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[ - ] What do you think of women with nice hair, clothes, shoes but unpolished nails? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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I don't look at their nails and if I did I like unpolished nails [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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Nada but I'm not particularly observant or judgy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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some nails look nice without polish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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I think she has better things to spend her money and time on. And I like her b/c she doesn't give a f about things like nails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:37 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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I need polished nails now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:38 PM Flag
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I am the poster below who said I get blowouts, but don't put polish on my nails. The reason is that my nails seem to chip after 5min, and I hate the look of chipped polish, so I would rather have bare/buffed nails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:41 PM Flag
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This is me. Obviously I think it's fine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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Me too. I hate nail polish on my fingers. I feel like I'm just applying a layer of chemicals to my food when I cook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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Unpolished nails are in right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:46 PM Flag
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Nothing. That would be me on most days. I'm actually a harsher judge of someone with over-done nails (or overly fussy makeup, hair, etc.), who cares less about more important things like their physical health, education, etc. than they do about shopping, beauty habits, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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Don't give a shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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Nail polish can be tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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More importantly, who do you care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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OP: I don't polish my nails, I hate it, just wondering if that affects anyone's opinion of me. It wouldn't make me start wearing nail polish, but I like to know what impression I give off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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What professional women regularly wear nail polish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:01 PM Flag
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I do. I try to do a quick top coat the night before if I dont have time to fix a chipped nail or scraped nail polish off enough that its visible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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The ones who work in retail LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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I am into nail polish in a big way but a lot of women aren't. No big deal at all. She's not into nail polish. Moving on! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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Who gives a sh*t. Is this really something you pay attention to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:55 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think- am I overly sensitive?? DH seems oddly obsessed with his sister. This morning, he said our baby gets her chubby cheeks from his sister. I was like WTF? Did you and your sister conceive this child? I said the baby gets her genetic structure from both sides - mine and his. DH gets his make-up from his PARENTS and so does his sister. So the baby doesn't get anything from DH'a sister since both he and his sister both have their parents in common. He thought I was insane. You guys get it, right? It's very weird. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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He's just saying they have the same cheeks (which came from some ancestor on his side). They did not come "from" his sister. I assume he just missed your point and you missed his. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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No, he really did mean the baby gets her chubby cheeks from his sister. He thinks his sister passes down her traits to put baby. It's very strange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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we don't believe you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Then he is rock dumb. Are you often frustrated with being smarter than him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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Yes. He doesn't get a lot of things. And doesn't try to figure things out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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Do you respect him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:41 PM Flag
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You are being a pita. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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What's strange is you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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we understand genetics, but you are the crazy one here. Innocuous comment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:46 PM Flag
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You over react. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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No I don't get it at all. It's not insane. Neither you nor your brother have a good understanding of genetics. Let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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My MIL used to do this--which made sense but weird. Everything was based on her family. I used to joke that I guess I was just an incubator in the whole deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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yes! I said to DH that maybe he conceived this child on his own since all of the babies traits are from his family. I don't why I'm so sensitive about it, but it's annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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Some kids do tend to favor one side of the family although their genes are 50/50. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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I get what you're saying, but what your DH said is a very common turn of phrase. It's not weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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Common to say a baby has Aunt so-and-so's nose, cousin X's ears, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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Are you married to Cesare Borgia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:38 PM Flag
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DH is obviously fucking his sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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This is what I thought, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:46 PM Flag
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OMG. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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You're cuckoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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I think you are being overly sensitive. My brother and I are very close and I know he respects me a lot. My mother constantly says their girls look and act like me and I am sure it drives my SIL Insane. My point is, it is pretty common behaviour and I wouldnt think much about it. As I joke with my husband, according to him our kids got all of their good traits from his family and their bad traits from mine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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DH and I do this all the time. DD certainly has dominant qualities from DH's side of the family, including his sister. It's the genetic lotto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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It's not weird, but I understand why you're annoyed. I would just respond in a sweet tone of voice with passive aggressive comments. "I agree, and it's so cute on a baby! Let's just hope they don't stay that way when she's older, unlike poor Aunt Lindsay!" "Her chubbiness might come from Aunt Jen, but luckily for her she also has my cheekbones." *Smile beatifically.* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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Why on earth would you make such nasty underhanded comments about a sweet remark on your baby's cheeks???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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Chubby cheeks can be cute on a baby. Not so much on an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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So if someone said that your baby had Aunt Lindsey's cheeks, your immediate go-to response would be to make a nasty comment about how you hope your baby outgrows them unlike poor Aunt Lindsey?? Seriously?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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Yes. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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God, you're a huge cunt! Good luck in life! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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LOL, lighten up, Francis. You guys certainly go out of your way to find things to feel hysterical about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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Another classic cunty response :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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This. Hellooo first wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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First and only, dear. Fortunately my DH has a sense of humor, unlike the chubby cheek brigade on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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You're accusing US of not having a sense of humor?? You're the one making aggressively nasty (not even passive!!) comments about adult family members being overweight or unattractive because of a perceived slight when someone is making an innocent remark about your cute baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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The level of oversensitivity and perseveration on this thread is off the charts. I give up - you guys are too much. Feeling the need to respond hysterically because an anonymous stranger made up a mild insult about her hypothetical family member is simply bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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I'M oversensitive in your book, but look back at how you'd respond to someone telling you your baby had cute cheeks. Just sayin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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Oh yes, your OR post just smacks of someone with a friendly sense of humor, lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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Your sweet tone for your passive aggressive comments- and your beautiful smile- must not translate on an online message board :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Is that the type of comment you mean, in your OR? because that's just lame and weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:17 PM Flag
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Okay but why?? I guess I don't get why you would make such a cruel comment about Aunt Lindsey when someone was making a sweet comment about your baby?? I don't see the connection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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How is it a sweet comment? If anything it's neutral - "the baby has chubby cheeks like Aunt So and So" is simply an observation. I also don't find chubby cheeks aesthetically pleasing on adults, so I would prefer that my baby outgrow them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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Because as you just said- it's cute on a baby! Someone is paying your baby a compliment! And you're responding with an unneccessary and mean comment about someone. It's just amazing what you women have time to get bitchy about- someone telling you your baby has cute cheeks. Good lord! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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And this is why people say women are such bitches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Yup. You know who doesn't engage in this sort of backbiting bitchiness? Men [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Yikes, you sound horrid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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I get it. My dh was hoping dc got his sister's beautiful eyes while mine happen to be my best quality as far as looks. Also, he is constantly bragging about how wonderful his SAH sister is while I have to go to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 04:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone received a G&T placement email yet? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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Ugh, no. Sure hope it's today! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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The website says late May so it better be! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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NP: The SEMS dashboard says letters will be mailed "week of May 31." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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That is so effed up. Better be today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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Do you have a private contract you need to get in or something? Or just antsy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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yes. private school will be rough moneywise. but I'm just so annoyed with the whole g&t testing process this year - with all the delays. I have dcs waiting for both g&t placement and upk placement... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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Just called, they said "week of May 31" and couldn't give me more specifics. I pointed out the website says "late May" in a couple spots and they didn't really have a response... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Kid dilemma: 10yo ds has a best friend. they've been friends since preschool - met when they were 2 and have been like two little peas in a pod ever since. after preschool, they went to different ongoing schools but remained best friends, with weekly play dates, sleepovers, etc. Needless to say I'm good friends with the mom. In the last year I've noticed a change in the other boy. He's rude to my ds, puts him down, bosses him around. Really awful. My ds doesn't get it, loves this boy and wants the friendship to continue. I'm still in charge of his social life and it makes me angry and hurt to see this. Other mom is not doing anything about the behavior although she's told me she sees a change for the worse in her boy so she must see it. I want to put a hard end to the entire relationship. What do you all think? 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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You're not in charge of his social life. Let him be. Talk to him about it though. Just have him make the choice. Say--Oscar, you know Freddie talks meanly to you and bullies you lately. Maybe he's acting out for a reason. Do you still want to hang out with him or should we invite Sam over instead? Let your kids make decisions for themselves. I had some friends that we like this and we weathered the tweens and still are friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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my son would say of course he wants to keep playing with this boy. but the thing is he has many friends from his school - sweet, nice boys who treat my son well. why do i need him to be demeaned by this kid? this boy has issues - high IQ combined with anxiety and other issues - and he is using my son to make himself feel better. my son is not a punching bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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But how does your son really feel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:39 PM Flag
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Like I said below, he has such a soft spot for this boy and he has this fixed idea that this is his "best friend", he doesn't see the abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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you give your kid words and discuss relationships and feelings about his friendship with this boy. if your kid is prone to letting someone close to him treat him badly, better gain the skills now to deal with it than later on. and, if your son doesn't feel demeaned and that is you projecting, and still likes his smart friend, then you should have confidence in his ability to navigate the friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:40 PM Flag
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you hit the nail on the head - my son is prone to letting someone close to him treat him badly. i've seen it before. when he was little (3-4 and again in K) he would keep pursuing friendships with kids who were mean to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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and I guess I don't have the confidence that he navigate this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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If I were you, I would see a child therapist - you - not DS at first and see if they have some ideas on how to parent your kid through this issue. I would continue to talk to him about friendship, emotions, feelings, and relationships, etc. it is much better to address this now while you still can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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yes, i need to teach him how to recognize when someone is being abusive. i don't think he sees it at all. he just wants that kid and that's it. if he doesn't like the kid, he totally stands up for himself. but with people close to him, he doesn't see it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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Do. Not. Say. Bullies. For the love of all things holy stop misusing this word [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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OK, thanks, delete that word. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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At 10, you should be loosening the reigns a bit and observing your child's skills/decisions not tightening. Jmo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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I'd tell them Mom you've seen a change in the dynamic between the boys and that you want to give them a break/take a break. Continue to make plans with the Mom alone. She'll probably be relieved too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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Teach your kid to speak up for himself. Are you always going to be there? In MS a lot is going to happen in the next 4 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:41 PM Flag
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The funny thing is that he's totally fine standing up for himself with other kids now. He avoids the mean kids at school or tells them off. I just think he has such a soft spot for this boy and he has this fixed idea that this is his "best friend", he doesn't see the abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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i dont know how youd put a hard end without upsetting your son. maybe talk to your son about his friends behavior, and do a slow fade. less availability. Give him time to make new friends. He's 10, so that is a lon-time friendship... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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i had a mean friend as a cxhild and my parents never intervened. it fell apart during high school but i wish they would have said something sooner, like "i dont like the way they speak to you, do you"? Putting the choice of friendship in my hands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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i've said this kind of stuff to my son. i told him not to let his friend speak to him rudely; not to let him order him around. it still keeps happening. there is nothing my son can do. he loves this boy and just wants to be happy together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:38 PM Flag
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it's good to hear what happened to you as it kind of validates my decision to fade. that happened to me a couple of times when i was little too - and i wish my parents had gotten me away from that "friend". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:49 PM Flag
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What's your goal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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my goal is for my son to continue to be happy and confident and open to people. it's also about me - i can't watch someone treating him like this. the boy was actually staring me right in the eye as he was saying something demeaning to my son. like he was daring me to do something about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:40 PM Flag
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You asked - keep that in mind. I look at these situations as gifts. Here right before my eyes is a chan e to observe my son, chat about what friends are and aren't, how to handle difficult situations and diss appointment in human nature. I get to use this to help my child learn these very necessary lessons when the stakes are so low it barely matters. And if I can teach a little and then stand back and observe, I'll see if the lesson is learned yet. EVERY child will experience a person in life who isn't the friend they thought. I'm always happy when it happens under my watchful eye instead of when dc is away at college or in the work force or dating an asshole.... This is too long I know. But I'm always thankful for these situations and would never manipulate it so my child loses the chance to grow and learn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:55 PM Flag
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I totally hear you. And if this was a casual friend, this is exactly what i would do. But this situation is very tricky because part of my son's very identity is tied to his friendship with this boy. Do you see what I mean? DS's self-image is: I am a kid who likes to draw and to play legos and has a best friend named X. It would be devastating to him to fully understand what X is doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:07 PM Flag
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In all honesty, and I'm trying to help - it doesn't matter. Either you are projecting and being mama bear and your child isn't as bothered by it or your child has a major character flaw and finds his identity only through someone else. Probably somewhere in the middle (most things are). But it doesn't matter. Your job is to prepare your child for life. Not protect him from this one particular child. KWIM? Yes, we protect out children from HARM. But this is two 10 year old boys who have played together since they were two. It's not a fight or flight situation. It's easier for you to make it one, but what's easier for mom isn't what's best for the child. Good luck to both if you! Oh, one more thing, does your ds have a father in his life? Letting him observe might be of benefit. 10 year old boys don't relate like girls and moms sometimes need an adult male perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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^^ and to add that in this construct X is a totally reliable, devoted, loyal friend and I think having this construct helps my son in all other social situations. it lets him take or leave everyone else because he always has X. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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I would have put my parenting/teaching skiills to work then. (I've done it IRL). Just say, it seems you're talking meanly to Jack. If you can't stop that way of talking we'll have to say the playdate is over and I'll call your mom. Honestly--did you do anything?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:59 PM Flag
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His dad was right there. We were sitting in a restaurant eating lunch. There was another boy there as well. I didn't feel comfortable speaking out in front of his dad. Which I'm sure the boy realized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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I have no problem with kind gentle reminders in front of other parents. Wow, that sounded harsh Johnny - I'm sure you didn't mean it to come out that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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true, i like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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agreed. step up if the parent wont. let your kid know he is protected. interestingm, because the boy may have been "bullying" you as much as your son. you were afraid to speak up (albeit for social reasons)when he was mean to your son, and you said he was looking at you for a reaction. You could be sending your son the message not to stand up for himself since you were too inhibited to intervene. food for thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.01.16, 12:10 AM Flag
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i have a hard time intervening gracefully. i have no problem being aggressive but it somehow turns out too harsh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.01.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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Hopefully your ds has other friends, another social circle? You slow down on the plans with this boy and up his playdates with other kids. If you have a standing playdate, you cancel the next few ones because your ds is too busy. If/when you do have a playdate with this kid, do it in a new way - a new place or type of activity that has stuff going on, like you take them for a bike ride in the park or something. It is okay to take some space for your ds. Your ds spending time away from this kid will be good for him because [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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(hit enter too soon) your ds can get a little distance to observe the treatment and then maybe speak up for himself. Finally, my ds had a hard time socially at 10 because it seemed like all of a sudden some of the boys got mean. Ones who had been fine just became awful. I think it is the age to a degree but I don't know what will happen to those kids at 12 because my ds is just 11 now. He is happy now but he has good friends who are nice boys and girls and he has figured out to just avoid and ignore the jerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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thanks, exactly! fading out is probably better. plus it's summer now and we never see them anyway as we both go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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perfect time to fade. make that next get together take a loooong time. allow it, then be hard to reach. make LOTS of playdates for your son with nice kids. enourage new friendships so he doesnt feel the loss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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he has tons of other friends, cousins, sports teams -- no lack for social activities. problem is the feelings of loss / missing the boy he might experience....but maybe that's just life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:00 PM Flag
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I have the opposite situation. My dd dumped her long-time bff (from 6yo to 15yo) over stuff. She says they've grown apart, but at the same time I think she's being harsh and judgmental. There were some weird situations (friend invited her for a summer (we live elsewhere) then basically shunned her etc). but they talked about it. I guess you have to let your kids lead the situations. I wish they could continue a friendship but it's over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Read him "A Bargain for Frances". I always tout this book and I'm sure there are better ones for boys and older boys/kids too. But the main character has to deal with a friend who is being bossy and not really a friend. It opens up a lot of discussion. Books are best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:58 PM Flag
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oh i love that! thank you!! ITA that books are best for showing what can happen and how to deal with it. my ds will respond to that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:02 PM Flag
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I think all kids grow and change as the try on new identities. Some are more pleasant than others. If overall, you like this kid and his family, help your son navigate it but keep the friendship going. If at heart you think he is a jerk, pull the plug. My son has friends who have gone through bad phases but overall they are nice boys and I try to help my son work through it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:03 PM Flag
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I think you have to let your kid decide he's a jerk or it's just going to play out again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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i agree. let your son learn from you what you find unacceptable. stand up to the boy if his parent wont. eventually slow fade, but get the lesson in that his behavior was wrong. also, about the friendship being part of his identity -it will change on its own. he'll say they are best friends until he feels like they arent. he'll feel sad about it until he finds another best friend. he doesnt need to hear "he is no longer your best friend". honestly, he'll already be embarrassed in 2 years at his current childhood interests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.01.16, 12:16 AM Flag
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you're right, now that I think about it. i should have said something right at the time. it was awkward because we were visiting at their home and i'm not as assertive as all that. I admire people who can just stand up to other people at the time. I'm more of an after-the-fact actor. I don't react in the moment. I've never been like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.01.16, 02:33 AM Flag
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OP: thanks for your thoughts on this, it's really been bothering me for a long time. it's such a shame because i really like the mom but i feel there is a problem there too. it's so horrible when you have to cut off people you are close to because they don't treat you well. it's an awful feeling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.01.16, 02:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have luck with the US Open Amex Card Member Presale? 10 minutes in and no seats?!?! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.31.16, 01:17 PM Flag
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not for the final but i was able to get tkts for thur night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:18 PM Flag
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The women's matches tend to get over almost the minute we get there; i was hoping for Fri or Sunday, no luck. And these are already on resale. I HATE scalpers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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yes, this practice should be banned. it's so unfair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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How can they ban it though? I wish they could, just not sure how to prevent unless you only sell tix by phone or in person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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Why did you wait ten minutes? I got tickets right at 9:00:00. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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I know. I get to it by 8 58 every year; something came up this time. Argh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Last year I got decent prices on the resale site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] BMW drivers seem to be the least courteous and the most aggressive on the road. I have experienced their neuroses numerous times and I just wish they would populate their own island. Turdish in the extreme. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:14 PM Flag
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Hi mercedes dealer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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Hardly. I wouldn't mind owning one, though. I drive an Accord. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:19 PM Flag
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np, but mercedes is ultra tacky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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How about range rover, jaguar, lexus, porsche, ferrari, lamborgini, bugatti, alfa romeo, infiniti, tesla, and cadillac? Please tell me the characteristics of their drivers, and if you like them! Tia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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The average BMW owner is younger than the average Mercedes or Lexus owner so it is natural for you to see more aggressive behavior from men who are still virile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:17 PM Flag
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no. One of the most ridiculously nasty BMW drivers I encountered had salt and pepper hair... one of thoese "I'm going to live forever" types. Overly fit overly tan, etc. It's a life view and a nasty one at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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Lol. Sounds like a jerk I used to work for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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Have you driven a nice BMW? When you have you'll understand. They are just so much fun to drive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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That's what people tell me. And, I believe you. It's just that, you know, there are other people out there. We all have to live. Why not be nice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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I drive fast but I think I'm still curteou. I don't cut people off. I stop for pedestrians. But accelerating in a BMW is such a rush. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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Either the Times or the Journal published an article supporting your opinion. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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Really? I missed that one. Anyway, I have to run now. Take care and thanks for responding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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Sorry, that was me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:25 PM Flag
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I believe you are stereotyping. Quite possible to be a non offensive bmw driver. I could say you sound obnoxious based on your post, and therefore secretly crave a bmw, however cant afford one, so youre jelliness has metastasized into this anonymous online rant? My charge is $10 for this therapy session. Send to my paypal acct. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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ITA. DH and I have noticed this so many times! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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I actually agree. At least coming home yesterday that was the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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I've noticed a lot of older surgeons driving them, especially the M class and sport ones. Was does that say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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That the m series is fucking amazing and they can afford it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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yes, besides that genius. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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I am a genius, thanks for noticing, bye [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:38 PM Flag
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God [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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BMW drivers are the new rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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They are such gorgeous cars. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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No, they cost more like 65,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:39 PM Flag
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It is not my fault you can't drive and I have to go around you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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Audi drivers are worse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Long shot at finding a kindred soul, but I'll give it a shot. Are there any evangelical Christians raising children in NYC that are on right now? I would like to discuss the difficulties I face in trying to raise Christian children here, and would like to understand how others do it. Anyone? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:13 PM Flag
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np: Evangelical Christians are over 25% of the U.S. population and growing. Why do you think there would be none in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:14 PM Flag
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Get the fuck out if here, as in no way, jose [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:16 PM Flag
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"According to a 2011 Pew Forum study on global Christianity, 285,480,000 or 13.1 percent of all Christians are Evangelicals. The largest concentration of Evangelicals can be found in the United States, with 26.8% of the U.S. population or 94.38 million, the latter being roughly one third of the world's Evangelicals." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:18 PM Flag
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np: They are less than 5% of the population here in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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and thank the fucking non-existent lord for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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Yes, but %5 of 8,000,000 is 400,000 which is larger than most of the cities full of Evangelicals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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NP. My take on church attendance in NYC. And it's just an observation, not a scientific study. I've lived in a lot of places and often an adult needs to be affiliated with a large church organization the be accepted professionally (think realtor) and socially. So you have many where it's just a necessary evil (no pun). That is so not the case in NYC. No one cares and/or rarely even knows if you attend church regularly; so those who do are there for the "right" reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:26 PM Flag
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np: Good points. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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The largest concentration of Evangelicals can be found in the United States, with 26.8% of the U.S. population or 94.38 million, the latter being roughly one third of the world's Evangelicals. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evangelicalism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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Its true but has actually declined by 1% over the past decade. Do they beieve theres no such thing as global warming and want to build a wall to keep out mexicans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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I'm not evangelical, but I'm a church going Christian. Can I help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:19 PM Flag
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Yes, thanks for being constructive. The issue is principally that our value systems are at odds with what most New Yorkers believe. The main areas of disagreement are that we support traditional marriage, believe in the power of prayer, and believe abortion is wrong, although we're also horrified by how the "trans rights" movement have encroached our our rights. One area where I have found out values to be consistent with NYC is our believe in charity and ministering to the poor, and we have met many wonderful New Yorkers (both Christian and otherwise) who seem to lead their lives according to the many verses of Proverbs, which compel man to care for the less fortunate. But I find it difficult to teach our children in other areas, where I am afraid they will face a backlash socially if they were to voice those opinions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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^I would also add that we probably have more traditional views of gender roles, although we are open to the idea of women working outside of the home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:31 PM Flag
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OK. To start, I'm a Christian and I support same sex marriage and am pro choice. So I probably can't help you there. Trans bathrooms - such a minuscule chance this will ever be a thing with your child I can't see spending too much time and energy worrying. Raising a Christian child is pretty easy to me - I put them in the position to learn from an early age. I discuss teach and model )thought word and deed - AND always explain that there are other religions in the world and there are also people who do t believe in anything religious. As long as they live in my house, this is the way it will be. Be respectful of others opinions/bieve if you want them to respect yours. And understand - when you are an adult, you along with every other human on the planet will make a decision as to what you believe. That's my goal. To put an adult in the world who decides for himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:46 PM Flag
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As far as social backlash - that isn't our experience. But as I said above, in order to be respected we have to be respectful. . Judge not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:47 PM Flag
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And, are you afraid of backlash (don't borrow trouble) or e periencing it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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Please expand on the power of prayer, because it NEVER works for us and we are Christians [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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The only reason people "serve the poor" here is for the tax break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Why would it be hard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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Just ask God. He'll tell you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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Why are you guys so hateful? Just collapse - no need to attack someone because of their views. That's pretty intolerant of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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You're the one who just provided a list of all the ways in which you are intolerant. Calling it "values" doesn't mean your intolerance is someone sanctioned all of a sudden. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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I'm not the OP! I thought by saying "their". Instead of "my" it was obvious. My bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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And just as aside - op had not run her list when I responded to what was contained in the original post. Either way - no reason to attack people. Don't we teach our children two wrongs don't make a right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:06 PM Flag
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You're the one who just provided a list of all the ways in which you are intolerant. Calling it "values" doesn't mean your intolerance is someone sanctioned all of a sudden. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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Absolutely. OP, if you are looking for like-minded people, I hope you find very few of them in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Poster from last night and DH was too hung over to go to work. One of his friends was picked up by his dw and the other was still sleeping when I left. Please help me not be pissed off... 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:08 PM Flag
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Why would you not be pissed off? grown men are hung over and sleeping on your... floor? couch?... on a weekday morning when you're getting ready for work and your kids need to get ready for school. Don't let your kids see that shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:09 PM Flag
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Only one db on the way so no dc in the house yet. I'm just telling myself everyone is entitled to be irresponsible once in awhile. This isn't the norm for him and I admit I can be overly critical of people so I'm trying to have a measured response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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How much does he drink during the week and weekend normally? Have you been annoyed with his drinking in the past? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:13 PM Flag
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He rarely drinks but when he does he goes all out like 1x every 2mos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:18 PM Flag
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If 6 times a year he is getting so shit faced that his friends are passed out around the house and he can't go to work... imagine that with a kid at home. my DH drinks 3-4x a week but it's only 2 drinks and he is fully functional the next day (and he's not even "drunk" obviously since it's 2 drinks). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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He's never had friends here before. We had a party yesterday so this is the first time that's happened and he's never missed work for drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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well it sounds like you're pretty invested in justifying it, so i'll bow out now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:26 PM Flag
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No I just want to see whether I am being overly critical or not but I see most people think I'm justified in being upset. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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Then why do you keep defending this shitbird behavior as normal/ infrequent/ not a big deal? You'll change your tune when you have a newborn at home believe me. Also- he will be so stressed for the first 4-5 months of having a baby, as will everyone. If drinking is his way to cope, you're in for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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+1. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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And you're coaching yourself to not be pissed about this, while you're expecting to bring a baby into the situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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Yes, think about this OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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So imagine that one weekend every 2 months, he goes out late and gets pretty drunk and then is hungover/ wants to nap the next day. NBD if you are young and don't have kids. But imagine after you both work all week, once every 2 months he comes home at 1am and is a grumpy, hungover, irritable mess the next day and either lays on the couch not helping, or is short and mean to the kids since they are "bugging him" when he has a headache. Does this still sound okay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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I'm not overly critical of people, least of all my DH. But if I were pregnant and he got so rowdy that his friends crashed on our floor on a work night and they were all too hungover to get to work the next morning as I was trying to shower and get out the door, I'd be pissed. Because that's just disrespectful of his friends and childish of your DH who is about to be a father. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:18 PM Flag
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You should be pissed off about this loser behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:10 PM Flag
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I would be mad unless this was a very isolated incident [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:10 PM Flag
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Why, would you prefer to enable the behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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Maybe put beer can in hand and cigarette in mouth, pose them, then take picture, post on facebook. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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Totally normal for Irish men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:13 PM Flag
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Not all. Why tarnish a whole group? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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It's not the whole group. But getting pass-out, barfing, hungover drunk is very common for Irish men and if you marry one, you can't pretend to be surprised that he and his buddies are flat on the floor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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Does he have a drinking problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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np He clearly does. She said on her thread that he doesn't drink often, but when he does he can't stop. Alcoholism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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An adult missing work due to drinking is a sign of alcoholism. I would be more than pissed just afraid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:16 PM Flag
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He rarely drinks which is why I'm trying to be cool about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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you said he gets shitfaced once every 2 months!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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How often do you think the average person gets drunk a year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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Drunk to the point of being too hungover to get out of bed the next morning? I haven't been that drunk since my single days in my 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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Non-alcoholics do not get get too drunk to go to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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Depends. How old is he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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We're both 35. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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At 35, I'd say my DH and I were both about 5 years past the phase where we'd ever get that drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:55 PM Flag
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The hard truth is that this isn't "normal" and he has a serious problem. And since he's your DH, the problem is yours as well. I'd say try to get him to AA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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Mine pulled that when I was pregnant. Now I am married to an alcoholic. Only recently have I accepted that it is progressive disease so I am planning divorce. I am really sorry. Really consider going to Al-Anon. Try 6 different meetings as some are much better than others. Unlikely you want to divorce while pregnant but you can start getting finances set. Going "all out" is alcoholic drinking and missing work is alcoholic behavior. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Interesting on marriage: http://mobile.nytimes.com/2016/05/29/opinion/sunday/why-you-will-marry-the-wrong-person.html 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:07 PM Flag
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It's an interesting read. In the comments section, someone posted that the first year of marriage is not the hardest, but the first TEN years, because you are learning each other. Agree or disagree? I am in year 9 so hoping it gets better after this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:16 PM Flag
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It doesn't. 27 in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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I found years 4 - 6 or so the hardest. We are in a really good place 21 years in. Have had a mostly very happy marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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That's awesome. Why 4-6 the hardest? Small kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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Yes, and both getting our careers going. We weren't unhappy or even fighting really, just felt a little overwhelmed and not as connected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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The hardest part for us was when kids were baby and toddler. I was discovering how much mess he was happy to tolerate or let me clean up. Now that kids are older and house isn't a disaster, we have a happy marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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Very wise man. Only trouble is, my DH is no good at navigating those disagreements De Botton writes about. Oh well, I Did marry the wrong man... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your favorite snacks to pack for yourself and also for little ones, when taking them to playground for the afternoon? Looking for healthy munchies! Tia 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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Snacking is a bad habit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:05 PM Flag
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For you it is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:08 PM Flag
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Not needed for adults but I the playground was where I could get the most food into my picky eater. Now that he is older, we don't bring snacks to the playground anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:09 PM Flag
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So agree! Stop with the all day grazing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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This. I bring one small snack for after school if we're going straight from the school bus to the playground, and that's it (lunch is at 11:50 a.m.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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I find it's a good time to get in the some fruits and vegetables. Carrots, cucumbers, strawberries, grapes, apples, pears, clementines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:06 PM Flag
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Thats a good idea. Ive brought blueberries and it went down well with 3yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:07 PM Flag
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Apple slices. No carbs as in crackers etc. Too many kids shoving goldfish in their mouths. I don't remember my mom ever packing anything to the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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Did you grow up in NYC or a place where you went to the park everyday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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Yes. GV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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You sound like you have some serious food hangups. These are kids, not adult women perpetually on a diet. Feed them something that gives them energy. Apple slices don't cut it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:17 PM Flag
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NP. I have no food issues and find it ridiculous that a parent can't leave the house without packing food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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Depends on metabolism. My super active skinny child gets low blood sugar after 3 hours but my other stockier child is fine in between meals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:25 PM Flag
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np: I don't have food issues and I think apple slices are fine as a snack in between meals, assuming the meals have protein and fat and are well-balanced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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It sets up a snacking culture. Snacks are not necessary so a bit of fruit is fine. My kids ate a good lunch and dinner so their snacks were small. Grab & go seems to be the culture--go gurts, those sucking applesauce and other food in a suck tube...wtf? Are we on a space station or something? Even sip cups. Wrong. That's my take on it. You don't have to agree of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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Playing growing little kids need carbs. I hope you don't have girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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No they don't. We lived in the olden days without snack foods like junk. A cracker is a cracker no matter if it says 365 or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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Or the stupid Annie's processed fake goldfish crackers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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goldfish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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I don't usually pack snack to the playground. Their hands get very dirty and it's hard to chase after them with wipes. I usually give them snack after we get home. Banana, yogurt, apples...etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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I do all fruits and veggies, but am not a nut about it if someone else gives them goldfish or something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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apples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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Go to playground daily and 3 kids. I very rarely pack snacks but if I do, it is nuts, fruit or veg cut up and a kind bar in an emergency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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I don't like lugging around a bag full of snacks with me, but if I bring anything, it's usually popcorn and water. If they get hungry beyond that, then we leave and get food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Chase online banking being weird for anyone else right now? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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Yes, it's giving me 0.011% on my savings right now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:40 PM Flag
[ - ] found a vape in DDs bag but it smells like cloves. I even breathed it in and it taste like cloves. Is this the new rage? Does it make you high. Is it the same as pot? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:01 PM Flag
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It's absolutely a new thing, especially for middle schoolers. Vaping cloves wouldn't make you high but you can vape weed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:03 PM Flag
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she is 18. Is it illegal to vape cloves? whats the upside. When I sucked it in I got nothing but a clove taste? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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Garlic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:09 PM Flag
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no like a sweet clove like you put in oranges to make them smell nice. IS there something wrong with this is it illegal. Just trying to figure out what it is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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No, it's not illegal. You can buy clove cigarettes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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this. Not illegal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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I remember reading about how kids were dying from clove cigarettes because there was some kind of weird fungus or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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Ask her. By 18 the horse is out of the barn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Bear with me for a silly question. I need to get my hair done (blown out) for an event on Saturday. My in-laws are coming to stay with us starting Friday, and they will get offended if I step out for a personal appointment. If I get it blown out on Thursday, will it stay fairly nice until Saturday? Or should I do it on Fri/Sat and risk pissing off my in-laws? 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:49 PM Flag
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Tell your in-laws that you aren't 17 and you leave your home when you want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:51 PM Flag
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This, for the love of God. "Sally and John- I'll be getting my hair done on Saturday morning for that event Saturday night so you and DH will be on your own- I'm sure it will be nice to catch up with your son without me for a change! We'll meet up for lunch." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:07 PM Flag
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Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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I'd go Saturday morning but mostly because I would want a fresh blow out. If you're going to one of the blow out "bars" they open early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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OP: Sadly I just moved to the suburbs so haven't seen any blow out bars in my neighborhood! I think the earliest is 9am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:58 PM Flag
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Oh that sucks. I'd step out on Friday night and maybe if you're feeling extra generous invite MIL but I probably would go and enjoy the time alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:01 PM Flag
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+1 I think that's nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:14 PM Flag
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This isn't like you schedule a dental appointment during the visit. Do what you need to do for the event, on Saturday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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I can't imagine having to pkan my life around my hair. Signed, Naturally Straight-Haired Mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:01 PM Flag
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You can fuck right off. Signed not OP naturally curly haired mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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What about your fingernails, toenails, cosmetics, hair color, new dress for the event, shoes and handbag? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:03 PM Flag
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np: I'm not hating on anyone, but this primping culture--have you ever thought about it. The $$$ that we are told we should spend. We're low on finances and thrifty anyway. Dh and I go out at least 4x's a month (he writes about social scene). I do everything myself and don't stress over it. If it makes you feel complete sure--go ahead. But its not necessary. I noticed a lot of people don't even think this through--going out? Have to get nails done, hair done, etc. No you don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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OP: I actually think that's great, and wish I could do it myself and have it look nice. My hair is the one thing that makes me feel really good, if it is smooth and not frizzy. I don't really wear nail polish and am not big on getting my nails done- just making sure they are groomed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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Not Op, but I usually do my hair myself when I go out to dinner/parties, etc., because we go out often and I can't afford to get my hair and nails done every week. However, it looks so much better when I go to the salon. It's also nice to just have someone do it while I sit under the dryer and read my kindle or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Smug much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:03 PM Flag
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Women with straight hair get their hair done for events too. Limp doesn't cut it for certain things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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My hair is anything but limp. Haters gonna hate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:09 PM Flag
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What, did you get a perm or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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Your hair looks shitty at a fancy event if you just wear it down and straight, FYI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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Read Palm Beach Illustrated. Many of the women have straight shoulder length hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:16 PM Flag
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oh so that's the look you're going for? palm beach? ok haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:19 PM Flag
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Fancy event. Most of those women are at the same fancy events in NYC in the summer dear. Most are snowbirds in Palm Beach. Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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again- if that's the look you are going for, then we just have different opinions on what looks good. women who go to palm beach in the winter, in my opinion, are stuffy and insufferable and boring. and they dress like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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Kind of a non sequitor. For example, asking about a money problem and responding "so stupid to waste time thinking about that stuff. I can't even imagine bothering. I inherited 10mil." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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have the appt on friday. make it early so you can have lunch together. Its kind of rude to make an appt when you have family coming. Just show consideration. or make the appt so it ends before dinnertime. Basically, dont miss a mealtime. mention it in advance " i have to stepp out for an appt on sat am but i'll be back in time to have lunch together'. its not offese so much as hurt feelings that you dont want to see them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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or on saturday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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OP: yes, it is more hurt feelings that they think I don't want to spend the maximum amount of time with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:14 PM Flag
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Bring MIL to get her hair done too. Are you all going to the same event? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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OP: yes she is. I would be happy to invite her but she would never, ever go because she does not get her hair done, manicures, or anything of that nature. Honestly I am a little embarrassed to say where I am going because she will think that I am high-maintenance and probably judge me for taking time away from the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:13 PM Flag
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You have to let this go. She may judge you but you don't have to care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:26 PM Flag
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You do sound high maintenance though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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wtf she wants to get a blow out and feels guilty about it! lighten up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:09 PM Flag
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maybe she will, but show consideration by the timing of your appt. maybe find them an activity for that time. You have to live your life. Maybe invite her an let her decline, so the ball is in her court. Tell he you could have girl time and you'll treat her to a salon experience. She may say no, but it shows you care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:28 PM Flag
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This might be pricier but can you hire a hairdresser to come to your house to do your hair? Maybe even treat your MIL to a blow out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:24 PM Flag
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thats crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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Just blow out your own hair or have someone come to the house to do it for you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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Won't MIL be offended that she's spending so much time in the bathroom and not socializing? Jeez, the woman can't get her damn hair done?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:09 PM Flag
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I wouldn't risk with the humidity. Better to get it done early morning. Don't tell them where you are going. keep it up and then pretend to do it at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:32 PM Flag
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This is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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dont put on a charade. be honest and considerate. invite MIL and go for ice cream/coffee after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Long story short....mil called to apologize for her behavior. We have been in no contact for 8 months. They're flying in for 1 day to see db. She is saying all the right words, but I am so anxious. DH agrees she needs psych help. I can tell he feels relieved but anxious as well 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:45 PM Flag
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let him handle you mil. try not to be alone with her. Let him witness everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:19 PM Flag
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Yes I told dh I will follow his lead. He has witnessed her crazy finally...hence why he decided no contact. But now she's apologizing, saying she shouldn't have acted like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Does no one on UB believe that Amber Heard was really abused? I have no doubt that she was a opportunist/golddigger, but Johnny exhibited all the classic signs of an abuser- isolating her from friends, admitting to be insanely jealous, violent history with ex girlfriends (Winona,Kate), drug and alcohol abuse issues- and now he's mauling her in the press to try to paint her as a liar. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:40 PM Flag
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Totally think he abused her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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Absolutely, I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:50 PM Flag
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I am no fan of Johnny Depp, but I am Team JD on this one. What violent history with Winona and Kate? The gun shooting was an accident (or else he would have been arrested and there woukd have been a trial). What is the violence against Kate Moss? Trashing a room is not the same as hitting someone. He was with Vanessa Paradis for 14 years. She claimed he never hit her. He's a druggy and a drunk, but that "cellphone bruise" seems highly suspect. Here today and gone tomorrow. Toxic relationship for sure, but she could have bowed out of that marriage quietly without calling the paps and press at every turn. She's out for revenge (and $$$$) and played him like a violin. Nice to file for divorce days after his beloved mother died. She's out to wreck his career but she is the one who will lose hers. Ugly situation. Men are dumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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np. cosigned [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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Read Celebitchy coverage of the JD/AH situation. I believe that he did not abuse Vanessa but he was mostly sober when he was with her. Two very different situations. He went off the rails with drinking and drugs with Amber, and it's likely that he did not respect her or see her as an equal, unlike Vanessa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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No idea but I'm definitely tired of hearing about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:57 PM Flag
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i believe it. He looks awful, probably dug and alcohol abuse coupled with losing his mother. She seems like a wild child and probably fueled some jealous drama and he lost it. I dont think she faked the black eye, but they probably threw crap at each other on a regular basis in wild arguments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:58 PM Flag
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Drunk people are idiots. Anything is possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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I think she's lying. But who cares what I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:01 PM Flag
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I think unlike most women she had the opportunity to leave at any point. She had $$$. They were only married a short 1 year. No kids together. What's her excuse for not leaving? Also why didn't she say this to anyone? I think throwing a phone is a minor thing. Let's not get all dramatic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:17 PM Flag
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" I think throwing a phone is a minor thing. " - You cannot be serious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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np: It sure as hell is pretty minor versus beating someone with a phone or fist or candlestick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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She does not have money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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I couldn't possibly give fewer shits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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I couldn't possibly give fewer shits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:20 PM Flag
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I have no idea but for the people saying Johnny has a decent record with women, I can only say that men go through menopause too and their personalities and tempers definitely change when they age. Some become mellower and some become more irritable, it's a toss up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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Agree. He is getting old and is probably getting bitter that his career isn't so great. And he smokes which makes me think he has an addictive personality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Black 8 year old brings loaded pistol to Brooklyn school. DIVERSITY IS STRENGTH! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:37 PM Flag
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love diversity! more please!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:45 PM Flag
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White crazy teenager opens fire on an entire school. WTF. Race has nothing to do with some jerk using a weapon and shooting someone. If someone has a gun and is trying to shoot me, I doubt that I will give one crap about their race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] DH lied to me about a friend of ours losing his job. This friend did not lose his job-why would DH say that then? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:20 PM Flag
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ask dh. Maybe he was mistaken [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:21 PM Flag
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Maybe there were massive layoffs in his company or department so DH assumed he was laid off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:29 PM Flag
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Why not ask your husband? Probably mistaken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:31 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:33 PM Flag
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Probably a mistake. Or, the person who told you he wasn't fired is the one that lied because they don't want you to know. Or, dh thinks you want to have an affair with this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:36 PM Flag
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Maybe because he knew you would gossip about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:36 PM Flag
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He gave her something to gossip. You make no sense. The guy didn't lose his job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 12:40 PM Flag
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What type of work does he do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:07 PM Flag
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How would I know? I am just responding to your odd response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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Some jobs let you keep the appearance of being employed during the severance period. So you still have your phone, office and website and nobody knows the difference while you frantically search for other employment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:01 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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How would your DH know he lost his job and how would you know he didn't lose his job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:07 PM Flag
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Yes, please explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.31.16, 01:10 PM Flag
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