes anal on nights like this [ Reply | More ]
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Cloudy? [ Reply | More ]
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Drunk [ Reply | More ]
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Who's the lucky guy? [ Reply | More ]
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Dh [ Reply | More ]
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you will be asleep before them [ Reply | More ]
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Told dh that. I think he is planning on putting on movi for older one and going for it. [ Reply | More ]
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:27 AM Flag
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Our kids are older now (9 and 12) so there's no way we could wait till they're both asleep. We've taken to sneaking off to our bathroom for daytime quickies ;) Drunk nighttime sex means no orgasm for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:16 AM Flag
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4 yr oldasleep. Just a Stared laundry to add more background noise, likely sneaking off in 5 mins [ Reply | More ]
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you are drunk at 8:15? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Got home from each at 5 pm. Three classes of wine, [ Reply | More ]
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Beach [ Reply | More ]
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np. it's a holiday weekend, all bets are off [ Reply | More ]
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I thought id be doing this but bf went to his parents this weekend. No sex for me, bummer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:44 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O -- Do Asians and Hispanics say they're of color? Never seen that used by anyone except black people. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:35 PM Flag
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My college student Asian daughter considers herself a person of color. [ Reply | More ]
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Chinese/Japanese/Korean or some other Asian? [ Reply | More ]
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South Asian [ Reply | More ]
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Of course. Indians are quite dark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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I'm Hispanic. I identify as a person of color. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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My Puerto Rican neighbor calls our Caucasian family "white people". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:05 AM Flag
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I'm Hispanic. I do not identify as a person of color. My parents were in denial back in the day. If we called our dad's hair black, he'd say it was dark brown. They never spoke Spanish at home. They never let on to others that they were Hispanic (although our surname is Spanish/Italian/French ending in a vowel). It's an ambiguous enough name that people were stumped about our origins. I appear sugar white. You'd never guess I am 100% Hispanic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:06 AM Flag
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^^In all fairness, my boyfriend in college was from Brazil. He had jet black hair. It was so black it was almost blue. When my dad was in the same room with him, it was true that my dad's hair was very dark brown. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:13 AM Flag
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Hispanic is made up crap. You're white, amerindian or mestizo. Democrats made up Hispanic to rive them and get their votes. [ Reply | More ]
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There are a lot more flavors than you mentioned. You forgot Black and Asian blends. [ Reply | More ]
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True, true. They are late arrivals but present nevertheless. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you kidding me - do they do anything *besides* say they're of color?? [ Reply | More ]
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^hispanics, that is [ Reply | More ]
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Democrats think that all Hispanics and all Asians will jump on the anti white bandwagon. Won't work [ Reply | More ]
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They shouldn't have spent all those years teaching us about MLK, only to jump on the reverse racism bandwagon! We actually embraced his message! [ Reply | More ]
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Hispanic isn't a race. I guess it would depend on the race of the Hispanic person. [ Reply | More ]
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Shhh don't bring facts into her worldview [ Reply | More ]
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Where did op mention race? [ Reply | More ]
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OP didn't mention race. I did. A White Hispanic will probably not identify as a person of color. [ Reply | More ]
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I bet some of them do. [ Reply | More ]
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DH is Puerto Rican and he doesn't think of himself as a white person, even though he is, in fact, caucasian. It's more of a cultural thing and how he grew up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:31 AM Flag
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Does he call himself "of color"? [ Reply | More ]
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or: no, that he does not. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course they do. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm hispanic, and I find the term pretty weird. Like it's intended to imply a false sense of unity or commonality where it really doesn't exist in practice. [ Reply | More ]
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My college considered me a person of color but I'd never previously identified with that term. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know what the 'College Readiness" score means on US news & world reports ...looking at top 5 schools in a state and they have 65 to 69 percent college readiness ? ...what does this mean. ( they have 98-99% graduation rates). 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think about 550 on both parts of SAT [ Reply | More ]
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The SAT is graded so that 500 is the median score. By definition, half the kids who take it will never score above 500. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Australian here. Any questions? 185 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Australians are hot. [ Reply | More ]
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Horrible red curly hair. [ Reply | More ]
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What? [ Reply | More ]
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Nicole Kidman kind of hair. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: You're right. We all have that hair. [ Reply | More ]
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Enough of you do. [ Reply | More ]
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A dingo ate my baby [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Your pop cultural references age you [ Reply | More ]
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Zing [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It's winter here, so ... [ Reply | More ]
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OP: We love our dad jokes in Australia [ Reply | More ]
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You have cute animals. [ Reply | More ]
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And scary ones, too [ Reply | More ]
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You ever seen a Tasmanian Devil? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Far fewer cute ones than scary ones [ Reply | More ]
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NYC? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yes, for a long time. Back in Australia (Melbourne) now. [ Reply | More ]
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or. when and why did you go back? [ Reply | More ]
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^ asking as an australian who has been in NYC 11 years and just bought another apartment so probably committed to at least 5 more years.. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: we left four years ago to have kids. Australian schools are better. We like having a proper garden, maternity leave, subsidised child care, good public transport, free health care, lots of paid holidays and superannuation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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oh so you didn't have your kids here? hear you on all that stuff. you said you were here many years and you also worked in other countries. how old when you had your kids? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I was 32 and 34 when I had my kids. I have a slightly older husband that I have followed around. I'm a lawyer so I can always find work. No, I came back here when we wanted to get pregnant because the care here is so much better and also less crazy. US medical practices are too focused on management of tiny risk. [ Reply | More ]
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or: agree on management of tiny risk. that's great that your experience was that you could always find work. not the way it's sold. how valued do you think someone 10+ years biglaw in NYC would be valued in melbourne? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: You would be valued very highly. But remember our wages are lower. You'd probably be looking at $280,000 in a King Wood Mallesons etc. But you need far less money here than you need in the stated. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I should add that I am not always hired as a lawyer. Often in stakeholder liaison, risk management, operations etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Not in Melbourne. [ Reply | More ]
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do you think australian schools better than the private schools here? how did you know they were better if you didn't have kids yet? did you do a lot of research before even being pregnant? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yes, I do think so. I mean, not all of them, and it depends what you want. Australian schools are less parochial and teach better critical thinking. Excellent US education is truly excellent, but so rooted in class issues that I felt like it doesn't create very worldly citizens. [ Reply | More ]
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:( ugh. agree. [ Reply | More ]
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AMERICANS ARE GETTING FUCKED! RIGHT UP THE ASS! FUCKED FUCKED FUCKED. OUR POLITICIANS SUCK AND WTF. WHY DON'T WE HAVE A SUPERANNUATION FUND? FUND IT NOW YOU GODDAMN WALLSTREET SHITHEADS. OR THE ELDERLY WILL BE OUT BUYING WEAPONS TO SHOOT YOU UP BECAUSE THEY SHOVED INTO A GODDAMN NURSING HOME. FUCK THE CLASS DIVIDE. FUCK DIRTY ASS AMERICA. THE REAL AMERICAN DREAM IS GETTING OUT OF IT AND GETTING TO AUSTRALIA. I would but I just can't take the accent. I'd rather get shot in Compton that take a cheese grater to the ears for the rest of my life. [ Reply | More ]
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Actually, Compton's kind of gentrifying now. [ Reply | More ]
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This. And best comment. [ Reply | More ]
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how long on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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OP: Couple of years, maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:51 PM Flag
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it's fine to construct a sentence like this, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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OP: I've lived in lots of places in the world where that's acceptable amongst ESL people. Sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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oh there's some woman on UB who is obsessed with this and me and another australian use it and she always comments on it - was just seeing if you were her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:56 PM Flag
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Age/HHI/kids/where are you from in Aus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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37/$400k/Melbourne. Melbourne is one of the most expensive places in the world to live (much more expensive that NYC) but because our health care is free and our government schools are excellent, our HH1 gives us a TT lifestyle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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OP: Oh, and 2 kids aged 18mo and 3.5 years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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or: how can it be one of the most expensive places in the world? you know NYC is not easy on that with two kids and you definitely do not have a TT lifestyle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:01 AM Flag
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Np: Australia is expensive. Scarce water, transportation costs. It's expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:09 AM Flag
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And it's not near anything- high transport costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:11 AM Flag
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That's what I meant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:34 AM Flag
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Free health care. Free education. Compulsory superannuation means we have to save less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:21 AM Flag
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OP: Australia is semi-socialised, so we pay for far fewer things. Plus we get heaps of government support to raise and care for our kids, like paid maternity leave, subsidised high-quality child care, long paid holidays, paid sick leave, great early-intervention health care. Free health care and education. And plus like someone else said, our compulsory superannuation scheme means we don't have to save as much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:24 AM Flag
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What's superannuation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:29 AM Flag
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OP: It's an amount of money that your employer has to pay into an invested fund on your behalf for your retirement. It's untaxed and it can't be used for anything else. It's currently 9.5% of your total (pre tax) income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:33 AM Flag
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how much mat leave did you take with each? are you a partner? did you find australia backward socially? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:02 AM Flag
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OP: One year mat leave for each. That's what everyone gets here. I got about half my pay over that time. I am a partner. No, the inner city Melbourne scene is slightly less vibrant than NYC but not "backwards". Plus we have much more time to enjoy it. We work hard here but nothing like in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:20 AM Flag
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OP: Oh, and I guess when you factor in superannuation and bonuses it may be closer to $500k. But frankly, we're loaded here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:32 AM Flag
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Do you eat Vegemite sandwich? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:36 PM Flag
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OP: Of course. Are you crazy? Vegemite toast is the food of the gods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:51 PM Flag
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don't make us sound crazy like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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OP: Australians have to stop imagining that each Australian speaks for and represents all Australians [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:01 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:03 AM Flag
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don't make us sound crazy like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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Seriously, you like it, huh? I can't understand how you get used to it, even if you ate it from birth. I have a jar from 97 and it's still "good." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:58 PM Flag
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Fairy bread with sprinklesand butter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:30 AM Flag
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OP: I saw this written up somewhere as something that Australians eat! It's what some children have at birthday parties. It's a dutch tradition. Adults never eat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:41 AM Flag
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Do you love Little Collins? I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:36 PM Flag
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What's that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:38 PM Flag
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a great australian coffee shop at 56th and lex. are you in aus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:39 PM Flag
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Not op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:40 PM Flag
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or. then you should try it. love it. great food and excellent coffee. lovely people too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:41 PM Flag
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Ok. What's an Australian specialty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:44 PM Flag
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no such thing really. australian food is a great mixture of fresh produce and good simple preparation influenced by generations of italian and greek immigrants and more recently lots of asian influence. the main food guy at little collins i think is actually israeli, but everything they do they do well and with care. would recommend everything really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:46 PM Flag
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Ok. But to be frank, it doesn't sound very Australian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:47 PM Flag
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^^ but thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:47 PM Flag
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what is australian about the coffee shop is: 1) the excellent coffee; 2) most of the baristas; 3) many menu items reflect some australian influence; and 4) and most important - the service, and the way that the owners treat their employees (very well)!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:49 PM Flag
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Ok. Will give it a go. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:58 PM Flag
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enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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i am australian and don't think there is anything that's really "australian" food unless you want to talk about lamingtons and vegemite. australian food was awful until pretty recently and now spectacular, due to immigration. the meat and 3 veg poms that ruled until well into years i was growing up were not known for interesting cuisine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:48 PM Flag
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Sounds like... English food! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:50 PM Flag
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yes that's what poms are, english people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:50 PM Flag
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prisoners of her majesty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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^ my daily is avocado toast (the "Smash" with an egg) with a coffee, mostly because i love avocado (this was not something I ever ate in australia), but their pastries are also excellent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:47 PM Flag
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^ my daily is avocado toast (the "Smash" with an egg) with a coffee, mostly because i love avocado (this was not something I ever ate in australia), but their pastries are also excellent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:47 PM Flag
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Melbourne is the most cosmo city in Australia, so it's not a fair representation of Australian cuisine, sadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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OP; The current avocado craze originated in Australia. I agree that there's no distinctly "Australian" food but we are influenced by our proximity to South East Asia, our Greek and Italian migrants and our easy-access to terrific produce. Our food is basically a lot like modern northern californian food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:49 AM Flag
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The current avocado craze... bitch please, signed Mexican [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:32 AM Flag
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OP: Mexicans don't eat avocados on sourdough bread with a poached egg, though, right? But I take your point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:41 AM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:14 AM Flag
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OP: I left NY before it opened. My office is on the real Little Collins in Melbourne, though. Gorgeous street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:52 PM Flag
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nice. are you a lawyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:52 PM Flag
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OP: Yup! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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were you at 599 lex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:59 PM Flag
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op: no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:02 AM Flag
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biglaw? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:03 AM Flag
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Nope. And I'm not at a law firm any more. I work in a consultancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:24 AM Flag
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Are you the drunk one who has had 13 ww points in wine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:37 PM Flag
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Nope that is me. Native nyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:41 PM Flag
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haha. enjoy :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:42 PM Flag
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Thanks, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:43 PM Flag
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Btw, I'm within my limit for today, go me!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:44 PM Flag
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haha. accomplishment. and likely means you are extra drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:44 PM Flag
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OP: No, I would never do WW. But I am a drinker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:52 PM Flag
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lol of course you are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:53 PM Flag
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We pointerhere. Traded a hotdog bun for another glass of wine. Totally worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:16 AM Flag
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Do you still live in Aus? or in US now? If in US now, ever plan to go back to Aus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:38 PM Flag
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OP: Back in Australia now. It's hard to beat when you have kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:58 PM Flag
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OP: Back in Australia now. It's hard to beat when you have kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:58 PM Flag
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ugh. what was your HHI in NYC and can you replicate in Melbourne or don't need to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:59 PM Flag
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OP: It was about $600k but we didn't pay for housing and we didn't have kids. Our life is less glamorous here - we have two toddlers, for one thing - but pretty similar in terms of status. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:30 AM Flag
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OP: A big bonus is that our kids will get to go to the Steve Irwin Museum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:33 AM Flag
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REAL OP: Lol. Where's that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:42 AM Flag
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annoying to ask any questions and then not respond [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:39 PM Flag
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OP: It's almost 10am in Melbourne. This is my procrastination while working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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stop working and answer the god-damn questions or don't start a thread [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:55 PM Flag
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NP: i am not the OP but also australian so can respond in this person's absence. lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:40 PM Flag
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Do you ever try to say your "o's" properly or are they considered acceptable in Australia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:40 PM Flag
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what does this even mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:41 PM Flag
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Australian accents are the worst. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:53 PM Flag
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i still don't get what means [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:53 PM Flag
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I get it. Australians sound like uneducated or drunk Brits. And they say "I knawroh" instead of, "I know." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:59 PM Flag
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wtf. ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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OP: When I travel in the States people usually guess that I'm English. Most australian accents aren't ocker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:53 PM Flag
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other australian: same. class distinction? location? both probably [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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OP: Class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:58 PM Flag
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Are you saying you are a higher class Australian, so you sound British? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:01 AM Flag
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yes pretty much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:03 AM Flag
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OP: I'm saying that most Americans mistake my accent for an English one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:19 AM Flag
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They're just not used to Australian accent. So they assume British, which is the closest relative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:25 AM Flag
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OP: Yes. That's what I'm saying. Most other English-speaking nations can distinguish accents. Americans can't, for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:35 AM Flag
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Because we've had so little British influence. We're the only colony that ditched the territory status early on. And we speak English the way it was spoken in England 300 years ago. British English evolved to be more different whereas American English stayed the same. So all the other British territories (except Canada) can distinguish British English from Australian. Most Canadians have difficulty distinguishing it, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:48 AM Flag
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OP: Are you really claiming that Americans today can't distinguish english-language accents because 200 or more years ago there was no distinction between US and Engligh accents? LOL. FWIW I've been to Canada several times and I have never been mistaken for a Brit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:08 AM Flag
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Yes, it's true. Look it up. They used to be similar but drifted apart as British English became more nasally/annoying. Maybe you went to die hard royalist areas. You sound kind of ignorant so you probably wouldn't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:21 AM Flag
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OP: I know that the historical explanation of the US accent is correct. But it doesn't explain the problem that modern Americans have with distinguishing accents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:43 AM Flag
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Yes, it does, you moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 04:56 AM Flag
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Americans are uncultured swine, that's the answer you want to hear. Now go back to your better life, in your better country and let us kill ourselves with our guns. Be glad you got out and stop pouring in the salt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:36 AM Flag
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That is only because Americans are stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:27 AM Flag
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Americans just have had the luck and privilege of never needing to go anywhere or even importing anything (until recently). Americans are able to function as though they are the only people in the world. It's not stupid, it's privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:37 AM Flag
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OP: Thinking that you never need to go anywhere is not privilege, it's parochialism. You don't travel to meet basic needs. You travel to experience the world and to enrich your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:51 AM Flag
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You travel because you live in a dinky little European country and you do eurorail. Australian travel to Vietnam and Thailand because they're cheap and Australia, while big, is mostly desolate. America is massive with a highly varying landscape and climate. You'll see more impressive canyons here than in Turkey. You'll see as impressive deserts here as in Egypt. The Florida Everglades are as wondrous as the mangroves of Vietnam (plus no food poisoning). Hawaiian beaches are as exotic as Tahiti. Alaskan wilderness is more impressive than the forests of Romania. I'm sorry but you're wrong. You've seen a couple of European countries, you've seen them all. America, it's where it's at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:12 AM Flag
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OP: I'm afraid your answer just underscores my point. But I'm glad you love your country so much. I certainly enjoy visiting it for a slight variation on all the things my own country has. The enormous food servings and wackadoodle politics add a slight local colour to the deserts, beaches, national parks, cold-climate wildernesses, canyons, rainforests, tropical islands and so on that we have here in our "mostly desolate" island. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:28 AM Flag
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np omg don't be so obtuse. it's really fun to travel, and we don't have Cappadocia, or the Austrian alps. Australian asshole op is right and it's a sad fact that most middle class Americans don't get to travel. Australia is a beautiful country even if the Great Barrier Reef died. They only had one shooting in Tasmania and after that they were able to ban all guns. We are too large of a population to all be on the same page and think with a unified hive mind. Most Americans didn't know what a lock box was and it got lost in Translation. Yes, they have it better but I'll be damned if any Australian or anyone at all is going to come on here and act culturally superior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:43 AM Flag
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OP: NYC is culturally superior to everywhere in the world. (But most of American is not NYC.) In this thread I've been asked - mostly - about why I moved back to Melbourne and I've talked about government support and lifestyle. The defensive respondents have talked about our accents and have tried to claim that Americans don't need the rest of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:00 AM Flag
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I'm from NYC, and it's parochial in it's own way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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That's because it sounds like low-class English, similar to the southern accent in the U.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:32 AM Flag
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too true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:32 AM Flag
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you guys drink a LOT! I was in an Australian bar in NYC on is it called Australia day? It's a pretty famous place apparently with your people and people were vomiting in the middle of the bar….in clear site and I saw some of them (after saw dust was brought out) and me almost passing out…go right back to drinking!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:23 AM Flag
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OP; Yup, we do. I once had a big night out with Australian friends in NYC and our waiter said he had never seen such a big bill for four people. We weren't even all that drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:29 AM Flag
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What the hell are your tips for the INSANE plane ride to your country from NY. Do you insist on Qantas? I have an aussie friend who will only fly the last seat in the plane on qantas. He is brilliant and says it's the safest seat and that qantas has like never crashed. Is everyone drugged out on the plane. I would love to see your county but I have severe motion sickness and can't fly more than 4 hrs at a time now…it's terrible and I can't watch the damn TV screen either -- I can only listen and look away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:26 AM Flag
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OP: For us it is normal. I travel to the US or Europe at least one a year, and while we don't look forward to the flight it's only 24 hours. My tip is to fly Business CLass if you can. Makes a world of difference. Otherwise get the overnight direct flight from LA to Sydney or Melbourne and drug up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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Why do you end your posts with ", no?" What is that about? Is this correct, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:58 AM Flag
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OP: I don't do this in Australia, but I do find myself doing it when I'm living in a non-English speaking country. I guess I - and other Australians - adjust the way I speak to fit with what the people around me will understand. But to answer your question, it's not a way that that Australians speak in Australia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:03 AM Flag
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How are race relations down under? I have colleagues who have worked there who hated it due to perceived racial issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:29 AM Flag
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OP: Yes, Australians have a massive problem with casual racism. It's getting a lot better. I'm not going to defend my country's problems with race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:44 AM Flag
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Thank you. You are the first Aussie to have responded so forthrightly. I am a physician and would love to have done a year in Oz, but their remarks concerned me. Not that it's a racial paradise here, especially now.Glad to hear it's improving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:54 AM Flag
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OP: Australians often don't recognise their prejudice as racism, because they don't understand that racism doesn't have to be hatred-based. I would say there's less hatred-based racism in Australia, but much, much more of the ignorance-based or general xenophobic stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:07 AM Flag
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Tall poppy syndrome? Does it exist? What field are you in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:29 AM Flag
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OP: Yes, it exists amongst blue-collar, older Australians. It's changing. Australia used to be a very parochial place. The past 40 years have done wonders. We're playing catch up a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:46 AM Flag
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My OB colleague worked in Perth and thought the obstetrical care was terrible. Is this just a Perth thing? He worked at the major maternity hospital there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:30 AM Flag
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OP: It probably depends. Perth is a tiny city and it's a million miles away from where most Australians live. It's also a very backwards place with huge income disparity. I also think it depends on what your friend was thinking of. Australian manage pregnancy very different to the way wealthy Americans do. Just as one small example: we don't get the obsessive blood tests for hormone levels and stuff. Unless you have a high risk pregnancy, you are treated as a low-risk patient. You may opt to have all your care managed by a midwife. You may just see your GP instead of an OB at your appointments. We also have heaps of post-birth, in-home care, including regular nurses visits until your child is 3.5 years old, free physio to recover your pelvic floor for as long as you need it, government-supported mothers groups and so on, which probably mean that the hospital is less involved. If your friend didn't know or didn't see all of this, it may play into their assessment of how the system works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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I think he meant gross negligence- maternal deaths, infant deaths, none of it recorded or reported. Not the usual differences between litigious America and the rest of the planet, but serious negligence and neglect. He was horrified. Not a judgey guy, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:56 AM Flag
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NP: That's weird that he says it was unreported. Australia has one of the lowest infant mortality rates in the world - much lower than America's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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His view (from Perth) was that they didn't actually record any of the deaths. As I said, perhaps a Perth issue. But he wasn't lying, and he's a great doc. Infant mortality rates are notoriously unreliable- every country measures them differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:21 AM Flag
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That's total bullshit. There is no fucking way. Signed, someone who actually works in Perth public hospital system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:20 AM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I was thinking the same thing, though I didn't have any evidence to refute it. Perhaps if he was working in a community, or Warburton, I'd be surprised but maybe believe it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:29 AM Flag
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OP: It probably depends. Perth is a tiny city and it's a million miles away from where most Australians live. It's also a very backwards place with huge income disparity. I also think it depends on what your friend was thinking of. Australian manage pregnancy very different to the way wealthy Americans do. Just as one small example: we don't get the obsessive blood tests for hormone levels and stuff. Unless you have a high risk pregnancy, you are treated as a low-risk patient. You may opt to have all your care managed by a midwife. You may just see your GP instead of an OB at your appointments. We also have heaps of post-birth, in-home care, including regular nurses visits until your child is 3.5 years old, free physio to recover your pelvic floor for as long as you need it, government-supported mothers groups and so on, which probably mean that the hospital is less involved. If your friend didn't know or didn't see all of this, it may play into their assessment of how the system works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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I should add, he moved to Australia because he was into and interested in their health system, but he was mortified by the neglect working there. Said it was indeed a great lifestyle. And he only experienced Perth, so who knows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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Perth is beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:34 AM Flag
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Perth mom: er, what? There is no huge income disparity in Perth nor is a backwards place. Have you been there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:20 AM Flag
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OP: Yes. I have family there. I haven't spent a long time there but I've been five or six times for a couple of weeks each time. I went to an Australia Day party that horrified me. But you can be unlucky and I'm open to hearing differently, if that's the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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Sure the outer suburbs of Perth are just as bogan and backwards as the outer suburbs of Melbourne. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 04:25 AM Flag
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OP: This was in a penthouse apartment on the river. Rich white bogans in australian-flag bikinis. They all worked in banking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 04:46 AM Flag
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Lol maybe they were brokers. There's no one working in IB in Perth. I've met some pretty backwards people in South Yarra as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:12 AM Flag
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Sexism in the US vs Australia? Does Australia feel isolated? What is better about the education system (I have heard it's very good)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:00 AM Flag
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OP: Hard to know about sexism. Probably the same, on balance, though there's less emphasis on women's looks here. Australia is no more physically isolated than America - it's just that we're Asia-oriented. Australians travel a lot. But yeah, sometimes it feels far away. The education system is less class-based. I feel like the best schools in America are the best in the world, but they're only for rich people who will only ever know rich people. We have far less income disparity in general here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:04 AM Flag
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Isn't Australia an island? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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OP: Well yeah, but it's not far from things. Just a shortish flight from the cities nearest the relevant border. It's not like most Americans drive or walk to Canada or Mexico, right? But yeah, Australia is about as big as continental USA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:13 AM Flag
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That's huge- income disparity issues. Really ruining America. Do you mean grade and high school or university? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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OP: all levels of education. Our best universities are what you guys would call public universities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:10 AM Flag
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Australia is sexist, racist (more so than USA), only successful genocide in mankind's history. Australia can feel isolated, depends on your lifestyle and where you're at in Australia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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Not that the US is much better, but we get a ton of flack on these issues, more than Australia seems to. How does Australia get away with its insane refugee island camps where people are know by numbers, not names? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:17 AM Flag
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OP: It's beyond understanding. We get condemned pretty regularly by the UN and Rights Watch. All I can say is that there is a huge amount of internal pressure for the policies to be changed, but we're butting up against the Murdoch media and politically-powerful redneck politicians who have fearful, ignorant constituents. And on top of that, every time we feel like things will change for the better, we get some international figure pointing at our system as one that works, and that is worth emulating. It is horrific. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:25 AM Flag
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You sound cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:28 AM Flag
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Visit the museum of immigration in Melbourne. Horrifying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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What's the deal with Schapelle Corby? Homecoming was...fascinating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:19 AM Flag
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Hahaha. She's a national embarrassment. Aussie mom (not OP) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:21 AM Flag
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Did she or didn't she? Family seems like the Honey Boo-Boos of Australia, for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:46 AM Flag
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OP: "Average" Australian woman, portrayed as being a pawn in some kind of shady international drug ring supported by the indonesian police? At the time it seemed so shocking and so interesting. Now we know that she was actually a dumb drug dealer and we've lot interest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:47 AM Flag
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 04:18 AM Flag
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Free healthcare is not free, it's paid by taxes. You can be pro- or con but stop saying that it's free. Same for public schools... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:46 AM Flag
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Australian Mum, lawyer, Brisbane, 45, 3dc - great post. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 08:43 AM Flag
[ - ] What is a trendy hair dying technique? I think balayage is over. I am naturally dark blonde used to get balayage every 6-9 months. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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TBH balayage was over in 2014. But I am also interested in hearing of interesting ways to update my shoulder-length bob. I used to be a cool kid. Middle age makes this harder unless you want to look kooky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:30 PM Flag
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That is ombre [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:35 PM Flag
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This!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:51 PM Flag
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You dont know what you're talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:39 PM Flag
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Hair painting, google it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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tgh the result looks just like balayage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:36 PM Flag
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hair painting IS balayage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:39 PM Flag
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balayage: a technique for highlighting the hair in which the dye is painted on in such a way as to create a graduated, natural-looking effect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:41 PM Flag
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I keep seeing that bluish-silver color on grown women. Is that trending? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:40 PM Flag
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And that grayish blonde; so strange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:21 AM Flag
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Maybe I'm wrong, but isn't it BAYALAGE instead of balayage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:20 AM Flag
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you're wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] When the punk athlete from HS who went to rando college on a soccer scholarship is doing better than your double Ivy ass. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:25 PM Flag
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Love it. Meritocracy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:25 PM Flag
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Plus one, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:26 PM Flag
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Op-it helped that he was hot. He got recruited by a major retailer and worked up. I'm average looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:27 PM Flag
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It sounds like you didn't understand how to play to your strengths [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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Yeah, it took me a while to figure myself out. I'm a nerd type through and through. Needed to find that niche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:33 PM Flag
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Humanities don't pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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Uh no- I am not trading places with him even if he lands some Goldman sales job bec someone on that desk did Div I soccer tol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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You guys be fools. Enjoy your​ "pedigree." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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I am looming at my net worth that is approaching 8 digits and wondering why I should listen to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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Mine's nine digits with DH (only eight for my personal wealth) but you still be a fool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:03 AM Flag
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it doesnt matter what you are worth- this isn't a pissing contest- you don't get to 8 digits being a fool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:12 AM Flag
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You could be smart in one way but a complete fool in other ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:19 AM Flag
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Go use your custom definitions somewhere else. UB is headquarters for generalizations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:22 AM Flag
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C students run the world. Education is overrated- the only merit system in this country is for athletes. This is why I don't have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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I agree with you. Except for the kids part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:00 AM Flag
[ - ] A I see there are MD moms and students on this, I have a question... my DD is taking the mcats this week and has been killing herself studying since she finished school early May. She considered taking a gap year as she's worried she did not have enough time to study, but does not want to... her gpa is really high. Any advice on this, taking the test? TIA! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:18 PM Flag
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Is she Asian? She had better score high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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OP - not Asian. Hispanic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:21 PM Flag
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I think she'll be OK and then. She's taken practice so she ought to know she's good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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she's just not scoring as high as she wants to... I think she is burned out - is it possible to over study? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:27 PM Flag
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Med student. No, it's not possible to over study. If she is not scoring as well as she wants, she could delay until July or August and still apply this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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I thought the June test was the last one available if you want to apply for Fall 2018? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:33 PM Flag
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When I applied a few years ago, that wasn't the case. Applications weren't due until September, from what I remember. You could take it as late as August and still make the deadline [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:37 PM Flag
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Any strategy for last few days of studying? How about handling the day before test, test itself - 7 hours! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:53 PM Flag
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Bring lots of snacks for test day. Use all your breaks. The night before, do a quick review of all important formulas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:22 AM Flag
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Well, then she ought to decide. It's a serious test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:30 PM Flag
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Med student here. My advice is take a few "official" practice tests (I think you can get them online, from what I remember). My score was very close to my practice score. Also, even if you feel like you failed the test, don't freak out and cancel your score. I almost did this, but ended up scoring in the 99th percentile. There is a heavy curve and a lot of the "weird" questions are likely experimental/don't count [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My mother is such a bitch to me, I don't know why I try. She has been away for the past week taking care of my sick grandmother. I went to her house and cleaned the whole thing, did a bunch of grocery shopping, took care of her dogs and cats. She got home tonight and the first thing she said was that I look fat and need to lose weight. Why do I even bother? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:17 PM Flag
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Side doesn't realize. You're a good dd. Keep up the good work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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Why should I keep up the good work if she appreciates nothing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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She appreciates. She just shows her love in a weird way where she tries to"improve" you. This is one of those times you do good for the sake of doing good. You're a good person. Be understanding. She won't be around forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:26 PM Flag
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This is bullshit advice. OP don't knock yourself out for your mom anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:27 AM Flag
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My mom is impossible to please. Never happy. I've stopped trying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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Sorry, my mother was like that, it's hard to try and know you will be slapped down, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you look up old crushes from 20 years ago? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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I do it once to see what's up and not a second time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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I google s but not crushes. One I hope he is happy with wife and daughter, the other I wonder if she is miserabkeinine here "only with him for the money" tyoes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:12 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O of BRCA post: if you were diagnosed with cancer, would you just share with close people or go on FB about it? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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I don't do Facebook. Thank God. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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No offense, but this is the new "no screens" thing. It doesn't elevate you and make you elite or anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:15 PM Flag
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Not at all. But I don't waste my time and energy worrying about looking good to Facebook friends. That's worth a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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Point taken, you're right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:52 PM Flag
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Ty,ty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:03 AM Flag
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Depends on the seriousness I think and how I felt about it. I would probably stay quiet for awhile. But if I needed friend support I would share in FB to get some lasagna for my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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It happened to me. I had to leave my job immediately in order to have surgery and chemo. My whole community knew. I appreciated the support- calls, cards, books, plants, etc. Neighbors sent meals, which my husband really appreciated. He was very overwhelmed with my care. I lost my hair, too, so there was no way to hide it. I needed everyone's prayers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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Hugs to you! Are you ok now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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I was first diagnosed 3.5 years ago. I had 2 surgeries and 2 rounds of chemo. I was okay for 2.5 years. I had a recurrence this winter- I needed another surgery and I'm currently having chemo treatment. Fingers and toes are crossed...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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Godspeed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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Sending you warm wishes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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I did not put it on FB, but my friends all know. Really distant acquaintances or friends from childhood don't need to know as I battle this. If my circumstances change, I may reconsider and say goodbye to all on FB. Time will tell..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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I would leave cryptic Facebook messages at 6 a.m. asking for strength [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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I don't do Facebook, but I think it is ok to post this on FB. Shouldn't have to be all rainbows and unicorns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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I wish there'd been Facebook around when my mom had cancer. It would have saved so many hundreds of painful phone calls. So easy to update lots of people in one go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:28 PM Flag
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Private support group is likely the only announcement I'd make [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:45 PM Flag
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