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[ - ] 5 yo DS wants me to play with him constantly on vacation - pretending to be super heroes, stuff like that. It's incredibly sweet and I know one day I'll miss it, but it's exhausting and frankly I'm no good at it. If I'm completely honest, I don't enjoy it, though I love reading wih him and talking and playing quiet games. All he wants is loud silly playing though. Wwyd? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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This was me. Can you limit it to 30 min of good quality playtime? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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He always seems heartbroken when I say I have to stop because it's time for dinner etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Btw I'm a wohm and we also have a 2 yo. Flame away - I know I should love every minute of our vacation but I'm tapped out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Me too. I'm so not good at it. I always feel bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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How do you handle it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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I do my best. My kid is 8 now so a little better. To try to be engaged in his super hero talk I find trivia games about them or let him write scripts for me to act out with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Ugh. I het it . I hated playing pretend. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Lol. It's a relief to know I'm not alone! Feel like a bad mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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You are def not alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Find him a friend close to his own age. I don't like kids' games either. I think that's pretty normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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I'm the same as you. I love reading to them and games like I spy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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I had to set a time limit. I know how you feel. I'd use a timer and then he had to either play on own or we'd read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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you deal. that's kids for you. pretend play THE WORST. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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i am with you all the way. Also WOHM also feel very guilty. I always ask my mom about this stuff and she tells me she felt the same way, lol. we are very close. (; [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] My 64 year old in laws are addicted to their phones. They see our kids 2x per year and basically used them to take pictures being the perfect grandparents but after the picture was taken they would ignore them. Example DD would get on swing MIL would take picture behind her and walk away. Wtf?? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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^only grandchildren too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Everyone takes pictures, and maybe they're just not "kid people." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Yes, but its almost staged with them. I don't expect them to sit, but its just strange to me that the only times they interact with them is for these staged pictures. MIL is a Kindergarten teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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LOL that is an interesting detail. :) I think it's a bit stranger given that she works with kids all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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np: you just described my ill's to a tee. the fil is also in a child related profession. we have so many pictures of them that misrepresent the ways things really are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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+1, hate the fakeness. Keep those visits to a minimum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I think it explains why she's disconnected. I love my nieces and nephews, but I deal with children during the week. I don't want to deal with them on my time off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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Sounds like they're just letting the kids be kids and not hovering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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you described my 70yo inlaws but they dont really take pics of the kids. They visit, sit on the couch and look at their phones the entire time until they leave. We also see them 2x/year and they think they are grandparents of the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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NP- Mine too. Except they are on the deluxe 3x yr package! [ Reply | More ]
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Ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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My sister does this too for her yearly calendar. I see her 1x per year and all she wants is a photo of me. So I stare off into space or close my eyes or make a bleh face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 02:19 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you allow a responsible 5th grade boy to start walking home from school on the Upper East Side. Two days a week, 5 block walk? 51 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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Which streets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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70s along Second Avenue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Ask him. I would worry too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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He would like to do it, but with a phone in hand. I've seen other children seemingly his size and age doing this. I would be nervous the first times, but if other parents have tried it, maybe I would feel a little more at ease. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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The phone helps alot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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No it doesn't. Helps get stolen maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 02:21 AM Flag
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I did and much further + every day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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OP: I feel confident about it, but wanted to hear from other parents. I would give him a cell phone to check in with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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It's totally fine and actually good to learn self awareness and responsibility [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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Yes. Even 4th grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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You think so for fourth? Do you know any parents who have tried this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Above OR. My ds started in 4th but I was the only one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Did neighbors or parents give you any slack? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Parents at the school where constantly offering to help. Their hearts where in the right place but it was clear to me that they where judging. Now they are all panicking about MS commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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2nd half of 5th. Age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Just turned 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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All the fifth graders in Battery Park City seemed to walk home alone last year. I was sad because I always liked picking up, but it was time to cut the cord. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Different neighborhood. Safest zip in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Hijack: what about a 6th grader from Times Square to Lincoln Center ( walking along Columbus Avenue for 15 min ) every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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No way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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Middle school students often commute by themselves. However, I would be iffy about Times Square alone even in 6th grade. Too many shady characters. Maybe the 2nd half of 6th. Yet, it all depends on your child and how you feel. I wouldn't pass judgements if you did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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I would allow that if he feels ready and he is generally trustworthy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Why not the subway or a bus? That's a long walk when it's cold out, raining, or snowing. My DD traveled from Queens to Manhattan in sixth grade. She had travel buddies but they were all the same age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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NO NO NO NO. Responsible or not, things can still happen out of his control... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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Then at what age would you say a child would be able to walk home alone in the Times Square area? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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14-15. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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That's ridiculous. Taking a middle school child to and from school in a city like New York? Things can happen to 35 year olds. Besides, children who have been coddled all their lives do not suddenly become savvy and responsible when they turn 14. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 03:42 AM Flag
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So at what age? Things can always happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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And those things can happen to all of us. Land the chopper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Are you even in NY? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 06:29 AM Flag
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Does he have a sibling or friend who could go along, at least in the beginning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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No, this isn't an option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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FFS IT'S FINE!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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I would go for a few practice runs and walk behind him and see how it feels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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Yeah. If anything this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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This is what op should do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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Sure. He'll be fine. It's in a busy area and he go into a store if he needs help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Yes. Cell phone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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Yes. I started DD this way--walking a few blocks at a time. In 6th grade, she graduated to taking the subway. I helped her and gradually let her go alone over the course of about two or three weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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How tall is he? What streets does he need to cross? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 03:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Sassy Tarot Mom here. If you want to tell me about what you dreamed last night, I'll tell you what it might mean. :) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Wish I could remember. Want to throw my cards anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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STM: Do you have a question for me, or do you just want to know about your general situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Let's do general! Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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My dream was that I was going back to my old mailbox and finding out I had an additional mailbox as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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When my cat wants a drink I usually open up a trickle on a sink tap. He puts his paw into the water and licks it off. In my dream there was a towel blocking the sink drain and it overflowed the entire upper floor and came into the kitchen through the ceiling while my in-laws were over. My husband said it was obviously time for a divorce and when I started to make a list of what I wanted and he said he decided it was going to be better for me to get a real job. I think he mentioned I could be a "timekeeper" or make pancakes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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np. I don't have to be sassy tarot mom to observe that you are clearly here too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I know, right? I think the idea of the jobs was that I wouldn't be qualified to do anything serious but that he thought it would be good for my character to do something simple. dumb dream [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Had lots of dreams about my boyfriend. He works a lot and I'm anxious about where our relationship is going. Spends most of his non-working time with me and is pretty sweet, but I'm a worrier. [ Reply | More ]
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This isn't dream related but we're about to move to another state and I'm getting nervous because we have to find a place to live yet. Any thoughts on how this will all go? Will we like it there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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I dreamt I had to go to the bathroom really badly. I rushed in with my pants unzipped and started taking a piss while hovering over the toilet (my usual public toilet stance). Someone burst into my stall and in my shock, I peed all down my leg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 03:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I take a Rolex watch for repair? Dh inherited one from his grandfather many years ago and it stopped working recently. Torneau says it will cost $700 for repair, whoa. Any recommendations? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Tiffany or any other jeweler [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Not this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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WRONG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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That price sounds right. Go to a proper Rolex forum and ask there. If you go to an uncertified Rolex repair shop and they use unauthorized parts, well, penny wise pound foolish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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TA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Any place that sells Rolex, but it will cost more. $700 sounds about right for a repair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Take mine to Rolex in NYC for service every 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Only Rolex shop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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going to a torneau or Rolex will cost 2 - 3x taking it to a local watch repair shop. my local watch/jewelry repair was recently written up in the local papers for selling valuable items while telling clients it's in "repair" and replacing broken items with substitutes, subpar items. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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Wempe [ Reply | More ]
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Take it to Rolex headquarters in NYC. They do repairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 03:26 AM Flag
[ - ] S/o on Labrie case. We just picked up our foreign exchange student who is 16, she just broke up with her 21 year old bf, who she dated for 2 years. She seems normal, is it just a case of different culture? 75 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Is she from France? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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Italy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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In Italy age of consent is 14 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Yes, age of consent is arbitrarily established, country-specific [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Yes. My parents thought it was great when I went on a date with a really smart college student. I was 15. However in my time/place it was understood that the relationship would not be sexual for a very long time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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I lost my virginity at 20 AFTER moving to the US. Never seen such sex obsessed yet puritanical society. Dating didn't assume fast track to sex like it does here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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^ I mean dating didn't assume immediate sex where I grew up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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+10000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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It happens here too but rarer I think because of laws. It depends on the individuals but I would be prepared for her to be more sophisticated (or at least she might think she is) than the local girls. I would make your expectations for her behavior (ie curfew) very clear from the start. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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I think that's too big an age gap at that age, but of course the most salient difference is that their relationship was romantic/consensual and not coercive/rapey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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^ But also: yuck. That means they started dating when she was 14 and he was 19. When you were a sophomore in college, would you have wanted to date a freshman in high school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Op. I agree seems creepy, but what do I know? Drinking age is 16 and not enforced. She will be suprised at how young we treat our teens [ Reply | More ]
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Good luck. :) Are your dcs going to spend time in Italy as part of the exchange? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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At that age the law says that she is unable to give consent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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That's an American law. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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And I was doing this crazy, unimaginable thing by applying the American low to OP's scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Yes, the self centered American mentality is pretty crazy [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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it's kind of crazy considering the original post said "FOREIGN exchange student" [ Reply | More ]
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who's in America....-np [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I agree, in the U.S. there are no jurisdictions where the age of consent is 14, as far as I know. However, this doesn't generally come up for legal review in a consensual situation because no one reports it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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The age of consent is 16 in many states [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Interestingly in Austria, Italy and Germany the age of consent for sex is 14. In France it's 15 though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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States? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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I was thinking of the US, I realize now the OP is talking about an Italian Girl. Because everyone knows no 14 year olds have sex with 19 year olds here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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depends on the individual, how mature they are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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That's creepy. A 14yo and 19yo having sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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Who says they had sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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One can assume. [ Reply | More ]
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They shouldn't. My cousins are Italian and all of their dates were chaperoned into their 20s. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 03:46 AM Flag
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Parts of europe are really different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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And in Bangladesh 14yos are married to adult men but one place is evolved and different and the other is backwards pedophiles right? [ Reply | More ]
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Hello crazy. I'm sorry, which crazy road are you running down? In parts of europe a 14 or 15 year old having sex with a 19 or 20 year old is no big deal at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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In europe they aren't getting married or having babies at those ages [ Reply | More ]
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You are talking out of your ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Actually I'm not ?? I've spent a lot of time there. [ Reply | More ]
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This has been going on since the beginning of time. Our parents definitely dated people with larger age spans. Guys in general are less mature at this age so it evens out. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know what your parents did, but mine weren't dating adults when they were barely in high school. [ Reply | More ]
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Not unheard of for s sophomore in hs to be dating a college boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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My mom was 14. My dad was 21. They were married 25 years. My dad is not a pedophile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Bigger issue than when they started spending time together is when they started having sex. I had friends who dated older guys, 3-5 year age gaps when they were 14 and 15 but only one of them was sleeping with the guy and he was definitely into her sketchy reasons. She looked about 12 until she graduated from college and it took many not pleasant experiences and a few downright scary experiences before she realized she was total Pedo bait. My other friends who dated much older guys all waited a minimum of year if not closer to two or three before sleeping with their boyfriends (at least age 16 by those points). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 03:52 AM Flag
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I think that there are a lot of issue with Labrie, including that the girl was not living with her parents, that the school gave Labrie a position of respect (kids are supposed to look up to the prefects, and the prefects are supposed to show them the way) that are not typical. [ Reply | More ]
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The school is the problem. Not Labrie, not the girl. The school turned a blind eye to the "tradition" and didn't teach the students the dangers of such encounters. I only wish the parents had pursued civil charges against the school instead. [ Reply | More ]
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NP. This is such BS. The school didn't march those two people into a closet and encourage Labrie to penetrate a 15yo. You don't understand boarding school culture at all. [ Reply | More ]
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And it was a school tradition for seniors to rape junior class men. You don't think the school has culpability in that? [ Reply | More ]
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Um, cite? I have never heard of this and I went to a boarding school that was all male until 1989. But in general, I do not believe any school administration would support such a tradition, tacitly or otherwise, but they can't police what goes on out of sight of adults (this is true everywhere, including at day schools - I assure you kids who stay in the city hook up too). People are responsible for their own actions. [ Reply | More ]
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Cite? Any newspaper article covering the topic. Start there. [ Reply | More ]
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I read the Times' and NYMag's coverage and never saw a mention of it. If you have a cite indicating that it was a "tradition" for seniors to rape juniors, please provide it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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np. Consider what the climate would be if the school didn't have rules that say teenage boys and girls who live together without parents in proximity are to stay out of each others living quarters at any time when they might have privacy. These kids can all live together and look at each other and smell each other but they are not supposed to have sex? Consider if they were permitted to have sex in their rooms with adults they could consult without being in fear of being disciplined. They might not be sneaking around with secret keys to dark mechanical rooms and hiding everything from adults in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Please, they definitely still would. No teenager is going to ask his or her dorm parent if they can invite someone over for consensual sex. Though there is a system for hanging out together (or at least there was in the early aughts when I was at boarding school) - it's called parietals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I'm saying they shouldn't have rules forcing kids to sneak around. My parents never did. I was permitted to have sex with my boyfriends in the house when I was in high school. They were happy I wasn't doing drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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That just isn't practical. Many parents would not send their kids to the school if those were the rules. I agree that that would be preferable, but no one is going to use those rules for other people's kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I agree with you on that. It would never change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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The funny thing was, I went to a girls boarding school and girls were having sex all the time, sleeping in each other's beds, sleeping over in the "housemother's room" and in her bed. Because girls can't have "the dangerous kind of sex" and no one talked openly about anyone being gay. But I totally remember girls having two adjacent singles and sleeping together in one of them. No biggie [ Reply | More ]
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No one cares if girls fool sround with each other. Boys can overpower girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 05:27 AM Flag
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The school in the past painted over or wiped down the "scoring" by the boys/rapists. So they knew. Then the boys moved to an electronic board. I doubt the school monitored appropriately. This "tradition" has been around for years, is there no trustee or faculty member who knew? I doubt it. Its time for change. Girls matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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I couldn't agree more, but why is it the school that is responsible and not the boys themselves? It is virtually impossible to monitor everyone's internet usage to that extent. Your kid could belong to such a board at home in his bedroom and you'd likely never know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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It is both. This is my a college. Kids go there at age 13. Boarding schools are pseudo parents and they know it. They have a responsibility to teach morals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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They do. Most of these schools really stress character and put a lot of effort into shaping their students into good people (of course the parents are still a huge influence too). But there is a limit to how much they can control the kids - teenagers are great at hiding and sneaking around and forming their own secret societies. I would also point out that today's parents are so resistant to any perceived criticism of their children that the schools are in a tougher position than ever. How do you think the average helicopter parent would react if the school disciplined his or her son for participating in an online activity like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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But it wasn't hidden. Everyone knew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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It seems to me that the extent of what was going on, it would not be that hard to figure out. They turned the other way. Shame on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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THIS. St. Paul's knew. Without a doubt. I went there. They knew. They often tried to change locks or paint over things but never really addressed the culture or talked to us about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I suspect they will. The criminal convictions make their case better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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As a foreign exchange student host, I would be concerned. I hope you are not in for a wild ride! GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Seriously. My parents refused to host FX students when I was growing up because of the nightmare experience of our neighbors. Sex and drugs issues. Who needs that shit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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When I was 14 I did a summer program at a college. Met a guy. He assumed I was in college. I assumed he was also in a HS program. We went out twice before we realized. He wouldn't date me after that but we flirted all summer and talked all the time. The age difference just didn't seem that great. I was a mature 14. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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This is honest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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Smart of him not to date anymore. I had an ex boyfriend who dated a girl in college who was underage (she was 16 or 17). He was in his 20s. He wouldn't sleep with her till she was of age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 05:38 AM Flag
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What kind of orientation or counseling does the foreign exchange program do with both students and hosts? And how do such exchanges get arranged? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:17 PM Flag
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If one of the 2 people having sex is resisting, age has nothing to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 02:54 AM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.15, 05:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh is away on business. Kids played and now watching some cartoons. This is so much easier than when he is home. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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What makes it more difficult for you when he is around? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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more cooking and maintenance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Same here. I can give kids much simpler meals, no judgement for TV or pizza lunch out. No dirty look if I take a break. I can't believe he does all that while we both work and earn same + I am home with them for bedtime and he isn't. I wish we lived in different cities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Where do you guys find these assholes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Single mom here- I found that running the show by myself became easier in many ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Same. I was a single mom from day one (he left when I was pregnant) and I often felt lucky. It was tons of work, but I never had to argue or have my hopes dashed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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My house is way way cleaner when DH is away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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+1 yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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100 percent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] With childcare arrangement would you choose: 1. New after school younger sitter at $18/hr who comes to $300/wk or 2. Current nanny (has been with us 1 year) reliable, not much education, can do housekeeping(not great job but good enough) at $14/hr for total of $400/wk + she has another pt gig so not exclusive to us and the gig is a bit unpredictable schedule wise. Kids are 3 and 5 yo 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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Can either cover school holidays or cook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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#2 can cover planned days off. Both may or may not be available for unplanned days (sick etc). Both can cook simple dishes. #2 would work more hours so more coverage, more housework but she isn't that great at it. #1 can help 5yo with hw but there isn't going to be much hw yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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^ also, there is the price difference. I am really confused. Really appreciate some feedback. TYIA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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#2 but it sounds like you want to pick #1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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TY. Actually I am leaning toward #1 but it really annoys me that she works so many hours without kids and still does a shitty job of housekeeping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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^^ oops I meant leaning toward #2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Continue with 2, but it sounds like neither person is the right fit so I would keep looking. The HW will likely get harder by November and you seem to want someone who does a better job cleaning. Maybe you can talk to her about the latter now that she will have more free time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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Thanks. My preference would be #2 who does a good job of cleaning + cooking. I prefer good housekeeper. The time she spends with kids is very limited [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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#! but I would look for a different option who is more reasonable and does more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Is that 1 or 2? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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lol 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I get a silicone or spandex swim cap? Are silicone swim caps ever comfortable. The only one I had was pretty snug and pulled, etc. Thanks. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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Are you trying to keep your hair dry or out of your face? If the latter, the spandex is much more comfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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np. dry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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I'm gonna have to have one for an indoor pool come fall. So I'd sort of prefer the spandex but maybe my hair isn't going to do so great with chlorine day after day? Not sure. But yeah, that silicone was a real pain. How does your hair do with chlorine? I've been swimming every day for about a month and I can't tell if it's killing my hair yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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I prefer silicone. With spandex, your hair gets soaked in chlorine the whole time you're swimming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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What happens to your hair after chlorine exposure? Mine's doing nothing so far but the pool is not heavily chlorined. But I imagine the indoor pools will be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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I dislike the silicone because it always pulls and rips my hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I work in a call center and I have had this cough for several days now, should I take today off? I already took yesterday off, I don't work tomorrow. Is a cough enough reason to take 2 sick days. If I didn't had to talk I would be ok going into work, is the constant talking that gets me coughing like I am about to die. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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It sounds like you may have bronchitis. I had this last winter and it was terrible. I would go to the doctor - I put it off for weeks and when I finally went the antiobiotics helped enormously. If you take a day off use it to do this! Otherwise, bring lots of cough drops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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I used to work in a call center and I would drag myself in there because time off was so precious I would not want to waste it on being home sick. Is there anything else I can help you with today ma'am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] My brother invited me to the golf tournament in NJ today, along with my other brother and an old buddy. I figured it was going to be a great boy's day out. Then I find out that my sister in law is also going to be coming. This woman never picked up a golf club in her life and never watched a hole of golf on TV. Why would she want to attend, other than to just make a point about "hey, if you're going to have a fun day I want to be there too!" I mean, a golf tournament is a lot of standing around not talking. She's going to be bored after an hour. So frustrating. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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i take it you don't like her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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She's high maintenance. She's the kind of person who will make 5 people wait 20 minutes while she figures out what shoes she wants to wear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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ugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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are you a man or a woman? is it supposed to be all guys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Yes, I thought it would be all guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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So you're a guy? Why are you not answering the question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Sounds like your brother is the type to automatically include his wife in activities. If you want bro time with him, explicitly ask for it and plan something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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Well, as long as you do not have to babysit her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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The golf tournaments I've been to have been a lot of drinking and VIP tents. What's not fun about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Are you a man or woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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He is entitled to take his wife. Nice that he wants to include her. You should be able to have fun regardless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Wow. If this is the kind of thing that annoys you, your life must be really hard. Not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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This sounds like a woman writing, not a man, which is confusing if it's supposed to be a "boy's day out." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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I hate when my friends bring their husbands to events that are for us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:40 PM Flag
[ - ] How far have the advances in silicone pregnancy bellies come? Do they look real uncovered & close up? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:38 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:42 AM Flag
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you have to give the back story on this question!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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2nd time you've asked something about this. What's going on? Who are you trying to fool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:04 PM Flag
[ - ] My receptionist's sd was at the beach with her mom a couple of weeks ago and had a small bump on her upper thigh. They figured it was just an ingrown hair or zit. Couple weeks later, it's grown a lot and they visit an orthopedist who announces in the examination room..."that looks like cancer to me". Fast forward to this week, and they learn it's melanoma and, as of Thursdays, the oncologists hospitalized her and started chemo ASAP as the cat scan revealed it's all up in her lungs. 15 years old and feels perfectly fine. This story is haunting me....you never fucking know. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:35 AM Flag
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No, you never know. But this is a lesson you were supposed to have learned by high school, so if you're just learning it now, you can consider yourself lucky to have been so sheltered alll these years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:42 AM Flag
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You sort of know the lesson but it really doesn't hit home until it is close to home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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sunscreen ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Why did she visit an orthopedist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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Maybe it started hurting her bones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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That's incredibly sad. Poor girl, and her family too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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This doesn't make sense. Once melanoma has spread it's usually almost impossible to find the original source of the cancer. Also, what doctor (why an orthopedist?) says, "This looks like cancer" in the exam room? At most, a doctor may say "I don't like the look of this" or "This concerns me. Let's do some more tests." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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np: I actually have heard of dermatologists (not orthopedist though) immediately telling someone that they think a spot is cancerous right there in an exam room. Also, what do you mean by the original source? Are you saying the mole disappears when the melanoma spreads? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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np. That "zit" they saw many not have been the "original" source of the cancer, just another lesion. I'm betting what the doctor said was along the lines of what you suspect. They wouldn't say "this looks like cancer." They'd say this needs to be biopsied, it looks concerning, etc. A friend recently passed this year at 42 from melanoma and it also started with a spot on her back that they noticed at the beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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I don't think that's necessarily true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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very scary indeed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Sad. My cousin fell down while skateboarding. Hurt her knee. Her knee kept hurting. Went to the doctor and was diagnosed with osteosarcoma. Had her leg amputated up to the hip, went through chemo and all and she died. She was 12 when she died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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That's terrible. I'm so sorry. Was it long ago? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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OMG. So sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] No sex in almost two years. DH 'accidentally' falls asleep onthe sofa watching tv in the den most nights. I'm on a business trip to a country with cheap cigarettes. Yesterday I asked if the is anything he wants me to bring back to him, and instead of the acceptable answer, 'you', he just texted, 'cigs'. He just emailed to ask if I had left for the airport, and there was no 'have a nice flight', just 'did you remember the cigs?' Do I stay for the money or get out now? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:11 AM Flag
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It depends on what it means to stay for the money. Do you have kids? How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:52 AM Flag
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How much money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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wow, that is heart breaking [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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How much money are we talking about ? And did you get him the cigs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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it depends on what you want/expect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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He smokes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Nice trolling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Two state test ?s: did 7th grade take science? I don't see a score for that but it's in the 7th grade explanation. Does a 4.24 in ELA mean dc missed one question? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 10:53 AM Flag
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The tests are set to a curve, to keep it in line with the results they are trying to show. So the short answer is who knows? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:09 AM Flag
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^Seems unlikely only one question was missed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:40 AM Flag
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For the ELA, doubt it; proficiency ratings go up to 4.5, so a 4.24 likely means that several questions were missed. To find out exactly, compare the scaled score (not the 4.24 rating) to the raw score on the applicable tab in the spreadsheet "2015 ELA and Math" at http://www.p12.nysed.gov/irs/ela-math/. Don't know about science. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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4.24 is very good. Wouldn't stress too much over number of questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Somebody is catfishing guys using my sister's pictures. So weird. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:35 AM Flag
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Jean Nate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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^^^opps, wrong thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I miss 1984 when I smelled. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:34 AM Flag
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Smelled like what? Tickle deodorant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:37 AM Flag
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Body odor, cheap deoderant and Love's Baby Soft. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:38 AM Flag
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And Skin Musk! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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Coty musk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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I had that too! Sexy!! Remember the magazine ad with the cave people/Adam & Eve holding hands? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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So primal! So hot! [ Reply | More ]
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Elon Musk! [ Reply | More ]
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Thay have baby soft at amazon for $35 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 05:48 AM Flag
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Yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:24 AM Flag
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Blue jeans. [ Reply | More ]
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Love's Baby Soft!!! My favorite perfume... I can still smell it in my mind today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Jean Nate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Charlie perfume...What was the tagline, "smells like a women, but made for a man"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I think that was a deodorant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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island gardenia [ Reply | More ]
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Enjoli, Poison and Lauren by Ralph Lauren. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] It looks like DH and I will be separating. I got a true insight tonight into how he sees me. I need some help from any expats out there who may be in the same situation or anyone who may know - we are not US citizens, we are expats over here for a few years, DH still has 2 years left on his contract so cannot leave without resigning but can I legally leave the country without him? I don't know what he will choose to do, but cannot imagine being here alone for two more years. I don't want to deny the children their father, but simply can't face the thought of being here 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:26 AM Flag
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I guess what i am asking is whether being resident here, but not being citizens, gives DH the ability/right to go to the courts and get a judgement which requires me to remain in the U.S. for the term of his contract? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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Ask a lawyer.... but can you move with children - would ne allow that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:32 AM Flag
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sorry, I guess that's what I mean. Kids are with me no matter what. It has all happened so fast tonight that my head is spinning and just need to know whether the children and I can leave or not. Since our home country and permanent abode (house, furniture etc..., kids enrolled in school for 2 years from now) is overseas, I would have thought that would be reasonable to allow the children and I to leave but wasn't sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:42 AM Flag
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Well don't worry now - ask a lawyer. Do you think your husband would agree? That's the key or it's very expensive to have a judge determine it .... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:44 AM Flag
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He is a good Dad and wont want to be without them. I am sure that if the kids and I leave the country, he will push his firm to wrap things up and get someone else in the role sooner rather than later, but I know all that takes time and can't bear the thought of being stuck here while that happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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plus, if the kids and I are here until that happens, there is no motivation for it to be pushed through quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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You need to go before he gets an attorney. Then he will have to sue you where the children are. And you will have the advantage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 04:50 AM Flag
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+1. Still watching OP? Tell him you need to spend a few days with family to clear your head and want to go this weekend? If kids start school is the U.S. after Labor Day, you need to do this now. Call him from your home country and tell him that after being home with both families - yours and his (have the kids visit his parents but don't let on yet), you realize that this is what the kids need and you think they should stay. Tell him you will be back to collect everyone's things. If it all breaks loose, kids will be where you want them and he will have to fight to get them back to US. BTW, this all assumes they they sre citizens of your home country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 11:15 AM Flag
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She's not even separated yet! What if they could take 6 months and work it out? You people are vicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:26 PM Flag
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I don't want to deny the children their father, but I'm going to because my needs come first (but I'm really bummed about it, so that makes it ok). Love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:24 PM Flag
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I truly don't understand how people put the needs of their children last. You just said your DH is a good father. Why would you do this to your kids? Trust me, they will hate you for this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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I can answer as a former expat. My DH and I were headed that way in London. I 100% didn't want to live in London anymore, he was dragging his feet. We could not get divorced in England without staying there forever. He is from NY, I'm from California. I finally moved us to California (it involved me actually moving for a few months to the States without our kids). I understand how "trapped" you feel. Lay low for another year. In the final year of his contract, start making plans to move back. Give no leeway. At 4-6 months move...You will do the leg work to get reestablished in wherever your home country is. Be upfront and very clear about this. Nothing about divorce. Just very clear about going "home". DH will wrap things up and come home. Companies usually don't want to keep families apart and will hurry up the process. Once you are home, reassess on the marriage. We are currently at a standstill but I don't have the anxiety of wondering about how to manage where I live if we get divorced. I also have a support network. Good luck. I will watch this post if you have any questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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