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[ - ] Has anyone tried those cookies from Whole Foods that are a knock-off of Girl Scout cookies? We missed the GSC season this year and I’m craving my thin mints. Wondering if they are really the same. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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Why not buy a bunch & freeze? I have not tried the wf ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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I usually do — just missed connecting with our usual sources this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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Your usual “dealer” lol. Love think mints. Trader Joe’s has a peanut butter chocolate cookie that tastes just like the GS ones... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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Keebler Grasshopper cookies are similar and so much better than the current sawdust cookie version of thin mints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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back to nature. they're great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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Aldi has thin mint knockoffs - so good. Also 99 cents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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these are a really good approximation of thin mints https://www.backtonaturefoods.com/what-we-make/cookies/fudge-mint-cookies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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omg.... so funny you said this, I bought a box yesterday of the Good Girl (knockoffs of Girl scouts) Thin Mints and they are so darned good...Almost finished the box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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That’s the ones! I couldn’t remember the name. They’re in sale this week! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:07 AM Flag
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Exactly. They are on sale at WF, that's why I bought them, $3.50 and they were a big hit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 02:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Last night after a very long day I stopped and got gas at a very crowded station leading to a street where it is hard to turn. I accidentally left my gas cap hanging and a station employee stopped me at the exit and put it on for me. Through the open window I heard this mom, 30s, yell ‘you should have paid better attention.’ The kid with her was 6 or 7. I can’t describe the rage and hurt that swelled up as I sat trying to make a left. I maybe held up the line one chance at the turn. Why are NYers such a holes and in front of children? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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No flames. I just feel so beaten down, traffic, long work days, menopause. You younger ladies should think of this when you get pissed at us older ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Good timing. I'm watching an episode of The Passion of the Nerd and he is discussing the fact that the most effective, hurtful, angering insults are the ones that play to our own insecurities. She doesn't know you, and you don't know how bad her day might have been. Shake it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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You have something there. I hate being embarrassed or drawing attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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I don't think it's just New Yorkers, but rather that some women are just bitches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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I have gotten yelled at and otherwise mistreated by male assholes here too. I think it's a NY thing, not a gender thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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np: it’s just that New Yorkers have no filter and will say whatever they think, loudly. Sometimes that’s a good thing, depending on the situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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I've been in NY for almost my whole life and have only been yelled at once, by a man, while jogging in Hudson River Park, bc I do intervals (20 minutes running, 3 or 4 minutes walking, repeat) and he yelled that I need to get out of the running lanes if I'm going to walk. I have, however, been yelled at for numerous things during the 4 years I lived in Boston. Things like walking too fast (slow the fuck down) and for waiting for the dressing room attendant instead of just knocking on doors myself. So definitely not a NY thing, though NYers definitely have no filter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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Midwesterners just stew in silence and get all passive aggressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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+1 and westerners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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Yelled for walking too fast??? That's nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Yep. I did laugh at the time because I do walk fast since I am a New Yorker after all, but it was definitely the weirdest time I've been yelled at, especially considering that I didn't actually push, or even touch, anyone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:53 PM Flag
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*some people are just a$$ho!es. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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She's right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Oh look everybody, little miss perfect joined the party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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You never make a mistake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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You sound like a happy, well adjusted person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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Imagine how she talks to her kid. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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My daughter’s Boston burbs driving school teacher says “MPS” which means “most people suck.” Lots of people on the road are not courteous drivers. Lots of massholes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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I like this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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My mom and her sister are capable of doing stuff like this. Scolding or shaming others. It just who they are, they think they mean well but they’ve managed to alienate most family members. I think the only thing that Brings them joy is pettiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Some people never grew up from middle school days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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When someone behaves that way to me, I try to focus on how miserable they must be. There have been times when I’ve been impatient or pissy for no good reason. It’s always when I’m miserable and angry about something else that I’m powerless to change. It’s never about the thing that’s happening in that moment. Not that you should feel sorry for her - just know it has nothing to do with you and she’s in a bad place in her own life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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This. She was having a bad day too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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She's a jerk, OP. I would never scream at someone. It's not like you cut her off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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I would have given her the finger and swore at her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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What does this have to do with NY? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:05 PM Flag
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The gas cap thing is such a non-issue, don’t stress! She’s just being a know it all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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You should have held them up extra long at your turn and should have let a few cars pass. It’s passive aggressive but it works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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She’s an asshole ! Don’t give her a second thought. Have a large glass of wine and get a good nights sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Sometimes I daydream about how I would spend money differently if I were a billionaire. One idea - the Hermès picnic basket for $16,800. But alas it is already sold out! Proving that even billionaires can have bad days. https://www.hermes.com/us/en/product/picnic-basket-H5000307v01/ 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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that's literally insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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No billionaire I know would even dream of that - that basket is so vile in so many ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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Probably one of the reasons I am not said billionaire [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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Never, no matter how rich. I would just treat myself with nicer, well made stuff. I want the Toms eye frames for $169 right now, but consider them too extravagant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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I’m obsessed with Rothy’s shoes but also can not justify the splurge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Rothy's are $150 and don't fit everyone. Consider yourself lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:09 PM Flag
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I would use my billions for freedom, not stuff. Twould be so nice not to have to sort airfares by price, low to high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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As a billionaire, I would just have the private jet on standby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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That works for me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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Those things are insanely expensive. Even as a billionaire I think I’d pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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I got to use one of those empty-leg flights last year, and it's even worse than getting bumped up to first class. There is just no going back to flying economy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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People are buying those as gifts, not to use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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OP serious question - to whom would you give a $17k basket? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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np: a very important client who has everything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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or. The whole point is that everyone in their circles knows what things cost. Hermes never goes on sale and the stores are intentionally shorted when it comes to orders so they keep their clientele hungry & their products exclusive. This is for your special client's daughter who is getting married or whatever. For people at a certain level this is a home run gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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It is considered an investment in a certain kind of business relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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Although, I looked at it, and I'm surprised they didn't at least pack some stuff inside it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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Say you were going to stay at a friend's country house for the weekend... It would be a lovely gift. LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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This. We get tons of this sort of shit from people who want our business [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Can I contact you would happily take your overages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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I would travel more and give a lot to charity. And never clean my bathroom again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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OK, I just read the description and now I'm going to start getting Instagram ads for $17,000 tupperware. They didn't even spell "discreetly" correctly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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Two ways to spell it with different meanings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Omg I just saw that I am honestly stunned. ( and yes I have time on my hands this relaxing Friday) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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My favorite thing about ub is how it messes with the machines that choose ads for me. I get ads for clothing and shoes that cost more than my monthly grocery budget now. Aspirational maybe, but easier to ignore than the old — and actually suitable — Lands End ads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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I get all these all for plus size ladies swimwear now. And I’m UB fat but not quite ready to officially join the plus size club. Has to be coming from here somewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 12:32 AM Flag
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People have strong opinions about swimsuits with skirts and board shorts on ub. Did you maybe click on a link related to that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 12:47 AM Flag
[ - ] My business partner is on the phone with a client. He keeps referring to a property as being in "La Jolla" pronounced Joe-Lah. I whispered "it's La Hoya" and he gave me this nasty look and whispered back "I'm on the phone!" I give up. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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You shouldn't have interrupted verbally. You should have slipped him a note. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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This. While he looks dumb for pronouncing it wrong, it was wrong to interrupt verbally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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orally. Verbally is in words. The note would have been verbal communication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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Cool. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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Welcome:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Np Is this really true? I had no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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The SAT section is called "verbal", now that I think about it. --OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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That would be visual communication since you're reading it. verbal is speaking. visual is generally non-verbal communication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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Let him look dumb next time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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You're all right -- I should have given him a note. But you'd have to sit in my seat as it were to know how many times he has interrupted me when I'm on the phone to offer "ideas" and "tips". I guess I thought if he could dish it out, he could take it. Wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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I thought it was "La Holla" like Holla back girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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Lmfao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:57 PM Flag
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and you are wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 12:55 AM Flag
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Holla! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:05 AM Flag
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Annoying, but not that many people really need to know how to pronounce it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Dd (13) does not hang out with friends after school or on weekends. She seems ok and happy to be home, but shouldn’t she hang out with her friends? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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Op she just told me her friends went to governors island after school and she didn’t feel like going [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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my 14 yr old told me he sees his friends at school, he doesn't need to see them on the weekends too. Friend was just telling me that not only her 13 yr old dd is the same way, but the parents of a friend of her said the same thing. So clearly some young teens are like this. They are social at school but want space away on weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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But her friends ARE hanging out. I see her other friends are hanging out as well, she just chooses not to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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Yes, some kids are hanging out. She wants space away from them. My friend's dd who wants to not hang out has a brother my ds's age who is going places with friends all the time. My point is, some of our kids want space now. It doesn't mean anything is wrong. Middle school can be exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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Op thanks, it is exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Does she have a smart phone? She’s probably “with” her friends that way. It’s not like back in 1980 when we had to be in the same room to chat with people (or use the one house phone if mom wasn’t on it having an interminable conversation with aunt Joan or Aunt Mary). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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My 10 yo ds is like this. I think he's just an introvert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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Np I think 10 is different and it’s also more acceptable for a boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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More acceptable in what way? Why should this be acceptable or not acceptable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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Yes, I agree that 10 is different. My DD is 13 and is super social, so not like OP's DD, but when she was 10, she barely did anything outside of the house, just maybe a birthday party here and there. It was when she was 12-13 that she really started getting more social. I think everyone did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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Poster above with a 14 yr old: He was doing playdates all the time at 10, and my 10 yr old is going to playdates all the time. Ods slowed down the social stuff when he hit middle school. Kids are just different and they go through different phases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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That's such a weird comment! Why is it more acceptable for a boy! Acceptable to who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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Sometimes DD does, but most times no. She likes being at home and relaxing. She's with her friends in school, in softball and in other ECs after school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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My 15 y/o dd is the same. Just wants to stay in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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Are you worried? Is she happy? Do you say/do anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:13 PM Flag
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For many kids, they do their socializing at school and home is me-time. Leave her alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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This was the case for my daughter. Now going off to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:53 PM Flag
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Depends. Are they doing things that would make her feel worried? Some kids like to push boundaries and as a teen I was reluctant to join in b/c I didn't have good skills to stop things that I didn't feel were right. So I also felt left out and later ignored. Ask her things like does she feel safe with her friends? Does she feel like they push boundaries? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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That sounds normal to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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I would worry. Is she depressed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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I don’t think so [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I have three kids. We are hiring a new nanny and trying to figure out pay; we paid previous 24/hr on the books. My husband is convinced we paid too much but I want to pay market - these are our kids! Thoughts? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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I think care.com has the average rate for your area. Try that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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You might want to look up the Park Slope Parents nanny survey. Remember that if you want to provide annual raises it helps to start a bit lower. If you start at 24 you’ll be at 30 before long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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we live in NYC - 2 little kids (under 3) and we pay our (amazing) nanny $1100 a week. Both my kids are not in school full time. How old are your kids? If she is caring for three little kids all day long than I would pay top dollar. Although I wouldn't start there - leave room for a few raises. If some of your kids are in school than a different story. It depends on your needs and her work load. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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How many hours? You know by law you have to pay her hourly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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yep we do pay hourly - she works anywhere from 40 to 50 hrs a week. If she works more than 50 we pay overtime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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Illegal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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In New York, any hours over 40 hours a week is overtime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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for an hourly worker--which includes domestic workers--including nannies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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Yes. Does the PP have a contract which covers this or is she pulling any number which she decides is overtime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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np--By law you need to pay time and a half for any hours over 40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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^^^ and be able to document this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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^^^ meaning you can show the hourly wage and the time-and-a-half wage for hours over 40/week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Most people don’t pay on the books so moot point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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So I guess that makes it okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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np That’s $20 an hour for 40 hours plus $30 an hour for ten hours, so it works out. I guess pqying for fifty but sometimes letting her work fewer hours is okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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^^That is it works as long as they also add $30 for any hours oast 50. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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^^Also time and a half for any hours that exceed 12 in a 24-hour period, even if the week doesn’t total more than forty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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You don't get to figure it out after the fact. You pay an hourly wage and then time-and-a-half for hours over 40/week. It's fine to have a guaranteed weekly salary, but you need to show the breakdown before the lump sum. It's often a much lower hourly wage than the employer thinks it is. $20/hour is not top wages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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Op: thanks for sharing. Helpful advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Be careful about breaking the law. Posters on UB have been sued by caregivers paid off the books. Also, do you want a country in which older people have no social security benefits because they have been paid off the books? We all pay for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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She already says she pays on the book. Back off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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Op: 2 in school full time. And the little one in preschool. I’m thinking we might start closer to 21 and get bid up to 22. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Start at $22 to be competitive and that gives room for raises [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of a parent changing children's last name after the death of a spouse? There was betrayal and objectively "bad behavior" involved on the dead parent's part, but he was a great father. I'm so shocked that the widow is doing this. Kids are little, but old enough to understand. 7 and 8. 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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Madoff’s changed their last name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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But I think that was more an attemptto hide from paparazzi, I read her book, the younger widow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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*Madoffs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 08:15 AM Flag
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Shocked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP: very. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Get a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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? I'm sad for the deceased father's parents...these are their only grandkids, and will always be their only. Why so hostile? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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Grandparents are grandparents no matter the last name. This is the silliest thing to be upset about. They are still their grandkids! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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It's part of them being pushed out, unfortunately. But I agree with your point. I think it's symbolic. They are looking into their legal rights now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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And now we see why the DIL wants space from this situation and to change the last name. Grandparents who would file a case about it are trouble anyway you slice it. Your family is in the the wrong here, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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And I'm sorry for your loss. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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It's not my family! Truly. What do you suggest grandparents do who are being withheld access to their grandkids? I suggested they consult an attorney to find out their rights, not that they file a case. They have no idea what to do. They used to see kids 3-4x/week, now see them every 1-2 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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Nothing. They should do nothing and hope DIL changes her mind one day. They are not inlaws' children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 04:36 AM Flag
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3-4 times a week is crazy. It sounds like the dh was not able to parent so was using the grandparents to help raise his kids. They need to give the DIL and kids space to heal and get their lives back on track. Let them do kid activities and hang out with their friends. They need time to even go to grief counseling or a support group for kids who have lost a parent. This grandparents are making this all about them and not seeing that their expectations are out of whack. You did not give good advice at all. These kids are not accessories. They are not a prize. They are human beings who need space to heal. 3-4 times a week is crazy. We live 30 min away from my inlaws and see them once every 1-2 months. There is nothing wrong, my kids are just busy being kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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Why are you so invested in another family? What is your real story here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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It's a family member. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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So you hate your SIL and nothing she does would make you happy and now you're mad she dumped your last name after your brother's bad actions. Got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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nope. Different family member, but close! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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In our sexist culture, maternal grandparents deal with the fact all of the time that their grandchildren don't have their last name. What's the problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:46 PM Flag
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good point, again, it's part of a bigger issue so I think it's become symbolic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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It's just a name. Children should have their mother's last name, anyway. Let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Never. How awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP: I should clarify - betrayal was not infidelity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Why is this seen as the biggest betrayal. I don’t get it. People can betray in so many ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Yes. I know how you feel, but I didn't feel that way about the name of the kids. I do feel that way whenever a deceased person is gossiped about, but I also feel that way about gossip in general, just seems worse to gossip after death! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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OP: it's just so sad because he had a substance abuse problem. And that's ultimately what he died from. It's not like he was a criminal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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I know about someone who did this when she remarried and had another child, so they could all have the same last name. It did seem very sad at the time when thinking about the deceased dad's legacy, etc (died in late 30s). At the same time, I felt that since I had never had to make that choice, I shouldn't judge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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op: that I understand and I think I'd do that too. This just seems based on anger and spite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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I would MYOB. There is probably a lot you don't know unless you are these kids' therapist. Don't judge from afar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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I am MYOB, I'm not involved at all. The kids don't even know yet. The mom initiated the change without telling them (according to her). It's a family member, which is why I care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Let the mom raise her kids and trust that she is doing what she thinks is best for them. The kids may not have chosen this but that doesn't mean that their mom is not acting in their best interests. You really need to let this go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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Isn't this the place to vent about things that we are not acting on in real life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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^ but I hear you! I'm certainly not getting involved...just trying to be emotionally supportive to all the involved parties. But I don't think it's the right choice, especially since the death wasn't even a year ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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I think you are not in a position to really be unbiased about this. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.24.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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I used to work for someone whose parents divorced when he was three. At eighteen he changed his surname to that of his then current stepfather. His biological father sued him to get back his child support money because of the name change! Case dismissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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If she's going back to her maiden name, and changing the children's name to her maiden name, then I don't think that's so shocking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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Interesting that wanting everyone in the family to have the same surname is considered an acceptable reason to change the child’s name but not for a woman to change hers upon marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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Says who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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Many, many women change their name when they marry, it's hardly unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:04 PM Flag
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oh please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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My dh died while drinking and driving. I did not change my name or that of db. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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OP: I'm sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:31 PM Flag
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Years ago friends parent changed their name. Last name was Woodcock. True story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 03:33 AM Flag
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how do you know he was a "great father"? someone who engaged in infidelity and other "bad behavior" is by definition not a good father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 03:32 PM Flag
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No infidelity. He was a great father, which his widow testifies to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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Childhood friends did this after divorce. Their choice but they were young so the mom facilitated it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] When our nanny left, DH decided DCs were old enough didn't need to replace nanny. Now our property person is leaving, and I want to make the same decision DH did about nanny - DCs are teens so we can all tidy up after ourselves and so on. Help with that wording? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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What is a "property person"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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This person is "an all arounder" originally we hired for help with housekeeping, but he's more like an apartment super. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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oops, ^op, sorry forgot that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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np. I would love that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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are you getting even for his unilateral decision? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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Huh? What makes this "getting even"? -op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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I want to make the same decision DH did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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Again, if this happens, how does that make us even? This is a hijack from my top post. -op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are trying to get even with DH for firing nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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Who's going to do this work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Same as nanny -op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 04:15 AM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are both 30, 1 DD 3 and DB on the way. HHI $300K (equal earners), shared bank account/shared everything, in NYC. No troubles in our marriage at all. I'm soon inheriting approx $8M (old family money). We have a decent amount in savings now but nothing in the millions. Do I keep the majority of this money invested completely separately in my name only? Can't imagine our marriage ever going downhill but you never know... I'd like to be able to use some of it to support our family as time goes on, but don't want to be short sighted with commingling. Any recommendations greatly appreciated, thank you! 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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8 mil is a lot, you should probably talk to a professional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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This. Talk about putting it into a trust that lets you use earnings for current family expenses and fun things you all want to do, and then lets you use the principal for post-high-school goals for your kids and then your joint retirement funds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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Keep it all separate. If you use for a big joint expense like an apartment, and he pays the maintenance/while you quit job, you should spell out what happens in case of divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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^^ might be good idea to have a post-nup anyway. I've known cases IRL where there was no commingling but they used one spouse's inheritance to pay a lot of expenses and that was successfully used as argument to get a bigger divorce settlement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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Interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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I would set something up so that it belonged to me and then would go to my kids in the future. I would not want it to end up going to my dh's second wife and her kids instead of my kids if I died. I trust my dh 100% but I think he would pretty devastated and vulnerable if I died. I would speak with an attorney and set things up the right way so you are covered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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OP - This is really helpful, thank you. Should something happen to me, and my DH remarry, I would absolutely want to ensure the money go to my children and not be distributed to another DW/family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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np: you need consult with a trust and estates attorney immediately!! Really. This is to the sort of thing to be easy breezy about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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Similar situation, but it’s DH’s family money. It’s kept separate, but he covers all family costs. There’s no reason for you to commingle. Just use it for the family as you wish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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Keep it all invested separately and if you purchase anything with it, put the title in your name and have an agreement drawn up. The purpose is to protect the assets for your children and to keep them away from any future wives and children your spouse my have due to divorce or your pre-mature death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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This x1,000. shit happens. I never in a million years think my marriage would be in trouble, yet it was a few years of disaster after DB2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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You’re getting the funds outright, not in trust? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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Almost certainly into a trust - most estates that large put everything into trusts, in part to protect it from divorce proceedings and potential 2nd or 3rd spouses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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If the positions were reversed and DH inherited, what would you want him to do? If you have been commingling all this time but now rfuse, that’s a red flag, imo. Planning for a divorce makes one more likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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This is a practical decision, not an emotional decision. Inheritances are separate property under the law for good reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Oh please. You sound naive as hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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x100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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I would want him to use the money for the benefit or our children, which would not happen if he dies and I remarry and die and the money goes to my 2nd husband and his children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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Disagree, it would be a red flag if this were money where money from a business one of them started or stocks vesting or something like that. Inheritance is a whole other kettle of fish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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You have to discuss it with him. It’s most likely in a trust. Our will established a trust that says upon the death of a spouse half goes to trust for kids half goes to surviving spouse. Upon death of second spouse remainder goes to living children. Its irrevocable. You could stipulate that upon your death he gets income from half of the trust but cannot touch principle which will revert to kids upon his death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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Get a post nup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Please admit that if DH inherited $8 million you would want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Does DH know this money is coming your way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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Definitely keep separate. It's your family money. You're too young to know what could happen to your marriage down the road. I estimate at least 80% of all the wonderful couples i know have some serious bumps at some points, typically after 40. People can change a lot in 10/20 years. If you share it, half of your family could end up going to another woman or her kids. If you and DH ever want to buy a nicer home or a weekend home, you can offer to pay for it and keep it in your name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:11 AM Flag
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I'm on our coop board and see that most people do this: the home is owned by one spouse, not in both spouses' names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:13 AM Flag
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That can also be second marriages where the children of the first marriage are guaranteed a certain percentage of dad’s estate. Putting real estate in the next wife’s name keeps it out of the estate entirely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:55 AM Flag
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$8 million is a lot. Take half and put in trust for kids and for yourself. The rest can be used to purchase a home and any maintenance needed, travel or whatever you and your dh decide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 02:40 AM Flag
[ - ] if someone behaves so egregiously at work (a man) that you (a woman) quit your job as a direct result of their unchecked behavior; and share that reasoning with a select few higher ups, and you have never had negative feedback yourself, why would they still think that person is great? I am so floored by this. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:47 PM Flag
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So weird. I could've written this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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so many of us could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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Depends on the behavior and their other qualities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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This. Men will avoid confrontation with other men at all costs. They only take each other on when they feel certain of winning, and certain of a big payoff for the win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:20 PM Flag
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People act differently in front of different people. Some are almost chameleons. I've been surprised to find that some of my favorite people at work are "abusive to the staff" or cheat on their spouses. On the other hand, some people I can barely stand personality-wise are thought of as brilliant or wonderful by other people. I've learned that my feelings and experiences are not universal and that the experiences and perceptions of others can vary in astonishing ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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depends on what he brings to the company. if he is a big rainmaker or salesperson who brings in a lot of business, at some places, he could probably murder half the admin staff and the higher-ups would look the other way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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This. Also, I'm a boss and I'm sure I am guilty of this type of behavior too. I can look the other way about a lot for a high earner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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Great.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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How true is this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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he is sales but not a high earner and jeopardizing his piece of the business by 100% cutting me out of all revenue and business side meaning i was not able to talk about the actual product in any of his meetings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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Maybe you reminded that man of a sister he was always jealous of, a woman who rejected him, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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and why is this relevant? if he can't control his behavior its on him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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She didn't say he wasn't responsible. She said he may have targeted her for his worst behavior and others were spared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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Many behaviors that women are offended by are not reviled by other men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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This. They probably think “locker room talk.” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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Locker room talk is one thing, and sexual harassment is another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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You sound like a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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You sound like someone who should learn the difference #metoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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Is there still a difference legally? I thought women got all sex talk banned as contributing to a hostile workplace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:33 PM Flag
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if someone cost me a good worker, and behaved in a way worth of 3 page long document cataloguing incidents with multiple staffers, I would struggle to look the other way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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take it to the EEOC. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Sexism, misogyny, implicit boas, outright discrimination. Hardly a mystery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:33 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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Yep. Men like the status quo. They don't want equality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:24 PM Flag
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Men are prized and women are not. This is true throughout the world. Sadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone ever do one of those dna tests to determine what type of diet you should have? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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No, but I am thinking about the dog DNA tests to see what my dogs' breed mixtures are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:51 PM Flag
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We did that. Some of it was a surprise (boxer?) and some of it was "of course she is" (pit & lab). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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ha ha! Both of our dogs are unidentifiable mixes. One is a street dog from another country and he has the build typical of street dogs from there. I am so interested in it but haven't pulled the trigger yet! What were her %? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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25% red boned coonhound, 25% lab, 12.5% pit, 12.5% boxer, 25% "mixed" - she'd come from a high-kill shelter in Georgia to NSAL, where we got her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I think I’m going to miss watching Leslie Jones watching Game of Thrones more than I’ll miss Game of Thrones itself. I love hr enthusiasm. What a clever woman. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:37 PM Flag
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She wasn’t my fave when she started SNL but she is now. I love the all women skits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:40 PM Flag
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TY for posting. Just watched - hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:56 PM Flag
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Agreed. GOT was actually a bit boring (fairy tales with zombies? ummmm....) but watching her was good fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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Where do you fine that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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Watching LJ watch Infinity War was the funniest thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.19, 01:14 AM Flag
[ - ] What type of cuisine do you prefer when you go out for dinner? What’s your favorite meal? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:35 PM Flag
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Sushi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:37 PM Flag
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favorite meal if it's done right - cheeseburger, french fries, beer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:43 PM Flag
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Typically something Mediterranean that we share. Hate basic Italian and steakhouses [ Reply | More ]
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Indian and Thai [ Reply | More ]
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Mexican, with lots of fresh ingredients and rich spices. Spicy, but not so spicy you can't taste the flavors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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French. I love a classic steak frites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:43 PM Flag
[ - ] The average woman's earnings peak around age 40. How old were you at when you were at peak earnings (if your income is on the wane). 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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36 [ Reply | More ]
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39, but then I eased back voluntarily — does that count? [ Reply | More ]
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I think it does. I think it's why women's peak earnings occur at an earlier age than men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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47, this year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:35 PM Flag
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peaked last year at 50, hopefully earnings will keep going slightly up over the next 10 years (newly launched firm now running full speed). then time to retire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:41 PM Flag
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What do you mean by "peak earnings?" Are you saying that once people reach a certain age that they can't earn anymore? I took a pay cut in my 50s to go in-house, but it wasn't a result of not being able to make more - could have continued to make more, but chose a different lifestyle instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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I think it simply means the year you earned the most money, regardless of whether you could have earned more and opted not to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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Okay, so it would have been my mid-50s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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Last year, 51. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:50 PM Flag
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This year, 35 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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35 for me, then another spike @ 38m then regular COLAs. Had to leave the work force @ 53. Probably out for five more years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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30 [ Reply | More ]
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29. Conscious decision to leave big law and go into non-profit world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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This year, 47, but the job didn't last long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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Mine are still on the way up. 50. [ Reply | More ]
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Please state your source. I don’t agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Long Beach nice? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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I think so. As long as it's not a jellyfish day and unswimmable. [ Reply | More ]
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What state are we talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:22 PM Flag
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NY or CA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Holy shit, Oreos are good. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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agreed they really do stand the test of time -- the only packaged cookie i like [ Reply | More ]
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Meh, never liked them [ Reply | More ]
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Get out. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 09:27 PM Flag
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+1, but I like sugar wafers too [ Reply | More ]
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Np- I like the pink ones. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you tell the difference in color with your eyes closed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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Fig Newtons rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:22 PM Flag
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I like to dip in milk til they’re a little soggy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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True. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:19 PM Flag
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Did you read the story on The Onion about Oreos and the pope? Twas funny. I shall search out a link. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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the thin TJ ones are even better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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Oh hi Oreo rep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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Op- I wish. Just a SAHM who can’t stop snacking on a Friday afternoon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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Trader Joe's Neapolitan Jo Jos do it for me. You've been warned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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The "vanilla" ones are better!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you do if you're in a relationship (not a marriage) and you realize you love the other person more than he or she loves you? Or you notice you're much more attached. Any experience or advice? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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Nothing unless you want to marry them and they won't marry you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:18 PM Flag
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The happiest person is the one who is most in love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:18 PM Flag
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In my experience, those relationships are generally doomed. Both people have to be invested and willing to make compromises and sacrifices in order for the relationship to be successful long-term. If one person is holding back or not fully-committed, then it's a short-term thing, and the sooner you end it the less hurt you will be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:18 PM Flag
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Sorry to say, I agree with this. Broke up with a boyfriend for this reason, and still wonder about him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 11:16 PM Flag
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I was dating this guy in Manhattan. When he mentioned he used to drive a Camry before he moved to Manhattan, I swooned, "Both of my parents drive Camrys!" and he replied, "It's the second best selling car in America". This is how I knew he wasn't that into me. But it depends. Later in life, I might like a companion even if things aren't ideal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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How does his reply indicate that he’s not into you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:36 PM Flag
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He didn't say "Really, they like Camrys too! I can't wait to meet them!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:47 PM Flag
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But if he had, he would have sounded like the biggest dork in the world. Would you have preferred that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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If he'd liked me a lot, he would have said "Neat coincidence". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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I can't believe this is real. Unless there were some other factors at play, this might might be the dumbest thing I've ever read on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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Sounds like he has a better grasp of statistics than you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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Lol right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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I felt an instant connection with my DW, unlike anything I had ever felt before. When we found out she was sick just before getting married, my feelings only grew stronger. My family voiced some concern at first, but it wasn't going to change how I felt. DW loves that I feel so strongly about her, and it's actually led to her being more relaxed, and comfortable showing a similar level of affection. Anyway, the advice is; don't try to compare who loves who more. If you love them, and they love you, what more could you ask for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:57 PM Flag
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Give other person some space. Love can not be imposed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you ladies think of Avenues? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 05:42 PM Flag
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When we looked @ schools for DC1 for 6th, a few folks suggested, but I could not wrap my mind around a for-profit school model. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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Why? How would the academics suffer? You prefer school auctions to "close the gap" and others fundraising? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:18 PM Flag
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I prefer mission-driven, then money-driven [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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That's fine, but if the teachers are top notch and the students are qualified, how does the school suffer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:32 PM Flag
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How do they evaluate the students? Does everyone get in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:33 PM Flag
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I thought it was the same way as the not for profit schools - tests, grades, interviews? Not everyone gets in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:55 PM Flag
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I've been told it's hard to start a new school as a non-profit these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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UB detests Avenues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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why? academics no good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:33 PM Flag
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I toured it. Didn’t like it but know others who send their kids there and like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 05:55 PM Flag
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DD will be starting HS there in the fall, so I cant tell you our experienced yet, but we liked it when we toured, DD loved the science labs and art studios, and we loved the energy from the person interviewing us so we just had a really good feeling about the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:21 PM Flag
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Admissions is not always a good reflection of the school or its academics. Trinity admissions is notoriously horrid, at all levels, but the academics are outstanding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Sure, I agree with this, but if I don't know other families from a school, the only thing I can count on is how I feel when I'm there and how I feel talking to the people that work there. Hopefully our initial impressions work out for DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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The families I know who have kids there are nice families it’s nice kids. It fills a needed gap for a school downtown and easy commute from Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:24 PM Flag
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Nice families with nice kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:25 PM Flag
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Slick marketing over substance. Beautiful facility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:33 PM Flag
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Anyone know how their college placement goes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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A mom I know is pulling her dc out. Said she's not happy with the academics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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Depends on grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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Watch the HBO doc "class divide" for an interesting look at avenues with interviews with kids & parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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