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[ - ] I just paid $400 for color (single process at the roots + highlights). First of all that seems like a lot! Second, I had to tip my colorist ($60), the assistant $20), and a second assistant who blew out my hair ($10)! So total of almost $500! 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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OP: you mean too expensive? I agree. I had know idea it was going to be this much. Once I saw the bill though I didn't want to be cheap on the tips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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^^To get an idea, how much do you pay in a Manhattan salon? And is it a fancy salon or regular neighborhood place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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And you are one of the moms who can not stretch the budget for dc's private school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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No, I'm rich (and lucky and I know it) just having some sticker shock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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In the burbs it costs around that for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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Westchester? That's ridiculous for single process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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OP: single + highlights ( a lot of highlights) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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That's a little different then. Just for single seems ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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price depends on where you go. my colorist would charge you more, others at the same salon less. do you like the results? did you not ask about price ahead of time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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I do like the results. I didn't ask about the price before hand. I've had color many times before but never recall it being this expensive. I'm just having some sticker shock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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if you like the salon and the results, there may be a less expensive person who can do similar work. but single process plus highlights takes awhile and will not usually be really cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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What do you think about my tip? I'm used to tipping the colorist 20% but $80 seemed absurd so I made it 15%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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since you gave the $20 to the assistant, I think you are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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don't go back again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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That's what I'm thinking. Just trying to understand if prices have gone up and this is pretty normal or if this was out of line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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The most important question is, are you thrilled? Would you rather have the $500 back and have your hair look the way it did before? Would you be happy with boxed color and crappy $50 highlights? Only you can answer that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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I am happy but not thrilled, meaning not the very best color I've ever ever had. It did take a long time, about 3 hours from start to finish (but he worked on other people while I was under the steamer and getting washed and blow dried. So maybe the time he spent with me was 45 min to an hour in terms of actual time he applied the color and the highlights. I do like it (not love). I would never color my own hair and wouldn't go to a random cheap color place. My question is more is this the going rate now for a quality color in manhattan? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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I would just tip $20 in total. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Really? On a $400 bill? The high price of the bill threw me off with the tipping. I just seemed SO much money! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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meant that for post below suggesting $20 tip total. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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That is insane! Considering I have to color my hair every 3 weeks, that would amount to $8,500/year on my hair alone! That is why I DIY at $4/pop or $68/yr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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I think it's too much. I live in Orange County and I pay $195 for roots+highlights and a haircut. Salon policy is you tip the hairdresser, then they tip out the assistant. So I add 20% to total. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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Go to the owner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] ok, mean or ok: I could do a shelf of food in the pantry that is strictly for the nanny. Decent food, nothing fancy. I would label it. Do you think she would appreciate that or feel like i was being rude? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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This is a terrible idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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You are being rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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What if DC finds the shelf and wants some Kraft Mac and Cheese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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Please be fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't mean to generalize or sound rude, just looking for opinions on something I've heard...are nannies from Trinidad generally considered to be lazy? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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too late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Are you really comfortable making generalizations like that? People think Americans are lazy too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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and fat, and trigger happy. yet OP is probably thin and doesn't own a gun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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No, not at all. I've personally had great experiences with several nannies from Trinidad, and seen many others also do a great job with my dc's friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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how is it not generalizing to ask this question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] DD wants to go to the Dance Moms cast meet-and-greet in Dumbo in August. I haven't actually been to the area. If we are going to the meet and greet at 1PM and the show isn't until 6PM, what is there to do in between? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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Ugh, you too? We just did the event in NYC... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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We went to the event last time, but this is the first time the event is doing a meet and greet and it's free, so DD really wants to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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OP: This made me laugh out loud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Why do I feel like those girls should be in college by now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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they are like 11 or 12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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It isn't a Dance Moms event, but there are kids from Dance Moms, Dance Moms Miami, Abby's Ultimate, Nickelodeon, Disney Channel, Broadway, etc… some of them look really young and some look like teenagers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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www.galapagosartspace.com/c4ac It looks like it is near the water [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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There's a great ice cream shop on the water. Have a late lunch at Grimaldi's, get ice cream, walk along the water. Isn't that pop up park/pool nearby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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OP: Oh yes, I remember the ice cream place! Any restaurant suggestions for dinner? Trying to find something easy to get to. If I am looking at the map correctly I think it is by the pier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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I went to a wedding at a nice restaurant there, but for the life of me, I can't remember it. Sorry. There used to be a good Spanish restaurant there, too, but it seems to be closed. This is all I've got for you: http://www.urbanspoon.com/n/3/220/NYC/DUMBO-restaurants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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This is helpful, thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] If you grew up in NYC (particularly Manhattan), how old were you when you got your driver's license? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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21 [ Reply | More ]
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30! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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18 but I grew up in the Bronx. [ Reply | More ]
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16 but we had a house in Maine and I got my license there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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Never got one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Now all the new mothers get breast pump through insurance, I do not see a reason to flash boobs in the public to breastfeed. I am a new mother. I always carry bottles of pumped milk whenever we go out. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Good afternoon trolly! How are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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why would you say OP is a troll? Please...SMH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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You're a fool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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You can't get it through insurance for everyone. I have NYGovt state plan and I couldn't get it.ANd I'm glad you don't see the need. Others might. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Obama made it mandatory for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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What did you name your baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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you must not have a lot of supply [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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I prefer to carry my boobs whenever we go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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This. One of the benefits of EBF is no bottles, no pumping (unless you WOH and have to during work hours), no hassle, no mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Who flashes boobs? You just pop one in a baby's mouth. You carry your bottles, and other mom's will feed their babies their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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^moms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Wow, that's cumbersome. Glad I did not bother with this. NY law is on the side of those who don't feel like giving bottles just to avoid tiny possibility of nip slip (gasp!). So if you're offended, look at something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Pumping sucks, just whip 'em out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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I breastfed everywhere and don't think anyone really saw my nipple unless they were really trying to. I was discreet. My kid was alawyas hungry - never had time to pump until he started sleeping six hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I know this is an idiotic question for most but my DS will be starting K in public next year. I was just over-thinking morning scheduling and realized I don’t know what time public schools open. Any idea? Can we drop off early even if he doesn’t participate in the breakfast program? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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They all have different times. Go to your child's school website [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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My neighbor's kids go to public in Brooklyn and drop off is between 8:00 am and 8:20 am (no breakfast). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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All publics have breakfast [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Sorry, clarifying: her DCs don't do breakfast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:15 PM Flag
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depends on teh school but most will let you drop off early even if your child doesn't eat breakfast. check your school's website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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op here: I can only find that school starts at 8am and that breakfast is 7.35 to 7.55 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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Then 7:35 is the earliest you can drop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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ok so basically kids are in the cafeteria until 7.55? that's the idea? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yes, with adults overseeing. They can't be in the halls or classrooms before 7:55 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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8am is early, my kids don't start until 9! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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K? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anybody get pregnant while taking birth control? Is it possible? I noticed a few signs and sort of on a hunch I took a few tests and they all came back positive (could this be a result of the hormones in the pills?) I don't really like children and I already have a two year old, so I'm freaking out! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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hope the sex was good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Let me guess, you are taking progestin only type pills? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Yes, the 'mini pill'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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you have 2 options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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My husband would never get over that, so I really only have one option if this is my reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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must dh know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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that's awful. if you can't discuss abortion with your husband, what kind of marriage do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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that's awful. if you can't discuss abortion with your husband, what kind of marriage do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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Yes, and I just gave birth to my birth control baby. If you have a positive test then you are positively pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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You certainly can get pregnant on birth control pills, they like all methods have a "failure rate." And pills won't alter the reliability of a pregnancy test, different hormones at issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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do you "don't really like" your two year old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone give me some insight about starting DS in a Montessori program for pre-K (he will be 4 next month)? Would really appreciate any information/BTDT advice. TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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which school? Basically, there is a lot of "exploration" time during the day but each material (books, blocks, legos, chalk etc) has to be taken out, used and returned in the manner expected. It's lovely to have kids develop their interests, but can lead to uneven development (DS was a great reader lousy at fine motor) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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Small school, not NYC. That's interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think Sasha and Malia will be inclined to take on white boyfriends? I can kinda see them both gravitating to white JCrew catalog male model types. I suspect that there will be pressure from the Whitehouse to find a Dante DeBlasio type, though. So sad :( 89 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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I bet they both marry Jewish guys. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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uh, no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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Also doubtful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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black/jewish make good couples and offspring. lenny kravits, lisa bonet, zoe kravitz, sophie okenado, drake, taye diggs and idina menzel (while it lasted). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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OMG get a life. I wish them both well with decent guys, whatever color (and btw, their Dad is half white) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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Seriously. They could have an asian, mexican, white, black boyfriend. As long as he is nice and a gentleman...I fail to see how this is anyone's business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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and their aunt is half Asian with a full Asian husband. I'm sure their parent's won't mind the race of the person they are with, as long as they are good people (though I imagine well educated will be somewhat of a requirement) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 09:06 PM Flag
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They will sample all the flavors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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I think Malia probably already has - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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I have already planned for my nephew to marry Malia. I don't know what Sasha will do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Dante is cool. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, his hair is groovy, man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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He's doofy. [ Reply | More ]
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What is a "Dante DeBlasio type" and why it would be "so sad" if they married one? Because he would also be part-black, vs. 100% white? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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good question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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given how that boy reportedly spends his free time, i am pretty damn sure he wont get anywhere near those girls. signed, mom of an nyc teen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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DeBlasio ' s kids seem like a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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np- The fact that he's kept his Afro all this time tells me that he loves attention and not in a good way. Any other kid would have gotten bored and wanted a new style, and cut it short for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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What is sad exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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I doubt if they'll date many white guys. They're part of the black elite Martha's Vineyard crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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do "black" and part of 'Martha's Vineyard crowd" really belong in the same sentence?? LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Oaks Bluff is a historic vacation place for the black UMC. Read a book sometime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
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Interesting. I would like to read a book on it. Was there a move also? Seriously. Rec's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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don't have any, but it's a really cute town. there is an historic carousel there. although overall i don't love MV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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np: A fiction book is "The Wedding" by Dorothy West: "In her first novel in forty-seven years, Dorothy West, the last surviving member of the Harlem Renaissance, offers an intimate glimpse into African American middle class. Set on bucolic Martha's Vineyard in the 1950s, The Wedding tells the story of life in the Oval, a proud, insular community made up of the best and brightest of the East Coast's black bourgeoisie." There were also historically a number of annual black vacationers to Sag Harbor in the Hamptons (they are still there, but numbers are smaller, as many have sold their houses/land for 5-7 times what they paid for them decades ago). A novel about spending summers there as a Manhattan prep school kid in the 80s is "Sag Harbor" by Colson Whitehead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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A non-fiction book about all of these places is "Our Kind of People: Inside America's Black Upper Class." It's from 1999 and is on Amazon. It only has three stars because when it came out a some people, both lower-income blacks and whites, were upset to know that these UMC-to-wealthy black people existed and were very angry about the book. The newer reviews are complimentary. But the author does come off as a snob (he is a snob, IMO - on UB he would be called a striver, ha) even though many of the people in the book - who have much more money than he or his family does - do not. Interesting histories of the black UMC in various cities, plus where they vacation, where they went to school, the camps they sent their kids to... [ Reply | More ]
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np again: The author is a trustee at Horace Mann now, BTW, so I guess he wouldn't be considered a UB striver anymore. It HAS been 15 years since the book came out. ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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The Wedding was made into a TV miniseries with Halle Berry. Oprah produced it. Don't know if it's available for streaming or download anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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I'm extremely well read. Somehow the black elite Martha's Vineyard crowd hasn't made an appearance in a single book I've read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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Oh, dear. Flyover country? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+10000 million! Signed black mom who goes to MV every year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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That sounds like a really small club. No offense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Another flyover... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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It would seem so. [ Reply | More ]
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It's an insular club. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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I hope you remember that Sasha and Malia are part white. Their father is half white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Ha! Do you know how many American black people are walking around with white ancestors (grand-parents, great-grandparents)? A lot. [ Reply | More ]
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99% to be sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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So what? They are not known to have biracial fathers. So why is it a problem for Sasha/Malia to date someone white when they are at least 1/4 white themselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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What problem but OR is acting like their mix is unusual. It really isn't. [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, it is. You are talking about grandparents and great who are white. Their father is half white. It's much more direct than the (large) number of black people with more distant white ancestors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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grandparents and great-grandparents [ Reply | More ]
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sure. but if you didn't know their father was mixed would you have any idea they they were 1/4 white? For that matter, if you didn't know that Obama was mixed and he was randomly walking down the street would you even guess? [ Reply | More ]
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The point is, for those three, it's known. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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OMG. Why do you think about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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Maybe they will be lesbians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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Nah. Although since we're speaking about the DDeBlasio I could see that for their daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Who cares? What a dumb question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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They will marry twin Navajo fry bread makers and live in Albuquerque. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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They seem like sweet kids. The younger one looks just like Wanda Sykes IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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Check out the new photo linked above. No, she doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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^linked below. Scroll [ Reply | More ]
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Wow they both grew up! Well she used to look like WS. [ Reply | More ]
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:) [ Reply | More ]
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Their father will be long out of the White House by the time they marry, so no pressure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Am I the only one who thinks one of them is just downright ugly? (the taller one)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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probably [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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+1 she is beautiful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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What a terrible thing to say about kids. Reflects on you, though. Not them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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so mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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Mean. They are kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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If Chelsea "Eleanor Roosevelt" Clinton got married, anything is possible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Cold but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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not really true, but whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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I am more interested in where they will go to college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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You mean Princeton or Harvard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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long ways away for the youngest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Isn't she 14? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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Just turned 13 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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They will marry some Jack and Jill type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Not necessarily. Different world now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Their parents picked spouses from different backgrounds. Why wouldn't the daughters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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The black JCrew models are pretty hot too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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WTF. not all biracial families are the same. sasha and malia seem way smarter and more polished than the di blasio kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Any good Dr. recs for IBS? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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I like drs Sanghavi (father and daughter) and they take insurance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts? I was driving with my 23 yo DS up to our country house. I dozed off (he was driving), and he got pulled over for speeding. After the cop gave him a ticket and a talking-to, DS turned and gave the cop the finger. Luckily neither the cop nor his partner saw it, but I was appalled. I am still sick to my stomach, I feel like I raised a complete effing asshole. Thoughts? DH says I am overreacting. 64 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Congrats, sounds like your son was just being ALPHA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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There is something to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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op. He was going 93 mph. Dangerous, in my opinion. Deserved a ticket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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That is very dangerous. Was he in a bad mood about something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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op. No, I don't think so. I think he just wanted to get the drive over with, and I was asleep so he thought he'd get away with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Well, it's that age bracket (about 18-30) that commits all the crimes and drives like this. All that testosterone. It's really too bad that DH isn't taking this more seriously. He seems proud of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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op. Yes I think DH is weirdly proud that DS acted so "tough." I am refusing to speak to either of them. Mostly I just feel sad though. I feel like my DS clearly has a bad character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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I don't think it's bad character, just high T. I would emphasize how dangerous it is and maybe even show stats for his age group and then let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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Driving fast is not necessarily bad character, but the rest . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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"Let it go"? - How sad. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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OP. I don't think I am capable of letting this go, anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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NP: maybe he was trying to qualify... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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LOL. Only on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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auto-admit troll strikes again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Fake. Unless you are dipping heavily in the Xanax, you wouldn't be so calm about your kid driving 93 mph while you're asleep in the car, then giving the ticketing officer the finger. "Thoughts"? Yeah, try another fake post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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op. I knew someone would say this. It's not possible to convey how upset I am in writing. I was so angry I could not even talk to him and I drove the rest of the way. I have still not spoken to him, this all went down last night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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And what will his punishment be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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He's 23, you need to kick him out of the country house and send him back to his apartment or wherever he lives. Or does he live with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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OP. He lives with us. That's been another point of contention. Despite graduating from a great school last year, he refuses to get a well-paying job. In college he had internships at a couple of top companies (through my DH's connections) but he failed to work hard enough to get a job offer. Looking back I should have made him figure this stuff out for himself, he is too used to getting everything handed to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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"he is too used to getting everything handed to him." - And that's how you raised him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP. I have an older child who did not turn out this way, and I raised them both the same way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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Did not turn out this way yet. You got lucky with one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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OP. She is 27 and a resident physician. Not spoiled or bratty at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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OP. How can I "punish" a 23 yo man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Cut off access to the Bank of Mom and Dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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OP. DH is the one who handles that. DH does not think this is a big deal at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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So DH is expecting to house/support him indefinitely? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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OP. No, just until DS figures out "What he really wants to do in life." Whatever and whenever that is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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So you have just ceded all rights and power as a mother, yes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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OP. I had no idea I'd still be "mothering" him at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Then cut him off financially. Don't cede your rights as a wife either by saying "dh handles the money". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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He doesn't need to be lounging around at your country house, unless he owns it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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+++ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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She's not calm, her DH is. She's sick to her stomach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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She's appalled and sick to her stomach according to her post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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You did, but unfortunately it's too late to do anything about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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^^^meaning you did raise a jerk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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OP. I don't know how it happened. He wasn't like this in high school or before. Growing up he was always a nice kid, happy, all the other kids and parents liked him. In high school he was a good student, 3-sport athlete. He went to a great college. I don't know how he became like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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Sounds as if he always had his own way and never had to work hard to achieve anything in the real world. Someone actually said no to him and he didn't like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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OP. Yes maybe this is part of it. My older child has always challenged herself more and has developed more grit and character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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Maybe he'll figure it out one day when they Rodney King his ass. Don't worry. It's not necessarily your fault. Some people just need to learn things the hard way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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Unfortunately he sounds like he is on his way to becoming a much-compained about UB DH (in 10 years). In all seriousness, I imagine this isn't the first time you've seen him be a jerk. I have teens so I am not sure how you parent grown up kids. I guess there is always more to learn and you have to continue to have conversations with them about their behaviour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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OP. He was not a jerk at all until college. In HS and before, he was a dream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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That's good news. It means he can nip this in the bud. But what do you think happened in college? Not a great peer group? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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OP. Maybe. He went to a very preppy college, played lacrosse and was in a fraternity there. I know that group has a reputation for being jerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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I see that he is un- or underemployed, in which case he somehow is having trouble reaching his potential. Maybe he needs to have some opportunities to figure things out for himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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OP. We've given him plenty of opportunities, including internships at top investment banks, which he squandered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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It's good that you are aware of this and not making excuses for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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That will be a $weet ticket! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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He's 23. While you're DH is under-reacting, I don't think you need to freak out. Instead, talk to him about it. Also, make him earn his lifestyle. If he's unreceptive to growing up, you do have a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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This is fake. It hits all the stereotypical rich kid points. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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OP. It's not fake. Perhaps he is a "stereotypical rich kid." I have 3 other children who do not fit that mold at all, though. My main emotion right now is sadness. I feel sad and disappointed that my DS has shown this side of his character. I hope it's a maturity thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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How old are your other kids? Are they ds or dd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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OP. I have 27 yo and 20 yo DD, and a 14 yo DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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Uh first you said you had an older child. Now you have three other children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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OP. yes, I have one older child and two younger. My point was that my older child did not turn out like DS, she is out of the house, self-sufficient, successful. It's too early to tell with my younger kids, as these changes in DS occurred during college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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The way you're letting ds act is not setting a good example for your younger children, who also live with you. Your older, more responsible dd is probably resentful that her brother gets to slide on everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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OP. Yes my oldest is very resentful, but to be honest, I did not fully see her perspective until this incident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Why fake? Stereotypes exist for a reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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Yep. But OP is a stereotype as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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You are not over reacting. it was really bad for a few reasons. first, he is not acknowledging that he was completely in the wrong and getting a ticket was his own fault and cop was just doing his job but second, he put himself in a very dangerous situation - cops beat up people that do stuff like that and 99% of the time they get away with it or they find some excuse to throw them in jail for a night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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I hope you said something to your son [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] POLL: Would you rather be married and poor, or divorced and rich? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Rich. Always rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Dumb rich v. Smart poor= rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Beautiful poor vs ugly rich= rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Fat rich v. Thin poor= rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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happily married and poor? i still think i'd take rich. money does buy happiness, after all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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That's good to know. No, wait, I don't have enough money to be ecstatically happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Divorced and rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Divorced and rich. You can always have a boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Are you kidding??? Divorced and rich all the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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Actually, considering my dh - I'd take divorced and poor, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Depends on what you mean by poor. If you mean UB poor like with a HHI of 150k, then married and poor all the way. If you mean legitimately below the poverty line, then divorced and rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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if they mean UB poor than can you imagine what rich must mean? I take the UB rich over UB poor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Happily married? Then married and poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Divorced and rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Married poor and laughing at DH's jokes with a crappy car with a squeaky fan. If we wanted to be richer why would anyone have children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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Married and eating at IHOP/Dennys? No f*cking thank you. Rich, always rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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Eating at IHop and Denny's is good food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Married and poor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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Only someone with a scummy husband could answer this question so easily. My happy marriage isn't worth trading a lot of money for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Do I get to have kids if I am divorced in this scenario? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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The real question should be whether people would rather be skinny or rich. Because honestly, most sad women on this board hate their husbands and you haven't really asked fair question. Many people on this board do not know how to have good, solid relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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i see it differently. I am a pretty self sufficient person so if I was also rich I am not sure why I would get married in the first place. The real question to you, is why do you value marriage so highly in today's day and age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Maybe because I really love my husband and enjoy parenting children with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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you can have a good relationship with an SO and you can co-parent without being married. Marriage is overrated IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Having been both, money is more dependable than love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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It would be more of an accurate dilemma if you had said "happily married and poor." you can be married and poor and miserable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Poor, if happily married. From what I've heard about divorce (and witnessed among friends) it sounds like hell. I'm used to not having a lot of money, we're LMC by Manhattan standards, so I doubt being 'poor' would faze me much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't understand SAHMs who think the kids need to be doing something outside all day, every day. I am a SAHM and I can't get it together to do this. Some days I need at least half a day to clean and do laundry, or another half a day to go to Target or food shopping. Most of the SAHMs I know are constantly taking the kids on all day hikes, followed by the pool, followed by a bbq at someone's house. If I keep that pace up, my house is a disaster, nobody has clean clothes, and I get super crabby if I don't have some time to myself to read and have tea. I think everyone else just thinks I'm lazy if I turn down the hike/beach/museum days once in a while to clean and have the kids chill at home with legos or (gasp!) a movie. (And I can hear the other moms now asking me if I really let my kids watch a movie at home on a sunny day! Yes, I really do!) So for those of you who are out and active all day, when do you clean, or go to Target, or just decompress at home? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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I can't believe they are really out all day 5 days a week! How old are your children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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My kids, and most of the other SAHMs I know, have kids in the 3-8 year old range. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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We are out all day every day in summer. But it doesn't matter what others do or how they do it. Mommies get to decide how to manage their time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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when do you clean and run errands? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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I decided a clean house wasn't as important as summer fun. We are out and about most of the day, so easy to toss an errand in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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OP: Maybe you can help me. I find it challenging to get everything done if we are out of the house all day. Like we come home from the beach one day, and I need to wash all of the sandy, wet things, clean out beach toys and beach bag, in addition to all the dinner and evening prep/cleanup. Then if the plan is a hike the next morning, I need to get everything ready for that and pack those bags along with all the snacks, toys, summer equipment we will need for another day out of the house. No car, of course, if I lived in a burb I could keep things like beach towels, kick boards, baseball bats, water squirters right in the car (wouldn't that be nice!). I find doing this 5 days a week to be very overwhelming, especially trying to fit in food shopping and all meal prep and cleanup nightly. I would love some advice on how you fit it in and make it work particularly with getting bags, toys, and equipment ready for each day, and then dinner meal prep, shopping, and cleanup. Thanks for any tips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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I didn't feel the need to wash the towels and clean the beach toys immediately. The towels are dry by the time you get home so who cares. I just rinsed suits out in cold water and threw over shower curtain. Packed up in the morning for round two. If your towel has sand so what? Shake it out at the playground. Made pb&j sandwich bag of cookies bag if chips for lunch every day - filled up lemonade bottle and put in freezer night before. Often ate dinner out too -subway or pizza at concert in park. I don't think I ever washed blanket (unless big spill ) - I guess my standards of clen and need are just way lower than yours :). But it's 8 weeks. Who cares [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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OP: This is helpful, thank you. I think you are telling me that being out and about every day was your priority, and you didn't stress, because you didn't try to also fit in all the cleaning and prep and dinner prep and shopping that I am trying to fit in. Is that right? I admit that if we did takeout most nights, things would be easier. But that's not really our lifestyle or in our budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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I'm as poor as a church mouse. You eat cheap pizza or a 5.00 sub. Your lifestyle is fine, but keep in mind - the childhood memories your children will have - a clean house an lovely dinner or a water gun battle kids vs mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Well, I am a WOHM and I do food shopping on Sunday mornings and laundry/cleaning at night after bedtime. You do not need all day to get this stuff done. You can balance both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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I am the WOHM below you. And yes, these things get done in the evening, but I don't do half as much as for my family now as I did when I SAH. My house is no longer immaculate, I can't always get dinner on the table, the laundry isn't always done, and we almost never entertain, certainly not the way we used to. Things are not as organized as when I SAH and I am constantly exhausted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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I'm a SAHM and I'm pretty much like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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I hate being outside, and my kids get worn out if we do too much in the heat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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VEAL FAMILY ALERT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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I am exactly like you. I have teens and now WOH, but when I was a sahm we might take half day excursions and that's it. The house needed to be cleaned, bills to pay, dinner to make, what used to drive me nuts is I would offer to host play dates at home, and get house work done simultaneously, and the other mom would say, let's take them to the park/museum/etc. No, I don't have all day to be out of the house playing with dc. I think these are the women with full time help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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I posted above no relatives, no help. Just enjoy outdoors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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I imagine that it is entirely possible to make this a priority. I'm always focused on my home as we entertain a lot so I need to keep it company clean. I also spend a lot of time cooking, for guests and for ourselves, it means it's hard for me to imagine taking a whole day to be out of the house without feeling like I am not getting anything done. I realize as I am writing this that I could use a lot of help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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Your children are more important than a clean house. Find a balance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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Well one dc is off to college and the other is in hs. They're great- independent, self sufficient, and happy. It was what it was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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So what kind of help did you just realize you need? And no one said your children wouldn't turn out well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Sorry, that should have been written in he past tense. I now WOH, but was talking about when I SAH when DCs were younger. And btw, I could have used help then, and I could certainly use help now. But don't have much money to spare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Most SAHM do not go on outings everyday all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Is the goal to do what most moms do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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Tell your friends that too much sun exposure is not healthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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O.M.G. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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I'm WOHM, but I feel this way about weekend days - like my conscience is telling me we need to be doing stuff with our kids every moment, but we can't do that and also have food and clean laundry. My mom SAH and I very clearly remember her telling me to occupy myself while she did some chores or paid bills or whatever. It wasn't all about me all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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Going outside isn't all about the kids either. *I* enjoy the beach, park, outdoor concerts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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I wonder the same. I take kids out in the morning, we always come home for a break/ lunch. Some afternoons we go back out and some we stay in. I need to get things done, start dinner, take a break myself! I don't know how they stay out all day/ every day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Because they like it and are not the same as you. This isn't hard - more than one way to live life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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OP: You're posting about different levels of enjoyment, and I'm more wondering the nuts and bolts of getting everything done. The post about getting takeout instead of making dinner every night was helpful. I understand that you're saying there's more than one way to be home with kids all day, but are you saying that there's an easier way to be out with kids all day, every day AND have the clean house, clothes, errands done, etc because I would love more tips and advice from you. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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NP you can't have it all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] how much better are my chances doing clomid + iui versus clomid + timed intercourse? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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clomid here and timed intercourse + DHEA and it worked like a charm at 42. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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Depends on why you need Clomid. Not ovulating? Male factor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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op: not ovulating (regularly). No sperm issues at all. Conceived DC on third month of clomid a few years ago and another preg (m/c) on second month of clomid. Just did one new month of clomid and it didn't take. I'm 32 fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Only used my Medela breast pump for a few weeks. Can it be sold/donated or should it be thrown out? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Donate or sell it to a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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there's no harm in trying to give it to someone else, but you probably won't find a lot of takers. My sister accepted mine, but only because we are closely related. Even if it's perfectly sterile, most people will think ick, especially coming from a stranger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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I accepted used [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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I bought a new one rather than take my friend's old one for free. It's a small expense for peace of mind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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it can be re-used, just need to buy new tubes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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and they only sell new tubes online. the stores don't carry them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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sell it. someone will buy it for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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It can definitely be reused, just needs new tubes and parts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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You can sterilize all the parts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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Give to a friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Give it to me. I am renting a hospital grade pump coz my Ameda pump sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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Yes!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got hair cut & colored. Cost around $200. Gonna tip stylist $40. What do I tip his assistant? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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$5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Thx. That's what I was thinking... :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a nanny and there are several things I believe my charge's pediatrician has overlooked. My boss just adores her and gushes over her. I should just keep my mouth shut, right? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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What type of things? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Though his food allergies were eczema, missed a speech delay, we have been waiting months for her to sign off on a hearing test. Not concerned at how little he sleeps (only 8 hours a night). I've worked for many other families an have never seen a pediatrician so "laid back" or "careless". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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these aren't behavioral issues that make your job a living hell, so maybe you should chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Op: I'm not concerned about my job being harder. My concern is that the pediatrician seems careless and this is a kid with a lot of medical issues. I am also the type of person that likes to get clearance for issues. I think all of these things combined are a sign of her not being the best pediatrician for this child. But at the end of the day, he's not my kid and my opinion doesn't matter that much. I've just seen much better/more attentive pediatricians in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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the mom gushes because the ped says what she wants to hear. stay out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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those aren't serious medical issues. a lot of people have eczema, hearing problems and don't sleep well and get on just fine. did you consider that it isn't good for children to get a lot of unnecessary testing and to be exposed to germy doctor's offices constantly? if the hearing issue affects school, you can be sure the child's teacher will tell the parents about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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Does that means his mom still gives him those foods or are you responsible for meals? This one I think you could put it as a question and say that you've noticed that when he eats x he seems to have this reaction, do you think it might be an allergy/ should maybe try skipping it for a while, etc. On sleep, presumably parents wish he slept more too. Or are they keeping him up late at night? Does he need to be woken up in morning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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The food issue was resolved when the baby almost died. So now he has been fully tested and we know what to feed him. It's just a growing list of oversights by the pediatrician. And re: sleep, mom and dad are miserable. I've suggested an earlier bedtime a million times and they are too afraid to try it. He sleeps about 9pm to 5am on a good night. Wakes up for hours in the middle of the night a few times a week. I feel bad for them. Wish they could get the support they need to try to fix this before it becomes a bad habit...but really nothing I can do about it. I did get bedtime moved 1.5 hours earlier but I think more would be better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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How do you know the parents didn't bring it up with the doctor? Perhaps the doctor said there's nothing they can do about it and that the problem will go away when the child is older. Maybe this job isn't a good fit for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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I know my bosses are frustrated and overtired but have made no attempt at sleep training. I am losing sympathy for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Good start, anyway. There is no way the parents want the DC waking up in the middle of the night so I would think they are trying. Not much a pediatrician can really do there. That seems more parental trial and error. I doubt you'll have much success with direct criticism of the doctor. If the parents aren't doing something bc they are kind of hoping it will go away, that's a little different. You could mention that DC didn't seem to hear you when you called from across the room or other specific examples so they don't ignore. FWIW, at 3 my DC had what seemed like a slight hearing issue and didn't hear as well on one of those tests. Ped looked thought might be wax issue and wasn't concerned. Sure enough, a few weeks later in tub it was like a big glop of wax loosened/dislodged and I was able to basically get it all out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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8 hours a night is not sleep deprivation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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Also off the charts low for a kid his age. And he wakes up for hours in the middle of the night too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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It's very very low for a young child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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normal is a range, not a fixed number. 8 is low, but depending on the child it may be adequate. if it's not seriously affecting the nanny's job, it's not the nanny's place to harp on the ped about it. it's not like the doctor can magically fix it anyway, it's really up to the parents to instill good sleep habits. is the nanny a live-in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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Op: sleep is not the main issue here. But the pediatrician isn't even encouraging them to try something to see if they can make his sleeping habits better. Just dismissed it as maybe he isn't a good sleeper. Meanwhile all three of them are miserable and sleep deprived. I agree, this is not the pediatricians biggest concern but if she encouraged them to explore some new techniques, they would all benefit. I was more concerned with her missing signs relatin to his need for speech and OT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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ITD. 8 hours is very little sleep for a young child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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np: All the moms who let their kids stay up late will tell you that it depends on the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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How would you know? Were you in the examination room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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depends what it is I guess...but I am assuming these are things you pointed out to the mom before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Yes. Just do your job and STFU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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np: what if the issues are behavioral and it makes nanny's job harder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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she can do the job or quit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Yeah, your boss is not going to take any criticism of the darling pediatrician very well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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What kind of things? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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Lax pediatrician, stupid parents. Grin & bear it or get a better job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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They will be so upset when I leave, but I am planning to move on next summer. I will be ready for a change by then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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You seem great. Find another job where you are valued. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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I just want the little guy to get all of the help he needs. That isn't happening now. Luckily one of the specialists is not shy and has pushed them to seek additional resources in regards to his development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Hypo: Your 19 year old daughter comes home from freshman year at HYP and introduces you to her new boyfriend. He is on Pell Grants. What is your response? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Do better with the fake next time. This is tiresome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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that and the other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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I would tell him I'm pleased to meet him and be a gracious host. What you would do, I have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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to laugh at a post like this. better to marry a smart man who can create his own path in life than a daddy's boy legacy who will never achieve true independence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.24.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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My Harvard/tt Manhattan school BF brought me home and I was poorish in comparison and on loans and grants and they loved me. They liked that I put a fire under his ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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You do realize they don't tattoo us, right? It's not always easy to tell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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He knows how to work and won't rest on his laurels. Better than some rich trust fund kid who will sleep with escorts and never be successful on their own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.24.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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