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[ - ] What do you fight with DH about most? 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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it's almost always something to do with one of the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:16 AM Flag
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+1000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:19 AM Flag
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In my case it is step children. Wonderful people. DH is a great father. i am just not adjusting well. Being single or being married without children is sooooo much better than with someone else's kids. I honestly believe it'd be better if we either had them all of the time, or they were biologically ours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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selfish OW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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Stfu idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:54 AM Flag
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this, step children are difficult because of the short time with them, ours did much better once, ex moved to another country and the children opted to stay in USA - we had them one week on and one week off just strange and disjointed, before she moved and although we all tried to incorporate everyone for everything, it was just difficult. GL and I hope it gets easier - I know I had it real easy compared to so many people and I found it trying, could not imagine if dh and his ex really hated each other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:47 AM Flag
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we're always in sync with what to do with dc's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:21 AM Flag
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I'm jealous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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She's lying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:55 AM Flag
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Mostly lack of communication. It's not intentional, but he doesn't always hear what I say or tell me his plans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:17 AM Flag
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We might be in the same marriage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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I think it says a lot about our marriage that this is the worst thing. He's very helpful, supportive, and well meaning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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He wants me to get Brazilians and bleach my back door area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:17 AM Flag
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Eww, gross. keep it to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:19 AM Flag
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I was asked a question, grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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no one wants to hear about your pubic hair, skank. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:41 AM Flag
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Are you new here? You won't last long. If this bothers you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:47 AM Flag
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Laser [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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Interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:33 AM Flag
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ITA! Best thing I have ever done and I would totally recommend anyone to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:50 AM Flag
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really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:21 AM Flag
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Yes. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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the music that's playing in our apt/car. yes, we're in our 40s and it's totally juvenile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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His lack of consideration [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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We don't actually fight, but we disagree somewhat on child-rearing questions (I'm more free range, he's more protective and also more concerned about DD's diet) and also religion. We have a few things like that on which we agree to disagree. We also don't always like the same people, and he thinks I'm too hard on people/judgmental, but we don't really fight about that either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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^^He's also really bad at calendar management, which I occasionally find infuriating. He'll say yes to things without checking his calendar and later -- oops, I have a conflict. Or he'll ask me three times when the same event is but never put it into his calendar, which is why he has to keep asking. Annoying. He thinks it's modern to use an electronic calendar even though it's not right at hand, so info doesn't get into it. My paper page-a-day notebook is much more reliable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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I agree on the paper. It limits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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we put everything into google calendar - each of us can see each others calendar as well as designating a different color for dc's things - takes some getting used to, but really pretty good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:48 AM Flag
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sometimes we fight about parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:21 AM Flag
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it's not really a fight but he makes fun of me for having bad social skills / rubbing people the wrong the way / being a bull in a china shop. i have awesome people skills btw and people LOVE me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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I hate before sleep sex. DH loves it. Sigh. I'm glad this is our biggest issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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interesting, I hate having sex mid day if it's not right before sleeping. I don't want to get my make up and sweat from the day all over the bed. I want to be all showered and ready for bed first. Why do you hate it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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this thread is SO making it to MP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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I get drunken rages. poor dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:24 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:43 AM Flag
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Wow. Poor dh indeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:55 AM Flag
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It's fine, he's probably already finding someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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He gets stressed and takes it out on me. I cry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:25 AM Flag
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instead of crying why don't you slap him the next time he does that. slap him and walk out. be absent for a while. see what happens... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:27 AM Flag
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You sound insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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that sounds healthy. maybe he should seek some therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:29 AM Flag
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Eh. Normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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Stop crying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:56 AM Flag
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We don't really fight but we sometimes get irritable with each other about little things like who is doing more work with the kids or around the house. We also have some tension over how he always tries to solve my problem the second I mention it, but I'm training him to understand that I'm just venting and need to go through the emotional part before I can start problem solving. Typical male-female issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:27 AM Flag
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Agree about the solving issues thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:31 AM Flag
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+1. Especially on the 'problem solving v venting'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:36 AM Flag
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chores. He feels I order him around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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Have you tried giving him set chores (trash, dishes, etc) rather than splitting each chore ( ie, both make dinner) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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Chores [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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Housework stuff, management of work/life and childcare/cooking/chores which all fall on me because I have a flexible schedule, my flexible schedule and whether I should work more and make more money with no consideration by him of the fact that we would have to pay people to do all the things I do now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:39 AM Flag
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For me it's the opposite. His job is cleaning the bathroom, and, without realizing how good suggestion would only alleviate his work, suggested we get a cleaner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:40 AM Flag
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Usually his tendency to make his family a priority over my wishes. Doesn't happen often thankfully. Also he can be a bit of a bully when he wants to do something and I don't. I just call him on that and he eventually calms down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:39 AM Flag
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His parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:43 AM Flag
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He obsession with the dishes needing to be clean, but overall being a pig [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:00 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:50 AM Flag
[ - ] If you are a WOHM, and have for the most part a desk job, do you listen to music while you work? If so what kind? And what do you do? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:09 AM Flag
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I am an adjudicator for the federal government. I listen to tunein radio app...all kinds of stations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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Mostly desk, no music. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:16 AM Flag
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KUSC with earbuds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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Very very occasionally. Usually stream our local NPR station (headphones). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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I'm a writer/editor so I can only listen to instrumental music or the words get in my head and mess me up. Classical usually. If I'm doing a mindless task, I like to listen to NPR. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:28 AM Flag
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WOHM, lawyer, desk job, classical usually but if I am a bit distracted it makes me more so & I turn it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:32 AM Flag
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No. I take about 100 phone calls a day and have a hard time hearing with background noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:37 AM Flag
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I usually have the TV on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Harassment protection orders: I'm sure this varies from state to state and for different cases, but in general, does anybody know if there's a certain time-frame the communications have to happen within to be legally considered harassment? The things I am reading say 3 malicious communications constitute harassment, but I don't know if that means within a day, a week, etc. In my case it's 3 within a week. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:07 AM Flag
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^^from my exH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:07 AM Flag
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I think 3 in a week is harassment. Is he threatening in any way? Is it something he needs to know answer to related to DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:09 AM Flag
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Vaguely threatening, but not threatening to do anything in particular. "Consider this a warning", but not about anything specific. No, nothing he needs answered; these are insults toward me and him being pissed about a legal thing that's going on. He's been doing this for years, I fight it but it gets complicated since I don't want to cut off dcs' limited visitation, but I have had enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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Good luck. It sucks when you have kids with someone abusive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:32 AM Flag
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Maybe warn him or have a lawyer warn him that you are getting an order if he doesn't desist. So you can keep up DC visitation with him, if that is what you want . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:37 AM Flag
[ - ] This site sucks lately. There are nasty argumentative trolls on here constantly. The challenge every post with ignorant or racist or totally unrelated opinions. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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^* they challenge not the challenge ^* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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It has been pretty bad lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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I think it's one or two idiots [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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Yes, this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:16 AM Flag
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ignorant to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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I agree. The only way to counteract this is by having intelligent conversations that the trolls will find boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:44 AM Flag
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The LMCs have brought the racism. Look at the post directly above. A woman is asking about communications harassment from her Dh. Urban baby has fallen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:16 AM Flag
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Abusive men can be rich as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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i was called fake for a legitimate reply - i really don't write any trollish responses. annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:10 AM Flag
[ - ] what level of attention can a student at hunter high school expect for college counseling? how does that compare to counseling at privates? how bout at SHSs? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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Hunter limits the number of private colleges kids can apply to. I think the number is 8. That in and of itself bugs me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:09 AM Flag
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np - It's 8 private colleges and unlimited public colleges. But why does that bug you? Kids should be able to narrow down their private choices to, say, 3 reaches, 3 in their wheelhouse and 2 private safeties. They can even apply to 3 reaches and 5 targets if they apply to enough public safeties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:12 AM Flag
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^^The only thing that the policy prevents is one of those students who gets into all 8 Ivies of course! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:13 AM Flag
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We're not there yet, but is it typical for any school to limit the number of applications? Why is it the school's concern how many colleges a student wants to apply to? And why the distinction then between public and private colleges? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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I have no idea whether this is typical. I know that Stuyvesant used to have a similar policy but I don't know if they still do. And I don't know why there is a distinction between private and public colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:28 AM Flag
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^^But I have to say that I prefer this policy over one where a student applied to 20+ colleges. Having this policy made my dc really think about what he wanted in a college and the variations among colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:30 AM Flag
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That policy will go by the wayside as admission rates to TTs continue to fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:29 AM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:50 AM Flag
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that is PLENTY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:59 AM Flag
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Honestly, just hire a private counselor. Your getting a amazing education for free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:12 AM Flag
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what's so great about Hunter? can't compare to TT privates, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:16 AM Flag
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hard to say unless the same kid has experience at both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:38 AM Flag
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Can't compare to which privates? Hunter consistently has 30+% ivy accept rate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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NP - how do you find a good college counselor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:28 AM Flag
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I went there 20+ years ago and back then we got almost no attention at all. But things were different back then all around. Almost everyone got into one of their top 2 or 3 choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:25 AM Flag
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Me too - 1980s grad - think I met with a guidance counselor once, for 5 minutes! Hunter is really a different school now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever stayed at one of those "romantic" resorts in the Poconos like they made fun of on Kimmy Schmidt? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:02 AM Flag
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My friend did, with heart shaped tub. can you imagine all the hookups done in those tubs--not for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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I got engaged at a "romantic" hotel in Niagara Falls, kind of the same concept. Yeah, we used the Jacuzzi. No, I don't have Hep C. But...gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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Yes, in my 20s. We thought it was campy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking at moving to 267 or 290 zone. Have heard 290 gone downhill, 267 small and intense but good. Any thoughts? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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I can't imagine a gen Ed is all that intense. Small is nice imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Yesterday was my 35th bday and DH was gone on a week long guys trip with his friends leaving me alone with our 3 kids (all under 3). I'm a little sad because we both work full time and he has very little vacation time. Would you be upset? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:00 AM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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But I also had three kids under 3, and DH would never have gone away with friends during that time when they were little. Birthday or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:02 AM Flag
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this, we only had 2 but no way dh would have gone away with the guys when the kids were small, but then again either would I...not for pleasure anyway, both of us had to travel for work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:52 AM Flag
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Yes. I would be pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:02 AM Flag
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Yeah that sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:03 AM Flag
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Did DH plan the trip? Was he invited to an already planned by someone else (one of his friends) on this trip? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:03 AM Flag
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They all planned it together..I think he forgot it was my birthday at the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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My guess is someone else planned this trip and so it was a simple yes or no involvement from him. You can continue to feel sorry for yourself and whine on this forum or you can use your web surfing time to plan a trip for the two of you so all DH has to do is say yes. Then you're both happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:15 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:01 AM Flag
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A birthday is just another day but maybe he can make it up to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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I would be very, very upset [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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we're birthday twins and my birthday was garbage too. Next year will be better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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Wow. No way would DH waste that much of vacation time not being with us. And with such young kids. And on your birthday. Sorry but you and everyone deserves better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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Yep. I could've written this. Happy belated! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:09 AM Flag
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Hopefully he will make it up to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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Yeah, right. Inconsiderate guys always do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:24 AM Flag
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It's your fault for having so many kids so close together. Don't have more kids then you can handle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:23 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:56 AM Flag
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Wow-you stink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:30 AM Flag
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The bday thing - not a big deal. The limited vacation & him using it on a friends' trip. That'd piss me off!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:26 AM Flag
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this, but it is kind of the cherry on top of it all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:53 AM Flag
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You should plan a trip leaving him alone with all three kids for a week while you party on his birthday. What an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:35 AM Flag
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YES, big time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:52 AM Flag
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A week-long trip with the guys?! I can understand going for a long weekend, but an entire week? Not cool. Vacation time is for family, not a guys' boondoggle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:15 AM Flag
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An entire week? Over your birthday? I'd be furious. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:46 AM Flag
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Don't get adults who make a big deal over their birthday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:00 AM Flag
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shut up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:01 AM Flag
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My husband forgot my birthday completely, not even a card. I went to the store and bought cards and explained that "gifts count." He hasn't forgotten since. You need to tell DH what matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] I have my SIL's graduation this week. She has two graduations - the general one at 10 am & then another around 1 or 1:30 for her major. Our son is 7 months old and needs at least ONE nap in his crib a day. I promise you I am NOT rigid about this, but days he's done more than one nap in a stroller - he's a horrible child & doesn't sleep at night too. He's also getting to this age where he won't sleep well in the stroller like he used to. DH is livid I'm going to miss ONE of the graduations. I feel like this is okay for me to just go to one with the baby, right? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:00 AM Flag
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Graduations are a zoo. I barely saw dc's college grad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:00 AM Flag
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LIvid...that seems really strong. Is this in your home city? Could you hire a sitter to cover the at home/nap portion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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Nobody should go to graduations except direct ancestors of the graduate, imo. Livid is a weird response. How are you with your ILs otherwise? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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Maybe livid is strong. He is ADAMANT I go to both and doesn't understand why I wouldn't. No - the graduation is hours away. No one to sit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:02 AM Flag
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NP: Great. Tell him you'll go and he can deal with the baby the WHOLE day. You'll be over at the bar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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HAHAH! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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And he can deal with baby all night while you get a good night's sleep in a separate hotel room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:16 AM Flag
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Ugh. I would stay home, livid, adamant, whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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Why not get a babysitter for the afternoon graduation while baby naps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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He normally takes a long nap in the morning - say like 930 ish to like 11 ish. However - this has now been transitioning to a long afternoon nap. So as long as one of those naps is long & in a real crib (or our pack in play we are bringing) I don't particularly care which. We are going to be out of town with no sitter. Plus I am still nursing, not that it is the biggest deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:04 AM Flag
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Can he take a nap between graduations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:04 AM Flag
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I mean that is definitely okay with me. Just thinking about timing. If the first one is say like 10 am - prob like 2 hours right? So if I run to the hotel at noon - he probably won't wake up again til after the second. I'm happy to bring him back as soon as it is done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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You could try that or ask DH to watch him for one graduation and you watch him for the other haha maybe DH will get the dilemma then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:09 AM Flag
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Or how far away is this? Maybe do something this weekend that is similar (db awake from 9 am to 3 pm) eg "see how db is? Can you imagine db acting this way at your sisters graduations? We need to..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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this week! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:15 AM Flag
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Go to one, I get that the baby needs one decent nap. They are being ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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Okay - thank you. I am really not rigid, it is just a lot. And when the baby is going nuts - who does he want? Mom. It is just stressful & I'm happy to do it if I HAVE to, just doesn't seem like one of those times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:07 AM Flag
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Go to department one - it will be smaller and less of a zoo. DH can go to both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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NYU? Yeah - just choose one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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No! We live in NYC. That I'd have our nanny stay home for with baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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Your DH is being an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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thank you! his family is obsessed with the baby - which is nice. But sometimes it comes at the expense of my sanity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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I just think people who don't have a kid that age or are very far from that age forget how essential naps are. I wasn't overly rigid about naps and would definitely have days where you had to be out while one was happening...but out for 2 of them is just asking for trouble and it will ruin the rest of the whole day. And who will have to deal with it? The nursing mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:33 AM Flag
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thank you again! What should my rational response be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:38 AM Flag
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I think I'd re-address it with your DH and say 'look, I know this is an important day, but trying to do 2 naps outdoors/in a stroller with DB is asking way too much and we can do it...BUT, there's about a 90% of a meltdown. Why is it better to have me standing outside the ceremony trying to calm an overtired baby rather than just being at home with a happy sleeping child?' YOu might also mention that if you make it through both naps out, then you could very easily have the baby fall apart later at the reception. I mean, it's his kid too, so if he really stands firm, I guess, fine...go with his plan. But I'd honestly be kind of strong and say 'look I entirely disagree and if the baby falls apart, I want you to take ownership if this is THAT important to you.' Pump and give him some bottles. Can you tell I'm the 'go to the bar' poster? :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:52 AM Flag
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thank you! his family is obsessed with the baby - which is nice. But sometimes it comes at the expense of my sanity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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Well I decided not to go to my Bros graduation bc I'd be flying across the country by myself w my 8 mo db. I offered instead for him and his fiance to come visit us fr a week afterwards [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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My dh didn't come to my last school graduation. I let it go. It was boring [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:12 AM Flag
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Good lord after I got my BA I never went to any of my grad school graduations .DH should get over it. What a waste of time/energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:16 AM Flag
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honestly - what pisses me off most is bc it is bc his parents will be disappointed & god forbid he said to them "sorry but __ needs his sleep" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:19 AM Flag
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That's ridiculous of him. He expects a baby to sit through 2 boring grad ceremonies in one day with inadequate sleep??its totally reasonable to stay in the hotel for one. And assuming there is a party or dinner afterward, you can take a well rested baby to that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:40 AM Flag
[ - ] S/of Mother's Day. Is there something wrong with me? I just don't really like any holidays. I like regular ordinary days. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:59 PM Flag
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What does s/ mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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S/o ....spin off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
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I don't like holidays either, though I love parties. I dislike having to do something similar every year because tradition dictates it. And I think the Hallmark holidays are stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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I love traditions. I cook New Year's Day dinner every year. I host a tree trimming cookie exchange party every year. I love july 4th. Mardi Gras. But valentines birthdays Christmas Easter Saint Patrick's etc no thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:12 AM Flag
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Tell more about your cookie party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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NP I used to work at one of the "women's" magazines, and we did this every year -- everyone brings her favorite homemade cookies with copies of the recipes, host (company) provides packaging material, and you go around and take one of each cookie so everyone goes home with a mixed box. Really fun if you have a lot of baking friends, and people can get so competitive with their fancy schmancy creations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:18 AM Flag
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I put up a Christmas tree and set ornaments (usually store in reusable cloth bags or boxes) out. Some years I put name tags. Some years numbers and a raffle. I bake a couple kinds of cookies. I have tins out. I make a signature cocktail and call is santas helper or evil elf etc. Guests bring a batch of cookies and recipes and a tin. We all swap a cookie so each person goes home with a tin of different cookies and recipes. They usually bring an ornament too. We unwrap and hang ornaments and share stories about them (got this one in Italy, jennifer brought this one in 2008 when xyz). It's light hearted no pressure no set arrival or departure time fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:18 AM Flag
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Fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:20 AM Flag
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Me too. Also not crazy about vacations -- I like my home, my routine, keeping up with my regular "to-do"s instead of coming home with five loads of dirty laundry, etc. Hate eating restaurant food three times a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:11 AM Flag
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Op: me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:14 AM Flag
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Me three. I am finding DH is the same. We travel for work too so it's not like we don't get away. Our home is nicer than most resorts too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:19 AM Flag
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We have a very simple home actually, but we keep it tidy and just like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:39 AM Flag
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This I really don't understand. I live for vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:18 AM Flag
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Maybe it's a sign that you need to make some changes to your regular life. I mean that with all kindness and support, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:24 AM Flag
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Yeah, I make a lot of money but have an insanely stressful 24/7 job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:25 AM Flag
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Boundaries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:29 AM Flag
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PP no such thing. No boundaries is the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Hosting a family dinner for my brother's 40th bday on Saturday. I just moved two weeks ago and not completely organized. What should I make that is appropriate, but not too involved? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:56 PM Flag
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Reservations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:58 PM Flag
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That's IT!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:26 AM Flag
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A good lasagne, salad, have some simple appetizers, buy a cake for dessert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:59 PM Flag
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Good idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:00 AM Flag
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This plus some kind of meat in the crock pot. Either sausage and peppers or meat balls. You are set. Baked Ziti might be easier than lasagne. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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Use the large Stouffer's lasagna and get cocktail meatballs from Costco. They are fabulous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 02:20 AM Flag
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Do you have a BBQ joint? Take out pulled pork, buns. You make Mac & cheese, beans, salad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:00 AM Flag
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You can order delivery and rebadge it as homemade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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Order! But, if you must cook: Roast a side of salmon; easy, can be eaten room temp or cold if timing is an issue. Same with lightly sauteed green beans, and some kind of potato salad (I make one that is roasted little potatoes with olive oil, mint and salt/pepper). This is my go-to special meal when I can't get the timing right/can't be fussy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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^^And buy dessert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:11 AM Flag
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I'm emailing this to myself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:18 AM Flag
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Taco Bell sells delicious tacos in large boxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:47 AM Flag
[ - ] DH looks at his phone and becomes immediately suspended in space. We will be walking in a store and he just stops. He just stood in the middle of the living room doing something on his phone. It's annoying as hell. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:46 PM Flag
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Self involved and unaware of the universe. How i wish i could be this way now & again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:52 PM Flag
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Yep, mine too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:11 AM Flag
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Welcome to the modern world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:53 PM Flag
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Do you work in a high speed career? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:56 PM Flag
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Is he successful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:58 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:06 AM Flag
[ - ] looking at the women at the met gala. apart from some of the models, they are all kind of ugly. imagine with the top makeup artists at your disposal, you could only look as good as demi lovato and rita ora look in these pics. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:45 PM Flag
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K. The usual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:52 PM Flag
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Anna Wintour has turned everything she touches into a pop spectacle. I wish she would go home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I have eaten basically everything in site today. If I don't get my period tomorrow, I may have to wire my jaw shut. Also, little tip...if you eat those vanilla oreos with vanilla ice cream and cut up strawberries, it kind of works for a cheap version of strawberry shortcake. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:38 PM Flag
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*sight. Crap, all this eating is affecting my spelling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:40 PM Flag
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You and me both... I've had a carrot muffin, salad, those butter toffee cookies in the yellow pack, yogurt with too much honey, a ton of peanuts, and apple slices with parmesan cheese. I feel like a cow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:42 PM Flag
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OP: I'm not even hungry. I just can't stop. Working from home is a slippery slope some days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:44 PM Flag
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Apples with Parm on top? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:50 PM Flag
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Yum--pears are even better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:15 AM Flag
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I had two coffees and a salad today and an apple. I feel great. I also had a massive bike ride [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:07 AM Flag
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Except my flat mate volunteered to teach a class at college and then has cross fit and yesterday ran a marathon :( so I feel laZy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] do you include mother an mil in mother's day celebrations or is the day mostly about you? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:36 PM Flag
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she had her turn, now it is my turn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:38 PM Flag
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eek [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:46 PM Flag
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I like this attitude. Any suggestions for a step mother in law that didn't have children? She texted me today asking how DH and I are celebrating her. I haven't replied. I'm out of town [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
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Woah. Karma [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:16 AM Flag
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Me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:43 PM Flag
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I mostly do stuff for my mom; dcs get me a card/flowers, but it's more about grandma. This is fine with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:46 PM Flag
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i hate mothers day, i end up unhappy and soooo tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:47 PM Flag
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MIL has a fit every year if we don't get together with her and SIL's family. It is never about me, I end up cooking and doing all the work. Even the year when I had a baby on the Tuesday before mother's day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:48 PM Flag
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Can't you ignore her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:56 PM Flag
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No. She makes it all about her - she will cry to dh and say "Well, I'll just go to your sister's then but I'll be so sad not to spend time with you on mother's day". Honestly I don't care a whit about mother's day, it's just another Sunday, but I wish she wasn't so manipulative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:58 PM Flag
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There's no way in hell I (or my DH) would tolerate this. Wth? I would call my mom out and then hang up if she tried this transparent emotional manipulation with me. Does your DH always cave to this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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You are truly a doormat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:00 AM Flag
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We were always just us. DH is very good about putting our nuclear family first for holidays -- I'm just learning from UB that many wives aren't in the same happy boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:53 PM Flag
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Well, yes. It's about her too--unless dh was birthed in a petri dish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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Neither. We send our mothers flowers and don't do anything ourselves because I don't care about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:01 AM Flag
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We send her flowers and a nice note every year. She seems satisfied. Very low drama MIL is awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:05 AM Flag
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Usually just me but we live blissfully far from family. We go out on Saturday and DH cooks on Sunday. MIL has invited herself once or twice but she's a bit too much of a teetotaler to enjoy our brunches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:08 AM Flag
[ - ] picked up some fresh fish for dh and i tonight. how should i make it?? usually make them breaded so kids will eat but to hell w them. they're having butternut squash ravioli and green beans. prefer to make the fish for the grown ups (though something easy pls!) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:33 PM Flag
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I always make mine very simply. Sprinkle with salt, pepper, garlic powder and paprika. In a pan with olive oil and a little butter. A few minutes on each side and add some lemon juice. If you have fresh parsley or capers you can add as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:36 PM Flag
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What kind of fish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:36 PM Flag
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sea bass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:39 PM Flag
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cover with a light crust of mayo/mustard blend with herbs, bake until just done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:48 PM Flag
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Curry powder or crushed pistachios [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:24 AM Flag
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STOP EATING FISH PLANET KILLER [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:44 PM Flag
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Ina Garten always has some good ideas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:46 PM Flag
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"To Hell with them." Lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.02.16, 11:49 PM Flag
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En papillote. Green beans, cherry tomatoes, lemon, dill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 12:09 AM Flag
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DH & me, you idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.03.16, 01:53 AM Flag
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