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[ - ] What's a good place to order gold jewelry in time for Christmas? I worry about department store quality. TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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A jewelry store. [ Reply | More ]
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At this point, Blue Nile. [ Reply | More ]
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Good idea. Np [ Reply | More ]
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If you aren't doing Blue Nile or Tiffany's or other reputable brand I would buy it in a jewelry store and ship it (most are insured for $500). [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Autism risk linked to particulate air pollution 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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don't forget IVF [ Reply | More ]
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Jenny McCarthy is on it. [ Reply | More ]
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Particulates in the air are down sharply over the last forty years. So why have autism diagnoses gone up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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Good question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Former assistant Pre K teacher here. I did more work than the Head Teacher. Parents, don't feel you have to give the assistant less. Trust me, they work their tails off. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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FINE. You will get a gift card too! [ Reply | More ]
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HYP humanities Millennial? [ Reply | More ]
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DITTO! [ Reply | More ]
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I always give the assistants the exact same gift as the teacher. Preschool classrooms would be a disaster without assistants!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, my ds's is a disaster, and it is because the assistant does little to nothing to support the teacher. Public pre-K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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No gift card for her. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry to hear that. I live in a burb where my district doesn't offer public pre-K, but my friends in neighboring districts have had mixed opinions about their experiences with it. [ Reply | More ]
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My private nursery had fabulous assistants, but not so much with this school. OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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I give the same amount as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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We don't really want to give any of you anything. It's just something for SAHMs to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Confused. I WOH, why would that make me less likely to give the assistant teacher a gift? [ Reply | More ]
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Listen, I also Want Orgasms Hemiweekly. Don't get excited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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Why do you call yourself a "teacher?" [ Reply | More ]
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Because she is a teacher. What do you do with your time? [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you call yourself a "teacher?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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I am giving the same thing to the teacher and the assistant for 2nd grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Clark for DS. Family name. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I like it. I grew up with a Smith and always thought it was a cool name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Griswold? [ Reply | More ]
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Way to go for the low-hanging fruit. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: my first thought too. I hear Beverly D'Angelo calling his name. She's annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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Kent? [ Reply | More ]
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These responses couldn't be less helpful. Famous people have names too. [ Reply | More ]
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Love it [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
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That's all you wanted, right? Now you can move on. [ Reply | More ]
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Stark [ Reply | More ]
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huguette? [ Reply | More ]
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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I like it! My BFF's brother is a Clark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Clark Bar? [ Reply | More ]
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love it [ Reply | More ]
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I love all family names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] 35, divorced, 2 DCs. Dating a 33 year old who is never married/no DCs. Crazy? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Maybe, maybe not. See where it goes. Many 33 yo men are unmarried and go on to marry and have families. He may not have met the one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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I definitely don't think it is crazy that he is 33 and unmarried [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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yep, maybe he's ready to grow up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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not crazy. If you enjoy his company keep dating. Perhaps don't involve your kids until it is leading to marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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Yes, so far I haven't, been about 9 months. Though he is open to meeting them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Tell him bluntly that you are not going to introduce him until there is a significant committment. Then enjoy him and your time together and see what happens. FIL swore he wouldn't date anyone with kids after his divorce. MIL has 3 who he has loved like his own and sent to college. Sometimes love happens in mysterious ways. OTOH SIL had a guy string her along for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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Why crazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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I guess just because I assume that in general, a guy that age/in that situation would want to date a woman who doesn't have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Older, as I had them very early 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Neighbor is leaving this weekend for Christmas. They have two kids in middle school. The mother is going to the school today to get the homework due next week (kids have school Monday and Tuesday). My question is: why can't the kids do it? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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My question is why do you care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Double this [ Reply | More ]
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triple this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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MYOB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Kos the kids will screw that up and then there will be missed HW. The mom is being proactive. She's the one who probably decided the kids will miss some school in order to go on vacation. So she's taking the responsibility for gathering the HW. I'm sure the kids did not plan the vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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this - normal if the mom can do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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Please move. You are a neighbor who everyone hates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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Why do you know so much, and why are you so invested in your neighbor's life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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She must be sleeping with the husband? or she is jelly that they are going away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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So teens or college age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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psst, it's not her neighbor, but her SIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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You are a pain in the ass. I'm closing my curtains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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i havent been on here in a long time - my gosh are you that bored that you 1) care at all what your neighbor is doing or not and 2) care enough to post it on here. Get dressed and go do something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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ITA go out for a run. She must be fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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You're right, middle school students should be able to do this themselves. Now go find something else to worry about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have pre school age dc doing chess in school or Chess at 3? DS or DD? DO they enjoy it? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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At the age of 3. Dont they just throw it around? LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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well there is a program for 3 yo so probably not/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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"Snowflake! Don't put the bishop in your mouth!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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this sounds like a very bad catholic joke lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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I'm the one who posted it, and ironically, my kids go to Catholic school! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Or "the pawn can eat the bishop." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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both dcs started at 4, after preK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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aren't they 5 after pre k? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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i meant afterschool activity during preK! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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I imagine it is the rare child who would enjoy chess at the age of 3. But parents like to say that their children are learning chess, and plenty of places will manufacture a chess program to help underemployed chess whizs earn money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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There's a sucker born every minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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+1 Complete waste, but a sucker is born every minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Trust me, don't waste your time and money. Whatever your child can learn at 3 in a year, he will learn at 4 in 6 months, or at 5 in 3 months, or at 6 in a month. You will lose nothing by waiting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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+1 Plus, I KNOW everyone's snowflake is "advanced" and "gifted" on UB, but a 3 year old really doesn't have the cognitive maturity to play a real game of chess. You can certainly teach them how the pieces move and what the object of the game is. But the planning, the strategy, the tactics-- 3 years old is simply too young. I LOVE chess myself and I have an 8 year old who loves it even more than me and competes in tournaments frequently. I taught him at age 6, but in retrospect I could have done it at 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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prob a vba but i've just taught my 6 yo how to play chess and now he wants to play it every.single.night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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It's so boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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no way! chess is great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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not a vba-- chess is an awesome game, and at age 6, they can really play a game and understand how to strategize right from the beginning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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yep he is starting to surprise me with some of his moves, i still don't play hard it "too hard" but i'm increasing the difficult level gradually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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^^ don't play it "too hard" [ Reply | More ]
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That's the way to go-- I always tried to sort of match DS's level in the way I played. I didn't want to just let him win, because kids need to get used to losing, especially if they play in tournaments. I liked to give him a bit of a challenge without making it so hard that I turned him off the game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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that's exactly what i'm doing, it is a bit tough to get the right "balance", i'm trying to get a 50/50 win/loss record [ Reply | More ]
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^^^ but in a couple of years it will be "full game on" lol [ Reply | More ]
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yes! these days I have to play my hardest against my almost-9 year old... and I still don't win often [ Reply | More ]
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I can actually weigh in on this. They do. The kids at my DD's school are obsessed with it. I refused to send her because I thought it was ridiculous at her age. Big drama. Anyway, now she goes and is happy as a clam. At the very least, I suppose its not doing her any harm. [ Reply | More ]
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Mine 'started' at 3, but that just means DH is showing DC how to move the pieces. DC is now 5, and can play basic games. Some kids in school are also obsessed about chess. So it really depends on the kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O... Anyone know anything about Madison, NJ? Is it down to earth? Diverse? Good schools? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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Great town with beautiful homes and top schools [ Reply | More ]
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^^ I live in NYC but every family I know who lives there is very down to earth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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Great, thx. Nice people? Good, friendly, outgoing community? [ Reply | More ]
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MC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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Typical Jersey. Yuk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Old homes, very good but not excellent schools, easy commute, boarders some of the most affluent areas of Nj [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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^^^ sorry meant clarify it borders serious wasp territory. Some diversity on Madison and Chatham but if you go the other direction, none. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Thx! So summit schools are better than Madison? Meaning more west of Madison, there's no diversity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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I think Madison schools are better but Summit is more diverse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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West of Madison is Morristown. Very diverse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:17 AM Flag
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I am in Madison. Zero diversity. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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I am in Madison. Zero diversity. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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Nice town, good schools, minimal diversity, really long commute to NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Grew up there. Many of the towns in that area--Madison, Chatham, Short Hills, Millburn are surprisingly provincial in their outlook. Very segregated, minimal diversity and just a general culture of conspicuous consumption. Town is definitely pretty and schools are good but if you are a diverse family I would not live there. I far prefer Westchester. [ Reply | More ]
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Where in WEstchester would you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you do anything for your preschool teachers on the last day before xmas? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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last day of school? Gifts? letters? I didn't prepare anything!! [ Reply | More ]
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chocolates [ Reply | More ]
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Gift cards [ Reply | More ]
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Contributed $ to class gift and dd gave them cards [ Reply | More ]
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Have my child make them a card [ Reply | More ]
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Lame. [ Reply | More ]
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Lame. [ Reply | More ]
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choreographed breakdancing routine [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Dh has discovered online shopping and thinks I, a sahm, am his personal returner. He is losing his mind right now because I can't find a receipt from something I returned for him 2 weeks ago and he is sure the refunded amount should be $4& change more. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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Sounds like my boss. Tell him you found the receipt and the amount is correct. Lose the receipt again when he gets home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Ugh. It's more about the fact that I don't have the receipt than it is about the money. He lost a huge deal yesterday and will now laser focus his frustration on other petty things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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if he ordered it, then it should be in his email the receipt - tell him to go look for it [ Reply | More ]
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It is but I returned in store and they printed a new receipt with the refund amount. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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Call store- they will probably be able to retrieve from their computer and can email or scan it to you and save yet another trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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So dumb... $4 [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like my wife - I spend my whole weekend doing returns because she buys ten of everything and doesn't mind wasting my time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:38 PM Flag
[ - ] just found out that our very close friends asked the school principal to ensure our daughters are never in the same class together. i'm completely shocked. i always thought our girls got along incredibly well but apparently, the mom thinks my daughter is too silly and disrupts her dd's focus. i am really hurt. dh says i'm being silly and that it's no big deal. i feel that to proactively go to the administration really makes my child looked upon in a poor light. who's right? 69 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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I do not think it makes your DD look bad. Many parents want kids separated because they goof off and do not listen to teacher. [ Reply | More ]
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Sibs are often separated. It's not because one is a problem child [ Reply | More ]
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+1 My parents asked for my best friend & me to be separated, because we didn't stay focused if we were in the same class. This is common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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This is so grinchy! Kids need to learn to focus even with their friends in class. Mean and a huge overreaction from them unless teachers have already spoken to you both about it? [ Reply | More ]
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"mean"? [ Reply | More ]
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Well they certainly didn't do it to be nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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Petty would be a better word [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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I think you may be overlooking a more interesting issue. How did you find out? If it was from a school administrator, then he or she has no discretion, and if he or she told someone else who told you, then it's even worse. Other then that, your DH is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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You're beyond silly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Private schools frequently separate friends, because - correctly or incorrectly - they think it builds a better community. You need to develop a social circle outside of the school. Are you comfortable saying which one it is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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the school is irrelevant. the parents went to the administration and the dh is the one who told my dh. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd think WTF too. Then I'd think her dd is easily corruptible. Are those her words, that your dd is silly and disruptive, or yours? [ Reply | More ]
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her words. i found out because the dh mentioned it my dh, as though my dh had already been aware of this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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shitty friend. if i felt this way about a friend's child, i would speak to the mom first! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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op. that's how i feel! i'm honestly stunned. what's so bizarre is that this family has gone to extreme lengths to be friendly with us. they invite my daughter over constantly and even took her on vacation with them last summer for a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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It doesn't mean they don't like her or you. Best friends often should be split up. It forces them to form other friendships, and they don't distract each other. I love my son's best friend, but I prefer when they are NOT in the same class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I think you're taking this in the worst way possible. Yes it's a bummer that you learned this information. You shouldn't have. That administrator kind of sucks. But don't think of it in the worst light. Maybe the other mom really sees that her kid enjoys your kid so much that she won't pipe down and do her work in class. Try to pretend you never heard this information and forget about it. Don't let it affect your friendship with the mom. If you act weird or bring it up, then things will only get uncomfortable. And it definitely doesn't reflect badly on your child. [ Reply | More ]
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op thank you. if this incident didn't involve my own child, i'm sure i'd dispense this exact advice. much harder to be rational in this case, though. i'm trying though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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I would be hurt but don't make a big deal out of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Get over it. the administration doesn't care why the girl's parents don't want her in the same class, they just honor the request. They know that there might be more going on. I always requested that my ds not be with his best friend. His best friend was a bit silly and disruptive, but I really just didn't want them distracting each other in class. I love his friend, and many years later, even though they didn't attend the same ms or hs, they still hang out all the time. Let it go, and stop taking it personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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op hard not to take it personally when they specifically contacted to school about my daughter. how else should i take it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Wow, you are really touchy and sensitive. This is your daughter, not you. If you keep confusing the two, you will have a really hard time as she grows up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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doesn't dignify a response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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LOL. I rest my case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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op here. i didn't' write "doesn't dignify my response." i rest MY case. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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NP: I get you but you have to pretend you didn't hear it. The school gets that it does not imply that there's something wrong with your kid - it's a chemistry issue. Teachers know not to put certain kids together, part of classroom management. Other mom is OTT but all of us are sometimes about our kids, right OP? : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:15 PM Flag
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How old are the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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3rd grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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lol, your child will not be looked upon in a poor light - and your dh is correct you are being silly and it is no big deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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It is not surprising that you would feel upset, anyone would. But it's one of those things you just deal with. Everyone's out for their own child. I felt upset once when a mom wouldn't let her kids come over and play with my younger child because my older one "was a troublemaker." I felt particularly upset by that because my younger one hadn't done anything at all. Basically we just ended up drifting apart from that family altogether, my younger one never quite got over her resentment over that. For the record, one of their kids later got into some trouble and people avoided them, so ... just deal with your own family, forget what everyone else thinks, and trust that life happens to everyone eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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op wise advice. the dilemma here, though, is that we spend a ton of time with this family. i'm honestly just really surprised right now and hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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Hmm. If this is the case, maybe you should just get it out into the open and say you heard she asked first for the girls to be separated - then thank her because you didn't want to be the bad guy and ask for them to do it first because of the friendship. Whatever they said about your dd, say you feel the same way and are relieved that they see it, too. Chances are they might be just a little shocked that anyone thinks anything less of their dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Isn't that the same as calling the friend the bad guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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You should view the account of that administrator through very jaundiced eyes. Sounds unprofessional. Also, it can be quite normal for young girls to get on so well they can't focus on their work. I've frequently been told by DD's teachers that they have considered splitting her up in future with her best friend. We'll see what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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it wasn't the administration who told me. it was the dh who casually mentioned it to my dh. he seemed to think we already knew this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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PP That means the administrator told either your the other DH or someone who told him. Serious issues with discretion here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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op. the father of the other girl told my dh. he and his wife had gone to the principal together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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He probably made it sound worse than it was. Perhaps it was even the school that originated the idea, or told your friend. That is true in our case, surely. I was told first,and agreed that they should do what they thought was best. Then the friend's mom came and asked me about it, not sure what was going on. But it started with the school's judgement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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op. i wish that had been the case but i don't think so. i do know it happens often the way you describe but dh didn't make it sound like that, at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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np. Bet it wasn't the administrator (since op won't respond to that), but it was through the grapevine. She heard from a friend of the mother, and decided to project her own spin on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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op here. i've already answered this question several times. the other girl's father told my dh. he didn't think it was a big deal that he and his wife did this. he mentioned it casually. no telephone game here. heard it directly from the source [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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It isn't a big deal. Why are you blowing it out of proportion? They're just kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Now she answers after she got called out about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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How do you find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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the other girl's dad told my dh. he seemed to think his wife had already mentioned it to us. he acted like it was totally normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Men are less crazy about this stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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I don't get the big deal - they noticed their daughter is distracted by yours in a classroom setting - they are setting their child up for success, not sure why this upsets you....it's not like they said she can never see or be friends with your child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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it upsets me because i thought they would have come to us first. for goodness sake, we went with them on a 2-week vacation last summer! these are close friends and as i've said before, they are constantly pushing to get our girls together. try to put yourself in my shoes. wouldn't you, at the very lead, be surprised? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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what would you be able to do about it if they did come to you? its the other kids problem for being easily distracted by your daughter - so they removed her from the situation. I am sure they are not trying to kill the friendship, just keep their daughter on track [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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You are blowing this out of proportion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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It is normal. I don't get why this is an issue. I think it is better if close friends are separated in class too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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It's normal for parents of best friends to go into the school and declare that the other child is silly and disruptive? Glad I'm not normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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The other poster was right, you are very touchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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We did that in K. Did not want a bratty kid disrupting my daughter's school experience. School has honored it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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np. School must love parents like you. You'll get yours someday. This sounds different, anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:54 PM Flag
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I must say that's I'm very surprised at people's reactions here. Would everyone on this board go to the school like the other family did? Seems quite "proactive," as OP, stated. They ARE just kids as others have stated which is why I think it's ridiculous that the family went to such great lengths to protect their little snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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how did you "find out". or are you working on a story line and testing it out here. thinking you are fos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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op. i've answered this several times. other girl's father told my dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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Dh is right. At our elementary, asking if there are any kids who you don't want your child placed with for the next year is a standard question. You don't have to justify it one way or the other, just mention the kids names. They try to accommodate, but can't always. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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I have done this with other kids. They are great friends, but not great in class together. Not a commentary on the kid being a good or bad kid, just that I like to keep their friendship on the playground and after school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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No big deal. It's her DD with the issue not yours.some kids can be silly and do great in school. Other kids, not so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Unless your friend's DD is completely awkward socially, she will make new friends, some of whom will be silly and disruptive, and your friend will have a long list of people who cannot be in a class with her child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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I can see why you're upset, but I agree with everyone that it's not a big deal. The phrasing is probably more upsetting -- about your dd being silly and disruptive -- but the actual facts, that parents asked that their dd and her best friend not be in class together, is very common and probably best for YOUR dd as well as theirs. But are you sure the other parents said those same words to the principal? THAT seems unnecessary. I might ask the other mom to tell you, in her words, what she and her DH did, now that you know from the other DH that it happened. Then you can assess whether they crossed some line or were petty, etc. And, btw, that reflects badly on them, not your DD unless your DD is very obviously disruptive and often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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FWIW, I think it reflects far more poorly on the family making the request than your dd. Schools really don't like parents making calls about what is good for the classroom. They tolerate and even honor them, but I don't think they respect the family and probably view them as a PITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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The bigger issue is that the other mom called OP's daughter "silly and disruptive." THAT was the bitchy thing to do and I would wager that is what is upsetting OP the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Maybe it was that the girls are silly and disruptive together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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I'd be hurt but the fact that the dh seemed to think it was no big deal (and he would know if his wife was bitching about it)means it really is probably just an academic thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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I'll bet your friend is pissed at her DH for telling your DH (if that's any consolation!). Anyway, try not to take this personally. I'm sure they love your dd and your family, so this is really about what happens in the classroom. In general, my dd has been separated from her best friend from year to year when they are making classroom assignments, so this is common. As for not coming to you first, they probably realize that it isn't a discipline problem. It's not as if you could do anything about it even if they *did* tell you. Your girls are friends--they chat, goof off, whisper, get into spats from time to time--all the stuff that friends do. You can't put the breaks on this w/o curtailing the friendship, which your friends don't want to do. They want your girls to hang out at lunch, recess, break times, etc., so that they get the most out of in-class time. I'm sure the school isn't thinking this make your dd a problem child. They see it all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] If we have a very part time sitter that we adore, should we give her a Christmas check or just maybe a gift card? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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amex gift card unless you know something she loves (ie my kid who sits loves sephora or starbucks) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it popular now that people put images of their fetus on XMas cards?? I know people do it on FB posts. But an 8-12 week sonogram on a card? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yes, there are people who will do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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I hate those photos even on Facebook. Christmas card is OOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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^^^OTT [ Reply | More ]
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What's OTT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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Over the top? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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I don't know why, but I find that - I can't think of the right word - kind of offensive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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Offensive? Maybe awkward [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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I know, offensive isn't right. Whatever it is, it's bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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bad omen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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No kidding. If something goes wrong, it surely seems like something you will regret forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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OMG! I just got one like this and then later the same day a looooooooooooong horrendously sad fb post about how "some of you may have gotten our holiday card and learned we're expecting a baby boy. He joined us too early over the weekend..." there were pictures of the parents and sister holding the 18wk fetus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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oh god. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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What?! Wow I guess people grieve in their own way. That seems crazy to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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My mom knows them too and said she must be blinded by grief to choose to post those pictures but a week later they are still up. Shocking to say the least. People (from their church) keep reposting trying to turn it into some viral campaign against abortion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Oh for God's sake!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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That's disgusting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Fetus cards are NOT ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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OMG, I read this as feces and thought WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Please tell me they're not photoshopping santa hats onto the fetal heads? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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No just a pink bow or blue bow tie to indicate gender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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Well, back in the day I MySpaced my toilet miscarriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Hair dresser always cuts my hair shorter than I like. I have an appointment with him today for a touch-up color and thinking of going to another place right before (like a supercuts, etc.) for a trim. Think he will be able to tell I just had my hair trimmed before coming to his salon? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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always cut after color [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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really? why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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just the way its done. you want color correct first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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At the salon I go to, they do cut first then color, at least when highlights/lowlights involved - want the color to lie correctly based on cut. (also why would they want to color before knowing how much might be chopped off...?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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np It's color then cut at any high end salon. Really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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nnp: That has always been my understanding. Maybe they cut first for reasons of frugality-time & materials. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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There lying. They cut first because they dont want to waste color on hair that will be cut off. My hairstylist sister told me that little tidbit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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At the places that specialize in curly hair at least, they always cut first then color, maybe because cut affects how the color will look on the curls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:20 PM Flag
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Well, if he always cuts it shorter, why don't you just add 2 inches to your desired length? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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np Or--and this is probably totally crazy--find a new stylist who listens to what you say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Pub Sch parents, what do you think the new School Quality Snapshot instead of letter grades? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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I never followed the letter grades, but the underlying data for the old system was interesting. Much of the data is the same set. In the old system, they had the average state test scores for all incoming students to middle and high school. This was really helpful to me when choosing a middle and high school because it let me know if my dc's were in the average range for a particular school so it would be an appropriate choice. This is not available any more. What is available in the new system is the top few schools that graduates of a particular elementary or middle school attend. Though not that interesting for elementary since our gc gives us the info for our school, it was good for high school choice. The data is almost identical if you look at the spreadsheets, and I don't find the snapshot all that helpful or different from the old one which split out the sections behind the letter grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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I don't have a clue what you are talking about - but you sound like you know what you are doing. Can you tell me how many students went to specialized high schools from Wagner middle school? How many went to Beacon? That would be really cool! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Thanks. I have just done this so many times now. It would be cool to know that. I think it would be great if it were all out in the open, but then you would know which principals have been lying. They do provide the percentages of the top few schools. So, for Wagner (in 2013), it was ElRo 10%, LaG 5%, Lab 5% and Bklyn Tech 4%. I guess they sent 4% or less students to Beacon and the other SHS. Apparently, the numbers are based on who actually enrolled in the high school, so there could be a lot of SHS acceptances where people didn't end up attending the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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oops, and 5% to Baruch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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Yea... Thanks! That isn't really helpful in Wagners case. It's such a big school with 3 different tracks. Oh well - interesting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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They sent something home that said they had more to ElRO than ESMS. But they are a much larger school - so I don't know if they were using #s or % [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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Can you reverse this data and tell where Beacon gets most of its students from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:11 PM Flag
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No, but that is another reason why it would be cool to have all the info. You could see where the schools get their students from. It would cast the DOE in a bad light, though, because it would show that the majority of kids at better schools came from screened schools, so there is a two tier system in NYC. If your child doesn't get in by middle school, they have very little chance of getting into a better high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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Brilliant research: thanks! Wish I'd had this a few years ago. This alone makes the quality snapshots more valuable than the grades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone get a confirm of their Round 2 confirm? Today is the deadline and I'm stressing they didn't receive my email for some reason. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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yes, we received a confirmation email thanking us for confirming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Really? You are not pulling my leg? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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really, serious post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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hope you get more replies as I don't know about others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Yes, received an acknowledgement right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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Just resend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Ok, I just resent the email again. TY all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Yes, the email said, "Thank you for your confirmation." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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You sent to the email they said and didn't just hit reply right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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I hit reply. Ouch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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It's a test for the parents too ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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Yep, ding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:07 PM Flag
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An OW I knew did this. I'm not sure if she sent to the ex but the fact that she even put the kids from 1st marriage on a card was bizarre, as she and DH were not married, but did have a dc together. BTW, OW and DH no longer together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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Oops, meant for below [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been stewing about this all night. I received a Christmas card last night from ExDH, with the OW, their new baby and my DCs. Signed, Love The "Smith" Family. I'm at a complete loss of words, it's like she stepped into my life and couldn't be happier. The marriage ended badly, so I have no idea why they even sent a card. 128 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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throw it away and enjoy the holidays. burn it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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=( [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I just can't get over her smiling with her arm around my DS. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry - making the card was tacky enough. Sending one to you is beyond what anyone with a shred of decency would do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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+3 and I'm sorry, but everyone who gets that card and knows the story is going to cringe at the tackiness of it. As far as OWs humiliating themselves goes, this really takes the cake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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This. She completely humiliated herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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+4 perfect answer. She has a serious problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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+5 I had a dad like this. Completely clueless about tone and message. Almost handicapped dumb when it comes to social skills. My dad actually had the nerve to marry wife #5, adopt her 17-year-old daughter, and then take her to my childhood favorite restaurants, and take photos -- like recreate my childhood with her. Needless to say, after enough therapy, I totally cut the dude out of my life. Just know, the people who have known your family know the truth. I'm sorry you had this happen to you. I'm sorry your first husband, and the father of your child, is a complete moron socially. Just focus on what you want and make the life you want for yourself, with an actual man with actual social skills. They exist! Once you have that, you won't care so much about dumb exH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:29 AM Flag
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Making the card was tacky? If you're remarried you just can't ever send out cards? I agree they shouldn't have sent one to OP, but the card itself is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 09:58 AM Flag
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Wrong. SM should not put her arm around the stepkids. The picture was problematic. They probably should not have done pictures on crds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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Wrong. She's treating them as she would her own, which is desirable and the best outcome. UB is unreal....either stepmothers are too bitchy, jealous and controlling or they're too nice and the kids like them too much. So funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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*waves at first wife* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Hi OW! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:51 PM Flag
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I am so sorry, what asses. Sounds like Betty Buckley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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What's the Betty Buckley story? This is what I was going to name my new little old lady cat ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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A woman whose ex basically re-created her life with younger tart. She killed them both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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I think you mean Betty Broderick. Betty Buckley played Grizabella, the old street cat who sings Memory and goes to Heaven ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Sorry, my bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Wow. This was hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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And the mom in Eight is Enough, which is not unrelated to this conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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You realize Betty Broderick was the loonbag who got dumped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:45 AM Flag
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she was mad but she wasn't a loonbag. i'm just sorry she went to prison for so long. served that idiot asshole and the fucking bimbo right. i wasn't even married when i read her story in my 20's and i wanted to start an anonymous sharp shooters club for people like her. jesus christ. [ Reply | More ]
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She was a crazy old bitch who got kicked to the curb for a younger, prettier model. And yes, she was a loonbag who basically robbed her kids of BOTH parents. Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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This. Meredith Baxter played her sympathetically in first movie, later said she realized she had been duped after reading court transcripts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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they sent the card because I am sure your dc wanted you to see it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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np. sounds like the kids could have seen it when they were at the dad's house. i'm usually pretty forgiving of the daily slights and misdeeds people do, but this seems jerky and intentional to me. OP, I am sorry. nothing to do, but let it go and be glad you have enough empathy never to act like she does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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+1. This is horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Are you an OW? They could have given to kid. You are as big an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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OP, I've actually been decent to this woman. I feel sorry for her because I see her making the same mistake I made 17 years ago. But now I am feeling vengeful. [ Reply | More ]
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I know. They all think it was the first wife's fault. Till it is too late, and they are stuck with old guy, who has trouble paying for first kid's college and new kid's private school, and all that shiny new wife expected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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YUP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:06 AM Flag
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You don't need to do anything. You already know what is coming her way bc you lived it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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no, not an ow or even a 2nd wife - just trying to find an excuse rather than snarkiness - better for OP to just get over these things rather than stew about them....means nothing, or should mean nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
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why would a child want his mom to see the christmas card he is on?!?! do you not have kids? kids always want to be the center of attention [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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These women lack imagination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:38 PM Flag
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Idiots. This is why you only send pictures with kids on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry about this. You have every right to stew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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OW probably sent it to you. Screw that beyotch. Know that this has a lot more to do with her than you. Try not to let her ruin your holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Eww. Just eww. Don't throw it out before discussing it with your children though. It's very likely they asked for you to receive one. If they didn't I would tell ex that it's not necessary to send you his new family's Christmas card again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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this - no need to get upset and angry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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To rub it in your face for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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get over yourself. maybe it was an olve branch. i can see why he dumped you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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olive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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An olive branch? Like the olive branch North Koreas sent us with the Sony hacking/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Hardly an olive branch. That is poking her in the eye with a huge log. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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+1 if the kids didn't ask mom get one it's a huge slap in the face, especially since it ended badly. Does no one on this site have empathy? Seriously, imagine your marriage ending badly and ex running off with ow, reproducing, then sending you a family xmas card with your own damn family in it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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You suck if you can't understand for two seconds why this would be hurtful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Ex wives ar hell to deal with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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If you pull stunts like sending them a card like this, it may make it difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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I see you are the OW !!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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I bet you did something similar ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Enjoy that old dude that you are getting as sloppy seconds. You're not special. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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+2 million [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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not op but: what a nasty nasty thing to say. How the hell could anyone construe such a thing as an olive branch, don't be ridiculous. That's clearly tabasco into a wound right there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Agree plus two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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np. Are you high? That's one of the most antagonistic acts of passive agression I've heard of on UB. Holy crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 08:55 PM Flag
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It's actually just regular aggressive. What awful people. My advice for OP is ignore ignore ignore. If they ask you about it say you got it and thanks for thinking of you. ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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There always SOMEONE who needs to add a nasty note. "I can see why he dumped you." You are clearly on here, looking for something nasty to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:05 PM Flag
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There are a lot of pathetics like that on this site. People should feel sorry for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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fucking hag ow alert! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:39 AM Flag
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OW is an idiot. At some point she and DH many need your cooperation and shit like this is what shuts the door on cooperation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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They're reaching out to be agreeable. What's the issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:46 AM Flag
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do a ritual of clearing and burn! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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Yes voodoo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Wow. I don't even know you and I'm stunned. That's stunning. And oddly cruel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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Use it as a coaster and put your coffee down on her face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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Use it to scoop up dog poop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Cut out her picture, put it on mensroom wall, with call x for a good time and her cell number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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This !!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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hee, hee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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heh, heh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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No, put it on craigslist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:46 AM Flag
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Sorry you have to deal with such a hurtful thing. However, it sounds like they deserve each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Sounds like a terrible bunch of human beings. I can't imagine someone being this cruel. The best revenge is living well, so take care of yourself and don't let the bitch get under your skin. Hugs to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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OP: thanks everyone for the kind words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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OMG ! How rude of her ! Throw it away. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Time to schedule a craigslist orgy at their house! When dcs aren't there, of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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Sucks. She wants you to know she has taken over your life officially. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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This. Also shows that it is all about replacing you. Married White Female. Crazy. Write them off and enjoy life without them. Be flattered that they are trying to get in your head but don't take them at all seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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I don't blame you for "stewing"-- I'd do a lot more than that. My ex did something similar a couple of years ago-- sent me their baby's birth announcement. At least they kept my DC out of it. I called my ex up and ripped him a new one, and he actually apologized for sending it. They never did any shit like that ever again. Have you confronted the ex? Let him know that this sort of inconsideration is unacceptable. How many DCs do you have w/this man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Yes, because they realized what a psycho you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Shut up, OW. This post isn't for you. Just move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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That response isn't psycho. It's perfectly legitimate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Or she could have, you know, thrown the damn announcement away and gone about her day. But no....she went the psychic route. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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LOL. This. I can see why these women get dumped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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OP: No, I haven't said anything. It knew it wouldn't have gone well if I called last night. But I think I will take PPs advice and ask to be removed from their list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Yikes. Ok, I'm sorry, that sucks. Maybe just think forward to the day a few years from now when the next OW sends an Xmas card to her house? Her karma is seriously courting it. Oh and don't show ANY reaction to her about it if you run into it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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fake. This is a post from last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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You've been displaced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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Stick it back together write return to sender and drop it in the mailbox. Or pretend you never saw it. That will piss her off more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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An OW I knew did this. Don't know if she sent it to ex, but the fact that she even put kids from 1st marriage on the card was bizarre, as she and DH were not married, but had a DC together. BTW, they never got married and are no longer together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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wow, ouch, maybe set it on fire in the kitchen sink? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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Boil his rabbit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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Boil his balls!! Or what is left of them anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:07 AM Flag
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Do you regret the divorce? It sounds like you were unhappy, and it sounds like she is quite happy filling the same role. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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As a child of divorce I think it is helpful if the parents at least pretend to get along. Like it or not (and I wouldn't like it either), they are a part of the "Smith" family. Wouldn't you feel worse if she sent out a card with only db and DH and left your dcs off of it? Go ahead and hate her, but imo if they have been together long enough to have a db it is time for you to get on with your life and get over it. Shit happens to everyone, Onwards and Upwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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Oh please, OW shouldnt be sending a car. DAD can give one to his kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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I am so sorry. That is really disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:22 AM Flag
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That is terrible. I am second wife (never OW), I am amicable with DH's ex but I would never send her a Christmas card. How insensitive. Trust me, everyone who receives that card knows the real story and will roll their eyes. Sit back and watch the marriage unravel. OW marriages rarely last. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:41 AM Flag
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LOL. OW here and married 15 years to dh. He ditched his wife fairly quickly. Don't generalize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:44 AM Flag
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Well. You're just one of the lucky ones, aren'tcha? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:02 AM Flag
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Gross. And he's cheated on you, OW. You're just dumber than 1st wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:03 AM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:08 AM Flag
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PP Get back to me when your married 30 years. It ain't over yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:25 AM Flag
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PP You're [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:25 AM Flag
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You're not wrong, but the same applies to everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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He is cheating on you, but that's ok. You were desperate enough to be OW, you will be just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:08 AM Flag
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Statistically, your dh is cheating on you too, you realize there's no difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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Not true. OW have very little respect for themselves. A man will do what he pleases with a woman like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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You're delusional but carry on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Same here. I will add that you are better off without your ex if he would allow something so hurtful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:04 AM Flag
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they sent it because they are assholes. when you get pissed more than like, "god, what an asshole," then toss, you are giving him way too much power. ignore assholes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:36 AM Flag
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how much custody does he have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 04:22 AM Flag
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I would tell the ex to take his card and shove it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:09 AM Flag
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why give them the satisfaction of knowing you're pissed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 06:54 AM Flag
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Because these women are insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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No these women are doormats. Open your mouth OP and tell his hooker to drop dead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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So how many times have you been dumped. You sound way bitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Throw it out. They both suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Oh honey, I know EXACTLY how you feel. My DH married to woman he was cheating on me with, and it's like she totally stepped into my life. Makes me sick. Mine would never be so stupid as to send a card though...do you think SHE sent it to you unbeknownst to him? Hugs, it sucks, all I can hope is they both get what they deserve eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O on wasp post. what are old-money attributes, and how do these differ by ethnicity/nationality? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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are you bored? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:48 PM Flag
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no, just curious about the way people on here seem to think old money is interchangeable with wasp. interested to know what old money looks like in say italians or jews. are they basically all the same after a few generations of fancy private schools and luxury living? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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I don't think you can talk about "old money" Jewish people or Italian Americans, because they haven't been here long enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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Attributes? The 4th generation no longer has any cash, and the 3rd is spending their last dimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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voice, more than anything tone of voice. old money is bereft of any striving tones yet holding no awareness of privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] So what's the range for PSAT scores for 9th graders? My daughter got her scores back yesterday and I'm wondering how they compare. What scores do you all consider excellent, very good, okay, worth worrying about? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Add another 0 to the end to get a score that corrlates to SAT scoring. I'd say anything above 1800 for a freshman is impressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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The JH post suggests that over 190 is impressive. That is a nice program but not the hardest thing in the world to qualify for. Most kids in top half of TT schools qualify. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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why did you take this in 9th grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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NP some schools, e.g., SHS, do it for statistical purposes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Yep. The whole 9th grade took them at my daughter's school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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My son had 148. I know it's only 9th grade but not really thrilled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Mine got a 155. Feeling the same way. (And curious how much they'll go up "automatically" as he gets older.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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i think it depends on if you study. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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His two older brothers had scores in the 160s and ended up in the high 1900s and high 2000s superscored. So it was a jump of like 350-400 points more or less. Strangely, son #3 actually had a better score by 2 points on the practice ACT than both of his older brothers, which was why I had hopes he would do at least as well as they did on the PSAT. So far he's claiming he had a "bad day" (didn't feel well and his girlfriend broke up with him the day before). I hope so. All you can do is put them in the SAT course and hope for 2 years of improvement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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At least this doesn't count for anything yet ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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He can improve if he studies. Still time. Good wake up call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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Old version or new version of the PSAT? You do know it's changing, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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what was her score? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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If it gives you some perspective, to qualify for the JH summer high school program here are the required PSAT scores for a NINTH grader: 9 ≥ 61 CR ≥ 68 M Was your DC above that? If so, probably okay scores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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