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[ - ] You parents who do not believe in "yelling"-let me show you what you are creating. 13YO DS had a friend over Saturday night. We took them out to eat then back to our house. They played video games and whatnot. Then DH decided to have a fire in the fire pit and roast marshmallows. Fine so the boys came out and were actually excited. DH went in the house to get the marshmallows and I yelled up to him "check and see if we have any chocolate or graham crackers please!!" DSs friend got so upset he called his mother to come get him. He said "I'm sorry but shouting and loud voices scare me." Really. Now I get not screaming mean things AT your child but raising your voice to be heard is not wrong. DS said they can't make any noise in that house really-no running, no shouting-nothing. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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Maybe he has sensory issues and that's why they don't yell. [ Reply | More ]
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This is an extreme case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Something else is going on... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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We've been over there and the mother is a little bit of a control freak. She also wants the "model" family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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It's definitely not working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Psychos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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That kid is absolutely not typical if that kind of yelling upsets him so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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LOL. Someone has to be beta. Or in this case,maybe gamma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Don't some autistics have sound issues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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I think "no yelling" generally means not being mean or verbally cruel with your kids and teaching them how to treat others with respect (by modeling that yourself) and work out conflicts peacefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:55 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your thoughts on the orthodox Jew who stabbed 6 people? Is Israel headed to a civil war between secular Jews and radical religious Jews? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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Towards* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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He was just let out of prison for the exact same thing. They need to leave him there this time..a girl died today from her wounds. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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It's not a war, but there has been a struggle between religious and secular Jews in Israel since its founding. The government pacified the religious Jews in the beginning by giving them free reign over personal matters like marriage and Jewish status. (There's no civil marriage in Israel.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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No - he's crazy. Every country has them. [ Reply | More ]
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Visiting my rural hometown and ran into a girl I knew in ms/hs at a shop today. We chatted for a few minutes and she asked where I live now. I told her we just bought a new home in NYC and she couldn't believe it. She started going on and on about some tv show that says every apartment there costs over a million dollars and there's no way she would ever imagine anyone buying a home there. I didn't have the heart to tell her our townhouse cost $5M. It's interesting to see what a bubble people can get caught up in. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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To the poster from earlier today, THIS is what a humblebrag is ^^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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It's more of a VBA than a humblebrag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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True. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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^And not very veiled, at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Very true! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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^^ and I mean that both ways! The bubble in NYC and the bubble of small town life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Is this really op. Lol. Yeah no way a $5M apartment is holding its value, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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It's not an apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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And I'm not talking about a real estate bubble, I'm talking about a demographic/class bubble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Oh k. Whoops. [ Reply | More ]
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vba [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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so, shall we glean that you have moved up in the world? braggard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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I'm not a braggard at all, just live in a different world from her. I haven't really moved up, just to a different part of the country where things cost more. My family has always had money but we are not showy. However dh and I wanted a nice home and in NY that (unfortunately) costs a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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Got it. Corn belt transplanted to NYC. You're not special. You liked Sex in the City, we get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Haha nice try. I'm not from the Midwest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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no one rich says they are showy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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The claim that they are not showy is in direct contradiction with the original post, which is showing off how much her house cost, like it was a badge of honor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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Whose bubble are referring to? Yours or hers? [ Reply | More ]
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I thought she was talking about the fact that she overpaid for her house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:15 PM Flag
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Is your townhouse in Brooklyn or Harlem? I can't imagine any townhouse in prime Manhattan trading so low. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Yes, it is in Brooklyn. My post was not to brag (plenty of people in NYC live in more expensive homes), just to comment on how for someone far removed from that life it seems unfathomable. And for those of us used to NYC real estate and life it seems normal. That is all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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I think you should have been clearer that you meant Brooklyn. I think most people here see NYC and assume Manhattan. Your friend would as well if you just said you live in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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You sound really condescending. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, those silly poors! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Ronda Rousey. Mmhmm 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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13yo DD's idol - and I'm OK with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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She has no business being so gorgeous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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Lady kick boxers are what we admire now? [ Reply | More ]
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Go find some anorexic smack head to "admire" why don't you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 12:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I have to buy a few beds (mattress/ box spring combos). I'd like the best quality at a reasonable price. I am on a budget. Any ideas on what to look for? And do I need to look into environmental/ toxic issues? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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Look at Costco-- may even be worth getting a costco membership. They have sealys/simmons etc at reasonable prices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Really?! Interesting - thanks. I never would have thought about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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Try Keetsa. Natural and doesn't need box spring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Looks great but I'm hoping to spend less. I'll look into it though. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there an online petition to tell Chuck Schumer to support the Iran deal??? He need some nudging. His biggest motivation should be his aspiration (Speaker of the House). 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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senate majority leader you mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Schumer will wait until there are enough votes to uphold Obama's veto, then quietly vote no. Keep the Jewish contributors happy without undermining the President. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Downs Syndrome Mom, question for you. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's "Down Syndrome". Which maybe makes you legit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] At lunch today (I'm in Ca) the family seated next to us at a communal table left such an appallingly low tip. Their bill was $40 (it was right next to me and easy to see), they paid with a card but left no tip on it. They left a dollar and 3 quarters sitting in the tray with the check. The service was very good and I felt terrible for their poor waitress. Why are people so stingy? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Were they blacks, or Jews? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Who cares [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Maybe they made a mistake? Sometimes I hand the tip directly to the waitress on my way out so the bus boy doesn't steal it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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No. I overheard them joking that they should each leave a quarter at their places. That's what made me glance at their check after they had left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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STOP THE TIPPING MADNESS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:38 PM Flag
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Probably European [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:40 PM Flag
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Nope, they were definitely American. Just cheap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Could be Canadian. Did you ask for their ID documents, too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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np: I'm sure she just happened to peek into their wallets, because they were "right there" next to her... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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Maybe the service was lousy. Maybe there was a hair/bug/piece of plastic in their food. Maybe the order was wrong and the waitress wouldn't fix it. Who knows. Meanwhile, they're also posting on UB: "I was at lunch today and this weirdo next to me was sitting WAY too close, eavesdropping on our conversation and snooping on our check. Why are people such nosybodies?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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You are NOSY! How do you know they didn't leave a tip on their credit card? Maybe they aren't Americans. In Europe, people leave an extra 5% (unless it's a fancy restaurant, in which case they leave an extra 10%) on the table, since service is included in the price of the food. That is why in some cities like Miami, where I live, the restaurants automatically add the tip on the bill. Too many foreigners who don't understand US tipping customs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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It's not nosy to glance at a credit card slip sitting 3" from my elbow after the people who were discussing not leaving a decent tip left. This isn't Miami, and they weren't European. They were just stingy jerks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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Get a life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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Probably Republican or Baptists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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When I was a waiter while in college, the worst tippers were all female parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:47 PM Flag
[ - ] BM, are you on? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Bowel Movement here, what's your question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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This LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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LMFAO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 11:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Here's my blunt impression of Jeb Bush - I think his main loyalties are to Mexico and Israel, with America itself a distant third. I would even support Hillary over that Trojan horse buffoon. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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I think his real loyalty is to the stage. He is such a queen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Do not vote for either of those people. Both are just like obama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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He's a mealy mouthed loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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I will vote for the candidate who will not cave to Israel! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Oh, right. Which candidate is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Jim Webb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Oh weird, I actually liked Webb. Didn't realize he was an anti-semite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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Being an America Firster does not make one an "anti-semite." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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That's not a thing. There is no thing called 'America Firster.' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Who is that, like David Duke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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US just supports Israel, you make it sound like it's somehow sinister. Get over your anti-Semitism, you stupid Nazi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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I completely agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Israel? How is he loyal to Israel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Most politicians are loyal to Israel. Why wouldn't they be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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OR: I meant overly loyal. It sounds like that's what OP was implying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:10 PM Flag
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You're either loyal or you're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:13 PM Flag
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No, you could have loyalty to an ally of your country, which is/should be much less than your loyalty to your home country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Look at his simpering whinery related to the Iran deal, or his general foreign policy neocon outlook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Puerto Rico has defaulted. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Oil is down to 50 a barrel [ Reply | More ]
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Puerto Rico doesn't have oil, does it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Oh great more immigrants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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They're American citizens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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What does that mean to people who own property there? [ Reply | More ]
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Why would anyone own property there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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... lots of people who live on the mainland own property there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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It means that the commonwealth is in the shitter and services will be cut [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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what is the downside to cutting that island loose and stripping all the residents of citizenship and benefits?? [ Reply | More ]
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No one wants another Cuba [ Reply | More ]
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Liberal whining would be one downside. [ Reply | More ]
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Id rather do it to texas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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I second that [ Reply | More ]
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Glad i got out of their bonds. Had a shitton [ Reply | More ]
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And this is why they're defaulting! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:01 PM Flag
[ - ] What's consider accepted wisdom by "science" complete overhauls itself on a regular basis. I feel some pity for those who place so much value it whatever "acience" is selling this week. Give it a decade or so and you'll be disappointed. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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If only we had given thalidomide a bit more time [ Reply | More ]
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The fact that you put science in quotes tells us everything we need to know about your agenda here. [ Reply | More ]
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Who "us". Love people who speak about themselves in the plural. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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I agree with some of it - a lot of science is based on theories which are valid until proven wrong. Otoh, there are also many assumptions that have been proven to be correct over years, decades and centuries. [ Reply | More ]
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Science is constantly changing because scientists are constantly learning, something the cons, you are with us or against us, can't process. [ Reply | More ]
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Theoretically yes but when a major scientific turning point occurs, what happens is not that the old order revises their beliefs but that they retire and die off and the new view then becomes the dominant one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:49 PM Flag
[ - ] My 4 yo dd has always been a "good eater," but I'm starting to worry. She cleans her plate and asks for seconds at every meal, even breakfast. I have tried to cut her back but she claims she is hungry. She is 47 inches tall and weighs 58 pounds. Is there anything I can do about this, or is it just her natural build? We eat very little junk and she is active. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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^^i should add I am 5'4" and was close to 200 pounds throughout my 20s, I am on a strict diet myself to maintain 150 lbs. dh is also large build. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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What's she eating? Enough fiber? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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I could be wrong but this sounds relatively normal for a 4 year old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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My dd is like that. Always asks for seconds immediately. I tell her "Let's give the food a chance to reach your tummy. If you're still hungry in 10 minutes you can have more food." Either that or I tell her she can have frozen raspberries for dessert. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 but maybe 15 mins or so. My DS is like this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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This! What percentile is her weight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Sounds like she is going to be on the larger side, but that doesn't mean she has to be fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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It is a tough call. She is 96th percentile on BMI chart, so technically obese. But has she just gotten plumper lately in preparation for a vertical growth spurt? Do you always give her seconds, or does she understand that sometimes you just get a normal-sized portion of food and then it is time to move on from the meal? Active is good! Our pediatrician said that we could offer a normal-sized portion to our "good eater," and then when he is finished (in five minutes!), he can have a very low-calorie filer food like fresh veggies until he feels "full" on the inside. That way, there is no "control" issue--but you are also not letting them take down 1000 calories of lasagna before they reach satiation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Give her a smaller first helping then when combined with second it's more reasonable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Agree. Let them fill up on fiber. [ Reply | More ]
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My 5yo is big for her age but she's 51" and only 50lbs. Your dd is obese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Np. That height sounds wrong. My very tall 7 yo is 51 inches and 65 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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She's nearly 51", 50.5 at her last checkup. She's really really tall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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DD8 is 40th percentile and about 49 inches, 52lbs. DD4 is a peanut and 40 inches, 33lbs. your DD sounds quite large but perhaps this is her growth curve? what does pedi say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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DD is the same. 4.5yo, 86th percentile for weight and 47th for height. She is a hearty eater to be sure, but we give her hardly any junk food (sweets maybe once a week at most). It is just her natural build. Instead of trying to get her to eat less I try to help her make healthy food choices (fruits and veggies instead of pretzels, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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47 inches is very tall for 4yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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Crazy tall! My 5 year old is 43 inches. [ Reply | More ]
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Does you daughter get enough sleep? Lack of sleep increases hunger hormones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 04:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Feel defeated and like I let the most important people down; my parents were MDs but were "btoken in spirit", had a mismatched marriage (though no violence, and no real material deprivation), they were very busy with their own lives and getting used to the new country. Sister and me were latchdoor key children. I have dcs myself now and am overwhelmed with the mundane details, not the organization of family life but the feeding, clothing, entertaining. I feel this is a continuation of my mothers raising of us - eat what you want, do what you want. My dc just "made" herself breakfast from old candy, she's 5, as I was too busy with household. I don't know how to turn this around. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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Breakfast? It's 530 pm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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I don't think you should feel defeated and that you let people down. I think your parents let you down by not focusing on you and teaching you skills that you needed to get by in this world. Your parents sounded too into their own careers. How to turn it around is much too complicated to reply here, but it can be done to some extent. Good luck and be confident - you weren't given the tools you need, but maybe you can still get those tools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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I was feeling similar to you. One weekend I took some time for myself while DH watched the kids. I wrote down every little thing hat I'm responsible for (house, kids, PT job) and the list was huge. It suddenly made sense why I was feeling so run down. It's a lot of stuff that is not particularly rewarding but not good to outsource (like making sure the kids eat well, keeping an eye on heir development, etc). You might try reflecting on your situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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go easy on yourself. Running a house and family is an incredibly detailed and exhausting job with a huge learning curve. Now I get why my parents hung out smoking at the kitchen table while we kids watched tv for hours. After we'd eaten our artery-clogging chicken nuggets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to the nypl does give you such an interesting slice of nyc. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Which branch? Mine's all kids, old people and a smattering of homeless. [ Reply | More ]
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Mid manhattan. Was getting my nycid. Transperson claiming discrination someone almost getting into a fist fight over plugs erc [ Reply | More ]
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Fake. Collapsed. [ Reply | More ]
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Lmao. Actually 100% real. It was surreal. Hence the op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Today I woke up just in time to find our Caribbean treasure, Fauxmaman, getting Putter and Callsce out of the laundry chute we've converted into a nursery. So blessed to be able to relax and sip my coffee while she oversees them changing their diapers and lacing up their Prada booties - the twins have gotten SO PRECIOUS - who knew 5 years could fly sooo fast??!?! It breaks my heart to think that, in a few short weeks, she'll be dropping them off at Kinderdouche for a full day of mindful engagement and self-directed personal exploration! I'll be taking Fauxmaman down to an abbreviated schedule, but I'm confident that she loves Putter and Callsce enough that the 75% pay cut won't bother her a soup├žon. Once I finish with Soul and a good sweaty couple of hours with Chaud Pauvre (my trainer, wink wink), I'll shower and dress to see my darling husband Cash off on his business trip downtown. He works SO HARD for us that he's assured me a hotel room down there will be a MUST for him. SO BLESSED to be married to such a good provider! Must fly....caught the domesteek looking me in the eye and simply MUST address it stat. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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See now this one isn't as good as the other one. [ Reply | More ]
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trying too hard [ Reply | More ]
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exactly [ Reply | More ]
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what other one? this one not funny [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds about right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:59 PM Flag
[ - ] In the market for a new washer/dryer. It'll be for a home. Looking at reviews online and everything is getting bad reviews! What kind of washer/dryer do you have and are you happy with it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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dont get a front loader if you can avoid it. not impressed with mine and it gets mildew easily, also the door has broken several times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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Yes, definitely not getting a front loader after reading all the reviews [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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and the front load dryer takes forever to dry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't have insurance. In June, I went to the doctor for what I thought was strep throat. The rapid test was negative, so the doctor also sent it away for the slow test. He never called me with the results, and did not tell me I would be billed for extra. I was sick and not thinking. I just got a bill. I'll pay it, but I'm frustrated that he didn't tell me it was extra. I don't have insurance, so clearly I don't go to the doctor often and am concerned with costs. I'm just wondering if he had an obligation to tell me this before sending it out. Anyone know? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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OP again. He also only took one sample. Can the same sample be used for two tests? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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The doctor does what the doctor has to do for your health, if he didn't send it out for the "slow test" and you became more seriously ill, he could be liable. You're just upset that the slow test was negative, but in effect you did see a doctor to find out a result either way. If the slow test were positive, you would not be complaining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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No, I'm really not that upset, just trying to explain it all up front. But my issue really is that he didn't tell me. I would have asked how much if he had told me, and yes I probably would have said yes anyway, but I just think it's wrong that a doctor can cause me to spend money without my consent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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Dr. doesn't deal with billing or insurance questions, his time is too important ... at a vet clinic you would be asked if you wanted to send a sample of blood out for further lyme testing for your dog and you could decline. At a human clinic they have to do what they have to do to avoid liability. A strep infection can obviously be serious. I suppose you could have been offered the opportunity to decline further testing, but it's not the way it's set up. If you had become much more ill it could have been argued towards a settlement that the physician should have known better than you, fresh off the street, that a strep infection was still possible despite the rapid test. You're not going to win this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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I'm not going to win this one? Really? I wasn't upset before, it I'm starting to be upset now, by you, not the doctor. Why so adversarial? Don't be a jerk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Sorry. I am very familiar with how medical offices work, and these are my straight answers. I didn't realize I was being insulting. I'm glad that you didn't turn out to be ill with many more medical bills to come (?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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"Win this one" lmfao. Grow up and pay your bill. Lesson learned. That or they'll refer to collections and kill your credit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Learn to read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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The health care system sucks in price transparency- you have to know to ask about prices ahead of time and intercept a decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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np: ITA. we have a HD/HSA plan and with a family of 4, it's a HIGH DEDUCTIBLE. so most of our helathcare expenses are out of pocket. ds recently was being monitored for a minor issue that involved some extensive testing "just in case". ended up being thousands of $ and no one thought to mention that in advance. not that we wouldn't have done it, but ordering several different tests that cost thousands, should come w some notice about it - maybe we couldn't afford it or maybe we'd have to budget it. but i swear, i got the bill in the mail and less than a week later got calls about it. UGH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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OP. Exactly. At least let us know. And yes, I absolutely should be able to refuse a test if I don't want it. Especially since the doctor didn't even think I had strep, so sending out for another test really was overkill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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You do not sound smart. You WENT to the doctor's office to Rule out Strep. The doctor did the most important test to rule out STrep-- he sent a strep culture to the lab. You erred by thinking that a rapid strep test in the office was the test you needed/wanted. Not the doctor's fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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From Web MD: "A negative rapid strep test result can mean there are no strep bacteria present. But the rapid strep test can give negative results even when strep bacteria are present (false-negative test results). If the rapid strep test result is negative but strep throat is still suspected, your doctor may order a throat culture to verify the results. If the rapid strep test result is positive, a throat culture isn't needed." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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MAY order. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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Again, you do not sound smart. You are paying a doctor to use their judgment on ordering the throat culture when you specifically show up asking if you have strep throat. If you feel you do not need a doctor's judgment, then don't go see the doctor. No one held a gun to your throat and forced you to go to this appointment and ask him to check and see if you have strep. He sends a throat culture to see (since the rapid test can give false negatives) and you get mad. This is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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I may not sound smart but every time you say that, you definitely sound like an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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fine. answer to your question: doctor did not have an obligation to tell you he was sending out a throat culture to test for strep, since you came to his office asking if you had strep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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And that's fine. That's all I was asking. I actually DO know that the rapid test can have false negatives. You simply were deciding that I was stupid and that you would talk down to me and not read everything I actually said. But perhaps now we can all move on to a different post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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np. This is smelling fake to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Not fake, just not taking insults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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wrong place for that :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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Lol true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Assume that every test and procedure costs money. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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Or tell the doctor at every visit that you do not want a single thing sent to the lab for analysis unless you specifically approve it before hand-- and again, repeat this at every visit since this is not the norm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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Get insurance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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Oh gee thanks, I never thought of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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You're an adult. Obamacare is a thing. No excuses anymore not to get coverage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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You're not an uninsured, low-paid adult. Even with Obamacare, it is too expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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Go to Bellevue Hospital (if in NYC) and sign up for HHC Options "insurance" -- it will pay for all of these things. Premiums are from $0 up to very reasonable amounts - depending on the income you disclose to them. you are welcome. http://www.nyc.gov/html/hhc/html/patients/ForPatients-Paying-Options.shtml [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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You are welcome- signed MD mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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^^^ Please note, that the most difficult part of this "insurance" is that waits are long for their clinic appointments. But be persistent and you will get in. And of course ER visits and meds/ labs/ radiologic studies are covered as per the rate schedule on those information sheets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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This is great to know, really. Thank you :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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The doctor does not bill you "extra" for the test that was sent away. It was billed by the Laboratory. If you went to a doctor for a strep test specifically, then yes- it will routinely be done in two steps-- a fast test in the office, and also a more thorough test through the laboratory. The doctor did nothing wrong. If you specifically do not want to pay any fees to a lab, you need to tell the doctor that you do not want any bloodwork/tests sent to a laboratory for testing At All. It is your fault for not telling the doctor- not the doctor for not telling you that he is doing the strep test that you came to the office requesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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How is it that you don't have insurance? So, you'd rather pay the tax penalties than buy insurance? It is heavily subsidized at the lower end of the income spectrum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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The penalty was much, much less than Obamacare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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What is your income? Why would you take the gamble not to carry insurance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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Oh honey. Learn about the world around d you. I'm not telling you my income. That is private information and I don't share it online. I cannot afford insurance. I would LOVE to have insurance. I cannot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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Hey, You've got bad attitude. I really DO understand the world around me. I get subsidized health insurance. You might, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.03.15, 10:21 PM Flag
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Do you think I haven't looked into it? Of course I did. It was still too expensive. You speak like someone who knows nothing of financial struggle. I really doubt you use Obamacare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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