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[ - ] Did anyone read this article? https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/13/realestate/on-location-boerum-hill-brooklyn.html Lots of haters in the comments because the dad is a teacher and the mom is a SAHM and they paid $1.7m and spent another $1.3 on renovations. I'm sure they have family money. Must be nice. With that said, I do like the house. And yes, I know I need to MYOB. 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The NYT seems to enjoy giving folks rope so they can gang themselves [ Reply | More ]
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^^^hang [ Reply | More ]
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
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But they do it so well! [ Reply | More ]
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Hate reading is big now a days. [ Reply | More ]
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Boy, America has changed. People actually watched and enjoyed "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous" a generation ago. [ Reply | More ]
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Was there ever a “Lifestyles of the Children of the Rich but not Famous”? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm all for being rich if you earned it. [ Reply | More ]
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Plenty of the people on the real show were family/dynastic money. [ Reply | More ]
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The Economy was better at that time as people were swept up in the get rich quick scheme (Housing). It was before the real estate crash/financial crisis in 2007-2008. [ Reply | More ]
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I know someone whose children were the subject of a similar piece in the Times, and she was completely mortified. [ Reply | More ]
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They lost me at “after closing they called in an engineer.”. [ Reply | More ]
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That’s the kind of thing you do with other people’s money [ Reply | More ]
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This. I do not care if you have family money or not, you get house inspected before you buy [ Reply | More ]
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Well I don't know the Brooklyn market but in Boerum Hill it might be hot enough that bidders have to waive inspection. Also, for a fully-renovated 4 bed TH in that neighborhood, $3m sounds about right. [ Reply | More ]
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NP Very foolish to buy a house intending to add a floor without checking to see if that is possible. [ Reply | More ]
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exactly. must not be very bright. good thing they have someone else's hard earned money to fall back on. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like UB [ Reply | More ]
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Whose family money? His, hers or both? I vote her. [ Reply | More ]
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Tough call. I could go either way, but I think you're right. [ Reply | More ]
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You have to wonder if this are the type of people who spend all the money before finding out if their children got into a private school...lol [ Reply | More ]
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Cold-blooded. Lol [ Reply | More ]
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I’m sure Grandpa also pays the tuition [ Reply | More ]
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Dh went to school with him. He thinks the money must be hers [ Reply | More ]
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This can’t be going well for him at work [ Reply | More ]
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Looks like her dad was CFO of NJ's Weichert Realtors for a long time. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL, even funnier! He doesn’t know about home inspections? [ Reply | More ]
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He lives in Jupiter now. I imagine he only wrote the checks. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought of the first episode of The Affair. I said to myself there is no way a HS teacher with a wife who runs a ridiculous vanity gift shop can afford that Brooklyn brownstone. [ Reply | More ]
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And their kids go to Brooklyn Friends. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m guessing they’ll get a better table than DH and I at the gala. [ Reply | More ]
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That’s embarrassing. Lacking in self awareness [ Reply | More ]
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The husband at least should have had a clue? [ Reply | More ]
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I read it the other night and turned to DH and said: "How did they afford that?" [ Reply | More ]
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Wow people read the real estate section of the Times. [ Reply | More ]
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??? It’s the best part [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:41 AM Flag
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For the same reason that teenage boys look at porn. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't care about other people's homes. [ Reply | More ]
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Move along, then! [ Reply | More ]
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Lol. I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:40 AM Flag
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ok read through comments and the most likely suggestion I saw is he likely made money before becoming a teacher. he may have made millions in finance and retired to teaching. Doesn't sound like family here [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What was a time in your life where karma took you down a peg? IE you were really smug about something but it turned out to bite you in the ass? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm not really a smug person. I tend to expect the worst always [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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That happens to my DH all the time. [ Reply | More ]
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I am pretty pessimistic. I am never surprised when bad things happen. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not smug. Growing up, my parents always emphasized this. [ Reply | More ]
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someone i know was super smug about her dd's teeth and college, dd is marrying someone with the worst teeth who didn't go to college. [ Reply | More ]
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lol what [ Reply | More ]
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which part? [ Reply | More ]
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I thought I had it all figured out because I got married at 28 (most of my friends are single). Well now I need IVF at 30 and feel terrible for ever judging anyone. [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
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I never understand smug people. Don't you guys realize that life is unpredictable and it makes no sense to be smug? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not generally smug at all, I've had a lot of tragedy (both family stuff and personal) and really thought this was the one thing I got right. Guess not. [ Reply | More ]
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sorry [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you need IVF at 30?? [ Reply | More ]
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I have lupus and DOR [ Reply | More ]
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is the lupus related to DOR? [ Reply | More ]
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No just bad luck [ Reply | More ]
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That time I spent two years renovating my dream house in a bad school zone and then my child was rejected from every local private school. [ Reply | More ]
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What did you do? [ Reply | More ]
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Not sure yet. [ Reply | More ]
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Must suck to be you. [ Reply | More ]
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can you do parochial [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Taking stock of my life now. Terrible at my job and hate it. Dating bf of 1 year but he thinks its too soon to get married (and i believe hes not a stringer so its not easy to say "ok just breakup and find a new guy!") Not married, no DC and no real career to speak of. I want so many things i cant have- a family, to be at a job i like, to feel like im not behind. 30 and feeling like a complete failure. Help me feel better... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You have time. [ Reply | More ]
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You are way too young to feel this way. You have plenty of time to get everything you want. Just don’t wait. [ Reply | More ]
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You are still young. [ Reply | More ]
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At 30 a year is long enough dating to know whether you’ll marry. I would have a deadline in mind, if I were you. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, but replies like these are what make me doubly stressed and anxious... [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, that was not my intention. But men have such a luxury of time. I think women who want to get married should stop having sex so men’s decision making abilities would be more focused. It’s easy to drift along through months and years with a woman you’re not certain is the one if she’s available for sex. [ Reply | More ]
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Men will string women along. They have no problem with it. [ Reply | More ]
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This. And it’s not necessarily because they are still trying to figure out whether to marry her. They often know for a fact that they won’t, but they’ll stay with her as long as she allows and then marry the next girlfriend a year later. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m 33 and in the same boat. I’m an outlier. Most of my friends who felt this way at 30 are now married. Look for better jobs, focus on one thing at a time and don’t put so much pressure on your situation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Divorce or stay together? Dh is an alcoholic who had a seizure and broke a limb while watching our ds while I was in another room. Turns out the cause was from withdrawal and I thought he had been sober for several months. So angry and disappointed for ds who has been experiencing separation anxiety as he's been in the hospital for a week and heading to yet another rehab stay. Do I walk away and spare ds more pain or keep my family together? 86 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think you know the answer. Kids that grow up around drug/alcohol abusers are always tense and anxious. Whether the parent is kind to them they still know that there's a powder keg ready to explode. My older brother was an alcoholic. I got used to "listening" carefully all the time to hear the mood he was in. I could tell from the very way he turned the key in our door lock whether he was drunk or not. I really grew up not trusting people b/c my parents never kicked him out or demand he stop. Don't do this to your child. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Totally agree. my father was like this -- an unpredictable drunk, angry, moody. It was horrible. I have lasting scars to this day. Therapy doesn't work. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Dh isn't angry bit definitely can't be relied on and lies constantly. It creates an overwhelming amount of stress and bickering because I can't/won't trust him to take care of anything due to a track record of not following through. [ Reply | More ]
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I could not be married to someone like this [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I never thought I would be either but having a child makes staying together seem like the least terrible option for them. [ Reply | More ]
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It’s hard being a parent to an addicted child. [ Reply | More ]
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His parents and siblings are really struggling with how to help him. After this week I told him he was on his own and I've stuck to it and his family has swooped in to help when I think he should be left to figure out his own mess and decide how he wants to live his life. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah. That’s tough. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. My mother was an abusive drunk and it's affected my whole life. Do not make your children live like this. [ Reply | More ]
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How old is DS? You were there? He has issues but it seems you blame him for a lot. [ Reply | More ]
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Ds is 7. I was on a work call in another part of the house. I don't follow the last part of your statement. [ Reply | More ]
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It makes no sense, disregard that poster [ Reply | More ]
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7 is way old enough to call 911 and go get you. If you want to get a divorce, get a divorce, but don't pretend it's only because "won't somebody please think of the children". [ Reply | More ]
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Don’t put this on the kid. And mom shouldn’t leave alcoholic dh alone with him [ Reply | More ]
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What?? [ Reply | More ]
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How old is your son? If he goes to rehab and gets his act together maybe consider it [ Reply | More ]
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Holy shit. Does DH have a job? [ Reply | More ]
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No. He's been unemployed for quite a while due to depression/alcoholism and the jumble of issues that accompany it. He's an unmitigated mess and I am the breadwinner. [ Reply | More ]
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Get out. He is a loser and will damage your family. People with this degree of alcoholism rarely recover. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Why did you marry him? [ Reply | More ]
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He was nothing like this when we married. He had issues with accountability that he was able to hide from me but when those became apparent I thought we could work through them. His drinking was always done outside the house in secret or if it was inside it was done after I went to bed so there was never any trace of it. I think it almost made me develop a form of ptsd bc I used to dread going to bed or when he would 'run errands'. [ Reply | More ]
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Run for your life. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
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Divorce. He won’t get it together if you keep enabling him. Also, the older the gets the more fucked up his health will get. His liver (high likelihood of liver cancer as well), other organs. He will die early. Do you have life insurance on him? [ Reply | More ]
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No, you can't get it when you've been to rehab unless you pay exorbitant premiums. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree, but she may have gotten it before he was in such bad shape. But I guess the insurance company would find out about rehab. [ Reply | More ]
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Im confused- has he been sober or not? Or was hecdrinking on the downlow? [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, braindead crowd here tonight folks. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry. I dont get it. Can you explain? [ Reply | More ]
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omg [ Reply | More ]
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Im not trolling. Im stupid ok? So was he drinking? [ Reply | More ]
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yes you are stupid [ Reply | More ]
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Ok. Glad that made you feel good. [ Reply | More ]
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Not OP, but it would suggest he was drinking heavily again and abruptly stopped a few days beforehand, leading to the seizure. [ Reply | More ]
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np--The original post is very confusing. It sounds like her son is heading for rehab after being in the hospital. [ Reply | More ]
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I thought he had been but it's progressed enough that even missing out on the small amounts he was probably drinking every or every other day made him have a seizure. Whatever amounts he has been drinking must not be that big bc I never smell it on him and aside from being a pouty jerk he hasn't seemed inebriated. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for explaining. I was comfused bc you said he was in withdrawal- i thought you meant he had been sober and had a seizure bc Of the prolonged sobriety. [ Reply | More ]
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No, I thought he had been sober. All part of his web of lies. [ Reply | More ]
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I think he’s drinking more than that. He may be doing other drugs too. [ Reply | More ]
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Neither. Throw him out, tell him he can come back when he’s been sober for six months, but don’t initiate divorce. Might be what he needs. [ Reply | More ]
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This will be his third trip to rehab and he's done sober living. I don't know that I have another round left in me to be let down again. [ Reply | More ]
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You don’t. Look, he isn’t even functional! He doesn’t work at anything. He should be sober and get a job. Any job. Don’t let him try for alimony. [ Reply | More ]
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Over my dead body will he get alimony from me. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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This situation is not good for your child. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, tough. Sober mom with 17 years here married to sober DH. Not sure you should stay, but obv my heart goes out to your husband. [ Reply | More ]
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So in your experience Do you think this is an unwinnable situation? What made you and your dh get sober? [ Reply | More ]
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Family and friends staged an intervention. We both knew we had a bad problem. [ Reply | More ]
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I really don't know what to tell you. AA is a great program but you have to want to change your life. You have to be beaten down.. If you're a jackass know it all, it won't work so well. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't mean to sound rude. I just don't know. I'm rooting for your DH of course, but is he ready to surrender? I have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
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He is the type that will go to a meeting to warm the chair and then drink after. It makes no sense to me at all. What do people working a program say to someone like that??? [ Reply | More ]
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It's super frustrating to sober people. People even come to meetings drunk sometimes. We have to throw them out. [ Reply | More ]
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FWIW, DH and I packed up and moved to a different town right after rehab...dumped the old haunts, habits, friends...this was helpful. Do you drink? Would you be willing to quit -- no alcohol in house ever? [ Reply | More ]
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I can't move and I have a drink socially every few weeks. I'm too busy and honestly I enjoy a glass of wine with dinner but it ends there. I stopped everything for a while and removed everything from the house but when be didn't stop it made me resentful that I gave up something that I enjoyed and didn't abuse. I felt like I was acting like a teetotaler for someone who didn't care. [ Reply | More ]
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Most likely, if it's going to work out for you, you're going to have to mostly quit...never in house. [ Reply | More ]
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I would consider a glass of wine 1-2x per month to be quitting. His biggest complaint is when people alter their behavior to be around him which I can understand. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:54 AM Flag
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I can imagine. I'm not hopeful that this time will stick since he's being forced into rehab because he's been told he can't come home. I don't see anything more than apathy on his part and frustration that he hasn't seen ds in a week. [ Reply | More ]
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Above poster. I have to step away for a few but I will watch this thread. [ Reply | More ]
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A seizure? How much do you have to drink to have a seizure? Wow. [ Reply | More ]
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Poster from above. It's not uncommon. I didn't have a seizure but had crippling headaches for about a week when I quit. [ Reply | More ]
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Dh was hallucinating in the hospital for about three days. [ Reply | More ]
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He sounds really bad. I am sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow! [ Reply | More ]
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Did you quit cold turkey or slowly. Don’t know how that works. [ Reply | More ]
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Neurologist mom here. "Not uncommon" to have a seizure from alcohol withdrawal?!? This is not true. Having headaches is not the same as having delirium tremens, which can cause death. This man must have been drinking excessively for a long time and then quit cold turkey. Seizures and hallucinations from withdrawal = DTs. [ Reply | More ]
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This. OP is in denial [ Reply | More ]
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I was wondering this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:42 AM Flag
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Google Ativan and delirium tremens [ Reply | More ]
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So he’s a complete liability? Get out now. [ Reply | More ]
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This. He's not providing any financial support to the family. He's damaging you and DS by his behavior. You must leave this man and stay away. [ Reply | More ]
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how many times has he gone to rehab? If he is sincere about getting better and willing to go to rehab, I would stay. If he refuses treatment, then leave. Studies show individual counseling may be more effective for alcoholism. Please get multiple opinions from doctors before choosing a facility. [ Reply | More ]
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google "ketamine infusions for substance abuse." It won't be covered by insurance and it's about $600 per infusion but it will probably be cheaper than alcohol. It's a nonaddictive substance administered by a doctor that helps people become aware of why they are engaging in destructive patterns. He will need probably 5-7 infusions. There really isn't a downside to trying it. I hope you look into it. At least give it a try before you throw in the towel on your marriage. You have nothing to lose. [ Reply | More ]
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i meant it will be cheaper than alcohol rehab. [ Reply | More ]
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Except $4200 [ Reply | More ]
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Leave now. The only way he'll change is when he hits bottom, and your child should not be around the witness that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 10:38 AM Flag
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I would have left a long time ago. I have zero tolerance for drug or alcohol abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:03 PM Flag
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Divorce--for yourself AND your kids. If kids' dad is abusive/drug addict/alcoholic, better for kids to have limited contact with him. It's a myth that an "intact" family is always better than one where the parents live separately. And, talk to your lawyer, but you should document his behavior so that he does have limited/supervised contact with the kids. [ Reply | More ]
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^^Even if you do have to pay alimony, it will be worth it--it is only temporary and you will be better off in the long run--both financially and emotionally--as will your DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:24 PM Flag
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You are supporting an unemployed alcoholic? I'd say it's time to move on. Pay the alimony and protect yourself and your son. This is pretty hopeless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:23 PM Flag
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This. And then don't pay the alimony until he takes you to ct [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:40 PM Flag
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Go to Al-anon or seek support from a trusted confidant. I'm so sorry this is where you are. It sounds incredibly hard for all of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:17 PM Flag
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Don't make your kid or yourself live an alcoholic. Period. It does no good for either of you. Tell him NOW that he can't come home after rehab. The rehab folks will be there to help him transition and it won't be your responsibility. If you 'keep the family together', the message your sending to your kid is that you won't protect him from an alcoholic, that living with someone like this is acceptable behavior, and that women should tolerate this situation. Is this really what you want your kid to believe? I know this is hard, but telling your husband he can't come back may be the wake up call he needs. And if it isn't, then you've gotten your answer: divorce and take care of yourself and your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:08 PM Flag
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Neurologist here. Alcohol withdrawals seizures are common. However, just as common is when people have an underlying tendency towards seizures/epilepsy that is provoked by the alcohol withdrawal. Too often, the seizure gets blamed on the alcohol and no one looks for an additional underlying cause. Your husband needs a seizure workup to see if this can really all be blamed on alcohol. This does not change the fact that he is an alcoholic, obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:13 PM Flag
[ - ] DH has no common sense. It’s like having another child. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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Like most men [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I was sick as a dog for a week and stopped taking my Wellbutrin. Started again yesterday but I am feeling clinically depressed. Have to be back at work to teaching tomorrow and i just feel like I can't concentrate and hopeless at the same time. I have no friends who would want to know this. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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I mean none of my friends and family would want to hear it. They have their own problems [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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Shut up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:05 AM Flag
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Permission granted to take one more day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:48 AM Flag
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This. Take another day. Let the meds start working [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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One day at a time. I'm sorry you're feeling down. Keep at it. Takes time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:56 AM Flag
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Thanks. It's scary how fast I crashed. I was on this low dose for fibromyalgia. The depression feeling like an outside entity crushing me. Luckily I am seeing doc on Thursday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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How has Wellbutrin helped you? Why did you stop taking it while sick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:06 AM Flag
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Try time,through the six hours or so, it will be ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:02 AM Flag
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Try to manage throug [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Loved Poldark. Anything else on Amazon Prime that's similar? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Me too! I think it will be coming back to PBS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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Is Forsyte Saga available now? It seems to come and go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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So, so good [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:15 AM Flag
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Me too. Not the same, but Victoria is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:05 AM Flag
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I am really liking that too, and I adored the last two episodes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:15 AM Flag
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The Irish potato famine episode was great. Apparently it made a big stir in the uk because most brits didn’t know about the famine and how it was caused by the British. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:19 AM Flag
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That was fantastic. I too did not realise that about 2/3 of the population of Ireland left because of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:22 AM Flag
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Yes. 1 million died and 2 million emigrated. Astounding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:25 AM Flag
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The best version of Emma is on there now, the one with Jonny Lee Miller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:19 AM Flag
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Indeed. GOOP was commendable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:23 AM Flag
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NOT That one! That was Jeremy Northam, the least appealing Knightley ever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:26 AM Flag
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I know I know, I was just saying that GOOP's version wasn't bad compared to this., however, I much prefer the BBC version. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:37 AM Flag
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There was also one with Kate Beckinsale. She was good — she seems like a naturally annoying person, perfect for Emma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:40 AM Flag
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The Durrell’s in Corfu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:30 AM Flag
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Love that too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 04:37 AM Flag
[ - ] My ILS recently stayed with us and my MIL refused to abide by a few very simple guidelines. In fact, she went out of her way to do the opposite of what I requested. Why would she antagonize me like that? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:44 AM Flag
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What guidelines? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:45 AM Flag
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Here are the "guidelines"- don't park behind my car (there are other parking spots available) blocking me in the driveway, don't leave multiple tvs on when you're not watching them, don't take your dogs to pee/poop in the neighbors yard. that's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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Tell DH to move her fucking car and pick up the poop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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Nbd with tv. Just move the car [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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Disagree. Last visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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Don't have her stay over. Put cones in the driveway so she has to park on the street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:07 AM Flag
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My mother is like this every time she stops by my house she puts the wrong things in my recycling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:49 AM Flag
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Goodness, how absolutely dreadful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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she is peeing on your territory. Get rid of her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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This. Next time they threaten to visit send her AirBNB listings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:03 AM Flag
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did she unload your dishwasher after using the bathroom and not washing her hands? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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What does DH say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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Power play. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I’m home with DS, 9, all week. All friends/cousins out of town. What the hell should I do with him? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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Have him come play with my 9yo DS who is home all week too... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Lock him in the bathroom with bottled water and an iPad. Then go see a double feature. He'll be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:37 AM Flag
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Bike? Black Panther? That's what my 8 yo did today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:53 AM Flag
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Was Panther OK for 8yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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My 5 yo saw it with my DH. He said it was no worse than star wars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:13 AM Flag
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Idk, why is this a hard situation? What have you done in the past? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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Op: I haven’t had a solid week alone with my kid and no other kids to play with for many years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:22 AM Flag
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Let him hang out with books or some screen time. go out for a walk. Play games together [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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^im sure he’s looking forward to having nothing to do. Give him the gift of boredom and see what happens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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Where do you live?Movies, bowling, lunches, museum, arcade, go kartsMy DS is 9 and I have to work, I wish I could spend this week with him :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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Op Brooklyn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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T) AMNH+Shake Shack W) Bk bot garden+Bk museum+frozen yogurt place R) Walk on Highline+lunch at Chelsea Market F) MoMath + Eataly lunch Sa) Bowling in Sunset Park+pizza Sun) Movie + play date with friends back in town. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:23 AM Flag
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Movies, bowling, go into the city one day- check out the National Geographic ocean encounter or gulliver's gate, both cool for a 9 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:45 AM Flag
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^bring him to a show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:46 AM Flag
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Pick an activity each day which will keep you out for about 3 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:26 AM Flag
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The rest is down time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 05:26 AM Flag
[ - ] For the past few days I have had neck and head pain zaps—acute, pulsing, not long-lasting but uncomfortable/alarming that sometimes move into my shoulder—not too responsive to Tylenol/ice...should I see a neurologist? I have some numbness sometimes too, I think some discs/nerves are messed up. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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Yes, a pinched nerve or disk issue. Cortisone by mouth should take care of it, otherwise a shot. Pick very best doctor for this, it's a tricky area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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OP: thank you. This makes me less nervous. I hate this neurologist, actually, but she did an MRI on my head/neck last year so figured I’d go back. Any recs? And when you say cortisone by mouth, you don’t mean prednisone do you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Prednisone is cortisone. Note that it will take several weeks to work completely and in my case, I had a headache each evening around dinner time. But it worked. Declining amounts each day for 7 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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Oh god I’m so freaked out about prednisone. My mom was on it for years, gained 80 lbs. but one week might be okay I guess. Was yours a disc or nerve issue in the neck? My headache is at the base of my skull and comes and goes. Sometimes too of my head also. Really scary but since the pain is also in the neck I’m telling myself it’s a neck issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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Pain was in my neck, upper back and down my arm too. Prednisone was for one week. Also a little PT. If that hadn't worked, the doctor would have sent me for shots. Luckily it did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:16 AM Flag
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Did you go to a neurologist or orthopedist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:48 AM Flag
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Yes, if you have nerve issues see your doctor. Maybe you need a p/t appointment etc. See what they think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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Op: thanks. Went to PT a few weeks ago, just one session, and neck hurt much more afterwards! Will go back after diagnosis, I just don’t know if neurologist can diagnose this or what. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:21 AM Flag
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You’ve gotten good advice. I had similar. Herniated cervical disc. Lots of pt helped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:04 AM Flag
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Op: thanks. So you needed no meds to address it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:19 AM Flag
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Do you take any medication? I get this sometimes from prozac [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:08 AM Flag
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Op no meds for several years. But I do have mirena. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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Pinched nerve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Ok, Kids. I have finally learned 2hat"Foot!" means. Really? I'm 65, FWIW. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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I mean,"WOOT! "..loll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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47 here, no frigging idea what you are saying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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+1, 37 here [ Reply | More ]
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+1, 32 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 38 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:17 AM Flag
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Yeah, you're 65. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:33 AM Flag
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What DOES it mean? (am I dense or something???). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:58 AM Flag
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Welcome to 2003 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:09 AM Flag
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Vision is always the first to go. Signed, formerly young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:26 AM Flag
[ - ] We’ll be spending a lot of time (more than i’d like, honestly) in the Boston area this summer. Practically the whole month of July. Any great ideas for things to do with kids in the area? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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You could do a day or two in Salem, dopey touristy stuff and the Peabody Museum, plus an old timey amusement park, the Willows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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Also Sturbridge Village, if you like those “living museum” type places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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Plymouth Plantation too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:38 AM Flag
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You didn't say the age of your children. My kids liked the art museum, the swan boats, a baseball game and seeing the marathon finish. We drove under the tunnel to Winthrop where there was this cool restaurant on the water (fried fish/lobster roll shack) and we watched airplanes approach the airport while we ate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:20 AM Flag
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^ Belle Isle Seafood is the name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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WHere are you going to be based? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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I love the harbor islands. Swimming in Walden Pond (during the week anyways). Visiting the Crane Estate. The Harvard museums, the Museum of Bad Art in Dedham. It's been a decade since I've spent time in the Boston area but I loved it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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Harbor Islands +1. Be by the water, different towns, different beaches, different islands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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North Shore has Rockport. South Shore has Plymouth, Carver Edaville if your kids are small. Take a boat to Provincetown from Boston or Plymouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:41 AM Flag
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Love Rockport. There are also whale watch cruises from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:04 AM Flag
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Define "area"... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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Boston proper and the north shore, but willing to do day trips! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:16 AM Flag
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Op- some great suggestions here that I was not aware of- thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm fairly fashion challenged as my day-to-day work wear is scrubs. I'm getting away next month with my college girlfriends for a baby shower. Where do you ladies shop for fun dresses for day functions like this? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Budget? If you have time and inclination pick a department store and either use a personal shopper or wander around yourself. I do that sometimes, but on occasion have also found some nice (enough) things at places like T.J. Maxx (I'm thrifty and baby-shower dresses are kind of one-of) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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Lord and Taylor, Bergdorff's (5th Floor) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Anybody regret sending their DD To SS high school? 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:08 AM Flag
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Friend sent her straight A daughter to TT SS and she only got into Bowdoin. They were furious about the handling of the college process. My friend is a Yale grad and well regarded academic. This wasn't a case of, couldn't handle not hearing her kid was not the top. This girl is extremely smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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And it’s an extremely good school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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It's fine but not really for what they were dealing with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:14 AM Flag
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What were they dealing with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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What could they possible be dealing with?? A super genius? Doubtful. These people need to get over themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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NP: no kidding! No. 3 these days in USNWR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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Always gotta have someone to blame [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:14 AM Flag
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In what sense? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:15 AM Flag
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Did she test ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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Yes. Was told on track for Yale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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So a Yale professor’s DD didn’t get into Yale and for some reason it’s her HS’ fault? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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Her mother isn't a Yale professor. She is a Yale grad though. And this is a fetishized SS school. The college placement department didn't pull their weight. I have no dog in this, but OP asked about regrets, and I think the parents would have sent DD to Trinity or boarding school with hindsight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Oh, you clearly have a bitch in the fight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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I guess the Yale grad well-respected academic blah, blah, blah isn’t smart enough to realize no high school guarantees you admission to a specific college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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The mother didn't understand that her having gone to Yale counted for almost nothing. If her daughter got into Bowdoin, she did fine but to blame the school for the kid not getting into Yale suggests the mother has no idea as to how admissions works at the very top schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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It sounds like the school told her she was on track for Yale--in which case sounds like it was partly the school's fault that parents were shocked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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Not sure what “on track” means, but no one should be shocked that a HYP admission isn’t guaranteed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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Is she an admissions officer? Didn't think so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:53 AM Flag
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According to who? the mom? Spare me.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:50 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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NYC parenting: blame someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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You can get into Bowdoin from a mid level suburban HS - come on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:16 AM Flag
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Yes, kids get into college from everywhere [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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Same is true for Yale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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This x 100000000000000. The point of a good private school is NOT to get into college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:43 AM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:47 AM Flag
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this is so funny to me. wtf is the difference between bowdoin and yale, honestly? how would her dd's life be any different had she gotten into yale? these types of people are just unhappy and will never be satisfied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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I wonder if the DD didn’t want Yale [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:20 AM Flag
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lol. what's the difference between a burger and steak? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:23 AM Flag
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It’s more like your traditional apple vs orange, or maybe more Macintosh vs. Golden Delicious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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what is it about bowdoin that makes it so disappointing compared to yale? sounds like the biggest difference is that the mom doesn't get to tell people her daughter goes to yale. but what about the experience of going to bowdoin is so drastically different than going to yale? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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The OR has no idea what s/he is talking about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:31 AM Flag
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You just have to feel bad for the kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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it's sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:31 AM Flag
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Huh, Yale grad here and I’d be stoked if my DC got into Bowdoin. It’s a lovely school and the people I know who went there rave about it. Also, my sense was that Ivy grads are a dime-a-dozen these days (and that college admissions are much more competitive). I mean, donating a building probably still helps, but short of that I don’t understand how your Yale grad friend assumed her daughter was entitled to a spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:40 AM Flag
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Not everyone is Ivy bound FOR A REASON. I can tell you with near certainty, it was NOT the school's fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:46 AM Flag
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How would you know? You are on an anonymous board and know nothing about the family or the school. Seems lately that whenever someone complains about placement, it is always the student's fault and the parents being unrealistic. School placement is a bit of a crap shoot, but the reality is that some placement directors are better than others, more connected than others, more impartial than others. Or you could end up exiting the year when it is a brand new, green, placement director who just got hired and is still learning on the job. Schools are not perfect, just as students are not perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:37 AM Flag
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My parents sent me to one and I hated it and demanded to leave after a semester. It was awful. Hazing, forced lesbianism, mean girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:19 AM Flag
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Okey-doke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:20 AM Flag
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Was it prison or school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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Boarding school, not much of a difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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Miss Porter’s, aka Farmington? I know two girls who hated it and left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:52 AM Flag
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Ding ding ding!! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, Spence! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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Why do you regret it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:43 AM Flag
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My dd's camp friend is miserable there too. Not a very kind place. Parents are hideous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:49 AM Flag
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Spence seemed awful when I visited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:07 AM Flag
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We love it. Came from co-ed and it's been pretty close to perfect. Supportive yet challenging. Could not be happier and could give two craps about Ivy placement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Fun things to do in city with 12 yo DS and 5 yo ds? Doesn't have to be together..just need ideas for each. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:04 AM Flag
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Lego store. [ Reply | More ]
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Natural History Museum, Met (Arms and Armor, Egypt), Times Square Discovery [ Reply | More ]
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Shows - lion king, Aladdin, stomp etc. My little one likes the new victory shows. [ Reply | More ]
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Shows - lion king, Aladdin, stomp etc. My little one likes the new victory shows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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CMA, spa castle, Chelsea piers (bowling/video games/hit golf balls/ batting cage/ice skating), color me mine, church st drop in art class, spa 88 (more for adults but kids can go), day pass to use asphalt green pool, browse Barnes and nobel (sit around and read), robot foundry, day camp at construction kids, Brooklyn boulders, that pirate themed golf course in red hook (shipwrecked?) [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, shipwrecked. What's so good about asphalt green pool? Should we go? [ Reply | More ]
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Spa castle is gross..I was told people have sex in the water. Ewww. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone done an Alaskan cruise? Always wanted to visit. Hate cruises/all inclusive/big resorts but would consider if it really is the best way to see everything. Would love to hear from people who’ve done it. Thanks. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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We did a cruise tour which is taxing. But loved it. Do it. Just do it. You won’t regret [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:05 AM Flag
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Which company did you use? Did you have DC with you and if so how old were they? Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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Yes dc was 5. We went with holland. If I had to do it again I would do a cruise and not the tour [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:29 AM Flag
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On my bucket list, just need #3 to be older and less motion-sick. My mother did a cruise and loved it. Also had a coworker do an “UnCruise” with his family and he raved about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:06 AM Flag
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Consider the Nat Geo/Lindblad cruises [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:07 AM Flag
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The nat geo ones are not cheap. Highly recommend tho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:09 AM Flag
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Went on Celebrity last summer. It was fantastic and gorgeous. We are fans of cruising because it’s a great way to see places easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Just went last July/August on Holland. It's beautiful there. The glacier's are alive, the thunderous noise they make when chunks crash off into the sea...it's like they are breathing. The orcas swim along side the ship, exhaling and breaching every once and awhile. Stunning. Eagles fly overhead. In one port, we ate fish caught that morning and turned into crisp and flaky fish and chips. Drool. We went ashore and visited a receding glacier...why can't I remember the name of it? Anyway, it must have been 65-70 degrees that day. A lovely hike. We were lucky there was no rain. A charming time. Only thing that got old - the other people on the ship. Get a room with a veranda so you don't have to spend too much time in the public areas to get air. My daughter and I also paid extra for the spa package - every night we went into the mineral pool and then spent time on the heated loungers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:22 AM Flag
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I think you miss a lot of experiences when you take a sanitized cruise. We toured Alaska by car, plane and boat. We stayed at one B&B where the owner did taxidermy during the dark winter months. She took us to the freezer where she stored her taxidermy subjects and taught us how she did her craft. Another place where we stayed raised and raced sled dogs. We saw some beautiful and interesting things that you won’t see from a floating hotel, so know that you pay a price for convenience and comfort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:42 AM Flag
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Taxidermy? You probably came within moments of being part of a horror flick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:02 AM Flag
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:47 AM Flag
[ - ] I live on the top floor of a building without fire escapes (not in NYC.) I am going to buy some sort of rope and pulley system from a camp supply store to keep near the balcony in case of fire so we can escape by climbing down a rope. Any suggestions on what sort of rope and pulley system to buy? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:01 AM Flag
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You can buy an actual rope ladder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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They make rope ladders for this. Firefighter friend of mine said they are legit and useful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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There are some on Amazon if you search “escape ladder.”. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:04 AM Flag
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good tip, thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Only for a 2 floor house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:00 AM Flag
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How high are you? Home depot has one for 3 stories [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:12 AM Flag
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20 stories [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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We live on the 20th floor, and I've been thinking recently we need to do something like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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Nothing will go that far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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Sure but you can get something to get you off your floor to 1-2 floors below so you can climb in a (hopefully) non-burning floor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:54 AM Flag
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Your building is likely fire proof. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:01 AM Flag
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Nothing is 100% fireproof. A cooking fire or a cigarette lighting furniture can do a lot of damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:18 AM Flag
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OH LORD. Go to your neighborhood fire department. They will help you decide why you'd want to kill yourself. I'm sure your building (like mine) is non-combustible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 02:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Thank you to everyone this morning for being so understanding re: Dr. Spandorfer. I took your advice and filed a formal complaint. I also had the office make a note that I do not want to be under his care in any situation going forward, namely the transfer. On a lighter note Dh turned to me earlier after I had calmed down and started laughing “that doctor freaked the fuck out today” and now we can’t stop laughing over how emotional and engraged he got. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 12:56 AM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:02 AM Flag
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I missed. What did he do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:03 AM Flag
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I’m really excited for transfer and asked him if DH could be in the room with me ( i only asked because apparently it’s very common outside of Nyc) - He got so irritated at the question it was almost comical. He stormed out of the room shaking his head while I was still laying there on the table [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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Anyone have an English Translation or subtitles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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Good for you! Best of luck. I am sure it is not his first complaint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:17 AM Flag
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I'm not really getting your drama [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:24 AM Flag
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That’s fine. This post did seem a bit melodramatic. However the way he acted was fucked [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:36 AM Flag
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What an asshole. Good for you, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:30 AM Flag
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Good for you, no personal experience with him but many male doctors are misogynists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.20.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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