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[ - ] I hired a housekeeper to cook, clean and do laundry. We have people coming to dinner so I asked her to make soup, salad, and main dish for 4 adults and 4 kids. She has 4 1/2 hours to do it and she was not sure she can make it. How is that possible. Am I just super fast or is she super slow? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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She doesn't sound like much of a professional. I'm just a regular office drone, but even I could a meal together in 4 1/2 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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OP: in 4 1/2 hours I could cook 3x the volume I asked for. She repeatedly said that she isn't sure she can make it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Maybe she is looking for extra pay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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The soups I make take hours to cook. Do you have stock already? What about shopping pretty obnoxious to spring this one her last minute ...doesn't seem like cooking is her strong point. Did she know when you hired her she would be expected to cook for entertaining? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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Yes it was one of the important items for me. She is a good cook. All shopping is done. Soup I asked for does not take hours and in any case after prep it just simmers. She will be home longer than 4 1/2 hours but this time is strictly dedicated to cooking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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Seems strange then, is this the first entertains she has done for you? Might just be nerves and the nature to please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Did you give her a specific recipe to make? That is a lot of pressure to have to come up with the menu, do all the shopping and the cooking in 4.5 hours. If she had advanced notice she could have done the shopping and prep work yesterday and then put it all together today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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No both soup and main dish are her recipes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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+1 and I'll add - is she also supposed to clean up the home before guests arrive, all within 4 1/2 hours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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No this is just cooking time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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OK, then yes, more than enough time. Maybe she doesn't multi-task well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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She is prob pissed off that she is getting paid as a housekeeper but doing the work of a private chef. I would feel taken advantage of and annoyed. There is a big difference between throwing together casual dinner meals and cooking for entertainment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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She was hired to cook for us. We have 2 more adults and 1 child coming. She isn't making anything more complicated than our usual dinner just higher quantity. At some point this kind if reasoning get insane. I could order out and fire her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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so shes being paid as a chef who also does some cleaning on the side? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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np: I don't think an occasional meal for 3 more people is asking too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Do you expect her to do anything else during those 4.5 hours? I can see how cooking for a dinner party could take 2-3hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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No! IA 2-3 hours. 4 1/2 is so much time to do cooking for 2 families. Just 2 dishes + salad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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If shopping is involved and cleaning up, setting table..longer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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Why don't you just ask her about it? instead of being all dramatic and posting here and listening to all the "theories" of what is actually happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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I agree. I would tell her you really appreciate her cooking and were relying on her to help with entertaining and I would then ask her what she thinks will be the issue in making the meal in the time allotted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Ask her to break up tasks in time estimate? She told me 2x she isn't sure 10-2:30 will be enough time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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Ask her how long she thinks she needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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Odd time slot for a housekeeper to cook dinner...what is she doing from 2:30-5:30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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This and what kind of meal can sit that long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Simple enough one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Lol you rich UB people are ridiculous. The posters are saying that OP needs to pay this woman as a "chef" if she's cooking dinner. I am sure this housekeeper went to school for that. She's a housekeeper who was hired to cook and clean!! How is this worthy of extra pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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OP: TY! She isn't cooking like a chef. She is cooking the same type of food she has been feeding her own large family all her adult life. Soon enough we will be told to hire a special bathroom cleaner and specialized duster a laundress and a chef. I am not wealthy enough for that. I work and need some help but I do all this cooking + take care of 3 kids every single weekend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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^^ she isn't great at cleaning by the way. I chose her because I like her cooking. I expect I will need to hire someone to do deep cleaning every so often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I agree. Get a new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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I'm wondering if it's the cooking for company aspect of it that's bothering her. She may feel that this wasn't in the original job description (?). Or maybe she prefers to be told in advance if it's for company……..I agree with those who say you should try to talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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I told her in advance. She was hired to cook for company on most Friday nights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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PP- Oh, I see what you're saying. It's as if someone asked me to do something for them at work, and I said, "Sorry, I don't have time." (I don't have this option on my job). It sounds like she's being a pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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op: Yes! Exactly. Like she is doing me some favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Is she supposed to clean and do laundry as well? If so, not enough time. If just cooking, more than enough unless you're making pork shoulder or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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No just cooking and post cooking cleanup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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hm. I'd be annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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exactly. I think it would take me 1 and 1/2 hours tops to make this dinner and yes it may take longer for soup to sit on the stove but I am not actively doing anything with it. I hired her to take burden off me. Here I am stressing over dinner for tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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^^ If anything she should have enough time to make desert too but now I will have to pay another $25 to buy it. I am going to need to go though hiring process all over again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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totally feasible if you give her some recipes. she should be able to make lists & go shopping in this time as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Whats up with Tori Spelling? Jeez 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Totally, Tori has Tragically Tanked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Why doesn't her mom help her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Jealousy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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well done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Train wreck. I cannot believe how much she shares about her personal life. I question whether it is all a set up for the cameras. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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She is going to run out of material soon if that's the case. And then she will be unhirable for any standard gigs because everyone knows how messed up she is. I hate to use the phrase over the hill, but she is sliding too fast down the backside of the hill not to say it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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A life of entitlement in the spotlight means poor coping skills, I would guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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I can't imagine she needs the money. seems like a publicity whore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I try not to touch my face too much while out and about. Most people touch their face three to four times per hour. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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touch like with your hand? or touch up like with makeup? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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she's talking about catching ebola by touching your face [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Yes, lots of diseases are caught this way and certainly Ebola is. I rode the subway with my teenaged son last week and took note of how many times people touched their eyes, nose, mouth after touching the poles and rails. I was mortified to see how many times my child did this as he rides the trains to school every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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Are you also mortified when he high fives your doorman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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I think it's 3-4x a minute. 100+ times an hour [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] talking to a work contact yesterday, he described his dd. "loves the miami lifestyle. lives at soul cycle. really talented baker, but when she found out you have to wake up at 4am to run a bakery, decided to go to law school. wants to be in sports marketing" really, dude? really? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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it happens. one of my hs friends stood out in wanting to be a firefighter but quickly realized it was pretty boring then started a degree in psychology, changed again during school and now runs his own IT projects/consulting firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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it's not the change....it's the fact that she is a walking cliche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Big deal, how many people really know what they want to do when younger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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cliche exists for a reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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and in exactly 10 years, she'll be a sahm, spending her dh's money like it's water and complaining about his womanizing. you know, while we're talking cliches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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But she will have an awesome thigh gap! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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but she might be happier and less bitter than you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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at least it wasnt "fashion" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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Or marketing. Or event planning. Or marry well and SAH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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oh honey, that's where it's heading. she is looking for somebody else to take care of her just like her daddy did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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princess is never going to work past 30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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So what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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I wanted to be a baker in high school so I took a job at a bakery and realized that there is no way I wanted to do that. I am still gainfully employed as in house counsel at 43. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Amazing...I know there's probably photo touch ups...but still. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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My uncle's wife is like that. It's really frustrating at this point because I actually look older than her (I'm 36 and she's 60). They only had sons (big fat ugly ones) so those amazing genes might die out. We're all of Chinese descent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Can't imagine the sacrifices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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1 in 4 women in Asia has major plastic surgery. It's huge in Asia, everyone does it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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THIS. She is totally botoxed and filtered and had the asian eye lift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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OP: I know, I'm asian. But like I said...BUT STILL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Still looking pretty damn good. Keeping in great shape too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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She looks beautiful. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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She looks beautiful. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Definitely has plastic surgery. Look at her nose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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These frickin women inspire the heck out of me. They feel fierce and aren’t afraid to let it show. Others who are heroes include the 62 year old who models for American Apparel: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2549067/Sexy-no-expiration-date-American-Apparel-uses-62-year-old-model-promote-lingerie-designs.html And 50 year old Elle Machpherson, who looks hot and has the best line of lingerie. Keep on rocking’ mama’s if you feel like rocking! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I'd rather be in Paris. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i'd rather be in st barths. [ Reply | More ]
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over Paris? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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i've lived in paris. it's great. right now, i need a warm beach. very long last couple of months... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Allez, Allez! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Sydney. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd rather be in Hawaii [ Reply | More ]
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Zzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Hawaii is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
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I'd rather be dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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Yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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who peed in your coffee? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Moi Aussi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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Greatest city in the world followed by New York and Tokyo. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
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I'd rather be in London [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] School question. DC is in 1st grade and a good reader (according to the teacher, top 25% of the class). However, DC was placed in the lower reading group, together with kids who are below grade level. Not sure why, and will definitely ask the teacher during parent and teacher conferences, but I have not so far because I don't want to be a pain in the neck mother. I assume it has something to do with spelling which is not great. I would not really care - after all this is only 1st grade - but DC has been talking about this non stop at home and I feel like it is undermining self confidence. DC is the youngest in the class btw so it may have something to do with all of this. How should I handle with DC? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Have you been working with him on spelling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Yes, and all the spelling tests taken at school are correct - but he says they give his group easier words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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This doesn't really make much sense? Did teacher literally tell you he's top 25% of class? That doesn't jive with being in the lower reading group? A few things which can affect reading group though: participation (my shy, quiet DS didn't participate enough to be in high reading group), comprehension (including the ability to answer higher thinking type questions like predicting and character motivations). These 2 things can be interlinked, a DC might understand more than he/she can/will express in a reading group. Reading comprehension is also linked to writing ability in some classrooms. The youngest boy can be at a big disadvantage to the oldest girls when it comes to reading, writing and verbal communication. Ask his teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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The teacher told me about the 25% specifically in a course of a different conversation about which books to buy. Level is L. I definitely think that this has something to do with spelling but I always assumed that spelling and reading went together. I am not a teacher though, and I am not familiar with the dynamics of reading groups. I will ask the teacher, just waiting for the parent teacher conference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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BTW - DC is at a SS school, but not in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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np here, but i would mention at the parent teacher conference that ds came to you upset that he was in the "lowest reading group---in his words". tell her it is bothering him. ask her advice about the appropriateness of his reading group and how she might advise you to speak with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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np in your experience do groups change? Or is a kid "stuck" in a specific group for the rest of the year? Because if OP is correct and they do give the kids easier words etc don't they just perpetuate the gap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Of course it does. My DS was the youngest in his class/grade and was put in the lowest reading group in K and 1st grades (partly because he was 6/9/12 months younger) and he really never "caught up". Reading groups benefit the best readers and leave behind the lower readers (who are often simply younger). By reading these teachers aren't just looking at "ability to read", they are looking for higher-level comprehension, reading fluency (speed), excellent verbal skills to discuss the content of the book (inferences, conclusions, character motivations, predeictions, real-world connections etc). A quiet kid can be put into a lower group simply for being quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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So what did you do? This is concerning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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There's nothing you can do but accept it. Not every kid can be top dog, not every kid can be in the highest reading group. As long as my DS works hard, gives his best effort and keeps moving forward along his own curve, I'm happy. Does it drive me nutso when the mom of the redshirted kid brags about her DS being in the highest reading group? Yup, he's a year older than my DS. Would I do it differently if I could turn back time? Maybe. But remember what the Buddha said, "In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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NP that is ridiculous. OP, get a tutor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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That is what is ridiculous. Getting a tutor for a child who is reading at level L in 1st grade is absurd. It will do nothing but further reinforce his feeling that he is not a good reader (which he is!) Craziness. So there are better readers/writers/spellers/verbalizers in this boy's classroom. So what? Let him be 6! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Does his school combine multiple classrooms to form the reading groups? Entire grade? At my DS's school they take all the kids in a grade and then group them. Maybe he's top 25% in his own classroom but that doesn't put him top 25% grade-wide? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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no, very small class and groups are within classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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Well then you need an explanation as to why he is "top 25%" (her own words) but not in "top 25%" of reading groups. Ask her what the placement process for reading groups entails? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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How do they assess his reading? How do they assign the groups? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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They did not explain this at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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Well THAT is what you need to ask (and need to know). Some "small private" schools judge reading comprehension based solely upon a DC's ability to talk about and write about what they have read. That's a big demand for a 6 year old, especially for a boy. If he's at all quiet, shy, introverted it's even worse. It doesn't mean he's not reading AND comprehending, he simply needs to work on oral and written expression skills. Hopefully that is what his "lower" reading group is focused on. If he were in the highest group with a lot of precocious kids who are already amazing readers, writers and speakers it might be detrimental instead of helpful. If he's among the youngest at 6y4m then his 1st grade classroom must skew very old! I'm guessing he's got redshirted classmates who are already 7+? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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what reading level is he at? [ Reply | More ]
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L [ Reply | More ]
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that's pretty good for first grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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That is what I thought. I suppose it has something to do with spelling or reading comprehension. I don't really care about the groups, I am just concerned about loss of self confidence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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The reading level takes comprehension into account. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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If does not have full comprehension at level L, he needs to be moved down. He may be able to read the words but that's not enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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>>sorry, meant for OP. [ Reply | More ]
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Very high for 1st, here's the "grade level expectations" for Fountas&Pinnell: https://www.heinemann.com/fountasandpinnell/handouts/InstructionalLevelExpectationsForReading.pdf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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np I don't know about these levels. In my DD's class the girls who are at the grade level according to this schedule are considered well below level in reality and definitely placed in the lowest groups. Most of DD's second grade classmates read at level P and up. [ Reply | More ]
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Let me guess: Private school where most of the kids start K at age 6 or almost 6? This chart applies to ALL kids nationwide, including those who start K at age 4. [ Reply | More ]
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How old is he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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6 and 4 months [ Reply | More ]
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Wait...and youngest in the class? How is it possible? My DD is in first and is still 5. She has one more younger kid in the class. Are you in private? [ Reply | More ]
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yes private [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Ah ok, I am so confused about these cut offs. Btw - I would address this with teacher right away. Your kid is entitled to appropriate attention from teacher - if kid is affected by being in that group, you should definitely ask. Kids are sensitive. you have a right to understand why he is in that group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Same here, my DS is the youngest in his first grade classroom as well, but he won't be 6 until mid-December. Not reading anywhere near an L level, but he's 5! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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In 1st grade at my DC's school the highest reading groups were primarily the older girls. Youngest boy? Very unlikely he's reading/writing/comprehending at the level of the oldest girls. At age 6, 3/6/9 months makes a HUGE difference and so does gender (in most cases). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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L? [ Reply | More ]
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are you sure this are levelled groups and are static? or could this just be his perception? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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NP teachers always say they are not static. But if they keep giving more difficult work/homework to the highest level it is hardly likely that the groups will change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of grades do good private schools look for in their kids? What is the whole picture they look at for HS admissions specifically. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The top privates look at report cards, ISEE and SSAT scores, no care on ELA and state tests. Good interviews and good writing samples and/or portfolio. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I was an initial Ebola panicker. Anyone else not overly worried about this Ebola patient at this stage? The more I see of cases in the USA the more I believe that this can and will be contained here. I take comfort in the fact that Thomas Duncan's family (who lived with him when he was REALLY sick) have not contracted the disease. To be honest, I'm more worried for the people in the African countries affected who are sick and dying. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think it is much more difficult to contain in NYC where everyone takes public transportation, lives in apartments etc [ Reply | More ]
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But Thomas Duncan's family lived inside of the house with him while he was pretty ill, vomiting, etc. and zero of them got sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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I think it's shown that the healthcare workers are really in the front line. They are absolutely the most vulnerable. I don't envy them their jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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2 nurses did get it from him and was nurse bf cleared? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:57 PM Flag
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Of course- caregivers are very high risk. I meant no one who had even very close casual contact with him - like his fiance- caught it. Unfortunately, if you are involved in intubating someone with late stage ebola 2 days before his death, your risk is high. I think they've always said that- the risk is high when the person is about to die or has just died, but it's pretty low in the initial stages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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This!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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OP: I agree it will be harder, but to steal the lines of a famous song "If I can contain it there, I can contain it anywhere". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Am not the spammer but what do you DO on the subway? This is not an airborne virus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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This. Not that it's not a concern. But we can adapt and learn to contain this. Plus, both nurses and the camera man are doing ok. Which is a great sign about how well we are handling it, even while totally unprepared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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What happens once kids start getting it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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We treat them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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What makes you believe kids are going to catch it? By definition, kids are not going to be medical caregivers for ebola patients, and so far those are the only people who have caught it in America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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OP: I think you're absolutely right. We do adapt, even if we don't realize it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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I honestly believe that no one will catch ebola from the doctor who has it in NYC now except possibly one of his hospital caregivers (which is so sad for the nurses/doctors that care for him and know that risk). The signs really, really point to the fact that it's very difficult to catch by casual contact- none of Duncan's friends or family caught it, the ambulance drivers for him didn't catch it, no one from that airplane that the nurse was on caught it, etc. I think that the chances of anyone catching it from this doctor because he went bowling or took the Subway are 0%. Which is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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His hospital caregivers were prepared for the first moment. I don't think they will get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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I truly hope not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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This is the most reasonable post I've ever read on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Stop replying to yourself. it is getting tedious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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OP: That was not me. I have not replied to myself once. I have replied to other posters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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My reply. I'm not OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Indeed, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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Even if he does not infect anyone other than hospital workers, he, and the NBC doctor, were both irresponsible. The AMA should sanction them both. The AMA should require doctors who come back from infected areas not to go out in public unnecessarily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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OP: I agree. I wonder if this will be the next stage of containment that the government/CDC announce? They seem to be slowly rolling out measures as they go along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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There is no need for this type of containment. It would not prevent the spread of the disease as the gentleman was not contagious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Not concerned at all. Far more concerned with an Ottawa-like lone or dual shooters hitting up a heavy traffic area like Ground Zero or Rockefeller Ctr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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Retarded [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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Sane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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I'm in Dallas and live 2 miles from the hospital here. No one was panicking. Although it was very sad to hear more bad news every day during that time, very few people had any serious concerns about catching Ebola just by being in the same city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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perhaps that is because your chances are very low [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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or: exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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I agree! I think we should be putting all of our resources, concerns and energy (including worry!) to helping the worst affected areas in Africa. There don't seem to be any big fundraisers like there are when a tsunami hits or famine etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:11 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Cuz it's not a one time event. It's always something over there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Not overly worried. I think it's unfortunate that Dallas was unprepared and that the CDC seemed to be behind the curve on proper procedures given there was a real chance there would eventually be cases in the US. New protocols are coming out of this, though. Did you see the photo of the training for healthcare workers being held at the Javitz center? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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just takes one selfish person with ebola to ride the subway with a high fever. As we've seen, people are inherently selfish and cannot be trusted to 'self contain'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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I think what OP is observing is that by the time they are that contagious they won't even be able to walk down the stairs to the subway entrance, let alone swipe a metrocard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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No it doesn't. They would have to spit into someone's orifice in the subway to transmit and only in those couple of days when they have it but aren't yet bedridden. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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This, but why should people strive to understand disease transmission? Much more fun to be freaked out about virtually nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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Just to make sure everyone is up to date on the ebola crisis, I've just checked the latest data, and the number of people who have contracted ebola in the U.S. and died as a result is holding steady at ZERO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Again with rational facts? :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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I know, boring. Let's instead find out what Donald Trump has to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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I was as well. But I also have observed what is happening as you have OP and have read on how the disease has stages of levels of contagiousness. I am still going to be more vigilant than ever with hand washing, etc but I do that anyway during flu season. What is so weird to me is that all of the panicked ebola postings and terrorism postings I am seeing on Facebook today are from people that live in the suburbs. I guess because I actually live here I know we need to just go on with our lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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I'm not overly worried but I do think the government is doing a fair amount of lying to us about how hard it is to catch the virus after becoming symptomatic. Also, at what point does a person become contagious? When they begin having muscle aches? As for this doctor…wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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The CDC itself even admits it doesn't fully know how Ebola works. Dr. Richard Besser (former head of the CDC) said on GMA last week that the Ebola virus can live on surfaces for "up to several hours". On the one hand these "experts" say we need to come into "direct contact" with the patients "and their bodily fluids" ... but on the other hand the CDC is ordering the doctor's apartment be "decontaminated" by guys in hazmat suits, bombing the apartment with 30% hydrogen peroxide (the stuff you buy in the drug store is only 1.5% concentration!). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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+1,000,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you usually do on a Friday night with DC and husband? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Okay a game, watch TV, eat dinner, fall asleep early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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+1 Friday night is usually our early night in, so I can get everyone up on time on Saturday morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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OR. We are often all sleep by 9.00. Just exhausted after a full workweek. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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+1! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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Us too. Friday nights are for relaxing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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funny, we're all up later than usual, so we can sleep in on saturdays. let them sleep in! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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No way. There is so much to do on weekends and so much fun to have. And then if everyone sleeps in on weekends, it's really hard to get everyone to sleep Sunday evening and up on Monday morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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You're the worst. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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All of the chores get done before 10am on Saturday, we get to spend the rest of weekend having fun, and I don't have any hassles on Monday morning - If I'm the worst, I'm happy with it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Same for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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date night. typically with at least one other couple. sometimes just us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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Too tired to date on a Friday. Fall into bed at 9.30pm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Hewitt? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Considered the weakest of the all-girls schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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yet it still sends a higher percentage of girls to Ivy+ SM than most of the top publics. so keep it in mind, if that matters to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on collegiate? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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DS enjoys it. Any questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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How hard to get in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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Tee hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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I applied for my dc for second grade we are moving from LA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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second grade is not a normal entry year. do you mean he is going into second or going into third (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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Going into Second [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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Maybe we can get lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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i know that is a class that is medium sized (i.e. they theoretically have some spaces for off cycle openings) but i'm not sure if the school will honestly consider them. what has admissions told you about the likelihood of getting an interview? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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i will find out today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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Well don't out yourself here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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great school. most parents looking for single sex boys schools would put it as their #1 or #2 choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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excellent education, but like many privates it's a very small school to be in for so many years, esp considering it's all boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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i was totally shocked at how run down the building is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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of course it's run down...they're building a new one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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which will not be finished for 3-5 years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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oh, is this that part of the year when people come on here and post why trinity brearley and collegiate are terrible schools and no decent minded parent would send their child there? gosh, i love that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Collegiate is a one of the best schools - just that their facilities are horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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they are getting a brand new bldg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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in three to five years and it will be located in the armpit of the world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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beacon and heschel and the new nieman marcus will be there too. they'll have plenty of room and the area will only get better. buy now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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What? Neimans going to Hudson yards. Collegiate going to 60th I thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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aren't those all sort of near each other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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Likely will move by 2017 if not sooner. Plenty of time for DS to be in new facilities. Also, much easier to get there than to Brearley or Chapin. (Spoken from experience.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Brearley has the city's largest garbage dump a few block up wind from it not to mention being all the way East on top of the FDR in a ten story building meant for offices or apartments rather than a school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] My previously brainy girls is now ALL about her friends and flirting and I fear is turning into something she will later regret. WTH. She even tested as highly gifted - always was into science and math and avid reader and now its flirting and boys and friends. She is in 8th. How do I get her back on track???? So worried. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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Single sex girls school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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send her to an All Girls School [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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op-that's what i am thinking. but i can't decide which one? i would like it to have really smart girls and not all fashionista's and catty girls. any ideas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Brearley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:34 PM Flag
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brearley or chapin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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Girls used to get married and start their family around age 16, which is in line with biology. They are now pressured to fight biology, get advanced degrees and wait until they are 35 to get married and a have a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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oh please. at 16 i didn't even want to start a family of fish. i couldn't keep a plant alive until i was 32. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Find ass with both hands? Forty, for me. Late developer. Sixteen? Not in this culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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I know everyone is a helpless eternal adolescent today but until modern times, you'd have 8+ kids and be a grandmother at 32. Girls are starting to get their period earlier than ever now as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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She's talking about biology, not your rate of intellectual maturation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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op-i am a human and not a rodent - i evolved for a reason. my period does not define my destiny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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I guess you think OP's daughter's behavior has nothing to do with hormones. Alrighty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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+1. That PP is a bit dense. Hormones-a-raging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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op-hormones can cause attraction - not need for procreation. if everytime i was horny i would get impregnated I would give mrs. dugger a run for her money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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We all would. That's what people did as recently as the 1800's and that's what nature intended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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Go away, Quiverfull Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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See you later, Abortion Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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... Thanks for sharing what is obviously a pet viewpoint, but this helps the OP how? She should stop encouraging her DD to do well in school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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OP needs to acknowledge that the new hormones will have a huge impact. OP can still encourage her daughter to do well in school and suggest ways to not let boys stand in her way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Both can happen. It's not one or be other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:26 PM Flag
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Yup. She is old enough to breed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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This!! Only animal to delay sexual activity once you reach sexual maturity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Girls school is great, but she can make it work where she is, too. If she's smart she'll eventually gravitate to smart boys. Encourage her academic interests, keep her social life in balance. Encourage school clubs and activities that give her a social outlet. She will calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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I agree with this; encourage academic and non-academic activities geared towards kids talented in science and math. When I was around her age I went through something similar. I ended up going to the Johns Hopkins CTY summer program, where getting into a TT college was the social equivalent of acquiring a coveted car or purse. As teens/pre-teens, we were all thinking seriously about what to major in and viable career options. I feel like at this age, their peer group is so important to them; and it's just as easy to fall into the "right" crowd as it is to fall into the "wrong" crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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Fitting in is extremely important to a middle school girl. If she keeps her grades up and engages in school, she'll find her place and stay on track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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If she can handle it (check for preconditions like coagulation tendencies, ect...), put her on birth control pills.I have no libido at all with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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Yeah, let's put middle school girls on hormone therapy so they aren't interested in boys and they can get a better grade on their math test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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NP: I'm all for it. High school lasts only 4 years. I just don't think it will work. Your kid either has priorities or she doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Keep reminding her of her positive attributes other than looks. Let her know that any boy wiuld be lucky to have her attention, later when she is in high school and college, because she is smart and interesting. The mote secure she feels, the less flirting and silliness, probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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She can manage both boys and school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Girls and boys both have raging hormones at that age- you can't control the fact that she is interested in boys. Social lives are important at this age- if her grades are still good, I'd let it go, it will pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:01 PM Flag
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I remember going through this at exactly the same age. My parents sat me down and made me aware of what they were seeing. I didn't listen right away but it slowly passed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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She is on track. She is suppose to be into boys (or girls) at this age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Specialized High School: she will be with a motivated and super-bright peer group. OTOH, the test is tomorrow and if you don't know whether she's taking the SHSAT then she probably isn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] conspiracy theories? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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one world government [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Huh?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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I sort of fear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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The 1% want to bury the MC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Krugman wants to murder the 1% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Hear fucking hear! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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Krugman wants to murder the 1% [ Reply | More ]
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That is not a theory. It is the Truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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The CEO of Total was killed because he advocated using currencies other than the US dollar for international oil contracts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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Oooooooooooo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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Hmmmm... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Ebola was invented by Americans to keep the black man down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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HIV was invented by Americans to keep the black man down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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Crack was invented by Americans to keep the black man down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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Reading was invented by Americans to keep the black man down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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Education and discipline were invented by Americans to keep the black man down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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You twos be hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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They are out to get me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:51 PM Flag
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The illuminati rule the world, in secret, controlling all governments and corporations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:53 PM Flag
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I think Facebook is going to become self-aware and take over the world like in Terminator and it will make Terminators in the likeness of Zuckerberg and send them back in time to destroy the savior who is Kanye West. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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i like this theory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:00 PM Flag
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I think all of these are true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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that someone is tracking my responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Lol, this, for sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Spence? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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great school. can't go wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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op-are the kids very down to earth for most part? i am finding where we are that there are so many very rich and very spoiled kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Summit or Great Neck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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of - neither but close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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Wouldn't describe it as down to earth, imo. Lots of jr. fashionistas imitating their moms. All the pvt have some very rich, spoiled kids - like many of the good pvts too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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the academics are quite strong. the workload tends to keep them pretty busy. the girls i know who attend i know through sports. they are quite well rounded and put together. is there money? sure (how could there not be at a school costing $45K per year). but it's all about the values of the parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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Go for the specialized high schools. Very bright kids but few are rich and spoiled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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op-that is a good idea. she is very arty but also loves core academic. is laguardia a good choice or would you still go with stuy? any other recommendations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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I would try several. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] 3.5month dB is waking up every 2hrs! Killing me. He was close to sleeping thru the night a few weeks ago, but now waking up all the time. Ive got 2 older kids and this is just brutal... Thinking of offering him a bottle at night to see if that makes a diff but I think, if I want to keep EBF, this might do some damage for my milk supply... So unbelievably tired though... 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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My guess would be that you db is sleeping in your room next to you and you bf to shot him up because you are tired. The only thing that worked for me with #3 is to sleep on sofa without baby monitor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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OP. I put him in guest room from day 1 for this very reason... What did you do, ignore him? CIO from super early on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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No I didn't CIO but when he was in my room he was waking up more and with 3 dcs and being so tired I would BF just to get sleep. I guess in your case I would wait until 5 mo. I didn't see any improvement with formula feed. I found bf much easier than bottles. Maybe he is going through growth spurt? Is guest room very dark? How is he eating/sleeping during the day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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It is too early do do CIO. Most sleep experts don't recommend CIO until 5-6 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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The breastfeeding craze is making a martyrs out of so many…give the bottle of formula and enjoy the extra sleep. You are important too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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formula isn't a sleeping pill. It may not make any difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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Was for us. My breast milk wasn't enough as my large boy got larger. I thought he had colic. He was just starving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Mine too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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OP. Did giving him formula at night affect your supply during the day at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Just pump if you are worried [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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give formula or pump and let DH take one of the night feedings w bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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He's getting bigger and more hungry every day. If he is well fed, he will sleep longer and it's worth trying the formula. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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But will this negatively affect my milk supply? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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You can pump when you give the bottle to keep up your supply. Or you can plan to give a bottle each night and not pump since part of his nutrition will come from the bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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this too shall pass, don't take shortcuts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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She doesn't need to kill herself for marginal, if any, benefits. The child may be crying out of hunger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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same issue here only my db is FIVE months old. was sleeping through and lately up and SO HUNGRY. am ordering giant case of formula. benefits of bm dubious and at any rate seem greatest in newborns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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At this age you should feed DB cereal or vegetables etc. Baby is starving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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At this age you should feed DB cereal or vegetables etc. Baby is starving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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When db cries, first try patting and shushing back to sleep. If she still won't sleep, pick her up, rub her back, walk around. Check diaper. If she calms put her back in the crib while she's still drowsy. If she's inconsolable then offer breast. Feeding her at night should be your last resort. Remember, you have to teach her to sleep. Hunger isn't always the reason she's waking up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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When my children were well fed, they naturally fell asleep and stayed asleep. We didn't do an ounce of "teaching." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Well, you got extremely lucky then - most babies are not such good sleepers. It has nothing to do with hunger or anything you did as a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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This might just be a growth spurt or early teething. Do a few things to boost your supply just in case, i.e. supplements or make the cookies, pump after feeds as you can, etc. My son and daughter went through this around this age. This too shall pass. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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formula for last bottle at night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Sorry, I know how rough it is. You should pump a bottle in the morning when your supply is highest and have your husband give that to baby during one of the night wakings, so you can get a longer stretch of sleep. Or you can have your husband do the same with a bottle of forumula but I would not do any more formula than that, because it will affect your supply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
[ - ] How many cases of Ebola would NYC have to see before there is a genuine panic? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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one with high fever riding the crowded subway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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There are 10 million people in NYC. At least 0.1% of that, so at least 10,000 cases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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You sound far more reasonable than most people here on UB. I hope you're more representative of the NYC populace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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That is insane. There haven't been that many in all of Africa. If you wait until 10k to panic, it's too late. Because of the virulence of the disease, even 10 should do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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One, apparently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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Tee hee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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I suppose you won't give a shit unless YOUR child gets infected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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My child won't be treating Ebola patients or otherwise have contact with their bodily fluids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Of course she would. Does she take the subway? Does she ride in cabs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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So speaks Doctor Uninformed. Just how long do you think it survives on surfaces? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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According to Dr. Richard Besser (former head of the CDC), "up to several hours". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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anyone who can't easily identify how they caught it - so someone other than those treating the guy or a ground zero contact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I think if there is 1 person who gets it from this doctor from random casual contact (like someone who happened to use the bathroom sink after him) then there will be some panic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there any school in New York area that focuses on high level learning and creating great thinkers and not just assessments? Looking for interesting progressive school for super bright kids that is "out of the box" 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:04 PM Flag
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Yet another future leader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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ICE. People on this list denigrate it, but the curriculum is well thought out and they are all about creating thinkers. They are regents exempt, as is Beacon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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op-i/m sorry but what is ICE? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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Institute of Collaborative Education. It is a 6 -12 public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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ECFS, Dalton, Calhoun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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Saint Ann's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:11 PM Flag
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op- i think my dc would really fit into Saint Ann's in so many ways. But who do you think is the kid they look for? Who is their best fit in their view? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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np: Go on tours and see these places! You will have a much better sense yourself if it is a fit for your child and family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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op-planning on it. but you are right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Yes, this is Saint Ann's to a T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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What do you mean high level learning? Opportunity for advanced classes? Inventing your own mathematical system rather than learning the natural progression of algebra through calculus? A school for scientific inventions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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op-all of the above - or any of the above. My dc is already in a private (not in NYC) and I just find the method of teaching to be very uninspiring and just keeps kids drilled and exhausted. I see the spark of curiosity slowly dying in my kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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But the drills must be pretty easy for a super bright kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Not if mom can't tell that OR was sarcastic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Sort of…but if she is interested in the progressive schools I definitely encourage her to tour them. It is quite sad to see a child's curiosity dying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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op-they are, but it prevents real learning and allowance for deep thinking and problem solving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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How old is the child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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op-12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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So you are looking for 7th grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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op-8th or 9th - move next year or following year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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aw. you're so clueless it's almost cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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School of future leaders and billionaires [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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i think your kid is just so special that he will honestly need to be home schooled. there is really no traditional school environment that could possibly be good enough for him, now is there? i mean, let's just be honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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op-well compared to yours for sure...let us know when you bust him out of juvenile detention will ya [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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honestly...you are raising the child you deserve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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op-in that case i am pretty awesome :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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Drills and assessments are to bring up the lower part of the class. If your child is in a school of super smart kids, I think it would be better no matter the philosophy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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New York area as in the suburbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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op-in the city or surrounding areas. we are willing to relocated if need be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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Dalton. Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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op-why would you suggest Dalton? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Chances to get dalton are so minuscule that its not worth discussing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Is this child talented in math/science or english/arts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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op-loves science but math is definitely weakest subject - although is taking algebra in 7th (but getting B to B+ at best). English is off the charts, amazing writer, loves model UN and debate and model congress...very talented singer (perfect NYSSMA scores, does Opera, in selective choir program), plays piano and flute and does theater all the time. very articulate and very mature girl. that's the snapshot - where would you send her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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Dalton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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op-did you suggest dalton above or are you another poster? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Another poster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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I am not trolling, but you won't believe me. There are many, many children in NYC like this--at public as well as privates. Not sure what you mean by "off the charts" but if you mean scoring 99+ on standardized tests yes this is very common. My dc is at Hunter and Manhattan School of Music. For HS you could try LaGuardia, and you may be in for a rude awakening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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op-i am looking for her to have peers - who are all smart, interesting and interested, for her to be in the mix you describe would not be a rude awakening but a pleasant awakening. off the charts meaning that she truly writes like a college kid and reads like a demon pretty complex literature. she is a word geek in every sense. i would be thrilled to have her be around the caliber of kids you describe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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She sounds wonderful, and I hope you can find the right school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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dalton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Fieldston. Toured it and loved it, but hard to get in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Considering all girls school for DD. What are your thoughts on Brearly and who is a good fit for that school? Also any other suggestions. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:59 AM Flag
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Brainboxes of all shapes and sizes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:02 PM Flag
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Don't forget the "e" in Brearley when you write your thank you note! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't take the subway and I can't uber anymore. How am I supposed to get around? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:58 AM Flag
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Buy your own car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:00 PM Flag
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Private driver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:03 PM Flag
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Why can't you take uber? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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Presumably because someone being tested for Ebola took it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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Ah. She's a paranoid moron mom. Explains it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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They have tested + [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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Walk. Bicycle. Skateboard. Rollerblades. Segway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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stretcher? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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If you rode every subway car and every uber car in an effort to get a disease, you'd fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Who let the sane person on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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So every Uber car is affected? Every subway? Get informed. Stay calm.....etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Umm.... take off your tinfoil hat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Just wear a hazmat suit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Just wash your hands when you get to work, get home, get to a restaurant. Don't you do this anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Too bad he didn't go on a tour of soul cycles and yoga studios. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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doesn't the virus die within a couple hours outside a host? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Wow, Sugar, I never realized that that's a problem I don't have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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