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[ - ] How much do yu spend on skin care and make up every year? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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Not much. Dove soap, natural moisturizer, night cream, drug store makeup except for an expensive concealer. In total everything probably $200 a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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what concealer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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I have excellent skin to begin with so I don't spend lots of money on "magic" products to make my skin better. Skin care is basically sunscreen for the day, under eye cream, moisturizer for the night, eye makeup remover and creamy cleanser. If I feel like splashing out, I buy Korean sheet masks at Marshalls ($5.99 for 10--big spender here). I spend on makeup because I like makeup. Christmas is my downfall. There are so many great cosmetic sets during the holidays. I estimate maybe $250/year on skincare and cosmetics. I don't keep track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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Maybe $40? Walmart knock-offs of Oil of Olay products. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Can any Wash Hts moms give me an idea of which streets are better in terms of safety. My DH works nights and its just me and DS a few nights a week. We like Cabrini but rentals seem limited. How about Pinehurst vs Ft Washington Ave? This would be north of GWB. Thank you. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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Pinehurst is better. Indian Road in inwood is nice too. I would also check out Hamilton heights if I were you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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OP: I do like Indian Rd, but hard to find rentals there as well. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:10 PM Flag
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both are fine. ft wash is more trafficked if that makes you feel safer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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Oh geez. Just move away. The world isn't out to get little ol' you and your ds. Tons of single-Mom households in wash hts!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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Most households, probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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But they're brown! Completely different! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Must read: The Washington Post guy, David somebody, who has been investigating the Trump Foundation for the last few months. I think he will win a Pulitzer Prize. He has repeatedly shown it is a complete sham and now he has shown it is not even registered. I bet the NY AG shuts in down within two weeks for that. I think you have to be a registered user but it is appearing all over now......I love the NYT but this guy's reporting is the most important of the campaign. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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I heard that Fresh Air interview. Fascinating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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Can you tell us his full name so we can look up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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np: David Farendholt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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sorry, it's farenthold [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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ok, one last time Fahrenthold. makes me glad i don't have to spell it every day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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yes that is it...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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Ha! Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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I knew him in college! He's awesome! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:00 PM Flag
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WaPo has had the best campaign coverage by far. Puts NYT to shame. And David Fahrenthold is brilliant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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agree and I love and subscribe to the NYT but the Post has done the better stuff....That editor (the guy who was the "Spotlight" editor at B Globe, has turned that place around.....When Bezos bought it I thought uh oh but he is model owner, Wish someone like him would now buy the Times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:09 PM Flag
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The Newsweek/Vanity Fair guy is kicking ass too with that Cuba thing, and all if Trumps. Foreign partnerships. What's his name? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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Farentheld? Something like that. Yes, he's been the one untangling all the money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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David Farenthold [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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So he writes for both Newsweek and WaPo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Or: Yes! That guy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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yes, the two of them should get nobel prizes, not just pulitzers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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no, that's kurt eichenwald. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:09 PM Flag
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Or: correct! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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No the Newsweek guy is Kirk or Kurt Eichenwald.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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Right it is Kurt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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Damn these journalists with their similar names! Conspiracy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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Those stories show that Trump lies, cheats, does not give to charity, breaks the law.....it shows that he is just a first class asshole basically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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JUST like Hillary! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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I am at my limit of free Washington Post articles. This election, man ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Others are picking it up....try general google [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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Just clear your history, check cookies and cache, and you can read your amount of articles again. do this over and over. You'll have to log into UB again too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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How do you check cookies and cache? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:17 PM Flag
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Go to top right, click the three bar icon and go to "history" and then "clear recent history." It's where you change text size. Easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:08 PM Flag
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I'm auto-logged into so many things that I avoid doing this until the very last emergency minute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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incognito mode? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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I used to love the NYT, but their election coverage has been appalling. False equivalence, click baiting, etc. I usually read the NYT on my phone, and day after day for months and months, the top 5 or 6 stories are ALWAYS about Trump. One especially galling one was a story about Trump's opinions on Brexit. No story about HRC or Sanders'--who was still in the running--opinions. And not even one about the actual POTUS. Just Trump. They have validated him every step of the way, and it's disgusting and irresponsible for a supposed newspaper of "record". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:09 PM Flag
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Agree they went way to overboard with the false equivilence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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To be fair, Trump has intentionally created 100 crazy stories on any given day compared to the ones where Hillary was just being a regular person. What are they going to report? They've already reported ad nauseam on emails and servers and accusations Clinton Foundation and Wikileaks and DNC. At some point there just isn't anything new to report. Trump continuously churns out new material and presidential election firsts. Very little else in the news cycle competes. When the circus is in town, you don't report on the town's garden club. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:24 PM Flag
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I agree, though, the optics end up being a commercial keeping Trump's name alive every single day while Clinton fades into the background. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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But they do fluff reporting on Trump. The number of stories on the Clinton foundation versus the Trump foundation is, like, 117 to 21. Plus they have a real bias against her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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Agree. Much of the coverage of him is fluff. I'm sure people are reading those stories though, so they keep running them. That said, the NYT is not People or Gawker. The threshold should be higher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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They are awful. I have switched to mostly Bloomberg coverage and the occasional WaPo article. WSJ is okay too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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ALSo check out LA Times new story on lawsuit against Trump from former employees......he treated women terribly and called them fat etc and only wanted to hire pretty girls...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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It is a damning lawsuit - from a few years ago - but coming out now in public and shows that he really does hate any woman who is not his daughter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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ITA I have been so impressed with his investigative reporting. I'm going to see if I can post links. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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Just FYI, John Warner, a 5 time Republican senator from Virginia, who is now retired, endorsed Clinton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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Good for him! (I didn't know he was still alive ...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] writing help please: I need to write, "it sends a clear message" twice, but need to change the phrasing for the second time. See below... TIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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Here is the paragraph: Approving an Intercity Bus Permit for YEP Tour Inc. would make it very clear that the DOT and our elected politicians do not represent the people for whom they have been hired and elected to serve. Further, it would send a clear message to all other intercity bus companies.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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direct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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I like "direct." You could also do, "It would make it obvious...it would send a clear message." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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Shorten: Approval of an Intercity.....for YEP Tour Inc, makes it clear that the DOT and elected officials do not represent the people who have hired and elected them. Such an approval sends a clear message to every intercity bus company..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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It communicates unambiguously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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Not this. Sounds like the writing style of "diarrhea of the keyboard Lilly." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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It signals...or it clearly signals...or it explicitly signals [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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thanks everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you hated anyone so much that you actually wish him/her dead? why? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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I'm not proud to admit it, but yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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no, never. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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I can think of many prominent people whose death would be a net positive for the world, but no one I know personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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Scalia and Thomas. I'm one for two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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that's really disturbing, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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np: I don't feel disturbed by it in the slightest. Valar morghulis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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Seek help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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They did/do incredible harm...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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I don't wish death on people that disagree with my point of view. Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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They are destructive to this country to a degree that is unprecedented. Heart attacks all around please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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That is your opinion you wacko. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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Nope. I just always wish that karma will hit them hard. I had a good friend who went after an ex boyfriend of mine just weeks after we broke up. It was a long term relationship and it hit me really hard. Nothing I could do about it and obviously he made his choice there too. It was just tough losing a relationship and then a friendship shortly after. I don't wish anything bad on them. But I do take secret enjoyment every time I hear that they have a really volatile marriage. Hee hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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^ OP: i will start. my neighbor who played loud music all night (through 6am!) and our property manager wouldn't do anything because my neighbor is his son. i confronted both of them directly and they actually told me to call the cops and good luck because no NYC cops had the time to deal with noise nuisance. i can't fucking believe this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Are you kidding? On a daily basis. Many different reasons, obviously none really justifiable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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Yes, because they have hurt me and my DCs deeply and they know it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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Someone at work. Miserable person living a miserable life so I don't really need to bother to wish them dead because alive is more of a punishment. Don't feel sad though when I hear of yet another health problem, family problem, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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op. well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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op. well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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Sure. I don't feel bad about it, though. They were people that deserved to die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes, a former boss who humiliated me, who I filed 4 grievances against and who threatened me. I should have hired a lawyer but was so devastated when I was terminated, I left. At least they terminated me in a way that I could collect full unemployment. He now has a major job with a tech company that I know doesn't know about his employment history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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No, but I was hoping DJT would have a non-fatal heart attack or stroke during the debate just to shut him up about Hillary's health concerns and take him out of contention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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No. I would never allow someone to control my feelings to that extreme. I have disliked someone enough to pity them, that is all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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Hi Buddha! Nice of you to stop by. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:26 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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Things will be much better when my mom finally dies. She is contributing nothing, she is currently a net negative in the world. I will be relieved when it's all over and none of us have to think about/deal with her anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:26 PM Flag
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Yes but regretted it immediately!! If you think bad about someone... bad will happen to you first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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Yes, my kid's stepmother was extremely cruel to her and my ex was just letting it happen. I hoped for that woman's death every day. Fortunately the marriage was brief so she's out of my kid's life. Thank god. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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No, because I know better! Someone's death only punishes the people close to him/her but not that person. So I wish all sorts of horrible things for them while they are alive, much better punishment! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Of course Trump was tweeting at 3 am! Melania has been locking the golden bedroom door since about 2012. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:48 PM Flag
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Rick Tyler, the conservative operative, just said he is becoming a laughing stock.......God I am hoping for a Hillz landslide. Need to send this entire family back to their cave. Love that they have destroyed their brand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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No one is talking about Donald Trump Jr running for mayor anymore. No one is buying Ivanka's crap anymore. No one is staying in the Trump hotels anymore. And best of all, when this is over, there are going to be so many legal cases against him for all his law breaking and IRS cheating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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Lots of articles about the kids being pissed that Dad is pissing away all of their brand value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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where would love to read! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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love!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.01.16, 01:57 AM Flag
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What's the over-under on him calling at least one woman a C**T before Nov. 8th? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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It will be a 3 am tweet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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apparently he was spending some late night time with Ms. Machado's sex tape. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I find it kind of hilarious that fat Donald Trump rips fat people - and those are exactly who is voting for him!!!!! Uneducated white men are overwhelmingly FAT. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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I've found that some fat people are very quick to call others fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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Fat conservative men love to call women fat. Especially women who are young and pretty and not even medically overweight (meaning BMI under 25.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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^^^I think it makes them feel powerful, they have this fantasy that young women exist to measure up to their standard. And, of course, how they look is irrelevant because they are the "consumer." The young woman is a product here for their enjoyment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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+1. This election is kind of making me hate men. Not the good ones. But it's just so incredibly apparent how much of a double standard there is. 5 kids from 3 marriages and no one blinks an eye. Hillary sticks with a cheating husband and keeps her home together and she's raked over the coals. Such BS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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NP: ITA. If a pudgy, puffy-faced woman with five kids by three different men, failed to prepare in the slightest for the debates, and spent most of her air time making irrelevant ad hominem attacks on her opponent as well as random citizens, do we think hordes of obese, undereducated white Americans would be flocking to her banner? Fat chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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Exactly. I mean, just watching her face for the whole debate...she was just sitting there with that smile on her face and I just assume that her inner monologue was 'can you Fing believe this complete and utter bullshit?' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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I want to think they practiced hard with a mirror to nail the perfect mix of composure mixed with WTF mixed with amusement. Her facial expressions in the split screen added so much omg to the stuff he was saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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Have you seen the GIF where they call it the "Jim Halpert" and compare it to the looks he would give on the Office? Lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:01 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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omg. Love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:18 PM Flag
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I know. Imagine her childhood of running for president and here she is neck and neck with this skanky buffoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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ILY! So true and so sad at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:35 PM Flag
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Same here. Hating my dh for liking Trump also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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+1 Deal with fat, white men in my office commenting on what I eat while they sit at their desks shoving their pink porcine faces with processed carbohydrates out of a bag all day long. I am thin, they are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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They are the worst! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:01 PM Flag
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It's not just "fat conservative men," it's all men. That is one way to put women down and gain some sort of control over us. Liberal men do the same thing. I also hate men more and more because of what I'm watching. I realized this morning that the way Trump acted during the debate is just like my dh as he interrupted me while I was speaking to my son and then proceeded to say "I'm speaking" when I tried to continue my end of the conversation. I think he does this regularly and I am kind of used to it, but why should I let him get away with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:36 PM Flag
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Point taken, but I honestly think that conservative men do it way more. And, oddly, I feel like fat men seem to do it more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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Donald himself is also fat, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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I find fat people so disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, Jerry O'Connell should be Kelly's new co-host. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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I love him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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Really? Why? He reminds me of overly sebaceous doormen of yore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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^^^ IRISH doormen, needless to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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And yet you did [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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No, he's too goofy. The show needs to go. I love Kelly, but the show is so damn boring. I wish Regis would come back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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My GFs are switching to Kathie and Hoda but I am still Team Kelly. But...even I will admit there is a lot of overlap from GMA to Live! though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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I don't watch either, but I can't stand Kathie and Hoda. The whole "look at us drinking in the morning, aren't we just sooo crazy" act is crass to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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+1 I agree. I'm not into Kathie and Hoda either, so I spend that hour watching shows I missed the day before because I'm turning into an old lady and can't keep my eyes open after 8:45. I like GMA, however it's too "pop" for me. I watch the first 20 minutes to get the NEWS then switch to CBS. I just turned 40, does it all go down hill from here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Any moms commute to NYC from Connecticut? Is it brutal? Which towns do you do it from? Is the area worth the extra time on the train? Considering a post-NYC move. We like CT much better than Westchester but the extra train time is daunting. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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CT is certainly very nice, being near both the water and rural farms/mountains is great. Taxes are low. Schools are great. The commute is brutal. The shortest train to greenwich is 40 minutes, plus you need to get to the station, park your car, etc. Some of the local stations (old greenwich, cos cob, riverside) you can at least be within walking distance to the train, but add 10 minutes to the train ride. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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We've been looking all over the tri-state, but it seems that there are very few areas anywhere with a train ride shorter than 40 minutes. Sigh. Are you really near farms / mountains there? I'm just not very familiar with the area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:02 PM Flag
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The issue is that CT towns are much bigger so (esp for the express stops - Greenwich and Stamford) - you can have a long trip to the train. The local stops in greenwich are nice areas to live but the train is 10 minutes longer. That's 20 extra minutes a day. Adds up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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IMO, you want a town that's on the main New Haven Line - as opposed to the New Canaan branch or the one that goes up to Danbury, forget what that's called. Look at the Metro North train schedules and see which towns have express/straight thru trains during rush hour to/from - that's going to give you your best estimate of how long train is. Also consider how close to station you can live, what parking is like and how far your office is from GCT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:11 PM Flag
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I commuted through Grand Central for 10 years and the New Haven line had more problems (delays) than the Harlem or Hudson line. I think they have older cars which break down more often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] We are doing well and had talked about giving some $$$ to his sister and her husband.....now we find out they are voting for Trump. DH says no way are we giving them anything. I agree. This is a vote for the soul of the country. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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I wouldn't give them a dime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Even USA Today, that bastion of never taking a side, has come out and said he is unqualified! The Arizona Republic which has NEVER endorsed a Democrat? On and on......the people still supporting him are uneducated, racist, insecure woman haters basically.....losers basically [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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Other conservative papers who have endorsed Hillary: Cinncinat Enquirer, Dallas, and Houston Chronicle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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Calm down guys, mainstream media isnt relevant any longer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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Hometown papers in medium and small towns matter still....... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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Houston Chronicle is not conservative!!! Houston as a city is not either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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well only one of the list that is not conservative. They others are extremely conservative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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Whether conservative or liberal, there have been NO mainstream media papers that have endorsed Trump. They have all either outright endorsed Clinton or come out against Trump. Either way, gloves are off now. The papers that run in the swing states that have come out against Trump are going to be problematic for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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Are they counting on the money? How badly do they need it? Will they know why they're not getting it? I'm pro-Hilary but I wouldn't destroy a family relationship over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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They do not know we were considering this. If they knew, then it would be a different conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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We just can't accept that they - both college educated - are this stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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They need someone to blame for their troubles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Which makes them basically a bad destination for money in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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'This is a vote for the soul of the country.' So true!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Donate it to HRc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:15 PM Flag
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Hey, tell them you'll give them $$$ if they vote for Hillary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:20 PM Flag
[ - ] 9/11 Bill: stupid congress should have listened to Obama. Now oops! Just want to scream. Kick the GOP out Especially Mitch McConnell and Paul Ryan. Pathetic leadership!! 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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No kidding! Now they are going to go back and "fix" it....they just wanted to look good to the public knowing they were doing the wrong thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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I totally feel the same way. They wanted to look as if they were standing up for 9/11 families. Poor Obama. In a few short months, he can wash his hands of these incompetents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Disgusting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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They SUCK as human beings. It's gone beyond politics now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Democrats were with them. Chuck Shumer, what were these people thinking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Op. Agree. There are some Dems in this too. But for Mitch McConnell to blame Obama for not "communicating" better about the bill, is just beyond the pale. This old, stubborn man needs to leave the senate. Now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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God yes. Cannot look at him without thinking about Jon Stewart doing the turtle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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The sad part is, this man has too much power in this country. He's holding this country back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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OR agree...it is both sides but led by the GOP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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+10000 now they are criticizing Obama. How can you possibly criticize Obama, when he tried to protect our military from foreign litigation by vetoing the bill ? Then you overrode his veto! Idiots! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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"protect our military from foreign litigation" only way to do that is avoiding invasions like thr iraq war and not giving a cent to countries that violate international law and UN resolutions (like Israel and Saudi Arabia) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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Many countries violate international law. That's a different post. But in general. I Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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Schumer is a racist asshole, he is just doing what AIPAC tells him to do. Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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Disagree. This was 100% political. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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It was the dumbest most grandstanding play ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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Kick the bastards out. Vote [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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wtf? How did they override the veto and 2 days later realize that it was a stupid bill. We are going to pay out the nose for getting sued all over the globe! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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Brexit.....oops! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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1000x more stupid than Brexit. At least they can stop the Muslims and E. Europeans with Brexit. 9/11 bill will be a money hemorrhage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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It is not just the GOP. All of them except for Reid voted for this! Both sides should be ashamed. I wish we could vote them all out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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Obama as usual is right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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I don't even like most of his ideas but this is obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] DH just learned of my affair from 9 years ago. He is completely silent except that he said he is considering divorce. I think this is outrageous because I have clearly shown myself to be a good spouse aside from that momentary fuck up from nearly a decade ago. I moved to a new state for his job. I took care of his dying mother. I did everything that a good wife is supposed to do, yes, I fucked up that ONE time, but I don't see why that should end the marriage. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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How would he learn a decade later? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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Not certain. He's been quiet about the details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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he just learned about it. give him time and space to process it. (you have had 9 years to process it, etc.). of course, he is angry and considering all options. also, if I were you, I would not immediately go on the defensive in these conversations with him (e.g. bring up caring for his dying mother). I would apologize, reiterate my love and desire to save the marriage and say that I understand he needs time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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YES THIS IS GOOD ADVICE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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This is good advice. The worst part is going to be that he feels you lied / kept something from him for NINE YEARS. needs time to process that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 11:07 PM Flag
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guess it is too bad he does not feel the same way, give him time, he might come around...or not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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Trust. He may be thinking there have been other affairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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agree....I would think same thing. Just becuase she says she has been a good wife, why should he believe her? I think I would insist on a separation and think long and hard and then decide, and possibly divorce [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Uh, because she's been living with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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Right. Other affairs when I was changing his mother's diapers? Or when I was home alone with four kids because he was on a two week business trip? Or for the three years that I was going through cancer treatment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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Well how'd you manage to squeeze in the one affair then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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A one night stand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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OP did not have cancer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Disagree.....it calls into question everything from the last nine years. I am with the DH. I would do the same probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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You say affair, and you say "ONE" time. If it was an affair, I'm assuming it was a lot more than once. Your defensive language leads me to believe you're not ready to accept full responsibility. If my husband did all of those things and I found out he cheated there would still be hell to pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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Can you tell us more about the affair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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One night stand in my hometown when I was home for my mother's funeral. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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How did he or anyone find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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I don't know. He isn't being forthcoming with the details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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That's not an affair! Ok so you shouldn't have done it but it was not some long term emotionally committed romance in my mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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this. was not an affair. lapse of judgement - you were in grief! bad decision making and impulsive behavior during grief is normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 11:08 PM Flag
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Why in the world did you tell him????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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I didn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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Wow, that is unexpected and creepy and weird. Could the other man have told him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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I don't think so. They have never met and the other guy is married now. He's been married for about 3-4 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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Other guys wife told him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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But she wasn't even in the picture until 3-4 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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since you didn't tell him, you don't really know what he was told. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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You get a pass in my book. You were upset; you're human. As long as you had zero contact with this person since then, it was a one off. I hope DH can move past this and you don't have to wear a hair shirt for the rest of your marriage (because those are really hard to dry clean...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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Where was your husband when you were at your mother's funeral?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Hopefully time will settle things down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Thank you. I'm starting to wonder if he thinks this is his way out. There was always something a little off, sexually, about our relationship. After DB was born, we didn't have sex for 14 months. I kept asking him to talk to me about it. He said nothing. He started sleeping on the sofa. I asked him if he was having an affair. I went crazy looking through his emails and phone records. I found nothing. He would stay at work until 9pm, sleep on the sofa and then go to work. I finally asked him if he were gay. I just knew that something was up. Either he was gay or he was having an affair. We had a huge fight, I went to my mother's funeral alone, I slept with an ex boyfriend and I came home. I don't know how he found out about this now, but I am wondering if I was correct years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:48 PM Flag
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Wow...that's intense. Do you still love him and want a marriage with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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then choose your moment and say something like you understand if he wants a divorce but if he can see a therapist with you for 3 or 4 sessions you feel like you have both put 9 years of your life into this relationship and before you go through the emotional and financial expense of a divorce, it might be worth seeing if you can talk about things in front of a professional and see if you can save the marriage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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If you've had this feeling about him being gay or having an affair usually your instincts are correct. If he is using this as his "out" let hi go. He's clearly unhappy in the marriage and you deserve to be happy as well. You deserve a loving, honest, sexually satisfying relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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Do you have sex now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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Guy: If he didn't have sex with you for 14 months, you seriously don't have to feel bad for having a fling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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OKAY well I think he just wants out. He has known about this for a very long time and now he is using it to get out. Oh well. You need to accept this and move on Sorry but his mind is made up - probably has been for a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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wow. so finding out about the one night stand probably brought up all the pain from that old fight. he's probably still unresolved about the same issues from then and the info about the fling is a place to focus it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 11:11 PM Flag
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How would you feel if you learnt about his secret affair? I'd feel like my last decAde was a lie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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Agree if it was an ongoing thing where she snuck around and slept with a man for months or years. Not if it's a one shot deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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Sounds like he's using it as his way out. Couples therapy would be helpful, how old are you both? Kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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34/36 - kids are 9, 6, 3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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You are still young, I think its best to get to the truth and let him go if it turns out there is no possibility of making things work. You will at least have a chance of another good relationship. I don't think its reasonable for him to want a divorce considering the circumstances of your 'mistake'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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you have a 9 year old, and the fling was 9 years ago. If your 9 year old is almost 10, could there be a question as to paternity, at least in your husband's mind? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:24 PM Flag
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You sound sort of entitled here. Did you apologize? Did you offer to answer any questions he has? Have you said anything to try to reassure him. Your post comes across as transactional: if I do XX good things it wipes one 1 bad thing. He didn't agree to this bargain, you just decided it yourself. You should be cutting him a lot of slack while he works through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Trump just suggested on twitter that people check out Ms. Machado's sex tape. wtf. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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I keep thinking he can't stoop any lower, but he always does. How on earth can Ivanka respect him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Money, money and more money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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Yes. Simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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Probably bc he molests her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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Wait till Trump explains to Americans that the Hillary Clinton campaigner, Alicia Machado is intimately involved with the meth Sinaloa cartel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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This is all public info btw, all Hillary minions had to do was a google search in Spanish. Alicia Machado drug links have been widely reported in Latin American media. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Hillary and her people knew. It's about how Trump treats people--he did this to her when she was an 18 year old baby. Her struggles since then are directly related to how he fucked her up, made her notorious in Latin America for her weight gain, didn't pay her. What should have been a great start in life was instead fraught with psychological damage and massive public humiliation. Everything wrong with her can be blamed on Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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As a Latina, if you send me a Miss Narco to get my vote... think again!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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it seems like he is trying to lose this election [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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it has been a set up from the start. He is friends with the clintons. Duh people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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haha, wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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LOL yes you have to wonder.....they are all in it together! Trump voters are SUCKERS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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Idiots and I am a republican. Trump is a lifelong democrat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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My DH is always saying this, and it annoys me. It makes NO sense to me whatsoever. The one thing Donald is NOT is a selfless person. He would never do ANYTHING for the benefit of someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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Im sure he is somehow getting rewarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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He would never do anything in which someone else is making out bigger than he is. There's no vast conspiracy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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I disagree with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:17 PM Flag
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You're exactly right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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Not excusing him in the slightest, but if she wanted to get in the ring she should have expected this. Terrible vetting on HRC's part UNLESS she was setting him up to take this shot and make himself look worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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no one cares about her sex tape! What they do care is that he's defending his actions by calling her fat & disgusting & then slut shaming her. It is NOT working! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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Let Latinos decide if Miss Narco Alicia Machado represents them or not. It is not about us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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No way.....Hillary is laughing her ass off today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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She's already in the public eye. She knows her own history. It's his taking the shot that is so outrageous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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Alicia Machado baby daddy is a FREAKING NARCO!!! Dont know what Hillary was thinking using her for the campaign. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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He is so off the rails.....what a sick man.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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+100000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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One candidate is discussing policy and the other is in an unpleasant fight with an ex-beauty queen. I love this country! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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I know, this really sums it up! Unbelievable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHOO. I feel so lucky. My once a week housekeeper agreed to take 40 hour a week job with us. She is good with kids and does it all. I will get home to a perfectly clean house, hot dinner, and happy well taken care of kids. Kids are in school so she has time to get it all done but she is amazing at being able to balance housework and kids. I feel so lucky. I have had lazy nannies for a few of years and I feel like I deserve this break. I know CSB 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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That is ideal. How much do you pay her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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$18/hr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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Where? That seems cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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NYC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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Wow, that is cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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Perfect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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:) TY. I am so happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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That's amazing! So great. My sister, who's very well off has a 2 day a week housekeeper and that seems super luxurious to me. Your life is going to be so damn pleasant now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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TY. It is a total luxury but we end up paying pretty much the same as we did before just getting much more for our $$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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Don't you just love it when things work out? I'm happy for you. She sounds terrific. Happy Friday! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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Thank you so much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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You're very welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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+1 that is awesome, OP. Enjoy it :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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Sounds awesome!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Need clothing suggestions for good quality, simple basics that don't break the bank. Prefer cotton, non-synthetics. Cute stuff a big plus. TIA. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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for you or a child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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Sorry, for me. Frumpy mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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For your kids - Primary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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It's tough -- this used to be where Gap and J Crew stood out, but I haven't found anything appealing in either store recently. A friend finds things at Joe Fresh and Uniqlo -- do you shop there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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I'm petite and a lot of things are too long. Had a peek at Lands End and they make basics. But after they pulled the Steinem interview... blech. Marks and Spencer ships to the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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+1 on Land's End. They had some nice pieces I wanted to buy for summer but they don't get my business anymore because of the Gloria Steinem interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:41 PM Flag
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For basic tees and tanks, look at Baukjen. People also keep recommending Everlane here, but I haven't tried them yet. I second what a poster said above, there's no mid-range brand with reliable quality right now, it's all crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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everlane, splendid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 11:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Can we discuss how unfair it is that you all only give nannies vacation time when YOU choose it?! Imagine if your boss said to you "you can have 10 days vacation but only March 1-5 and June 1-5. K thanks" 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:12 PM Flag
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Well, to play devil's advocate, teachers don't get to choose their vacations days. Personally I give my nanny 5 days of my choosing and 5 of her choosing. My husband is a teacher and it is annoying that we can only vacation when the rest of the world is also vacationing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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Okay, but nannies don't get 3 months off and like 10 days at Xmas, Feb & Easter break, etc. Also your husband also gets retirement & health benefits, paternity & family leave, so like c'mon, let's not compare apples & oranges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:17 PM Flag
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Most teachers have a college degree, many a masters. They go through a rigorous tenure process (at least in the burbs). Nanny jobs do not require that. So YOU stop comparing apples and oranges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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At my kids' school, teachers get a week PTO in addition to the standard breaks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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I'm a mom who doesn't teach & it annoys the heck out of me that I can only vacation when school is not in session. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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^And that I have to take so much time off during the school year to accommodate all the vacations & holidays & pre-built in snow days & teacher conference days & half days that should be full days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:52 PM Flag
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1. We don't all do that. 2. Depends on boss's vacation. Mine takes 3 weeks in August, 2 weeks at Christmas and 1 week in February. I am just grateful he doesn't say I cannot take any of those days. 3. Agreed upon as part of job. You really need more data to opine on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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It is what it is. Most nannies are paid more than they would be in another job, it is paid like a salary rather than on a punch the clock basis and most people vacation more than two weeks per year, which is what the nanny would be entitled to in an hourly punch the clock job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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Also, we don't do that. We take probably 6 weeks vacation a year & the nanny gets it paid. Plus she can take off up to 2 weeks of her choosing & has unlimited sick days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Its a labor market- it doesnt have to be fair; it only has to comply with regulations. A nanny needs to negotiate those details upfront and say no or walk if unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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Please, many of them are not US Citizens or not educated enough to negotiate the details. We all know families take advantage of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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Then they should go home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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i didn't do that when I had a nanny (DC is older). when I had a true nanny, she had 2 weeks and gave my notice in advance so I could make other arrangements. when I had an au pair, one week was her choice, one week was mine (plus she got plenty of extra days). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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au pair seems different since they aren't full time help anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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They can work up to 45 hours per week, of course they can be full time help. Some people pay their au pair under the table to work more hours than that per week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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you are welcome to a different profession. When you are household help you get to be helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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RN here. I can't really pick my vacation time either. And I'm sure most people don't always get their first choice. Depends on when other people are going and how busy work is. And I have been at same hospital for 20 years. It's not really unfair. It's just business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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+1 My mom worked in a hospital, and frequently had to work Christmas, Thanksgiving and other holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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You "can't really" means you sort of can as well. Sounds like you just have to work as a team and share holidays off, etc. That is NOT the same thing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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Yeah it's worse. Nannies are off major holidays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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sharing holidays, so that you work about 50% of them is not the same as always having all of them off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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The hospital does not run at 50% capacity just because it is Christmas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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NP: exactly. Hospital workers schedules suck. Stop complaining. You have no clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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Okay, but I'm assuming Hospital workers also get benefits, a few weeks vacation, even if they can't always get Christmas off & then some. Please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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Ok. You chose to be miserable. I will leave you to it. Your life is worse than anyone. You have my pity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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I'm not miserable. Actually I am such a happy person, I want the person that takes care of my children to be happy too! So I give her great benefits & vacation time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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If you were happy you wouldn't worry about what other people you don't even know do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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Actually, I know what a lot of other parents do b/c I live in Manhattan & it is often discussed, amongst friends or on social media moms' groups. I can be happy & "worry" about what other people do, b/c I feel badly for these nannies. Taking care of children is a HARD job, not to mention having to deal with low pay and very limited vacation & sick time. I apologize for being empathetic and feeling for these nannies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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Okay, but the main argument was that nannies had it sooooo unfair. The answer is that lots of jobs have it unfair, that's the job you choose. There are others you can choose if you want better benefits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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+1 My first job out of college offered no vacation days at all (just holidays) until I had worked there 6 months. I had to take unpaided time off just to see the dentist or go to the bank / post office during normal hours. Your job is what you choose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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Please, stop trying to make it seem like a US born white person, who chooses a career in medicine, has it worse than an immigrant nanny without many options or legal authority to do anything about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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Immigrant nannies are making 45k cash and frequently also get government aid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:45 PM Flag
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That's basically what it is for school teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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We dont do that. Nanny gets 2.5 weeks of her own choosing. We only ask that she let us know far enough in advance so we can plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Yes, it's insane. That's not how vacation time works, lol. Is that what people are doing here with nannies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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There is no requirement to pay vacation time. Join the real world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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What field do you work in. Medicine, academics, accounting, finance, and law all have vacation time constraints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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Ha, finance does NOT have time constraints. My husband is an MD in finance & he takes vacation whenever we want & he has since he was 24. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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There are many types of finance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:51 PM Flag
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You're equating being a nanny with a white collar profession. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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Or it being a profession. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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NP It's not a profession but it's still an important job that I try to do well: my vacation days are dictated by my charges' school schedules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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MD here. Hospital dictates my vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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I doubt that nanny only gets 10 days, and I doubt it is those ten days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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It was made perfectly clear as part of the job offer, if they don't like it, they are free to find one that better suits their needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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Wow - judging from these responses I really feel for your nannies. You all sound horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:09 PM Flag
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Why? Because we can read, and the second sentence is a real leap. The nanny never said exactly how many weeks, and when they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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A real leap? Please, you all know if your boss said to you "you can't take vacation unless it is days I choose for you" you'd all be flipping the fuck out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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Our nanny is guaranteed one week her choice and one week our choice, 7 specified holidays, 2 personal days, 3 random days off (our choice) and unlimited sick days. In reality, she gets one week her choice, and 3-4 weeks our choice depending on the year, and unlimited personal days as long as I can make alternate arrangements and not have to pay for another sitter (in 12 years, I think there were 5 unpaid days). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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Any responder who wags their finger about vacation time but then pays under the table can stuff it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Please tell me I am not alone in dealing with an exDH who continues to fight about custody after divorce, in nasty, below-the-belt ways. Advice on how to get through this is much appreciated. I am usually a pretty strong person but this is so hard. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You're not alone. My divorce was finalized 3 months ago but ex searches for ways to be difficult and obstructionist. Basically had to take him to court again to get him to perform under the agreement. They love hurting us. When we left, they lost that part of their lives and they don't give it up willingly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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Sorry realized you asked for advice -- I keep telling myself no matter what, I don't have to live with him anymore, and I remind myself how happy I am I got out. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Someday, the custody issues will be behind you and he'll just be someone you shouldn't have married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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I am sorry you are going through that. It has been 4 years for me and he is still going at it. I think you are right that he just wants to keep hurting me. I hope he tires of it some day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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Geez -- 4 years. Try not to let it show how much it hurts. Eventually he will find a new victim. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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the crazy thing is, he has a GF who lives with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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He probably feeds her a line about how awful you are to get sympathy from her. And if she doesn't have kids, she has no clue about what the dynamic is. These men love to play the victim (even though they are the aggressor). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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Oh I have no doubt he does. And no, she doesn't have kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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He probably chose her mainly for that reason. Her attention is not diluted by kids -- she's just there for him and him alone. You are will rid of him. Is he fighting to see his kids more or just jerking your chain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Donald Trump “took the bait” set by Hillary Clinton’s campaign by keeping former Miss Universe winner Alicia Machado alive in the news cycle all week, David Axelrod said Friday morning on CNN. The former top adviser to President Barack Obama said the Machado “story is in its fourth day because of him” and added that “the Clinton campaign could not have asked for more” from its Republican opponent. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Axelrod likened the stream of Twitter posts, and the Trump campaign’s overall struggles to deal with Machado this week, to the post-convention stretch during which his campaign appeared to be in a tailspin. ADVERTISING inRead invented by Teads "I don't think his senior strategists are saying to him, you know what, why don't you get up at 4:00 and shoot out some tweets," Axelrod said. [ Reply | More ]
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Did Axelrod and Hillary learn about Alicia Machado's tight links with the biggest meth cartel, Sinaloa? My bet is that Yrump know about this. He is showing Americans who Alicia Machado really is little by little. [ Reply | More ]
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Why does it matter who Alicia Machado "really is"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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Beacuse she is being used for Hillary's campaing to reach out Latinos. [ Reply | More ]
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Because Miss Piggy is the nicest thing you can say about Machado. [ Reply | More ]
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Hillary called Bill's rape victim "trailer trash", "lunatic" instead of just divorcing. That is the door that Hillary's camp opened by using Machado. [ Reply | More ]
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He is a moron that he keeps talking about it. And guess what, Americans are no longer shocked by sex tapes. Look at the stupid Kardashian clan. [ Reply | More ]
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He is getting into Alicia Machado's links to the mexican drug cartel Silanoa next week. That is the one that controls the meth trafficking in USA. He knows that it will entertain Americans to see the kind of Latino/Latina Hillary thinks it's representative of us. [ Reply | More ]
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She's not a very good spokesperson for herself in English--some of her statements come out wrong and she doesn't sound so sympathetic, but when she's speaking Spanish she's incredibly powerful. As if Latinos didn't already have enough reasons to hate him. [ Reply | More ]
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Who cares what she is doing! He is doubling down on calling her fat, etc. More than half of Americans are overweight, so he is alienating an even larger portion of the population than usual. [ Reply | More ]
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calling her disgusting, telling people to check out her sex tape. It's...deplorable. [ Reply | More ]
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People aren't shocked by sex tapes anymore, nice try Donaaald [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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we're more pissed off by the slut shaming than the making of a tape [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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exactly! As a woman I don't care what another woman does for a living or in her personal time. Want to make a sex tape? Have fun! I don't give a shit. What I DO care about is some philandering douche bag man telling me I am less than b/c I like to have sex. [ Reply | More ]
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Wait till Alicia Machado narco links begin to be explored. It will happen in a week or two. Let Americans watch how she f*cked that guy on live TV while engaged to other guy first. [ Reply | More ]
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She kept on saying: "your d*ck is divine!!!". Watch it! Her fiance obviously left her right after that. Alicia Machado then rellaced him with a narco and killer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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Nah... Americans didnt sign a work contract that says they have to keep their body weight and broke it in 2 months by putting on 40 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Alicia Machado is Miss NARCO, even involved in a murder by tge narco she picked as father of her daughter. If you think Latino voters are represented by her... [ Reply | More ]
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stop trying to make this Narco thing happen - you keep posting about it nonstop and no one is buying it. [ Reply | More ]
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Why is our president even talking about this at all??????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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he's not. David Axelrod is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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Oh sorry. You are right, I misread. Whew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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right? :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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Stumping for HRC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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It is going to be framed about what kind of person Hillary Clinton believes represents Latinos. She picked a Miss Narco & whore to reach out to Latino voters. Imho it was a mistake, Hillary should have hired Spanish speakers to do a background check on Alicia Machado first. Donald knew what a POS Machado is, Hillary didnt know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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This whole affair is just ridiculous. I couldn't dislike two candidates any more than these two buffoons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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And yet the media overlooks Huma and her baggage. She has a sex addict husband (soon to be ex) and crazy, racist parents. Clinton gets a free pass when it comes to Huma. [ Reply | More ]
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overlooks on purpose. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] MIL buys clothes every year for my kids and they won't wear them. I know she enjoys it but it feels like a waste to me and I would rather buy them myself online. I know exactly what they will wear and the pants that fit them well. DH wants me to let her buy clothes again. Thoughts? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Can you give her very specific instructions? Like the kids have gotten so picky and trend following. The boys love underarmour and the girls love lily pulitzer or whatever. Just to direct her more specifically [ Reply | More ]
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Lily Pulitzer lololol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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Why is that LOL? That clothing is very popular among certain age groups. My apologies, I know city pre-teens probably wear black leather with mesh shirts already [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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I've tried. She has very different taste and can't seem to help herself. [ Reply | More ]
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Does she buy at TJ Maxx or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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Yes- and department stores. [ Reply | More ]
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How old are the kids now? [ Reply | More ]
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6 and 8 [ Reply | More ]
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Then she should understand. They aren't babies anymore & have opinions. Just be honest with her, nice & firm [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a bit confused. Does she just purchase clothes as gifts for them of her own accord? Or is she buying them their back to school clothes for the year instead of you doing it? If the latter, yeah, I'd let her know that they're getting so picky that you may just get them online. Just be nice about it and say you don't want her spending money on awesome pricey stuff now that they're so particular. [ Reply | More ]
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It's both. And we have entire drawers full of corduroys that don't fit them and sweater vests that they won't wear. I think it's important to them to have clothes that they feel good in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Pull those corduroys and vests out of those drawers and donate them. Why clog up the drawers with stuff they won't wear? Does MIL come over a lot? It's NY, we don't have space to store unwanted clothes. :) [ Reply | More ]
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Actually , we have been storing them and I just filled a bunch of garbage bags for storage. Feels so good! [ Reply | More ]
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I LOVE it when those garbage bags go out the door. I've got a friend who has a son 2 years younger than mine and she's thrilled when she sees me pull up with a bag of clothes. And I'm thrilled to get them OUT. [ Reply | More ]
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so start donating those clothes so the drawers are not full...let MIL know that the kids are getting older and have distinct tastes and that you would be happy to email links to thinks they like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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Does she live nearby? How about suggest that MIL and DS/DD go out shopping together? That is, if your kids will enjoy that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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OP- I'm not sure they would enjoy it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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But at least they'll have what they want. Why not try that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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Ugh - why do MILs get so upset if you criticize their gifts? Just be honest, b/c you are right it IS wasteful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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Because it is rude to criticize any gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Not when it is family - it isn't a criticism as in "you suck these clothes are ugly" but more like "hey the kids are super picky now, they hate evey thing I buy for them so please don't take it personally, I just don't want you to waste your money!" [ Reply | More ]
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this - and if she continues, just return or donate the items immediately, don't let them hang around [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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Can she go shopping with the kids? The kids can tell her their likes and preferences so she gets a feel for what to buy when she is out on her own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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MIL does this as well, even asks what size jean I wear and then buys me jeans that are TWO sizes larger because she doesn't believe that I can fit into the size that I told her that I wear. She's such a fucking nut. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol, really?? That's brutal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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It takes wisdom but at this point I would just receive the gift with a thank-you and donate the clothes. I too have a MIL that buys teenage girls' clothes for my toddler son. It was beyond me, and there is no point in correcting her because she won't change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm planning on divorcing dh because he's an alcoholic. I want to have a lot of evidence to show that he's a drunk so my kid doesn't get unsupervised visits with him. Today I found him passed out drunk with a bottle of wine next to him and took a picture. I'm thinking of having a log with all the dates that he comes home drunk. This will take at least 6 months I think to gather all this proof. What else can you ladies recommend? Thanks. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:06 PM Flag
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i'm sorry you have to go through this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:08 PM Flag
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Op: thank you. It's hard but I have to do it for my dc. She's at an age that she bows that somethings not right. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry. How did it get so bad? [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I'm not sure. We met at a bar when we were very young. After getting married and having kids, I stopped partying. He continued. Fast forward 8 years later and I am realizing that the problem is alcohol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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Consult with a divorce attorney for more specific instructions. I did recently and got very good advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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What advice. I am in the same boat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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Based on my specific situation, he gave me what he thought my chances were regarding custody, a rough idea of child support and alimony, how the rest of the assets would be split. Options in terms of proving wrong doing, how the process would go. What his retainer would be and how it would be used. What our options were in terms of a jointly owned house, what he would ask for if he were my husband's lawyer. It was very informative [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 11:42 PM Flag
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Does he admit he has a problem. My husband is a recovering alcoholic, but I felt a little relief when he would at least admit he had a problem. Turns out he has an underlying anxiety disorder that he was treating with alcohol. Now he doesn't get drunk, but he has atypical panic attacks where he basically loses his mind every couple weeks. I mean he's just totally out of it because he can't process his anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Op: he says he has a problem sometimes. Other times he says I'm overreacting. I think my dh has anxiety also. I also think he may have had some kind of trauma as a kid that he's using alcohol to forget. If he doesn't drink he will some marijuana. He just can't be sober. It's too much and I can't deal with it anymore. I'm on the verge of having a nervous breakdown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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Well, it would be better if he would admit it all the time. I have to say, the fact that my husband would profusely apologize the day after he passed out drunk really made it doable for me. I couldn't control whether he drinks or not, but I couldn't leave the kids alone with him and I would lock him out of my bedroom when he started drinking. But have you considered counseling to try to figure out your next steps. Being married to an alcoholic is terrible. It's very hard, but not all alcoholics are lost causes... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 04:03 PM Flag
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First of all, you need to get him out of the house since there are children involved. They don't need to say their father ever drunk or passed out. Second, meet with a divorce lawyer and explain everything to him/her and seem sole custody. I had similar issues as you did with ex, and I got sole custody. he didn't put up a fight either- he knew he couldn't take care of our daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:24 PM Flag
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what about asking him to get treatment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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Rarely works [ Reply | More ]
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