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[ - ] Any word from colonoscopy mom? Did she survive the ordeal? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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:-) She ghosted us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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lol lol I'm sure she'll be back [ Reply | More ]
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She’s too weak to post. She’s regaining her strength and may be able to update us next week. Hugs and prayers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:28 AM Flag
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You would be my friend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 05:34 AM Flag
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Too traumatized to tell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 06:38 AM Flag
[ - ] This will be the first year we cannot go on any vacations at all, there is zero disposable income. How do we break it to kids that there will be many school break staycations and the summer will be a long boring stretch of doing nothing and going nowhere, we cannot even afford camp. We used to have money, fell on hard times, trying to rebound, but building it up would take time. If any of you had gone through tough financial times after living better and affording a few nice things, how do you make it less traumatic for your kids? 77 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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This is a spit-out-coffee-worth post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Don't be a jerk OR. It is harder to adjust quality of living down, especially if trying to explain the change to kids. OP I say try to find fun local things to do that can fill the staycation time and keep the kids having fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:52 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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My first though on OP was get a grip, lady. But I guess it’s all relative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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I grew up never going on vacation and rarely camp unless there was as scholarship. My parents were not particularly financially responsible. No extras, no college fund. We went through long periods without health insurance. We always rented and we moved a lot. But they loved me very much and were overall good parents, just young and clueless. The upside to this is that every experience I had when I moved out on my own felt like a luxury. Hard to explain but I just feel like the only way to go was up. Doesn't matter if what I have today is not a ton, it's so much more than what I'm used to, and for that I am grateful. My point is that it will be good for your kids to go without the extras. I believe it will make them grateful, content adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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This. Well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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ILY. So my childhood. DH and I have been very fortunate for the last 20 years, even if we do not live an opulent life. Our DCs are great, but I do worry they are a little soft. OP, GL - try to pick out family experiences. Our kids are 15 and 16. Yes, they like trips, etc, but I sometimes think they most enjoy our simple Sunday brunch at home. DH makes it and we tell stories, gently tease each other, and laugh. DD, who spends a lot of times with her buddies, also likes us to play board games. Come up with some rituals. This is an opportunity to make great memories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:12 AM Flag
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Do you work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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No, which is one of the issues, but there are others. I am working on it and our financial issues are not just my fault, there were some mistakes done by DH that actually cost us more. We are doing everything we can to make it easier on the kids. We are not relocating and moving schools (it's a public school), we have all the basics covered, kids have good food, clothing, toys, and healthcare and some extracurriculars. We just had to drastically cut the costs on anything non essential, like travel, eating out, buying new things or upgrading things that need upgrade. Kids are noticing that they cannot have a lot of things they used to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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But this isn’t a bad thing. The key is to teach resiliency. The important thing is that they know they didn’t do something wrong and this is part of life. You won’t always be successful but if you try and keep your head up something will pull through. Have them watch Shark Tank repeats all summer and come up with some age-appropriate ideas to make money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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they will be fine. they have a home, food, school and healthcare. they are very fortunate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:44 PM Flag
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They are fortunate, but they’re young and lack perspective. I can understand OP’s concerns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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Where are you? If in or near NYC, there are tons of free things to do in the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:53 PM Flag
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Yes, we are fortunate about it and I will definitely explore more this year than ever before. I have some blogs and facebook posts from other moms doing lots of staycations and exciting free or inexpensive things with kids. We are also fortunate to have inexpensive access to NYC beaches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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Late elementary age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:04 PM Flag
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and are they asking when the next vacation is? my kids are same age and they would never ask or question whether or not we were going on vacation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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They are sort of asking, we used to have several trips during the year, we went to amusement parks too. We had nice bday parties, which we can no longer afford. They know things are different. They were asking for example if we will be going to our usual summer beach house rental to reconnect with some of their friends, they used to love the trip. I had to say it's not going to be happening. We also won't be visiting family overseas like we do each summer. They will miss it, so I have to figure out how to make their new summer more exciting especially given that many of their local friends will be out of town :( And also the spring break, they've been asking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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really? we go away every spring break but my kids have never once asked about it in advance or expected it. they would be fine w staying put. your kids will be fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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Yeah, same here. My kids have traveled a lot, but aside from the odd request to go to a specific place, they aren't checking in to see whether I've booked the next vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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totally. they will ask to go somewhere simple like local amusement park but never ask when the next vacation is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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I have to agree. 9 or 10 year olds (late elementary) kids generally aren't clocking what your vacation sked is. After all, kids are only sentient at around age 6 or 7. My kids wouldn't care if we did an overnight at the holiday inn in Flushing v a carribean vacay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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totally [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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And it doesn’t occur to you that other kids are different? My kids at that age are very well aware of vacation plans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:58 AM Flag
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Kids will be fine. They have the rest of their lives to travel. You can go to the beach using the subway. Books, fun projects, there’s the public pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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totally. no need to "break it to the kids" just plan fun free activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? Responses have to be age appropriate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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Older elementary, both are outgrowing local playgrounds unfortunately, and my oldest is going to MS next school year, so new environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:05 PM Flag
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are you in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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NP: yes, she stated above that she has "inexpensive access to NYC beaches." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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Reframe. Don't project your attitude on your kids. Try "this is different, and here's what new!" instead of "this is going to be boring and sucky" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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Good advice, thanks! I feel like that's what I've been doing a lot, I need to start talking more about positive things of not traveling/eating out/camp, etc. Draw it in a positive light for the kids and make them look forward to it instead of making them feel like things are taken away. I'll try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Definitely do this but kids are not stupid. They will be bummed anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:27 AM Flag
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The thing that will make it less traumatic for them is if you stop acting like it’s the end of the world and just get on with your lives. If they ask, tell them you are saving money this year and will do fun things locally. Millions of children don’t travel during school breaks and are not traumatized by it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Yep, I agree, I think I need to change attitude, it's my own disappointment that's showing, but kids should be more resilient. I need to figure out the ways to make it sound exciting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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you don't need to present this in any way to your kids. it is a non issue. get crafty. explore the city. go to museums. take a ferry somewhere. go hiking . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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zero need to make it sound exciting. Enjoy spending quality time together and maybe teach them all how to budget at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:32 PM Flag
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totally this--present it as an opportunity to explore your city together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:36 AM Flag
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THIS. You don't need to disaster prep or try and make it fun for them, just say it like it is. "We aren't doing that this year, we're saving money." An older elementary child should be able to understand the concept of saving money. If they are traumatized by having to save money then look at the silver lining here - you've caught this early and can take some positive steps to raise children who aren't entitled. No kid should be telling you they are owed trips, camps, or anything like that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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I like your take on it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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You should find volunteer opportunities for them. No reason for them to be traumatized over having to save money. They are the luckiest children in the world and they need to see that with their own eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:30 AM Flag
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The thing that will make it less traumatic for them is if you stop acting like it’s the end of the world and just get on with your lives. If they ask, tell them you are saving money this year and will do fun things locally. Millions of children don’t travel during school breaks and are not traumatized by it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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this. we have the money to travel but cant because of work schedules so rarely go away. kids are certainly not traumatized [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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Thank you, interesting perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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It's not interesting. It's how a lot of us live and it just is. It's not a perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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exactly! not a perspective. just realty [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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I think it is the keeping up with the jonses mentality that OP is having a hard time dealing w. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Yes, that's pretty obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Not really, we really truly enjoy traveling. DH and I had been all over the world, it's what we love to do, we lived for it. When kids came along we wanted to share the experiences with them, we have family overseas as well, so they had been traveling quite a bit more than other kids. We didn't do luxury vacations or exotic travel that looks good on FB/Instagram, we usually would choose budget places, interesting places, stay with friends/family, look for travel deals, etc. We also had points for some nicer hotel travel that we used up. We were never rich/umc or tried to impress others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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Sorry, but your responses all sound super cliche. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:20 PM Flag
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yeah but if you don't travel for a few years, everyone will be FINE!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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Start a Mom's Summer Camp. There are tons of free stuff to do - library programs, parks, hikes, free museums, etc. Use your creativity and stop whining. Your kids will be fine if you act as if you're fine. Enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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this. my kids are in the city all summer long because DH and I both work all summer long. they are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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They are not in camp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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just a few weeks of camp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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There are some free camps available to middleschoolers, though I am not sure if they are for kids entering 6th. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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Don't be over dramatic. When I was a kid I wasn't cognizant that we were or weren't going on a vacation. Some years we did. Some times we just stayed home and explored the city. Not bad either way. You can go to the beach in NYC, go to zoos etc. I wouldn't dwell or worry little kids with money woes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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this. I never thought that way as a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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Wtf. This is not going to be “ traumatic” for your kids unless you make it that way. Calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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NP -- There is absolutely no reason to have a sit-down and explain it to them. Just go on with your life. It i what it is. If they ask if the family is going away for the December break, just say, "No, we're not." Nothing to explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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Do you have savings? how could this be such a drastic change from year to the next? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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Savings to wiped out at least temporarily, DH made some investment and it will be a while when we see it back. It's not all lost, just not available. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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I would assume it is lost, honestly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:57 PM Flag
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DH invested all your money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:17 AM Flag
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If you’re in the city, make it a challenge to find all sorts of great free or low cost things to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:37 PM Flag
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Why shield them from reality? We don't have the money this year...that's all you have to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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OP: I don't know exactly where you live, but I'm in Chicago which has millions of tourists a year. You most likely live in a place which is somewhat similar...there's lots to do where you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:09 AM Flag
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Go camping! Go to Lake Tiorati or Bear Mountain! Go to Ellis Island! Rockefeller Center! Free day at all the museums and zoos! Tons of low cost getaways and outings in and around NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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Great camping in NYState--Caroga Park in the Adirondacks, there's also fantastic campground near Rochester with little waterfalls and cabins and lots for kids (forgetting the name) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:39 AM Flag
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Good luck, and sending you a virtual hug. It will all be good at the end. Love is most important, the other extras are just a bonus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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My kids are in private schools, second and sixth grade and they don’t aska bout vacations, yours may be used to having them, but honesty “we can’t afford them now” and instead we are going to do x or y for fun, they will be fine. You are thinking about it more than they wil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:21 AM Flag
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Np- I hear you op. Also won’t be taking the one week of vacation I take with kids all year due to finances. These responses here are very helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:03 AM Flag
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I think your money worries are causing you to make a bigger deal than it is. We have money but rarely go away during the spring break because of work schedules, almost the entire school is away and it’s not a big deal. I plan a couple of fun things, the zoo, a kids play, play dates with kids who are around and no one asks anything or cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:07 AM Flag
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You will need to tell them the truth. Don't sugar coat it. We have given our children all of the things you mention above but somehow have managed to throw in that money doesn't grow on trees, and if you want extras (toys generally) you must pay yourself. They know vacations cost money. If your children are strong minded they won't be traumatized over this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:19 AM Flag
[ - ] I want a new job. Am making less that I could doing pretty much anything else in my current position (academic). Have been applying but am newly pregnant. Not planning on a significant maternity leave. Should I stop applying or keep on? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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IMHO, looking for a new job while PG is not a good idea. It's better to suck it up, have your kid at your old job, take a maternity leave and then start looking. If you get a new job now, even if they cannot guess you are PG, you won't qualify for maternity benefits. You also are likely to annoy your boss/colleagues with having to train you for months only to not be able to rely on you after you give birth and need time off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:48 PM Flag
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op: Thanks. yes, that's pretty much what I thought. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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keep on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Keep on. And gl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:23 AM Flag
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If you're an academic, you don't want to miss job market season, which comes just once per year. But you're unlikely to get hired, bc academia stinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you feel self conscious during sex if you had a visible hemorrhoid? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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Maybe when I was younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:42 PM Flag
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WTF kind of question is this? Is your sex partner staring at your asshole? How about... don't show him/her your asshole! Problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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not you again. NO ONE LOOKS CLOSELY AT YOUR BUTTHOLE. Or at least very few. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Push it back in. Practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 01:21 AM Flag
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With my DH, nope. He’s probably got one himself. As a matter of fact he mentioned something something possible hemorrhoid. I still have great sex with him. Now if I was young, single, dating and having crazy awesome sex with new partners then maybe I would be more self conscious about having one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 03:40 AM Flag
[ - ] How are your DC's college applications going? How many planning to apply? How many completed so far? Are you freaked out that DC can't finish all? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:34 PM Flag
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As a self response: My DS has 14 applications planned. So far only 3 done. 4 more ready to go. 2 are almost ready but still needs some work. 6 nothing done for the supplemental questions. I'm freaked out that he won't be able to finish or do a poor job for the remaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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^^5 nothing done not 6, my mistake. makes total of 14. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:38 PM Flag
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Cool. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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1 ED and 2 EA submitted. Should hear soon. If not ED accept, likely to do ED2 at another school and submit 3 others if the EA's are rejects, but a couple safeties in there so should be ok...I think 14 is too many. Our school max is 12 and most submit 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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op: among 14, 2 of them don't ask for supplemental essays. most of them have up to 2 supplemental essays. only 2 or 3 have more than 2 supplemental essays. DS is done with one of the most demanding application. Reamining are mostly repetitive, just has to make it customized to the school except for 2 of the applications. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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Don't they usually release decisions for ED or EA by mid-December? Are you expecting to receive decisions earlier than that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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5 applications submitted. 2 more will be submitted this weekend. In at one. Waiting for mid December to see if in at one of favorites. If yes, two more apps. If no 4 more apps. Not freaking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:21 PM Flag
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nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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You have to start early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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when did your DC start? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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Finished common app essay by second week of school. Then started with hardest early app. First app was due oct 15. Then we just started submitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:55 PM Flag
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is oct 15 deadline for stanford? REA with arts portfolio? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:34 PM Flag
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No. Well maybe, I don’t know. It’s UNC early action deadline [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:48 PM Flag
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Try to enjoy this time, it goes so fast. Seems like yesterday this was a major worry of mine, and now he's a freshman in college 3000 miles away! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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where are you? where is your DS? which college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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Brooklyn, ds is at UCLA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:47 PM Flag
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nice! I'm in bay area and would love it if DS gets acceptance from UCLA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:54 PM Flag
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I posted above. We are very much trying to enjoy every minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:20 PM Flag
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My DS is too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on here who applied to K in recent years and had a positive outcome at Dalton even if Babby didn’t interview? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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yay! An old style UB question! Here is what people have been saying for the 15 years I've been here: yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:37 PM Flag
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yes!! Odds are lower but I know a few families for sure ! Do you have a connected PSD? Good ol' Babs gives very clear feedback [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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no. She tells everyone they are wonderful and everyone leaves thinking it's a lock [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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interviewed with babby. rejectd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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Rejected, or did you FC another school and therefore not get an acceptance? You pretty much have to FC to get acceptance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:47 AM Flag
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I love a good Babby post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Babby interview, my summer kid got waitlisted “too young” but he could read. I know they mean emotionally too young but geez [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:19 PM Flag
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It’s probably true that Babby interviews people she is leaning toward admitting. However, there will be many within her selected group who choose other schools. Therefore there have to be many families every year who get in without meeting with Babby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:49 AM Flag
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Yes, and also accepted at another TT where we interviewed with an assistant of admissions. We are nobodies, so I wasn't expecting to get Babby anyway. Still got into several TTs and 2Ts, incl FC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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Rare for some really nobody. Look back at your family again. Either you put some hip interesting stuff on paper. It can be anything race, geography, immigration status, financial status or something that may make you stand out. All DC at K admissions behave like any 4 years old. Schools like to fill their checkboxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:50 AM Flag
[ - ] I am at the age when if I get a call at an unusual time, I know something's up. Friend who I never talk to during the day on a weekday because we both have demanding jobs just called. Sure enough, parent died. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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Brother called on a Saturday afternoon when DH and I happened to be at DCs' camp visiting days. Stomach dropped. Told me dad was quickly unraveling and he passed away a day later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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^^ he only calls in an emergency or otherwise he texts dog pics, weather updates, or family logistics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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My sister called 7:30 am when she knew I was on a college visit with ds. Woke us in the hotel. Dad had heart attack. Luckily he survived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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so she shouldn't have called? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:19 AM Flag
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What age? I don't think I'm quite at that age yet, but I feel it starting. Every time my father calls I think someone died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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55 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:18 PM Flag
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I’m not at that age but I always pick up every single call from my brother bc I’m worried/aware that something could be wrong. I don’t have kids so don’t have that fear w anyone else but he’s likely the only person where I pick up every call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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My daughter called me in the middle of the night to tell me that Princess Diana died. I thought someone had died but certainly not someone I didn't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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What? Diana died in 1997. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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this day and age, any actual call is cause for alarm. my parents are in their 80s and they text or email. we see each other weekly, or would call as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 01:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Our hhi is more than 10mm. I’m sending dc to our zoned public k next year. AMA. 73 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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Do you live in Scarsdale or Millburn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:04 PM Flag
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No. D2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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234? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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Did you try applying to private school or skipping the whole thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Dc is in a private ongoing with a nursery program. I think the current school is too progressive for me. Dc has a late fall birthday. So I didn’t apply to any privates this year and don’t plan to next year unless dc is unhappy in his K class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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Late fall? Will be youngest in public k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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That's why she is doing it. Can apply out to other private k's in the fall but harder to do from inside an ongoing pre-k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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The consultant I hired said it would be easier applying out of an ongoing than a public k since the public teachers are not familiar with and are not obligated to fill out the forms. Anyway I really hope I can avoid applying to a private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:40 PM Flag
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np: eh, I know lots of kids that have gone from public elementary to private middle/hs - someone's filling out those forms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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Fair point. The consultant did specify that they are the public k teachers who only know the child for a month or two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:04 PM Flag
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Where are you from? What was your education like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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I’m not from New York. Dh earned all the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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Boy or girl? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:08 PM Flag
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Prefer not to answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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Do you plan to leave the city? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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I do want to for tax reasons but cannot find a town with a good commute and school options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:17 PM Flag
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Do you suffer from any autoimmune diseases? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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Not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Not any I know of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:18 PM Flag
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Thank you. Also, when you have a cold, do prefer regular tissues or those lotion tissues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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Don't clean your glasses with the lotion ones. They get grease all over the lenses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:44 PM Flag
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I know that, but does OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:50 PM Flag
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I guess AMA is the exercise, but there are no responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Just to confirm, your annual haul is 10mm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Dh earns it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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So you're not married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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that's not my question. is your family annual take home $10mm? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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Pre tax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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how does DH earn it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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dh earned it?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:21 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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What was/is the most boring AMA ever? (hint, there's only one correct answer) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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How much do you donate a year and to what category of charities? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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About 1% hhi. Schools, cultural, and disease research. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Fake. Rich people I know (my parents included) donate much more than this, for tax purposes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 03:13 AM Flag
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How much do you donate a year and to what category of charities? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Great - make sure you give a nice donation to your PS and also some of the PS with a less wealthy student body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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THIS THIS THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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I nominate our title 1 school in Brooklyn for your second donation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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And donate to one of the schools with 50% homeless kids!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:45 PM Flag
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So, you don't want to play the game of private K admissions, who cares? Many wealthy people don't want to deal with it for K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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Congratulations? Actually, nevermind... I should be congratulating your DH as he actually makes the $. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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Downtown, right? I will be shocked if you are uptown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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Yes. Downtown. I agree. A lot more private options uptown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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What's the plan for MS/HS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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It's a moot point, she will last two years in public at most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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Not really. I am hoping we will be moving out of New York area entirely be then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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np: our family is similar. both kids stayed in the public system (one in college now, one in HS). No desire to leave NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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This is not a unique story - there are plenty of families like this, ours inluded though slightly lower HHI but not by much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:05 PM Flag
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Are you happy with your choice? I’m not sure about mine. Would be a pain to switch to private later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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I think for elementary it's great - there are so many excellent D2 elementary schools. As for middle and high school I'm not sure. Our first will be applying to MS next year and we plan to apply to both public and private and see what shakes out with the potential changes to MS (and inevitably HS) admissions. Everyone says "don't worry about it they're all good schools in D2" for MS but I'm not totally buying it. I'm tempted to put them in private from 6th on to avoid the whole process. That being said, I do believe that many of the public middle and high schools are just as good if not better than some of the privates we'd be looking at (we're not going uptown). Anyway, long winded way of saying yes, I'm happy with our choice for elementary but I'm also happy that we have the ability to pay for private in MS/HS if we choose to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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^^sorry I was referring to the potential changes to *public MS next year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:21 PM Flag
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Glad to hear that. Thank you. For elementary, my priorities are proximity to home, student body, teachers. I prefer my zoned public for those reasons. For ms/hs, I guess I’ll be more willing to put dc on a bus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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I wanted to stay close to home too and I had no idea how important this would end up being, to us at least. We really do feel like we're part of a community - everyone's in the area and it's easy to meet up with school friends either casually at the playground after school or to have a playdate. We bump into people all the time just walking around and the there's a lot of local sports, it almost feels like they're our school teams (soccer, baseball, softball etc.) - it's been wonderful for this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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Thanks. It’s very good to hear. Sounds like you are in TriBeCa or battery park city. I don’t know if there is a lot of local sports team in my area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:43 PM Flag
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I’m not but same idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Hmm, many of our zoned publics in Chicago have more bells and whistles than the privates. The parent population pumps hundreds of thousands of dollars into these schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:17 PM Flag
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I'm betting it is a public school only technically and full of UMC kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:22 PM Flag
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"technically"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:52 PM Flag
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There is no great diversity....it is all UMC kids and their parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:06 AM Flag
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How much do you give to charity, which ones and what is your volunteer schedule like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:40 PM Flag
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Charities see above. About 1%. I don’t volunteer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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Your DH makes the money and you don't do any volunteering? Are you on any boards? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:15 PM Flag
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No. I’m not social. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:18 PM Flag
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1%? You should be ashamed. 10% minimum, with 5% additional for each million above $5M [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:59 PM Flag
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Says who [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:53 AM Flag
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No. I’m not ashamed. And I don’t plan to increase my donations. But I’m glad that you are doing this. It’s very generous of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:57 AM Flag
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np- who are you to decide this? She can do whatever she wants. 1% seems fine to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:13 AM Flag
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Are you at C&C? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:10 AM Flag
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she created the post bc she is in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:15 AM Flag
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It's not a massively interesting AMA. If you are zoned for 6, 41, or 40 - no reason to send kid to private. Regardless of cost. MAYBE if you got into TT and you wanted to go that route. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 04:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I am a breast radiologist. My colleague (a radiologist as well but not for breast) just burst into an exam room where I was explaining to a patient the need for her to have biopsies of two masses that may be breast cancer. The technologist who was with me tried to tell her to wait since we have a patient in the room. She said, "I just need to tell you--the images you tried to send me haven't gone through." She does this all the time, even when a technologist is doing a transvaginal ultrasound. She knocks as she barges in regardless of how the technologist replies. I am irritated and flabbergasted. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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Who is her supervisor? She needs to be taken aside for a serious sit down. She then needs to be put on some sort of performance plan where if this continues to happen, she will be terminated. This is insane behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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She used to own the practice so she has a lot of clout. I am pushing back on this issue. It makes for an abominable patient experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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np: I'm with you. I absolutely detest when people are walking in and out and interrupting when I'm in a medical office. Makes me feel like a piece of meat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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I tried to show her how to use instant messaging to contact the technologists, but she is resistant to learning. There is also a phone in every room. I don't have a question here--just venting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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Can you lock the door? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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No locks on exam room doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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Put one of those little hook and eye locks on the door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Ok, this is so incredibly unprofessional. Can you create some sort of laminated sign that says 'KNOCK before entering.' and tack it up every time you go in? If not, I would honestly, put a chair just in front of the door so that each time she does it, she'll hit the door first and you can stop her. I would also mention that clients have been complaining. What on earth is her problem?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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np -- Looks like she IS knocking before entering. That's the problem. She knocks. Then enters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:11 PM Flag
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Oops, so she's knocking and then just bursting in - then that defeats the knock. She needs to cut the shit. If door is closed to a patient exam room, do not enter without being told to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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I have been walked in on as a patient and I never went back to that place. You could mention it to her boss as a monetary concern - she will lose you clients if this continues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:10 PM Flag
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Step 1: Tell her she absolutely must not do that. Sit her down in your office. Step 2: If she still does it, even once, hang a sign on the exam-room door that says DR. JANE DOE, DO NOT ENTER THIS ROOM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. Step 3: If she still does it, put a little hook-and-eye lock on the interior of the door to use just when she is in the office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:19 PM Flag
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^^^The sign on the door has to have her name on it. It won't work if it's just a generic sign. She thinks the rules don't apply to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Talk to the supervisor to address the issue. Honestly, at your profession I would assume you would know how to address the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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I'd talk to her directly. This is not a corporation. You are equals. You are both doctors. Just talk to her very firmly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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OP here. This is the complication: when she sold the practice, one stipulation was that her son be hired in business operations. Her son is my boss. I will ask him to intervene, but this is an exceedingly complicated situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:46 PM Flag
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sounds like a potentially toxic place. see if you can resolve the issue by talking to her directly. if things don't get better, start looking for another place. meanwhile, apologize to the patient on behalf of the other Dr which sucks but very professional on your part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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OK, so this woman has no boundaries. This is second example of this. And it will get worse. More things will happen. I think you need to look for a new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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Even her son wants to keep patients and revenue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 01:12 AM Flag
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Your poor patient, getting terrifying news and this lunatic barges in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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What did she say when you gave her this feedback? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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I am a gynecologist and sometime have similar situation. I don’t answer any question to the person who barges in my room. I pause my conversation with my pt for a min then tell them to wait outside I will be right with them. For eg instead of talking about films she didn’t receive just give her one fix reply every time “ I am busy, I will be with you in a min. Can you please wait outside ?” Then make them wait, don’t cut short your discussion/ conversation with your patient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:41 AM Flag
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+1 I would apologize to the patient before responding to her - "I'm so sorry, apparently Dr Doe didn't realize we were in the middle of an appointment," and then say, "Jane, if you'll step outside, I'll be with you when I'm finished here." She needs to be taken down a peg and your patients have the right to know you put them first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:55 AM Flag
[ - ] My Kinder DC got a 2 on the report card for writing. Are they really expecting 5 year olds to write??? I am in no rush to get her to read and write but this makes me feel like I might be too lax. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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Yes, they will be required to write a full paragraph by the end of the year. It's early still, s/he has time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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Don’t worry about it. Pretend you never saw it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Isn't a 2 the same as "approaching standards". I would think that's just about right for 1Q. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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yes. Mine would have to write a paragraph on how they spent their weekend, and they drew a picture above it. Dont question the standards and get defensive. The teacher is telling you that your kid needs practice and support. Maybe more reading at bedtime, practice writing the alphavet. ask the teacher how you can help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you wear camisoles/tank tops under your tshirts, sweaters, regular shirts etc? Is this like the panty liner debate where some prefer to breathe and some say the additional layer protects your clothing and keeps you fresh? If yes, can you recommend a great daily camisole? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:20 PM Flag
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only under sweater in winter when I am freezing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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oh, I have a few from lands end [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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out of curiosity, do you wear sweaters multiple times or wash after each wear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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definately a few times. they cant handle water. and cashmere I dry clean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:30 PM Flag
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No, unless it's a see-through top or sweater. The only place I'm not "fresh" is my underarms, which a cami or tank doesn't help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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same it's my underarms but my mom would always tell me to wear a camisole bc then I could wear my sweaters more than once and I'd be stinking up the camisole vs the sweater [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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So wear a thin tshirt. Uniqlo probably has deep neck cut tshirts for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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This. Camisoles are useless unless it's something see through. What I like is to wear a regular tshirt under sweaters, not an undershirt. This way when I am hot in the sweater, I can take if off and stay in a tshirt, layers are more convenient. Tshirts protect your sweaters from deodorant staining and armpit smells. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:05 PM Flag
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same here, or in the winter sometimes i wear a silk tank undershirt for the extra warmth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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I often do because it's warmer. I like Hanro but also have some Gap camisoles that are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:27 PM Flag
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I wear a camisole under almost everything, but I do wear a lot of sheer tops and itchy sweaters that need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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I refuse but because I have a weird hangup. My mom made me wear them in the 70s under my clothes in the winter and it make me feel super dumb and out of place. Intellectually, I see the purpose but can't wear them ever again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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OMG - undershirts. I HATED them. I never associated them with camis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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James Perse. Or Gap for more affordable option [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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I don't wear, but uniqlo. (I do wear their heat-tech shirts under sweaters, button-up shirts for extra warmth when needed.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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I only wear one if I need more coverage not for “freshness” reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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No, never. But I also think that camisoles are adorable on small chested women and I'm not one of those unfortunately. It'd just be another layer for me and would make me look even bulkier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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I always wear a tank top under my clothes. It's bc I think it hides my stomach fat a little bit better to have an extra layer. My favorites were from Victoria's Secret but they don't sell clothes anymore, so now I just get them from Target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Nordstrom has great stretchy ones that are their brand. In lingerie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:56 PM Flag
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do you mean the free press ones? I have some of these but they’re a material that is really stretchy which I like but also not very breathable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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I never wear a sweater without a think shirt underneath. Just feels better to me and if I need to take it off (office is h-o-t!) then I can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:52 PM Flag
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Want kind of shirt do you wear under a crew neck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:05 AM Flag
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Yes! Used to wear American Apparel boy beaters, now wear Splendid - a bit looser and very soft. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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Hanro are the best [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 12:44 AM Flag
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Almost always between Nov-Apr. I like the cozy feeling of an under layer, esp around my waist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Product discussion please -- specifically facial moisturizer, eye cream and a body cream. Please tell me a product you have used and actually seen RESULTS! I am so sick of buying stuff and not seeing results. I don't even care how much it costs at this point...I will pay anything to see results! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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What kind of results are we talking? I think it's mostly personal preference and that sunscreen and Retin-A are really what matter and the rest pays dividends in terms of feeling good but likely not "measurable"results [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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I use Kiehls Creme de Corps body butter (not lotion) in the winter and mix it with a spray or two of L'Occitane almond oil--I love the smells and the kiehls is really moisturizing without being sticky. People swear by CeraVe and Amlactin--my brother has dry skin and eczema and uses these but I've never liked the way they absorb into my skin and prefer my choices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:24 PM Flag
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for facial moisturizer again I think it's all about the SPF. I use La Roche Posay lotions and sunscreen and Shiseido day cream (mostly bc I love how it feels and it's not sticky and lasts a long time) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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That's for anti-aging general advice. However, OP may have other skin problems that could be purely individual and require different products. She could have very dry or dehydrated skin or she could have breakouts and oily skin, different approaches are needed apart from retin A and sunscreen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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The only product I've ever used that has produced (temporary) results is Phytomer Resubstance face moisturizer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:37 PM Flag
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For face and eyes I use Shiseido. For body I use Sebamed. I have very sensitive skin, prone to itching from anything slightly too chemical. I love both brands and use them with no issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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What are you concerns that you are trying to address. There are different products targeting different issues. Generally for anti-aging, Retin A is still a gold standard, prescription tretinoin is better as you can control the dose, you can get it from your derm or even through online subscription services. I haven't had much luck with vitamin C serums that some say is another gold standard, so cannot recommend anything. Use a thick moisturizer of your choice that works for you, everyone is different, some break out from products that work well for others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:35 PM Flag
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I have tried so many anti aging products over the years. These are the ones that work for me: Ponds Rejuveness for face (google it and read the reviews vs LaMer) + ROC crème for neck. Also Cerave for face wash. I also use Retin-A. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:49 PM Flag
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I started using Vitamin C serum in July and my friend recently asked me if I got botox! It has literally smoothed so many wrinkles away! It was expensive serum ($85) but completely worth it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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I use a very gentle cleaner and a sensitive skin moisturizer from neutragena. I drink a ton of water as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Can you say the brand of the serum? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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Yes, as soon as I get home! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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I just use neutrogena face lotion spf 15 daily moisturizer. Then for body usually Lubriderm. It may plump up the fine lines but nothing solves deeper ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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The vitamin C serum filled my 11 on my forehead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:27 PM Flag
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I used to use Neutrogena at college;at 48 yo I don't like its quality for my face. I'm the poster above using Shisedo and Sebamed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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I'll give those a try. I'm OK with Neutrogena but feeling bored too I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:52 PM Flag
[ - ] College financial aid mom here if anyone has questions. If you have HS seniors and are seeking FA, you should be filling out FAFSA and CSS now. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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Eh. Can you show me first come first served financial aid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:26 PM Flag
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General Topics 11.21.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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This mom gives advice based on premise Aid is first come first served. It isn’t. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it’s ‘worth it’ to sell clothes you no longer/have never worn? For example, I have a Rag and Bone too that I paid $295 for it and it still has the tags on but I’ll probably be able to sell it for max $60 and then subtract a 20% fee. Although if I sell ten items like that I’ll have $480 but it’s a tough pill to swallow when fraction of original cost. Thoughts? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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$480 is more than zero. if you for sure won't wear them, why keep them around? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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So this! If time is not an issue, why not snap some photos and put it up on ebay, you can do buy it now option or put a price on auction and wait till they sell. If money is not an object for you and time is money, then just donate them like others suggested. The only thing that's stupid is sitting around moping how you spent so much money on overpriced brands and how nobody cares to give it back to you. Lesson learned: don't buy expensive brands new, buy used if you must have them, or buy less expensive items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:39 PM Flag
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It's not worth my time, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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The $295 is gone, and was gone the day your purchased the item. This is now selling. Two different things. If you want money, sell it. If you don't, keep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:09 PM Flag
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Or donate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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all true—i know this is the sunk cost fallacy and have read about the irrational economic choices we all make but then in practice i get caught up in it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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I'm the same way. My eldest (of 2) child just turned 10. I estimated that I've probably spent upwards of $10K over the years on throwing kids birthday parties. At least you can get $50 back from your folly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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lol that’s a good way to look at it but your kids have probably reaped at least $50 a year in gifts for yours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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I donate the items and take the tax write-off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:50 PM Flag
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I had so many things that were cluttering up my closet that I couldn't part with because they were a designer I liked, or I had spent a lot of money, or I was hoping to fit back into them....I finally got motivated to have someone from The Real Real come and I am so happy that I did. You will never get back the original cost so I would say sell them and get something you like and will use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Clothes are not assets, they depreciate precipitously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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this is an excellent description [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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It'd be worth it to me b/c I have not a lot of $$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been to a family friendly resort in Florida with a kids club that they would recommend? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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Vero Beach resort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Club Med Sandpiper. We were very skeptical (assumed food would be mediocre, our kids would hate the kids' club, etc) but desperate for a getaway so we gave it a try. It was one of the best vacations we've ever had. Kids loved the kids' club, staff was amazing, food was very good and dh and I actually got to relax and reconnect. Absolutely stress and pressure free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 03:05 AM Flag
[ - ] When to start tutoring for SHSAT? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:33 PM Flag
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We started the SHSAT class in September of 8th grade, but had to sign up in spring of 7th because the classes fill up far in advance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:42 PM Flag
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What's the best class? Thru the school or private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:43 PM Flag
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OR: We were very happy with GRF test prep. DD got into her 1st choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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GRF has a spring and fall and then a fall only. do you think fall only is enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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For us fall only was fine. Depends on the kid, and I guess on how important this is to you (we had a good Plan B so it didn't feel life or death) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 02:35 AM Flag
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we did grf for 8 classes summer before 8th grade. wont know results till march. Heard some kids started prepping in the spring. My DC was getting mid/high 500's on practice tests, another parent said their child was low/mid 500's after 4 months of prep. varies soooo much by kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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and fyi - stuy cut off is mid 500's and Brookly tech was about 500 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:31 PM Flag
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Who gave DC the practice test? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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Right after state test prep in 7th grade. Private tutor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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We started the spring before in May. Took a break in the summer and picked up again late August. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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At birth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Donated gift ideas for 14-18 year olds - our daycare is doing a gift drive for xmas and they're asking for gifts for older kids who are often overlooked in those drives. what do kids that age like? Any good ideas in the $25-50 range? Thanks! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:23 PM Flag
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Books; games; boxes (to keep stuff in); chargers; etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:26 PM Flag
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Backpack, winter accessories [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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makeup, hoodies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:31 PM Flag
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Every year, I pick up a bunch of Subway, Barnes & Noble, Itunes, Gap gift cards for older kids and include them in our toy donation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:32 PM Flag
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OP- that's a nice idea for sure! Like the other ideas too. Thank you all. Keep them coming! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:36 PM Flag
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Gift cards for local food establishments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Game Stop or Amazon gift cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:39 PM Flag
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This is so nice! Definitely agree on the gift cards. Also phone chargers especially portable power bank kind. Makeup organizer, winter accessories like a fun hat/gloves/scarf. Wireless mini speakers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:47 PM Flag
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I have heard that gift cards often get used by the adults in the family. If that is okay with you, great, but if you’d rather the present go to the child, it’s better to buy an actual present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 06:53 PM Flag
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headphones [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:14 PM Flag
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This. My teen DCs are constantly breaking theirs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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hooodie sweatshirt in size large or xl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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Buy some cheap kindle fires on Black Friday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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Nice clothing. Gift cards to footlocker. Shaving stuff for guys. Shower gels for young ladies. Earrings for ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.21.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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I have kids that age. Boys; hoodies (Nike, Under Armor, college sports teams,) athletic socks, weighted jump rope. Girls: Starbucks or DD gift card, scrunchies, inexpensive "gold" necklaces (you can get at Pac Sun), fleece pullover, cute socks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.22.19, 03:12 AM Flag
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