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[ - ] LaGuardia has changed its open house for prospective students to March 12 at 5:30 p.m. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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I went to La Guardia :)) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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how was it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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do they have a good art program or just acting/dance/music? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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Don't know. We'll see! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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Heard mixed reviews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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My ds is a graduate. All the arts are extremely well taught by teachers with extensive professional experience in their fields, i.e. they are not just trained as arts teachers, they are currently or have been professional artists, directors, musicians, conductors, scenic designers, dancers, choreographers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Interesting. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have little freckles or faded brown spots around their eye, kind of on upper cheek area? I'm noticing this more. Had baby 1 year ago. Is this from pregnancy? My skin is all splotchy. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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Age spots. Welcome, crone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Crone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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It was a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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Ok, what do I do about them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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I don't know. But I have been getting these as well (I'm 40), and my mom has a ton. Peels? Lasers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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37, I've had cute freckles when I was young and they have turned into age spots. I use glycolic peels but not frequently enough to see a major difference. Would love Fraxel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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Are there any side effects from Fraxel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:09 PM Flag
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Besides intense pain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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Is it that bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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I'm tough and I thought it was awful. Technician kept complimenting me on how I held it together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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I heard that it's not painful. How was the recovery? Did you get burned by it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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I don't think the recovery was that bad. Two-three days? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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I have them all over the area under my cheekbones. It actually looks shaded like I have makeup on. You can get it lasered off if you want. Dh says he likes mine on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:11 PM Flag
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What can you do for sagging of cheeks and jowls? Only surgery? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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I don't have spots there, but those are sun spots/age spots whatever you want to call it. Sun damage. If you haven't been wearing sunblock daily and staying out of the sun for pretty much your entire life, they will appear. They start to show up around 35 or so. You may also be suffering from melasma, but that tends to be lower down on the face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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Darn! I haven't been wearing sunblock daily, just in summer. But I don't lay in the sun either. So I can laser them off? Does laser help with fine lines? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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The first thing you need to do is start wearing proper sunblock (research it thoroughly--they are not all created equal) every single day of your life. Then research how best to treat it. Could involve lasers, acid peels, Rx hydroquinone, etc. The most important thing to know, however, is that any treatment you have done is going to make your skin MORE sensitive to sun damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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Melasma? It faded and what didn't go away completely I had lasered off. Nbd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Oh... so if it's been a year, guessing it won't fade anymore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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My dr told me to wait until 3 months after I had weaned so hormones can "stabilize" but yeah, it was at 18months pp that I finally lasered it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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THX. I'm still nursing. Did you notice a difference in your skin and such after you weaned? I look so tired and old. Did the laser hurt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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No, did not notice a difference and yes it hurt a bit but very tolerable and felt like a bad sunburn for 2 days after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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Try Obagi nu-derm. Your skin will look horrible for 6 weeks but the spots will fade. I swear by it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you reserved summer camp for your dcs yet? Academic and/or Sports? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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yep for july (june she will go to our home country to improve her language schools); morning is academic and afternoon is sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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^^^ sorry instead of june is august. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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Oh god, how old is your DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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7, 2nd grader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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Can't she just play? You have her do academics and then sports during the summer at age 7? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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weekends are for play time, august she will play with cousins, kid forget a lot of things during the summer if they are not engaged academically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Gotta keep them scheduled and busy, no down time allowed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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Yep, science camp for July, then outdoors camp for August [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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Also science camp for July. August is up in the air. we'll be away for part of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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Yes, just mornings, 9-12 june through july then we leave from August to Labor day and will just hang at the beach and eat ice cream. I love summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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yes, general sports/fun camp but wonder if he would have liked science better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Both my DC's go to sleep away - already booked. Just a general fun camp, no academics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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nope. none. [ Reply | More ]
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Not yet, leaning toward letting them have the summer to just hang out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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this is unheard of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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Pre K'er. Yes. Dalton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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yes, a month at farm camp upstate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] WTF if wrong with me? Just bumped into a friend driving in my DD's preschool and she came over and kissed me on the cheek, which this made me reach over and accidentally lift my foot off the brake and the car jerked a little forward. I think all the cars behind me saw. So embarrassing! Or just too paranoid? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:56 PM Flag
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I don't get it, where you in motion while someone went to kiss you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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sounds like she had her foot on the brake while the vehicle was in "drive"; no one should have stuck their face in the window to kiss her while the vehicle is running [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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She shouldn't have kissed you while you were behind the wheel. Not your fault. Don't worry about it. I drafted a set of guidelines for a car pool I participated in. One of them is that the driver is not supposed to be touched, poked, etc. while driving the vehicle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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um [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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um what? not snarking, just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.03.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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Those car dropoff practices are so dangerous. People driving car pool keep the car in drive and foot on the brake while they're waving, talking to kids, reaching for backpacks, etc. Safest car pool dropoff I ever saw was, ironically, on that "Girls' Guide to Divorce" program. One car at a time drops off while supervised by another adult and with cones guarding front and back of single-car dropoff zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] At the risk of sounding like future SAHM, the post below about never being able to afford private for 2 DCs on $425k is exactly why I want to be one and done. Is that selfish to rob your DC of a sibling so that you can afford the life you want to live? Did anyone meet their DH, have a DB, and then totally change their mind about what they wanted out of life? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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That is why we are one and done. I'm too afraid of being stretched too thin with 2. I know I'll probably regret it, but here we are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:54 PM Flag
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+1 but with no regrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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or: tell me more, I'm still feeling a little torn about it (even though I know deep down it is the best decision for us). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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So many seem to have had happy childhoods alone on here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:55 PM Flag
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Yes life changes. Don't not have another child because you think you can't afford it if you stay in NYC. We did this. Have only 2 kids. Stressed like crazy to get them into top schools in the city. And now….we are likely moving for the next 5-6 years to a city that we could probably afford to have 3. You never know where life will take you. Have one child because that's all you really want. But don't have one because you think you will be in the city forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:56 PM Flag
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OP. That's a good point. I currently have 0 kids- I'm unmarried and in my 20s. I'm keeping an open mind about life swerving and throwing me in a totally different direction, but I feel like since I can't plan for the devil I don't know, I should plan for the devil I do know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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I'm one and done, but I don't think life is as black and white as those two choices. Stuff happens, people change their minds, etc. I never even thought we would have a DC, but even that changed over the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:56 PM Flag
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I am one and done, but $425k is a crapload of money (yes I live in NYC) and if you can't make it work then you're making a choice to spend it. You can choose differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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We have only one and he's a very happy and well-adjusted child despite being "robbed" (ha!) of a sibling. There are benefits and detriments to both situations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:59 PM Flag
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Same, but have a girl only [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Families have been making this choice for as long as such choice was possible. Think of all of the families who chose to "only" have 5 kids instead of 10. It makes a big difference, and no one here would think that a mom who "only" wanted 5 kids was "selfish". You do what's best for you and your family. 2 kids, 1 kid, 0 kids. It's all good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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Why don't you do what is best for your family as a whole? Trust me there are millions of people without sibilings in this world and they turn out ok. We might not even have a kid (Married prek teacher). We can afford them, but life is not always what do you think is going to be before getting married, goals might change, it doesn't mean is bad, just different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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OP. I should clarify here, I currently have 0 kids and no DH, so this is all 100% hypothetical. I might end up being a happy mom to 6 ... cats. It's just something I think about a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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We are one and done by choice and I never once considered that I was "robbing" dc of a sibling. That's the attitude that annoys the crap out of me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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+ a million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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OP. Sorry, I didn't mean to offend! I was more preemptively using language I thought I would hear in responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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THIS! How many people are actually *plagued* by a miserable, selfish or whatever sibling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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It's the definition of selfish. And it's just stupid to think that private school matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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Why is it selfish? It's making a choice that may be different from your choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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It's not the definition of selfish. Having kids, any number, is a a selfish act. There is nothing wrong with having one child for whatever reason. There is no rule that says that children must have siblings, nor is their evidence that shows that having siblings is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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This this this. It's selfish to have a child because you feel you "have to." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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OP. It's not that I think my unborn children have to go to private, I'm just trying to map out a plan for myself here. I don't know what school districts will look like by the time I have kids, I don't know which schools that are currently mediocre will end up being great. And housing in good zones is expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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School is a drop in the bucket. Family is forever. Sounds cheesy but it's so true and SO stupid to be penny wise and pound foolish with such a HUGE decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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Op. You mean penny wise and pound foolish with respect to DBs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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Wait, I thought having a boatload of kids was selfish. How is having one selfish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Wanted one originally, but had 2. Moved to burbs and became a SAhM. Very different from what I planned [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Op. Are you happy though? I'm ok with "different" as long as I'm happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] To CIO or not? DD just turned four months and only falls asleep after being rocked in my arms. She is also waking up every three hours. Pediatrician says to let her CIO. Anyone BTDT? I am so tired. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Nanny. The parents didn't want me to do cio and as of right now their dd is upstairs screaming after her 20 min nap. Oh, she's 13 months and she rules the roost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:59 PM Flag
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Do you have your own DC's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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All my children are great sleepers because we never rocked them to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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Are you the nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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IME you'll notice a point when your DC stops crying purely out of need and starts crying because they realize it will make you come running. It was around 6-7 months for both of my kids. For us, this was the point when we felt okay letting them CIO. 4 months seems young to me. I understand you're exhausted and if it's your first so you don't have a ton of perspective, but I think if you give it a couple more months you'll realize when CIO starts to feel like an okay strategy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:01 PM Flag
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This is a reasonable post until you said 6-7 months is when kids figure out that crying makes you come running. While that's true in one sense, crying is the only language a baby has. I will never understand why parents think ignoring this is a good idea? Babies who learn that their parents are there for them when needed are happy, healthier, more secure kids. http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/fussy-baby/science-says-excessive-crying-could-be-harmful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:06 PM Flag
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Agh! I hate when people post links to someone that is telling you how to raise your child. Yes, babies know how to get you running. They're not dumb, empty vessels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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Isn't OP asking for advice on how to raise her child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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Right, it's a survival skill. Babies who don't cry when they feel they need their mamas usually have some knid of developmental delay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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The child gets everything they need when they're awake. Love, attention, food, exercise. They're not being neglected all day and then fitted to cio too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:18 PM Flag
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Some people would say that they are being neglected when they are CIO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Well, they're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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Well, I disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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How else can a baby have you "come running" when he is six months old? He can't talk and he can't walk to you himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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It's a camp - I believe CIO is tantamount to abuse, others will throw stones at me for the statement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:01 PM Flag
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+1 Either you think it's neglect or you don't. If you can bear to let your baby lay alone crying, then CIO is probably for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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Stop rocking her to sleep. Put her in bed and allow her her to fuss herself to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:04 PM Flag
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Also, if you have to rock her to sleep, she's not tired yet. The older they get, they'll start up longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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NR: I wasn't so tired because i bf'd and co-slept. That way we all got lots of sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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What does your breastfeeding and co-sleeping have to do with the op's issue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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The sentence that concludes her post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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Also, co-sleeping is an alternative to CIO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:15 PM Flag
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That she's smug? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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OP was asking for advice. Should I have kept quiet? I interpreted her post to mean she is looking for other people's pov. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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No! She's way too little. Hold her, ffs, she's a baby, that's what they need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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I posted below. Sometimes holding doesn't do anything and the baby *still* won't sleep no matter what you do. It got to the point for us where db wouldn't sleep even in our arms, she'd just scream. So you gotta do what you gotta do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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I always tell this story about a family that i nannied for that refuse to do cio. They son was 18 m/o he woke up every two hours at night for a bottle. During the day he would fall asleep during classes and playdates. He wouldn't eat because he drank a ton of milk at night. His parents were walking zombies. When I left, he was two and a half and still waking at night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Well, I didn't do CIO and we had none of those problems. Your post proves nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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Too young. I wouldn't CIO before six months. That said, if you are so exhausted that shaking the baby seems like an option, you do what you need to do and let her CIO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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We did CIO at 4 months with db #2 to get her to go to sleep. It got to the point where we would rock her, bounce her, walk around, sing, etc for HOURS and she'd just scream until she passed out from exhaustion at 2am. We finally felt there was nothing left to do but put her in the crib until fell asleep. Because she was younger, it took longer for CIO to work with her than it did with older dc. Probably more like 1-2 weeks, rather than 3 days. We wanted to wait until 6 months, but we were desperate. So for going to sleep, def do cry it out now. But for middle of the night wakeups, I wouldn't ignore her at this point because she's still so young and might be hungry and might be hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Its too young. Just co-sleep. Babies need to the contact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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She is too young. Wear her in a Moby wrap, the time is so fleeting. My eight year old doesnt even like to hug me anymore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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DO NOT DO THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Enough with the baby hands and feet pictures. We get it. You had a baby. Mazel tov. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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Lol this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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LOL. So tired of hearing about pregnancies and babies. Wow, you got pregnant. What a talent. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sick of the pics people post where it's a shot of their feet and it shows their whole outfit. And they are holding a coffee and have lots of bangle bracelets. [ Reply | More ]
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Same. #OOTD. No one cares that you wore black leggings, boots, and a chambray shirt today. No one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:10 PM Flag
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OMG - this is my niece's instagram, daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it better to open your mouth and ask people about a potential job before you're offered the position, in the hopes of getting information about the position and people you would be working for. Or wait until you actually have an offer to ask around? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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lay low [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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op: Why do you say that?? I agree but DH blabs about it to people that could know others that would be interested in the same position. And likely no people within the organization. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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*know people within the organization…. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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You have no idea the politics. He could be taking someone's job and they catch wind of it. nothing good can happen here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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in the interview? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:03 PM Flag
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No not in the interview. He is talking about it with friends and people within the industry….but he doesn't even have an offer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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Why do we assume this is a "he"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Yes it's DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever successfully worked for an extended period of time for a boss or a firm you hated? Our firm was acquired in October and it turns out I now work for a miserable place where everyone is overworked and unhappy, and I particularly dislike my new boss. Just wonder if it can be done because I really like my clients and the work I do, which is somewhat specialized... 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:45 PM Flag
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why would you not brush off your resume and get it circulated at this point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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OP: there are exactly three other firms who do what I do and I know them really well. Also in a tricky position as I work from home three days a week so from that aspect it's a good situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:57 PM Flag
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WHat don't you like about your boss? I might have specific feedback to help that situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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OP: it's clear our personalities don't mesh. She's dismissive and condescending. Very obvious that she doesn't like me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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^^^ and I find her cold and rude and overly aggressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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i worked for 3 years for a company i knew was a poor fit after my first week. Eventually I got used to it a bit more, and sone of the things I hated improved. But overall, my feelings stayed the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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OP: what did you hate about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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I would start looking other options tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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Life is too short to hate your job. Time to move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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This is a really tough one, in particular for you because you've got to absorb all the nastiness from your boss. But given it's a small company and you get to work from home three days (which is a huge plus!), I would just suck it up. Try not to take anything she says personally and just focus on the work and the clients you enjoy. Is that possible? I do think that life is short and not worth it if her behavior is getting you down or making you sick. xo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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op: this is great advice. My big problem is that I have a difficult time ignoring things and am sensitive to the negativity. It does get me down, I lose sleep over it. There are three partners at the firm (one is my direct boss and I also work with another one) and they have this strange attitude where their needs are the most important; completely indifferent to what you might be working on or straddling. Incredibly stressful, then when you're not able to do the best possible job. I can manage my clients and their work but have a really difficult time managing the partners' demands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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You can't fight city hall, if that is the attitude of all three of the leaders in the firm then it's going to suck to work there. How unhappy are your peers, will anyone else leave first and give them feedback? It's only been a few months so maybe they're under pressure within the new structure and this will all normalize? Do you need to work, can you afford to be off for a while, how will your resume look if you take a break? I'm sure you'll get more peace of mind if you, but is there any benefit to staying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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OP: since October already four people have quit (of a 20 person firm), even the partner described it as a "revolving door" so they're aware there's an issue. They've hired an "HR Consultant" but it's unclear how much this person can do when it really boils down to the personalities of the three partners. The poster above is interesting to me, that she worked for three years with a company at which she was happy, i.e. she eventually got used to it. That's what I need to do- just ignore whatever I disagree with. Ideally it would be better to be fired than to have to quit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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It would be better to be fired if you get a severance package and the extra time/responsibilities augment your resume. How long has the HR consultant been in the mix, and what is his/her mandate, to fix the culture or recruit for the current environment? Given the flexibility you have it does sound like you should try to suck it up, but it's concerning that the feedback is keeping you up at night. It's not worth it if you're health is being impacted, and likely your mood and relationships as a result. I went through an incredibly stressful situation that was out of my control and ultimately decided to quit. I debated the decision for so long but I'm so glad that I did and now wonder how I ever put up with the crazies! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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OP: thanks so much for this, it's great to have a sounding board and to speak with someone who understands. I would get severance- I actually think it's possible they can't fire me yet because I have a one year contract which might run into September/October. The HR consultant has been around for perhaps three months or so. I think he mandate is to fix the culture and make the firm a "fun" place to work. I'm lucky I don't need to be in the office more than twice a week, the atmosphere is heavy and somewhat depressing. The stress does impact my health and my relationships, which why I've given myself somewhat of a deadline as to how long I will tolerate this. If it doesn't get much better by May, that was when I would make a decision to leave. It may be easier to be newly unemployed in the Summer :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:26 PM Flag
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Sounds like there are two potential outcomes, the culture improves or you get pushed out with a package, both are good for you! If the right opportunity arises let them know you're open to a deal and would leave earlier than Sept/Oct on the right terms - a severance package, reference, your legal fees to ensure you're contract is honored, health insurance for a year or whatever. Do you have good enough relationships with any of your clients, or the three other firms, whereby you could start to think about new opportunities too? Summer off sounds like a great goal, one door closes and another one opens up, don't over think this. Listen to your body and the stress you're under and don't let your deadline slip unless the environment improves for you. xo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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op- Interesting. Impressive how much insight you have on this. Are you in HR? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Hi, not in HR but went through something similar personally last year and have been in mgmt. for years. I saved this post so I'll check in and please keep me posted, keep your chin up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 09:43 PM Flag
[ - ] david petraeus - good man who made a mistake or no? would you forgive? looks like he is a 1x cheater to me. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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did he ask you out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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jw, he is a very public figure who has a public persona of a genuine, hardworking person. the wife seems to also have the same public persona. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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exactly. Otherwise, who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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If he didn't learn his lesson about the cost of adultery with that experience, then he's just a lost cause [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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obviously we can't really know, but I tend to agree with you. I watched the Colbert interview when the OW's book was released before the scandal and I remember thinking she seemed very, very into her subject. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:45 PM Flag
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agreed. i do think it takes 2 to tango, but often wonder if he was just old and caught off guard by the attention, so proper boundaries weren't in place (ie he went running with her, worked out with her, which are known to intensify attraction or do the opposite). it takes a certain personality type and discipline to get to where he is, but people are human and do make mistakes. i applaud his wife for giving him a second chance if this was indeed a 1x thing, but yes, we'll never know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:53 PM Flag
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She's a piece of work who set a very specific trap for a middle aged guy susceptible to flattery from a young woman. Doesn't excuse him, but he didn't go out looking for this...she seems very calculated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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what makes you think this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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Doubt it. I'm sure he's had other affairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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He needs a new hairstyle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:05 PM Flag
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I honestly never care about people who cheat unless they are hypocrites who condemn others for behavior they practice. I think it's a personal issue between the married couple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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LOSER! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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He should have dumped the wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.04.15, 02:50 AM Flag
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He made a HUGE mistake. So humiliating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.04.15, 02:52 AM Flag
[ - ] House of Cards. I don't want to give any spoilers, but what is with the Doug story? Why does he care so much about the hooker who beat him nearly to death? and why do the writers think that the audience cares at all about it? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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This season has SUCKED in my opinion. I am slogging my way through it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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Totally. Really bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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It is so bo-ring. Francis has turned into a wimp. And they should have just gone ahead and cast Billy Bob as the Russian president in episode 3. Love Actually rip-off?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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I'm on Episode 7. I think he is going to kill her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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I think Doug is just a fucked up piece of shit - there's no other reason he'd be supportive of of his boss otherwise. They're probably trying to illustrate this with his fucked up thing for the hooker.... so dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 PM Flag
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He cares because Doug gets addicted to things. It was alcohol, but he was sober so it was this hooker. The audience mostly doesnt care...bad move on the writers part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:07 PM Flag
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he needs to regain the trust of Frank; killing her is the only way he can do that and get back into Frank's inner circle. Remember she can link Frank to a murder. Doug is power hungry like Frank and will do anything to walk among the powerful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:11 PM Flag
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I think because he is a lonely wolf, somehow he felt in love with her and is obsessed, he has a long history of addiction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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I hate when he kidnapped Claire. I was so upset [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone done a sleep study for their dc? 10 dd disrupts us almost every night and the poor thing is exhausted. Does insurance cover this? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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Yes- did it for my 3-year-old who was subsequently diagnosed with severe sleep apnea. It was covered by insurance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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I would start first with an ENT to rule out adenoids, tonsils which is by far the most common sleep interruption issue for kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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I am in STL but the only cost here was a copay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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What is STL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 PM Flag
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disrupts you b.c she wakes herself up? do you ask her what woke her up? Is it anxiety or is it breathing issues? At age 10 she can articulate this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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We've always assumed it is anxiety (she has dx) but she also snores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:13 PM Flag
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You should take her to an ENT to have her tonsils checked and scope her adenoids (in office procedure, they put tube through nose... uncomfortable but not painful). Getting my DS's T+As out solved all his sleep issues (plus a lot of other issues like being exhausted all the time, poor concentration and attention etc). GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Old friend is coming to NYC this month, but will only be here for less than 48 hours, where should I take her? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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A show, some shopping, and one museum. Also, a nice dinner and lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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To the airport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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First time here? I have a tour down pat. Start in midtown (times square, Rockefeller, St Patricks...) work way up through CP to Bethesda Fountain, take 6 downtown to city hall and cover downtown (9/11, NYSE, Bull, Brooklyn Bridge, view of Ellis Island and Statue of Liberty). Takes approximately 4 - 6hrs. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:51 PM Flag
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NP- I am exhausted just from reading that! You are a good friend if you take people on this tour. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I am planning a kitchen reno, want to try and pick something as timeless as possible (because I can't face doing this again for a long time) that will give the most bang for our buck if we decide to sell in the next few years (not likely but you never know). Thinking of white shaker cabinets, grey or marble-look quartz countertops and stainless appliances. Is this too trendy? What about backsplashes, I know those can date faster but are also easy to replace to update the kitchen without doing anything else. Any tips? I am so overwhelmed by these decisions, have never renovated before and it is so $$ so I want to do it right 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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Get an architect and interior designer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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i have one, they need some direction from me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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Huh? They should be able to direct you if you ask for timeless and classic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:35 PM Flag
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Do you know of any sites to get ideas from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:30 PM Flag
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Houzz.com will give you tons of ideas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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I spent a lot of time being overwhelmed and finally picked simply, high quality white subway tile. Glad I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:34 PM Flag
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I would move away from the SS appliances and I'd do more modern/sleek than shaker but other than that sounds good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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I disagree. The only things potential buyers will care about in a few years are the SS appliances -- Subzero fridge, Miele dishwasher, and Wolf range. They'll plan to replace the cabinets and backsplash anyway. You should put your money into the appliances as they are important selling features. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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Stainless is passe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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You're nuts. What are you using instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are on the money. White kitchen cabinets will always be popular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] serious question: there is a couple and the wife is obese - do you think they have sex? is anyone here seriously obese and has regular sex with (normal sized)DH? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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I have quite a few male friends who love a good fat woman. One said he likes to get lost in her softness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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Thanks for killing my appetite for lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:28 PM Flag
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Pillowy softness. Ahhhha. His gfs were all adorable but big! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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...plus obese friend always has a fine boyfriend in her life who treats her life gold. She divorced her dh the minute he got it twisted and thought he could mistreat her. She does Not have low self esteem. 300 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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jesus christ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:31 PM Flag
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Buying a bow tie doughnut now ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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lolol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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isn't the question really about why would any man prefer pointy sharp bones and deflated breasts (as well as the awful breath of a low-carb eater)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:49 PM Flag
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Right, because there is NO in between - you're either obese or anorexic. That's the smart UB thinking we all know and love! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:52 PM Flag
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You really ought to mind your own business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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I am, but just curious as this is an anonymous website whether anyone has firsthand knowledge of this kind of thing op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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I am not seriously obese, but definitely overweight (5'6" 180) and I have regualr sex with dh (he's normal sized, but not at all fit). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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I've noticed more than a few body builder sort of guys who date fat women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:42 PM Flag
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I have been over 200lbs for over twenty years. DH and I mostly stopped having sex a few years ago, but we had pretty regular sex all the years before that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:48 PM Flag
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My boyfriend's wife is quite overweight. They don't have sex because of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:56 PM Flag
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I know a couple like this. Wife was very fat and ordinary. DH was tall and good looking. I never understood it but hell if she didn't keep having babies. I think they had four kids, all in short order. Haven't seen them for a while though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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There are plenty of fat admiration websites. Some guys love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Which is better, Pratt or Parsons? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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Depends on what you want to study, IMO. Parson is good for design; Pratt has always had a great reputation for fine arts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Doctor's office "lost" my blood work. WTH? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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Incompetence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:19 PM Flag
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So annoying. It's such a schlep to get over there too. And they take so damn much blood! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:22 PM Flag
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Poster below. I started to wonder if they were selling the blood and said they "lost" it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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That is frightening! Selling it to WHOM??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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no idea but that idea crossed my mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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Yeah, it's a little scary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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Ask them to call the lab that analyzed the sample. They have copies or results saved in a database [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:21 PM Flag
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Doctor said there must have been a mix-up at the lab, they have no record of it. Is someone framing me for a crime right now? LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:23 PM Flag
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this happened to me too. made me come back a 2nd time for blood draw and they charged me for it. fought it and won. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:32 PM Flag
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Our hospital lost my 3 day old's bloodwork too. How does that happen? It astounds me, but it does. DH is a physician, just finished his training. Some hospitals are run so tightly and at others this s%#$ happens all the time. Sadly, the "better" hospitals don't necessarily do better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:36 PM Flag
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Ugh, that stinks, I'm sorry! Yes, this is one of the "best" hospitals in NYC! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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is this Weil Cornell? it happened to me at one of their offices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:40 PM Flag
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Bingo. I've been going to this office for 15 years and this is the first time it's happened to me, but I'm aggravated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:41 PM Flag
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is this the office on first ave? I was so livid. Dr was a real ass too. (It was my first and last visit) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:43 PM Flag
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No, 3rd Ave. I absolutely love my doctors there, but this is irritating. Also just had a m/c a few months ago and I have tons of complaints about the office staff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:44 PM Flag
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I have had also a lot of billing problems with Weil Cornell staff. Maybe their incompetence spans across multiple offices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:45 PM Flag
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Oh me too! If you're here a lot you may have seen when I posted about being billed for having twins, when I only had one baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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^but that might have been the insurance company's fault, we never did quite get a straight answer on what happened there. [ Reply | More ]
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omg really? Any way be persistent and fight the bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:46 PM Flag
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Yes. It went to collections because I refused to pay it. It was a huge ordeal with the insurance company. This was about 5 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:47 PM Flag
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go on vitals and healthgrades and grade the dr. sometimes you can leave reviews on yelp too. [ Reply | More ]
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I should, but I love the actual doctors. It's the office that drives me batty sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
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def say that on the reviews. [ Reply | More ]
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You should document all of this. Occasionally people make mistakes, but sometimes sinister things are happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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I paid over $700 (Not covered by my insurance, but my doctor wanted it done anyway) for a test of the size of my LDL particles (cholesterol VAP rteport) and the VAP doctor's staff lost the report. Months later they found it after I showed up at the VAP doctor's office and insisted on getting it. I had the feeling that they were hired with no experience and no training or supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o: new question about birthday party for my parents, 70 and 69. Everyone suggested doing it this year and not waiting for their 50th anniversary in 4 years. But I cannot afford a party now. How tacky would it be if I planned it but asked parents to pay? Horrible? It's embarrassing but we have had a terrible year financially. Should I just wait until next year, 71 and 70? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No you can't make them pay for their own party! What is wrong with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh, well that's why I wanted to do it in 4 years for their 50th anniversary. I get it, bring on the flames. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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So do it then. It makes more sense anyway. Otherwise, it's just a random party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:38 PM Flag
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Why would you waste everyone's time asking which of two choices you should do if you aren't financially able to do the one you knew everyone would suggest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:20 PM Flag
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Because I'm an asshole, okay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:24 PM Flag
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Not op [ Reply | More ]
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I'm concerned about my mother's health which is why I thought the party might need to be done sooner and wanted opinions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:25 PM Flag
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My parents hosted parties for themselves - many people do. Most parents don't like their kids spending money on them but it varies from family to family. Can your parents afford it and are they the type to enjoy something like this? If not, take them out to a nice family dinner or cook a nice meal at home and make much of them as a family vs extended group. [ Reply | More ]
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My parents could afford a nice party but I'm not sure what their thoughts are on it yet. I'm glad I asked you guys first so I didn't propose a big party they pay for. Oy vey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:50 PM Flag
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You can't ask them to pay. If you can't afford wait for next year or just scale down. [ Reply | More ]
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first of all, do they even want a party? My uncle had a big party for his 70th. At the party, my mom said she would kill me if I ever did such a thing (like people didn't know she was pushing 70, lol!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:26 PM Flag
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Why must you have a party? How about a small family dinner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:27 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:02 PM Flag
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You cannot ask them to pay. Do you have siblings or other family members who could split the cost and co-host with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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No, my sister does not get along with the rest of the family and would not be able to contribute much anyways. So I will just wait a couple years. [ Reply | More ]
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You might want to consider making it a luncheon instead of dinner. It's generally less expensive to book, plus the bar bill will certainly be lower. We did it for my parents 50th and it worked out really well -- people that age don't love going out at night, anyway. You can also trim costs by doing your own flowers, and by offering only wine and beer. Definitely don't ask them to pay for it!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:29 PM Flag
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Wait until 50th unless one is in poor health. If you must do it now, can you afford it if you host it at home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:33 PM Flag
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I would probably have to just take them to lunch. They have been so supportive and generous with us that I wanted to do something nice for them. It's so frustrating to feel restrained by money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:37 PM Flag
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For my parents 50th we all went out for a lunch at a country restaurant they adore (it's really nothing fancy) and then sent them on a hot-air balloon ride. They found it memorable and exhilarating. What about an experience for them, rather than a party? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:39 PM Flag
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Ha, that's a good idea. I think they would want to stay on the ground though, lol. But i can try to think up something fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:45 PM Flag
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why do you need a party that you pay for out? do it at your house, do it with 5 people, or wait until 75 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 04:58 PM Flag
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Yes, that's what I'll do. I was imagining this big glamorous party with great flowers, everyone dressed up and having lots of fun, nice music. Have to start saving up for it now. It will probably cost as much as a small wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.03.15, 05:08 PM Flag
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