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[ - ] Real housewives of OC has gotten so bad. It's a huge blowout fight every single episode. Why do these women do this if they don't need the $$? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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Fame? Keep current credits etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:27 PM Flag
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They're on TV and they are obsessed with staying relevant to keep their gig. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:45 PM Flag
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Because most of them need the money... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:10 AM Flag
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that would be all of them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 02:50 AM Flag
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I dislike Vicki and Kelly tremendously. I'm embarrassed fir their children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:15 AM Flag
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Who said they don't need the $$? They obv do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:04 AM Flag
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So Lydia got two cars for her birthday, like half a million bucks worth of new wheels and they put all their resources into a start up luxury coffee table magazine(?). Something does not compute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 02:38 AM Flag
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the show was fantastic the first season or two but has been terrible ever since. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 02:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Evidence That Wasserman Schultz Used Pakistani Imran Awan For Malevolent Activities Against Bernie Sanders 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Fuck off already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:18 PM Flag
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????????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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cue the trolls trying to prevent people from finding out about this story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Why wouldnt they? He was an opponent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:13 AM Flag
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--------------->>>>SHE WAS THE HEAD OF THE DNC<<<<------------------- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:16 AM Flag
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Sanders was not an "opponent" of DWS - she was supposed to be overseeing a fair Democratic primary, remember? (???) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Ivanka Trump eclipse photos are so weird. #stem. Oh please. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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OP here ^*^^ what the fuck is this link ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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Why would you post a link when you have no clue what it is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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OP here: obvs. I didn't post the link. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:17 PM Flag
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If you're the OP, that means you posted the link. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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No it doesn't - the link isn't part of the original post, idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:25 PM Flag
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DON'T CLICK!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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Op here: Again what is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to move back to NY - I have been away for several years. I wonder whether I will still fit in? Will I find a job, what are the nice areas with good public schools (I prefer Brooklyn)? I left before the kids were in school, they are now in elementary school. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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I doubt you can afford to buy in a neighborhood with decent public schools. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:55 PM Flag
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This. Prices are cray cray. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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What about the neighborhoods without decent public schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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A ghetto boy just targetted a white family for murder in Greenpoint. This just happened, even though everyone on UB Says Greenpoint is getting better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:58 PM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
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The interesting thing is that literally everyone on UB says if you are priced out of Cobble Hill move to Greenpoint, but this poor woman had to watch her husband killed all because of the color of his skin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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Are you the Cerberus of NYC? What do you know about my finances? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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You must be joking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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Seriously, what do you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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Cerberus was the 3 headed dog that guarded the gates of hell to stop the dead from leaving. He wasn't any kind of psychic accountant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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I know who Cerberus was, thank you. Unlike you, I studied classical languages (including Greek) for many years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:37 PM Flag
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How would you begin to know what I studied? YOU must be the Cerberus of UB!! Also, rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:38 PM Flag
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Lol, speak for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:43 PM Flag
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don't worry about schools. find a place and then find a school that's commutable for you and try to get kids in there. schools just work out somehow - they always do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:33 PM Flag
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I am thinking about going back to Brooklyn, my favorite borough. Maybe somewhere by the F line. I used to be in a Dumbo but it's a bit crowded these days. How are middle schools in Brooklyn? Do you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:39 PM Flag
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Dumbest reply ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:09 AM Flag
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Public schools are good in D 15 in Brooklyn, if you can afford it. More affordable housing toward the south of that district, but it's all gentrifying, and schools will only improve. Also, many areas with worse public schools have good Catholic school options, and they are cheaper than the traditional privates (and offer discounts for multiple children). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Flag and banned mom is annoying as all fuck. She's like the nark in school who just wouldn't shut up and would tell on you. You were annoying as a kid and are sure as hell annoying as an adult now. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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She is like Antifa [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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I agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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Isn't that just another troll? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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What happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] So are people blind now vision problems ? In the er? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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As far as I understand it, if you burn your retinas it usually just results in permanent minor blind spots. Like you will be doing an eye exam and the letters will pixelate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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Sounds bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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Everyone has a blind spot on each eye but the brain smoothes over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh boy. Have a DH who works a lot and who is already somewhat resentful of my encouragement to be involved with other parents and have social circles. A guy he has made fun of for YEARS because of his weight apparently was CEO of a company that just got sold for nearly a billion dollars. They haven't even sold their house yet, they just went and bought a seashore home for $$mm. I am inclined not to share this information at all ... 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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This! Just do not tell him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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He will think that you are shitting on him if you mention some man with more $$$ than him. if you want a good happy life together ONLY mention the guys making LESS money than him never mention guys making more.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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I think this is probably the best move. He might not ever figure it out otherwise. He pays no attention to anything at home and is kind of out of the loop on anything that he doesn't happen to catch at the time he's looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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I don't understand your post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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This. It makes absolutely no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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op. I think the other posters sort of fleshed it out. DH for years (behind closed doors, mind you) used to make comments. Like when I went to the other couple's home for something and said I liked their home gym, DH said "does he ever use it?" Also the other guy was a head coach one year while DH was only assistant coach. If I tell him about this other dad, sheesh. I don't think I'm going to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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np Wait what does this have to do with being involved with other parents and social circles? And how does the coach thing tie into it all? I'm even more confused now... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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I am as lost as you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:12 AM Flag
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This. Wtf? Dh is an asshole about another guy's weight? (So beta & catty) and you don't want to make him jealous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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It's not about making him "jealous" it's about if I need to be the one who will put him in a totally shitty mood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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Maybe shithead needs to learn a lesson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:04 PM Flag
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Your DH sounds like a darling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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Let me get this straight: you just criticized my husband for saying something negative and sarcastic about someone he knows vs. you just saying something negative and sarcastic about someone you don't know at all. Did I get that right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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Yes, I said he sounds like a darling. Maybe he is! You seem super defensive! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:04 PM Flag
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NP: duh - the dh you describes sounds like a asshole. Don't post on UB if you don't want honest feedback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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Your story makes your DH sound nasty, jealous and bitchy, and the other guy sound successful and a bit overweight. Which one sounds nicer?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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#teamoverweightdad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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Go team! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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What kind of guy notices another guy's weight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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Unless your guy is blind he notices. Most guys probably wouldn't say anything about a fat man, true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:18 PM Flag
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You both sound ghastly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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You really do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:26 PM Flag
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Yup true dat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Hillary's fans should focus on forcing the DNC to carry out real primaries next time if you want my vote. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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Flag and ban. No politics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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LOL. There will barely even be an election in 2020. Muslims are killing so many people in Europe that the Democrats' policy of increased Somali and Afgani immigration dooms the Democratic party. Look for an epic landslide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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ITA! Democrats will stop losing votes after they get tough on immigration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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Perhaps, but by then it may be too late. I mean, The Muslims that Democrats allowed in to America will continue to murder people long after the door is shut, each murder by Muslims is an advertisement against the Dems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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Example? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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Democrats allowed in radical imams that teach that gays all deserve to be murdered. These imams grabbed an innocent boy born in America, taught him to kill gays and the boy shot fifty gays in the Pulse nightclub in Orlando. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Bitch go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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The dnc has been selling secrets to other countries via DWS IT guy. The news is ignoring that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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Hey, Stevie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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LOLOOLOL Hillary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Ah, is this the witching hour for all the racists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:55 PM Flag
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Just join me and FLAG AND BAN the racists! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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NP I will. OK Flag and Ban! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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Yes, and do a "hey, Stevie"...UB code for here's another Steve Bannon clone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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I'll flag and ban you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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Actually, there would be no grounds for a ban. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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Not for the other either dumbass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Hey, Stevie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:58 AM Flag
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2020 is Trump vs. Trump - the Democratic Party has effectively disintegrated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone get their tonsils removed as an adult? How was it? ENT says I should get mine out to help sleep and frequent infections, but she said it is super painful and a miserable 2 weeks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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I got them out in my 20s. Recovery was fine. Don't be afraid. And I felt SO much better after! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:02 AM Flag
[ - ] So, 9 people were killed and 64 shot across Chicago this weekend. How do Chiraq residents FEEL when they hear those numbers? Are they ashamed for failing to run their city correctly, or are they simply shameless, casually brushing aside all those deaths? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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Flag and collapse. No One, literally no one wants to hear about Chicago here. It isn't Rahm's fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:37 PM Flag
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Whose fault is it then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:37 PM Flag
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Ghetto thugs are going to murder no matter who the mayor is. Republicans have had zero success in preventing ghetto thugs from killing. And Democratic mayors have also had zero success. Forget this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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When was the last time Chicago had a Republican mayor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:14 PM Flag
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Rahm is completely worthless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:13 PM Flag
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The real story today is that Trump looked at the sun without glasses. Your questions are not that important [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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The Chicago Police Department has paid out millions to settle cases of police brutality and misconduct. A great place to start would be to start with reforming the police department. Not everyone who is African American and poor is a thug. But, those who are despair that anyone in authority cares about policing their neighborhoods or funding their schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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You are the stupidest one on UB. Ghetto thugs are murdering cops all over America, while the Democratic party cheers the thugs on. After thugs shot 5 Dallas police cops, Hillary said it is the fault of white people. You are not going to win on that platform. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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Hey, Stevie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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That doesn't explain much about the core issues, though - murder is immoral. People should have better personal morals than to commit murder even if there were ZERO cops around. They do in SOME places, like post-tsunami Japan. Why don't people in Chicago choose to have high moral standards as well? Why do they choose to be immoral? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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You are being a little shit. Everyone knows that the reason ghetto Chicago people commit so many murders and Japanese commit almost no murders is intelligence. The people in Chicago are born with very very very low intelligence and Japanese are born with high intelligence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:51 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:51 PM Flag
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Witching hour for all the racists is upon us! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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Actually, that raises a related point - Rahm could easily deflate a lot of "arguments" made by Trump fans, racists, etc. simply by keeping his city safe. But apparently he isn't interested in that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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How would you suggest that be done? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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By being an effective leader. Chicago is one of the wealthiest cities in the whole WORLD - if Rahm can't figure it out, he should resign. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:22 PM Flag
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Again, what specifically do you suggest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:58 AM Flag
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Competence rather than staggering incompetence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:19 AM Flag
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Hey, Stevie! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:51 PM Flag
[ - ] I got my dream job offer but it's pending pre-employment screening and background check. Filled all that info out online on Friday and they said it will take 3-5 business days for the results to come in. I don't think I have anything bad in my history but I am SO NERVOUS in the meantime! Haven't resigned from my current job yet. Pins and needles here. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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Chillax [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:40 PM Flag
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Trying, it's not working. Any tips? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:40 PM Flag
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Drugs, meditation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:50 PM Flag
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Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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GL! I hate the waiting period. Even when I know I have nothing on there, it is nerve wracking until I get the phone call saying everything is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:04 PM Flag
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Don't worry, you'd know if you had anything that would show up. I wrote some dates down wrong and they came back to ask follow up questions. If there are discrepancies and they want you, they'll ask you about them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone said that federal agents are arresting members of the Kennedy family in Hyannisport. What's that all about? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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Flag and ban. No politics please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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Huh? Shut it. No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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LMAO since when? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Srfu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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Cool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:40 PM Flag
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Drugs is the obvious guess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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No, rape and/or murder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:50 PM Flag
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Source? [ Reply | More ]
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This is just standard for the Kennedys. Usually, charges aren't filed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:13 AM Flag
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prob PedoGate/Pizzagate/Awan - wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] What to cook for some vegetarian, (possibly vegan) visitors for dinner? TIA! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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Pasta with veggies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:14 PM Flag
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Ratatouille [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:17 PM Flag
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Please no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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Roasted veggies and spinach with a grain- quinoa, farro, wheatberries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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Veggie lasagna [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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Lentils over brown rice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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Thanks, but no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:28 PM Flag
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Second [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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Ewww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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Look on epicurious or bon appetite. I'd love a small appetizer size summer fresh salad, East Indian (south) curry or Ethiopian, or middle eastern stuffed peppers, or this list goes on. Summer squash is great too. No entree salads. No soups. No stir fries (although curry is). No pasta. No bread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:22 PM Flag
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Noodles with peanut sauce or pad thai [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:25 PM Flag
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Thank you! Great suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:28 PM Flag
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Takes more planning but for future reference, we made a spinach wonton soup this evening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:30 PM Flag
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Yum!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Is coolscuptimg bogus or does it work? Do you have to have multiple treatments in the same area to see results? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:18 PM Flag
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I haven't had it done, but from what I've read you should have a certified plastic surgeon do it, and not go to a medspa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone live in both Texas (Dallas or Houston areas) and in The Sf Bay Area? Which do you like better? It seems like Texas would be so much better than here now. More affordable. Better quality of life. Am I missing something? 106 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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Holy shit! I live in Brooklyn and travel all the time to Texas for work. I know Texas inside and out and it is a big place. You have to describe yourself, and your budget and I can talk about specific neighborhoods in Texas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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Do you know Dallas and Houston? Thoughts on each? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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I know Dallas and Houston really well but each has hundreds of different micro neighborhoods. For example, Dallas has the most beautiful neighborhood in America (Highland Park next to the creek) and also one of the filthiest and most violent neighbhorhoods in America (South Dallas) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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Houstonian here. That's our problem too. Usually they're next to each other too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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This is so true. And the police are unable to prevent the violent ghetto gangbangers from driving in to the safe neighborhoods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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Same thing in the East Bay. The nicest neighborhood in the East Bay is called Piedmont. It is right next to Oakland and the ghetto thugs simply drive from Oakland in to Piedmont to commit rape and burglary. Piedmont cops can't stop them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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Bay Area mom here: I would never live in piedmont. They have horrible crime. Other suburbs like marin and the Far East bay communities of Lafayette and orinda are more protct d, but we still have burglaries. Especially homes near freeway exits. The Far East bay also has Bart stations so they have a bit more crime than marin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Piedmont is spectacular if you ignore the crime. Piedmont has TT weather, whereas weather in Orinda sucks. Different strokes for different folks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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I like the weather in orinda better than piedmont. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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I hear you loud and clear! Different strokes for different folks But tell me why you prefer Orinda weather [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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Because it's warmer and you can use your backyard pool in the late spring and summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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Piedmont never gets warm enough for swimming or enjoying summer outdoor activities. I also grew up I. Southern California so ok if the temperature goes above 70. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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Do you prefer so cal or nor cal? Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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So Cal if you like warm weather and beaches you can actually use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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And do the school boundaries cross both neighborhoods? Houston developers jam apartments into desirable areas and then the public schools suffer. Homeowners pay big taxes on expensive homes in nice areas and then have shitty zoned schools. Sound familiar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Thank you for posting this. I have never heard of this anywhere but Houston. In Los Angeles for example the TT public school districts like Palos Verdes, San Marino, Arcadia, and etc all forbid apartment construction for just this reason, to keep apartment types OUT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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Same shit in New Canaan or Darien. You think those towns will allow apartments to be constructed NO WAY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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Lol, yes BRILLIANT IDEA. Let's shove all the poors into the underfunded, crappy school districts and then hope for the best when they haven't learned anything and resort to crime to survive. Maybe they'll just keep shooting themselves into extinction, is that what you figure? Oh no, this giant uneducated segment of the population couldn't possibly come back to haunt me in the form of crime. Oh no, I mean after all the fine treatment we bestowed upon them. What could possibly go wrong? A riot? Whatever for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:02 AM Flag
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Upper Class Privilege [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:03 AM Flag
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The poors cannot afford apartment buildings in plush suburbs with good schools. Are you talking about public housing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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The problem is not the people who live in apartments when they are new or newish, the problem is the people who live in those stick built garden apartments in 20 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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Texas Mom here: Houston famously has no zoning. You have to buy in to a subdivision with an HOA if you want to not have your neighbor's house be bought and turned in to a gas station. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:51 PM Flag
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It's not that extreme. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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Houston has no zoning. It is all through deed restriction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:34 AM Flag
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Apartment types. wtf is wrong with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 03:54 AM Flag
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I guess apartment living is reserved for the underclass there. Not the case in NE, where many very good suburban school districts also have quite a good number of apartment buildings, because they are usually near train stations for commutes to jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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This is not the case in my town. Wayyy too many nimbys here to allow that to happen. Thy use endangered species and impact on the environment to keep developers from ever building anything here, they are only allowed to build 1 new home in our town per year. They fight tooth and nail,every time the state wants to create more housing or implement some social engineering or affordable housing. It always gets shot down or in a web of red tape lasting decades [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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Where is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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Charlottesville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:27 AM Flag
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Now I see why the poor apartment types have to break into your homes. It wasn't apparent before but thank you for explaining the lies by legal terms to restrict poor people from access to good schools. It also explains why they break into your homes, when you people try so hard to shut them out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 03:57 AM Flag
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Apartments are expensive in nice suburbs for the most part, they are no bargain for the crime committing poors you are talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:01 PM Flag
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HP is not the most beautiful neighborhood in American, come on now, are you high? It's just a pretty manicured residential area, like there are many others. It's a flat and featureless leafy area with nice homes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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I'm talking about comparing tt suburbs outside of Dallas and Houston vs Bay Area suburbs if you have lived in both areas. I would just think it would be so much nicer living in Texas vs California. I'm just day dreaming. We are stuck in California due to dh business. It's specific to our area and can't be transferred so we are stuck here, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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Well, The summers are horrible in Texas and nice in the Bay area. But yeah except for the summers, you get so much more for your $$$ in Texas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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It's 96 degrees in Houston right now with a "feels like" of 108 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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Texas is flat and ugly and SF bay is spectacular [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:22 PM Flag
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Try the hill country. And parts of bay are shrouded in cloud or look flat and ugly too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:30 PM Flag
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Hi there, I'm considering Texas too. I need warm weather and affordable housing. I love what I have now in NYC which is a 2500 sq ft detached home set on a tiny urban lot. Does this type of housing exist in Texas for 200 - 375 K? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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There are detatched houses on small lots in safe pedestrian neighborhoods. You need to check out university park in dallas and also need to check out the part of houston right next to rice university. Check them both out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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You won't find anything near Rice university for that budget unless it's a townhome or apartment style condo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:51 PM Flag
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Thank you for the heads up. I love that neighborhood !!! Do u? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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University Park and the area near Rice will be too expensive for that budget. Try East Dallas and parts of Houston further out of town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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OR: Safe is preferable but I can live in risky areas too. Btdt. Anything else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Are you familiar with Houston? Like a previous poster said there lots of cute micro neighborhoods. Lots of gentrifying areas next door to total crap. What are you looking for? What area do you have to be near (downtown, medical center, energy corridor, museum district)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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Live near NASA. By the water. It's nice there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:28 AM Flag
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Thank you for asking! I'm not familiar with Houston. I'm looking an affordable warm place in Texas to buy a home then retire in a few. I need low upkeep, which is why I want a small lot. I drive but I prefer an urban area. I'm a NYC girl so I prefer culture, downtown, libraries and yes rodeos and pork. I'm not too picky, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:52 PM Flag
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You won't find any home in University Park for that amount. Maybe a small townhouse near SMU that's nearby other student homes. That's still a pretty safe neighborhood, but you'd be around lots of students. You'd easily find that in the many suburbs around Dallas, and you could use the public schools too (you can also use the public schools in University Park--it shares its school district with Highland Park and it is excellent). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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Living in SF (or Manhattan for that matter) is a form of high end consumption. If your professional skills are the sort that are richly rewarded in the Bay Area, then it's great. If your skills are less area specific, say you're just a mere physician, you will be far better compensated in Houston or Dallas compared to the Bay Area on a cost of living adjusted basis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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This! So this. Whoever wrote this is the most analytic mom in the history of UB. For MOST people, living in a TT neighborhood is a trade off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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imo SF Bay area isn't worth it unless you're making over 300k. Housing is more expensive here than NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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agree and at least 300k. I live here and I feel permanently fatigued from the financial pressure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:55 PM Flag
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"mere physician?" wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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irony clearly passes over your head [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:18 PM Flag
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I'm an doctor. Live in NY. I'd make more in Dallas or Houston (where I'm from) than I do in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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That seems like a tall order to find people on UB who live in both those areas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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Bay Area sucks. - SF Peninsula Mom who hates it here. If I had the chance to get out, I would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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Where would you go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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Back to NYC, Raleigh-Durham, Madison or maybe austin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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looooove Madison [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:21 PM Flag
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Agree. Also a Bay Area mom. It totally sucks here and I would leave in a heart beat. It's just not that special. Hard to get anything done, it's completely unaffordable for anyone with an hhi under 300k. I don't know how people afford to live here. The food, services, everything is so expensive. The traffic is horrible, and the housing sucks big time. The people are mean, pretty rude and competitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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Our hhi is 500k in Bay Area. Use publics, but had to buy a dilapidated house that is in dire need of repair and I believe making my entire family sick. It doesn't even have a master bedroom. I share a bathroom with my dd and my ds has to sleep downstairs by himself in a convert d garage, we were lucky to get this place and we have a 1.3mm mortgage. This house was entry level for our area. Our nanny just asked for $25 per hour and we haven't had raises in 3 years. I want out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Come to NYC! Live in Manhattan! 500k you will get a 1000 sq ft crappy pre-war apartment, no laundry, no parking, no amenities. No good publics. Its great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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Manhattan is more expensive than SF but the SF suburbs are far more expensive than comparable communities in the tri state area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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Yes I agree with this about the burbs. But in NYC burbs you get lovely 'summer of hell' commutes and shovel snow and deal with crappy weather 80% of the year. Everyone works in finance or law to pay the bills. Lots of family money and snooty people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:54 PM Flag
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There also decent and safe residential areas in Queens and Bronx, which are connected by PT and don't cost an arm and a leg and have decent enough schools. Bay Area doesn't have that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:05 PM Flag
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NYC sucks. I'd move to the Bay area in a heartbeat. Yes its a rat race but at least its pretty with better weather and outdoors. Housing is expensive but not as bad a value. In Manhattan you basically get a trash can to live in for anything less than 5k for a 2 small bedroom for your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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^^Texas sucks the most. It's hot, humid and South which means it's fine if you are white and enjoy white privilege (ignorance). If you live in the Bay area and can't find something that suits your likes and are willing to move to Texas, you are plain and simple nuts and will never be satisfied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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That's a generalized, opinionated statement. Houston has had two male AA mayors and a lesbian mayor in the last 20 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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Sort of comment that only a NYC white liberal would say. African Americans are moving in large numbers to the South from the Northeast, Midwest, and West. You might ask yourself why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:21 PM Flag
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Including leaving california for Midwest and south [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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i moved here from manhattan and realized it's not really any better - only appears so at first. need to move [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:58 PM Flag
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I feel this way after a year here - will I come to like it? too congested, people seem like they are in the grind rather than enjoying life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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^I thought I'd prefer it to NYC, but I think I need a smaller city like SLC or denver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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It's not much of an upgrade from NYC if you are seeking more relaxed lifestyle, it's a rat race, just with different type of weather and scenery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:28 PM Flag
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I am from Texas and have many friends in Dallas, Houston and Austin, and I live in the bay area. We would be better off financially in Texas but there are tradeoffs. The racism is still very much alive there. That kid in Plano who was arrested for bringing a science fair project to school? That is what racism looks like. My kids go to a very diverse school and the kids are so close. When they are with their close friends it is like a United Colors of Benetton ad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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You are an idiot. That Muslim boy DELIBERATELY tried to build something that looked like a bomb so that he could make a stink about it and sue and collect $$. Get your head out of the sand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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This is exactly what racism looks like ^^^^ thanks for making my point for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:09 PM Flag
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Did you read about the sister? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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http://www.snopes.com/2015/09/16/ahmed-mohamed/ yep. Had been suspended because another student falsely accused her of making a bomb threat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:49 AM Flag
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No one wants to talk about this because it would make all those who rushed in to be a hero and save the kid look foolish. Microsoft, Obama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:18 AM Flag
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She was falsely accused according to snopes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:59 AM Flag
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No one wants to talk about this because it would make all those who rushed in to be a hero and save the kid look foolish. Microsoft, Obama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:18 AM Flag
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Racism blah blah blah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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I think you're pretty clueless about what actually goes on in Texas, plus the kid was in Irving, not Plano (very different suburbs), it was not a science fair project at all, and he was arrested because IT LOOKED LIKE A BOMB, not because he was muslim. Irving is actually very diverse--they'd be arresting at least 3/4 of their student population if they were making arrests based on being non-white, which appears to be what you are suggesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:34 PM Flag
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I am from Texas. I know exactly what goes on there and it is why I am raising my kids outside of it. Of course there are diverse areas and great people. But there is a lot of racism even by educated people who should know better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:36 AM Flag
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Yawn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:51 AM Flag
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That last sentence can be said of people anywhere and everywhere. . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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np I really don't like that kid. I don't care if you think it is Islamophobia. I've seen the Mavi Cami, the Mevlana museum, love aspects of middle eastern culture, heard the prayer call every morning and wasn't bothered by it, but something about that situation was off. The arresting cop in the photo is black, so the whole judging me for the color of my skin? No. Ahmed didn't even look like a decked out Muslim in religious wear. How would that be discrimination? The school was right to take issue with it, if they felt he was pulling a prank or trying to cause a situation. He had been told to put it away, he didn't listen. It turns out he wasn't a genius at all. He simply took the parts out and put them in a tiny pencil case. The cops may have gone overboard but I do think it's not impossible that the dad may have wanted a settlement, or to spark an outrage because he felt Muslims were being treated unfairly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:13 AM Flag
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Have you never lived in a place with real racism? The black people and latinos are not singing kumbaya together and they aren't hanging out with recent immigrants from asia or the middle east either. Racism is divisive across the board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 05:02 AM Flag
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There is tons of racism I. The Bay Area. Don't fool yourself. People self segregate here, and there is very little to.erwnce here for differences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:03 AM Flag
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Of course you can find that here. It is more by money though. The wealthy fit in anywhere. We picked a school that is diverse socioeconomically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:53 PM Flag
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With you, sister. We'd love to move to a more affordable area, but as a nonwhite, mixed family, the Bay Area really is the comfortable place. Of course there's racisim in the Bay Area, but it's not apples to apples to the sort we briefly experienced in Trump country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:46 PM Flag
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I have lived in Dallas and SF with a HHI of 400k. If you are in this boat and with a family, I'd prefer Dallas. It's miserable in the summer so you need to go to Colorado or Wyoming, but hey! You can now afford that! The park cities have great private schools and if you live in "the bubble" of Highland and University Park there are many educated and diverse people. I agree that one step below this lifestyle runs smack into the drawbacks of Texas (crusty entrenched sexism and racism that makes it feel out-of-date and which I would not want as a peer group for my DCs, miserable hot weather, little physical beauty to the place) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:25 AM Flag
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Dallas mom here. The UMC areas (Park Cities, North Dallas, Lakewood) are attractive and full of transplants. Lakewood in particular is full of secular liberal professionals. Other areas are more provincial. The area as a whole is flat, hot, and ugly compared to California, but affluent people travel constantly to Colorado and other places. Even compared to how it was 10 years ago, it has exploded with restaurants, shopping, arts districts, cultural offerings, small bookstores, etc. It is a good place to live and raise a family, although you would want to leave once you're an empty-nester as there are more attractive places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 11:04 AM Flag
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NP. It dependson what you want. If you want the intellectual intensity and buzz ans creativity of palo alto you will never find that in Texas. But if you are ok with a more normal peer group then Texas is ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 01:55 PM Flag
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If you like the people in the Bay Area, Dallas will be tough. Most of North Dallas is crammed with Evangelical Republicans. It is just the dominant ethos. There are pockets of secular Jews in north Dallas (outside of the Park Cities), and East Dallas has nice craftsman houses and less religiosity, but White Liberal Dems are a smallish minority. Most Dallas public schools are really, really terrible, which is one reason people move to the Park Cities and Plano. There are some private options. St. Mark's and Hockaday are generally rated among the top 2 or 3 schools in the state and among the best/hardest in the country. Cistercian, Greenhill, Jesuit, and ESD are also excellent with a bit more allowance for less intense students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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Where you in Austin, Houston or Dallas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 07:12 PM Flag
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Traffic in both Dallas and Houston is awful. Figure that into your equation. At least there is public transportation in SF Bay. I have a cousin who lives in Novato, California who I would guess has HHI of around 200-250k. They have a lovely home in a very nice neighborhood. They have access to great outdoor activities and are about 40 minutes into the city by car (10 minutes) and ferry (30 minutes). It's not the glamour of living in SF or one of the tony neighborhoods, but he has made a wonderful life for himself there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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Do you realize how bad the traffic is across Golden gate bridge alone, not to mention any of the highways and roads in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:19 PM Flag
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Yes, but there is public transportation. If you are using your personal car to commute in SF you're doing it wrong. Everybody takes BART or in case of people from Marin County the ferry is a good option most days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:22 PM Flag
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Bay Area's PT is a joke to compare to NYC and most people drive to work, traffic is horrible. Even in the city of SF many many people own cars and most townhomes have garages. Buses are for the poors and post-college crowd, they are crowded and gross and slow. Many commute via car sharing services like uber and lyft pool. Last time I've been there, I have a family there, it seemed like 30% of cars were some car sharing service. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:21 PM Flag
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^^ and don't forget that many people don't work in SF's downtown, lots of offices in the burbs, which are not well served by PT. BART is convenient for those, who work downtown, but commutes are still very long depending on how far from the BART station you live. I used to commute by BART from East Bay when I lived there temporarily and it sucked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 06:25 PM Flag
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Can we add Utah to the conversation? I really want to know what it's like there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:01 PM Flag
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Start a new post. I am curious too. I just vacationed there and it was very pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I always laugh when people think the elementary aged odd will automatically be a "mini mom" to their new db. My dd is 6 years older than her 3 yo brother and all she does is torment him. I'm constantly separating them, occasionally she will do me a favor and watch him outside or while I shower, but after 5 minutes he is screaming, she hits him, squeezes him. Calls him names, is this even normal? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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They play together too, but fight as much as they play nicely and they are always obnoxious when playing together. It's always loud, screaming, running around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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Not normal for 9 yo to hit a 3 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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I agree. Why do you think she hits him? I don't think she hits him hard, but she is definitely aggressive with him sometimes to the point where I have to intervene, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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Have her evaluated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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Don't make it a favor, pay her to babysit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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who pays a 9 year old to watch a sibling for 5 minutes? And whether or not she is being paid she certainly should not be hating him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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If there is something in it for her, she might not resent him so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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Do you think shhave resents him because he requires more hands on attention? She was an only child for a long time. Sometimes I think she might hav ADHD, but she is an excellent athlet and top student. Never gets a bad review from a teacher. She is a rule follower too. I can't figure out why she treats her brother like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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I don't really know -- I have an only. But my mother was youngest of seven, and I know her older siblings resented forever having to take care of her, and she resented forever having to babysit her many nieces and nephews without pay from the age of nine. Was just trying to think of a way to make it in your older's best interest to help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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My kids are 7 years apart and the older one has always looked out for his sibling. He helped me feed her, entertained her, now that they are adults they go places together (movies, museums). He even gave her advice on her college apps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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I don't know what is normal, and I imagine that there's a range. But, my DD is 5 years older and pretty much never torments 3 year old DS. She has literally never hit him and very often wants to "mommy" him. He sometimes torments her a little, she sometimes wants time without him with friends or parents. And they sometimes bicker a little. But, mostly they are very sweet to each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:32 PM Flag
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Then maybe my dd has some sort of issue, should I take her to a psychologist about it? My dh is become concerned about her behavior at home as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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She never talks to us. Gives short answers when we ask her questiOn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:39 PM Flag
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I think it may be worth at least talking to one. I mat be lucky, I think that my older kid has a gentle temperament. The hitting is the part that sounds a little bit concerning. A 9 year old is a lot bigger than a 3 year old and kids that age are usually moving away from hitting in general because their social problem solving skills are getting better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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My kids fight too. It's so distressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:39 PM Flag
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I was 7 years older than my younger sister and very maternal with her. Maybe too much so. She's kind of a brat. Mine are 9 years apart and they have a great relationship. Rarely fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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I would say for a 9 yr old, no. My ods is 4 yrs older than yds. He helped with yds as a baby and was very proud of that. He still helps with yds and yds is 8. They don't fight but the do sometimes squabble. When either of them are upset the other will do anything to comfort them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:54 PM Flag
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Very abnormal. My DD "mothers" her 3 years younger brother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:55 PM Flag
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I don't know if it is normal or not, but I remember growing up and had friends that were always fighting, hitting, screaming, etc. No idea how you top it, my kids don't really do much of it. But at 9 years old she is old enough for you talk to and make it very clear that under no circumstances is she to torment him and remind her that he is 3 and no where near her level, etc., etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:13 PM Flag
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I have 4 kids and have seen many sibling interactions and good and bad times over the years. I am certain that behavior like this is a cry for attention. The more you scold, punish and act frustrated and angry with her the more resentful she will feel and she will continue on this path of taking her frustration out on him. The solution is to spend more quality time with her. 15-20 minutes a day just you and her doing what ever she wants to do (play a game, or even watch her favorite YouTube videos and let her talk about what she likes so much). You can do it after 3 yo goes to sleep. You will see the biggest change in her attitude and behavior it's truly amazing. I've done this myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:43 PM Flag
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honestly try this before you go down the path of therapy and evaluations. It will save you so much stress and money in the long run! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] For moms who BTDT. What's your best advice for the early elementary years? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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Eat, drink and be merry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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Enjoy them as much as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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don't take it so seriously. teach good study and organization habits as early as you can. don't believe teachers who say that spelling and grammar will come by osmosis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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So what do you do to teach grammar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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If only they made workbooks.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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Np. I've used workbooks in other contexts, and they don't work. It's not a stupid question. You on the other hand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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"they don't work". come on. of course they do. you need to sit with your child and give some guidance when they start each section. or you can just say that "teaching doesnt teach", and give up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:51 AM Flag
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Don't take everything the elementary school teachers say seriously. They have a tendency to be panicky. It's a long road with many twists and turns so remain calm and put things in perspective. Elementary kids are very young; you will see your kid mature and grow into their true self in middle school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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Address problems as they come up. Tell the teachers that you want to know if there are problems early - I've been surprised by a poor grade when teacher never said "hey your kid has trouble with spelling" and I don't like to be shocked. Don't stress about the social stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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Stay on top of math. Math builds and a strong foundation carries through later years. If your kids zones out in Iroquois Indians in NY fine but equivalent fractions not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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What's the best way to stay on top of that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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UB hates it. But Kumon is your friend. 2nd grade ideal to start. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:13 PM Flag
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Haha so true. Not that long houses & the three sisters don't have their place in a child's brain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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It's never too early to begin researching opportunities for your child's next phase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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Be loving, be supportive, enjoy your child. Our son won't talk to anyone at age 5, by age 7, he was one of the most popular boys in his class. Not cause I did anything, but because he developed at his own pace. Also, listen. You don't have to fix everything, just be there. Don't hand your kid a smartphone whenever there is a lull in life and put away your phone when you are with him. Not because you need to focus on your child 24/7, but because those lulls are when you connect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Who gets your money if you all die in a car crash or terroristic attack? Let it ride and have it go by intestacy to your parents and in-laws? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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We have a will with several layers of beneficiaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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I don't know. I'm more concerned with what happens to my pets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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Are you the same person who already asked this twice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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Maybe once [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:38 AM Flag
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my kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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will be dead too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:02 AM Flag
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Same thing that will happen if you drop dead from a heart attack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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Why do you only want to know about those two manners of death? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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I mean something where you can't leave anything to your spouse or kids bc you all died [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:38 AM Flag
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My kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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I think op meant to include your kids in "you all." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.22.17, 12:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have any intel on when NYS test scores will be released? Seems late this year. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 09:47 PM Flag
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It's ridiculously late! Very annoying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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