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[ - ] I am so fat. I am addicted to food and I just keep getting fatter and fatter. Good marriage, great career, nice apartment, great kids... I don't know wtf is wrong with me but I can't fix this weight problem. 310lbs today. To quote Austin Powers character, "I eat because I'm depressed and I am depressed because I eat." Any ideas where to even start? I feel like I've tried and failed everything. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:14 AM Flag
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Therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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Suggestions for what kind? Talk? Psychiatrist or psychologist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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Just stop eating. If you were told that your child would die if you kept eating past 7pm I’m pretty sure you’d be able to contain yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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I was addicted to food and bulimic. Therapy to fix other problems helped. I still can't eat like a normal person. If I eat breakfast it kicks off my hunger and I eat all day long. So I fast until 1pm. Then I have a veggie sandwich and green smoothie for lunch. Snack on fruits or almonds and a normal dinner. If I crave sweets I have 1 frozen banana, light almond milk and 1 squeeze of chocolate syrup. Get rid of all the snacks in the house. Lack of sleep is another big factor for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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Thanks- I'll try this! I think lack of sleep is one for me also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Former fattie here and I don't believe that everything is as great as you say it is. Your life may look good on paper but something is deeply troubling you. Spill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Im 200 lbs and couldn’t be happier other than wanting my career to advance (although I’m pretty successful already at 700k) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Talk to your medical doctor. Get a complete physical. Try WW. I find the new program good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:33 AM Flag
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Love weight watchers! Also, see an Endocrynologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:12 AM Flag
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Start walking. Walk a little farther each day. Also, can you see a therapist? Talk to your doctor? But I love walking. Start slow and keep going everyday. How old are you? Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:53 AM Flag
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Quit focusing on weight and focus on being healthy--walk, eat whole foods, drink water, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 03:10 AM Flag
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Read "The Weight of Being" . and yes, therapy, a program, etc. Don't focus on exact weight goals. Be healthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I just stayed an hour and a half after my shift to talk to a lovely man who is the sole caregiver for his wife of fifty-six years, now stricken with advanced dementia. I'm so tired of being a doctor in our current health care system where such kindness to patients is devalued. It's sick. He had tears in his eyes, thanking me for spending time with him. It crushes me that I can't do this every day, and that I'm discouraged from it. Instead I spend all day on the phone with computer support. I'm sickened by it. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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You're making me cry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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You are a good person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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Your kindness is valued by that man. You made a difference to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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I know. But it crushes me that I rarely have time to do this, and that the administrators and corporate overlords of medicine don't value this. And that sometimes I'm so overwhelmed I don't have the patience or time to do so. Mostly I don't have the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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You are a gem and he will never forget your kindness. When my husband was critically ill, his doctor spent a lot of time chatting with me, and i was incredulous because was always swamped. I will always be grateful for his kind words and compassion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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My child was very ill and some doctors were strictly business, while others saw me as a person and a parent. It made such a big difference to me. You are rare, but so so so appreciated. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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I'm no saint. The ER is hard- sometimes we just don't have time. Mostly we don't- we are so overwhelmed with patients and with paperwork. Sometimes I'm that business-like doctor. It's so hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:34 AM Flag
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You are lovely. Thank you for being you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:33 AM Flag
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Fellow ER doc mom here - I feel you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:45 AM Flag
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Hi fellow ER doc mom. Seriously, I had a moment when I realized how much I was missing and how awful medicine (and maybe EM is the worst) is when we don't have time to spend with out patients. I feel like I'm doing more harm than good by staying in a system that just doesn't care and I just can't fix. Any ideas, advice, or thoughts? How do you deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 03:20 AM Flag
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Check out compassion-focused therapy. It isn't an answer, but you might find it helpful: http://www.compassion-training.org/en/online/files/mobile/index.html#5 There's info specific to end-of-life care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Greasy restaurant vapors blow into our only window constantly. Do I have to just suck it up and deal with it, or is the restaurant in violation of a code or law? I can only imagine it is not good for our family's health to be breathing it in all the time. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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Log a compliant every day and get your neighbors in on it. If the restaurant closes and changed hands, and has a liquor license, you can negotiate w them that a condition of their license is to install a damper. https://www1.nyc.gov/nyc-resources/service/2689/ventilation-and-exhaust-system-complaint [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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Follow up w your local community board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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Will do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Help me word a text. A friend just texted me that she got the invite for my ds’s bar-mitzvah. Her kids were not invited, how do I say that to her in a nice way? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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Op sorry, she said her kids are so excited [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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Could you reword your question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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She said her kids were excited, but I didn’t invite them. It was addressed to Mr and Mrs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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Just curious -- it's a bar mitzvah, not a wedding. It's a celebration for a child. Why aren't her kids invited? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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Because it’s a small party and the only kids we invited are ds’s friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:20 AM Flag
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I honestly have never heard of a small bar mitzvah! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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Np really? Is it against the law to have a small party? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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what about the service and kiddush? Maybe she is only planning to bring them to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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“I’m so sorry for the misunderstanding, but due to space constraints, we aren’t able to include your children. I feel terrible, and I hope you understand! We look forward to seeing you and Bill there.” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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This! Perfect! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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Just invite her kids, FPS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:45 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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No. Horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:06 AM Flag
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Apols, but we are unable to invite as many as we would like but wanted you and your dh to share our ds's day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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Why weren't her kids invited? I thought the bar mitzvah party was all about celebrating with kids around the same age as the bar mitzvah kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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If you are close friends you suck for not inviting her kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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We are best friends and there kids are much younger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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you are "best friends" and you didn't include their kids? It is very odd for a bar mitzvah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Where did she say best friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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their [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 05:50 AM Flag
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You are sooo weird. You invite them w/o their kids? They'll likely not even come in this case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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Np what the hell? I don’t have to invite everyone’s kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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you just said they are your best friends! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:31 AM Flag
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Op sorr, that was we a NOT best friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:49 AM Flag
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How old are her kids? If 8 and under, just apologize and explain that it's a small party with a few of ds's close friends and a few of your close friends but not a family bash. If over 8, you were rude not to invite them and at this point I'd suck it up and let them come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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Also, dont text! Pick up the phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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NP - I also think she should just invite them at this point. Going to be so awkward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Totally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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Little kids are the ones who enjoy the bar mitzvah the most!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:34 AM Flag
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Let it go. Have the kids come and be a gracious host. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:05 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:09 AM Flag
[ - ] My kids have so far been in three NYC schools, two that were minority white. Of the three, two were good enough or good. One was a shitshow. The kids were never the issue, positive or negative, in any of schools. So my idea: leave the kids where they are and desegregate the staff. Have some key teachers and administrators move around every 5 years 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.20.18, 01:05 AM Flag
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You’re saying the teachers/administration were worse at the majority black schools [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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At one of them, yes. Spent all the title one money on “character building” projects. Put worse performing teachers in classes full of kids who had checks out parents so they would t complain. kept on staff who were terrible - a guidance counselor who missed like 100 days of work — without stepping up and filling the void with something. Stopped meeting with parents entirely. And not just the principal, also the two APs. The kids were fine. That wasn’t the issue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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It seems to me these are issues related to the teacher's union. If they cannot fire teachers, they have only so many options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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There’s a podcast proposing this. Forget name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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I know that one , "Ways BDB is trying to destroy the public system" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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of course it’s the kids. it’s not their fault but when you have kids coming into k not speaking english, never having been in a classroom or even read a book, how can they even begin to compete with kids who are coming out of a year of prek [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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UPK is free nowadays, and if you are poor you are eligible for 3K as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:01 AM Flag
[ - ] I was supposed to do a phone interview with someone this week. I was told it would probably be on Tuesday or Wednesday. Well, it wasn’t scheduled and I didn’t hear from them today so it won’t be tomorrow either. Do you think I am out of the running? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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I met with them last week and they said that they would arrange with a department head for this week (he is in another office, that’s why I didn’t meet him when I went there). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:04 AM Flag
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i’m going for a new job too and they said they would call me “next week” and still nothing. i’m hoping it’s the holiday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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I don’t think the holiday is my issue here - the company is abroad and no one is off from work or school there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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^ my complication is that I have another offer which is open only until Friday... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:31 AM Flag
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Ask the “other offer” people a follow-up question about their package/benefits plan/PTO, polocy, anything. Then say thanks, you’ll need rhe weekend to review it, and you’ll be back to them on monday. Then tell the other place you have another offer, and you’ve negotiated a few extra days to consider it, but you would absolutely prefer them, and that if they are able to complete the final interview at any time before Monday at noon, you can make yourself available. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Gay dads on UB tonight? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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Isn’t this site mostly for moms and the occasional DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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NP: Then it's perfect for gay dads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:10 AM Flag
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Retard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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No, dear we love the gay parent son the site [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:43 AM Flag
[ - ] How old were you when you met DH, how long did you date before getting engaged and how did you meet? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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22, 5 years, at bar through mutual friends. Now 52 . I think I’ll keep him. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m 46 and wish I had a husband. Someone who knew me and loves me for when I was cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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What kind of reply is that??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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Envious, but not catty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:42 AM Flag
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OR: You sound nice. I’m sorry you didn’t meet someone but it’s not everything. Do you have some nice friends/Family? There’s good & downsides to everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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27, met at work, moved in together a year or so later. Got engaged a couple years after that, married a year later. [ Reply | More ]
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17, engaged at 26, met at a party in college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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Brett ? [ Reply | More ]
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24; married in a year; no engagement; met through mutual friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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31, set up on a blind date by a co-worker. Dated for 18 months before moving in together, got engaged 6 months after moving in. Married 11 months later. [ Reply | More ]
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37. Dated for about 6 months. Then engaged for 2 months. Met online. Today is our 9th wedding anniversary. [ Reply | More ]
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Met at 31 in a running club. Knew each other for a year then started dating. Engaged 23 months later, married four months after that. [ Reply | More ]
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26, 6.5 years, industry party [ Reply | More ]
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17, engaged at 20, married at 22. Met at college party. [ Reply | More ]
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31; 8 months; Internet dating site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here gluten & dairy free? My dd has just been diagnosed with IBS. Any foods you can recommend? As for snacks, she said a lot of it taste chalky. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:55 AM Flag
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Just wondering, what were your DD's symptoms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:00 AM Flag
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Having diareah several times a day, bloating, cramps & nausea after eating [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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I have IBS and should not be eating Gluten and dairy. I told the MD ok, I have dealt with the symptoms for my whole life and I would rather eat the food then be limited. IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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She may end up limiting so foods she wants. However, she is in the midst of a flare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:28 AM Flag
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Chinese food. Fried rice is a great snack. Pad thai is good too because it uses rice noodles. I will often order extra Asian food for after school snacks and freeze some of it in individual portions so dc can just microwave it when he gets home from school. He doesn't have IBS, but doesn't like the typical carby snacks that most kids like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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And Yehuda/Absolutely Gluten Free makes the best gluten free crackers and matzo I have ever had. The other brands taste like cardboard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:11 AM Flag
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I'll look for them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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Why eat crackers? Zero nutrition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 11:54 AM Flag
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They are a vehicle for other food and used in place of bread for those avoiding wheat. They taste better than gf breads. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:02 PM Flag
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Thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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Just FyI. Soy sauce has wheat in it. DH can’t have corn, wheat, cow’s milk, or black pepper. Anything from a Chinese restaurant is off limits if we can’t verify that no wheat products are used in any of the sauces. But you can make your own! And Trader Joe’s makes it frozen in a bag, which is aaaahmazing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:27 AM Flag
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True. Tamari soy sauce does not have wheat. For IBS is not celiac, though. You don't have to banish every last drop. Chinese soy sauce doesn't have a lot of wheat, but you can do your own with tamari if it is bothering your dd. Focus on the big stuff first. My niece has IBS, but found that wheat was the biggest culprit and felt so much better after cutting that out. She eats dairy like hard cheeses and half and half, but avoids milk, yogurt and fresh cheeses high in lactose and casein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 11:46 AM Flag
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I’m vegan. Some alternative dairy brands I love are Kite Hill (amazing yogurts, cream cheese, ricotta, and raviolis), Treeline (cheeses) and Earth Balance (butter). In terms of snacks I do lots of oats, chia puddings, and smoothies with nut milk; fruits, apples with almond butter, Kind breakfast bars, nut mixes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Second Kite Hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:28 AM Flag
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Lentils are great. Avocado, too. I’ve had a lot of satisfaction with adding finely chopped celery, carrots and broccoli rice to things. We make a meatloaf with a mixture of chopped celery,carrot & onion rather than cheese & breadcrumbs. Not bad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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Rice, cantelope, cocunut milk based yogurts and “ice creams”. Popcorn. Priscuitto and cantelope, frozen bananas in chocolate (they are sold this way and called Banana babies in the freezer sectionchick pea snacks (a product that is crunchy and flavors, made of chick peas) fruit leather, humous and carrts, pepper slices, rice crackers in various flavors, muffins made from almond and coconut flours (I make thae), daiya frozen pizzas (g-free and dairy free, they have three flavors), Udi’s brand bread, and Udis muffins, chips made from black beans, called Beanitos, with guacamole and salsa. I like these things called Veggie Bites in the freeezer section, which are make from wgg whites rice and various veggies, shaped into kind of a hockey luck shape, Terra Chips in.”Sweets and Beets” flavor. Yup, I’m Food Allergy dH Mom, and my two dds are allergic to things too. Just none of them have the same allergies! Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:25 AM Flag
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I love your posts -- I have kids with food allergies too-- dairy, eggs, and nuts and it's so hard. I wish you would do your own thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 11:29 AM Flag
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I suppose you haven’t looked into fecal transfer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 11:53 AM Flag
[ - ] my dh was home with 5 yo today and they watched tv the ENTIRE day. He does this every time he has to watch dc. I’m so sick of it. Would it kill them to go for a walk, to the library or to the park? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:50 AM Flag
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Sounds pretty typical [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:59 AM Flag
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My DD played games on her phone all day today. Once in a while I don't mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:01 AM Flag
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I'd be out for the evening and come home and find kids had no dinner and weren't getting off to bed. So I'd be tired and they'd be wound up. But this didn't happen too often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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Same for my husband here. Just doesn’t give a shit. It’s shocking. All then stimulating childcare is my responsibility. I just don’t get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Good place to meet eligible men in NYC? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:46 AM Flag
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At work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:52 AM Flag
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At the gym. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:56 AM Flag
[ - ] My old guy friend is a drunk. Texts me occasionally during the day and is unemployed. Wants to chat and seems buzzed. Ugh 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:46 AM Flag
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Friend with benefit or just a buddy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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Buddy. It’s sad. I saw him once recently. Hands shaking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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I have a grad school classmate like this, only he does crack! Not kidding. He surfaces with a new number, new job and new Facebook account every time he sobers up. He is very entertaining and listens well. I had no idea for a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Did they ever actually make that Lifetime movie about the PACCDS scandal of 2012/13, or was the idea shelved? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:43 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:44 AM Flag
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What scandal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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I thought the rumors were that the original site ran into financial trouble because someone with access to school funds was betting enormous amounts of money on a racing horse named "Lazy Levine." Was that incorrect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:02 AM Flag
[ - ] I read that the US National Parks system holds trillions of dollars worth of real estate. Do you think we should sell some of that land to service the national debt? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:41 AM Flag
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When interest as a percent of the yearly budget becomes a problem (it has actually gone down the last ten years because interest rates fell), then maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:43 AM Flag
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No. Preserving nature long term is more important than solving short term debt issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:43 AM Flag
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The government can always buy the land back at a later date if its finances stabilize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:44 AM Flag
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Mmmm, no, do you understand the concept of private property ownership? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:47 AM Flag
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Yes - in theory - but at that point the land may consist of industrial toxic waste dumps as opposed the land worthy of being national parks. It would be incredibly shortsighted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:49 AM Flag
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After it’s been trashed by developers it won’t be “nature” anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:45 AM Flag
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No. I think we need a VAT, which would raise money and cut down on garbage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:47 AM Flag
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What? Do you realize that VAT is the same as sales tax? We already have a sales tax in every state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:00 AM Flag
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The sale tax is half what the VAT is in Europe, which is a lodestar desired by so many liberals [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:11 AM Flag
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So you want to increase it. That’s different from what you said before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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Yes, but VAT is generally double with sales tax is. Canada has both sales and VAT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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Again, a higher rate is a totally different ask. Anyway, VAT has the same end result as sales tax, just a different way of collecting it. Every reseller gets the vat refunded, except for the last seller in the chain. Sales tax is simpler and achieves the same result. The difference with Canada is that CA has both federal and provincial sales tax/vat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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Sell to whom? For what use? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:48 AM Flag
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Probably via some kind of auction. Presumably it would be open to any eligible buyer for any legal purpose, so probably it would involve a lot of big companies buying blocks of land for resort developments and high-end homes and things like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:50 AM Flag
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For example, if the land at the rim of Grand Canyon were sold, I bet you'd see ultra-high-end resort homes costing $100+ million popping up very rapidly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:52 AM Flag
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Just tax the rich tax evaders and stop engaging in wars. Problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:51 AM Flag
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That land should never be touched. We would never recover from that mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:52 AM Flag
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Gotta pay the debt and pay for exploding entitlements costs somehow. Medicare alone is set to blow a multi-trillion-dollar hole in the budget by the late-2020's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:53 AM Flag
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cut military spending and sell off military bases. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:59 AM Flag
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It's not entitlements, it's the military budget which Trump was going to cut. It seems it's getting even more out of control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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tax churches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:00 AM Flag
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NO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:00 AM Flag
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That's crazy talk. I'd rather pay more taxes and keep the parks for future generations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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Defund the military before selling off national park land!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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Are you insane? No way. To do what. Build McMansions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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No way! End farm payouts, raise corporate taxes, raise capital gains taxes, raise the estate tax, lower military spending. Do no touch the national parks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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NO and Plum Idland should be a designated wildlife/ bird sanctuary here in the east. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Avenues moms on? What do you like and/or dislike about the school? My husband wants to apply for next year but I am hesitant. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:27 AM Flag
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This makes me remember the good old days of the Avenues tuition being posted. and I don't even live in NY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:41 AM Flag
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UB disapproves of Avenues because they are new, market themselves like mad and attempting to challenge the TTs that UB families attend. Word is it is pretty glitzy inside as you would expect a new downtown school to be; the exmissions thus far actually have been pretty good, certainly better than the low-tier assigned by the UB crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:42 AM Flag
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Did you see that documentary about West Chelsea? The Avenues facilities looked beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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Why don't people like Avenues? If those kids didn't go there, they'd likely take seats away from the negative nellys here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Did you divorce with small (under 8) kids? Is there anything you’d do differently? Has your life / finances been good since? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:13 AM Flag
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Yes, no, life - very good, finances - on the mend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:27 AM Flag
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I’m glad things are getting better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:50 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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Watching. Have a 5 year old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:49 AM Flag
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Me too. I’d hate to break the home stability (whatever that is....) but seriously trying to see how much more I can take. Every time I find evidence of his stupid relationship with OW I am reminded of how much money and time he has diverted from the family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:51 AM Flag
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No OW but terrible treatment by narcissist husband [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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Oh no. Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:42 AM Flag
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What are you going through, NP? I want to send you a hug [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:53 AM Flag
[ - ] I was searching for vintage furniture on Craigslist and clicked on Missed Connections. That is seriously funny, romantic and heartbreaking all in one. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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Oh thanks. I love that stuff :) It will keep me off the pet forums ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Moms in medicine ... Drs. Nurses, anyone who has to do practical care ... what happens when you are diagnosed with a slipped disc? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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it really depends on how bad is the slipping and what level it’s at. by a certain age nearly everyone has some slippage and it hasn’t been shown to correlate with symptoms. that being said, you will find that every surgeon will happily operate on you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:48 AM Flag
[ - ] How did you meet your affair partner? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.18, 11:59 PM Flag
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AM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.18, 11:59 PM Flag
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stands for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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Ashley madison [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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Flame. That site was exposed as fake a few years ago. Almost no real women on it. OP and OR must be an Ashley Madison promoter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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OR: Um, ok. Whatever. You do you. I met my OM on AM. Professional, creative, gorgeous but had this feminine side to him that drove me nuts. Effeminate gestures. But god, he was hot and we can talk about anything. An intellectual and sexual equal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:08 AM Flag
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calm down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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Lol. This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:37 AM Flag
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The site wasn't fake, but lots of the female ads were fake in order to get men to sign up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:25 AM Flag
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The article said the ratio of actual women to men was like 1-99 or something? It was basically a fraud upon the men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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OR: It took a long time to find someone compatible. Months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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You need a credit card for that right? Wouldn’t your dh see the charge? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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OR: No, not for women. More for men. It's how AM makes money. Guys usually make the first move and this is how they do it. There are fake profiles. Mostly fake women profiles. The ratio of men to women is high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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Are the men on their married too? Was your guy married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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Some are and some aren't. I didn't go for the single guys as I wanted someone who had something to lose, too. Even playing field. No crazy fatal attraction nonsense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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What if his wife finds out and kills you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:16 AM Flag
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I don't understand how AM works. They don't have their picture on there, so how can you know if you'll be attracted to them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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Miki is that you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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Oh, relax, tight ass. You act like humans are angels and monogamous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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Yup it’s you. The best revenge is if I just handed my husband over to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Craigslist, gym [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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Craigslist casual encounters [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:06 AM Flag
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How safe is this? Well, how safe is any of this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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I see your point. There are crazies out there but there are normal people too. Meet in public and use condoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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Craigslist has ended personals ads so irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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Conference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:06 AM Flag
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He lived across the street from me in the same Westchester neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:20 AM Flag
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That's awkward. You'll have to see him every day once this ends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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It ended. He got divorced (there were a lot of other problems in his marriage) and they sold their house and moved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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Kind of like that woman who had an affair with Don Draper in the same building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:27 AM Flag
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Thanks! I don't think of myself as attractive on that level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:29 AM Flag
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I didn't think that woman was very attractive. Here's her picture. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jackie_Jormp-Jomp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:30 AM Flag
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Oh, well. That's OK! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:32 AM Flag
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Come on, she's cute! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:34 AM Flag
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He was my boss. He arranged for lots of business trips with him. This was before I married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:27 AM Flag
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Harvey Weinstein? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:28 AM Flag
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God no. What kind of slut do you think I am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:38 AM Flag
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Les Moonves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:45 AM Flag
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The kind that has an affair with her boss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 03:04 AM Flag
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An ex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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Business Conference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 02:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it gross to buy bean bags second hand? I wanted some for my classroom. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.19.18, 11:56 PM Flag
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The chairs? Or the ones you use to learn to juggle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.18, 11:57 PM Flag
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yes. bedbugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.18, 11:57 PM Flag
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just unzip and drain the beans, wash shell and refill w new beans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.19.18, 11:58 PM Flag
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They aren't filled with beans, they're styrofoam beads [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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PP by beans i meant the pellets, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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Important bean bag chair tip, just had to throw it in :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:38 AM Flag
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you are a lunatic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:51 AM Flag
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Vinyl or fabric? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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I would want to get the most bedbugs resistant possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:58 AM Flag
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They're so cheap you shouldn't have to. There are probably lots of ways of repurposing household items to make beanbags, you could make it into a project for the classroom. Get a cover and have the kids bring in the packing peanuts, you can stuff the chair as a classroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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Start an Amazon wishlist and post the link here. Your anonymous internet friends will buy you brand new beanbags. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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That's actually not a bad idea. Mostly because it's a completely reasonable idea that could be funded in about 5 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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I would fund it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Our school in FL has wish lists for every teacher. Lots of wealthier parents just fund the heck out of the classrooms b/c we/they know that teachers shouldn't have to dip into their salaries for this. Amazon wishlist would be great IMHO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:30 AM Flag
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Will do. Is amazon the best or donors choose? I’m heading into a workout class but I’ll post back tonight or tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 12:50 AM Flag
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Amazon. Donors Choose takes a lot in fees. Advantage is, they make it a tax deductible contribution I guess, but not worth it, imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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Here's the list. Even though marked highest priority, two of the bean bags are hanging out at the bottom of the list. http://a.co/2qAfzbx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.18, 03:19 AM Flag
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