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[ - ] According to statistics, a rising number of Americans are mortally suiciding themselves to their fatal, terminal deaths. Why is this? Is modern life in the US really so grim as to compel THIS outcome? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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you tell me. is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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Honestly, I think it's because of access to guns. Other attempts can be reversed if you come to your senses. But, once you shoot yourself in the head it's over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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It probably doesn't help. But, South Korea has a higher suicide rate than the US, and hardly any of them involve firearms. In fact, South Korea's gun laws are even stricter than those of Japan - while you can keep a firearm at your residence with a Japanese gun license, South Korean licenses require storage at a police station, unless you are a rural farmer with an additional license to hunt or control invasive species. I recall reading that a grand total of four people were murdered by gunfire in South Korea last year, in a nation of 53 million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:47 AM Flag
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Fuck off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:44 AM Flag
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I think it's that for people outside of the urban centers or other high-growth areas, there's not a lot of opportunity. Blue collar jobs are diminishing, white collar jobs are getting outsourced, and what's left? Service jobs, health care, and anyone else is shit out of luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:47 AM Flag
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y'all better make boatloads of money while the going is still good because your kids won't have a job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:49 AM Flag
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Not all terminal deaths are fatal but all fatal deaths are terminal. Or do I have that backwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:53 AM Flag
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Mortally suiciding and fatal terminal deaths? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:00 AM Flag
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Yeah. Find a native speaker to check your posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:07 AM Flag
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Yeah; it's like if someone is mortally slain and executed to a fatal terminal death, but by her own hands. Auto-annihilation, aka "suicide." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:08 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:12 AM Flag
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OP is kidding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:25 AM Flag
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Hi, newbie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:59 AM Flag
[ - ] So, after the latest news cycle, how are you guys loving your shit Vichy President? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:37 AM Flag
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I don't agree wih comparing this administration with Vichy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:39 AM Flag
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NP... Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:39 AM Flag
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The Vichy government arranged for death to Jews and death to Gays, So the equivalent of Vichy is a government that allows Muslims to immigrate. So Hillary = Vichy. Trump administration = Winston churchill, protecting the vulnerable from Muslims. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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Oh I see you're smoking that good shit tonite! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:44 AM Flag
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Burn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:47 AM Flag
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I can't even keep up. Every day it's another crisis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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I love him and the media is shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:47 AM Flag
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I'm sorry you're about to overdose on opioids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:03 AM Flag
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This is the kind of hateful hyperbolic nonsense that will allow him to win again in 2020. Mark my words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:07 AM Flag
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Okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Is 'being family oriented' something you looked for in the man you married? Like, was it important to you that he be interested in developing relationships with your nuclear family and having a family of your own? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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of course that's important. that's like the #1 thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:39 AM Flag
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I'll offer some advice here - I believe that at least some small part of my divorce is due to neither me nor my DH being close to each other's families. It's not always so easy to walk away from a marriage with a support system around you. So all you who complain about your in-laws, I would say tread lightly unless they are truly certifiably toxic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:42 AM Flag
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It was important to me that he was someone who wanted to have a family with me. It was also important that he had a healthy outlook on family. It didn't matter how he got along with his own family or my family but it was important that he had worked on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Cleaning lady was off July 5 and I paid her for it, and now she has been out of the country for the last two weeks. Do I pay for one or both of those weeks too? She comes a few hours once a week and we have no vacation days agreement. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:33 AM Flag
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*July 4 not 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:33 AM Flag
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of course not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:34 AM Flag
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no. did she let you know she was taking those weeks off? give notice about them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:39 AM Flag
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Yes, plenty of notice. She did nothing wrong at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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ok when she said her vacation dates, did you and she discussed if it would be paid or not? I guess not, huh. How long has she been working for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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We did not. She's been working with us about 6 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:44 AM Flag
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Uumm no lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:48 AM Flag
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I don't have a formal agreement with mine, but I pay for her sick days, my vacation days, and her vacation days. But this is after decades of working for me. She does not take advantage of this. I know she really needs the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you love Soul Cycle? Why? How is it different from a normal spin class? Or spin/interval weight combo class? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:24 AM Flag
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No. Spinning hurts my lady parts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:26 AM Flag
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Including soul cycle? And yeah, me too. And my butt. The instructor claims it gets better. However, I haven't tried soul cycle. There isn't one convenient to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:29 AM Flag
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seriously. no, it does not hurt lady parts. you're standing up for most of it. have you ever been to one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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No, like I said, there isn't one near me, but one is "coming soon" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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you're in vancouver? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:45 AM Flag
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No. It's not. Just a brand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:28 AM Flag
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TY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:29 AM Flag
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That's just ridiculous. You don't know what you're talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:29 AM Flag
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Lol. Let's hear this, please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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OP, how's it different? I'm curious why people love it so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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Some people like a certain instructor (or their playlist) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:32 AM Flag
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That I get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:33 AM Flag
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ok, but that can be the case for any spin class. OP is asking what's special about a SoulCycle class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:33 AM Flag
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It's different because it's not boring and tedious like most other spin classes. It's fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:32 AM Flag
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Depends on the instructor and your attitude. Like anywhere else. It's like nails on a chalkboard for me, I don't need that intense, loud, high energy "motivation" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:34 AM Flag
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have you been to a good soulcycle class? with one of the best instructors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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Lol. Yes. Not my thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:46 AM Flag
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it's not for everyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:48 AM Flag
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OP again, and does it burn more calories? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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it does for me because i'm actually motivated to work hard vs other spin classes. but maybe not compared to other forms of exercise like barry's bootcamp or just running [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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Same. A good class really gets me to push myself because I like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:04 AM Flag
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Better music, better choreography [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:58 AM Flag
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Better music, better choreography [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:59 AM Flag
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There are some great teachers that make some classes amazing. They are worth it. The rest not so much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] DH is most useful for... 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:19 AM Flag
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Putting Benadryl on my hard to reach bug bites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:19 AM Flag
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Paycheck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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Carrying heavy things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:21 AM Flag
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Plumbing issues (his dad was a plumber), minor electrical work; maintaining sound system; picking up the slack when DD is off from school or camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:21 AM Flag
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I'm jealous!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:24 AM Flag
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opening jars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:22 AM Flag
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Companionship with kid stuff- he's the only one who cares to hear all the details and takes as much joy as I do in the little sweet or funny things they say. Of course I couldn't do without money or sex ether. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:25 AM Flag
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Not a whole lot. Making me feel like shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:26 AM Flag
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Same. It is so depressing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:05 AM Flag
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Making me feel like a superstar who can achieve anything she wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:30 AM Flag
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Lucky!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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I know, I lucked out. He actually 100% believes it too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:37 AM Flag
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Making me laugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:37 AM Flag
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Ruining tiles and fixtures with harsh cleanser he sneaks in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:38 AM Flag
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Bringing me coffee in bed every morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:09 AM Flag
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Lucky woman. Very, very lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:26 AM Flag
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We're divorced now but he was very useful for minor fix-it projects. I'm practically SN when it comes to those types of projects so it was a huge adjustment when I needed to handle solo. Other than that... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Who else feels lonesome tonight ? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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I feel fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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+ 11 weeks pregnant and bloated as hell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:23 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:24 AM Flag
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OR: 15 weeks here. I feel you. Miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:25 AM Flag
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I'm 36.5 weeks pregnant. Moo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:30 AM Flag
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I feel fat, not pregnant just actual fat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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That's what "social media is all about, isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:17 AM Flag
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Bunch of lonely introverts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:18 AM Flag
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I'm alone but loving it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:19 AM Flag
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Been lonely since DH suddenly left [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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Oh no. I'm sorry :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:26 AM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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Hope it gets better with time. And if he suddenly left you are probably better off without him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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It's been hard, but yes I agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:44 AM Flag
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Me too. But it is better than dealing with his drunken anger which was every friday before he left [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:06 AM Flag
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Why did he leave? How young are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:48 AM Flag
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How long has it been since he left? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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Reading "H is for Hawk." Marvelous book.about loneliness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:21 AM Flag
[ - ] PSA. Been off FB for many months, just recently logged back in. I do miss hearing about people I don't often see. But the reality is - FB is not reality. In that time since going silent on fB I have made more face to face plans than I ever did in my years on fb. It challenged me to initiate real connections. Also I was appalled to see how many pictures I put up of my kids - I don't feel safe about that at all anymore!! So that's my pSA. Thanks and good night. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:10 AM Flag
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I am constantly amazed at what is put out there for the whole world,literally, to see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:14 AM Flag
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Yes. It's a "private" page. But so are your automated credit card payments, the entire London hospital system, and Anything you bought with cryptocurrency, right? Right?!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] At what age do dc become disinterested in the playground? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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mine was done at 6 or 7. Unless a really good fried is with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:08 AM Flag
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ah that's sad. my kid is 4 i didn't realize i had such little time ledt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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4th grade - but then it's BB court [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:11 AM Flag
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UNinterested grrrrr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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You're right. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:21 AM Flag
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sorry for growling at you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:24 AM Flag
[ - ] My ex got married today. He married the woman he left me for. Also took him five freaking years. I wouldn't have been so patient. Cheers to them. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:55 AM Flag
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Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:00 AM Flag
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I'm not too sad. I'm happy for him. Genuinely a good guy. She's a babe. I am surprised it has taken them this long. I assume she's past child bearing years at this point. My mom hates him (for pathetic reasons). I just liked him because when I was in a car accident he's the one who came to see if I was ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:04 AM Flag
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Easier that they don't have children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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You sound like a spineless, selfish loser. He deserved better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:00 AM Flag
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Np Huh?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:36 AM Flag
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Ugh sorry. If it makes you feel any better, these second marriages have a high probability of failing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:04 AM Flag
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Fwiw, we never married. He was just a guy I dated and maybe loved for the wrong reasons. He was half black/half white and my mom rejected him. Made me want him more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:10 AM Flag
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Yes. He should have stuck around so that you could rebel and work out your mommy issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:01 AM Flag
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As long as the checks keep coming though, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:04 AM Flag
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Same thing happened to a friend of mine. However in her case, it was the guy's ex-gf he went back to and married. Exactly one year after they broke up. Even worse is they were still on speaking terms but he never mentioned it. She found out via social media. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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Highly likely they will divorce too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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Wow. Sour grapes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:08 AM Flag
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Statistics = sour grapes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:13 AM Flag
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They're both in their forties. First marriage for both as far as I know. We are still FB friends but I don't know much about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:11 AM Flag
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I thought he was your ex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:13 AM Flag
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Ex boyfriend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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Oh nbd stop wasting our time with ex bfs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:19 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:55 AM Flag
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Get over it already! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:08 AM Flag
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Just drinking my rosé and thinking about what could have been. Don't be a hater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:11 AM Flag
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Poor her. She officially has to put up with his shit! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:08 AM Flag
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I'm waiting to see the announcenwmnt any day now on social media. Know it's coming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] I frequently spend time with a (very) elderly person who makes a lot of really inappropriate comments. She lives alone and is a neighbor of my in-laws; they include her in all of their holidays and get-together (and bring her to almost everything I host as well.) Can I/should I speak up when she makes these comments? Do I let it go, as I have for years? My kids are old enough now to absorb some of what she says and it makes me really uncomfortable; however, I don't want to start anything with her, especially in a situation in which we are both guests. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:46 AM Flag
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Does she have dementia? What types of things does she say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:48 AM Flag
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She does not have dementia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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She is racist and xenophobic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:57 AM Flag
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Is she hard of hearing? If yes, I'd say something like "that doesn't gel with my values" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:49 AM Flag
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You continue to let it go. It's a good lesson for your dc if you treat it that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:49 AM Flag
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And do I tell them in private later that she's wrong but that I just "let it go?" How does this teach them to stand up for other people and their values? Do I explain that the elderly live by different rules then the rest of us? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:52 AM Flag
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Maybe not that she is "wrong," but that people come from different places, generations, and may believe things we don't believe. Doesn't make them a bad person, and not everyone believe the same things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:54 AM Flag
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It actually does kind of make you a bad person when you still advocate segregation, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:01 AM Flag
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You can't hold elderly people to the same standard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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OP: Well, do I have to keep having her at my house, if she makes me uncomfortable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:13 AM Flag
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That would be the nice thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:14 AM Flag
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You don't give your kids much credit do you? Pretty sure most kids understand that we disagree with grandparents lonely bitter neighbor - but not time, place or person to confront. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:55 AM Flag
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OP: I don't know. I would hope so, but they are small, and we are talking about frequent situations where they are exposed to seriously racist attitudes, and NO ONE bothers to correct this to the instigator. I'm actually intrigued that the concensus on this most liberal of sites seems to favor catering to the elderly racist over promoting civil liberties. Free speech FTW I guess! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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Well, the elderly do kind of live by different rules so this wouldn't be the wrong thing to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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You talk to your children. You can't control others -- use it as a learning opportunity. You let it go with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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Okay, so I should not even say something like "I actually don't think those two Black children playing in the street are harming your neighborhood in any way" when she is being vocally racist in front of my kids? What kind of a learning opportunity do you see here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:57 AM Flag
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I would. But I'm pretty outspoken, and I recognize that's not always a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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How inappropriate is she, in what way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:57 AM Flag
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Well, nearly every time she references our former President, she uses a racist term that nearly everyone would agree is highly offensive. I'd prefer my kids not hear this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:09 AM Flag
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Did you hear the pod cast (snap judgement or the moth I can't remember) about the black man who befriended a KKK member in his old age and helped care for him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:16 AM Flag
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^^^snap judgement "unrequited" episode. Highly recommended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:18 AM Flag
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I would say that your family doesn't use that word. Sometimes I have simply said, "language." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:35 AM Flag
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The downside to being tolerant is putting up with the intolerable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:57 AM Flag
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I can't believe that people who don't agree with this woman would include her in everything. I personally would keep distant of anyone who behaves this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:18 AM Flag
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Self sorting doesn't make anyone or anything better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:18 AM Flag
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I'd prefer not to waste my time arguing/debating with elderly people who have silly opinions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:30 AM Flag
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My point would not be to correct her, to change her mind, or to take her to task. It would be to show my kids that we don't tolerate racism and that we defend our beliefs, although apparently on UB, we very much tolerate racism as long as the racist is of a certain generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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This has nothing to do with my OR. I said I would keep away from such a person and not waste my time on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:39 AM Flag
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^^This is how I behave IRL. People are free to believe what they want, but when it is the opposite of what I believe I don't thin I'm important enough to put myself in their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:40 AM Flag
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OP: Okay, so being openly racist seems to be just swell as long as you're old enough. What exactly is the age cut-off where it ceases to be permissible? This woman is 98. What if she were 78? 63? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:23 AM Flag
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FFS she's 98 leave her the hell alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:25 AM Flag
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I do leave her alone. Even when she advocates segregation, in my house, with my children present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:27 AM Flag
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No it's not okay, and people who know better who sit silent in the face of this are the reason why race relations are so bad in this country. It normalizes it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:01 AM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:33 AM Flag
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Why do this particular woman's rights matter more than those of entire races of people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:28 AM Flag
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NP: All the Trump supporters on UB are elderly so we should just leave them alone and let them say whatever the hell they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:31 AM Flag
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When she says something inappropriate, kindly ask her to refrain from racist or xenophobic comments in front of your kids. She won't change but you can ask her to watch that same as if she cursed a lot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Any have experience with University of St. Andrew's in Scotland? Dd (a rising senior) is really into it. We've gone over all of the pro/con points of going to school abroad, but I'd love to hear more generally about what it's like. What was unexpected (good or bad), social scene as a foreigner (american), experience for parents, etc.. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:45 AM Flag
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T&C has an article in this month's issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:47 AM Flag
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last place I would look for advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:49 AM Flag
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^^^on other than clothes or food [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 05:04 AM Flag
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I know a few people who went there and they do not have good jobs. Honestly it comes off as a spoiled rich kid who are not that smart type of place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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I know people who teach there and they're great scholars. Apparently it's quite plush. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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It's like USC. Rich kids who aren't cream of the crop go there. But that said, one of my friends is a professor there and he is insanely brilliant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:37 AM Flag
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Something to consider is the shortness of the days in winter. The are about seven hours of daylight, with the sun rising just before nine and setting around four PM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 11:49 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you remember from elementary school? I remember looking forward to films on the projector, watching teacher rewind them in awe. The smell of fresh printouts....how about you? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:45 AM Flag
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All the girls in 5th grade writing as small as possible, playing with the spelling of our names, passi g notes: do you like me? Circle on YES NO MAYBE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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scantrons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:55 AM Flag
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Sounds like you are remembering "filmstrips" and "mimeographed" papers...brings back vivid memories of my childhood. Thank you!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:56 AM Flag
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Oh, and the overhead projector! Remember that?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:57 AM Flag
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NP: No, you didn't have to rewind filmstrips. They were literally strips of photos that you advanced at the tone on a separate recording. You had to rewind the films to put them back onto the original spool. Really fun teachers would run them backwards through the projector to do it. Dull ones would just go directly to the spool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:03 AM Flag
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Omg I remember this! That and carbon paper. I'm 42. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:41 AM Flag
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I remember watching the moon landing on TV. It was a HUGE deal that they actually brought a TV into the classroom so everyone could watch. I remember having a teacher who wore miniskirts and go-go boots and had a blonde flip hairdo like Marlo Thomas in "That Girl." I, too, remember the smell of mimeographs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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That's odd, as it was during the summer, and late in the afternoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:04 AM Flag
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Californian in summer school. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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But of course! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:11 AM Flag
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I remember the smell of mimeographs and watching the Space Shuttle Challenger explode on a wheeled in TV in my 6th grade class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:14 AM Flag
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I feel old. I remember watching the Challenger explosion in the snack shop when I was in business school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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I was in 8th grade. I remember who told me about it between classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:42 AM Flag
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Me too. Also on a wheeled in tv, also in 6th grade! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:00 AM Flag
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The sound of chalk on blackboard. The smell of white paste, kind of peppetminty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:09 AM Flag
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That was pepperminty! I remember that glue. Didn't it have a stick inside it--thick like mashed potato [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:34 AM Flag
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I remember everything - all my teachers, my classmates (I am still friends/keep in touch wih many), the physical layout of the classrooms, what I learned, projects, etc. I went to an amazing school (tristate area) and it was great fun. [ Reply | More ]
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I liked my school too. Particularly the layout. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:44 AM Flag
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I remember a boy who used to pick his note and stick the boogers on the underside of his desk. there must have been thousands stuck there. true story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:13 AM Flag
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4th grade - chocolate milk and popcorn while watching Reading Rainbow - it was $0.25 for both and didn't happen every week, but was so exciting when it did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:17 AM Flag
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I love chocolate milk. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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Having pretzels or warm air-popped popcorn as a snack (not typical). Sledding trips. Camping trips. Band practice. Music lessons. Huge Windows with lots of sunlight or cowering through a terrible rainstorm. Friend cliques. Anne of Green Gables. Independent learning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:42 AM Flag
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oh my gosh breathing in those mimeographed papers, thank you for reminding me of that ...remember they were kind of wet / damp? ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:43 AM Flag
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And the ink was purplish right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:38 AM Flag
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I remember my teachers the most. I grew up in a predominantly Latino neighborhood. Most of my teachers were older Jewish women from Long Island. They were amazing teachers. Strict yet sweet. Tough but fair. I learned SO much from them, especially how to speak English well. And they taught us about our culture as well as theirs. I had a very positive elementary school experience. And this was an inner-city public school. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes it was so great when the Jewish moms were teachers in Washington heights. 80s and 90s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:07 AM Flag
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OR-I was in the South Bronx. But same type of thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:20 AM Flag
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I remember all kinds of stuff. I have a detailed mental map of each grade, including homeroom teachers, classes, layout of the school, friends, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:09 AM Flag
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Hello Kitty erasers, Bonnie Bell scented lip stuff, playing 7-Up, our music teacher teaching us an early Beatles song, math teacher throwing chalk at students' faces regularly, boys beating each other bloody on the playground while teachers looked the other way. Oh, and every single kid bringing a peanut butter sandwich to school for lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:14 AM Flag
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You all are definitely my peer group. These are all my memories too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:39 AM Flag
[ - ] I noticed that one of my best friends of over 10 years is always the who decides where we go out. We're busy so don't meet up often and I'm excited to catch-up with her. When I suggest a location, she'll refuse it because she feels like French/dumplings/trying this new place. I'm very easy going but now that I see this I'm annoyed. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:45 AM Flag
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That is not ok. She needs to respect you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:46 AM Flag
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Tell her it is only fair that you each take turns picking the location. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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She respects me. In so many ways she's a great friend, but I'm not happy with this aspect now. I've stepped back and have been unavailable. I'm hoping we can get past this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:51 AM Flag
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I had a friend like this. She does it in a very easy, nice manner, but she basically calls all the shots on everything. I got fed up and slow faded. Actually, it was rather abrupt because I just stopped acommodating her and she wasn't into compromise or meeting halfway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:12 AM Flag
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She might not have a chance to go out very often, and is excited to try places she's heard about. Who cares? Eat the dumplings and have fun with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:15 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:22 AM Flag
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If you've only just noticed, perhaps you don't mind so much? Sometimes it's nice to go out and not have to make all the choices. I have a few bossy friends, and I kind of like going to new places that they choose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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'Sometimes' is the operative word. Now that I notice, I do not want to be the one to compromise all the time. I have places I want to try, and foods I feel like eating too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:26 AM Flag
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Really? You see the posts on UB from lonely women who find it hard to maintain friendships and you will complain about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:45 AM Flag
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You'd continue being friends with someone who only wants to hang out at places she wants to go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Good evening UB. Well, I had a shitty day at work today. It was bad because I work so hard every day and the other people I work with don't and today it was just awful. I don't feel respected. I am good at what I do, but I don't feel like it's acknowledged. I pick up the slack for many people who I work with. I felt so sad when I left work today. I had said to a colleague that I needed help with one particular thing at work yesterday and they didn't help me again today. Not nice and not respectful. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:43 AM Flag
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op: Anyone want to make me feel better?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:49 AM Flag
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TGIF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:51 AM Flag
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op: true. I just want to relax and forget about it. I realize that I am not perfect and that I have things that I can work on, but I try hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:53 AM Flag
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That sucks. Put it out of your mind and enjoy the weekend. Maybe someone here can give you pointers on how to stop picking up slack for other people and how to start working on getting your hard work noticed/acknowledged? In the past, I've read a lot of really good advice on career-related issues posted by the moms (and dads!) on this forum. Hang in there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:03 AM Flag
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you're putting yourself in this position. it's very common for women to do this. they become the worker bees but never advance or are appreciated. you have to do what guys do. watch what they do and learn. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Mom who says she needs to stop drinking....how is it going? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:39 AM Flag
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I'm probably not the one, but it's been almost two and half weeks for me. First week wasphysical he'll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:19 AM Flag
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Physical hell! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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Was that the pregnant one or the other one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:50 AM Flag
[ - ] My neighbor smokes and has cats. The smell of her & her apartment makes me want to gag. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:38 AM Flag
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Does she also cook a lot of fish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:40 AM Flag
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My neighbors adult child smoking pot, wafting into my first child's nursery, was the catalyst to us selling a coop I loved and moving to burbs. I have never looked back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:40 AM Flag
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Was it hard to sell with the pot smell? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:56 AM Flag
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Coop, condo or rental? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 01:41 AM Flag
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I know her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:13 AM Flag
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I used to live across the hall from a very sweet certifiable cat lady. She had at least 4 but probably way more. She would open and close her door very quickly but you could still smell the awful smell of her apartment. I don't know how she lived with it. She would spray air freshener in the hall to mask it. Incredibly sweet woman though. [ Reply | More ]
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