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[ - ] People with summer homes, how friendly are you with your neighbors? Do you prefer that they leave you alone? Do you interact with only a few? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:09 PM Flag
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At our beach community most people are part time. We are very good friends with one neighbor. They have our key and we have theirs .Another neighbor we just exchanged hellos with. For the most part we keep to our self except for that one neighbor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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A few hellos and goodbyes. Maybe a gathering once a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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We spend a bit more time than I'd like with them and they can be a bit annoying, but last month our neighbor was incredibly helpful while I was taking care of a sick relative which I feel very grateful for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:16 PM Flag
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community gathering once a year drinks a few times a year with two neighbors. Chat with a bunch of them. This is in a community that was developed at the same time so we all moved here same year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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Must be nice to all move in around the same time. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Would you go out with a guy who is on disability for anxiety and depression? He’s doing a lot better ... 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Social Security Disability? No. No way. You have to be VERY sick to get SSD for mental heath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:05 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.17.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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Hell, no! How desperate are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:07 PM Flag
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Op: lol. I want nothing to do with him .. but I feel guilty for being so judged. He wrote me a long letter explaining it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:10 PM Flag
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PP: That makes it even worse!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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I know. I feel so sorry for him tho. He isn’t even attractive to me.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:15 PM Flag
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Oh no. Life is too short. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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warning sign, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:12 PM Flag
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somebody will love him so much. doesn't have to be you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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mad respect for somebody who has pulled themselves out of deep depression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:07 PM Flag
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I agree. But I don’t know if I want to date him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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Hell no. Run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:08 PM Flag
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You don't have to run. Just be nice. You wouldn't say about somebody who had fought their way back from a cancer diagnosis-- RUN! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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You can just walk away. Or better yet thank that person for being SO honest with you and vulnerable and give them a ton of respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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But still reject him ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:07 PM Flag
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sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there anyone who has been raised in the city has moved to the suburbs, suburban like areas and totally felt isolated? We will eventually move out of the current area that we live but I’m fearful that I may feel lonely, bored, or unfulfilled. As of now it’s a matter of picking the right neighborhood. I work in the city. We are in no rush to move. At the moment we are considering the port Washington Line. I think having the downtown area will be very helpful for me. Thoughts? So far Bayside, Douglaston, Little Neck, Manhasset, and Port Wash are high on our list. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I found the burbs less lonely for better or worse. I think people stayed to themselves and are more anonymous in the city. I moved to the burbs and I love it but I grew up in NYC and it was hard to get used to the lack of isolation. People in the city tend to be less connected and I liked that. That is how I felt at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:09 PM Flag
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Op-I will remain working in the city because I know that I will need my city “fix”. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 08.17.19, 03:59 PM Flag
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We currently have our children enrolled in Catholic school. My job is downtown. We have no problem switching our children to public. DH would love to continue to keep them in Catholic if we can afford it. I love Port Washington but their taxes can be ridiculous. If we’re going to pay that much in taxes, our children will go to Public school [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 08.17.19, 04:04 PM Flag
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It just would not work for my husband’s commute. His practice is on Long Island. There are so many other places outside of Long Island I love but would not even consider it because of my husband. [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up in the city and moved to the burbs and I felt more isolated in the city. DH and I both grew up in NYC and knew we wanted something different for dc (not that there is anything wrong with raising kids in NYC). I moved to area with a downtown and a walking culture. I am often bored but I was not that stimulated in the city with small kids either. There is nothing I love more than sitting on my deck relaxing and taking with my family. We eat outside every day. I appreciate that so much having grown up in an apt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:04 PM Flag
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Op-DH worries that I may become depressed if we move to the wrong neighborhood. We could’ve moved years ago but we’ve been delaying it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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What do you do on the weekends. if you love going to museums and nice restaurants, the burbs are not for you. I did not do that stuff on the weekends. I did laundry, kid parties, activities, etc. It has not been that different except now I do it in a house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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My db is very active and outdoorsy and hated the city and left as soon as he could. Some people love city life. It really depends on what you do for fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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that db is brother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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We do have parties to go to and travel around the area but not necessarily Manhattan. My husband has no problem driving around in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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If you life is shlepping kids around than the burbs are much easier. That was my life and it made the adjustment easier. Also, i hated playgrounds. My kids play outside without dealing with other parents and kids which I love but I have a good friend who loves being on the playground. I always hated it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:16 PM Flag
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I did have to embrace somethings. At first, i found a lot of the town spirit stuff very hokey. I decided at one point to embrace the small town stuff, Farmers market, firefighter parade, ragamuffun parade. I had to change my perception and I ended up really appreciating these silly little things that made my kids so happy. Now my kids are older and they ride their bikes to the pool and around town and they live a simple life that i have grown to love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:06 PM Flag
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Your list of places doesn't really make sense to me. You need to spend more time in the area as these towns are very different from one another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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These are our current choices. We like the areas. The rail is excellent to get into the city. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Looking for 3 Vancouver restaurant recs- one in Kitsilano, one in West Vancouver, and one in North Vancouver. TIA :) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:50 PM Flag
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OP: Whistler lunch rec too, if anyone has one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:55 PM Flag
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vij's!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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I can help w W Van: The Beach House at Dundarave Pier is my go to in W Van. Great location and lovely menu. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:27 PM Flag
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For N. Van I'd check yelp reviews for restaurants in the Lonsdale Quay area or, depending on the type of dinner you want to do, think about the Observatory at the top of Grouse. Great views & wow factor with cable car ride. I haven't eaten there myself, but it would be fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I work full time, love my job and have always felt very fulfilled. I’m not introvert and have a small group of good friends. I’ve come to realize that my DCs are also like me, 8 and 6yos, but I worry that they should have more friends and play dates. They love to play with each other and they both read a lot and hang out at home. At camp this month I notice so many kids pairing off for afternoon play dates and the moms seem to be friends too. Do I need to try harder or what can I do to help me kids me more popular and social? Thank you 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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The kids will be alright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:49 PM Flag
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My 8yo DS is always happy to come home and relax but my 6yo DD always asks why she’s not included in the play dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:51 PM Flag
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Are you inviting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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No. DH does drop off and parents seem to hang around and chat more in the mornings. He told me a lot of the moms hang out and make afternoon play date plans then. The afternoons are faster when people just pick up and go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:55 PM Flag
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Follow their lead. They sound perfectly fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:50 PM Flag
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Yes but I think my 6yo DD feels left out, I’m not sure how to break in as I don’t do drop off in the mornings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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Any chance you could do it for one morning? Just to introduce yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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My kids are out of the house and for the first time in my life, all I want to do is just do NOTHING. Now they're giving me trouble for "never doing anything", like I didn't do 1000 playdates and birthday parties and movies and Chuck E. Cheese with them when they were little. I guess my point is, they don't remember anything whether you do stuff or not. [ Reply | More ]
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OP I’m sorry you’re not feeling appreciated! My DS loves to get home and relax on his own, but my DD often feels left out. Also I want to teach them to be able to socialize but I’m not that good at it myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:57 PM Flag
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They're probably doing what comes naturally to them, not because of you. I'm an introvert, I also have one who is an introvert, but his brother is the life of the party with a full calendar at all times. He exhausts me. Your kids sound fine to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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How do you plan for your son’s activities? Do you ask for play dates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:42 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, he's all grown up now - that's what I meant by being out of the house. I got him into sports. Between the practices and the games there wasn't a whole lot of time left over for playdates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:52 PM Flag
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Most people on UB tend to be introverts and will tell you not to do anything. Personally, I would arrange some playdates. Kids need to socialize. We played outside and made friends organically but things have changed. Reach out and make some plans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:00 PM Flag
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OP yes I agree with you and I needed a push to make it happen. I also need to figure out how to break in to the mom group [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:38 PM Flag
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Can you ask your dd who she likes at camp and have your dh talk to that mom or at least get her number? You can extend the first invitation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Help, my elderly mother (age79) is getting more and more isolated. She lives in Westchester, and has very little money. I am an only child and live in the city, we go to visit every other week but it is not enough. She will not come to us, the city is too hard stayed and she can’t sleep here. She gave up driving last year, and has a hard time walking (due to neuropathy) uses a walker etc.Most days she does not leave the house. I am trying to think of hobbies, clubs, anything for activities and social engagement. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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In my area, some counties offer something like adult daycare. They have a little bus that picks them up and brings them to a center where they do activities and socialize. Maybe there is something similar in her area? [ Reply | More ]
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In my area, there is a bus that will pick up disabled people and drive them where they need to go. There is also a senior center where seniors go to hang out and do things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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Thanks which area is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:47 PM Flag
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OR west coast, small town, but we have the same thing in my home town in Texas and my dad uses the shuttle. I am not the OR of the post above mine though, she is somewhere else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:17 PM Flag
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Some senior citizen centers are nice, especially in suburbs, and some have van pickups. Some also have info about activities and services, some free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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Many have free or partially subsidized lunch. Food plus socialization. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:29 PM Flag
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What town? Many towns have senior programs that include on-site programs, trips to different recreational and cultural places, and group shopping trips. Many include picking up and dropping off the person at their home. There is also a combined children’s-seniors day care program, which also provides transportation. Some nursing homes have day activity centers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:22 PM Flag
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Also consider getting her an IPAD and setting it up for facetime or similar. That way she can join you while you are fixing dinner or doing other things. She can also receive pictures from your day etc. The senior day stuff is also a good idea but make sure that it is not a group for dementia because their needs are different than hers. Also consider getting an elder attorney to make sure that her finances are set up correctly. Now is the time for a living will, POA, trusts etc..She may not have much money but it is possible that she could qualify for something under medicaid now or in the future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:02 PM Flag
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This is a good idea. Does she read, OP? Can you get her set up to check out library books on an ipad or kindle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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Op thanks everyone, I have been thinking of the I pad but she is almost digitally illiterate. It’s really too bad, I would have to pay for monthly internet and we don’t have a lot of money either. I am going to research some senior programs, have to do something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:49 PM Flag
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If you get her a kindle they are very simple, and you can set it up on the wifi at her library (check to see if this is an option) and help her download books at the library. Can she get to her public library on the own? The librarian can help her at the library when she gets there. Our public library has stuff going on, maybe hers does too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:20 PM Flag
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Thank you for this my mother has a will and poa, trying to think of other things we should get into order [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:05 PM Flag
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How about the library? I saw so many seniors playing cards at a library in nyc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:09 PM Flag
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See if the library has a book club, or if there's a bookstore in town that offers a book club. Libraries also often offer computer classes for elderly folks, along with lectures, other classes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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Contact elder services in her area. There’s likely to be a day program with social activities, some wellness monitoring and social services. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks will research this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I met a man and now we are apart for a month before our second date. I’m so afraid he will meet someone during this time. It’s killing me. I know it’s irrational. Someone help me stop this crazy jealousy! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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I'm kissing him right now... Sorry... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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Just go on other dates. He might not be all that great in the end. Don’t waste your time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:37 PM Flag
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This. Why aren't you dating at least 4 other men during the month between dates with this man? Lame. [ Reply | More ]
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Where does one find all these dates I wonder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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A man can meet someone he likes better than you at any stage of a relationship. You can't really control that, so it's useless to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 08.17.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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You sound needy. Big turn off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:20 PM Flag
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I get it. It's natural. Make it your mission to spend the month being busy and you'll have lots to talk about with him when you see him again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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very hard to 'turn off' jealousy, for me. but think of it as a friend who wants the best for you. thank it! and then it'll quiet down. [ Reply | More ]
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When you really like someone and don’t feel secure about the relationship then you will have anxiety like this and feel jealousy. It’s like your mind knows that it won’t last. Just embrace it and try to calm yourself down. You can make him stay or control him in any way. [ Reply | More ]
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*can’t [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you have people in your life who just do not text back? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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No, because I remove those people from my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:20 PM Flag
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My sister-in-law is like this. She is older, but still younger than my mom and my mom texts back. I text her random questions or send her pictures of the kids and I get no response. She said that she wanted to have my kids over this weekend at her house so they could play with other cousins who were coming over. I declined. If she doesn’t know how to call or text back, I would not leave my kids with her. I was invited to go as well but did not want to go. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't let you kids see their cousins because of some random text etiquette rule you think you SIL is ignoring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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No, no. They see them plenty. She just wanted me to drop the kids over for the entire day. [ Reply | More ]
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And this is bad... why?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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She does not know how to communicate. Via phone call, or text. Instead of calling me back, even if she doesn’t want to text, she will communicate with my husband Instead of answering me. I find that to be very rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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I have a friend like this. If I don’t text her, I never get a text. Funny thing is she gets all offended if I don’t text her. Phones work two ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:21 PM Flag
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Not that I recall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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The mom of one of my daughter's friends only calls, which drives me crazy. Would not call her a friend - I don't like her at all but the girls are great friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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I am that person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:44 PM Flag
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Me, too. I feel so guilty about it. I am even worse with personal emails. Just keeping up with mail for those random bills that come in is a challenge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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I hope people figure out that it doesn't really have to do with them personally. I'm just not into encouraging dialogues with people who are hitting me up, there's usually a reason that involves something I don't want to do. [ Reply | More ]
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That's fair enough but it's at least polite to say thanks but no thanks. Just not responding is rude imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:38 PM Flag
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Me three. I can't always return the text right away and then I forget that I even received it. I'm easily distracted. Sorry, everyone. Please don't take it personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:09 PM Flag
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Guilty as charged. But sometimes texts come in at awk are times and you mean to reply and you forget. People don’t attend to texts the way they do to emails so sometimes they just get lost. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who likes to travel to the Florida Keys? What’s your favorite place and what do you like to do there? Why do you like it? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:12 PM Flag
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We went last summer. We arrived in Miami and drove all of the keys. We stayed in key west. It’s a very nice island with a nice downtown but we weren’t impressed with the beaches. Perhaps it was the time that we went, there was a red tide. Many people rave about the beaches so hopefully others will chime in. I would still return., It was a very nice island overall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:17 PM Flag
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No - you didn’t miss it. There just aren’t great beaches there. [ Reply | More ]
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The beaches have never been great there. I love Key West, though. For three days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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Or-That is what we did. It was just enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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I only went to key west on a cruise. It was nice. [ Reply | More ]
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there are really no beaches in the keys except islamorada which is very 'florida' in crowd. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean by that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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Jersey white trash probably [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't it a bit early in the day, dear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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I live in South Florida. I rarely go to the Keys. There very few beaches to speak of and there isn't that much to do. Key West is super touristy and tacky. That said, Fantasy Fest is very fun in the most kitschy way possible. [ Reply | More ]
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I went twice and never again only bc I hated the 4 hour drive from Miami and a puddle jumper which made me fear for my life. And the beach was littered with seaweed. In fact, every time I went in the recent years there was seaweed in the ocean in the Miami area. Couldn’t even go in the water. [ Reply | More ]
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The drive is the most amazing part - I think some of you people here on UB are so warped. Just because it’s in the US it’s undesirable but when you go to the most cliche and LC/MC places in Europe you people consider yourselves cultured. [ Reply | More ]
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FWIW I was young when we drove to Key West with girlfriends and did not realize it took 4 hours bc it’s a one lane local road, not 4 hours of highway driving which I would’ve preferred. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] WWYD- I moved to a house in an outer borough. I park in my driveway but sometimes have visitors who park in the street. My mom parked in front of a neighbor's house a few times and the neighbor said "Please do not have people park in front of my house. My dh is a dr and he does not like not park in front of our house." Would you stop her? 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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If street parking is legal there, I'd probably try to have people park in places other than in front of that house if possible, but would let them park there if that's what was most convenient (carrying stuff in, etc) or available. And wouldn't mention it to all visitors. I'm a peace-keeper - but I wouldn't go crazy about it. And then I'd let it go; people are just all nuts in one way or another and that's theirs (I do not understand what the being a dr. has to do with anything). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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long term queens resident and i disagree with the above. shut that down - it’s a public street you can park wherever you damn well please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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and it’s doctor too and never thought it would give me special permission to control where other people park [ Reply | More ]
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i’m a doctor meant to write [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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same here, MD but I never assumed I had the right to tell people not to park in public parking areas LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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+1. Another MD here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 01:38 AM Flag
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I suppose if you needed to get your car out in an emergency it would be highly relevant, but not for street parking, we live in an area in Brooklyn near a college- our driveway is frequently blocked by young adults (I presume late for class) - we are Finance types and it is annoying but not life threatening if we are inconveinced but I imagine if I had to get to a hospital for a patient it could be another story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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Yes, I would never block her driveway. He seems to have regular daytime hours but I do not know him. She did send me a holiday card and write From Dr Joe and Mary on the card! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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That is the way I feel. Who cares if he is a dr. They do not havemkids and my nanny and mom sometimes park in the spot and they have my kids. It is so ridiculous. Popele park in front of my house all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:25 PM Flag
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I have lived in both and this absolutely applies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:26 PM Flag
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it dependswhat outerborough, I am native Brooklyn and now Queens, does not fly in either borough - In Staten Island though they do do that no parking in front of other people's houses thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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How crowded is the street and could she have parked in front of your house? If she chose to park in front of the neighbor rather than in front of your house, I agree. If she meant that you should park in front of a different neighbor but not her house because her DH is a doctor, disregard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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pretty much this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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If the spot in front of my house is open, she would take it but often it is not. I have a nanny and my mom sometimes picks up my older ds and does something with him while my nanny is with my baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:27 PM Flag
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She and other visitors just park in the closest spot. I just had a baby so my mom, nanny and I have all been around which is not typical. We have also had visitors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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Then she is even more absurd than I thought [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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This person is nuts. Please share where you are, or atleast the vicinity. Our house is in Astoria and we have a long driveway but sometimes our guests have to park in front of our neighbors homes. Sorry you have such wack jobs as neighbors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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Very close to Astoria [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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Yeah that rule does not fly in our vicinity. I don’t know what to tell you but, your neighbor is crazy. Are they older? Is this a cultural thing? Do they look down at you? If they’re so smart enough to be in MD, they know the street rules. Don’t let them play you for a fool. You can park wherever you want. Sorry that you’re going through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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+1 ignore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:14 PM Flag
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No, they are a married couple. They look to be in their late 20s or early 30s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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Across from me lives a completely weird French family. The grass strip between people’s houses and the street is public property and everyone is allowed to park there. When during the clean up after hurricane Irma, my lawn guy parked his regular car (not truck) there, the French guy left a note on his car saying that he isn’t allowed to park on his “private lawn”. Needless to say, these people are the worst in our neighborhood. Also they have been trying to sell their house for 3 years and no one wants it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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"Also they have been trying to sell their house for 3 years and no one wants it." Leave them a note on his car saying "lower the price if you really want to sell" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 06:05 AM Flag
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Why would your lawn guy park on the grass and not the street? That is kind of rude since I assume your neighbor maintains the grass there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:24 PM Flag
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I get your neighbor. Some neighborhoods are like this. Not parking in front of someone else's house is considered courteous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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In The suburbs maybe but no way in the city, all boroughs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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Yes some neighborhoods of some boroughs too. Particularly on quiet residential streets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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Pp-I could name a few neighborhoods that definitely have that suburban feel in the five boroughs. Problem is if she is somewhere near Astoria, those unofficial unspoken rules do not apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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I live in the Bronx in a neighborhood with mostly private houses. The street is fair game and public property, no one gets to claim spaces in front of their house. Neighbors should have bought a house with a driveway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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Do they have a driveway? I’d nod and smile and ignore her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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Yes, but the wife parks in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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Are you or your mom blocking her driveway? If not then your neighbor is wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:32 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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It’s public space of course, but it’s common courtesy to not park in one of the spots in front of someone’s house, especially if there are other spots around. People have stuff they need to load and unload from the car, or run errands many times a day. Every neighborhood I have lived in this has been an unspoken rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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Every spot is in front of someone's house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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+1. Welcome to NYC there are no spots otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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Clearly this is a small residential street on an outer borough. People have driveways, just like OP so I doubt all spots taken. People usually have one of their cars upfront and you learn very quickly who parks where and which spots are “floaters”. OP is crowding out the street but does not have the decency to ask mom or nanny to park further out in a typically empty spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:19 PM Flag
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That’s crazy. Street parking is fair game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 02:01 PM Flag
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Funny, o didn’t read the comment posted below. If you want your personal spot call city and pay to get it reserved, most likely only place you have is to block your own driveway without blocking side walk. Unspoken rules are for not speaking if they are illegal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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your neighbor is ridiculous. street parking is fair game. ignore! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Yes tell your mom to try her best to park in front of your house only. That's what a good neighbor would do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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She has no desire to walk further. She parks in the closest spot. If the one in front of my house is open, she parks in it. Everyone on the block has more than one car and people park everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 09:21 AM Flag
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Then you let her park in your driveway and you park further. You are adding two extra cars to the street, your mom and nanny, on a daily basis and for extended hours. There is a reason why many streets in the city are residents only, residents have priority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:11 PM Flag
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I don't think we have resident only streets in the city yet, would love to know if you know of one, goodle shows none. We have been arguing for them in Rockaway for some time and have told it is not a thing in nYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 01:45 PM Flag
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Tell me where you got resident only street and how ? I would like to reserve my street as one. I have no driveway and one spot in front of my house. I can’t hold it for myself. Anyone can park there. Same when I go to work I find parking in front of someone else house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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This has to be in Staten island. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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happened to me three times in Manhattan Beach when someone knew moved in, we are long time residents I had to explain to them that that is not how Brooklyn works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a masters in English and have worked as an editor for scholarly pubs, content manager, grant writer, adjunct and college tutor. For the past several years I have been a program director at a college and the work load and expectations are overwhelming. The admin work consumes me and I’m still expected to teach. I have a rising middle schooler and want to be home in the afternoons, but I can’t afford to just adjunct teach. I am also not the best at classroom teaching. I’m also middle aged. Just thought I put this to some savvier moms on here who may be plugged into the freelance networks. Is there hope for me as a contractor or freelancer when most of my work has been straight forward and safe/salaried. WWYD? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:38 PM Flag
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^ I should say, not a “natural” classroom teacher but I’ve worked hard to become decent. I find it highly rewarding but sweat all my mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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You're trading one stress for another. Unless your salary is "extra" as so many UB moms' are, stick with your job. Being home in the afternoon is a short term need, while a career is long term. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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This is the nature of academic work--lots of admin that is largely invisible--but it's usually very steady with decent benefits. I'd stay the course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:00 PM Flag
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Keep your job and protect your future. Get your husband to leave his job and be home in the afternoons if your kids truly need someone there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I’ve been reading Harry Potter this year. I’m on book 7, about 30% finished and I’d rather be here than keep reading. But I’ve come this far, I must finish it. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:40 AM Flag
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Don't bother, if you're not enjoying it. There's no necessity to read the whole series, or any of the books. Walk away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:44 AM Flag
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This. Are you going to brag to people you read the whole series? They are kids' books. Read something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:48 AM Flag
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I’m a teacher so I decided to finally read them so I could help monitor comprehension eight students. It is just not my genre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:49 AM Flag
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Lol on 8th grade comprehension of HP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:05 PM Flag
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*with not eight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:14 PM Flag
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If you're interested, you should listen to this podcast where they go through the stories and talk about themes etc. It's interesting, but it's also very funny. The Ringer. Binge Mode Harry Potter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:22 PM Flag
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Thanks! Might be helpful for work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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What a waste of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:08 PM Flag
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I’m an adult and I enjoyed reading the books and then watching the movies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:13 PM Flag
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Sure. But a waste of time for OP, if she's not enjoying it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:20 PM Flag
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I got half way through book five and lost interest. Stop reading if it sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:51 PM Flag
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I’m like you im a finisher. I am starting to let go of that more and more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:51 PM Flag
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I hated those books. Read the first 2 to DS and couldn't wait to finish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] If you got divorced, did you remove all of your wedding pics from Facebook? Random pics of him? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:39 AM Flag
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Not yet and it has been two years. Should I? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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Just wondering as an ex keeps reaching out. He was married seven years ago. Neither seem to use FB or have super privacy settings. She still has wedding pics visible tho. Not sure I should even respond to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:53 PM Flag
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OR: I have old pics up of my ex and he just got remarried. And I use Facebook frequently. They are not wedding pics but they are pics from when we were together. A lot have other people or kids. And this is sort of where I store them. Not sure there is a reason to take them down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:21 PM Flag
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Ok. I’ll just message him back. It was friendly enough. If I find out he’s not divorces I’ll just fade him back out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:24 PM Flag
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When my mom left (I was too young to remember) my dad and my grandparents cut her out of photographs with scissors. There’s no known picture of her in our family now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a nasty bug bite. The swollen area is pretty huge. I marked it. At what point should I go to urgent care? I put Benadryl cream on but no relief after an hour. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:23 AM Flag
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If you see a red straight line moving out from it, if it shows signs of infection. What bit you? I often put rubbing alcohol on bites. Works surprisingly well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:06 PM Flag
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No idea. Def worse than a mosquito though. Weird swelling and bite mark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:15 PM Flag
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Likely a spider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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+1 rubbing alcohol I use the 70% blend. Nothing lower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Put some apple cider vinegar on it. Keep applying it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:55 PM Flag
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When did you get it? My dh gets a bite the whole area swells. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Maybe last night? It was unbearable when I woke up. Calm downed now after some Benadryl but very puss filled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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This happened to me a few years ago. You might need mupirocin, which is a prescription antibiotic cream. Also, taking benadryl orally might give you more relief. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. It’s so gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:04 PM Flag
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take a benedryl pill and put some benadryl gel on it. it's a hive reaction [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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Calamine lotion fixes the itch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:11 PM Flag
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You could put some antibiotic creme on it to help prevent an infection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:59 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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Sure it is not cellulitis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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alcohol and Neosporin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:51 PM Flag
[ - ] A co-worker showed me photos from a photo shoot she took for her 40th birthday. She was in a tutu with a glass of wine. She had a blackboard with all of her favorite things: wine, Kate Spade, he dog. I tried so hard to keep a straight face. Why would someone do this? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:38 AM Flag
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Because she likes you and trusts you not to mock her. I guess she was entirely wrong about you and your character. You should do her a favor and let her know how little she should care about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:05 AM Flag
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We do not care about each other. She is a co-worker and showed the whole office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:07 AM Flag
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Love you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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Just like the adoption photo shoot. These photo shoots are getting out of hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:24 AM Flag
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If she had a friend take it on her phone, I would have laughed but to hire a photographer to take your photon in a tutu at 40 is over the top! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:26 AM Flag
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That’s the world we live in now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:49 AM Flag
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This is what Instagram has done to us. Everyone delete it from their phones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 12:53 PM Flag
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Seriously. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 04:57 PM Flag
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To feel good about herself, obviously. She sounds like she's single without kids? Maybe she's looking for other ways to celebrate herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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And yes, I agree it's over the top and would never do something like this, but it's harmless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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She’s married and now adopting for the first time. I’m much more private. I would only share once the adoption has been confirmed which is well after the baby is in your care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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Wait I’m confused is this the same person doing both? Is this about the tutu lady or the adoption lady?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:51 PM Flag
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No, tutu lady is single. OR with friend adopting is hijacking my thread! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:40 PM Flag
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She is single without kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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Live and let live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:00 PM Flag
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she seems fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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If you think being an attention whore is fun, sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Great gifts for a second baby? Any ideas I am stumped. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 10:19 AM Flag
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I like to give matching pairs of Hanna Andersson pjs to baby and older sibling (and address the gift to the older sibling - congrats on being a big brother/sister). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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So funny because I specifically don't give matching clothes - I am the oldest of three girls and I remember really hating being dressed in matching outfits. I agree with the big sibling gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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Lol - never thought of that. Agree outfits are overkill, but pjs are fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:45 PM Flag
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Agree, outfits are OTT but PJs to match older sib are cute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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I always give baby bath and lotions - they'll need extra. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:39 PM Flag
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Sorry, baby bath bubbles/shampoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:40 PM Flag
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Diapers, wipes, burp cloths, onesies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 01:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Turned 26 this summer and starting to think about what to do with my life, starting with whether to have kids. This place is anonymous, so you can answer honestly... If you could go back and do it all over, would you still have kids? Or would you choose a different kind of life? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 09:52 AM Flag
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I came here when I was a bit older than you and on the fence with a similar thought. I chose not to have kids, but this place is not where to get your answers. I stayed for the rest of it, so you might be here for the long haul, regardless! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:12 PM Flag
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^and in my late 40s I am very happy with my choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:26 PM Flag
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Yes I appreciate my children. Largely for selfish reasons. I have someone to be by my side, someone to assist around the house and someone to fetch. I had my first of 2 children at almost age 40. Before then I lived a very fulfilling and lively life. I think I've experienced the best of both worlds (child-free and motherhood) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 01:18 PM Flag
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You really list them "fetching" as a main reason? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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I love my kids and did not feel complete before I had them. I am very satisfied with my life. I am also career-minded by nature and kids put a serious damper on my career. I am convinced I could have gone farther without them. However, my kids are more important to me than work, so I suppose it all worked out for me. Signed, in-house lawyer/mom of 2 girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 02:19 PM Flag
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It’s much harder than I ever would have imagined or anyone talks about. To be honest I think I was happier before having kids (less stress, more sleep, etc) but my life is much more fulfilled after having kids. Don’t let anyone pressure you either way, OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:00 PM Flag
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My kids are the best choices I’ve made. That said, 26 Is young. I think having my first at 35 gave me time to do all sorts of things that wouldn’t be possible post kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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yes! love my dc and my family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.17.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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26 was when I thought I’d be married by. Luckily I met the one and got married by 30. I love my kids and we have a good life but it’s really hard. I think it’s really hard to grow in the way you would without all the hard work and heartache involved with having and raising kids. I had kids bc it was something I thought I needed to do. I don’t know...you should only do it bc you really want to become a mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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Happy I had a child. Wish I had had a second child. 26 is too young, though. 32-25 seems perfect to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.18.19, 06:05 PM Flag
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