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[ - ] Did anyone see Amal's old pictures? She had no style with normal body. Now she is almost anorexic. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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link? [ Reply | More ]
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he definitely had them done- google old pics when he was on Roseanne! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:20 PM Flag
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Ass like that he better bring a pillow to the picnic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:23 PM Flag
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I'm more concerned about the carbon footprint this wedding is leaving. Think of all the private planes making their way to Venice, then all the boats going down the canals. Why not elope, it's more ecologically friendly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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All the boats are in the canals regardless. And the canals are filled with sewage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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She still has no style. She dresses like a blind circus clown trapped in a Goodwill store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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You're right. He should have married you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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How does one thing have anything to do with the other? Oh, right. You want me to post a pic. Yawn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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No need to post a new pic. Just link us to one of your old ones in reddit/fatacceptance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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Lolled at this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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lol. sad but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Well done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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can you post a link? I only see the glamorous amal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a friend who never says hello or goodbye. Like if you enter a room and she's with other people, she won't do anything to greet you. I think it is so rude. Yet, I do consider her a friend and she's great in other ways. I'm not the only person she does this to. What do you think is going on here? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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people have random gaps in their social training. i think she's oblivious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Will she ignore you if you come up and say hi? Personally I find it just as rude if I am mid conversation and someone walks up to say hello to the person I am chatting with and the person ends our conversation abruptly in order to properly greet and exchange pleasantries with the new person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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She won't ignore me if I'm direct, but she doesn't even give the high sign or wave if she sees anyone she knows enter a party or a room. Even if she's alone and not involved in a conversation. And she, well her whole family, never say goodbye or thank anyone when they leave a party or someplace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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I logged in jus to tell you thar T I do that too. I'm not trying to be rude, I sometimes have these weird moments of anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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I also have anxiety in social situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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Life to her is a sitcom. Does she poop? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I never thought I would be in this position. 31, no husband, no kids. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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Happy birthday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Np. I'm turning 30 today! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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You're not ancient for goodness sake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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No baggage, no strings. It could be worse - consider yourself lucky and move forward with confidence not regret. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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wtf? that is not old! enjoy your life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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I got married at 34 (after having met him a year prior), kids at 35 and 37. You have plenty of time. Oh, and it's not all that, anyway... ; ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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Haha really? That's what I secretly suspect sometimes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Meh, by 31 I was divorced with two small dcs. No one has it easy. Just walk your path. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Have fun. I'm 33 and kind of wish I could be single again every now and then. Enjoy what's left of my youth and have sex with random guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Yeah OP i'm jealous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:35 PM Flag
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Let me tell you. The married life aint all that fun. Get ready to talk about every thing, and loose all that freedom you use to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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I was nowhere near wanting to be married at your age. Met dh at 35, married at 38, first db at 40. No regrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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As of tomorrow morning, get up 30 minutes earlier, get dressed in a way that makes you feel really good about yourself and hit the streets with a wide, fabulous smile. He'll come when you least expect it, but you have to be ready, feeling good about yourself and not needy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:12 PM Flag
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Well, that, or at least he'll yell at you "Ayo beeatch, lemme clap dem cheeks!" from his stoop and offer a pull from his 40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Hear that? Time is running out on your biological clock. Add another 2 years to find that "someone", another year for a child and by the end of it you will practically be ancient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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Its all a scam, married breeders make you feel pressure because they are jealous , live your life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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I got married at 35 and have 3 kids now. My dh is a giant pain, but a good guy and I love the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:02 AM Flag
[ - ] How insulted would you be if you got an invite TODAY for a baby shower happening this Sunday (10/5)....in Florida (and you live in NYC).....with the mom's baby registry info included? Also, it's her second kid. I feel like it's a clear "buy me a gift" request, I'm tempted to ignore it entirely, but it's an old friend I see rarely...if I ignore I'll prob. kill the relationship forever. Yet I feel it's rude too...WWYD? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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Send her a check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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NFW [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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I would not send a gift or attend, but I'd RSVP with a friendly email that says you are so sorry you can't make it but you only just got the invite and the planning just won't work out, and you wish her the best for the new baby and hope she has a wonderful shower and you can't wait to see pics of the new little one and hopefully you can see eachother soon and blah blah blah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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+2 Good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Buy a cheapest gift out of registry with the message saying it's not possible to plan a trip to FL in just 4 days!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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Send an ecard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Just call or email and say you're so excited for her, you had no idea, you can say jokingly, "way to give short notice, pal!" You wish you could go but you would have needed more notice. Can't wait to hear about baby's safe arrival. etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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Send a kind regret (not gift, regret) and move on. It could be the mom's friend who is a train wreck. Try not to read too much into it. Life is short. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Kind kind lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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I don't think it's 'insulting' - send a $20 gift and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Did she mail invites herself? Who ever is throwing the shower might have dropped the ball on this one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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I wouldn't send a gift, maybe send one after the baby arrives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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Better than being invited with no notice to Sue Ellen Mishke's wedding in India. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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Email "You know, if you need $ that badly, just ask." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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Since you got a last minute invite to another state, politely decline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:23 AM Flag
[ - ] I hope these people are trolls... but why on earth would someone tutor a kid who was getting 4s on the ELA and math tests? These scores are more about the school's performance than the individual child's... I get it if you're getting 2s or 1s, but high 3s and 4s don't make any difference at any top schools. They take other things into consideration. Many other things. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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We got a tutor for ELA because DC was really struggling with writing, problems that went beyond what classroom teacher could cope with. And we live in a district with lousy middle schools so wanted to try for a citywide. I cared less about the stupid tests than the bigger picture of dc's writing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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THAT makes sense. Completely. But I'm talking about the mom who tutors her kid to get perfect scores. Or anyone NOT struggling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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Oh. That is completely unnecessary. Poor baby (the dc, not the mom). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] We're going to Europe for 2 weeks over Christmas Break with a 3 year old and 5 year old. Stroller or no? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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YES, you definitely need it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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see if there is a child gear rental option, I did in London and it was great not too schlep all the gear! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Why would someone marry an Arab in their right mind? An Arab who supports terrorists 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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What are you talking about? Arabs get married every day. Just like everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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I meant a non Arab marrying an Arab [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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Happens every day again. What is your deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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I wouldn't marry anyone who supported terrorists. Arab has nothing to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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you are crazy, and stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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Yeah, that anti-terrorist policy is cray cray [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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read it wrong, I think there is too much anti arab posting on here, and I would not marry a terrorist supporter of any race [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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What is this about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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George Clooney is anti-semitic so why would this surprise you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:24 PM Flag
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Are you talking about the op moving to Texas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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Yes all Arabs support terrorists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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shut up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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What if he's the bomb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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Cause it's better than marrying an Arab in their wrong mind. Did you mean ' why would someone in their right mind marry an Arab? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.30.14, 02:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Poll: what's the worst thing a friend has ever done to you? 208 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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ditched me at the lowest point in my life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Did she ever come back around, and are you still friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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She did not. No, we are not. I could never forgive her. She hasn't asked forgiveness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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She is a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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Usually its a little more nuanced than this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Few years of reading this site have led me to the conclusion that most posters who complain about this issue are the same people who are also asking for advice about how to do a slow fade on friends who are "competitive" or who don't jive with a goal of being more strategic with their social life or whose DCs are "poorly behaved" or whose DH's don't make enough money for common interests or any number of other justifications for social climbing. If you are one of those posters, who has been thrillingly practicing a slow fade on a good friend with a crew of UBers cheering you on, do not then later come back and complain when you turn around and realize you aren't friends anymore! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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had sex with my boyfriend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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How did you find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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yeeeeaaaars later; don't remember how. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:03 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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Had sex w boyfriend a month after we broke up. Still bad, right? Relationship had been a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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(I'm still friends w my ex but not w her.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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Why? Your ex had sex with your friend a month after you broke up. That's pretty low, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:24 AM Flag
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I was mad at him, but since I broke up w him I understood he was pissed. But my friend didn't have any excuse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 10:34 AM Flag
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So he was angry, so he had sex with your friend out of spite - and you call that an "excuse" for his behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 11:32 AM Flag
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I was mad at him, but since I broke up w him I understood he was pissed. But my friend didn't have any excuse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 10:34 AM Flag
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Took my DH's side in a custody trial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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Wow. Why???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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We were frenemies. Always sort of competitive but we had known one another since childhood. She was my maid of honor. I was not completely faithful in my marriage and she knew it (though this was not the reason for the divorce). We had a falling out at exactly the wrong time and when my ex reached out to her she responded. Basically she just said everything she could - every time I'd smoked pot with her even though I had said I didn't do drugs; how she'd seen me get angry with my kids; how I had this thing with a guy at my office. Judge basically said "this person that claims to have been your best friend wasn't really your good friend." But nothing really meant anything and it didn't have an effect on custody at all. I got primary physical for school and otherwise we had joint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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OMG What did you say to this friend of yours after the fact??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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We didn't talk for like 15 years. Actually now we talk again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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How come? What are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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We're older. She has had stage 3 cancer. She's basically keeping it at bay with treatments. That will probably be the way she goes. She's sorry. Our kids that were in question are in college. Life goes on and you stop making it all about what happened 20 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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Oh, no. I can see why she regrets what she did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:02 AM Flag
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Again, wow. There's no "fren" in that enemy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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seriously evil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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You mean cheating and committing perjury, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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Oh come on. I would say "I don't do drugs" if a judge asked me. But yes, I smoked pot maybe 30 times total throughout college and grad school. That was 15 years ago and it was hardly abnormal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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OR - well I wasn't smoking pot at the time we were getting a divorce. And the fling thing didn't involve sex with my coworker - yes to making out a few times and an emotional affair. But that was also old news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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OR Actually, I meant it is seriously evil to try to screw your friend over in a custodial dispute unless you have genuine concerns about her ability to parent her children. If friend felt she couldn't testify on OP's behalf, she should have said so and stayed out of it. This is not something to do for revenge after a petty dispute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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You don't get the option to "stay out of" a court case. If a party calls you as a witness, you have to testify, and you have to answer all questions truthfully. I guess I'm a terribly frenemy in that I won't commit perjury for a pal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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Yeah, you suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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You are a complete hypocrite. I am sure you would be singing a different tune if the genders were reversed. Frankly, it sounds like OP made some terrible decisions and you sound like an enabler who will lie any chance it will make your life easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 10:13 AM Flag
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If you said that yourself, you probably wouldn't have had a problem. Once you lied to the judge, you lost credibility altogether. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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What a terrible person: to give truthful testimony is the lowest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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It's one thing to give truthful testimony, it's another to obviously paint someone in an unfavorable light on purpose, when it comes to something as important as child custody. For example- a judge asks "have you known her to abuse drugs or alcohol". Answer: "no". Do not answer " I smoked pot with her on 10 occasions that I can recall. I do recall an evening where she drank so much wine that she threw up before she went to bed and was then unable to meet me for brunch the next morning due to her hangover"- knowing full well that these events happened 10 years ago, were isolated, and had zero to do with her being a mother to her kids now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:22 PM Flag
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or you just tell the dh, "sorry, I have no useful info for you." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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It wasn't the DH asking, it was a judge. You tell the judge the truth, sorry. The way the judicial system works is that witnesses tell the court the facts, and the court decides what matters and doesn't matter. The witnesses don't decide what the just outcome should be, the court does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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+1 - exactly!!! Better to lie to make your life easier. Why tell the truth? it can make things so difficult!!! lol!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 10:14 AM Flag
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Omg. Was she sucking his dick too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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Physically? No. But she was definitely figuratively fucking me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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So awful. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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Joanna? Joanna Kramer, is that you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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Haha. No but I saw that movie like a year ago. I'd never seen it before. The wife's best friend becomes the DH's best friend. That was interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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And she had sex with him too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:36 PM Flag
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In the movie? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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He (implicitly) had sex with JoBeth Williams (goofy-70s-glasses-ad-firm-lawyer). He did not with Jane Alexander (cross-gender-best-buddy). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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They did! They had a one night stand and his kid sees them the next morning. Or was that a different woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:56 AM Flag
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Different woman, as noted above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:03 AM Flag
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Of course, they were all fictional, including Joanna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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Logic suggests you were a horrible and dangerous mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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Yawn. Stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 04:56 AM Flag
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This. Whenever a man cheats, UB is up in arms about how he "damaged his children" and doesn't deserve custody. And she committed perjury. And expected her friend to do the same. Not a good person, which means she is likely not a good mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:28 AM Flag
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np- not true. people can be shitty spouses and decent parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 09:04 AM Flag
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Can one be a bad person and a good parent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Cut me dead with no explanation. I'd known her since we were 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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^^^And this was not long after my first husband died very suddenly and unexpectedly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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That's terrible! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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Vandalized my car. It had no idea it was her until many years later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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That's bizarre. Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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She was (and probably is) mentally unstable. Apparently, she thought I was cheating on my boyfriend. It doesn't make sense then and it doesn't make sense now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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How did you find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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She confessed to a mutual friend several years later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Nothing too awful: one sabotaged an application for a grad school program, another sold me down the river at work, another screamed at me from Paris on 9/13/01 over nothing but jealousy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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Those are kind of awful imho [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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at least she waited two days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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Sabotaged how? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:20 AM Flag
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I got the fade away from her. But it's ok, I understand these things happen sometimes with friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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Cut DH and I off suddenly, shortly after his father's funeral. We had been friends and traveled together for many years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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Ha. Husband and I got married and started trying for a baby. As it was becoming more and more certain that I wasn't having an easy time getting pregnant, she slept with him (yes, I blame him too) and got pregnant. He left me for her and they got married and have 3 kids. FUCK HER. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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omg...... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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You win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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OMG tell me where she is and I will go key her car for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:00 PM Flag
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OMG! Tell me where they are and I will douse them in gas and flick a match on them!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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Me too. We will have our UB posse on her in a NY minute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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karma will come around to bite her in the ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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No it won't. The universe is indifferent to your little dramas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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She is a shitty person. Shitty people figure it out some time. She might not get hit by a car, but she will still be who she is. That's karma in my mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 04:58 AM Flag
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I can say red is green in my mind; that doesn't make it so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:12 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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karma will definitely catch up with that one, holy crap! evil woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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ITA and your ex dh is a massive jerk for leaving you for her. She must love "winning" and she may wind up leaving him someday for some other 'tropy" -- she sounds horrible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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are you remarried w/kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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You should run them over. Like, if I were on a jury, I would acquit you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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me three [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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Me 4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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OMG!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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I don't think I have to read any further So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:41 AM Flag
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Holy hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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Have you ever expressed your feelings to her about this? Has she ever confronted it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:53 AM Flag
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In HS, bc she was mad at me, gave a note I wrote her to the best friend of girl whose bf I was sleeping with (I referenced being with him in the note). Some may I say I deserved it. But I was young and dumb and he was a few years older. And his gf only happened to be one of those most popular girls in our HS and she had two sisters. Her and her friends made my life a living hell and I never was able to live it down and was labeled a whore for the rest of high school. The guy was the first and only guy I slept with in HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Sorry for weird, run on reply. Typing in the bathroom lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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She is probably on here posting about how some dumb bitch slept with her boyfriend and bragged about it in a note when she was in high school, humiliating her and breaking her heart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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I never bragged about it. I had low self esteem and he took advantage of my naivety. Even in spite of everything the girl stayed with him for another year or so afterwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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Yeah... you kind of deserved that one, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Your friend did a bitchy thing, probably was insecure and wanting to get in with the cool crowd. Kind of like you were when you were screwing that girl's bf. I don't blame her for torturing you in hs. You all acted unkindly, but that is high school. It happens. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:03 AM Flag
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In college I had a friend who ditched me on a night when I was black out drunk (she was sober) and ended up being sexually assaulted by a male acquaintance (while I was passed out). After it happened, she never called to check on me, and when I reached out to her (to try to piece the night's events together), all she could talk about is what a mess I was that night and how I was leaning on the guy because I couldn't walk, so I must have given him the impression that I wanted to have sex with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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It was. I've never felt so alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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np Disgusting. So sorry. I bet she blamed you because she couldn't admit, even to herself, that she bore some responsibility for what had happened. She may be stewing in guilt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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I have no idea what was going through her mind. I blamed myself and was so ashamed of what happened that I guess I bought into it. We stayed friends for a few years after that, but eventually I cut her off because she was just toxic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:33 PM Flag
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I think everybody's thinking is warped at that age. You think you're grown up and independent, but you're really dependent on peer approval. She sounds like a gutless wonder who does not belong in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:41 PM Flag
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I think that's totally it. This person cared - a lot - what others thought of her, and I think she was embarrassed to be associated with me, so she went home once i got sloppy drunk and pretended she had nothing to do with it. She was actually an incredibly thoughtful and generous person at other times, but her desire to be seen as the "cool girl" got in the way sometimes. In any event, we are no longer in touch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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She may also have wanted the guy's approval more than yours. People can truly suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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Actually she didn't even know the guy - he was an acquaintance of mine. I think it was more about the fact that we were at a party and she was worried that other people would look down on her because of my behavior, so she bailed. This was a common theme with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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That is horrible. Same thing happened to a friend of mine. Her party friend completely ditched her when she was roofied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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+1. I know someone that this happened to too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:14 AM Flag
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I had a friend (male) who got really drunk and kept telling me to get out of there so he could hook up w this girl. The next day he was pissed bc he hooked up w someone he didn't want to, and said I shouldn't have ditched him. Was I wrong to leave? It seems like in some instances it isn't such a clear call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 10:38 AM Flag
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Maybe this is a double standard, but I don't think so. First of all, he asked you to leave and second, he presumably could have defended himself against unwanted advances from a woman. Also, it's not like a man can be raped when he is unconscious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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I just recently came to a crash in my friendship where a close friend admitted exactly how she felt about me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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Which was what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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She tried to come on to my husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:51 AM Flag
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My mom was my friend - until she called one of my kids a little $&@! and said she didn't want to be his grandmother any more. Still hurts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:20 PM Flag
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Ok, no offense but that is crazy. Could she be developing mental issues or dementia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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Is she right? What's going on with the child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:29 PM Flag
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No, she's not right. She values popularity and such above everything else, and said kid was a kind of a crotchety kid that didn't put much stock in what everyone else wore, played, etc. He was (is!) happy with his group of sweet but nerdy friends. She treated his (popular, charismatic) siblings completely differently than him and then didn't understand why he would act out to try get her attention. Just totally dysfunctional. She was the same in my childhood, sadly - popularity and being part of the in-crowd trumped everything, no matter what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:38 PM Flag
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np That's absolutely crazy. It takes a special kind of mean girl to be so cruel to a child, let alone a grandchild. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:42 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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A friend I had since childhood slept with a guy I really liked. I wasn't dating him yet but she knew I liked him. She was my weekend guest on top of that. I never spoke to her again. He never called her and viewed her as a one night stand. He and I went on to date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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Girl, that is not that horrible. I hate when ppl put dibs on people they aren't dating! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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He chose you SECOND! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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You do not get it. At all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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NP . I do get it. OR felt that she had "called" the guy. However, that is really ridiculous behavior!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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You can't call dibs on a person. That's ridiculous. And you only dated him to get even with her, so you're the bigger shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 09:08 AM Flag
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No I didn't. It was my house and he was in on the house (summer house share). We were great friends and I was crazy about him. She had heard about him for months. Then came to visit (she was quite promiscuous) and slept with two men in the house within 24 hours. He was one of them. Months later he confessed that he had always liked me but didn't want to get involved while we were in the house together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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so why'd he sleep with your friend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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My sister (who is only 1 year younger than me and has been my best friend for life) hooked up with my lifelong crush and never told me. My cousin told me years later thinking that I obviously knew about it...awkward. She obviously felt bad but it is a tiny stain on her integrity in my book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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Sounds like she has some sibling rivalry/jealousy issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:59 PM Flag
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But, he didn't like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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No, I guess he didn't like me :( We were good friends but it wasn't really that she hooked up with him...i know she didn't like him, i was also hurt that she didn't tell me about it for years. I know she was hoping it would disappear but things like that never do. All 3 parties are married with kids now so it's silly to remember such an insignificant thing but betrayal hurts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:57 AM Flag
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I hear that. Sorry you were hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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Dated and moved in with my ex-dh. This was after we divorced. She was my best friend and I confided EVERYTHING in her during the (very bitter) split. I cut her off but of course my dd had to see her every time she went to visit her dad, which totally killed me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:33 PM Flag
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Denise? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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haha, nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:47 AM Flag
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This one is awful. So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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Reading these replies, I'm thinking there's no such thing as a true female friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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Grow up. Men suck too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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Sad, isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:46 AM Flag
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Oh stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:58 AM Flag
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Very few relationships last a lifetime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Knew that my boss was looking around to hire someone to replace me and never said a word. Good friend too and not a friend of my boss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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That totally sucks. But in her defense, do you think she was afraid of putting her own job in jeopardy if she spoke up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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No, we no longer worked at the same company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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I had a friend who did the same job as me under 2 bosses. She hated her boss and I felt bad for her so I always invited her out for lunch/coffee etc to commiserate. Fast forward: I got fired unjustly (because I was pregnant at the time even though boss swore it had nothing to do with it) and this 'friend' swooped right in and started working for my boss. I was really hurt and we never spoke again. Talk about kicking someone when they're down (and pregnant and jobless.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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Just forget about this and move on. Manage your expectations of people. Take care of yourself and your baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Cold shoulder at her destination wedding. I had no idea she held some grudge- we had a perfectly pleasant conversation a few weeks prior! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:09 AM Flag
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maybe she was just stressed/busy/overwhelmed? I didn't get to talk to all of my guests! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:24 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:37 AM Flag
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She's a fake friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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FedExed me a letter that she didn't want to be friends anymore. Out of the blue. She was the matron of honor at my wedding and is the godmother to my daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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Fed Ex?? Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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Pp. Yes. She said she was " giving the friendship the respect it deserved" by writing. I assume she meant rather than just stop taking my calls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:36 AM Flag
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She sounds like a weirdo. Did you ever talk to her again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:43 AM Flag
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np. She sounds insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:35 AM Flag
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PP No, we never spoke again. I think I called to ask WTF and she didn't respond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 11:25 AM Flag
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Reason? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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PP At the time she was living in Miami and she would fly to New York periodically to see a boyfriend. I usually didn't know she was in NY until after she left. I understand when your dating someone you don't have as much time as you used to, but she never wanted to get together for lunch, anything. She would buy me unwrapped gifts and leave them at the front desk of the hotel she was staying at and I would have to go pick them up. 6 months pregnant. When the baby was born, she couldn't understand why I couldn't fly down with the baby. I explained she wasn't sleeping through the night, there is a crib, stroller, food, diapers, etc and it would pretty stressful. We wouldn't be able to go anywhere. She still didn't understand what the big deal was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 11:29 AM Flag
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She freed you from the friendship. Can you find another godmother or have a clergy person cancel her godmother contract? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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I thought I was very close to a woman I worked with. A year ago, she had a big party for all the people who had worked with us and didn't invite me. Other ex-co-workers called me and asked if I was going but I was definitely not invited. She posted the pictures of this party on Facebook, where I was her friend. *** I think this may fall into the category of "I did something wrong, but I really honestly don't know what it was." She has not answered any attempts I have made to get in touch with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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You know what, we've all been there. It sucks not knowing why this happened, but you are better off without people like this in your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:31 AM Flag
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Has this happened to you before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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Similar things have happened, sure. I just found out that a former BFF of mine (who inexplicably dropped off the planet last year in the midst of her divorce) is leaving town and threw a farewell party to which I wasn't invited. Oh, and she told me she is moving either. My husband, who has the best attitude about these things, tells me he thinks she is jealous of me and our happy marriage and that's why she can't be around me. Not sure I buy that, but I do like the fact that he encourages me not to take it personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Sorry, she *never* told me she was moving. I found out third hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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told me me daughter (6yo) was "acting that way b/c she doesn't feel like you love her" with regards to her acting up (normal sassy, defiant, test boundaries behavior). I will never be able to move past it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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Let it go. She knows nothing. The fact that it bugs you this much shows how much you love your daughter! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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You'd have to reflect on the reasons why this woman said this to you. Is there some serious mommy issue you should improve? If not then eff this friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Honestly, I think you are reading too much into it. She almost certainly meant that was how your DD felt at that MOMENT, not overall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Encouraged me to break up with my boyfriend and best friend. Later became friends with my best friend and dated my X boyfriend. Told me she just wanted to know what it would feel like to be me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:43 AM Flag
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Single White Female [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:44 AM Flag
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Creeepy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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Chilling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Constantly competes, controls and manipulates to get her way. I am done with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:12 AM Flag
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Good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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Totally bailed at the most difficult moment for dh and me; aggressively promised to help dh professionally (when he and I were very wary and reticent to mix business and friendship), did nothing while he turned down other opportunities and lied behind our backs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:33 AM Flag
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Ughh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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Had a flirtation and then hooked up with my rapist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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I can't believe there are no replies to this one...this is the WORST ONE of all of these! OMG! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 10:47 AM Flag
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This is terrible! I can't imagine what would motivate a "friend" to do this, but am guessing she had some weird competitive/jealous streak where she felt like this was a way to one up you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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HORRIBLE! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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after I got her a job at same place, she stabbed our coworker (my brother!)in the back and got him axed. This, while he was recovering from (and doing well, on the upswing!) depression. She also didn't tell me about this plan and then told me she had considered the cost before deciding that getting rid of my brother would save company money and "take us in the right direction" . She expected me to stay on the job and be part of the rebranding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 06:46 AM Flag
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8th grade, and I haven't seen her since HS graduation, so it really doesn't even count, but she got me to write down in a note who I had a crush on, and then she "accidentally" dropped the note and her boyfriend "took it and wouldn't give it back until he read it", and then "he" told everyone. Proud to say I was not her friend after that and just pretty much ignored her existence until we got out of HS. On the upside, it taught me early to choose friends carefully and to make sure they earned my trust before I gave it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:05 AM Flag
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np I honestly cannot think of a bad thing a friend has done to me since elementary school. I suspect some of us learn young, and are luckily saved from the real, adult betrayals later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:39 AM Flag
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Good for you! These are lessons I hope my daughter will learn at a young age and spare herself a lot of heartache. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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In college, I worked really hard and supported myself. My two roommates got in a huge fight that had nothing to do with me. One called the landlord and told him I was moving to France and to keep my security. It really hurt me financially, and the friend who did this was financially comfortable. I found out when the landlord called me- I didn't even know that the lease was broken! She tried to apologize the following year but never offered to pay me back, so I never accepted the apology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 09:19 AM Flag
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Dumped me after 20+ years of friendship. It's been five years or so since she did it and it still stings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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Did she give a reason? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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Eventually, she did. A couple of years after the break, I asked her. It was a lame reason, so I just had to conclude as much as I cared about her, she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. Bummer, but there it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Sounds like you've moved on. Good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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I got her a job at my company and she acted like a crazy person. She mouthed off to my boss, ran up and down the hallways, cursed at the copy machine and was generally disagreeable and confrontational with everyone in the office. They fired her and she had the nerve to be mad at me for not sticking up for her. Her behavior completely embarrassed me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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She had issuses and you didn't even know it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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These responses all fall into two categories: (1) people who do bizarre things, either because they are crazy (sleep with rapist) or are motivated by lust (this story is unfortunately as old as time, and women will nearly always go with lust over a friend); or (2) people who let down their friends (first OR with the ditching comment). In most of these answers, though, I think there is probably a side that isn't being told. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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I am the OR with the friend who ditched me when drunk. I think if you were to ask my friend her side of the story, she would say that I expected too much from her, I'm an adult and need to make better decisions/take care of myself. And I think that you'd get a similar response from the bad friend in most of the examples that fall into category 2. It seems like there is a fundamental mismatch in expectations and what it means to be a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Which makes it really hard to form and cultivate new friendships - you never know what someone else's boundaries or expectations are going to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes, true. I do think that we live in a culture of not wanting to take responsibility for ourselves, and also one of entitlement. So you see a lot of women complaining about people not being there for them, but you also see a lot of women clearly being very unkind to each other at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Interesting to read this post. Female friendships are complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Partnered with a friend on a year long project. When the project was complete, she got all the credit for the project and was published. She explained that the press will say whatever they like and that she had no control over the interview. Obviously I didn't even know there was an interview. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Wow, how awful. And if I were you I'd be wondering what I should have done differently to protect myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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I haven't had a good friend do anything bad. I did have one friend who must ahve at some point decided that she no longer wanted to be friends with me, but we often hung out as part of a group - so she never said anything. We had definitely drifted apart, but never had a falling out. Then a number of years ago, she actively started being lousy - not returning calls/emails, saying mean things on the rare occasion we all went out, excluding me, and eventually not going out with the group. I come to find out she was doing the same to 2 others! So she has pretty much excluded herself and is only friends w one other woman. Has never told her why she doesn't see the rest of us or even mentioned that she is no longer friends w us. It's weird. Whatever triggered it, no one knows and we assume it was different for each of us since it didn't happen all at once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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This just proves the point that it's usually about them, not you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Was this a group of college friends or work friends? Sounds like she just moved on to other people. People do this. And some people just aren't into being part of a group as an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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She game me Ebola! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 09:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Al Pacino: "Take a look at Israel's history and you would know who the terrorist is" 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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tell me why I should care what an actor states? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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This. Is he an expert on foreign affairs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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No, but it sounds like he has a basic knowledge of history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Many non-actors agree with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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Isn't he a high school dropout? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Israel was created through terror: Nakba 1948 in which Israel destroyed half of the Palestinian villages. It keeps on perpetuating its terror because it's plan is "Greater Israel" that includes pieces of Iraq and Iran. That's why it pushed USA into the fiasco of the Iraq invasion & it wants to convince uninformed people that Iran is the enemy. The problem is the worst ally we've ever had: Israel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Welcome, Al Pacino mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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The above drivel is an example of the problems with Muslims here to America and becoming citizens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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-->"coming" here to America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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So is he pro-Israel or pro-Palestine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Are you serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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OP- Where did you get this quote? Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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I am so so sick of you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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Collapsing. Buh-bye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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Are there any other irrelevant people you want to tell me about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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go away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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Ive met this man and can tell you he is not even worth repeating. And could you stop with the political chatter, take it to Huff Post already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I am going to try to come at this from a different direction. If anyone here bought furniture for a new apartment or renovation or redecoration - what was your budget and what did you spend on just furniture/art/carpets? Did you do it yourself or did you hire a decorator? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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We spent about 30K on carpets. About 45K on furniture. I inherited some nice art and purchased some less expensive art. Did it myself with help from my mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Like wall to wall carpets or rugs? Thanks - and how many rooms of furniture? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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We included wall-to-wall in some places as part of the renovations. On the lower level for insulation and acoustics. They were oriental rugs that we purchased at ABC. We did 3 bedrooms and a living room and a few areas like foyers and halls. This includes benches and mirrors for the bathrooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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Do they sell high end carpets at ABC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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I have never started from scratch. I love antiques and slowly bought good stuff that has traveled with me from various apartments to our house. Bought rugs while traveling in the Middle East, inherited stuff from grandparents. We're upgrading our house as needed and when we have energy rather than all at once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Can I ask a question? How did you get the rugs back? Do you bring them yourself or ship them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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Honestly, it's hard to remember. I think they shipped them. I remember thinking, "we'll never see these again," but they showed up eventually. My brother bought a bunch of stuff on a trip around the world (doors from Indonesia, statuary in India) and amazingly, it all got here too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:01 PM Flag
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np. We have had big items shipped. Shipping cost almost the cost of the items to begin with. I will also now never forget to watch the mail like a hawk for a notice that the items have shown up at the shipping dock. UPS did not bring them to the door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:11 PM Flag
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What can you afford? My boss just moved and she had me tell the interior designer is budget was $500k. If I was doing it the budget would have been 32k but that is all the extra I have at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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I posted this morning and it kind of got shot down so … HHI 1m … mortgage 900K no other debt. 600K in bank. Have very little to move in for a 4 bedroom home. Looking for a bones budget to get started which we can then fill in with the usual stuff from Ikea or Pier 1 or Homegoods. I always heard you should put some money into basics and then buy inexpensively to fill in the gaps. I just don't know what's extravagant. I don't need Donald Trump level but would like a nice understated decor with some nice pieces. I like antiques as conversation pieces but not as an entire style; I guess traditional would be where I'm going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:04 PM Flag
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Wow, you sound like you have more money than taste. Things can be done on a variety of budgets. I suggest you first decide which are the "anchor" piece you would like (maybe study some interior design magazines) and some overall looks that you like. Then price the pieces you feel are most essential. Many things can be gotten in both a "high" and "low" version, so I don't think there really is an answer to this question. I decorated a house that size for around 30k, including curtains and paint, and antique rugs, but I buy in antique stores and thrift shops, and reupholster as appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:14 PM Flag
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Always a good thing to start by telling people they have more money than taste! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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NP. Well Ikea is fine if that's all you can afford, I'm glad it exists as an option, but with HHI of $1M it is kind of crazy cheap! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:31 AM Flag
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I just moved into a 4 bedroom house w next to nothing. All in, furniture will probably run us around 50k. I have a beautiful rug that will go in my bedroom (about 15k) and other than that I am hoping to spend no more than 10-15k total on all remaining rugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:15 PM Flag
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pp that asked what you can afford - speak to a couple of interior decorators, they can help you with a budget based off what you said above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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You can find some very nice ensembles at good furniture stores for 10-15k per room. You will get into higher territory for antiques and one-of-a-kind or custom items that a decorator may find. If you are into that kind of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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I don't know if you're still reading this, but I definitely recommend a decorator. Find the right one for you and your budget - that's the hard part. But they shop so much better than you can - you'll save enough to cover their expenses. Ours mixed store bought things (she had a huge discount), IKEA things and custom things. It looks gorgeous and it was not a huge budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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Thank you .. I think I need one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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I renovated last fall and moved in January. I bought a tiny bit immediately, but it felt as though we were hemorrhaging money post-move, so I then held off for a bit (and also tried to get a sense of how we were using the space and what we needed). Added a few items in the spring and am now ready to "finish." LR total will come to around $10k, but I used existing art, a lamp, coffee table, and entertainment unit. Also lucked out on One Kings Lane when shopping for accent chairs (and was able to combine a discount with free shipping). DR total will be around $5k, but that's without lighting (b/c I haven't quite figured out what I want to do - and I also want to see some items in the space). Used an existing table and bought very inexpensive chairs from Overstock (they're not "forever" pieces, but they work for now). Worked briefly with someone from Homepolish (a design firm), but I have very specific taste and like what I like. She was helpful with room arrangement and sources (art installer, upholster, etc.). Have otherwise relied on friends/family when I need a second-opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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thank you --- so much in your answer very helpful !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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Sure! I consider interior design a hobby, but i was so tired of making decisions post-renovation, plus I was scared of making expensive mistakes. I do suggest taking your time - you'll like some things for a stretch, but will then re-think them. On the other hand, at some point, you just have to start buying things, whether it's on your own or with a designer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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Here is some advice from someone who has moved a lot over the last 20 years. Buy pieces you like and that look good together. They don't have to be matching. We have beautiful furniture that has looked amazing in four completely different homes (townhouse, prewar apts, raw loft space). We have sporadically used designers and they have helped pull together color and proportion. Furniture lasts a long time and it's hard to get rid of. So buy with a plan and be picky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:57 AM Flag
[ - ] I hate my job so much I am wishing for a stomach virus so I don't have to go in tomorrow :( 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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No need to wait for one to actually come! Just call and say you have one, and then spend the day in central park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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This was me two years ago. What do you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Ha, at least I'm not the only one who thinks like this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does your family spend for a real vacation - like a week away at spring break? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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27K per year on vacations: this includes one trip with the kids, one trip without kids and a few weekend trips [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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wow, you're the 1%! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:35 AM Flag
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Less than $1000. We usually oh camping, so even less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Christmas we do $30K but it is two weeks and we can go somewhere further. Skii week usually 10-20K depends where we go. We've done some beach vacays for under 10K but we are a family of four and that is a bit of a stretch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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Oh yes, such a stretch for a family of 4 to do a beach vacation for under 10k. People here have no concept of reality [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks, this is helpful. I clearly have been budgeting too little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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No, this is crazy UB budgeting. We usually spend about 6k, not counting incidentals like airport transfers, souvenirs, extra outings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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How/ where? I need some good ideas that won't break the bank. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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I just posted below about Club Med DR. We went last year for 6k but our state has a less common vacation schedule and that probably helps with pricing. If you're going school vacation week it could be tough to get a deal. Can you play with dates at all? Maybe miss a day or two of school? They do a lot of sales. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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That was my issue - I just looked there - mostly sold out and very expensive that week anyway. I'll think about changing the dates. Thanks for replying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:05 PM Flag
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this sounds more normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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Around 20 or 25k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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For a week? Do you go to the north pole? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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We go to nice resorts. They're extra $$$ during NYC private school breaks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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We spend about $12K over the course of the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:54 PM Flag
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Probably about 5k for a family of 4- say 2400 for 4 flights, and 2100 for 7 nights in a hotel, and then 500 for outings/ dinners out (more than that if it's a trip to an area where we'd want to do excursions... if it's purely a beach week, we live pretty cheaply once we are there) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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Roughly 5K--for 4-5 people (older kid may bring a friend)-- but we tend to rent houses someplace cool for a week or two. That that includes all food, restaurants, entertainment (including,for example, theater or concerts). Would be more if flights were expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:17 PM Flag
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who are you people? we spend less than $2000 tops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 02:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Newborn baby shot by hunters while in father's lap in his own home. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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They obviously were not obeying good hunting rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Apparently they had special tags to hunt on residential property (next door?) to protect agriculture. But yes, they must be fucking idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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We only permit tree stand crossbow hunting on our property for reasons like this. Don't like the idea of bullets whizzing around for obvious reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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why permit any hunting on your land? (I'm not anti hunting, just wouldn't think you'd want crossbows whizzing around either.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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They shoot from tree stands well away from the house. These are really just our friends and people we know. All the arrows have a downward trajectory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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did not know this - interesting, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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np: If they are in a tree stand and shooting at a deer the trajectory is down not horizontal. A miss is going to enter the earth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:30 PM Flag
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I don't think they were on the dad's property. Sounds like they were next door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Absolute nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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And the la-aaaaa-nd of the freeeeee! And the ho-oooome, of the Braaaa-aaaaave! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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this.. you have one messed up country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:25 PM Flag
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OR: correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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Hunting accidents happen all over the world, though. They're not a US-specific phenomenon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:05 AM Flag
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Is it even hunting season yet? Were they poachers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Nope. They had permits. Police are investigatiing but it seems to be legal. They were hunting on the farmland next door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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So it is already hunting season? What idiots--they must have been shooting at movement, not a clear shot, which is the dumbest move a hunter can make. And the most dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:50 PM Flag
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^^^did the baby survive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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The article says the baby is in the hospital in serious condition and definitely blind. The father was grazed as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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They shouldn't have been shooting anywhere near a house. Insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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Sometimes you can't see the house for the woods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:27 PM Flag
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I guess. I just think - if I were those parents, it would be very hard not to go after those guys and kill them. Seriously. And yes, I know, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:32 PM Flag
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WT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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that's F UP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 01:06 AM Flag
[ - ] adults going to disney without children - discuss... 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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Pedophiles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Not my thing, but they do a big business in weddings so obviously lots of people love it. I was surprised by how many adults were there without kids, even waiting in line to meet characters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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my coworker is going with just his wife. They are in their 50s - so so weird.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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DH went on a high school field trip. They got to go behind the scenes and study with the animators. Maybe they have some kind of adult programming? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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wait, seriously? waiting in line to meet characters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Yes!!! A lot seemed to be older couples - I'm guessing reliving the glory years of going with their kids? But they get honeymooners too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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This sounds like something I might've done with my college boyfriend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Creepy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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I did once with DH and a friend many years ago before we had kids and had a great time. Once was certainly enough though. My BIL's new wife and her mom have gone 6-8 times a year, every year, for a long time. Now that BIL and wife have a baby the practice continues -- little dude is 15 months old and I think he has already been to Disney 8 times. I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Do they live nearby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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We actually have a nice timeshare at Disney. We can't go lately because of the kids being older and committed to their sports and we have one of those weeks where school is always in session. But I fully plan to go down there myself every year in my retirement! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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what do you do there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:03 PM Flag
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Arrange a swingers' night usually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:45 PM Flag
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in costume, I assume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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I did once, because I was in Orlando and had a free day. I felt kind of weird. It's a lot more fun with kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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very flyover [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:43 PM Flag
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we did. super fun trip! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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happiness without whining [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 11:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it common for NYC families to take professional outdoor family photos every year for Christmas cards? I feel like most of my LA friends do this. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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No most in my circle send traditional cards not tiny prints or the like. I consider those to be tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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I love them! Nice to see the growing kids every year. I think they are tacky without kids, however. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Include a photo within the card if desired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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so what do you send? and who is your "circle" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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I send a traditional card with a hand written note in each. My circle is my friends and family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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Yes, very common. What kind of question is that?!?! Do you know anyone who does not do this!?!?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Most of my circle does this. I'm in LA and so I was just wondering if it was common in NYC. Apparently from the first commenter, it is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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first responder has a stick up her a$ - very common I get them from everyone in my "circle" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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DH wants me to do one with the kids for his office. Apparently all his coworkers have this. I thought it was odd and strangely made me feel like a trophy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Aw, he thinks you're beautiful and is proud of his family! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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ohh, now I feel like an ass. He asked for his birthday and I said no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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I think you should surprise him with a family photo shoot as well as some budoir photos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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He asked for a family photo with the kids for his birthday and you say NO??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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No, He asked me to take the kids and myself and do a photo shoot. HE did not want to be in these pictures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Come on though, that's still a nice thing for him to want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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You need to buy a clue lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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sadly, that is true for most of my interactions. I am oblivious to the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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No. Most everybody I know sends those Tiny Prints-type cards with candid photos of the kids in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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IME, many families with younger children do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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spin off- what age is too old to continue to send these? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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It seems to taper off when the kids hit their awkward phases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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LA families do this to show off their warm winter weather! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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We do but our good friend is a professional photographer. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 09.29.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Been in manhattan 25 yrs and have 10 yr old and 6 yr old. Everyone we know seem take picture themselves and print online or at local drugstore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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In my small universe I find that cards from the west coast tend to be the entire family, outdoors, usually on the beach and cards from the east coast tend to be just the kids, often on vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 10:13 PM Flag
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True. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 03:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Why don't SAHMs put their preschoolers in all day programs twice a week rather than a short day everyday? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Short days better for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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My kid is in all day everyday and she loves it. 9:30 to 4. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Way to parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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? I work FT with a flexible schedule. I really do think I have thebest of both worlds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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That isn't an option at most traditional preschools and many don't want their kids in daycare. Prefer dc nap in their own beds, eat lunch at home, etc. Also, the consistent routine is good for many kids. [ Reply | More ]
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I think short days are better for them. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 09.30.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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All day preschools are for poor people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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You're not talking about NYC are you? Because everyone sends their 4 yo to all day here. 9-2- 2:30. A few schools here offer half day at that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.30.14, 12:43 AM Flag
[ - ] My inlaws live overseas. Every time they talk to our dc's they try to lay a guilt trip on them about how they have forgotten their grandparents. There's mostly negativity in the conversation and the kids get disinterested and don't say much which leads to the ILs thinking their beliefs are justified. Is there any way to break this cycle while the kids are still young? I would like for them to have a closer relationship. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Be super cheery, up beat and positive. Set a good example. You can't change the ILs but you can teach your DC to be nice, happy people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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Have grandparents to stay with you. My ILs are regularly here for six months at a time (max allowed by immigration). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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They have taken some visits and basically done the same thing in front of the kids. They want the kids to hug and adore them but they won't play or engage with them at all. I can't even get them to take the kids for a walk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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Do you Skype? Lots of kids are not super into grandparents … my mom gets upset to think that my dcs don't ask about her but she doesn't really ask about them either. It's really about her. [ Reply | More ]
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If I were a kid and living with my parents, I wouldn't be much interested in relatives who live far away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.29.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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