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[ - ] Feel depressed: yet another job rejection and this one after just a phone interview. I am so upset that I keep bombing interviews. Please advise me...should I hire a career coach, ask for feedback? Have been unemployed for 5 months:( Field: IT; Business Systems Analyst. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:35 PM Flag
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What do you mean by bombing? Like, you are getting stumped on the questions or the positions just aren't a good fit? Also, have you looked at consulting jobs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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I can't imagine feedback would help you in any way. You have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. Has the job already been promised to someone but the company has to go through a charade of screening candidates for some legal reason? You'll never know. Are you simply applying for the wrong jobs? I mean, you're getting the interviews but then...? Maybe work with someone who will help you with interview skills; there are professional coaches for that specifically (a career coach is more for helping you find out what you want to be when you grow up, isn't it?) -- if you're sure your weakness is the interview, that can be fixed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 08:04 PM Flag
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You can’t take job rejections personally. Ask for feedback and keep networking and stay upbeat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:46 PM Flag
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And oh yes, watch YouTube videos on interview skills [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Making a Halloween scene for a school event. Is a body bag too scary for 8 yr. olds? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:34 PM Flag
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Not sure they would know what it was, and if they did, probably yes too scary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:38 PM Flag
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You would have to leave the end unzipped with a foot or bloody head hanging out. Then they'd know. [ Reply | More ]
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This. I'd stick with a coffin holding a skeleton or a vampire, not the aftermath of a murder. Go supernatural not gory. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not cool. [ Reply | More ]
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This is why I hate Halloween. That would be too scary for ME. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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+ a million. I like cute Halloween things not this zombie, mass murderer, grotesque stuff. I have an orange glitter cat and a black bat paper garland (with matte glitter!). And a skeleton with a red bandanna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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same! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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Body bag with DH in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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too morbid . I would keep it to basics. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Gross and at a school? NO WAY. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you for real? You can’t be serious. [ Reply | More ]
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my kids are animals... they'd think it was awesome. But I would advise against it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone point me toward vegan baked goods recipes that are bakesale-worthy? Either specific recipes or a good book or website would work. Thanks. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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Look at Deliciously Ella or Helmsley sisters recipes. Also google bbc vegan recipes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:39 PM Flag
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I like the cookbooks by Tanya Barnard and Sarah Kramer: How it all Vegan; The Garden of Vegan; and La Dolce Vegan. They are general cookbooks but have baked goods sections. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:39 PM Flag
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My son has severe dairy, egg, nut and soy allergies. I am honestly really good at this. I made up a few on my own recipes, but there are some I found online that are really good. I'll post links: [ Reply | More ]
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Hmm.. the rest I must have made up because I can't find links to any of them. I wish I could quickly develop a website and post them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:51 PM Flag
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OP: Bake sale is December 2. Get to it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:53 PM Flag
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Honestly the applesauce cake is AMAZING. My friends who are not vegan or trying to avoid any ingredients asked for the recipe and make it often. Very simple, looks great, and tastes like a cinnabon. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks all, great leads. I appreciate it very much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] DH here, looking for advice please. My amazing DW (whom I love, admire and respect very much) is a slob, while I am very neat. Clothes/shoes dropped everywhere, towels, papers. Lights left on everywhere, bathroom countertop filled with everything from the cabinet. I always insist on cleaning the kitchen, vacuum-cleaning everywhere, cleaning toilets, doing laundry etc. (in addition to what the cleaning person does biweekly). I WOH and she SAH, which is not a problem at all (mutual decision) - she does a lion's share of kids' stuff, does it great and I am very grateful for that. I mean I am ok doing all the cleaning (I actually insist on that) but having to also put away all her clothes/shoes/towels makes me resentful. Our kids take after her and I have to also clean after all of them (sometimes succeeding in making them do some of that). How can I break this pattern and motivate her to keep some order in the house? Talking doesn't help - she says she knows it's not right but gets upset that I point out to her how bad and unfair it all is. Thanks. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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I could have written this exact post about DH. Been married 11 years, still trying to figure out how to teach him that putting something "away" does not mean "drop on the floor exactly where you are standing". I have yet to change him, and have given up. either I pick up after my entire family, or I live in a shithole. I choose the former. I completely understand your resentment. PS why are you on this board? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:27 PM Flag
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Things! You can’t change people. Just got you react. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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I am a parent (and DH) so parenting (and marriage-related) discussions are helpful, especially women's perspectives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:52 PM Flag
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I told dh either he cleans or he pays+ arranges everything for a housecleaner (including purchasing supplies, waiting to open the door, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:59 PM Flag
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this is my husband too. I live in a cluttered place (I do just enough so it's not gross), because I'm just not going to follow after him picking things up. I'm not the damn maid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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does she know that it makes you resentful or do you hide it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:28 PM Flag
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I let her know (sparingly) but usually it's just easier to take care of it myself and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:51 PM Flag
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Can you afford more cleaning help? If you're willing to do the surfaces (vaccuum, etc.) your money might be better spent on someone one hour a day just before you're due home. There's a service called Something Fairy or Fairy NYC or such that specializes in that -- the same cleaner every day just to tidy up. Or if you live in an apartment building, put a sign in the laundry room -- someone else's cleaner might want to pick up an extra hour of pay. Good luck -- must be stressful. I can't go to sleep if everything isn't in place, so I feel your pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:29 PM Flag
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smh [ Reply | More ]
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np At what? Slobs? One hour cleaning services? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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we already have cleaning help during the day but the end of the day and weekends are on me - cannot imagine having anyone come on weekends. I leave what I can for Monday but a lot of stuff I cannot put off and just do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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I could not love someone who is a slob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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she is great in almost any other respect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:54 PM Flag
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Maybe she's tired. Can you afford cleaning person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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replied already [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:55 PM Flag
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This is my dh. I suspect he has ADHD. Incapable of remembering to completly finish a task. I am the sahm in a large house and resent him for all the extra work. I gave up on him (raised by a slob hoarder) but you SHOULD NOT tolerate the behavior from your kids. I leave bins by the stairs so at the end of the day kids must put all their craps in their own bins and carry them to their room. Same goes for their laundry. I don't want to raise dc who are slobs. That is a character flaw in my book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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This is so exactly my situation that I am wondering if this is my own DH writing the post ...James ?...anyways, I cant explain what it is. Its super impossible for me to pick up. I just hate doing it. It bothers me as much as you, and I am the culprit. Even though I feel such calm when it looks neat. Hoping that your wife does reach a breaking point - mine is usually Saturday mornings, I kick everyone out and ask for 2 hours for pick up ( not cleaning - pick up is different from cleaning) . Then I can go out and enjoy a peaceful weekend with the family. Maybe you can offer that ...take DC's out for a while on the weekend and let her have that time to try to arrange -- or since you are so helpful , make it a game that the whole family does for one hour and then go out for a celebration lunch ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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DW, you got me... just kidding. My DW told me pretty much the same. And I am very involved with kids and sometimes take all of them out. Yes, once every other week it allows her to tackle the issue but it never lasts... :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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Sounds like she is a dirty girl that grew up with full -time housekeeper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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Read Kevin Leman. Apply natural consequences. Also, FWIW, I find the less you own, the easier it is. If there is only one pair of scissors in the entire home, and 4 pairs of socks per person, and one towel per person, people seem to be able to manage DIY better. When it's too much, it's overwhelming like the OR wrote above, and so they don't even know where to start or why bother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:51 PM Flag
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agreed - thanks [ Reply | More ]
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I am you with a DD that is like this -- however, I just take all her things around the house, place it in a basket and put it in her room and close the door. She is interestingly a germaphobe but god, the messiest. There's nothing I can do. I've given up. My DH is similar to a lesser extent and it's a bone of contention. While not the cause of it, we are divorcing and I have to say, so glad to not pick after him and clean the kitchen, again and again because he comes in for ONE thing and leaves a disaster behind. You sound like a great DH and maybe you can get a room to yourself where they don't mess up? [ Reply | More ]
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thanks and very sorry about your divorce - hope everything works out for the best. we are in NYC so no hope for "my room" - I just have mess-free islands around my closets, bathroom sink etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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its called ADHD and I am totally like this [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DH and his brother are great guys. Humble, funny, smart, don't want attention or stuff. Their sister is nothing like them. Vapid, mean, whines a lot - how are these people related? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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Siblings are individuals. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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I'm nothing like my sister (or brother) [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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It happens. My sister is a religious fundamentalist and I'm agnostic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:23 PM Flag
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I don't know. My ex DH (long islander) is an accent-free, conservatively dressed regular guy...his brother is a track suit and pinky ring wearing Irish mob wanna be and his sister is a Fran Drescher clone. Parents are relatively regular if not my cup of tea. They're all related and were all raised the same, went to same schools, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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That’s like the opposite of my family - everyone was normal, educated, cultured but my sister seems to think of herself as a working class person, everyone is richer than our family (not true), she acquired a weird accent, dresses in cheapest H&M polyester, with crazy prints. I think it’s very weird. [ Reply | More ]
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Same in DH's family -- two wonderful business men/family men and one completely dysfunctional wreck living on fraudulently obtained disability. No idea how it happened. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Does anyone have a super-controlling DH? Mine is controlling from everything from what I wear to when and where we have sex. I've been married for 1 year but if this doesn't change I'm going to leave. Does counseling help? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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You didn't realize this before you got married? [ Reply | More ]
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I saw signs but ignored them. [ Reply | More ]
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Get out now. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I doubt it's going to change on its own. Maybe counseling will do some good, but take care of yourself because your post definitely has some read flags. I hope things work out for you. [ Reply | More ]
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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Many men refuse counseling, especially men like this. You are lucky that you've identified the problem early on. Set yourself a deadline for the decision and DO NOT GET PREGNANT. [ Reply | More ]
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You already know the answer to this. Very sorry you are in this situation. [ Reply | More ]
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Is this new post marriage? [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More ]
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She means, you knew this about him & married him anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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It wasn't obvious because this started out as a long distance thing to where we were living together and both traveling a lot. By the time I saw real red flags we were already engaged and I'm 37. I didn't want to start over. A mistake in hindsight but here I am. [ Reply | More ]
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This is what you get for marrying Christian Grey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:51 PM Flag
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No, NOTHING helps. Trust me, please. Follow the other poster's advice -- DO NOT GET PREGNANT. Leave as soon as you can. This behavior will turn into physical and verbal abuse. I am divorcing my DH of 15 years -- same behavior and it just got worse and worse and I kept lying to myself. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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Follow this advice and save yourself a life of grief. Start over fresh. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 a million. It will only get worse....exponentially if you bring a baby into the world. Get out. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 a million. It will only get worse....exponentially if you bring a baby into the world. Get out. [ Reply | More ]
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It will HELP YOU, to identify this as what it is, which is emotional abuse, but counseling will NOT HELP HIM. BTDT. DO NOT HAVE KIDS BEFORE YOU FIGURE THIS OUT AND LEAVE!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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Sounds like a narcissist. Get out now. I have a friend who was with a guy like this for years. Things only got worse. She finally got away after a bitter divorce and custody battle. She remarried, but the guy has not been able maintain a relationship with anyone since. Every woman has ended up running for the hills. [ Reply | More ]
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No, counseling will not help [ Reply | More ]
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RUN. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 08:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Have any of you eaten at the Indian restaurant Vatan? Fun or cheesy? How was the food? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The food was good. I'm not sure what you mean by cheesy, it was basically like a normal restaurant. [ Reply | More ]
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Several times. It was fun. Food was good. [ Reply | More ]
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OK thanks. Someone said it was like Epcot's interpretation of a country. [ Reply | More ]
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Just go and have some fun. I like it because it's vegetarian. It's also Kosher. To hell with the snobs. [ Reply | More ]
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I will have fun! Not a snob at all. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, but the decor is not there for stupid fat American tourists. It’s there for people from Gujarat. [ Reply | More ]
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I liked it. Food is good. [ Reply | More ]
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I adore this place. It’s not cheesy. Bring an appetite. [ Reply | More ]
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I’ve never been but my friend who is from India recommended it to me, so it must be good and not inauthentic. [ Reply | More ]
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Vegetarian place? I think I ate there; no strong desire to go back. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anybody have a DC who plays a musical instrument? Do they also take music theory? For how many years? DC plays piano very well but not looking go pro or anything. We want to enhance his musical studies but how much Theory is too much? He has done 2 years already and this next year of class is a lot of work piled on a heavily scheduled kid. Any advice from those who have been there on whether to do it one more year? Don't want to be shortsighted by pulling him too soon but I'm not sure if I'm pushing him too hard either. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Basic theory - understanding key signatures, minor vs. major, time, etc. is essential but beyond that, my opinion is that theory is only useful if your DC wants to compose or become more than just a casual performer. [ Reply | More ]
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I did it for the past three years with my daughter and don’t regret it, despite shuttling her to the west side once a week. She an exceptionally good math student, and I am convinced music theory helped facilitate that. [ Reply | More ]
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how old is she? [ Reply | More ]
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OP - this is the issue I'm having - I know it's good for him, but at what point do I just say this is good enough, and as much as he really needs? [ Reply | More ]
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Does he enjoy it? Is he asking to quit? Is it interfering with his getting his other work done? [ Reply | More ]
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he does not enjoy it, and yes, he is asking to quit. I wouldn't say it is interfering with other work, but the homework is a bit of a drag. [ Reply | More ]
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Then I'd let him quit. [ Reply | More ]
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Why don't you ask his primary piano teacher? [ Reply | More ]
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He said that if he is not enjoying it, then he should quit, as he does teach him some theory in their lessons. But he does encourage him to do other group music activity, like joining an ensemble (not sure how I'm going to pull that together right now, but whatever). I guess i'm answering my own question... Perhaps it is time to quit? [ Reply | More ]
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I posted above about basic theory being essential. Two years is enough, imo, for him to have a solid background. My ds took three years' worth and the third year seemed like minutiae (based on his homework), and he didn't see a connection to what he was learning to play on his instrument. The lack of relevance took away pretty much any appeal for him, so he quit. [ Reply | More ]
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I did theory for three years. I enjoyed it but I primarily enjoyed as a social thing (first half was theory, second half was quartet/trio practice). I am bad at music but I enjoyed the socializing aspect of it (different friends than school) and I would never push a kid to do it unless they liked it. Life is too short. Why? Is he going to be a concert pianist/composer? Probably not, so let him quit. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, Everyone. I guess I needed to write out my thoughts and get some validation that it was okay to quit, which is my instinct. I really appreciate when UB is supportive and thoughtful. Thank you all again! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What’s a very old-money/WASPy career? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Museum curator, private school admissions, sailing boat captain. [ Reply | More ]
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YES to the museum curator. So many of my female friends from my college who came from $$$ majored in art history and went this route. [ Reply | More ]
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Private banker [ Reply | More ]
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As in wealth manager? This seems to be an upscale version of the real estate agent to me - always showy, always selling, but no real money of their own. Leeching off of wealthier friends. [ Reply | More ]
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This is the entire banking industry, except they can make real money leeching off the people who accomplish things in flyover. [ Reply | More ]
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Lawyer [ Reply | More ]
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Lawyer, Professor of An Obscure Subject, IB, Dead Language expert [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Alcoholic [ Reply | More ]
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Good answer. My DH, who is not old money, went to school with many old money guys who chose this career. [ Reply | More ]
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My great uncle was an heir to a white shoe law firm as well as a counsel for a very well-known volunteer program. He retired in his 50s and he and my great-aunt made jewelry. [ Reply | More ]
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Book editor/publisher [ Reply | More ]
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Estates and Trusts attorney. Like Newland Archer. [ Reply | More ]
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Good call, lol! [ Reply | More ]
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manage your investments (ie, be idle rich), raise horses, interior decorator, book editor, investment banker [ Reply | More ]
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Interior designer [ Reply | More ]
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The biggest WASP I ever met had a dad who was a antiques dealer specializing in Silver. He even had one of those crazy white people nicknames, like Skipper [ Reply | More ]
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rofl [ Reply | More ]
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Teaching at a boarding school. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Meghan Markle - in love or the best acting role of her life? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If my biological clock was ticking, sure, I'd settle for a prince. [ Reply | More ]
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Why would she not love him? He is pretty hot and by all accounts fun to be around. [ Reply | More ]
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This. Think they are great for each other. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd bet my two guinea pigs that she doesn't give a hoot about you either way. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there really a difference? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't care about that but we can talk about Gabriel Macht any day. [ Reply | More ]
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Been binging the show. It kind of sucks, but he’s so hot [ Reply | More ]
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She's in love. Common! It's a dream come true and now she has the baby. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Am I the only one that thinks they look alike? Similar features, esp nose and mouth. You are basically attracted to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, true. I see that very often in couples. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone not getting flu shots? for dc and yourself? 93 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I got mine and dd will get hers. I don't listen to conspiracy theorists. [ Reply | More ]
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We never get them. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.16.18, 05:06 PM Flag
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op we don't either, but have to admit a little scared with all the deaths [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:52 PM Flag
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I almost died when I got the flu in 2008. Had to go to ER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:52 PM Flag
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What did they do in the ER to save you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:54 PM Flag
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that I should have gotten the flu shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:56 PM Flag
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ER doctor mom - often we get people in septic shock. This involves resuscitation with fluids, IV pressors such as norepinephrine. We see a lot of organ failure, flu with superimposed pneumonia, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:00 PM Flag
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I am the OR. Yes this is exactly what they did to me. My flu was developing into pneumonia and I needed fluids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:03 PM Flag
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You see "a lot?" Or 3 cases a year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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3 cases a year seen by just one ER physician in one hospital is a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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More than three. Acute renal failure being the most common. I'd say followed close second with type 2 myocardial infarction (basically a heart attack from mismatch of oxygen supply and demand). I'd say at least a third of patients have some variant of this or other - most commonly in older folks IME. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:52 PM Flag
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It was blown out of proportion last year, even if there were more cases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:53 PM Flag
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but they are already doing that this year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:58 PM Flag
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This is the irony. So few deaths from ebola few years back and people were hysterical. 80,000 died from flu or flu-related complications last year and many don't bat an eye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:59 PM Flag
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But the 80k deaths out of how many? Ebola was contained to a few countries. If the virus had spread the way the flu can, the death toll would be catastrophic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:02 PM Flag
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Yes, perhaps even approaching 80k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:04 PM Flag
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And the death toll from the flu WAS catastrophic, but people blow off getting the vaccine because...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:11 PM Flag
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because it doesn't work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:13 PM Flag
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This! Many of those affected were vaccinated. But Big pharma wants you scared and buying their flu shot which is an educated guess at best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:14 PM Flag
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This is so sad that you and others believe this, and not in a "how pathetic" way, but that people have lost so much trust that they are misled into poor healthcare decisions. I work on the front lines of medicine and the VAST majority of people coming to my ED are unvaccinated. Those who did receive the vaccine may in fact contract influenza, but they, on average, have much milder cases. A recent study came out showing that pregnant women receiving the flu vaccine who contract flu are less likely to require hospitalization. Obviously I don't expect to change minds on a message board, but I'll just keep on advocating for my patients and the general public health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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The CDC admits it is a shot in the dark and that the risk of death is low. That's why they highlight "missing less work" and "being able to take care of the rest of the family who get it" as motivators. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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The risk of death is low, but it randomly kills. A fellow physician mom lost her otherwise healthy toddler last year. So devastating! I see it like a seatbelt. Your risk of death is fairly low when riding in a vehicle, but bad things could happen. When you know better, you do better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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the risk of being an a car accident is actually much higher that getting the flu. And car accidents are more deadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:14 PM Flag
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I get it. Personal risk aversion. But your decision affects the greater community. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:58 PM Flag
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The flu sucks. I was wiped out for a full week last year when I missed the shot window--and I never get sick. I will take the shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 07:05 PM Flag
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I never got one and never had the flu. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:05 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't you get a flu shot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:50 PM Flag
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Because Big Pharma puts gay autism in every flu shot. Do your research. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:55 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.16.18, 04:59 PM Flag
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So true. And the MSM just ignores it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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+1. They also put cooties from African American and Latino people. Scary stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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In 2012 I didn't get a flu shot and ended up in the hospital attached to an IV. Anyone who's ever suffered through the real flu would never NOT get vaccinated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:54 PM Flag
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but there are plenty who are vaccinated and go through the same thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:55 PM Flag
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Wrong. But you keep drinking the anti vaxx kool-aid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:00 PM Flag
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Not wrong, its a fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:02 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.16.18, 05:03 PM Flag
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It's not. But you keep on telling yourself whatever you want. My family and I get vaccinated. I don't care what happens to you and yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:03 PM Flag
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The vaxx is wrong many years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:27 PM Flag
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Far fewer from flu. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:01 PM Flag
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Incorrect. Those who are vaccinated may, in fact, still get sick, as the vaccine cannot protect against all strains/mutations of the flu. However, they will have less severe symptoms than an unvaccinated infected person, and are much, much less likely to suffer complications or die from the flu if they do contract it. They do not "go through the same thing" as an unprotected person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:01 PM Flag
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The current flu shots offer immunity against last year's flu. They do not know the strain of the one for this year. So you tell me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:04 PM Flag
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It will be a variant and still better than nothing at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:05 PM Flag
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The current flu shot is based on prediction of what this year's flu will be. This is partially looking at southern hemispheric strains from the last several months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:05 PM Flag
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I just did tell you, you fucking incompetent illiterate. No, the vaccine is not 100%. YES, it does protect against all strains to some degree, protects against some completely, and will lessen the severity of symptoms if you do get sick. Idiot. Have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:09 PM Flag
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Miserable person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:27 PM Flag
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AND WHY IS SHE NOT BANNED? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:34 PM Flag
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Why on earth would I be banned? Sensitive little bitch. Enjoy your flu! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:55 PM Flag
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This. I was single, lived alone, and lucky that my secretary came by to deliver papers so I could work from home (while sick). I was so delirious and unable to walk that she called an ambulance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:59 PM Flag
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My toddler daughter got the same strain of flu TWICE last year after being vaccinated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:05 PM Flag
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How do you know what strain? Most flu swabs only test for influenza A or B, but not for the hemagluttanin or the neuraminidase that defines what specific type (H1N1, et al) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:10 PM Flag
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OR - That's what I meant. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:45 PM Flag
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Had you been getting vaccinated before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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Every year, usually by Halloween. In 2012, I got it the third week of September. Lost 10 pounds in a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 07:41 PM Flag
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ER doctor mom. Always, every year, no question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:58 PM Flag
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ER doctors aren't the smartest bunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:00 PM Flag
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Would be far stupider to walk into an emergency department and care for several influenza patients without one. But hey, you do you, and best of luck with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:03 PM Flag
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Oh, really? They're smarter than you. Where'd you get your MD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:04 PM Flag
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The Jennifer A. McCarthy School of Medicine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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You, above responder, are an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:06 PM Flag
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It's true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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Actually, it's not. It's a lifestyle specialty and, as with other lifestyle specialties, it is more competitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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^I'm ER doctor mom and this is true. FWIW, I'm a double ivy grad who was in top 10% of my med school class, AOA. I love EM because the breadth and potential of what could roll through the door is unparalleled. And the flexibility of work hours is a nice perk. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:22 PM Flag
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Good for you. In general, they are not the best and the brightest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:35 PM Flag
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I'm curious why you think this and what your qualifications are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:45 PM Flag
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I have to say I agree but I have only known 3 personally to be fair. Besides the ones who majorly botched my sons diagnosis and he almost died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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Every parent who sends a sick child to school should be publicly shamed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:07 PM Flag
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Sadly, people can spread flu virus before they even have symptoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:08 PM Flag
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Every parent who fails to vaccinate their child should be publicly shamed too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:09 PM Flag
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Too late once they are sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:10 PM Flag
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+1 And my DD tells me that many times there have been sick vomiting kids in her class, the nurse tries to call the parents, and NO ONE WILL COME. So the vomiting kid is sent back to class to infect everyone for a few more hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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HATE THIS so much. Whenever my kid comes home and doesn't feel well, I ask him if there's someone else at school coughing or sniffling or vomiting and invariably it's the kid next to him or across from him. Cannot stand selfish parents who send sick kids to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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Hello, you do know that most people are contagious before the symptoms even appear? I agree with your issue of sending kids to school who are already exhibiting symptoms, but you can't control the contagion prior to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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Your persistent argument that "people are contagious before symptoms appear" have NOTHING to do with the topic in the OR, which is about parents who knowingly send sick kids to school. Yes, sometimes you don't know that kids are coming down with something. Does that give everyone carte blanche to send in their kids when they DO know that they've clearly come down with something? Does that entitle them to leave them at school the rest of the day with fever and/or vomiting when the nurse literally calls to have someone get them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:38 PM Flag
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Doesn't matter. You still need to keep your kid home from school when he's sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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Did you misunderstand my post? I said that I agree with that poster's issue that kids shouldn't send their kids to school when they're sick. And, to the poster above you: yeah, it has a lot to do with OR's post. Publicly shame those parents who do this if you want, but the fact is, even the kid who stays home when sick may have already contaminated your child. What are you going to do about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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Really? You keep your child home sick for a week when they get a cough or cold? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:42 PM Flag
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I'm 56. Only got the flu shot once. Tempting fate? Lucky? Who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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Same. 55. I think the last time I got a shot was in 1996 (I got the flu in the mid-90s and never did again). That said, DD gets it and DH gets it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:25 PM Flag
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Doctors. Doctors know. Get your flu shot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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I consider myself well-informed and apply critical reasoning to any important decision. Based on everything I know, I see absolutely no reason to avoid vaccination. It saves lives and improves quality of life as well. Everybody in my family has always been vaccinated. If flu shots reduce your chances to contract it quite significantly (last year it was an exception) and even in the case of contracting it, alleviate your symptoms - why not? Side effects that people mention are mostly conspiracy theories. P.S. the Spanish Flu killed between 50 and 100 million people ~100 years ago. Don't become a statistic and don't let your loved ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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I get mine every year after a miserable bout with the flu that left me with a lung infection. Before flu=running half marathon. I was sick with the flu+lung issue for over 2 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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Right???? Those who really got the flu KNOW. It's not just a really bad cold. You're almost praying for death, but you don't have the strength to even pray. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 07:44 PM Flag
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Aren't they REQUIRED by NY dept of Ed by end of December in order to attend school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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We skipped last year and all got it (not sure if it was a fluke or not) and I am TOTALLY making sure we get it this year. I felt so sick. Took nearly three weeks to feel fully normal. I nearly cried because my bones hurt. Both DS did cry because so uncomfortable. Forget about the deaths, I don't ever want to feel that way again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 07:34 PM Flag
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Oh yeah and then I got a full out sinus infection after. No way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 07:35 PM Flag
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Nope, scared to death of needles. DD might make me get her one. She's sensible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 07:49 PM Flag
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Not getting it. Got the real flu a few years ago and it was terrible. And I’d still never consider the flu shot before my old age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 08:03 PM Flag
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Please get the flu shot for you and dcs. I nearly died from the flu when I was 29. It sent me to the hospital, where I spent nearly a month including four days in the ICU, from double pneumonia and three abscesses of flesh-eating bacteria in my lungs. Took me another three months to get my strength back enough so that I could return to work. Even if the vaccination doesn't prevent you becoming ill, it will lessen the likelihood of hospitalization and death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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My dh never got the flu shot. He got the flu one year and so did our dd who was 3 o4 4. She was fine is a day or two and he was miserable for over a week. He has gotten it every year since. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] turns out when the mods take out the troll 1/4 of all comments disappear - so my question is - who are the other three people on this board? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I just posted the same above! Did you contribute to the Asian/Harvard post? They suspended my account. I made what I thought was a reasonable contribution to the dialogue but then the post was gone. I asked if it had been taken down and my account was suspended. UGH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:50 PM Flag
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Then how did you just post this? If you got banned? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Six Flags Fright Fest is NOKD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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are you not NJ Suburban one generation removed from Brooklyn McMansion owners? If not then yes it is NOKD [ Reply | More ]
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OP: lol. Actually I haven't left Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
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My teen loves it. But I don't know that he's your kind. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: This is my 3rd year in a row going and I'm so happy because I won't have any scardy cat kids coming along. Little kids get scared to easily at this thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:51 PM Flag
[ - ] How old was the oldest man you ever had a crush on as an adult, and what ages were both of you? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Man was 56 and I was 37. [ Reply | More ]
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How did you get over it? [ Reply | More ]
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23 and he 56. he was my boss. [ Reply | More ]
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I was 20 or so and he was about 50. My professor. [ Reply | More ]
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I was 28 and he was 70-something. I thought he was 43. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] What HHI do you think you have to have to comfortably afford to send 3 kids to private school? We would want a vacation house (assume around $1.5 milllion) along with either renting or buying a 3 bedroom on the UES or UWS side. We also love to travel, go out to dinner, etc. Only have one DS now (but want 3 eventually) and trying to decide if we’d even be able to afford to stay in the city or if we should just move to the suburbs before starting the preschool process. TIA! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Suburbs make it easier. My friends all moved to Bronxville. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:37 PM Flag
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This. You can move back for MS if your income increases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:38 PM Flag
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Three kids in Manhattan means a four bedroom apartment. Figure 5.0 million Plus summer hime of 1.5 means you need 6.0 of real estate then cost of TT private is all in 66 k per kid so 200 k for school. At 50 percent marginal tax rate you need to earn 400 k just to pay for school plus whatever the mortgage is on you 6.5 of real estate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:38 PM Flag
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You don't need 4 bedrooms for 3 DCs, and a 3 bed doesn't necessary cost $5 M. Can find an acceptable 3 bed for ~$2.5 M in Yorkville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:01 PM Flag
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We have 3 dcs and live that life on 1Mm WITHOUT private school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:43 PM Flag
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np- so add 600k. 1.6MM + to live the life you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:47 PM Flag
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$5 M apartment on $1 M income? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:00 PM Flag
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No, 3 bed in a nice nabe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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np: ditto. And we travel on points/miles for the most part for vacations. we have one in private now (grandparents pay half tuition). other 2 kids will finish out public elementary and then join older in private. We will only have two in at the same time though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:42 PM Flag
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^^ and basically since grandma pays half we will only be paying max t 1 full tuition each year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:50 PM Flag
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In my world this would mean you have a rich fantasy life. Talk about “I want it all!” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:44 PM Flag
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2M pre-tax minimum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:50 PM Flag
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Assume $4-5mm in total home cost (2.5-3.5mm for reasonable apt plus the 1.5mm vacation home you say you want). I'd say $1.5mm HHI plus a few million in the bank. You CAN do it for cheaper but sounds like you wouldn't want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:07 PM Flag
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+1. I would say $1.5mm too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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Are you this moron from California? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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Millions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:30 PM Flag
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this is very similar to us except we don't have a vacation home. 3 kids in private school, 2 cars with parking, 3br UWS. 2.5mill is comfortable but if we had a vacation house would guess 3mill would be about right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a really bright DD (can do fractions at this point) with pretty serious sensory issues (light, sound, smell). What would you do - send her to a special ed school (Quad etc) or try for a regular private school? She cannot handle a 25 person G&T class with flickering lights 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:32 PM Flag
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If DD can't handle a classroom with flickering lights, it doesn't matter whether it's public or private. A lightbulb is a lightbulb no matter how much money you pay. She should be in a special needs school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:37 PM Flag
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How old is she? Have you had a neuropsych Eval? There are some great schools consultants you can talk to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:56 PM Flag
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My DD has moderate sensory issues and is at a citywide. It depends. My dd gets special services at the school. If you go to private and this is associated with behavioral problems you risk getting counceled out. Regardless she needs to be in OT and you need to have her evaluated [ Reply | More ]
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My DS is very bright this way and has had some sensory issues in the past. We went the opposite of special needs school and doing a very rigorous private instead which is workng out great! Enough attention for one-on-one plus the extra challenges have been a good combo. Just a thought! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi Ladies! I'm going back to work (attorney) after 2 years off. I need to refresh my work wardrobe, but don't want to spend a ton of money. In the past I've bought mostly Theory, but the clothes have not held up and don't seem to be any better made than Old Navy. What are your favorite places to buy decent conservative work clothes, specifically skirt suits and dresses? TIA!! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Honestly, if you are slim and in shape, you don't need to spend a fortune. I have a mix of stuff from J.Crew (though quality is subpar lately), H&M and uniqlo special collections, Ann Taylor, Old Navy, and occasionally I buy DVF and some other higher-end brands when on sale. Best of luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:33 PM Flag
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Oh, and BR is still good for basics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:46 PM Flag
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look at everlane. some pieces can work, especially silk shirts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:33 PM Flag
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attorney here (though not an amazingly dressed one). I've had a lot of luck at Loft for basics. I love Theory too, for the fit, so maybe you'd like loft too. I don't buy suits there (I'm mostly biz casual), but the pants are great and so are some tops if you find the right ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:36 PM Flag
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The Kooples have a few work-appropriate suit options and I find the fit very flattering. They just a sale, I bought 2 pairs of pants at $90, usually over $200. Massimo Dutti is a hit or miss in terms of fit, but if the clothes fit you, they can look great. I also find Zara pants the best value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:42 PM Flag
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^^And whatever you buy, have it altered to look even better. Most of my clothes are altered. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't most people do this??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 08:19 PM Flag
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I have luck with BR and Loft for basic pants and I get merino and cashmere sweaters at uniqlo, sweater blazers at Jcrew and hunt for blouses from Joie, Vince etc at Rack or NM Last Call. For suits Ann Taylor is good and Boden is great for dresses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:42 PM Flag
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MM Lafleur is nice. Easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:49 PM Flag
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Also try rent the runway until you figure out what your really like now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:50 PM Flag
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Always buy the best you can. Natural fabrics and well-fitting. I don't wear a jacket every day so I usually have 2-3 bottoms of the same style for 1 jacket. What is your body type? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:55 PM Flag
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Older WOHM here. I like Tahari dresses. Haven't bought Theory in a while. Rebecca Taylor makes a nice clean jacket without lapels which is tailored but feminine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:07 PM Flag
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Theory, Boss, Brooks Brothers, J McLaughlin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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Can you get to a Neiman Marcus Last Call? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:35 PM Flag
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Rent The Runway Unlimited. I wear a different dress/jacket/pants to work everyday. About $140/month including shipping and dry cleaning and you can keep as long a you want or switch up every day. Up to 4 pieces at at time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 06:41 PM Flag
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I wear mostly dresses (so easy, no need to match different pieces) and buy at Saks, Neimans/Bergdorfs and Century 21. [ Reply | More ]
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