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[ - ] Help: Can I give up pumping? DB is 10 mos. Eats everything in sight and a great nurser. Pumping during the day is terrible though - output is barely 1 oz/side/session. I feel SO guilty sending formula to daycare but it's taking so much time for so little output. Can I stop? Would still continue nursing day/night for as long as we both want. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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OP here ^^ I know someone's going to say "ask a mommy blog" but I hate those boring women. You people actually have careers and understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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I stopped at 6 months for the same reason. You baby already has received plenty of breast milk benefits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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You're really rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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They may be boring, but they are actually smarter than you are if you can't figure this out on your own or by asking your ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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I stopped around this time and DB was fine. Just make sure that db likes formula. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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yes of course. you did a great job. when its done, its done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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I think you would be fine to stop pumping! Especially if you can keep the supply and just do night/weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Yes. You've done great. Let it go now. DB will be just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Thanks, ya'll. Anyone have any thoughts on going straight to homo milk as opposed to formula? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Don't you have a pediatrician? Why are you asking the opinion of random anonymous non-professionals? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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With my 2nd db who was an amazing eater, I switched to cow's milk at 10 1/2 months rather than formula. I still nursed when I was home. I think he drank maybe 1-2 bottles of it while I was at work and preferred to eat real food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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+1 - our ped oks the switch to cows milk at 10 months so you might check about that. I stopped pumping around 11 mos and gave db whole milk and nursed morning/night and weekends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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i stopped at 5 months, it was just too much to deal with with work, etc. and i was drying up...all is fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] What is a better option Scarsdale or Millburn and why? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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both jappy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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agreed but we do need good schools, commute to nyc, and are jewish so living in a very waspy suburb would also be odd for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Bronxville? Need to get out but close to city. Small family. Is townhouse living nice, or is proper house a must? Someone told me there is a social divide among house/townhouse/apt. people. Sounds absurd. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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I live in a coop in Bville - never had any issues. I am very active in school activities and have friends who rent, own homes and own condos/coops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Were you in the city before? How do you like the lifestyle in B'ville? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Nothing wrong with social divides. You fit in where you belong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Beautiful town. Townhouse is fine (esp if close to school), but the apartment people are sort of separate from rest of town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone ever attend a birthday party at the intrepid? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.28.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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No, but I love the intrepid! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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that was not the question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I've gained 5 lbs this summer. I hate dieting--ABHOR it. Is there some way I can lose the 5 lbs without starving myself or working out incessantly? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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No. I am in the same boat and have been trying moderation for months. Finally, I just to hard core diet and exercise to see some reults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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Eat moderately. Work out some. It's 5, not 100. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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This. Myfitnessapp is your friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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Cut out one thing. Whatever is least noticeable to you and yet still part of your regular diet: dessert/sweets, booze, soda, bread, fried food, etc. The lbs will go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Ugh! Tell me about it. I recently started strength training in hopes of losing weight and I have gained 5 lbs in month and my clothes are all tight. I eat really well M-Thurs but Friday to Sunday nights not so great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Our nanny will be leaving next month after five years. What we're really going to miss that she has almost morphed into a chef for our family, each day she goes to the grocery store and picks up fresh produce and meats, then cooks for the entire family. She doesn't make anything fancy but everything is fresh, healthy and tasty. Is it possible to find someone who will grocery shop and cook only, if so how and how much does it cost? TIA 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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With money, you can have feathers blown up your ass, anything is possible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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love this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Why is she leaving? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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We no longer need her full time and we can't afford her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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chefs cost way more than Nanny's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Nanny's what? Oh, you mean nannies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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no, I meant any chef will cost more than her particular nanny's salary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Sorry to hear that. I feel like you're more likely to find a solution with her than without. I think the personal chef types will pre-make meals that you rehear but it's a weekly thing, not daily freshly cooked meals for an affordable price. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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thanks, I know that's what I'm starting to find [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Craigslist. I'll bet you can find a culinary student. Cost will be the issue. BTW, we are sort of looking to solve the same problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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How much do you think they charge per hour? What I like so much about the current situation is she knows us well and all the nuances and likes/dislikes of DH and our DCs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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you are not going to find this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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sit down and write out your likes and dislikes for each of you in your family - will help future chef [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Ask nanny to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Write down the exact meals that the nanny prepares and find a person who will make the same things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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what kind of meals did she make? sounds easy enough to replicate on your own but you need to be a bit more organized. or see if she will be willing to just cook for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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Thanks, she needs a full time position. DH and I both work FT and I prefer to spend my time with DCs versus cooking, cleaning up when I get home. It's such a short window of time each evening and we have three DCs who each need attention. She would make roast chicken, fish, fruit salad, salads, wraps, burritos, it's a lot of work for a family of five! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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Ask her if she will do this for you on the side. Won't be the same, but she can make you a few meals ahead of time that you can heat up during the week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Wow. What's her #? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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If you're looking to hire a PT person, then you can look for a nanny/housekeeper/cook - you'll need more hours than if you just had childcare, but less than FT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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I've known chefs/food people who did this. (One who won one of those cooking shows.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Weight question: 5'3", 126 lbs. I signed up for weight watchers- how much weight can I expect to lose in 3 weeks? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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this is the same as me but i don't think i'm fat, could be more in shape, but weight seems about right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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Op: I've put on almost 10 lbs in the past year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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uh like 1 pound. you are already at a good weight for your height. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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+2000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Why on earth are you on Weight Watchers at 126lbs? Smh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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x2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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You should lose about 16 lbs to be slender again. Not sure the weight loss rate for WW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Op: I'll settle for 10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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I'm 5'3" and 115. Anything below that I start looking gaunt. It shows in my hair and nails too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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You are insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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OR. I'm 5'4" and 120. At this weight, I have a big belly and spare tire in my midsection because it's where my body stores extra pounds. I lose the spare tire and belly when I'm down to 113 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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I did WW religiously last year, was 5'3, 170 pounds to start and managed 20 pounds in 5 months and I followed it religiously. It's not a quick weight loss method, but it definitely works slow and steady. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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I'm 5'2", 125 lbs. Need to lose 10 lbs badly. Watching this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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You do not need to "badly" lose 10 lbs. FFS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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This thread is hilarious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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I TTTTT A [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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25 years ago, I could have posted this. Now I would tell my 27 yo self: You look great. Stop worrying about the number on the scale and go live your life. I don't weigh much more now but I was crazy to waste so much time and energy then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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I don't know about Weight Watchers and don't even think it is necessary for someone of your height and weight. I do know that if I need to lose a few pounds that I don't necessarily have to diet, but pay attention to the small things: alcohol consumption, extra bread, unnecessary snacks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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alcohol extra bread and unnecessary snacks are the stuff of life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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I have 2 friends doing WW now. They re both losing 1-2 pounds per week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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This is standard if you follow it religiously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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I am on WW now but I wouldnt recommend it for someone like you who is already at a decent weight. I am 5'7 and weigh 218lbs (as of today, I started out at much higher than that). I am on my 3rd week now and noticed that I am losing it very slowly. I wouldnt recommend WW for anyone who wants to lose more than 4-6lbs per week. I started out using with a weight loss clinic that requires protein shakes 4x/day plus lipo B-12 injections and so far I have dropped 25 lbs in 5 weeks. I am using WW as a guide to help me avoid the truly fattening foods (high points) but in general, I was on WW a few years ago and only lost about 20 lbs but it took me 3 months to do it. I think WW just allows you to eat anything you want as long as its within the 25-45 points you are allotted daily. that means ice cream is ok if you only have a 3 point breakfast and 5 point lunch. To me, that just doesnt seem right. With the diet I am doing now, I am eating only 1 protein heavy meal at dinner (chicken/fish) and the rest are shakes. But I need to get down to 145lbs at least. In OP's case, I would just increase cardio, cut snacks and beef up on protein heavy foods with no carbs or sugars added. The average weight loss on WW is about 1-2lbs each week anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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Um..you consider 4-6 pounds a week to be "slow"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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np She started out at close to 250 lbs, if I'm reading right. People that heavy lose faster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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So some nonsense shake diet seems more "right" to you than eminently sensible WW? Because WW gives you tools for life that are sustainable, whereas you're going to gain every pound back as soon as you stop with the shots and crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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it really depends on whether you're the kind of 5'3 that really needs to be 110 or whether you need to be 120 - meaning considering your body type, etc. If you're really strict about it, you could lose 5-7 lbs in 3 weeks, if you're the former, but not likely if 6 lbs is all you have to lose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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eating disorder alert [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever thought why you wear designer clothes and others are perfectly content wearing Banana Republi or similar? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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^^^typing from my phone, please excuse my typos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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because i can afford to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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i mix both, 50/50. (oh and my designer is not TT designer, im talking like citizens, splendid, ella moss, AG denim, etc..) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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I hate br - quality is so poor, but that's about my budget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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Hahaha and here I am still wearing my Old Navy... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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BR quality is terrible, and the fit is made for the "average" American. That makes it hard for someone who is thinner/slimmer. Designer clothes just fit better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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You sound like a bitch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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Nah, i agree too. the vanity sizing is out of control. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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Oh jesus, "vanity sizing" mom strikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Right? Just buy a smaller size. The only person I know who truly has size issues is my SIL who is small and Asian to start with and has been treated for anorexia to boot, even she isn't too small for their 00 clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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Seriously, six of one, half a dozen of the other, does it really matter if the store says you're a 2 while other stores say you're a 6? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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lol to me, Banana Republic is a designed brand..lol..(sigbed, 6 figure earning attorney). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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I do not wear designer clothes, I see no need. I love fashion and enjoy putting together my clothes from lower priced stores. I like to have fun with trends and refuse to spend money on that stuff anyway. I would love to be able to dress in mid priced designer stuff like Isabelle Marant and Rag and Bone but it is just too much for me to spend when there are other more important things to spend on. I work in a super casual office so have no need for $$ workwear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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I would spend extra for clothes if they flatter my ho hum body or the experience of wearing an expensive piece is worth the value (dates, job promotion, attention) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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I have staples in my closet that are probably low end "designer" but on the cost per wearing analysis, they have been worth it. Fabric quality and fit. That said, I don't add much to my wardrobe on a regular basis. I am stylish but not even remotely trendy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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what is this question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] can someone please please please recommend a therapist, shrink or couples counselor on the uws? desperate. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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You can try cognitive therapy associates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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Sorry I live downtown so have no clue. You could try asking a doctor you know & trust. Or you can look at who accepts your insurance and then check out people's website to see who you might like. Email or call a few and see who you get good vibes from and who has availability. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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^well, former patient, not sure if that matters though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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Be willing to travel for a good one. Like maybe the east side? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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http://drjuliekupfer.com/ but she is not UWS. and I am not her lol. I am a patient of hers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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^well, former patient, not sure if that matters though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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np. She looks nice and also has offices close to me. I'm a little concerned that she seems so young. Do you think she could relate to a working mom type patient? I want to find a therapist who can help me manage my anxiety -- I have teen dcs. Very interested in your honest opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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she is a working mom & can definitely help with anxiety! email her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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ty! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] When I was pregnant with my first kid, I did everything I shouldn't have. I worked VERY long hours, drank alcohol and caffeine, ate horribly, took allergy and pain medicines. DC was born a month early, is now 7 yo and has diagnosed learning disabilities. I can't help but feel extremely guilty. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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What was your rationale back then? Did you just not think this stuff was a big deal? Were you young and didnt know better? Dont think you should beat yourself up over it but I am just curious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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Well, first of all I was not TTC and did not realize I was pg until around 3 months. At that point, we really weren't ready for a baby and I had to keep working hard in order to make ends meet. I couldn't drop everything and change my life. I kept up with my old habits because it was just too stressful to make changes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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A lot of people who are super healthy have premature births and/or kids with SN. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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Did you not want to be pregnant? FWIW, I know plenty of people that regularly drank (and got drunk at times) when they were pregnant. Their kids are all fine now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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op. I was not TTC, but I wasn't unhappy when I learned I was pregnant. I just didn't have the time to really think it through and change my habits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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I responded before. Sounds like you were just lazy. Sorry. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but sounds like there are no good reasons for what you did aside from laziness. It's not ok what you did. It may or may not be the reason why your dc has disabilities now, but this will haunt you the rest of your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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np: F off. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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she was more than lazy, she was neglectful imo, but you are right her kid could have had these learning disabilities even if she did do everything right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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projects? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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op. Lol, no. HHI 600k (was around 100k back then). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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well you goonna need all this 600k to pay the medical bills, lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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Wow, you came nowhere close to doing "everything" you shouldn't have. 1960s mothers did all that plus exposed their kids to DDT and we all turned out fine. Luck of the draw. It's not your fault at ALL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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This. Sorry op. Not all LDs are life sentences. Just love your kid and do your best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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I did all of that also and my 10 yr old is fine perfect and an amazing student and so bright. I have friends who were perfect had have kids with learning disabilities so most is just random. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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op. I felt like something was very wrong the minute he was born. He just didn't seem fully cooked...I think it was more than just being 1 month premature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Honestly, unless you were like 45 when you gave birth to him I can't see how it could possibly be your fault. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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You're sorry now and guilty so it's ok. You're a good person who would do anything to change the past. You can forgive yourself and do everything you can for dc going forward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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I would too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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The majority of kids born even 2 months premature don't have learning disabilities. Sounds like bad luck to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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I get that you feel guilty, but that doesn't do any good. This is something you will never know. Another woman could have done exactly the same and have a different outcome. So, spend a little time feeling bad - wallow in it and then be done with it. The past is past. Use the energy you have in the present. Life is hard enough. Don't make it harder! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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Don't focus on your past mistakes. Put your energy into securing resources for your 7 y/o, spending time with him/her, and availing them to opportunities so they don't suffer in their life. We ALL make mistakes but those who focus on what they can do TODAY end up in a better place. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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If you feel guilty enough to believe that those stress factors affected your child in the womb, learn the lesson and don't let those same factors into your life with your child outside the womb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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da fuq. They no longer share a bloodstream. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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The only thing out of that that sounds questionable is the alcohol part, and even then I know many women who drank a bit in the first trimester before they knew they were pregnant and kids were fine. I assume by "ate horribly" you don't actually mean you were malnourished, just that you weren't eating an all-organic, high-fiber, blah blah blah diet (NBD). I also know two women who were very conscientious about doing everything "right" and kids ended up with minor learning difficulties anyway. Sometimes this stuff just happens and we don't know why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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op. I did not eat normal meals, lunch and/or dinner often came from the vending machine in my office (pretzels, snickers bars, diet coke, etc). It was awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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that doesn't matter unless you were starving yourself. the db takes what it needs and the mother suffers the health consequences of a poor diet during pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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it sounds like you want something to blame and honestly - probably woudl have happened anyway...learning disabilities happen and does not need to correlate to prenatal care [ Reply | More
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All of those things are fine to do so long as you weren't binge drinking or getting drunk. Really... Working hard? Eating poorly? Don't beat yourself up, this would have happened regardless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Fetal alcohol effects/syndrome? It doesn't happen to everyone who drinks but it can. What does your doctor say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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op. I wasn't alcoholic, more like a few drinks per week. Doctor says it's unlikely that had any effect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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so stop beating yourself up. take this energy and use it to making your kids life better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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How many is a few? How many did you drink in the same time frame? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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probably 4-6 drinks/week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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How many at once? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. 2x in the last month, I have gotten a pedi and then 2 days later, at least one toenail just has all the paint totally chip off in one big piece. Any idea what the cause could be?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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A bad pedicure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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No idea. But that is indeed a tragedy of colossal proportions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Skinny people, are you hungry all the time? How do you deal? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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Not hungry all the time. Your body adjusts to a certain amount of food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Yes but its worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Never hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:22 PM Flag
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Only right before I eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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I asked this the other day because every time I cut back on food my head starts to feel unpleasant almost like a headache. I think it's a temporary thing and you have to eat a little bit to stave off the pangs of hunger depression. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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Op - when I am hungry and work out, I get kind of dizzy and sometimes need to take a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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Blood sugar problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I'm thin, and no - not hungry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I really only get hungry if I have to do an inordinate amount of physical activity that day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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I like to eat high fiber cereal to manage my hunger. Also water and black coffee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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not hungry. my body has gotten used to splurging on weekends. during the work week when i'm running around, i'll have coffee in AM and late lunch a few times a week. otherwise i drink coffee/cocoa/tea during day, small snack, then dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] ebola: soon in a subway car by you 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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I'm glad I moved out of filthy NYC full of immigrants [ Reply | More
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It's not that they're immigrants that I mind, it's that many people are uneducated. They are spreading it because they are unaware. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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Why do you think this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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It is blood borne [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] It has come to the point where posting anything, opinion or otherwise will gain you comments like fake and troll. For all the "fake warriors" out there, you are ruining this site. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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to be fair, the trolls are ruining it, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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At least they make it semi entertaining and you can always ignore. I am so tired of the fake warriors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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no they aren't. the fakes are awful and this site is so dull now. who wants to hang around with childless trolls? This board used to be so funny without even trying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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Dude, just ignore. Assume they'll be there, like mosquitos at the lake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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I totally agree. I posted a few things last week and every time, someone would post "hi trollina!" or "fake". No, my posts are NOT fake and I have no idea why anyone would accuse me of being a troll when I am posting legitimate questions. It pisses me off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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The nanny post is fake. [ Reply | More
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of course [ Reply | More
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If I had a dollar for every body who has supposedly ruined this site over the years I would have a lot of dollars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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+1 lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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It's the haters and the racists who bother me these days. I know I shouldn't say that because it just inspires the idiots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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You really should log off UB and get outside more often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Any suggestions for tipping amounts for camp couselors at the country day camps? Thanks 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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$50 each [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Never even occurred to me to tip counselors. Should I be doing this? That seems a bit crazy to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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It's not crazy. We've been discussing this all summer. These counselors are usually young college kids and don't make a ton of money. If there is someone or even few people who have really helped your kid this summer, or someone your kid has really liked, it's a nice gesture to give them a tip. Anywhere from $10 on up. I think if I was a college kid trying to earn some extra cash in the summer and a parent gave me an extra $20, I would really appreciate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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They make next to nothing. And when your DS/DD gets a job, you'll want them to be appreciated, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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$10/week. BTDT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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+1 - kids camp sent out suggested amounts and this is in line with those recs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Terrible 4s? My preschooler is godawful right now. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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mine got into g&t when he was 4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Ha, so did mine but he was still awful at times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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THIS! It's worse the smarter they are:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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What does that have to do w anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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methinks OR is trolling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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I found late 3s and early 4s to be difficult. I have a 4 1/2 year old now and it is getting better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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oh and he's really smart. He already graduated elementary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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they have transition periods where they go through these bad stages. I have 3 kids and I have learned that terrible 2s is a myth. these transitions happen at different ages for different children. As long as you stay consistent and don't give in they get over them pretty quickly [ Reply | More
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They need more routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] 6 yo DD says nanny spanked her. Nanny denies. wwyd? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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nanny cam? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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Yawn. Fire her. What else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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parent my own child instead of outsource it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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np: is that comment really necessary? It's not nice..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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Do you trust DD? Has she ever lied / exaggerated (I ask w/out judgment)? Do you trust your nanny? It's not like that's a difference of opinion. I can you discuss with the two of them together? That might help clear the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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need more info. what is nanny like and what is your dd like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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np. agree. also what is the fact pattern where DD says she was spanked. what does the nany say happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Who do you believe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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Fake!!! No nanny is crazy enough to spank a six year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Eh. Kid probably deserved it. Better to spank at 6 then end up with a brat at 11, when it's pretty much too late. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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What? Six year olds can be spanked. It's the tail end of spanking in my opinion, but still an option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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No nanny is going to hit a kid that is able to tell on them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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And if the parents do t have a problem with nanny spanking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Then this wouldn't be an issue. Duh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Troll! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Troll! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Sit them down together and get to the bottom of it. (No pun intended.) BUT if you can't resolve it, you have to be prepared to get rid of nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:13 PM Flag
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What did your daughter do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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Ask DD for specifics - bent her over her lap and hit her 6 times? Tapped her once on the bottom? Then give the exact report to nanny and ask if she did that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] those who just went through K process in D3 and don't have a good gen ed option, can you please tell me what our realistic chances are to get SA, HA, or G&T (not likely to score 99) I am trying to figure out plan B and would like to get a feel for how likely plan B is. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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hi trollina [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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You might get the 99, you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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add msc to your list. consider prepping for g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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absolutely will try for MSC but I think this is the longest shot. will prep for g&t [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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Awesome. I'd say do all of that and don't worry about it. Wasy for me to say, but I do find that these things tend to work out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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TY! I really do hope you are right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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There was a poster on here zoned for 165 who had literally nowhere to send dc, was WL everywhere. Apply broadly and hope for the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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SA is a likely option if your kid doesn't get a 99. Even with a 99, a good G&T is slim. Can you move? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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SA is a lottery, no guarantees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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Its complected. We own and have 3 kids so there are so many variables including financial that are at play. I will need preschool for my younger dc and I have to apply for that in advance and commit before I know about K. My older dc is in MS so we can't move too far. Plan B will mostly likely be suburbs which will be tough for my eldest at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:37 PM Flag
[ - ] If you run, how far do you usually run and what is your speed? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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4-5 miles, 10-11 minutes/mile. I'm slow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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I'm you. Slow, but it gets the job done. My clothes still fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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3-7 a few times a week. 7-8 minutes, depends on the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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how old are you? [ Reply | More
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