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[ - ] What are some good christmas destinations? I don't want to deal with the family this year. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:48 AM Flag
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wherever you go it will be christmas, because christmas is in your heart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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^ uB is really having a lame night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:57 AM Flag
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tell me about it. earlier some proles were talking about Red Lobster and Olive Garden [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:27 AM Flag
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Aspen is always nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:56 AM Flag
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Yes.. hurt my knee skiing last year though so skipping this year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:58 AM Flag
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Oops, sorry then. How about The Maldives or VI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:00 AM Flag
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Christmas Island, really though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Oaxaca, Mexico [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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Pittsburgh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Why not join the Jewish woman and her MIL and sit round the tree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] I was in the hospital for surgery (ovary removed) this week and was discharged earlier tonight and I will be staying w my folks who live 30 min away from the hospital. My parents took me to my surgery and pretty much stayed with me every day for all visiting hours, and helped me w discharge, etc. My husband, on the other hand, came to visit me for maybe 1- 1.5 hours every night (even bringing MIL when I was in recovery and looking like a hot mess) because his job had a training conference that popped up and DH said he needed to be there (fine). Then tonight, DH texts me he cant visit me once I get discharged because his group leader from his volunteer NYC Marathon coordination scheduled a management meeting at 8pm tonight so he had to take Metro North to deal w that. When I told my parents all this, my mom flat out said DH is an ass and how he has acted with respect to my hospital stay means that If I am one day 75 years old and fall in the shower, DH would flippantly call a neighbor to check on me instead of himself getting home ASAP to check me himself. My question now is- should I even stay married to a man who is this callous or am I just being paranoid or overly sensitive?? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:31 AM Flag
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Maybe start by talking to him about it? I agree that he was incredibly insensitive, but maybe there's a reason? Some ppl are really freaked out by hospitals, maybe he was actually scared for you, etc. I think having a conversation might be a good first step before jumping to divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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OP here- yes I mentioned this to him earlier today and his answer was, "i am sorry that I cant seem to do anything right lately! Now I cant even do hospital visitation right. Just another thing you can nag me about later." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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Wow what an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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NP: He might just be expressing his frustration at their relationship, which doesn't sound great. I think OP should stop talking to her parents about her marriage and start talking to DH, preferably with a counselor to referee. I suspect there are two sides to this story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry! Maybe try having a discussion when both of you are calm? I don't mean to take his side at all - his behavior was undoubtably shitty - but I think there must be more to him if you decided to marry him. Is this indicative of his general behavior towards you? (Pp) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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OP here..no his behavior is usually very good. Our day to day life is wonderful. He cooks at home and he is really great with household chores and helping w handy man stuff (he grew up in rural town and knows how to build homes, how to fix things and is an engineer by trade). We have a lot of things in common (same college, same values, we both are "only" children, same food preferences, etc). We both also earn similar salaries. My major concern is his overall insensitivity to health issues. He believes people can be fine doing self healing, while I need people around me for support. I feel like he does so many things for me out of "this is what Wifey wants" instead of "this is what I wnna do because I love my wife and she deserves this." DH didnt get me flowers when he visited me when I got out of recovery either. (Although he does get me flowers for our anniversary). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:02 AM Flag
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I'm really sorry he's not providing what you need. I think it sounds like something you can work through, though, not a hard deal breaker. I wish y'all the best of luck! (Pp) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Did you know about his attachment to Mary Baker Eddy prior to marrying him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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Who is Mary Eddy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:40 AM Flag
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Jerk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:50 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:17 AM Flag
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OP (EDIT): just realized the above post is too long. SHORT Version: DH acted callously while I was in hospital while my parents took care of me from start to finish. DHs behavior during my medical issue raises alarms whether DH really gives a shit about me or whether he just knows my medical issue wasnt serious that warranted him to be present for longer than he needed to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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Dump him and stop making excuses for his bad behavior. You deserve a lot better. I'm sorry that you're going through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:41 AM Flag
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What did he do that was callous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:24 AM Flag
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Not per se a cause for divorce, but I'd start looking at my options and in the meantime, I'd treat him the same way he treats me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 AM Flag
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First, focus on healing. Then figure out if YOU find his behavior acceptable. If you're trying to get perspective, I personally would not be okay with him not being at the hospital the entire time plus a few days after for recovery. But I am admittedly neurotic and expect a lot. If you find it unacceptable, confront him. If he dismisses your feelings, run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:36 AM Flag
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Plus a trillion! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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OP- thank you..i am trying to just brush it off but my mom just said to me, "ok its your husband and I will not intervene in this. Just think about when you are 65 and get a cancer scare or something really bad.,can you really count on him? This is your husband not mine. Your life. Your choice." DH and I have been married 4 years, no kids and we both are professionals with excellent health (until my emergency surgery now). I feel like maybe this is a wake up call that I married an extremely selfish man. Most times I have veen sick, he always tells me "tell me what you need and want, I cant read minds and I will do my best to accomodate." As if I am one of his work clients. I just dont know. Maybe it is a culture thing, he is German and raised yo be very unemotional, I am Peruvian with a very touchy/feely family /upbringing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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Germans are very militaristic in stereotype. I would try and tell him that you require a higher level of sensitivity that he simply isn't providing. If he is unwilling to meet your needs, again, run. My husband when I'm sick brings me soup, juice, green juice and rubs my feet. When I got a minor outpatient surgery he drove me and stuck around for a day after. He isn't a prince, but this is what husbands should do. It's part of the job. Get well soon and I hope it works out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:47 AM Flag
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It's a wake up call. If no DC, time to hit the road. Your mom is 100% right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 AM Flag
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THIS. He's an ass and clearly couldn't care less about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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This could be my husband (and coincidentally, I only have one ovary too.) I've had several life-threatening situations over our past 20 years together, and he sucks at them. When I dwell on them, I think I want to get divorced too. But our day-to-day life is pretty good, so I try to focus on that. Luckily, I have a good support system when the bad things do happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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OP- what is your support system? I wish my DH was better bit when his mom was hospitalized last year when she fell down 2 flights of stairs while shopping (she is 83 yrs old), DH came home first, ate dinner, then drove to the hospital to visit her. He didnt even tale the day off from work to help her w discharge the next morning. MIL said she was fine and told him "dont worry son. i am fine, go do your important job and I will walk have my best friend pick me up." DH just said OK and left it at that, sae her for dinner to make sure she got home and forgot about the incident. My own mom...I wouldve dropped everything I was doing and rushed to the hospital just to see that she is ok. WTF...DH is odd! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:50 AM Flag
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No he is just a man. Is everything fine? Yes? Great, no problems then, get on with things. I think the same way and have learned that women and men think totally differently about these things. Men do NOT give emotional support in the way women want it. Period. Not wired to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:26 AM Flag
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A different perspective. Wtf do you want from the man? He visited you every night, right? You want him to quit his job and set up a tent next to you? Gush endlessly to no practical purpose "are you OK my darling?" You had surgery, you were recovering fine, enough said. I read your post and think "needy". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:00 AM Flag
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OP- no he doesnt need to be all gushy but some caring and emotional effort is also nice. I dont get surgery every day! Hospitals suck!! Husbands should be there to support you. Instead he treats it like I flew out of state to attend a conference or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:06 AM Flag
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OR. He visited you for over an hour everyday, right? What am I missing? If he has a job that is basically the rest of the day, other than work. You are not dying here. You want more time from him (which would be unreasonable) or do you want some ineffable form of emotional empathy (which is strange to expect from any man, the practical ones among us, and especially a German)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:19 AM Flag
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My interpretation is that OP wants and deserves empathy and she's not getting it, even when DH is visiting her in the hospital. Sometimes just showing up isn't enough if you're also being an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:28 AM Flag
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OR. She never said he was being an asshole while he was there. She was complaining of not being there enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:07 PM Flag
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She did say this: "I feel like he does so many things for me out of "this is what Wifey wants" instead of "this is what I wnna do because I love my wife and she deserves this." DH didnt get me flowers when he visited me when I got out of recovery either." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Wife > some stupid marathon meeting. Not hard to tell marathon people you cant make it because your wife is in the hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:13 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:13 AM Flag
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Your mom is right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:49 AM Flag
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maybe he felt that because your parents were there he did not need to be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 10:44 AM Flag
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BINGO! He felt redundant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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He's cheating. Mark my words. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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OP- no he is not. i am certain of that..i have lunch w him as he works only a few miles from my office and we have dinner together every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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I think you and your husband have 2 different ways you like to recuperate. I hate having visitors (and flowers) when I'm recovering from something - I've had 2 back surgeries and would have driven myself home from the hospital if they would have allowed it. No one came to the hospital to see me and that's exactly what I wanted, if I'd had visitors I would have felt like I needed to entertain them. When I had my son, my husband only came to the hospital for short periods because he was sick and didn't want to get the baby sick - I wasn't at all upset about it. I don't mean this in a mean way but in this scenario, you seem to be the needier person and it's outside his normal character to act the way you want. If he's great in other aspects, I would let this go since your parents seem to be taking care of you the way you want/need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm pissed that the govt has misrepresented Ebola so heinously! "Bodily fluids" which can lead to transmission I this case include saliva and sweat. This isn't a difficult disease to contract, like HIV and Hep. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:21 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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Fuck yourself with a spoon and get the fuck out (op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:14 AM Flag
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Sorry, "in this case" - referring to a Ebola (op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:24 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 04:26 AM Flag
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Sorry, Sleepy - just think it's incredibly shortsighted. Btw, have you ever seen anyone with Ebola? I have and I'm upset. Sorry not sorry. (Op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:31 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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Who did you see sick from ebola? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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I was in the field during an earlier outbreak and have studied the virus and other filoviruses for several years. (Op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:42 AM Flag
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What is your profesion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:45 AM Flag
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She's a professional bullshit artist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:48 AM Flag
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Yup, you got me! B/c everyone gets their rocks off by impersonating virologists anonymously. What, I'm not going to pretend to be a movie star or something - I'm going to fake a career in epidemiology! Fuck off. (Op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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Please see my reply to the post below yours. Cheers! (Op) [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:14 AM Flag
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All the many other filoviruses? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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Yes, actually. I'm sorry I was so general, but yes, I've dedicated my life to studying all three known filovirae and also spend a great deal of my research concentrating on classifying new emerging cases. I've actually spent the bulk of my career studying Marburg, but spent a few years working exclusively with ebolavirus. Do you feel smart now? (Op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:54 AM Flag
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Sorry, dude. Did I harsh your buzz by actually not being an idiot who would lie about my profession? My bad. (Op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:04 AM Flag
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You are such a lier! [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:14 AM Flag
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Now I actually second this sentiment. (Op) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm engaged (sorry, weird place to put this out there but I am hyped and all my friends knew, can't tell my family so I want to share the news!!) 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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You're so welcome! Any idea when you want to get married? (no judgement, I was engaged forever - 3 years, I think, and we just got married a few months ago) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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No idea at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:25 AM Flag
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It matters not at all! Enjoy being engaged and congrats again! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:26 AM Flag
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Thanks again:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:27 AM Flag
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Why can't you tell your family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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Loooong story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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we've got time [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.24.14, 04:24 AM Flag
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Short story. They don't really know he is a part of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:27 AM Flag
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is it because he's black [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:30 AM Flag
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No, but it would certainly be a problem if he was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:32 AM Flag
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She speaks the truth, we're all ears [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:27 AM Flag
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It is just soapy family bs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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Dish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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We thought we were Romeo and Juliet when we were kids. My mother kind of dated his father. We grew up pretty close by in the suburbs of Boston. My family is very conservative, his is very liberal. They wouldn't like him even if he had a different last name. I prefer to keep them out of my personal life... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:38 AM Flag
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Funny. I was raised by my grandmother who I consider my mother, she is very Christian. Sex was never even discussed. I moved to ny and I am living with my boyfriend. The only person who knows is my sister/aunt in Long Island and she just pretends he doesn't exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:40 AM Flag
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Lovely;) [ Reply | More ]
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How old r u? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:32 AM Flag
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27 [ Reply | More ]
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Congrats!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Good MIL stories? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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Mine offered me money to dump her son, back when we were dating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:16 AM Flag
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How much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:27 AM Flag
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Fifty grand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:38 AM Flag
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Have you made more being married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:43 AM Flag
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Way more! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:46 AM Flag
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Stories about good MILs or good stories about bad MILs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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The latter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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I would take the cake on bad MIL stories but also out myself… I have quite a following because no one can believe a person can be this awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:32 AM Flag
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Please. Dish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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The salad: mandarin orange slices, sliced celery, raisins, pineapple chunks, whipped cream, jelly, coconut, nuts. Agony. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] I have an airline voucher to use before December. I want to go to Charleston SC, but my dh thinks it looks boring. Should we go to Key West instead? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:11 AM Flag
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both boring and republican [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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key west is boring in a way, too. people seem to like savannah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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key west huh? just send him to fire island and let him go wild [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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does Key West have a Red Lobster? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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Both are pretty neat if you like history (and humidity). Charleston, in particular, is just gorgeous. It's like a trip to New Orleans that is less likely to end with your murder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:17 AM Flag
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Lave him at home and enjoy Charleston on your own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:35 AM Flag
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Austin [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] well, you knew ebola was coming. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone else watch the Project Runway finale? I think the judges made the right call. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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yeah, they did, but I was pretty underwhelmed with all of the collections [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ebola news from 2 different sources 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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America is beating Ebola http://www.forbes.com/fdc/welcome_mjx.shtml [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Every night. Like clockwork. You'd think someone would be on top of it. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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my DH is the same way. what can we do to get him to stop? [ Reply | More ]
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mods? mods??? [ Reply | More ]
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It's always at the same time! Can hacking devices be set to activate at certain times? [ Reply | More ]
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i think it's a computer not a person [ Reply | More ]
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What makes you think that? Maybe they just have Assburgers [ Reply | More ]
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It's just so clinical; it doesn't seem like anyone would actually enjoy posting the same thing over and over and over, no matter how offensive it may be. [ Reply | More ]
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That and how it comes at the same time [ Reply | More ]
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This. It's a bot, 100% [ Reply | More ]
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I love seeeeemeeeen [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 10.24.14, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Had surgery recently to remove ovarian cysts and surgeon had to remove 1 ovary due to size of cysts (there were multiple and too large that it ruined ovary and many adhesions). My doc showed me pics when I was im the hospital and recovering from surgery and floored at what they removed. While I am relieved it wasnt cancerous (prelim diagnosis) what are my chances of actually loving normally and having kids with only 1 functional ovary? I am in my late 30s. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:03 AM Flag
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EDIT- living normally not loving [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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Ask your md. If I were you I'd freeze some embryos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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the one ovary will probably compensate for the missing one and produce eggs every month, so i say good chances [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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imo she should freeze her whole body just to be extra safe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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^ go away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:11 AM Flag
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The one ovary won't be a problem. Your remaining ovary will take over and you will still ovulate every month. However, if the cause of the cysts was endometriosis, you may have issues getting/staying pregnant because of that. Wouldn't hurt to talk to your doc, or even consult with an RE, just so you know what you're dealing with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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I got pregnant with no problem at 39 with 1 ovary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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Thank you! This ks reassuring that biologically I still can do this. My main obstacle is still whether to do it..I am terrified of pregnancy and childbirth and now I have a c sectiom scar on my body...FML. -OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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How do you have a c section scar? A c section scar is a tiny line below the bikini line. What you have sounds worse, so c section can only be better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:39 AM Flag
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The surgery was supposed to be laparocopic but my doctor saw my ovary looked like a cancerous tumor was on it, so he has to open me and remove cysts, ovary and the tumor. When he closed me up, i got these seri strip stitches where a C section would be done (below bikini line). The stitches dissolve in the shower. -OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:55 AM Flag
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Oh, then it's not too bad! You'll barely notice it in a few years.. Have a baby, you won't regret it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:01 AM Flag
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are you married? if not, your chances aren't very good unless you do donor sperm, in which case fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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OP: yes I am married 4 years now. DH is ambivalent on kids. My mother is pressuring me about kids and went full postal at the hospital when Dr notified me and family that my ovary was removed. I am not sure whether to tell her my remaining ovary wont work well so she can get off my back about grandkids. If i plan to have kids. i need to get on it before I turn 40 in 2016. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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Oh, yes, if you can use this as an excuse to tell people to back off, take it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:21 AM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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Are you the poster with the asshole DH above? It sounds like you want kids and he doesn't. Leave the loser and have a kid by yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:10 AM Flag
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Yes same poster. No, i refuse to be a single mom. I am partially ambivalent on the kids issue myself. Now w 1 ovary, its more of a challenge. I am leaning toward adoption. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Can I return something to Nordstrom that I bought a year ago? Still has tags on it? Cleaning out my closet and found a sweater I never wore 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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Ebay. Keep the tags on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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Probably. Nordstrom has great customer service. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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Yes. You can return anything back to Nordstrom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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I agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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Nordstrom means "storm of the north." There is indeed a storm of the north brewing, where those with pure nordic blood shall sweep down from the sky like lightning and thunder, leaving only destruction in their wake. And this "Nordstrom" will not take returns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Yes, but how lame of you. Sell it on eBay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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Yes. They'll take it back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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You can in Seattle. I took in a pair of shoes with a broken strap to ask about repairing them and left with a brand new pair. Their customer service is legendary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:39 AM Flag
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do you have the receipt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:25 AM Flag
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OP--yes. I just want a store credit back anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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do you have receipt? if not you will get whatever the lowest possible prices that ever was on the sweater, regardless of the tag...unless they do like Bloomingdales now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 10:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Repost: Did anyone NOT get sore boobs before they found out they were pg? thnx! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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DH here, I'll gladly massage your boobs with my strong hands until your whole body is so hot and your pussy is so wet that you're begging me to fuck you long and hard and make you cum over and over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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Mine always were and that was how I knew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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Same, it was always my first clue. Really painful --- couldn't even shower or lay down on stomach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Oh, word? My offer stands for you too, sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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Um, I don't think anyone is wanting to hear from a 13-year-old boy, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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+1 the kid needs a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:21 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 04:22 AM Flag
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Me! Soreness started around the 5 week mark for me. I got a positive test at 4 weeks when my period was due [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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thanks ^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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I believe it was boobies last time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:01 AM Flag
[ - ] What if Renee Zellwegger's plastic surgery is contagious 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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what if it goes airborn? we're all screwed! ack! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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Like, if you could catch it in the subway or at the bowling alley? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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It was pretty irresponsible for her to be in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:18 AM Flag
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What if it wanted to go bowling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:20 AM Flag
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Best post tonight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 07:46 AM Flag
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I think you can only catch it on doorknobs and toilet seats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have feedback on EINY? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.24.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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it's no Collegiate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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It's no LFNY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Is a Costco membership worth it? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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First Red Lobster, then Olive Garden, then Panera Bread, now Costco! Good grief! Ack! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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Yes. Even if you don't buy anything you can get food from people handing out samples in the aisles. Bring a wig or a fake moustache to get seconds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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you can do that without membership, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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Um, no, your membership card is checked at the door. You can't get in without one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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wow. they must have changed that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:26 AM Flag
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Yes, it's fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't be caught dead sending my housekeeper to Costco! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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It's just you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Just you + 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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Def u [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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Love it!! Yes, worth it. That is if you have the space. I have space, I buy all paper goods, cleaning products,plus nuts, sardines, beans, cheese, fruit, veggies, coffee, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Batteries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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Yes, if you have the space to store stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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Yes. They have stuff you can't buy anywhere else. Really tasty dips, salsas, cheeses, stuff for entertaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:00 AM Flag
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I love their toilet paper, paper towels, and baby wipes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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You love TP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 07:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Possible serial killer on the loose in Huntington Station, NY (Suffolk County, Long Island, south of Lloyd Harbor/Huntington Bay). Cuomo is doing nothing, though, since the victims are poor and largely hispanic, and therefore can't finance his campaigns: 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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Wow, very sad and unfair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Cuomo doesnt give a shit about us Long Islanders, I saw that w the gas crisis after Sandy. -nassau county resident [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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Cuomo only gives a shit about one person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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LI is still very very racist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:07 AM Flag
[ - ] The Jewish MIL/Christmas thread was really relevant to DH and me .. I want to tell him about it the responses but feel weird telling him about UB and all the time I spend on it. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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my DH does NOT know about UB and I'd like to keep it that way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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how was it relevant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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opposite situation: he's jewish and his mom always wants to celebrate jewish holidays at my house, which i'm okay with, but I'm episcopalian and love christmas!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:11 AM Flag
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who doesn't? even most jews love christmas. what's not to like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:27 AM Flag
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Commercialized, Christ, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 04:30 AM Flag
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puhleez. it's still the nicest thing about winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:41 AM Flag
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