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[ - ] Woman, 30, is arrested after slashing a Trump sign because it 'ruined her chill' 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:52 PM Flag
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Good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:06 PM Flag
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I checked that link: she was arrested for waving a knife and threatening the store owner with it. I didn't vote for him, but that's not constitutionally protected speech. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:17 PM Flag
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Perfect poster child for the hypocritical left [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:21 PM Flag
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It's a big world out there. Why bring this out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:51 PM Flag
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Exactly. I think that's why it made the news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Rent a nice walk up and garge the car nearby or leave the car at country home and get a doorman? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:51 PM Flag
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leave the car and get an elevator building (doorman is optional) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:54 PM Flag
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For me, a doorman is key. We get a lot of packages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:03 PM Flag
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How will you get to the house??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:04 PM Flag
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I don't understand what's either/or about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do you think it is that so many women feel comfortable treating their husbands so poorly? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:49 PM Flag
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maybe some husbands deserve it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:49 PM Flag
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+1 - My husband deserves every bit of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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you sound lovely. Why not just get a divorce before he dumps you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:01 PM Flag
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You have no idea what I've put up with and yes, I used to be quite lovely before he nearly destroyed all of my trust and hope. I don't get divorced because I have children and I maintain some distant hope of a happy family life. If he leaves, he leaves. I'll be just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:05 PM Flag
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What a nice environment for your children to grow up in. Take some responsibility for your life and get with it already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:16 PM Flag
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Oh, thank you so much! I'm so glad to have run into someone on here that knows everything! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:18 PM Flag
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They think men don't have feelings because men aren't as empathetic. But I think men feel the respect or not of their wives very intensely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:52 PM Flag
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+this but I wouldn't say they aren't as empathetic rather that they express it differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:04 PM Flag
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They think they can get away with it because he'd "never leave". A lot of women get surprised. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:57 PM Flag
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The idea that children come first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:04 PM Flag
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+ Every woman I know who treats her husband badly is over the top about snowflakes coming before her own needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:07 PM Flag
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Or presumably...his. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:16 PM Flag
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To be honest I usually see the opposite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:14 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:26 PM Flag
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Maybe it's just where I live, but I see this kind of thing all the time. Wife brags to her friends about the stuff she "makes" her husband do, she complains if he doesn't do what she wants him to do right now, and then she bitches to him about how he doesn't appreciate her enough. These guys are totally and completely henpecked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:27 PM Flag
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Hard to respect a man who'd tolerate that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:10 PM Flag
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yeah, that's the big problem in the world. women treating men poorly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:27 PM Flag
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lol, this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Received positive feedback for Dalton (they "loved" dc is what PSD said). How reliable is this, as in what are the chances of actually getting in? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.23.17, 07:44 PM Flag
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excited for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:45 PM Flag
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Absolutely! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:46 PM Flag
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Who knows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:50 PM Flag
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very reliable, but not a guarantee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:51 PM Flag
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I'm not trying to disillusion you, and I hope you get whatever school you want, but nothing has changed since DD was that age. That was the uniform response from almost every school" "they absolutely loved little Jayden..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:55 PM Flag
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ok, so how many accepts and how many WLs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:14 PM Flag
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It was so long ago: she's in HS now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:15 PM Flag
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NP: i have to disagree. my oldest is in 8th grade and i don't think AT ALL that was the feedback that was coming through PSD. that's the REAL feedback. if your PSD is telling you that every single school loved your dc, you either are the one family that has an extraordinary kid (it happens, though rarely) or she's blowing smoke up your a** and it will come back to bite all of you in the same spot. realistic feedback for most kids should include some positive and some negative or simply uninterested. THIS IS VERY DIFFERNT, from the comments the DOA might make to yo uat the parent interview, whihc is polite conversation and not feedback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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PP Then things have changed a great deal, not soon enough IMO, or we simply had an awful PSD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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i have 8th, 4th and 1st - so unless you mean your dc are even older than that, i don't think so. i know some PSDs don;t share feedback unless necessary - meaning NONE of top choices are interested but lower choices are, or more htan one top choice is interested and a choice between them must be made, or NO SCHOOLS are interested at all, or say a school is offering prek spot rather than K for a young dc, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:15 PM Flag
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sorry to hijack: does Dalton see old summer B-day kids who waited a year? We didn't apply this year for our late summer DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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They definitely take old summer kids but they may prefer to see them as young summers and tell them to come back, because they are very into case by case. You should apply next year though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:58 PM Flag
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Thanks! Curious to see why it is so loved on this board... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:00 PM Flag
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as a mother of a summer b-day boy at Dalton they love old summer bdays. You should ask your PSD to tell you when they want to see your DC. In my experience they won't even consider a July or August boy. June is on the fence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:17 PM Flag
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ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 03:19 AM Flag
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We have an old June girl in our K class. She's also very tall, verbal and bright so it seems like there is a 3rd grader in the room. So weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 03:50 AM Flag
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That's annoying. If she's that verbal and mature, I'm sure she would have been fine in K as a young June. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:34 AM Flag
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I think your PSD should be able to tell you. I will say Babby is not known for being 100% reliable with this kind of information. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:15 PM Flag
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I would say chances are 75% which is a lot higher than they were when you started this process. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:40 PM Flag
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I agree with this, and if it's your first choice, I would think about a first choice letter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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Op: thank you. Already sent them a fc letter. Feb 10th can't get here soon enough! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:40 PM Flag
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pretty much say that to everyone. Wait for the "we loved x, except... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:14 AM Flag
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Not true. I know plenty of people who have gotten a flat out no from Dalton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:34 AM Flag
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majority get rejected. It is how the private school game is played [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 03:19 AM Flag
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Yes, I get that. I'm just refuting the pp who said that everyone gets positive feedback from Dalton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 03:32 AM Flag
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We heard the same and dc is now there. GL! Dalton is one of the more reliable ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] $15.00 for a whole organic chicken at TJ, WTF? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:40 PM Flag
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Economy of scale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:42 PM Flag
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This doesn't seem so high to me. I live in a much cheaper part of the country and that's similar to what I pay for it here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:43 PM Flag
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I live in fly-over. Can get a cooked rotisserie checking for $6. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:50 PM Flag
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Op. I'm in Chicago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:52 PM Flag
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np: not organic. we lived in arkansas for several years and while food was less expensive, organic/free range/grass fed was not cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:53 PM Flag
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I'm in St. Louis and our local store sells organic cage free rotisserie chicken for 7.99... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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No they don't. I'm from STL...family still lives there. What local store can you get them at this price? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:05 PM Flag
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LOL..no they're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:23 PM Flag
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np Where in flyover, and is it organic? I'm in Florida and you can get a non-organic for $7.99 at cheapest or an organic one for $10.99 at cheapest. The organic ones at Trader Joe's here cost $13 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:54 PM Flag
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her rotisserie shit is not organic. Organic chicken is $3.50/lb. minimum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:02 PM Flag
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Not an organic one. wtf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:02 PM Flag
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You cannot get an oganic chicken for that price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:06 PM Flag
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Gross. Can't stand that cheap rotisserie chicken smell. Horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:22 PM Flag
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Cheap. I'd wonder about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:52 PM Flag
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That isn't cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:54 PM Flag
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you have no idea how much actual organic chicken is, zero. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:02 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.23.17, 08:05 PM Flag
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Well it was a live eating breathing animal that had to be cared for once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:22 PM Flag
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We don't have rotisserie at our TJs (LA). Would love that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:24 PM Flag
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No one said rotisserie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:08 PM Flag
[ - ] 8-3/4 y.o. DD is developing breast buds. She feels uncomfortable wearing her school uniform shirts w/o a jacket to cover. (The shape is visible.) Not a practical solution. What can I do to help her feel at ease? TIA 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:39 PM Flag
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endocrinologist and bralette [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:41 PM Flag
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I don't think endocrinologist is necessary. This is very common in my 3rd Grade DD's class. Lot's of girls wearing those sports bras they sell for little girls at Old Navy, which I think do more to ensure coverage than those thin bralettes. My DD and her friends talk about wearing them but none seem concerned, or feel that they are maturing in some crazy way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:44 PM Flag
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Get her cami's in white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:48 PM Flag
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SHE IS 4 YO! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:03 PM Flag
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if by 4yo you mean almost 9,sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:12 PM Flag
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Reading Comp issues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:23 PM Flag
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In fairness WHO says 8 3/4 yo? Are we going to start saying she's 105 months old? It's a little silly. She's 8. Or "almost 9". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:43 PM Flag
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OP: Never speak like that in real life but thought it important to specify with a puberty-related question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:02 AM Flag
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This. Lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:35 AM Flag
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OP: her age is normal for this to happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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Is she chubby? It seems all the fat girls develop first. Have her lose some weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:50 PM Flag
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Shaking my head at the unnecessary meanness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:53 PM Flag
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Right. This is probably one of the same people talking about how mean Trump is and yet, can fire away about an 8 year old. Gotta love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:55 PM Flag
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OP: She's a skinny mini. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:00 AM Flag
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mine was and is very thin, and started young. remember this happening when i was a kid too and all my friends were thin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:36 AM Flag
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Bralette from Target. Or the sports bras. My daughter started wearing them at the same time and I thought it was way to early, but she was happy with them. Turned out she was not the only one in her class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:07 PM Flag
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My tiny 7 yo niece is the same. My SIL bought her cute little sports bras. She feels very grown up (eye roll) but it does the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:12 PM Flag
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Bralette might make her feel self-conscious, but maybe a camisole would help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:17 PM Flag
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shelf bra camisole underneath [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:28 PM Flag
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bra-lettte. Most kids in my dd's 3rd grade class (girls, obviously) wore them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:52 PM Flag
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get a bralette for tweens from maidenform or old navy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:35 AM Flag
[ - ] DH had talked a few times about a fantasy he has- me on the living room rug naked while he watches tv, with him allowed to come and do me whenever he pleases. I have to continue lying there naked for the rest of the time (a couple of hours)- should I fulfill this? Sounds harmless but lying on a rug for several hours does not sound very comfortable 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:39 PM Flag
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i think i would do it if the room were warm enough. and i had a blanket and a book or a laptop. otherwise kind of boring , no ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yes that's what I think. I ll be so bored. It's a mild dominance play I think, so it's probably the visual of me lying there all mild and ready for the taking that is a turn on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:45 PM Flag
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Depends on what TV shows he's watching. Football? I'd be bored senseless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:40 PM Flag
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Yes he would be watching football or some sport [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:53 PM Flag
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TMFI yak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:41 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:23 PM Flag
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Sure-he goes first. Let him spend hours on the floor naked, first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:43 PM Flag
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I would go nuts thinking about all of the things I could or should be doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:44 PM Flag
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haha this is me ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:46 PM Flag
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NP: "I could be decluttering! Hey... this rug... is it sparking joy to lie on it?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:53 PM Flag
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OR - haha.. totally. I would redecorate the living room at least 10x in my head just laying there doing nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:59 PM Flag
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I would be so so bored but sure, why not give it a shot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:49 PM Flag
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I would fall asleep! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:49 PM Flag
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What does he want to be watching ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:51 PM Flag
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One of the more benign fantasies I've heard of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:55 PM Flag
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He also wants to be drinking at the same time. A little less benign [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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How so. LOL you sound uptight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:00 PM Flag
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By drinking I mean 8-10 beers over the course of the night, not nursing a drink. He sees it as a wild hedonistic night where he gets to do whatever he wants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:08 PM Flag
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So his idea of a "wild hedonistic night" is a case of beer in his living room watching television and having sex. With his wife. Your husband is a square. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:17 PM Flag
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Ha, no he isn't. He dropped hints about whether he could do coke or weed during this night but I said no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:20 PM Flag
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yeah tell him to hold at beer, although if you want it over with let him smoke some weed and he'll just fall asleep mid fantasy. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:25 PM Flag
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Ask if you could be naked on the bed at least. But, could be fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:13 PM Flag
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How about just bare in general whether it's walking around the house or reading a book on the floor? Or is there an element of you literally not doing anything else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:16 PM Flag
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Is this question really something you need to outsource to a crowd? Either you're into it or you're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:17 PM Flag
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Can you be on UB while doing that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:24 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:32 PM Flag
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Sauce for the goose: put him in the straitjacket for a few hours while YOU watch TV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:44 PM Flag
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eh he won't last that long if YKWIM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o: what kind of lifestyle do you need to have for DC to avoid feeling "poor" at private school NYC? Will we really be in a minority if we don't have a country house, 5+ million home, fancy vacations, a driver, or is that just a small percentage of the class? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:36 PM Flag
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if you really care then there's your answer. we're at barely 300K and i couldn't care less. its not like a send DC to school dirty from the ghetto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:41 PM Flag
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you had me until that racist bit at the end there . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:48 PM Flag
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I didn't ask if you cared. I am curious from the child's perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:48 PM Flag
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only If the striver parents act this way - meaning YOU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:49 PM Flag
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You sound very adamant for someone who doesn't care. I've been there before and want to know how to handle it with my own kid. My parents were very laid-back and not strivers, and I ended up worrying about money my whole childhood. Wondering what to expect for my own kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Oh Lord. No. Not everyone has private planes, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:41 PM Flag
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From your question it's clear that you have a mindset of comparing yourself to others and a fear of being/feeling "poor," which almost guarantees that you WILL feel that way. No "lifestyle" is going to make you feel good enough, so you should start making radically different decisions right now. The parents attitude about their worth/self-worth is going to be the most important influencer on how a child perceives his/her worth/self-worth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:42 PM Flag
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You're misreading this. I am thinking from a child's perspective, mostly because as a child I felt poor at one of these schools even though I wasn't. Curious whether my kids will have same view. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:45 PM Flag
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Really consider why you felt poor... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:46 PM Flag
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Because my parents lived a low key modest lifestyle and most kids at my school did not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:46 PM Flag
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Depends on the private school you end up at. But all schools have very low income families and even at the TTs the ones with private jets and 3+ homes are in the minority. To avoid feeling "poor"? Probably $600k/yr per kid in your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:46 PM Flag
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We took DD out of private for a number of reasons, and one was the prevailing mindset. The 1st grade teacher had a map on the wall, so that she could draw lines with yarn from NYC to wherever on the globe each particular kid went for holidays. The 2nd grade teacher encouraged kids who had been away to bring class gifts to all of the other kids. If you hadn't been away, we were actually asked why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:58 PM Flag
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OP: this is my concern. With all the opportunities, I think this mindset is terrible for anyone particularly young kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:59 PM Flag
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which school was this? Do you mind sharing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:04 PM Flag
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It was a co-ed on the east side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:14 PM Flag
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eh. if i liked the school but didn't go anywhere, i'd ask for a blowup map of nyc so that they could map all the cool things they did locally. you can't be put off by people having more money. that will always be there. if it's the best education you can afford for your kid, then go for it, is my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:06 PM Flag
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this is sad. two DCs at two separate privates, and we've never encountered this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:13 PM Flag
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TT UES private here. We consider ourselves comfortably middle-class. Have a 3 bedroom UES apt, no second home, we travel/vacation with the kids, throw the typical birthday party etc. So my DC should not feel left out by any means. Found it comical at a parent social before the holidays, where the natural topic was what everyone was doing during break, and everyone was going skiing or on a beach holiday. Felt bad for the one family that was staying in town and had no plans as they probably felt left out. We have a school that actively tries to create a sense of equality at school so that helps too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:12 PM Flag
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this is so true. Most people go away during holidays, and I don't want my DC to be the only one who stayed in town. At every school, I believe they talk about their break to varying degrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:25 PM Flag
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My DCs specifically discussed in their TT private that some people went away and some people stayed home. I mean this in a good way - the teachers made a point to normalize staying home. We are fortunate to have the trappings but I grew up the "poor" kid at a very ostentatious private and it was really tough. Even now, though we are well-off even by the school standards, I work a lot so my kids don't have the privilege of a SAHM and we were in the city for one week of break, working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:31 PM Flag
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LOL. 3 bedroom UES does not make you MC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:27 PM Flag
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in this city, it definitely feels like it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:32 PM Flag
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NP: i don't feel left out that we don't go away. we both woh ft and do not have that much vacation time compared to school breaks. i find that this is the case for many of the dual wohp families. and our extended families are relatively local, so we aren't going to visit them in fl or arizona or ca or whatever. the funny thing is, tha ti hear more criticism of those who are always discussing their vacation plans than i hear anyone feeling sorry for those who do other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:49 PM Flag
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You will be in the minority if you don't have 2mm+ apartment and a summer community. Speaking as a person who went to these schools vs. a parent we all know who had what. The fact that a friend had a triplex on fifth while I lived in a townhouse near 1st was a non-issue. What bothered was when a lack of money excluded you socially because all of your friends were in ACK together or out west skiing. Also it made a difference if your parents weren't socially connected at the school to other parents but I think that can be an issue anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:27 PM Flag
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I can see how this becomes more of an issue as the kids get older. But I wonder is this still true? When I look at our class, there's 3 families (out of 20) who are wildly wealthy. The rest of us are all pretty similar in terms of homes/holidays etc. I wonder if the profile of who chooses to send their children to Manhattan private schools is changing to more middle class families who choose to prioritize education, but who are not wildly wealthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:31 PM Flag
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When I was growing up, skiing or even flying somewhere was a luxury completely out of my parents' reach. That is middle class. If you ski or fly somewhere warm over break, you are not MC. Many people (more than 3 families) in my DCs' classes travel over every school holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:33 PM Flag
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Travel in general has become more democratized. It's not just economics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:35 PM Flag
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Trust me the middle class in this country can't afford to travel over every holiday, and especially not if they are paying $42k in tuition per year. [ Reply | More ]
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We went to the caribbean/ BVI every spring. Plenty of families went to visit grandparents in FL. It wasn't looked down on it was just considered boring. Almost no one stayed home. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you. All I'm saying is that middle class does not mean flying somewhere for every school break. It never has, and it still does not. [ Reply | More ]
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There is definitely a switch in who attends these schools to some degree. My oldest is only in preschool but even at this point 90%+ has a summer community and a prewar 3 bedroom in a nice coop or nicer. [ Reply | More ]
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not finding this to be the case. As schools seek more diversity (of every form) it's no longer WASP families who are filling the seats. [ Reply | More ]
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I am a wasp and I am at probably the waspiest preschool so I'm sure that taints my view of things. Rather than focusing on the costs of the things I am describing the take away is that it is social experiences that the dc care about not the size off the apartment. [ Reply | More ]
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i think feeling that way is a matter of comparing yourself and either you are that person or you aren't. we send 2 dc to private, no FA, but w some assistance from grandparents. we live in standard 2BR/2BA apt and don't take fancy vacations. we both woh FT and i'd say that the fact that my kids are around for breaks and do not go to expensive camp or away for the summer is probably the thing THEY notice most. NONE of their friends have a driver. we are good savers and more frugal than others - so for example, my kids do not get to uber everywhere, they walk/subway/bus places. but they are by NO MEANS the only ones like that at school. [ Reply | More ]
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This is what we have found to the case at our school as well. Anecdote: went to my DC's classroom visit where everyone had drawn and written about something interesting they'd done recently, and DC has written proudly about going to Costco with me and loving all the samples. OH MY GOD. I was a bit mortified but many parents amiably pointed it out and laughed at how they also enjoyed the Costco samples. Guess it depends on the school but we wanted to be at a down to earth school and that's how we've found our school to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:45 PM Flag
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It also depends on the kid. My kids can go on a great vacation and swim and do all kinds of things and when you ask what they did, they'll tell you they got to go to McDonalds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:53 PM Flag
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NP Same here. We took DD to Paris when she was four (for a wedding) and the highlight of the trip, for her, and all she still remembers is the little basket of hard candies in the hotel room. [ Reply | More ]
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We make 1MM hhi, country home, yearly trips to Europe and the Caribbean. Two DCs in private. With all of that, DC still wants to know why we live in an (admittedly) small apartment. DC quickly replied, "Oh yeah, because we don't have enough money!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:01 PM Flag
[ - ] This press conference is great 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I just turned it on. How's he doing compared to Saturday [ Reply | More ]
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He is saying " I don't know" a lot. [ Reply | More ]
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it's day 1, ffs [ Reply | More ]
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Well it's an improvement from lying his ass off. [ Reply | More ]
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"Alternate Truth" is not the same as lying. [ Reply | More ]
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So you're not sick, you're just in an alternative state of health? [ Reply | More ]
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It's lying and the press is finally finding its balls and using the word. Lie. Lie Lie. Lie. [ Reply | More ]
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He's being far more articulate than the other day. That was just bizarre [ Reply | More ]
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Coke. 72 hour binge. [ Reply | More ]
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No worse than Josh Earnest ever did - quite well [ Reply | More ]
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Huh. He's smiling. All I saw of him was yelling and anger. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh they went to the inauguration question [ Reply | More ]
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He's now spending part of this press conference explaining what the hell happened the other day [ Reply | More ]
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np: Did he say Steve Bannon ordered him to do it thinking that like Putin he could cow the press and he didn't know it would backfire? [ Reply | More ]
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Who cares. I want to know what is he doing to stop illegal immigration and cut down on H-1Bs [ Reply | More ]
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Trump just applied for a few hundred of those for workers for his properties, FYI [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. Did he really? [ Reply | More ]
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They don't even give that many. [ Reply | More ]
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np: This is a very diverse board. Somebody knows something. [ Reply | More ]
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He looked like he'd been on a 72 hour coke binge the other day. [ Reply | More ]
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He really did. I'm somewhat relieved to see him look more normal today [ Reply | More ]
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what is he saying? [ Reply | More ]
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It was like an hour long [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] S/O: If you could remember every moment of every day of your life (recorded phenomenon for some people), would it change how you lived your life? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes, I cringe at many things I did. [ Reply | More ]
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me too. [ Reply | More ]
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I know I have a bitchy streak, and I struggle with a lot of regret about how I've behaved. If I could remember every single instance, I think I would have stopped that behavior immediately, or never let it get out of control, because it is mortifying. Also one nighters I'd have avoided, embarrassing relationship moments. Guilt & Shame really are important behavioral modifiers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Taking dd to a doctor's office for teen facial. Am I expected to tip like it's a spa? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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WTF. Just take her to a spa for a facial. A doctor's office?? [ Reply | More ]
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medispa? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:27 PM Flag
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OP: I thought doctor office is better? She is not looking to get a massage. She just wants extractions to get blackheads out. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see why it would be better. It doesn't take a brain surgeon to extract blackheads. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Maybe but that's not the point. I am just wondering about tipping etiquette. [ Reply | More ]
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you don't tip doctors [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:32 PM Flag
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Some of us have problematic skin and need the expertise of a doctor. If you are not one of those people, be happy. [ Reply | More ]
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np: is the doctor doing hte extractions or a nurse? or maybe even an aesthetician? i go to a medi spa and any service performed by the doctor you do not tip on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:50 PM Flag
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Lol right, because why go to a DOCTOR when you can go to someone with their cosmetology license... [ Reply | More ]
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I would think not because you are paying for a medical procedure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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No tip. I prefer to go to derm as well. I think it's better for my skin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:38 PM Flag
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What a prior poster said: you don't tip doctors and nurses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:56 PM Flag
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Or teachers. Or clergy. Or dentists. Or coaches. Or the Rehab disciplines (OT, PT, SLP, etc.). Or shrinks. Memorize this list, Nouvous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Depression is back. The sadness, sleepiness, avoiding all but the most essential commitments, cycles of avoidance/guilt. I know how to take care of it, but it's so easy to give in. And I feel guilty for letting it happen at all. I'm going to be okay; I'm going to be okay; I'm going to be okay. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:24 PM Flag
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Are you married with kids? Where's DH? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, 2 dc, 3 1/2 and 18 mos. DH is here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:34 PM Flag
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Pull yourself out. I used to be like that and hate it now, can't believe I wasted so many years slipping in and out of depressive moods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:34 PM Flag
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I am sorry. I went through a major depressive episode when my two kids were your kids' ages. The stress of tiny kids, WOHM and being the breadwinner got to me. I saw a dr. and took small does of Wellbutrin and Prozac for 9 months which really helped. Practice self-care and don't be so hard on yourself. You will get through this. Hugs [ Reply | More ]
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This was me. It did not get better on it's own, eventually it got worse. Are you on medication? Will you consider getting some? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have older girls at Brearley? I felt like the girls seemed stressed but of course they all come out with a great education. But I don't want that if my DD is going to be a stressed out mess by the time she's in HS. We got very positive feedback on her visit (I guess they do some testing), but DH and I are waffling because it may be too competitive. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:24 PM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:24 PM Flag
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Unless you're a billionaire or dd is a golden unicorn and she's getting into Dalton or Chapin, you would be insane to turn down Brearley. Anywhere else will be just as stressful (HM, Spence) or a huge drop off in quality of education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP here. I don't think there is a huge drop off in terms of Brearley versus Spence (where we also got good FB, but I heard it's unreliable), and Nightingale, CSH and Fieldston. I *do* think it's a step down at Hewitt, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:28 PM Flag
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^^and by Fieldston I mean Ethical Culture (I tend to think of the HS part of the equation) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:29 PM Flag
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OR. I don't think there's a huge drop off between Spence and Brearley. I think the schools that are just as good, like Spence, are also pressure cookers. I disagree that NBS, CSH or ECFS are close to the quality you'll get at Brearley but that's JMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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I think there is a very big difference between NBS and Hewitt! [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. Big drop after Spence and Chapin [ Reply | More ]
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Does Spence give unreliable fb? [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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this and they won't accept her if she can't hack it [ Reply | More ]
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Shes four. They have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:41 PM Flag
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former K-8 classmate of dd. Doing fine but has very little life out of school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:27 PM Flag
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OP here. What grade? Wondering when it gets harder and harder. [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you so afraid of hard work. Are you a SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
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You're obnoxious. I doubt you are the first OR. I went to a great school, but there was no cut-throat competition. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:35 PM Flag
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She transferred in at 9th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:42 PM Flag
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"Too competitive." Snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:30 PM Flag
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My DD is in 11th grade. It is incredibly intense (as are all the top HSs), but she loves it. By HS, any girl who is hard working, serious and academic will work hard at any of the TT schools. If your DD doesn't want that, she can always transfer for HS (as many girls do). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. Thanks so much for your response. Do you remember by any chance how many girls transferred in at 8-9th grade? I am wondering if she starts out someplace else, but ends up being very driven, whether she can realistically apply in in HS. [ Reply | More ]
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np: on average, the girls schools tell you that 1/3 to 1/2 the graduating class have been there since K. i think a really driven accomplished student who want to switch TO Brearley in 9th grade has a good chance. most students are looking for co-ed in HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:23 PM Flag
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When my daughter entered 9th at Chapin, there were only 6-7 other new girls. There are not a lot of spots open for the top SS schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:39 PM Flag
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WELL over half the class at Brearley entered in K. Above poster who says 1/3 to 1/2 is way off. Maybe 10 -12 get admitted for HS?? But that includes Prep for Prep. [ Reply | More ]
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it really varies by year, but that's what all 3 schools told us on the tours. keeping in mind that all 3 fill attrition spots along the way as well as admit at 6th, 10-12 for HS sounds about right (that's about 20% of the class). but some years have more attrition than others, really depends on a lot of factors such as class cohesiveness too. [ Reply | More ]
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The point is that they probably have applications from 75 girls who are capable of doing the work at a high level and admit far fewer. You can debate the numbers, but at ANY TT, a HS acceptance is far from a sure thing. [ Reply | More ]
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I went to tt for k-12. It is very stressful, which is fine for some kids, but not for others reagarless of intellect. Some of the brightest kids were miserable and some of the weaker students loved it. Do what's best for your kid and don't be afraid to make a change down the road if needed. It's easy to get sucked in. [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. Thanks. Appreciate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:46 PM Flag
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My view was (and still is) that you do NOT want your DC at a TT high school unless they could get in at 9th grade. I sent both DCs to K-8 and now they are both at Trinity and doing really well, but they were very well prepared for the intensity and chose to go to a very competitive school. Hard to say if your DD is a good fit for Brearley HS when she is 4 and getting counseled out will feel like a failure to her no matter what you do or say. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I completely agree. People say "you can always leave" but by 5th/6th or 8th, kids know if they are leaving for an "easier" school and there is a feeling of failure. Now I know the counterargument is, even very qualified kids may not get in at 9th because of limited spaces at Trinity. But if your kid is smart and narrowly misses Trinity, they will get into another good school, maybe '2T' but they can still go to a great college. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA that you don't want your DC there for HS unless they would meet the qualifications for HS. Yet, like anything, it is very competitive and MANY MANY kids who can easily do the work will not get in. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you share the "very positive" feedback? Would be helpful to put our PSD's feedback in context... Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:16 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I become an entertainment writer? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Go to st anns [ Reply | More ]
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I'm looking to gossip, isn't saint ann's about high art? [ Reply | More ]
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Write a script and produce it yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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No, I mean I want to write for US Weekly or People Mag [ Reply | More ]
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Start with an internship [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Have a family member already in the business. [ Reply | More ]
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Start by writing for an online publication. They are always looking for entertainment writers. You may have to do it pro bono for awhile. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Confession: I just started watching Game of Thrones, and I find myself strangely attracted to the dwarf (Peter Dinklage). Anyone else? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yeah, he's hot [ Reply | More ]
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He's married to a regular person with kids. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, you can only find attractive unattached, childless men! Otherwise you are breaking the rules! [ Reply | More ]
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He has a ton of charisma. He's very handsome, and confident and self-possessed. [ Reply | More ]
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I want to be like this [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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He went to Delbarton! [ Reply | More ]
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His character is very smart. Smart is sexy [ Reply | More ]
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Did you see The Station Agent and Elf? He's a very good actor with a beautiful face. You sound normal. [ Reply | More ]
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I think Death at a Funeral, too [ Reply | More ]
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He stays in our apartment complex when working in Toronto. Married, very cute daughter, always friendly and gracious. And yes, attractive in his own way. [ Reply | More ]
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I've seen him and his wife together in Brooklyn. He was on his scooter, a big scruffy looking and had an arrogant scowl. But yes, handsome. [ Reply | More ]
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You have to love the character of Tyrion Lannister, one of the most fully developed characters in the books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I live in an area with a Sept 1st cutoff for K admission (public school). DS has an August birthday. Obvs its a child-by-child situation but what would/did you do? Most feedback/opinion we received from teachers/friends had been to hold back/redshirt esp if it's a boy. Mons who held back, are you happy you did or do you regret it? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I didn't with my kids [ Reply | More ]
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will he be 5 in august ? [ Reply | More ]
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I did with my son who's now in 2nd grade. He would have been fine being pushed ahead and his K teacher actually encouraged me to send him on to 1st grade. I just thought that over the long term, the extra year would be beneficial - taking into account middle school, going to college, etc. I think the one down side, which I didn't anticipate, is that my son is very aware of the situation. A lot of people say "Oh, you're 8. Third grade?" He seems to get embarrassed and he's remarked to me that he should be in 3rd grade. There are other kids in his class that are his age, so that helps. Almost everyone I talked to about this - including teachers - said that I would likely not regret holding him, but that they knew a lot of people that regretted not holding back. I guess time will tell. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have a choice? We don't in NYC. Your dc will be fine. What's not fine is sending a late December b'day (for all kids). The evidence supports a 5.0 cutoff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:28 PM Flag
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Suburban schools give you the option. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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My DD will be 5 two weeks before the Jan. 1 cut-off for a Connecticut suburban. what do you think about this. Not sure ...she seems ready. she's already writing her name now. she turned 4 in december ( obvi). [ Reply | More ]
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Tough one. Really depends on the kid. I know kids who ended up having to repeat K in this scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:39 PM Flag
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^^In all cases, it was due to social and/or physical immaturity, NOT academic issues. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks...she's definitely socially ready ...alternatively i think she will be bored to tears if she stays in her Private Pre-K another year. wish there was a "middle" ground... [ Reply | More ]
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Why would she be bored in pre-k? Don't they do things like fingerpaint and shit? How is that boring [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a November birthday (started K at age 5 turning 6). I have 2 ivy degrees and am very successful. I was a straight A student all through school. I never once thought "I wish I were in the grade above me." I was bored to tears all throughout school, but 1 year would not have made a difference in that regard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:49 PM Flag
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My DS's birthday is 2 days before the cut off and I didn't red shirt. This grade is definitely the right fit for him (8th grade now). Turns out that, among other things, he's going through puberty on the younger side so he's actually one of the tallest in his grade. He also seems more emotionally mature than his average peer. So I think it would have turned out to be a big mistake to hold him back. [ Reply | More ]
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np - i think the problem is you don't know this in advance. had he gone thorugh it on the later side, being young would have been more of a problem. my kid is late to puberty and one of the youngest in the grade and MS was tough. not a reason to redshirt, but just saying it's as much of a problem as the other side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:58 PM Flag
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I have never heard anyone regret holding back an August birthday. However, I do know people who regret sending dc ahead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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My ds is early February b-day in nyc (December cutoff) and I wish we had the option of skipping him ahead. He is in 8th grade and I still feel that skipping would have benefited him. You are right as I wouldn't consider holding him back so it's really a self selecting group [ Reply | More ]
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Why would it had benefitted him? In what way? For boys, this is a huge disadvantage once they hit puberty...especially if involved in school sports [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:38 PM Flag
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It would benefit him to be challenged a bit academically and also socially he is more mature than most boys even now. He is in 8th grade so already going through puberty. I don't think this would have been an issue if he was one grade ahead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:47 PM Flag
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^ started puberty in 6th grade [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. That makes me feel better. I held him back, his birthday is the first week of August. I am doubting my decision b/c the last couple of weeks something clicked and he is reading and doing more math than I anticipated. I hope he's not bored next year. Plus he's on the short side. Every teacher and teacher friend has said they can pick out the late summer birthday kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:43 PM Flag
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If he's bored, they will give him more/extra work. That's never the problem. You don't want your kid to be socially and physically behind his peers. I think you made the right decision [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:44 PM Flag
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my nephew was held back and the whole family regrets, was socially behind at 4, but by 6 he was a giant and too smart and bored in school. he's in high school now and still complains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:44 AM Flag
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I don't really understand redshirting, you don't have to be the biggest smartest kid in class (late fall DS here in NYC public) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:35 PM Flag
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Both of my kids have August birthdays (different years). I held one back because she was very immature, and I do not regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:35 PM Flag
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i've never heard of long term regrets for holding back. i think for some it was probably not necessary, meaning it would have been fine either way, but i never hear a parent who says "i wish i hadn't done it". i've heard many parents say "i wish i had". i think you need to assess YOUR dc, as they are at 4yo and make a decision. if they are really ready for K both academically and socially, don't hold them back "just bc". but if you see any issues at all, even that they seem young compared to their peers, then reconisder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:00 PM Flag
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What is he rushing to? College, work? Hold him back. Let him be more mature, a little taller, more ready for everything. Think about MS and HS. Ready for tougher HW, ready for HS sports, ready for socializing with girls. My DS has a November birthday. He is on the older end of his class. He has done very well academically and socially. Great for competitive sports! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:01 PM Flag
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If you can, by all means hold him back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD. Have an old "friend" from college who condescending and says things to put and cut me down in front of other friends when we are all in a group. I have to see her semi frequently. We are not close, but have the same circle of friends. Would you ignore or say something? also- why do people do this? i am not rich, fancy, or smarter than her or anything like that. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:17 PM Flag
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I would ignore, but that's just me. I hate that sort of petty stuff. I would also not count her as a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:18 PM Flag
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If you are right there, just repeat her words slowly with no emotion, maybe a slight smile. You throw the ball back at her and she gets to hear what she just said. and now it's her turn to say something. DH sometimes says annoying things (not insulting though) and I started doing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:22 PM Flag
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Look very hurt and say "Donna, I'm sure it wasn't your intention, but that really hurt my feelings." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:22 PM Flag
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Or, I would just look at her and say " Did you really mean to say *that*"? She's not your friend. Put her in her place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:25 PM Flag
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This, but a little less dramatic. "Wow Donna, that's kind of a rude thing to say." or "Ouch, thanks Donna." And then, this is the trick, just let it sit there. Don't make a big scene, or be an over the top bitch, and definitely don't backtrack, but just put it out there that you picked up what she was putting down, and wait for her to come back with an apology. She'll be the one to look back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:27 PM Flag
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yeah, i think i will just ignore. Its too much energy to deal with. I will just make sure i don't really talk to her and stay far away when we have to be together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:28 PM Flag
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Ask her for clarification. Point by point what she means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:29 PM Flag
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No, she will then go talking behind her back "Did you see Sally get so upset? Can't believe it, so thin skinned" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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I'd challenge her right to put me down. In front of other friends and when you are all in a group. These people must be wondering why you have waited so long. Why? because you permit it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:32 PM Flag
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can you give an example? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:50 PM Flag
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Turn it back on her. Reply "ouch" or "why would you say that " in front of everyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Why is there so much cursing on this board all of a sudden. And no, it's not a sign of intelligence. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:16 PM Flag
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Studies disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:17 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:23 PM Flag
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And honesty! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:25 PM Flag
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It's not an indicator of low intelligence, though, either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:17 PM Flag
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poor impulse control, not smart enough to come up with better ways of expressing disagreement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:30 PM Flag
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Np: sometimes, you need a curse word to let everyone know how passionately you feel about something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:31 PM Flag
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Yippee Kay-A Motherfucker! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:37 PM Flag
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What exactly is a better way to express myself when I have to slam on the brakes in my car? Oh my goodness you just gave me a fright? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:36 PM Flag
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We're talking about when you're typing on this board, not when you're alone in your car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:44 PM Flag
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What's the big deal? Maybe join a board that's filtered if you can't handle cursing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:51 PM Flag
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By "cursing", do you mean profanity? obscenity? or actual cursing, as "May all of your chilldren be sterile", etc.? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 08:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Bernie Sanders pounds the table in support of Trump trade actions 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:16 PM Flag
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See the Sanders twitter feed. He says " I will work with Trump on trade " [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:17 PM Flag
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Bernie / Ivanka. Winning ticket in 2024 You heard it here first [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:17 PM Flag
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That would be an amazing ticket but Bernie will be dead in 2024. He's like 106. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:28 PM Flag
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I wouldn't vote for Ivanka. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:33 PM Flag
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Bernie calls the Democrats " Tools of the Koch Brothers " Democrats want open borders. Trump and Bernie are against open borders [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:18 PM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
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Your links always prove the opposite of your rants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:24 PM Flag
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Nah. Hillary was in favor of " Open Borders " and Bern was against [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:26 PM Flag
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Hillary isn't a factor now, why do you continue to bring her up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:32 PM Flag
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Bernie walked back his position against open borders when facing the political correctness of the left. If he had had the courage to against this, he would have tapped into the working class Democrats who transferred their allegiance to Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:35 PM Flag
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With his shoe? Pounding the table only counts if you use your shoe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:20 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 07:23 PM Flag
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