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[ - ] Many people dread the holidays. Those who are having affairs have the added stress of knowing they can't just claim "it's them, not me". 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:24 PM Flag
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I haven't said this in a while, but it deserves my proverbial "big bear hug." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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NP Oh, not a bear hug please! A smile and a handshake will do nicely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:55 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the current word for "cool"? Is "Epic" over? Is "Sick" over? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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op: I'm not ESL, but I am 45 (old). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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lol, sick is what 40 somethings used to say in college. YES its over ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:27 PM Flag
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Lit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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Lit AF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:29 PM Flag
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Lit ASF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:54 PM Flag
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neato [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:45 PM Flag
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rad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:46 PM Flag
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Whatever, my 13 yo still says cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:53 PM Flag
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Sweet, nice, Dope, fire, lit, slick, icy, bomb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:56 PM Flag
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2 dope queens should change their name, makes me think of heroin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Headed to NYC. Is Tower records still open? If not, can you suggest a store that sells record albums? Thanks. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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Just google "records + area of your hotel" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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It was there in 1998 the last time I was in NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:19 PM Flag
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that was then this is now - NYC has changed the Saint Marks Place of my youth is no more - but it is fine - many things are much nicer - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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You know that was 20 years ago, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:30 PM Flag
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Do you hear that whooshing noise just above your head? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:39 PM Flag
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Nope. the one on Broadway closed about 10 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:21 PM Flag
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been gone for over 10 years - that place was great - but its time had come and gone. My teenagers do not even consider purchasing music the industry has changed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:23 PM Flag
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[ - ] Wasabi mayo - bought it and no idea what to do with it. Any thoughts? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:11 PM Flag
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Throw it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:14 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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because it is stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:48 PM Flag
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It's good on sandwiches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:18 PM Flag
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Examples? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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NP: roast beef sandwiches, chicken sandwiches. Google "wasabi mayo and sandwiches" and you'll get a lot of suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:31 PM Flag
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... anything you would put mayo on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:31 PM Flag
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It's good with Buddha bowls or grain bowls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:20 PM Flag
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Ahi . tuna bowl? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:36 PM Flag
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I make my own wasabi mayo to put on salmon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm usually great at gift getting. I'm stuck on my 16 YO DS. Anyone want to give suggestions. Hard age. Got him some clothes but would like a more fun gift. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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A T-shirt that says "Hi. I Don't Care. Thanks." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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Not sure if that's snark but that is actually the kind of thing he would like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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OR: No, that's real. My 15 y/o dd has that T-shirt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:18 PM Flag
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Or the anti social social club [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:29 PM Flag
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Phone charger? Tell us more about him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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He has a phone charger. Typical teen. Does a few sports, likes video games, likes hanging out with his friends. Not into concerts yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:11 PM Flag
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phone case? wireless earbuds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:17 PM Flag
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Tickets to a concert? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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Anything he wants to learn to do? (My 16yo dd just asked for guitar lessons for Christmas) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:13 PM Flag
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The throwback Nintendo? A gaming chair with headphone jack? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:13 PM Flag
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wireless charging station, tickets to a show broadway, or music concert, tent , ticket to a helicopter tour ( with you ) of NYC, I tunes gift card, new baseball cap, like someone said wireless buds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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sneakers ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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Bluetooth and/or noise cancelling headphones are a good one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:31 PM Flag
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a good headset for video games [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Will have about $26k to set up 529's for dd's, 7/3. Should I put all of that into the 529's or put a portion into my retirement? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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Somewhat matters on how much if any is currently in your retirement, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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I have around $200k now between 401k and Roth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:04 PM Flag
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And your age? This is like asking whether you should eat the burger or the tofu, without mentioning if you're a vegetarian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:05 PM Flag
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I'm 39, single parent, no support from ex- dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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split it between the two, after weighting the tax benefits of both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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What are the tax benefits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:18 PM Flag
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put the max into retirement, the rest into 529. you can always borrow for college. signed, single mom in same boat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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How much do you have put away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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x1,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How do kids do with exmissions at West Side Montessori? Is there a UWS school with a better record? Is it tied to anything other than siblings/legacies? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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We went there. Mimi was very helpful and gave good (and different) advice for both dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:20 PM Flag
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Mandell is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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Didn't it close down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:33 PM Flag
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K-8 closed. Preschool still open [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:06 PM Flag
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No, it closed also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:18 PM Flag
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PCDS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:51 PM Flag
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Could you elaborate? Also applying there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Has Markle been discussed? At first I liked her but then decided after a while she was fake. Now all these aids leaving is so OTT and all of the stories of her making people cry. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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Every single day. Several times a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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Op: I’m not here much lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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Yes you are. We know who you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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FTW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:41 PM Flag
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And the dad just doesn’t shut up. He just said she’s demanding and that’s true but not rude. She must be going nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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Don't follow them but used to watch Suits and stopped because of her. I never could look at her. Something phony and calculating about her. And she just loves the camera. Sorry but seems like a fame whore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:00 PM Flag
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Interesting. I never watched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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No, never. Thank you for your groundbreaking contribution to the UB dialogue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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Someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn’t realize UB was such a powerhouse of intellectual debate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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Are you on UB because you missed your MENSA meeting? This is what it's like. Some posts are helpful, some are venting, some are vapid. Just collapse and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:04 PM Flag
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Op: and for the record I’m taking a break from reading very dense work material. So yes it’s frivolous because most of my day is not so I wanted a light break. My child and I also have somewhat serious health issues so I am happy to post something light. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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what do you think it is about her? Is she terribly bitchy and demanding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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Sounds like it. But then I also think for myself she puts on a show when she’s out and paparazzi are snapping pics. Just seems fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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seems weird that she would cause so many problems in the 1st few months of joining royal family. she cant pretend for another few yrs at least ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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adding to this. maybe pregnancy hormones are making her crazier than usual [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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Agreed. Maybe pregnancy plus she is used to getting her way. I mean why make all the fuss about the tiara pre wedding? Why not shut your mouth until at least married (and pregnant)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:31 PM Flag
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what was the back story there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:50 PM Flag
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I think it might be more cultural. She's an American dealing with the social mores of the royal family. I'm pretty sure if you took any American with the best manners in the world he or she would still be considered rude and bitchy. I'm sure she said something completely innocuous and they took great offense to it. Reminded me of this https://samedaytranslations.com/blog/separated-by-a-language-british-vs-american-english/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:30 PM Flag
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good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:50 PM Flag
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THIS THIS THIS she has zero rep for being a drama queen on set, and she would have been if she were a drama queen. I think it is cultural. Social mores of an english family are already very different (my grandmother was English), aristocratic would have been HARD and royal family is way beyond even aristocratic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:27 PM Flag
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and I married in to another culture and FUCK it is tough sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:29 PM Flag
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I heard about her before Harry when she was on Suits and everything that is being said about her now was said then. I don't want it to be true but, alas, think it all is. Weird that I could care less when she was on Suits: who? But I don't want it to be true now!! (I think it's weird that I am having this reaction and think I'm being stupid: again - who cares?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:29 PM Flag
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I only care because I feel like harry is messed up from his moms death and it’s not helpful that this woman is being a nightmare. And now he’s alienating his brother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:32 PM Flag
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what were the stories from when she was on suits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:28 PM Flag
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I think this latest aide had announced her retirement before she even started working with Meghan - it was always temporary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:42 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:28 PM Flag
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She bugs. It was reported that Harry was shopping for an actress for years (I think he wanted Margo Robbie for the role). He thought an actress would love the fame and attention. He was right about that. Too right. She lives for the camera. You can't polish a turd, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Having severe anxiety and depression. My life is not remotely how I thought it would be and I cannot cope. 37, divorced, two kids, meh career, cant save money for college or activities for kids. Or retirement. So scared and sad. I wanted three or four kids, a stable loving family for them, the ability to give them anything they needed (not necessarily wanted but to set them up for future success) and an exciting job (worked extremely hard and did very well in great schools, then career sort of stagnated/fell flat). I just want to give up. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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You need to go volunteer somewhere. Be around those who had it so much worse or women who can't have children. You have a lot to be grateful for. You did marry, you had children, you were fortunate enough to go to college, you have a roof over your head, good health. You are still young. Seriously, you have a lot going for you. One day pity party then get out there. You can do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:01 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. I think I need to start living in reality. I have fantasies of meeting someone great and remarrying, even maybe having another child, and not feeling so stressed and alone all of the time. But that is unlikely and I need to work with what I have in front of me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:04 PM Flag
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You seem so focused on having more children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:06 PM Flag
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OP: I always wanted a big family. So I guess yes, that is something that is always in my head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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It isn't unlikely at all. You are young with two kids. My DF just remarried at 55. She has never been happier. Stop the limiting thoughts. They are made up by you. Change them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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np: Yes, you can do it- by "it" I mean get positive and see how you can rock the rest of your life!!! I like the idea of volunteering. Here is an honest question- have you thought about getting a dog? They are therapeutic as hell. If that won't work for you, find things that will help you feel warm and fuzzy (don't beat yourself up). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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OP: definitely can't take care of a dog (even though the cuddles sound great right about now). thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:16 PM Flag
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NP - listen to above - great advice. I started over at 45 and while I missed my original goal (which was to be a partner in a management consulting firm) I had a fine life, and looking back from the age of 60 I wish I had not wasted so much time worrying about it and moved on sooner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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to quote Tony Robbins: You need to switch your mind set from expectations to appreciation. Focus only on what you are grateful for? what do you appreciate in your life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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This is a classic combo. Typical mid life crisis (career isnt what I expected) combined with divorce (I met expectations) and holidays. Get off social media asap. Therapy to try to appreciate what you do have rather than focusing on what you hoped to have at this point in time. Gl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:10 PM Flag
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totally. a shift in focus is needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:15 PM Flag
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It's tough to be a single mom in NYC with a meh career, it's a fact. COL is insane and stressful even for 2 earner households. Have you considered moving somewhere with cheaper COL and where not everyone is a super achiever? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:13 PM Flag
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OP: career (which has great flexibility, which I cannot stress how valuable that is for me right now) not really portable to cheaper COL area (other than moving out of city and commuting, which I think would feel super isolating for me as a single mom). Also support network, such as it is, is all here, and so is exDH and he has 50/50 custody so cant really go far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:18 PM Flag
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Can you qualify for subsidized housing, like middle class housing in Manhattan? There are lotteries, new buildings are often forced to allocate some of their units in exhange for favorable taxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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OP: I think I make too much for that (but too little to live on, and ex makes similar so no alimony or CS). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:28 PM Flag
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Make the most of it. Can you move to cheaper area? Can you find a group of friends to hang out with when dc are with ex? Lower your expectations. Most people are not able to save for college. You are so lucky to be healthy, to have great kids. Everything else will fall in place. You need a frame of mind switch and UB telling you this will not be enough. You might need therapy. Start a gratitude journal on your phone. Open note pad and every day write 3 things you're proud of or happy about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:15 PM Flag
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this is very good advice. keep in mind, you cant change the past, so dont think about the past. think about the right now. live in the moment. dont think about past or future too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:19 PM Flag
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OP; thanks, this is helpful. Can't move (see above) and friends are all married with kids so hard to get any alone time with them and haven't had any luck meeting anyone in a similar situation. My siblings are verbally supportive but very wrapped up in their own lives (even though they have the money and free time to be more helpful, but that's another story...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:22 PM Flag
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I love Oprah's super soulful podcast - very positive and uplifting when you are looking for something like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:14 PM Flag
[ - ] “Bae” is officially the worst word in the English language. Where did this even come from? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:53 PM Flag
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Sounds like its nap time, grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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Shhh, the grownups are talking. I'm with you, OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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Hi OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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Op: lol thank you. Maybe it is a generational thing (though I am 40, not a grandma), but I can’t accept “bae” into my vocabulary and it makes my skin crawl when I see it used. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:59 PM Flag
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NP - I'm 40 too. What does it mean? I have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:59 PM Flag
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Agreed. It falls under the umbrella of made up words. My kids texts are insane. Looks like they never learned the English language. Both in private school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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I'm 37 and I called my high school boyfriend bae. I don't think it's anything new, unless I was somehow ahead of the trend. It's just short for babe. I've heard worse-- like "hubby" and "hubster." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:04 PM Flag
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NP: DD will say "preggers" just to annoy me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:05 PM Flag
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It's not really a word. Short form of babe to most. In Danish, bae means poop. Some people use it as an acronym for "before anyone else" or "biggest asshole ever." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:04 PM Flag
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I love the last one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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Bae is an acronym. It's stands for "Before Anyone Else". The only reason I know this is because I have teenage daughters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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Oh I thought it was just short for Baby. But I'm old, so I wouldn't really know... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:31 PM Flag
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NP - I thought it had something to do with Beyoncé. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] No flames please. I have put myself in this shit. Having emotional affair with a coworker. I know it’s so wrong and want to quit but it’s so painful emotionally. Guy is affectionate but his wife is in other country. I feel like he is using me to fill void in his life. I am so disgusted by Whole situation but I fell in love with him. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:43 PM Flag
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You’re married too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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Yes.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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This is why people advise against following your feelings. You end up creating bigger problems for everyone, and sometimes you lose all your relationships. Especially with your kids once they realize you're a liar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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This. Your DH won't have to turn them against you. You will do that all by yourself. Mom is forever a whore who broke up their family. Singed child of divorce due to an affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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Signed not singed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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Singed works though. It is hard to see your entire family disintegrate because your mom is so very selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:24 PM Flag
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The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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Op: makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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Is this the same fake poster? Every day there is a post about wanted to stop an emotional affair. If real just stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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OP: posting for first time .. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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OP: is it so uncommon ? You guys never fell for anyone else other than your spouse ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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Of course I did but once I was married I am married. I don't enter into mine fields that could blow up my family and ruin the lives of multiple people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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You can have a crush, but you said emotional affair. I would never let myself get to a point of an EA because I am totally devoted and in love with my DH. You are playing with fire. Cut yourself loose from him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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Since being married? Absolutely not. Loyal to the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:09 PM Flag
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Obviously. If you've been on UB for any length of time you're read about all about my dental hygienist. Enjoy and don't act on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:11 PM Flag
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Totally yes. I have twice. But each time I don’t let myself go there. I don’t do the lingering to see if a hi/bye will turn into a conversation. I purposefully keep my distance. Not saying it’s easy, but it’s better for me. I think of the losses and it’s never worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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No. I have not. There are guys I think are handsome but never went beyond that. I still b.c. have a thing for an ex so I cut off all contact with him and actually said "nothing good can come from our being in contact" . Not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:19 PM Flag
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BTDT. I thought it was innocent enough because nothing physical was happening. And then it kept escalating and escalating. You need to cut off communication cold turkey. It will SUCK. Truly. Nothing is harder. But you need to do it or else it will get worse. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:32 PM Flag
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Do you mind sharing details? It's easier to hear other people's stories too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:01 PM Flag
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I am having one too, hard to stop and want to take it physical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:46 PM Flag
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(I'm writing the same as above) - not the OP - do you mind sharing details? Mine was so hard to stop. I really wanted it to be physical, he didn't, DH found out before it went that far. Now I'm glad but at the time I was desperately in love iwth him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:02 PM Flag
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I feel for you OP. I was in a similar situation, cut it off a few months ago, and it was the hardest thing I've done as an adult. Five months later it's a bit better but still hard. I'll bookmark and check back if you want to talk more. Look up limerance - you have a chemical thing going on that's basically like a drug. It can happen to very decent people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:00 PM Flag
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There are so many affair posts lately. As someone in the middle of a 4 year affair, I'd advise you to shut it down now before it goes any further. Pursuing something is the selfish thing to do and it won't save you from pain. So, take the pain now instead of later when you are even more emotionally invested. I wish I had walked away years ago. I am working on it. We both know we need to end things. It sucks. Walk away, end it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 09:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I always give everyone a book for Xmas. Help me pick a book for my brother. He likes Steinbeck, Hemingway, Junger, Krakauer, Cormac McCarthy. Can anyone suggest similar type book? Thanks. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:38 PM Flag
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Richard Ford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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I don't know if he would like the genre, but World War Z by Max Brooks is really, really good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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Michael Lewis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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You can't really lose with Michael Lewis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. He's read all of Michael Lewis and World War Z. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:57 PM Flag
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Lol. That sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:42 PM Flag
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Lol. That sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:42 PM Flag
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My brother likes all those guys and he also likes Paul Theroux [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:42 PM Flag
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Give him Butcher’s Crossing by John Williams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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OP: Never heard of him. Will look him up right now. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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The Brothers K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:53 PM Flag
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There is a biography of Captain Cook by Rob Mundle that I thought was excellent, a page turner. also perhaps some of the books by Nathaniel Philbrick, esp Whaleship Essex (sorry for the nautical theme). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:55 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. Love nautical themes. Looking these all up. I keep a book list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:03 PM Flag
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HM Have you read Shackleton's book or Lessing's "Endurance"? Amazing stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:15 PM Flag
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np: I was just writing a response suggesting that one when I saw this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:26 PM Flag
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well, if you like nautical themes, I also just read "Voyage of the Narwarl" which was good, and have previously read "The North Water" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:12 PM Flag
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The Largesse of the Sea Maiden by Denis Johnson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:02 PM Flag
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HM - consider Zamperini's "Unbroken". Amazing story, and it's all true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:08 PM Flag
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^^by Hillenbrand, sorry!! Zamperini was the runner's name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:31 PM Flag
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Dh likes those you mentioned and I got him the Beastie Boys book but he is also a huge fan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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If he likes Cormac McCarthy - try Larry McMurtry - "Lonesome Dove" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:38 PM Flag
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Oh, yes. Loved that story, so well-told. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:25 PM Flag
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Dh and I both looooove that book. Gus and Call are two of my favorite characters ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 08:00 PM Flag
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Angle of Repose by Wallace Stegner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:42 PM Flag
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There's probably an algorithm for you online [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:17 PM Flag
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try goodreads.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:19 PM Flag
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Just realized that I always thought of Junger and Krakauer as the same person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:19 PM Flag
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The Heart of the Sea or Scott and Amundsen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:21 PM Flag
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Thanks. You shouldn't have. Really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Any bakers on ? Any ideas where I could buy Almond Paste in NYC ? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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Can you order on Amazon and have it delivered overnight? Used to be a baking store on East 45th Street but not sure it's still there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:39 PM Flag
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have not purchased it, but am pretty sure whole foods has it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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That baking supply store on 22nd between 6th and 7th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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New York Cake at 118 W. 22nd should have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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Is this the same as marzipan? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:58 PM Flag
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np - no it's different. i'm pretty sure they have it at sur la table [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:33 PM Flag
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I have Amazon Prime, just ordered powder I needed for Royal Icing. Just order it, you'll have it in 2 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:05 PM Flag
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West side market 97th st has it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are poor, should you do a 529 savings plan? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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hhi 70k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:37 PM Flag
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I wouldn't just because I might need that money for an emergency. The amount you save in taxes would be inconsequential if you are low income. It is for so little time too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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Depends on how bright your child is. If they can go to a top private, they'll get financial aid anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:48 PM Flag
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No because then you cant use the money for emergencies or retirement, at least not without paying penalties. Daily needs first, then retirement, then kids' college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:49 PM Flag
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What state do you live in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:50 PM Flag
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If you only make 70k you will qualify for FA. So I would not do it unless you know you will earn much more later on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Has the president been arrested yet? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.10.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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Which one, there are lots of presidents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:01 PM Flag
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Now, this isn't removed by the Moderator ? I dont understand. I made some lame remark about Christine Blasey Ford looking old and was kicked off ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:25 PM Flag
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You insulted a woman's looks. OP asked a legitimate question about a likely event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:45 PM Flag
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"likely"...LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] My 18 year old niece is studying in Canada (father is Canadian). She has a private Instagram account. My DD is friends with her on Instagram so I can see the pics. They are nothing but her smoking weed. Day in and day out. Would you tell your sister? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:20 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:22 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:22 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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Depends, but generally, yes, if her grades are suffering. I wouldn't necessarily clamp down on the weed, but just talk about how it can distract from goals and to not interfere. Maybe I would try calling her first and gently discussing it before informing her father. I don't know, some people push the envelope specifically to get attention and called out for it because it's how they feel others care about them. Definitely a concerned call of care is in order, make sure her head is ok and it's just weed, not the harder stuff. It is legal in Canada so she's not breaking laws. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:30 PM Flag
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What makes you think your sister isn’t already following her Instagram? And are you sure your dd doesn’t have a second account that you don’t know about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:44 PM Flag
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What does “in other words, I can see the pics” mean? Do you log onto your DD’s social Media or did she show them to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:50 PM Flag
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How is her being half-Canadian relevant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] DH, who never posts on FB, just uploaded a photo of something he spent the last year making for me, along with a short but sweet message. The Other Man just saw it and now he's acting like passive-aggressive teenage girl. I think I'm done with both of them. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:12 PM Flag
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Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:12 PM Flag
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You are gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:12 PM Flag
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Well, make up sex with OM will be hotter when it comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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I cannot imagine an OM caring about a DH. He must know you have sex with your DH since he's having sex with his DW. Men don't usually care about such things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:32 PM Flag
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op: Then you don't know men; they're jealous and territorial and sometimes tedious. Years ago before I got married, some guy tracked down my address by looking at each number in the telephone book - population roughly 200K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:36 PM Flag
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That's different. This is a married man who has a DW. He knows his side piece is having sex with her DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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op: Well, I wish he wouldn't get bitchy about it; I certainly don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 05:56 PM Flag
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Lol!! This made me laugh so hard. I am feeling sad here about my emotional affair. I want to end it right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 06:07 PM Flag
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Should other spouses be concerned their spouse's lover is among their FB friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.10.18, 07:28 PM Flag
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