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[ - ] Let's create some new MP posts to boost Lilly out of MP and talk about something actually interesting to us. What kind of posts usually make MP? let's brain storm and then start a few 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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City or Suburb or Both if you can have the option of Both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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My DH hasn't worked in 7 years!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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post about it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:40 PM Flag
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so sorry. what happened? is he depressed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:41 PM Flag
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Nah, he's at work. Just helping the cause... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Posts written by the OW are always popular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] A teacher asked me to complete information for my DD's educational plan. She's in 3rd grade and doing well. What is an educational plan and what is it used for? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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Whoa there Sally. They are trying to get your dd classified as special needs with an IEP. They need your permission. You don't have to give it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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Yeah. OP is leaving out some info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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No. She's in a gifted program at a dual language immersion magnet school (not in NY). I see you know less than I do... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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^^^ and she has all As and 1 B in social studies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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At my private school, they ask everyone to fill in a sheet about your DC's strengths, weaknesses, personality that they say will be used to create an individual plan for goals for the year. As far as I know, what I write on it seems to have no effect on their teaching of DC over the year. I cannot even tell they have read it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:27 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is having diarrhea non-stop. Is that the stomach virus that's going around? I thought it was just vomiting. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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Is he taking immodium? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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never take that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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never take that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:20 AM Flag
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That's it. 24-36 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Ask a doctor not freakin' UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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Can I kiss him? I need to lose 5lbs asap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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Stop the green smooties! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:43 PM Flag
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Montezuma revenge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:46 PM Flag
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Yes, some vomit, some have diarrhea, some have both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:05 PM Flag
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have him take oregano oil immediately. it kills the virus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Avenues, Hewitt, Columbia Grammar or Grace church for MS? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 02.23.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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This is a tough one. I would do in order CG, Grace, A, H, but won't be happy with any of these choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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Why ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Not the best peer group, These are not top choices for the best and brightest 2,000 kids in the city, so your DC won't get exposed to the smartest and hardest working kids in the city. And iffy college stats. Getting into a top college is far from a slam dunk with any of these schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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Wouldnt you agree, however, that these are WAY better options than public schools with limited resources? The majority of PS have no art or music programs, no languages at K, let alone all the extra curriculars. The exposure our kids will get earlier on will already give them an advantage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Agree w/ you. A few public MS like Nest has 2-3 foreign languages + tech lab + art, music and theatre, but those are exceptions to the rule. Of course private TT-3T are better than most public MS. I would be concerned about peer group in 4Ts especially those known for taking kids counseled out from other schools, like Dwight and Leman. Better to have few great influences than plentiful of bad influences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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Again, without a dc in PS, you may not want to speak about "exceptions to the rule". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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info is wrong. There are lots of great Publics that offer the arts and clubs/sports after school. And have fantastic peer groups [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:40 PM Flag
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I think you may be working on misinformation. Our dc is in PS, and he was never been without art or music in elementary, and there is an extensive art and music program in his MS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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There has also been foreign language. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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that's amazing, but not all schools offer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:12 PM Flag
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Looking at where OP is applying, she is likely in District 2. It's an affluent district. The public schools have arts, language and music programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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NP - why is the automatic assumption that 1) OP's kid is one of the "best and brightest" or 2) that everyone wants that peer group for their kids or 3) that every kid will do best in that environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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If you only want to be around families with money, then any of these are fine. But we all know that none of these are great schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:35 PM Flag
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not about the folks with money. it's about the education. at least for me. and if these will offer more resources than my zoned PS, then this is the direction I take. and each will do as they need to for their family and DCs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:15 PM Flag
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Understood, but none of these are great schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:34 PM Flag
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elaborate. what makes them not great? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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hating because they're not TT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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Grace Church is probably the best of all of them. I don't think you can go wrong with any private school in NY. They're all good just some more academic than others. it is where your child fits in best, not where you want them to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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Disagree. Some private schools COULD actually be bad for your DCs. They could pick up a bad drug habit at Little Red or bad work ethics at Dwight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 05:33 AM Flag
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Columbia Grammar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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If Jewish CG if Christian GC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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There are lots and lots and lots and lots of Jews at Grace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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I think Avenues would be ok until 5th grade, after that I would not trust my kid to the school. Although, I do think the Harkness method is fantastic the school does not have a fixed program. It changes it when it finds out it made a mistake. I can't see that lack of consistency being good for children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:44 PM Flag
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Avenues - we are also deciding on MS and Avenues impressed us over CG (didn't look at Hewitt or GC) - DC going to a Hill school, but really likes Avenues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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Grace first. Never avenues - one doesnt go to for profit schools or new schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:20 PM Flag
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why not? if it is a publicly traded company with strong financials which are reported, so that you can see the cash flows and income statement. i have not seen avenues financials so have no idea how long they can survive. some new schools can do well if it has the reputation abroad, owns its properties and others, and has stellar exmissions to international boarding schools or private schools. Do not use NYIS as an example as it is a farce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:05 PM Flag
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WOW: Admissions Dear Parents, It is with great regret that we inform you that The New York International School will close permanently on June 13th 2017. The school is therefore no longer accepting applications for the 2017-18 school year. For more information, please call our admissions office at +1 212 641 0920. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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you never put the needs of kids at school up against the need to return funds to shareholders. ever. that is why no good university or private school is ever for profit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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Education like everything needs to evolve. The world has changed. Those who attend for profit schools like the fact that you do not have to raise money for the school, be asked for donations after graduating and are not allowed to give teachers presents. NFP can be more subjective whereas as FP schools have to report to shareholders so they have to be on the up and up. My Ivy NFP university brushed a lot of crimes under the carpet. Look at all the sex scandals appearing left and right as so many NFP schools. Makes you wonder, have NFPs really had the best interests of your child in mind? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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you simply dont pit kids needs against needs of shareholders. that has nothing to do with whether other impropriety occurs. but you simply dont do it. you're asking at some point for problems. And its redundant to say Ivy NFP - because ALL the good schools are NFP. It's unseemly and suspect. As if the reporting structure of corporations has ensured the absence of illicit behavior! The desire to combine profit and children's education raises suspicions that cant be easily quelled and leads to a lack of confidence. Hence why many stay away from Avenues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:03 AM Flag
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CGPS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 03:25 AM Flag
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Columbia Grammar or Grace, whichever is closer to where you live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a good eye doctor for long term maintenance contacts etc for 45 yo mom here in NYC. UES or UWS preferred. Thx 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:21 PM Flag
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I really like my doctor, but he's in Gramercy. Jonathan Ellant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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Op: it's only once a year. I want the distance and reading combined lenses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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For years, I have used Associate Ophthalmologists and really like Dr. Darren Wallis. They have a few locations in Manhattan. The one I frequent is located at 305 East 40th Street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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My kid + DH goes to Charles Merker on E72. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:41 PM Flag
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Dr. Kip Dolphin. Not a fancy office environment but I really like him. UES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:46 PM Flag
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I got monovision contacts from him--i think that's what you're looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I am surprised at how little responsibility most women take for their situation in life. Nearly everyone I know who complains blames their husband, their mother, their boss, their neighbors , or just "society". And people let them get away with it and agree that yes, they are without agency and have no responsibility for what happens to them. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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Yep. I blame my husband. I've made all very responsible choices, have a solid career and take care of our kids and home. He, on the other hand, is underemployed and constantly playing victim. I have to pick up the slack constantly and this often leads to depression. I also have no time to care for myself. It's his fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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LOL...exhibit A for OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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OR - haha. I know! I can't help it. I really feel like it's his fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:58 PM Flag
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I know what you mean. I feel like MC/UMC American women grow up with the idea that they don't have to ever be responsible adults. Some do have bad husbands, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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^There was recently a piece in NYT by a highly educated woman who just took it for granted she'd have a high-earning DH. I mean, really?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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I agree with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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well to be fair women are the ones who traditionally do have less agency. Men are much more likely to walk out on kids, take jobs they deem "beneath" them, not do housework/childcare; men are more likely to abuse drugs, play too many video games, commit crimes, etc. women by and large don't do that crap- they take recognize their obligations. If I had a crappy Dh or dad I'd resent men too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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I'm a woman and women routinely take jobs that are beneath them, and often abuse drugs and alcohol. They just have socially-sanctioned reasons to not work. And most DHs don't commit crimes, so... I'd probably agree with the rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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No- I mean men are more likely to NOT take a job (e.g. Pink collar work or retail) bc they think it is beneath them. I am just talking about generalities here. But in my experience (save maybe for a very small subset of wealthy manhattan wives) women get stuff done [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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I ignore the whining and don't have friends like this. I don't take complaining women too seriously...women just like to whine about stuff and get bent out of shape when you suggest they might actually be able to fix their sitation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:58 PM Flag
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This is why the Democrats lost so many seats in Congress and the Presidency. Wimpy liberals need to take responsibility for their own disasters and stop blaming outsiders for their ills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:03 PM Flag
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are you freaking kidding me? it's the repubs that are scared of everyone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:22 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been wearing contacts for 30 yrs. now need reading glasses and hate them. Is there something I cna do? Get Lasic and wear reading contacts or something else. Am 45 if that makes a difference. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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Dh's optometrist prescribed 2 different contact lenses, one for reading and one for distance. He wears them together. The brain trains itself to use each eye independently. It took him a day or two to adjust but loves it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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Together as in on top of each other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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No a reading rx in one eye and distance rx in the other. Seems like it'd jar you but dh says it works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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Interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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kind of like progressive glasses ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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Op: that sounds awesome. So one of each? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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yup...your optometrist might be able to suggest something else, or else give you a trial pair to see if you can find them comfortable. I think there are also some "progressive" style contacts where the rx. is different depending on what point you look through (if that makes sense). I'm sure they can help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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I have this set up, left contact is for close up and right is for distance. It took me 2 minutes to adjust. It works great, still struggle to ready really small print, like 2pt or 4pt, but otherwise it works great. Saving my pennies for laser lens replacement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:45 PM Flag
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Which contacts do you use ? I posted yesterday about needing some. over 20 years ago I got Lasiks, if you could go through with it , its really awesome. I havent worn any contacts or glasses in 20+ years, but now I am too nervous to have anyone touching my eyes . If you are not freaked out, get the Lasiks. I remember I went to Dr. Dellarusso. He was one of the pioneers, who knows if he is even alive now ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:41 PM Flag
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Monovision contacts. Takes a little while to get used to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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MOnovision is the one side for reading and one side for distance. Took me three attempts to get used to it but now I feel free from always having to use my reading glasses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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Op: wow! Why doesn't everyone use these? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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They're hard to get used to, and you do sacrifice some of the crispness of distance vision. It's not perfect but I really like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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I tried three sets and couldn't make it work. So, full-time progressive glasses for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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i have multifocal contact lenses - work great! used them for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had problems after acupuncture? I am suddenly suffering from weird symptoms that seem related to some kind of inflammation of nerves on my left side (chest, shoulder, face). Also suddenly higher heart rate, high blood pressure that seem link to inflammation. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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^^^I already did x-rays, treatment for possible sinus infection, saw cardiologist - everything is normal. It all started at the same time as acupuncture sessions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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Probably more to do with why you were having acupuncture in the first place, that's my guess. Why did you go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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Tinnitus (ringing in ear - ENT had said that I had hearing loss and that there was nothing they could do). I went to a acupuncturist recommended by friends. He was clear that there was little chance that acupuncture would help but I decided to do it anyway. A week after first session weird symptoms started to appear. Have seen 2 different ENT since and everything seems to be normal. Very strange! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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And you had a physical? Sometimes ringing in ears is a symptom of another situation. I'd continue to press the dr. Sounds like a syndrome of symptoms that might be nutritional perhaps (anemia, thyroid, deficiency of a vitamin, or overdoing of a vitamin???). Check your B vitamins. FIL had nerve issues (pins and needles etc) and it was found his B vitamin level was low. (just using that as an example). GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Thank you - had blood work done a few months ago, but you're right, I should have another one done. Your FIL's example gives me hope. I've seen 5 (!) GP and 3 specialists so far but none seemed to be able to come up with a comprehensive approach. Thank you for your kind words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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I live in CT and Tinnitis is a common symptom of Lyme disease, as are inflammation, nerve damage, racing heart. The acupuncture probably released lyme bacteria into your system. Get tested for Lyme. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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Thank you! Never thought of that - I will speak with my doctor about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you leave a responsible high school senior at home alone for 2-3 days? Work trip on my end, single parent. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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Depends on the kid. I have one boy I'd leave home for a weekend as a sophomore, I have one boy I worry he's having a raging party in my home when I leave him home alone for more than 45 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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I would not consider the second child responsible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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Are you effing serious?!?! I would leave one alone with an infant. Come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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OP and yes, I am planning on doing it but a friend of mine was basically like OMG, you are crazy to even consider it. So I am asking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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your friend is crazy. The same child will be going to college in a few months! My only concern would be loneliness so I would prefer if a friend stayed with him/her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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DC will be in school, have sports practice, we live in a building with neighbors, etc. so not like sitting at home alone all day long or anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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Ah, ok. We live in a house. I wasn't thinking apartment building. Regardless, s/he might get lonely at night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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Take out delivered and lots of TV. DC will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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Your friend is wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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Ha, the summer after my senior year my parents went to Europe for the summer and left me home with my sister. I was 17 and in charge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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No. ask if there is a friend he can stay with for a couple days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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what is your rationale? Safety? Or teen getting into trouble? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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well that won't be at all embarrassing for him.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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Of course, they will be alone forever in 6 months - at college. Make certain a friend checks in and they have contact numbers. I'm surprised you haven't done this before as practice for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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DC is very responsible and independent, just haven't had the occasion to do this yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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Now's the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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Sure, next year they'll be in college, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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The point is not whether the kid will be safe on his own. The point is what happens in your home with your dc and their friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:45 PM Flag
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My parents left me home alone all the time at that age. In their eyes I was very responsible. Also, my brother (9 years older) was checking in on me. Let me tell you what usually went down - I would drive their cars around (even before having a license) and would throw some of the most fantastic parties in town. My responsible older brother was very helpful in procuring the libations for the party and served as a fantastic bouncer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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OP and mine did sometimes too, and I was even younger. I didn't do anything particularly crazy but my older sister and I did go out a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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lol that's so funny, my brother, also 9 years older, "watched" me in high school. Got me all my weed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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OP and my older sister didn't do that but yeah, she was definitely the one that took me to my first parties. It made me feel so cool that she would do that :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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OR - Older siblings are seriously the best. I gave the speech at my brothers wedding and one of my lines was that he always helped me get out of - and into - trouble. Such amazing memories despite how ridiculously careless, disrespectful and irresponsible we were. But yeah, never leaving my kids alone in my house. Times are differnet. Too much at stake if kids make bad choices and kids often make bad choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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Lol, my older brother (by 8 years) had drug parties, gave me weed (I was only 9!) and took me along to a robbery where he stole a bunch of stereo equipment. He got found out etc...it was a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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Holy shit! What is your relationship like now? Did he get his life together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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Yes, I think it could be a good experience. My parents left me alone 3 -5 days at a time regularly (like probably 30 times) in junior and senior year. Other than smoking a lot of pot, I didn't do anything bad and learned to be self reliant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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Absolutely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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As a junior in college my parents (and all my friend's parents) left us alone for weekends all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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I left my responsible HS freshman home alone for a weekend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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I went away for a few days, my son had a high school party at my house and a girl ultimately died, she was found outside drowned and frozen. It was a total media circus, I had to pull my kids from their schools because they were being called murderers. Ruined our lives. Why do you think I'm here so much? I lost all my friends. Never leave teenagers alone with your home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:51 PM Flag
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Poster above that used to have parties at home. This is what I'm saying. The best of kids make bad choices. That's what kids do. Don't facilitate them making those bad choices in your home. It can seriously destroy your life and theirs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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Exactly. They think they know a lot more about the world than they do, and don't understand that their situation is only as safe as the worst judgment of anyone they're around. It was a nightmare. Still is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Seems like such a horrifically tragic situation all around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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Yeah my mom did and I snuck in my boyfriend and we screwed for 3 days straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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I do - BUT I live in a doorman building and the rule is that NO ONE is allowed up to our apartment when I'm not home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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Yeah but what about the service entrance? Special delivery of cock to your daughter from the back door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:45 PM Flag
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np: i think living in a DM building gives you a lot more security about what can go on while you're away. even when i was in college, the most i ever did when i was at my parents' place alone is have a few friends over for beer and take out. and the worst that happened was a broken glass. the same might be true if you live in a suburb where houses are close together and you're friends w your neighbors. OTOH, if you live in an area where 200 kids can show up at your house and there's no one to report it to the police, let alone tell you, maybe I wouldn't leave my teen alone. For many reasons! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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Do you tell your doorman when you and DH are away, so the kids don't pull any funny business? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Yes, of course. Even after school, if I'm not home, no "guests" allowed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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they can order "take-away" and it could be their bf or gf allegedly delivering. i did this all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:06 PM Flag
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Nope. Deliveries not allowed upstairs. I grew up in NYC in a doorman bldg & know all the tricks ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:24 PM Flag
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Thanks, my parents always warned against letting others know you were away from home but we lived in the burbs. Now I live in a doorman building, will think about it this when my kids are teens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
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No, prob not just b/c one friend asking to come over could make a huge party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Please share your favorite smoothie recipes? I like ice, banana, frozen berries, chia seeds, mix of coconut milk and kefir w some honey. Sometimes I add mint leaves. I sometimes add spinach and hemp powder but dd doesn't like it and we share. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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Soy milk, bananas, almond butter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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Page 2 at the top has recipes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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Vanilla ice cream, chocolate syrup, milk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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Stawberries, some sugar, lots of ice-cream, some whole milk. Mmmmm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:06 PM Flag
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Op: that's a milk shake. Sounds good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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lol, sorry. You got me with the mention of spinach, ha ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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That just reminded me it has been forever since I have had a strawberry milkshake or strawberry ice cream. I need to fix that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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+1. I think Bareburger and a shake are in order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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np: I'm actually not a fan of them. The shake I had was meh. But carry on if you enjoy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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I feel I have to, just to erase the memory of that green smoothie described on page 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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ITA. I'm going to black tap soon. They're stuff is too decadent but what the heck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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Kale, banana, oats, pumpkin seeds, almond milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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Op: what kind of oats? Rolled and cooked or raw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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Raw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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Carrot, banana, cashew and granola. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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what inexpensive machine - under 100 dollars - should i buy to make DD smoothies ? thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:41 PM Flag
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it's called a...blender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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Op: I have a nutri bullet. I bought it instead of a vitamin bc wasn't sure if we would actually use it. It sat in a cupboard for a few months but now e use everyday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:58 PM Flag
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Solu mighty dozen cold pressed juice, vega protein and greens powder, powdered peanut butter, and LivFit superfood blend. (all purchased at Costco). I realize fresh raw everything would be better, but I just don't have time to make from scratch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:50 PM Flag
[ - ] What's an easy or "easier" grad degree that's legit? Something I can do and have a good excuse to move to a new location- away from ex dh? I love history, the arts, politics, real estate, interior design, travel. I've been stuck in an office job (paralegal) doing legal research and writing briefs for 15 years and I need a change and want to get out in the world. 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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Go to law school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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No way- I want to get out of the legal field. Most attorneys are miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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NP from below (and suffering attorney): you are right, don't do it!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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Law school is NOT easy. I tried to do it with a 2y old and man it was hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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Agree. I dropped out after 1L hell. At some point almost everyone from my section emailed or texted me and said they wish they had too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:01 PM Flag
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Lawyer here. I think anyone that drops out after just the first year made a bad choice. The first year is the worst - they mentally mess with you. And, while not emotionally satisfying for me, my law job is actually a great one. Regular hours, flexibility and decent money. Plus, I always have my education behind me if I need to move to a different profession. It's not for everyone and yes, many of us are miserable, but I do still believe it can be a solid career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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How long have you been a lawyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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18 years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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And no burn out? What type of law do you practice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Securities lawyer. No burn out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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Securities question: I rent a room. My Roth IRA is saying they need proof of residency like a mortgage, deed, lease and utilities in my name. I have none of those. They want my landlord to come in person with their own, and sign a signature guarantee for me. My landlord will not do that. What do I do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:43 PM Flag
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I'm not really following the issue. Are you trying to open a Roth IRA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:46 PM Flag
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I have a Roth IRA, and I have been locked out because I don't have that proof of residency. I'm a US citizen, I've had the same account over 10 years, never a problem. They asked for my passport, social security card, other bank statements and mail at my address, I provided all that. I'm still locked out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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So, I'm guessing that you're trying to get distributions? This is out of my area (because it is really retirement law/tax law) but I'm guessing that it has to do with being able to tax it appropriately. States tax your roth ira distributions. Some states have high taxes (NJ) and some states have low taxes (FL). Did you move from a high tax state to a low tax state? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:38 PM Flag
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^ Actually, I take that back, I'm thinking of a regular IRA, not Roth, which I don't think is taxed as the state level (again, not my area). There must be some concerns about your identity. You need to escalate the issue within the company that you purchased it through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:41 PM Flag
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I just tried to make my contribution $5,500 like I do every year. I have gone as far up as I can in that company. I went in person with those documents. Thanks for the replies. I can't find help anywhere! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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NP. I would love a grad degree in those subjects but I don't want to do through the application process or spend 200k. What are my options? Fwiw, don't go to law school. You have seen enough to know it's a shitty job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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University of London has a distance program. You have to check your state but you may be able to study from home. Then once you complete degree get an LLM from a US school and you take the bar. Cost is like £3k for uk law degree and the usual $50k for llm. Fraction of the cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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What is the degree program at Univ of London? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:21 PM Flag
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Are you a lawyer? A state university grad school would not cost $200k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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Yes I am. The state university is a few hundred miles away in my instance. I have a great private university close to where I live. That's the main issue I have, I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:40 PM Flag
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"history, the arts, politics, real estate, interior design, travel. I've been stuck in an office job" sorry but you sound like you want to be a kept woman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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No, I don't. Why would you think that? Are history teachers kept women? I just listed things that interest me. My undergrad degree is in interior design but I've been out of that so long, and also interested in historic preservation- would combine my interest in design and history. I need a change and am interested in others' ideas or suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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Do you have history undergrad credits? May make it hard if not. Interior design is hard, could do some sort of art history program maybe but the job prospects are tough. To make a real change you may need some undergrad credits first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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Yes I do have history undergrad credits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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No, I don't. Why would you think that? Are history teachers kept women? I just listed things that interest me. My undergrad degree is in interior design but I've been out of that so long, and also interested in historic preservation- would combine my interest in design and history. I need a change and am interested in others' ideas or suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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What is your undergrad? Can't just apply to random programs with no background. Maybe an MPA if you like politics but it is a lot of money to spend on something that may not lead to a high paying job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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Also it isn't "easy" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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Just don't do this. Get a hobby or volunteer or start a little side business if you really want but a masters is not going to fix your problem at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:06 PM Flag
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This! Get a gig as a real estate broker if you are willing to work weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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I have 2 dcs and can't work weekends. A grad degree will hopefully lead to better job and also keep my mind focused and off ex and horrible divorce I've been through [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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Spend the time you would applying to grad school, and instead, apply to different jobs. Maybe even the jobs you imagine yourself having after the grad degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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This! The degrees you want won't get you a better job. If you want a serious career switch, go for nursing or radiology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:21 PM Flag
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I'm a paralegal too. While at this job, I went back to school and got my Masters and a post-grad degree. I regret it so much. Have student loans up the wazoo, and I'm not using my degree. And I actually make good money as a paralegal, amazing benefits, flexibility. I'm too scared to give up this job to use my degree - which would entail setting up a private practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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^I should say, good money for a paralegal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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What type of Masters did you get? What type of salary do you make now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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I got Masters in social work and then post-grad psychoanalytic training. As a paralegal, I make $100k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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Wow- where do you live? That's a great salary for a paralegal but I'm not in NYC. I work for mid-small regional firm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:51 PM Flag
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I did an executive (i.e. night school) MBA, I didn't think it was that hard, and it opened a lot of doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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Where did you get MBA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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Elementary education [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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Thanks, but I don't think I'd want to teach at that level - maybe high school or college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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Do a MS program that will lead to profession. Education, Marriage + Family Therapy, School Counseling, or Social Work would be good options. The options you list won't help you start a new career. You could also consider Hospitality and Tourism Management. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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MFA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:43 PM Flag
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And do what with that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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Education. There is a broad range of specialties, and you don't have to teach. You can be a consultant, an administrator, a counselor, sales - you get the idea. Some programs are only one year, full-time, and there are many online options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Would St. Bernard's be TT school if it extended to high school? 76 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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who can know without exmissions stats? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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Oh come on. Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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OK, you use your subjective unassailable judgement then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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I think this is completely fair, though. They track where these kids end up in college too and it's roughly equivalent to the TTs, without bringing in superstars in HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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That's good to know. Wouldn't surprise me at all if it ended up between TT and 2T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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Do they disclose tracking numbers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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Yes. It is sent to families every year, although it is not on public website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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Can you post it please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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Sorry. I don't think it is intended for this board. However, Anne will show you if you are applying. If you are a parent, you get it annually in the mail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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You can ask for it when you apply, it's not on website [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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Funnily enough I was talking to a friend from Asia whose DS went there. She said it was highly academic and excellent program. Her kids are boarding now in Europe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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I don't want to start a war, but I think yes. In addition to top academics, if you track placement through HS, kids do extremely well. People will credit the HSs, and that is fair, but it does give the foundations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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I agree. You can credit the high schools, but at any one HS, not all kids do equally well. If on average these boys do better than their peers in high school, regardless of where they go, it says either they are smarter or better-prepared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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How d you track placement through high school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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Almost all the K-8s show where their kids end up in college if you ask. St Bs has the most going to top colleges but they all do pretty well, and again, they don't get to bring in superstars in MS and HS (and even schools like Collegiate are still only 60 percent lifers). This is why I don't mind the k-8 model. If you look at the big picture - are the kids getting a good education, do they end up at good colleges - the answer is yes. Obviously some high schools are on the more challenging than others, by by high school I personally believe so much of education is what you put into it. You can go to a "lesser" school and take the most challenging classes and form great relationships with teachers too .. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:38 PM Flag
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K-8 should not be taking any credit for college placement unless their grads go directly to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:43 PM Flag
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I just don't understand this. At every high school kids go to a range of colleges - the TTs skew more towards Ivies, top 20s, etc and the 2T schools skew towards a lower percentage to Ivies and top 20s. But if a k-8, over many many years, has grads go to consitently good colleges after going to a variety of high schools it says something. How could it not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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I agree. My DS is at Trinity after St. B. His grounding and work ethic and skills are all due to St. B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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Oh and they obviously don't teach any of that at the TT LS/MS, is that what you are trying to say? THis whole business of K-8 taking credit for 4 years of top[ notch education at other schools is laughable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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I am not saying they don't teach it elsewhere. OF COURSE they do. The point is that many St. B boys go to TT HSs and find they are extremely well-prepared. That doesn't mean that St. B is or is not TT, whatever that means. Just that as a mom of a boy who went there, I think parents thinking of the school for their DSs should realize it is an extraordinary education for a hard working, intelligent kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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It means that St B shouldnt be taking credit for the superior HS education it didn't provide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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No one is doing that obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:43 PM Flag
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because the top K-8 grads go to TTs. Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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No, but even the ones at 2Ts often do well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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The top of a 2T class goes to Ivy and Top 20 as well. Once again St. B should not be taking credit for the HS education it didn't provide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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What is your issue? All anyone said in this post is that it prepares its boys to do well where they go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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Which is something I would want to know if I had a boy applying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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My issue is with this (and I quote) " St Bs has the most going to top colleges" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:49 PM Flag
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That wasn't me. I confess that as much time as I spend here I didn't read every single post in this chain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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And they would never claim that. all their focus is on preparation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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Relative to other K-8s, relax, which is true, if you track where they all end up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:03 PM Flag
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That was relative to other K-8s, which is true ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:15 PM Flag
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Right, but if, let's say 60% of boys who go to TT after St. B's go to Ivies, and 40% of those who go to 2T do, it starts to stay something. Now, I'm not saying those are the exact numbers, but overall, their grads seem to end up in the same place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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without a doubt it would [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:50 PM Flag
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You think High Schools are built in a day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:40 PM Flag
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surely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:50 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:51 PM Flag
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conversely what if one compared the TT schools only using the K-8 years, i.e. Trinity K-8 vs Dalton K-8 vs Collegiate K-8 vs St B K-8 etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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interesting thought. so much of the reputation of the TT is from the HS and all the superstars they bring in, prep for prep college placements etc - many complain about the earlier years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Its your typical public school mom thought. You choose to ignore the fact TTS have awesome LS/MS, that 4 of the TTs do not expand for HS and the few "superstars" they accept for HS are no better academically than the lifers. You can see the prep for prep college placement on their web site - they are not superstars as you would like to believe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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TTS have awesome LS/MS - now that is a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:43 PM Flag
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TTs have LS/MS that prepare most of the students for some of the most academically rigorous High Schools in the city and the nation, which St. B, which you claim is awesome, does not. The joke is on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:52 PM Flag
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... now that I think about it your'e most likely a G&T mom, which is even funnier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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np: while the SS TTs do not expand for HS and D expands more modestly, you have to consider that they all do fill attrition spots and those add up to anywhere from 1/3-1/2 the class that entered after K (depending on the class year). not all in HS of course, but enough that it CAN impact the college stats. my gut (fwiw, maybe nothing) is that the later the kids are admitted to the school, the more likely that they need a track record of strong academics/work ethic and not just being "smart" which is likely to lead to strong college acceptances - HOWEVER, college admissions are influenced by many factors, including legacy and the overall package a student presents (extracurriculars, specific strengths, etc) which can impact what the overall college stats look like. IOW, if the students admitted in K inc more legacies, more big donors, more well-packaged kids, less FA kids, etc. it's not an apples to apples comparison, vs kids admitted MS/HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 07:08 PM Flag
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Very well said, and, I also think it is VERY fair to say they remove the bottom 20% of the class by HS. This also makes a huge difference. If you get 40% of 80% into Ivies (and that's assuming lifers get into Ivies at the same rate), that's 32% -- which is still good, but not the same as 40%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 07:30 PM Flag
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^ I shouldn't say "remove" as not that many are counseled out, but the bottom generally leaves at some point, most on their own will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 07:31 PM Flag
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np above - i think that there is attrition for other reasons too - relocation/finances/co-ed seeking (for the SS schools). i have kids in co ed TT, oldest is late MS and IME very few are leaving for "academics" inc 1 diagnosed w LD. others are mostly moving away from NYC (usually far away), one was financial switch to public, a few had younger sib attend another school and parents switched older kid there. maybe after 8th there will be more changes to "less rigorous" HS's - but haven't seen it yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:00 PM Flag
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People leave for lots of reasons, of course. I don't think everybody who leaves does so for academics, but even a school that doesn't expand sees 40% of its class leave between now and K. So that leaves another half that leave for other reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:10 PM Flag
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the Ivy placement stats for kids at TT's who have been there since K is just not that good. That is the elephant in the room that many fear but few acknowledge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:47 PM Flag
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I don't think that's true. Look at Collegiate, which has consistently the lowest attrition and highest percentage of 'lifers' yet also the best exmissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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I completely agree. In fact, in my DC TT co-ed, the Ivy placement stats were much better for new joiners than for K-lifers, so adjusting for the attrition the Ivy placement for lifers is even lower. Across our TT and my sisters different TT, we can't think of very many new joiners who didn't place Ivy. One year at Trinity, half of the kids going to harvard were new prep for prep kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:43 PM Flag
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This makes sense to me intuitively, but how do you track this? I guess you see where everybody goes to college, and you know who has been there since K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:50 PM Flag
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the schools probably track it but they don't say. only way to know is from your own class which is a sample size of just one year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:56 PM Flag
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Interesting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:04 PM Flag
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This. In my DS year at Trinity, only 3 lifers out of the entire graduating class placed into HYP. It was shocking. They all did well mind you, lots of Duke etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:48 PM Flag
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But how many in general go there? 10? Still not bad odds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:54 PM Flag
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Public school moms like to pretend that there are only two types of students at TTs: rich or smart, while in fact TTs have the choice of students who are both smart and rich. Your gut feeling fails to take into account the fact that families are accepted into TTs because they show a track record of achievement and a strong interest in academics. Yes, mistakes are made and some kids admitted in K do not pan out, but those are absolutely GONE by HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 12:37 AM Flag
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Replaced by prep for prep kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:24 AM Flag
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You can see the college placement of the prep for prep kids on their web site. They replace nothing. Furthermore they are behind in just about every subject, because "prep" is just prep and not the real thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 03:40 AM Flag
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Would any K-8, other than St. B, be considered TT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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K-8 schools, by definition, are not TT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 07:32 PM Flag
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I don't think you understand. She's just expanding the question from above... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 12:58 AM Flag
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Absolutely not. It takes years if not decades to develop the curriculum, hire the right teachers etc etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 05:41 PM Flag
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It is actually an ongoing debate at the school and most agree that it will happen eventually. It is a mammoth task however in terms of both time and resources. All the boys K-8/9 are running into this issue of change in their mission. Originally, their goal was to prepare the boys for admission to the top boarding schools in the country. However, the number of families that want this is slowly but steadily declining and the city HS spots for boys are limited. And they are losing some of the most desirable applicants due to preference for K-12 schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 06:40 PM Flag
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I agree it takes years, but I don't think it's about developing the curriculum, this is relatively straightforward as there are plenty of blueprints to follow, despite that every school likes to talk about how unique their approach is. It requires and enormous amount of capital, and, not only that, it's difficult initially to attract good students to take a chance on a high school with absolutely no track record. Grace has done well pretty quickly, though, in terms of how they place kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 07:40 PM Flag
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np - i think St B would likely have the easiest time of this (of the K-8s) bc there are few schools in nyc that parents really want after St B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:02 PM Flag
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That might be right, but it's also a school where because kids are well prepared, they have many options .. eg the top 1/3 probably can get Riverdale or better (maybe more, depending on who you ask), then there are kids who are going to boarding school because they want to or it's family tradition. So it still might take some time to get kids in the top half the class, but I at St. B's the middle of the class is still very strong. Also, I do think it is harder being all boys, because fewer kids want all boys (Collegiate obviously keeps boys K-12 but they have established college placement, so it's different). Their best bet would be to have a coed high school, and double the class size. That said, if any school could do it, it would be these guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:14 PM Flag
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this is an excellent idea. the trick will be attracting girls to come there for HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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There are still a bunch of coed K-8s, and many girls don't want SS. Not everybody can go to Riverdale or Trinity or HM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:20 PM Flag
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There are more applicants for every SS seat than the coed seats. Your personal penchant for coed is just that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 03:41 AM Flag
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Stop the bullshit already. You can see from the muni bond filings that SS is more popular than coed and that it is actually significantly harder to get into an SS school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 03:43 AM Flag
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how long did it take Grace from drawing board to HS implementation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:17 PM Flag
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It still took years and years. I'm saying their first graduating class and 2017 early acceptances (on website) are pretty impressive, not "TT" level but very good. If I were a parent of a student in lower school, I would be very happy to have this option, since I assume it will only get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:22 PM Flag
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No, for the simple reason that TT is a mythical concept existing only on UB. That's why a place like Avenues (for example) is not TT, despite how much it costs and despite its PR hype. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 07:36 PM Flag
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It's mythical to you because you cannot understand the simple concept of college placement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 02:08 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you deal with someone who is being very pushy about her 35th birthday celebration? She planned her own birthday dinner but too many people said no, so she cancelled. Now she's texting me directly to ask to meet one on one. I'm trying to hint that adult birthdays are not a big deal and maybe we could do it a few weeks from now when I'm less busy, but she keeps insisting that we can't do the celebration so late after her birthday. I just want to scream at her and tell her YOUR BIRTHDAY IS NOT A BIG DEAL TO ME, but don't want to burn that bridge. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:49 PM Flag
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Is this a friend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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Yes of course. But a pushy one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:52 PM Flag
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Wow. I am dealing with a similar situation. I got the message, you won't be hearing from me again any time soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:52 PM Flag
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Are you the birthday person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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Yes. But I sure as hell did not contact the friend directly and insist she meet me another time. I do have a life and a busy schedule, I am not chasing someone no matter how much I like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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You sound thoughtful and not selfish, so this probably isn't you. Have a good birthday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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Thanks. You know how when you meet someone you just genuinely enjoy and is so much fun to be with, you adore their family and they seem to really like yours? This was that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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oh snap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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Just say you have to travel for work or family is ill so you have to fly to them. Ignore psycho, self indulgent freaks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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did you say yes for the original dinner? is the new dinner on the same date? in any event if you don't want to go, just say so that when she cancelled you made other plans - you are available on x date and hopes she is too to celebrate her birthday - leave it as that and ignore any pouting etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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Ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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Does she have a DH/significant other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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Divorced but dating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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I feel bad for your friend. Not sure how much effort it takes to go to a party. I've been to many. My dh likes having one each year and we invite people. Other friends invite us. I personally don't care and just have a cake with dh or go out to dinner. But I don't think this is bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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We would all be happy to go to a party she hosted and paid for. This is a dinner at a 3 michelin star restaurant that she organized and expect others to offer to pay her share for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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NP. That's way over the top. But can't you suggest a different restaurant and meet her for lunch or dinner or just drinks? It sounds like she really needs a friend right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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That's a different ball of wax then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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I agree. Don't be a bitch. Youre friend is getting a divorce. GO to her fucking bday thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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*your [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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it's bizarre, this weird cult adults create around their birthdays. Who cares! you're 39, yay you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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You are a lousy friend. She is obviously upset to be turning 35 and doesnt want to be alone on her birthday. But because it isn't important to you, you are unwilling to be there for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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This. If this is a friend, why wouldn't you go out with her for her birthday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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This. And I am married, did not expect anyone to pay for me. I sheerly just really like this friend. It hurt my feelings but I guess now I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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She is not a lousy friend. I have a friend like this. Invites us to her bday dinner, often at an expensive restaurant, and we pay. I'd love to go to her party if she invited me (and I was a guest not a host). I'd also be happy to take her out to a place I can afford when I can make it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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"Upset to be turning 35" WTF like this makes it better?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 04:23 PM Flag
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My friends all make huge deals about their birthdays. I couldn't care less about mine. As we get older, married, have kids, especially, it's too difficult to coordinate! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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It's a tough call. If this is a good friend who needs to know that someone cares about her to celebrate with her, then I modify my life and go. If this is a person who is always needy and planning celebrations for themselves (I have little tolerance for people throwing themselves parties after age 21) then I gently tell her I would love to but can't make it happen until x date. Don't be wishy washy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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I take my bff out for her b'day yearly. We do it slightly on a cheaper scale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Nursery school how did everyone do? Is it as bad as K where people got shut out from ongoing schools? Are many waiting for the March 1 decisions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:47 PM Flag
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Most are waiting for Mar 1 because most preschools are not ongoing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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I do not know anyone who got into an ongoing who did not have a sibling. Friends heard from GH today, so those decisions are out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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GH isn't supposed to notify before Mar 1 as an ISAAGNY school, but whatever. The vast majority of preschools will notify on Mar 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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Who knows sometimes people embellish the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 03:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Fage 2% blood orange yogurt is the absolute yummiest thing ever. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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Sounds great. Have you had White Moustache? I like them too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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