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[ - ] What is MEAF? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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I actually found that before posting. still don't get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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"MEAF" = "Me af" = "Me as f**k" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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I think mean AF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you gently extricate yourself from a bad first date? I met someone for drinks last night and found him to be very abrasive and negative but still felt bad/rude looking at my phone after an hour and saying I had to meet a friend for dinner. Help!! Suggestions? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:12 PM Flag
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Feign raging diarrhea? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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I also feel bad for just about everyone. Don't take his calls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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I won’t see him again but how to graciously exit the date without feeling like a hostage/trapped for too long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Get very quiet for a moment. Then announce that the voices in your head are telling you it's time to go. Argue with the voices for a minute or two, to give the impression that you'd prefer to stay. But let the voices win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:14 PM Flag
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i like this one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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For the win! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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hahahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Keep a fake roach in your bag. Discreetly plant it under your table, then scream and quiver, dramatically announcing that the evening is ruined. In fact, you need to go home and take a long bath to recover from this trauma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Haha, here I am thinking you're talking about a kicked joint [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Listen, that would be even funnier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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Practice wrapping people up. I do this all the time with work. Gotta get them out the door. Thank you so much, it's been a pleasure meeting you! Good luck this week with X. Take care! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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what do you say beforehand so the thank you so much doesn’t seem awkward/like an obvious push to get the hell out of there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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This has been great! So glad we got the opportunity to connect. *turn to bartender* can I settle up? Thanks.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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That doesn’t seem very abrupt when the person is going on and on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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It's all in the tone. I wish I could voice record myself. You're saying it with a smile, but a firmness, confidence, and finality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:54 PM Flag
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People see right through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:56 PM Flag
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But who cares? The point is to end the back and forth and extradite yourself, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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It's a bad date, why do you care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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"It's a school night, so I'm going to head out now." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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Always indicate that you're on the way to something else - meeting friend for dinner, whatever. If date is going well, you can always "move" the following engagement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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If he was rude, just say you're leaving. Politely of course. Friend of mine agreed to meet a guy. He wanted to meet at Panera. She got here and he had a water in front of him and did not suggest they order anything else. LOL. She said it was a long hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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Exactly this date was a long hour — [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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An hour for drinks for a first meeting is perfectly respectable. I understand how you feel, but I'm sure you did just fine. In the future, when making the first date, you might say something like "Yes, 6 PM is great. I need to meet a friend at 7:30, so that gives us about an hour," or something like that, so that there is a definite end time, and you needn't feel awkward making your departure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:32 PM Flag
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That’s a good idea — I’ll say it in text next time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Start the date with a built-in end time ... if it doesn't go well you've got your excuse ready. If the date goes well, 'cancel' your other plans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it's better to have a rug under the dining room table? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:00 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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No, but my table is a pita to move so the rug is still there. Put it under a year ago. UGH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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Yes. I have beautiful wood floors and now I have deep scratches from my chairs. A rug would have prevented that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help figure out - job is $55K a year- hours are 9 AM to 6 PM with one hour lunch break- I view that as a 45 hour week because you are technically still “on call”. The vacations and holidays, personals days etc. come out to approximately 4 weeks a year. So it’s 11 months. How much is this job per hour when broken down?? Thank you!! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.23.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Hold on. I have a calculator on my phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:47 PM Flag
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Okay, based on 1,980 hours, that would be $27.76 per hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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^^and that's only based on 44 weeks of work, not vacation/personal time, which technically you're being paid for, so the hourly wage would be less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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If you just divide the $55K in two you get $27.50 which is pretty close. Decent rule of thumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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In my industry the standard is 2000 hours per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Mine is 2080 so $26.44 before tax [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:20 PM Flag
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Are you an exempt employee? In general, to be considered an “exempt” employee, you must be paid a salary (not hourly) and must perform executive, administrative or professional duties. If so, you aren't subject to overtime laws. You are being paid for your time off, so that is included in any calculations you might make to compare your income to that of an hourly worker. Many people aren't paid for their lunch time, so you are working a 40 hour work week--not a 45 hour work week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:13 PM Flag
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You aren't being paid for that hour, even though you're on call. However, you are paid for that time off. So it should be $55,000 / 52 / 40 = $26.44. If you really want to consider the lunch break paid, it's be $23.50/hour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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If you're paid hourly and you work more than 8 hours in a day, you are supposed to get time-and-a-half. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:30 PM Flag
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She isn't either or those things. She's paid a salary, and she isn't working more than 40 hours a week. She's being paid for a 40 hour work week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Suggestions for Toronto trip? We're city folks and don't want to do anything terribly touristy. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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First question: why do you want to go to Toronto? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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I'm on a budget. The only way to engage with DCs is if they're captive in car rides and Toronto has great Asian food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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So there's your answer. Walk along Spadina Avenue, through Chinatown, visiting shops and stopping for drinks to cool down. Stop at the University of Toronto for a look-around. Go to a Blue Jays game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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I know you don't want to do anything touristy, but Toronto has a great art scene and maybe you can pick out a few galleries/museums. Don't know if your kids are interested in that, but it's something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:09 PM Flag
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Toronto is pretty boring. There's a hockey hall of fame and a decent science museum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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Omg what?? Not boring. And good shopping too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:26 PM Flag
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This no more boring than any other city. Similar to Chicago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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How old are the kids? The Royal Ontario Museum, Art Gallery of Ontario, shoe museum, Science Centre are all touristy but still worth it (depending on shows). You can just check out neighborhoods..Beaches, High Park, Dundas Square area etc.. What do your kids like to do? Most of what fills time on holiday is 'touristy' (including obligatory trip to Niagara Falls, about an hour away). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:23 PM Flag
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And Niagara on the Canadian side is so much better than Buffalo. Not throwing shade on Buffalo but on USG for having such a shit "welcome" to the usa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:22 PM Flag
[ - ] First time to Chicago - what a nice city! Had to make a call so ducked into a Hyatt and stayed there a half hour. No one asked if I was staying at the hotel or asked me to leave. Clean nice downtown. I’d be happy if one of my kids ended up working there someday. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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winter is a whole different ballgame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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Is it worse than Buffalo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:59 PM Flag
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Lol random about the Hyatt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:16 PM Flag
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Yep - Chicago here, relocated from NYC. Offers enough culture, activities, career paths while being a much cleaner, simpler, less gritty and less stressful existence. Oh and a LOT cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:22 PM Flag
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And people said excuse me when they bumped into me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:36 PM Flag
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People are SO nice here, it's truly interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Over 250 theater companies, museums and music festivals of every type. A friend just relocated here after living in NYC for 35 years and said there was more to do here. I think it is just not as overwhelming so it is easier to access these events. But for those who worry about missing out on the "competition", the public school selective admissions process rivals that of NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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We were in St. Louis earlier this month, and I found it so livable. You could park everywhere and everything was cheap, and people were friendly. "Flyover" gets a bad rap, but I really like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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Ha, I was in Milwaukee and was stunned at how nice it was downtown, nice waterfront, market and historical district, art galleries...and almost free housing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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STL has so lovely, lovely homes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:23 PM Flag
[ - ] 12 yo DD is completely unmotivated. Is on her phone or laptop ALL DAY and finally had to take both away this week because of very disrespectful behavior. Lays in bed, chats with social media friends and YouTubes. The only times she moves is to eat. While some may say this is normal, it worries me. Short of me forcing her to be more productive what do I do? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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Involve her in things you're doing. DD is 12 and we work on a lot of projects together. In fact, she was bummed the other day because my 40 year old sewing machine crapped out and I had to use her machine. Part of it, IMO, is providing her with options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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Send her to camp without electronics. Lock the laptop and phone away. Seriously. She can have them 2 hours a day in summer, and 1 hour after schoolwork in pm at home. You have to set limits on a kid that is like this. I took my kids outside without their appliances when they were younger and just went to the library, did an outing, grabbed lunch, went to a pool. She may be bored. Where are her friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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op: away at camps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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Okay so, what are you trying to do with her to keep her busy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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what plans did yo make for her for the summer? camp, sports, dance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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op: she said no to everything except a three hour language course that meets once a week. She's an introvert and she can be really bitchy, too. I accept that she is going through teen years (soon to be 13) but I don't get it at all. My other DCs are self motivated and make an effort to stay productive. I'm at a loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Where are they? Away? If you're home you may need to take her out and do an activity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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np - She doesn't get to say no. Not if her default is to just veg on electronics. Tell her to pick something to do next week or you're going to pick and make her go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:53 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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I would maybe think of one in-house hobby or activity she likes-- reading, sewing, drawing, macrame, jewelry making, or whatever and try to get her all the supplies for that. And two, I would think of and require one activity outside the house every day-- long walk, swim in pool. Try to get a system going. I get your dilemma, though. All parents have to strategize differently than our parents did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:45 PM Flag
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Sorry. Me too. I have 14 yr DS who is similar, but an extrovert. My DH let him start doing league gaming. He barely interacts w humans now. Distressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:49 PM Flag
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op: That's the exact word. I've become anxious over it and worried that she'll become depressed. She's already so self conscious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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Next summer I would send to sleepaway camp where she has no electronics and is forced to be active. Flame away. In the meantime, I'd sign her up for activities so she has less downtime at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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op: Yup. I was just thinking this. She has social anxiety and I've been very accommodating but now I'm simply at wits ends. While not a sleepaway camp I am signing her up for a day activity that'll take up most of summer and limit electronics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Next summer, ship her to sleepaway with a friend or a few who already go. She'll have people she knows from the start and can figure it out from there. You need to break this path before she goes to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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My good friend growing up was shipped off for the summer at that same age (she was an only child with single mom who worked a lot, so summer would be lonely). While I'm sure the camp was good for her socially, she also had her first beers there, slipped to her and friends by counselors who were only a few years older. Also her first sexual experiences (she's lesbian). So it has its positives and negatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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is her anxiety really bad? Maybe address that first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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+++1000. Geez. Poor kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:06 PM Flag
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this. a socially anxious kid needs some help before you consider forcing her into sleepaway camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:45 PM Flag
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Iwoudl not send a kid with social anxiety to a sleep away camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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I would [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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+2 - UB loves to hate sleepaway camp, but my DCs are together at the same camp, so while I miss them, they have each other. No devices, no computers, no technology. They are outdoors, playing sports, swimming, doing crafts when it rains they play with their friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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My kids are in daycamp 830-430, they get home at 5. Once they age out , they will be working there. I can’t have them home all summer slipping down the electronics hole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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So you've said in your replies that dd is irritable and also has social anxiety. Irritability/anxiety go hand in hand. That being said, the best way to handle anxiety is to face the issue head on -- not hide away from it. You don't sound overly empathetic to her feelings and sound a bit punitive. Try talking/working with her to figure out something that can help her to get out of the house this summer. Even if it's not "productive". Can she run an errand for you? Pick up food and then cook dinner? Etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:01 PM Flag
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omg this is funny. I made my 14 yo watch it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:40 PM Flag
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"are you for real killing me right now?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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Hilarious! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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I'm not trying to put the blame on you but - what exactly was your plan for her this summer? And what do you expect her to do instead? Do you remember being a kid on summer break? If my mom hadn't made plans for us, I'd be watching TV all day. Now that kids have social media, phones, the internet, etc - that's obviously what they're going to do if they can. You need to find a few activities for her to do for the next few weeks. There is a camp for every single interest out there. We can't expect kids to suddenly find productive, wholesome, activities for them to do when left to their own devices. Would you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:27 PM Flag
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This! We didin't do camp because we coudln't afford it so we watched TV all day long. I read too, but that was 2-3 hours max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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My 11yo ds also refused camp, activities, etc. I could have made him go, but I didn't want to spend $500 for a week of camp, only to have him complain. So he has to entertain himself (with some screen time, but not all day), and the rest of the time he can hang around with me and dd and do whatever we do. Yesterday I dragged him to the grocery store and Target. When he starts to complain, I just threaten to sign him up for camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:47 PM Flag
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I would make her earn wifi time. One hour activity for one hour physical activity or reading. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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Take away the electronics except for an agreed upon amount of time. Tell her to figure out how to spend the remaining hours. Pick up a book, do a craft, hell - write a book, whatever. And if you'd like to get enrolled in a day camp, she can research which one and you'll sign her up if possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Having house guests for the next week. Together we'll be 4 adults, 5 kids (5-10 yo). Looking for meal ideas. We just moved and don't have a grill yet and I feel like it's too hot for some of my go - to's (i.e. Roasts, stews, etc). Thanks! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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A blend of the two? Make salad but order BBQ chicken type of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:36 PM Flag
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I'd get a cheap grill (charcoal) at Home Depot or other store. It's just much easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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Thanks - maybe I will see how quickly I can't get a grill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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Make your own - pizza or tacos. Fajitas - I make vegetarian, beef or chicken and shrimp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:57 PM Flag
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Salad platter. Cobb or Nicoise + grilled cheese [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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Crock pot baby!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Do you have an instant pot? A lot of those recipes are really easy to throw together. I made shredded Mexican style chicken the other day without even having to thaw the chicken first and put together a taco bar for a group -- super easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:28 PM Flag
[ - ] I have leftover bbq chicken. What should I make with it? I am out of ideas. Looking for something new. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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Quesadilla? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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Op-good idea. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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Chicken salad is always a good choice in the summer. It also makes a good omelette or you could put it on a pizza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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Chicken tacos, salad, pasta tetrazinni, chicken chow mein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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A mexican or asian salad w/shredded chicken [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:58 PM Flag
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You could substitute it for beef in chile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:02 PM Flag
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BBQ chicken pizza with smoked mozzarella and red onions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Would we get a discount on private school tuition if I got a job at the school? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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Most schools offer a bit of a discount. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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Many schools have employees apply for aid like anybody else. The advantage is in being favored for admission. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Summer salad recipes? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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I love Greek salads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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Watermelon with feta and mint. Love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:35 PM Flag
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+1, love this salad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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Orzo with tomato, feta, kalamata olives, capers, red onion. Olive oil, red wine vinegar, salt, pepper, oregano. So good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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This recipe for watermelon gazpacho is basically a blended salad. I keep a pitcher in the refrigerator. I use a little less cumin: https://www.cooked.com.au/Omar-Allibhoy/Quadrille-Publishing/Spanish-Made-Simple/Soups-pulses--stews/Chilled-watermelon-soup-recipe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:20 PM Flag
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raw fresh corn, fresh tomatoes, basil, a bit of lemon & white wine vinegar, salt, pepper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] What careers have the perfect work/life balance? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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Ability to work remote [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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Yes and no. I'm at a company where we can work anywhere we want (office or remote) and while nobody cares where we are at any given time...we need to be accountable at all times. Because of this, there can be blurred lines when we are actually "off" on PTO or after hours, so it's like we're always on. Sure, I can run to my kids' school for family Friday or teachers' conferences with zero stress, but I always feel like I need to be checking in/looking at my phone, which isn't a great way to live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:08 PM Flag
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Ones where you have advanced enough to allow negotiation. [ Reply | More ]
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Most doctors I know have a very good work/life, other than maybe surgeons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:55 PM Flag
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Which specialization? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:24 PM Flag
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radiology, derm, pediatrics [ Reply | More ]
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The one where you pick when and where you work. [ Reply | More ]
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best-selling author. Work when and where you please. Nice work if you can get it. [ Reply | More ]
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Sales? [ Reply | More ]
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Sales? [ Reply | More ]
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Teachers [ Reply | More ]
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Freelance if you have a spouse with a steady salary and benefits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] What are topics that get UB riled up besides SAHM vs WOHM? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Beach house rules [ Reply | More ]
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Private vs Public [ Reply | More ]
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Circumcision [ Reply | More ]
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Dullards asking dimwitted and disingenuous questions. [ Reply | More ]
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Circumcision, earrings for babies, whether IM is real, splitting a restaurant bill, tipping, Hunter and Avenues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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^^whether or not kids should wear leashes or other restraints [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:40 PM Flag
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^^whether or not you're on the hook for the whole year if you take your DC out of private after paying the deposit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:51 PM Flag
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daycare vs nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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Private schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Catholic Church [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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and just about any other religion. NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Teens texting at midnight-yes or no? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:07 PM Flag
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Nothing good happens at midnight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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Sure especially in the summer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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set up for them to charge their phones outside of their room every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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I have no problem with it during the summer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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What do you think?? We take the phone away well before bedtime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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Set up screentime limits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:29 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:55 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o Am I the only person who washes their hair every day? I was taught to as one of the steps of showering and haven’t ever reversed course. Wash and condition during my morning shower every day, and again if I have a second shower (rare but has happened). Those who dont- do you still wet it? Wear shower caps? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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I do too. I feel icky otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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I wash everyday but I also let my hair air dry everyday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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Op- same. How is drying related though? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:21 PM Flag
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I don’t use heat products to damage my hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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I rinse and condition every day, but I only use shampoo 1-2 times a week or else my hair gets too dry. I don't have oily hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:04 PM Flag
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I do every day. I exercise intensely so it gets sweaty. And I have fine hair that gets extra flat overnight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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I used to when I was a runner. Now only wash it every other day because my hair needed a break. I just put it in a top knot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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I wash my hair and shave my legs every time I get in the shower which is at least every 24 hours. What's really weird is that I start feeling physically dirty at almost exactly the 24 hour mark after my last shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:06 PM Flag
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Wash/ just rinse alternate days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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I wash every 2-3 days, wear a shower cap. I blow dry/iron and doing that daily would kill my hair (and my schedule). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:52 PM Flag
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This really depends on your hair. I have very thick hair and go days in between washes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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I don't. My hair is coarse and dry. If I washed it every day I'd look like a tumbleweed since not only is it coarse and dry, but I have a lot of hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:11 PM Flag
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You do realize that not everyone has the same type of hair, right? Thinner, straighter hair tends to get oilier/dirtier faster than thicker, curlier hair. Also, some hair types get too dry if washed too frequently. My dh and ds have similar hair and rinse it everyday in the shower and only shampoo it 2-3 times a week and hardly ever use conditioner. They shampoo daily in the summer if swimming. DD and I have very thick ringlets and our hair would be a dried out frizzball if we wet it everyday, plus when it looks good (either perfect curls, or a fresh blowout) we wouldn't think of ruining it by washing it everyday. We wet it in shower and use conditioner and other products if wearing it curly, but if wearing it straight, we wear a shower cap and only wet it/shampoo it once a week. and not it isn't smelly or gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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If I just got my hair blown out I want the blowout to last at least 2-3 days so I will wear a shower cap. When it starts to look oily or feel dirty, then I shampoo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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I have curly hair that I wear curly and while I wet it everyday and use conditioner, I only wash it once a week. My hair is dry and not oily at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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Some people may really need to but it's mostly a product of aggressive marketing - wash condition, serum, spray, oils, whatnot. Of course by the end of the day your hair doen't feel clean. Also, you don't have to have magazine-worthy hair every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:17 PM Flag
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I try not to, because my hair gets too dry.Mostly I wet it and put a little conditioner in when I shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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Summer only [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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I have straight slightly dry hair so every 3-4 days for me. I wear a shower cap in shower if I don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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I used to, because my thick, straight hair looked oily after 24 hours. But now that I'm post menopause, it doesn't get near as oily, and I can go a couple days without washing. More a function of age than custom or marketing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:44 PM Flag
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Too lazy. I do every 2-3 days and use dry shampoo or throw it up in a bun. I'll put it up when I shower and wear a shower cap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 09:31 PM Flag
[ - ] What is something that you are a bit obsessive about? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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Organized kitchen cabinets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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Organized sock and underwear drawers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:02 PM Flag
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anti- clutter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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DH claims I'm obsessive about wanting to sleep on the same side of the bed every night. He thinks we should switch randomly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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That's insanity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:16 PM Flag
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Omg no I have to sleep on the same side. Get DH’s head checked, ha. Seriously he expects you to change sides? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:19 PM Flag
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OR: I suspect this is because he has scattered a bunch of books and junk all over the floor on his side of the bed, and he prefers my tidier side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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That is funny but do not let him sleep on your tidier side, ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:29 PM Flag
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NP I try to tell we should switch sides randomly, but it is because his side feels more comfortable since he doesn't keep a lot of crap on his bedside table! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:34 PM Flag
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+1. It's the same side for life, same with having a regular seat at the dinner table. M siblings and I still all sit in "our" seats when we visit my parents! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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this. my DH is the same way, no fixed routines in his head. i suspect adhd. i put my foot down when he started asking the kids every night where they wanted to sleep -- like in the guest room, or camping out on the living room floor or some other random arrangement. Which is fun every once in a while, but not every night! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:07 PM Flag
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He's nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:43 PM Flag
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Being on time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:18 PM Flag
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This is me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:42 PM Flag
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You both sound very polite. Good for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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nothing on my kitchen island counter unless I'm cooking. Generally anti-clutter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:22 PM Flag
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Trying to consider the feelings of others who might be affected by any action I take. So obsessively afraid I might unknowingly cause hurt. It’s exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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Checking the expiration dates on my cans/bottles of craft beer; making sure that I have my gear in exactly the correct pockets when I go for a run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] What was for lunch? What is for dinner? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:01 PM Flag
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I had a sandwich from the deli. Will probably make taco stuff tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:03 PM Flag
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Homemade avgolemono soup for lunch. Cevapi for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:05 PM Flag
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Sounds great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:23 PM Flag
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corn and bean salad with grilled chicken. meeting friends for dinner later, but the kids are having hot dogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:15 PM Flag
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Sardine sandwich and chips for lunch. Salad and strawberries with cream for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:32 PM Flag
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Nothing for lunch and we were invited to a friend's place for dinner, so I can't say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:39 PM Flag
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A peanut butter sandwich and a pluot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:48 PM Flag
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Grilled cheese, dinner is salmon , zucchini , rice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:03 PM Flag
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I had some fish sticks with some mayonnaise and relish for lunch. Not sure about dinner yet. It's just me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Where are all the usual posts of people gearing up for K admissions? That's what I'm on here to see! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.23.19, 06:58 PM Flag
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College apps are the new K apps. everyone is old on here now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:10 PM Flag
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MEAF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:41 PM Flag
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May be ask the questions? This older crowd has been in these schools for while and seen the good, bad and ugly. We may not know the latest of the admissions process, but we know some of what is going on internally. Some of the Manhattan schools are fearing the number of young applicants going down which is good news for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:38 PM Flag
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Which schools are in fear? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Fun fact : Heavy layoff in my office today and they also blocked UB. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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Blocked UB? Do you know which colleague are on UB? When I work, I only use UB off of my phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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where? on a Tuesday? odd day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:54 PM Flag
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Banking [ Reply | More ]
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Deutsche Bank? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Having my third frozen embryo transfer tomorrow. The last 2 have failed with normal embryos. I'm 32 and all tests have been normal (except male factor). I really want to be excited but am having such a hard time feeling very positive anymore. Anyone have suggestions on having a better outlook? TIA! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 06:46 PM Flag
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You have soooo much time. I'd bet my life you'll have a kid. Relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 06:48 PM Flag
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Why are you being so proactive at only 32? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 06:59 PM Flag
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We haven't been able to get pregnant in years, IVF is our only chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:00 PM Flag
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Well, time is on your side! Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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Op- TY :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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Good luck! Transfer two embryos if you have them. That's the only thing that worked for me (resulting in two singleton pregnancies). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:08 PM Flag
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OP- Thank you for the advice, we have 5 more left, thankfully, will definitely request 2 if this one doesn't work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:12 PM Flag
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Wow, you really got all the "things you shouldn't say to someone struggling with fertility" statements above. Posters - think before you hit post. Don't tell someone to relax, that they have time, question their proactivity FFS. You don't know what OP has gone through. OP - GOOD LUCK. Sending you positivity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:13 PM Flag
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OP - Thank you so much, really appreciate this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:26 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 07:28 PM Flag
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I only posted time was on her side because it is. I'm not minimizing her current anxiety, I'm just recognizing that if she wants to be a parent, it WILL happen. Not always in the way you think, but it will. I lost my fertility in my 20s but we were able to adopt infant twin girls from another country when I was in my late 30s. *It will happen* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:15 PM Flag
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Things don't always work out for everyone. For example, what if she can't afford more IVF or adoption fees? You don't know the circumstances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:25 PM Flag
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It's very dismissive to the stress that OP may have been going through for the last few years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.19, 08:31 PM Flag
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