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[ - ] Thoughts on Spence? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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great school. can't go wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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op-are the kids very down to earth for most part? i am finding where we are that there are so many very rich and very spoiled kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Summit or Great Neck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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of - neither but close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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Wouldn't describe it as down to earth, imo. Lots of jr. fashionistas imitating their moms. All the pvt have some very rich, spoiled kids - like many of the good pvts too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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I meant good publics,not privates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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the academics are quite strong. the workload tends to keep them pretty busy. the girls i know who attend i know through sports. they are quite well rounded and put together. is there money? sure (how could there not be at a school costing $45K per year). but it's all about the values of the parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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Go for the specialized high schools. Very bright kids but few are rich and spoiled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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op-that is a good idea. she is very arty but also loves core academic. is laguardia a good choice or would you still go with stuy? any other recommendations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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I would try several. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] 3.5month dB is waking up every 2hrs! Killing me. He was close to sleeping thru the night a few weeks ago, but now waking up all the time. Ive got 2 older kids and this is just brutal... Thinking of offering him a bottle at night to see if that makes a diff but I think, if I want to keep EBF, this might do some damage for my milk supply... So unbelievably tired though... 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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My guess would be that you db is sleeping in your room next to you and you bf to shot him up because you are tired. The only thing that worked for me with #3 is to sleep on sofa without baby monitor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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OP. I put him in guest room from day 1 for this very reason... What did you do, ignore him? CIO from super early on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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No I didn't CIO but when he was in my room he was waking up more and with 3 dcs and being so tired I would BF just to get sleep. I guess in your case I would wait until 5 mo. I didn't see any improvement with formula feed. I found bf much easier than bottles. Maybe he is going through growth spurt? Is guest room very dark? How is he eating/sleeping during the day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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It is too early do do CIO. Most sleep experts don't recommend CIO until 5-6 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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The breastfeeding craze is making a martyrs out of so many…give the bottle of formula and enjoy the extra sleep. You are important too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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formula isn't a sleeping pill. It may not make any difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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Was for us. My breast milk wasn't enough as my large boy got larger. I thought he had colic. He was just starving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Mine too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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OP. Did giving him formula at night affect your supply during the day at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Just pump if you are worried [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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give formula or pump and let DH take one of the night feedings w bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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He's getting bigger and more hungry every day. If he is well fed, he will sleep longer and it's worth trying the formula. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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But will this negatively affect my milk supply? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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You can pump when you give the bottle to keep up your supply. Or you can plan to give a bottle each night and not pump since part of his nutrition will come from the bottle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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this too shall pass, don't take shortcuts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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She doesn't need to kill herself for marginal, if any, benefits. The child may be crying out of hunger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
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same issue here only my db is FIVE months old. was sleeping through and lately up and SO HUNGRY. am ordering giant case of formula. benefits of bm dubious and at any rate seem greatest in newborns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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At this age you should feed DB cereal or vegetables etc. Baby is starving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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At this age you should feed DB cereal or vegetables etc. Baby is starving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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When db cries, first try patting and shushing back to sleep. If she still won't sleep, pick her up, rub her back, walk around. Check diaper. If she calms put her back in the crib while she's still drowsy. If she's inconsolable then offer breast. Feeding her at night should be your last resort. Remember, you have to teach her to sleep. Hunger isn't always the reason she's waking up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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When my children were well fed, they naturally fell asleep and stayed asleep. We didn't do an ounce of "teaching." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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Well, you got extremely lucky then - most babies are not such good sleepers. It has nothing to do with hunger or anything you did as a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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This might just be a growth spurt or early teething. Do a few things to boost your supply just in case, i.e. supplements or make the cookies, pump after feeds as you can, etc. My son and daughter went through this around this age. This too shall pass. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
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formula for last bottle at night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Sorry, I know how rough it is. You should pump a bottle in the morning when your supply is highest and have your husband give that to baby during one of the night wakings, so you can get a longer stretch of sleep. Or you can have your husband do the same with a bottle of forumula but I would not do any more formula than that, because it will affect your supply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:00 PM Flag
[ - ] How many cases of Ebola would NYC have to see before there is a genuine panic? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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one with high fever riding the crowded subway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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There are 10 million people in NYC. At least 0.1% of that, so at least 10,000 cases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:46 PM Flag
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You sound far more reasonable than most people here on UB. I hope you're more representative of the NYC populace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:03 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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That is insane. There haven't been that many in all of Africa. If you wait until 10k to panic, it's too late. Because of the virulence of the disease, even 10 should do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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One, apparently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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Tee hee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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I suppose you won't give a shit unless YOUR child gets infected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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My child won't be treating Ebola patients or otherwise have contact with their bodily fluids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Of course she would. Does she take the subway? Does she ride in cabs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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So speaks Doctor Uninformed. Just how long do you think it survives on surfaces? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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According to Dr. Richard Besser (former head of the CDC), "up to several hours". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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anyone who can't easily identify how they caught it - so someone other than those treating the guy or a ground zero contact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I think if there is 1 person who gets it from this doctor from random casual contact (like someone who happened to use the bathroom sink after him) then there will be some panic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there any school in New York area that focuses on high level learning and creating great thinkers and not just assessments? Looking for interesting progressive school for super bright kids that is "out of the box" 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:04 PM Flag
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Yet another future leader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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ICE. People on this list denigrate it, but the curriculum is well thought out and they are all about creating thinkers. They are regents exempt, as is Beacon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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op-i/m sorry but what is ICE? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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Institute of Collaborative Education. It is a 6 -12 public school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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ECFS, Dalton, Calhoun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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Saint Ann's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:11 PM Flag
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op- i think my dc would really fit into Saint Ann's in so many ways. But who do you think is the kid they look for? Who is their best fit in their view? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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np: Go on tours and see these places! You will have a much better sense yourself if it is a fit for your child and family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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op-planning on it. but you are right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Yes, this is Saint Ann's to a T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:43 PM Flag
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What do you mean high level learning? Opportunity for advanced classes? Inventing your own mathematical system rather than learning the natural progression of algebra through calculus? A school for scientific inventions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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op-all of the above - or any of the above. My dc is already in a private (not in NYC) and I just find the method of teaching to be very uninspiring and just keeps kids drilled and exhausted. I see the spark of curiosity slowly dying in my kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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But the drills must be pretty easy for a super bright kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Not if mom can't tell that OR was sarcastic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Sort of…but if she is interested in the progressive schools I definitely encourage her to tour them. It is quite sad to see a child's curiosity dying! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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op-they are, but it prevents real learning and allowance for deep thinking and problem solving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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How old is the child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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op-12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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So you are looking for 7th grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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op-8th or 9th - move next year or following year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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aw. you're so clueless it's almost cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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School of future leaders and billionaires [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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i think your kid is just so special that he will honestly need to be home schooled. there is really no traditional school environment that could possibly be good enough for him, now is there? i mean, let's just be honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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op-well compared to yours for sure...let us know when you bust him out of juvenile detention will ya [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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honestly...you are raising the child you deserve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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op-in that case i am pretty awesome :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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Drills and assessments are to bring up the lower part of the class. If your child is in a school of super smart kids, I think it would be better no matter the philosophy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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New York area as in the suburbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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op-in the city or surrounding areas. we are willing to relocated if need be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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Dalton. Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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op-why would you suggest Dalton? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Chances to get dalton are so minuscule that its not worth discussing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Is this child talented in math/science or english/arts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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op-loves science but math is definitely weakest subject - although is taking algebra in 7th (but getting B to B+ at best). English is off the charts, amazing writer, loves model UN and debate and model congress...very talented singer (perfect NYSSMA scores, does Opera, in selective choir program), plays piano and flute and does theater all the time. very articulate and very mature girl. that's the snapshot - where would you send her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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Dalton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:49 PM Flag
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op-did you suggest dalton above or are you another poster? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:54 PM Flag
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Another poster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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I am not trolling, but you won't believe me. There are many, many children in NYC like this--at public as well as privates. Not sure what you mean by "off the charts" but if you mean scoring 99+ on standardized tests yes this is very common. My dc is at Hunter and Manhattan School of Music. For HS you could try LaGuardia, and you may be in for a rude awakening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:58 PM Flag
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op-i am looking for her to have peers - who are all smart, interesting and interested, for her to be in the mix you describe would not be a rude awakening but a pleasant awakening. off the charts meaning that she truly writes like a college kid and reads like a demon pretty complex literature. she is a word geek in every sense. i would be thrilled to have her be around the caliber of kids you describe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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She sounds wonderful, and I hope you can find the right school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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dalton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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Fieldston. Toured it and loved it, but hard to get in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Considering all girls school for DD. What are your thoughts on Brearly and who is a good fit for that school? Also any other suggestions. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:59 AM Flag
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Brainboxes of all shapes and sizes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:02 PM Flag
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Don't forget the "e" in Brearley when you write your thank you note! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't take the subway and I can't uber anymore. How am I supposed to get around? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:58 AM Flag
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Buy your own car [ Reply | More ]
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Private driver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:03 PM Flag
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Why can't you take uber? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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Presumably because someone being tested for Ebola took it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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Ah. She's a paranoid moron mom. Explains it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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They have tested + [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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Walk. Bicycle. Skateboard. Rollerblades. Segway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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stretcher? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:14 PM Flag
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If you rode every subway car and every uber car in an effort to get a disease, you'd fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Who let the sane person on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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So every Uber car is affected? Every subway? Get informed. Stay calm.....etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Umm.... take off your tinfoil hat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Just wear a hazmat suit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Just wash your hands when you get to work, get home, get to a restaurant. Don't you do this anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Too bad he didn't go on a tour of soul cycles and yoga studios. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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doesn't the virus die within a couple hours outside a host? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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Wow, Sugar, I never realized that that's a problem I don't have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I am not an alarmist but I've been wearing scarve around my mouth and nose for the last month to avoid getting sick. Not even ebola, just generally. Adults don't cover their mouths when they cough or sneeze. You'd be surprised (or not) just how careless people are. They will walk by you and cough right in your FACE!!! People have been looking at me funny with my scarf, but now? I'm avoiding people as much as I can. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:27 AM Flag
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Are you sure you're not an alarmist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:31 AM Flag
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No. I have a terrible health plan and I just don't want to get sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:35 AM Flag
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Adults rarely get an illness requiring a doctor although many trounce off to the doctor's office seeking an antibiotic for the common cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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Yes you are an alarmist, a cold won't kill you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:59 AM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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You're just capturing the germs on your scarf. So when you wear it next time and flip it around, you're pinning the germs on to your mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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Get a flu shot. Wash your hands. Everything else is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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A voice of reason! Can you please repeat this a million times on this site? TIA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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Think about what you're teaching your DC? Do you want them to live a cloistered, fearful life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:04 PM Flag
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Old Chinese people do this! Dh is Chinese and this pisses him off [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, ESL mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody have any colleagues who constantly argue and debate everything? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 09:16 AM Flag
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omg yes. two israeli ex IDF guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:19 AM Flag
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Israeli's are so fucking painful to deal with. It actually astounds me. I have never met a nationality that gives off a more narcissistic and confrontational stereotype. I guess you are what history makes you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:05 PM Flag
[ - ] This ebola doctor needs to be charged with a felony and put in isolation at Sing Sing for the rest of his miserable life. Arrogant, careless fuck. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 08:22 AM Flag
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He needs to be required to repay for the cost of his carelessness, too. Just think of the lost business to the bowling alley alone. And the cost to the city! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 08:55 AM Flag
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This is the SECOND time in NY area a DOCTOR was so fucking arrogant to disobey basic rules. They think they are god. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:19 AM Flag
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it really is bizzare imo - i honestly cannot believe they were so cavalier about it [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Fucking moron. [ Reply | More ]
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+1,000,000 [ Reply | More ]
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What was the first time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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You sound dumb. Prosecutors can't charge with a generic felony because hysterical harpies are upset. They have to find a law that was broken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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Prosecutor here. Trust me, we're working on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
[ - ] One fun thing to do is to take a cheesecake and sit it on top of a pan of baklava. Delicious! With every slice you also get a slice of baklava on the bottom. And put slices of flan on the top, for a texture/flavor contrast. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:16 AM Flag
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you sound like the devil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:18 AM Flag
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this sounds amazing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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Like the turducken of desserts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:28 AM Flag
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sounds horrific [ Reply | More ]
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I prefer cheesecake layered with chocolate mousse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone interested in Arias trial? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:18 AM Flag
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Nope. Not interested in her at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I honestly think the ebola doctor should be deported back to Guinea as a warning to others. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:03 AM Flag
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It wouldn't do any good, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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incinerate him [ Reply | More ]
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The virus may do worse. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh do you also work in the cdc? Wow, everybody is a dr suddenly!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Flyover moms do not agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:15 AM Flag
[ - ] What are the best hospitals in NYC and LA? Is Bellevue down at the bottom? Curious. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:59 AM Flag
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LA: Kaiser Permanente [ Reply | More ]
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^ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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Many great hospitals in NYC but generally recognized that 3 of the best are the 2 Presbyterian Hospitals (Columbia and Cornell medical schools) and Mt Sinai. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:11 AM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:16 AM Flag
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Bellevue is #1 for emergency medicine. It is the best public hospital in NYC and part of NYU School of Medicine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 07:41 AM Flag
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yes. i think it's a good hospital, they see EVERYTHING. [ Reply | More ]
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They don't rank Emergency Medicine. You will not find it in US News and World Report's rankings. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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Columbia [ Reply | More ]
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It depends on the need. [ Reply | More ]
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Bellevue is tops for trauma [ Reply | More ]
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Used to handle and contain infectious disease and best public hospital. Treated the first AIDS cases in the eighties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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totally depends on why you are going to the hospital. Bellevue is tops for things like trauma, infectious disease, psychiatric illness, traumatic brain injury. In certain specialities, it is the most highly sought after place to do your residency because of the experience you get there (both in terms of volume and variety of cases). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:35 PM Flag
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Cedar-Sinai and UCLA in LA and then huge step down for everything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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Really? Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some good christmas destinations? I don't want to deal with the family this year. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:48 AM Flag
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wherever you go it will be christmas, because christmas is in your heart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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^ uB is really having a lame night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:57 AM Flag
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tell me about it. earlier some proles were talking about Red Lobster and Olive Garden [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:27 AM Flag
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Aspen is always nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:56 AM Flag
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Yes.. hurt my knee skiing last year though so skipping this year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:58 AM Flag
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Oops, sorry then. How about The Maldives or VI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:00 AM Flag
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Christmas Island, really though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Oaxaca, Mexico [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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Pittsburgh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Why not join the Jewish woman and her MIL and sit round the tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I was in the hospital for surgery (ovary removed) this week and was discharged earlier tonight and I will be staying w my folks who live 30 min away from the hospital. My parents took me to my surgery and pretty much stayed with me every day for all visiting hours, and helped me w discharge, etc. My husband, on the other hand, came to visit me for maybe 1- 1.5 hours every night (even bringing MIL when I was in recovery and looking like a hot mess) because his job had a training conference that popped up and DH said he needed to be there (fine). Then tonight, DH texts me he cant visit me once I get discharged because his group leader from his volunteer NYC Marathon coordination scheduled a management meeting at 8pm tonight so he had to take Metro North to deal w that. When I told my parents all this, my mom flat out said DH is an ass and how he has acted with respect to my hospital stay means that If I am one day 75 years old and fall in the shower, DH would flippantly call a neighbor to check on me instead of himself getting home ASAP to check me himself. My question now is- should I even stay married to a man who is this callous or am I just being paranoid or overly sensitive?? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:31 AM Flag
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Maybe start by talking to him about it? I agree that he was incredibly insensitive, but maybe there's a reason? Some ppl are really freaked out by hospitals, maybe he was actually scared for you, etc. I think having a conversation might be a good first step before jumping to divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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OP here- yes I mentioned this to him earlier today and his answer was, "i am sorry that I cant seem to do anything right lately! Now I cant even do hospital visitation right. Just another thing you can nag me about later." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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Wow what an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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NP: He might just be expressing his frustration at their relationship, which doesn't sound great. I think OP should stop talking to her parents about her marriage and start talking to DH, preferably with a counselor to referee. I suspect there are two sides to this story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry! Maybe try having a discussion when both of you are calm? I don't mean to take his side at all - his behavior was undoubtably shitty - but I think there must be more to him if you decided to marry him. Is this indicative of his general behavior towards you? (Pp) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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OP here..no his behavior is usually very good. Our day to day life is wonderful. He cooks at home and he is really great with household chores and helping w handy man stuff (he grew up in rural town and knows how to build homes, how to fix things and is an engineer by trade). We have a lot of things in common (same college, same values, we both are "only" children, same food preferences, etc). We both also earn similar salaries. My major concern is his overall insensitivity to health issues. He believes people can be fine doing self healing, while I need people around me for support. I feel like he does so many things for me out of "this is what Wifey wants" instead of "this is what I wnna do because I love my wife and she deserves this." DH didnt get me flowers when he visited me when I got out of recovery either. (Although he does get me flowers for our anniversary). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:02 AM Flag
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I'm really sorry he's not providing what you need. I think it sounds like something you can work through, though, not a hard deal breaker. I wish y'all the best of luck! (Pp) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Did you know about his attachment to Mary Baker Eddy prior to marrying him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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Who is Mary Eddy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:40 AM Flag
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Jerk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:50 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:17 AM Flag
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OP (EDIT): just realized the above post is too long. SHORT Version: DH acted callously while I was in hospital while my parents took care of me from start to finish. DHs behavior during my medical issue raises alarms whether DH really gives a shit about me or whether he just knows my medical issue wasnt serious that warranted him to be present for longer than he needed to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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Dump him and stop making excuses for his bad behavior. You deserve a lot better. I'm sorry that you're going through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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What did he do that was callous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:24 AM Flag
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He treated my surgery like it was getting a flu shot. His entire attitude was just overall flippant. I think if something had gone terribly wrong and I would have required more surgeries or something worse, his response wouldve been, "gee thats rather unfortunate. oh well." The day I got discharged he didnt even bvisit me because of some stupid marathon meeting. He didnt even call me until 9pm after his meeting ended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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Not per se a cause for divorce, but I'd start looking at my options and in the meantime, I'd treat him the same way he treats me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 AM Flag
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First, focus on healing. Then figure out if YOU find his behavior acceptable. If you're trying to get perspective, I personally would not be okay with him not being at the hospital the entire time plus a few days after for recovery. But I am admittedly neurotic and expect a lot. If you find it unacceptable, confront him. If he dismisses your feelings, run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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Plus a trillion! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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OP- thank you..i am trying to just brush it off but my mom just said to me, "ok its your husband and I will not intervene in this. Just think about when you are 65 and get a cancer scare or something really bad.,can you really count on him? This is your husband not mine. Your life. Your choice." DH and I have been married 4 years, no kids and we both are professionals with excellent health (until my emergency surgery now). I feel like maybe this is a wake up call that I married an extremely selfish man. Most times I have veen sick, he always tells me "tell me what you need and want, I cant read minds and I will do my best to accomodate." As if I am one of his work clients. I just dont know. Maybe it is a culture thing, he is German and raised yo be very unemotional, I am Peruvian with a very touchy/feely family /upbringing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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Germans are very militaristic in stereotype. I would try and tell him that you require a higher level of sensitivity that he simply isn't providing. If he is unwilling to meet your needs, again, run. My husband when I'm sick brings me soup, juice, green juice and rubs my feet. When I got a minor outpatient surgery he drove me and stuck around for a day after. He isn't a prince, but this is what husbands should do. It's part of the job. Get well soon and I hope it works out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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It's a wake up call. If no DC, time to hit the road. Your mom is 100% right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 AM Flag
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THIS. He's an ass and clearly couldn't care less about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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This could be my husband (and coincidentally, I only have one ovary too.) I've had several life-threatening situations over our past 20 years together, and he sucks at them. When I dwell on them, I think I want to get divorced too. But our day-to-day life is pretty good, so I try to focus on that. Luckily, I have a good support system when the bad things do happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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OP- what is your support system? I wish my DH was better bit when his mom was hospitalized last year when she fell down 2 flights of stairs while shopping (she is 83 yrs old), DH came home first, ate dinner, then drove to the hospital to visit her. He didnt even tale the day off from work to help her w discharge the next morning. MIL said she was fine and told him "dont worry son. i am fine, go do your important job and I will walk have my best friend pick me up." DH just said OK and left it at that, sae her for dinner to make sure she got home and forgot about the incident. My own mom...I wouldve dropped everything I was doing and rushed to the hospital just to see that she is ok. WTF...DH is odd! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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No he is just a man. Is everything fine? Yes? Great, no problems then, get on with things. I think the same way and have learned that women and men think totally differently about these things. Men do NOT give emotional support in the way women want it. Period. Not wired to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:26 AM Flag
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A different perspective. Wtf do you want from the man? He visited you every night, right? You want him to quit his job and set up a tent next to you? Gush endlessly to no practical purpose "are you OK my darling?" You had surgery, you were recovering fine, enough said. I read your post and think "needy". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:00 AM Flag
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OP- no he doesnt need to be all gushy but some caring and emotional effort is also nice. I dont get surgery every day! Hospitals suck!! Husbands should be there to support you. Instead he treats it like I flew out of state to attend a conference or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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OR. He visited you for over an hour everyday, right? What am I missing? If he has a job that is basically the rest of the day, other than work. You are not dying here. You want more time from him (which would be unreasonable) or do you want some ineffable form of emotional empathy (which is strange to expect from any man, the practical ones among us, and especially a German)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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My interpretation is that OP wants and deserves empathy and she's not getting it, even when DH is visiting her in the hospital. Sometimes just showing up isn't enough if you're also being an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:28 AM Flag
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OR. She never said he was being an asshole while he was there. She was complaining of not being there enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:07 PM Flag
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She did say this: "I feel like he does so many things for me out of "this is what Wifey wants" instead of "this is what I wnna do because I love my wife and she deserves this." DH didnt get me flowers when he visited me when I got out of recovery either." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Wife > some stupid marathon meeting. Not hard to tell marathon people you cant make it because your wife is in the hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:13 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:13 AM Flag
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Your mom is right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:49 AM Flag
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maybe he felt that because your parents were there he did not need to be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 10:44 AM Flag
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BINGO! He felt redundant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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He's cheating. Mark my words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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OP- no he is not. i am certain of that..i have lunch w him as he works only a few miles from my office and we have dinner together every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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I think you and your husband have 2 different ways you like to recuperate. I hate having visitors (and flowers) when I'm recovering from something - I've had 2 back surgeries and would have driven myself home from the hospital if they would have allowed it. No one came to the hospital to see me and that's exactly what I wanted, if I'd had visitors I would have felt like I needed to entertain them. When I had my son, my husband only came to the hospital for short periods because he was sick and didn't want to get the baby sick - I wasn't at all upset about it. I don't mean this in a mean way but in this scenario, you seem to be the needier person and it's outside his normal character to act the way you want. If he's great in other aspects, I would let this go since your parents seem to be taking care of you the way you want/need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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