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[ - ] List of planned riots and places after the ferguson verdict. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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sieg heil, Racist Mom! You look great in your brown shirt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Fuck you. People need to know to avoid these areas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Who are you to decide what people should do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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And ...Fuck you, alarmist bigot. Go back to watching Fox News. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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and sitting there nursing your hatred [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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No justice, no peace. [ Reply | More ]
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Riot and response are not the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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What do you think it means?? Are you that stupid and your head in the sand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Riots in Duluth in December? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Yeah, right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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What's with the Fuck yous and the insults? You sound crazy and paranoid. It you are correct, there are better ways to convince people. You sound as impulsive as the rioters you are afraid of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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so many ad people, angry people glued to their TVs fueling their fear and misanthropy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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^sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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is this another practice run like the Boston Marathon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] good baby girl gift, besides monogrammed blanket? Want to spend about $200 (my sister) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The last thing any mom needs is more blankets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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This. Nice high chair? Food delivery once a week? Good quality umbrella stroller? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Books. Anything special your sister loved as a child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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something useful from the registry- baby monitor, high chair, car seat. she will appreciate this way more than a baby blanket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your favorite perfume? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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I don't wear it because I don't want to smell like an old lady, but my favorite is Amarige by Givenchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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I have a bottle of that, but agree it smells old lady-ish. Also takes me back to the early 90s. One I love that I need to buy (had a sample sent to me) is Eau Duelle from Diptyque. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Exactly about the early 90s too. I can't believe I ran around all of my college years smelling like grandma! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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lol. I wore Giorgio in high school. How old lady is that??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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lol WHY were we doing this?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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You aren't very knowledgeable to say that all perfume "smells like an old lady." That said, your perfume of choice does indeed smell like an old lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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My sentence could have been constructed better. I happily wear Jo Malone fragrance, although deep in my heart I love Amarige more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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I don't think that's what she meant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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chanel coco mademoiselle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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It depends on the season; it depends on my mood. I own hundreds of bottles. Today I am wearing Ambre Precieux. Tonight I'll wear something different. I hit my perfume closet twice a day--morning and night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I read tha5 UVA administrators are holding a "Take back the party" demonstration. I think it would be great for sororities to be given the right to "Take back the party," too. Why the inequality? Why are fraternities in sole control of party life at UVA? This inequality exacerbates the problem of their rape culture. Also, the frinking age should be lowered so students can go off campus and learn to drink more responsibly. The level of drunkenness on campuses has increased since the drinking age was raised. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Just get rid of the Greek thing. It is more trouble than it is worth. Learn how to make real friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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It's a liability issue. Almost all sorority houses have cheap insurance because they are "dry" houses. The minute they got to host parties, their insurance would skyrocket. And also, no sorority in their right minds wants to host a party at their house. Sororities all throw parties called formals or invitations. They are hosted offsite or at clubs and are invitation only. Sorority parties get out of control as well but they aren't the bastion of rape. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Women have a hard time raping men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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That wasn't my point. Sorority parties have the same amount of boozes and consumption. The difference is that the sorority controls the booze flow. There are fewer opportunities to slip in date rape drugs, fewer opportunities to separate a girl from her friends when she gets drunk. There aren't any "quiet places" to explore. The control lies in the hands of the women, not the men. That is not saying that women don't get raped after the party but it makes it much, much harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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What the fuck would you do with a passed out guy? Ride is soft penis? There is no motivation to drug a guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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OP. Thank you for making my point about why sororities should have on-campus parties. Take control and power away from the frats, or at least equalize it. Rape is a crime of power and control. Let's help by taking away the power and control over social life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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OR: I think the answer is to make all fraternities "dry" houses and no guests upstairs. Most sororities don't let male guests spent the night. That rule gets broken all the time but it serves a good purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Yes, if sorors are dry then so are the frats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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Can you imagine, "If you want to join KD, you have to trick a guy, hold him fown, and shove a bottle in his butt." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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I actually think these kind of things happen. (Not by women but by other members of the fraternity). This will be the last veil to be pierced. Rape isn't about the sex. It's about the violence and power and frats thrive on that crap regardless of gender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Yes, I think you're right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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Just want to clarify that was not UVA administrators, that was faculty. The administration is nowhere near together enough to do something like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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administration is all about damage control, reputation-cheerleading, minimizing lawsuit exposure and job protection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Yes, faculty, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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and OPs point is right on. What happens is gils end up as guests in the party house, right away an inequality of power right there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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and the drinking problem is the main problem IMHO. UVA really just accepts it, maybe they are being realistic, and attempt harm reduction, but the frats and most housing is off campus and private property. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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It's not the drinking. 95% of us drank in college in mixed settings and it was fine and will continue to be fine. It's about 5% of predators that use the drinking as a mask to enable their bad behavior. It's also about the rest of us having funny ideas about sex and it getting in the way of recognizing right from wrong. The biggest ally against rape is OTHER MEN. OTHER MEN know what is shady and what isn't and if they would be willing to step up and intervene when anything looked out of sorts...99& of these problems would be alleviated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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look up Jason Katz on Ted talks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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yes but anyone under the influence is going to be prone to doing dumb things, especially college aged kids. Alcohol makes it worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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There are the predators, but added to them are other guys who follow out of fear or pack mentality. For example, the bottle rapist in Jackie's story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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They won't step up because the predators are popular alphas and they know they won't win. They're afraid of social suicide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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Guests, and oftem supplicants, from the sound of it. Girls have to be pretty, innocent, and fairly drunk to be allowed in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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yes they are children, late adolescence is high risk taking and also very subject to peer influence. First years are a few short months away from being coddled children in their parents' homes. They are being thrown to the wolves. They need some supervision and protection. We have abandoned them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Mercy, there are some bitter ex wives hete. Ladies! Stop being a prisoner to your past. Move on! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Enjoy your cheater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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I have a different theory. These are women where nothing truly "bad" has happened to them in life. This is their "unfair", "injustice" thing. They can't move on because they don't understand that sh(({(*t happens in life and sometimes it's unfair. They expect that some sort of karma or justice or something is going to be served and when that doesn't happen, they sit and stew and make themselves miserable. Learning that life just sucks sometimes is a painful, hard lesson that I don't wish on anyone but it's part of growing up and living in the world that 85% of us live in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I need to study for exam but my mind wonders....UGH 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Does it wonder or wander? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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wander. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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practice recalling the information. It will keep you more engaged and it is better for studying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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Does that happen a lot, or is something up today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Renting and the fridge and stove don't work as they should. Items I put at the back of the fridge freeze and the oven seems to burn things before they are cooked through. Should I complain about this to landlord? Would they replace items? They are cheap. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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No. Just tough it out. [ Reply | More ]
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Does the fridge have a setting for how cold it gets? A dial you can turn inside the fridge? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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I would say something. Or at least intend to say something for ages while I get increasingly angry about it but forget until something freezes/doesn't cook properly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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Sounds like the stove needs the thermostat checked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Your rights depend on what type of lease you have. Are you the primary tenant, and is the unit rent stabilized or controlled, or is it another type of arrangement? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] 16y/o dd has never had a crush that I know of, shows no interest in boys (or girls for that matter). Normal ? Just a late bloomer? When I was that age, my friends and I could think of nothing else. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Did you talk about it with your mom, I sure didn't. [ Reply | More ]
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x2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Maybe she's just private? I don't think my mom knew about any of mine [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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My mother definitely knew nothing about my crushes or love life until I got married at 39. I am a very private person. [ Reply | More ]
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Op; that could be but she talks to me about mostly everything else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Lady, do you really think she is going to tell you about who she made out with recently? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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I was very quiet about my crushes. Didn't have boyfriend until college. All worked out. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought this about my 14 yo old son. Turns out he doesn't like to talk about stuff until it's way in the past. Recently mentioned he'd already kissed not one, but three girls, last year. Mum about anything going on at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] How will the ferguson verdict disrupt black Friday shopping and holiday travel? Predictions? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Zero. Americans will carry on as normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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I think the fear of getting beaten or shot my stop some people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Do you know anyone who is afraid of this happening outside of ferguson? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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Do you know there are riots planned in all cities. I has a list of them. [ Reply | More ]
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Ooooh. A list! [ Reply | More ]
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It's a list of places and dates dumbass [ Reply | More ]
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So there is a secret society planning riots in all the cities. You sound unhinged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Ha! Nothing would disturb 'mericans for shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Not even Ebola [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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It won't matter how low the prices are on 50" hdtvs if they are looting them, anyway. Thugs. [ Reply | More ]
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"they" [ Reply | More ]
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probably won't affect anything outside of st. louis [ Reply | More ]
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These people are foaming at the mouth to start acting a fool as soon as that verdict comes down. [ Reply | More ]
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Tanks are moving into that town [ Reply | More ]
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"these" people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Yes these people acting like fools in the streets. Terrorizing that town [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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They are going to put the decision out near the holiday when nobody cares about news. Smart move. Probably also watching STL weather and waiting for cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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No that will make it worse and I think that is what they want [ Reply | More ]
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Who is the "they" who wants the worse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Those people are terrorists. [ Reply | More ]
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The media is inflaming this. I doubt a verdict either way will change shopping habits. [ Reply | More ]
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why the preparation ahead of the verdict? has this been done before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] thoughts on a juvenile delinquent who is the son of 2 disabled adults who figured out how to do white collar crime at a young age, say 13? would we call this child a troublemaker or a gifted child gone wrong? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Impossible to judge based on so little. [ Reply | More ]
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gifted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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Why the need to label? [ Reply | More ]
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Who is he somehow "gifted"? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: white collar crime not for dummies seems to be her theory. But then again, he got caught. [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on his race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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It's a slow Sunday. I'll play along if you give more details. Age of kid. Type of disability. Crime. Cultural info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Not enough details. I was a juvenile delinquent, actually counterfeited money and passed it successfully. I was very smart, bored and had parents that didn't keep a close eye on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Need ideas on what to get my 75 year old father for xmas - seems to have more clothiers and golf and tennis gear than he needs. Completely blanking. Thnx 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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Down coat, good books, nice bottle of scotch, wine, bourbon, gc for his favorite restaurant, framed photos of the grandkids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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DO you have kids that believe in Santa? This will sound crazy, but the best 60 I ever spent for the man who has everything is a santa suit. He LOVES getting dressed up as Santa, and the kids are still small enough to not put two and two together that Santa and Grandpa are never in the room at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
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np: That's cute. Your dad sounds cool. No way on earth would my dad be into it, but I appreciate fun dads. [ Reply | More ]
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It is cute! He's weird as hell in other ways, but he really really loves this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Harlem moms (with cockle shell ornamented dreadlocks, dated Prada glasses, and head scarves) - the rape allegations by white women against Bill Cosby are totally made up. Lisa Bonnet DID NOT leave the Cosby Show because of Bill's inappropriate advances, and NBC DID NOT give her the spinoff show "A Different World" to keep her quiet. How can we fight back against this injustice? It's like the OJ Simpson trial all over again . . . 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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You think it's the same as a man who murdered two innocent people and wasn't convicted of that crime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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He seems to be a serial rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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They are cowrie shells, moron. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
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Cockle shells are snail shells. [ Reply | More ]
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Curious to know how you know they are made up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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Sorry, but what do Harlem moms with cockle (sic) shell dreads have to do with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Black mom here. He is 100% guilty. Both black and white women have come forward. These allegations are not new. They have been floating around for years. Doesn't matter his race. There are rapist of every color. Rapist need opportunity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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And power. He had a lot of power. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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you are not. Liar troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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np. Why are you calling her a liar troll? Do you assume that bc she is black she will automatically believe BC is innocent? If so, who is the racist here? [ Reply | More ]
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OR: The only troll is the OP. Black women don't group think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I have 4 boys, and went through a pretty long period of gender disappointment with my last db. He is 4 mos old now, and thought I pretty much snapped out of it but everyone, and I mean EVERYONE I know who either had a baby or is pregnant has a girl. I find myself sulking again, and need to snap out of it, but am finding it more difficult not with close friends and family having pink celebrations. Need to snap out of it. I know in my heart of hearts a healthy baby is in my arms and I should shut up. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Oh, I love my boys! A girl would have been nice but I simply dont' have a daughter. Also, my siblings only have boys so not even a niece to buy pink, girly stuff. However, I feel very blessed to have my goofy, sometimes smelly, but adoring of their mama, boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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That's very sweet. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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I have four boys and wouldn't have it any other way. It's so cool to have this little team. I obviously would have loved to have a girl too. But it's fun to have a house of boys where I'm the only "girl". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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Thanks for sharing. I genetally feel this way, as I'm usually a goofball myself and my boys love rough housing, but I think being tired and then realizing that everyone is having a girl around me just brought me back into that dark place. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not sure how to help you with this. I see that you're looking at all the people that have what you wanted. Have you thought of looking at people who wish they had what you did? I have a girlfriend who is 41. She's amazing, very pretty, but the marriage thing never worked out for her. Lots of commitment phobes. She'd kill to have even just a husband. Does that help or not really at all? Also, have you considered talking to a therapist about this...just for like 3 sessions. I find they always give you some good angles on approaching problems you hadn't necessarily thought of before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Appreciate the post. I talk to my Dh about it, and he's been great letting me air out my monsters and helping me realize I'm truly loved by my boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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Also, do you have a very close friend who also has the 'all same gender' issue? My single 41 year old friend has another girlfriend like her and I know that when they want to just snark out and kind of hate on their married friends, they do it together. Blows off steam, they don't really mean it, but just like that another person 'gets' them. If you have a friend in your similar predicament, maybe it'd be good to grab a bottle or two of wine and get all your jealousy talk out of the way, then go back to loving and supporting your friends? :) Hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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Awww sorry. This is why I stopped at 2 boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Np. I have two boys and want a girl so badly but afraid I'll be disappointed with another boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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OP. Three of my friends had 2 boys and their third was a girl. But I will say even with my third I didn't have GD, just my last one and not sure why. It wasn't like we were trying for a girl, he was a surprise. Seeing the boys play together really is something special. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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^ everyone I know has either all girls or a mix too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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Gender disappointment is very common and of course it goes both ways. I'm sure many men (in particular) are jealous when they see your pack of boys. When you feel it coming on, I'd take 10 minutes to wallow in your disappointment and then get up and enjoy your family! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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You are completely right! I know it too, just some days are harder than others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Ok, I've thought of an upside. With 4 boys, one of them is bound to marry a woman you love. I have an only DS. If he marries a B who hates me, I am SCREWED. :) Hee hee. I'm practicing up on not going into her closet to wear her clothes right now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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This is hilarious! I just told a friend of mine that I'm hoping my worst case scenario is a DIL I love and 3 I can tolerate. Haha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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GIRLS are way more difficult to raise than boys. I have twin girls they are 13 years old. After them I never wanted another baby. They have always been dramatic and emotional. They get "catty" and jealous. There is always some sort of drama occurring between them and particular girls at school. I envy you for having a house full of mommy's boys who will always adore you and not argue with you about what they're allowed to wear or sarcastically compliment your sweat pants on the weekends. You never have to worry about having the don't be a slut talk with your boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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I know those preteen years can be challenging! But let me just say I fight with my boys about wardrobe all the time. They already want to style their hair and the oldest 3 are 6,4, and 2. Just think of when your girls are in their 20's and 30's and how much fun being with mom can be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Yeah, but with boys its more of "You can't wear shorts today bc it is 30 degrees and snowing". Not, "Go put on a skirt that covers your ass." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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LOL!! Very true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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If your financial means allow for it, maybe you can try once more for a girl. Hope is not yet lost. If not surely one of those boys will give you a granddaughter someday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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We made permanent arrangements so this could not happen, nor would I have the patience for it to happen! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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You'll get granddaughters! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Haha, hopefully! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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You are queen of your house. You get to be the person that teaches them about women. They don't have a sister to confide in about "girl stuff" so they will probably come to you. No bratty little sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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This is something I tune into all the time. Very important for me that I raise strong men who respect and cherish the women in their lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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I "only" have 2 boys but also felt a little disappointment this time, not sure if this will be my last baby or if we will have one more. And I hate feeling like this because my older son is amazing and it took us a long time with many mc to have our second son (who is 6 weeks). But everyone I know has a girl. Either just had their second girl, had a girl or is pregnant with a girl after 1, 2 3 or 4 boys or is one and done after girl #1. One friend had 2 girls and she and her husband were dying for a boy and just found out #3 is a boy. Made me happy to see people celebrating a boy for once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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It is pretty insane how much emotion is wasted (and I use that term endearingly) on gender. I know ultimately it has no bearing on happiness. Just the "what if" of the whole thing.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I wish the girls schools moms would quit their arguing and exaggerating, including the moms from dd's school. It's embarrassing. Stop. It's possible to post your positive thoughts without dragging other schools down. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.23.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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This is just about admissions anxieties. Nothing real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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But this seems to be coming from mothers of daughters who currently attend these schools. No one is doing their schools any favors by posting here and acting like such sad stereotypes of women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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NO, i think those who are navigating this process are weighing in about what's TT and what's not. I have a daughter at Spence. We didnt get into NBS. But it doesnt matter. I attribute nothing to it. These anxieties seem to rear their heads each year as admissions season deepens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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That's even more weird to me. Why the strident allegiance to a school that hasn't even accepted you? I'm talking about the posts that tout one school to the detriment of others, not the posters asking questions. Or the person saying Brearley is for special needs. Who are these people and why do they spend their time like this?!? I can't imagine my mother wrapping up so much of her time and self-worth into my SCHOOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Agree. Never understood why Marymount and Nightingale mothers insist on comparing their schools to Brearley, Spence or Chapin. Very odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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and that's a perfect example of bitchy. My daughter's at spence and my niece is at NBS and they're equivalent. equally tough homework and great college placements [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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But how can that be - Spence placed THREE TIMES as many students into Ivies, HYPMS and Top 25 schools and had a much higher percentage of NMS students. Btw, homework is what happens outside the school. You should look at what happens inside the school. Night and day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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It's not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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np--This probably means there's a wider range of students at NBS. Any one student might have similar college acceptances from either school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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AH, right a wider range. Got it. You good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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What's odd are Chapin or Brearley moms (the relentless SPAMMERS) who try to associate their schools with HM or Trinity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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+1! signed T mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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no what's odd is when a chapin, nightingale or spence mom lists her school with brearley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Says Brearley mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Nightingale spin is in full force today. It's rather comical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Takes one to know one Brearley mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Yes it does. Signed Brearley mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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Nah, it was pretty obvious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone actually buy the "amazing" mascara that all of your old high school friends are selling on FB? and if so, is it good? Tired of my usual stuff and want to try something new. TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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I don't know anyone on FB who's flogging mascara, but if I did, I wouldn't buy it. I never buy any direct sales stuff. Buy one thing and you're targeted forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Yes. I can't think of the name of it but it's in a black case that looks like an eyeglass case and is a 3 step process? If that's the same one I love it. It makes my lashes super long. Just checked it's call Younique. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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get a proper job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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Not one person I went to HS with tries to sell me mascara on FB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Bought a 13 pound turkey yesterday, will it be ok in the fridge until thanksgiving or do I have to freeze it and defrost later 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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Is there no date on it? Five days seems like a long time to keep a turkey in the fridge, but getting it frozen solid would take a few days and thawing another few. I guess I'd throw it in the freezer today to be safe then take it out and put in fridge on Tuesday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a ds via sperm donor. He is 8 mo and I am just so paranoid something is wrong with him. I have no reason to believe that, he is off the charts big for height and weight, hit all milestones and has even started taking a few steps on his own! He is perfectly healthy according to pediatrician. I know this is just my anxiety talking. But I am so scared the donor has hidden health conditions that were not disclosed, like autism or something. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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Stop. Enjoy your baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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I would imagine that many of us had those fleeting thoughts, even if no sperm donor. Agree with poster above. Enjoy your baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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Agree with above - I stress about every milestone. It's part of being a mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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Even if you had a baby with a DH, you still wouldn't know everything about his health history. Honestly, I feel like donors are screened for way more stuff than regular conceptions are. Do you struggle with your choice to become an SMC? I wonder if that's somehow behind this over-worry. I'm an SMC and am very comfortable with my decision. But I have a friend who still judges herself very harshly for choosing this route and she runs into a lot of negative self thought about it routinely. She eventually went to talk to someone about it and it helped a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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I have step, adopted, bio kids. Every one is a leap of faith. Nobody escapes this. Enjoy your baby ..as someone else said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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I worry about my DS too. Males are … more likely to have issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] My almost 2-year-old watches a lot of TV. He loves it, pays attention to it, talks about what's going on, and has learned a lot from it. (The other day, he heard a banjo playing and kept saying, "That's a banjo" which he learned from The Notekins or something.) He seems pretty bright - talks a lot -- uses sentences up to 8 or 9 words, counts reliably to 10 and sometimes to 20, recognizes most letters and numbers, and is generally pretty well-behaved and laid back. Should I worry about how much TV he watches? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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not as long as he gets plenty of exercise/playground time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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Why is he watching tv instead of playing outside??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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you are so incredibly boring. ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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you're so that type who lives to scold. she never said he doesn't play outside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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He plays outside a couple of times a day, but I have things to do -- can't just hang out playing outside all day long. I WAH and there's a lot involving in taking care of a household of five. I'm not a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:22 PM Flag
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^^involved [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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Even if he is getting good stuff from it, the research really does say to limit. I would not allow more than 30 minutes a day. There seems to be a link to later ADHD (not surer research is definitive). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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I've read that, which is why I worry. I'd love to be one of those Waldorf/Montessori moms but he's #3 and while I turn off the TV when he's with me, when my mom or DH has him, it's on -- and I do turn it on if I have to work while he's awake or not with my mom. And sometimes I think this is just the direction our society is going (multimedia) and our brains will adapt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:24 PM Flag
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Not saying this to be mean, because I get how hard it is and we all do what we gotta do, but you're rationalizing to yourself. If our brains are going to adapt, it ain't gonna happen in one generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I play soccer with a local meet-up group, have for about 2 years. I hang out socially (drinks after a game, weekend hike) with 6-7 of these people. At the beginning of the week, I texted them saying I was going to be cooking lots of non-thanksgiving food this weekend, and inviting them over to come hang out and eat Sunday at 4 and to text me for address (though a few know where I live, since they have walked me home after a game). I have heard nothing from anyone. WWYD? I don't even know whether I should cook and prepare? Assume no one is coming? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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You should have reached out a little earlier to check in. I would write them all now and say it is cancelled as you have not received responses from anyone, but that you would still be open to ordering in if they want to hang out after practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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OK. I am on west coast so still early morning but I guess I can do that. Feels weird canceling but you are probably right. Normally this is a pretty responsive group of people, not sure what happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Just sent out a mass email: wondering if anyone is planning on coming over. If you are please send a quick response so I know how much to cook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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np: Good idea, but I would ask them to let me know either way. What happened to manners? This kind of thing seems to happen all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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OP and yes, better than the above suggestion. I have never had this happen and am kind of taken aback. Maybe because I sent a group text they assumed I was inviting tons of people open house style and so it didn't matter if they responded? I don't know. I invited 5 and not a peep from anyone about it, though I got texts from one of them about something else a few days ago. I don't quite get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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PS - and don't take it personally (the lack of interest, not the lack of RSVP) people might be getting ready to head out of town etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Yeah, it sounds like they thought you were making a bunch of food for a big group of people anyway and whether or not they showed was no big deal. Definitely send another email asking whether or not they're coming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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I will but I do feel weird following up. I have never had to do that before it is seems weirdly desperate to me. Yes I am overthinking this :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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This. Sounds pissy to say I'm canceling due to lack of responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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Bring a big tupperware of food to your next game, dump it ceremoniously on the field, and walk away in a huff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.23.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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