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[ - ] Which country clubs are decent? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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You need to specify area and your ethnicity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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An integrated CC please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Depends on what you want? Golf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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New York Athletic Club (NYC) and Olympic Club (SF) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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LOL at NYAC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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Travers island is nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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True, but NYAC in general is so overrated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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Is it still WASP only? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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No, my parents (Jews) were members forever and gave up their membership a few years ago. The membership has changed dramatically over the past 10-15 years or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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How is NYAC a coutnry club? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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Travers Island [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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Ethnicity/location/budget please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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White/Westport or Greenwich/if you have to ask, you can't afford it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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op. That wasn't me! I'm white but olive skinned; DH is lily white. We're moving to Westchester. We're comfortable paying a premium if it's worth it. DH is into golf in a big way, and I love tennis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Westchester Country Club in Harrison has top notch golf, is a big club and is diverse by country club standards. It is still a process to join, need sponsors and multiple letters of recommendation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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winged foot and hudson national for golf, shenorock is nice for the beach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:03 PM Flag
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What about yacht clubs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Beach point is the best [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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Beach Point is the Dalton of Country Clubs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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More of a golf club, but if you can hack Mill Reef, you won't regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I have some nasty sinus infection, and it is making me so moody. I just want to breathe out of my nose again! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Get some Flonase. It went OTC a few months ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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saline rinse and afrin - rinse then use afrin - don't use it a lot, but nothing works better for a good nights sleep when stuffy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 11:14 PM Flag
[ - ] This Columbia mattress liar went do Dalton?? That so embarrassing- pretty clear the peak of her life was HS and been on the decline steadily since. I wont wait to see what she does with a Visual Arts masters. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Unbelievable that she went to State of the Union address. But I guess that was the point. She wanted fame and attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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Why didn't she just gets t-shirts made: 'I'm a victim of date rape. :(' Would have been less annoying than dragging that mattress around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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Read the article. She sent him multiple e mails before and after asking him to have sex with her rear end. How did this become a story? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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I do think something is fishy about the whole deal, but if you read the court document linked in the article, what you have posted is untrue. Only one message referencing anal sex, and it was several months prior (not to mention that it reads like a joke, if a crass and unfunny one.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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Where is she getting her master's degree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] This is going to sound like shoddy spam but Save A Tooth is literally a life saver. My niece knocked her tooth out and we put it in the little cup, she was able to get it re-planted. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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a ziploc works fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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It has a special solution or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Milk or saline also work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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sounds like someone needs to look up "literally" in the dictionary [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Sounds like you do. They changed the meaning last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Idiot alert [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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What age does it work until? Should i buy it for teenage sons who get in fights [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:50 PM Flag
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Works on adults. Goes from 10% chance of saving tooth toe 90%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:53 PM Flag
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Ok thisis great. As soon as tooth is knocked out we will run to drugstore to buy it. Or do we need it handy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Landlord owns another home and is offering it to us for purchase. We both like the idea of bypassing a real estate agent. However, I need someone to do comps for me. Could I hire an agent to just do that for a fee? An appraisal company? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Where is house? If in Westchester, you can do it yourself. You can access all actual sales within the last 3 years, by size, school district, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Appraiser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] This is a cause the 99% of Americans should be glad to sign up for!!!! It's Ben and Jerry—the co-founders of Ben & Jerry's Ice Cream—and we need your help: "We want to pay our fair share of taxes, but Republicans in Congress are trying to pass an unnecessary tax giveaway to America's wealthiest citizens. We don't want, need, or deserve this tax cut". Have you signed? http://petitions.moveon.org/sign/stand-with-ben-jerryby-1?source=mo&id=113354-29094262-VyzN42x 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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http://petitions.moveon.org/sign/stand-with-ben-jerryby-1?source=mo&id=113354-29094262-VyzN42x "If Senate and House Republicans have their way, they will eliminate the estate tax, which affects only the wealthiest 0.2% of taxpayers. Repealing the estate tax would hurt our economy and be fundamentally unfair. Senate Democrats: Stand with us—and stay united against the repeal." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Eliminating a third taxation after corporate and capital gains tax on much of relevant rich people wealth is unfair. i dont think so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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It only benefits the same top 0.2% who keeps on trying to buy our democracy away from us. F*ck them! I say tax estates MORE than now, not less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Its not about beneficiaries and victims. Its about fundamental fairness. You dont tax death or capital that is just sitting there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Netherlands taxes capital regardless of its return. It's much more fair than punishing work and those who have to work for a living. It's been known for 100 years that the best tax is Land Taxes by the way, that's a CAPITAL tax, not a wage tax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Capital is mobile. If you pimish it for idleness, it will leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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"Land is mobile" signed: the self-serving, low IQ, anti-social ass poster above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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LMAO!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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this GOP keep on showing how stupid they are. all you need to do is to give them the microphone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Inheritance taxes are among the best taxes. Morons and their GOP leaders call it a "death tax" to confuse the sheep while keep on working for the top 0.2%. F*ck them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Fuck you too. This is another justification for the level of cheating I do on our taxes- look at everyone reaching into my pocket while poor idiot 47 percenters need more subsidization... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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Cheating in taxes is illegal. Just leave the country if you are against what's best for USA. We don't need you here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Or go to jail, problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Shudder. Make sure you say that loudly enough so the 85% of taxes unpaid by illegals has a chance to surface. But dont forget- they pay sales taxes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Typical GOP BS: leave our millions untaxed and go after those who are starving. F*CK YOU! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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Yes. The lower half has not had a tax rise in a generation. The next one needs to be on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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Here's the truth: We don't need this stupid tax cut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Illegals shouldnt pay taxes? What a quaint concept. Good way to get more in here and maybe more citizenship oaths and Democratic votes eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Typical GOP low-IQ spinning attempt. Keep on trying! Your stupidity is entertaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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IRS auditor mom here, what's your problem again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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I pity you and the cuts of resources our Congress has imposed on your agency so that it cant catch me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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"so that it cant catch me" Really? I'm requesting your IP to UB as we speak.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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NP: That's not the way the IRS (or really any governmental system) works. You don't hunt down random people on forums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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done! sent the IP request :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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And now you're going to need a court order for the address. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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SIGNED!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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signed and share! thanks :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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when will Congress start to work for 99% of USA instead of working for themselves and their buddies at the top 1%? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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For that to happen, vote for incumbents who come from middle class backgrounds. Get rid of those who have been in Congress for a long time. We should force Congress to accept term limits. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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I need to start working on our avoidance tactics- signed family with just below the 11m exemption for a couple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Avoid real estate then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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signed, I'm happily surprised that 53,000 already signed :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Awesome! These 2 guys are deserve to be congratulated for doing this. USA needs more people like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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USA has been punishing workers to benefit wealthy capital owners for quite some time. It was about time somebody speak up about this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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So... Why doesn't either just give it to the IRS? The IRS has a web portal for tax deductible donations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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They want other peoples' money taken. The usual left wing stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Almost 100,000 signatures [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 10:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of a restaurant that will still give a "ladies' menu"; i.e., with no prices listed? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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that's hilarious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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OP: At least, that's what my dad and grandparents always called it. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Well, I'm a lesbian so I'm not sure how that would work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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OP: Me too! :) I want to host a brunch for a really lovely and special friend, I want to pay, and I don't want my guests to worry about money! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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You should be able to get them if you call ahead. I have received them before at business functions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Ask the restaurant to create set a menu with a few options for everyone ahead of time and print up a special menu. Many restaurants will do this for you, call during the day and ask to talk to the manager. 2-4 pm is usually the best time to get a hold of a manager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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At the Boston College Club, guests never get a menu with prices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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That's different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Our country club gives menu without prices to all guests [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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I went to a place in Rome like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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blind menu? you should call ahead, every restaurant has them in stock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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just say you want a menu without prices, as you're paying for the party. shouldn't be hard for them to do. but, please, let's get rid of this whole "ladies' menu" nonsense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:25 PM Flag
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I remember years ago having a client take me to La Grenouille. No prices on my menu. When I returned to the office, my boss wanted to know what the client wanted from me. At the time, I was a banker who made international loans. He wanted more money, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Are destination weddings okay if you arrange for everyone's travel? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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They are OK if you do or dont "arrang" -- dont know if that means pay, but just expect that some will not come (for example if they cant get time off), and some will come only for free vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Yes, we'd pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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I think that is a nice idea (to arrange and pay) but if you're young, there may be fiends or family in positions where they just don't get that much time off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Vacation time is a key factor for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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Any wedding is okay. What's not okay is getting upset with people who can't make it even if you are picking up all expenses. Vacation days, responsibilities at home, an aversion to flying, all sorts of reasons that folks won't be able to come. Express regret that they won't be there and MOVE ON. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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+1!!!! You expressed it beautifully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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Assume u mean travel and hotel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] The strangest thing happened last night. I Went on my first date in 3 years, a set-up, and my date ordered my dinner for me. We were at a steak restaurant so it's not like there were that many options, but still, he ordered my steak and our sides. He is in his late 40s. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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I wouldn't like that, way too controlling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Not going to lie, I love his decisiveness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Yes, he's very alpha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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American? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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I would have interrupted. Did he happen to order what you would have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Yes he did. To be fair, he asked if it was ok with me, and of course I said yes, mostly because I was so caught off-guard and it right in front of the server. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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How do you feel about that? Did he also monopolize the conversation? Interrupt you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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He was actually great and very gentleman-y. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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And did he also say, "And the lady will have ..." Ugh. I find the whole idea disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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lol!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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R.U.N. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Did you say anything? Like, why can't I order for myself? Was he a TOny Soprano type? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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He is actually kind of like Big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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even carrie ordered for herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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Old school by about 80 years. Any other behavior that can discern if he is just cute that way or actually pathologically controlling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Nothing else. Still, I can't help but wonder if it was a red flag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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That's about right. I heard abut this as a chivalrous practice from much older relatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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I'd be pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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I'm a disagreeable person. I would have declined what he ordered and gone for the complete opposite- salad. No explanation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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You are me. I don't like being told what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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I have to admit, I did wonder if it was some kind of test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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So weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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I wouldn't mind if he placed my order if he knew exactly what I wanted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Did he even ask you first? I wouldn't like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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No. Just ordered and then looked at me and said, "how does that sound" and I, in my shock, just said "sounds great". To be fair, when he asked me if I had any food preferences before deciding on a restaurant, I said that I ate everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Hmm. Not a good sign but if you like him otherwise maybe ok. Could have seen too many 40s movies with "debonair" men acting like this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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this - i would see how it goes if all else is okay - but keep your eyes open to controlling behavior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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Ewwww [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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You could have said you didn't want that right away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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OMG,I would run. That would completely be ok after a while but on the first date??? what is his problem? I would have said, well I like a salad and then I will see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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This wouldn't bother me. He's probably a foodie -- knows this restaurant/dish and wanted to impress you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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Too controlling. Just weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] How often do you have sex? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Not for 10 years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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With someone else? 2013 maybe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Usually 2-3x/week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:57 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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Does it count if I'm by myself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.27.15, 12:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Scenario: you are with a mom friend and her DC and you have one DC and you are all out on a weekend playdate in NYC. Friend runs into a family she knows and she introduces you, but only mentioning your first name (and not how she knows you). Then the dad of the family looks you up and down asks you if you are the mom of your own DC. You look around, bewildered, and say yes of course. And then he says "oh he's really cute." WTH? Whose DC would he be? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Overthinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Honestly I felt like he was asking if I was the nanny. I'm fat but dress and groom nicely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Don't do this to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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You could be a friend of hers, out with her and a friend of her kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Could be meant no differently than saying, "Oh, is this your child?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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maybe the dad did not want to make an embarrassing assumption, so asked. no big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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OK I am just sensitive because I don't look like a typical NYC wife!!! And my DC is totally gorgeous and I am average! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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All kids are cuter than their parents. Little kids look cute. Anyone would be aware of that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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this. what the heck, OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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I'm insecure because I felt like he thought I was the nanny. It has happened before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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So get used to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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Yes, I have learned not to make assumptions about parental relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] The whole Bruce thing is bringing the bigots out of the woodwork... paring down my friend lists on social media and irl feels good. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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irl? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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In real life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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it's great when they come out, they show you who they really are so you can cut them off (without them knowing if possible) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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social pruning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Lol, love that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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You discuss this crap with dfs enough to judge them on it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Civil rights? Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Ha! I don't consider Bruce Jenner/ Kardashians anything other than craptastic pop culture. I'll take it seriously when it gets political and off the tabloids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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Diane Sawyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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Did they talk about civil rights and legislation for equal rights? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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One baby step at a time. But better than what the tabloids were saying... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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So it was an exposé on tabloid fodder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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You're showing how hard headed you are in your ignorance. First you said it's only tabloid fodder but since Diane Sawyer and the President are talking about it ... what? It was a very well done piece on a very important issue. It was serious. Not a rag mag pointing out what color nail polish he was wearing... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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People whatever their orientation should be afforded equal rights. A member of a laughable and despised family shouldn't be the one to spearhead this cause. It's tragic that American politics and media requires such an event to seriously consider this demographic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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What about an American Hero and gold medal winning Olympian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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He was forgotten until the Kardashians remade him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Thank God something good will come of their fame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Doesn't change that the Kardashians was what it takes for transgendered people to have a voice. Speaks of the injustice in American society as a whole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Means to an end. Lots of horrible things have to happen to pave the way for positive change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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Fuck no! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Did you watch it? They did touch on it but this was a personal story about his entire life/journey. Political change will follow public understanding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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Civil rights are "crap"? UGH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Or has no idea what she or he is talking about. Ignore. Thinks Diane Sawyer and the President are brainwashed by the Kardashians lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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I don't care about Bruce Jenner and his sexual fetish. I am old now and only care about women's rights. Yeah, I said it. And Bruce pretending to be a woman is not about women's rights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Well your generation will die off and progress will be made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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I'm a lesbian and I disagree with a lot of what the transgender movement has to say about gender, sexuality, women. What would you do with me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Why? Just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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A lot of it is pretty deluded and based on gender norms. You can't just be a man wearing a dress, you have to be a "woman" on the inside. It re-enforces the concept that women are just high heels and lipstick. A lot of trans-activists also believe that lesbians are bigoted if they sexually discriminate against transwomen, even if you are pre-transition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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^And honestly, I see a lot of derailment of lesbian/women's rights done by trans-activists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Tomboys, girly girls, butch, twinks, bears... transgender is a spectrum just like every other gay or straight persons expressions of their gender and/or sexuality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Np, yes what do you disagree with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Lesbians can be bigoted too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Why do you keep posting this over and over and over? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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More than one person is talking about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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he can wear whatever he wants but im not teaching my kids that he "turned in a woman" because he didnt. hes a man wearing a dress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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How does it feel to be part of the problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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NP: what problem? The people doing exactly as the want and society has to take them seriously problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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Well it sounds like he feels he is a woman, which is hard for us to understand. But I believe that there are people who feel they are the wrong gender - why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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he's not a woman no matter what he says. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] If you live in NYC, and most of your friends/family are in NYC, do you buy a house in the Vineyard (which you love and have some friends) or one in the Hamptons so that your closests friends can come over and visit. Getting to the Vineyard is onerous and requires visitors (expensively) rent a car. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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I don't spend at all on my closest friends, nor on my acquaintances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Vineyard. I vacation to get away, not to host [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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i know, what a PITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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We spend two months there every year. It means we don't see anyone for two months and we are social. DH thinks we should just keep building our friendships in the Vineyard (people who have their own place to stay) and that the Hamptons is a trashy overpriced scene we should run screaming from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Poster from below here (who said I preferred MV): I agree with your dh's assessment entirely! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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I will tell him ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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i would pick one close to friends/family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Honestly I feel like I'd spend my whole summer either hosting people or saying no to hosting people. It would be exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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I would go with the Vineyard just bc I prefer it to the Hamptons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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OP: I really hate the Hamptons. We were there last summer at a friend's beachouse and some shop owner, I think the Zabars guy, charged $18 for a quart of orange juice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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PP: then how is this even a question?? Go with MV! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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My only concern is we will be lonely. We are used to lots of people around. But I honestly feel it will be good for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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PP: What do you do for a career and what are your hobbies? I only ask bc it will give me a better sense of who you are as people. I love the Vineyard, but I enjoy solitary activities such as reading. I don't like the crazy, flashy Hamptons scene. My DH was more amenable to it (he works in finance and likes fun parties). But we went with MV in the end, mostly bc I insisted that the Hamptons were just "too much" for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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Np: sounds like op is a social butterfly. Don't think the Vineyard is right for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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I WAH in the arts and DH is retired. So we are social by exertion, meaning we don't get socialized unless we put in effort (we end up, somehow, having tons of invites and things we do and we are both social by nature). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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PP: well after reading your other responses below, I don't know anymore. If you want to be around your friends and you feel that your friends are not wealthy enough to visit you in the Vineyard, then it seems pretty clear that the Hamptoms are a better choice for you. Either way will be fine :) Enjoy your summer home! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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PS: when people visit us in MV, we generally pick them up at the airport. Maybe that is an option for you? That way, they only have to pay for the plane tickets. But based on everything you have said, I have changed my mind-- now I feel like the Hamptons will be a better fit for you bc of convenience and accessibility. The Hamptons are a wonderful option too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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Go with MV and make new friends on the island. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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"some shop owner, I think the Zabars guy" Zabars is the most over-rated shop in Manhattan! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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He has a market in the Hamptoms and the cashier (to whom I complained) was so annoyed with Zabar's dude owner than she gave it to me for half price. She said he jacks up the prices on big weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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Terrible. How they carry on nowadays when the competition in that space is so much better is beyond me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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If your friends are too poor to rent a car for a vacation, then they are losers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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No they are not losers. They are not bankers, who are losers IMO. My friends are in creative jobs and smarter and more interesting than you, that is for sure. Car rentals on the Vineyard in peak seasons are in excess of $100 a day. Asking a family to come for five or six days at 600 bucks is not great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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I agree with you re: your comments about people -- but listen…if you are putting me up for 6 days at your house ….I'm getting an otherwise free vacation that would have cost me $3K or more if I wanted a house on MV for a week. So that way the $600 would not bother me and maybe one or 2 days (day arriving and leaving we could do without) -- you could do shifts in your car or ride bikes, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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Add in plane flights to the Vineyard for four and you're looking at about $1500 to stay in my guest cottage, not including any meals or fun things to do. Really different than taking the Jitney to the Hamptons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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"bankers, who are losers IMO" ITA!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Or: I work in a creative field as well. I still think that they are losers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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which field? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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Because you are insecure and thus afraid of people who aren't wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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It all seems like a pyramid scheme to me. Sell everyone a house to entertain until everyone is a host an there are no more guests to go around except the ones who aren't socially worth having. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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So if someone can't own a summer home they are not "socially worth having"? On what planet is everyone "worth having" only people who are rich? Some of the most boring, tedious people I know have summer homes and I would not hang out with them for any amount of money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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If you are buying a house in the Hamptons or the Vineyard, yes, you're basically a slave to completely superficial society. There is no other logic for paying that much money to get what you can get in plenty of other places for a tiny fraction of those prices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Obviously you have never been to Martha's Vineyard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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No, someone who doesn't own doesn't really rank. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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np. My parents divided them into two categories. Those who also owned and could elevate them socially, and those that were invited to be impressed by my parents. It was their ego boost. So they do serve a certain function. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Your parents are gross. Sorry, total UMC trash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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lol so true, real estate is a pyramid scheme [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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You tell friends to fly to MVY via Jetblue at Westchester Airport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Yes but they still have to rent a car. Our car can only seat another adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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if Uber and Lyft havent found their way to MVY, i am sure they have heard of cabs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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Classic! Obviously you have never been to the Vineyard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Whichever one makes YOU happiest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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I am sure your closest friends will be thrilled with an invite to stay with you anywhere, so go where you are most comfortable. Personally, I think the Hamptons are for the Kartrashians now, so I'd go with the vineyard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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TY. Good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Ds is applying to private for HS. I make approx 160K so was hoping for a little FA. The elephant in the room is Ds's dad who became an extreme alcoholic a few years ago -- got sober but never went back to work and continues to live in a sober house. We are divorced and ds has no contact with x-dh. How to handle in school apps and FA application? Some of the apps seem to demand info about the father? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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If you can document he is living in rehab I think you will be OK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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Do you think they will use this against ds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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Not of you can document. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Not of you can document. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Just tell them the dad isn't in the picture. [ Reply | More ]
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They want info for FA -- so we aren't hiding assets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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Dads leave. It's normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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No it isn't normal for private school children to have a dad in a half way house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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do your children receive FA in private school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Child. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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I think you are going to get a ding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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This is what I'm worried about -- family situation too complicated/weird. Wish I could find a way around the Dad issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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OP, I don't know for sure, but I think schools want to avoid troubled parents. I would leave the details out and just say ds has no father. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you are right -- I going to try but Ds has x-dh's last name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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Just send him to Bklyn Tech or Bx Science then be done with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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THIS. Any of the specialized school are fantastic. Why would you try for private in HS? The public HS in NYC are some of the best schools around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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We are applying to the specialized schools but they all seem so hyper competitive. Doesn't seem like kids evolve in these school, they are stuck under mountains of homework and their only focus is college. I want my kid to learn how to be happy, less competitive and more creative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Is your ds an amazing star student? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Yes, ds has straight A's, top athlete, math team etc --- totally overcompensates because of his Dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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You have to try. I would be honest. You can do that or say, we are divorced and he is not a part of our life. He has no $$ contribution. If pushed say last known address and give it. All they can do is say no. Have back up plan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Thanks, very true all they can say is no. I don't think I could say much about dh w/o getting visably upset, better off saying nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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If he lives in a halfway house, it's not like he's making enough money to disqualify you for FA. That's all FA is. Are there need blind schools? If so, apply to them... that way you'll be accepted BEFORE you deal with the FA stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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np--You apply for aid when you apply for admissions. Financial aid forms are due before acceptances go out. This is true for colleges as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] OTM, are you around? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o In the 1960s my grandfather was a Fortune 500 CEO, earned about $1MM per year, and lived in 3 bedroom house (today worth about $700K). No vacation home, no hired help, public schools for all three DCs. Peoples' expectations have changed so much... 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Csb, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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And then there were the rockefellers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Should have bought a nicer house. My Dad bought our home in 1972 for 100K and it's now worth 7 million. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Who cleaned that huge house when you were growing up? Did you live in squalor or did your mom spend all day cleaning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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It's not that big -- location, location. Mom cleaned, cooked and had a full time job, not that different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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LMAO only losers think of their 1st residency as an investment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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what planet are you on? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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are you British? don't know anybody who isn't who considers the main residency an "asset", it's just their home instead that for sure goes to their kids. seems like the British are more into selling it to finance their retirement than to passing it down to their kids, which is the obvious thing to do in every other culture I know of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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NP: we make 300 and our primary residence is worth 1.7mm so it's absolutely an asset to us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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"no hired help" sounds like you grandfather was a decent man who married a very resourceful woman. Congrats to him!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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was he born in USA? if so, where were his own parents born in? that might be the clue towards a less status-driven consumption pattern than the anglo-saxon boomers engage in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Asians and Nordics are much less into showing off than say, the English that are very real estate-obsessed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Get a hobby, weirdo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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this used to be true, but knows several chinese in finance, they are the worst show offs when it comes to housing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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I've seen this also, wondering why are the british so obsessed with real estate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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but i'm not british [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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OP: Both were born in US, as were their parents. His wife (my grandmother) had a few luxuries (a fur coat, a trip to Europe after DCs went to college), but they lived a pretty Wonder-bread life (by today's standards). I can only imagine how shocked they'd be by todays hyper-consumeristic, out-source everything culture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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"todays hyper-consumeristic, out-source everything culture" bet it'd be a total turn off to them. the weird thing is that Americans are doing this while giving up their safety net. Saving nothing, getting into a ton of debt, even planning on not paying down their mortgages. Pathetic in many ways, because it's self-inflicted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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catching up with the Jones in the most sheepish way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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And mine wasn't CEO but had a weekly housekeeper and an after school sitter (mom was a SAHM) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there any way to get rid of bad karma associated with an object? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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stop believing in karma [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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Yes, stop being superstitious. We are not in the dark ages. Viola! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Throw it away? [ Reply | More ]
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Wash it with Downy...the curse will go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a friend and I really like her and my DCs like her DCs. But. She was fully supported financially by her parents and then she married very young into a super wealthy (and generous) family who pays for her family trips, Park Slope townhouse, kids' private school. I've noticed that when I'm around her she's 'thankful' if I buy something for her but the assumption is always always that I/DH have to pay for her. She's so infantalized and so is her DH. Example: last four group dinners with just the grown ups her and her DH conveniently have to leave early, before end of dinner, and just put what they 'think' they owe toward the bill in cash in the middle of the table. Four times in a row this has been done and never has it been enough to cover their meal + expensive wine orders. I just can't deal anymore. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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That's very annoying and rude [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Slow fade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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I can't, because I'd have to slow fade a huge group of friends. These people are always invited. My only option is to refuse to pay for their undercut share and ask one her good friends (who puts up with this) to cover their share and get it from them later. Hate it. Cannot deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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Just pay what you owe. I would not put up with this. I would put my foot down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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This is why venmo is the best app ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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What is this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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your friends can pay you by clicking a few buttons on their phone. No need to "leave what they think they owe" on the table. Easiest thing ever. Look into it. Everyone under 30 uses this, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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I sure don't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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Ok... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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yes my college age kids use it (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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It's free and it only has ~800k total downloads. Stop advertising your app here. No one that I know is using it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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but it's like the only use of it. PP- Venmo is like Paypal with a better user interface- it latches on to your bank account and people use the app to pay each other for ad hoc events like the bill for restaurants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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I use it all the time, this stuff happens so often [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Great idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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^ OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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Not trustworthy. There are various articles about the security problems of Venmo. Just do a quick google for "venmo security." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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I would make fucking sure everyone in the group knew they hadn't paid their fair share and that it wasn't the first time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Everyone knows. These are old friends. Everyone is wealthy and doesn't care, or don't want to appear 'cheap' and so say nothing. We are not wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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^ also, the friend's DH happens to be very politically connected, so I think our wealthy friends are hoping to cash in on it someday. All very very annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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Ew, sounds like you need better friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Honestly these friends are people I've known for 25 years. I'm not dumping them because they married wealthy men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Wealthy people do not expect others to chip in, they invite and pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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Five wealthy families agree to meet for dinner. Everyone pays. No one is 'inviting' in these scenarios. The dinners happen too frequently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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This is OUTRAGEOUS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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+ 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Price of friendship. You have to deal with it if the others dont care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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OP: I agree with you. I guess I just have to suck it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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No, pay what you owe and when people say they are short $xxx, don't put in anymore. You can't afford it - or, you leave early too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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They are cheap assholes. It has nothing to do with their families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 09:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Goyard.. Tacky or chic? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Overpriced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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Barf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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I like - but am leaning towards the Hermes Garden Party instead (just b/c it will last longer). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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are they the same price? i thought hermes was much more expensive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.26.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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