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[ - ] Why is the South Side of Chicago so violent? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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if you allow a gang culture to exist the girls coming up don’t get a choice who they have sex with so the 10% most violent males father c. 20%+ of the kids – repeated each generation so allowing a gang culture to exist is the same as deliberately breeding psychopaths the solution is easy once it’s accepted as a genetic problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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So imprison the men who carry guns, allow the men who don't carry guns to flourish and father the next generation. Reverse the flow of violent traits to the next generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:17 PM Flag
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Basically that is what prison is for since they won't learn. It helps to limit their spawn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 07:55 PM Flag
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Why are you pretending to care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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I care. Everyone benefits when young men of all races have jobs and feel productive. No one benefits from gang violence. We are all in this together! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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There's a correlation between the boom in Chicago violence and the boom in white people heroin overdose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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THIS..THIS...THIS....We've seen this before. There is a new drug war in Chicago. Mark my words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Your English is terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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There's still a drug war going on and white people are in the middle of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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++ Boom. Denial is not a river in Egypt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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The interesting thing is, I bet you've never even been to America. Do you just have papers given to you every morning where you have to go through the list and post it all somewhere on the internet until you are done? I'm curious as to how you decide what you're going to post every day. Yesterday it was Huma day. I guess we're back to Muslims today. You are very easy to spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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I'm not Russian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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Russian troll. He's being paid to spread talking points on how America sucks. It's so obvious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:48 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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Lots of public housing was torn down in Chicago and the people who lived in them all moved to the South Side because of cheap rents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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Why is heroin on the rise in suburban and rural areas? Why do suburban parents get shot by their own children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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Do you honestly think that what's happening in suburban and rural areas remotely compares to the disfunction of places like the ghettoes of Chicago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:48 PM Flag
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Because people vote with their feet. Everyone wants to live in cities. No one wants to live in rural and suburbia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:26 PM Flag
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Because people vote with their feet. Everyone wants to live in cities. No one wants to live in rural and suburbia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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Controlled by gangs - been there - shadiest place I have ever been, and I have been to a lot of bad places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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From the poppy fields of Afghanistan and Myanmar... to the inner cities of Chicago and Baltimore...to the suburban areas of Lake Forest and Portsmouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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Why does Vladimir Putin have independent journalists killed? How has he amassed over 100 billion dollars in private assets by stealing from Russian industries? Why does he not just call himself a dictator and admit that Russia has no true democracy? Why is your legal system so corrupt that every driver has to have a camera on their dash to protect against people trying to fake accidents? Why are fathers not permitted to enter maternity hospitals even if their wives are giving birth? Why do so many of your orphans have fetal alcohol syndrome? Why is your life expectancy shit in Russia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:36 PM Flag
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Chicago Housing Authority ripped down many housing projects and didn't tell the residents that their housing vouchers meant they could live anywhere, so many settled in the south side. Now you have gangs that used to be separated by natural neighborhood boundaries mixed in together, living on the same block. Add in that Illinois has lax gun laws but lots of older gang members are serving prison sentences. You have kids, like 16 and younger, with access to guns, living across the street from enemies and with no father figures or older gang members to offer guidance or at least a basic code of conduct [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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They need to learn conduct from older gang members. Let them out of jail! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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Read the history of housing in Chicago after WWII - white flight, discrimination in housing, enormous discrimination in lending, really killed many neighborhoods, escalated poverty among blacks and the neighborhoods deteriorated into slums - beyond that of other cities. slums go with crime, disenfranchisement engenders violence. repeat for several generations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Omg, why do moms let very young daughters dress provocatively? One mom was showing me pictures of her 5 yo in low cut tops (with a hint of cleavage), in suggestive poses, makeup....just so cringeworthy. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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Honey boo boo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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5year olds can't have cleavage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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This. WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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Agree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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The provocative poses bother me, and I wouldn't approve of make-up that young for my own DD, but "the hint of cleavage" thing bothers me because it implies that 5 year olds are sexual creatures, which they are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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also at the nyc playgrounds with the sprinklers- little girls dressed in bikinis that barely cover anything. There are weirdos hanging around the playground- I put my DD in a rashguard and bottoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband is such a baby. If anyone criticizes him or slights him somehow - he has such an outsized negative reaction. Ie-signed up too late and didn't get a spot for something: "well, fuck them!!!" How to deal? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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I can't imagine this is a new personality trait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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It's been exacerbated ever since he got a job focusing on very wealthy families. Guessing he's feeling more pressure / insecurity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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Or maybe he is repeating their behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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Or maybe you are viewing it through that lens eg "your new job..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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Hm, my DH is similar, but the anger is directed towards himself or me. Eg outsize negative reaction, "This is why I fail as a father/husband". Dude, it's camp, there is another week of dates available. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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Sounds like a symptom of something else, like he is acting out on a larger source of frustration. It's impossible for him to be that angry at strangers. Who is he really angry at, do you think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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I'm sure himself, that he's not important enough for people to consistently fawn over him. And he gets upset with me because I can't read his mind fast enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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Yikes. I am the "baby" and realized how petulant I was being, so I nipped this in the bud right before I met DH in my mid-20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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Good for you! Wish my husband had that self realization. He just looks like a pretentious ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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Send 'em to charm school! Dale Carnegie Institute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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This sort of reminds me of my Dad. He burned bridges quite a bit - we were always moving because he would get fired from his jobs after getting into pissing matches with his bosses (a lot of this is according to my mom, but I saw it in practice later). He hated his dad (my grandfather, who was kind of crappy) and as soon as he got old enough to turn the tables on his dad, I think he realized he enjoyed it, and kept repeating the pattern throughout his life. He was subconsciously resisting being under someone else's thumb ever again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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Ugh :(. I wonder if this happened to him at previous jobs. I can see the pissing matches (so dumb) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Eek you just described the old me. Thank God I snapped out of it and realized my dysfunction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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Melania? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you get mad if someone went through things you left out in public areas of your home? (details inside) 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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If you had a desk and bulletin board in a public area of your home (like a kitchen) would you be mad if someone looked at your things? What are the limits? Can they read things pinned to a bulletin board? Take them down to read the backside or see things tucked behind others? Look at the top item on a pile? Go through a stack of things (like mail) to see what else is in the pile? Open an envelope that has already been opened? Does it matter who it is? (sister vs. neighbor, for example) Keep in mind, these are all things out in the open, not in a closed office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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invitations not weird. Everything else is weird. Dont leave that stuff out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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This would bother me. Its rude. Its like going through someones closet or cabinets. They are not locked but its pretty obvious that they should be off limits for guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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Who is this someone? There's nothing I would have lying around that I would mind DH looking at. And our nanny would not have reason to look at any of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Not weird. If that bothers you put private in a private place and keep your public stuff in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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I have a bulletin board and calendar in my kitchen and people always look at. I think going through papers or looking behind things that are pinned is very rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:30 PM Flag
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They shouldn't touch any of these things, move them, or be seen to pay very close attention. A quick glance is acceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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okay to look at anything that is in plain sight. can't move anything personal (take something down from a bulletin board, go through a pile of mail), but okay to peruse non-personal things (a magazine, a book). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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Agreed. Opening letters or taking down things off a bulletin board is super weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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Mad? No. Is it rude..yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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I'm nosy and I'd "survey" the bulletin board, but I wouldn't take things down or even go especially close (only exception would be to look at a photo). I might "scan" the top of a pile (not "actively", just a glance, trying to not be obvious). I wouldn't take apart a pile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Hotel recs in Dublin and Galway? TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:01 PM Flag
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Lance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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The Morrison. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:43 PM Flag
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if money is no object just check trip advisor - I stay at the Ashling near Phoenix Park which is very nice, good rates, good breakfast, on the tram and away from the homeless on O'Connell Street I'd equate the Ashling to a nice Marriott -there are far fancier places near Saint Stephen's Green (just check trip advisor) - if you are looking to step it up . As far as galway - I have no idea what you are looking for - you on tour or staying in Galway City. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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Thanks so much! We are looking to spend somewhere around $250/$300 US a night. I'll take a look at the Ashling. We are planning to stay in Galway City for 2 nights... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Would this bother you? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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DD 8 is in day camp this week. It's mostly sports-oriented and at a gym where she goes during the year, but they have other activities too. Yesterday, the first day, they tie-dyed shirts. DD was excited for camp so wore her favorite outfit yesterday, and now there is indelible dye on it from the project. I wish they had warned us ahead of time that they would be dyeing so I could send a smock or a shirt she didn't care about. Would you say something? Or would it not bother you at all? DD will be upset when she sees that the dye didn't wash out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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Yes but make sure they didn't tell you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:49 PM Flag
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saying something will do nothing and label you as a PITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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this! next time dont wear nice clothes to camp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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OP It was play clothes but a shirt she loves because she thinks it makes her look like a teenager. No logic to it, just a favorite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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I agree and I would not complain because things get ruined at camp. My kids ruin everything they bring to camp. Lesson learned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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OP Probably true, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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+1, too late now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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OP They definitely didn't. They're a bit flaky and unprofessional--great on their sport but not very business-like -- I suspect they just decided Sunday afternoon how to keep the kids busy on Monday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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it happens, not great but it happens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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+1 and her favorite shirt this summer at 8 won't fit her next summer at 9 anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be delighted about the stain, but I wouldn't place the blame on the camp either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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Don't dress UP for camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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OP Not dress up, just favorite play clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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It's camp. I really wouldn't let her wear her favorite outfit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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I would be pissed, but say nothing. What's done is done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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You do not send a kid to camp in clothes that can't handle arts and crafts. This is pretty basic. I'd be more upset if my kid was going to camp and coming home spotless every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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Live and learn. Never send anything of value to camp. Even if it doesn't get stained or dirty, there is so much that gets lost, and when camp's over, it's over, everything gets donated. BTDT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:54 PM Flag
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Exactly, I buy cheap drawstring bags and old navy clothes for camp because everything comes home gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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I'd be irritated, but I'd also understand that this stuff happens, sometimes even with a smock. (I'm a teacher, so I've been on both sides of this.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:55 PM Flag
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I'm an art teacher. If you want your child to participate fully and enjoy the activities, dress accordingly. Don't complain. The teachers are trying their best to entertain your DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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I'd be annoyed but would let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:00 PM Flag
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No. Kids get dirty at camp. You know that arts and crafts and sports and dirt and grass stains etc. are possible. It's an 8yo's outfit, not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:02 PM Flag
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OMG this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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slightly annoyed, but let it go. I would also check to see if the shirt was still available and potential on sale given that it is the end of summer and labor day weekend. if so, I would ask DD if she wanted to buy it again with her own money or if she would like me to buy it for her with her back to school budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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Didn't camp tell you/logic dictate to send DC in play clothes that could get dirty/messy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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OP No, it's all indoor, and they just said that in addition to the sport there would be "other activities" like juggling. No mention of crafts at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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I have run a tie dying activity every year for the last 5 yrs at school. Don't let her wear anything to camp that she would be devastated to have ruined. Even with smocks the dye can get on stuff. My ds managed to get it on his socks last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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OP All the more reason to have warned us, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] It just makes it all so much worse that his name is Weiner. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:41 PM Flag
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He also looks like a veiny penis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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He looks like Squidward from Spongbob Squarepants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:58 PM Flag
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He does indeed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:10 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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Notice, she never changed hers. #imWithHuma [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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I feel so sorry for her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Meeting a friend in Greenwich, CT for an early lunch (11:00). Any suggestions on a casual place to go? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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Le pain quotidien [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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love communal tables [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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I like Meditarraneo for lunch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] As the school year begins, I'm interested in some advice. My kid attends a typical very good UMC suburban public school. He is very young for his grade (silly us - we didn't even know that redshirting was a thing) and so in the early grades he was tagged with "behavior" issues because he didn't sit quietly in class. Now he's entering fifth grade, and he's obviously grown out of that behavior, but he's still tagged as a problem, I guess, so every year they put him in the class with the kids who need "extra help", even though he's plenty smart and actually scored highly on the aptitude tests they gave him. I've discussed it with the school, and of course they don't admit that they're tracking him, and say things like "we look at which teacher will be the best fit for your kid" , even though he's always in the inclusion class. He doesn't get any remedial help, doesn't get any behavioral reports, nothing like that. Honestly it's made me so upset with the school that I don't trust them about anything anymore. He has lots of friends and I think he'd be really upset to change schools, so I don't think that's going to work. What would you do to try to support the school and teacher when you have no trust in them? 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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That sucks. I think you have to go private. Get a fresh start. You'll never get your trust back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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i don't agree. if he's testing really well then obviously he's learning and probably even thriving. you'll be changing to ms in a couple of years so hang tight. it sounds like it's working for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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ok, sorry, i just read more of your post and your concerns. changed my mind! if your kid is left to alone a lot so the teacher can go deal with other kids and their issues and the learning environment is obviously weaker than the other classes, you point to the fact that your kid is always in the class with the teacher's asst. and that you want him this year in the class w/o the ta. you need to get over to the school or district office asap, def before school begins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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I can see this happening, even not deliberately. Our school moves kids in groups, so he is just getting moved with that group. When you say you get no behavior reports, do you mean from the principal or no bad feedback at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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I mean, they're not telling us that he's having any problems, no issues, etc. When he was younger the teachers used to call and email every time he used a crayon instead of a pencil to do his math sheet, but that doesn't happen any more at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:38 PM Flag
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If you are positive he is not being a pain in the a$$ in class (because their are kids that dont have IEPs, that arent being written up etc that are still misbehaving in class) then you sit down with the teacher and the principal and you say enough is enough. 6 years in the CTT class is enough time. After a rough year in class with a child with an aide I requested my child get a break the next year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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They would usually put my youngest in the inclusion class because she was kind and a great student. Fine for a year but after that we really felt she suffered. It really takes an amazing teacher to really make those classes work for everyone and those teachers are rare. Tell your school - enough is enough. He's been in inclusion classes too much for being a gened student. My dd did catch up in Middle school but it should have never been. Stick to your guns with this if you really feel he's not being served. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:39 PM Flag
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See, my problem is that they won't admit that they're doing it. If I said "I don't want him to be in the inclusion class anymore" they say "what??? We don't have an inclusion class! It's just that your kid is always in the class with slow learners and an assistant teacher." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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The you point out that xxx teacher has the special ed certification and none of the other classes have an aide [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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You tell them that while it was ok for a year or so to be in the collaborative class it is no longer serving your child. Inclusion is one term for it - collaborative is another for a class with special ed. kids and an assistant teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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What do you think would happen if every parent of a non-SN kid said "the inclusion class is not serving my dc's needs, take them out"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:51 PM Flag
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As I said, fine for a year or two (team player) but not every year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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Why, though? She's not saying anything about the quality of the education. Just "I don't think it's fair that he's in class with SN kids." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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Are you being dense or are you really this naive? The class is 1/2 special needs, half typical kids. If you think that there is no level of disruption, you are out of your mind. Also, maybe he would like to be in class with his friends some years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:01 PM Flag
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She specifically said "he has friends", you're the one assuming he has NO friends in the inclusion class, which encompasses other non-SN kids. Idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:02 PM Flag
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See what she posted below. This was my child's experience also and it took her a couple years in middle school to catch up and work at the level she was capable of. There is value for gen ed kids to be in inclusion classes (independence, kindness, leadership) but after a point, at least with my child, the down side outweighed the plus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:02 PM Flag
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Because if you have a kid in the school system for a few years, you see they use certain kids as little assistants. They are smart and well behaved and if the parents dont put their foot down, they will be slotted for this class every year. If they are not in the class, they will always be partnered with a child with difficulties in class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:58 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, yes, this was my daughter's experience. I had to tell the school if they did it again I was going to have to pull her out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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Is it an inclusion class or do you just think the other kids are "slow learners." An inclusion call has two teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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Why didnt you pull the plug sooner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:43 PM Flag
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^^ schools have a tough balancing act especially with these classes. They are trying to find the best solution for them, you sometimes have to stickup for your kid while understanding that being a team player is fine but there is a point when it is detrimental. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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Exactly. Only you can advocate for your kid. No one else will look out for them, they are looking for the greater good. Which frankly is not always your problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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Is Middle School part of the same school or will it be a clean slate in 6th grade when MS starts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:41 PM Flag
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np: i was thinking the same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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Question - is there a reason why you think he's having a bad experience in the inclusion class, or is it more that you think he's being stigmatized and punished and don't like the idea on principle? You say he has friends and wouldn't want to switch schools. He cannot be the only kid in that class who doesn't need extra help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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My major concern is that the teachers essentially tell him to work by himself while they concentrate on the other students who need a lot more help. There is also a lot less progression going on in those classes. There are no fun projects, it's all "do this worksheet while I get this other kid to stop punching a beanbag." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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So, this isn't really a very good school, is it? [ Reply | More ]
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My kids go to one of the top districts in the state and this happens here too. You have 24 kids in a class, 1/2 with special needs. How would you structure the day to make sure this doesnt happen? It is inevitable [ Reply | More ]
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NP. My dc was a general Ed student in a CTT (now called ICT) class. It was the "ever so important" NYC 4th grade year. It was hands down the best year of elementary school my dc had! Two teacher s -- practically individual instruction -- it could not have been better. They were so a customer to differentiating they did it did it for all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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Having said this, it was school policy all students had one year in ICT. Which I agree with. You need to mix up the classes and children every year (except sn obviously) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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If it is an inclusion class, there are two teachers so this should not happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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It's not a great school if they can't handle this. "The school is excellent, except 50% of the kids aren't making academic progress." ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:03 PM Flag
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Is this bergen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:51 PM Flag
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Can I get a remedial on what the "inclusion class" is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:51 PM Flag
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There are kids with IEP's and extra teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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Inclusion is 60% gen ed and 40 % special ed and two teachers (one gen ed and one special ed). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Is he classified? Does he have an IEP? Do you meet with a Child Study Team? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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No, not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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Then you MUST meet with the principal and get to the bottom of his placement and educational plan! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:59 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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Just because you don't get reports of bad behavior doesn't mean it isn't still an issue. Perhaps the reason he isn't misbehaving to the point that you hear about it is because he's in a class with two teachers, one of whom is trained to deal with dcs with behavior problems. The school may think that if he moves into the gen ed class his behavior may be more of an issue. I'm not saying don't discuss it with the school. I'm saying be aware that this could be their argument for keeping him where he is. [ Reply | More ]
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Good point, OP, keep an open mind in your discussions with the school. But don't let them bully you if you really feel your kid would be better served in a gen ed class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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You can get that label and class type removed. Usually that means following the school's (district's) policy on having the child reassessed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:07 PM Flag
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He doesnt have the official label, he is one of the typical kids in the class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:10 PM Flag
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Oh I thought he was in labeled classes too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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He is in a co taught class but does not have special needs. Those classes are 1/2 kids with special needs 1/2 typical kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:17 PM Flag
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Can he be placed into an all typical class? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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In ny it 60/40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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Put your foot down a d ask that he have a different experience this year but - they will probably give him crappiest teacher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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Can you have a sit-down with the principal and make a plan? Have a frank conversation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] What was the most difficult decision you have made? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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taking this job. provided security but not prosperity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:29 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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Kids or no kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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Which did you choose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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No kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Same here. Do you have step children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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No, lots of nieces and nephews. Not at all the same thing, but there are children we love in our lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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Turning off life support for DH. :(. I will be tormented forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:37 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:37 PM Flag
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Thank you. I am about to head off to work and listen to everybody's petty whining, it's very tough to not implode. Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:40 PM Flag
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Of course. Anyone would be struggling in your situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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What happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:37 PM Flag
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so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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<<<>>> [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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Hugs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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My heart goes out to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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Awww. Perspective :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:20 PM Flag
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Leaving my marriage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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For me it was staying. I wanted to leave, emotionally, but realized it was a terrible economic decision for me and that if I did, the woman DH was having an affair with would likely slip into my place. I basically thought, what would SHE want me to do, and I realized that breaking up my marriage would only benefit her. So I didn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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Is she still in the picture? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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No. At one point he said he couldn't stay with us and he had to have his freedom, and I couldn't do anything about it. I went to a divorce lawyer and took half our money and put it into an account in my own name. He moved in with her for what I believe was about 2 weeks. Whatever happened, he came home one night after work with his stuff and that was the end of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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Ew. So you never talked about it? And you continue to sleep with him now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:17 PM Flag
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How nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:21 PM Flag
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This is my sister's advice to me. Eg DH will be with someone, do you want it to be you? or someone else? Followed by, "do you have someone or something better lined up?" sounds crappy but I should have realized a long time ago, decade +, that I would never have the life choices that men do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Sad, my dh cheated and I prefer he live elsewhere. I can't even stomach the thought of sleeping with him not. Yuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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I would phrase it differently. Would you rather be alone than with dh? Never assume the grass is greener post divorce. With that said, I have a small sample of close friends who, like me, post-divorce, have done just fine. [ Reply | More ]
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I greatly preferred being alone. If you don't, you're not ready to leave so stop torturing yourself and get good with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:22 PM Flag
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NP: i'm still making this decision and it's hard. for me it's - do i see my life better wo dh than w him? and right now, my answer is no, i really don't. but damn getting past a shitload of crap is hard, even w therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:33 PM Flag
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I left. You'll know when it's time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:38 PM Flag
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thx. i don't want to leave. we've been together over 25 years. not sure this can ever make sense to an outsider, but we actually had a good marriage. not a perfect one, but one that was good 80-90%. it's actually hard to reconcile what he did, with who he is - both then and now. more like discovering that your dh whom you thought had an ordinary job, worked for the CIA - you see your life in totally different light, but it doesn;'t chnage the life that you had. but only time will tell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:46 PM Flag
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Deciding to leave my marriage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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To move to a new town- new friends, new schools. [ Reply | More ]
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Did it work out? City to suburbs? [ Reply | More ]
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First from city to NJ, and we moved to the wrong town. We were happy enough, but knew we couldn't stay there. Then we tried find a better town for our family. We made a wonderful choice- beautiful town, great schools, nice friends, real town spirit. [ Reply | More ]
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My dream for us [ Reply | More ]
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That's nice to hear that you enjoy where you are now. Sometimes I'm tempted to believe that people can be happy anywhere if they choose, but your story proves it's not always so. [ Reply | More ]
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We were happy enough in our first NJ town. We made friends that we still see. However, the town was older and all built up. There wasn't room for more parks and soccer fields to be built. I wanted more Jewish families in town. After a few years, when we were ready to move to a bigger house, we moved an hour away to a really terrific town in Morris County. We were able to get more land, many parks, many sports fields, ice skating rink nearby, and more young Jewish families. All good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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To move away from East Coast to DH's hometown for work and family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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I made the same mistake. What helped you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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I haven't been helped. I am not a fan of my new city. It's laid-back and easygoing and all, but I miss the East Coast. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not a mistake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:27 PM Flag
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Becoming a SAHM. Never my plan, but it was the right choice in the end. Or it was my choice, anyway, right or wrong. I didn't come to it lightly. [ Reply | More ]
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Becoming a SAHM. Never my plan, but it was the right choice in the end. Or it was my choice, anyway, right or wrong. I didn't come to it lightly. [ Reply | More ]
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One of them was deciding not to abort when I got pregnant as a teenager. Love my DD to pieces but I still question my choice sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it worth it to spend double the time and money on flights to SE Asia over the Caribbean if you're going to spend 75% of your time doing the same thing (i.e. lying on the beach and eating at restaurants)? Trying to get DH to branch out, but admittedly we can only take one week off at a time (for the time being) and we'd lose about two days to transportation. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^we don't go to all-inclusives and we go to Europe about once a year, sometimes South America. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:22 PM Flag
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No, go to Baja Calif or the Med. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:23 PM Flag
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Not worth it to just beach it in SE Asia if you are coming from the East Coast. Try somewhere in Mexico or try a new island if you want something different. [ Reply | More ]
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No. I agree, a beach is a beach is a beach. I flew to Hawaii years ago, and 15 minutes after sitting on the beach I thought "huh. Pretty much the same as home." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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Where have you been in the Caribbean already? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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Aruba, Curacao, Cuba, Jamaica, PR, DR, Martinique. Next spring going to Bermuda. Also technically not in the Caribbean but on the Caribbean sea: Cancun, Playa del Carmen, Tulum, Playa Paraiso. [ Reply | More ]
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You have only been to some of the major islands. Go to St Barths. That is my top recommendation. There are a lot of smaller islands like Bequia (in the Grenadines) or Mustique. Charter a sailboat for the week with a captain and sail the British Virgin Islands or St Vincent and the Grenadines. That is an incredible trip. Barbados is really nice too [ Reply | More ]
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Cool idea, thanks. What's the ballpark figure for chartering a sailboat for a week? Any company recommendations? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:52 PM Flag
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Moorings is reasonable and I've sailed the BVIs with them many times. It's amazing! [ Reply | More ]
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What is your budget? The moorings is the most popular company down there. But there are a ton. It all depends on the size of the boat. For a crewed boat you will have a captain and a cook. You eat many meals on the boat so there is a cost savings there [ Reply | More ]
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For some reason, I think the cost of the crew is 400-500 a day for both people. Then the cost of your food. The boat can range about 3k-10k for the week plus your food [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you so much, this looks great:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:34 PM Flag
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Ok everyone, fair enough, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:38 PM Flag
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Be careful of Zika :( [ Reply | More ]
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You can get zika here now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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I love SE Asia, but not worth it to go for a week, and especially if you are only going to the beach. If that's what you want, go to Hawaii or Tahiti. [ Reply | More ]
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I find the SE beaches so much more beautiful. Esp Thailand, Malaysia or Philippines. Also there's a more pronounced sense of different culture. Not to mention the food is to die for atleast in Thailand and Malaysia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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This is true. If you could go for at least 10 days, I would do Thailand and Malaysia. Really love Penang in Malaysia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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Why do you Penang? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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Love the food, the culture, the street art. I've stayed at the E&O Hotel there twice now and it is seriously a slice of heaven. Every room has a balcony facing the water. We would wake up, open the balcony doors, and get back in bed just to hear the waves while we slept a little longer. It was perfection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I work now but would like the option of SAH at some point after DH and I have kids. We talked about it and his view is that it's only worth it for me to work if we are making comparable $ at that point, and that SAH is more feasible if I'm making anything less than 400k since I'll be able to focus completely on the home/kids and him on making money. I don't have a firm view on this now and am looking for different perspectives. Thoughts, UB? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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Just don't get trapped. I am in late 50s and have seen many women stay home, lose career and need to go back either because DH lost job or they lost DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:21 PM Flag
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My mom stayed home and my dad worked in finance. Looking back, she said she wished she had at least continued to work part time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:33 PM Flag
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This. I don't know why so many women romanticize 24/7 motherhood. Did they NEVER babysit? [ Reply | More ]
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I think 400 is probably a bit high for the cut off but if it works then you go for it. I was making $7/hr when I got pregnant 10 years ago so it was a very simple decision to have me stay home. I do everything regarding home and kids and DH focuses on work. It has worked for us but the calculations would be different if DH made less money and I had the potential to make more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:30 PM Flag
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400K??? How much does your DH make and what is your net worth that 400K is your threshold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:37 PM Flag
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We are projecting in the future. The 400k scenario is if he makes more than double than (1mm+) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:40 PM Flag
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how much do each one of you makes today and how old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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Would rather not say. Sorry. Am not fSAHM though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:44 PM Flag
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Why do you need to make this decision ahead of time before you either have dcs or reach this kind of earning level? Do you also spend time thinking about what you would do if you won a lottery? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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It's the two big law 20 somethings. She already doesn't want to make partner, and DH is saying maybe he does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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This isnt something that you can plan ahead for. I left a job making 175K and my husband made about the same. He makes about 300ish now and I recently went back to a mom type job after 10 yrs and make 80ish. We are doing fine. Despite the risk and sacrifice, I would not have missed that time. You miss so much working full time when you add in a commute etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:40 PM Flag
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what do you miss? how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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What do you miss when you work? My kids are 8 and 10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:48 PM Flag
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yes, what do you miss when you work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:50 PM Flag
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I dont even want to answer this because I feel like I am being trolled. Have a baby and then be gone 10-12 of their waking hours. Come home at the worst part of the day to a screaming, tired, hungry baby. Make dinner.Give them a bath, read them a book and put them to bed. Do you think anything nice/pleasant transpired in the 10-12 hours while you were gone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:04 PM Flag
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future SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:42 PM Flag
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No, it's two biglaw associates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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I think it's worth it to keep working even if you're only breaking even after child care and expenses, because a big gap in employment will definitely set you back. That is unless you feel personally driven to be a SAHM. It sounds like your DH is largely motivated by how much easier his life will be with a full-time homemaker, and that's a legitimate interest, but you need to look long term for yourself too. I say this as a permanent SAHM, btw (DD is going into third grade this year). [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on you and db. I think working part time is the best of both worlds, even if you make mid-five figures, because you keep your toes in the water, but still have plenty of time with dcs. Even if your dh is making half of what he hopes (e.g. 500k) and you are making half of what you hope (200K) I don't see how you'll really get enough time with dc, unless you have unicorn jobs, and that point, it's not like you'd be working bc you needed the money. I personally hated SAH - hated the drudgery/tediousness with dcs, am not the patient/nurturing type, had no family or friends and felt was isolated, felt like there was this weird power dynamic in our marriage... on the other hand, I have some friends with great networks, who love the opportunity to sah, dhs love having fewer home responsibilities, etc. It's hard to know what will work for you actually have db [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:55 PM Flag
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* Last sentence - BEFORE you actually have db. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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That's a fine plan BUT it relies on DH being able to make a lot for a long time OR thr family being able to live well below the standard of living his income would otherwise provide. Too many people don't make it past 50 (sometimes 45) in high income jobs. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think you can have a firm view on this until after you have a child. I know so many women who said they would stay at home, only to have a child and decide they want to work...and the reverse too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:58 PM Flag
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Sage advice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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Sounds like DH doesn't plan on parenting at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Any frequent flower buying moms on? How do you tell how fresh they are? I buy them at the local deli and sometimes they last; sometimes they die after 2-3 days. tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Buy them elsewhere. I get mine from trader joes and with a few exceptions (for which they always give me a refund), they last at least a week. Just add new water every few days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:26 PM Flag
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Trader Joe's. There's also an excellent deli on 82/Amsterdam (SW corner) that I've had really good luck with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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Thanks both. Yes I change the water (and give them a little snip) every few days but they still don't last. I'll try these 2 places -- appreciate it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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def snip the ends - that makes all the difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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I get mine At aldis for $3.99 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Hair loss. I'm in my mid-40s and my hair is thinning. Every time that I wash it or brush it, I have a hand full of hair. What could be eh reason? what can I do? I'm otherwise healthy and normal. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:10 PM Flag
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This happens to me too. Sometimes it is seasonal but who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:12 PM Flag
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I get it end of summer. Started mid 30 s [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:33 PM Flag
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Normal for your age [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:35 PM Flag
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I am using me 's Rogaine mousse 2x / day. Has helped more with hair loss than thinning but at least it is something. Dernatologist recommended I do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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Men's. Sorry. It is stronger than the women's and stronger than the serum. I buy generic at Costco or Duane Reade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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I do this too. Also, I no longer own styling products including irons and dryers. I use pins instead of bands. I try not to shampoo it every day. My hair is the healthiest it's ever been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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Thinning means hair loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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Food based vitaminx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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I don't want to spam so any brand they sell at Whole Foods [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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Op here - no spam, would appreciate a brand name and how it's working for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:25 PM Flag
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sorry, hope you're still watching. either rainbow light women's organic multivitamin or pure synergy organic whole food vitamin multi. i just started taking them again, i alternate but you can just pick one, i bought brands both bc i share them with dd. when i stopped taking them my hair started breaking again. don't take the chemical vitamins like Viviscal. i scout out those brands at WF then buy them on amazon [ Reply | More ]
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thank you, i'll look it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 10:59 PM Flag
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This is happening to me as well (38 y/o). I just had labs done and am awaiting the results. Could be thyroid malfunction or low iron count. Have you had labs yet to check on these things? [ Reply | More ]
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OP here - no labs, didn't bring up with doctor yet, it's recent but everyday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:25 PM Flag
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It's normal. Perimenopause. You can try taking biotin but just know that this is part of the aging process and that your hair will never be as thick as it once was. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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tried biotin, didn't do anything for me. My hair was never thick so it's not good.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:26 PM Flag
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Happens to me too, I'm 40. I'm not sure there's anything I can do about it, it's aging, hormone-related and for me, genetic. My mom had the same problem. That said, can anyone recommend a good haircut? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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This happened to me because if perimenopause. Taking progesterone stopped it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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Interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 04:11 PM Flag
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Please elaborate - how is it working, is it over-the-counter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:28 PM Flag
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Also, does it come in tablets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 08:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Unfortunately bullied kids tend to also be bullied at home by their parents, who may yell, criticize, harshly discipline or physically abuse them or use other forms of intimidation. These kids then exhibit a sense of fear and anxiety to the world at large, which other kids who are looking for someone to bully can sense and prey upon. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:00 PM Flag
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Sometimes but definitely not always [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:09 PM Flag
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100%. In my kid's school there are the traditional bullies who have a really tough time of it at home, but there are also the kids who are totally coddled by their parents, who are never, ever wrong, and who have figured out that they can get away with whatever they want and will never have a consequence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:13 PM Flag
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This completely [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:25 PM Flag
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The two mean girls in my DD's elementary, who are sisters, and have had problems with almost every girl in the class are definitely not bullied at home. Mom is a super passive, girls can do no wrong type, and dad just goes with it. I see this more in upper middle class circles than the bullied at home type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:27 PM Flag
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Actually, it's the bullies who are being bullied at home by their parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:10 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:14 PM Flag
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yes. they learn how to bully at home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:36 PM Flag
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But is it possible that both are true ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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anything is possible. a child whose parents model crappy behavior, is likely to repeat that behavior. Or maybe they'll become a victim to it as an adult. Why is the main post a statement and not a question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] For a family of 4, with 5 and 7 yo kids, planning to buy Catastrophe insurance (looks like NY exchange allows me to do so) at least for the rest of the year. Me and the kids very healthy, my husband has asthma and high blood pressure. Any pitfall or cautionary tale? Thanks in advance!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.30.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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If you have regular employer coverage now that is ending, see if you can get everyone in for a physical before it ends and get dh's meds refilled. Make sure you know exactly what the new policy does and does not cover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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How many meds does DH take regularly and do you know the out of pocket costs for you in keeping all of his prescriptions filled during the year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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what even is that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to see Soringsteen tonight. Two questions for anyone who went last week: what time does he actually take the stage? Concert at 7:30 and they say get there an hour early for security. I can get a train arriving at 6:42. Good? Also, do they serve food? Only hot dogs or real food of any kind? Not looking for gourmet, but wondering what the options are. Thanks!!! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:36 PM Flag
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I can answer none of your questions but have a great time!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:48 PM Flag
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Thanks! Was able to google food options. Will leave my bag home and assume security won't be as bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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I know that at Giant games at the stadium you're allowed to bring your own food so long as it is in a clear bag that they can see into. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:31 PM Flag
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I think you are here too - I am just too lazy! I found they have tacos, salads, sushi, etc. All set! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:49 PM Flag
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We went last Tuesday. Show started at 8pm. I ate some pizza rolls - nomma nomma. They had hot dogs and other ballgame fare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 02:17 PM Flag
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Thanks! Did security take a long time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I had an appt with my psychiatrist on Thursday morning and my prescriptions still haven't been sent to the pharmacy (I'm in NY so they can only be sent electronically). Ive tried calling and emailing his office since Thursday afternoon and haven't received a response. What am I supposed to do? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:13 PM Flag
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^oh and he billed my insurance company and I paid my copay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:14 PM Flag
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What's the office set up? Does he have a receptionist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:15 PM Flag
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He has two receptionists! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:15 PM Flag
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Have you spoken with either of them when you've called? Or left messages? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:17 PM Flag
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No one ever answers the phone but they always quickly respond to voicemails and emails and I've left 3 voicemails and sent 2 emails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:21 PM Flag
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Ok, I think I agree with in person poster. I'd time my visit to be when Dr is in bldg and 10 min before patient switch over so you can get get someone prepped to get dr to do it during that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:23 PM Flag
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And have you ever gone to a different pharmacist while in his care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:16 PM Flag
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No I've always used the same pharmacy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:16 PM Flag
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Go in person. PITA but they will address it if you are standing there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:17 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:37 PM Flag
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No nurse or associate? It's weird b/c my doc does EMR so it's sent immediately as I am in the office. I guess you'll have to go there to see what's the hold up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:45 PM Flag
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If they are not new prescriptions, you can go to the pharmacy and ask them to give you a few pills. Not sure what the med is but they might be willing to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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This is awful! Just be persistent and annoying. And, I think you should consider complaining to the psychiatrist and/or seeking out a new one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:11 PM Flag
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Find a new psychiatrist and report him to your insurance. That is untenable and you should get a refund or they should flag him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] What is up with all these spam posts? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 11:52 AM Flag
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They've been here a while, mainly only late at night, but the spammer takes Sundays off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 12:03 PM Flag
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But what's the point? Does anyone ever click on them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 01:15 PM Flag
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