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[ - ] 47 and frozen embryos. If i use one now, Baby at 48. UES Mom. DD would be 5 when baby born. Its now or Never. What is your honest vote ? 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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I would not. I want to enjoy my old age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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Go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Oh - and DH is 53 - yes - 53 !!!!!!! bad idea right ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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please I feel like 53 is a median age for many men in NYC to have kids...especially those in a 2nd marriage..trust me no one would look at him or you sideways for having an infant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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+1 it's now or never [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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Yes, many people would look sideways and talk about you behind your back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:41 PM Flag
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Is he a young 53 or an old 53? I could see Tom Cruise being a good dad, a trying dad at least. Brad Pitt might prefer drinking wine and relaxing. Brad Pitt is 53. Tom Cruise is 55. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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hmmm. he looks good . no gray hair, but exhausted from working. hopes for an early retirement. this would add another few years to his career life. alternatively he's a great dad and claims DD, 4 now, is keeping him young ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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Early retirement? He will be 76 when the child graduates college and around 80 if they do grad school. Do you have lots of money in the bank? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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Don't take advice from anyone who uses celebrities as examples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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If you have money to support it, a kind and nurturing heart, and close family members so in case you are hit by a bus they can take over, then go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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It is old to have a baby even by most older mom standards. How young do you feel? Is your DH on board? Do you have money and other family in case anything happened to you? My sweet mom died at 65 from cancer. Your child would only be 17. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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No. Too old, and not fair for either child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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This is always very interesting to me ; when people say it is "not fair" to the child. BUT if we dont have the child , there is NO child to be unfair to . Is being given life, not a gift unto itself. ? serious question. Ie; would you rather never being born at all, or just have an old parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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That's not the point. Even a kid who is brutally abused and has his parents put cigarette butts out on him probably wouldn't choose not to have been born. Same with a child who is born to a 13 yo mother in poverty. I'm sure you would agree that it's "not fair" to the child for the parents to have brought him into the world. I am certainly not comparing what you propose to those extreme situations, but there's a reason people use birth control - just because people in existence are happy they exist, doesn't mean we should just keep having unlimited kids no matter what the situation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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I could have written this. So much of it resonated, especially the ever present shadow of death. I miss my old man. He would have been 93 this year. He never met his grandchildren, a delightful 6 year old and a precious 2 year. On the other hand, my young sweet mom died young too and she never met her grandchildren either. You never know what life has in store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:46 PM Flag
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how old was your dad when you were born ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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50 but this was back in the day when it was still uncommon to gave old parents. Everyone thought he was my grandfather. He was a great dad. Like the one person said, he didn't do the active, athletic stuff with me so much as the sweet, grandfatherly things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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^^and I had my second child at 42. I am my father's child after all. I also accept the fact I may not meet my grandchildren either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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My mom was in her early 40s when I was born in 1972, my dad was 3 years older. My dad died suddenly at 85 (heart) but was in great health until then and was my son's best buddy at the time. He is a teenager now and has great memories of grandpa. And Grandma? Still going strong, and I think that he likes her better than me, since she lets him do whatever he wants when he's with her :-). So take heart, I hope it happens this way for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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My mom was in her early 40s when I was born in 1972, my dad was 3 years older. My dad died suddenly at 85 (heart) but was in great health until then and was my son's best buddy at the time. He is a teenager now and has great memories of grandpa. And Grandma? Still going strong, and I think that he likes her better than me, since she lets him do whatever he wants when he's with her :-). So take heart, I hope it happens this way for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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No time to think about this one. Do it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:40 PM Flag
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Would not. You are practically too old to have a 4 yr. old. Crazy. And did you freeze his sperm? Quality of sperm goes way down after 40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:44 PM Flag
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embryos are already with sperm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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gross. You people are fooling with nature & science. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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Um ok, i didnt know my great grandmother is on UB ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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You don't really know your biology, do you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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do it! I had my 1/only at 45. DO IT! If not you'll always wonder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:50 PM Flag
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I would not want to do that, at all. I'm 41 and would cry if I found out I was pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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I'm 45. Tried to have #2 but stopped a while ago. A year ago, I would have said yes, absolutely. But more than one friend developed breast cancer or other cancer with a late 40s pregnancy (45/46+). Yes, i know that is very very rare. But that is my honest vote. And I would LOVE a second child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Only you know what's right for you, but at 44, I find it very difficult to keep up with my 2 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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I'm 47 with a 3 yo. It's exhausting, but I have help. He's really cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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I am 43 with a one year old. It's exhausting. No help. He's really cute too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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If you got pregnant at 47 and it carried to term, fine. That is a sign that your body is in good health and that you are likely to live longer anyway. I would not have an artificial pregnancy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Want to explore the east side a little this weekends...is that Pet store still in the east 60's with puppies and kittens ? DD would love to go ... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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You mean the one on Lexington? Very close to Bloomingdales? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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there is one in the 60's i remember ? ...thansk! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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yes, the one near Bloomingdales? It's there. And you can go to Cool Mess a block away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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awesome thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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if she's into Lush that's close by as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:44 PM Flag
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DON'T GO! You're encouraging a business model that kills animals. Go to the ASPCA in the East 90s if she wants to see animals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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think there's a shelter near 59th and 1st too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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Or Art Farm in the City (is that still there? my kids loved it) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:24 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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This. I live in CA and cat and dog sales in stores are banned in most cities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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Wtf. Go to a shelter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Did Your DC's receive the Sacrament of Holy Communion ? What was the procedure for Public and Private schools...do we just do this independently through our parish church ? and if we are not a member of a parish officially ? TIA! 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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NYC ^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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Ok, Bat Mitzvah, then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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Yes you do it independently through your parish church. The church will have kids classes and then they have to attend church. Just call the church office and inquire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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^^^my dd did it when she was in public school. Now she goes to catholic but will do her confirmation in two years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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Sign up for CCD at the couch you want him to be communed in. I don't think you have to be a member..but if you aren't, then join...it costs nothing. The CCD isn't free. But its usually a class in the evening one day a week. I got lucky and mine were Sunday mornings when my parents were in church. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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how would this have anything to do with public schools? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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Might be one of the Catholic Church troll posts coming in from stage left. They never get their english or punctuation or their details quite right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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OP. lols. yes i am the catholic church troll - wth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:43 PM Flag
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because in catholic school its built into the years events i would assume [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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Hell, no. I was raised Catholic and educated in Catholic schools. But there's no way I'm going to do anything that involves dressing my 7yo DD as the bride of an imaginary man. Gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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omg, if you can't contribute to the conversation then don't! You are not helping the OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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I'm actually answering the very first question she asked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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OP. lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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OP to be totally honest, my atheistic negative DH is forbidding me, lol, but i am doing it for my elderly parents and very very traditional Catholic family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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OR: That's fine, I get it--tradition is also important. it just creeps me out. I remember going to Spain and seeing those old-style lace shops that had the trashy lingerie and the communion dresses right next to each other in the windows--yuck, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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They have to sell what works. In Spain, people do have sex and are Catholic. Surprise! Your comments make you sounds very small minded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Oh, so troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:37 PM Flag
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OR: You think only a troll doesn't want to dress her prebubescent daughter as a mini-bride for a man in the sky? Ok, then... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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Clearly you are stuck in the 1950s mindset. Did you ever watch American Horror Story--Asylum? You would feel right at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Imagine if someone on UB made a comment in the same inflammatory vein regarding Judaism. Imagine the backlash that would follow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:24 PM Flag
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There's a difference between someone raised Jewish expressing a backlash and someone who knows nothing about Jews and Judaism who just hates Jews. My mother was raised ultra-orthodox and is virulently against anything having to do with Judaism or organized religion in general, in her own life. It doesn't make her an anti-semite! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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UB is fine bashing on Catholicism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 06:34 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:53 PM Flag
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*church [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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We did it at the church we had the First Communion in. Our public schools dont provide religious education (and they shouldn't) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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Lutherans. All are welcome to take communion, there is no bar for children to jump over. You're welcome too" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] What should I buy online as a treat for myself for 50$? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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A couple of great face masks. Boscia makes great ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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Vibrator [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.22.17, 05:13 PM Flag
[ - ] DF never wanted to get married because she's positive it would end anyway. Never wanted to gamble on kids either. Admits she has no trust in men and takes her relationship history into account,calling herself "the common denominator" in all the failures. She seems very content with her choice to have nothing to do with men. Thoughts? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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She's been this way since 35. Now 47. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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I was at happy hour alone recently and two lovely women struck up a conversation with me. They noticed my engagement ring and immediately started fawning over over it, asking about the wedding and if we were going to have babies soon. In the course of conversation it came out that they were both in their mid-40s, never married, no kids. Each mentioned something along the lines of "that's so exciting, I wish I had all of that ahead of me." They were fabulously fun, actually invited me to go to a second bar with them and we had a blast. I think it's possible to be happy with your own path and feel that you made the best decision for yourself but to also fantasize a bit about the road you didn't take. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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Are you the one who felt guilty for having two drinks and a cigarette the other day cuz you're TTC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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Yes, that's me :) I am actually married already, but happened to only be wearing my e ring that night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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That's so nice! Love this story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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kids ? no desire ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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Loves kids and they love her (she teaches classes a couple times a week) but no desire for her own. Says with the exception of a few weeks in her twenties never felt the urge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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Her own business. Don't presume you know what others want or need better than they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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I'm not presuming anything or think I know what she needs. She genuinely seems happy. Just wondering if you all know anyone like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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OR-I do. My best friend from childhood. She never married and never wanted kids. Dotes on her nieces and nephews, but lives alone. Has had long-term relationships, but she is usually the one to break them off. Likes her freedom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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I think she made the right decision. Howver, if she is wealthy, I would advise her to buy TT sperm and create a dozen frozen embryos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Frozen embryos give you options. If you are 45 and decide you want kids you can have them with the embryos. if you forget to create embryos you are out of luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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at 47 her eggs are shot to hell. She is better off with an egg donor and buying TT sperm to create embryos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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Maybe she is, maybe she isn't. Maybe she is mostly content but sometimes she has pangs of loneliness, just like many parents are mostly content with their choices but sometimes have pangs of desire for silence (or a clean home, or a white sofa, or the ability to travel more or whatever). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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I have a friend like this. I always respected her choice until I recently found out that she has been in a long-time affair with a married man. It took me a few days to get over the shock. She says because of her traumatic upbringing she is afraid of "real" relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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Interesting. My DF has been celibate since 32 (!!) and is open about it. She's pretty devout too so can safely say she's not doing anything on the side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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np: That's what my DF told me too. She always claimed that she never wanted a man and I totally believed her! Besides my DF never really cared about her looks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:33 PM Flag
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It's true you never know someone...but I feel extremely safe saying that's not the case here. Too many reasons to list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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Sounds like she's pretty self aware and happy with her choices. I don't see a problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:47 PM Flag
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Sounds like a woman with no sex drive trying to build a story around it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.22.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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You're saying no desire to have sex=no desire for marriage and kids? And her reasons are all an excuse because she doesn't want sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff from no college/childhood friends post. Do you have close friends you have made as an adult? My H recently left me, we were together for 18 years and as a result most of my good friends post college have come via him (I moved to an area where he already lived so met people through him). Now I am cut off from my social circle and am horribly lonely. I have mom friends, people I can get a drink with who will help me out (and who have been great through this whole thing) but they aren't real long-term friends that are like family the way my other circle was. Should I join a meet up group of something for divorced people? I am doing ok right now but I fear the future and am mourning the loss of a lot of important people in my life. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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Why cant you become better friends with some of the mom friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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This. Plus the divorce group. I actually have high school college grad school and mom friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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^i am sorry for your tough time. You can nurture friendships going forward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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I can and hope to do so but it gets hard as they have family commitments and I have kid free weekends. I've feel like I've lost my foundation, people I have been friends with for 18 years but he gets to keep them because he knew them first. He left for OW so I don't know what they think of him, I don't even know if they know about OW, I don't think he has brought her around them yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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I posted below. It is hard in that it takes effort, but it is fun too. It is like dating without having to worry about getting your heart broken. I am in a book club that started as a meet-up. On most nights, most people are busy, but someone is free. So I'll send out a group message--who wants to go do X on Friday night? Usually at least one or two out of the ten in the group can do it. Eventually, the same few started to be available when I was, and we struck up a closer friendship, doing more and more together. Cast a wide net, and see what you catch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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^And I am sorry. I divorced pre-kids, but I know what it is like to have your entire social life pulled out from under you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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Yes, you absolutely can do it. I have several--one from work, two who were mom friends who got closer, two from a meet-up book club. These are people who I could call in the middle of the night, who we celebrate holidays with, who I have kept up with long after the situations that I knew them from ended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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They key is that they take effort, but that they are worth it. You have to make childcare arrangements and go out on nights when you think you might not want to. You have to take their calls when things are going on with them, even if you'd rather just watch Netflix. They don't just magically happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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Divorced older mom here. Meet up saved me. Joined 2 and found some nice people I connect with. I would also be open to friends who are older or younger than you and may not have kids. The meet up groups I joined were for specific interests of mine (not for divorced people). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that Regis doesn't like kids from independent k8 schools? I.e., kids will get into Stuy and Trinity or hm and not Regis? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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The kids at Regis in my building went to st davids and then on to crazy good colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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Ok but what if it isn't a Christian k8 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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Thats the jesuit connection [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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Like what schools? The kids I know here in LA who have gone to parochial mostly end up at Jesuit/catholic colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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If I recall, I think Regis' charter says you must be Christian/Catholic. Read the website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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**sorry correction to my post* It says you have to have proof of baptism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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Yes but some Catholics go to private k8! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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Yes, but those kids are not nominated from a catholic school principal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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Attending Catholic School will give you a competitive edge for Regis - no matter what anyone else tries to tell you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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You have to be baptized, and I am pretty sure those who attended catholic schools are prioritized first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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And then public over a $40k private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:53 PM Flag
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Why are you not making any sense? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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I'm asking if they take a poor public kid over a smarter private school kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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np: what can't you follow? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:14 PM Flag
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No. You don't get priority for attending Catholic school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 06:34 PM Flag
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They do take kids from St. David's as you would expect. I don't think the rest have many kids that are even eligible, as you have to be baptized and ideally practicing Catholic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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St B has plenty of catholic dc. There will be catholic dc at every K8 school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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UB hates Catholics. Don't try to discuss this rationally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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St Ignatius [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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My neighbor's son is at Regis now. There are kids from across NYC schools, including St. Davids, St. Bernards (which is NOT religious/catholic), SHSH and I think one from Town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:52 PM Flag
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Doesn't ring true. Kids from St B go to Regis. You have to be baptized catholic though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:56 PM Flag
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Its a much smaller group of kids that can even apply to Regis than to the schools you mention - Baptized Roman Catholic, nominated by a teacher/principal, gets a great score on their specific entrance exam, wants a Jesuit education. (Jesuits are tough. Good educators but the take no bull from anxious moms who think they can "fix" the school.) That said, a kid like that could easily get into Stuy and not into Regis -- or vice/versa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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Catholics from the K-8 boys schools apply but it's not in super high demand and not all apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:15 PM Flag
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It is true that their mission is to accept boys from across the socio-economic spectrum, especially those who might not have the opportunity for an independent education. So being affluent can be a negative for admission. But some boys from K-8S do get accepted and go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] DH abroad in his hometown for 3 months for work. I'm freaking out b/c just found out on his google calendar (we share the calendar) he booked 2 hotel rooms in a nearby town---one under his name and one under his high school friend who is a female. She is wealthy and single, travels all the time. He never told me about this. I'm fuming but trying to think of the best way to handle this. Best scenario would be to ask him casually why he is going to X and tell him I don't approve of him going on this trip. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 09.22.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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Where are the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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Kid with me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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Before you do that (and tip your hand), you need to be aware of how you want to handle the fall out of realizing that he's having an affair. Will you leave? Do you need to secure funds? Will you stay and turn a blind eye? Or stay and fight? Know what you want before letting him know what you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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Will probably leave if it's an affair. Doubt it is an affair now but plenty of chance it could be one soon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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But if he’s having an affair, why would he book a room for her? Wouldn’t he just share a room with her? IT’s kinda weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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OP: I think there is a good chance there is nothing going on now. But I don't think it's right to just wait until it escalates to something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Surprise visit! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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This doesn’t sound good... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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“Honey, we share a calendar, and I saw that you booked a room in a town for your high school single friend. How come you didnt tell me about this?” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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Don't say anything, take screen shots of the calendar and look for more evidence. Be quiet. Why show your hand so early in the game? BTW, call the hotel and ask to speak to woman, at 11 PM their time. See if she answers. Block your number of course. If she does, hang up quick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:23 PM Flag
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If you’re going to these extremes then it’s likely you think your husband is cheating. Won’t you just know if he’s cheating by asking him? How long have you been married OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:25 PM Flag
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So what... if she doesn’t answer then she is in OP husband’s room? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:26 PM Flag
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Of course. Information is your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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If you confront him and it's true that he's cheating, he'll probably deny. How likely is it that he would be honest after you confront him and say that, yes, he was planning on cheating, and things in the marriage have been lacking, and he wants to work on it and will agree to marriage counseling, etc? Or how likely is it that he's going to make up an excuse like she's just there for golfing, and she's a good friend and they want to spend friendly, platonic time together? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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Am I naive thinking that this may be the case? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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You know him best. What do you really think he's doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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OP: probably nothing now but I'm mad & concerned b/c 1)he didn't tell me about this trip & he never books hotels on family vacays 2)why would he he book the hotel 3) even it was a real friendship thing I don't like the idea of him going on a trip with a single woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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What is your dh like? Is he absentminded? Stonewallish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:29 PM Flag
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closer to absentminded [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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When was the last time he knew you were using the calendar? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Not too long ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:36 PM Flag
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He knows he will be caught and probably wants to be caught. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:48 PM Flag
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Pretty much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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Stop before it starts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:50 PM Flag
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Could they honestly just be friends and he didn't mention it because he knew it would upset you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:06 PM Flag
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Why do they need to go away together if in the same hometown? Seems highly inappropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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I'd show up with the kids to surprise him for a fun family weekend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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DH here. This hopefully has some benign explanation but it is indeed suspicious and I would be upset and worried too that my spouse didn't mention to me some plans like that. If there are other reasons to be suspicious, I would agree with the advice to plan for the worst, collect evidence etc. But if this is very out of character for him and there is no other reason for you to question his faithfulness, I'd casually mention to him that you saw it and were wondering why he wouldn't mention that as you rightfully feel upset now. Hopefully he will have a good explanation and apologize for upsetting you. If you care about the marriage, you should give him that chance but shouldn't be blind and naïve. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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Best way to handle is to show up and see for yourself or send a friend as a spy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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I take that back. Hire a pi [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Do your kids have school today (2nd day of Rosh Hashanah)? Public/private & location? Mine do, NYC private. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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nope, public NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Yes, Friends school in NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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Yes mine has school today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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private NYC yes public no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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Yes, private Chicago. Yesterday too, although only 8 kids out of 40 were there yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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No, NYC public [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 09.22.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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Yes, MA public. No school yesterday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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No, Westchester public. Our school district follows the NYC schedule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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I still don't understand why they get two days off for Rosh Hashanah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:24 PM Flag
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My kids had no days off this week. South Pasadena, CA, public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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No, private, Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Lilly was the poster for all the posts on MP last night. What would you like your DD be known for, and she's also OTM. It's so clear. Why do we keep falling for it. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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Who is this Lilly that is haunting UB? I don't know who you are talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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I'm never here at night (work nights) but she's someone real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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She got freaked out too because Anthro Mom dumped her on UB. Lilly/Steph thought they were friends and Anthro mom Said no. D [ Reply | More ]
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How long have you been on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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It's amazing how I can sense when it's her and don't ever read her posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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Your way more annoying than this probably fictional Lilly person [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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Well, the board isn't posting to itself. There's someone typing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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Oh hi Lilly. Bye [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:40 PM Flag
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OP here. This is my point. She is ALWAYS here. Even when she pretends she isn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:01 PM Flag
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Steph is mentally ill. Most likely bipolar. That's why she is here at all hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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I think this is the case. Sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 07:07 PM Flag
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Hi Steph. [ Reply | More ]
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The "worst thing a parent ever did to you" is definitely her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:20 PM Flag
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Oh yeah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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Yes that is totally true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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She doesn't answer when people call her out anymore since she got outed as Stephanie G. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:32 PM Flag
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You think she is learning self-restraint? Stephanie's accounts are now all private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:50 PM Flag
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I think she is moving on to Babycenter and Youbemom. Stephanie (*cough* Lilly) got freaked out about being outed and tried to fight it but her DH I think got her to realize it was a losing game. She even stopped with the "my mom is stealing my trust fund" shit." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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She got scared because we saw what she and DH really looked like. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Yes! That was a total turn-off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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She really is horsey looking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a renowned chef (to an extent). I don't have my own TV show or anything but I have been featured on a few FoodTV shows as well as a few shows on The Cooking Channel. Anthony Bourdain has stopped by one of my restaurants in the early days of No Reservations. My Secret: I absolutely HATE most of the food I cook. I cater to the rich snobby crowd and it's amazing how sheep-like these people can be. I could take a fucking pile of dirt but as long as I say it's been 'braised' and finished off with some 'truffle oil' served with a tbs of 'caviar', they'll "LOVE" it because of those random key words thrown in there. These people are so pretentious.. they only buy name brand items and their minds work the same way with food. As long as I've got certain key words on the menu and certain ingredients in the food they'll claim to love it. Most of these people who claim to have high class taste and an advanced palette are full of shit. I'm trying to sell my share of my two restaurants to my business partner or other investors and get out. I just want to have a small joint making fried chicken wings, not goose liver and fish eggs. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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you're a chef and can't spell "palate"? Hmmm... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:06 PM Flag
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np - I think you missed the point of the posting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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nnp- I think she's calling fake. I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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I'm a restaurant owner and my chef can't spell for shit. Idk how it's even possible with spellcheck. He must turn it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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Yeah, but you're also the restaurant owner who thinks your chef is a plagiarist. Am I right? So not exactly a reliable authority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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No im the restaurant owner who called out the op as fake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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DF is married to a chef, run the kitchen at top restaurants, James Beard Fellow, he can barely write a coherent email. One doesn't really have much to do with the other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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Sell out and cook what you want. Do you have savings? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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You lost me a truffle oil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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To me truffle oil smells like the inside of old shoes. I won't touch it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:11 PM Flag
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No one with taste touches it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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So what kind of food do you actually like? What would you rather cook instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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Interesting article in the post today about a french chef who has asked for the michelin designation to be removed from his french restaurant because of the pressure associated with it . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:14 PM Flag
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They may "love" your food to your face, but secretly prefer cheeseburgers and fries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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Your post makes me kind of sad. I get the sentiment behind what you're feeling, but I'd like to think that when I eat in a restaurant which isn't often becuase I consider it a luxury, that someone came up with combinations because they thought about them and want their customers to enjoy the experience. I have learned to cook well becuase we live on a tight budget and really eat out on special occasions (3-4 times a year). It makes me feel like you're having a go at my expense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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^^^having said that I would be excited to eat really good fried chicken -mine is terrible :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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This is true in most cases. This is one disgruntled chef. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:42 PM Flag
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I have a good friend who is also a chef and I'm not at all shocked by what you've posted. My friend spent many many years as chef in a high-end, world renowned restaurant - and she also got really sick of the food they served. Whenever we went out to eat, she just wanted to go to small, hole-in-the-wall places serving authentic, flavorful food. And why not open up a small chicken & wings joint? I think it'd do quite well - isn't there a whole new foodie trend to make "street food" more mainstream, especially for Asian cuisine? At least it'd do well in NYC, as long as the food is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:35 PM Flag
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Dont open anything in NYC. don't open anything!! Go cook for someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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Personally, I wouldn't open anything either but I inferred that OP wanted his/her own place that served comfort food rather than "rich people" food. I agree, it may be better to just go cook for someone else and not have the pressure and stress of owning your own place. [ Reply | More ]
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Caviar and truffle oil on braised things? It sounds like you are a fantastically shitty chef. I spent years in fine dining kitchens with chefs who are world renowned and none of them put together dishes in such a thoughtless and unrefined way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Life is too short to not do what you want, and you could make a fortune on a fried chicken shop! Do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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this is a crap post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.17, 01:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Feeling so sad. Just moved and our neighbors hate us. DD has sensory issues and has frequent meltdowns, all of which we're working on. Explaining her issues or even writing a letter won't work, as this is a mean bunch. They truly hate us. Best to ignore? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:01 PM Flag
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So what is their complaint, that they hear screaming through the walls? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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She is incredibly loud everywhere. And we have carpets and try like hell to keep her regulated. They have not complained to us directly, but I overheard three of them talking about us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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This is why they push sedatives and the like in the hospital, re-habs, old-folks home. The drug a person into oblivion "for the sake of the community." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yes. Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:03 PM Flag
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+1000. Jerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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Not sure how to do that. One of them consistently lets the elevator door close in our faces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:06 PM Flag
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My downstairs neighbor hates us. It's tough but I learned to blow it off. My neighbor is unreasonable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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They are probably frustrated that you know your family presents noise issues but were not mindful of how thin the walls were when you selected a new home. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you know how thin the walls are when you select a home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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How was it at your old place? The neighbors were more understanding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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How frequent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:07 PM Flag
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Daily. Believe me, it is painful for all of us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:10 PM Flag
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Yes, but it is your daughter and you love her. It's more painful to someone who doesn't love this child and whose qol tanked when the new family moved in. It is what it is, but it would go a long way if you would acknowledge, apologize and share what you are doing to ameliorate it. Just saying "it's hard for us too" would annoy me as the neighbor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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I’m sorry to hear that. That’s super frustrating. Have you tried a one on one conversation with your neighbor? Maybe a conversation would help? If not, try a bottle of wine maybe with a little note, “sorry for the noise and thanks for being understanding :)”? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:12 PM Flag
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You are saying they are a mean bunch, but that's kind of just absolving you from your part in trying to make this better. You guys are the ones who came to the area, brought the issues and are newbies without a prior relationship. I think the onus is on you vs. on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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can you blame them??? Reading this it sounds like a nightmare to be your neighbor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:22 PM Flag
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OK. But OP is saying that she feels sad that her neighbors hate her. It’s hard for all to have empathy, but this is what this situation needs... empathy on all parts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:28 PM Flag
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But she also said "best to ignore?" My answer (with empathy for her situation) is that no, she shouldn't ignore. She shouldn't just sit there and be sad, she should aggressively reach out, display empathy for them and show that she's aware, doing everything possible to make it better, and so sorry for the negative impact. That would go a long way and a lot further than just ignoring it and being sad, and chalking it up to all of the neighbors being mean. Most people aren't horrible. I'm sure these neighbors have it in them to be compassionate to a disabled child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:34 PM Flag
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Questions posted like this are troll posts. No one writes like this, especially with the final succinct question at the end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:02 PM Flag
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Ah. And I fell for it. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:15 PM Flag
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Honestly, if it isn't obvious within a few minutes of being around your dd that she has some sort of emotional issues, I would think she was an out of control brat and hold you responsible for the behavior. I would explain to neighbors the issue and that you are trying your best to not have it impact them as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:44 PM Flag
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You should live in a house, not in an apartment. Or you should make significant modifications to your apartment. You have made a choice that works for your family, but significantly shuddered the QOL for many families. [ Reply | More ]
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If they are a complaining about a child they don't know the history/health of, they are assholes. I only hate my neighbors when the adults are rude, or appear to encourage rudeness in their children. Tantrums/meltdowns are not considered rude in my book. [ Reply | More ]
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Daily tantrums and "incredibly loud" according to her mother. Not liking what that does to the quality of life which was previously peaceful doesn't make adults rude. Who WOULD like that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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This is not fair to inflict on others- suburbs, maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I am having the MOST wacked out pregnancy dreams...from Natural disasters to DH cheating on me to my water breaking before 25 weeks...are these par for the course? Will they settle down? Im seriously becoming afraid to go to sleep. TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes, and they're more intense dreams because you also aren't drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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Hormone dreams are soooo intense! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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Very normal. And don’t they feel so real?! I had one about the apocalypse - i can still recall the feeling I felt when I woke up. It took me a while to shake myself out of it. [ Reply | More ]
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I had the water breaking one this morning...I was afraid to get out of bed for an hour thinking I was going to gush fluid. :( Im only 14.5 weeks) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:19 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks...The worst part is that I remember them ALL with every detail. I woke up so mad at DH the other day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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This used to happen all the time for me. I would look at DH and say “Don’t talk to me today”. Poor guy!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Cityproof or Citiquiet for soundproofing windows? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Neither. The best is Skyline. They did our prewar apt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I just saw Mother! Here is what I think it's about. Jennifer Lawrence is the Virgin Mother and Bardem is God. Bardem gives his only begotten son....Mary was never on board with that at all. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Reddit had a classic synopsis. JLaw is earth, Bardem is God. He creates worlds just to see them destroyed, then he starts over again. For his own amusement. [ Reply | More ]
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Did you see the NYT article in which Jennifer Lawrence wants to tell people what it's about and Darren Aronofsky (director) wants people to try to figure it out on their own? In the end, they spilled the beans in the article, in case you're interested. [ Reply | More ]
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Darren Aronofsky is a shyster (sheister?) who takes biblical themes and blasphemes them. He is well known atheist. He thinks he is the smartest one in the room. [ Reply | More ]
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This is not a biblical theme according to the NYT interview. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, to be fair, God destroying the earth for his own amusement isn't technically in the Bible [ Reply | More ]
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the NYT cannot be believed. He is clearly comparing himself to God. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, there's no God, so he can probably do whatever he wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Liza/Lisa on 62nd street, I'm sorry about what I did to you freshman year. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:50 PM Flag
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oh honey, do you think she's still bothered by whatever you did? how long ago was freshman year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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She had zero friends in high school. I feel horrible. We are 43. She is not in social media or LinkedIn. But I know she owns a condo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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Better late than never. Maybe she's just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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I too am 43. Please don't beat yourself up, today she may be blissfully happy with formed resilience having gone through that experience. I'm sure she has lots of friends now. [ Reply | More ]
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^^ and if she doesn't have friends now, at 43, that is not on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:09 PM Flag
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What did you do to her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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i saw her in the summer and she told me that everyone had dumped her, I was new to the school, we were friends for a couple of days them someone asked me if I knew her and I said no because I knew her under a different name from kindergarten, then when I realized I didn't fix it. Bullies went back to her and said she was lying about being friends with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:18 PM Flag
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np - this is not terrible, stop beating yourself up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:39 PM Flag
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what did you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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told her ted nugent sucked and that she was a major square for liking him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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Not op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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Maybe do somthing proactive like donate to an anti-bullying organization. I'm an adult being bullied at work, no one deserves to be treated like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:13 PM Flag
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I didn't bully her but I let her down. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not as bad then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:21 PM Flag
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If you purport to care so much, how do you not know whether her name is Liza or Lisa? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:03 PM Flag
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She changed it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I give up. No matter how much I spend or where I go no one gets my brown color right. I'm ashy brown 6ish with grey. I'm trying dye from Whole foods tonight. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:48 PM Flag
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try madison reed...i think the ashy light brown is called verona or something like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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its pricey but it smells really good and you can get it on automatic delivery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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Thanks. Cheap dye makes my scalp itch, is it more like the whole foods or Aveda stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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no its actually quite nice. take a look at their website i dont want to quote it , but i believe its much safer i actually discovered it when i was pregnant i didnt use it but i think what led me to them was a claim i read somewhere about its more natural ingredients. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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I've been doing esalon for maybe 8 years now and everybody compliments my hair color. I'm a dark brown with very pronounced white patches, have been going grey since I was 20. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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p.s. I'm also very ash brown or rather any warm tones look wrong on me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:30 PM Flag
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p.s. p.s. I'm almost 50 now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:31 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff. Do you think it's ok for 14 yr old DS to be sharing a room with 7 DD? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:43 PM Flag
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I probably won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:44 PM Flag
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If it's physically divided in some way, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:45 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do it. I shared a room at 14 with my 7 y.o. little sister. But we're both girls. My brother and I are three years apart but he always had a separate room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:47 PM Flag
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I'm curious what those who say no think will happen. And why couldn't it happen in other contexts, being that they live in the same house?? Doesn't make any sense to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:48 PM Flag
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Yeah unless you don't allow them to ever be alone together period? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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No one is saying he's going to molest her. But he's entitled to dress in his bedroom without worrying about his sister watching. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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So he can do it when she's not there. (??) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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Would you be comfortable sharing a room with your uncle and just changing when he's not there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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I was raised in a family of nudists. I've seen my uncles naked since I can remember. And I've never had sex with a family member! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:08 PM Flag
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Everyone deserves some privacy. You're giving them none. And DS should be able to change his clothes in his own bedroom without his sister watching. ALSO - teenage boys tend to like to play music, talk to their friends, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:52 PM Flag
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and I quote.... "It started when my sister bought mints one day and let me have some. After I put them in my mouth she said we should kiss and I accepted. Then, when we were kissing she started using tongue, and I just went with it. It turned into every time we had alone we were kissing. Then, she started to get sexual. I, being the young brother I was, went with it. The details and progression are a little hazy for me, but I do remember some of the activities. I remember lying on the couch with our pants down kissing and rubbing up against each other. I remember her insisting I take my pants down so she could kiss and suck my penis. I remember her inserting my penis into her vagina. This all went on for about a year. Now adays, me and my sister are very close. We've never talked about it and sometimes I feel like she forgot completely. I'm not mad at her, and I feel like I can't really be. The biggest burden of this has been my sexual attraction to her(and from that, my mother too). She was my first sexual experience, I hadn't even really thought of sex before thought, and for a while, she was all I knew about sex. Because of that, a big sexual attraction to her grew, and even now, all these years after it ended, the thought of her still gets me the horniest. I remember spending a lot of teenage years fantasizing about her. " [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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Where is this from? Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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reddit confessions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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waaaaaaaahhhhhh! wish i didnt read this !!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:27 PM Flag
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Oh, jesus. But you're not answering the question...why can't this happen in the yard, in the basement, in the bathroom, laundry room, in any room when no one's watching, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:55 PM Flag
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NP-Night time is without adult supervision for an extended period of time. More opportunity for things to go wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:01 PM Flag
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WTF IS THAT!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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Most people prefer to masturbate in private and it's weird to be conscious of a young girl nearby while you're doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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So do it in the shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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nooo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:50 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:50 PM Flag
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when people ask these questions, deep down they KNOW the answer, but they dont like it. NYC is so crazy expensive, it shouldnt be so hard to give each of your kids their own room...but it is. Move farther out, to a lower floor, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:52 PM Flag
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No, I don't think it's OK. Time to move to the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:50 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:51 PM Flag
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You have to assume that the DS is masturbating and having a lot of his own sexual thoughts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:53 PM Flag
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Excellent point. And there's nothing wrong with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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Oh, lord. You do know, btw, that girls also masturbate, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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Oh, lord, I do know, I was a frequent girl childhood masturbater myself, but I didn't start until age 8. But thinks for filling me in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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Fucking Catholics (yes, I can tell). So screwed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:57 PM Flag
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np: What would a Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim person say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:00 PM Flag
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Having a sexually mature boy/man share a room alone with a girl is screwed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:01 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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absolutely not for so many reasons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:54 PM Flag
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and they are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:56 PM Flag
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1) likelihood of incest 2) teen need for privacy (not just for masterbation) 3) exposure of younger child to things that she is not ready for 4) resentment on part of teen because of restraints on behavior due to presence of younger sister [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:16 PM Flag
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This is your own fault OP. Why did you wait 7 years to have the 2nd one? Not as big of a deal if they are similar in age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:58 PM Flag
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NP-Oh come on. They would have to be split up no matter how far apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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No. Actually worse if close in age. Older brothers molest younger sisters. Don't pretend it doesn't happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:04 PM Flag
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Oh please. So it wouldn't be a problem to have a 14 year old boy and a 12 year old girl sharing a room by that logic? If you think its a problem at 14/7, its a problem whenever the older one hits some adolescent age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:05 PM Flag
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I had a friend in High school who are up like this. But her brother went to prep school at 14 and when he came home he slept on the couch or she slept in her moms (single parent) room when he was home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 02:59 PM Flag
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*grew up like this* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:02 PM Flag
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No, puberty is weird enough all on its own. DS at that age should have some privacy and not have to deal with little sister in his room [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 03:15 PM Flag
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No. But my older brother molested my little sister and me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.22.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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Fake Lilly/Steph post. [ Reply | More ]
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