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[ - ] S/O of the May December relatonship post... And I want to preface this post by saying I bring this up in earnest, I'm not trying to troll or provoke anyone. There are women who are exclusively, or almost exclusively, interested in older men - it's a predilection like any other, I guess. But I'm wondering when this starts? Were these women 13 and 14 years old with crushes on 20- or 30-something year old men? Not meaning celebrity crushes, here, I'm talking about lusting after your algebra teacher or the guy across the street or whatever. Anyone here have insight into this? I'm sorry if I sound like a moron or a creep. I'm actually just a mom with a kid who I'm worried about. 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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Six years isn't a huge difference for an adult. I would hardly classify that as an older man in an adult relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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I'm not talking about a 6-year age gap. 20-something wasn't intended to mean a 20 year old - sorry not to be clearer. But it's a matter of proportion. A 14 year old who's interested in a 28 year old, for instance. You can view it as a 14 year age gap and/or that he's twice her age. Inappropriate however you look at it for that scenario, but if you "translate" it to two adults you get either a 25yo and a 39yo (which will raise a few eyebrows) vs. a 25yo with a 50yo (which will raise a lot more eyebrows), but neither of those is genuinely inappropriate. But all of that is sort of beside the point. I'm trying to understand if the women who prefer significantly older men as adults were leaning in that direction as kids, or is it something that develops as you get older? Again, I'm talking about women who have an actual preference for much older men, not just a woman who's been in a relationship like that at one point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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IMO, many of them have daddy issues. there are exceptions of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:59 PM Flag
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NP: One friend had an absent and verbally abusive dad, the other had a wonderful father. But yes, it is not just random "You love who you love" when every boyfriend or eventual husband is 20% older than you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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NP: I have always had a great, healthy relationship with my dad. I have always been attracted to older men (usually 10-15 years older than me). My husband is just 6 years older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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It's money. They're not into POOR older men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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np. OP is really asking about very young women, girls, who're attracted to inappropriately older men. I don't have a clue what the cause would be, but I doubt money is what's motivating an 8th grader to crush exclusively on adult men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:11 PM Flag
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Not in my experience. I am the 26 yo below- in college I dated a classmate whose dad was a Forbes-verified billionaire, who was worth more as a fetus than my 50 yo ex bf will ever hope to be, and immediately after college I dated a guy whose dad is the CEO of a Fortune 500 company (in the top 50) who has a very promising career at McKinsey. I broke up with both of them. It really is not about money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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I always found balding men sexy even as a teenager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Hi- 24 year old lower Manhattanite. Will answer this very honestly, please be reasonably kind and feel free to ask follow up questions! Exclusively interested in "older guys" currently trying to push myself down to the 7-10 years older range, been in a 15-17 year phase recently which is a bit too much. Grew up upper middle class/from an established but slightly fading $$$ wise family in the south. Parents both alcoholics were young when I was born. (Mid 20s; not anything weird just on the young side) That said both high functioning and attentive parents. Had/have a strong relationship w my dad who's been on and off the wagon for about 20 years. Didn't really date in high school. Knew I would date older. Many large age gap relationships in my family (up to 24 years). College BFs were 6.5 and 10 years older. Am attractive, fun, very smart, etc. none of my boyfriends have been poor, but less of a money thing and more of a stability thing. They're calmer, more predictable and honest. Also I am VERY attracted to greying hair and eye wrinkles the way my friends are attracted to muscles and that sort of stuff. Like intelligent convos, calmer life, no roommates, etc. will probably eventually marry someone older, hopefully 7-12 years older as I don't want to be widowed CRAZY young and am not excited (but okay w...) the second family thing. Does this answer your question. I'm bored at work, will answer more ??s if yall have them. Not easily offended. Never slept w a married guy (have dated divorced) pretty conservative in that sense; only have sex in monogamous relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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Same poster: had crushes on my friend's dad's in high school, not on other high schoolers. Did have crushes on high schoolers while in 7th, 8th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Thank you so much for this response. Truly. Can I ask about your lack of dating in high school? Was that because you just had no interest in guys your own age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Of course-- no problem, I'm sort of interested in it also-- kind of an abnormal part of my psychology, hahaha. I think it was a combo of things-- I had very little interest in guys my age from an actual dating perspective. (Didn't want a relationship...) I was curious about kissing, etc (not really sex, at least not enough to want to experience it then...) but town was fairly conservative and super gossipy so that was sort of a no-go. I was also very insecure about my appearance at the time, which may have played into the way boys responded to be and the way I interacted with them. But no real interest in guys my age, ever. Didn't even have crushes on teachers as often as friends dads. Also had MAJOR crushes on dads I would babysit for. Would NEVER have done anything though, I have a pretty strong moral compass/respect for other people's relationships. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Again, thank you for your candor, I really appreciate it. How was it to be a non-dating teen growing up among all the kids who were getting into that with their peers? Did other kids think you were odd for not getting involved with any boys? Was there anyone you could talk to about your real feelings? I have a 14 year old daughter who recently came to me and told me she's been having these feelings as long as she can remember having any sort of attraction to the opposite sex. She was extremely upset, and she's worried about what it means for her. I was unprepared for that bombshell, especially since she broke it to me the day before she headed off to camp for 6 weeks. I've been trying to get my head around it since she left so we can talk about it more when she gets back home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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My best friend from high school is/was male. (Had and have female friends too, not one of those who can't get along w other women.) he and I grew up together. Everyone in high school just assumed we were secretly dating and wouldn't admit it. In my family, at least, it wasn't stigmatized though I know that in "society" people think it's weird. I did worry that I was a lesbian when I was her age (I have no sexual interest in women, at all... I think just bc my interests were different) I did speak to my aunt about it some (both her late and current husbands were/are 12-25 years older) and was open about who I thought was hot (though didn't mention exclusively... With my peers. I would say don't worry about her. All of my romantic relationships have been very positive, I would say more so than most of my friends, and there are plenty of kind, respectful, non-pervy guys. I do think it was best that I waited until college to date anyone older (and really anyone at all...) I think I would just talk to her about what's appropriate at certain ages (a 16 year old shouldn't date a 26 year old IMO even though as an adult most of my relationships have had a bigger age gap than that) but also tell her it's normal. I am very open with my mom about who I date. Never keep it a secret from anyone else and I think that helps whenever friends make fun of I get a weird look. Don't really talk to my dad about it (parents are married) but that doesn't feel weird to me. Have no interest in alluding to anything sexual in convo with my father... Hahaha :) glad I could be helpful. Any other questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:59 PM Flag
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Oh, jeez, there are a lot more questions I'd like to ask you if I had more time (stupid work!), but I also don't want to monopolize your time. From your posts here you sound well adjusted and at peace with who you are, and I hope that's an accurate reflection of who you really are in "real life". I'm glad in a way that I have this time off while she's away to get my thoughts in order before discussing it further with my daughter. This isn't something I've ever encountered anyone talking about in a thoughtful way - there are only ever the snarky remarks about gold diggers and daddy issues. I have to say, my immediate gut instinct was to tell her that she shouldn't discuss it with anyone other than me, dh, and her shrink, for fear some adult will try to take advantage of her. She'd obviously already given it a lot of thought and told me flat out that she would just have to wait until college to have a relationship, which is very upsetting for her, and she also said she wished she could just be a lesbian - it seems to her that would be so much easier. She's worried that she'll keep being attracted to proportionally older and older guys, and that she'll have to marry a senior citizen - "and that's gross, Mom!" - by the time she wants to start a family. So it's a big mish-mash of real insight and lack of perspective in her head right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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26 yo from below: If you "Watch" this thread, I'll watch it too and if you want to ask more questions, I will answer them (and I'm sure the 24 will too!). I think you're smart to tell her not to tell anyone about her feelings other than you or her shrink. She also should try to get her feet wet with dating with people close to her age because the one thing I've become acutely aware of as I've gotten older is that older men do have a lot more life experience and can more easily manipulate you than a guy your own age. That's not to say that all or even most do, just that it's easier for them the less experience you have. I mean, my ex got married when I was in pre-school and divorced the year I graduated high school. I would be incredibly naive to not admit that he knows things about life and relationships that I can't even imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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24 year old again THIS 100%. My friends, being kind and accepting, say things like "age is just a number" that isn't really true, at all. I don't think it's a bad thing, in fact I prefer it. But there is a gap in life experience and understanding... Just in different things, when the age gap is more than a few years. Just because it's not bad doesn't mean it isn't different than dating someone your same age. Not a good idea, IMO, to pretend it is. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Thank you!! I think I am very well adjusted and I know I'm at peace, she'll be just fine! :) I don't think it's a terrible thing to warn her not to tell people about it, but lest she feels too different, I would say more just to discuss things in a normal way (nothing wrong with thinking George Clooney is hotter than Harry Styles) She probably won't develop at attraction to 70+ year old guys, so tell her not to worry! I watched this post, so if you do have any questions I'd be happy to answer later! I do think it's normal, if untypical. And there are some great things about dating people 7-15 years older :) I think as she ages she'll feel more normal and at peace with herself just like every other human. Good luck-- you seem like a reasonable, accepting mom, she's lucky to have you! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Thanks - I hope you're right about that last part. I'm trying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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Ps thanks for being so civilized! I've mentioned this casually on here before (this place is fun to browse sometimes...) and everyone sort of jumps on the gold digger/daddy issues train... That's not what's going on in almost all of these situations IMO. Certainly in no relationship I've been in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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26 yo and ITA, thanks for being civilized. So many people on here are very closed-minded about this, but I promise you, I don't have daddy issues, I'm not a gold-digger. It's just a preference, just like any other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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OP here again. I will put the post on watch and post more later when there's more time. And I want to say again how grateful I am that you guys took the chance and posted, in spite of the fact that so many people here are rude and judgmental about this when it comes up. And fwiw, I'm not one of those people who's ever posted those kinds of comments - even before my daughter came to me with this issue, it's always been my POV that people should be free to do what they want in their personal lives as long as no one's being harmed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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Same poster-- I also think there are plenty of teens who aren't dating for various reasons. Maybe feels a little weird but certainly isn't like I was the only one. Plenty of my college friends who date "age appropriate" guys didn't really have boyfriend until college either. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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I think it's hard for most kids at that age, because they have so little perspective. They're still apt to feel like they're the only one doing X or not doing Y, even if they're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:27 PM Flag
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You sound exactly like me. Like scarily similar! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Hahha-- how crazy! Good to know there's more than one of us out there! ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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It's about having money as a child and growing up in a loving supportive environment or not. All the women I know who married or serially dated geezers grew up with money-stingy/poor parents and/or cold distant parents. Not a single exception. It can happen to girls who grow up rich if their parents aren't generous with their wealth (generous with kids, family, and strangers) and it can happen to girls whose parents don't show a lot of affection. If your girl grows up to marry a rich geezer you failed. Frankly, you failed worse than if your girl became a stripper, because at least they have some independence and agency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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Poster from above- 24 yo. would not agree with this, but I respect your opinion. This seems more based on societal bias than the real world scenerios I know... My parents were not rich but solidly upper middle. Got a car at 16, had designer jeans in jr high/high school (this was "the thing" at my school) parents paid for private college. Donated to charity, etc. mom comes from wealthy family. Lived off what dad made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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26 yo below: +1, except reverse- dad comes from a wealthy family, but we lived off of that mom made. Dad was a SAHD so it's been ingrained in me since day 1 that I need to be able to support myself. Parents put me through private school and private college, but I've been working at least part-time since age 12 when I asked my next door neighbor if she was looking for a mother's helper for her then-infant son. I would never want to be in a relationship, no matter the age, with a man who controlled the purse strings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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Same! Been working/babysitting since 12 (24 year old again). Fully support myself now, wouldn't say I mind being taken to the occasional to a nice dinner... But I make more $$ than most of my friends and am an EXECELLENT self-advocate. Have never felt w/o agency in a relationship. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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PP: Same. In fact I'm sure you've run into this same thing- because my age preferences are so wide, I have unwittingly gone out with those guys who are looking for a young, submissive, sugar baby-type thing, and I've run in the opposite direction. That dynamic creeps me out as much as it does the next emotionally-healthy woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:28 PM Flag
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Yes. Happens fairly often (1st date scenerios only!!) ICK! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:36 PM Flag
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26 yo who was the 24 yo dating the 48 yo, then the 25 yo dating the 49 yo (I was also the first OR on the original May/December post): I am almost exactly like the above OR. I'm shooting for a 7-14 year age gap. I was always attracted to older guys, but that has grown proportionally through the years- although I do remember having a huge crush on my middle school science teacher and my high school history teacher. I have a great relationship with my father. My friends and I have talked this over and I think a lot of this comes from the fact that I have older parents. My dad graduated high school in 1965 so it really didn't faze me that it was also the year my ex was born. And although I have good female friends (actually most of my friends are female), I have trouble relating to a lot of people my age in general- I relate to them in the sense that we're in the same stage of life (starting to make advances in our careers, anxiety over the future), but I don't relate to them in terms of worldview. Also happy to answer any questions you may have! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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^^ Oh, and I also grew up UMC- my grandparents have given me, not a ton of money in my lifetime, but a low 6-figure amount. I'm the only girl my own age I know who manages her own portfolio and lives well below her means so as to save and invest. I think the stereotype of a gold-digging bimbo is largely overblown. You would never, ever look at me and say "Oh, that's the kind of girl who dates men twice her age". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Hi, I'm the OP - thanks for posting. I guess I would pose the same questions to you that I did to the OR two spots above you. And it's helpful to hear the different early life and family experiences. I honestly have no idea how much that contributes, if it does at all? If you read that other subthread, you'll see that my interest is coming from the parent side of the situation. My daughter is very unhappy at this point, and I don't know how to support her. And trying to do internet searches on this turns up some freaky results that I don't want to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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I did have a serious boyfriend in high school, but I remember the clear moment when I realized I was very attracted to his father, but I just chalked it up to them looking similar and figured it was a good sign that I would be attracted to my then-bf in 35 years. Like the other OR though, I have a very clear and strong sense of morals and would not ever knowingly become involved with a married man. I also have never really "fit" in whatever stage of life I was in- I'm not counting age 0 to 21 because every kid wants to be "older"- I mean that even in college, I was ready to graduate and be in the working world. In my mid-20s now, I'm not into partying- I was so content with my ex, making dinner together, watching the news, talking current events and the markets and whatnot. My mom has been supportive but she also has tried to be upfront and honest about things that she wants me to realize- for example, if I marry a man 24 years my senior, when I'm her age, he'll be 90 (or dead). Where most people my age think 66 is old, I see my mom as vibrant and thriving, so that helps give me perspective and make smart choices for my future (hence why I'm going for a smaller age gap). I am really grateful for the way she has handled it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Thanks for your honesty. I think my own daughter has some of the same traits you and the other poster have mentioned. She's extremely level headed for a kid her age, very morally oriented, and has always gravitated toward adults and much older kids. She says she has absolutely no interest in boys close to her age, nor girls, but she feels like she needs to pretend to be interested so that her peers won't catch on. I told her to wait and see what happens when she starts high school this fall, but that yes, she might have to abstain from any romantic relationships until she's an adult. Which to me doesn't seem like such a big deal, but I don't want to tell her she's wrong to be sad about that if that's how she feels. And on the one hand I want to tell her she shouldn't have to lie about her feelings, even if she can't act on them for now, but on the other hand I want her to keep it to herself to minimize the possibility of some adult guy trying to use her feelings to manipulate her. Which I realize may be an overly paranoid concern on my part, but there it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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I don't think that's a paranoid feeling at all. In fact, I think it's very valid. I had almost a decade of dating experience under my belt before I dated the first "much older" (+13 years) guy. Kind of like how I mentioned in my OR about the difference between relating to people my age in terms of life experience vs worldview, she may be attracted to older men and may connect with them on a worldview level, but she won't be a match for them with experience-level, which is almost like a welcome invitation for predatory men. I would encourage her to at least try and be open to going on dates with boys her age. Maybe when she gets to high school, she'll find boys in older classes tolerable (that was how I felt) and can get some dating experience that way. And to be clear, I'm not talking sexual experience necessarily, I'm talking just dating experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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I think that sounds like good advice, and I'll definitely float it at some (hopefully) opportune moment when we next have a chance to talk. That mismatched power dynamic is the main thing I worry about, because I know how right you are that a sophisticated worldview can not make up for a lack of life experience. I guess one positive is that she also seems to get that on some level, as she pointed out to me that any guy who actively reciprocated an attraction at this point would by definition be the kind of individual who she wouldn't want to be involved with - she told me it's like that Groucho Marx quote about not wanting to be a member of any club that would want you as a member, which I thought was about right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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24 yo Poster from above. Agree with the friendships thing very much-- think this is probably common! Similar, my parents aren't old but none of their friends had kids until I was 8-10 and most when I was in my teens. Probably also comes from being used to interacting with adults even from a young age? :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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Yes, I think that's part of it too. I remember in college, when my friends parents needed my friends to do something, they would call me. My friends called me "mom" because I was always the one keeping things under control. Quite the opposite of the idea that girls who prefer older men want men to baby them and treat them like little girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:24 PM Flag
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OP again. Do you think part of your attraction to older guys is that they're less likely to need or want you to play that caretaker role like your same-age peers do? Not that you want them to be the caretaker either, but more that you can be on equal footing. I ask because this is another thing where my daughter sounds similar, and she has commented to me before that as much as she loves her friends, she sometimes gets tired of being the one they turn to to mediate, confide in, and so on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Maybe a little bit. I think less caretaker and more "responsible person" the men I know who are my age all go out and drink to wayyyyy excess, and their girlfriends are sort of police to their arty behavior. That sort of thing- and having to constantly be the mature voice of reason does not appeal to me in a relationship. I do, however, like doing little "taking care" things in relationships. Like, whenever my ex had a really bad day I'd make him a cocktail and bring it to him or... Um, go down on him... Both without him asking for either. I know that's not exactly what you're asking about, but I hope my point comes across. Ps sorry if that was a tad graphic. -24 yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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I also like taking care of boyfriends when they're sick. I guess I like feeling useful versus needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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This was my mother. She has always been looking for a father figure in her relationships to replace her cold and narcissistic father/ parents. She married my Dad who was 10 years older (10 year marriage), then had an affair with another older man, I think 10-15 years older, then married my stepfather who was 20 years older - they were married for 19 years. Now at 68, this is the first time in her life she is dating someone her own age, because all the older men are dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for suggestions for a relaxing, yet adventurous vacation in August with the family. Went to Costa Rica last August and loved it. Where to next? TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You're planning quite late. [ Reply | More ]
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I know. I always do, and it always works out. [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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That's usually only an issue if you want to save money. If she's willing to pay top $$, she'll be fine. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I actually get great deals at the last minute. It's a big world. If you're open to trying new things, there's a ton of possibilities. I'm just all over the place with ideas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] What concerts are in youtube that are worthwhile? Watching Shakira's Rock in Rio in Madrid from 2012, it's better than being there!!! And: FREE!!!!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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There's one of Pink on Netflix. Very good!!! [ Reply | More ]
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I like watching clips (sometimes full length) of really old concerts like Janis Joplin when she performed in Toronto. [ Reply | More ]
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Same here! [ Reply | More ]
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Even more so while I'm cooking dinner. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Im so sick of up selling. I cant even get an oil change anymore without being oressured into a $50 unnecessary service. It wouldn't be so bad if it were actually beneficial but this is really just them trying to get money out of me for a useless service I dont need. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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CSB [ Reply | More ]
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I hope you said no. These businesses prey on women. [ Reply | More ]
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puh-leeze [ Reply | More ]
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I always take the extra service. I like my cars to work well. I will refuse the product at the beauty salon but yes please, give me a new filter and thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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np: every six months some service guy or another tells me it's time for new windshield wipers. NO IT ISNT [ Reply | More ]
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Then just say yours are working fine. But honestly, when they do break and it is raining and you need them, that's fucking dangerous driving. I get mine changed about every other oil change [ Reply | More ]
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do you get your oil changed every 3 months??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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No like every 4-5K miles. I have more than one car so it takes me a while to get there between them. [ Reply | More ]
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Pretty sure I get wipers changed annually at a minimum, or if I notice they are not working so great. [ Reply | More ]
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try installing yourself. Super easy! [ Reply | More ]
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I know what you mean, I just like the service. I can probably make my own coffee to go as well, but I like them to make it at Dunkin :) [ Reply | More ]
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they don't actually DO anything. they just say they did and charge you. signed : formerly married to an automechanic [ Reply | More ]
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I agree, but I've put it in my head to just always so no to anything extra, even if it would be good [ Reply | More ]
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yup - it's like this everywhere. At the optometrist, it's "Do you want scans of your retina so that we can test the health and check for cancer? That's an extra $50." Then, at the dentist, "Do you want this test to check your gums? It'll be an extra $40?" [ Reply | More ]
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DH never had a cavity in his life and one dentist we went to said he did and put it in a filling. We switched dentists and he said no cavities and probably didn't in the one that was filled. [ Reply | More ]
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How on earth would the next dentist possibly know that? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] my son is in the midst of a divorce. his ex was having an affair for 3 years and is now with that person. he also had an affair a month before they split, after years of being rejected by the ex. the ex told everyone of his affair and her family hates him. she, meanwhile, got away with no one finding out about her affair besides him. should he just let it be, or should he share this information so that perhaps her family will know the truth? i am just worried about how it will affect their kids. tia. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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op: i'm asking for him but i know it's none of my business really. it is just upsetting bc she has played the victim in all of this and her family will not even acknowledge him when they are around the children bc of what he did, not knowing what she did years before that. [ Reply | More ]
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did your periods end abruptly, or did they simply taper-off from "crime sceen" flooding back to normal periods and then down to teenage mild periods? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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But he never will eat the broccoli! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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You need to stay out of it - and consider that your son has given you his version. He may be the one with the three year affair and she the one with a one month affair. You are his mom. He is not going to tell you if he has been a total jerk. Just be there and support him - but don't get involved in the battle. [ Reply | More ]
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op: i'm not getting involved, i'm just wondering what others think. he has definite proof of her affair, and has been very truthful about his own transgressions. [ Reply | More ]
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You're a jewish mother. can't you just be happy knowing that g-d knows your son is less evil than your former DIL? [ Reply | More ]
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You have absolutely no idea of what his transgressions have been. Don't be an idiot, who thinks your grown son tells you everything. Also your "I am worried about how it will affect their kids" is such bullshit. The truth comes out in your comment here"I'm just wondering what others think". You are worried about your own and your son's reputation. Butt out. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like everyone is immature and better off moving on. There are no winners in this scenario. [ Reply | More ]
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It sounds like you are dying to tell the kids their mom is a cheating whore. Much good that will do them. [ Reply | More ]
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It's never good to bad mouth your child's parent. It's childish. He should take the high road. These people aren't even going to be his relatives soon and I doubt they are going to like him more when he starts telling them about her affair. [ Reply | More ]
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And you know that she had affair for 3 years how? And that his only started a month ago? LMAO [ Reply | More ]
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my heart bleeds for you. really. it would kill me if my son was going through this crap. but, for your own sake, LAND THE HELICOPER. [ Reply | More ]
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the truth always comes out in the end. better it not be from you at this time. your son may be truthful with you, or not. you never really know what's going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Lainey (a gossip site) claims Ben Affleck is doing seriously hard drugs, and that's why Jen couldn't take it anymore. Apparently she was cool with all the infidelity but now that it's a safety concern she needs to end it. Do you believe this? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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It's not for me to know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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He fits the profile perfectly for coke [ Reply | More ]
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he's not skinny enough or hyper enough. ITD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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Maybe not hyper enough, but you don't have to be skinny to do coke. John Belushi and Chris Farley were huge cokeheads. I'm pretty sure PSH did his share as well. [ Reply | More ]
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lol - nooooo. They eightballed with heroin. big difference [ Reply | More ]
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Not every single time, are you joking? Of course they did coke on its own. They did whatever was in front of them. I'm just saying I wouldn't be surprised if Ben did coke. You are way too defensive about it being impossible. How do you know? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not even a little bit defensive. But I do know what I'm talking about. And the fatties are the ones who used Heroin with the coke. Sorry, fact. [ Reply | More ]
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Lainey made it sound harder than coke...she said not a party drug. [ Reply | More ]
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np. Yes PSH died with coke in his system [ Reply | More ]
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who is psh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Phillip Seymour Hoffman [ Reply | More ]
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Who's the fatass politician who does blow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:11 PM Flag
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You've obviously never heard of coke bloat. [ Reply | More ]
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You need to get out more. [ Reply | More ]
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says the person on UB herself [ Reply | More ]
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Don't be so defensive about reading gossip sites, honey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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I believe people who dwell on this need to get a life. [ Reply | More ]
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honestly, who cares? he's a talented guy and his career is going well so it would be a shame if this was true. but these creative types often have personal demons... [ Reply | More ]
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Many people have personal demons. Rich movie stars have the time, money, and enablers to more fully indulge their vices. [ Reply | More ]
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you haven't heard about the junkies that live on the street? if a person is an addict, they will find a way to indulge their vices. you don't need to be a movie star for that. [ Reply | More ]
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Exactly. OR was trying to say only creative types have demons. [ Reply | More ]
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He seems like an addict but at the end of the day I really don't care. [ Reply | More ]
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Why does anyone care about BA? He was hot in the early 00's. That's about it. [ Reply | More ]
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He looks terrible. That might explain it. He has aged FAST. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I know (first name) is having an affair with (first name) .... 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I wish. I don't know any juicy stuff like that. [ Reply | More ]
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me, too. I used to know. Not anymore [ Reply | More ]
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Spencer; Katharine [ Reply | More ]
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Sarah and unusual French name [ Reply | More ]
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oooh, the dad from the pre-school? I heard ALL about it. Apparently, Sara's DH caught the whole thing on the nanny cam and its about to get revengealicious up in the hizzy [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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Rita, Michael [ Reply | More ]
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Heavy Rita near Gramercy Park? [ Reply | More ]
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Curly hair. I probably shouldn't say more. [ Reply | More ]
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William and Rachel [ Reply | More ]
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Harvey, Linda [ Reply | More ]
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Patrick, lena [ Reply | More ]
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Bill, Monica [ Reply | More ]
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he did NOT have sexual relations with that woman! [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on what your definition of the word "is" is. [ Reply | More ]
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John Jr, Marilyn [ Reply | More ]
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ok, physically impossible [ Reply | More ]
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How do you know? [ Reply | More ]
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NP Because she died before he was born? [ Reply | More ]
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Elizabeth; Burt [ Reply | More ]
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Kat, Allen [ Reply | More ]
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Elliot, Kristen/"Ashley" [ Reply | More ]
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Philippe, anything with a hole [ Reply | More ]
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Nate and some chick named Lori or some spelling of that name [ Reply | More ]
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Hunter and Ra'quanda [ Reply | More ]
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I found out my BBF's husband was having an affair. He used a mutual friend's apartment for sex, and left his wallet on the bedside table. He lied to our friend about why he wanted the apt and our friend was furious. It turned out BBF's husband was and is a serial cheater. I've kept my mouth shut for 30 years. It's not my marriage and none of my business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm from an immigrant family. I grew up LMC, just above the poverty line, although when I was very young I remember picking up food from the food bank, but we never used welfare resources because my mother was too proud. I'm public school & private college (top 20 research) educated, hold a masters from Harvard and am applying to PhD programs this fall in neuroscience. I played the clarinet and viola as a child, was involved in the arts (community theatre & dance) and grew up in a small college town in the Pacific Northwest before moving to Vancouver, B.C. I lived in NYC for 8 years before leaving once my DBs were born. My DCs attend summer day camps and are at an extracurricular activity every day, not because I am a tiger mom, but because we live in an apt. and I can't stand being cooped up with them all day, plus, I need time to study. I am a SAHM, but also a student and I work (for free) at a lab after winning a "prestigious fellowship" so it's not like I'm totally free to devote my time to the DCs. So, I'm just posting this drivel because I want people to remember that there are all kinds of people on this board. There seem to be so many who believe that it's only white UMC women with nannies and cleaning ladies. I actually don't think that there's anyone like that on this board, so it would be helpful if when we offer advice that we're not attacking one another based on this idiotic stereotype. Thanks. Also, feel free to post your own background. It may help to contradict some of these "stereotype" posts that I see too often on this board. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Great story! But curious from what country/region your family are from... Asian, Central America, Middle East, etc.? [ Reply | More ]
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*oops - double "from" - lol [ Reply | More ]
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OP - Thanks. My family is from Central America. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks - not sure why, but reading the above, I automatically stereotyped you as Asian. So much to learn! [ Reply | More ]
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:-) [ Reply | More ]
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Similar story here , I am from South America! So proud of you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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Thank you! Same to you! [ Reply | More ]
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WONDERFUL POST! [ Reply | More ]
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If you grew up so close to the poverty line, how were you able to afford clarinet and viola lessons? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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NP: My public school had band lessons for free, and instruments could be loaned for low or no cost to kids who couldn't afford them. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - Yup! I received them through my public school starting in 1st grade. Public school used to be so much better. Although, in my college town, I believe many of those resources are still offered for free. I remember my clarinet and viola were rented for a combined $20/mo and it's possible that we could have received them for free if we had filled out a form, but my mother wouldn't agree, so we just paid it. [ Reply | More ]
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FWIW, I think there are plenty of white UMC women w nannies and cleaning ladies on this board, myself included. I don't think I'm a stereotype - I WOH FT and both DH and I make good salaries, but nothing crazy - salaries that would be excellent in most of the country but are probably modest in NYC. in NYC, a nanny is often the most reasonable form of childcare. and as far as cleaning goes, that's a sanity-saver that I've always budgeted for - even when DH & I were childless. [ Reply | More ]
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Want to talk about it? Represent what you think isn't represented on the board? anthropologistmom@hotmail.com [ Reply | More ]
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I am an Indian ex banker married to a banker. Nanny housekeeper and house in the Hamptons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Do the feds really execute random search warrants on the colleagues of pedophiles based on association alone? What is the probability they will find absolutely nothing to implicate Jared the subway guy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's not random, and it's not based on association alone. I really hope he's innocent and that he's cleared quickly, but I guess we'll see how it plays out. [ Reply | More ]
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They flock together. God I hope Jared isn't one of them. One of the neighbors said he was like an endangered species, he was so private and never seen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Good lord, how I wish every US student were required to complete a year of basic statistics before graduating from high school. If only... 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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I wish for something similar, a required year of personal finance. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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this. I told dd is her school didn't offer it (they don't) I would pay for it . [ Reply | More ]
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
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Muriel Siebert tried to start something like this in NYC. While we don't like the idea of "home ec" it often covered some of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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No basic course yet, but dc (nyc ss) has studies certain elements of statistics in math since 6th grade. Going into 9th now. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm familiar with the elementary level curriculum, but it's not nearly enough, and they need to revisit the topic in more detail when they're older and are better able to grasp the concepts at a deeper level. And if I had my druthers, they'd take it in tandem with a basic cognitive psychology course so they can learn all about cognitive biases as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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Please - most can't even retain basic "practical" math. I can't believe how many people I work with - in sales - who don't know how to calculate year-over-year percent growth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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True, how pathetic. US has a 3rd world country math ed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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and now it's worse b/c students use calculators in school, so graduates can't perform the simplest calculations in their heads [ Reply | More ]
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np. We used calculators in school when I was a kid, at least once we got around the level of algebra/pre-algebra and I've never felt impaired in my math abilities. Or are kids using calculators much earlier now? [ Reply | More ]
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Same here - we were actually required to purchase a "scientific calculator" for our pre-calc and calc classes in high school in the late 80s. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: I'm actually fine with calculators or Excel if it gets the job done quicker... but these fools don't even know how to go about solving the problem ON a calculator! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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THIS!!! Every VOTER and politician should. [ Reply | More ]
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English as a first language would be helpful as well. For American born, to be clear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I really don't know how I will make it through the summer. Signed sahm 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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troll. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: seriously, I am going crazy. I don't know what to do w. Myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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You'll survive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:37 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here. My wife is cheating on me with another dad from our DC's pre-K. I have definitive proof that she has invited him over for sex while our two very young children are home. In our bed in fact. Need some advice from the lovely ladies of UB how I can fuck with her a little bit before serving her divorce papers, and what's the most revengealicious way to serve them. Don't let me down! 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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you're both sickos!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Nanny cams set up [ Reply | More ]
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OP: already did that, that's how I got the proof. [ Reply | More ]
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was it a good video? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: good in the sense that it will be very embarrassing for her when I present it as proof. not really good in the porn sense. she's as lame in bed with him as she is with me. And his performance is...very peculiar let's say. [ Reply | More ]
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np: spill [ Reply | More ]
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OP: He wears clothespins and my wife's bra. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh stop it. [ Reply | More ]
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np: don't know why that's so weird, my ex bf before i met dh was into really kinky stuff and dress up. might be more common than we realize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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She must have an enormous ribcage then. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: He is slightly built, I imagine he could fit very well into most of my wife's clothes. She is average size. [ Reply | More ]
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Wears clothespins? What does that even mean? And who uses clothespins anymore? [ Reply | More ]
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This is so fake and you're so pathetic!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
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Invite him and his wife over for dinner. Watch her squirm. For the papers, roll them up tight so they fit in what looks like a box for a very expensive necklace. Wrap with nice ribbon. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: LOL, thanks, I like those ideas. [ Reply | More ]
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What is your definitive proof? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: video, left behind condom (very gross, I know), other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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Fake! What DH uses the non-word 'revengealicious'? C'mon. [ Reply | More ]
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Dw is creating bc dh is gay. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe wife is gay dad. [ Reply | More ]
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lol- this [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I do, that's who. [ Reply | More ]
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np. Yes, and you're a fake. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thank you for your input and have a nice day. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, at least you are a polite troll. [ Reply | More ]
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+1000000 [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Yup!! Dead give away. [ Reply | More ]
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If you have the nanny cam videos, edit them to blur her face, then post them on youtube. Send her the link as a funny video you wanted to share. [ Reply | More ]
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Post her name and the dad's names here. Done [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Sarah. Don't want to post his name because it is unique and his wife may not know. [ Reply | More ]
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np: I think I might know which preschool, because there is a mom named Sara or Sarah there who is very friendly with a foreign dad who is not her husband. LOL if it is true. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yes, he is foreign. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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Yeah, I can imagine something like Alejandro or Sandeep or Constantine would out someone in a situation like this, hahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Let his wife suspect then. Let him shit a brick and dump your wife before you also file [ Reply | More ]
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There is no terror like that of a man who realizes his wife "knows" ... no erections there [ Reply | More ]
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Gee, can't imagine why she'd cheat on you. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Me neither because our prenup says she's not getting one thin dime out of me. [ Reply | More ]
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Uh huh. Cute fake. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I have a feeling there is just one person writing fake over and over, and very defensively. Perhaps a mom having an affair with a dad at her child's school? Ha ha. [ Reply | More ]
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F. A. K. E. [ Reply | More ]
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you are so pathetic playing out your fantasies on this board [ Reply | More ]
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If you have a nanny cam, walk in and serve them when they are in the act [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I am feeling a ton of pressure and much more intense BH contractions. Is this the start of labor? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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quite possibly. pack your bag, then drink some water and lie down -- either the contrax will stop or not, and if not,time them then call your doc. [ Reply | More ]
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This. Pack the bag, call birth partner and consider cleaning up a bit. Much easier to come home to a clean house. [ Reply | More ]
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Could be [ Reply | More ]
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There's no official sign. If it's the start of labor, you'll know soon enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:27 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of lingering effects are there for preterm babies? ped says she's fine and developing normally, but i wonder if there is a correlation between preterm birth and academic/social development. I just want to stay on top of anything. For those who had preterm babies, have you noticed that your children are a little behind or are they basically normal? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My mother was born 2.5 months early in 1952. She is normal. I think the only issue was she was "redshirted" because she seemed immature in those very early years. [ Reply | More ]
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The oxygen raises IQ -so there is a plus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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There is a correlation between preterm birth and developmental disabilities. it's something like a 50% chance if baby was born 24-28 wks, 33% chance if baby was born 28-32 wks and 25% chance if baby was born 32-36 weeks. Those aren't exact numbers, I'm approximating. The neonatologist talked to us about it but that was 3 years ago and I'm awfully distracted now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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I think greater chance of things like ADHD and other neurological issues. But my only experience is a close friend who is an MD and had one preterm (30 week) dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I decided to weigh myself after the long weekend and I'm up 3 pounds. I did get my period this morning so I'm wondering if this may be the cause. Getting older stinks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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Same feeling. I started working out again a few weeks ago. Almost 40, never had to watch what I eat and gains 5 lbs in a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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I blame my period for eating too much two weeks out of the month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm the idiot mom on UB for the day. Here's my dilemma: DB#3 was born almost 4.5mo ago. DH and I had sex for the first time when DB was 2.5mo, but we initially didn't use a condom, but then he put one on a few minutes later. More explicitly: his dick had already been inside of me. Ok, so I am breastfeeding and with my other 2 DCs, I didn't receive my period until they are 6mo & 5mo respectively. I am a little freaked that I could have gotten pregnant from that incident, so I took a test last night (I still haven't had my first period, but I'm only ~4.5mo post partum) and the test was 2 years expired, so nothing came up - not a positive or negative sign. Should I waste money buying a test today? I just have a sneaking suspicion. Also, I only get psoriasis spots when I am pregnant, but occasionally when I'm breastfeeding, and this morning I noticed a little spot on my thigh, which could be due to the fact that I'm breastfeeding or that I'm pregnant. Thoughts? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:08 PM Flag
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go buy a test. then you can stop obsessing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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Oh Lord. It would've been faster to buy a test than to write this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:13 PM Flag
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I know, but it's also so embarrassing. I can feel the woman judging me at Walgreens, plus, I'll be doing it with my baby in tow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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the woman at walgreens doesn't care about you. she has her own problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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Of all the women in the world, the woman at Walgreens probably understands what you're going through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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Judging you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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First step is to stop calling yourself an idiot. What is wrong with women?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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The people of UB are harsh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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They are like a bunch of rottweilers on adderall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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Irish twins all the way baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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Just buy a test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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Very, very, very unlikely you are pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm starting to think that being raised by a single mother turned me into a misogynist. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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more like, being raised by your single mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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Yeah... being raised by my married SAHM did the same to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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why do you say that?....why not take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Were you early or late with your first? If so, how early or late? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I was a few days early with both my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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Emergency c-s for #1 for preeclamsia 3 days over [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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11 days late with first, 2 weeks early with 2nd, right on time with 3rd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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i was induced when baby was ten days late. no idea how late he would have been otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:05 PM Flag
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I was induced 8 days past my due date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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right on time, c. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:10 PM Flag
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5 weeks early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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5 days late [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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I was a week late and then wasn't dilating when they gave me pitocin, so I had to have a c-section [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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A week early [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 04:40 PM Flag
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3 DC's. 2 weeks early with #1 and 2. 3 weeks early with #3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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