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[ - ] Anyone been to Barbados? Thoughts? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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Lady on Wheel of Fortune tonight won a trip there. It looked nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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I wasn't a big fan. Beaches are great, but there aren't really any nice resorts and the towns are kind of run down. There are nicer places in the Caribbean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Beaches are *ok* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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OP: I've booked this place which is supposedly nice: https://eleganthotels.com/the-house and I chose Barbados bc during hurricane season (we'd go in Sept, anniversary trip) it's outside the belt, but yeah I'm hesitating on getting the flights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:51 AM Flag
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Why Barbados? Cayman Islands are much nicer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:51 AM Flag
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See above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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Boring [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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You've been and it was boring or it sounds boring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:53 AM Flag
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Or the question was boring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 03:30 AM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:19 AM Flag
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didn't love it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 03:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Does your pediatrician charge a fee for completing those health record forms for school, etc.? If you have two different forms, are there two fees? I find the fee annoying and am dreading getting hit twice this year, but our forms for school and camp are very different. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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Fee only if separate from a visit. I just copy and staple the standard office form onto any papers I fill out. No one has ever complained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Sometimes I have my shot together and bring the forms to the annual well visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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OP: We always bring the forms to the annual check-up, but they still charge the form fee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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Mine doesn't but the forms are a PITA so I can see why yours does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Never! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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whether I do it in person or via email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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Yes. For administrative costs. I think it’s a racket. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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Yes--$20 per ffing form. Come on! We pay for the visit then $20 more?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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You get treatment for visit. Your insurance doesn’t pay for filling out any form. If your camp needs his form then consider it additional money for camp fee. Camp should accept same form schools use. Why they need special one ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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The form I pay for is the DOE (public school) allergy form. Both of my kids are allergic to nuts so we have dr sign the form so that they can keep epi-pens in nurse's office. I fill out the form--dr signs. $40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:47 AM Flag
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Different state, different legal requirements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 04:23 AM Flag
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TriBeCa Pediatrics does not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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I might switch bc this is so irritating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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I didn't know anyone charged. I email the form and they email it back filled out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:49 AM Flag
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Never, I would switch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 04:22 AM Flag
[ - ] I weigh 140. Ideal weight for me is 115. I have a big event in 4 months. I know I can't lose 25 pounds in that time but how much is realistic and what is the best way? I've tried intermittent fasting and I couldn't do it. Couldn't go 18 hours without eating every day. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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What can you cut out of your diet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Tell me about your drinking habits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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I really don't drink at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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Do you snack? Where are your excess calories coming from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:49 AM Flag
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First, I think I have a terrible metabolism. Second, I like butter, cheese etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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I would get a cheap kitchen scale from Amazon and begin measuring out cheese. See if you can switch to light cheese for the next few months. I know this is low brow, but I'm crazy about TJ's lowfat string cheese now. I would get an app like Lose It! and start counting calories, at least for a week or so until you see if you have any hidden weaknesses you didn't realize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:55 AM Flag
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I think you're right. I think I need to count calories. What do you think is the right amount of calories for someone my height? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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the app will tell you (NP) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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minor lactose allergy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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^undiagnosed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:34 AM Flag
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How tall are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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five feet one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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Now ub will tell you your ideal weight is really 87 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:49 AM Flag
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at 115 I am a size 4. Right now I'm a size 8. I have wide hips and big boobs so that certainly adds some pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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at 5'3" my ideal is 115 (including muscle, which means if I don't work out it should 105) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:35 AM Flag
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Phentermine, hcg shots, lipotropic injections. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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Phentermine, hcg shots, lipotropic injections. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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3000 carbs=1# fat. IOW, if you reduce 3000 carbs in a week, you will lose 1#. It will take a few weeks to see noticeable change on the scale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:09 AM Flag
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3000 grams of carbs? Or do you mean to say 3000 calories? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:28 AM Flag
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My fitness pal synced up to a fit bit. You could realistically lose 1/2 lb to 1 lb per week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:14 AM Flag
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join a gym where theres a trainer teaching every class (slt, spin, crossfit). Make friends and force yourself to go and you'll get actual lasting results. And get a nutritionist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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You are my twin. I'm also 5'1 and need to lose 25 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:23 AM Flag
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My dh lost 20 lbs in two months on Whole 30, kept it off too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 04:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I used the term "illegals" today to refer to illegal immigrants, and an acquaintance of mine looked shocked, and cautioned me to "tone it down" in case someone was recording. This was in Washington Square with its usual menagerie of vulgar drug-dealers, ranting nutty homeless, etc. - but somehow MY speech was the problem? Has society really become so hypersensitive? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:39 AM Flag
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Tell her you don't think it's derogatory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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Against that backdrop? That says a lot about how you came across. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:45 AM Flag
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Yes. DH and I were walking back from Bella Blu the other night and at the NE corner of 71/Park there was a homeless man who was clearly on drugs, ranting and spitting. DH routed us a block south before heading west, even though we live north. I teased him for being a little b*tch and he looked at me very seriously and said if there had been an altercation, there was no way the rich white people who beat up on a poor, homeless, mentally ill black person were going to get out of it looking ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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^^ I wasnt even thinking of it that way. In my mind, the worst case scenario was that he heckled and spit on us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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And here I am stuck on what you called dh in jest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:51 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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I didn't use that word specifically. It was more "Are you serious? Are you scared of him?" and then the longer conversation ensued. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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Marginally less unflattering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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you sound awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Because I think it's ridiculous to reroute around a homeless person? I grew up in NYC in the 70s/80s. I've been heckled by homeless people since before I was wearing a training bra. You just ignore and keep walking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:16 AM Flag
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At this point? He'd probably be considered a hero. A lot of people in this city are getting REALLY tired of street-people and their misbehavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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They’re not actually. I’ve polled them all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Then they are idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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Using illegals when talking about people is inflammatory. Sorry it just is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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If you use illegals to mean heroin or meth, that would be different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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This! Undocumented people is much better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Don't expect OP to understand this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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I disagree. It's fine. It's also compact and accurate. Not "inflammatory" at all unless you have a really weird worldview where borders shouldn't exist or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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No. They are people. People cannot be illegal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:23 AM Flag
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That's an autistic way of looking at thinks. "Illegals" is a label, not intended to be some hyper-precise legal descriptor. By that logic, Douglas Fir trees would have to be called "Douglas Pseudo-Fir trees that look like Fir trees but actually belong to a different species of tree." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:33 AM Flag
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You sound both dumb and mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 04:24 AM Flag
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Blame it on that Aaron guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:16 AM Flag
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Ivanka, is that you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it hard to find a job as an actuary? What are the math requirements and when do math students specialize? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:31 AM Flag
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I think it is a lucrative gig [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:37 AM Flag
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Very lucrative but a lot of really hard tests [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:43 AM Flag
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This. I helped my friend study with her flash cards, and omg the stuff they have to memorize. It has to be harder than the bar exam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:45 AM Flag
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I am sure it is! I know tons of attorneys but no actuaries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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My friend is super smart. She might be the only person I know who is smarter than I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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jfc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:14 AM Flag
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+1. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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Smartest guy I know was an actuary. He made big bank too. If you work for insurance company and make it to top you can probably make 800k, but this guy was an international consultant who easily made 2mil. He LOVED his job too. Very intellectual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:15 AM Flag
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He's exceptional. Actuaries who have book smarts AND good social skills are rockstars. They rise to the very top. Most actuaries are socially challenged. They still do well in their careers, just not as well as your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:26 AM Flag
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The hard part is passing the actuarial exams. Once you've qualified as an actuary, finding a job is easy because there are so few actuaries and their skills are highly in demand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:20 AM Flag
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If you are incredibly good at applied math and analyzing data in a high level way, it is an amazing career. Very high salaries. My best friend's husband is so smart, humble, intellectual, confident . . . and makes about 1.8mil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Found out from DD's bf's mother that the girls have fake IDs and were planning to use them to hang out with sailors this holiday weekend. DD had told us that she needed to stay in the city this weekend to study for finals and work on a class project. Now she is fighting with us as we told her that she had to come out East with us for the long weekend and help open the house for the season. She is adamant that there is a huge group project that is due and she needs to be in the city to not lt her team down. I spoke with our doormen and they are willing to keep an eye open for when she comes in and out of our building. Do you thing that is enough, or should we demand that she come out East with us? I really do not want a bitchy teen out with us the whole weekend, but then again I do not want a teen pregnant with a sailors baby. I am leaning towards making her come with us. WWYD? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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It's not enough if you don't also tell her that there is a watch on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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So, you think it is ok to let her stay in the city? Thanks. You have teen daughters, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Do you have a sibling, BIL/SIL, or DF in town? Teenagers should not be left alone for the weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Absolutely not. She needs to go with you for the weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Or if the project so important. Come to city and you can hand out and she can have dinner with you. She can work on the project during the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:37 AM Flag
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Look, I was a teen in the city in the 80s. I had a fake I’d, we threw parties at all the houses where parents left them home alone. The advantage was we all got it out of our system before college. It is up to you how you want t parent, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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good points. thank you for your perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:43 AM Flag
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Yo. If it were me, she wouldn’t stay home alone, but keep in mind that being strict and nit promoting honesty between you can damage things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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you guyz are classy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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You recognized your own! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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Do you not have a nanny cam? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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Jeeze. I do not want to watch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:43 AM Flag
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Why is she not on birth control? You sound NOKD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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we are Catholic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:42 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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double lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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One parent stays here the other opens the house or you wait a week and open next week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:51 AM Flag
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You need to parent your child. Either she goes with you or you stay with her. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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this. It isn't hard folks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 04:23 AM Flag
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What is the bf doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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can't she stay with them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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This sounds fake. Hanging out with sailors? A class project due after Memorial Day weekend? "out East?" Nobody says that. Opening the house and you want a teenager to help? Asking the doormen to keep a eye on your daughter when you're afraid she's going to have sex with sailors? You are the teen and you're making up this scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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So, lots of people say out east. They think they are sounding humble and vague, but it is pretnetious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:23 AM Flag
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+1. Either she is teen or troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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A class project ? Over MD weekend ? Come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:16 AM Flag
[ - ] OTM are you here? or any tarot moms? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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I'm not OTM but I'll try to help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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np: are you still here? I have a question if you are intuitive type.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:06 AM Flag
[ - ] When was the last time you ate so much it hurt? Ugh, I haven’t felt like this in forever. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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Easter, went to two crawfish boils back to back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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the heartburn is going to start up any second.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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today. Took Dad to buffet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:11 AM Flag
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tonight, but it was healthy food at least [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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Thanksgiving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 04:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I was a SAHM for over 15 years. We didn't need my salary. I am working full time now. Any questions? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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how did you get back, i did the same but got another degree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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same here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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Good for you! That's certainly the dream. How many kids and how far apart in age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:33 AM Flag
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Why are you posting? To say it’s easier than we think or harder to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:34 AM Flag
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Do you WOH? Full disclosure, I am WOHM. I don’t mind the actual work art of work but I hate being in an office with annoying coworkers, dressing up everyday, etc. Was it hard to adjust back to that BS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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Another sahm who went back. At first I liked it. Now I am over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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So did you quit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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Not yet. I am looking to transition to a telecommuting position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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What industry? I would love to telecommute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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get your 40 quarters in for SS and Medicare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Had an interview at 5 today. Is it too late to send a thank you email now? Should I wait for morning? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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I've been accused of being crazy, but I think early tomorrow is good. If the work culture is email happening overnight it may be buried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Either/or. I recently had 2 interviews (same company) later in the day and decided to wait until am to write a thank you, but in both cases, the interviewer emailed me first to say thanks for coming in, it was great to meet you, etc. (I ended up getting an offer at that company) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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Thanks. They actually invited me in for another interview on the spot today, so I'm feeling great about it and this email is definitely just a formality. I'm a grad student and rushed to a final after the interview, otherwise would've written it sooner.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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Congrats! They understand. The general rule is 24 hours, you are totally fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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Tomorrow is fine, but I might write it now while it is fresh in your head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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I don’t think it makes a difference. I’d write it tonight, proofread and send tomorrow am before you go to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:20 AM Flag
[ - ] DS is in 7th grade and in accelerated math- Algebra 1. He was placed in the class by 6th grade teacher and we didn't hold him back. However, this year has been a struggle at times. He's learned that he needs to study and it doesn't come as easily. I kind of regret not holding him back in regular 7th math. Anyone with experience with this? Will it continue to be a struggle at times? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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better now than later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Pull him back as quickly as you can. BTDT. THe GPA is so much more important than bragging rights that your dc is 'advanced'. This, and video games at school, was the downfall of my smart and gifted son. Now he is a video game slacker that is happy with a C-. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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this is what I am worried about. I don't care if he is advanced or not. Is your ds in public or private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:33 AM Flag
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Private. The school does not restrict wifi, so the kids are gaming or watching porn during school. The school also has video games in the 'rec center', so instead of studying the kids are 'gaming' during school hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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why don't they stop that? sounds nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:37 AM Flag
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progressive-f*cken*ed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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What grade now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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rising senior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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where is he thinking of going for college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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SUNY and CUNY schools. Lafayette maybe as a far reach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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This was our DC, cycled in and out of advanced math classes throughout HS, depending on his schedule and the teacher and the curriculum. he was a very good student and school always came easily to him, so when things got tough it was actually a good lesson in how to tough things out, apply himself, and understanding when to step back. it's OK f they struggle for a semester and learn to ask for help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:34 AM Flag
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His quarter grades have gone from c, b-, b, now a- so steady improvement. just worried he's not totally getting it. used to come much more easily. DH thinks it's good for him to struggle in middle and learn to study. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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Is he in public or private and is he planning on changing schools for HS? 7th-grade report card matter if you are applying out for HS. That being said, sound like he could improve works habits, maybe hire a tutor for a session or two to get him in sync. Overcoming obstacles at this age is a great lesson learned, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:39 AM Flag
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He is in public. I've tried to hire. tutor and he refuses right now. he says he gets it now and sometimes I do bring him in early to see the teacher sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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I’m curious where you live that algebra 1 is the normal accelerated class for 7th grade. I know that’s the case in a lot of private schools, but my understanding was that most public schools didn’t do algebra 1 until high school! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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I am in CT. In 7th kids can be placed in 7, 7+, algebra 1 (but not many). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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^^^my town has excellent publics. Many families pull out of private to send to the public high school. The val and salutatorian this year are both going to Harvard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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Most good NYC public middle schools have at least one class doing Algebra in 8th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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We, too, had a struggle. DD hated being at the bottom of the top and received a B instead of the required B+ for third quarter. I was disappointed, but agreed to let her go back to regular 7th grade math. DD is thrilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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He's already been recommended for geometry next year. ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Mom's with kids in college or older: did you ever sit down with your kids one fully grown and have kind of a 'here's what was going on when you were growing up that I couldn't explain that much because you were too young to really understand' talk. Thinking this might be an option, especially if you complicated stuff going on like marital problems, financisl, etc. Anyone done this? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Not any one talk. It just kind of happened over a long series of conversations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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Same. Plus once they’re 16 or older, they see what’s going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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My mother did this so that I wouldn't name my kid after my deceased father. Heard about all hisbaffairs. What a bitch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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Financial only [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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My dad was laid off in his 50s (I was in MS). My mom worked but was not prepared to be the sole breadwinner, nor did she want to be. She told me all of the details of their financial problems and subsequent problems as they were happening (again, this started when I was in middle school). She couldn't really grasp how that gave me issues with both money and men and now that they are no longer paying tuition and money is plentiful, she suddenly has a different version of the past than the one I remember. I wish she would have waited- i'm willing to bet it would have been a totally different story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:38 AM Flag
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Yes, marital problems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:42 AM Flag
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If only my mom had kept their marital strife private until we were older. She was way too open with us as kids. So inappropriate, and it made us feel very insecure about our home and family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Does Bee Shaffer actually matter? Is she a big deal in fashion or society circles? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Well she’s big enough that your posting about her on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:34 AM Flag
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*you’re* and also big enough that I immediately knew who she was when you mentioned her... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:34 AM Flag
[ - ] If you see a therapist for anxiety (or depression) what are your sessions usually like and how often do you go? I have generalized anxiety disorder and my anxiety spikes out of control during particularly stressful periods. I saw someone back in college at student health services but felt it was a waste of time and stopped after 2 sessions. I saw someone a few years ago in private practice and she gave me a lot of “homework” — writing in a journal any time I was stressed for her to read at my next appt, affirmations, books, but she and I did not mesh that well and after a while I stopped because I was dreading appts and didn’t feel like I was getting much out of them and she kept talking about herself. Saw someone new a year ago when trying to make a big life decision and found her helpful but then stopped once decision was made. Started seeing her again recently when a new situation arose and the first appt was helpful but I feel like there was a lot of dead time at our last appt and I am not sure if it’s worth my time to continue. If you go to ongoing therapy and find it helpful what is it like? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Look into EMDR. More effective, faster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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I am not familiar with this but will google [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Agree. I did this combined with CBT and Celexa. It helped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:31 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you give kids after vomiting to settle stomachs? Dd has a stomach bug 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:05 AM Flag
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Ginger ale or Pesto Bismol if she'll take them, but she doesn't like strong flavors or carbonation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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Tiny sips water, nothing more till they can hold that. Hydration most important. They'll vomit any meds. Once water down, increase amounts, move slowly to brat diet, maybe so pepto or chamomile or ginger tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:11 AM Flag
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Gatorade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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^ Would give water first, but my dcs (when little) wouldn't drink water when sick. They would drink gatorade, though, or apple juice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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powerade is better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 03:39 AM Flag
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Our ped has on occasion recommended Coke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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full flavor coke idk why but saved me through me pregnancy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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saltines and ginger ale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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Gatorade and crackers or toast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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Empty stomach. Let the virus take its course. After many hours I might give some sips of pedialyte. No foods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:42 AM Flag
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Milk of magnesium [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:55 AM Flag
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It depends. Slushy apple juice, ginger ale or Pepsi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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Ped can call in a script for some magical anti vomiting medicine....I forgot the name but they call it “vitamin z”. Can I ask where you live that this is going around ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:21 AM Flag
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Zofran [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 02:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Does the Little Prince kill himself at the end? Why? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:01 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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No! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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I just read this book to ds this week. He travels home through the snakebite. You be the judge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 03:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible that my 15 year old daughter is depressed partly because my DH is an immature man and doesn’t really talk with her much or smile at her or ask her about her day? I swear she would be happier if she got some positive words/actions from her father. I am so frustrated with him. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:51 AM Flag
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My dad wasn't the warmest person in the world when I was a teen. It's possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:54 AM Flag
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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You won't be able to change him. This is the dad she has. You can only help her understand by being honest that she's never going to get the dad she wants and validate her observations that you see it, too. Then you fill in all the good parts about her dad that she maybe doesn't pay attention to because she's still young and doesn't understand the demands that are on those of us in middle life. You focus on the positive, because focusing on the negative "your father sucks" NEVER NEVER works out in a positive way. EVER. Don't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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So this. My dad was never demonstrative. And my mother bitched about him. Hated him when I was a teenager. Thankfully I was able to develop a relationship with him in my early twenties and ultimately we both had s huge amount of respect for each other. He does very suddenly and am always grateful we were at a good place. Please don’t give your DD your biases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Does not does [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:11 AM Flag
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A family is only as happy as the least happy member of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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op: I never bitch about him at all. I just feel badly because he is so withdrawn. Can't be good for her self-esteem. On the other hand, I am so loving and upbeat around my son and he is full of happiness and confidence. Father-daughter and Mother-son relationships are important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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You are simplifying it too much. Says by your self n is not affected by his dad but only your daughter is means you are subconsciously laying all the blame at your husband’s feet. Maybe your daughter’s personality, hormones, something else going on. If you are loving she has one parent who is “loving and upbeat”.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Sorry - saying your son is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Don’t blame him alone. Teens are moody. And the father is one, but only one element in your family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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op: ok, thanks. I am careful with what I say. She may just be moody because she is 15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:43 AM Flag
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And she might sense tension between you two, Ime kids need one warm loving parent, two is great but not necessary, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Maybe DH doesn't talk and smile because he's depressed and DD inherited that from him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:49 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O the MP on intelligence. There may be a great many people who have high IQ, but have very low emotional IQ, can't deal with people, have addictions and personality disorders. The 110 IQ person who works for it and can get along with people with always do better than the high IQ with emotional flaws. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:50 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:52 AM Flag
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^ This is going to be especially true as AI grows. Quant-type things are going to be very easy for AI to master, whereas "human" things are going to be harder and thus those skills will be more valuable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:54 AM Flag
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But then the AI developers will become even more powerful and use their tech money to bus 20 year olds to their SV mansions for orgies where they make them read slate star codex after [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:07 AM Flag
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I guess the point behind my joke is that developing AI is very much a "quant-type thing" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Ha, I see your point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Disagree on the addiction part. Normally those with addictions have very high EQ and can't deal with the people who don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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I disagree. I've known plenty of people with addictions who are the smartest guy in the room but have anxiety or depression because they never had the self-esteem or confidence to amount to anything. Or were just fucking lazy. They dialed it in at school, got stoned and drunk and when it was time to work hard they had no skills or work ethic, didn't advance and became alcoholics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 12:59 AM Flag
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Right and this is also because 110 is a perfectly good IQ. I'm not sure someone with a 90 IQ and high EQ would do better than someone with high IQ/ low EQ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:00 AM Flag
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the jackpot is 125 and super high EQ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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I sometimes think EQ is just a scam. Doing math all day will make you socially retarded regardless of your intelligence and working at Denny's or socializing all day will make you better at social interactions regardless of your natural abilities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.18, 01:37 AM Flag
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