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[ - ] Dd had a tantrum because I told her she had a nice tan. She then proceeded to put white powder on her face. I didn't see it and asked how she turned so pale, did she use powder? She is screaming, crying and says she doesn't like me anymore. The truth is, unlike me, she does a beautiful tan every time she goes into the sun, but apparently that's not desirable. She is mixed and tans easily (I.e., I don't let her damage her skin). 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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OP. She said I only act as if I liked her, I don't really like her. Wth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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she sounds like my dd. she got golden toasty last summer. said she didn't like it. i have no idea why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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WTH indeed. How old is she? And has she always been a melodramatic twit, or is this new behavior? [ Reply | More ]
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How.old. Pretend are cray [ Reply | More ]
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Pre teens! [ Reply | More ]
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how old is your dd? [ Reply | More ]
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OP. My DD is only 7! [ Reply | More ]
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My DS is mixed but takes more after me (freckle faced Irish). He says troubling things sometimes like he is glad he has pale skin like me and isn't dark like Daddy. So, do you think she is ashamed of her race and/or just wants to be more like you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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It could be either - I am not sure. I know she wants to look like me and thinks her dad is not so good looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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I think your heart is in the right place but maybe you could work with a counselor or someone who could help you with her feelings. She is jealous of your appearance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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what does her dad look like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Has anyone ever commented to her about her looks, or that she doesn't look like you? That could be upsetting her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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what does her dad look like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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^ oops-- sorry for the double post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Wow! Your son has said this? Where do you live? In the States? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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and you're complimenting her tan? uh... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:51 PM Flag
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Ugh. I hate to go here, but you said she is mixed-race. Could that be playing into it - she feels bad that she looks different from you and/or her friends? Does she have other non-white friends or role models? [ Reply | More ]
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She looks Latin (although she is not) and most people actually are Latin where we live. Some of her friends are lighter, some are darker. None of her friends are blonde (I am though). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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She doesn't identify with you, her mom, because she doesn't look like you. She thinks the way she looks is wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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Of course I am partial, but she looks like a mini version if Giselle but with a better face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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But Giselle isn't her mom. She wants to feel like she belongs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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I used to be very upset that My half sister and I don't look alike. She's my only sister, I wanted people to see that we were sisters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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OP. I am trying to say she looks better than me. I look like my mom and never actually wanted to look like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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It isn't about looking better or worse than you. She wants to look in the mirror and identify with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Stop talking about her looks or her tan. You're giving her a huge complex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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But this isn't about you. She obviously feels differently. By asking her about the powder your're highlighting the fact that the two of you look different, and that bothers her. I think you're trying to accentuate that her looking different from you is good, but all she can hear is that it's different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:07 AM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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FL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:51 PM Flag
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Who tells their kid they have a nice tan!? Actually, who still thinks tans are nice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:02 AM Flag
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Any tanning is sun damage, even if you have darker skin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Mexicans literally skin each other alive and hand the skinned bodies from overpasses along with short written messages painted on sheets. That seems insane to me, but apparently it's just how things are down there. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Hang, I mean. [ Reply | More ]
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i am surprised at the violence. it was not like that way back when. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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So this happens with all Mexicans on every overpass? You sound like you love to generalize. Not a sign of intelligence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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why are you guys all so idiotic. violence is a major prob in central america. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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And it's not all Mexicans right? It's like saying all black men are criminals. Or all Jews are financial thieves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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no, it's not all mexicans. it's central america, parts of south america and africa and the caribbean. better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:07 AM Flag
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Ah I see. Everyone but Americans. Nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:41 AM Flag
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Nowhere near any tourist destinations, they're smart enough to protect that... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:58 PM Flag
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Americans are so soft. Especially NYers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I have the best in laws ever. Ex husband walked out on us. In laws take my kids every weekend and for some time in summer and holidays. Such a blessing. I am so lucky. I love having a free weekend once in awhile to relax!! I don't get people who want to be with their kids all the time. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Where is your dh now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Who knows? Drug addict, has a baby mama. In Florida last we heard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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sounds like you picked a real gem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:57 PM Flag
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I mean, really? He clearly came from good parents. Sometimes issues run deeper than you realize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:06 AM Flag
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That's really nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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yes, that's good for you, the kids, and their grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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I know someone's inlaws pay for the kids school and pick up and drop off everyday. The guy is dating a 19 year old girl and the the inlaws don't speak to their son [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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This is basically us. I work full time. The parents offered to pay for private but I decided public would work. They paid for preschool. Send home new clothes, groceries, toys, etc. Very very generous and very much appreciated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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I was a single mom too and loved the time w/o my dc. It was my family who helped out. It was a real lifesaver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:33 PM Flag
[ - ] how much is reasonable to spend on lawn maintenance per year. 1mm home. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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What size is the lawn? Our property is 4 acres and we spend $50k/year for full upkeep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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That's ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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op: i got quoted 2k/year for our half acre property. sounds reasonable then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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That would be 8k/yr so 50k is still over the top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Must be a very small house. 2k sounds reasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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If you have to ask... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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i'm asking because im a new homeowner. 31 years old. my DH pulls in 3-5mm a year so it's not that, honey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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NP. You sound defensive and not very classy - calling people "honey" and telling everyone how much DH makes. [ Reply | More ]
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you sound like a cunt [ Reply | More ]
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What Paul says about peter says more about Paul than about Peter! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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so basic [ Reply | More ]
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WOW> [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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and so do you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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I would have called you cunt but you lack the warmth and depth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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The smartest thing ever to come out of your mouth was a penis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Pls DH makes 3 to 5mmm a year but buying a 1mm home. Unlikely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Well the other 2mm goes to OW. She too stupid to know that. She like to flash her $ around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
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np: then just get some lawn guys to give you quotes. i really, really hated dealing with gardeners. just a freaking nightmare. it's a continual money drain. snow plowers, the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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you have to ask the gardeners. dep on the size of your yard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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We have 2 acres in Fairfield County, CT and our yearly cost is $9000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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I have about .5 acre in lower Westchester. I pay 200 for spring and fall clean up and 180/month for mowing, 190/month in the fall for leaves. I do my own planting of flowers. I also pay about 1000 for snow plowing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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thank you this is good info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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This guy is legal, is the assistant greenskeeper at a neighboring country club. If you can talk to your neighbors, IME, you get more reliable people if you band together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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Your post isn't helpful for us without a location and size of lawn. You realize this right? But you're not a real homeowner. So it doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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asshole casserole [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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If you are so nasty, no one is going to help you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:54 PM Flag
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huh, I said location and size. yes, I am a real homeowner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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^^^most .5 acre lots are all lawn, house and driveway. Only went you get to over 1 acre, do you see some wooded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:51 PM Flag
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If you're really .5 acre then it's super cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:05 AM Flag
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We pay some dude $60 every two weeks. In CT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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Try salting the lawn, will be easier to maintain in the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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just lawn or all landscaping? 40 acres in bedford and everything (lawn, trees, bushes, water features, paddocks) about $115K avg in the last 5 years - but i keep added trees/plants every year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:06 AM Flag
[ - ] I have a nanny from m-th, and then another one on Fri only. I don't like the Fri one anymore. How do I fire her? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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just say your mother is going to move in and take care of them on fridays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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giver her two weeks and replace [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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"you are fired" followed by 2wks pay [ Reply | More ]
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OP - the thing is, she has been my nanny for 11 years, on and off. [ Reply | More ]
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Just say it's too chaotic and you only need one nanny now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on PS 9? Do many kids go to private for 6th? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Very academic. They go public and private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Any reccs for eco/organic disposable diapers? Looking at babyganics and Bambo. Any opinions on either or any that I should consider? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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how can disp diapers be organic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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i don't know, i don't make them. [ Reply | More ]
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cardboard is disposable and also can be organic, right? (honestly not sure) [ Reply | More ]
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cardboard can be organic? are you afraid your books in storage will get chemicals? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:52 PM Flag
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unless it's biodegradable and you have access to an industrial composter who can take human waste, it really shouldn't matter if it's pampers or 7th generation. One is bleached and the other isn't. [ Reply | More ]
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If they're disposable, don't bother with organic. Nothing in a landfill degrades, not even food. [ Reply | More ]
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that's not true. Things in a landfill will degrade over time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Sure, and with enough time a lump of carbon will also turn into a diamond. But let's stick to meaningful numbers. Those disposable diapers will be contaminating ground water for hundreds of years whether they're organic or not. [ Reply | More ]
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there are worse things for our groundwater than diapers. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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Sure, but by that logic, we shouldn't worry about *anything* except the absolute worst case issues, or ISSUE, singular. I think we have it in us as a society to pay attention to more than one pollutant at a time, don't you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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I'd rather Op focus on the big issues than diapers. She will overpay for a negligible difference of chlorine presence. [ Reply | More ]
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If OP really wants to help with the environment, vote for politicians who support more restrictions on the oil and gas industry. Stop fracking. Stop pesticides. Stop buying factory farm anything and buy local. She will make a bigger contribution to the environment that the diapers that eventually will decay or will become food to some future evolved microbial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Or ... she could do all of the above *and* not add her kids' dirty diapers to a landfill somewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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but she's going to use disposable... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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I realize, I'm just hoping to prick her conscience and make her change her mind. I know, I know. :\ [ Reply | More ]
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op:what is the best natural brand then. I don't want anything with chlorine, scent, irritants, ect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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unless your child has sensitive skin, you won't need it. Diapers are on for only two hours at a time at first. Literally only two hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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^^^ and I mean really really sensitive skin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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Bambo is great. We used those but they are super expensive. Seventh generation is not green by the way. Also, by the time our second kid came, we were using Luvs. Lol. This is your first, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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Actually my second but it's been 8 years. [ Reply | More ]
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Well then you should go straight to Luvs [ Reply | More ]
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I like honest. [ Reply | More ]
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Earths best [ Reply | More ]
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My DD wore Seventh Generation and I think that's why she never had diaper rash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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You think that because you're a dope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:12 AM Flag
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Exactly. We used those and got rashes. Then capitulated and did huggies and it was fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:42 AM Flag
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I like Bambo and Huggies Pure & Natural. I never thought I would care, but DB has eczema and his skin is so delicate; he doesn't seem to get as irritated along the waistline and leg openings with these two brands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Question for DH's, be honest. Let's say your current wife weighed 100 pounds when you met her and was so pretty, sweet, energetic, happy. Fast forward 15 years, 3 kids, stressful jobs, and she weighs 140 pounds (5'3"), is always tired, has gray hair, dresses frumpy, sighs constantly, has no energy, and changes into sweatpants as soon as she gets home from work. Do you look at her and say, "I LOOOOVE THIS WOMAN! SHE IS THE MOTHER OF MY CHILDREN!" Or are you more like -- "eh, she's gross". Honest answers please. 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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eh, she's gross [ Reply | More ]
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Not a DH, but I feel like you already know the answer to this. [ Reply | More ]
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Does the equation change if the dh has also gained weight and is also tired and in sweatpants or is it only women who are obligated to never get middle aged? [ Reply | More ]
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Op. assume the dh got a little chubby too, and is also exhausted. [ Reply | More ]
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OR- only applies to women. My DH has a few divorced, paunchy, balding, boring-as-hell male co- workers and friends who constantly reject women they're introduced to as either too fat or 'not hot'. It's all I can do to refrain from asking if they own a full length mirror, and if they ever utilize it. [ Reply | More ]
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I once set up a fat, ugly, bald, disgusting guy with a pretty-ish, sweet, slightly chubby woman. He yelled at me after and said " I only date supermodels". He is not even rich. Barf!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Right! Did he get to marry one?! No. Of course they can buy a fugly young puerto rican girl [ Reply | More ]
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You won't believe this but he is living with a beautiful, blond, thin, billionaires [ Reply | More ]
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Don't even bother [ Reply | More ]
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They can only do that if they have money. It's a numbers game. If women had unlimited money they could choose like that [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not a DH but I've been married to mine for 15 years or so. I'll tell you this- what you describe are two very superficial and shallow responses. My love/feelings for my husband are much more complex than either of those statements, which both sound ridiculous. I will say that if my husband had gained 30lb and was always exhausted and annoyed, I'd be worried about him and also worried about the state of our marriage. [ Reply | More ]
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An adult perspective. How refreshing. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. you can add on new responses - not limited to just those two. [ Reply | More ]
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The thing is, you're a dw. Dh's that think the way you do are scarce.... [ Reply | More ]
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I doubt all DHs have such limited feelings about their wives as OP states, honestly. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a DW but have to ask, have the DH's in question maintained their youthful physiques, energy, and vigor? Since the answer in 95% of cases is inevitably no, why should we care what they think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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Because men have more options [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:16 AM Flag
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that's me. not 140 (but damn 117!!!) and dh just recently told me he doesn't want me to lose any weight for him. he says i still look good. but he did say we should get some "better" clothes for me. he's a nice guy. [ Reply | More ]
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this is my DH. The best DH out there. And why do I want to fuck this asshole PR guy who I used to have a thing for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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cuz you are retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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anything more insightful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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that's plenty insightful. also, cuz you hate yourself and have low self-esteem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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so, he's hot and has a big cock don't factor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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no, just your retardedness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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wow, your insightfulness is priceless and deep. What a lucky family you have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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My dh says "it depends on how she acts" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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ha ha [ Reply | More ]
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She is not mean, but she's tired. Perhaps impatient at times. Does not cater to his every demand. But she's a good person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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so she's stopped being a wife? that's probably the bigger issue. [ Reply | More ]
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He chimed in with sounds like she needs to lose some weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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offer anal. problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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5'3" 100 pounds is underweight/kind of teenage. At 140 yea she could lose 15 or 20 pounds but isn't exactly obese -or 'gross'. DH sounds like a jerk. (and I'm thin but have also had pounds to lose - DH never cared, only I did) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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Dh hasn't said anything. I just wonder what he really thinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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Color your hair of it bothers you and buy some new clothes. And exercise...just because it will make you feel better.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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I'm ok with who I have become -- I just wonder what dh's think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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why have you stopped taking care of yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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1. I have the most painful plantar fascitis -- can't work out. 2. I'm up at 1am, 3am, and 5am with a baby, so I am beyond exhausted. 3. I did dye my hair once; it left this very drive/ dandruff patch that one year later remains 4. My life is stressful so I eat chocolate and bagels. Every day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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It sounds like you need to get to a doctor to manage your stress. We are all stressed. I understand (or so many women tell me) that plantar fasciitis is painful, but that's no excuse for overeating. You can do pilates, yoga, stationary bike -- lots of things that won't exacerbate your foot pain. The baby thing will pass, and if you're really waking up every two hours, you must have a newborn. If not a newborn, then you need to figure that out. The hair thing, get some head and shoulders and dye your hair. You don't want your baby thinking you're grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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Thanks for the advice, but I don't want it. I've been to many doctors, PT, nothing helps. I don't like yoga or Pilates, and I do do the bike, it's just to much of a workout, I've been using h&s for a year, this patch won't heal. I'm not dyeing it again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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How old is tour baby? Unless it's a newborn, there is no reason for that kind of schedule. You realize that at some point you have to out yourself first, right? For an hour a day. That's you time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:51 PM Flag
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I don't want to hear it - but he's 18 months and I'm still bf him. I guess I could use the bike for an hour and I would feel better maybe. I just watch SEx in the city, it feels like a guilty pleasure kind of thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:56 PM Flag
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Well then you sacrificed your life and your marriage, not just your body, to breastfed a 18 month old 3 times a night. That's not normal. I am a stressed our DW with two kids and a 60 hour a week job. So I know stress. But you're being a martyr and at the same time complaining and making horrible decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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I'm not being a martyr at all - I'm not even complaining. I am very happy with who I am, what I have achieved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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You clearly don't want anyone's input, happy to be out of shape and stressed. GL.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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Correct, I'm not trying to change myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:23 AM Flag
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There are great exercises online for plantar fasciitis. ReaLly. They work instantly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:18 AM Flag
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Link PLEASE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:24 AM Flag
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25 years later, we're glad to have each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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How do you look 25 years later? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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I look fine for my age. DH looks good too. People mature and don't focus on the looks so much if everyone is healthy and happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Could you address the grays and make an effort to get "hot" sweatpants (black spandex, basically)? I feel like everything else is TOTALLY acceptable. If you feel willing/able to do more, than maybe lose ten pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:59 PM Flag
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I think I will lose weight soon - 10 pounds is doable. Black spandex? That would look ridiculous on me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:05 AM Flag
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Based on all your comments here, you've made these decisions for children and lifestyle at the expense of your life, health and husband. DH should be quite upset and resentful, frankly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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Dh has a great life. Why would he be upset? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:57 AM Flag
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My dh was thin and in shape. Had tons of hair. Fasf forward 15 years, fat, bald and farts all the time. Runs around in his underwear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:13 AM Flag
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So exactly what I am after. How do you feel about him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:23 AM Flag
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Your DH should be disgusted by you. I've read all tour posts. You're this obsessive mommy that wants to get all this credit for this fake sacrifice. And you're using your kids as a way to deflect from the harm to DH. But hey who cares about the husbands around here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:45 AM Flag
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I'm not looking for any credit. I'm looking for dh's views on their wives after 15 years of marriage, and weight gain, gray hair, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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From your responses, it sounds like you've given up and maybe are even using your kids as a way to create distance between you and your DH but don't want the guilt associated with doing that. From my experience, men aren't turned off by their wife who gained weight from childbearing as long as it doesn't scream secondary symptom of something larger (like eating due to depression). However, I imagine that your DH is well aware that you've given up and don't care if he finds you attractive. He likely isn't saying"I loose this woman," but rather, I don't want to destroy my family. He's a man with needs, and he married a woman and is expecting you to act like one, which is to say in love with him and take some pride in her appearance. You're a cautionary tale, not a wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 01:48 AM Flag
[ - ] my daughter is going to know to not to damn offer to pay for dates. you guys are raising a generation of idiots who are going to marry selfish bozos. 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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But will your daughter know how to make eloquent posts on an anonymous online forum? That is the question ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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she's in g&t. not to worry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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That means nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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she's smarter than you and your dd are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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np: okay, you kinda seem like a loser now.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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i'm so sad someone i don't know on ub thinks i'm a loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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I completely disagree with your grammar but you're right in that a daughter should NEVER be told that it's ok to go half on a date. Men always pay, period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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Boys are not willing to pay anymore. Coffee dates [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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those losers will not be courting my dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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"courting" lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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That's right!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:37 AM Flag
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The they should not expect easy sex too. It's way unbalanced now. Men watch porn, want easy bjs, girl pays, anal...women need to change this up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:37 AM Flag
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Women should make a guy work for her attention [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:20 AM Flag
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Yep, much better to raise them to believe a woman's role is dependency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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it's not dependency. a man has to work for it. anything too easy or free or cheap is not valued. basic law of economics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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So "working for it" is defined by picking up the check? As in paying for it so it's not for free? Not sure the world's oldest profession is something I want my DD to aspire to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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yep. they've gotta pay for it. my daughter is going to be worth it. yours can give it away for free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:10 AM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:20 AM Flag
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Since dating started, it has been basic etiquette for women to reciprocate and pay for some of the dates; it's just that women were always supposed to be subtle and pretend someone else paid. It was either a picnic in the park that "was nothing, just bits from the icebox" or tickets to an event that "my aunt gave me". I'm happy to live in a time when I'm allowed to be proud of my job and my ability to contribute, instead of having to pretend that men do everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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that's stupid. dd is not going that stupid route. she can buy dessert or coffee after dinner. that is it. and bonus if the guy says, "oh, don't be silly." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Ill-mannered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:35 PM Flag
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This. It's in Emily Post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Ou she's just an old hag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:39 AM Flag
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+1 Splitting the bill is lame. But dating a man who can't handle the woman paying sometimes is unacceptable. That's how you end up married to a man who thinks the woman should do most of the housework and childcare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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The guys who split the bill end up not contributing much to the housework either - they just tell the wife that it doesn't really need to get done and to relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:29 AM Flag
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The "someone gave me tickets" ploy works. The man doesn't feel taken advantage of, the woman gets to do some of the inviting and pursuing, and there are no awkward moments around who pays. It's the best 3rd date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:53 PM Flag
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Not true. Women made dinner some and the boy came to the parents home for dinner that's it. Some cultures had dowrys but only after an official engagement and marriage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:39 AM Flag
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Women need to pay half after the first date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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^^ married to a loser [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Why? I dated successfully in NYC for years and never paid nor was I ever asked. I spent time getting pretty, presented myself in stylish clothes, made witty conversation, that's what I contributed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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a lot of men want to be the provider. The ones that don't are weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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Agree. I learned that late [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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there ya go. seriously, wtf are women paying for all these dates? are they not worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Kind of sucks the fun out of dating IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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I don't like splitting checks on dates. Friends split checks. Dates do not. Whoever invited pays (and women should do some of the inviting). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:58 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:41 AM Flag
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Eh. My dh didn't pay much at first. Ended up being the major provider [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:42 AM Flag
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Whoever invited should pay. But I am going to teach my dd that at least in the beginning, the boy should be pursuing her and asking her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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op: dd is also going to learn to NEVER ask out a guy. if they don't ask, they are either a) not interested or b) diffident enough to not matter in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Miss Havisham? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:53 AM Flag
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OR: I agree personally. I have a friend who is in a relationship like this, where she pursued, and she has been supporting her bf financially for many years (they never married, I'm sure because he didn't want to). It works well for her, but it would never work for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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she's gonna regret it one day. without a doubt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:11 AM Flag
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Believe me, it doesn't work for her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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I hate that this is true, but whenever I asked out a guy when I was dating, even if he said yes, it went nowhere, because he really wasn't that interested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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That's right. Never [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:46 AM Flag
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Why are you so angry about this? Did you get dumped recently? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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She's a single mother who can't sustain a serious relationship because she's more concerned about being perceived as the princess in the tower than in building a partnership. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:57 PM Flag
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that's losers who keep paying for dates. women who discern don't get screwed with idiots like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:13 AM Flag
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the thread about 11yo ds asking out for ice cream and the moms says, "the girl should offer to split the check." wtf. she can have ice cream with her friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:13 AM Flag
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Remember, tell DD, "when in doubt, stay off your knees". Best UB advice ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:19 AM Flag
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lol. i remember that one. ha ha. that was an epic thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:29 AM Flag
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In the dating stage I always offer to go halves. If the guy is serious about me he'll refuse and pay the entirety. I don't consider it a date if we go halves and I'll treat him as non-date material going forward. We pay more equitably once we're serious. It's always worked for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:21 AM Flag
[ - ] It's my bday. DH sent flowers at work yesterday and that is it. Not even getting a cupcake and a candle. He loves me! Lol. Getting drunk while not speaking to him. Am I wrong? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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yes, it's just a bday. i even forget my own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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I think so. He sent you flowers! Most years, I myself forget my birthday at this age... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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Lol! I don't think I am that old... And kids (2-5) remembered, and he knows I like the family celebrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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He remembered too, he sent you flowers, remember? If you want the family celebrating, take charge and celebrate. You're not a little kid anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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I think flowers at work is actually really thoughtful and shows advance planning. Am I insane?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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I know I know, only he ordered them the night before on a whim and sooooo overpaid for them (we are on a very tight budget). Now he wants a pass when he knows all I want was a bs cake and candles and noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Sounds like he can't do anything right. Do him a favor and divorce him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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does he really know that you would have been happy with bday cake and candles? tell him if you have not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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I have told him again and again. Big deal last year. All I focking want is the kids to bring me something with a candle and yell/sing happy birthday. That's all I want. He knows I don't care about the flowers at all. Certainly not $80 for 5 roses at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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i hate freaking flowers now, though i still get them sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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are you like 14 years old? if he sent you flowers at work, that's your birthday recognition. it was thoughtful and kind. you aren't speaking to him because you also wanted a cupcake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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Something tells me he won't care that you aren't speaking to him. Please tell me you don't have children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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You don't deserve the flowers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Wait-- is this a joke? He sent flowers and you are made at him?? I reminded my boyfriend about my last birthday a month beforehand. He assured me that he would remember. I reminded him again two weeks beforehand. Again, he assured me that he would remember. Well when the day came, he totally forgot. Remembered a few days later. And I still like him anyway :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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OMG, flowers! At work! Yes, grow up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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My DH doesnt do anything for my birthday. The only reason it bothers me is he should be showing the DC's an example of doing a little something for my birthday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Oh I just saw he sent flowers, that was nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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that would bother me, too. we make such a big deal for our children's birthdays and children should be taught that their parents should be recognized and celebrated, too. not to mention, it is fun for them! it's also a show of respect. i don't care what he does for me, but i want a gift and cake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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Thank you. And while I appreciate that everybody is different. Why couldn't he humor me? That's what I like. My kids making a big deal. Wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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You're an adult. Flowers are plenty and more than most people get. I honestly don't get adults who are this worked up about birthdays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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You sound horrible and annoying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do some couples never get a sitter?! I am friends with a few mothers who never get a sitter to go out. I made plans with one friend 3 weeks in advance to have a couples night out, she said "hmm, we don't feel like arranging for a sitter, can we all meet on Saturday during the day with the kids too?". Another friend who has 4 kids, never swaps or hired a sitter either. Asked to get coffee one day. "She says oh, we don't hire sitters, can you come here with the kids?" I mean, once in awhile is ok, no? It's hard to always be with the kids. Sometimes you can't have a proper conversation. Ugh, I need to get out. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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Find a few friends who don't have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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Many reasons they may not feel like sharing. Money is tight. Kids are too clingy. Had a bad past experience with a sitter. Really picky about who watches the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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But do you ever go out with DH? It's healthy to be away for the kids for a little and get adult time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Me, personally? Yes, I do, when we have a reliable sitter. I'm just saying from experience, there might be several reasons they don't have backup childcare at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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At the moment, try 6 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Oh please. Who are you to tell others how to live and what is healthy. My dh and I waited a lo g time to have children. We were thrilled to hang at home. Our marriage was (children are older) and is perfectly healthy. We didnt need "date night". As a matter of fact, eating at home naked on the sofa was much more fun than sitting in a theater watching a movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Ok, trying too hard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:04 AM Flag
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Find a few friends who also enjoy an occasional night w/o kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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i had a full time babysitter. have never hired one since losing her. we're not super social. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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So weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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Not really. It's natural to be protective of your kids and for moms to want to be the ones who care for them. Weird that you can't understand this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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Sorry, you are weird. We hire very reliable sitters through our church and neighbors and friends. It's called community. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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You sound low IQ. Have fun when people from your "community" molest your kids. Studies show kids are most likely to be molested by a family friend who knows the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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No. You sound low iq. Normal people can step away from the children and have some adult time. You can't think that every molester ever out there is after your kid. Sheesh. Your DH must love this relationship you have now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:53 PM Flag
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Omg you sound like ex DF. She was CONVINCED that every person her daughter crossed paths with was a potential molestor. She told me her DD had the "body type" preferred by pedophiles. Fucking crazy that one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:59 PM Flag
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You can still "get out" while meeting up with people and their kids. What do you have against kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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np - Nothing against kids but I sometimes want to go out to a movie, a play, dinner, whatever, without kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Odd - posted twice. Was supposed to be above only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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np - Nothing against kids but I sometimes want to go out to a movie, a play, dinner, whatever, without kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Maybe it's a budget thing? It's hard -- by the time that you pay for a sitter and a meal/movie, you're out a few hundred dollars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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I don't have kids yet, but I would never hire a sitter. I had babysitters as a kid who were awful. One hit me, one teased me, one let me watch a scary movie with her that I had nightmares for months afterwards. [ Reply | More ]
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I had awful sitters too when I was a kid, but I blame my Mom on not properly screening them. I have 3 sitters on my list that are wonderful and my kids love them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Omg, you have NO idea then what it's like having kids. You still have your freedom and can come and go as you please. You can shower in peace. You can take a dump without a little person banging on the door every time. You can walk out the door unencumbered. Until you have kids, shut it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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DH here. I miss my peaceful dumps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:13 AM Flag
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I really enjoyed sitters when I was a kid. We got pizza, played cards, watched movies. Good times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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This is just such a naive comment, I literally lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:54 PM Flag
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Because paid help can abuse your kid or just flat out neglect them. Is this really so hard for you to figure out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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But why can't the Dh watch them for two hours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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Who said he can't? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Over controlling psychos. Talk about helicopter parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Please...relax. Most kids enjoy a few hours with a college kid or h.s. neighbor. I loved it when my parents went out and my kids love being with sitter. You're not putting them in foster care, just dinner and movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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I would consider a mom swap if offered but I would never hire someone I don't know to watch the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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I've never hired a sitter. I know, I know, I'm just not comfortable with it. We've used family to babysit though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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I hate you people. I hope you're aware that 85% of children are molested by family members not strangers. Relax Helicopter Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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You relax. It's literally none of your business whether I hire a sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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Control freak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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Hate is a strong word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Tell it to my husband, who was molested by his sitter for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Don't mix facts with emotions. UB doesn't like rationality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:54 PM Flag
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Np:.not everyone has available family. We always had awesome sitters. Used college aged kids and paid,over market...totally worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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Because my mortgage is $4600 and I daycare cost me $20k last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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Never. Too expensive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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We do ask grandparents once in a blue, but never a sitter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Who are you people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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pp. we don't have as much money as we used to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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Because they don't want to. That's ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Yes, you do need to get out. My kids are older now and babysit for others. Those friends sound a bit dippy and totally un-fun. Find a few people who like to get out once a month or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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dh and i rarely went out alone while the kids were young. when my mom stayed in the summers, we might have gone out alone once or twice in a months time but other than that, just was not important enough for us to find someone...since we did not use them often, we did not have a "regular" to call...takes time and energy and of course extra money. we were lucky and had friends that also had young kids and felt the same way, so them coming over or us going there, worked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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A lot of the time it is fun to get together with other families- no cost, the kids are entertained and you can visit with your friends. What is wrong with this? We get sitters but at $20/hr we usually get them so we can go out alone together. If I am with friends with kids, I like to get together as a family. Once you split a check and pay for the sitter, it could be a $300 night to go out with friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 01:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Woke up at a goal weight. Worked out. Had to eat something. Gained a pound! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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it's just water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:08 PM Flag
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You're dehydrated after going without food and water for 8-10 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:09 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 hours till Brucilla 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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Calm down. Got nothing else to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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What's Brucilla? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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Reading OP's post makes me feel so much better about my own life. Please take me out back and put me down if I ever get this excited over reality TV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
[ - ] When did your doctor tell you it was ok to take baby out in public (around people, public transit, museums, etc.) and when did you actually do it? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:03 PM Flag
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I don't remember a doctor telling me there was an age for that. I just took DBs out with me when I felt rested and up for going out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:05 PM Flag
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I think I forgot to ask, and took the kid out and about right away. I know we did Bjorn for the subway for a long time - seemed very protected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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Right awa, and right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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OP: thsnks. I've been taking 2 wk old db out every day, to the park or to uncrowded places, but was told when i left the hospital to keep him away from people/crowds. Forgot to ask for how long, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Who told you that from the hospital? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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A nurse, but zi asked the on-cal ped and he thought it was a good idea to wait a bit--said there were a lot of bugs going around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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8 weeks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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18 years ago my dr said 6 weeks for crowds/people - but outside was always okay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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I asked my doctor this, and when he stopped laughing he said "you do realize humans have been having babies for thousands of years, right?" We have a good relationship, so my response was just "message received". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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I didn't ask. DB was on city bus at 2 days old. Subway one week. Plane one month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Why don't cops on tv ever turn on the lights? Is that just to up the tension, or do they walk around in the dark in real life? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:52 PM Flag
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Someone told me once that police/tac teams don't turn on lights because electricity is the easiest tool for a booby trap. But I think tv takes it to extremes just for the drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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There are different views on this. Stealth entries never use lights. sometimes you use intermittent light on/light off when searching. others say the weapon mounted lights go on and never turn off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, so it's been a while since I bought shoes, but this is the first time in like a decade that heels and soles have been this thin. WTF? I will break my ankle and have blisters. Everyone else surviving? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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Surviving by refusing to buy crappy shoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:45 PM Flag
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yep. no shitty shoes. actually, just no heels at all. fuddy duddy is the way to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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If you think your only options are crappy shoes or fuddy duddy, you are a marketer's dream. Don't settle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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i can't even bear to look at heels now. just hurts to even look at them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Do you mean stilettos? Refuse to wear them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:46 PM Flag
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I noticed a few years ago all the shoes at like DSW were unwearable and synthetic, but have seen certain brands getting better lately. (I only shop cheap or discount) Are you looking for work or casual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:48 PM Flag
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dress up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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Have you tried Nordstrom or Nordstrom Rack? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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Tried Zappo's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:48 AM Flag
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I honestly have found there are only two brands that work for me. The one I go to over and over again is Stuart Weitzmann. Not all of them work, but it's the only brand that does. They also will "stretch" the shoe for you. If it pinches at a certain part, they will stretch it and it becomes comfortable. It's a little more pricey, but I honestly only have about 6 pair of heels total and it covers anything I need (black day pumps, nude day pumps, metallic evening, nude sandals, black sandals, fun colored sandal) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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I heard a couple tips once on buying comfortable shoes. 1. Walk on a non-carpeted area (hard wood in the store) to see if they are actually comfortable. 2. Stand perfectly neutral. If the pressure is on the balls of your feet, the shoes will never be comfortable. Second one sounds strange and is hard to explain, but it works. I have never bought a pair of heels I couldn't walk miles in and be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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.... Or just buy a shoe stretcher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:12 AM Flag
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ITA. My go tos are SW and Ferragamo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:13 AM Flag
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s/o If anyone wants to fund my further education, I'd love to go do a research master's in some of the new materials, and apply it to designing shoes that are fully supportive without being huge and clunky. Anyone? :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:02 PM Flag
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I think 3D printing shoes will be freaking awesome. Basically a totally fitting pair of shoes. I'm surprised nobody thought of that yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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what will be printing them out of? paper? rubber? plastic? I may pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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They can do plastic now. I heard certain kind of synthetic materials. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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Someone has. You can get the software/blueprints to print at home, but you need a 3D modeller and printer. There are also shoe stores that do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Which store.? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:06 AM Flag
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Qualities been bad. Nine West is unwearable. Try cole Haan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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Too Suburban for my taste. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.25.15, 12:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to or lived in Quebec? How did you like it? Did you prefer Montreal or Quebec City? Tia 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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been to both. as a tourist for a long weekend, I preferred quebec city but if i were to live there, I would prefer montreal by a long shot. both are worth visiting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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Quebec City is very pretty, a little like Paris. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:48 PM Flag
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DH and I went up to the Saguenay Fjord, Lake St. Jean, and back down through the Gaspe peninsula. That whole region is really incredible. The St. Lawrence river creates a gigantic canyon through the landscape, and there are lots of hills with great views for hiking and taking photos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:54 PM Flag
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Op: thank you all for this feedback and the great suggestions! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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I lived in Montreal for a few years and I've been to Quebec City several times. QC is great to visit on a long weekend, but unless you speak French fluently you will be miserable there. There is an English-speaking community (and a large Jewish community) in Montreal, so much better for an American if you are going to be there for awhile. Montreal is wonderful in the summer - theater festivals, comedy festival, African music and jazz festivals. Great for biking along river, outdoor cafes, really wonderful vibe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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op: thanks for this info!! I do speak French fwiw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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THIS. Quebec City is very small and would be tough if you don't speak French. Honestly I wouldn't recommend Montreal either if you have no French...you can live there, but a lot of jobs would require some French and majority can speak both languages. Lovely, cosmopolitan city though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] DS likes a girl and he won't stop clutching his phone and checking texts every moment. I guess it was our equivalent of sitting at home praying the phone would ring. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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How old is he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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13 and they are just friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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Could you encourage him to ask her out on a date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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He won't. He is shy and he knows that she is not allowed to date yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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np. OMG, why would you "encourage" your 13yo to ask someone out on a date? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Well I just got the sense from her post that the boy really likes her, but may be too shy/awkward to do anything about it. I just thought that maybe his mom could give him a few pointers, that's all :) I think that puppy love is cute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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poor thing. You need to get him a movie or video game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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I'm trying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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So cute!! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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Aww! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone started a low dose ssri in the 3rd trimester? Any success with helping ease ppd symptoms? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:35 PM Flag
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What are your symptoms? I did not but started optivite right after I gave birth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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Anxiety mostly with some depression [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:39 PM Flag
[ - ] 'tis the reunion season. So, What do you do when you get a text or email from an old boyfriend or frenemy or even nemesis you have not seen for years, who says "just wanted to let you know how sorry I am about your divorce. How stressful that must have been to have your marriage not work out." do you just reply "thanks for your concern"? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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If it's from someone who was an actual friend, then respond. If someone who wasn't a real friend, ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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I would, depending. People change and mature over the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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Ugh. Awful. Don't respond [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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"i am just thankful i did not get fat in the process." or, "having a solid career has helped to keep me focused" or "at least my kids didn't end up at some really crap school. i count every little blessing." or "i do thank my lucky stars that through it all no slut rumors surfaced anywhere." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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I would say "Thanks for thinking of me. How have you been?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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me, i would ignore...but how do they know this information? find it weird you would get more than one of these [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.24.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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