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[ - ] My ds goes to a top public school. Got a call from the English teacher this morning -- "Adam has not turned in any homework this month." That's because his name is not Adam, it's Adrian! Literally cannot believe this. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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Are you saying that they confused two students, or that it was your ds who didn't turn in his homework but the teacher got the name wrong? [ Reply | More ]
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She goes through the homework and checks off the names on her list. she had his name down as Adam so "Adam" got no check marks this month! Lol [ Reply | More ]
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What? It's almost April. What happened last month and the month before? [ Reply | More ]
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I have no idea, he got a b plus in the class for fall term [ Reply | More ]
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do you think she graded him incorrectly. ds has one teacher who kept calling him by the wrong name too. [ Reply | More ]
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I am not sure, in retrospect maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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sigh. feel your pain too. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh wow! I misunderstood your op but yes, this is crazy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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Oh come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:18 PM Flag
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Come on what? She admitted the mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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Maybe she called the wrong number! [ Reply | More ]
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No, she admitted she had the name wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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I am going to help you look on the bright side of this. 1. The teacher, who probably has 35 x 6 classes or over 200 students, bothered to call the parents of a high schooler to let them know. 2. Your son now has the opportunity to go to teacher and explain that she has his name wrong and fix it. The sad part is that politicians keep telling us that we should expect much more from teachers who have almost 200 students whose homework they need to track each day, but that class size is irrelevant. Meanwhile, their rich donors, whose bidding they follow, send their kids who private schools where each teacher has less than half that many students to oversee. [ Reply | More ]
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Excellent point. [ Reply | More ]
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I had a friend whose son got the wrong report card. For a kid with the same last name, but completely different academic track record. Then got put into remedial math for the three months is took for the school to realize they were confusing the two kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Omg lmao [ Reply | More ]
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WTF! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do any parents out there worry about their dcs not getting a job after college? Or they are on their own after college? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I worry but they are allowed to stay home and save money as long as they need. They will also start working PT as soon as allowed [ Reply | More ]
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Mom of 4 here, oldest is 32. Yes, I stressed about this because my two older kids dragged their feet. Neither had a job immediately after graduation. 32 yo is now a doctor and 29 yo is at a TT law school. I definitely had to push them at first (and worked some connections), but they finally got it together. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you work connections to get your kid to become a doctor? [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't work connections so much for that dc, but I did for my 29 yo. He was happy to work at the Gap folding jeans after graduation. I got him a "real" job through a friend to light a fire under his ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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Ah, thanks. That confused me for a second. Ha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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I worry a little. Their problem, not mine, but I care about them, so I worry. They can stay in my home, but they have to work. I don't care if it is waiting tables, until they find what they want to do. I wouldn't charge them rent, but would insist they save so they have a down payment or security deposit when they are going to move out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
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Same here. Good plan. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have a piano teacher they could recommend my DD on the UWS between 100 and 115 roughly. We have one for DD now but logistics will be difficult after the summer when she starts a new school for middle school. I would also consider piano teachers who come to the house. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:44 PM Flag
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Bloomingdale School of music is there. We like ours, but she is strict. If that is okay with you, I can send you her number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:01 PM Flag
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That would be nice. Include her first name too. Does she strictly do classic, or is she willing to allow some modern pieces that the kid picks (think Maroon 5, Taylor swift and similar)? [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, no, she would not even let dd play a Beatles tune! lol. I would try Bloomingdale. People love them and they are on 108th or 109th, so right in your zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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If you want someone to come to your house, call Hey Joe Guitar. They send us a piano teacher and we love her. Name is Franca. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone been to devachan for a haircut? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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awful [ Reply | More ]
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
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I love devachan [ Reply | More ]
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Do they cut your hair dry? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
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Np how does that work? Can you elaborate please [ Reply | More ]
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Dd goes to them - she has very curly hair. It's fine. She hates her hair no matter who cuts it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are the signs that a colleague relationship is crossing the line? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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They start trying to be secretive [ Reply | More ]
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He has his penis in your hoo ha. [ Reply | More ]
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You can say penis but not vagina? [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
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I have a colleague who emails me all the time during the week via Facebook about a variety of career issues. It feels fine mostly but now and then, it's odd that it is so habitual. [ Reply | More ]
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you are naked. [ Reply | More ]
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You trip him and you're underneath before he hits the ground. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] ekk I fwded an email to someone by mistake. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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outlook as a recall button [ Reply | More ]
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doesn't really work and actually just manages to draw attention to what you sent. [ Reply | More ]
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OP can contact CIT in her dept and tell the guy to delete it off the server directly [ Reply | More ]
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sometimes that works....if the IT guy likes you. otherwise it backfires. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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well you'd definitely have to be friends with him. let's hope OP has one :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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agreed. just come clean, OP. [ Reply | More ]
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I've done this two or three times in my life and each time it felt like death. And resulted in wrecked relationships. Hope yours isn't so dramatic. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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WHAT?? Why? I can't imagine that I have any emails that would wreck a relationship if sent to the wrong person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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np: Someone who was supposedly my friend sent someone who disliked her an email dissing me to suck up to that person. That person forwarded me the email. I never spoke to supposed friend again. [ Reply | More ]
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What was the contents? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any UWS camp suggestions for 6/7 year olds during Easter? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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You mean next week? [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. Our trip was canceled. Working. [ Reply | More ]
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Carlos Oliveiras soccer camp in Riverside Park. Columbia University Cubs Camp. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I need a workbag that fits a computer and is fashionable enough to wear daily as well. Suggestions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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I use the Jcrew Downing tote for this although it is a bit of a black hole. But it fits a laptop nicely [ Reply | More ]
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budget? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moving to the burbs. Deciding between Garden City and Manhasset. Does anyone know how these 2 compare? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Garden City is overall better IMO (but not by much). It's more of a community and more of real town (legally it's all one village vs. Manhasset which is a combination of various tiny incorporated villages and some unincorporated areas). [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for the feedback. Helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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+1 Garden City has its own village police, fire dept, recreation department, etc. It's all one unified structure. More town spirit if you care about that. It's also 22K plus people so there is a critical mass. Right in the center of the island. 2 train lines (5 stations). It's a walkable suburb from the central section of the village. Great town pool (Manhasset doesn't have a town pool). More of a normal demographic than Manhasset-- Both are wealthy but Garden City has more of a range of incomes which is a plus IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Manhasset like much of the north shore of nassau also becoming increasingly Asian and may evolve like Great Neck South has over the next 5-10 years. Nothing wrong with that although some people are turned off by increased competitiveness in majority Asian school districts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Didn't know that. Something to consider. We aren't against competition necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
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LI mom here, I do not like GC. Surrounded by the worst neighborhoods in Nassau county. Manhasset is perfect, can't go wrong in that area! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Manhasset has a housing project within its school district. Garden City does not so something else to consider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Garden city is surround by Hempstead. No Bueno [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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There is small section of Hempstead that borders a few blocks of the Southeast part of Garden City. There are $3mm homes just 5 blocks away from there in Garden City. The village has its own police. I know people who live there. It is still safe. That area of Hempstead is also gentrifying. They just built a huge luxury rental on the border in Hempstead with $3K plus per month market rate apts. Nothing to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 people wouldn't be paying $1mm plus to live in that section of Garden City if they didn't feel safe. [ Reply | More ]
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Makes me think they don't really know the area [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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Right because the dozens of $1mm plus comps over the last 5-10 years within a 10 block radius of the Hempstead border are all a fluke -- you know better. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought Urban Baby likes diversity! Isn't that why we all love brooklyn and montclair! LOL!! [ Reply | More ]
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I am Asian and just moved to Manhasset. I predict Manhasset will be majority Asian like most of the north shore in the next 10 years. [ Reply | More ]
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Asian here too, any good nabe w good school district will change. We moved further out in Nassau, many Asian families moving here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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LI Mom above hasn't spent much time in Garden City. The town has a span of about 5 miles across. The far eastern end has a border of Hempstead, but it also has a border of Mineola which is solidly middle/UMC. It also borders Garden City Park, Floral Park, Franklin Square which are all very nice towns. Get your facts straight GC basher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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But she is correct that Manhasset is lovely. You really can't go wrong with either town [ Reply | More ]
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EXACTLY -- not sure why so much hatred in this post between the two. Both are just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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Same thing. Pick the house you like best. Seems like everyone in Garden City has cousins in Manhasset. I grew up in GC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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We have looked extensively. Garden City has stricter zoning and we have found the housing stock nicer in Garden City. Also some great homes in Manhasset-- especially in Munsey Park which has strict zoning we have been told. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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GC has become very traffic filled and I think is being drawn into the urban sprawl of Queens. Manhasset has better shopping and a quicker commute to NYC but again, the traffic on NB seems relentless. GC can also be very insular and closed if you don't already have a connection. Unfortunately, the whole area is becoming kind of ugly and definitely overcrowded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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A Neiman Marcus is opening in Garden City in the next 6-12 months plus you have Bloomingdales, Nordstrom etc all just 5 minutes away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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This is why I could never live there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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Yes, in gross Roosevelt Field. ICK. Who knows what sort of awful people and crimes can happen there. Wouldn't go there ever again. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Because I'm sure Neiman Marcus didn't do any demographic /socioeconomic analysis before choosing to open their store there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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They're trying to break into NYC area. Sorry, my parents and brother still live in GC and it's just not so great anymore. Most people in GC shop at Lord& Taylor. They're not spending a lot and I would bet you anything the merchandise at NM in Roosevelt Field will reflect the socio-economic /demogrpahic. It 'aint gonna be like Bergdorf's! [ Reply | More ]
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LOL...it will be the first Neiman Marcus for poor people who ride the bus because they can't afford a car!! [ Reply | More ]
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Exactly. The ppl are bussed in from all over [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:11 PM Flag
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Exaggerate much. It's all those people who don't own cars and ride the bus shopping at: BOSE, Burberry, Kiehls, lululemon, MontBlanc, Rolex, Sur La Table, Nordstrom, Tourneau, Tumi, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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Given the unified nature of the village -- its all one incorporate village and coterminous with the school district, I would argue Garden City is better equipped to resist the forces "urban sprawl" better than almost any other suburb in Long Island at least within its boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
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typo-- meant it's all one "incorporated village" . This matters because the village can really control who builds what and how they build it to maintain the appropriate look and feel of the village. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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I disagree. Although many people who grew up in GC moved back, it is an incredibly friendly town [ Reply | More ]
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Manhasset will look like Flushing very shortly. All the wealthy Koreans and Chinese from Queens are moving in + wealthy Chinese from China. They are already a near majority or outright majority in the condos in the North Hills area of Manhasset. There is nothing wrong with this other than they can be insular. If you don't fit into this group, I would lean towards Garden City. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks everyone for the thoughts. Need to sign off but this was eye opening!! We'll probably end up going with which house we like better (right now there is one in Garden City estates section that we prefer based on the architectural style and # of bathrooms). [ Reply | More ]
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Garden City because you can walk places. Downtown is cute. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Plandome road is so ugly, although you have AMericana but that's not practical for day to day shopping. [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up in Plandome Manor and live in the estates section of Garden City now with my husband and kids. Garden City is a better place to raise a family. They are both excellent thought. As for other posters. the area by Hempstead is like 5% of the village and there is no real crime there. Our kids have friends in that area and we are totally OK with them playing there on the street, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Please, not flames. I am honestly confused. Can someone explain to me what a full psych evaluation means? Our ds has no problems outside of school with sports/coaches/chess etc., but his school feels he has focus issues and motor control issues. We definitely noticed hand grip issues a few years back and got him OT for that and some regulation, but now we are being told that he needs more. I have to say, the whole way the school has gone about this has been upsetting. They waited until this morning to point out some incidents at school that are definitely not okay, but that happened quite a while back. It's frustrating to know that something happened at school (he lost a project he had been working on, and he yelled in a girl's face--not cool) that was upsetting to another student, but that wasn't mentioned to us until this morning, in a room with 2 teachers and three administrators. I'm trying to focus on the fact that I want the best educational outcome for my child, but the way the school has informed us about this has put me in a defensive crouch. Is a full pysch just a normal screen for a kid who is not performing up to expectations? Is it a New York thing? Is it a boy thing? I'm seriously confused here as every test comes back showing him to be very intelligent, but I do see that is is hasty in his work and can space out easily. I guess I felt like these are things kids grow out of, but convening a round table on him now makes me worried that I've been blind to some serious learning disability. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Long post, but I'm always of the mind that it can't hurt to talk about something. Better to face an unpleasant meeting or situation if it ultimately helps your kid. Denial does not make a problem better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Okay. You are right. And sorry for the long post. Just felt a bit blindsided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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ITA, I'd be flipping my shit. But if there is something going on, you are infinitely better off to address it now right? As my grandmother says "no one ever died from talking about something" - the school is seeing something with DS' behavior, you need to address it as soon as you can. GL, let us know what happens. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds more like you're blind to some serious behavioral issues. [ Reply | More ]
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I would agree with you if his coaches and outside relationships came away saying the same things, but they don't, that's my confusion. [ Reply | More ]
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There are a couple of explanations there. Either he only has issues when facing something he doesn't find fun (like school, as opposed to activities he chose to participate in). Or the coaches are not expert at identifying these types of behaviors. Or they see it and they don't really think it's worth pointing it out to you because you will only be defensive and point out that they are not experts. What's more, they see your dc once a week for an hour and are probably more willing to put up with certain things than a teacher who sees your dc for six hours a day. And they don't really have a stake in seeing these issues resolved as a teacher does. The teachers genuinely care about your dc's long-term success while a soccer coach may or may not. I'm not trying to take sides here or imply your dc has serious neuro and behavioral problems. it may be nothing. But don't use the coaches' response or lack thereof of evidence one way or the other. [ Reply | More ]
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Good points. [ Reply | More ]
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Playing sports and academics are two separate things. My dd is very athletic and is very focused on the field but not so much in school. She was finally diagnosed with ADHD and although she still struggles, she is better behaved and much more focused on her school work. [ Reply | More ]
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Get the evaluation - you'll learn something, perhaps, or perhaps not but no harm in the eval. And you're not required to get services even if recommended...you're in charge, not the school. But work with them, not against them. [ Reply | More ]
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This is really good to know. I wasn't sure if there was some sort of permanent record thing that would follow him around. [ Reply | More ]
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I do know that if you refuse services, and the school disagrees with your choice, they might not give you a contract for next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
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In NYC if they are doing an IEP evaluation they have to do a psych evaluation as well as evaluations for the specific areas in question. The psych evaluation will include an interview with you. It is standard and they tend to be proactive in providing help in the elementary years and not so much later on (by HS it is really hard to keep the IEP). [ Reply | More ]
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Okay. So there is a benefit to this then. [ Reply | More ]
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Take the help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Take the help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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How old? They were giving your DC a chance to improve. He didn't. Get the psych eval. [ Reply | More ]
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Public or private? [ Reply | More ]
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Private. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know much about this, but I feel for you. They should not have ganged up on you like that. our school has done similar things to us. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. I really appreciate all the solid, sensible advice on here. And OR above is right, it won't kill me to talk about something and it could be very informative. [ Reply | More ]
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Privates do that from what I heard. This sort of documentation they are doing indicates a possible counseling out. Get the help he needs, by all means, but as far as the school, if it's TT, you may be going elsewhere soon. [ Reply | More ]
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That's what I asked them this morning. After they talked for awhile, I said, it sounds like you are saying that ds is not a good fit for the school. If that is true, please let me know and I can start making plans. They were all stunned and surprised and rushed to assure me that that wasn't the case, but I can't help but feel you are right. [ Reply | More ]
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This, privates have no reason to have kids who are a behavior problem in the classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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I am confused. The hand issue sounds like a physical issue, but they are talking about a psych evaluation. The yelling in the face is not acceptable of course, but it is easy to see how the frustration of having dropped (and broken?) a project he had ben working on for a long time, could lead to a moment of anger and frustration and lashing out. It sounds like a normal, if wrong, reaction, that easily could be resolved by an apology. I think it sounds like it is a little blown out of proportion, unless there is more going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I'm confused too, but from what people here are saying, a pysch evaluation will look at all aspects, including physical and make recommendations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:53 PM Flag
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May be looking to counsel out. Be prepared. If a teacher told me my kid needed a psych evaluation, would have been done yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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Also - get your own psych. Not someone they are connected with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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+100. And, if you go this route, write on all of the forms "I do not authorize release of any information without specific written permission in each instance." BTDT, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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How do I look for this? Through my insurance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:02 PM Flag
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Nope these aren't insured alas. Cost around $2K. Seek out Sarah Birnbaum for a consult (I think that's her name?) and NYU has a program for these evals but can't remember which dept exactly. GL! [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you a million! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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Ask pediatrician [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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Good advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:12 PM Flag
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Our old private used to schedule "ambushes" like that - they would ask you to come in to discuss DC's organization or something like that, and boom - administrators and the school psychologist would be there. If it was an isolated incident, consider thanking them profusely, and go to your child's ped. You know him better than anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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Did you find a better spot for your dc? Are you happy you moved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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Yes, our zoned public on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Mother who was bent out of shape yesterday because your DC's teacher called you by the wrong name and wanted to meet with you about something in DC's notebook - how did it play out? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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She was a troll. Didn't even bother to respond to comments on her original post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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Oh. I suspected as much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Do they look for gender at 16 week uktrasound 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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If you want them to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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They should be able to tell you via the bloodwork that they draw in your first appointment. That test is 99.9% accurate. I found out the gender of our DB at 12 weeks. Using the ultrasound to determine gender is old school - or so said my nurse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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I don't think everyone has their bloodwork run for those tests that will determine gender early. I got the panorama test that gave me the gender at 12 weeks, but if OP is asking about finding out through ultrasound, presumably she did not get the test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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You can ask them to, but they may or may not be able to tell. They checked for me but couldn't tell yet. She was a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:04 PM Flag
[ - ] If this is true, we should all move to mid-west to improve the chance of our kids getting into HYP. See this article "I Saw My Admissions Files Before Yale Destroyed Them" http://www.buzzfeed.com/mollyhensleyclancy/i-saw-my-admissions-files-before-yale-destroyed-them#.jd5yKyWDW 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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How did you not know this? Move to South Dakota and you can more or less choose the Ivy you want to go to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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It's true, and lots of people have been saying as much - about moving to the midwest or North Dakota or somewhere like that - for ages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Problem is, then you have to live there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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This is not new news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Her parents went to princeton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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I was basically a diversity admit at my top ten. At the time they were aggressively recruiting women, and they hadn't ever taken a student from my all-female boarding school. No question I got in because I was the first one who had ever applied and qualified. 1980's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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What college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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One of the ones you'd imagine it to be. Take a guess and you're probably not wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Princeton? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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No, a few girls usually went Ivy every year. One of the techs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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mit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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That would make sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:16 PM Flag
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My cousin lives in Alaska and all 3 of her kids went to HYP. They are average bright, not THAT special. However, they were geographically desirable, especially for an east coast school! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you talk to older relatives who have wacky health care opinions but are TOTALLY serious and very easily offended. Dh's grandma wants to call cps on me because our dd has a cold and I haven't "taken her in to get antibiotics". She is really honestly so worried and keeps stopping by... 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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She sounds nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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His entire family is. They are all doctors and think I'm nokd because I didn't schedule an elective c-section and I breastfed... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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^ oh and I didn't have a baby nurse or nanny. So now I have a reputation for being an irresponsible crunchy mom. They are exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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np. They must be a family of shitty doctors if they think treating a cold with antibiotics makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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It's the older ones who think you need to run to a doctor for anything. Actually the doctors wives, I should say, while the doctors themselves usually keep their mouths shut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I can totally see that. My MIL is this kind of idiot, but in her case it was her father who was a doctor, and she seems to believe that growing up in a doctor's home made her a medical expert by association. What's worse is that a close cousin of hers is a pharmacist and will get MIL any drugs she asks for, which means she often has antibiotics in the house "just in case" and will try to dispense them to whoever's around, including my dcs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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How can the pharmacist do this? Don't they have to account for every pill? It's not like pharmacists can write out prescriptions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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I have no idea what the rules are, but this is what happens, and I've heard similar stories from other people with pharmacist family members. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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What doctor thinks that antibiotics affect a virus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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Stupid ones, or spineless ones who want to placate overwrought patients. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:57 PM Flag
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I hate this. My MIL is similar. You have to repeatedly inform them that you've already consulted with dc's pediatrician (even if you haven't), and that you're following their medical advice. If they still won't let up (or, if she's like my MIL, she takes the stance that dc's ped must be a moron), tell them to call their own physician to get a second opinion on how to treat a cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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you dont tell them at all re illnesses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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You claim that she is on antibiotics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Have DH deal with her. Good grief, what a PITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] April fools ideas anyone? Not for children, but just in general. Thanks! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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I saw one that was sort of funny. Fill office mugs with water, cover them with an index card, flip them over onto a surface as quickly and neatly as you can, then pull the card out. Blot around the cup with a paper towel and wait for someone to come by and pick up the mug. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:20 PM Flag
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o mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Omg. I need to try this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Mean - not a good practical joke for someone who has to run around in wet clothes or get papers ruined. Making people fall for fake stories is much more fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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Oh please. That's not going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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That's awful. Wtf is wrong with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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April Fool's really doesn't appeal to me. I didn't really like that show Punked either. Maybe I'm just a curmudgeon. I just don't find these kinds of pranks funny. Will I be telling kids to get off my lawn next? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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I'm with you. most pranks just seem mean-spirited to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Flatten and cut play-doh into small rectangles. Use an orbit or other gum pack, unwrap gum, replace with play-doh, offer to friends and co-workers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Cut Ex-Lax into small rectangles. Wrap in pretty foil, offer to friends and co-workers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Get empty mayonnaise jar, fill with vanilla pudding, eat in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Buy maternity outfit and a pillow. Smoke in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Oh this might get you killed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:15 PM Flag
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Fill vase or mug with milk and let it just sit in someone's office.....the smell will get them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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If you know any cops, you could ask one to come to your office and fake "arrest" someone. Preferably someone who won't freak out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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A couple of friends wearing white and showing up with a straitjacket can be funny also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for some book suggestions! What are your favorite books of all time? Must read classics? New finds that you thoroughly enjoyed? Please share. Thanks! :) 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Gone with the Wind, Confederacy of Dunces, any David Sedaris book of short stories, To Kill a Mockingbird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Ty. I like Dave Sedaris! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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He's hilarious. I read (or re-read) one of his stories every night before bed. Just puts me in a good mood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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A mix of classics and just personal favorites: Pride and Prejudice, The Left Hand of Darkness, Of Human Bondage, A Soldier of the Great War, East of Eden, Catch 22, Infinite Jest, Jitterbug Perfume, and the Song of Ice and Fire (Game of Thrones) series. [ Reply | More ]
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Just posted below you. Sounds like we have similar taste! I will check out those of your list I haven't read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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np: I just finished East of Eden and loved it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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I also like Murakami - but knew someone else would recommend! I've also been meaning to read Marquez. The book A Soldier of the Great War is by Mark Helprin, and some of his stuff ventures into the magical realism genre, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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100 Years of Solitude (Gabriel Garcia Marquez), The House of the Spirits (Isabel Allende), Catch-22 (Joseph Heller), all of Haruki Murakami's books, all of Joseph Conrad's books, Pride and Prejudice, Les Liaisons Dangereuses. Lighter fare: Agatha Christie, David Sedaris, Liane Moriarty. [ Reply | More ]
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Ty, ty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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DH is reading all of David Mitchell's books - he wrote Cloud Atlas and some others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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NP. I like his books too. Just finished The Bone Clocks. [ Reply | More ]
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nnp Bone Clocks was amazing. [ Reply | More ]
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Haven't heard of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Love David Mitchell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:45 PM Flag
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Love him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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How to Build a Girl, Caitlin Moran. Genius. Also genius: Niall Williams' History of the Rain. Something Happened (Jos Heller) and most of what's mentioned herein. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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Love 100 Years of Solitude. Others in no particular order or genre (from a list i made for a friend, but doesn't include some things I found ineresting or thought provoking, even if I didn't like them that much) - The Uncommon Reader, Corelli's Mandolin, The Red Tent, Middlesex, Time and Again, Still Alice, Memoirs of a Geisha, Looking for Alaska, Someone Knows My Name, Seabiscuit, Loving Frank, A Prayer for Owen Meany, On the Road, Interpreter of Maladies, The Blind Side, Nicholas & Alexandra, The Color of Water, Breaking Night, Great Fortune, Wonder, We Need to Talk About Kevin, The Secret History, Cutting for Stone, The Glass Castle, Story of Edgar Sawtelle, The Girls form Ames [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a major refresh. I am so disgusted with the way I look and feel. Skin looks terrible. Body is awful. I have cellulite on my stomach. I have no motivation to work out and I have a closet full of really nice clothes I can no longer wear. Stomach is hugely bloated all the time and even my hands are starting to look old. Help me pull it together in the long and short term. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Plus one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Short term- buy a flattering dress, get a facial, eyebrow shape/tint if you need it, professional makeup application, blowout, get the Nike training club app and start doing a workout every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Thanks. Can you recommend good place for a facial? Something more hard core than just a face massage? [ Reply | More ]
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I can't, I'm in LA, sorry. Ask if they do extraction when you make your appt. Maybe a chemical peel or laser treatment? I love glycolic peels and the limelight laser [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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in ny call mzia shiman spa. she is a magician, seriously. (59 and 5th) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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1) Realize that your body is changing (are you late-30s, early 40s?) and you will retain weight in a way that you did not before; 2) short term fixes that boost confidence: haircut/color; 1-2 new flattering pieces (arrange for a personal shopper); facial/new makeup; 3) even if you never needed to before, cut out carbs/sugar (as much as you can, you need to go crazy) and start working out more. Age is a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I am 42 with 3dcs. I eat almost no carbs at all and little sugar. I guess wine is carbs though. I just feel so lazy. I feel like I just sit around and eat too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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What are your eating all day if your aren't ingesting carbs and sugar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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I eat pretty healthy foods. Sliced turkey or salads. Sometimes greek yogurt, veggies, fish etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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NP Go outside and take a brisk walk. That will make you feel better right away. Great nutritionist told me all carbs and wine counts as sugar and to be healthy, you should keep the total of all under 100 g per day. Yes, go do the obvious eyebrows, highlights, by an A-line dress with ( avoid crewcut sheath dresses that are too short), a bit of good brand self tanner. Drink a lot of water, take vitamin and fiber. And just get outside. there's no getting around the fact that you need to make an effort to feel & look good now. ( Sorry, we all have to deal with it and I have felt as you do as well) As the same nutritionist mentioned you can age on a plateau feeling great for a long time and then quickly fall off or you can start a slow and steady decline. Either way you end up in the same place eventually but the ride can be completely different. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! That is really motivating. I am going to walk down the reservoir later today! Also, can you suggest a good A line dress? I am only 5"2 so too short is not usually a problem for me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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And also a good self tanner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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I like Christian Dior" Dior Bronze Auto-Bronzant" for face. you can get it at Sephora. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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Go online to your favorite store and type in A-line dress or go to Bloomingdales 3rd floor. They have a lot of dresses for spring. A split neck is also elongating and flattering. I like the "Sicily" dress from Kate Spade. It's too short for me but if you're 5'2' it may be perfect. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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Sicily comes in blue, pink, black. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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+1 on the self tanner. And now that spring has arrived (in NYC), the sunlight will make you feel better, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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honestly, i'm 44 w/ 2 dc's. i was having similar issues. cut the wine. it's hard, but i promise you, it improved my skin, my belly and my weight. do it!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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^^^down 15 lbs in two months! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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NP: I drink 1 glass a night. If i get rid of that, will it help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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How much did you drink before? I can't imagine that not drinking wine will cause me to lose 15 pounds... (NP) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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1) do a cleanse. it will kick start you. i like blueprint, but anything will do. 2) get a facial and a new haircut at a great place. 3) start adding exercise in your life, even if it's walking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids grew up with some friends in town whose parents were a really cute couple, one of those perfect couples. I ran into the mom like 2 years ago randomly (our kids are teens now) and she was complaining about how her DH was being such a dick, holding up the divorce just to spite her. I couldn't believe they had actually split up, but she said "You have no idea what it was like." Now I'm seeing him on FB with his new fiancee and it's all full of them taking pictures of their romantic dinners, their ski trips with all their blended kids, his "will you be my valentine" at the top of the mountain and his proposal. Damn people. Slow this shit down, you're freaking me out. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Was the fiancee an OW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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That I don't know. We didn't get to talking about it, and I didn't run into her again. I guess he was the one who got the house in town, though - not sure how that came about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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I feel like this happens a lot - ex-DH races into new relationship and is so OTT about it on social media. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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I have also seen this a few times. I always wonder if they know how it actually comes across to other people, many of whom know the former spouse. It seems like they are either oblivious at best, or want to twist the knife at worst, and it sometimes makes me question what I might be missing about their character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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or: ITA. It's strange - I've seen it a few times too, and it's ALWAYS the ex-DH. [ Reply | More ]
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I think they do it out of spite but also rush in because they don't take the time to focus on their part in the demise of their relationship.. instead of taking time to change and grow, they rush into a band aid relationship, usually with another psychologically damaged person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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I think that's because the husband has usually been hectored and shit on for so many years that he's so thrilled to be out that relationship that he loses his mind a little bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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OP. not to presume anything, but I guess in this case he was the one trying to actually delay the divorce, at least at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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Oh boy. I doubt that. The beginning of a relationship is the easy part, he'll back into another mess in a few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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Gross. Pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
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