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[ - ] S/O of economic disparity in school. It really bothers me that the teachers ask where the kids are going every break and where they went afterwards. We have always gone away every break but decided to just go to our weekend home. Dd said she just went to the movies bc I told her not to talk about extra house. This is at a tt w very rich and very poor kids. She still felt bad bc she said everyone else wen to Florida or skiing over Xmas. I think they should not ask this loaded question in class.i told her as she grows older she will become more secure and worry less about what others have or do but adolescence is hard on everyone. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:28 PM Flag
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Economic anxiety is ridiculous these days. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: one of 14 yo dd’s friends who is UMC told dd that she felt bad bc she only has one home no weekend place. It’s the materialistic NYC environment. It starts in MS. Was fine in Elem [ Reply | More ]
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My third grader has come home asking why we don't have a weekend house like all his friends. And we go to an OK Manhattan public. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: well u have a mature and sensitive 3rd grader. My older kid noticed but my younger one never said anything. [ Reply | More ]
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Personally, I think you are being too sensitive. Asking people what they did for vacation is a conversation-starter. If you didn't do anything, that's fine. If you traveled, that's fine, too. Rather than teaching DD to lie and say she went to movies, why not just teach her to graciously respond in a way that isn't boastful. Something like, "We went skiing in Colorado" (rather than, "We went to our house in Aspen to go skiing.") or "We went to the Hamptons with some friends/relatives" or whatever. Your weekend home doesn't have to come into. If someone asks directly, "Do you have a house in Colorado?" your kid can say, "Yes, actually. We love to ski, and love to go with family and friends," or whatever. I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. Everyone needs to come to understand that there are people with more and people with less. It doesn't make anyone better or worse, just different. [ Reply | More ]
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omg [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Op: we did go to the movies. She didn’t lie [ Reply | More ]
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Teachers are lazy and assholes. [ Reply | More ]
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I am a teacher at a school with great wealth - and our administration has specifically told us not to use: "Where did you go for X Vacation?" as an activity prompt. [ Reply | More ]
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My child doesn’t even have the sense to brag. We could spend $50k to take her to Necker Island by private jet and party with Richard Branson for a week, and if she got back and someone asked what she did for vacation, she’d say We went to the beach. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: but saying went to the beach in Dec is bragging without meaning to. Dd did nit brag but felt uncomfortable bc she couldn’t say that she went somewhere exciting even though we are well off. It’s her insecurity but it must be worse for other kids who are actually disadvantaged. Like t or not it is a loaded question for insecure teens [ Reply | More ]
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Well, the beach we actually do go to is in East Lyme, CT. Not that impressive. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m friends with a woman who was a 3rd-grade teacher at a private school in SF. One student said he flew in his family’s private plane to their private island in the Caribbean for vacation. Oh, and shortly after that the school fired all the veteran teachers to save money by paying the new, inexperienced teachers lower salaries. [ Reply | More ]
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i think you are overthinking. i went to a rich westchester school and i'm sure people were doing more expensive stuff than i was but it never even crossed my mind that they had more money. johnnys family went skiing cause they like it, my family went to visit my cousins in new jersey cause we like to do that. please don't put your issues on your kids [ Reply | More ]
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Op: well my kids’ friends have made comments to them which has led to my post. Examples “I only have a 2 bedroom apt”. “I feel bad bc I dot have a vacation house or Hamptons house”. It’s what Instagram amplifies. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank God we're in public [ Reply | More ]
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OMG get over yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I try not to eat for at least 12-13 hours between dinner and breakfast, but when I wake up, I am pretty hungry within the hour. so I have a good breakfast and then, after dropping the kids off, go workout.... after the workout, though, when they say is the best time to have protein/recovery food, I'm simply not hungry. rushing to shower and get started on work, etc... I know there's no magic formula, but I'm not doing my body a disservice by not eating after the workout, correct? so much confusing info out there on what/when to eat around exercise... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'd eat when you're hungry. [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely brilliant response [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
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How extreme is the working out and is it in pursuit of some goal? If I were training for a race I would worry about having my chocolate milk right after running, but if I’m just trying to stay alive (which is my goal at the gym now) I wouldn’t worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DD is a B student in TT school in 8th grade. Puts in minimal effort and in general does not make much use of the school resources. She is ranked in top 100 in her activity. While we can afford the tuition I feel given her grades she will not get into a top college. She is great at tests and I am sure did well in SHSAT. Thinking I should pull her out of TT and let her figure out her way in SHS. Does anyone have any advice. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not everyone can get into a top college. Its just the way it is. Its really more about you saving money, if you think she will do well at either school. [ Reply | More ]
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SHS exmissions are not so great, even for top kids, and she will be competing with very driven kids with top scores and grades. I'd keep her in TT, where even the middle and bottom of the class go to decent universities. [ Reply | More ]
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OP - I just find her laziness and laid back nature very irritating - does bare minimum. I think I am so upset this morning that I feel that she needs to be taught a lesson and hoping the kids in SHSAT will ignite some fire in her belly. [ Reply | More ]
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np - SHSAT are very competitive. If she's not doing it now she won't do it here. These schools are homework factories. If she is great at tests and if she is maintaining a B then just leave her alone. She will likely get into a good college maybe not Ivy but a good school and if she rocks the SAT then that will help her. [ Reply | More ]
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sorry meant SHS (not shsat) [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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It’s nust hs [ Reply | More ]
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Just [ Reply | More ]
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Np: You would be setting her on fire. [ Reply | More ]
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Not sure college prospects would be better as a b student at Stuy science or tech [ Reply | More ]
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Why wouldn’t she be eaten alive in a SHS? [ Reply | More ]
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OP - I am thinking it is time she enters the real world. This TT coddled world is doing her no good. She should face the consequences of her laziness on her own dime not on mine. I am an immigrant so I am having tough time coming to grips with laziness. [ Reply | More ]
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You would drive her to drop out in this case. It would be throwing her to the wolves. [ Reply | More ]
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I would not have truly minded if she put in effort and got B grades but it is the total lack of effort that bothers me. My DH thinks I am too harsh. [ Reply | More ]
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Go for it. Just know what you are doing. She also must pass the test. [ Reply | More ]
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When you say she is a B student, do you mean straight Bs? As and Bs? Bs and Cs? I wouldn't expect a kid to get straight As at a TT school. [ Reply | More ]
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She has an A in science and rest B [ Reply | More ]
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Have her do volunteer work. [ Reply | More ]
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U can’t create ambition. She is doing ok. Wait till she cares. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any NYT crossword enthusiasts on? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Here! [ Reply | More ]
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Any favorite puzzle theme that was so great it stands out in your memory? [ Reply | More ]
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Also do you think Rex Parker is too grumpy? [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, I’m not familiar. Who dat? [ Reply | More ]
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He has a blog where he disses the themes. I love the themes. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. There are only so many times I can “remember” that TAT is a three-letter word for make lace without some bigger picture. I shall check him out though, thanks. Have you ever been to the tournament in Stamford? It’s really fun. [ Reply | More ]
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No but I would really like it. Someday. [ Reply | More ]
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Tis fun. [ Reply | More ]
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There have been a few lately where answers either change direction or skip squares, like one where black squares were part of the answer. Love those. Or the one where you had to add letters outside the grid. [ Reply | More ]
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Me! Hate when there's more than one letter per square. It's just not right! [ Reply | More ]
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Me! Everyday :) [ Reply | More ]
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Me too, every day! Except Saturday, which is impossible. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need to be more like my co-worker Jeff. Jeff does not get stressed or frantic, is calm, leaves by 5:30pm on most evenings, does not respond to e-mails if he doesn't know the answer, takes little ownership. Jeff been promoted 2x in the past 2 years. Because he's chill and "big-picture" oriented (even though it's his job to give some explicit direction), he's well-liked while I'm a curmudgeon who's going to give myself a heart attack. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Say his job is Wolf Lookout. People will respect him more if he only yells when a wolf is coming. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe he responds well to criticism and modifies what he's doing, while you freak out when criticized [ Reply | More ]
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He does not modify. He was working under me on a team. But he's LIKEABLE. [ Reply | More ]
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This girl at my job is on Facebook all day and has been here for 25 years. These people have they key! [ Reply | More ]
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Does he give credit to the whole team? People like team players. [ Reply | More ]
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He does...so do a lot of people, though. [ Reply | More ]
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This is because he is male. Women who leave at 5:30 and don't respond to emails are tagged as "distracted moms." [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Less than a week later and hardly any chatter here about the Florida school shooting. It's amazing how quickly people move on and stop talking about it. I want to keep talking about it so that we are reminded that we can't stop pushing for gun control. This cannot keep happening. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's what I said would happen last week. [ Reply | More ]
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It's crazy. It's back to vacations and school admissions. Everyone says they care until it really happens to them. [ Reply | More ]
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Let's call school 'uterus' so R lawmakers will care that children are dying inside. [ Reply | More ]
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not even funny. [ Reply | More ]
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Truth rarely is [ Reply | More ]
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That's a viable idea. [ Reply | More ]
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The Men in Black took care of that. [ Reply | More ]
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Still lots of conversation in my circles. These children are working hard to create change. [ Reply | More ]
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Over 50,000 people died in the U.S. in the past week, a number of which could have been prevented. [ Reply | More ]
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Knock yourself out. [ Reply | More ]
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People die every day all over the world. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm hopeful. The kids seem to be getting pissed off and are trying not to allow those with power to allow this to be forgotten. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] All the liberals are bragging about seeing Black panther. Congratulations. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Bragging? [ Reply | More ]
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If you don't watch this movie you're racist, simple as that. [ Reply | More ]
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You people are exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
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Not into superhero movies. I saw Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner. Does that count? [ Reply | More ]
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I used to watch the Wonder Years. The black kid in the wheelchair was brilliant. [ Reply | More ]
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Wasn't that Malcolm in the middle? [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, my bad. [ Reply | More ]
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No prob. I agree with your assessment of that character. [ Reply | More ]
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np All those sitcoms look alike. [ Reply | More ]
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Double credt! Colored AND crippled! [ Reply | More ]
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Teiple: severely asthmatic. [ Reply | More ]
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Chris Rock complained that when Peanuts added Franklin he got no personality. "Twenty-five years, not one line. Nothing!" Rock said, noting every other character had something that made him or her unique. "Linus got the blanket. Lucy's a bitch. Schroeder plays the piano. Peppermint Pattie's a lesbian." [ Reply | More ]
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Wasn’t Franklin the mugger? [ Reply | More ]
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Get Out was cool too, but doubt OP knows about that film. [ Reply | More ]
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Talk to Stan Lee, OP. He will set the record straight for you. [ Reply | More ]
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Celebrating MS kid’s birthday by taking to dinner and BP. So excited. U suck. [ Reply | More ]
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Not all the liberals. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah. What does that mean? You think it's an accomplishment to see a movie? Or are you a foreigner, unfamiliar with the nuances of our language? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] We are finding high school years to be the most expensive years bc of the combo of tuition, sports, activities, grown up clothes shoes and SAT etc test prep. I assume college will be less bc fixed cost. We won’t pay for anything beyond tipuition and spending money. The rest is up to he kid.is that your experience? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Will your college kid suddenly fit into a size 6x? [ Reply | More ]
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Op: but she won’t be outgrowing stuff and need to play an expensive sport? Room and board is fixed w a modest spending budget. I won’t pay for her to keep up and she knows it. [ Reply | More ]
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Then send to a school where no one has expensive habits. Community college. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I went to an Ivy. Hung out w super smart Asian and south Asian kids who had slim budgets. We all had fun and only started spending once started finance jobs in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ I want dd to have good values. Don’t believe in spoiling. She is at a TT wealthy school but slim entertainment budget. Teaching her not try and keep up w the joneses. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, that would suck for the one literature major. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: LOl. I didn’t know any. Everyone was engineering or Econ [ Reply | More ]
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Allow for the freshman 15. Snacks and clothes. [ Reply | More ]
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college room & board? [ Reply | More ]
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Wait until college. PSA - save, save, and save some more. Super financial hit having 2 kids in college. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: we are aiming for 400K per child. College in 4 yrs [ Reply | More ]
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Send to public school for high school at the very least. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any more tarot q's? 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Will DH be pleased with the trip I planned? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. 3 of Pentacles. He is impressed with the creativity and is enjoying the reward after hard work. 4 of Swords. Recovery. Symbol of respite away from conflict. 10 of Cups. Contentment. Peace and harmony in relationships. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! It was expensive, so no chance for a re-do this year. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like it's a great one. Wish it were me! :) [ Reply | More ]
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Well, start charging for your readings. PayPal! [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks haha [ Reply | More ]
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what's in my future? [ Reply | More ]
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Someone dishonest betrays or bullies you. 7 of swords, reversed. Ace of Pentacles. Material success, prosperous times. 6 of Cups, reversed. Sentimentality. Missing the old days, a little trapped in the past. [ Reply | More ]
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Last part- spot on. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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Will I be moving? [ Reply | More ]
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Justice, a favorable conclusion to a dispute on moving. [ Reply | More ]
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When will I get a real job? [ Reply | More ]
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The World. When you complete a certain task, or celebration. This card indicates birthdays and wedding anniversaries. I think it will be a year, maybe a few but it's a positive card. [ Reply | More ]
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I just celebrated my birthday last weekend... a few years would devastate me. [ Reply | More ]
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How is my future with SI? [ Reply | More ]
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The Magician. It's an adventure. New beginnings. What is created now will positively bring dreams into reality. [ Reply | More ]
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Will he propose? [ Reply | More ]
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Page of Pentacles. Delays due to irresponsible funding problems. Activities restricted. [ Reply | More ]
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reversed^^ [ Reply | More ]
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Should I be job hunting? [ Reply | More ]
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7 of Pentacles. Perserverance. Great potential for goals, promotion or new skills. Don't deviate from your chosen path. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. I needed that! [ Reply | More ]
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How can I best help my daughter? [ Reply | More ]
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2 of Cups, reversed. Broken trust and seperation. Communication failures and relationship issues. The Star, reversed. A creative or emotional block. May need to step out and search for star somewhere else. Need a different set of goals for the future or to examine the current block. Queen of Cups. Be nurturing, insightful, loving, caring. Nuture yourself as well. Be sensitive, gentle and receptive. [ Reply | More ]
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Will my DH and I work out our differences or will we get divorced. [ Reply | More ]
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The Sun, reversed. Delays and frustration. Goals out of reach. Depleted energy. [ Reply | More ]
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or: does it mean that its truly over. I know that he is frustrated with the choices that both of us have made. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it means you can accept the current level of unhappiness, hold on and try to make it through, or you will feel it's just not working out and divorce. There seems to be a delay in figuring it out where, with you guys, it could go either way. [ Reply | More ]
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When will I get a job? [ Reply | More ]
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Face the difficult problems first. I'm getting sense you need to work on yourself a little bit. [ Reply | More ]
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Any ideas on what, specifically? [ Reply | More ]
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Lowering the chaos. [ Reply | More ]
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Did I make the right choice with this new job? [ Reply | More ]
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Queen of Cups, reversed. Jealousy, Infidelity. Is there a pita at your job? Sounds like it entails a lot of emotional and financial pressure. [ Reply | More ]
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I haven't started the new job yet; still on my notice period at current job. And yes, lots of emotional and financial pressure here! [ Reply | More ]
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The new job: An avoided disaster. A struggle ends. The Tower, reversed. [ Reply | More ]
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Wedding bells? [ Reply | More ]
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9 of Wands. Resourcefulness. Stay focused through this stimulating and stressful period. I see wedding planning, eventually. [ Reply | More ]
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Should we stay in Nyc or move? [ Reply | More ]
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Go where the money is. Ace of Pentacles [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like a plan! TY [ Reply | More ]
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will dw leave me or can we work it out? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm seeing that you wish to step out of an illusion. Presently you are healing from unhappiness, letting go and trying to move on. You want to take action to alleviate your apathy, loneliness and poor self esteem. You want someone to help you through this, like a friend. There's going to be ego issues, and delays in progress. The outcome is destructive behavior. Escaping commitment and avoiding difficulty rather than facing problems. Is there someine else in their life? [ Reply | More ]
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Her family especially her mom is the "other" in our relationship. [ Reply | More ]
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I drew the Empress. Good mother figure card. Maybe if you win over the mother, you can win her over. [ Reply | More ]
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Babies? [ Reply | More ]
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Babies. [ Reply | More ]
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Should I go back to teaching? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, just like the past. [ Reply | More ]
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Third child in the cards for M and me? [ Reply | More ]
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Eventually. Perserverance. Keep it up. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you see us staying in NYC long term or moving somewhere else? [ Reply | More ]
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Somewhere else [ Reply | More ]
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TY! Do you see anything that indicates where? [ Reply | More ]
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Is a second child in the cards for us? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How many UBers are on here so often they can recognize every single re-post? Of that group, how many are annoyed at every re-post? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Does not annoy me to see a repost, when I see one, unless the first post got a lot of answers that were near unanimous. [ Reply | More ]
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The Sun, reversed. Delays and frustration. Goals out of reach. Depleted energy. [ Reply | More ]
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oops [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Called ICE on friend's illegal alien nanny. She's being deported. Took only a month after the call. ICE DELIVERS. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Good. Lots of young American girls would take nanny jobs but these people hire illegals to save $10 an hour. [ Reply | More ]
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When politicians and journalists talk about "filling jobs that Americans are unwilling to do", they mean "at the wages I'd like to pay." [ Reply | More ]
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H-1b. Yep. [ Reply | More ]
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Hear Hear! [ Reply | More ]
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You are a really awful person. [ Reply | More ]
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Nasty Trump voter. [ Reply | More ]
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with friends like this who needs enemies [ Reply | More ]
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Liar. ICE wouldnt bother for a single report. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: not true. They do. [ Reply | More ]
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Single mom...It is a stretch for me to pay my nanny $15 an hour. The legal Americans want 20 an hour minimum. I'd be better off getting an au pair, giving her my bedroom and I'd sleep in the living room...which would suck! [ Reply | More ]
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Whoa! Why? [ Reply | More ]
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To hire legally that I could afford. [ Reply | More ]
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Proceed [ Reply | More ]
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Really don't want a stranger living in my small 2 bedroom but... [ Reply | More ]
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How did you know for sure she was illegal? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Good sneakers for a SAHM? Not Golden Goose. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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SERIOUSLY? [ Reply | More ]
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Stop being overly surprised at everything. [ Reply | More ]
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SERIOUSLY, GOLLY GEE! [ Reply | More ]
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Vince is very comfortable (slip-on style). Hold out for a department store promo. [ Reply | More ]
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Keds. [ Reply | More ]
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I like my Supergas [ Reply | More ]
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What does your staying at home imply? That you need something fashionable? You don't? You chase children all day? You don't? Something athletic? Get a functional sneaker like addidas or puma or Stan Smiths Get a fun chuck Taylor Get a leather/faux leather or metallic Vans [ Reply | More ]
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Chuck Taylors are the dumbest most uncomfortable sneakers ever made. [ Reply | More ]
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Chuck Taylor II have been updated with good insoles [ Reply | More ]
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I always thought so- but people look cute in them. No obligations to buy! [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe they just don’t fit your feet? I like them. [ Reply | More ]
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THANK YOU! All of my in laws wear them and theylook ridiculous! [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I’m a SAHM too and always try to be fashionable. People always ask me if I work in fashion, it’s hailstones. Nothing wrong with putting in some effort! [ Reply | More ]
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Hilarious not hailstones. Ha [ Reply | More ]
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What sneaks do you recommend? id live to know all your staple go-tos. [ Reply | More ]
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Love [ Reply | More ]
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For sneaks I’m all over the place... I have a pair of metallic NB I wear a bunch, also Stan Smiths and Isabele Marant for boot-type sneakers that work great in winter. [ Reply | More ]
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Love NB [ Reply | More ]
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Stan Smiths, Isabelle Marant [ Reply | More ]
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Adidas boost or nmd [ Reply | More ]
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I like a neutral slip on that can also work with skirts. https://tinyurl.com/yanzlwpm [ Reply | More ]
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You don't need shoes. [ Reply | More ]
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i like this online brand m gemi. they make sneakers in italy but sell them online which theoretically brings higher quality product at lower cost to the consumer. i like them plus not everyone is wearing them http://mgemi.com/womens-sneakers/ [ Reply | More ]
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Bensimon, of course. [ Reply | More ]
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K-Swiss [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone book a trip through Costco vacations? Thoughts on experience and pricing? Thanks! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yeah I didn't like it. All meals were served by putting these gigantic containers in the middle of the room and having the guests help themselves. [ Reply | More ]
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are you joking? [ Reply | More ]
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No that's how they save money. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course she is! [ Reply | More ]
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Duh. [ Reply | More ]
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We wanted to hike a nice easy hike, but they made us do 30 easy hikes in one day. [ Reply | More ]
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While hauling giant containers of bug spray, water and snacks. [ Reply | More ]
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See, hike in bulk. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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I considered joining just to book my Disney cruise with them, because they have the best deal by far. But then decided not to complicate life. So this reply probably isn’t helpful at all, sorry, except that if you already belong to Costco and want to book a Disney cruise, use them. [ Reply | More ]
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I called them and priced a vacation, but it didn't save any money over booking it myself. Maybe it was just my individual experience, but I think it just exists to save you time and effort. Idk. [ Reply | More ]
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FWIW, this was for a Caribbean trip, if it matters. [ Reply | More ]
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Disney cruise mom above. Fwiw with Disney, agents aren’t permitted to charge less than Disney itself, so to compete the agents kick some money back in the form on inboard credits (to cover alcohol and shore excursions and spa treatments). Maybe your trip’s company has the same deal. [ Reply | More ]
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^^onboard, not inboard. sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes and we had a great experience. We saved a ton of money. We did Disney that included air, hotel and park passes. I think we prob saved over $1k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anybody been to a nice hotel or resort in Florida that has (or is very nearby) great sports activities/facilities for kids? I am looking for somewhere that is really set up for active kids and where we can all stay busy all day. Thank you. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Breakers [ Reply | More ]
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thx [ Reply | More ]
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Orlando 4 Seasons. Liked it more than Breakers. Better pools and slides and kids club, better tennis, better rooms. Or do the Sanctuary at Kiawah. Lots of biking trails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] In the 70s men used to run up to women, open their trenchcoat and reveal a disgusting penis. Then suddenly that never happened again. Weird how society has trends. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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lol if you don't think flashers still exist, jfc. [ Reply | More ]
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No really you never hear of it in New York City. Link to article if you saw one. [ Reply | More ]
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Those are in backwater cities not NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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Who even reports that? Somebody opens their coat at me, I roll my eyes and walk away. [ Reply | More ]
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This is why you're single with drying eggs. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I rather like my DH's penis. I don't find it disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
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I mean a flasher's penis. [ Reply | More ]
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This is your takeaway?? [ Reply | More ]
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np - I think she's saying that her dh is a flasher but she doesn't mind. [ Reply | More ]
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you got older [ Reply | More ]
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Now people send dick pics. Flashing evolved. [ Reply | More ]
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Good point. [ Reply | More ]
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Happened to me on the subway twice and on West 45th Strrt. Early aughts. [ Reply | More ]
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Street [ Reply | More ]
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That's almost 20 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
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"Looks like a penis, only smaller." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] When I wake up the intro to New Order Bizarre Love Triangle plays in my mind. You wake up to the sound of yourself crying. Why? BECAUSE I RETIRED YOUNG. Get to work and suck that wage-cock whore. Good things are worth nothing if you can't rub them in the face of those who don't have them. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Clearly you didn't get the memo that Joy Division is far superior to New Order. Go back to work, amateur. [ Reply | More ]
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They don't have a single good song. Maybe if you said Erasure or OMD. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, didn’t realize that you’re gay. [ Reply | More ]
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Joy Division is a gayer band than all of them. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. Erasure holds that title. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry but no. Listen to Disorder and learn from your elders. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 - Love Will Tear Us Apart, for God's sake. Can't believe this idiot brought ERASURE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Do the MetroNorth trains leave/arrive on time? Need to be at a station at 5, train arrives at 4:58. Will that be good or should I take the earlier train which will leave me with 35 minutes to kill? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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are you a dumb dumb idiot ? [ Reply | More ]
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Shutup OP is asking a perfectly valid question. OP, with the LIRR it depends on which train and which station but basically they run on time. I wonder if there's an app with the precise times now. [ Reply | More ]
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typically on time, but you never know. I would definitely take the earlier train, if you have something important at 5. even if it arrives on time, by the time you get off and find wherever you ened to be, you would be a few minutes late. 35 is not that bad. [ Reply | More ]
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How can we possibly know this answer. They are usually on time. They can be late from time to time. [ Reply | More ]
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They are usually on time, but sometimes they are 10-15 minutes late (It happens, but it's not a regular thing). I think it depends on whether you absolutely must be at the station by 5:00 or you'll miss a connection. If that's the case, take the earlier train. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:35 PM Flag
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This. They tend to be on time if you rush hour, off hour, more likely to be not on time. [ Reply | More ]
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Ask a tarot mom [ Reply | More ]
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Op- thanks! And to clarify, I wasn’t asking if my specific train would be on time. Some train systems run like clockwork so just wondering if MetroNorth is one of them. Never taken it before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Long shot but does anyone here have any recommendations for awesome tacos or other cheap eats in the Phoenix, AZ area? Thank you! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Speedy Street Tacos and Joyride Taco House. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, and Mi Patio [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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You’re welcome. It’s been about a year since I’ve spent considerable time there, so hopefully all are still around. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't you need to go coat shopping? [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't that what google/yelp/tripadvisor are for? Phoenix covers a hell of a lot of area. Would you really drive a long way to go to a taco joint? [ Reply | More ]
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Looking on yelp but have gotten good recommendations from the UB moms so figured why not ask? [ Reply | More ]
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It's such a crap shoot. The restaurant mentioned would have to be right where you are. What are the odds? [ Reply | More ]
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WTH? [ Reply | More ]
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Probably anywhere in Phoenix has good tacos. It's not like you are in Sweden. You are basically in Mexico. [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously. My mother lives in San Diego. Just go where the Mexicans go and you're good. [ Reply | More ]
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There is a terrific Cuban restaurant in Scottsdale, in a strip mall. Something like Café Havana. It was great! [ Reply | More ]
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Cuban food isn't even good in Cuba. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that the K admissions season is over, what did you learn that you wish you knew earlier? 56 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I would probably spend more time covertly prepping DC for play dates and in-class visits. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
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But what’s the best way to prep a 4 year old for these things? [ Reply | More ]
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Read daily, flash cards, puzzles, counting. Just the basics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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I did this anyway, beginning about 3. Reading started at 3 months or less. [ Reply | More ]
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The play dates, maybe more drop in classes with strange kids. In class visits are tougher because you don’t really want to alert the kid to the fact that the person will be there. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! We read and do puzzles, counting, etc with DS (applying next year) but he is very reluctant to try new classes and and activities. He can be very shy and it takes him a long time to warm up. [ Reply | More ]
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My DC is like that too. Make sure your PSD knows your family and DC well so that she can "draw" out your DC in the school report particularly. From my experience, schools don't mind a shy kid but my DC definitely did not fare as well as the other kids in class who got T and D and some of the top SS schools because they were more outgoing. I felt PSD pushed those schools towards those children. My DC still got 3 offers but they were not ones that I wanted. Am so annoyed still. [ Reply | More ]
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Which preschool? [ Reply | More ]
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Did you get a school you like? [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely. We are very happy with where dc will be headed in the fall. [ Reply | More ]
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What do they look for with play visits? [ Reply | More ]
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We were not in any of the rooms where they took place, but dc said they did puzzles, answered some questions, drawing, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:33 PM Flag
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The play dates are focused on social skills, one on one interviews more focused on IQ. The top schools usually do the latter, at least here in BK. [ Reply | More ]
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Come on- it’s one thing to explain to them what they’ll be doing, but your kid can either count and start to add by then, know how to read basic words, or not. The schools are measuring intelligence, not just whether or not they know their animals. We only had two play dates, the rest were one-on-one IQ tests. [ Reply | More ]
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I am responding based on what we learned about our dc in this experience. There were some things that could have been adjusted behaviorally imo. [ Reply | More ]
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Adjusted? Okay, but usually behavior takes time, it’s not like something that you can “prep” days or weeks before a school play date. [ Reply | More ]
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I disagree. They are either a good fit, or not. It’s not the same as a test such as G&T, where prepping actually helps. For K they not only want to see that the kids know the obvious stuff, but the top schools are looking for giftedness and high IQs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:59 PM Flag
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Perhaps, but they are still looking at behavior for sure. [ Reply | More ]
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Which they can’t tell from a one-on-one interview. And you can’t prep for good behavior anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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We received direct feedback from psd on a behavioral item. We addressed with cd and it didn’t happen again. I do think behavior can be prepped, that is what raising children is. [ Reply | More ]
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Well we agree to disagree. That sounds like luck to me. [ Reply | More ]
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I don’t think it was luck. We just had to remind dc reinforce that the behavior was no good and dc was back on track. Kids can have bad moments and we just reminded dc about the right way to do things. [ Reply | More ]
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And you think that made the difference of getting into a school or not? [ Reply | More ]
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Because the school mentioned it to PSD, and PSD then relayed it to us, I have to assume it was important enough to matter (which could possibly shift a decision). If people are judging dc alone that is one thing but dc is being compared to hundreds of other kids for a limited resource. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:27 PM Flag
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apply to only 6 schools so that PSD has to get you one of them . if you apply to 12, she will push you into numbers 10 to 12. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes this was a mistake we made. We applied to 10. [ Reply | More ]
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I am the responder below. We applied to 10 and landed top choices and some others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:32 PM Flag
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I didn’t find this to be true. We applied to 10 and PSD fiercely pursued them. If you apply to too few schools you can end up shit out of dc has a few bad days or is not desired by a school. [ Reply | More ]
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Meant to say shut out, but you would be shit out of luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:29 PM Flag
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You had a good PSD then. We applied to 10 as well, and got offers from 2 but they were 6 and 7 on our list. We were given no heads up at all that we didn't get our first 5 and were sorely disappointed. The WL complicated things for us, as it made us raise our hopes. Would have much preferred a rejection. [ Reply | More ]
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How involved were you with psd? We engaged often but not too much to stay informed. [ Reply | More ]
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I just found out that my PSD "tipped" off certain parents that they would get their top 3 choices the days before notification. I wish I had cornered her to ask. We were WHOLLY unprepared for the results. I don't begrudge the parents who got their top choices, but I would have thought it more fair to let parents who didn't get their top choices (1-3) know if she was going to give others the heads up (good news is always easier to bear than bad news). One piece of advice I can give you is don't wait for the WL to move. Make your selection with the birds (offers) in hand - narrow it down to 1. If you wait for the WL to move, and then they don't move (say up until the Thursday of the week after notification), you may choose in a hurry/with emotion and not make a good selection. [ Reply | More ]
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Your psd never really talked to you about your top 3 and feedback? [ Reply | More ]
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During our meeting in Jan, she gave us great feedback on top 3, which lead us to believe we would get 1. We should have had a face to face with her the couple of days before notifications so that we would have known that the top 4 was a no-go (WL for all, which didn't move for us). I heard that some moms were told they got their top 2. I just would have like some advance notification to be prepared for bad news re top 4. She wasn't fair to all families. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I would say that if you didnt know that PSD had a calendar of regular meetings and weren't aware that you are allowed to, and supposed to be checking in with her basically weekly at the end, I would have never known. I figured that out here. I was actually surprised ( pleasantly) by the level of detail in the feedback to prep us. Some of it bad, but if a school liked us, she told us - along with a request to make it a FC & then we would have been accepted there. But we were not willing to make 3, 4 & 5th choices FC, but my point is that , it was a very communicative process which i did not expect. Nothing was a surprise at all on admissions day. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm happy for you. That wasn't my experience at all, and I was in touch with her weekly by email. She was very guarded in feedback, and other families have said the same. She did tell me to FC a TT school based on feedback, but then never ever told us in the day or so before notification that it was probably going to be a WL, together with 3 of our other top choices. It was all a complete shock and surprise. When we were faced with 2 other choices, she did not guide us in making a choice, even when I asked in her opinion, what was a good fit for DC. It has been a tough and disappointing process for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:11 PM Flag
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What preschool?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 07:13 PM Flag
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Support the school and attend all the Parent Committee meetings. Volunteer generally. Basically show your face around the school. Especially women who work full time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:44 PM Flag
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I think this is a myth. In BK doesn’t matter at all, PSDs don’t “broker” here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:01 PM Flag
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I should be grateful to have DD at BK Friends. Or anywhere, really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:22 PM Flag
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As a mother of a child that was accepted to 3 schools, I noticed a few of the moms said they didn’t prep their children for the play dates. I did and am wondering if they were lying or if they really didn’t prep their kids or at least explain to them what the play dates/groups were all about. And if they didn’t prep, maybe that’s partially why their child was not selected [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:25 PM Flag
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We didn’t prep at all and our child was also accepted at 3 schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:27 PM Flag
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We did too, and our DC did very well. In my school, I think most moms did prep although no one would admit it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:35 PM Flag
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Go public and save lots of money and have them go to private for HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:35 PM Flag
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It seems like a tougher proposition, especially for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:39 PM Flag
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That we wouldn’t get in anywhere and probably never had a chance. Our family truly suffered from stress during this process and it was all for nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:45 PM Flag
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Where did you apply? Are you brooklyn private mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:52 PM Flag
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Yes, one of many who didn’t get in anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:06 PM Flag
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It cannot be stayed enough, apply early! Some apps close early. If you apply early you can get great tour and play date slots that work for your schedule. Designate one parent to stay on top of all booking. On top of play dates and interviews you will have tours, open houses, diversity nights, parent meetings, etc. it is a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:45 PM Flag
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That should be a given. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:25 PM Flag
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Indeed, but some folks here applied later and missed some apps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:31 PM Flag
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Hijack: anyone especially please or displeased with their preschool? And if so which one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:47 PM Flag
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Make friends w someone who has been through the process who will give u the lowdown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:04 PM Flag
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Unless they have a kid the same age and gender, then they may try to use to to get ahead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:26 PM Flag
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Get your applications in early. Work on the essays over the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:28 PM Flag
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