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[ - ] My very creative, intelligent, orthodox Jewish niece who lives a luxurious life thanks to her father, got married and I need to get her a gift. Since she already has everything, I would like to get her something a little more unique. I know that her wedding ring has some kind of octopus design in it. What if I got her a gift with a octopus motif? I saw a metal octopus coat hook and other things like octopus dish towels. Should I get a bunch of different octopus things or is that overdoing it? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:34 PM Flag
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I want to be your niece [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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Nice in theory, but I wouldn’t do it. Do they have a honeymoon registry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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In a situation like that, maybe getting her an experience would work well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:02 PM Flag
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like what? Swim with the octopi? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:25 AM Flag
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*and I want to give her a gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:24 PM Flag
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So, one day when I was about 12 years old, my mother saw a little clown figurine at a yard sale and bought it. By the time I graduated from high school, she had been given so many clown-themed gifts, and felt so obligated to keep them, that she had to buy a display cabinet. Freshman year of college, she finally asked me to hint to people that she doesn't want any more clowns - she had never liked clowns in general and had just thought that one little figure was cute. Before you start everyone on octopus-themed gifts, ask her why her ring has an octopus motif. It could be a one-off inside joke between her and her husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:27 PM Flag
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#clownclutteristheworst [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:36 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:43 PM Flag
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rofl!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:44 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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Funny. We had a beloved relative die last year who collected elephants her whole life. On the one hand, it was nice that we each took one from her house after she died as a keepsake, but on the other hand, there were probably 50 other elephants that got thrown out. You cant take it with you! Give the kid money!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:45 PM Flag
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I can see that, ha ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:07 AM Flag
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This happened with my mother and cows! Our house was overrun with cows. She finally put her foot down “NO MORE COWS!” and got rid of everything except like one piece of framed art for the kitchen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:17 AM Flag
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Is there something particular in her life that made her choose such an unusual ring? Maybe there’s something related but not quite so literal you could get. Does she like to entertain? A silver tray with an octopus and other sea life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:06 PM Flag
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Good idea but I'd say don't do the octopus theme on anything related with food, as it's not kosher. It's not forbidden, of course, to use it as decoration, but as a past orthodox Jew myself I know it's off-putting for people who keep kosher to see a non-kosher animal on a tray/plate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:13 PM Flag
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Make a donation to a charity of your choice, in her honor. That’s what I do with rich people who have everything. They in turn do this for our events because it’s a tax write-off from their trust funds. Voila. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone 40’s and older who considers themselves in better physical shape than in your 20’s? Kind of amazed how sedentary I was and the volume of crap I consumed. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:23 PM Flag
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I have the opposite- used to work out, had an adorable body in my 20s but now in my late 30s have a sedentary lifestyle, DCs, worries and anxieties about everything. Ah, to be 20 again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:40 PM Flag
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39 and slimmer than I was at 18- worked out twice a week then and now. But now I live in NYC and walk everywhere. As a teen, I ate junk, drank beer and drive a car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:07 PM Flag
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My figure is worse, but I could kick my 20 year old ass fitness wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:19 PM Flag
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this is me also [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:19 PM Flag
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Yes. I've always been skinny but in my 20s never bothered to exercise. Not I am actually fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:47 PM Flag
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Oh god no. I had the body of a goddess at twenty, played two college sports and could run for days. Now i can’t see my vagina under my tummy. I can barely see my feet, my breasts are concave and trying to rest on my belly button and I have two chins and a chin hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Repeating my question regarding the impact on FA of transferring a 529 from GP's to a parent. From the student income POV, if it comes from GP's account before the 1st of Jan of the sophomore year, it increases the student's income and decreases FA eligibility. But transferring in my name increases our assets and so also decreases FA eligibility. What factor is more important, student's income or parents' assets, assuming we have "average" assets and income (if such a thing even exists LOL). 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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Did you watch the thread you wrote with the school financial aid person who posted? Student's income is counted at a vastly higher % than parental assets in a 529. If you watched that thread, look at the example numbers she gave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:50 PM Flag
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I felt like you did not really pay attention to them at the time, and focused on the words "decreases FA eligibility" but didn't process the numbers she gave. Look at the numbers again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:51 PM Flag
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OP: with all due respect, I think you may be oversimplifying this dilemma. Yes, the % for the student's income is much higher but first of all, that impact can be minimized by delaying the use of GP's 529 funds until the second half of the sophomore year. Second, the parent's assets affect every year potential FA is considered, i.e. it will apply to several years while the income impact only applies once, when this income is realized from the distribution. I was looking for a simple advice like "in typical situations, the net FA impact is usually less on ..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:13 PM Flag
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true but the quote you are looking for was said to you almost straight out by what the FA mom said. And she gave numbers. Did you watch that thread? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:33 PM Flag
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I think your considerations should be: 1) Do you/will you have enough money in 529 now as parents to pay for first 1.5 yrs of college? 2) What is the likelihood that your child will receive need based FA that is not loans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:36 PM Flag
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OP: thank you but again, with all due respect, your questions, while relevant in general, are hardly relevant to my particular question of transferring ownership. Regardless of how the first 1.5 y will be paid for and whether DC's will qualify for any non-loan FA, all other things being equal, would the transfer be beneficial 1) almost always 2) almost never or 3) depends. This is not a very simple question and as a financial structured products trader I do pay attentions to details. And yes, I did read the entire thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:49 PM Flag
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From the link I posted below, it looks like you could do something where each year your child is in college, you transfer one year of tuition from the grandparent's 529 to the parent's. You could do that for the first two years and then just pay out of the grandparent's, I guess. It seems like that would be the best way to maximize FA and minimize parental contribution/student contribution expectations for the FA. Perhaps you should speak to someone who does this kind of thing professionally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:53 PM Flag
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OP: thanks so much - that link is perfectly clear, answers all my questions and indeed suggests the optional strategy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:15 PM Flag
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*optimal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:55 PM Flag
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Read the section on parent assets and the section on grandparent assets with the examples: https://www.savingforcollege.com/article/yes-your-529-plan-will-affect-financial-aid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:40 PM Flag
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OP: yep - that's the winner, TVM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh, I wish I could be one of those people who can ignore hunger. How do you do it? I can't stand being hungry and I feel like I'm going to pass out. Do I just not have enough willpower? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:40 PM Flag
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Have you told your doctor? You should be able to last a little while with a grumbling stomach before you get anywhere near passing out. Maybe you have diabetes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:01 PM Flag
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Then she'd have high blood sugar. Not low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:42 PM Flag
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Not necessarily. There are several kinds of diabetes, some not even related to the pancreas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:28 PM Flag
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Not true at all. Diabetes can also mean low blood sugar at times - the cells are insulin resistant (in Type II) and the body produces a lot of insulin to try and bring the blood sugar levels down. Sometimes the body overcompensates ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:34 PM Flag
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I can't either, I get a blinding headache [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:12 PM Flag
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Me too. I have learned to always carry a granola bar in my bag. Hunger for me often leads to migraines that last for hours or days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:24 PM Flag
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There are exactly two kinds of skinny people in the world - people who are going to be skinny (or at least not fat) no matter what they do, and people who have crushing insecurities about their appearance. Unless you're one of those you won't be thin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:27 PM Flag
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Lol. Very true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:36 PM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:55 PM Flag
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I didn't think OP was talking about being thin or dieting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:25 PM Flag
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This is so ridiculous. So all actresses and models have crushing insecurities? I am skinny and I work at it because I realize there are benefits to it, and I'm not willing to give those benefits up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:16 PM Flag
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Yes, you are more likely than not insecure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:29 AM Flag
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you are the first type, actors are the second type [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:53 AM Flag
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Actresses are models have to stay thin, it's a part of the job, insecurity has nothing to do with it. If you are not a plus size model you will be unemployed if you don't carefully watch your figure. If you are an actress, unless you carved out a niche that allows you to be whatever size you want, you often will find yourself having issues with finding jobs. Movie industry is still notoriously looks and youth oriented and standards are very high. People cast for roles that in real life have a very low percentage of good looking people are still above average looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:11 AM Flag
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There are very very few of the first type, call them unicorns. Even fashion models gain weight and even get fat if not watching their diets. They stay rail thin not because of genetics but also and often because of punishing diets or developing habits and getting used to eating very little. You can get used to low calorie diet to the point that you are not passing out or feeling deprived, but people who can eat high calorie diet and stay rail thin are few and far between and it's usually men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:08 AM Flag
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Hi, twin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:40 PM Flag
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IME it gets better with time. when i start any kind of diet for the first several days i am full of murderous rage, and then it passes. the food will be there tomorrow, you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:48 PM Flag
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This. Don't deny; delay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:46 PM Flag
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This....also drink lots of water and tea (with no milk or sugar - you will get used to the taste). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:40 PM Flag
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This. And then I grow to like the hunger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:58 AM Flag
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convert your thoughts so that it becomes a good feeling. lean and mean, light for flight. drink some tea, or bone broth when you get the pang. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:58 PM Flag
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A few things 1) hunger doesn’t build and build, it ebs and flows. Distracting yourself helps - drink hot tea or bone broth (for me, salty things help) or take a walk or even exercise 2) reduce carbohydrates. A lot of hunger pangs and feeling like you are going to pass out is low blood sugar. Once you wean your body off carb dependency, your hunger lessons. Reducing carb intake let my body get used to interim fasting, and now I can basically skip breakfast / lunch a couple times a week. This isn’t to say I don’t eat carbs at all, I just eat them when I really want them, which is a few meals a week. But I don’t think one size fits all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:44 PM Flag
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np - i get low blood sugar I presume - shakes, weakness etc - but I can do IF and skip meals before/after the eating period - it's the delaying long between meals that's an issue for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:55 AM Flag
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Tea, seltzer , coffee. You’re fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:59 AM Flag
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I drink water, tea or clear alcohol... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:20 PM Flag
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I carry protein bars and eat some when I'm hungry. nuts and dried fruit work for me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:32 AM Flag
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I just know that if I have some fat to burn that I can see and I can pinch, then I am probably not likely to die of starvation and my brain isn't going to shut down. Naturally your body wants to hold on to your existing fat and whenever it comes to burning it for fuel it will send a panic signal to your brain to eat. It's up to your rational mind to say that even if you feel crappy you are not in danger in any way. If you are already anorexic, rail thin with zero fat, then that signal is probably very different and can indeed mean you are harming your body for not eating. But if you are like any other woman trying to lose her fat rolls that are obviously there, then you know that you are not about to exhaust your body to death even if hunger may feel so. Drink water, often times dehydration makes things worse. If you must snack, get something lower in calories that won't be a typical snack or a meal, high fiber fruit and veggie is a good choice, even popcorn. I am not against sugar and carbs, so many will disagree with me, but I don't find elimination of food groups necessary for healthy individuals without serious metabolic disorders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone figured out how to stop spam calls? I have gotten the exact same fax Social Security message - FIVE TIMES - in the past 2 hours. I have blocked each number after it comes in, but a new number keeps calling me. This is so irritating. Anyone else getting this nonsense? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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Fake, not fax [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:16 PM Flag
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I don't answer calls from unknown or unidentified numbers. My outgoing voicemail message is, "I'm sorry I missed your call. Please do not leave a voicemail, as I do not check. Please text your message or email me." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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Yes - I got a ton of those in a row from fake Social security maybe 3 weeks ago. I think it was 10+ per day but luckily it stopped after a few days. I just wouldn’t pick up your phone unless you recognize the caller - I think they’ll stop if they can’t get through to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:05 PM Flag
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I have gotten ten of those calls today alone. Some kind of spam-fest going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Verizon or Spectrum has a service where our phone rings once and then if they detect it's a spam call it stops ringing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Similar to the poster below, I exercise in the morning and drink black coffee. I eat a light lunch around 3 and a normal dinner with wine, etc. I lost weight and all is good. BUT, some days I have to go to a business lunch or something. My question is, as long as I eat no more than I do on my IF days (eat between 3 - 9) but stretch it out to between 12-9, will I lose ground? Is the real benefit to IF that you eat less overall or is there something about the fasting period that helps? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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I have heard that you can just shift the window earlier and still have good results. so if you have to eat at 12, then stop eating at 6 that day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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heard the same. Actually it makes sense that you'd be better off shifting the window around to keep your body guessing but who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:05 PM Flag
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OP: just hard because I have a highschooler and like to eat dinner with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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+1. Can shift. Also one day is not a big deal. I even had breakfast both days this wknd due to events and I didn’t “lose ground”. If it’s a way of life you have to allow for adjustments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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+1 to "if its a way of life you have to allow for adjustments" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:57 PM Flag
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Everyone is different, but the initial weight loss is usually because of the change of eating habits overall, and then continued loss (or maintenance) is due to skipping the calories you would have eaten outside the IF window. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:16 PM Flag
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I have actually heard that you need to move the fasting period around to maximize benefit- your body will get used to one period/fast and start to plan accordingly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I now have several female friends who consider themselves marketing consultants. All are age 40 or older; either quit their jobs to raise kids or had reached a really high position and were laid off/ fired. Any insight on this? Is the market flooded with these consultants? Can a decent salty be made? Full disclosure: it scares the crap out of me. I fear ageism is going to work against them. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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Salary not salty ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:57 PM Flag
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42, and self employed. Can’t find a a job so I’ve given up, along with many other middle aged women . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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How’s it going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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I wound up buying 2 homes and renting them out. I felt like Something more passive with small kids would be better for me and the family (3 kids) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:14 PM Flag
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+1 I'm one of the 40yo+ marketing consultants. I had $130k in revenue last year, mostly through affiliate marketing and helping small manufacturers open online stores. I don't live in NYC, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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Np: how long have you been looking? I don’t think of 42 as middle aged. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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It's halfway between college and retirement. It's in the middle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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Np again: I guess you’re right but I didn’t think it was so old that you are having a hard time finding a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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nnp I am 47. I don't have a hard time finding a job, but I do have a hard time finding a job I like. At my age, employers expect me to manage the people doing the work, and I just want to do the work. I hate managing people. I've had to lateral several times to avoid taking people-managing jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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This is my problem too!!! I thought it was just me. I just want someone else to tell me what they need and then I do it, I dont want to think of higher level strategy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:31 PM Flag
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+2 I'm great at writing software. I'm awful at managing software developers. I've gone independent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:30 PM Flag
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I looked for a year, Middle Ages in terms of career 22 starting : 42 me now : 62 planned retirement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:15 PM Flag
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Not following your post....is your question about what constitutes a marketing consultant? or job security for women who are 40+? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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Is this a real position? Or just the result of laying off women who are middle aged, and not Re-hiring ones who left the work force? Is there a viable salary to be made? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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yes, of course it is. Marketing consultant/director/manager. All the same thing, title just varies with the company. Someone needs to stay on top of social media, PR, websites, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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Actually here’s another question. Why aren’t women suing these former employers on grounds of ageism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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If older workers can show that they are being denied the same job at the same salary as a 28yo, they can sue for discrimination. But if an employer can get the same (or more) work out of a younger employee for a lower salary, it's not discrimination; it's just economics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:14 PM Flag
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No leg to stand on. Once a Corp wants you out, they start documenting every weakness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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It's very hard to do. Large companies are very savvy and they lay people off in cohorts that would have mixed age groups precisely to avoid being sued. They use this info to fight settling any cases and force all plaintiffs go to court which is going to cost a lot of money. Contingency attorneys aren't going to court for you unless you pay, so many drop their law suits even if they are valid and ageism or sexism is real and even if they have witnesses, simply it just costs too much and takes too much of their energy and they just move on. Basically nobody just lays off only workers over 40, they wait to lay off a bunch of people for what would be considered purely economic reasons to avoid lawsuits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:40 AM Flag
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Marketing is a young person's game, and employers place more value on being of the moment than experience. It is the same with IT. Lots of ageism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:54 PM Flag
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I think employers believe that younger employees know better what target demographics want (and those target demographics skew young), whether or not that's actually true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:06 PM Flag
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True about what employers believe. I have a retail business and my customers are 20 - 35. Ninety percent of my business comes from my Instagram, because I know how to market to that group and work Instagram. But I also happen to be 58 years old, and there's no way I could get hired to do what I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:35 PM Flag
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It's a made up job with no barrier to entry that people can claim they're engaged in to save face about not having an actual job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:28 PM Flag
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OP: exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:42 AM Flag
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It's so so sad. These are skilled workers cut off in the prime years of their career. One of the reasons I left my last job was that I was one of the oldest people in the building at 40 - one grey hair and you are out. My new company isn't perfect, but at least I don't have to worry about being over the hill at 43. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:36 PM Flag
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It's even sadder knowing that life expectancy is so high now, you are literally half way through our life, so what are you supposed to do? Being pushed out of workforce in your 40s is very hard, if you don't have grit and stamina to jump back and not get discouraged you are going to have a very hard time making your finances work till time you die, you basically just bank that your money is enough to last you till 65 and then if you are dirt poor apply for government programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:46 AM Flag
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I run a business and would hire any marketing/social media consultant who's good. If you work mainly online or your first interactions are not in person, you can disguise your age and impress them, then once you meet they'll overlook your age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:51 PM Flag
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I think in any field there is value to younger workers with more recent skills and contemporary experiences, but also for older workers who had been around the block a few times more and have more depth, which they inevitably do. Older workers also tend to have more experience with larger scale work and larger corporations. It really depends what you are looking for. If I have a company which products target primarily young and childless people I probably would hire a younger worker to better relate to this crowd and social medial platforms. If I want to target more mature audiences or market to fortune 500 and need someone to be comfortable presenting to a group of gray haired executives, I would want a mature and experienced person, not a 20-something girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Feb 7th is approaching and still no feedback from K schools! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:35 PM Flag
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Where is DC at preschool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:38 PM Flag
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Np Probably STMPG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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Why do you say this every time someone says they haven't gotten feedback? Did you have a bad experience at STMPG? Do you think the schools don't give them feedback, or PSD just doesn't share it? Weird, but I see your comment every time. Just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:20 PM Flag
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I'm not OR but I know a few people that feel really bitter/burned by STMPG. They sell themselves as super elite and connected, but I've heard that they give families a really hard time for normal kid behavior, and then at the end of the day, they don't get kids into great ongoings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:48 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:53 PM Flag
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Because NG hides in her apartment and doesn’t communicate with parents every year from December-February. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:53 PM Flag
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I know people at Brooklyn, lower-Manhattan, UES, and UWS preschools in the exact same situation. I heard from a friend that a school visited her daughter's classroom TODAY (no clue which on-going school). The only people I know who have heard anything are friends-of-friends (so, not really reliable!) who are in preschools with strong brokering practices in place. I called Parents League recently and they're hearing the same thing from lots of people. So, don't worry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend any cream/treatment for razor burn? I have a bunch of what looks like red bumps/inflammed hair follicles on my legs from I'm guessing combo of too hot showers and dry skin. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:20 PM Flag
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aloe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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Tea tree oil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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OP-do you apply tea tree oil directly to the skin or mix it with water? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:59 PM Flag
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Directly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:31 PM Flag
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I use a bit of alcohol and then aloe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:36 AM Flag
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salicylic acid wash? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Fotis Dulos killed himself. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:50 PM Flag
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Crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:53 PM Flag
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The second comment was removed by the moderator but I'm wondering why. The guy was a horrible monster and I feel awful for the children but why should we feel anything other than relief that he is gone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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when a comment is flagged and the comments is banned, any comments they anywhere are removed. Thus, the offending comment could have been on a different thread, not this one. We don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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np: this is not correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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newer np: Actually, I'm pretty sure it IS correct. It just depends on which method the moderator uses to delete the user account. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:51 PM Flag
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I have personally seen one of my comments deleted and all the others remain, and my account remain active. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:28 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.28.20, 06:04 PM Flag
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I feel awful for those poor kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:05 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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I hope he left a note indicating where his wife's body was. Poor kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:08 PM Flag
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This. If the childrena nd her parents never know, omg I can't imagine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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the gf must know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:17 PM Flag
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I’m sure he didn’t. A monster til the very end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:31 PM Flag
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All over Hartford, what do you think? No winners here, just tragedy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:32 PM Flag
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beyond horrific for the 5 kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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This story comes out today, in addition to the one about Stephanie Parze of NJ, whose body was finally found today after her boyfriend killed her. He killed himself a few days later. I am so sick of these stories of toxic, violent men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:09 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.28.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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A coward until the end [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:23 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:58 PM Flag
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The most recent reports say he actually still has a pulse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:34 PM Flag
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I think he's still alive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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CNN said he survived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:35 PM Flag
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Who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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good. saves us the cost of prison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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Not to mention the trial .... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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This. And sounds harsh, but maybe now someday the kids will have closure. I know I would never be able to forgive the person that killed my mother, even if he was my dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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He's alive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:08 AM Flag
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No idea who that is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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wow. you really don't follow the news, do you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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NP I follow news closely and don't know who this is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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NP Just asked DH who is very up on news and he had no idea. This is a mom's tragedy porn type news item [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:58 PM Flag
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Attempted suicide, I read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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NY Times says taken to the hospital in "grave condition" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:07 PM Flag
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I would not want to be the shrink dealing with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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I think he's still alive. It was a suicide attempt. He's "clinging to life" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:57 AM Flag
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It doesn't help his case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Thinking about moving to NJ. Not sure town, maybe Milburn or Ridgewood. Friend was talking up Montclair Kimberly Academy (but her kids don't go there). What would be the advantage of going to private in the suburbs where the schools are good and you don't have to "apply" like in NYC 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:31 PM Flag
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Advantage over what? staying in the city and sending to private? or private in the burbs vs public in the burbs ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:33 PM Flag
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Private in burbs vs public in the burbs. We are definitely leaving NYC. Kids in private now. We were figuring on public there. Just trying to figure out why we would pay when we can pick locations with good schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:09 PM Flag
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I moved to a town with great publics. They aren't for every kid, some kids are smart but don't thrive in the big public school setting. Those are the people I know who moved their kids to private. I don't know people who did it for the snob value and most that I know have a combo of kids in public/private [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:44 PM Flag
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Older dc is a bit quirky but we are moving when he is starting 9th grade so figured HS would be fine for him at public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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Why are you leaving NYC? Do you not like your current private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:21 PM Flag
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it is a K-8 and we are kinda done. Want more space, my job is making me work from home but we can't swing another room, want a garden etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:00 PM Flag
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These days people in Millburn who go private do so because their district is getting heavily Asian/Indian and they are increasingly become a "pressure cooker" environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:41 PM Flag
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So they are going to private to get less academic rigor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:59 PM Flag
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probably a different way of approaching learning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:38 AM Flag
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OK, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:51 AM Flag
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Sorry to hijack your post but are you worried about moving your older DC? We may move from the city. Looking at Summit/Ridgewood/Madison. The people I know from Montclair, Short Hills, Basking Ridge that semester kids to MKA and Pingry and Newark Academy just do for similar reasons as they do in NYC. They prefer the facilities and personalized environment etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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We are timing the move so the older one is starting HS when we get there. The younger is a "bloom where planted" type, so not as worried about him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:02 PM Flag
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Check out Glen Ridge, lots of charm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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Thanks. Any thoughts on private vs public for NJ burbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:59 PM Flag
[ - ] First world problem: One of my three children, age 14, hates to travel. How much to let him opt out is the question. Doesn't want to go to Universal, doesn't want to go oversees, won't go on 8th grade class trip. Has traveled overseas and out west to ski once, and once to national parks. Would not object to traveling to ski out west, so I know this is not a wholesale rejection of ALL travel. He is not particularly spoiled--is pretty abstemious. Never wants to order the expensive thing on the menu. insists on buying the cheaper sneakers, does required stuff around the house. Great student. Not very social, but not a total recluse. Likes to read. He can't opt out of a big family trip, but 8th grade trip? Universal? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:09 PM Flag
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why does he hate it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:09 PM Flag
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Is it related to anxiety? does he find it stressful? exhausting ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:16 PM Flag
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Maybe it has to do with the group he's going with, does he have a group of friends at school? Doesn't seem like it's the destination that turns him off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:19 PM Flag
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I hated amusement parks. Also class trips can be very anxiety producing. Some kids run off with others. If he doesn't have a bff maybe he feels he'll be ditched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:24 PM Flag
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my dd has terrible anxiety and travel is very stressful unless there is a structured day, ie, set activity. its the uncertainty and others behavior that is anxiety inducing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:05 PM Flag
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This is my 9th grader. He is always first one to ask to go back to the hotel, always. He went on the 8th grade trip because I didn’t really give him the option to say no. He went and did not hate it. They went to DC. I would describe him as a mildly anxious kid, who hates crowds and loud places. This is me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:14 PM Flag
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My oldest is like this and we accommodate when we can. Without additional details, I would require the 8th grade trip, but let him opt out of universal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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Same on the two trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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OP: I am inclined to let him out of the 8th grade trip but force Universal. I think he will genuinely love Universal. He might be a basket case on the 8th grade trip. Especially if it means sharing a room with three others (and a bed with one). Yes, he shares a room in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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np but isn't the school trip mandatory and part of the school year? I would not allow him to opt out. The more we face the uncomfortable things in life the tougher we get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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OP: I agree on facing uncomfortable things, and plenty of those are demanded. The 8th grade school trip is not mandatory and he would not be the only one not going. My guess is that 10-20% of the grade will not go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:42 PM Flag
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NP If the school trip is for the whole 8th grade I would have him do that. If it is not for the whole 8th grade, I would let him choose to not go. I can't imagine forcing a 14 yr old to go to an amusement park. That is just weird. I think you should plan family trips that are more interesting to him and Universal is not some kind of "universal" trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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Does he normally share a room? Does he only share when he travels? Are your other children younger? One of the things I liked about skiing at that age was my ability to do my own thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks to all for these responses. All good for focusing on how I think about this. Re: Skiing--Yes, I think he likes to do his own thing, and he also likes skiing with others. He does go with a bunch of friends to their family's ski house one weekend each year and really has a good time. He does not want to spend 5 days traveling with his fellow eighth graders. It sounds like torture to him, although he does not have a problem with anyone or group. It is just completely not his idea of a good time. Re: Universal. He has read every HP book at least 15 times. I can't imagine he won't like it, and I don't want him to miss out on that. And yes, he is mildly anxious and does not like crowds or loud noise. BUT, he manages just fine when there are other circumstances that make it tolerable. Thanks again, all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:20 PM Flag
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quick question: is the school trip supposed to be a "good time"? like a vacation trip? or is it part of the curriculum? To me this would be a mandatory activity if it is school related . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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It is more of a fun time. It will be interesting, a privilege, etc., but it is not deeply curricular in any way. I don't think he would be the only student not going. My guess is that at least 5 kids won't go--which is more than 10% of his grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:37 PM Flag
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My 14 yr old is anxious and does not like crowds or loud noises. We took him to LA and we stayed in Hollywood which was a mistake. There are like a million family trip options you can do with your family (and I would force those) but an amusement park for a kid who does not like crowds or loud noises is like booking a submarine tour for someone who has claustrophobia. Just why???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:38 PM Flag
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We have avoided Disney as it was just not something any of us were into. Harry Potter is pretty huge in our home, and I think he would really enjoy that. That is where we would spend our time. Just a couple of days. So, I am inclined to force that one b/c I think he will ultimately enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever had a UTI/bladder infection that went away without antibiotics? (drinking a lot of water and cranberry juice) 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:53 PM Flag
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Yes. I hate antibiotics. I have had some luck with Azo Urinary Tract Health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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Yes. I'm not an expert but that's what I always try first. 90% of the time a thorough cleaning and a day of lots of water takes care of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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+1 Make sure it's real cranberry juice with no sugar added. It should almost be too bitter to drink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:58 PM Flag
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What brand do you buy? I bought something once and it burned my stomach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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Ah, but did you actually have a documented infection by urinalysis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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No. Do not mess around with those. Take the antibiotics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:05 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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+1 and I tried a bunch of home remedies, they do not work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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this is my 100% advice. ignoring infections leads to really serious problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:40 AM Flag
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UTI yes. Bladder infection, no. You need antibiotics for that. And you should take them it can turn into something much more serious if you don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:05 PM Flag
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This, your kidney. Don't wait, get the antibiotics now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:07 PM Flag
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A UTI *is* a bladder infection. The bladder is in the urinary tract. Are you confusing UTI with pyelonephritis? - MD mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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Yes. But I don't know how bad the UTI actually was because I didn't go to the doctor. But I had all the symptoms of a UTI coming on - frequent urge to pee but not a lot coming out, tingling sensation, bladder feeling full etc. But then it went away in a day or two before I could get to a doctor. Another time I had none of those symptoms, just a really strong smell when I would pee. It turned out to be a UTI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:15 PM Flag
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I get this when I have a cold. It's not really a UTI but related to having a fever for me. Keeping hydrated helps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:24 PM Flag
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Oh yes, when I was young and stupid I would just ride them out and fortunately they never turned in to a kidney infection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:31 PM Flag
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UTI yes. Straight cranberry juice - not cocktail, but the real thing. Worked perfectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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this. guzzle the stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:57 PM Flag
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I doubt anyone who is saying they successfully treated a UTI with cranberry actually had a documented UTI on urinalysis. There is no way to know that they did, retrospectively. And the literature does not show that cranberry is effective for this purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:03 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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Never. You should not let it go because it can turn into a kidney infection that is much harder to get rid of and more dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:58 PM Flag
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This seems like a lot of troll misinformation. Most of these posts from the same person to spread false info. That's how the ani-vaxing really got going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you let your teen fly on a parent piloted small plane? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:17 PM Flag
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hell no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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I don't think you can make a blanket statement regarding this subject. One parent may be a Southwest pilot who served in the military and another parent may be a weekend pilot with 300 hours. You check who the pilot is, what their experience is and what kind of aircraft they fly. A 3000 hr. instrument-rated pilot with a King Air will handle things fine. I would trust that person with my child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:29 PM Flag
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Like the helicopter pilot in CA that flew into a mountain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:35 PM Flag
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People in cars also get in crashes all the time. With other people's kids, and you don't think twice about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:57 PM Flag
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I do actually think about it. And a small planes sometimes have mechanical problems at which point you're screwed. But do whatever YOU want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:25 PM Flag
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*Look at JFK jr. for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:25 PM Flag
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JFK did not have the proper certifications to be flying in the weather he was, so not an example of an experienced pilot following the rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:31 PM Flag
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This. A car is a far bigger risk than a small plane, when you adjust for population and hours traveling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:59 PM Flag
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But that's like saying the chances of getting bit by a shark are small. Yes, but they go up immensely if you surf in South Africa on a daily basis. Yes, car travel is most dangerous, but also most widely used. And there are car accidents all the time that don't result in death. Very few survive plane crashes. So is the risk worth it - depends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:05 PM Flag
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helicopters aren't planes. can't compare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:42 AM Flag
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+1 depends on the pilot, the location / situation. I've known people with their own planes that I thought were just fine. I've been on teeny-tiny commercial flights that I thought were sketchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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Key is also have a second in command who can take over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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God no. Look what just happened to Kobe. The risk of crash between a commerical jet and small private plane increases an insane percentage. Do you know anything about their experience or training or is thisa bored wealthy middle age dad who bought a jet and took a few classes. I almost crashed on a small jet on college spring break in costa rica. The worst experience of my life after loosing my mom. Never again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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Omg what happened?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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We were over water when the single engine failure light went off and the plane started plummeting down. He gained control around what appeared to be a distance of a ten story building over the water but the light kept beeping and the plane kept violently shaking. It was another 15 or so minutes with everyone either sobbing or dead silent before we reached land. My “atheist” best friend at the time started praying and the pilot did not speak English and none of us spoke Spanish so we could not even ask what was happening! He had us load most our bags on our laps because we had too many and had one person sitting on a lap. I think it may have been a weight issue but nevertheless i’m traumatized for life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:03 PM Flag
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I'm getting chills just reading this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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You were stupid to get on a plane under those circumstances, you knew it was overloaded [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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I dont disagree, however I was 19, we were a 10+ hour drive from the major airport we were flying back to the US through, I’m not sure I even had a credit card at the time, and all of my friends got on. Was i supposed to say hi guys, single female here in a non-english speaking country with $100 bucks on my debit card. I’ll hail a cab and meet you back in america! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:19 PM Flag
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That is insane! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:37 PM Flag
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No. But when I was 18, I had a friend, around the same age, who was getting his pilot license and I went up in a small plane with him without telling my parents. They of course were furious. At that time, I thought it was no big deal, he had enough hours and I was permitted to go with him. But in hindsight, it was so idiotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:45 PM Flag
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My parents did when I was little. A family friend would fly us to camp. I don’t think I would allow it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:01 PM Flag
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Depends. Are we talking about someone who is an actual pilot with a good amount of experience? Sure. Like someone else said, you'll let your kid get in a car with another parent and there are car accidents every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:06 PM Flag
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But not all car crashes are fatal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:57 PM Flag
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No. I am afraid of flying in a small plane and would never forgive myself if my DC died in a crash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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Not if I knew about it. I had a friend in college with a private plane- he was 22. I flew with him from Boston to Martha’s Vineyard and thought it was so cool. Now, I think I was an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:20 PM Flag
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I did that too w a friend in college. seemed like a fun idea at the time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:36 PM Flag
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I am a pilot, and I take people's kids places, but only after a serious discussion of risks with parents and have them sign waivers. I am a very good Pilot, but things happen! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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Just curious, are/were you a commercial pilot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I think I've been eating way too much food for all my life. I recently decided to get up and exercise on an empty stomach, and I can't believe that I am not hungry until 3 pm or so. I lost 10 lbs in 2 months and I swear I look 20 years longer. 68 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:15 PM Flag
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Most people overeat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:20 PM Flag
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That's great. What are your stats (height/weight)? What all did you do to lose the 10lbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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That's great. What are your stats (height/weight)? What all did you do to lose the 10lbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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That's great. What are your stats (height/weight)? What all did you do to lose the 10lbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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I'm 5'3" and 110 lbs. I've been trying to lose 10 lbs since 2010! Nothing really worked for me until I started exercising on an empty stomach. I think that was the key to my weight loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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What type of exercise do you do? For how long? Do you think it's the empty stomach part or that something about that makes you less hungry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:34 PM Flag
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I run or do elliptical for 30 mins and do weights for 15 mins. I really think it's the exercise on empty stomach that is making me not hungry. I literally eat only about a third of what I used to eat, since I skip breakfast and lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:39 PM Flag
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Very interesting! What time do you exercise? And you don’t eat until 3? Sounds like intermittent fasting also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:49 PM Flag
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I exercise from 6 am to 6:45 am. I actually don't end up eating until 4 pm or so. I do get hungry around 3 pm, but I just wait it out and drinking something hot quells my hunger. I guess this is IF, but honestly, I could not do this if I didn't exercise in the morning. On days when I can't exercise, I get crazy hungry and I have to eat 3 meals a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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Do you drink coffee before your workout? Or after? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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I just have black coffee before workout. I don't drink any coffee after because my body is sensitive to caffeine now after my weight loss. Not kidding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:57 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:36 PM Flag
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46 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:37 PM Flag
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You are already a healthy weight. Just eat normally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.28.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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Most Americans eat too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:40 PM Flag
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Not just Americans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:46 PM Flag
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Actually mostly Americans. Look at global obesity rates. Americans are more obese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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Other countries have processed foods and soda now, too. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:52 PM Flag
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This. Americans may lead the pack, but the rest of the world is catching up very quickly. The UK has a serious obesity problem, especially in children. The world makes fun of the US for being fat and then imports all the same junk food Americans are living on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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Am I the only person that thinks it’s crazy that OP is 46, 5’3, 110 pounds and wants to lose ten pounds?? I would look like a shriveled old lady at 100lbs and dh would crush me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:58 PM Flag
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I was 120 lbs 2 months ago, and I lost 10 lbs. Now it's more about maintaining, not necessarily losing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:59 PM Flag
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That is her after weight. She was 120 before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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You are not alone, that was my first reaction to the post; most women I see that are extremely thin look old and haggard, someone once told me: it's the face or the ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:01 PM Flag
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I have wrinkles, sure. But I think that carrying excess weight actually makes you look older. A couple of friends asked me if I had anything done to my face (I did not). I don't do Botox or anything, but I do stand up straight, and my posture has improved a lot, which I think is a contributing factor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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Did you not exercise before? Or you used to do it after breakfast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:05 PM Flag
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I used to do it after eating breakfast, and it was never anything heavy (like plain yogurt or eggs). I didn't start losing until I started to work out while my stomach was empty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:07 PM Flag
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110 lbs at 5'3" is very thin! Even skinny. Especially at 46. 115 is a good thin weight for that height. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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Her 110 sounds right to me. I'm 117 at 5'6" and am not skinny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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+1 I am 5’6” and weigh btwn 115-125 and I have plenty of fat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:12 AM Flag
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It isn't, it depends on your build. I look very thin if I go below 105, but with 110lb at same height I have some fat on my body, it's obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 11:38 PM Flag
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If I do this I tend to gorge on food after 3. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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Yes, OP- what do you eat later? Bigger dinner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:09 PM Flag
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I have a light snack around 5 pm, like raw almonds or a cheese stick. Then I make a big dinner, usually a pasta dish or a chicken or fish. I have some fresh fruit for dessert. Then I have a decaf coffee with milk and that's my signal to "stop eating"-- which is usually around 8 pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:14 PM Flag
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I could never sustain this. And not sure it's really healthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:09 PM Flag
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+1. bodies and brains need fuel to function. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:11 PM Flag
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That is what gluconeogenesis from stored fat does. She is not hurting herself. This is basic biochemistry. The body can survive without food every few hours and did so for thousands of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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yes indeed. but 19 hours without food every day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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Sorry, is that what OP is doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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^ ooops, sorry, she said first snack at 5pm, stop eating at 8pm. so 21 hours without food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:22 PM Flag
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Yes, but most people didn't have much to do and didn't stand on a subway platform (and hopefully not faint) They also lived to about 30 years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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Not because they didn’t eat every few hours. The subway platform concern seems a bit OTT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:52 PM Flag
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I get dizzy without eating for long stretches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:26 PM Flag
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Drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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That's me. Drama llama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:08 AM Flag
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Exactly when did people not have much to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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Do you work FT? Would be hard to think at the desk, going that long without eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:31 PM Flag
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I do work FT, but I work remotely from home on Fridays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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And you have no problem working without any food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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No. I actually have more energy than I did before I started to do this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:46 PM Flag
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people freak out if they're hungry. it's OK to be hungry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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Yes, it's totally fine. But each person may find some time of the day or condition when it's very difficult to be hungry. For me it's the early mornings as I have low blood pressure and low sugar and also some late nights when I have to work through the night. If you are pulling an allnighter, it's very hard to fast. I also cannot exercise on empty stomach in the morning, but totally ok doing this midday and at night. I cannot do heavy mental tasks for prolonged periods of time on empty stomach, but it's not hard for me to skip a meal if I am running around during the day with meetings, appointments or on a weekend with kids stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:33 AM Flag
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Wow, I wish that would work for me!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.28.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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Give it a try! I swear, nothing worked on me before until I tried this. I felt like I was going to die for the first few days, but my body got used to it, and the pounds just seemed to melt off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:51 PM Flag
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Do you think you will eventually go back to eating 3 meals? Do you miss breakfast and lunch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:30 PM Flag
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Maybe-- I'm not sure. Right now, I feel great and feel like I can do this until I die, but that might change! I do miss eating breakfast and lunch, but only on the weekends when I"m with my family. It's tough not to eat when everyone else around you is eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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What did you try in the past that didn’t work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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Whole30, Pilates, Atkins, Palm Beach Diet... pretty much everything! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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I find hard exercise kills my appetite for a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:20 PM Flag
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Yes! Do you also run? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:04 AM Flag
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+1 Sweat a lot and be out of breath for at least 45 minutes, at least 5 times a week. Appetite for sugary junk food dies, appetite in general decreases, and hunger is for real food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:47 PM Flag
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What kind of exercises? I don't really sweat that much when I exercise, is that bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:58 PM Flag
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Yes, that's bad. You aren't working hard enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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If it's 25 degrees outside and you're running, you probably won't sweat much. But if your workout doesn't make you sweat when it's over 50 degrees outside (or you are working out indoors), you aren't doing much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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with this post and the other IF posts, I'm getting worried about everyone. it is not smart or healthy to skip eating a real breakfast - you need this fuel for your body to function. don't eat later in the evening if you want to do IF or lose weight, but you need the nutrition during the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:44 AM Flag
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ITA, although I understand people have different schedule and demands during different parts of the day could be different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:36 AM Flag
[ - ] DC's school recently changed the format of PT conferences and they are now requiring us to bring her to the PT conference. Is this a new trend? I really hate these type of conferences, because I can't ask the questions I want to ask in front of my DC! 59 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:13 PM Flag
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What age? My DCs elementary schools did not ask you to bring the children, but they could attend middle school conferences if you/they wanted to attend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:15 PM Flag
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5th grade, but the school is doing this for all the kids K to 6. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:16 PM Flag
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That's weird. Maybe suggest that you bring the child in at the end of the conference after you have had a chance to discuss things with the teacher first? Otherwise, tell the teacher you would like a private meeting before conferences if there are issues you need to discuss without DC being present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:18 PM Flag
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I know. They just changed the format this year. It's a total waste of time and all the parents at the school are complaining about it, not just me. I'll try asking for a private meeting before the conference. TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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np: how do you know it's a total waste of time if you've never experienced it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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I did it last November and just did it again yesterday. It was completely useless both times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:53 PM Flag
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Interesting. I've been doing it for 5 years with my kids and I enjoy them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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They are probably fine if all is good with your kid and family. If your DC has real challenges, it makes it hard to have a meaningful, productive conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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We had one conference like this for 5th grade, and I preferred it. The student really needs to hear feedback directly from the teacher! It's hard for parents to translate later as we don't have the context as to what is going on in the classroom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:20 PM Flag
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Shouldn't the teacher be giving the student feedback on a daily basis though? For example, it should come as no surprise to the student if the teacher tells the parent that they need to work on editing their writing more closely as the teacher should be addressing it whenever the student writes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:29 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yes, I agree-- but teachers don't normally give this direct feedback in the way they do in conferences. When would this occur in the normal course of the day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:20 PM Flag
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What would you want to ask that you can't ask in front of DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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I want to know how she's doing socially, how she's doing compared to her peers, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:23 PM Flag
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How old? Don't you know how things are for her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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She's 10, but there have been issues with her ex BFF and some other social things I wanted to ask about, but she is pretty sensitive so I can't do it with her there; she'll just get upset. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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Can you ask her to step out for 10 minutes? Or make an app.t at another time to talk about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:22 PM Flag
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DD came with us to conferences in MS, and in SHS most parents bring their children along as interpreters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:22 PM Flag
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It's a new thing. Started last year, when DC was in 5th grade in k-5 public school. I think you have an option not to bring the kid though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:23 PM Flag
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Well, they can't force you to bring your child! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Seems to be. Even worse are the student-led conferences. That is a total waste of time IME. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:28 PM Flag
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Sorry for the dumb question, but what is the difference between bringing in your DC and a student-led conference? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:30 PM Flag
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The student "leads" the meeting. In other words, presents a fancy project or essay that has in most cases been worked on at home. Hence, most parents already know about the project, with many involved in helping with the fancy project. Nothing of substance is discussed. It is a total joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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Ah, got it. Yes, this is what happened at the conference when I had to bring my DC. She showed me a folder of her work that I had already seen, and then we proceeded to spend the next 10 minutes discussing her work (that I had already seen). Good times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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This is pretty typical and quite useless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:06 PM Flag
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oh boy, next month will be our first time with one of these. Can't wait. The thing I don't like, is that you can't ask any questions that you normally would not ask in front of the child. So you have to make a separate appointment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:01 PM Flag
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I hate them so much! This year, I didn't sign up until the end of the day and the only time left was at 11:30 am. DC just said that his goal was to "try not to be bored during math" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:34 PM Flag
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It's good experience. Being able to review yourself, candidly and constructively is a hard to skill to master. Better to get comfortable with it earlier. I managed many Ivy grads who couldn't do it -- their self reviews are often overly inflated (I'm great at everything) and it can be very hard for people to hear and take on feedback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:26 PM Flag
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These are 2 separate things and that is a problem with education trends. We force corporate principles on younger kids as if they are mini-adults. It may not be very reasonable or useful from a development standpoint. Sometimes kids need parents to have discussions about them without them being in the room. Ivy leaguers not taking feedback well is another issue all together. What makes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:54 PM Flag
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^ one successful in the workplace can be different than in academics. Your employees were excellent at doing school and were always assessed as such. They need to make the transition to different metrics and that can be hard. BTDT as an employee and manager [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:56 PM Flag
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SO TRUE!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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SO TRUE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Our school does this in 5th grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:40 PM Flag
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Our private does this in elementary school - three way conferences. The student participates for the first 10 minutes and leads the session, with input from teacher, depending on age. Then for next 10 minutes it's just parent and teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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I am gad I am not the only one who doesn't like it. In fifth grade we had a student-led conference and it was even worse. I already see the grades on the report card. I want to hear how my dc is doing socially and how his attitude in class is. All questions I can't ask when he is there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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Especially in elementary school, it's very important to sit across from the teacher and confirm that all is well with your child and that they are doing what they should be as even the report can be ambiguous (i.e., some teachers give top grades first marking period and others rarely do so because they expect the student to work up to it over the course of the year). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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Yes, exactly. I cannot be forthright and ask direct questions about DC while she is right next to me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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I also need to inform the teachers of things going on at home which are bound to affect DC at school such as health issues and family situation. These conferences should be a two-way street in some situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:57 PM Flag
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My school does this, but the student only sits in on the first 5-10 min of the conference, then they wait outside while the parents and teacher talk. I like it, it makes kids accountable, and gets them involved, but you still get time to ask the questions you would not ask in front of your DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:56 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:27 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:41 PM Flag
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Ask your dc to step out of the room for 5 minutes. It's fine. Or else set up an app't at another time. These p/t conferences were always nonsense to me. Teachers seemed to just by rote say everything was fine blah blah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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let me guess HCES? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:25 PM Flag
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Our school has been doing this since preK and we love it. Dd is involved in her own education and learned from very early on to really reflect on how things are going at school. It worked well for us - when things were going well and also when there were problems. If I want to speak with the teacher without dd I ask for a separate meeting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:27 PM Flag
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I think it's also to encourage parents that can't find sitters for the afternoon, to come to the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:36 PM Flag
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You can simply leave your child outside the classroom as many do. They don't have to come inside for the conference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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True, but at some schools they asked that you not bring kids with you--too many people. Tbh, at LaG, the halls were so full and it was so chaotic that p/t conferences were impossible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:50 PM Flag
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This is elementary school, though, where parents usually sign up for a specific time so that there really should be more than 2 or 3 parents waiting outside any given classroom, so plenty of room for a child to sit outside with a book or homework for a few minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:55 PM Flag
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Interesting--this seems to be a touchy subject. I think it really depends on the maturity of the child. This would not work well for 1st grade. But by 5th? At that age the child is much more invested in the education and should be receiving this type of feedback from the teacher. A conference with the parent in the room is a great way to make this real to the kid. I agree that if a sensitive situation needs to be discussed that should be handled without the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:27 PM Flag
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Yes, this is what they do now. I found out my friend just doesn't bring her kids and now that is what I do too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 08:43 PM Flag
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Ha! I did the same last time and played distracted... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:42 PM Flag
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I'm surprised so many are opposed to having the kid at the PTC. How does it benefit the kid if only YOU are hearing the teacher's comments? Do you go home and repeat what the teacher says? I just don't see how that is so effective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:59 PM Flag
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I am sure the student hears what the teacher says all the time, just like they hear what their parents say all the time. My child doesn't care or need to hear about the things I want to know. The teachers explain some of the sections on the report card like "the math standards are to prepare them for doing XYZ next year..." does my kid need to know that? If they need to know it, they probably already do know it because the teacher told them. No, the child is the one person who DOESN'T need to be there. I need to hear stuff from the teacher and the teacher needs to hear things from me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:06 PM Flag
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wow, I completely disagree. Maybe your kid is perfect, so there is no improvement possible. Mine always has a few things to work on (e.g. spend more time revising writing), and the PTC is spent mostly on those items. For my situation, it is best that the kid can be there to hear it first hand and also acknowledge that these are the items to focus on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:46 PM Flag
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Not perfect, but the feedback the teacher shared is either something where it isn't helpful for my kid to hear it (but is useful to me) or would actually be unhelpful for my kids, or it is something I can tell my kids if they need to hear it. What adults need to talk about and how things are phrased so adults understand what they need to understand is different from what students benefit from hearing. My teen started attending his 504 meetings in 9th grade and I think that is the right age for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:02 AM Flag
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For example, a kid hearing, Jane is at the bottom of the class in reading - that is not a good thing. Jane probably already knows it and feels bad about it. But if the parents need to do something, that is exactly what the parents need to hear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:04 AM Flag
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We must be at the same school. Total waste of time - we're in 3rd and I've given up having anything useful discussed in these. The November one was ridiculous because the kids were all so nervous about it. I know one child who had a complete meltdown and refused to even enter the classroom for it. They were SO SO NERVOUS! This one was slightly better but we have some issues socially that I REALLY need to be discussed. It would have been nice if it could have been brought up at the one freaking meeting I can get DH to as well. I've resorted to emailing the teacher all the time. She must hate me now, but I can't get to talk to her otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:52 PM Flag
[ - ] 9am dr appointment. Still waiting. Four of us had same appointment time. Would you complain? Leave? So frustrated. Office literally opened at 9 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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It's too late now, but you should have an agreement in place with any service provider, so they have to pay a penalty if they are late or they cancel your appointment last-minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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Never going to happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:35 PM Flag
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how do you obtain such an agreement? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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I once walked out of a waiting room, I think after about an hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:49 PM Flag
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I have walked out of Dr's office after an hour, it is unacceptable and people put up with it; after that I changed Dr's and thankfully my new Dr is very much on time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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Depends on type of dr. Some are just always going to be overbooked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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I find this is so much worse in Manhattan. I've switched all of my doctors to the suburbs and it's a much better experience (I live in an outer boro and have a car). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:05 PM Flag
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If the doctor is dealing with a patient emergency, very little you can complain about. It may mean you’re with a very good doctor who would take that extra time for you in your hour of need. On second thought, the issue might be better taken to the office manager. Doctors are asked to do far too much in ridiculously limited time slots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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I once waited and waited and then the lights went off--the staff had left for lunch! I complained--oh, the doctor will be back at 1pm. Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:22 PM Flag
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I've left when the wait time reaches about 45 minutes or an hour unless I've been told there's an emergency. I've gotten my copay refunded and rescheduled. I'm busy, they're busy, it happens sometimes. However, if it is typical of the practice, then I change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:00 PM Flag
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MD Mom. I am a Surgical Oncologist. Not NYC. This is my typical morning clinic: 8 am new patient checked in at 8:02. The phone message tells new patients to arrive 30 min prior. Then it took 40 min for this patient to fill out their paperwork and for the MA to put them in the room and start the visit: welcome to the era of Electronic medical records (EMR). Meanwhile, my 8:30 am patient and 9 am patient showed up at the same time, around 8;20 am. I have been sitting on my butt for 40 min waiting, but now I have 3 new patients all waiting for me at the same time. Everyone is upset. Third patient is elderly with the wife who probably got overwhelmed, so I spent 50 min (30 min visit) answering questions, many of them duplicate questions. I don't mind because I fell sorry for them, but it does take time. Last patient of the morning is fine physically but has flat affect and avoids eye contact. I ask if he might be depressed. Turns out his wife died last year, and yes, he might be depressed. We spend 40 min on a 15 min visit. Then I am swallowing my lunch whole in 5 minutes, to do it over again in the afternoon. Any questions? If I am late for the visit because I spend time with another patient, remember, I will do the same for you when you need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:46 PM Flag
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I was referred to a bigshot surgeon. Did arrive early to do the paperwork. Did not finish when I was put in the exam room. They said not to worry. Is the self-provided history on those forms not relevant to the visit and exam? Oh, wait there WAS no exam. Doc merely looked at computer and at x-rays. Did not look at me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:21 PM Flag
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np: I have spent time filling out those forms, only to go him and have the dr/nurse ask the same questions at the exam. What was the point of me filling all that info out? Why not just look at the sheet? Is it just a CYA thing? Seems redundant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:42 PM Flag
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MDM: Those forms are not for physicians, sadly. They are for MAs or nurses to transfer tge information into electronic medical record. Physician will still have to ask you about relevant information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:31 AM Flag
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Are you OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:45 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:30 AM Flag
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Thank you for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Just discovered cauliflower-rice, delicious (with some seasoning), easy to make, really versatile alternative to rice/grains. Yahoo. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:49 PM Flag
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I really enjoy regular old rice. am I the only one left ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:54 PM Flag
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I like rice, but I also like pretty much all of the alternatives, too. I love ricing or mashing cauliflower to blend with potatoes for mashed or twice-baked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:58 PM Flag
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Nope, i am with you, i very much enjoy rice, used to cook it all the time but now maybe only once a month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:04 PM Flag
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I worry about arsenic in rice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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Seriously the last thing you need to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:51 PM Flag
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Is it tho? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 12:09 AM Flag
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But ca rice not nc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.20, 01:05 AM Flag
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Love real rice, hate cauliflower rice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:42 PM Flag
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Asian here and I'm still eating it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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Rice is so good. Rice with butter. Rice with cheese. I know, I know, I sound fat. I love it but I rarely eat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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+1. Rice with fish, with Mexican food, with chicken. Let's not talk about Japanese food. I love rice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:02 PM Flag
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what's your favorite way to use it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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just made it for the first time and used it as a side for salmon and asparagus dinner, but I could see using it underneath chili or stew, or even in a green salad (I can't tolerate quinoa). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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How do you make that it’s easy? Hard when I tried to make it but I’m also not much of a cook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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I just chopped a head of cauli into medium-sized florets, placed them (in batches) in a food processor and pulsed until it looked rice-like. Then saute in 2 Tblsp olive oil on the stovetop for about 10 minutes, seasoned with salt and pepper (lots). leftovers can be frozen and easily thawed in 10 minutes before reheating in microwave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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they have it at Whole Foods or fresh direct etc, frozen. Much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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I loved mashed cauliflower. I buy the cauliflower rice at costco and it is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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I like it. But to me it's not really an alternative to grains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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I really do not like cauliflower [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 05:03 PM Flag
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We can never be friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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DH loves cauliflower, loves rice, and dislikes cauliflower rice. so annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 09:40 PM Flag
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+1. I love cauliflower and cook it different ways but never managed to cook cauliflower rice well. I prefer rice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm trying to help my 9th grader find her interests after reading "What Colleges Won't Tell You" and "What High Schools Wont' Tell You." She is doing fine in school after adjusting to a more academic high school. She really doesn't have an academic passion. What she loves is - don't laugh - disease control. She's always been way more into her health than the rest of the family and she's following the coronavirus outbreak with a level of attention and interest that surprises me. What kinds of high school level things does she do? If a kid is aiming toward a CDC kind of job, what does that look like in high school? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:42 PM Flag
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My cousin is in this field. I know that she does some things at the NIH when she was in college or after college before med school but she did not do research in high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:51 PM Flag
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I think the most important thing is to keep her interest in science alive. If you can look for fun summer enrichment high school level science stuff that would be great. I joined the AAAS and get their magazine because my teen is super in to science. Their magazine comes out like once a week I think (maybe every two weeks) and it has articles on so much research going on now. If you have seen news articles about any scientific discoveries, they have an article that mentions it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:54 PM Flag
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(They articles are written for scientists so a lot goes over our heads, since we aren't researchers in those fields. But it is so much more in depth than the blurbs that hit mainstream media that break things down for laypeople.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:56 PM Flag
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Chemistry. Biology. Health class. She should talk to all of her teachers about her interest in this, and ask how she can integrate disease control into papers and projects. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 03:06 PM Flag
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Sciences. And she should look into working--internship--in a lab. That's where a lot of that work takes place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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You could encourage her to find volunteer positions at an immunization clinic. https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/services/immunization-clinics.page [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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