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[ - ] Can somebody reassure me...we are feeling very desperate waiting on a job offer for DH and it was looking very positive, but today he said he had a bad gut feeling about it not working out. I think just because he has not heard anything yet. I woke up around 3 am this morning from a dream in which he didn't get it. That doesn't mean he won't, right? I'm so paranoid now 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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It's only been a week since he talked to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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What you dream has no bearing on whether he will get the job. The hiring manager is not consulting your REM cycles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:41 PM Flag
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Thank you. I know you think I'm a moron. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:42 PM Flag
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You have the cause and effect backwards. You had the dream because you are afraid he won't get the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:42 PM Flag
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My industry ground to a halt this week. Also we’ve been interviewing candidates for going on 6 months and it was supposed to be wrapped up in November. Final interviews just took place last week and no one (it was down to 2 candidates) has been notified they got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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Also I work for 2 type A founders who are not slack about anything. It’s just how things go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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I have 5 big deal proposals out and was promised by all of them I would hear back within a couple of weeks. I know I’ll hear back whether they get accepted or not but it’s been a month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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Weird question but does you DH’s job have anything to do with the environment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:06 AM Flag
[ - ] I am sick in bed and just discovered that the original Melrose Place is streaming on Amazon Prime. For everyone age 38-44, you’re welcome! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:47 PM Flag
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that show was so bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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Yes we’ll i am delirious with the flu, and it is transporting me back to 1992 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:50 PM Flag
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enjoy! not begrudging you some campy fun. just not sure it will stand the test of time. let us know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:51 PM Flag
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I'd rather watch Grey's Anatomy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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I've never seen that show. When it came out my husband was having an affair with a nurse at his hospital and it just depressed the hell out of me. Later we divorced, my kids turned against me for kicking their dad out because he was cheating, and my ex married his current wife 15 years younger and they have 2 young kids. The bad part? I thought I was screwed because I had to go back to work at a job I hate (and still hate) but he's dying of cancer. Never question Karma I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:09 PM Flag
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He is dying? He married the nurse? How are your kids? When did this all happen? What a story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:47 PM Flag
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Long story. I found out he was cheating. I told him to leave since we had 3 daughters and I was all about honesty and example. He wanted to fix the marriage, I said no. He moved out. He stopped the relationship with the original OW and found someone else younger. My kids ended up on his side. My CS and alimony stopped. I felt sorry for myself for a while, now I'm just sad my kids never really had a dad. And the gf that I hated is going to have to start her life this way. It makes you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:54 PM Flag
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I can still hear the collective gasp in the dorm when kimberly took off the wig and we saw her scar! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:53 PM Flag
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It’s funny, the first season appears to be dramatic but earnest about the struggles of early 20-somethings. I think it gets over the top later? It was on a quarter century ago...crazy and now I feel old! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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I also still remember that. Also Dallas when Patrick took a shower and it was all a dream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:44 AM Flag
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I would enjoy that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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omg Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:12 PM Flag
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I was sick in bed yesterday and binge watched Broad City and Law & Order SVU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:27 PM Flag
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hahaha you nailed the age range! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some cheering up. Watched "Catastrophe" comedy series on Prime and it was awesome. Any recommendations for something similar? Can't seem to find anything else. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:45 PM Flag
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Alpha House on Prime was pretty hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:47 PM Flag
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oh, just looked that up and it looks quite good. I really like VEEP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:49 PM Flag
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Difficult People on Hulu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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I feel like there are a lot of shows like this around now. Pamela Adlon "Better Things" ... Issa Rae "Insecure" ... "Fleabag" on Amazon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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Try the A Word [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:21 PM Flag
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That one with Fred Armisen and Maya Rudolph. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:25 AM Flag
[ - ] So it looks like Luxembourg is legalizing weed next year. The rest of the Europe dominoes should fall pretty quickly after that. Between weed being legal, and opioids being run by white nationalist bible belters, the Central and South American cartels must be getting nervous. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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I had a broken leg a bunch of years back and had a serious brush with getting addicted to opiates. People have no idea how weed will revolutionize drug use. Imagine a drug that can get you so high that you are completely passed out for 24 hours. Then imagine that you always know you'll wake up, because it can't kill you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:43 PM Flag
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ITA. Legalizing weed is not a great thing for society. That stuff can wreck your life. Especially if you start when you're young. Young men particularly vulnerable IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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Yeah, alcohol is such a better alternative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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i'd rather my teenage son drink than smoke weed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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Until he gets a DUI! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:04 PM Flag
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np No one should be smoking and driving. And really, no one should be smoking weed. Edibles are the way to go. Protect your lungs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:28 PM Flag
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You do know those are not the only two options, right? Your teenage son could obey the law and do neither? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:29 PM Flag
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Did you actually read the response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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yes, i took it as saying "weed is dangerous" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:01 PM Flag
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It isn't, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:10 PM Flag
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I'm OR. Read it again. I'm FOR legal weed. I live in a legal state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:10 PM Flag
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Legalizing weed is bad for cartels and private prisons. It's great for state tax dollars. Weed has never wrecked anyone's life except for getting them arrested. People don't understand the difference between malum in se and malum prohibitum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:00 PM Flag
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Did you see Afroman's updated "Because I Got High"? "The state made revenue because I got high. They built a school or two, because I got. Now the state can fund drug treatment, and I know why - because I got high!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:22 PM Flag
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I don't know what you're talking about. Do you even know what "getting high" feels like? Have you ever tried marijuana? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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You're talking about getting high like it's a bad thing. It's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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x1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:26 PM Flag
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Yes. It's really nice. Have you ever tried alcohol? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:27 PM Flag
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Of course I have. They're comparable until they're not. They both make you feel high and disconnected with consequences, but only one usually ends up with sex and/or fighting and the other one usually ends up with food and watching a show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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You sound pretty. Are you the same poster who doesn't like swearing in her tv shows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:40 PM Flag
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I'm not pretty and I'm probably a lot older than you are, with a lot more experience. Also though, fuck you because I can say that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:41 PM Flag
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Are you being satirical? Because you are really funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:24 PM Flag
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My aunt in California got off Xanax and is far more functional now. It may not be for everyone, but it's great for a lot of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:30 PM Flag
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I'm not much for drugs personally (including alcohol), but I do prefer to see the money in the hands of farmers instead of criminals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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Once the government taxed it, the cost is greater than buying it on the street. At least this is why my friend in Colorado says. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] I lost my job and can feel myself getting depressed and despondent. What should I do? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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^^^ I can't keep talking to dh about it. He can't keep taking all this negativity. At least one of us has to keep being positive and upbeat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:12 PM Flag
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Support group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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Stop it. Know that it's the holiday season, enjoy it. See friends and family more. Do one thing each day to help with job search. Network, send resume to headhunters, etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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I'm on the verge of tears. This place is ruthless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Wolford is hiring! LMAO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Exercise, every day; walk at least but try to get to the gym as well. That will help a lot, to start. Also just reading that doing arts-related things (walking through a gallery, going to a dance performance) can be as good as drugs or therapy in warding off depression. Worth a try, and this time of year there are plenty of free concerts etc.. And of course do all the job-search related things, day in and day out, treat it like a job as they say. Good luck, you will get through this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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i'm going to exercise. i've gained 15 lbs in the last 18 months. at my age i need to be thin at least. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? When I was that situation, I used the library a lot. I took a tour of the main library on 42nd St. and attended free programs (many at the main Manhattan branch). After the holidays, you can use the SIBL branch (Science, Industry, and Business) to research job hunting. I also had a membership to the NY Botanical Garden and walking in its beauty helped center me as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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thank you. yes, i'm in manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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I took a "job search / resume" class at CUNY. It meant that I had to accomplish something every week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:29 PM Flag
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Keep hope alive. I know every situation is different but I got laid off when pregnant and managed to land a better job just as my severance was ending (after baby). I was shocked because there are not a ton of jobs for what I do. My regret is not enjoying the time off more. I was worried, of course. Try to hang in there and focus on the positives each day. You'll need positive energy in any interviews. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:44 PM Flag
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i can't believe they laid you off while you were pregnant. Is that even allowed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:46 PM Flag
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Yes, because a lot of people were let go at same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Take walks. This is the simplest and best advice I can give at the moment, because we are in a desperate situation as well. But we're keeping fit and our heads clear [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:16 PM Flag
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NP: agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:13 AM Flag
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Get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:27 PM Flag
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Remember this is the best job market in years. You’ll find something soon. Stay focused on your search but let yourself enjoy the downtime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:38 PM Flag
[ - ] The heat in pre-war buildings is OPRESSIVE and dry! I hate it 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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NYC apartments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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Umm...open a window? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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+1. We are so hot at night even though the heater in the bedroom is turned off and the window is open. The room is still hot from all the other apartments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:11 PM Flag
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+1mm. I have kitchen, LR, bedrooms windows all open and a humidifier on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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Choices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Are you in a co-op? Our building steam heat is much better since we got a system with temperature sensors in different lines. I think we'll be saving money as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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^^^ 250 unit building--seven floors [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:20 PM Flag
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np: I'm in an old co-op, but the problem is that all the un-renovated apartments with older windows (and older residents) are always cold, and the newly renovated with new insulated windows are way to hot, asking to turn on the air conditioning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:31 PM Flag
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Couldn't you wear thermals and insulated socks? Save the heater for the bedroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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I miss it!! Open a window, take off a layer. In Melbourne, there's no such thing and it gets crazy cold and the price of fuel is super expensive!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:15 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O Early Evening Poll: In the Les Moonves inquiry both law firms involved uncovered accusations that Dear Les kept a CBS Employee on call for Blow Jobs On Demand. Neither law firm interviewed this woman without stating a reason as to why. Does anyone believe that this BJ Expert was Julie Chen? It would explain a lot..... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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LOL. Okay, I guess this needs some time to sink in! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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Well thats not a bad deal- to get paid extra to suck my own DH's dick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:26 PM Flag
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I think he was someone else's DH when the on call dick sucking commenced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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yes you're right about that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:05 AM Flag
[ - ] DS playing Fortnite. I asked him and DH lets go buy a tree. Zero have interest. I told them I'm not doing all the work. I am so over this....UGH. Just will get a small tree and put it on the end table. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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take the device away. insist that he put on his shoes and coat and go with you to get the tree. he will complain at first and then he'll have fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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But DH doesn't want help with lights or decorations. He is depressed. I am just wanting to give up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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why is dh depressed? did he lose a job too? (poster above) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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He is making no money. Commission based. [ Reply | More ]
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in nyc? finance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Yes. Finance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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this happened to my dh a couple of years ago. he was commission based and there were some shady account re-shufflings that basically cut his income in 1/2. it was horrible. dh never got depressed. he kept saying "but it COULD be so good if...". I kept saying "but that's never going to happen!". eventually he got another job, not commission based, and everyone is much happier. that was a rough time though. can your dh get a regular-way sales job at this point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:24 PM Flag
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Who the fuck is the parent here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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I just don’t have the energy to deal with yelling about fortnite. I wanted to bake gingerbread cookies! No interest. Fortnite addiction is real [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:22 PM Flag
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Ok Wussy Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:29 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have reached a good solution. You get to have a tree that you can manage yourself, and they don't have to do decorating that they don't care about. Win-win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:23 PM Flag
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I don’t want to be bothered I was doing it for my kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:26 PM Flag
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Np: If the non-infant kid can't be bothered to do his part, screw him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:29 PM Flag
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Well, now you know he doesn't care, so you don't have to do it at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:30 PM Flag
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In Fortnite, it's all decorated with Christmas trees. Don't get angry. Do it for yourself. My brother and sister hated decorating the tree but I loved it. Do it for yourself if you want to. They probably won't really think it's impressive once you set it up, but who cares? At least you'll feel good with the aesthetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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Is the apartment big enough for you to go alone somewhere to watch your own movie ? take advantage of the peace & quiet ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:34 PM Flag
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My sister has 2 boys 11 and 7, she recently got so fed up she deleted fortnite from their devices and has no regrets. The kids were glued to it, didn't want to do anything else, became whiny and sulked when device was taken away. I would say to DS & DH "If you guys want a big tree, you're going to have to help me get it." If not, go with the tabletop tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Another DH here. AMA. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why are you on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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Op: To add a intelligent male perspective to an otherwise boring place. [ Reply | More ]
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you mean a misogynistic perspective [ Reply | More ]
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
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*an [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, so you're a troll. Got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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What can I get my DH for Christmas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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Op: Fine single malt Japanese whiskey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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Are you gay? [ Reply | More ]
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Op: No, I'm just a gentleman with sophisticated taste. [ Reply | More ]
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
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Op,: Not fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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He's a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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My dh likes japanese whisky. Not sure what was "gay' about that answer. And...speaking of which--cut it out with the homophobia. You sound like you're 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:28 PM Flag
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He wouldn't like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Fake. Collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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I don't come here to talk to DHs, so no thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:58 PM Flag
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Lol. Just to get away from them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:23 PM Flag
[ - ] An elderly aunt I haven't seen in 30 years has suddenly decided she wants to see me, but it's probably not happening. For those who are wondering, she's not alone, she has my two cousins to care for her and she has several grandchildren who live nearby. I don't mind being in contact on FB but there's kind of no way I'm going to rural Tennessee for a family reunion. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:32 PM Flag
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Does she have money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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No, not at all. The opposite if anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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I'm trying to figure out a diplomatic way of saying no. They've never traveled to the east coast. Last time I was there was in the 90s when I took a detour with a boyfriend on the way to a wedding we were driving to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:40 PM Flag
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and if she did you know you'd find the time to see her. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably not. I don't need money from anyone. I'm financially independent from my divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:51 PM Flag
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So all relationships come down to money for you. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't really have a relationship with her, I haven't seen her for 30 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:50 PM Flag
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It might be nice to see her. Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:36 PM Flag
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this, you'll never regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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Eh. I am not going. But thanks. I think I just wanted to type it out here and realize there's no one here who's going to convince me to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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Well, at least you're stubborn and have a big chip on your shoulder. So you've got that going for you. Which is nice. [ Reply | More ]
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There are a few different reasons. Never mind. I'm probably barking up the wrong tree here on UB. [ Reply | More ]
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Whatever. Collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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That's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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What's the story? Why are you posting at all if you're only telling us half the story? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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Sorry. Just spitballing. I'm really guilty of both things - not wanting to see my Aunt and get involved with that side of the family again - but also wanting to avoid all social contact. When I get invitations to things where I have to work at re-establishing relationships with people I have not seen in a long time, I shut down. I have had a lot of traumatic relationships in my life and I don't want to have any more. I'm sorry if it doesn't make a lot of sense, but I've been burned so many times, and my family in that area just feels like I'm the crab who tried to crawl out of the bucket and they keep trying to claw me back in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:03 PM Flag
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I didn't say this to my aunt, but one of her daughters (my cousins) had some crisis a couple of years ago. I gave her money, she never said thank you, no one ever said thank you, I never found out what it was spent on, I know that's not my aunt's fault but I have bad feelings about that whole group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:05 PM Flag
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Is this the whole story? You gave someone (not your Aunt) some money, they never said thank you, and so now you are never speaking to anyone on that side of the family ever again?? Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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np -- I relate to this, I understand. totally ok to not go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:07 AM Flag
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Do you have kids? Going to rural Tennessee could be great for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:25 PM Flag
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How about facetime on the ipad ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:32 PM Flag
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I might do that, but honestly I think this is just boiling down to, this whole family traumatized me when I was young. I know everyone's chilled out in the last 30 years but I still have lots of conflicting feelings. Like they all have guns and go to Church on Sundays and Wednesday nights. Every time I stayed with this aunt as a child I was sent to summer Bible school. She still talks to Jesus on FB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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I think if you wanted to visit and catch up, you could find a way to avoid in-depth conversations about guns and Jesus during an afternoon visit. I have relatives like this who post all that BS on facebook, but when you talk to them in person it doesn't really come up much, and they are pleasant to talk to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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That is all normal life for an American Christian. It doesn’t make her some villain. [ Reply | More ]
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How did she reach out to you? Phone call, email, Facebook? Out if the blue, she extends an invite? I get it. I have a huge extended family and I’m so cool, not seeing Aunt Fran and Uncle Richard, since they last visited in 1992. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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Facebook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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I would probably do it just for genealogical reasons. She probably has good stories of your family tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:35 PM Flag
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I've heard them all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:53 PM Flag
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Sister of your mom or dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:37 PM Flag
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My dad's sister. I don't speak to my dad. She doesn't even speak to my Dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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Tennessee is fun. You people are so provincial in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Why doesn’t my best friend want to date me? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:59 PM Flag
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Put down the alcohol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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You aren't attractive to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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Purely physical? He obviously loves spending time with me and we have a lot in common. So frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:07 PM Flag
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^he tells me I’m pretty but obviously lying is easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:07 PM Flag
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I'm sure you are pretty, but he doesn't want to be a couple. just accept to, it's ok. save the friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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You're describing a friend. He is not attracted to you. Get over it and move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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Aren’t you supposed to marry your best friend? He also gets jealous when I date others. I find that odd. Otherwise I might have moved on already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:12 PM Flag
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Wishful thinking. He doesn't want you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:16 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:21 PM Flag
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Move on anyway. This doesn’t sound like it’s going anywhere for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:23 PM Flag
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When I was in college I asked that about myself all the time. Then I found out it's because I'm black. Yep I was good enough to hang with and spend time with and party with. But dating? No way they were going to take me home to their parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:08 PM Flag
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So it could be because I don’t believe in god and I’m liberal. This was my suspicion. He’s not that religious but I think he needs to bring home a girl who acts a certain way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:09 PM Flag
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PP: Sounds like it might be! You might be a good match for him in the short term but in the long term bad for his family. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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It’s a shame people let petty things like that influence them. I’m very tolerant of his republican viewpoints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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Now we know you're trolling. Collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:17 PM Flag
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PP: Just move on then. What's the point? You need to make room in your life for someone who actually wants you. Plus, allowing someone to treat you like a second fiddle really works on your self esteem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:18 PM Flag
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"Petty things" like religious belief? Huge deal breaker, as it should be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:20 PM Flag
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He doesn’t actually do anything religious. Just says it’s a requirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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He wants his kids raised in that religion, and he wants to celebrate his usual holidays. That's a big part of family life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:26 PM Flag
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Thank you, NEXT! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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This was literally the plot of last week's episode of The Neighborhood. The girlfriend announced at dinner that she doesn't believe in God. The black mom almost had a stroke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:12 PM Flag
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Why would you even consider being in a relationship with someone who believes in mythology? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:17 PM Flag
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Because he doesn’t. He just goes to church when he visits his mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:24 PM Flag
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WOW. That's brutal. I'm so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 04:09 AM Flag
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He's gay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:19 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for a decently priced Happy Hour? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:22 PM Flag
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I never slept with him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:24 PM Flag
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Then he doesn’t consider you sleeping material. He might be gay or not attracted to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:29 PM Flag
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Because he's going to marry Kimmy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:26 PM Flag
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My best friend does want to date me and I feel bad because I know he's always there as "backup". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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Seriously though, why does this make you feel bad? Just because you like a man does not mean he's going to like you back? Despite what your daddy said, you aren't a Princess that every man would die to be with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:33 PM Flag
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I think you misread what I said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Oops. The wine made me do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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Wine has made me do worse, ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:57 PM Flag
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Maybe your box smells. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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I'm sure he thinks you are pretty, but some people just have a certain type. I also know some guy friends who prefer to date women who are a little less intelligent than they are, and/or give off that "helpless" vibe. It puffs up their self-esteem to be with a woman who is somewhat of a ditz. Perhaps you are too smart or competent to be his "type." Not saying he is like this, but a lot of guys are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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You’ve told him too much about your failed romances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 12:32 AM Flag
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Something about you makes him feel you are not his level 1 choice. You are just back up if nothing else work out. He just want you to be available till he makes final choice. You are not his first choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 02:50 AM Flag
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So this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 06:24 AM Flag
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DH speaking: Regardless of how pretty you are, you may not be his type. There's a big difference. For example, I'm just not into blondes or big boobs or tall women. I have friends who are obsessed with all three, who aren't at all into the types I like. It's arbitrary and not under someone's control. Don't worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 11:43 AM Flag
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+1 you don’t get him excited but he sees you as objectively attractive. I would spend less time with him because you won’t put yourself out there and no guy who is into you wants to date someone who has a best friend if the opposite sex who they wish wanted them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 04:59 PM Flag
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TY for responding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 07:37 PM Flag
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I've never heard a guy call a woman his 'best friend.' I've only ever heard women say this about guys. Usually there's a whiff of bullshit about it if both are straight. IDK what it is, like the woman doth protest too much or it's a bit of wishful thinking on her part that she can have a straight dude as a best friend. Usually those guys are just biding their time trying to date or have sex with the woman, and the woman plays dumb trying to have her cake and eat it too. In this case, the guy genuinely is not, and the woman is openly rattled by it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 11:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Why can't manufacturers put batteries inside the toy? I would pay an extra for the convenience. I bought a toy that said AAA batteries are needed but it turned out you need a different one: 9V. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^not 'an' extra, just extra [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:56 PM Flag
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Toys can sit on the shelf for a long time.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:01 PM Flag
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Manufacturers and provide the needed batteries inside the pack and not inside the toy. Make it easier for people, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had the King Kong Sundae at Sugar Factory...going there tonight for DF's 40th ...she keeps talking about this ...only 6 of us and she said 20+ scoops of ice cream ! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:54 PM Flag
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You don't have to finish it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:12 PM Flag
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I've had a Kitchen Sink sundae. It's a lot of ice-cream and all the toppings etc. It's just funny. You can eat as little as you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Any men on? ...Seriously, why do men love BJs so much? My boyfriend also loves it when I look at him during it... why is this such a turn on? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:47 PM Flag
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I like giving them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:53 PM Flag
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because its an intimate connection and shows him how good his banana tastes. i mean is this really a question for UB, how old are you ?? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not a man, but I think they like it when a woman looks at them during the act because 100% of her focus is on the man and his pleasure. Nothing else; just him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:55 PM Flag
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I hate BJ. They peed out of it. Can't get that out of my head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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+1 I don't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:08 PM Flag
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Competitive disadvantage. You wouldnt accept head over your strong concern for their tongue's hygiene? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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I don't want him licking me there either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:17 PM Flag
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Wow. Can’t imagine going through life without it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:26 PM Flag
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Agree 100% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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+1 Does nothing for me. I stick to the kinds of sex I enjoy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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I don't do oral sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:19 PM Flag
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This. I'm not licking that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:11 PM Flag
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They can always wash beforehand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:17 PM Flag
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So you don't accept blow jobs then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:21 PM Flag
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Are you a 12yo boy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:23 PM Flag
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I'm a adult female who likes giving and receiving oral sex. You are a ninny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:25 PM Flag
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And you call oral sex on a woman a "blow job"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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And you needed clarification to figure it out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:31 PM Flag
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Pretty sure you're a teenage boy troll, that's all. Otherwise you would know that giving oral sex to a woman is not called a blow job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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The ninny is the woman who doesn't like oral sex but does it anyway because she thinks she has to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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Sorry you married a slob who doesn't wash. But like attracts like, so he must hate getting near you too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:32 PM Flag
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Why are you so nasty to people who simply like different things? Are you one of those people who has to have 100% agreement to validate your likes and dislikes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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Yep, go ahead and change the topic. Smelly and frigid you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 09:08 PM Flag
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They like the idea that their dick is so irresistible and delicious that she'll kneel down and suck it. It's a power thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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Ok Julie Chen. Oh excuse me, Julie Chen MOONVES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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thats mean. Not her fault. Not her problem any longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Really? Who do you think was the On Call Fluffer for Les? There is a reason they did not speak to her. SHE'S HIS WIFE NOW! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:39 PM Flag
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it IS her problem for backing him when he's done awful things to women [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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hahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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definitely the kneeling has a big part in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Funny I’ve rarely knelt; usually on a bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:35 PM Flag
[ - ] So the market is going to crash right? Buying first apt and casually looking around now but thinking it’ll probably be best to wait another 6-12 months. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:46 PM Flag
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I think down, up, then big down. When the Fed stops, then the mkt can rally a lot like 2006, but then it's over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:06 PM Flag
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I say wait. We're waiting to buy a house. DH who works in finance is positive the downturn will happen in the next year to year and a half. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:10 PM Flag
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Hardly a unique viewpoint. Consensus is there is a recession by the end of 2020. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:14 PM Flag
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Who said anything about unique? Just one man's opinion, jeeesh.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:19 PM Flag
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This. Some people just have to find a way to be right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Days like today I miss my mom. I'm making a pile of cookies, the tree is up, I'm playing cheesy 80's Christmas music, and I'm about to pour a spritzer. Not sad, just nostalgic. What are your favorite holiday traditions/memories? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:44 PM Flag
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Hate my mom. Bad memories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:56 PM Flag
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At least you have the memories. The only holiday memories I have of my mother are her going into BPD rages, lashing out at me and starting fights with family members. It was not a holiday unless she pissed someone off and then jumped into her car and stormed off (with me) for a 4 hour drive back home. Lucky me had to hear her rage out in the car the entire time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:56 PM Flag
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That's shitty. Do you have any new traditions that make the holidays better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:09 PM Flag
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After many years of therapy, getting married and having DCs, I finally have the family I've always wanted to make new traditions with. My DCs love Christmas, so trimming the tree and all that is fun for them. I definitely keep the bad memories to myself because I don't want to ruin Christmas for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:15 PM Flag
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I'm glad that you're in a better situation now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:24 PM Flag
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I grew up with an alcoholic father who made a point of ruining every Christmas and a mother who was always ripe to fight about it. To what end, I don’t know because if it wasn’t fixed befor Christmas Eve, it wasn’t going to happen. When I left home I was determined that I would make my own kind of Christmas. Don’t look back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:28 PM Flag
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OR: My mother suffers from an extreme form of dementia now, so for the most part there is nothing to discuss or rehash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:32 PM Flag
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Are you still in therapy? Obviously, this is gnawing at you in a major way. Why else would you piss on someone else's positive post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:02 PM Flag
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I'm sorry you have such a strong attachment to an anonymous post about Christmas memories. Perhaps you should be someone's mental patient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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NP: Wow. This is all kinds of messed up, Angry Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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Don't start what you can't finish, aka Don't start none, won't be none. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Sorry you’re getting downer responses here, and sorry that you’re missing your mom. My favorite childhood memories around Xmas involve my mom playing carols on the piano and sitting next to her on the bench singing along. And having oyster stew on Christmas Eve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:03 PM Flag
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LOL, you had me until "Oyster Stew". Big record scratch there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:07 PM Flag
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Or: lol! I grew up on the gulf coast so we had a lot of seafood. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:14 PM Flag
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pp: my family is from the Tidewater area of Virginia and my grandmother would make Oyster Stuffing. That really stretched the limits of how and where I could eat oysters! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:17 PM Flag
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OP: ha, the "downer" responses don't bother me. I was almost going to mention how everyone I know who has a shitty mom jokes about how she's going to outlive all of us ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:09 PM Flag
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Yay for oyster stew! New Englander here and have many happy memories of my late father having oyster stew at Christmas. I was the kid who would eat it with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:45 PM Flag
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Once my mom beat the crap out of me, because she thought I had peeked at my gifts but I swear I did not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:08 PM Flag
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I'm sorry I lol'd at that, but I could imagine my mother doing the same thing and blame me for "making" her beat me because I'm so "entitled". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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baking cookies, decorating the tree, coming down as little child to see the presents under the tree, egg nog and grown-up present exchange Christmas night... I did not have an ideal childhood. My mom drank too much and my parents divorced when we were pretty young, but I still cherish these memories and many others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:12 PM Flag
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Both of my parents have passed away, but I have very fond memories of the holidays. I remember my mother "empowered" me to decorate the Christmas tree because she said I did it better than she ever could (flattery will get you everywhere!). We used to make English fruit cakes together months before Christmas (my mother was English). It was a huge production, but I was in charge of periodically pouring brandy on it and wrapping it up to soak. When we finally got to break into the fruit cake on Christmas Eve, it was so exciting. We used to make trifle every Christmas. Again, I was in charge of the booze. Haha. This time, I soaked the lady fingers in sherry. I remember going Christmas shopping with my dad on Christmas Eve (it was always Christmas Eve) to find something for him to buy my mother. I was "empowered" to wrap up the gifts because "I did it so well." Again, flattery will get you everywhere! In retrospect, my parents were big on passing the buck in the name of empowerment. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP: This is cute :) My dad always put me "in charge" of my mom's gift because he knew that I knew what she wanted. He's still around and every year (since I was in my 20's) he calls to ask if I want a "stef lora" card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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You're lucky to still have your dad around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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Very. It feels terrible to say, but our relationship has gotten so much better since we had to rely on each other a bit more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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Which 80's songs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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Those are our traditions too. Baking cookie, holiday music on everyday, watching Christmas movies. I love it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] How do affairs work? Do they last long? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:41 PM Flag
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Google chris watts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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ok chris watts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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Typical mindless reply [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:32 PM Flag
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ok chris watts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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They last until his wife finds out. Then he dumps the OW. It always ends this way. Do not do it. Nothing good comes from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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so true, every affair I've known about ends this way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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OW here. Eventually wife found out something but it was after a decade, after I even gave him a job reference for a fabulous position that he was offered! At least I got to keep the Tiffany jewelry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.09.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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As long as there's benefit for him. But you go girl! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone think they had children too young? Had mine at 30, 32, and 34. Most moms I know seemed to have their kids in their late 30’s and early 40’s. Their careers are set. They won’t be empty nesters until they’re almost 60. Sometimes I think I should have waited. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:40 PM Flag
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I had mine at 30 and 32 and wish I had them younger, lol. Excited to be an empty nester at an age when I can enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:42 PM Flag
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Op: I feel like I should have built-up my career, had more fun during my early-mid thirties then had babies. I’ll be in my early 50’s when they move out. What do I do then? Most of my friends will still have a 12 yr old at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:45 PM Flag
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Play tennis with DH? Go for dinner or the opera without needing a sitter? Travel during off season? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:54 PM Flag
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^ i had mine at 29 and 32 and I think it’s great. The only issue was career wise but I think I found a good balance now. One chapter closes, another one opens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:56 PM Flag
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Sounds like you don't have a good marriage or a job? DH and I can't wait to have a bit more freedom in our lives [ Reply | More ]
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np My brother and SIL started young. They are now empty nesters in their early 50s. They travel a lot and both pursue creative hobbies that take more time and money than they could devote when their kids were still home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:15 PM Flag
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Same! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:53 PM Flag
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I had mine at 35 and 38, not by design but circumstance. If I could have had them earlier I would have. I'm in the midst of perimenopause with a 6 and 9 year old in my house. Really not fun. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow only on UB do you see this question..i am glad to have had my kids young.i was 26. I now have the luxury of helping my kids as they navigate adulthood, and push up the career ladder at work while my peers are dealing with angst of teenagers at the same time they are stressing about saving for retirement. [ Reply | More ]
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I had my first at 19, and at 30 I thought I had them too young, but now I'm 40, and in a couple of years the youngest will be in college and I feel like I have 40 years of freedom and choices ahead of me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:54 PM Flag
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30-34 doesn’t sound that young to me. Maybe if you said ages in your 20s it would sound young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:57 PM Flag
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I think it sounds amazing to be empty nesters and happy that I will be about 50/51 when youngest goes to college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:58 PM Flag
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I had last baby at 33 and I def don’t feel like a young mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:01 PM Flag
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me 43 ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:03 PM Flag
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I envy my friends who already have an empty nest in their late 40’s or early 50’s. I feel like by the time we’re empy nesters we’re going to be too old to feel like doing anything adventurous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:05 PM Flag
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Such a weird question, given normal human lives. Most of the people who ever lived on earth would have thought 30 was ancient for having a first child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:08 PM Flag
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Sure, but they didn't have birth control. Who knows what choices people would have made 50,000 years ago if they had a choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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People 50 years ago had birth control, and it still would have been odd to turn 30 with no children. Adulthood started earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:14 PM Flag
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It wasn’t as expected back then for women to pursue a career. Not so necessary for women to get married right out of college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:18 PM Flag
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^^^meant it’s not so necessary now for women to marry young. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:19 PM Flag
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True, but many people feel mature enough to marry long before they feel mature enough to have kids. Or settled enough. I think if we could see stats on years married/cohabitating before first child, that number would be much longer than it used to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:23 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:24 PM Flag
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So now you're narrowing your scope from "most of the people who ever lived on earth" to "people in 1968"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:26 PM Flag
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Most of the people who ever lived on earth thought women were only good for making babies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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I had ds when I was 44. I wish I'd been a bit younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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42 here, and same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:24 PM Flag
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You could have waited and struggled with infertility. You made your choice, enjoy it. It will all work out in the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:30 PM Flag
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I had mine at 28/35 and now my last one is in college. I'm glad I was younger when they were born. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 11:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Any parents of SAB students on? I'm wondering how it works with the nutcracker casting: it is mostly the children of donors who get to perform or is it more by merit and talent? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:25 PM Flag
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Body shape and talent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:36 PM Flag
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And connected kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:41 PM Flag
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Dc is in college now but this wasn’t the case back then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:45 PM Flag
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It is now. It is even with respect to which kids are chosen for SAB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:52 PM Flag
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Interesting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:52 PM Flag
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Disappointing is the word I would use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:54 PM Flag
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Lol. No. Height is definitely a big consideration, but so are the pocketbooks of some parents. I would say it's a complicated balancing act. They have to take enough good dancers (so talent and merit) to pull the show together, but certain kids definitely get cast because their parents are big donors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 09:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone recommend the best CRM to use for a small business? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:18 PM Flag
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What is your main focus? Supporting sales? How small is the business now and how scaleable to you need to be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:22 PM Flag
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My business partner chose Jungo but hasn’t done all the work necessary for it to be live yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:30 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 08:45 PM Flag
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We use sugar. Company seems happy with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.08.18, 10:33 PM Flag
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