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[ - ] Do cheap shoes make your feet smell more? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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yes, always wear socks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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rubber and plastic will definitely stink more than leather. other than that price does not matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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DH says expensive purses and cheap shoes is the tell tale sign of a woman living beyond her means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] When does dalton typically hold their spring tours? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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in the sring. yw! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] A poem: Tonight at the Olive Garden / My husband and I will dine. / Every dish we eat there / is always a good time. / My children make good grades / they go to an exclusive school. / If you think you can do better / your nothing but a fool! 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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We could be best friends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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We could be best friends... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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last sentence proves you "nothing but a fool"....btw..olive garden sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Really? I thought it was one of the best restaurants in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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you must not get out a lot? where do dine on your "non special" occasions? McDonalds? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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If you are taking this literally, you should check for aspergers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Do you actually know how Asperger's manifests itself? Or you are just talking out of your ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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The way she tosses the word around so casually, she's probably a private elementary school teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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this whole conversation has a touch of the 'tism to it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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It manifests itself in not being able to detect sarcasm and taking things literally. See above for a fine example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Your reply wasn't funny or sarcastic. It was actually very blah...Maybe you could google some examples of recognizable sarcasm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Doesn't matter. She took a ridiculous statement literally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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Your reply wasn't funny or sarcastic. It was actually very blah...Maybe you could google some examples of recognizable sarcasm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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This. What has happened to my beloved once-classy Urban Baby? Olive Garden? McDoanlds? I mean what next, Red Lobster lol? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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ack! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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Sarcasm, ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Puts me in mind of the late great Debbie Wolowitz: "We'll go to the Olive Gawden, I have cyoopons!!!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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I'm sorry you have such poor grammar [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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you're [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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you're [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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You're better than Poet Mom. At least your stuff rhymes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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I'll take up your rude challenge/ And do it in no time / For when it comes to lifestyle / I always make it rhyme./ In this Christmas season/ With MILs and FILs and SILs/ We do not eat Italian/ We dine at BONEFISH GRILLES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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love it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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ack! what happened to the old Urban Baby where we would write sing-songy "poems" about classy seafood restaurants like Le Bernardin! this place has really gone downhill! ack! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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I could eat better easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Once there was an Urban Baby/ That didn't make you want to say 'Phooey!"/ The poems we wrote there/ were classy ones about La Grenouille/ Now my beloved board is downhill/ And my forehead I must smack/ I read of places like "Olive Garden" and the "'bees"/ And all I can say is 'ack!'" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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I was there yesterday and I love it. At least once a year. Get a side of alfredo sauce to dip the breadsticks in. BUT, drink like 5 glasses of water. That shit is so salty, it killed me later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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People who eat at Olive Garden say "your" instead of "you're." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got a message from our school that ARIS will be shut down on Jan 1st, 2015, but the new DOE system won't be ready until Sept of 2015. So, print out all info you might need from the system before it goes away. Typical DOE informing us at the end of Dec. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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The news was out earlier than that. I do think that DoE must do a much better outreach not to mention ensure the safety of data and explain where it will migrate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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I knew that ARIS was going away, but I never saw the shutdown date. Maybe that was in all those Chalkbeat articles and I missed it. I definitely did not hear it from the DOE. Did you? How did they communicate it? I am on their email alert lists, but haven't gotten it there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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I first read this as you got a massage from your school. (My shoulders are so stiff!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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LOL. I wish! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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so there is nothing in between? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Apparently not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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that's stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Wait. Did they talk about how they'll get the test results out to families then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Not yet. I just got an email from school telling me to print out anything I might need and the new system will be available in Sept 2015. Nothing more, and I'm sure my school is probably in the dark too or they would have said something. The DOE has 10 more days to inform people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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Typical! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 10:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I think my New Year's resolution will be to (finally) have an affair. What is yours? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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To get HPV [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Serious one: organization / daily habits. First up, going to bed by midnight during the week. Second, making a schedule for the next day before going to bed. Third, setting out kids' clothes, setting table for breakfast and deciding what they will have for breakfast before going to bed. Fourth, cleaning my room before bed. Fifth, answering all personal correspondence by the next day, latest, even if just to say can't respond more fully now. I know these seem second nature to a lot of you, but they are hard for me and they spiral. It's like I need OT for how to be a person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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These are great goals! And they are do-able. You'll see such positive results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Thanks so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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good luck! those are a lot of changes to try to enact all at once though. try one at a time, then add the next when you get the first one down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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OR: Thanks -- and, yes, I meant, first I will do the first one. Once I have made good progress (not perfection, but say 80% of the time), I will add the second, then the third. If I get to all five by June, i would be ecstatic, by next December, still very happy. I know even one or two would improve how I feel each day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Great list. I don't think it's 2nd nature of all that many. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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my advice is to start one or two at a time until you master it and it becomes a habit. if you try to do everything all at once it will be too radical and you will revert to old ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Thank you - I wasn't clear in my post, but I meant what you suggest. First, I'll tackle the first one, then after getting a handle on that, the second, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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Just better housekeeping overall [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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I came up with a great one last night, but have now forgotten it. Maybe I should resolve to write stuff down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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make sure i remember kids are kids and not get too upset with them for acting like kids. picking what is a big deal and what is not ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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I saw someone suggest on here that before yelling at a kid, you phsyically get down to their height (squat, sit, whatever) so that you are looking at them at eye level. Makes it easier to be stern and heard without berating / yelling down from above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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mine is to finally break up someone's marriage by having an affair with a married woman [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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have you already hda affairs with married women but just not broken the marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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To spend more one on one time with each of my children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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What are you going to do with the woman after you destroy her marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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To have sex with dh at least twice a week. It's been a constant battle between the two of us all year, since I've returned to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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Mine is to come up with a savings plan dh and I can stick to. We never put the same amount in each month and truthfully we can and should be putting more in than we do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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To have sex with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] my super is a rude and does nothing at all for us during the year. we are moving out in April. can i skip tipping him? i tip the doorman and other staff well. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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I think you should skip tips for the entire staff. You can always give a farewell tip to your favorites when you leave the building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Can he affect the ease of your move-out? Service elevator not available, delaying movers, that sort of thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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this is what I'd worry about if you usually tip him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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I find I need the super more when moving. Just a thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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this is true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Burning that bridge might make your move and the interim a pain in the ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you punish a kid who ADMITS to wrongdoing? Would that make him afraid to come clean in future? In this case, it's my 8 yo DS and he put a mean note on a girl's desk, but apparently did not write it. I do not want him contributing in any way to making someone sad. I feel like I need to do something. What's appropriate? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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A confession definitely merits some leniency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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General Topics 12.19.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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i'd tell him i was proud of him for telling the truth, acknowledge it sounds like he knows it was not the right thing to do, and to apologize to the girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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I may get flamed for this, but why don't you ask him? Say, I am very glad that you told me what you did, because I know that you realized it was wrong, that you felt bad about it, and that you had the courage to tell me. You still did something mean, though, by putting the note on her desk. What do you think we should do about that?" (My thoughts on the punishment, btw, are to write the girl an apology. At 8, that's enough. And I wouldn't phrase it as punishment, but as consequence: when you do something mean, you fess up and apologize.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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That's a great idea - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Writing her an apology letter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Yes, no question. But the punishment is far more lenient than if the child has done something bad AND compounded that by lying about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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OP needs to be explicit about that, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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get over yourselves...apology letter? seriously? he is 8 and I assume she is as well.. just tell him to stop working with class bullies and let it be that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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really??? the little girl should get an apology, and the boy should get used to apologizing if he's hurt someone! Just "Dear Jane, I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. Your friend Jack" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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whatever.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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You're raising people who will suffer the effects of lousy parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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No I think its lousy to make a mountain out of a mole-hill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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A note like the one suggested is a mountain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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no all that thinking about "appropriate punishment" on something as stupid as this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] We are having our babysitter come skiing with us for a few days - she's a former ski instructor and has offered to help teach our kids to ski. We are paying for her train fare, skiing costs and whatever she asks for the lessons. What else should we offer her for her time with us? She won't really be "on the clock" but obviously will be staying with us in our house and will probably help out a lot because she's the helpful type. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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you should not pay her for the lesson. she is working for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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What do you mean? We will pay her for the lesson at probably a higher rate than we normally pay ($20/hr) - probably do something like $40/hr for each hour of lessons. Was thinking of offering an additional $100/day for her time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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u must have too much money [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Not at all, but we want to be fair to her. She is happy to come and volunteered but we're taking her away from the rest of her life for a couple of days so doesn't that mean we should compensate her accordingly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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rest of her life...as a babysitter...must be one hell of a life...btw she gets A FREE FIRST CLASS SKI VACATION and getting paid cash on top of it. like I said. I love guilty white women. they are so generous with the money they probably did not make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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Wow you have issues! First of all, I make my own money. Second, I never said she was getting a first class ski vacation. We are going to our country house which is near some not-so-great skiing and she volunteered to come. She works for us 2 afternoons per week and has another babysitting job the other days, and she's also an artist. She said she used to make $30 for a private lesson when she taught (after the resort pocketed most of the fee) and she suggested $40. Most of the day she'll be able to ski on her own, and we might ask her to babysit One night and would pay for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Tell us about your culture and how it would approach this situation. Would you really say "sorry, this is a free vacation for you, you should be paying us"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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If you are paying her that little for the lessons, then you should also pay a daily rate, and I think $100 is fair, but truthfully, private ski lessons are like $200/hr so could also just pay for the lessons, but pay $100/hr for the lessons. and make sure she has plenty of time to ski by herself. So maybe one hour lesson per kid per day and she skis the rest of the time on her own, and pay $100/hr for the lessons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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^^ oh yeah and don't forget to buy her that new car she wanted and open up 401k for her to which you will contribute $6,000 per month...in gratitude for her grand gesture of accepting a free vacation from you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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Jesus Christ lady take it easy. You really think going with some family to a ski place is like a free vacation? Like you can really do what you want, say what you want, but what you want, and relax? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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What you are proposing is perfect. The people who say you shouldn't pay her are CRAZY and so are those suggesting $300/day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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I would pay her her daily rate and of course all expenses. If she has her evenings free, then no extra needed for that. If you ask her to sit in the evenings, that's extra. As for lessons, pay her a flat extra amount for doing that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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I would do $300 day and $50/lesson [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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This is helpful. For that rate would you expect her to work a lot or not much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I swear I have the weirdest eating habits..so far today I've had a Fiber one bar, coffee, egg nog, raw broccoli dipped in laughing cow cheese and 2 pickles. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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How do you dip broccoli in a solid cheese? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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laughing cow cheese is really soft. Maybe you're thinking of baby bells? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Haha, sounds like a typical day for me too, although I don't like coffee, fiber one bars or egg nog. I've eaten half a slice of chocolate babka, half a bell pepper, some snap peas and 2 butternut squash raviolis (off dd's lunch plate that she didn't eat) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Can you imagine a guy on a men's forum letting us all know what he ate? Women are so odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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op 99% of what we discuss would never appear on a men's forum? do men even have forums? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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they do for weight lifting, sports, a lot of tech forums ... nearly all dudes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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No, on the mens forums it's all about how many squats and pushups and what you are deadlifting and "what do you think of this guys" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Yesterday I ate dried apricots, pirate booty, and raw kale (in rapid sequence, though not all at once) while pasta was boiling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Dried apricots and raw kale. You must have epic bowel movements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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No, that is actually the one thing in my life that is somewhat orderly and predictable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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I'm living on cookies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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sounds good to me, except for egg nog. cannot stand the stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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I read her post and wished I had egg jog in the house! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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^^egg nog [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] For those of you who live near your ILs (not just mil/fil but extended family as well) how has it been? How do you cope? Set boundaries? This will most likely be my reality next year. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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every family and culture is VASTLY different. you set limits by learning how to say "no". it is a complete sentence, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I actually wish my MIL and SIL lived closer - they're both so sweet and we all get along great. And I also wouldn't have an eight hour drive ahead of me on Tuesday! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Not a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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i was glad to finally take a vacation that didn't involve traveling to see them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.20.14, 01:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm looking to move from NYC to the Maplewood/SO area. The daycare wait lists are insane (like most places in the NYC metro area). What are the chances that I could get a temporary nanny for a few months until I get into daycare? Do people do this or do you just hire someone full time and let them go? That seems unfair. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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People definitely do it temporarily. Your best bet might be to go through an agency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Care.com is good. Enjoy the new home - I love the area! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Welcome to the Scene in the Suburbs team. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] 1st trimester and I'm soooo tired-deep down body tired. Can I just put the TV on and lock the doors and let my 3 yo do what he will while I snooze on the couch? Or is that abusive in some way. The house is totally still child proofed. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I remember that level of tired. I would lean on a wall and come so close to falling asleep. Your body is not your own. I say plug that toddler into a Doc McStuffins marathon and get yourself some sofa time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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Ha, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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Absolutely you can and should (assuming you know your DC is not likely to do something nuts). Tell DC to wake you if s/he needs something or when the TV show ends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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go for it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Do whatever you need to do to get through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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I would lock the door to my bedroom, turn on the tv for 2 yo and take a nap. He was locked in the room with me and couldn't get out while I slept in the bed next to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Of course you can. I have HG with my pregnancies and when i had to be alone with the kids I would put on the tv and sleep while they watched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Op- thanks all. I thought I was going to get flamed for being a child abuser. I'm generally an active and involved mom, but I just can't right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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it's funny. i rarely get flamed for the things i expect will set people off, and then sometimes the things i think are most innocuous..... (I remember several years ago asking something about the garbage for our DB's diapers (we use just a regular can with a lid, not a diaper genie, and take the garbage out at the end of each day), and getting flamed to high hell for reasons I still can't understand!) Anyway, it does get better, but take the rest you need now. And congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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3 yo is old enough to watch tv by himself and be safe. have a good nap! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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yes. you. can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Yes, many use the TV with the older child to get a nap while pregnant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Shower Thoughts: Mad Men makes me feel like I should be smoking and drinking whiskey. Gilmore Girls makes me want to guzzle coffee instead. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I don't see these as either-or...more like complementary situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Breaking bad got me to smoke meth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Whiskey or Coffee?? There's a good drinking problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] DH has an aunt whom I find odious. She is snobby, eccentric, tone-deaf. She is self-centered and when you get around her she talks and talks and it's all about her illustrious ancestors. I really don't want to spend time with her. I don't even think she was particularly nice to DH as a boy etc. Now my DH is a decent person but not exactly warm-hearted. He swears he just feels sorry for her because she is all alone. I secretly think he wants her to leave us her money - not tons but maybe an estate of $1-2mm (this amount is not life-altering for us). Am I awful for thinking this and not believing it's really his kind heart that forces us to pay court to her every so often? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Not awful. There are plenty of people that would have the money in the back of their heads. Just be polite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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OP: I should say he's not just a "decent" person, he's a very moral person and very loving to me and our DCs. But not like some soft touch who weeps over the stray kittens or anything... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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I have family members like both your DH and his aunt. I think it is normal for someone to pay an occasional visit to aunts/uncles even if they don't particularly enjoy (or even actively dislike) spending time, and it really is a sense of obligation, pity, responsibility, and not even a little about the money. Doesn' tmean you're awful for thinking that or that it's not in the back of his head, but he does not have to have a bleeding heart to think he ought to visit this lonely self-absorbed aunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Sounds like the aunt is like many similar old people and she's a PITA. Your DH is being practical. Just keep in mind that many of these kinds of old people recognize the money sniffers because they are kind of money-centric themselves, and it makes them feel more powerful to dangle it out when they see people react to it. They are old and increasingly invisible and they feed off the energy they feel like they are generating when they think they can still have some power to make people do things. Even as they resent it. So don't be surprised if she makes your DH dance for a while and in the end still leaves him nothing. She can also probably tell that you don't like her. These people have nothing else to do the live-long day except read people around them like tea-leaves. They have a lot of free time to sniff out the brown-nosers and imagine how surprised you will be when there is nothing in the will for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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I feel the same - like she probably thinks we're in it for the money no matter what DH's true motives. Ironically we could buy and sell her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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She may well know that. It's weird, they want you to acknowledge how important their money is, but get upset at the same time if they feel you are looking in on them for that reason only. Either way, it's nice to look in on her every so often, but i don't doubt you for a second that she is an exhausting and tedious visit. It's a difficult period of time. At least when they go there is little doubt but that they were overdue for the departure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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I know, you can't win with them. I don't wish her dead, I just don't wish to spend time with her. We have very little free time and don't see our other relatives nearly as much as we would wish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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Keep in mind she's probably not the same person she used to be. You're dealing with all the *stuff* that's left over. All they have left are their delusions of grandeur about the past and about who they need to believe they are. Last chapter of the book and they can't go back, so they tend to rewrite things the way they feel like doing it. It's not your imagination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why you gotta make us all look up odious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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It means she smells funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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no that would be odorous...are u esl or just ignorant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Just a sense of humor more finely tuned than yours [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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I would agree but....not this time...not funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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OP: I am very supportive of DH's and DCs' relationships with DH's grandparents who are still living, and obviously his parents, and we travel great distances to maintain ties with them. Something about this woman just completely puts me off. I seldom react this way and it's taken me years to conclude that I feel this way about her. I just wish that he would give it up and not drag us to see her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Can't you just let him visit with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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and by let I mean have [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Who cares? Its once a year. Grin and bear it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] UB has broken me! A post earlier said people got an immediate confirmation after sending their R2 confirmation to Hunter. I sent mine a half hour ago and have not received anything back. And yes, I sent to the correct email address (did not hit reply). (1) Are people lying / has anyone else not received a confirm and (2) should I resend at some point or assume it went through? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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We got ours right away, but it went to the spam folder. (It came from a different address then did the original email.) Check your spam folder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Oops, than did . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks, I checked spam before posting. Not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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You are kind of losing your mind over this, at least if you're the poster who has posted like 8 times since yesterday. I think you have to maybe make peace with the results not going your way. All your over-revving on this isn't doing you any good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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No, I am not that poster! That's why I said UB has broken me. I haven't posted once and think all the people stressed about which session they got, what to wear, etc. are crazy-pants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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^^^ OP again: actually I did post once, in response to all the craziness, I posted that I heard Urban Baby was bought by Hunter so they could see what parents wrote. So I hear you. But now, was there a confirmation email? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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We got ours and everyone else I know got theirs as well and it seems like from hearing from other R2 families that if you did not receive yours by now that Kyla has decided to pass on you and that you should not even bother showing up. Oh, and forget about reaching out to the school or admissions office. From what I've heard Kyla is just really nasty and will hang-up on you immediately after she is done cursing you out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Seems reasonable and in line with what I've heard as well. Thank God for Urban Baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP: I understand the instinct to think I am insane - I really do - it has been how I've judged everyone else! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Here is what the email looked like: From: Hccs Hcesadmit [mailto:HCCS-hcesadmit@hccs.hunter.cuny.edu] To: PARENT Subject: RE: Round 2 Appointment Thank you for your confirmation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Received 7 minutes after I sent the confirmation to Hunter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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^^^ Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Now of course I'm doubting everyone, but thank you for responding if that is for real. I am going to focus on my day job and if I don't have a confirmation by 3pm, will decide then whether to resend (bccing DH or something to make sure it goes through). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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I'm the poster from earlier who sent an email last night and resent it today by hitting reply both times. Still no response. Should I resend AGAIN to the correct address?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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I probably would, and would preface whatever you wrote before with, "I inadvertently sent my earlier confirmation to the wrong email address and apologize if that created any confusion. I confirm..." I am sure you are not the only one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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I didn't get one immediately. 20 minutes later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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Make sure you send it to the right address. Not just reply to the original R2 invitation email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] My 401k just crossed the 1 mil mark today 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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hi5! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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how long have you had it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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since first year after college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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how old are you now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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mid to late forties lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I tell any young person working in their first job to participate in a 401k, if offered, bc of the time element. It may hurt to not get that money in their paycheck at first, but the payoff is well worth the discomfort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Yep it really adds up if you start early enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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congrats! I am only at 250k and fear I will die of old age at my desk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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250k is not bad at all, it is way more than the average american, not sure what this people will do in retirement, SS will only get worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Congratulations! Have you had company matching along the way or had great investment returns, or just got there with max contributions each year? Tell us how it's done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I had it since first year after college and always maxed it out, match varied greatly (I've worked for 5 different companies), very few adjusts during this time, I really think consistency is key, I always had a mix of very aggressive 50% and moderate other 50% within the plan available funds (but 100% equities), always did the rollover to keep the $ in the same place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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which is your current big money maker? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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That's great, congrats. Remember that'll only get you a safe $40K/yr at retirement though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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It's more than a lot of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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I am happy for you. I'm 35 and only at 150k. I hope to get past a mil by the time I am in my late 40 (depends on the market). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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congratu*fucken*lations! did this need a post? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Wow, that's awesome! You've done a better job investing that I have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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good for you! My retirement and brokerage accounts just went over 3 and somehow it just feels better knowing it is there even if i don't touch it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Not starting in my first job was my worst mistake ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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Congrats. This is why you should start saving right out of college. Sock away 15% each and every paycheck. And you'll be fine in retirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Can LA moms tell me about Crossroads and Windward schools? Feel free to give a NYC school as a comparison. Can you think of a reason why a family would send kids to these schools (meaning 1 in each school)? TY. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Because they have enough money and time on their hands to fabricate reasons that this is necessary... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Each school has a different personality. crossroads is more artsy and creative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Crossroads equals Saint Anns, Windward equals Trinity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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really? is it more rigorous than harvard-westlake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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My DH's friends pulled their kid from Crossroads and put DC in Harvard-Westlake. They said Crossroads had only decent academics and was populated by snotty celebrity children. They said H-W is very challenging, but that DC loves it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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this was exactly my impression of those 2 schools. i know less about windward. for some reason I though it was supportive of learning issues, which i don't think H-W is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to look fabulous on new years eve in a dress the juuuuust fits today...considering timing, would you spend your time running or going to Barre classes over the next week? I can budget about an hour/day to work out. FYI..don't need to lose a ton of weight - just want to look fit. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Personally I would do Barre or Pilates - will help you stand in a way that looks lean and healthy, running a lot / daily can make people look gaunt if it is not part of their regular routine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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If it 'just' fits, then I feel like a diet modification to de-puff might be a good idea. Slow down on the carbs for a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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OP: Oh that goes without saying. I'm starving myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Eat a little asparagus every day. Helps get rid of any extra fluid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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OP TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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It just fits then it sounds like you'll be popping out of it in all the good ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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I would do intermittent fasting. I lost 30 pounds that way, but now use it if I find myself slipping a bit to get back on track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Op How long do you go without eating? For how many days? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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I fast for 19 hours a day, every day, usually for a week to get back on track. Google "fast five diet". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 08:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone done a kids' birthday party at Jekyll & Hyde? Thoughts? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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sometimes its nice and sometimes it sucks so go figure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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OP: yes, the reviews are very mixed. It's $10 less pp at the Greenwich Village location, but I suspect that's because it's less polished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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be wary! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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