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[ - ] It ha b come pretty clear that DH and I completely uninterested in sex. Not sure where we go from here. I’m fine to be roommates. Is it a problem if we both are fine with it? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:11 AM Flag
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I don't have a problem with it either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 11:50 AM Flag
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It's fine as long as you two can live knowing that eventually either one or both of you will look for sex somewhere else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 11:51 AM Flag
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That is not necessarily true at all. UB is obsessed with cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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No, it is a normal human need, we need to have sex, in this instance I would not call it cheating, just an arrangement between two consenting adults [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:16 PM Flag
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Stay in your own lane. No need to worry about what other people do or don't do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:18 PM Flag
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What does this mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:30 PM Flag
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NP: it means everyone is different and at different points in their lives. I've been married for 30 years. Sex was always good when I was younger. It gets tougher the older you get and the longer you're with someone. There's no shame in that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:40 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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np: it can get tougher with that same person, which is what many of us can't seem to admit bc we are so conditioned toward monogamy. Certainly there are things that impact our desire for sex that have to do with age, including vaginal dryness, but you'd be surprised how excited (¬ dry) you could be with a new partner. I was in a 15 year marriage and completely lost interest in sex by year 12. Got divorced for a million reasons and now we co-parent effectively and I am having the best sex of my life with a great new man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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For some people. There are people quite content to live without it. Whatever works for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:34 PM Flag
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Why would you even ask this question unless you are trolling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:23 PM Flag
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My DH said he was fine with it and then ended up leaving me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:31 PM Flag
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Let me make this clear. I would define myself as a whore in my past life before I met my DH (gay dad here). I slept with everything. Now after 8 years of marriage, a couple of kids, work. My DH and I have sex about 2 times a year and we are both fine it. I am not looking elsewhere and neither is he. It is all good with you, focus on what works for you both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:44 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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Monogamy is totally unrealistic and unnatural, think of all the times people have posted here totally shocked because they have found out their husband/partner has been having sex with another person, we all make up whatever makes us happy, the reality is more than likely totally different, if you can live with it go for it, just don't fool yourselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] There was a mom’s night out happy hour last week and the husband of one of the moms stopped by, not for a drink but just a stop by, and wasn’t even friendly. These sto bys have happened 2 other times, once with a dinner and the other time during after a workout class ( not to stay, just a quick stop by). this seems very strange. Control issues? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:38 AM Flag
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Insecurity issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:49 AM Flag
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Even more than control? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:52 AM Flag
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This is what it sounds like. He's insecure and controlling - he's worried that she's not actually out with the girls. It doesn't sound good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:03 PM Flag
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Major red flag. Likely an abusive relationship. This is textbook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:56 AM Flag
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I don’t there is physical abusive but maybe emotional? They seem very normal otherwise but by the third time I’m thinking this is weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:00 AM Flag
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Abuse is abuse, whether it is physical or emotional. The pop bus, and unfriendly nature of them, indicate a controlling and possessive behavioral pattern that is consistent with emotional abuse. Most intimate partner abuse occurs between people who appear "very normal otherwise." What do you imagine they would seem like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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^ how does she explain her husband's behavior? That will also be telling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:04 AM Flag
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She doesn’t explain, and didn’t seem overly friendly when he stopped by. She s end to otherwise go along no with him. He has a lot of ev3nts for work and she always attends, also an active social life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:07 AM Flag
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ok none of this sheds light on the situation. You really have no idea what she's dealing with. Sounds worrisome for all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:13 AM Flag
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Should I say something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:15 AM Flag
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Not sure what you could say. But you could certainly focus on being a better friend to her, trying to be available and be there for support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:18 AM Flag
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That you are a busybody and suspect she is being abused? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:45 AM Flag
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I absolutely agree with OR. As for physical, you have no idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:05 AM Flag
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agree, abusive relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:45 AM Flag
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A good friend of mine’s husband has also done this a few times, and I found it similarly disconcerting and weird. They have an extremely co-dependent relationship, and I have always written it off to be that...though control/emotional abuse has crossed my mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:24 AM Flag
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Thi is she is cheating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:10 PM Flag
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Thinks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:10 PM Flag
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Most likely ACCUSES her of cheating, and gaslights her about HIS cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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This sounds plausible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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Who knows...but I know that my husband is interested in my life, my friends, et al. Maybe this husband just feel excluded from is wife's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:46 PM Flag
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Enough to stop by three times when she is out with friends? that sounds abnormal. I'm interested in DH's life but wouldn't take a trip to the squash courts to check on his post-game conversations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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If you're interested in your spouse's life, you'd ask her "how was dinner with X?" when she returned. This guy has serious control issues--I had a friend whose DH called her constantly throughout the day to monitor her, didn't like her to go out with friends in the evening, etc. He wasn't interested in her life; he wanted to control everything she did when he wasn't around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:36 PM Flag
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He just wandered over to your table to say hi? What's wrong with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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If the wife is making social plans, on her own, and her DH is "stopping by" every time this happens - yeah, it's weird. She can go out on her own without DH checking in on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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well, if it's every time... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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This place cracks me up. No evidence other than OP's vague observation and the thing has boiled down to abuse. We don't know what is going on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:01 PM Flag
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I'm not an alarmist, but I find it f-ing weird that this woman's DH needs to "stop by" every time she's doing a solo social activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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So what. If you feel you can intervene and change that dynamic, feel free to do so. Otherwise, you don't know what is going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:03 PM Flag
[ - ] What did you do when something fun you used to enjoy doing together with your spouse is no longer fun together? Lame example: loved bowling together, but for the past 3 years you prefer bowling with friends, strangers or alone 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:29 AM Flag
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For you, how does it happen that you’re ending up doing it alone? My experience has been that dh asks me to learn to do things with him and then at some point he stops. I continued skiing on my own until I got a knee injury, although I did teach my brother and he went with me sometimes. He asked me to learn to ride a motorcycle. We did it together for awhile, but I ended up riding alone when he stopped. He asked me to kayak, and eventually he stopped and I found a friend to go with. So I do things however I want to if I choose to continue. He’s certainly introduced me to a wide variety of activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:42 PM Flag
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We used to drink together. Once I stopped drinking, he found a new drinking partner. He's still drinking every single day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] The humidity seems to make me swell. Is this actually possible? I always feel this way. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:09 AM Flag
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I always feel this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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Then, yes, possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:46 AM Flag
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My ring finger swelled up so much that I had to take the rings off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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how'd you get them off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I just finished watching the last season of Red Oaks on Prime. What a nice, feel good show... loved it. Wish there were more like it and like The Marvelous Mrs Meisel... can't wait for the new season. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 AM Flag
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Dying to see the new season of Mrs Maisel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:43 PM Flag
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I loved, loved, loved Red Oaks. It was very Dirty Dancing escapism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:25 PM Flag
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Thanks for the recommendation! Looking for something like this to watch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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Am I the only one who finds Mrs. Maisel show completely annoying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] PSA: Its not all about calories in and calories out. Hormones play a huge role 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:48 AM Flag
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Do you think HRT helps keep weight off, post-menopause? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:54 AM Flag
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Try IF. Don't know much about HRT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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What type of IF routine do you recommend? Did it help with menopause weight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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Sorry you are having weight issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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It’s a mixed bag. Was very thin all my life and a runner but got tired in my 50s from normal life stuff plus not having the energy to go go go. Know plenty of people my age who can keep the weight off but they have time to work on it. Still have a tween at home, work full time and trying to run a household. Part of it is my inability to take time for myself and health. Yes, hormones, but a bunch of other factors too. It’s not black and white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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What is the time to work on it mean in reality? like what are they doing that you aren't? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:15 AM Flag
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Np: in my 40’s and I look tremendously better than my friends who drink frequently and don’t work out. I work out 1.5 hours 5 times a week. I have to! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:21 AM Flag
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What is your 90 minute work out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:52 AM Flag
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50-60 minutes weights 30-40 minutes of cardio three times a week. One 75 minute yoga class followed by short run. One 60 minute yoga class followed by 30 minute run. I have time because I make time. Two of these workouts happen on Saturday and Sunday. Other three on weeknights. Trainer on Wednesday at 6, so I finish at 7:30. Yoga on Thursday at 6:30 so I finish a little after 8. Monday I usually work later so I probably don’t finish until 8:45. My apt, work and and gym(s) are all within a mile. That is the key! I get to work every morning at 8:45. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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When do you see your kids? Only two weeknights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:10 PM Flag
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I get home Friday at 5:30. I get home Tuesday around 7. I get home Wednesday at 7:35. Thursday just after 8. Monday is the only later night. My kids go to bed at 9:30 and wake at 7. I am with them every morning until school starts (drop them at 8:20). I think people that commute see their kids less. My commute is 15 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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I don't know how you have the time, lucky u! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 11:53 AM Flag
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No kids at home, no more-than-full-time job, no business. I'm not making excuses for myself, and I do try to build exercise into the day. I'm not overweight at all, but I'm not as in shape as I used to be. I find that when I free time, there's always something that needs to be done. I used to run and go to the gym in the mornings, but now I get up at 5:30 for work and don't get home until 7:00. Dinner, pets, clean up, work on my business stuff, go to bed. Start cycle again in the morning! The whole question of menopause and weight gain is highly individual. There's no magic thing that if you do this or that, you'll be fine. I find that as an individual, you just need to work on what works for you. Genetics plays a role too. Also, as an older person, you need less food. It's just the way it is. I can't eat a basket of fries and several beers like I used to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:35 PM Flag
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Do you have a long commute? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:08 PM Flag
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Make sure you get enough sleep! Hunger hormones increase if you don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:18 AM Flag
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My gyn just shot me down on this. I said this and she said maybe a little increase on girth because testosterone increase but otherwise you just need less calories as you age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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Yup - calories in calories out - duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:12 PM Flag
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Watch out menopause mom is going to get upset about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:09 PM Flag
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It absolutely is. You are just losing muscle and burning/using fewer calories. Trade spin for weight lifting and your results will be dramatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:16 PM Flag
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We can tell this poster this a hundred times they don’t listen! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] A giant spider just crawled onto my shoulder while I was sitting in bed on my laptop. I just moved into an old walk up apartment, so I know bugs are bound to happen, but I cannot handle spiders. Can someone share some real, effective remedies? I read pepermint oil, but I want something that WILL work. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:34 AM Flag
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Bats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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A cat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:40 AM Flag
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OP: DD is deathly allergic. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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Get a great cleaning service. They don't like the smell of peppermint oil so that's a good essential oil to spray everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:50 AM Flag
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One shark. Twill clear them all up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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Cleaning weekly top to bottom. No dusty corners. No bugs=no spiders who eat other bugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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You say you just moved? Still have boxes around? They love to hide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:42 AM Flag
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This would give me nightmares, I'm so sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:51 AM Flag
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Exactly how big was the spider? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:53 AM Flag
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OP: About the size of a quarter... maybe a bit larger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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lol that's giant to you? I was expecting something the size of a palm of a hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:03 AM Flag
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OP: Honestly, I am so petrified of the little shits, one the size of a speck of dust would leave me screaming. I was in a bath robe, ripped it off, and ran into my 13 yo DDs room, saying "Check my hair! Check my hair!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:08 AM Flag
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Damn...I hope you were wearing something non-embarrassing under the bathrobe. Were you able to find and kill the spider? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:18 AM Flag
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Large spiders are usually very shy—wolf spiders for example. A few house spiders are a good way to deal with flies or mosquitoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:57 AM Flag
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UGH NO! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:59 AM Flag
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How do you think it got onto your bed? Did it descend from the ceiling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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OP: I think it crawled up my head board. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:07 AM Flag
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In high school I dozed off while studying in my bed (lights on, reclining on my back)... when I woke up a spider had descended from the ceiling and was dangling about 6 inches above my mouth! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:04 AM Flag
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did you kill the spider? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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OP: I did. With a running shoe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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you should have used a vacuum cleaner instead. that's what I've been using to kill bugs for years. it doesn't make a mess and you don't have to get up close and personal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:19 AM Flag
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I think mice are kind of cute, and snakes are fascinating, but for some reason I hate spiders [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:14 PM Flag
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I doubt it's coincidence that, in "Starship Troopers", the Earth was attacked by a race of giant spiders, or that Shelob guarded Mordor in Lord of the Rings, or that Stephen King's The Mist featured giant spiders and other giant insects. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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They come because there’s o food supply of other bugs. A deep clean and extermination should help. Keep any thing that draws bugs in a tightly sealed container. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:45 PM Flag
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pet free-range snake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a pediatrician on the upper east side? I am looking at Global pediatrics (but don't know which doctor to choose) or Weill Cornell on East 85th (again don't know which doctor to choose)? TIA. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:33 AM Flag
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Dr. Gary Edelstein, Manhattan Pediatrics, East 72nd, our DC loves him, low key but always very interested in and concerned about DC, not just re physical health but also school experiences, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:36 AM Flag
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eh, he's ok. Office staff not the friendliest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:17 PM Flag
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Dr. Palmo at Global Pediatrics. The BEST, most caring, competent pediatrician. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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+1 love him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:42 AM Flag
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+2!! Amazing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 11:47 AM Flag
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Don't think he takes insurance, Greg Yapalater (sp?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone with one foot out the door of their marriage? I think about leaving every day. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:22 AM Flag
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Me! I'm pretty sure it's going to happen at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:32 PM Flag
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That was me 2 years ago. I was waiting for DC to go to college. It's very hard to leave the security of your home, but it's waaaay better on the other side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have raging hemorrhoids? What have you done to combat? I feel like I may need to suck it up and go to a doctor but that’s my last resort. Help!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:20 AM Flag
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i had one banded and it SUCKED. i still have another one but i'd rather have a hemorrhoid than ever have that experience again. that being said we should both go to a dr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:29 AM Flag
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What we that experience like- the banding? Are there any alternatives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:37 AM Flag
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it was hugely icky. first the very concept is highly disturbing. secondly the feeling of it is highly disturbing. the whole thing is highly unpleasant. maybe i am in the minority but i might rather have a baby (with epidural) than this again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:21 AM Flag
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are you sure? DF was treated for thi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Can someone walk me thru the Botox process. First timer here. How much does it cost? Any side effects/bruising etc? How long does it really last? I read 4 months but is that accurate? Do you have to keep going once you do it once? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:07 AM Flag
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My Derm is amazing. She says the worst thing you can do is to overdo it. Then you end up with droopy eyelids and a shiny forehand. She does a decent amount and then has me come back in two weeks for a feee touch up if something needs to be tweaked. My biggest mistake was doing my entire forehead. You should have some expressive forehead wrinkles. Otherwise you literally look like a mirror in pictures and if you can’t raise your eyebrows your eyelids sag. I also LOVE a small amount of filler under my eyes and in my marionette lines. Makes me look 10 years younger and well rested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:16 AM Flag
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NP: My MD takes a similar approach (or maybe we go to the same person!). I still have forehead lines and 11s, but they are much, much lighter. :acts 4-6 months. I ice beforehand and haven't ever bruised - but I believe my MD will laser the next day (gratis) if you do bruise. Costs $700-$800. (There is also a first time consultation fee, but my MD reduced it when I had same-day treatment.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:25 AM Flag
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That is cheap! Are you in Ny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:38 AM Flag
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I am. Where do you go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:01 AM Flag
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Dermatologist. It is 1100! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:05 AM Flag
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I also think this is a bargain. Who is your doctor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:07 AM Flag
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Maybe I'm misremembering the price. Or maybe I get very little? Julie Karen/Complete Skin MD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:10 AM Flag
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Thanks. I imagine it is not more than mine so I think I am going to check it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:20 PM Flag
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What does the filler under the eyes do? Does it help with the big wrinkles/bags under the eyes when smiling? I had a tiny bit of filler in my marionette lines a year ago and it has made such a great subtle and lasting difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:44 AM Flag
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How much does this cost? How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:46 AM Flag
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~$17/unit where I live. I get too many units for my age because my facial muscles are that strong :P Each face is different. Why are you getting it done? I get Botox to give my eyebrows an arch (fairly flat), prevent turtle forehead (I do this in pictures), bunny lines, crow's feet, and helps keep me from crying... if I can't make a sad or angry face, my emotions stay more neutral / happy too. Sometimes I bruise. Sleep on your back, avoid facials, etc. for some time. I have a few pock marks from injection sites. Lasts 3-4 months for me. You can just do it once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:00 AM Flag
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I hate the Botox pointy eyebrows. It look so obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:06 AM Flag
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Trust me mine are so flat naturally there is no point haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:11 AM Flag
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Lol. That's not botox; in the after pics she's had an upper blepharoplasty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:14 AM Flag
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Oh well I failed to find a photo to demonstrate, sorry :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:27 AM Flag
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NBD :) I just didn't want to let anyone get the impression that botox could do what that picture shows--that requires surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:34 AM Flag
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So how much do you pay total? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:42 AM Flag
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Same as those above ~ $700-800 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:53 AM Flag
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Does insurance cover any of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:10 AM Flag
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mine does not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:14 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:14 AM Flag
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Hey, I don't know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:17 AM Flag
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It's $11 per unit where I live in So Cal. You guys pay way too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:28 AM Flag
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I used to live in So Cal. The prices for almost all cosmetics, and the quality, are far superior to just about everywhere else I've been and it must be scale? ie lots of clients! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:33 AM Flag
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But you pay for who is doing it. When you go to the cheap places you look like you are botox and filler obsessed. Which is sort of consistent with how people from SoCal look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:41 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:57 AM Flag
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Np: nah, this is a stereotype of LA that is wildly inaccurate. Are there women here who look ridiculous? Absolutely. Do most of the women in my circle and area (Westside) look natural with a few tweaks? Also absolutely. The Botox consumption isn’t too different here than the UES, trust me. And fwiw, I pay btwn $12-15 and like the women above, do only a small amount to look better rested, and it lasts about three months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:19 AM Flag
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What kind of doctor is willing to work for $15? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:34 PM Flag
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Uh, per unit? That's a LOT of money! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:17 PM Flag
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This, per unit. For the units I get easily $1k! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:16 PM Flag
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Lmao. Keep paying your $700 per injection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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I pay 1000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O leaving overcrowded places post. DH would love to move to VT. We have friends near Hanover/Woodstock but not near Burlington. Has anyone BTDT. Like Woodstock/Hanover/ Norwich for ease of travel to Boston but Burlington has much more going on year round. Thanks ladies! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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Y - Dartmouth grad (15+ years out) and know several people who have moved to the area. Biggest concern would be jobs- there’s a decent amount going on there between the college, the hospital, and local opportunities (King Arthur, Simon Pearce, etc) but obviously nothing like a big city. Between all of the little towns, I think you’d have plenty of options for dinner / restaurants. Shopping is more limited but there’s always online. The nice thing about that area is that it’s pretty lively year round (esp Hanover) due to the college - it’s not like living somewhere like Stowe or Manchester, VT that turns in to a ghost town in the off season. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:20 AM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Any catholic school recommendations on the UWS? Thank you. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:03 AM Flag
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A lot of people send to Blessed Sacrament [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I just started working with a recruiter and she wants to send me on an interview. She has not told me the name of the company and the interview is on Wed. Is this the norm? I would think it makes more sense to tell me the company name before setting up the interview. She only sent me a description of the role. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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Tell her you will sign a non disclosure. If you’re going on the interview you should know the company. You’ll find out anyway when you get there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:40 AM Flag
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That seems weird, how can you prepare? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:45 AM Flag
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First interview is more about your personality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:31 AM Flag
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Lol nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:54 PM Flag
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Why are you being so passive? Tell her you need the company name so you can prep. She will Certainly give it to you when she gives you the address, no? Stop being silly. Get the info and good luck!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:55 PM Flag
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Tell her that in order for you to best be prepared for the interview you need the name of the company and the names of the individuals you will be meeting with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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Sounds like the recruiter is trying to stop you from end-running her by keeping you in the dark as long as possible. Contingency recruiters are scum. Retained recruiters are another story altogether. Call the recruiter and ask for the name of the company! If she doesn't give it to you, it proves that this recruiter is a bad one and you shouldn't work with her again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] we leased a car last year Aug. Sometime in January of this year we started getting an invoice for one month of payment. When I sent an email asking about it, I got a response saying we never paid the first month. When we got the car, the deal was we were not supposed to pay that first month because we swapped the car we had then. I asked for detailed bill and never got a response. We have been getting the same invoice every month or so with no other details. I have called and left VM asking for a proper bill with details. But nothing. What do I do here? The latest one says 120 days overdue 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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Call the national number and ask to speak to the CEO of the company. They won't put you through but someone will ask what your quibble is. Dh does this all the time and gets satisfaction. Also tweet to the company your displeasure. I always get results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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The company sending us the bill is apparently affiliated with the car company but we had never heard of it before these bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:10 AM Flag
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Dispute the charge in writing, include any documentation you have re the original deal, and threaten to report them to consumer affairs, state AG's office, etc. for harassment and fraud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:38 AM Flag
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It is definitely feeling like harassment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:49 AM Flag
[ - ] 7 am flight tomorrow; set alarm for 4:45. Wish me luck getting a good nights sleep tonight. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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Ha me too. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:54 AM Flag
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I do this all the time. It gets easier, but if you aren’t used to it, it’s hard to sleep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:32 AM Flag
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GL and sweet dreams! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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Thanks all! I woke up a few times to check the clock. IMO if you hit the snooze button you’re dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Any attorneys on? I just found out through a credit report that a judgment was filed against me. Is there anywhere online I can find the support documents for the judgment? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:43 AM Flag
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Yes, go to your local jurisdiction’s website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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Thanks all I see is the summary of the amount, I’m looking for more information [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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Also it was filed in January 2018 but I was not aware of it. Is there any way I can appeal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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Get a lawyer. I’m not doing free legal advice here nor am I permitted to by law. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:49 AM Flag
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Ok thanks. I’m upset and will be up all night worrying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:51 AM Flag
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The good news is that you can probably dispute. But I would do so through an attorney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:48 AM Flag
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Yes I will. But I literally just found out about it this evening. Is it too late to appeal? Also is this a default judgment since I wasn’t aware of it? The address they had for me is an old one so I was not served at any point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:50 AM Flag
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This isn't legal advice but yes, I think you can dispute because they didn't serve you, wrong address, never received notice or judgement, etc. Sometimes these things have to be worded a certain way, forms, etc. that's why it's worth the peace of mind to hire an attorney to resolve for $250 or less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:09 AM Flag
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More and more documents are on line now, but if all you have is an index number you may have to go to court and pull the file. At that point, the procedure in NYS is a Motion to Vacate Judgment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 12:15 PM Flag
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Thank you. Do you think it’s too late to vacate since it was 18 months ago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:25 PM Flag
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The answer is a little technical: under CPLR 5015 you have a year after entry of the judgment to make your motion, but CPLR 317 gives you one year after you receive notice of the entry of judgment, assuming you were not personally served with process, but in no event more than five years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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Thanks so much. The only attorney I know is on vacation this week so I’m waiting for a call back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:58 PM Flag
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You're welcome. This is obviously important to you, but not exactly something that can't await his/her return. I do suggest you go to the court clerk with the index number and make copies of the pleadings, affidavits of service, judgment and whatever else you see, even if you're not sure whether or not it's important. That way, your attorney will have a package ready to look at when he returns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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^^but don't send it to your lawyer on vacation, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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That is a good idea, thank you. Can I just show up with the index number and do that? It came up because I’m refinancing my mortgage so I need to try to resolve it ASAP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:35 PM Flag
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It depends on how long your county keeps records before moving them to storage, but yes, all records are public (except for things like suits involving children). You show up with your index number and ask to see the file. Sometimes you need to fill out a very short requisition form. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:43 PM Flag
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Thanks. Is there any way to do this remotely or do I need to go there in person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:08 PM Flag
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If you live in NYC you can access files through the Electronic Case Filing ("ECF") system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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THANK YOU so much. I was able to find all the reports on efiling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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Glad I could help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 05:08 PM Flag
[ - ] How much would a partner make at a big 5 consulting firm? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Is this to determine a “man?” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:43 AM Flag
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No. Eye roll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:46 AM Flag
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Then be the “professional” that you are and figure it out. My guess is that you’re not a professional, striver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 01:47 AM Flag
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Depends what industry. Between 400-1M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 03:59 AM Flag
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Depends - you may make a lot more at the very top of a boutique than one of the well known ones. $400K (new partner) to $1-$1.5M (seasoned, doing well ) is right with a few near the top making much more. At any of the big firms (1,000+ employees), it’s going to be tough to make a ton more than that though - there are so many hands in the pot and everything gets redistributed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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