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[ - ] My 4 yo hates his paternal grandmother. I can't get a good reason out of him. She's a passive aggressive drama queen but treats me like a daughter and we have an ok relationship. Should I consider this a phase that will pass? My otherwise affable child is now moody, rude and irritable (but just with her). 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:56 AM Flag
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Are you poisoning him against her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:02 AM Flag
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No, not at all. She and I have a very warm relationship. Op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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I hated my paternal grandma bc she was a fucking cunt. Kids pick up on this stuff. Dont worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:45 AM Flag
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Kids are smart and notice how people are. I was brought up to never be rude to my elders, but I was also aware of my mom's discomfort around my dad's mother. My grandmother was abrupt and very critical of my mom, she knew how to effectively twist the knife. I don't have warm feelings for my grandmother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 05:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I just found $20 on the street. Feels like I won the lottery! Woohoo. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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I'd be suspicious that there's a hidden camera nearby, ready to record my reaction. Do I give the $20 to the homeless guy, or put it in my purse? Hmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:41 AM Flag
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Really? I just don't think life would throw such a challenge at me. An unfortunate person dropped it where I was to fortunately pick it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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NP : we will be looking for you on "what would you do" ?! Lol you will be the one who walks away & they will interview the people who asked people if they dropped $ or gave it to a Homeless person. And maybe they win a free trip! Love that show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:52 AM Flag
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Ditto. Stupid candid camera has robbed me of my innocence too NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:53 AM Flag
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Unless someone else was anywhere near the money when I spotted it, I would be ok with pocketing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I know it's too late and no one will see this, but after a week of being away with my inlaws, sleeping on a twin air mattress with my kid because my single brother in law needed to have the "big bed", watching my nieces because my other BIL ignores his kids and his SAHM wife needed a break, watching everyone else start drinking at 11am but not starting myself until 5 so that I could watch mine and the other kids, having my FIL interrupt me mid sentence to just tell his own story, listening to the uncle and aunt brag about how they slapped their teenage daughters, my terrible no good wife, who had been drinking since noon, sees me pour a glass of wine at 10:30 and says "why are you still drinking?" I swear I am ready to call an Uber right now, hop a flight to Portugal, and never see any of these people again. 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:24 AM Flag
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I read your earlier posts and never realized you were the dad. Not that it makes any difference. This ragingly sucks. Can you avoid the extended family during the holidays and tell them exactly why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:28 AM Flag
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Same here. You posted yesterday about how your DH wasn't talking to your BIL because of some rude comments BIL made. Now YOU'RE the DH?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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Because I know that if I let on that I'm a man I won't get the benefit of UB insight. I will just get insults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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Tell your wife you are taking your kid either home or to a hotel for the rest of the trip, and that next year she can bring him alone. I'll bet she will get that bed from her brother if she is stuck sharing a bed with your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:39 AM Flag
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No, she will tell me how terrible I am because I hate her family and all she wanted was to have a nice family vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:43 AM Flag
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You're part of the family too. It's not nice for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:45 AM Flag
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My advice remains the same - leave! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:45 AM Flag
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Same for step mother (me) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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Boundaries, dr's husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:28 AM Flag
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Do tell. Because when I have tried, often, over the years she says "why do you hate my family?" This week I suggested that we take one night to go out just with us and the kids, and she said "oh, but then we would miss out." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:33 AM Flag
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Be candid. I've told DH that I didn't enjoy being treated like a second class citizen and that he'd have to manage his relationships without dragging me into awkward or uncomfortable situations. I'm ok with not going on family vacations and more than ok with people considering me a spoilsport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:52 AM Flag
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do you ever talk about this not in the heat of the moment? Either she is a total B or she hasn't heard what you think you've been telling her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:52 AM Flag
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Yes, I have tried over the years. But it seems that nothing changes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:58 AM Flag
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Well you need to just start living your life then. take a couple hours a week to go the gym or do a hobby or whatever. It's ok if you don't accommodate her all the time. If she gets downtime, take your downtime too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:03 AM Flag
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This! A therapist can help you. Or find a book on amazon about how to say no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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Is your wife always terrible or are you just mad at her? Where did she sleep? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:29 AM Flag
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She slept in a twin bed by herself because she cant deal with having our kid in bed with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:30 AM Flag
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Take your kid and uber it home first thing tomorrow morning. Tell everyone exactly why you're leaving. Your wife can stay or go. Life is too short for this shit. Don't be a martyr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:33 AM Flag
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He should, but he won't. He is so aggravating. For years he complains but doe at d anything to chang it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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This sounds awful. But you sound like the DW not the DH. Where are your balls? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:30 AM Flag
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What would you have me do? Scream and yell and make demands? I really don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:34 AM Flag
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No. but why are you the only one watching the kids? Just start drinking with them if you feel like it, announce you are going to take a nap and just do it, etc. you are surrounded by other parents. They can figure it out. Tell your dw that you can't sleep with ds either. Get ils an extra aerobed for Christmas. Your dc has to be old enough now to play unsupervised for awhile, esp with cousins and grandparents around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:38 AM Flag
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My kid is six. Almost old enough to be alone in the ocean, but not really. But no one else cares. These people just sit and drink and talk while six and eight year olds are in the ocean and no one moves a muscle, and for whatever reason I cant be calm while I know my kid is in the ocean but no one is with him, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:42 AM Flag
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Ok. I was thinking they were just in a house. What does your dw think? I know my dh (like many dhs I know) loves taking dcs to the beach bc he loves playing just as much as they do. I do most of the childcare but the beach is relaxing for me. Maybe she assumes the same. Do you tell her you want a break or suggest taking turns? Did you know ahead of time what the sleeping arrangements would be? Are the other family members doing cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc? Do you do this more than once a year with ils? Does your dc go in the ocean or wade? By 6 most children don't need to be supervised (other than parents being able to see them from their beach chairs) if they are just filling up buckets of water and digging sand castles. I do feel for you, doctor dh, but I wonder what your wife's perspective is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:48 AM Flag
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Np: really depends on where they are on the coast. There are some places that make me nervous with my 10 year old strong swimmer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:52 AM Flag
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Yes, I agree, but I wonder if all the other adults are fine with it, maybe it's not such a place. Or maybe they all assume the Op has it covered bc he hasn't said otherwise. What he describes sounds v unfair, but he has been complaining about it for years. Either he is a total milquetost or his perspective is skewed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:54 AM Flag
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Yup probably. But the idea of a bunch of sloshed adults watching their kids frolic in the ocean makes my skin crawl. He's watching his nieces and nephews too it sounds like - I'd never offload that responsibility for my own kids while I got sloshed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:58 AM Flag
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To be fair it sound like watching ds at the beach would be more enjoyable than chatting and drinking with ils! I agree it's unfair. But the op needs to start talking to his wife about this stuff. Not us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:00 AM Flag
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You are right on all points! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:01 AM Flag
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What do you do when you have already expressed your concern and nothing changes? Throw a fit? Refuse to go on vacation? Leave your family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:04 AM Flag
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No. don't throw a fit. Just say I can't sleep in a twin aerobed with ds. Do you want to take turns or should we go stay in a hotel? Etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:06 AM Flag
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Or, e.g., tomorrow, tell op that you are tired from watching ds all day and sleeping on a twin bed with him. tell her (in a non pissy way) that you will meet up with them at the beach after you take a nap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:09 AM Flag
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Np. You sound like a responsible dad, OP. You're doing the right thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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And here's "mommy board" troll! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:53 AM Flag
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"My terrible no good wife"? Houston, we have a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:30 AM Flag
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Ahhh, Portugal. So lovely. Make a run for it, doctor husband! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:34 AM Flag
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You've been venting on here for years. Why don't you go to therapy? At the every least, next time you stay with in laws rent an air bnb if they don't have room. Communicate clearly to dw what you always are telling us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:35 AM Flag
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Oh, I am already medicated . I told her that next year we should get our own room, but I'm very sure she won't, because then her parents would be upset. I cant imagine putting my kids through a divorce, I won't do it. So I am stuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:38 AM Flag
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No I mean couples therapy. As an outsider it seems like so many of your problems are fixable and communication related. If you still love her, it can work. If not, and you truly feel contempt for her, divorce is not the worst thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:40 AM Flag
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^ also - you need to learn to stick up for yourself!! Therapy could help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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Do you guys go on other vacations? Do you vacation with your family ever? Because if not this is so not ok. You need to have a calm conversation with her and propose an alternative arrangement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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Yes, we do vacation with my family, which has its own set of issues, and alone as just us, which I think tend to be the most enjoyable. There's just something about when we are with her family that I become aware that she is much more concerned with her mother and father and brother's happiness than with that of the kids and I. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:57 AM Flag
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I named you Crazy Inlaw Vacation Mom but now you are Crazy Inlaw Vacation Parent. I am so sorry. You need to not vacation with your wife's family. I agree that marital cousneling will be good. Bring up that you feel she cares more about her parents' happiness than her husband and childrens' because that is fucked up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:36 AM Flag
[ - ] My closest girlfriends are a financially diverse group. I'm in the middle of the pack. Two dfs were talking about skin care products and one goes "oh I was going to get you that for your birthday but I didn't want you to love it and then not be able to buy it again!" Wtf kind of comment is this? Fwiw I already own a few things from this line and am starting to wonder if she's so out of touch that it's time to start a fade... 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:16 AM Flag
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Symbolic violence. Look it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:21 AM Flag
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Fascinating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:24 AM Flag
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Don't overthink it. She might have simply meant that she didn't want to start you on an expensive habit--not because you can't afford it but because not everyone wants to spend an arm and a leg on skin care. Or maybe she thinks your skin is great as-is and that it's unnecessary for you. Give her the benefit of the doubt. You know what you can/can't afford, so don't worry if people make assumptions that are inaccurate (either thinking you are richer/poorer than you really are). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:22 AM Flag
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Thanks that's good advice. I know she never would've meant it to be hurtful but its such a stupid thing to say I am bothered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:27 AM Flag
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?? If she "meant" any of those things, she would have said that. She said "not be ABLE to buy it again." How is that, "your skin is great as-is?" You are making things up. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:27 AM Flag
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Haven't you ever said something stupid and wished you had elaborated or better explained it or said it differently or not at all? I'm just saying that if this is a friend OP values, I would write it off as a foot-in-mouth episode and move on. If it's part of a pattern, that's different, but OP doesn't indicate that that's the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:30 AM Flag
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I totally see both sides and in this case it was a one off. Op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:38 AM Flag
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Money aside, someone saying that is thoughtless. I wouldn't think enough of a thoughtless person to be friends with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:23 AM Flag
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Totally thoughtless. I can't let it go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:27 AM Flag
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Yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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She sounds like a bitch but is there any way she accidentally said something really stupid? I'm still ashamed about some of the unintentionally rude, stupid or thoughtless things I've said during my lifetime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:58 AM Flag
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Fade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:56 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm sad. I just had the same fight with my husband that we have been having for almost 15 years. He does a lot of good and is a great dad but he just is not a very good friend to me. He can't stand when I show emotion, hates being vulnerable himself, is highly critical of me and doesn't have much nice to say about me. Anytime there is stress or conflict we just slowly implode. I am never really relaxed at home when he's there. I have always known this but for some reason just took step after step with him, cohabitation for, marriage, child. I question whether I really love him or ever have-it's so hard to really love when you don't feel loved yourself. In some ways I blame myself because I know I must be contributing to the dysfunction and I'm not fully engaged or present or committed...it is chicken and egg at this point. I am almost certain that I would be happier alone but I can't imagine splitting up our family because of my daughter and because we have been together so long. And splitting up would mean no more kids and I really want my daughter to have a sibling. I know this post is kind of incoheren... I just feel so alone. I don't have anyone I can talk to about this, and I don't even know if I want to say it out loud. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:15 AM Flag
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I'm just like you. Then I get my period and I realize I totally love him and that everyone has their faults. Not trying to be flippant but I seriously question my marriage and get super depressed before my period... it can't be that bad if you continued dating way back when. Put some effort into being friends now. Dates, but fun things too. Hobbies. Stuff with and without dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:18 AM Flag
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OP-I don't know, it's more serious than that. It's like the truth in my heart is that I should have let this relationship go a decade ago. The things that come out of his mouth, the behavior, during a conflict-if we were dating, it would be like a total red flag.... ughhhh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:22 AM Flag
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Same here. But we're not dating. We've been together 15 years. I don't act the same either. It takes effort. When we put it in, things are great. When we don't, not good at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:25 AM Flag
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OP-I appreciate the perspective. I think things are really pretty bad here-there's so little trust or resilience. But I am looking for a way through and some perspective helps. Like I said, I feel all alone with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:42 AM Flag
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Same here and we are now in the process of separating. I know it is for the best because I can't take living like this but it is also awful, I don't want to be without a husband and it is so bad for my kids. If I was an outsider I would be telling me that I didn't deserve to be treated like this but it is still so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 05:19 AM Flag
[ - ] I was reading a domestic abuse account where the female victim was a cop, and her husband was some industrial electrician, not a law enforcement officer at all - why didn't she just arrest him? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:12 AM Flag
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Obviously there is more to this story. Also, domestic abuse creates a sense of powerlessness in the victim in most cases. Doesn't matter what you do for a day job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:15 AM Flag
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There are many accounts of female DV victims being police officers or soldiers in the military, professional athletes. Very tough women. DV is evil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a summer cottage. Small budget. 2 hour drive max from city. On the water & near woods. Any recommendations? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:01 AM Flag
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Can you spend 550 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:06 AM Flag
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For a month, that would be great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:07 AM Flag
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Yes - probably double that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:07 AM Flag
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Greenwood lake [ Reply | More ]
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Which parts of SoMa are most desirable? Budget 2.5-3 mmm. We want a 3 bedroom/3 bathroom. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:54 AM Flag
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SF? [ Reply | More ]
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What is SoMa? [ Reply | More ]
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zzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you think Adnan was guilty? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:53 AM Flag
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Nope, he didn't do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:55 AM Flag
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how can you possibly think that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:56 AM Flag
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np: Have you listened to the podcast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:58 AM Flag
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I just finished it, did they have the new trial? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:03 AM Flag
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I don't think they've ruled yet on whether he can have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:05 AM Flag
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yes! why would I post aout it if I hadnt? How can anyone in their right mind think he is innocent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:10 AM Flag
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Who?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:58 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 05:49 AM Flag
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Serial podcast, first season, murder case in Baltimore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 11:41 AM Flag
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Not guilty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:59 AM Flag
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Totally guilty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:08 AM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:37 AM Flag
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Of course he was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:10 AM Flag
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I definitely think he was involved in the murder--either committing it, or orchestrating it. I will say, though, that I think both Adnan and Jay were lying. I don't think Jay's involvement was limited to what he admitted to. I wondered if Jay committed the crime (or did it with Adnan). But there is no scenario in which Adnan wasn't in some way behind it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:27 AM Flag
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Yes. Guilty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:37 AM Flag
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Yes. I believe it even more firmly after the innocence project got him a new trial and he declined to have the DNA evidence tested. [ Reply | More ]
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Right? WTF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:37 AM Flag
[ - ] My in-laws are taking us on a very expensive vacation. I love them, they're amazing people and I think they want to spend their money before they're too old. But I feel so guilty about this. I grew up poor, we didn't spend more than it took to go camping! I want to get them something nice, but they have everything, what can I do? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:49 AM Flag
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VBA [ Reply | More ]
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Hah, sure, I suppose it is. But I also figured this would be the one place I could get creative gifts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:52 AM Flag
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Maybe the gift could be something that relates to the vacation. Wherrr are you going? [ Reply | More ]
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What is VBA? [ Reply | More ]
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Very Big Asshole [ Reply | More ]
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moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:57 AM Flag
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How much is the vacay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:53 AM Flag
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about 15k per person. it's absolutely insane to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:54 AM Flag
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Where are you going ? How is it 15k pp ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:58 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:01 AM Flag
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It's a private safari in Africa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:50 AM Flag
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What do they advise you to bring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:54 AM Flag
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What shots do you need for that ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:54 AM Flag
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Not sure yet, they just invited us a week ago. Im sure we need a bunch of shots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:57 AM Flag
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Have a good safe trip! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:37 AM Flag
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Just be nice and have fun with them, don't be dramatic, say thank you and show them you are having fun, that's what they want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:04 AM Flag
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Sincere thank you not. Even a whole letter about how much you appreciate them and the son they raised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:19 AM Flag
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*note!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:19 AM Flag
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I may do this. Do you think we could do pictures of all the kids? Like do a photoshoot with all of us? I know it sounds sort of silly but maybe? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I would do a photo book of the safari for them. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! I will do this at least. [ Reply | More ]
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Where?!? [ Reply | More ]
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She is a troll- she won't say where. [ Reply | More ]
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Not a troll, stepped away. It is to a safari in Africa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
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Not everyone is a troll....this isnt even a good trolling scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:50 AM Flag
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??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Would being rejected from stuy, Bronx science and Regis cause someone to be really fucked up in life. Asking about an adult. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.22.17, 02:48 AM Flag
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Are you engaged to someone who was rejected and wonder if they might be a secret psycho? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:51 AM Flag
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I'm wondering of it would cause someone to be a knowitall and have issues with constructive criticism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:57 AM Flag
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More likely the other way around. They were rejected from those schools because of their personality issues. [ Reply | More ]
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What kind of stupid question is this. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I wish I could say no, but honestly, I think being rejected from or by anyone or anything is high school sticks with us and fucks us up worse than if it happened at any other point in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:56 AM Flag
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Thanks. Op. [ Reply | More ]
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Not getting into a particular ongoing affected me for a really long time, even now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:58 AM Flag
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Thanks. I can totally see this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:02 AM Flag
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I have a good friend who still carries the pain of not getting cast as a lead in her senior musical. She just can't get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:59 AM Flag
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There must be other things she is also upset about, did she continue to act [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:04 AM Flag
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No, she went to Duke and got her PhD but she still laments that she didn't get to have that particular HS experience. (fwiw, she's an awesome dancer but a lousy singer...never really had a shot at a lead...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:08 AM Flag
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Interesting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Emerald jewelry - looking to get my wife a beautiful emerald piece for our 5th wedding anniversary. Any suggestions or guides? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:44 AM Flag
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I am a huge jewelry hound and emeralds are a very risky proposition. Emeralds have so many artificial treatments done to them to minimize the appearance of inclusions and fractures that you really need to be an expert so you're not ripped off. Avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:49 AM Flag
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What about sapphires? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:50 AM Flag
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They, too, are treated (with heat), but they don't have the sheer number of inclusions that emeralds have, so maybe less likely to get ripped off. If you want a green stone, what about green tourmaline or peridot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:53 AM Flag
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mm no jewelry hound would recommend peridot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:55 AM Flag
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Whatever. So many nasty people on UB. I'm out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:04 AM Flag
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I am not being nasty, peridot was a bad suggestion, im sorry you cant handle criticism and im sorry your taste is so shitty. peridot? really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 04:38 AM Flag
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I'm equally interested in a blue stone - longstanding joke between us. I just don't know a lot about this space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:55 AM Flag
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you can do green sapphires. I would go sapphire over emerald. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 02:55 AM Flag
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I would too (jewelry geek here). I love emeralds but they are also quite fragile. May I suggest Camilla Dietz Bergeron or FD gallery? They know their stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:08 AM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:29 AM Flag
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Sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.22.17, 03:48 AM Flag
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