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[ - ] DH got a job offer and we might be moving to Santa Cruz. Tell me about it?! 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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Is that the town with all of the vampires? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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JEALOUS!! I love it there but have no insider insight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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NYC is better!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Super crunchy. Beautiful setting, but cold water. Vacation and university town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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Doesn't feel close to anything. Left of center, land of banana slugs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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Beach town, Boardwalk, with a slight gang problem. Hippyish still. UC mascot is the banana slug, very tolerant. Growing population of commuters over the pass to sillicon valley. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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so awesome! beach/surfer city with a great laid back vibe (obv considering who lives there). What kind of work does he do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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Professor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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Ooh I love SC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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SC is nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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It's surprisingly crime-ridden and sleazy. Two cops were shot and killed there last year by a chomo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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Awesome! It's a very cool area of the country. You will love it! Also a nice change of pace from Silicon Valley although it can feel a tad isolated from the Bay Area. Check out shark tooth beach if you go. http://www.yelp.com/biz/davenport-beach-davenport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Love nearby Capitola and Aptos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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Redwoods and the ocean, perfection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:32 PM Flag
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I grew up near there. The town is very, very crunchy. The water is freezing cold. As long as you are happy with that, have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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homeless everywhere; one hour drive to ANYTHING else, including a trechearous mountain drive on 17 to Silicon Valley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 12:18 AM Flag
[ - ] What does someone like Labrie do now? His story was international news. Pray for goodwill? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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I missed it--did he get sentenced? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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What college wants a registered sex offender on campus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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If he weren't already a scholarship student I'd say he might have a shot at the University of St. Andrews, but doesn't seem like that's a financial option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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They'd never take him. That school is in demand, they don't need to fill a spot with a convicted felon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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They actually have a track record for taking questionable cases who have had their acceptances revoked at US schools for one reason or another. Also Scots rape law is a joke, one of the lowest prosecution rates around. As long as you've got the stats and the money, you'd be surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Lately, though? I got the impression from parents of college-aged students that the school is harder to get into now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Could be. I posted just below and both are cases from roughly 10 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Huh, interesting, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Yes. But as you can imagine, both the students in question also had top of the line credentials outside of their indiscretions. The students in these cases go overseas, and they effectively disappear from the US radar for many years, and in Scotland no one cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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I can think of two off the bat right now. Both were accepted to top 5 schools. One had an acceptance pulled for plagiarism. The other had an acceptance rescinded for online comments about illegal drug use, profanity and calling women bitches and dogs. Both proud St. Andrews grads today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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But they were both from wealthy families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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That's because tuition is free if you live in the UK. American students who can pay full freight are a good source of funding. Much easier to get into if you live in the US, and I would not at all be surprised to hear they make exceptions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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No, only Scots students [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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Really? Ok I just looked it up. You're right. Thanks for the correction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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he wasn't convicted of a felony i thought... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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He changes his name and starts somewhere else. Public attention span is very short. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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But a felony record lives on forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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There are a lot of things you can still do with a record, especially one like this one. For example, no one can stop you from going into business. You can write. You can be a public speaker. He can still go to community college as long as he's following all the requirements for his probation. Watch a St. Paul's alum give him a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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That's good to know. My cousin messed up and is getting a felony and he's completely demoralized about what to do for the rest of his life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Felons can't get bank loans, moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:27 PM Flag
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Who says you need a bank loan? Moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 12:25 AM Flag
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Meh. Lots of people have felonies and go on to higher education. Certain professions may be closed to him, but if he starts over, works hard, and doesn't reoffend, he'll earn a living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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Can he vote? Just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Good question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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The NYT refers to a legal expert stating that he could eventually petition for removal of the computer-related charges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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thought it was misdemeanors... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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Some St. Paul's frat boy will hook him up with a job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 12:26 AM Flag
[ - ] True or False: It's better to have a younger boy (older sisters) than the boy being the oldest. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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I don't think it matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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How would you control this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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I think this is true in many cases. Boys can be very rambunctious and physical, and I got beat up by my older brother a lot. My dd (the eldest) is much gentler with her younger sibling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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I have two older dds and a youngest boy. It works well for us. They are great helpers and loved him from the start (vs friends with older boys who were either upset about new babies or completely ignored them). The girls are more easily contained - ie I can leave them reading or drawing for an hour or more but not my son (or most boys I know). When they get older ds won't be bringing home older boys who might be a danger to younger sisters. He will also grow up learning a lot about women from his sisters which I think is important. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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I think older sister/younger brother is preferable. It helps inculcate assertiveness in girls and respect for female authority in boys (the reverse should also be true, of course, but societally boys are taught to be more assertive and everyone is taught to respect male authority). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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Except in cases where the older sister is a controlling witch--just ask my DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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Eh. I was a controlling witch and I still think I learned to be assertive and my brother learned to respect my authority. Meanness is a separate issue, and older brothers can be mean just like older sisters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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SIL is mean and controlling, still. The point to me is that there is no perfect order, it's more the dynamic of the family and how the children are raised overall that matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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It doesn't matter if she's mean and controlling now that they are adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Mean family members are always especially difficult to deal with, especially as parents get older and you need to take over more care of things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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As an adult, he can defend himself and refuse to tolerate meanness. And of course he can't be controlled, so that issue is over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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I'll let him know it's all solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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I'm the third of four. My brother is the oldest and the rest of us are girls. I love having an older brother. He's very warm, caring, and protective when it comes to his sisters. In addition to my dad, he helped teach us how to be treated by men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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I'm the 4th of 4, and my older brothers were the same. There were times of being pick on, of course- as with any/most siblings- but they were actually a better example for me than my dad was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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I agree with PP, that every family is different and no birth order is the magic right one. My older brother tried to molest me in the pool, and I broke his nose in return. I may be younger, but I never had trouble being assertive toward boys or men (and he learned to respect girls and women that day). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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Completely depends on the family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Did the UB expectant mom who had kicked out dh due to bad behavior, get back together with dh? If so how? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Yes, we did get back together. It's a daily work in progress. A fragile peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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^^I had posted that update, which is why I haven't been on talking about it. We'll just have to see what happens now . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Great. Can you link to your update thread? Not trying to stir up any more drama for you..I posted some advice to you about how to get back together on that thread since that was what you said you wanted. Just wanted to know how it played out for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 01:09 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O post below: who uses a G. Foreman grill? I have always been really snobbish about these, but then again I followed the macrobiotic diet for a few years. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Why on earth would you be snobbish about a small appliance? It's not like he invented it. They just got him to attach his name to it because the heartland of America knows who he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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I know, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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Goopy ? Stop being so snotty. No one likes it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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They are useful when I don't feel like grilling in the winter. I do burgers, sausages, chicken breasts, pork chops. I wouldn't grill salmon on it-- too easy to overcook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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I have a small early one. It's basic but very useful. Not at all a piece of junk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Love ours! Been using it since college, very robust. It's our favorite way to cook bacon, comes out less fatty but still crunchy and awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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I like them in the winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:23 PM Flag
[ - ] How does having a summer/weekend house work out when you have teens? DOn't they not want to come after a while and stay with their friends? My kids aren't teens yet but we're thinking of buying a house. I don't want to pay for an entire house we won't use enough... WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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my kids are teens, but love it up here, they both rides horses and have made friends through that, so they want to come up all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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There will be times they don't want to come, of course. But sometimes they want to bring friends. Or you have a house near other friend's homes and they want to be upstate too because x, y and z will be up there in August too, etc. This is a long term purchase. Think big picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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Not discouraging you but we had parties when my parents were there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Mine has summer friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Can we all just agree that the appropriate behaviour when staying at a beach house is a case of wine, cooking at least one meal, and taking off the sheets you used and if possible washing them? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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Done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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Thank you! How much on the case of wine? 250? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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Beach House !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Depends whose beach house, my SIL has staff and she would be very upset if you insisted on cooking or even changing your sheets. If someone does not have help, then maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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OMG. I bet you're one of those people who says "technically" all the time. Being a good guest is OBVIOUSLY about putting your hosts at ease, if anything will clearly make your hosts feel awkward, you shouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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a case of wine, wtf? one bottle for the amount of days you stay and just HELP!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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If there's a specified price of admission, it's not an invitation, it's a sale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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This. Which is fine. Just say so from the outset. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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A case of wine is a excessive for a weekend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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+1. Who are these people? I don't want to feel beholden to my guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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Perfect! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Can we all just agree to decline invitations to beach houses from so-called "friends"? Rent your own place if you don't want to buy!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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It's fun having guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Why, so you can bitch about everything they didn't bring you or do for you while they were there? Fun for you maybe, but that kind of thing always gets back to the 'friends' you bitched about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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I honestly would never, ever offer to cook a meal but would insist on taking everyone out to dinner or paying to bring it in. Cooking dinner for a bunch of people on my vacation sucks ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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This, because you wouldn't want to eat my cooking :-) let's change it to "providing a meal." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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exactly what I was thinking! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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A CASE of wine? Yeah, not happening. Maybe a few bottles of wine and some hard alcohol or a 6-pack. But a case is excessive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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F that. A case of wine could easily cost more than a luxury hotel. A case of wine is overkill. One or two bottles of wine. Basta! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:49 PM Flag
[ - ] What does it mean if someone says, Bye Felicia? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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Haha. My girls use this all the time and I was lost. Apparently, it's from a movie but it basically means that you're being dismissed. Think hair flip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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it's from the movie "Friday" there is a crackhead that comes around and asks for ridiculous things, so one time she comes around and asks for something stupid again and Ice cube goes "BYE Felicia" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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And what does that face mean with the sucked on cheecks and two fingers pointed sideways? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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sucked in cheecks. Friends' DF always makes the face for photos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Real talk: if your life is going to be saved, in all likelihood it will be saved by a Jew. Heart surgeon, other type of doctor, or Jesus. take your pick. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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criminal defense lawyer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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actually you chose a bad example. the greatest cardiac surgeons are not jews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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^ie michael debakey, denton cooley, christian barnard, william devries, all non jews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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Aren't there just as many indian or asian doctors?? Yeah, Jesus was a Jew, but Jews don't believe he was the savior. CHRISTians do, so I'd say he was born a Jew and created Christianity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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Many evangelical Christians regard modern Jews as "flawed" or "unperfected" Christians. More like brothers in a wider system than total pagans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Some friends are visiting our beach house this weekend, and talking to them has made me realize how few friends I have. These people get invited to others' vacation homes just about every weekend, take trips with other families, and have a very active social life with other families who have kids in the same private school as ours. The entire summer has gone by and no one has invited us to do anything, and the other moms with beach houses in the same area have blown off my suggestions to get together. One of them had a big party at their place and invited a lot of the kids and parents from school, but not us. I am honestly baffled as to why, because I think I seem okay (on the outside at least) and always make an effort with others but don't seem to gain any traction. What could be the reason for this? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. That probably feels shitty to hear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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OP: it is! And they're not doing it to be mean - we're just making conversation about our summer and it's become so obvious that we have NO friends in our town. And not for lack of trying either. I have been racking my brains trying to figure out why, but I honestly can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Oof, the party thing must have hurt. Are your kids friendly with their kids? Is it a group of parents who all volunteer together for something at the school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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No, our kids were all in the same class the first year they were in school, and initially they were friendly to me but then a little clique formed and we stopped getting included in things. I continued to invite them to hang out, while also trying to form different friendships, but their group never really accepted us and I haven't made other friends either. Every time we get together with anyone it feels random and forced, and no true friendships have formed. I'm trying to figure out what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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That's awful, really. Do you feel like the community of the school is just a wrong fit? How do your kids like it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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This is what I'm asking myself. Dd says she likes school but is shy and doesn't get invited for a lot of play dates. Otherwise, she seems happy. The parents are a pretty good mix of SAH/WOH, and DH and I both WOH and do well, financially, compared to the average family at the school. We're not outwardly "different" in any way, so I don't understand what it is that makes people not want to hang out with us. I don't think it's malicious on their part - I think we're just not people who are on anyone's radar. And the people from our beach community are completely different and have been very welcoming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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^^^to clarify: the people from our beach community all have kids in different schools/towns, and they are welcoming. The people from my DD's school, some of whom have beach houses nearby, are not. This makes me think her school just may be a bad fit for us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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It might just take you some time to find your people at this school, but I'd keep an eye on DD socially and consider a move earlier rather than later if it seems warranted. If she were shining socially, it would be one thing. But if she's not clicking with the kids, she might be more comfortable in a different environment. If you guys have made friends easily elsewhere, it makes me think the school is a bad fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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Thanks. I know everyone says that you should let your kids make their own friends and don't count on their school to be your social circle, but honestly, other than my job, this is the only "circle" I have. And I spent tons of time at school events where I feel like an outcast. I feel like I've invested too much $ and time in this community to feel like I do, especially when DD would probably be just as happy elsewhere [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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I'd look around if I were you--couldn't hurt, and you might find something that works for everybody. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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Thanks. It's reassuring for me to hear that this situation isn't normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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You sound like a nice person. Look into a different school. This one sounds off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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How shy is your DD? A girl at my DD's class is a nice girl, but mopes around on playdates and birthday parties and needs a lot of personal attention. We stopped inviting her bc she's too high maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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She doesn't do well in big groups and sometimes goes off on her own and ignores other kids. But she's not a behavior problem or high maintenance, she just often likes to be alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Honest question: how much fun are you? Do you dress up, like to drink? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Many of these moms are more "party" types than I am. (Some work in fashion/pr, and I am a corporate lawyer.). I do often feel like maybe they don't think I'm "cool" enough. But I am a nice person and a good friend, just not a life of the party type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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I know it's not fair and I'm positive that you are a nice person and I know this isn't pc, but you have to make more of an effort to fit in. Loosen up. Be more fashionable. Be more fun! No one wants the uptight bore at their party, no matter how much money they have. I know, shouldn't matter. But there is literally a mom in my block that Gives me anxiety and we are in the same industry! I think she thinks I'm stupid because I'm not angry and aggressive and am cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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I do try to dress somewhat fashionably (one of the fashion moms has the same dress as I do, for example, and I carry a nice bag). I drink and like to go out, but I'm not a super outgoing, life of the party type. So I don't expect to be the most popular person in town, but it seems like everyone gravitates towards the same types of people and ignores people like me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Fake it. You may be surprised that even you like a more fun, happy, and carefree you. Ask them for help--maybe ask one to take you shopping? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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I did this once with one of the fashion moms (suggested we should for brunch and shopping together as I needed to find a post maternity wardrobe), and instead of taking me up on the offer, she suggested that I should go to Banana Republic to look for some new clothes. I think this says a lot about what people think of me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Hey, heather, those boots are amazing! How do you do it? I really need to rethink my entire wardrobe before I become my mom. Can you take me shopping? I promise I will try on whatever you pick and won't put up a fight. Champagne on me after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Ok, I am going to give this a shot! Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Key is letting them make you over. Resist and that's the end of it. Flatter and admire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Are you the one complaining about people not bringing you enough wine and not doing all of the cleaning, cooking, childcare, grocery shopping, and auto maintenance in return for an invitation to your beach house? No mystery why no one will come back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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No, not me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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From my experience, when parents go out of their way to exclude another family, assuming they are not mean girls, it's usually one of the following 1. you are a gossiper, 2. your kid has behavioral issues, 3. you or your husband hit on other people, 4. you were drunk at a school event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Eh,there are other reasons. If the kids aren't friends and the parents are weird, I don't hi out of my way to include. No one has fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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I did get drunk at a school moms night out once, but don't think I did anything that embarrassing. It was 2 years ago. Otherwise, none of these applies to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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who says they are going out of their way to exclude, sounds like they still don't know people all that well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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OP: this. They haven't gotten to know us all that well and aren't interested in trying. I'm trying to figure out why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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i sort of feel that way at my kids school. i am social but not that effusive so i'm fine with it, but i don't want it to affect DD so i am trying to extend more invitations, etc. i'm freelance though so i am the mom that always says if you need a pickup, call on me. i think that helps. i'm not super outgoing.... people really like my DH though -- super friendly and fun -- so when he shows up things change. i'm glad for my dd but for me i don't really care! the school is nice, but i liked the people at my kid's preschool better. i think i'm just less charitable than my husband and really need the right fit to enjoy someone. not saying it's right but that's the way it is. if DD is happy, maybe let it go? maybe just reach out a bit more? and if dd is shy and academic maybe look for a specialized public for middle or high school (if your kid is in elementary) where the parents are less apt to be into hanging out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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I could have written this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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soul sister! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My neighbor is a looooooooooooooser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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I hate you too Lisa! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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Lol. FU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] The Pennsylvania State University is the best school in America http://college.usatoday.com/2014/09/08/upenn-named-best-college-nationwide-for-2015/ 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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You are dedicated, I'll give you that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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+2 Demented and sad--but dedicated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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If you channeled this energy into something with a profit potential, you'd be loaded by now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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Aww I thought you had left us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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Where does the University of Williamstown fall this year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:18 PM Flag
[ - ] The stuff about migrant deaths in Europe is awful, but at the same time, I'm very happy that it is a European problem and not an American one. The West (esp Obama and Clinton) were happily waving the flag for the Arab Spring, but all that resulted was a bunch of failed states and millions of refugees (Libya, Syria, Yemen, Iraq, to some extent Egypt). The only possible success story is Tunisia, and it is touch and go there with major terrorism events earlier this year. So now there are millions of stateless Muslims flooding southern Europe and making their way to the asylum havens like Germany etc. This wave of migration will do to Europe what the post-Gaullist influx of north Africans did to France -- ie create a massive, pissed off underclass and a breeding ground for domestic terrorism. THANK GOD FOR THE ATLANTIC OCEAN. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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islam is the worst religion ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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It really is a catastrophe. None of our governments have handled the Mid East well. I am nominally a republican but actually optimistic about the Iran deal. The people there are educated, relatively western. I know the government is a brutal theocracy but it is the only bastion of (relative) normality. Interventionism has failed- just creates breeding grounds for further radicalization. But we are also watching Isis commit atrocities (including genocide) so I understand the impulse to keep trying to butt in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Fuck that. Let them kill each other. Seal the borders. Return the refugees. Drop drones when you can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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Complete disaster. But we've got jihadi incubation sites here in the US already--Minnesota, for instance, where Somali refugees were placed years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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The Increase in the Muslim population is one of my biggest fears for our country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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What do you think of sharia law coming here? It's presented initially as a way for Muslims to get non-interest loans, but I've heard of places now in Michigan where you just can't go if you're not in Muslim dress or you'll be attacked. Sharia law was used to prevent photos being taken when a father raped and beat his preschooler half to death. It terrifies me, because even as close as NJ a bill to prevent foreign laws being used instead of local laws died in committee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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There will never be Sharia law here. We are a Christian nation. The muslims will end up at the end of a rope before we allow Sharia here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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It's already in Dearborn, Michigan. Sorry, should have been clearer. They move in, take over an area, have way more kids than anybody else, are on benefits, and then can get laws passed because they vote. Look it up, it's happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Just wait - Obama will find ways to import them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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I love how he said "my Muslim faith" and someone had to correct him to say Christian. If you're Christian, have you ever accidentally called yourself a Muslim before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] millennials are a bunch of losers who all move back home after college http://www.huffingtonpost.com/buck-wargo/boomerang-kids_b_7912484.html 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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They're not losers, they have big student loans. Their parents, the boomers are the losers for not paying their kids' tuition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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Could not agree more about the tuition BUT their parents also enabled them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Lower Lab parents: Any positive or negative thoughts regarding former assistant principal and teacher Mark Berkowitz, now principal of NEST+m? TIA. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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He's well liked. Open to feedback and very action oriented. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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He's not from Lower Lab. He was at Lab high school, a completely different school. Good exmissions to ivy league. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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Thanks for the correction and info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Dd is movie into her first apartment. I want to give her a list of easy dinners to make. Any ideas? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Baked fish in tinfoil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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Parchment is better. Add some spinach with the fish as it bakes, bake a potato, and you're done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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Tin foil is toxic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Tuna fish, canned sardines, eggs and bacon, tacos, oatmeal, veggie burgers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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Ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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What ? These are all great and easy dinners for weeknights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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So gross [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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What is gross. They are healthy. Lots of protein. What's your list? McDonald's ?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:09 PM Flag
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NOKD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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OMFG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Barf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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seamless.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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Try the cookbook Twelve Recipes by Cal Peternell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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So you think she's going to cook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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She wants to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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I started with the William Sonoma kids cook books when I was in college lol sounds lame but it totally worked to get me started. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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I wish I knew when I moved into my first apartment that the Crock Pot can be used for a single person too. Veggie (or not veggie) chili, shredded taco chicken. Also, cooking two pieces of salmon one for today, one for tomorrow and some sauteed spinach. Super easy and healthful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:08 PM Flag
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get her how to cook everything by bittman, great reference and cooks illustrated is great for beginner cooks because most recipes are truly vetted and detailed in directions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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perfect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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eatingwell.com has great recipes, healthy and easy to follow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:14 PM Flag
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I bought my DD the foreman grill when she moved into her own place. She loves it! She says she uses it at least 2x week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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Pinterest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:30 PM Flag
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NYTimes Cookbook [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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Roasted chicken breast on the bone. Bake at ~420F until meat thermometer says its done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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Buy her a cookbook designed for singles/couples. That was a lifesaver for me, especially for portioning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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What kinds of things does/doesn't she like? Any allergies? I can give you a lot of ideas but prefer to tailor them to her a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Baked salmon w steamed asparagus (lemon and olive oil) and rice / baked chicken w roasted root vegetables / lasagna / meatloaf and a salad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you rather live in New Canaan or Darien (if you had to choose one)? Why? Which one has the best amenities? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 07:56 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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you people are so annoying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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Darien, proximity to the beach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:00 PM Flag
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Neither is as prestigious as bronxville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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This, CT is for poors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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we just like to keep more of our money, CT taxes are less [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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NP: I grew up in Fairfield County and everybody there always thought people in Westchester were crazy to throw away so much in RE taxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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Ct is too far from NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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I see that, I guess. But it's not really that much farther away and besides, a lot of the people I know in lower Fairfield County these days work in Greenwich anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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Hilarious. As if any town with the word Bronx in the name could be considered prestigious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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I like New Canaan better, not sure why but I guess it is because I have been here for 20+ years now. Darien does have the beach if that is important to you and is on on the 95 corridor, but neither of those things are important to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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New Canaan because I would never live off I95. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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Darien--it has the beaches and a slightly better commute. Also, in general, your house holds its value there better than in New Canaan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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