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[ - ] Do you think it excessive for a 28 year old couple in nyc to register on their wedding registry for frette sheets ? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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They can register for whatever they want. It doesn't obligate any guests to buy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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Can one buy a quarter share of a sheet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Np. a sheet set can be $450 and it would be kind of rude to give a gift less than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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It's rude to give a wedding gift of $450? I wish I invited you to my wedding! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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many nice weddings cost in excess of $250 per person. I don't even mean like super fancy at the pierre or something, that would be liek $1000 per person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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It's rude to expect your guests to pony up certain dollar amounts to cover the cost of your party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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IT is INSANE to expect guests to "pay their plate" for me THIS assumption is the biggest tell of someone who no social elegance or class. Have a wedding you can afford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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It is not rude. It is rude to expect anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Depends on their budget and their guest's budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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What if there is a range or these two things differ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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they should have things with a range of prices. if everything is expensive, that's bad, but super expensive sheets and some more reasonably priced items is fine. and guests aren't obligated to buy off the registry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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If you know most of your guests could not afford to give you a gift on that level, it's not cool to put it on the registry. But most people (most people I know, anyway) would assume that you put a few big ticket items on there for your parents/siblings to get for you, not for everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Depends on a host of factors but is this in line with the price of most of the things they registered for or is this one of the bigger items? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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OP I think it is in-line with a lot of other stuff. The pots and pans etc they registered for are All clad copper core which are kind of expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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Kind of obnoxious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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OP. it is not my registry. but why do you think people would judge? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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I actually think registering for linens/bath towels etc (not to mention a well known expensive brand) is obnoxious in general. Too intimate maybe? I think it's more appropriate to register for stuff like teakettles, china etc. That is just my opinion!! But I guess these days, when many people "register" for cash for their honeymoons, sheets aren't such a big deal. lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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OP omg i so agree about the honeymoon fund thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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I would not buy it, but maybe others on their guest list will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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OP why not? bc that is not the $ amount you think is rsble for sheets? Or bc it is out of your budget of what you wanted to spend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Yeah, people are going to judge you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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OP. it is not my registry. but why do you think people would judge? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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it depends on the circles you travel in. coming from working class families it would be odd, but park ave families prob the norm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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There are certain circles where this would be the norm, but the fact that you're asking makes me think it might not be. I think if there are ANY people not UC, it will make them feel uncomfortable and force them to want to spend more than they may be able. If it's one of only a handful of big ticket items though I think that is ok. Personally, I would judge because I think asking others for 450 sheets is ridiculous. If you're already rich, buy those yourself. If not, then why do you need 450 sheets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP you are right. It is my cousins registry. Our family contains a mix of incomes/lifestyles. From multimillionaire private jet to middle/umc who probably shop at tj maxx mainly. To be honest I am asking because my sister ( who both live in nyc and are very comfortable moneywise) were talking about it last night. I was saying wow this would really shock people like aunt x and y and my sister is of the opinion that it is the guests choice and they dont need to buy it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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some places give you a discount to complete the registry and buy whats left. some register just to get the discount with the intent on purchasing themselves. I did this for baby registery at pottery barn kids for dc #2 and did not tell anyone I registered, but wanted the discount [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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it really depends on their backgrounds, families, friends (ie guest list), etc. There were a number of guests who gave me gifts of that value, although those who did either gave it as cash or something that did not have a limited useful life (silverware). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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I think it's fine as long as there is a range of price points. FWIW - I got married this year and my MIL adamently insisted that I needed to add a lot of higher priced items because her friends would not have anything to buy us. So we added a lot more $400+ items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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OP interesting! When I got married most of my parents/in-laws friends gave us $checks. Not gifts from registry. And I am not jewish or any other ethnicity etc. Just like white east coast, i live in nyc but parents and ILs from other east coast cities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Not really. I had things a lot more expensive than that on my registry but the bulk of items were in the $100-200 range and few below that too. Sometimes people go in on a more expensive present together or sometimes your parents or their friends like to get these higher price point items. If however, they themselves could never afford those sheets nor could most of their guests, then it is bad form. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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You sound jealous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP , no . I have frette sheets :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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No. They probably have some aunts who would love to buy something ridiculous like that. I doubt they are expecting their friends to shell out for fancy bedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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no- the stores send you a coupon after your wedding to buy whatever people didn't get you off your registry- so at the very least they are saving $ on the purchase [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Kaci I does not have to be quarantined. New ruling. She is free to roam. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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link? [ Reply | More ]
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Good, perhaps some of the other 50-100 doctors/nurses who returned should receive some attention relative to Kaci's threat to the bears in rural Maine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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They should just not worry about it and let all of them come back with no restrictions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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This cunt will have a brief career on the lecture circuit, then will be unemployable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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A judge reviewed the state's case, and an American citizen will not be imprisoned without trial. And that's the way the system is supposed to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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Finally, reason prevails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Friends invited us to Vail in December. My dh doesn't ski and doesn't want to go. Won't there be other fun things to do? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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If everybody else skies, he might feel left out. Does he like to read and/or cook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Yes hiking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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Is there snow on the ground at that time or just on the mountain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Snowshoeing! Or he should take a beginner ski or board lesson. If he can't find a way to entertain himself in Vail, there's something wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I'm sure he could find something to do, but he would probably feel lame going off to do XYZ by himself (or getting stuck with all the kids) while everyone else heads out skiing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Whose kids are going to the party at the bensimones house tongiht 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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+1 ds is going.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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What is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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I heard it is a big pot party and everyone gets naked! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone try corset? Is it really uncomfortable? I need to wear it for 3 hours. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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for like a bondage thing? I think it's SUPPOSED to be uncomfortable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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for like a bondage thing? I think it's SUPPOSED to be uncomfortable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Not uncomfortable if it is correctly fitted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] DD (turns 15 in March) is 5'5 1/2" and no period yet. Dad is 6'0" and I am 5'9". How tall will DD be? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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5'7" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Is she very thin? Or a runner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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OP mesomorph build, nationally-ranked athlete. I was late, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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In which sport? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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OP Aquatics, sorry not more specific [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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It's not a perfect science. Estimates based on mom & dad's heights are just guesstimates - kids can end up taller or shorter. Have you asked her doctor about the delayed period? It may be totally normal, but it just sounds really late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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OP Doc said no problem with lateness, since I was too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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My best friend growing up didn't get hers until she was nearly 15yo. At 12yo, she was barely 5' tall, but grew later in HS to be 5'7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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At what age did you reach your full height? How much did you grow after age 15? Sadly, I was done at 15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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OP I just cannot recall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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np I think I was done at 12! But I'm a shortie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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I've heard that girls typically grow about 2 more inches after they start their period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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+1 this was my experience too and I am also 5'9" and dad is 6'4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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I think that's true. The early girls often end up short even if they're relatively tall at first menses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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i think she'll be at least as tall as you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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You are not alone. My DD didn't get her period until she was 16. I think your DD will be your height - 5'9". I have two DDs. One is the same height as me, and the other is 3 inches taller than I am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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That's how tall I was at her age and am 5'8" now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] "Schadenfreude" ….perfect word to describe some friends and even some family when ever things are not going well, BUT if its going great they think you are bragging when clearly you are happy and want to share it with others. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 10.31.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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this deserves a csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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I though it meant when people take pleasure in others' misfortune [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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I make my life sound worse when I'm talking to certain family/friends. As if I can't be happy in front of them because their life is harder. What the heck is that called? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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yep, exactly! I am fortunate enough to be financially comfortable and I always feel like I can't be happy with even things like buying a place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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What are you sharing with others? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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I think it is a fine line between sharing success and bragging. I remember someone posting here asking if they could tell friends about their dh's big promotion without bragging and I didn't reply but was surprised that people thought it was okay. It can be, but only in a certain context, like when the subject comes up. Here's an example: It is bragging if your dd gets into Harvard and you immediately call all your friends and post it on Facebook. But if someone asks you where your daughter is going to school and you answer truthfully "She's going to Harvard, she's really excited about it", then that isn't bragging. Same with work: If someone asks you how dh's work is going and you say "great, he just got a big promotion", that's okay. But making a big announcement about it seems a bit over the top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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I think it is a fine line between sharing success and bragging. I remember someone posting here asking if they could tell friends about their dh's big promotion without bragging and I didn't reply but was surprised that people thought it was okay. It can be, but only in a certain context, like when the subject comes up. Here's an example: It is bragging if your dd gets into Harvard and you immediately call all your friends and post it on Facebook. But if someone asks you where your daughter is going to school and you answer truthfully "She's going to Harvard, she's really excited about it", then that isn't bragging. Same with work: If someone asks you how dh's work is going and you say "great, he just got a big promotion", that's okay. But making a big announcement about it seems a bit over the top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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^^sorry for double post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Psychic mom are you on? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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By definition, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Am I a Halloween grinch to be a little annoyed that on mischief night last night, every tree in our front yard was heavily tp'd, and several cans of silly string were used on our cars and all over our shrubs and bushes? Not a big deal but clean up took nearly an hour and it's not remotely funny or clever to me. We know it was teenagers down the street who did it. I guess I'm annoyed because we have very little kids so it wasn't about kids pranking each other - it was just dumb teenager behavior that made our morning hectic and annoying. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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that is annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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I would be annoyed too. It would be grinchy if your dc's friends did it and your dc cleaned it up themselves, but this was just a waste of everybody's time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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OP - thank you! That is how I feel. And I know I'm expected to laugh about it with the neighbors later over trick or treating, but I'm not amused. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you get the tp out of the tree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Some is still there. My tall DH had a broom out there for the rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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rain [ Reply | More ]
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I would turn the sprinkler on them. [ Reply | More ]
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I wish we'd heard them! I think just opening the front door would have sent them running. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Good luck this year! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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Usually that happens to a house harboring a fertile young lady! I guess I'd be flattered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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I'm from michigan and we call the night before halloween "devil's night". Kids go out and TP houses. You need to be home and vigilant, turn on sprinklers, or risk this happening to your home. Do you live in such a community? If so, be more aware next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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We are new to New Jersey suburbs and apparently this is the case here too. So stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Just your house or everybody? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Mostly just our house. A little tp on a few other people's trees. We happen to have young, smaller trees so were probably easy target. Only us for silly string. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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Are you sure it wasn't personal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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egg bomb them tonight when they come for candy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Just for fun - IF you were to believe in any kind of fortunetelling/psychic art, which would it be? Palm reading? Tarot cards? Tea leaves? Mediums who communicate with the dead? Obv most are scammers, but have you ever tried one that seemed legit? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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Not a believer at all, but got a free tarot card reading from some people my boss swore were the real deal. They told me to concentrate on a question while they did the cards, but not to tell them what my question was. Then they answered the question I'd never asked. Maybe it was a lucky guess, but it was really weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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I went to a medium after my father died, and I was shocked at the things he said-- he knew details about different members of my family, things about family dynamics... stuff that really couldn't be guessed or googled in advance. I don't know how he could have done if it he wasn't communicating with my father. And I am the ultimate scientist/skeptic type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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How did he do it? Did he hold your hands or ask you questions or…? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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I have learned to read tarot cards out of curiosity; there is nothing necessarily psychic about reading them. I don't believe the cards have any power of prediction, it's more like whether you see the chance of which cards you pick being a "message from the universe". In my experience, psychics who use cards don't use them in a traditional "fortune-telling" sense, but I'm not sure exactly how they do use them. I have consulted psychics a handful of times in the past 3 years, I'm still not sure I truly believe. Candidly, it's a last ditch "please make me feel better and help me figure this out" move. The two psychics I have talked to -- I both believe they are legit in the sense that they believe they have gifts and are sincerely trying to help people -- I'm not being scammed, but I don't know if I'm benefitting at all either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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NP in fact the first psychic I consulted advised me against using cards, because they can be very negative. The second psychic I consulted told me that the message she received about me was that I do not need to consult her again in the future, as I have psychic gifts myself that I need to develop. [ Reply | More ]
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whoa. How do you develop them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Will still there be anywhere near NYC for a nice weekend trip around the 14th of November to see the fall colours or will all the leaves have gone by then? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Too late--it's already waning [ Reply | More ]
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north of nyc peaks early - mid oct. done by Halloween [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] how much help do you have? HHI?Do you sahm? How many dcs? Public/private? Currently in therapy? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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Full time nanny/2x month housekeeper. 550k, sahm, 2 dcs, public(burbs) not in therapy [ Reply | More ]
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as above, but 3 kids and once-a-weekend evening babysitting instead of fulltime nanny [ Reply | More ]
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and one of the 3 kids is still at home full-time [ Reply | More ]
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One of my docs is 4 months old [ Reply | More ]
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Zero help (as in household help); WOHM; one DC; small private; not in therapy. [ Reply | More ]
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HHI? [ Reply | More ]
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$250k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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Occasional babysitter, cleaning woman one day a week, 2mm, yes, 3, private, no [ Reply | More ]
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Occasional visits with grandparents; $63k; yes; 1; not in school yet; no therapy and none needed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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FT nanny, $500K, WOH, 2 dcs, private, in therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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^^^ and weekly cleaning lady [ Reply | More ]
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Nanny, housekeeper twice/week, 7 figures, WAHM, 3, private, yes. Why so many questions?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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daytime au pair. 400k. no. 1. too young. need it desperately, in denial. [ Reply | More ]
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FT nanny, 400K, WOHM, 3 Dcs, public, no to therapy. [ Reply | More ]
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Zero help, 800k, stay at home, private, therapy once a week (just started). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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We get the lawn mowed and the driveway plowed, occasional gardening help, someone cleans out gutters and does fall clean-up. No housecleaner or sitter. SAHM, 2 kids, we could afford but I prefer not to. No therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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2xper month housekeeper, 350k, i work and no kids, yes in therapy [ Reply | More ]
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Housekeeper who comes 3 days a week to clean and do some cooking. Approx 3.5m. SAHM to 4 kids under the age of 5. Private for oldest. Not currently, but have been in past. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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wow u have no nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Nope. Oldest DS started pre-school 2 years ago so I've never had all 4 home at once. There are definitely days I feel like I need more help though. We do have a regular sitter who watches the kids Saturday nights which is nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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None, 120K, No, 0, None, No. [ Reply | More ]
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Babysitter 2-3 times a week, Housekeeper weekly, 500K, WAHM pt, 3, private, no. [ Reply | More ]
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Cleaning lady every other week, WOH pt, 400k, 2 DCs public, no therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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part time babysitter 12-14 hours per week, 225k, 5dcs, public, no [ Reply | More ]
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whoops woh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Cleaning lady once a week and I love her. SAHM (former WOHM), no nanny, not in therapy. We do have a bunch of babysitters we call on for date nights but that's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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^^^HHI is $240K or so [ Reply | More ]
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^^^also forgot: 2 DCs under 10 in private. I think I need a nap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Have never had any childcare or household help. HHI about $160K. SAHM of two, ages 5 and 8. I do some freelance work just to make extra money and make use of the hours the kids are in school. Parochial school. Never been in therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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0 help and no family within 3000 miles. HHI = $270K. DH & I both work in NYC. 2 dds. Public School. No Therapy. VERY HAPPY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Am I the only sahm with a full time nanny around here? I find that hard to believe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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The others are all at yoga [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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All snark aside - can you explain why you need a full time nanny? Do you leave the house all day or are you home with her? How do your kids act when both of you are there? Even when we have a sitter, which is rare, mostly because we're just too lazy to go out, I leave the minute they arrive or kids seem to be confused who they're "reporting" to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Son is 3 years old - no dev disorder, but reserved and shy. He does not say hello back when people (adults OR kids) say hi or good morning directly to him. I have just started to explain that it makes people feel good to respond. I do not label, force him to speak, things like that that I know are bad. But I do think he's old enough to at least know more about the impact of this behavior. What do you think? Drop it after mentioning it a couple times, or keep talking about it after he ignores someone in front of me. I obviously model friendly behavior in front of him. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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My DS was the same way - he's a little over 4 now and just starting to say hello back to people. He's chatty cathy at home, no problem with his speech, etc. We never called him shy, never forced, etc. and he's starting to feel more comfortable. Give it time IMO, keep modeling friendly behavior, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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I think the view in the US on this topic is very different to other countries. I would say that it is fine, he will work up to it eventually and gain some confidence and that forcing him now is going to backfire. My oldest was exactly like that and although she is still extremely shy at 8, she has over the years learned to understand when she needs to push herself outside her comfort zone to be polite. No-one at home ever raised it as an issue. However my youngest is now 3 and exactly the same (with a middle child who would say Hi to anyone from the time he could make a sound) and I was told the other day that I need to get him assessed by a psychologist! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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I think it's totally normal. Just model the behavior. When you see him doing something you like, compliment him later. "I noticed you gave Mrs. Smith a big smile when you saw her in the elevator. I bet that made her feel really good." "John said he learned a lot about dinosaurs from your conversation." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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He's got his own tendencies, not yours. Not everyone is the same. Should they be? Leave him be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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My 5ys DS is still like this. Friends from school say hi, he just looks at them, but perfectly chatty at school, teacher says very social on playground and in class with others. One teacher said maybe it was my presence that made him shy. I also said it was nice to wave when people said hi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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My ds was so shy at that age. He wasn't being rude -- he genuinely had trouble with strangers (or adults I knew but he didn't) paying attention to him and asking him questions. It's funny because ds is a teen now and is not shy at all anymore. Maybe it's good I didn't force it. I agree, just model good behavior, but at that age it really can be difficult and not being "bad". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] It drives me nuts to see grown women who are so dedicated to low-carb that they will literally pick just the cheese off of pizza when that is what is served at lunch meetings. Happens all the time in my office. I eat low/no carb most of the time, but in those situations I just go with it. Vent over. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Agree. People don't realize that an all or nothing strategy on ANYTHING diet-related doesn't work in the long term. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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they are stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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Bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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I've been a vegetarian since I was a teenager and I'm way older than most people on this board. When I'm served meat, esp. at people's house, I eat it. Jheesh. When did it become all about me?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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My aunt is like this. For things like Thanksgiving, she'll be sure to make vegetarian dishes to share with everyone (in addition to the non-vegetarian options that the rest of us make), but if she's just at someone's house for dinner and they serve meat, she'll eat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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I would rather NOT eat pizza at all, than pick the cheese off. Yuck. But that said, DH is gluten-free due to digestive issues, so it's not always about being low-carb. He'll eat fried, but can't eat pizza crust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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This. I can't eat cheese at all. I wouldn't eat anything in this case. It would be embarrassing to pick the cheese off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Exact same situation with my DH. He just would not eat the pizza and eat something else later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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I hate pizza at meetings. Can't anyone find any healthier choices? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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I agree. Most people at my office would never go out and buy pizza for lunch, so why serve it at a meeting? I never eat it. Eat something before or after on my own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Cheap and easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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If I were in a meeting with these women, I'd deem them idiots. Would much rather see someone absentmindedly scarf down a slice of pizza while her focus was on other things, preferably work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Im not low carb, but im one of the weirdos who likes pizza with no cheese. I know the cheese makes the pizza taste better, so it has to be on there when it cooks, but when its time to eat, I take it off. been this way since I was a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] UB executives or near execs, help me understand. Just got the resume of person hired to head a department. Department is diverse, think marketing/communications/external relations for a large nonprofit. Resume shows person has less than 12 years work experience and narrowly in only one of these 3 buckets. Absolutely no experience in any of the other buckets. I am primarily in 2 of the other buckets with almost no experience in the area the new hire excels in. Are my days numbered? Would you envision there will be restructuring and perhaps I might be able to position myself as head of the buckets s/he has no experience in? Also -- just SMH. What was our exec thinking with this hire? Seems either he doesn't know or doesn't care about 80% of the work the dept does. Will turn this dept completely upside down. I suppose that was the goal, but the demands for the other work is very strong from all constituencies within the organization, so seems shortsighted/ignorant to disregard that. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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tldr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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the short version: new hire for head of a dept with 3 broad work areas only has 10 yrs experience and only in 1 work area. Zero experience in the other 2. I work in those 2 other areas. Should I expect to be axed? Or should I angle to become head of the 2 other areas since the new dept head has zero leadership experience with them? TIA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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You need to learn to edit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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are you saying your expertise directly overlaps the new hire's experience? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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no the opposite. The new hire has zero experience in 2/3 of the dept's work. I only work on the 2/3 side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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isnt this good? You have an open runway to create and show value without a ceiling of someone taking credit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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I think that's a strong possibility, but our dept currently is an absolute dysfunctional mess so the 80% of us who work in the 2/3 will be scrambling in a free-for-all for power. That's my guess at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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^ plus I am not in the senior spot in the 80% though I think I have better instincts and broader skills than the person who assumes the senior role. It is going to be ugly. Or I could leave I guess! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Also, I suspect the chief executive who made the hire has no idea that the dept is 2/3 the other thing or why make this hire? so the new hire will take all the credit anyway--again, I am just guessing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] What middle school is your DD applying to ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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myob [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.31.14, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] In NYC and have to use Time Warner in our new apartment. What speed should I be paying for? I have heard that Time Warner inflates the speeds it says it delivers ... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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We are getting 15-20 Mb based on speedtest apps on the iPad. Looks like we are supposed to be getting up to 30Mb based on their "Extreme" class, which was an automatic upgrade from "Standard" that we didn;t even notice. [ Reply | More ]
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contd- Keep in mind there are lots of things unrelated to TWC/modem that can make the speed lower- the speed of your wireless router, distance to it, whether you use a repeater behind the router. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:38 PM Flag
[ - ] I am 29 years old and nursing. My breasts are saggy.. Look like 60 year old breasts. Is there any hope for me after stopping breastfeeding? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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Mine kept shrinking the more weight I lost. They're tiny but at least they're not tucked into my waistband... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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if worse comes to worst a good surgeon can make them good as new!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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Brest lift after having all your children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Just don't die from unnecessary surgical complications like Joan Rivers and Kanye Wests mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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Post-pregnancy they are never really the same ime, unless you gain a ton of weight. It's not just the nursing, it's the hormonal changes and the massive inflation/deflation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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a lot of this varies from person to person. i had 2 kids and nursed both for a little over a year. i gained a ton of weight w ea pregnancy and held onto it for too long after the first and WAY too long after the 2nd. in the end, my breasts didn't change all that much, given that I'm also 12 years older. but i was a B-cup and I have great skin quality, so that helps a lot i think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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Sorry, they look worse when BF is done b/c they start to shrivel. No one talks about this so it can come as quite a shock. BTDT. Thinking about surgery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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