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[ - ] Sil told mil she won't come to Easter because I always have a new car or something to make her feel bad. I wear nothing but black casual clothing, don't even bring a purse with me so as not to be showy. What else can I do? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Your MIL should not have told you that. Not nice (to either you or to her daughter). The woman clearly had boundary issues. [ Reply | More ]
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I asked why we haven't seen them in so long. She didn't want to tell me. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh and we are both her DiLs. [ Reply | More ]
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So you have boundary issues. If you want to know, ask SIL. Don't gossip with MIL. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok. Sil and I don't speak on the phone. [ Reply | More ]
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what, wait - you don't speak to her but you somehow invited her to Easter dinner? do you only email each other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 10:07 PM Flag
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Do you always have a new something? [ Reply | More ]
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Np: MIL's jealousy is annoying. That is how you isolate people. [ Reply | More ]
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So you think it is really mil's jealousy? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes unless you are purposely being flashy, [ Reply | More ]
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No I'm not flashy at all. I think it may be because mil wants anniversary presents and parties and we don't bite at her hints. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe new shoes?? We make sure we park far away from mil's house, they're the ones who always ask what car we have. It isn't like we have a Bentley. Normal cars. [ Reply | More ]
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That's ridiculous. You shouldn't have to park far away. They are punishing you for their own bad feelings? Why is everyone in the family accommodating them? [ Reply | More ]
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Sil was the first daughter in law. She had the first baby who she used as a pawn to get free babysitting, etc. she is also very competitive and brags about weird things like her grocery bill. I say nothing so that I can't get in trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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You guys have a very weird dynamic. Even the way you're complaining about her is weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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Yea I know. [ Reply | More ]
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np Who cares? If she isn't bragging about her stuff, sil needs to grow up and stop being such a baby. [ Reply | More ]
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lol, aren't you married to her son? tell DH to call his mother and find out what's up [ Reply | More ]
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Dh is so avoidant he would never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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then fine, MIL does not come to Easter - you will all be happier that she is not there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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can you read? it is SIL who won't come. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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you are correct, read it wrong - but sentiment still the same...SIL does not come to Easter, op can enjoy rather than dealing with the drama [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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Sil won't come to my mil's house. And while SIL really is a petty jealous person, I'm probably also being used as an excuse so they can have their friends over on Easter and not have to see mil. So that pisses me off too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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yes, that would piss me off, but at least you don't have to deal with her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:16 PM Flag
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Well, do you have a "new car or something" this year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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Blame the victim. Np. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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so what if she does?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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I don't know. I go shopping once a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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This is her issue, not yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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nothing you can do. She sounds like a narcissist.. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:02 PM Flag
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right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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wear something showy. It's Easter. BTW, what is your new car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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What kind if bag do you generally have? [ Reply | More ]
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Lv, Longines, Gucci [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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Autocorrect. Longchamp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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So it's not like a 40k bag. Weird that they think you're being showy with pretty normal bags. They sound crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Best and nicest Caribbean resort for families? Fun for kids but also fun for adults. A good pool a must! Thx 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Marriott Aruba. [ Reply | More ]
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I really liked Atlantis. I didn't think I would, but I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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HOw much are you willing to spend per room per night? and when do you want to go? Because there's $1200 a night best and there's perfectly fine for $300-400 a night. [ Reply | More ]
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We would be willing to spend that. [ Reply | More ]
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Carlisle Bay in Antigua is well set up for families [ Reply | More ]
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Turks and Caicos - Somerset [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] The amount of seriously sheltered people on this site is disgusting. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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+1 I have the urge to shake some sense into these people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Life will probably do that at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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I don't get it. Which posts are pissing you off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Cracks me up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Isn't this the charm of Urban Baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:39 PM Flag
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I read that as "seriously shattered" and that is true, too. [ Reply | More ]
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Cracks me up too. Caregiver here, with Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:49 PM Flag
[ - ] WOH Moms of 4 or more: Do you have 2 nannies? How do you make it work? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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I have a nanny from 8-6, and a housekeeper from 3-6. The housekeeper can also watch a kid or two. I then have someone who comes and cooks 5 dinners once a week. Weekends - we are solo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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How much does each cost? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:04 PM Flag
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The five dinners is $50 an hour, takes her 2 hours, so $100 plus the ingredients. Nanny is $13 per hour, housekeeper is $10 per hour. Sometimes the nanny leaves at 3pm btw - then it's me and the baby and the housekeeper - sometimes the other kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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May I ask what field? I am preg with my fourth and thinking of going back to work in a few months, but not sure I'd it's feasible. Even with help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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I'm in finance - in a crazy intense job that I enjoy. Of course it's feasible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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My oldest is 5, but maybe with the right schedule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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I had to get pm housekeeper/helper with 3rd. It really really depends on the age of the kids. I my kids where 10, 8, 5 and db then I and 1 nanny could handle. 3 kids under 4 are a different story [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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op. Did you WOH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Are you having twins? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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op. Yes. And I have a 3 yo and a 1 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:09 PM Flag
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Wow. Good luck. Sounds like you'll have a very full and hopefully happy home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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op. I am terrified. I am still in shock that I conceived twins, dr said it's because I'm older (40). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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Congrats! It's going to be great. Just get lots of help and do not feel bad about it. These people need te money/work, and you need the help. A win win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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you will need 2 nannies unless you want a solo nanny to toss a kid out a window [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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Can you afford 2? If so it would be best for everyone. Even if one is part time and more of a housekeeper/helper (errands etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] We went roller skating yesterday at Lakeside. I expected it to be packed but it was basically us and a bunch of Orthodox kids and that was it. are we the only Goys who didn't go away for spring break? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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We stayed home. First time in a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Where's Lakeside? Sounds like fun. [ Reply | More ]
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Prospect Park [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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They have roller skating? Awesome. I heard it will be a kiddie waterpark in the summer. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] TV show you regularly watch but wouldnt admit around sophisticated people. 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Me: dance moms and toddlers& tiarras [ Reply | More ]
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+1 dance moms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Me too, to both! [ Reply | More ]
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toddlers and tiaras is crazy! [ Reply | More ]
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Vikings [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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honey boo boo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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I'm pretty open about life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Reruns of Friends, Sex and the City and Everybody Loves Raymond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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I'd admit those. Those are good, quality TV. [ Reply | More ]
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yawn, middle america [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Wrong. West vil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:12 AM Flag
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I watch all three and was born and raised on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
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Ditto on sex and the city even though I have seem all of the episodes ten times [ Reply | More ]
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RHONY and RHOBH-some ashamed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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they both really stink now, right? [ Reply | More ]
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Once upon a time [ Reply | More ]
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housewives, american idol, the voice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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What exactly do "sophisticated" people watch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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They probably read instead. [ Reply | More ]
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Np: so ridiculous. I read and watch trashy tv. Just read the grapes of wrath among other books and love real housewives, southern charm, scandal, and extreme cheapskates [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Did you just label yourself as sophisticated? [ Reply | More ]
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Right, so you are not sophisticated. [ Reply | More ]
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pbs exclusively [ Reply | More ]
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This is my dad. Only pbs and the new years's day Vienna concert is his super bowl. [ Reply | More ]
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Right? The two smartest guys I know are addicted to stupid sci-fi TV shows. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG, this is so embarrassing. Teen Mom, 16 and Pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
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You win. [ Reply | More ]
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me too! can't believe how quickly I get sucked into the episodes. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too and mob wives. Catfish is my jam. [ Reply | More ]
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My Cat From Hell, Housewives [ Reply | More ]
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The Goldbergs, I love it so much [ Reply | More ]
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+ no shame! [ Reply | More ]
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Any TV is trashy to those people [ Reply | More ]
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Vampire Diaries. [ Reply | More ]
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I have no shame about my TV watching habits...the amount I watch is more embarrassing than the content. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 I always have the TV on [ Reply | More ]
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House Hunters [ Reply | More ]
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That's high culture in my book. [ Reply | More ]
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Battlestar Galactica, American Horror Story, Freaks and Geeks, Arrested Development [ Reply | More ]
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Anything on the CW -- star-crossed, the originals! [ Reply | More ]
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Say Yes to the Dress [ Reply | More ]
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Mountain Monsters on DestinationAmerica - I'm addicted to it and my husband makes fun of me for it [ Reply | More ]
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Man vs Wild [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] State your top three problems in your life right now. 145 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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I'm fat (not ub fat), my mother, my sister. That's about it. [ Reply | More ]
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Apartment too small, health issue (not life threatening), bad marriage [ Reply | More ]
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Are those interconnected? [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
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describe your apartment [ Reply | More ]
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Small [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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give me more info. how many kids, how many bedrooms? good organization can go a long way to making it better. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm an organizer, but thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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you clearly don't want any help. [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't ask for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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she likes her problems just like so many people - easier than actually doing something about them [ Reply | More ]
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No, I responded to a post on UB. I didn't start one or ask for opinions advice. [ Reply | More ]
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np - healthy people who have problems try to find a solution [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe she doesn't want to find a solution on UB. [ Reply | More ]
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np: give her a break. you're turning a post into something big. take care of your problems and she will take care of hers. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't feed the troll. She's off her meds [ Reply | More ]
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?? [ Reply | More ]
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np - healthy people who have problems try to find a solution [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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I tend to think so based on her one word answers. [ Reply | More ]
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WTF? Why are you picking on this one response? [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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np - her 3 answers sort of point to someone who might be depressed, and yes, people get comfortable with discomfort. OR is correct. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! An organizer and shrink all rolled I to one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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You put it out there. Good luck with your misery! [ Reply | More ]
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You are a nut. [ Reply | More ]
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she is the one who said she has 3 problems, not me... [ Reply | More ]
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
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That this responder is a nut [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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She clearly doesn't need your help. Small is often just small no matter the organization. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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She doesn't need my help but she does need someone's help. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you this insufferable IRL? Do you have Any friends? [ Reply | More ]
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Plenty of friends, thanks! I'm not the one who posted that I had any problems, fwiw. Just observing and now you're freaking out. [ Reply | More ]
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Np She was just answering the question of the post. She is probably solving the problems now. She didnt ask for help and youre being a total freak by jumping to all kinds of conclusions, troll. This is the "radiologist" isnt it? Go away!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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someone should choke you [ Reply | More ]
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what a thoughtful response. perhaps you need to examine why your reaction is so visceral. [ Reply | More ]
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Get over yourself. You obviously think you have all the answers, but 905 of us can tell you it's QUITE clear that YOU are in need of help. I bet you don't want our help either, do you? [ Reply | More ]
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Ignore this troll. She is clearly here to be ridiculous and pick fights. Goodbye TROLL [ Reply | More ]
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I'm fat, that's about it right now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:20 PM Flag
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My 7 year old still poops and pees in his pants every day and no one can help him; I am six months post partum, and look nine months pregnant, we have been working for 20+ years and still are paycheck to paycheck [ Reply | More ]
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:-( [ Reply | More ]
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There's gotta be someone out there who can help him [ Reply | More ]
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Open to all and any suggestions - have tried it all [ Reply | More ]
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i don't mean to sound as callous and ignorant as this is going to sound....but I've watched that show mystery diagnosis enough to believe that there is always some genius doctor out there who is going to help you find the answer. [ Reply | More ]
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can you give some more info so i can spend all my time looking into this...do you think it's a muscle problem, for instance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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No clue. Have seen every specialist in every hospital in NYC. No one cares. I think they don't believe me. Ds is always wet (not damp - like a full pee) and he poops a little each time - we smell it - take him to the bathroom where we see the poop. He sits and more poop comes out. The poop happens 3x a day. The pee happens every 2 hours. We change him on average 6x per day. [ Reply | More ]
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How does he go to school. [ Reply | More ]
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sounds emotional to me, he might not have as much ability to regulate his emotions yet. do regular things set him off? he might be scared about things you don't imagine could affect him. [ Reply | More ]
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We've tried the whole enema/miralax thing. Did not work. [ Reply | More ]
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Sensory Processing Disorder? [ Reply | More ]
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that is really an awful problem. must be so frustrating and disheartening, op! [ Reply | More ]
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Unemployed, unemployed, unemployed. Hoping to resolve this soon. [ Reply | More ]
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You are me. I don't know what to do with my unemployed self :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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me too! it's the pits. [ Reply | More ]
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Good luck to my fellow nonworking folks!! [ Reply | More ]
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GL! [ Reply | More ]
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Ty! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Been in that boat more times than I liked in the past 10 years. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
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Be glad you haven't started hooking like so many unemployed people out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Dead - end decent paying job, overweight, having a hard time coming up with a down payment for a house. Not real problems so overall life is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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lack of sleep. lack of energy. chaotic house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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None, other than needing to get exercising again. In a non-exercise rut. Other than that, I don't really think I have any problems. (But I might be delusional) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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go to soul cycle - got me out of my exercise rut [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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I am not a soul cycle type...one of my bffs loves it but I don't think it's my scene. I don't want to have to dress up to do a spin class and worry about if people can see my panty lines through my workout pants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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Try Flywheel? I resisted the spin craze for a long time. Had such a good time when I went. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks - I assume it's more laid back than Soul cycle? [ Reply | More ]
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I can't stand soul cycle -NP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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me too nnp. i don't like loud, hyped up exercise and don't like to be so close to other sweaty people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Unemployed (recently let go), medical problems, stepkid who is giving her dad and I major grief. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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drugs? (stepchild) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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No drugs. She is 18....has no initiative, goals or discipline....will not study for driver's license (has to be driven everywhere because she's too lazy to learn to drive), will not apply to colleges or maintain grades, is obsessed with food (she is 310lbs). Will not go to counseling and dh's ex (her mom) is a major part of the problem. She is 18 but has the maturity level of a 10yo....very stunted. We are at a loss and don't know what to do anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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a little tough love might go a long way, but your husband has to be on board since it's his kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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I completely agree....on both counts. I believe the tough love approach is very much overdue....I'm in a weird position because I cannot do it in place of her parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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not easy at all, sad that they are enabling her, hopefully in spite of them she'll grow up...lots of kids do with no help from the people around them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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she's not giving you grief, she's a hot mess. Tough love won't really help someone who is this damaged, IMO. It sounds very stressful for all of you but most of all for her. I would suggest to dh that counseling is not an option - that you will help her ONLY if she starts some therapy and a gentle exercise program. get her a trainer at your local Y. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:43 PM Flag
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^^ I mean that not going to counseling is not an option. This kid sounds like she needs help badly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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+1 she needs help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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She needs professional help. An in-patient program specializing in eating disorders would help her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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The problematic sub letter who is openly hostile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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i'm having a difficult time: getting a job, getting pregnant, buying a house, leaving new york, saving money for retirement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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We really only have one, and it's whether we should move to the suburbs. Have two DCs in private and can't quite make those ends meet anymore, and our district schools are terrible. So if this is our biggest problem, we essentially have no problems and I feel lucky in that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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it can become a big problem really quick if one of you loses a job, etc. i'd get out ahead of it and make a plan to move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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My top problem at the moment: I was raised in a violent household, and today I lost my temper in front of my kids, and smashed my son's favorite plate. Both kids started sobbing, husband apologized for pushing me to the edge (he had been super cranky and grabbed one of the kids roughly right before) and now I have a full day of work to do at the office and can't stop crying. I know all the tricks (leave the room when I feel overwhelmed, etc) but I am failing at breaking this cycle. I don't want my kids to grow up thinking breaking things is a way to deal with anger and frustration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Hugs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Its good that you recognize this. If you get angry at kids just leave the room. Dont even deal with them until you are ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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It sounds like you and your husband need family counseling. He roughly grabs the kids and you purposefully break their favorite plate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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My husband is resistant to returning, but yes, we need more family therapy. And we both have to ramp up our individual therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:52 PM Flag
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but you are breaking the cycle...you are thinking about it and working towards fixing it - long road, does not happen over night. be kinder to yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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It doesn't sound like it. I didn't see anything about her apologizing to the kids or making sure they're okay. Husband roughly grabs kid, instead of sticking up for kid, this makes OP mad so she screams at the kids and breaks son's favorite plate, so double punishment. And then husband apologizes for making OP mad. Nothing about caring about the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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imo, you are trying to read to much into it, or maybe i am but the fact she knows what she did and she knows the things she should be doing is a step in the right direction...not as doom and gloom as you see it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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OP here. I definitely did apologize to the kids, told them I'm sorry, grownups make mistakes, they should not handle things this way, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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+1. Maybe it would help to have one of those balls you can squeeze really hard so at least you'd have something to do physically in the moment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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OP thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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This. Its ok to slip sometimes. But it can also help to talk about it after with dc's. Bet thats something that never happened in you family growing up. Tell them you ard disappointed in yourself that you did that. Tell them its somethjng you are working on. We are all working on something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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You're not failing! If you were, you wouldn't feel bad about smashing the plate. My mom once threw a plate AT me which smashed on the wall behind me--so I totally know where you're coming from. It's really, really hard to break a pattern, but I think awareness is half the battle. Get yourself a nice coffee and relax for a bit before doing your work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Good luck OP and good for you for trying. Sounds like you're doing a good job overall. Parenting is a tough job. You'll apologize and they'll also learn that it is okay to make mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:19 PM Flag
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So sorry. I can relate. Wish I could help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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Wondering when he'll contact me. Great date two nights ago!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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Would you consider calling him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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I will if I don't hear anything by tomorrow. He's visiting his parents for the holiday weekend. I'm just anxious! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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awwww. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Elderly, sick parents who live far away. That's really it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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they live far away you're kind of off the hook. you probably have a sibling who lives near them who does everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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right! it's tough to have parents far away when having young kids and you see how useful is for others to have the grandpas nearby. but when they become elderly and needy, it becomes the other way around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:58 AM Flag
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My marriage is in trouble, a friend I recommended for a position in my office is not very well liked, I have to cook for 15 people on Sunday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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"I have to cook for 15 people" god no! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:58 AM Flag
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I'm fat. My job annoys me but I'm sole bread winner so can't quit/downgrade. My dh's health (not life threatening, but issues) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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Unemployed dh keeps getting second round interview but not the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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How many times had this happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:03 PM Flag
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Four times [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Only one, going back to work after 6 month maternity leave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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My kid are happy and healthy. It's all gravy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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Thank you, smart lady. I've been stressing about hiring maid after several bad ones, which made me feel like a jerk for getting so worked up. It's nice to put things in perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Underweight (recovering from a health issue), my trashy tattoo, terrible 2s... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:53 PM Flag
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1. Knowing the problems of the kids I teach (3rd world country) but not knowing how/being able to fix them 2. wondering what to do when I get home 3. my kindle broke this morning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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The FDA just issued a warning about a medical device used in a procedure I had several years ago b/c it can spread cancer, my boss is really stressed because I overpromised under delivered on a project, I'm feeling really unattractive lately [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Hysterectomy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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Myomectomy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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1) Guy I thought I would marry left me. 2) don't really have any goals, just sort of drifting through life 3) health issue (probably not life threatening but rare chance it could be) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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1.) I hate my abusive managers, 2.) I'm underpaid, 3.) Not enough time to workout because of #1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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wish I had the energy to bang DH at least every other day! too tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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old ED seems to rear its ugly head once in a while. do I really need to go back to therapy again?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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1- My DD autism 2- my mom's mental state (bipolar) 3- financial insecurity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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I have a bipolar sibling. It is really really hard, and so hard for other people to understand. Hugs to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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what's the worst part of having a bipolar family member? i'm afraid my dh is an undiagnosed one... how should i proceed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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Fat and cant get my big butt to gym. depressed. no job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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im fat, need to figure out how to help my mom (she is on disability and lives out of state) and how to permanently get away from mil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Not enough income, debt, fat. Also health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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bad marriage, working overtime (consulting) due to financial situation, HS kid not performing up to his abilities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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Wow, is ub actually a bunch of fat, unemployed people with mental health problems?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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S T F U [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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(YES) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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Debt, no career, and waning energy. If I didn't require 8 hours sleep, problems #1 & #2 might not be so much of an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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My stomach, my ass, my double chin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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Crippling knee pain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 01:41 AM Flag
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caused by being obese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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1) crippling depression, 2) DH in emotional affair... everything else in my life is pretty great so I'll have to go with the two freckles near my chin that I don't like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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Getting old, upheaval at work, insomnia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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big gut due to first pregnancy (diastasis) that can't get rid of unless surgery, no sex since first pregnancy, hate the 'hood we are living in as we have to shuttle kid around city to get to school, no time to work out as there is no gym in the building, not far in my career as envisioned. Sorry more than 3 problems but have been feeling all of this for years now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 04:33 AM Flag
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^^^can't sell apartment to move to more desirable area because of the crazy real estate prices and can't buy apartment in said desirable area because we're priced out.^^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 04:52 AM Flag
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not picking on you but just clarifying - you wrote "no sex since first pregnancy", and the way you put it implies that there was another pregnancy, which usually entails sex... does "no sex" mean "not much" or "none at all"? it sucks both ways, don't get me wrong, but there's a big distinction... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 05:08 AM Flag
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my teenagers, my teenagers, my teenagers. I had no idea this period of parenting would turn my hair gray and get me on lexapro before I killed someone. I had such stupid dreams of travelling with my teens at this stage, enjoying cultural activities together, bonding as they turned into adults... I had no idea how wrong I was. please someone tell me this doesn't last forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 05:10 AM Flag
[ - ] any suggestions on what milk alternative to feed by soon-to-be one year old who has a dairy and egg allergy? I'm currently breastfeeding, but hope to wean soon after 1 year. I am thinking coconut milk, but should I be looking at non-dairy toddler formula? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Mine likes almond milk. Good for calcium, but no protein. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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I don't think there's enough fat in almond milk. Toddlers need fat for brain development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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feed him an avocado to supplement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP - fwiw, he is eating an avocado a day in addition to other random vegetables. it's been a struggle to figure out what to feed him due to the dairy and egg allergy. DS1 lived on greek yogurt and eggs at this age! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Does goat milk count as dairy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Yes. Most people allergic to cow milk are also allergic to goat milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:00 PM Flag
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Ask your pediatrician!! What does he/she say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:55 PM Flag
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haven't talked to the per about this yet. We just confirmed the milk allergy last week at the allergist, and she didn't have a suggestion other than to visit a nutritionist (which we probably will, but have not made that appointment yet either). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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Nutritionists are also not great with food allergies, in general. They deal more with picky eaters and obese kids. The person you want to see is a good pediatric allergist. Are you in NYC? Go to mt Sinai. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:10 PM Flag
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I did go to a pediatric allergist on the uws. But I guess I should just wait out the 6-8 weeks it takes to see someone at Jaffe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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I am poster from below. Pediatricians are surprisingly clueless about kids dietary needs in situations like this. Of course it's good to talk to them but it's not really their area of expertise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:01 PM Flag
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Vanilla Silk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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Contains sugar and soy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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np: yes it does. however, it is the ONLY milk "substitute" that my dc found palatable and I'd rather he have the calcium and fat (though it's not so high in fat) - than nothing at all. he hates avocado (scrapes it off his tongue), and is also allergic to eggs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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I was in this exact sane scenario with my first dd. This is tricky. They don't really need a milk but they do need enough fat, protein, calcium and vit D in their diet. Milk is just an easy way to do that. Formulas (like soy, or alimentum, etc) have a funky taste and most older babies don't like it if they haven't been drinking it all along. But that's ok. You can use rice, almond, soy, coconut, hemp or oat milk for cooking, baking, cereal, etc. Those do not have enough fat or protein to replace whole cow milk to you have to look at the rest of her diet. Make sure every meal includes meat or a big protein and something fatty. Give vit D and calcium supplements. I used to use this supplemental drink called Ultracare for Kids (http://www.metagenics.com/mp/medical-foods/ultracare-for-kids) when my dd had trouble gaining weight. It really helped us. Good luck and let me know if you have any other questions! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:59 PM Flag
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Wow. Thanks for the thorough response. Did you have any go-to meals or things that worked well if you had limited time? Seems like all he eats is avocado, sweet potatoes, toast with almond butter, and whatever meat / fish we have around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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I put oil on everything - olive oil, avocado oil especially. Coconut butter is great. Earths best "butter" spread is good. Pasta has lots of calories and some protein. All of the nut butters are good. You could try sunflower seed butter for variety. Does he like beans? My dd likes chickpeas and other beans straight out of the can. Enjoy Life brand makes cookies and other good stuff. There are tons of options. Check out the Kids With Food Allergies forum. You can ask questions there. I know it's confusing and scary at first but it will become normal. And remember you are not alone! Lots of other parents dealing with the same exact thing. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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Thanks - you are so helpful and encouraging! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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My pleasure! I was so anxious and confused when my dd was diagnosed. It was a really hard time for me. If your dd is ever having a hard time gaining weight, one thing I did was right down everything she are for a few days. Then I looked up the calories, fat and protein. It helped me gauge if it was her diet or something else. But that's not necessary if she's gaining weight just fine. If you have any questions, just ask. I will check back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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"Write" not "right". I'm not a morning person! Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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np: posted above - I just bought this. Maybe it will help my tiny ds gain some weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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We used an elemental formula -- ask your allergist what they suggest. I think a lot of kids do drink soy milk instead but I would absolutely talk to a pediatric allergist or dietitian who works with food allergic patients [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 09:48 PM Flag
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Fat, unemployed husband, car problems and I don't want to buy a new car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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Oops, wrong post....sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 10:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I saw the movie "Bears" last night. I felt so bad for the mama bear. She's trying to find food and protect her cubs. What a sh!tty life. Might be worse than mine. And I work FT, have 3 dc's, have an evil boss, clean my own house, and am still up all night with a baby... 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Do you recommend the movie? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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Yes - the whole family saw it, we liked it. Crazy week - we also saw rio2, Peabody Sherman and muppets. Our stacaytion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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How was Rio? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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I hope, at the very least, the mama bear has a nanny... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Seriously - what gives the papa bear the right to knock her up and then leaves her with these kids? He just impregnates her - she has no say. Then her whole life changes - breastfeeding and all.. Bastard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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She picks mate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Don't we all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:08 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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Yeah, but unlike me, mama bear is a total badass. Also - do you think the movie's ok for a not very sensitive almost 4yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Definitely -nothing bad happens, happy ending and all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] 9yo dd has been on a 3day sleep over with her bff. one night at their place, two at ours. It makes me nostalgic for my own childhood bff. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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they're both on break, don't go to the same school, I think it's great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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I don't think it's a big deal. Let the kids be kids. If they're having a great time go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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fun - i sometimes miss the sleepovers and no responsibility thing too. so much easier to keep and have friends when you have the time and energy to enjoy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Are people really using expensive child care as an example of how modern America is so hard? Are people really this sheltered? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, yes. Most of UB is in a little ott bubble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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a little? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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Sized to fit the many ED posters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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I don't understand your point. Did you not hear about the woman who was arrested in Arizona for leaving her toddler and infant in the car while she went to a job interview? I believe she was homeless and jobless and had no other choice but to leave them in the car. Now she's lost her kids and faces jail time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Aw, you're adorably idiotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Instead of your poor attempt at being a clever bitch you should have just explained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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IA - I do think expensive childcare is a major problem regardless of income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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^^^Perhaps it's not a good example of why life is hard but it is a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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That was a sad story that didn't get enough newsplay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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Heartbreaking. That poor woman. And those poor kids! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Finance moms can you please tell me what assets are considered "liquid" ? This is for the purpose of buying a co-op. Thanks! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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cash and stocks that are not in your 401k or IRAs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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Bonds too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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yes, good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Something you can readily sell for cash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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any money you have in education account...if you have LI you have access to the amount you've paid in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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They will reduce by taxes and penalties due on liquidation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Am I wrong here? My dh wanted 3 dcs and I felt I couldn't handle but gave in. Now I work ft have 3 kids and am home alone with all 3 every night accept weekends. We are at playground and I set down and asked dh to give me a break. In 10 minutes 3 yo fell off someplace 2x and 1 yo walked under and got hit by the swing my dh was pushing (3 yo was on it)I yelled at him and he acts like he did nothing wrong and he is just sleepy. I was angry and walked away 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Any blood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Scrape. No big deal but 1 yo already had a concussion this year and we where told to avoid at all cost. Swing hit could have been much worse and we got lucky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Then you are overreacting. Btw who was watching when concussion occured? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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go home and let him deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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I walked away am in the park but not with them. I just don't think he tunes in unless I am absent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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Wrong about what? Feeling overwhelmed? No. What happened at the playground? Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Can you tell me what I did wrong at playground? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Made a big deal over nothing. You aren't the superior parent. Guys do playgrounds differently from moms. Both are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:59 PM Flag
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It wasn't quick. He just wasn't paying attention lost in thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:01 PM Flag
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You aren't going to change my mind and I'm not going to change yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I would like you to change mine. I don't want to feel the way I do but I need breaks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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so take breaks, let your husband parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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Two different issues. Take breaks. Don't micromanage your relief. It's really stupid to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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I was sitting on a bench. He just zoned out because I am physically present [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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What do you want from me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:15 PM Flag
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i think you are controlling; kids fall off things and kids learn by experience - your 1 year old will be less apt to walk in front of a swing now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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I am the same but only 1 dc. I wanted none, dh begged for a child, said he would be there, yada yada. Not! Not home at night, distracted on the weekends. Thinks he's a great dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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It's 3. Too many [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Kids fall down, break bones, get stitches. No big deal. [ Reply | More ]
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Perhaps all of the other posters are trying to diffuse the situation - but I would be pissed- and it is a big deal about the 1yo because of the prior concussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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maybe 1 year old should wear a helmet at the playground to give peace of mind. My 12 year old niece did during gym and other activities after a severe concussion [ Reply | More ]
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You yelled at your dh at the playground? You are obviously wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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You need to discuss with him and take some time out for yourself at the weekend. If you don't tell him how you feel in a sane rational manner then he can't help. He thinks you're coping. If you only communicate these feelings when something happens like today then he just thinks you're mad over that incident. [ Reply | More ]
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You have to get past the part where you didn't want a 3rd DC. It will color all of your family interactions and create more problems. It's done. And it will be ok. But not if you continue to resent your DH when things get tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] fuck all y'all, I'm going mountain biking 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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The healthy choice. [ Reply | More ]
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Go on with yourself then, Hatfield. [ Reply | More ]
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durn tootin [ Reply | More ]
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in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
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Must be in west virginny. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 04.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Why does the population believe that their lives are so stressful/modern times are so harmful. It fascinates me how truly aloof and ignorant the majority of the population is in this regard. Do you not realize how lucky you are? Do you not understand that you are living in one of the easiest times in the history of the world, not to mention in a first world country. I truly marvel at this. Please try to have some perspective - UB "Grandma" 87 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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This is what my mother says. "You think 'microaggressions' are so bad, honey. Let's take a trip into history or really, a trip to anywhere else in the world. Get some perspective." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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I don't even know what that means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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It means if your worst problem is that people don't think you measure up socially or that your college isn't the best, your world today, particularly in the 1st world, is still better than what people had to deal with at nearly anytime in the past. [ Reply | More ]
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I meant the "micro aggression" part, which I guess is people pissing you off in a small way often. [ Reply | More ]
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I had to look it up, too :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:24 PM Flag
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Pretty much reads like my life. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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Why compare? People don't think their lives are more stressful comparing to their ancestors lives. Nonetheless, life can be stressful even when you have all the modern comfort. [ Reply | More ]
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ancestors' [ Reply | More ]
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Different stresses and nothing to compare them to. Living in the world of technology just hasn't been done before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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The snowflakes are coming home to roost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Well in Manhattan life really is more expensive. In most of america the average college grad can easily afford to buy a four bedroom four bath house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:45 PM Flag
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and that's another problem....manhattan has always been more expensive than everywhere else, why do people think they are entitled to live the same way in manhattan as they do in north dakota? [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Think a whole generation of people in the flyover states grew up watching Seinfeld and Friends and concluded that they too could move to Manhattan, get a shit job and live in a big apartment [ Reply | More ]
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does Kramer even work? This is a voluntarily unemployed guy living in a large Upper West Side apartment [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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probably a trust fund :) [ Reply | More ]
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He didn't have a large apartment. His living room was filled by his hot tub. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh wow, you can't afford a 4 bedroom apartment? Your life is so horrible! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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Now see this is where you are wrong. There are many, many places in Amerifa where one with a college degree and decent job absolutely can't afford a 4 bedroom house (not to mention that very few people actually need a 4 bedroom house) even here in the flyover states. Sometimes the general level of ignorance regarding people who aren't millionaires here is just laughable. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm with you another UB Grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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The journalists that set the agenda overwhelmingly live in the most expensive cities and they are green with jelly over their relatively low wages [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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They complain endlessly about the high cost of Manhattan and almost never move to places where they can live inexpensively [ Reply | More ]
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Some people on here aren't aware there was a Dust Bowl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Their maids clean all the dust from their bowls for them. ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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If your life is defined by getting DD in to an ivy then certainly life is harder. Used to be if you came from an old established family of property you could get in. Now the ivies are filled with new money and most old money families, even if DD attends Trinity, can not get in [ Reply | More ]
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I honestly think it has to do with how crappy our overall education is in this country. It started sliding in the 80s and has only gotten worse--people don't know history, they don't know enough about the rest of the world, they don't know how to think hard about difficult issues and worse, they don't want to. [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up in communist Russia. We didn't have a lot of modern things. Our lives where much simpler and easier day to day. I expect life was easier for most woman in the 50ies and 60ies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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choice does not have to be stressful - get a gripe on life and live it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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You are wrong. There aren't good social safety nets in place. People have to save for retirement, old people have to figure out complicated health plans, childcare costs are insane, schools demand constant parental involvement etc etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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when in history has any of those things been a given before....these are not new problems, people just don't deal with them any longer and feel entitled that others should [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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Most jobs had pensions and much more job security [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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go back 100 years, even 70 years and I really don't think there were more security - lots of labor laws put in place in the last 50 years for a reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:53 PM Flag
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Life in the US is not easy. I live this country for many reasons but life isn't easy. It's a rich country spending lots of $$ for god knows what [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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It is one of the easiest places on earth. Any time in history and most countries do not live the way we do. Please get some perspective and step out of your bubble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I actually did live in other places. I lived in soviet Russia, Italy and the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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so what made those places so much easier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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Social structures for childcare, elderly etc. Americans do have it easier for a slice of their lives but if you aren't wealthy it's very easy to fall in very hard times. Modern stuff is just stuff and it doesn't make life either better nor easier [ Reply | More ]
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Nobody on this site is starving or homeless. You have an idea of what life was, but in the 50s being poor was a hundred times harder than it is today. Get out of your bubble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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poverty today isn't as hard as it was 70 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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I grew up in communist Russia (did a ask questions thing a week or so ago) and it wasn't that hard for most of us. If you kept to yourself the bulk of the population had food on the table. As a kid it didn't seem so bad. Hardly comparable to the tragedies of this world though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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That's my point. Day to day life was easier. No worries if job loss, good schools, long maternity, long vacations, short workday. We didn't have all the material things but life isn't better if you have lots of purses, shoes and other stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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Yes, but time and energy went into finding where yo buy things. New coat for a child took more planning and scheming than getting a mortgage in US [ Reply | More ]
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children can be happy anywhere, nostalgia has a way of not being based in fact....bet your parents did not think it was so wonderful (that is if they were intelligent and could think for themselves)...and no I am not slighting your parents I am sure they did what they did to survive and give you the type of childhood that makes you think back and feel it was better than today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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My mother agrees that life she had was simpler. [ Reply | More ]
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You're obviously not getting my point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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I am. I just don't agree with you. There is very little security today. People are scared to lose their jobs, healthcare is very expensive, children have become a luxury due to childcare and college costs. What is easier today? Having all the plastic tasting prefabricated carcinogenic food makes life today easier or lots if cheap made in china things no one needs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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And you think life in the 50s was so secure? Today we have the health care and food network that we did not have years ago. People have rights in ways they didn't, poor people are cared for in ways they weren't. I have seen life's transition first hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Oh yes, back in the days where you could just be sent to the workhouse to live in a room with up to 50 other people when you became indigent. Those where the days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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the sad thing is I think a lot of people do feel that woudl be better than they don't have to make the decision to so something about it and take responsibility for themselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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^then they don't [ Reply | More ]
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The truth is that people need people. It might be psychologically easier in a room with 50 people, half of them hates you, than alone in your own apartment. I think that a lot of our insecurity caused by disappearance of the big multigenerational families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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You might want to read Betty Friedan and catch up on the reason there was a Womans' Liberation Movement before you make those assumptions. [ Reply | More ]
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Womens [ Reply | More ]
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The way I grew up woman where equal to man, earned same, got degrees in STEM yet for 2 years of maternity etc. Here working moms are stretched beyond belief. This isn't equality it's woman do it all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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how old are you and where did you grow up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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50. I told you where [ Reply | More ]
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seriously? which poster are you? you know this anonymous and no one knows who is replying - wow you have a stick up your butt - trying to have a conversation, but clearly you cannot comprehend that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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I assume you're speaking of white women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I suppose but that's a separate issue. Black woman don't have it easy today either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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The or said women had it easier in the 50s. My point is that only certain types of women had it easier in the 50s. [ Reply | More ]
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IA with you but I think we are talking about these same woman then and now [ Reply | More ]
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Today, as opposed to in the 50s? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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80s Russia and 50s America were completely different things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Yes but both easier IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:07 PM Flag
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I lived in 50s America. It wasn't easier for the mass majority of the population. My childhood revolved around the war, half of the men in my family were dead by the time I was five, there wasn't the social safety net we have today, poverty was 10x times worse, black people had no rights, non-wealthy women had no rights, people dropped dead in ways they don't today. You talk about things like childcare costs and retirement savings as a basis for your "omg modern times like suck" argument, and that really shows how sheltered you are to the real world. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't know what post war means. You are talking to a Russian Jew. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. I am younger than you but I find this comment amusing. When I grew up in 70 in USSR, I was the only one with both grandparents [ Reply | More ]
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+1. We really do not need oat less than we think we do. I think once we have basic necessities then we are covered. DD of a friend had to write a paper on how terrible the life in third world because they had yo go fetch water from the well. I grew up in the part of the USSR that suffered from a draught. Sometimes main water line was shutdown for a months and we had to fetch water from the water station few blocks away. Let me tell you - not such a big deal, really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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Precisely why single women in Manhattan have shifted their requirements. Didn't you read the article... Looks do not matter, just the minimum $5 million net worth [ Reply | More ]
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
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ITA -hated UB millennial [ Reply | More ]
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Omg! I'm also a UB Millennial and I also agree wth this! [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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+1 The things people complain about on here as representations of modern America being so terrible make me want to puke. Oh, you can't pay for private school? How dreadful. - Signed, somebody who worked medical care in Africa and feels like puking at some of these examples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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+ Sometimes I come on UN for the pure comedy. Some of the 'problems' posted here are absolutely ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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^^^UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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Women are expected to raise the kids, keep the house, cook and shop, do homework, have a career and work, etc. we have to do it all and that is stressful. There are no breaks in the day. It's a different type of stress than prior generations, but stress nonetheless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:12 PM Flag
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Wow, some of you need a history lesson. Surprised by the lack of historical awareness on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Blah blah blah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 04:06 PM Flag
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It's because outside of the truly poor in this country, people don't have a frame reference. We've (as in those of us alive) have never really suffered as a whole nor have most of us been in life and death decision making positions. Our first world problems therefore seem overwhelming. That is all we know. I'm talking in generalities here (of course there are people in this country who have suffered for one reason or another). I'm talking about on a societal level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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^^we have never (not we've have never). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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Maybe in America, my dear!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Discontent is the mother of all inventions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 12:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Can someone explain what, exactly, is the point of all the spam? I'd venture to guess they get exactly zero clicks from UB, so why bother? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The only responses they might get are complaints. I don't get it either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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they must get some clicks. otherwise, why bother? [ Reply | More ]
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the spam seems more like a disruption of service, like a deliberate attempt at driving people away from the site - just like troll attacks, etc. I don't truly understand it [ Reply | More ]
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True. I wonder if they're actual sites selling actual crap? [ Reply | More ]
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I wonder if the spammers are paid per placement. [ Reply | More ]
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That's just it, they're paid for clicks. And the sites can tell which site you clicked from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Suggest some amazing new music, please 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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it's 12 years old, but if you haven't heard Neko Case's Blacklisted, do so. It bears up to repeated listenings, just say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Just a thought- if your kid was vomiting before you left the house, don't then bring him to physical therapy, to tvomit all over the waiting room. Also shut your loud mouth! God I hate this woman. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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i really hate people sometimes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Common sense doses not often prevail. [ Reply | More ]
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Not everyone was born with the common sense needed to be a parent [ Reply | More ]
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it's really sad imo and I do feel bad for those kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Ugh, horrible [ Reply | More ]
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That depends. Do I LIKE the people at the physical therapy place?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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This is what happens when medical providers charge for cancelling on day of appointment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Interesting perspective. The medical providers are blocking time out that they can't use to see anyone else. I think it's absolutely right that they get paid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Some people believe that the world exists for their own convenience. The idea of thinking about what's fair to someone else is foreign to them. [ Reply | More ]
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should you get paid when they have to reschedule or cancel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:39 PM Flag
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my dermatologist is so good at this - always moving around appointments with out asking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:43 PM Flag
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If it's same day, sure. [ Reply | More ]
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Then they'll get sick kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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Medical providers may be used to that. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok doctors wife. [ Reply | More ]
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Actually, I am a lawyer (and a man, so therefore no one's wife). I know you prefer to think no one can reasonably disagree with you, so that anyone who does must be biased. That means never having to actually defend your position. You might want to learn how to do that someday. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't need to defend my position. The fact is, if you're going to charge people whether they come or not, they're going to show up under less than idea conditions - for you AND for them. Ie, kids throwing up in the waiting room. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not in dispute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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my dentist's office waived the fee when I called to say my son had the flu a few weeks ago, rescheduled with no problem [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, as a practical matter, I think many places will do this if asked to avoid pissing off their patients. But that doesn't mean it's fair to them. [ Reply | More ]
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part of doing business, this is not a new problem [ Reply | More ]
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Rape and murder have been around a long time. Most of us still consider them undesirable. [ Reply | More ]
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rape and murder are not a part of doing business, unless you are a cop....your argument does not make sense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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The point is that something may be an old problem but that doesn't make it not a problem. Are you really so dense that you missed this blatantly obvious point? [ Reply | More ]
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As a physical therapist I can personally tell you that I will not charge you the cancellation fee if you have a valid reason for canceling the same day. Illness with vomitting or diarrhea is absolutely a good reason for canceling on the same day. But if you use this reason on multiple occasions in a short period of time I will cease believing it to be true in absence of having talked to your physician which you must be seeing in that case. [ Reply | More ]
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And actually if you showed up in this state I would cancel your appointment and send you home because I can't have you spreading this illness to other patients and staff and because you're not going to be able to effectively participate in therapy that day anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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and then I won't have to pay because YOU canceled the appointment. [ Reply | More ]
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If you did this more than twice though (showed up in such a state) I absolutely would charge you AND turn you away. [ Reply | More ]
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On second thought I would charge you if you knowingly showed up ill. Precisely because you should have had the good sense to cancel and exposed others to the illness. I might also refer you to psych. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.20.14, 03:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Mental illness seems to be so common. Sometimes I think contemporary life is too stressful, and complicated for many, and creates it. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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maybe, but lots of times I think people see it as an excuse not to push thru and deal - lots of stressful times in history - the depression, ww1, ww2, etc. Lots of the stress now a days are self made and can be controlled; people chose not to [ Reply | More ]
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It is not that simple [ Reply | More ]
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not for all but for some it is [ Reply | More ]
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who's to decide? [ Reply | More ]
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that's the problem...in society today I think it is actually encouraged and too many people are enabled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Look at what happens with kids in school. Medication is a first line response to normal range behavior. Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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Yes obviously. This is only the case in the United States, which hipster generation has raised navel gazing to the status of an Olympic sport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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You win the award for Ignorant Statement of the Day. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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true mental illness gets a pass, but I truly don't believe that everyone that medicates or feel they need to medicate are mentally ill, just weak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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oh OK. So how do you decide who is 'just weak'? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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sadly common attitude [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Wrong. People today assume that if they're not glowingly happy all the time and feel a little uncomfortable once in a while, something's amiss and requires medication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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I agree. Not certain if everyone is on overload, too many artificial stuff in food, whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Overload is something I suspect has a lot to do with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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and that is controllable a lot of the time - but people don't for some reason [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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for many people feeling terrible because they think more is in their control than really is places a lot of unnecessary stress on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Society has been broken for a long time. Is it any wonder so many fall through the cracks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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People totally fall through the cracks, yes. It is hard to find one's place in the ecosystem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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come step into my time machine... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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take me away! where to - the future? Or the past>? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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we will begin at the beginning and then go on till we come to the end: then stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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This is one of the easiest times in history. When I was growing up (I was born right before the start of WW2) things were completely different, and even then there were people who came before me that had it 10x worse. They all managed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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You need a little history lesson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Tt's a slippery slope in many cases, just like with other illnesses with out preventive methods the disease gets worse and makes it more difficult to treat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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No. People are very delicate nowadays. There's a pill foe everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:50 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I had to trek out to glen rock NJ headquarters to organize a meeting and forgot to have breakfast. anyone from around here? where can I order from? Someone who delivers quick! 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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ask someone who works in the office [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:29 PM Flag
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My left ass cheek is itchy. Can someone here scratch it for me? (I can't believe that people ask questions here when a simple internet search would obviously do the job. I'm fine with asking people questions, but shouldn't there be a "Can I do this myself?" filter first?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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oh, piss off ya fuckin' narc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:30 PM Flag
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Bartender: I'll have what she's having. (And get her a ride home, while you're at it.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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ha! just....one...more.. ::clunk:: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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I did end up searching and found something. I thought maybe someone was from around the area and had a recommendation. Perhaps a person from Glen Rock that knows a tried and true place. I don't see why that's such an issue considering the amount of stuff that comes through here anyway. If it bothers you so much, why not minimize it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Oh and you should really go get that ass checked. We all know what you were up to last night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Sure. DO you know a good ass doctor in Glen Rock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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That's not what I hear! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:37 PM Flag
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Wilkes. Bagel shop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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I'm from Glen Rock originally..what the heck has a headquarters in Glen Rock? Cannot imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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np: Are you kidding me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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How precisely would I be kidding you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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Headquarters for an oral surgery group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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Oh ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:56 PM Flag
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