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[ - ] I am thrilled that all these "powerful" men are finally getting their comeuppance. However, I have mixed feelings when people say they didn't know Hollywood would be this way. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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OP: Doesn't take away from how abhorrant Weinstein and his ilk are, but everyone knows that Hollywood is predatory, and Weinstein is just an example of someone who pushed it beyond the "norm." [ Reply | More ]
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OP: DItto for the modeling industry: Is there seriously anyone who has never seen Terry Richardson (just a photo of him) who didnt assume he was a creepy predatory perv? [ Reply | More ]
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Not to mention the pics he took of Miley cyrus. She prob thought she was being edgy and artsy.. Poor girl [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I thought I heard her father insisted on being on the set. No? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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I certainly didn't know Bryan Singer was using a casting call to have sex with young men and rape them. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I didn't know who he was until this, but it also is well-known there is a gay casting couch. Why wouldn't there be? [ Reply | More ]
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I sure hope Spielberg never did anything bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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He couldn't. His artistry is so sensitive. One cannot be a sensitive, feeling artist like tgat without caring and having consideration for others. All the sleaze and choppy money making Hollywood trash films make sense now as most of us saw them for what they were. Purile garbage. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: That may be naive. Men with power tend to have big egos and those are made bigger by those around them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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OP: I wouldn't categorize Weinstein films as "puerile garbage." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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OP: I think what gets lost in the onslaught of reports is that some are way beyond the pale: Weinstein, a "rape room," etc. But there are also going to be many reports of people who participated in flirting, "traditional" casting couch, who are going to come out of the woodwork. Of course there should never be a quid pro quo at work, but it is disingenuous to pretend that it hasn't been part and parcel of some industries for decades and decades. With people entering the industry knowing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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and willingly handing over their bodies for a coveted part... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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OP: I guess I am reacting to hearing a few weeks back how the guy who makes "Girls One Wild" was being accused of sexual assault. Uh, that's a surprise? Not saying it's right, but what about that industry doesnt scream "predatory perv"? [ Reply | More ]
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you can be appalled but not shocked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Parents of gay teens...how do you feel about it? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Um, how do you feel about having a straight teen? I love my son, who is gay, in the same measure as I love my daughter, who is straight. If I feel anything, it is grateful that he is growing up in an era and place that is much more accepting and open than generations before. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it is unrealistic to act as if people would not have any feelings about having a gay child. I would love and support my child but I would still have feelings of worry about whether they will be accepted by society. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you live in NYC? Teens I know truly are equally accepting of all gender identities, sexual preferences, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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+1 teens are much more accepting as a group than adults — a huge change from when we were in high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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This. I feel bad for my son that he can't be who he is around his grandparents, but they are 100% anti gay and they really would not handle it well. They'll pass away without ever knowing if we can manage it. (It's my son's will as well) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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+1. So far, it is no different than having a straight child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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I think it's unrealistic to act like there are no challenges. I would love my kid the same, absolutely. But your OR itself indicates that society is not fully accepting. It also creates challenges in terms of having a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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np. Oh please. Everyone has challenges. Some, like, say health issues, are harder to deal with than others. This is on the relatively benign part of the spectrum if you live in an area where it is widely accepted like NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:21 PM Flag
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I'm not saying it's the worst challenge in the world, but it's a challenge. I think the kids thing is a big one -- in a gay relationship, there is no possibility of having a child that has the genetic makeup of both parents. It sucks and that is the perspective I have heard from many gay people -- that often, they just give up on the dream of having children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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Such a troll. I wonder if you even know any gay people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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Every time someone says something that doesn't 100% accord with your POV, it doesn't mean they are a troll. You are the one who sounds like they don't know any gay people beyond teenagers because if you did, you would have had conversations about the challenges of having a family. What exactly about what I said is wrong? Part of loving and accepting a gay DC is understanding the challenges they will face, not just putting your head in the sand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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Hi SJP from The Family Stone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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Yes, this. Couldn't care less about my kids' sexual orientation, happier we live in more accepting times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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My older dd has Adidas boys but not seriously and has made reference to being attracted to or interested in females and so whatever she is, that's what she is. Doesn't change anything to me, I'm one of those I just want my kids to be happy and healthy. I guess the advantage to her being in same-sex relationships is that there would be no risk of pregnancy & little risk of STD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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* has dated not Adidas wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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There is a similar risk with STD's with gay people. (mom of 2 gay kids). [ Reply | More ]
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I suppose if two girls share a sex toy but the stds are mainly spread by mail so if a female is only getting with other females the risk is very very very low, eg AIDS rate among lesbians [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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just curious what is meant by "Adidas boy"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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My kids are both gay/queer. And I'm totally fine about it. One is now married actually (an adult, not teen). The other teen has been in 2 nice relationships. Honestly it seems as normal as any relationships...ups and downs. I do feel that society still expects most people to fall on the heterosexual spectrum so I sometimes don't bring up to people who ask the sexuality of my kids b/c a) it's not their business b) I don't want to stifle anyone unintentionally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:06 PM Flag
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He is a disappointment, I am sure I am to him as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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sorry to hear this. not easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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In what way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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OP here: to those of you who replied. were there any signs early on that your DD or DS might be leaning toward being gay? and at what age did you notice anything different? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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Why should we answer you. You are such a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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how do you know im a troll? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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you should speak for yourself. who's this "we" you are referring to. you dont any of these people replying here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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insert word "know" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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I had no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Have balances on 2 credit cards that I'm working on paying off. interest rate is the same. Would you make equal payments on both, or focus on eliminating balance on 1 before the other? And yes, I know it's bad, so kindly hold off on flaming me more than I have already flamed myself. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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Pay off one or consolidate and then work on the other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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^^pay min on one not concentrating on..of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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1 bill instead of 2 is one less place you can make a mistake and incur a late fee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Pay one off first so that your monthly budget is more comfortable. Then put the equivalent of both payments to the second one. If all else equal pick the one that will makeep you feel better off first. The one that got you in trouble, the one with the most regretable purchase etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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You make the minimum payment on the one with the largest balance while you live a spartan lifestyle and pay off the other one ASAP. Until both are paid off, do not use either card (cash, check or debit instead) as you will be paying interest on your new charges from the day you make them. Don't beat yourself up as you've already identified the problem and are committed to fixing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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Dave Ramsey always suggests paying off the smallest one first. Get rid of that, then tackle the other one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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I would follow Dave Ramsey -- focus on paying the smaller balance first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Ospm are you here 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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what is ospm stand for? [ Reply | More ]
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Original sassy [?] psychic mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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How will my next performance review be? Raise/bonus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Hey y'all! Low class Texas mama here. The fat one that shouted in all caps. I made mp again this week. Apparently I blemd in so well you can't tell the difference. Just a reminder we are all Americans and just because a person doesn't live in the NYC bubble doesn't mean they aren't like you. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:52 PM Flag
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#goals [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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I have a friend who moved to TExas a few years ago. She is blond. Every time she posts a pic with friends on FB, I notice that all of her friends are blond too. Is it coincidence, or are TExans (or those in Dallas) really into being blond? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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Many of us were blonde as children. I think it's more flattering on myself than the natural dishwater brunette I would be. [ Reply | More ]
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*me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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Cheerleader culture [ Reply | More ]
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Ride "em cowgirl! You go on wid ur bad self! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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This is what you aim for? Getting your troll post to MP? wow. Good for you, "fat texas mama." Maybe your toddler will win the L'il Miss backwards Bumpkin pageant some year or your peach pie will take home the honorable mention at the church bake sale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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NP: what a horribly judgy response. Way to stereotype people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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Yup. I judge, I stereotype, and I admit it. When someone describes themselves as a fat piece of shit from as backwards Southern State where the Bible is considered a textbook what do you think of them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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Op: this is what I mean. We're not all like that. I'm actually agnostic. I am UB fat but Ive been bulimic before and not hiding it. I think you're the ignorant one. You should know many MP posts here going back years were started by this Texan. We're not so different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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You really need to just live your life and stop worrying about what people in NYC think of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:01 PM Flag
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this. You keep being you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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Op: I'm waking up right now. Just lying in bed trying to wake up. It's words with friends or this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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I loved my trip to Texas this summer--Austin/SanAntonio...had a lot of fun. People seemed average. Only one time did I feel weird was when some men were joking at a bar talking loudly about lesbians this and lesbians that. That was something I found a bit offensive (not saying it couldn't happen anywhere but seemed to stick out). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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Yeah, Austin is like the little island of Sanity in a sea of redneck assholes. You can not have an opinion on Texas by spending a few days in Austin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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You sound pretty insecure... [ Reply | More ]
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Op: i don't mind being called this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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I was just back home in Texas last weekend but I forgot to eat a kolache. Please have one for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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Np- i will. Was it a fruit or sausage one? What part of Texas of you from? [ Reply | More ]
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Sure! [ Reply | More ]
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The very definition of an inferiority complex. Wow.... [ Reply | More ]
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Op: yeah probably but who cares? [ Reply | More ]
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ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Right, and I made MP this week over fat flyovers coming to NYC to participate in organized crime by buying fake handbags on Canal Street. How's your knock-off holding up? Fool anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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And believe me I know NYC is not all roses either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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I am not even in the US, don't have kids of my own, and made "Most Popular" several times already. *eye roll* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:50 PM Flag
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Eye roll right back ya dumb bitch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Had a cold for the last 2 weeks and now cough, sore throat and head ache. Flu, bronchitis? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Could be sinusitis---see you doctor. Colds seem to last only 7 days and/or improve over time. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 i have t hat now. cold that lasted a few weeks and now I am on antibiotics for sinusitis [ Reply | More ]
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sounds like a cold that turned into sinus infection. an ENT can diagnose [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just curious, for those that are or know someone who is - what is it like being a trust fund baby? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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Wish I knew. Being poor is extremely difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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I had a friend for a while who was one. She was basically a spoiled, somewhat useless human being. She didn't go to college (but had dropped out of a couple) and was always coming up with new ideas for what she thought would be her "big thing" ... In the 3 years I knew her she made vague motions to start a new restaurant and open a gym, last I heard from her in person she had decided she was going to own a vineyard and she was off somewhere in Napa studying viticulture. Last I tried to find her on the internet I found her on the Madoff's victims list. Madoff took her trust fund. She's got to be around 53 or 54 now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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OMG, I think we know the same person. Does she live in Portland, Oregon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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Don't feel motivated to really chase anything. Just doesn't seem worth the effort considering I don't need to achieve anything financially. Just tips me toward being lazier and safer. I realize that and feel a little sad about it but not sad enough to give up my inheritance. [ Reply | More ]
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How much is your inheritance, if I may ask? I have no concept of these things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the expression when someone is being deliberately dumb? Like when people read something and believe it when it's crazy? Like Obama death panels? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:43 PM Flag
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Willfully obtuse? [ Reply | More ]
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OP - well, that means slow to understand. I mean more like sticking head in the sand. [ Reply | More ]
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Willfully ignorant. [ Reply | More ]
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Confirmation bias? [ Reply | More ]
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OP- perfect. thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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Its called doing a "Sarah Huckabee Sanders" [ Reply | More ]
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 million. I can't stand that woman. She is the worst. [ Reply | More ]
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sarah and kellyanne care about legal americans. how about you? [ Reply | More ]
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+2 zillion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I wish there was a way to lose weight while still eating peanut butter cups and chocolate truffles. Is there a way?? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:38 PM Flag
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Of course. Have your candy and eat nothing else all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:39 PM Flag
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This. But you can't have your candy and eat too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:46 PM Flag
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Bulimia, maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:40 PM Flag
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Sigh. I have asked this about wine, chocolate, cheese etc. - and tragically have come to the conclusion there isn't (I know could have 4 oz. of wine a week or 1 square of chocolate but does not seem to work that way). Please share if you find a way to make this work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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Yes--bf is anorexic and ONLY eats Reese's, Diet Coke, and smokes cigarettes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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I eat 2 peanut butter cups every morning for breakfast with a cup of tea. Less calories than a muffin or bagel and very satisfying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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Are you thin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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5'5. 120 lbs after 2 kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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You are me. Not a daily thing, but it's not unusual for me to grab some candy at work and have that for breakfast, along with a cup of tea or coffee. Same stats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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Every mornign?! Wow. You must have a fast metabolism? What do you weigh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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?? It’s less calories than most breakfast stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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Sure. Do WW. I need my sweets, and make up for it by just eating less generally. I never had a problem staying in my points (I went on WW after each pregnancy) since it was not much of a change [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:21 PM Flag
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Height/weight? [ Reply | More ]
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I posted above. I'm the same as 5'5 120 poster, 2 kids, etc. And I was 130s in college, despite trying to eat healthy, working out, not going out drinking a ton. So I'm not naturally skinny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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Op: hmmm, sounds like me- 130s despite dieting. Would love to be 120s. So your biggest change was letting yourself eat food you like but starting to count points? I assume it would work the same with counting calories? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. That said, counting points is very onerous. The only way I could do it was bc DH wanted to do it too, so we kept each other accountable. Otherwise I would have given up after a few days. WW is basically calorie counting, but some calories are "better" than others, and non starchy vegetables and fruits are free. I have now adjusted to smaller portions. If I'm still hungry after dinner, I'll have some plain greens with vinegar. (Then I'll have my ice cream bar a few hours later- that's my favorite indulgence) [ Reply | More ]
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Op: thanks. So you don’t count points now- just have a general idea? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! The problem with some of my co-workers is that they will eat a "healthy" breakfast of yogurt and granola and then feel free to raid the office candy stash an hour later because they were so "good" at breakfast. Number of calories per morning is what counts...not what those calories come from [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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I'm the original PB cup poster [ Reply | More ]
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Also, I highly recommend putting your PB cups in the fridge. They are more substantial to bite into and go perfectly with a hot beverage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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Just get fat. It's not as bad as you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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Sure? Even if you go the low-carb route you get a cheat day. Check out Tim Ferris. Lots of stories of people dropping large amounts of weight — with their cheat day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can one find a pair of mittens that are water proof but not so bulky. My kindergartner doesn't like to wear her ski gloves on normal snow days because they are too bulky and hard to grab things with. thank you. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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we are in the same boat. honestly, we just use cheap stretchy "magic gloves" that arent waterproof and her hands get wet. They are good enough for recess and the walk to/from school. If she is playing in the snow for a while, pack the bulky ones for when her hands get cold. i have yet to find non-bukly waterproof ones for my 1st grader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:47 PM Flag
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we do exactly the same. the magic gloves are the only ones that come close to fitting my preschooler, everything else is just ridiculously large and bulky. They are cheap, so I bought a bunch and sometimes I pack him extra so if the first pair get wet, he's got a dry set for later. [ Reply | More ]
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Gloves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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***This is a business opportunity right here*** My 6YO was just complaining of the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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Lands End, Target, Walmart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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There are wind- and water-repellent fleeces out there. I've used the wind-repellent and they work great. See if you can find them for kids. Maybe at LL Bean or Land's End or just google. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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What about leather? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] How is Packer? Does it have good college admissions stats? How would you compare it to Saint Ann, Trinity, Dalton or Riverdale? Is it a good fit for a HS athlete? TIA 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Trinity and Dalton are thought to be among the elite for exmissions, and St. Ann’s slightly less so. Packer certainty falls below them. Don’t know much about Riverdale. [ Reply | More ]
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Trinity > Dalton > Saint Ann's >> Riverdale >> Packer. I believe SA's HS athlete program is the worst among these. [ Reply | More ]
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Very academic and rigorous. More laid back than typical Manhattan privates. Grads seem to have their pick. [ Reply | More ]
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This response directly contradicts the above response. Which is correct? [ Reply | More ]
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Packer matriculation: http://www.packer.edu/page.cfm?p=2486 [ Reply | More ]
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I can't tell much difference between this college list and the one from Nest or Hunter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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I cannot do all of you HW for you. [ Reply | More ]
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I cannot do all of you HW for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Sorry, I appreciate you posting the Packer college list. Didn't mean to sound ungrateful. It was helpful to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Yw :) [ Reply | More ]
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that's not so great. [ Reply | More ]
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18 kids to HYPSM in 5 years??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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dalton has 88 to HYPSM in 5 years [ Reply | More ]
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Keep in mind that Dalton's class size is only 110. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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Saint Ann's matriculation (each year, they only disclose 1 year for whatever reason): http://saintannsny.org/divisions-and-offices/college-office-2/student-honors-achievements/ [ Reply | More ]
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Riverdale matriculation: http://www.riverdale.edu/page.cfm?p=679 [ Reply | More ]
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hahah. I know someone with two kids that went through packer. they went to mediocre colleges at best. [ Reply | More ]
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Trinity would get 10x more HYPSM admissions per kid than Packer. But it's in it's own league. Dalton and SA would get 3x. Packer would do fine but it's not a college feeder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] silly question here - going back and fort in a divorce mediation - attorneys insist all partied are in the same room and will not do conference calls- I am not sure what to make of this, is this standard? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:28 PM Flag
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mediarion typically takes place in one location...sometimes the parties have breakout rooms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:31 PM Flag
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It's normal in mediation- I think the idea is that you find a resolution faster if all decision makers are focused and present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
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Also ends risk of misunderstandings, omission of info when relating a conversation to another party. Just do it. That way everyone is in person and can't deny they heard you say something or agree to something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:41 PM Flag
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Mediation is always in person. My brother's flies all over the US going to mediations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:47 PM Flag
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The presence of the enemy forces one side to compromise or not to think about being obtuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:50 PM Flag
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OP: thanks everyone - just curios as negotiations are not usually in person in my business - tech. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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Divorce mediation isn't a business problem. It's ending your marriage. They want you to be looking at each other face to face and to resolve matters with someone you once loved and now perhaps hate more than anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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OP: LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 45, divorcing. Bought H out of apt worth $2.5 mil but now have $1 mil mortgage. Roughly, $600k in 401k, 1.3 mil in other liquid investments and another $250K in cash. I wanted to retire at 50 but now that isn’t happening. I am scared about the financial future. If you started over late in life how is it working out? 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:28 PM Flag
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50 year old Divorced Dad here - you meet someone like me who is in the same boat and together you retire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:30 PM Flag
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Wow, you are close to where I was when I got divorced at 50. I had always wanted to retire early, still working in my 60s. What do you do for a living? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:30 PM Flag
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Lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:32 PM Flag
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If you sell the apartment and move to slower cost area you would be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:34 PM Flag
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I can’t until I retire...job is in a specialized field and also until DCs in college (can’t move them far from H...it’s in the agreement must stay in City). So, we are talking another 6 years and then I have to pay for college so another 5-6 Years from then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:37 PM Flag
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How were you going to retire at 50 w college tuition in the first place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:40 PM Flag
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I should clarify, I only have to pay for half. DH was going to continue to work and not up stop working in his business so he could travel all over the place. The business I help start and he built from scratch while I was the sole breadwinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:43 PM Flag
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You have 1.5 million in equity in your apartment, which between paying down the principal and increasing property values will probably be over 2 million in 6 years. You have $600k in your 401k which will be close to million in 6 years, 1.3 in liquid investments which will presumably appreciate in value over six years, and 250k in cash which you have time to add to. You should have a net worth of something close to $5m at 51. Move somewhere you won't get taxed out the ying-yang and you can retire well but not extravagantly at 55. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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That makes me feel better. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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I would sell the apartment and move somewhere a lot less expensive. Done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
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Not so easy. See above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:38 PM Flag
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Cry me a river. You never mentioned your children in the OP. Once children are out of school sell and bail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:42 PM Flag
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Why the hostility? Just because OP has worked and has some $$? Would she had been better off as a SAHM with no career prospects? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:46 PM Flag
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I don't have much time for idiots who think they need $50 million to retire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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OP here. I don’t think I need anywhere close to that. I do need to stay put in the City and to do that i need a place to live with DCs and a job to support myself and them for the next 12 yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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You have $3 million plus in assets, at least. You can buy a house or condo almost anywhere in the U.S. (including burbs of NY or most cities) for $1 million or so and live well for the rest of your life starting now. Or you can work a bit longer. Seriously, shut up. [ Reply | More ]
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I know my situation isn’t dire. I didn’t ask for the divorce. I can’t really move at the moment because of DCs. I also think it would be a bad time to quit my job and move away from my friends who are my support network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:40 PM Flag
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Divorced here as well, you are lamenting what could have been - it is natural - my spouse and I were financially solid pre divorce - life's plans didn't work out I catch myself having the same thoughts as you expressed from time to time - my family usually puts me in my place when I talk about ending up on the street - they are like no you will not - your worst case is a nice condo somewhere boring which is not the end of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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I get it. I am mourning the future I planned to have. Option B is being forced on me. I hate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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OR above: I totally understand you. This would be me if I divorced at 45. Of course there are people in circumstances more dire, but it is normal to feel upset when your expectations about life will be upended. But you are okay and things will get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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This is a very reasonable and normal OP. Seriously, you are very bitter and likely need a lifestyle adjustment. Don't listen to these people, OP. I agree with the person who said that your net worth should be close to $5m at age 51 and then you have to decide whether you want to live in NYC and keep working or downgrade and retire. Personally, I would do a combination of selling my apartment when the kids are in college and moving to Brooklyn with the aim of retiring in late 50s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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OR: I am not bitter in the least, just trying to put things into perspective. And calling someone with $3 - $4 million in assets, plus a job (OP is not dealing with unemployment as some posters are) 'reasonable and normal' is insane. About 95% of Americans are a lot worse off than OP, and outside of Manhattan she can live very well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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She had certain expectations out of life which got upended. It's natural for someone in that situation to be upset. That is what is reasonable and normal; I never said her life circumstances were typical or average. As for living outside Manhattan, the problem is that her Agreement stipulates she cannot do that. Telling someone to "seriously shut up" is not putting things into perspective. It reflects some bitterness or jealousy on your part and is in no way a normal response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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Well, still married (more or less happily) and financially well-off. Just don't like whining, sorry. And for UB, it is actually a pretty polite response actually. [ Reply | More ]
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You can say whatever you want, but we all know you are not financially well off or you would not be so nasty to this OP. And you're right about UB -- that's because among the helpful advice, there are lots of trolls and bitter, nasty people like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Why are you sitting on all that cash rather than paying off your mortgage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:37 PM Flag
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Mortgage rate is 3.25%. I get the deduction on taxes and make more in investments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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You still don’t come out ahead doing that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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My portfolio made 12% last year. I guess I don’t understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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My portfolio made 12% last year. I guess I don’t understand. [ Reply | More ]
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What will your portfolio make next year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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NP: It doesn't matter year to year. If you look at historical data on the market, investments over an 8+ year period do significantly better than 3.25% and that's not even factoring the mortgage deduction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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Of course you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Because that was supposed to be her money and her husband was supposed to pay off the house with his money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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Sell the apt and get a nice studio or 1br in a cheaper part of town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:38 PM Flag
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With 2 opposite sex tween/teen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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Wait until one is out the door for college then get 1br. Give room to the kid for a year or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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My kids rarely are home--it goes by very quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do that. Wait till they are in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:45 PM Flag
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Can you afford your mortgage? It will get better, this is the scary part but it will get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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Thanks. Yes. My mortgage plus taxes and maintenance is about 30% of my take home pay before bonuses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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I think just hang in there and save your bonuses. I would not pay down your mortgage now because you want to build your nest egg and then possibly downsize your housing once kids are out of the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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If I were you, I could retire tomorrow and live happily. I would sell the apartment and buy a house in a borough or outside the city for no more than 750k, paid in full. You have enough liquid assets to cover college tuition, down payments on first apartments, cars, and weddings for both dcs. And then all you need is enough money to cover your property taxes, home maintenance, and your own personal expenses. You could do that easily between a small part time job and then social security when it kicks in. And you still have the 401k and the cash savings for emergencies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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You are delusional [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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OP, do not do this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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she is only 45, why does she need to retire? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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Move to Jersey City and take the Path or ferry in each day--easy peasy lemon squeezy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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DH insisted on a clause we live in the City...in return I got a good deal on the Apt. Cannot move to Jersey City. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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Does it have to be Manhattan? What about Riverdale or Washington Heights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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You should do fine, assuming that your job is secure. Max out your retirement account each year. I'm assuming your 1.3 MM in other liquid investments consists of stocks and/or mutual funds? The most important thing to do is to not panic when inevitable downturns in the stock market occur. That's when people panic, just at the point where stocks are at a bargain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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If you were planning on retiring at 50, were you also planning on having children in your 20s? Having children when you are in your 30s pushes that number out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible for families who have members who fell victim to gun violence to make the US government answer to these crimes like war criminals? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:23 PM Flag
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If they were US soldiers or working on behalf of the govt...perhaps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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This is the dumbest thing I've read this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:32 PM Flag
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On what grounds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone bought personal care items (makeup or skin care) from Poshmark? I'm seeing unopened, wrapped product at half the price. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:09 PM Flag
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No, but I’ve bought some on ebay with no trouble. They were probably gifts or in a subscription box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:18 PM Flag
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I don't shop on Poshmark, but I shop for cosmetics a lot. What exactly are you looking at? Some things are cheap because there have been packaging changes, they are discontinued, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:29 PM Flag
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^^I just looked at Poshmark. Gross. People selling their old, dried out MAC eyeliner remnants. Hell, no. I would not shop there. There are legit places that sell brand new products heavily discounted. It depends what you are looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:32 PM Flag
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OP is talking about new products though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 02:35 PM Flag
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op: Have my eye on some Clarins products that appear to be brand new, in packaging, sealed, etc. I obviously would never buy opened product. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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They could be really old. I would be concerned if I were buying serum, sunscreen or skin creams that have active ingredients that could expire. I also would not buy lipstick. Powder products? Go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.14.17, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for gay men or those of you close with gay men. When did you know you were gay? do most gay men know that they are gay from a very early age? If you knew you were gay from early age, what were the signs of it? What might have stood out to others as obvious that you were gay? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My gay friend was effeminate and sensitive from day one. Talked to girls on the playground while the boys played sports. In high school he had a girlfriend but finally came out in college. I think it took so long because of religion and because he was bullied in school. [ Reply | More ]
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