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[ - ] Would you say parents of someone who has done something horrible still love their dc? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Of course. You can hate the flaws without hating the person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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So you think the parents of school shooters still love them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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I do, it is their child. They may feel guilty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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pp: Yup. I knew a guy who had a psychotic episode as a young adult. His dad happened to hear footsteps one night and investigate. He interrupted this guy as he was about to stab his little sister in her sleep with a pair of scissors. Those parents visited him every chance they got. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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Yes. I imagine you can love someone but not like them. But I haven't been in such a situation, so who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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I was listening to npr and They were interviewing English women whose sons were jihadists abroad and Theynwere arguing they shouldn't lose their EU passports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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No, I don't think Adam Lanza's father loves him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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np: I didn't get the vibe that that was a change before the shooting... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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^^^ ...a change FROM HOW HE FELT before... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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It depends on what they did. There are certainly things my dcs could do that would make me stop loving them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:31 PM Flag
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Like what? Not trolling or arguing fwiw, just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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Like planning and carrying out a murder in cold blood and without a good reason. Being a rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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Yes. Dylan Klebold's mother wrote a really fascinating article a few years ago. I can't imagine how hard it must be to be the mother or father of someone who commits such a heinous crime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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I couldn't imagine not loving my ds. If he did something terrible I would prob blame myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.18.14, 11:50 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your fav jeans and fit ? What size do you wear? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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Made in Heaven: Roadtrip, size 28 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Earnest Sewn, 27 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Red Engine low rise skinny. I have them tailored, but I believe mine started out with a 26 inch waist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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Paige denim, forget the fit but they are very dark wash skinny jeans. Size 29 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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24. I like AG and JBrand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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AG, 28 [ Reply | More ]
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Gap always skinny skimmer, 26 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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CJ by Cookie Johnson, size 14 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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AG Prima jeans size 25 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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I have never met a comfortable pair of jeans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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I prefer my daughter's Hello Kitty PJs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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ILY, although I am a bit sad that I get this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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LOL, same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Me, too. But the sizes on this thread...tiny!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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I am living for the day that Rapsodia expands into the U.S. Ever since I bought a pair in Argentina years ago, I've been waiting for them to grow beyond Latin America - even on their email list, but they don't ship. Magically cut. AGs are my favorites for when I'm heavier, but Rapsodias are heavenly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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^^oh, probably a 26 in the Rapsodias, 29 in the AG Angelinas after babies [ Reply | More ]
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No $195 pair of jeans should have a fold straight across the crotch like that. If that's what they look like on the model... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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sooo fugly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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S/O Least favorite pair of jeans: from Jean Shop in SoHo. I am so not into the whole raw denim thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Hate them too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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American Eagle Outfitters skinnies. Size 8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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AG legging jean 27 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:26 PM Flag
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I'm over expensive jeans. I get skinny jeans at Urban Outfitters (think the brand is BDG) and boyfriend cut at the Gap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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^can't remember how these are sized but in AG/Rag & Bone I'm a 27. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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I hate GAP jeans, esp their boyfriend ones! Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:40 PM Flag
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They're not the best, but like I said I'm over expensive jeans. I don't have that many chances to wear them. My office is business casual, I prefer skirts and dresses when it's warm enough, and I don't typically wear jeans to parties or nice dinners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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I use slimming NJDJ (Not Your Daughter's Jeans) size 18W. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:21 PM Flag
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Paige, 28 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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not your daughters jeans, size 4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that none of the citywide or district g&t programs are accepting new students for 4th grade? In years past, if a dc scored double 4s on the state exams in 3rd grade, dc was eligible for a spot. But are students no longer admitted in 4th or 5th grade now? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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I don't know the exact answer to your question. But at our district G&T open house, the principle said there was a new policy where 3rd graders who perform well in the gen ed program in the school could be moved over into G&T at the school for 4th (as long as there was space, and regardless of state test scores-- meaning they did not necessarily need to get double 4's, as long as the school felt their overall performance at school warranted a G&T switch). It is supposedly a change from years past. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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That's interesting and a good idea. Although it would leave out any student who isn't in a gen ed that also has a g&t program. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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OR: I agree. I thought it was a great idea, but it does seem to only be for kids in the same school as a G&T. As per principle, this is Deblasio's start to his whole "a child should not be judged on one day/one test score only" push. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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I'd really like to know which school this is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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This does indeed seem to be the case. Per doe website: On March 31, 2014, the New York State Legislature passed a law prohibiting school districts from making “any student promotion or placement decisions based solely or primarily on student performance on the state administered standardized English language arts and mathematics assessments for grades three through eight.” Given this new legislation the New York City Department of Education will not be making Gifted & Talented placements in grades 4 and 5 in September 2014. In the past, families interested in applying for Gifted and Talented placement for children entering grades 4 and 5 would submit an application in the summer to the Office of Student Enrollment. Eligibility was determined based on the applicant’s scores on the New York State English Language Arts and Mathematics tests and placements were made based on available seats in requested programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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See, I think this is what our principle was referring to at the open house (I posted above). She said that the new policy was to not make seat placement SOLELY on a student's performance on the state tests. But she did not say (as you just did) that this translated into NO new placements. She said that this now meant that the schools had more flexibility to move kids into G&T at their schools based on MORE THAN just state test scores (i.e. a portfolio, or a more comprehensive look at a child's performance over the year/years). You are interpreting this as meaning there is not new placement, but that's not our principle said about the district G&T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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^^^ sorry for my spelling/ grammar errors. I was typing fast. But hopefully you get my meaning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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As long as you know that the principal is your PAL. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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yes, we were told this by our parent coordinator [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Which Keurig should I finally buy? There are several models can anyone recommend theirs? Tia! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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I would skip Keurig and get a good coffee maker. I have a Keurig (not sure what model) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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the Keurig actually got me off coffee. I stopped feeling forced to drink a whole pot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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OR: Actually, you have a valid point. I have maybe two cups of coffee in the morning at the max. Coffee is okay..not great...okay but it gets the job done quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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The coffee is so bad. It's not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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Buy a French Press [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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You just reminded me that I need to get another one of those. The one I had, I loved, but it broke :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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NP. I like french press coffee, but there are new options out there for immersion coffee. Consider an aeropress or clever coffee dripper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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Makes shitty, overpriced coffee. At that point you might as well just pick up a cup at the bodega. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Love, love, love ours! We use it all the time. I can't make a decent pot of coffee. Plus, mine has a hot water dispenser feature that I love. I think mine is a platinum model. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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I just bought one and I really like it. My DCs make hot chocolate themselves and we can also get k-kups with tea. I got the K75 model. Check Bed Bath & Beyond. They had the best price a couple of weeks ago when I bought it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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^^P.S. I agree with the poster above. I drink less coffee because I don't have to make a whole pot. I can have a cup or two in the morning, and another in the afternoon. Also, I like flavored coffee once in a while, but not often enough to buy a whole bag. The k-kups are perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:52 PM Flag
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I have the K10 Mini Plus. If you get the reusable K Cups, you can always make more cost-efficient coffee from whatever brands you like. I also use it without a K Cup to get hot water to make tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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Get a Nespresso. Keurig is nasty crappy coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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Which one do you use? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Seriously, how much more sophisticated are city kids than burb kids, I'm talking middle school and up? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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Worlds apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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Well, their coke is definitely better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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I find them more worldly. But I'm not sure that is the same as sophisticated in my book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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Depends if u r talking Greenwich or any town USA suburb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Watch the movie Kids, it was made in 1995 . . . it has only gotten worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Actually, very very much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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about ten [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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Depends. Take my fundamentalist Christian brother and his family for example: they lived in NYC for a long time and stayed in their apartment 24/7 except for visits out to LI to go to church. Then take their weird cousin (my DD), who has schlepping around the city for her whole life. Big difference there. Then, take me, who grew up in rural Appplachia and knew I was different and was the weird kid there vs. the Italian American kid who grew up in Bennsonhurst but fit in with 70s disco culture which was popular but not advant garde. Sophistication depends on exposure and actually wanting to obtain knowledge outside your bubble. I don't think you can compare metropolitan vs. rural/burb. It just depends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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City children, especially ones from top schools are beautifully spoken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I have an amazing nanny who has been with me too long and our employer/employee relationship is basically broken. I need to phase this nanny out but I really don't want to fire her. I would ideally like to find another position for her that pays as well or ideally better than what I have to offer. Is it possible to do this without her finding out? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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you're thinking someone's gonna hire her without interviewing her? i guess they could come watch her at your house but seems rather difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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I am thinking someone would hire her for a weekend babysitting and observe and if they like her they would let me know and I could talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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Your mind may already be made up but can I ask what is unfixable about the relationship? Only because great nannies can be really hard to come by, and if she does a great job and the kids are in a happy and healthy routine with her, I would be SO hesitant to rock the boat personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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op: ITA and that is why I have not rocked the boat for 2 years. She is amazing in every way with kids. They are independent, self sufficient, patient, well behaved etc etc and I give her credit for a lot of this. She also teaches them a lot academically in addition to good habits. However, I don't really have much of a say in anything and that is difficult for me and that is the dysfunctional part. An additional factor is that my youngest just started 3s program and I could hire a housekeeper nanny who will be less expensive and will make my life easier. The 8K a year difference is not insignificant to us although I have to say that if our Nanny didn't have an attitude I would keep her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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She's done a wonderful job of raising your kids (no judgement here -- my nanny is the same, and I love her for it). But now your needs have changed. Would she be willing to be a housekeeper nanny for fewer hours? Finding someone this great with the kids is gold . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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I think she will agree(reluctantly) to do housekeeping but she will not take a cut in pay. I need to cut $200/wk which is significant for her. I would keep her with her attitude if I could cut her hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:02 PM Flag
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Can't hurt to ask. Especially since you are not saying that you want to fire her because she's terrible. It's the opposite, you want to keep her because she's great, but your kids are in school now. It's inevitable for every nanny that the kids grow up. Better to be downsized than fired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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True. She thinks the pre-school is unnecessary which is why she will be resentful of the downsizing. It would be different if the youngest started K but this is nursery school and he is actually not even 3 yo yet. However perhaps you are right and I should offer to downsize her hours until she finds a better position. This way she can either find a better paying job or stick around. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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Now here is where I would put my foot down (even mentally) as the mom. Your kids go to school when you say, whether or not she agrees with it. My kids started school at 18 months, and my nannies have always known that they would be PT once that happened. They did all eventually leave for FT jobs, but each one found her own replacement for me. In my situation, I didn't so much "fire" them, as they felt that they were in control. On X date, kids are in school, so plan accordingly, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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What do you mean on X date kids are in school? Do you mean on X date they started school and that is when the job goes pt and then plan accordingly? Is that what you mean? This is where my relationship with her is dysfunctional. She will criticize my decision to start school and I even worry she will (maybe even subconsciously) jeopardize the transition process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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Yes, exactly. On January 2, Johnny starts school, so we'll only need you from 3-7. I understand your concerns, but we think it's important for him. Also, there is no "transition process" for her to "jeopardize". Any "transition" will be in the mornings for drop-off, which you will deal with (I assume). What would she do, not pick him up? Tell him that school is for weenies? And, if I may, anyone who thinks that pre-school is unnecessary is not someone whose educational consulting you need to value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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TY. This is very helpful. She can make little snide remarks to kids about school and they are very sensitive to that. She has done this before. She is very good in terms of education and many will agree with her that starting school at 2 is early and perhaps unnecessary and from her perspective she will do a better job with dc than preschool. Frankly part of the reason I decided to go with preschool early is because I want to cut the dependency on the nanny to some extent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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I think you have your answer. You know what you have to do, and you even have a good "excuse" to do it -- kids start school, what can you do? Circle of life, etc. etc. And frankly, she is not an "amazing" nanny if she undermines you. Then she's just a MIL who you pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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You should be a therapist! She is exactly like a MIL whom I pay. I have even made this analogy to my DH. You are so good. Thank you so so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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Grow a set, go interview for a replacement, and when you have one, let the old one go, with notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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I don't need a replacement ASAP. I have a family member who can help for a couple of weeks. I need to figure out how to place this nanny. I can figure out my own situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Not really. It's best to do it up front and honestly. You risk damaging the relationship and the years of memories if you are dishonest at the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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You think finding her a better paying job without her doing any of the work and then letting her know that I no longer need her but giving her some severance and a better job offer is dishonest and not the nice way to end it? What could be nicer??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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^^ however it is certainly easier for me to just fire her. So if this is the case I will gladly do it this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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This seems really passive aggressive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Nicer would be saying - I need to make a change for these reasons. But I care about you and respect you and want you to be taken care of and want our parting to be as easy as possible for us all. So I'm going to take it upon myself to find you a new job, so please don't worry. In fact I'm planning to give you a severance and I'm going to make sure you are making at, if not more than, before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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I can not guarantee her a better paying job or any job at all. The statement you wrote makes promises I can not keep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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I just using the info you gave me. Change it to suit your specifics. Use "I'll try" instead of "I will" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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I wanted to find her another position so that she will be guaranteed a better job to make things easier for her. It sounds like most people disagree with this approach so perhaps I am wrong. I would certainly be happy if my employer let me go to a better paying job...I guess I am in the minority [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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I agree with it, but it's hard to swing that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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I don't disagree with it at all. It's doing all the work behind the scenes that's the concern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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But OP can't promise that last part. What if no new employer is found in a reasonable amount of time? What if the new family is terrible and the nanny wants to quit? Better to offer her what you can: our needs have changed, we only need 20 hours a week, would you be willing to stay for $200 less per week? Maybe she will, or she will for a few weeks/months until she finds something better and then OP can find a new housekeeper/nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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op: sounds like this is my best bet. What I will pay her will still be better than nothing and I can tell her I will give her $X as severance when she finds a new job so this should buffer the difference in pay. this is probably the simplest solution for me and it puts job search back on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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^^ My concern: she will be unhappy and will make me measurable the entire time she is being paid less and she will not look for another job anyway. She does tend to do this IME. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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In that case, if she really has a bad attitude, you could say "Mary, it seems like you are unhappy here. How can we help? Maybe this situation is not working out." And really talk to her. She's been in your family for years, you'll be able to figure out a way to work together or just call it quits, peaceably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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That is the " employer/employee relationship is basically broken" part of it. She gets passive aggressive, will not tell me what is wrong and will just not do the housekeeping or will feed kids candy for snack to get back at me. I know her well enough to anticipate that this is what is going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Then you have to fire her, and use the fact that your youngest is starting school as your "crutch." Be strong. Cut the cord. I was the one who said she was "gold", but honestly, this is dysfunctional and unhealthy. You have to break up with her. You will find another wonderful nanny. If you are really nervous about her, you can change your locks -- $300 bucks for peace of mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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TY. No I do not think she will do anything where I need to change the locks. She is a very good person but is also someone who is used to getting her way and is using female tricks that work on my husbands if you KWIM (pouting, being miserable, snide remarks etc) I can't blame her for her personality... However the dysfunction in unhealthily and is costing me my sanity. I am like a husband with a demanding wife and I don't know how to please her yet I am not satisfied myself even though I love her. If that makes any sense. She is good with the kids but she causes me a lot of grief. You have no idea how helpful you have been by posting your comments. Thank you very much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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This is terrible. You are deliberately pawning her off on some unsuspecting family and are going to give her an undeserved recommendation. How could you do this to another working mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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I am part of the problem. The issues are mine. My management style and my personality isn't a good fit. She truly is amazing with children. If I could hire her now without the history of her working for me for 5 years I would in a split second [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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No because you've posted about her before and she didn't listen to your instructions, undermined you, etc. If someone have you a false recommendation about a nanny and you had to then fire her after a month or so, you'd be so upset. Why can't you see this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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She is like this with me because I allowed it. I am not a good boss for her personality type. She really is incredible in many ways and that is why I kept her this long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:30 PM Flag
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What if she doesn't like that job? How do you get to make that decision for her? Maybe she'd prefer to leave nannying altogether, maybe she'd want a job closer to her home, or with a very young family, or a part time job. How is this possible for you to even contemplate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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OP is delusional [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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She is free to not accept it. It's an offer only. She is a free to choose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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^ in any case I believe the above advice is better. I will tell her we are starting school. Will tell her new hours, pay, and responsibilities. I will tell her that this is for a period of time and she should look for a full time job in the meantime. I am sure she will find a job very quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody not dealing with clique at preschool? Maybe I don't hang out enough but everyone seems perfectly fine at my preschool. Friendly, wave high/goodbye at drop off and pickup. Seem nice enough at coffee gatherings. Some moms/dad's are better friends but that is a function of already knowing each other. Maybe I will change my mind after the rest of the school year but so far so good. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Same! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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One year in relatively antisocial WOH mom here. They are all lovely at my preschool. Mostly. A couple do the "don't acknowledge my presence" thing, but when I intervene/interrupt, they are always nice enough. Most others are very nice. Seen some couples for dinner - but more a function of work connections, or music class outside school, or something. I'm sure they can be royal bitches at the PTA, but hey, I'm never there... so why would I even care? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: This is how I kind of feel. There are some strange ones but I would never not be friendly. The preschool management is a little intense so I think we have all bonded over the fact we get WAYYYYY too many emails and events to go to. [ Reply | More ]
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our preschool was fine like this. most people were nice enough to each other. i heard that some stuff went on for those who were active in the PA, but frankly, i woh so never got involved in those politics. my idea of volunteering was "tell me what you need and i'll get it done" but i'm not going to debate for an hour whether to have a balloon guy or a face painter at the event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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Same here, just started but everyone seems fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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Did you seriously just pluralize "moms" correctly and then immediately follow it by using an apostrophe to pluralize "dads"? Am I being punked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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OP: HA!! I incorrectly use apostrophes all the time. Drives my DH crazy. So consider it half me being cautious and the other half saying F IT! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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"Sometimes you just gotta say, WTF!" :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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I am a WOHM. I have no idea about any of it. I am too busy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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This is going to sound jerky. My DD has become something of an "it" girl at her expensive pre-school and two SAHMS of very wealthy husbands are constantly pinging me for playdate (not for us adults - just the kids)...I don't want her going this route. I don't like the values of these girls and the moms are not much better. So - I am not terribly vested in connecting w/these mom's. I like the more down to earth ones much more (whether or not they are rich). They are probably annoyed I don't initiate play dates but then it's their call. This year there are some new more "nice" girls in DC's class, and these other buddies got put in the other class...so i'm hoping to gently steer her to new friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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Omg the same thing happened to our DD. I didn't want her going that route with those girls and their obnoxious nannies. I phased out the contact between dd and those girls and she has a wonderful group of friends with down to earth parents ( from the same school, btw) [ Reply | More ]
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Omg the same thing happened to our DD. I didn't want her going that route with those girls and their obnoxious nannies. I phased out the contact between dd and those girls and she has a wonderful group of friends with down to earth parents ( from the same school, btw) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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We were put in a morning class with mostly SAHM and the entire class was siblings and legacies so the parents all knew each other and just gave me the cold shoulder. Even the kids tended to form cliques in the class. It was awful. I asked the administration to out my dc in the afternoon class the following year and we were welcomed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:17 PM Flag
[ - ] what are some good online stores to buy discounted runners? No specific brand in mind, Nike etc... type though. And exercise clothes? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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Tennis warehouse. [ Reply | More ]
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Who calls them runners? [ Reply | More ]
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Well, I call them sneakers, but I thought runners was the American word! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Nope, sneakers at least in the NYC area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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Road runner sports. Great and good prices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Marshalls and tj maxx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:26 PM Flag
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DSW [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:15 AM Flag
[ - ] crushes: so i have this very young doctor (late 20's prob). everytime i see him, i am very impressed at his attractiveness. he is a good looking guy, works out a lot so in good shape, good manners, very kind. but i have nothing like a "crush." i have never developed a crush in 13 years since dh and i met. anybody else the same? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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what kind of doctor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:52 PM Flag
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just internal medicine. really nice guy. volunteers at a free clinic for the uninsured. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Very normal but you are in a long line of other women who probably have the same attraction Dr. Charming, who is probably also well aware of the effect he has on the ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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why is that lol? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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I have a crush on my pharmacist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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Same, but how else would I feel about the hand that feeds me (xanax)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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Mine is just so damn handsome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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Maybe I need to come to your Duane Reade... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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Cvs. He is irresistible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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You've been posting about this guy for months now. Make a move, do something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 01:11 AM Flag
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My dental hygienist is so gentle and so nice. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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I'm not even kidding. The doc that gave my DH his colonoscopy made me swoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 01:06 AM Flag
[ - ] B*tchy SAHMs: What I've experienced so far in my westchester town in 2 years (only listing nasty experiences): no answer to my play date requests; cancelling play dates last minute; snubbing in 3 way conversations; not acknowledging my presence when passing even after numerous friendly encounters; being half hour late to play date without prior warning; agreeing to meet up for work out class and not showing up without notice; showing up at wrong restaurant and staying there (this was unique); telling me to talk to their nanny for play date with their DC (WOHM) and not having the courtesy to arrange herself. AM I doing something wrong that is unrespectable or is this just classism or SAHM culture. Ugh! 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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do you do all sorts of volunteer bullshit at school -- very important to the clique. they are assholes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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LOL this is SO true. Don't even think you have a chance of being a class parent or doing some of the more "fun" or desirable volunteer activities unless you're friends with the PTA queens. They run the school and hand out this shit like political favors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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OP: I am very involved in school volunteer work...but although I know not everyone has manners these disrespectful behavior is making me depressed living in this town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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That's simply not true. Where do your kids go to school? Crazy land? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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People are people. It's not been my experience that SAHMs are any more or less kind than WAHMs. If you display this kind of contempt for "SAHM culture," it's very unlikely they'll want you to be part of it, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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1st or: this is true. they are all assholes, sah, wah, woh. there are good people sprinkled here and there but it isn't by work status. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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OP: I just use work status b/c my experience with WOHMs have been great. NO games and will be there when they say they would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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OP: never showed such "hate" for SAHMs. This has been my experience thus far being a SAHM for 1 year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Maybe they just sense that you don't like SAHMs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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She is one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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a lot of this stuff sounds terrible, but i don't think there's anything wrong w a wohm asking you to speak with their nanny. that's pretty much the norm here in the city. as a wohm myself, i usually say - that sounds great, why don't you reach out to my nanny and arrange the details - bc otherwise i make plans that conflict with plans our nanny has already made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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OP: in that sense it may seem okay but I still think it's a sign of disrespect not to extend the coutesy to arrange it directly with her own nanny. Total power trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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Are you the Korean mom? Didn't we go down this road before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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what did the korean mom do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Nothing, lives in westchester. Some of the other SAHMs are not as nice/receptive to her. She has posted about this couple times before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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OP: what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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are you korean, op? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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this!! you keep bringing up the same thing. just ignore the mean girls...they obviously do not want to be your friend. it sucks, but its life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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why do you say classism? are you poorer than your nieghbors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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OP: well, not poorer. But there are much richer people here too. In the burbs, wealth is ostentatiously displayed through the size of the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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You've posted about this before. You're the Korean American rich mom right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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I do agree that moms of all stripes tend to show up late for playdate pickups ... often really late. It's free daycare for them and they all seem to want it/need it. Honestly the worst offenders for me have been WOHMs, but usually it's because they are working late/can't come earlier/have a work crisis so I do have compassion. When SAHMs do it, it's more annoying because you know they just want the free care. Nannies always show up on time, because it's a job for them, and they usually take pride in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP: playdate not as drop off but with the mother being present as well -- they are late to that, which is extremely rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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Are you Korean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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I don't think she wants to answer if she is Korean or not, I'm assuming the avoidance of this question to mean she is Korean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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OP: No I'm not. Why is this question being asked first of all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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OP: I meant that they are late for play dates in general. I dont do drop offs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:39 PM Flag
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Well, a lot of this could just be due to general daily chaos as well as some snobbishness. Have you found your own tribe of moms to hang with or are you still pinging all over the class for playdates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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OP: pinging. It's been hard to find a close group of friends...mainly b/c it is such a small town that everyone is friends with everyone else. The newcomers are easier to befriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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Take a non gym class and make non mom friends. Or at least friends with moms who are not in your school/class. Based on your 'pinging' you may come off desperate to use your DC to make your friends and people smell that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:51 AM Flag
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So start there. What you need is a circle of girlfriends. Are there two kids your DC gets along with especially well and who seem to have normal moms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:56 AM Flag
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What town? Sounds awful & I don't want to move there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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Scarsdale [ Reply | More ]
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OP: nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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I am SAHM in brownstone Brooklyn, and all of these things have happened to me, and I disliked them. I don't do them myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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--> I was going to add that being asked to talk to nanny doesn't bother me. Playdate is presumably for the kids. If nanny manages their daily schedule, then why the hell wouldn't I talk to the nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Some of these are you being paranoid. Few moms have the time or energy to 'snub'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Home Depot hacked for 56m cards! I'd be surprised if any of us doesn't have a card in the hand of the Russian mafia now. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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my just emailed they're mailing me a new card ....ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^bank [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you be angry if you found out your former nanny (who had since moved into a different line of work) had been carrying a gun the entire time she was with DD? She says it's common in her home country to defend against burglars and rape. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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Too late now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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Get a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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I would be happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Guns do not kill people, people kill people. Evidence: Switzerland where 90% of single family houses have a gun at home has a very low murder rate. Rwanda where no one owns a gun, more than a hundred thousand people decided to murder with machetes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Do NOT make this in to a racial issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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do NOT tell people that they can't cite stats just because some people involved are black and others are white. blacks commit more violent crimes than whites. deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Show me one black man who killed 6 million people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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The Swiss aren't walking around carrying loaded guns. Yes, I'd be mad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Why don't you think for a moment? All those women who were kidnapped and enslaved in Cleveland would not have been enslaved if they were carrying a gun. Duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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The likelihood of a nanny using a gun to prevent herself from being kidnapped and enslaved while on the job is far, far slimmer than the likelihood that dd gets her hands on it, DUH. For example, a teacher who brought a gun to work for self-defense recently shot up the toilet by accident (not a joke). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Why would you be angry about something that happened in the past? It must be difficult to be you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Ignore race for a minute, Certain white people are inherently violent. Glasgow is an essentially all white place and has a high murder rate: Three people out of every hundred thousand. Almost no one in Glasgow has a gun. Vermont is an all white place where most have guns and the murder rate is WAY lower than it is in Glasgow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Glasgow's murder rate is far below that of the average American city, including NYC despite a very poor population. If you want to compare VT to the UK, you need to compare it to a predominantly rural area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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You make a very fair point. I like you. Let's compare apples to apples. El Paso and Glasgow are similarly sized cities. Both are relatively poor cities. El Paso is filled to the brim with gun owners, Glasgow has almost no gun owners. Murder rate is identical [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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gtfo glasgow is identical to el paso. god help scotland. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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A bit freaked out at whay could have happened, but not angry. Especially if she never lied about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Water under the bridge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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not in the least. i am assuming she knows how to use it and it was legal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Well no, it was certainly NOT legal in Manhattan, but she doesn't live there anymore, so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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you should tell her to get a taser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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I think she got married to her boyfriend and they moved back to Cape Verde. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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I would be upset if I found out the nanny was committing a serious felony the whole time she was watching DC. What if she had gotten arrested while out at the park? [ Reply | More ]
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And how did you find out about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is deciding between two law firm jobs, one at a big name prestigious firm and one at a lower ranked less presitigious firm that seems like it offers better QOL. Assuming both pay market (although more prestigious firm seems to give better bonuses), which would you choose? DH uncle who is an attorney is pushing him to take the more prestigious offer, saying you dont turn down that firm, and that neither firm is going to have a great QOL anyway so he is better to take the firm that looks best on a resume. But, I wonder if he's more likely to be happy long term at the other firm. Is there really much of a difference between firms? And, UB lawyers, if a firm lists their billable requirement as 2000 is that really what is expected or is it more in practice? I've heard its usually more like 2300 but if that is the case, why do they say 2000? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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because the number 2300 has a whip next to it and they don't want to publish the whip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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what does that mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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NP. If they say 2000 they can claim to be a lifestyle firm and value work-life balance. If they say 2300 they can't. They want to be a sweatshop but be able to claim to be a lifestyle firm. So they publish 2000 but punish unless you make the unofficial number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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How old is DH? What are his ambitions. My 2c would be to take the prestige firm - do it for a few years - likely will then have WAY more exit options than if he joins low level firm early in his career. Its ALL about climbing the prestige ladder - you get paid more, and have more, and more senior, exit options at every stage. But, you do have to work to climb that ladder... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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We are both 29. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Easy. Take the prestigious firm. He can always go the other way but most times a big firm won't look at a lateral from a mid-size firm that isn't coming with a group. It also sounds like this is for a first year job, which makes the decision event easier. Would be a different story if he was a lateral in his mid to late -30s with kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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+1, also more prestigious firms are less likely to fall apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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I would go with the more prestigious firm, which will likely provide him with better exit options. Once he's at the less prestigious firm the purportedly better QOL will likely be thrown out the window anyway (assume they have the work). The billable requirement is typically what is expected -- it's the minimum. Expect to bill more than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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This x 1 million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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How old is DH? What are his ambitions. My 2c would be to take the prestige firm - do it for a few years - likely will then have WAY more exit options than if he joins low level firm early in his career. Its ALL about climbing the prestige ladder - you get paid more, and have more, and more senior, exit options at every stage. But, you do have to work to climb that ladder... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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not knowing how much "lower and less prestigious" the other firm is, i would say that in general, if you are at a prestigious firm that works you to the bone and are unhappy, it is relatively easier to move somewhere later where the QOL is in fact better. it's just easier to move "down" than "up" that way. that said, i know people who chose better QOL from the get go - but most of them went to smaller firms or other cities in order to that, not just a less white shoe big law firm. i've heard anecdotally, that the non NYC based big law firms are generally a bit kinder and gnetler, but that info is from pre-2007. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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Join the better firm now. Just like everyone else says. Its worth it. He should expect to slog his guts out for 4+ years... and if he's any good he might even make partner there... which firm, btw? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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dont want to say the firm but he described it as V20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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you won't exactly be outing yourself. but the consensus in here is solid - join the better firm. every time. because you have better options all round. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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The consensus here is that no one gives a shit about DH's QoL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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The consensus is that he is 29 and you can never undo the decision to start at a mid-size firm. Banker post with contrary example doesn't quite apply the same in law unless he is someone that is cut out to be a rainmaker, in which case the prestige firm can still be a calling card even years down the line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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There's nothing wrong with starting at a midsize firm, particularly if you never want to go to a large firm. And if you care about quality of life at all, you never want to go to a large firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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More pretigious. QOL is the same in almost all NY offices, only difference is that at the less pretigious firms they may pretend to care about you more but the reality is the same. Even firms that are decent places to work in other cities have low QOL in their NYC offices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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I will be the dissident. My DH turned down a better firm in finance for good QOL. It made a huge difference on our home life and also he isn't "burnt out". He was able to establish himself as key player at the lower firm and the money eventually evened itself out. He was able to transfer to a "boutique" finance firm that both pays well and offers good QOL. I think he had an easier in because he wasn't interviewing "down" and he also had stellar educational creds. You will be giving up money and name dropping ability but if you want a DH who can do doctor appointments, pick ups and vacation it's the better road. It also made a difference because I WOHM as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Finance DH here... law is different, don't dispense advice about things you don't know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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take the better firm. You can always go down the ladder but rarely up. 2000 is billable hours. Add in a good 250 to 400 for admin, pro bono, papers, events, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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This is ultimately DHa decision. What is he oeaning towards and do you plan to have kids because if ge goes for the top firm, expect to raise your kid(s) mostly by yourself since he will be logging in crazy hours and even miss vacations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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2000 is expected. They'll talk to you if it's under this number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Honestly curious: Why is the name Ruby generally well received and even considered cute and hip, while other "jewel" names like Crystal, Diamond, Sapphire and Jade are low class? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Rudy Huxable? She was cute and hip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Rudy is not a stone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Ruby certainly is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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It's old fashioned and out of popular use [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Because too many people are sheep. I find people who get hung up on whether a name is low class or high class are sad and should grow up. When I was a kid, the only 2 cleaning ladies I knew were both named Emma and those were the only Emmas I knew and I thought it was a name that cleaning ladies had (dumb, I know). I wanted to be named Wendy or Jennifer because those were the classiest names I knew. Madge and Blanche were names for moms, and Sophia and Olive were grandmas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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In 8th grade (1982) I knew an Ashleigh, and thought it was such a classy and elegant name. Fast forward to the gazillion Ashleighs, Ashleys, Ashlies, etc. Not at all upscale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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This. Faddish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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This. As a kid, I knew a girl named Elizabeth Ashley (she went by Ashley) and I thought it was a beautiful, classy name. Now, Ashley (and nevermind Ashleigh) is considered trashy. All that's changed are the attitudes. The name sounds the same as it ever did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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What about the Swarthmore Garnets? They are high class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Ruby is not really much better.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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DH cousin named her DD Ruby and we didnt really consider it cute and hip, we just wrote it off as them living in Texas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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Crystal Carrington... very Texas.... noone said it was classy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Somehow Ruby is a traditional name and the others are not. Why that is, I can't say. Jade is kind of neutral to me, but unfortunatley the other 3 sound like stripper stage names. Pearl is also a traditional name. Who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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Pearl was DH's great-aunt, died before he was born, I think in the 1950s. So a late 19th century name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Pearl is very Jewish shtetl-to-NYC name of the last century. "Pearl" was the Anglicized version of my current ethnic name, and I'm glad my parents chose to keep it old school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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I think it's terribly dated, but it's also the name of someone I respect tremendously. So go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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i like crystal and amber. some people like opal. the other are weird, not lc. never met a diamond or sapphire. jade is sort of odd and too much like jaded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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I always think of Kenny Rogers when I hear the name Ruby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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And now Kenny sounds like a low-class name, too. Or maybe a lower middle class name. In fact, anyone who think a name is low or high class is just deluding themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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Ruby Begonia! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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Naming trends are fickle. The "old fashioned" names that are in vogue right now are just as trendy as Jennifer was in the 80s and as Susan was in the 40s. They all eventually make a comeback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Ruby and Sapphire are both AA names from Amos & Andy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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Ruby is traditional, lots of old ladies named that. Never met an old lady named diamond [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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You forgot the name "Jewel". There was a very classy "Jewel" a few years older than me when I was growing up. She was the midwest prom princess type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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And who could forget the singer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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It's funny but I never thought of Ruby as a jewel name til you mentioned it and it was high on my list but dh nixed it. Don't like the others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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Similar to how Jasmine is a stripper name, but Lily and Rose are acceptable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:10 AM Flag
[ - ] UVA student here. Any questions for me? (in light of the post on the right) 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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What were your SATs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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I had a 2170 total, 1460 combined (I'm oos) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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This just proves that I'm not UVA material, but what is oos? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Sorry, out of state! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Thanks. I think it's a great school. Were you an athlete? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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I was a cheerleader, but I was much more involved in performing arts/music type things. I personally think this helped me get in--being an athlete is a more 'common' extracurricular for people applying to UVA imo and I know several three season, HS athletes also with good scores who did not get in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Good to hear. My dd (in MS) is a good student but has zero interest in team sports. She's active in drama and choir, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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You say there are no suspects, but what about the guy on video following her? He seems super suspicious but for some reason isn't being named as a suspect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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Oops - meant to post this below. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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they literally released a 'person of interest' that they want to talk to about 5 minutes ago. i guess another man was seen putting his arm around her (by the first man you're describing) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Right - a black man that no one else claims to have seen (and is not on video surveillance tapes). It just sounds a little fishy but the police seem to be taking this story at face value for some reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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What do you think happened to the missing student? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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Is the place politically correct? Are you able to talk honestly about crime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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For the most part you can. Try not to say anything legally actionable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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yes, are telling us a black person is responsible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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huh? no I'm not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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op: wait, above post is not me. (saying a black person is responsible). there are no suspects now as far as I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Serial killers are white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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IMO yes, for the most part, but others would disagree with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Oh, you're a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Oh look, it's the return of RM. What a surprise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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At first, I thought she had had an accident (alcohol poisoning, hit by car) or that something horrible happened to her (that wasn't anyone's fault) and people were covering it up. Now, I think foul play is sadly involved... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Is a cover up something that people typically do. Never heard of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Np. for example, say someone died of a heroin overdose…the people doing drugs with them/supplying it might try to hide the death. I've heard of this happening before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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why are we treating the troll like a legit poster? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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lol, I'm actually not a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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DH here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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Phone Psychic here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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OW who's slept with your dad and you husband here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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Hilaria Baldwin here, any preguntas? [ Reply | More ]
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Bethenny Frankel's foot double here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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Midnight kiddy porn troll here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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Early morning diet pill spammer here, any questions? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, do raspberry ketones really work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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hahaha this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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Dying over here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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How are DH saggy balls? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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Human being here. Ask away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Oooh. What's it like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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It sucks being an air breather sometimes quite honestly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Is it as painful as it looks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:12 AM Flag
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TCM here. Any questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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Dear UVA student, I believe you but some here are calling you a troll. Come back when the crowd is not so tough! Do not get discouraged [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Or don't. You're boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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Dear UVA student - ignore this snarky bitch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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Zzzzzzzzzz.......... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Haha, it's ok, the posts above are actually kind of funny. Just relaxing after a super long day..maybe I will come back on later! Thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Troll here. Any questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Friendless loser here. Any questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Can't be. You'd be disappeared or drunk. liar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.14, 12:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff to gender posts. Anyone feel like family/friends were disappointed by the gender of your baby? You would think my SIL had the world's first baby the way people celebrated when she announced she was having a girl. Those same people were moderately excited at best when we announced we are having a boy. We also had tons of people tell us we "had to" have a girl, blah blah. A friend of mine was in the opposite boat, two girls and her family was openly disappointed each time because it wasnt a boy. Gee thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
TTC 09.18.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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There's none of that in my family, thank god. I am really freaked out by women who act super disappointed when they find out they're having a girl. like wtf, you are a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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np I lose interest when someone has a boy. I pretty much only pay attention to friends' kids if they are girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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Right. You're funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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Everyone in my family gets excited no matter what. They would be happy either way, but knowing is just exciting. You are one step closer to meeting the baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Most of the economy is a brutal darwinian bitch war. huge percentage of men fail at their dream job, Sahd is rapidly growing as a result 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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This is true. Dog eat dog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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This is why the mom telling all her kids not to be doctors is an idiot. Her kids may follow her advice and go in to investment banking, but may wind up permanently unemployed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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But she told her kids to avoid medicine because she said they would not enjoy it, she never said she guaranteed they would make more money doing something other than medicine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Most people do not enjoy their jobs. At least her job is stable with a decent salary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:29 PM Flag
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Apex Fallacy! Look it up. This skank keeps meeting investment bankers that make a million a year and she assumes EVERYONE who starts in investment banking gets this! It is a pyramid and she only sees the apex, not the SAHDs who were permanently frozen out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Meanwhile, huge number of men who did NOT go in to Medicine are squeezed out of the work force http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2014-09-18/missing-men-in-u-s-workforce-risk-permanent-separation.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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A huge percentage never have their dream job or even know what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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I would not have agreed to have children if DH had not agreed to be the SAHP. And if he had not SAHed, he probably would not have started his own business when the kids started school. I highly recommend getting a SAH spouse - life is so much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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until he decides he wants out and then is awarded custody of the children and you have to pay him alimony and child support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:39 PM Flag
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You have a very negative view of work, career, marriage, and family. Do you really know that many SAHPs who "wanted out" and then were awarded full custody and alimony? Because I do not. Most SAHPs I have met seem happy, and their WOH spouses seem happy, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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I am talking about myself. It happened to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Ah. So you believe no one else could ever be happy in a similar family. Well, if it gives you any sort of hope, it has worked very well for us. DH SAHed until the kids were in school, and for that seven years the only housework I did was my own laundry and our annual spring & fall big cleaning. Every night when I got home from work, the kids were settled and dinner was ready. Two years after he started his business, I was able to leave my job and go independent, and now we run three businesses between us and we each work about 30 hours a week, and finish each day by the time the kids get home from school. Sometimes trusting in your family pays off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:48 PM Flag
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My ex is complete asshole. Your dh sounds like a gem. You are very lucky. You chose well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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I got very lucky - and I'm very grateful for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:55 PM Flag
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np What was your husband's dream job that he failed at? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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That happens to breadwinners all the time unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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well, it had to happen b/c women joining the workforce doesn't necessarily create more jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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Women joined the workforce during a time of major expansion. Those women were needed to fill new jobs. The lack of jobs now has more to do with the exponential growth tendencies of efficiency. (One very small example: I'm a management accountant. I got a chance to look at the company's archives last year, and in the 1980s it took over a dozen people to do half the work I do now, with a computer, Excel, and three accounting packages. Of course, we have a four-person IT team supporting it, but that hardly makes up for the dozen jobs that were efficiencied-out over twenty years.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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The increase in efficiency is creating new opportunities, but older people and older people that happen to be in younger bodies, don't want to adapt to changed circumstances. Computers aren't a niche tool, every professional should have at least intermediate computer skills, and many professionals should feel comfortable with light programming tasks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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I completely agree with the second half of your post, but I'm not sure I get the middle part. Could you expand a bit? I don't understand what you mean by "older people and older people who happen to be in younger bodies" - ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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I've worked with older people who act like computers are somehow haunted and refuse to try to learn anything about them. I have some sympathy for these folks, but the second group are 20 and 30 somethings who also refuse to treat computers as anything more than a superficial toy. The type that doesn't cut and paste, or considers keyboard shortcuts too much bother> Or uses excel but can't figure out to do anything with it that they haven't done before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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Very true. Family courts are reeling from this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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The men you're talking about sound like primadonnas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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You again? I thought tournament mom was gone for good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Aside from Care.com and sitter city, any recs for part time sitter in Westchester. Need someone and can't find a thing. Really would like college/ grad student. TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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post on the job board at your local colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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they don't accept babysitting posts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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Where in Westchester? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I secretly watch Maury and love it. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Is that the one with the paternity tests? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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I openly love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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I am not surprised... All moms enjoy laughing at the moms who have lower IQ. So moms with 90 IQ watch Maury in order to laugh at the women who are guests of the show, who have 80 IQ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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How often does a 90 IQ mom find someone to look down upon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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I honestly don't think my iq is that high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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That's why I'm laughing at you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Hi Jerry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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My name is Jenny. Jenny Jones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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funny story: Dh and I were watching too much Maury one summer. Ds, 4 or 5 at the time was mad at dh for some reason and yelled at him " Dad you ARE NOT the father of me!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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no he actually said "Dad, when it comes to me, you ARE NOT the father!" while crying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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Hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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Funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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I could so see that. That's when you realize how much they pick up from things they hear and see. (It's also really funny) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:50 PM Flag
[ - ] My cousin recently quit her job to SAH and become a photographer. She doesnt have photography experience but does have a nice camera and takes nice enough pictures when the lighting is good. She keeps pressuring us to use her services and offers "the family discount" which is $100 for a session instead of $250. The thing is, I dont really want to pay $100 for her pictures. They arent that great, and its kind of an ordeal to do family pictures -- we do them once a year with a professional photographer and its always exhausting. Cousin has gotten a decent amount of business because I guess her prices are considered reasonable, and everyoen LOVES their pictures because they would love any pic of their children, but how can I nicely decline? Or do I need to just give in and do a shoot with her? I'm afraid if I do it will never end. She's offering holiday minis now for $150 (my price would be $75) but even if she did them for free I wouldnt want to put myself in the position of not using them for our holiday cards and creating drama. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Tell her you're set. You've already got a photographer and it's exhausting do it even once a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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This is pretty good - very simple and true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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+1 Direct and honest. And if she is serious about her business (as opposed to just thinking her friends & family will fund her hobby job), she will accept that answer professionally and drop it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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Don't do holiday pics so you don't have to worry about offending her if you don't use them. Still, you should have her come to the park or the house for candid shots. Personally, I hate staged photos... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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np: assuming you could afford the $100, i would use her for what or suggested - tell her you don't like to deal with staged photos, but would love some candid photos of the whole family - maybe at a kids' sporting event or something. it might be an easy opportunity for both you and dh to be in pictures together and to be supportive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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You could say you're pre-paid with the other photographer already but it will come up at some point - particularly if her "side business" lasts through last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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You are right. If you do engage her it will never end because you will never be able to tell her you weren't satisfied with her previous job for any reason. You are kind of stuck if you are insistent upon a professional photo shoot every year. Easiest would be to tell her that with all the options available today that you have decided not to do the professional sitting from now on - but you'd have to follow through with that. Your cousin will see if you ever use a professional and she will take offense. Just one of those things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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Tell her you already have an established relationship with a photographer and leave it at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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If you have a great relationship with her and you have the $100 to spend just do a once in a lifetime photo shoot and hire the usual professional photographer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.18.14, 10:34 PM Flag
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