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[ - ] The one country in the Middle East that Arab Muslims DON'T control is democratic, egalitarian and free. Coincidence? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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this is UrbanBaby. not a political site. Please post somewhere else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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A lot of posts this week have been about the Mideast conflict, so I thought I'd counterbalance the people acting like Israel's the bad guy. But you have a point... Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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np: I think you should post. The only way to fight this anti-semitic propaganda is to cite facts back to them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Oh please, the same tired sad prop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Thank you! Funny that you're the first person here to notice... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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How is a country that doesn't allow millions of people born there to vote democratic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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+1. The fact that people think this country is any of the words op used shows how uneducated people are about Israel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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How about some facts here. Are you saying that Israel is not democratic or you are familiar with other democracies in Middle East? Israel provides the same privileges to Arab, Christian and Jew Israelis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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They arbitrarily exclude millions of people whose lives they control from the definition of "Israeli". They need to either GTFO out of the west bank or give all the people that live there the right to vote. Otherwise they have no claim to democracy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Um, they are allowed to vote, in fact they voted Hamas into their government! What you talking about willis? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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They can't vote for the government that exercises sovereignty over the place they live. You might want to read a little document called "The Declaration of Independence" specifically the part about the consent of the governed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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Palestinians are not governed by Israel, they are governed by Hamas who they voted for in THEIR election. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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First of all that's not even true, the PNA won the Palastinaian elections. Second of all, if you look at who actually has the power it isn't the PNA, it's Israel. They control every meaningful lever of power -- the PNA is has less sovereignty than most city governments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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It calls itself a "jewish state". It is specifically NOT democract, nor egalitarian. What are you smoking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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Israeli citizens include Arabs, Christians and Jews. All of these citizens are allowed to vote and elect government officials. All of these citizens have the same access to education and medicine. Can you say that about any other country in Middle East? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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I think being the bestest country in the middle east is a pretty low bar to get over. And frankly whatever they've got going for them doesn't make a difference when they're busy penning up and slaughtering people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Slaughtering people? NO you prefer that they would be the ones being slaughtered which is the outcome if they stop defending their people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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3 Israeli civilians have died, including a woman that had a heart attack. Over 1100 Palestinians civilians. This is nothing like a fair fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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np. who said it should be fair? It's war, right? The U.S. would be delighted if we were "winning". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Sure, you would want all jews to line up and be slaughtered. But they are defending themselves and will continue defending themselves and they will be supported by million of non jew and jew supporters around the world. We will not stand for your propaganda. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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Those millions of supporters are quickly boiling down to: modern orthodox Jews, and wackjob evangelical christians. Ordinary Jews under the age of 50 are sick of Israel making us look bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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More Germans than Americans died in WWII. Doesn't make the US position any less valid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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np: I used to think this and use this argument. Then I did some research. Non-Jews were allowed to become citizens when Israel was formed but the Arab community didn't do it. They refused to recognize Israel. They thought that once Egypt, Iraq, Jordan, etc. invaded the new Israel the Jews would be killed or sent packing. Despite the odds, Israel won. But they still hold steadfast in their refusal to recognize it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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Kurdistan? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Does everyone really love the person they marry? I just feel like it's so rare that I really love someone and would pick that man over all others. I worry that I'll end up just picking a random person and settling. How common is that? Or do you have major doubts before the wedding but eventually settle into comfortable familiarity? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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You must be new here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Marrying dh was the one thing I have never had a doubt about. It's not perfect, but I do love him very much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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OP: How did you get to that point? Was it love at first sight or did you realize he was the one after a few months, or what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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I knew him for some time and we got to be friendly. We both knew each other when we were in long term relationships with other people. It was def not 'love at first sight'! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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np. same values, he has good morals, hardworking, same goals/vision for family & life. enjoy being around each other. And I didnt realize it at first sight. It can take awhile to know all these things about someone and then I felt really comfortable and looked forward to marrying him . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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I'd say with my DH it also developed over time. We dated and got to know eachother and the more we got to know eachother, the more we fell in love and knew that we were right for eachother. We definitely had an initial attraction, but it took time to develop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: Let me rephrase that question. I see all these happy couples getting married (on Facebook and so on) and I wonder, "Are they all really that happy and sure of their decision?" I guess they are. Dammit. I'm going to die alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Everything people post on Facebook is a lie. The sooner you realize that, the happier you will be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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Exactly. More Facebook misery here on ub. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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speak for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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I'm one of pr. This isn't true! Facebook isn't a lie, it's just a small piece of the pie. We do go great places, dh does do great things, and we love each other a lot! I just don't post when he drives me bonkers (which he does do sometimes, too!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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I think some people get married becuase its the right time for them. I think when it is the right time for you (example: 30 and all your friends are engaged) I think you subconciously kind of like the guy you are dating more, since you want it to work. Whereas if you do not care either way if you get married soon or not, the guy must pass a higher threshold before you'd feel like you liked him a ton. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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^ so basically what I am saying is that I think some of those couples on facebook are not truly soulmates or whatever. Part of the reason they got together could be just good timing and they do like each other. But they could still end up really happy. Who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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First off, people always put on their happy face for others. Most men lead lives of quiet desperation. Thoreau. I have a tiny family and find myself envious of people who have 30 people for Christmas dinner. But those dinners end in huge fights, half the people have to drink before getting there. Very few of us lead Donna Reed lives, if you know who that is. As for who you will find, the operative word is YOU. For me: love at first sight after marrying someone I didn't really love for security reasons. But, as you see from the posts, it's different for everyone. Relax and he will come along and you will know it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Oh, honey. I hate my huge family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Some of them are. Some of them aren't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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nope they are not happy, because so many women get desperate and settle and then they come on here to bitch that they married a little boy or a mamma boy or that he does drugs or abuses her, etc. and they say they just did not pay attention to the signs at the beginning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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I think it depends on your personality type - some people need to be in love more than others. But personally, I don't think you should settle. Marriage is a long haul and you deserve to enjoy it at least a little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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I think that when you click with someone, you just sort of know. That being said, I think that sometimes people click really quickly and sometimes it takes time to get to know someone before you do click. And neither way is right or wrong. I think that if you really truly want to meet someone to marry you have to put yourself out there and just really be yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Yes. But then you have kids and 9 times out of 10 he turns into a prick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Major doubts and now I really love him. No doubts now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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Well of course not everyone. But a lot of people do, sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yes, I would marry DH all over again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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why would you settle? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you handle the end of an apartment lease? Do you approach the landlord or wait for them to approach you? We have a two month notice contract and no ones said anything, been away etc. We can stay or find a new home... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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I would reach out to the landlord, but I like to be proactive about stuff like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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We are required to notify the landlord within a certain number of time. But they usually send us a lease renewal and confirm as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Why not just say something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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how do you navigate in the real world? call your landlord, read your lease - DUH. why are you asking us? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Lol. Angry are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Landlord here: I don't renew leases unless I'm raising the rent. In NYC the lease does almost nothing to protect me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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I just wait for the landlord. I'd rather be month to month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Help, I accidentally liquidated some securities out of my Roth IRA instead of my regular investments account! Will I be penalized?? Please advise :( 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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call broker asap and ask to reverse it. say it was a mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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You simply sold them? Then nothing happens- the money is still in the IRA and you can buy more. It's not a taxable event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Oh! OK then, phew. I was worried the money would move into my sweeps account automatically. Sorry, nothing to see here, please carry on.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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As long as it does not transfer out of the account, you have nothing to worry about. People trade stocks in their IRA all the time; it's meant NOT to have any tax consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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It's a ROTH. It wouldn't be a taxable event in any case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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It will be penalized if done before retirement except for certain cases like buying your first home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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FAKE! why would you be on UB! ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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people on here are pretty smart- i've talked trusts with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Recommend an alternative to a summer cardigan or jacket, that I can slip on over dresses or shirts at work. My office is freezing, but I can't stand cardigans anymore. Maybe a short crewneck in a loose cotton knit? Fashion moms, please help. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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You are freezing yet opposed to cardigans or blazers? A long open duster, a fitted crew neck or v-neck sweater with a waist belt, a boatneck, slouchy sweater with a longer look with fitted pencil skirts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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OP. Just sick of cardigans and jackets, not opposed. Looking for some specific ideas from fashion moms....come on ladies.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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white and warren cashmere open sweater/duster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Describe your body type..height [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] I need to raise a few hundred $ in cash. In terms of things I can sell, it's mostly paperback classics and children's clothing (Tea Collection, Boden) plus a few electronic devices (old phone, Fitbit). Where in NYC can I get the best prices on this stuff? TIA. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Do you have a car? Become an uber or lyft driver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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No car but thanks anyway... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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craiglist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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Fitbits are $100 new. No one's going to buy a used one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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disagree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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What is a fitbit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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You really think people always just have $100 to spend on something like a Fitbit? OF course used ones sell! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Doesn't sound like you have anything that valuable or with a high resale value. You could try Craigslist, but in my experience people really just want stuff for free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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OP: I probably have 200 books so if I could get a dollar for each of them I'd be mostly there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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pick one piece of furniture you can live without and sell on craigslist. the other stuff won't get you any money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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This is easy. People have so much stuff they don't need. Just list a ton of $5-20 items until you make enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone taken cilest bcp? I need a bcp but I'm worried it's going to cause side effects like the others I've tried (which caused insomnia, loss of sex drive). I do know it's going to make my boobs balloon... which would be lovely. But I need some other good reviews. If not, can anyone recommend a bcp that doesn't kill their libido? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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I stayed on a generic low-dose cycle control pill full time for about 6 years, and it didn't kill my libido. I ended up have more sex, because I didn't have the ups & downs of pms, period week, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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That sounds like an option I should explore. Can you remember the name of the pill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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No, sorry, it was a few years ago now. I just remember that it was the generic prescription of one of the low-dose formulas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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Aviane maybe? That's what I took. Low dose, not a lot of side effects for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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Np. The only low dose bcp that i didnt have a crazy reaction to was syronex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Thanks, btw! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] 100 Spanish celebrities accuse Israel of genocide in Gaza: http://www.jta.org/2014/07/29/news-opinion/israel-middle-east/100-spanish-celebrities-accuse-israel-of-genocide-in-gaza-1#ixzz38sTX0YMf 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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till when will Gaza's genocide continue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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who knows? but this is a very common feeling in Europe, Africa and Latin America anyway. this is a march in Spain: 'Estado sionista, Estado terrorista' y 'no es una guerra, es un genocidio'. Meaning "Zionist state, terrorist state... it's not a war, it's a genocide" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Spanish celebrities, huh? Someone forward this link to Bibi immediately! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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right, he's too busy killing as many Gaza kids as possible because... those are future terrorist in his mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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Well, if the shoe fits. Have a great day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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If that we're true there'd be a lot more dead kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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no worry, Bibi will keep at it while Israel loses support in USA. what Bibi didn't like was Fatah and Hamas united, that pissed him off as it paved the way to a Palestinian state solution. at least he's not faking anymore, it's clear he doesn't want that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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np. You seriously sound drunk. You're moving the goal post all over the field. Can you pick 3 positions, and stick to those 3?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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hi delusional mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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Benjamin Netanyahu Stops Pretending To Support A Sovereign Palestinian State http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/18/benjamin-netanyahu-palest_n_5598997.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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i'm all for stop pretending, just not for the genocide he's doing in Gaza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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np. Muslim genocide happened in Bosnia and Kosovo. That is not happening in the West Bank and Gaza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Israel shoots 10,000 in Cisjordania who were protesting Gaza's genocide: Disparan a 10.000 palestinos en Cisjordania que exigĂ­an a Israel el fin del 'genocidio en Gaza' http://www.lasexta.com/noticias/mundo/mas-10000-palestinos-exigen-israel-fin-genocidio-gaza_2014072500231.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Oh the atrocities! Oh the atrocities! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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hey, given that Penelope Cruz also lives in USA where we have nut cases that can label her anti-semite just for calling Gaza a "genocide" let's face it, she has balls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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unlike Rihanna! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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balls? For using her celebrity power to spew antisemitic propaganda. where was she and the rest when 1500 palestians where murdered in Syria? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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Hamas is back! Are you not busy violating your own cease fire? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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my own? i'm not Hamas, i'm just not a supporter of genocides. you didn't ask people "hey, you have to be black!" to those who didn't support South Africa's apartheid, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Genocide? So fighting back when you are being fired at is genocide? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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This happens all the time. Where are these people when rockets are being fired at Israel, and Israeli children are moving to bomb shelters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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read their letter. they clearly state that the problem to solve is Israel's occupation. this is well understood in Europe, even at the gov level that calls them "illegal settlements" and ask Israel in writing to agree with this before they receive any grants/funding from their governments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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I have lived in both Europe and US for a long time. Europeans and European Media, like the BBC support Palestine. American and American Media, like CNN support Israel. And I was going to post something else, but what the poster below said about the Basques is so true, that I lost my train of thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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CNN supports Israel? Have you turned on CNN lately? They repeatedly under report important and relevant information and paint Israel as an aggressor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Yes. i wrote that with a grain of salt. agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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ISRAEL IS THE AGGRESSOR! look how this land grabbers operates: http://news-beacon-ireland.info/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/slomogenocide-2011.jpg If Israel were doing this land grabbing in any other part of the world, it would be facing even MORE resistance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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land grabbing. Well let's see, all your neighbors attack your home. You defend yourself fight back and then establish a yard around your land to ensure that such attacks don't happen again. Yet the neighbors are now crying that you stole their yard! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yes, they also say that Israel must return to 1967 borders which would make Israel return strategic land that they won in wars being waged by their Arab neighbors. So if Mexico started firing rockets at us today and said that they would only stop if we give them back California, should we? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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The Basques must find this ironic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Basque solidarity with Palestine in football match against Zionist team http://forwhatwearetheywillbe.blogspot.com/2012/09/baque-solidarity-with-palestine-in.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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lol the Spaniards aren't shy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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np. So, like OR said, the Basque find it ironic (and hypocritical) that Spanish celebs would stand up for Hamas and Palestine, but not ETA and the Basques. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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^^^the Basques MUST find it ironic (and hypocritical). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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wait, look in the dictionary: genocide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Combines iq of said celebrities = 8220 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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what we know for sure, is that their human rights score is highly positive, Israel's highly negative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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Compared to what? Are you comparing Israel and Hamas on human rights? Which one executes homosexuals, and which one has a huge gay pride parade? Which one has members of its parliament who denounce it without consequence, and which one murders political opponents in the street without a trial? Fact-check yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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np. are ^^^you^^^ the same one who made the 8220 comment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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having a gay parade gives Israel the right to kill at least 200 kids in Gaza, according to Israel's supporters (also called "genocide deniers") [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I just read the striver post from Most Popular. I was not online at all yesterday as our internet was out all day. Wow, there are some really awful people on here. No, i am not a striver. I am just a regular person. I am not a poor. I just really am in shock at some of the things people post on here. The judgments and generalizations people make. Sad really....Go ahead, flame away. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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I'm just a regular person too, but isn't the stuff here amazing and hilarious? I love being witness to it. That said, yeah, there are definitely places on the internet that are kinder and gentler than this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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OP: insane. i really wonder how many people are as wealthy/educated etc. as they claim to be on here... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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OR: At least a couple people on here are seriously well-educated; I've seen references to obscure literary classics and stuff snuck in between the normal posts. But those people are way outnumbered by trolls and fakers. Divining who is whom is half the fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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What the dog thing from The Odyssey a few months back? That was kind of funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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I'm not even sure what a striver is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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OP: the whole thing is so ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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Np- it is..why is labelling someone a striver so bad? Donald Trump is a striver, he has to be to remain a millionaire..so I dont get the point of these idiot posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] My step daughter is a terror (and no, I'm not one of those nutso stepmoms). She cries pretty much every time she is over here (for little things), kicks/fights/bites/etc. my children and DH, and we have no control because her mother goes apeshit if we try to discipline her (even though we have custody). 120 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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I was doing fine till you said WE have custody. NO, WE do not have custody. So you nutso. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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^^^and it doesn't even sound like DAD has full custody, or why would you say every time she is here? She would be there the entire time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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She sees her mother on the weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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I wouldn't use this language, but OR is right. Dh has custody, you don't. He should be disciplining--not you--and he and his ex need coparenting counseling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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My husband works long days. I'm home by the time the kids are back, so I do the parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Then, I'd be pretty upset, too. I'd probably bite somebody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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ITD. if the child lives with her full time, she has custody too in the sense that she has to deal with this brat full time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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But this is the problem. The older dd gets, the more she will say (with great validity) "you're not my mom, you can't tell me what to do." I think the only thing to do is have dh establish rules, and if dd doesn't adhere to them, he needs to deal with her at home. This isn't Op's fault, dh seems to be the one who needs to step up, if Op is ever going to have a non-combative relationship with dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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If this relationship is ever going to work, the SD is going to have to treat SM with authority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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If the stepmom is not allowed to parent and set boundaries, set rules and guidelines with this child, THIS WILL NEVER WORK. she will also treat you with disrespect. THIS WILL NEVER WORK!!! you need to be able to have her respect you and allow you to parent her. No, you are not her mother but she can't misbehave and get away with it because you are no her mom or her dad. that is ridiculous. it will also build up resentment and eventually take a huge toll on your marrriage. trust me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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You sound crazy. Respecting stepmom is different than seeing her as authority. She is not the parent, and Dh really needs to take more responsability, as it is he making the situation unbearable. He needs to discipline, not stepmom. You want a resentful child? Make her live with the new woman in dad's life and listen to what she says. Stepmom should be an adult friend; dad is the authority, disciplinarian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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I'm a mom of a DD with a stepmom, but I am still confused by your response. if the 7 year old step daughter huts one of the other kids when she is home after school with the step mom, what happens in your scenario? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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Separate the kids, dd goes in her room and consequences decided by dh afterwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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We are parenting. She's here in my home the mass majority of the time, so WE sort of do have custody. DH works, I'm the one stuck doing the parenting... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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This is the problem. You aren't parenting, dh is. You are the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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How am I the problem? Somebody has to parent... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Wow, somebody has an axe to grind. Any step moms you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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No axe to grind with OP; I think life would be easier for her if dh took the responsability for his own kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Sigh, so dad never sees his kid? He should get custody time changed so he can see his kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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We can't really do that. The mother doesn't want weekdays and we're significantly closer to school, friends, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Her MOM doesn't want her during the week?! No wonder the kid has anger that she needs to get out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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Get a nanny to take care of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Go take your pill! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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oh calm down lady, she is part of the house hold, she is there 100% of the time. it's her house. why are you such a bitch???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Not even close to 100, see below. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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and i'm not directing this to OP, i'm directing this question to the OR - the stepmom DOES have custody. she is parenting this child, this child lives with her, she has to deal with her as she is married to the child's father for better or worse. she has to deal with her, so she does in essence have custody. Why are you jumping down her throat? It's not like she can choose NOT to parent this child because she didn't give birth to her. Let me guess, you are an angry divorcee.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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No, the SM does NOT have custody. DAD needs to step and/or get parenting time changed. Of course the SD is resentful, she doesn't get to see her dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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He isn't home and we cannot change the schedule. I am the one home all day, it's just the way it has to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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first wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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Yes, but still married to father of my DCs. I was a SD who hated going to Dads. Maybe SM "thought" she treated me the same as her kids, but she didn't. Oh happy dad when they got divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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the stepmom is part of the WE, part of the DAD. they are a package deal. he is married to her. like it or lump it. You may not want to see it that way, but they are a UNIT. This is probably why she is acting this way, the kid. Because they haven't done a healthy transition. the ex (mom) is probably talking shit about the new wife and the Dad is not dealing with it and the kid is acting up, acting out and the stepmom is caught in the middle. i've seen it 100 times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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As a step child, I have seen it just as many kids where SD goes to dad and SM doesn't treat her the same, and if dad not there, it can get ugly. Yes, SM is part of we, but not a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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you're projecting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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I haven't been in your shoes, but I do have a DD who goes to her dad and stepmom's. here we have a step mom who seems to want to make it better in the face of a situation where the dad and birth mother aren't available so I feel like we should try to help. what would have made it better for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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We don't really know how the SM handles it. She could be turning a blind eye when her kids tease the SD, or take her things on weekends she isn't there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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definitely. she also may lack empathy for how difficult it is to be the "visitor" at her dad's house when these one year older twins, who by virtue of their ages, probably can do more than her, but she is close enough in age to feel cometitive with, get to live with her dad. she also may parent differently than either of these 2 girl's natural parents, leading to conflict. but let's help her since she seems open to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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SM should have not let the hoodlums play and break my stuff. The day after my dad left her, he took me shopping for replacements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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this is good. OP -- ae there things at the house which eblong to SD and is her ownership of these items respected when she isn't there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Yes, she has way too many toys though. The closet is split fifty fifty and we set up one of those bookshelf room dividers and she stores a lot of her stuff on her side. My daughter has no interest in her toys, she prefers her own and they have vastly different tastes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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this is written with a lot of judgement. it could have just been: "yes, she has her own space and things. The girls are different so they like different toys." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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I am guessing that there is nothing SD does that SM thinks is right, and SM makes a big deal over every little thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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When does she see her mother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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Every weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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If her mom has her every weekend, her mom likely has her as much of the awake time as dad, so you need to take it down a notch -- acting like you are the mom is likely creating a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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I have her for five days. I help her with homework, see her on a regular basis, make dinner, etc. I have the heavy load. I'm not her mother, but I do have more time with her. Her mother has fun days with her (and it's more like 1 and 1/2 days if you think about it). It's completely different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are the nanny to me. Why did dad want so much parenting time if he wont be a parent? Seems like he is the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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It's not that he "wont be a parent" it's that he has a very demanding, time consuming job. He's a great father when he has the time. Mother is neither responsible (nor willing) to take on the hard work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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There are only two possibilities -- one you are exaggerating or two, he is not a great parent. Take your pick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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This, totally. You're doing a nanny function except your charge has every reason to hate you. I'd get a real nanny for her and go to work like her real parents have done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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I have a baby, I'm not 'going to work' and her mother barely works, so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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how is your relationship with the ex wife? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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I don't really know her that well, if I'm entirely honest. She cheated on DH and then left in an attempt to marry her 20something boyfriend, so I do hold that against her (I was DH's friend at the time and watched the fallout). She's very childish in my eyes, but I don't have a relationship with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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Same story as 90% of second wives. First wife cheated, second was just a friend of the guy. World's smallest violin playing for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:15 PM Flag
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huh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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Oh wow, Saint SM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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np. OP, listen to these posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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That is so sad. She probably misses her mom (which does not in any way imply her mom is better -- kids just love their moms, warts and all) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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Age? How recent was the divorce? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Seven, four years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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send her back to her mom. she won't allow you guys to parent, let her clean the mess [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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We can't send her back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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Lock her in the closet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:52 PM Flag
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"over here" doesn't suggest custody, but I am guessing your word choices reflect how confused you feel. what does it mean that her mother doesn't let you discipline? if she is with you themajority of the time, I would institute a program of time outs and positive discipline. does she have her own room? how old are your kids? she is entitled to feel some anger because she is being watched by you when her dad and her mom aren't watching her, while your kids are being watched by their mom - but she isn't entitled to act on that anger to hurt you, DH or the other kids. How does she behave in school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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We have a baby. I have 8yo twins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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Likely the SD feels like odd one out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Perhaps, but I can't have her hitting me and my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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If you had left it, I can't have her hitting, that would have been fine, but when you say, I can't have hitting me and my kids, you are communicating, whether you mean to or not, that she is an outsider in this house. Is there ever a time when your kids are with their father, so she can have more time with her dad without the whole crowd there. Maybe try counseling, but someone needs to listen to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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Hang on, people can't have it every-which-way - people are telling her that she shouldnt say she is parenting, she shouldnt say 'we' have custody, yet she is also in trouble for referring to her bio kids are hers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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the 8 year old twins and baby are likely a big part of the problem. the twins are close enough in age to be competition, but older so likley better at most things. They likely have a close emotional bond so she feels excluded, and they get to live with her dad fulltime. (men don't think of such things - but I wouldn't date someone with twins anywhere near by DD's age). what she did have - being the youngest -- has been usurped by the baby. you need time, patience and consistent positive discipline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I would have thought OPs 8 YOs would be at their dads sometimes, but would like to hear from OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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(OP) We have a 2-2-3 arrangement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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So are there days that your kids are at their dad when SD is there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Are those days any better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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No, not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Lot of good thoughts. In effect, dad works long hours, so this is really SM's house. You can not expect kids to "blend" quickly. You may need to back up to go forward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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DH needs to talk to her and officially name you his deputy in his absence. Then the two of you must act as a team. You two together spell out expectations and house rules to her. He authorizes you to follow through in consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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I can see why mom goes "apeshit" if you take the attitude that you have custody. DAD needs to work with his ex, and DAD needs to spell out rules. How old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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She's not exactly prone to compromise. She doesn't believe in yelling, time out, spanking (neither do I), etc. and she will not budge on it. She is one of those "talk it out" parents, which obviously hasn't worked. I have 8yo twins and a one year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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It works for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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your DH needs to broach this with her. Frankly, I am a talk it out parent myself, and it works for me and my DD. DD's most recent sitter just wasn't able to talk it out and they would get locked in battles of wills. Your dh needs to indicate that you will try to talk it out in your house, but give all that is going on, you may need to use time outs for sanity. you will then combine it with some other positive parenting when your DH gets home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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why does there need to be compromise - dh's dd follows the rules when in your house and whne she doesn't she is disciplined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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Does she have a bedroom at your house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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Yes, obviously? She shares with my daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:14 PM Flag
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What do mean that the kid gets upset over little things and reacts inappropriately? What do you consider little? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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Most recently she cried over wanting Pizza for dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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^Also, forgot to buy grape juice, wouldn't let her wear my nailpolish to school, wouldn't buy her ice cream (but mommy ALWAYS buys me ice cream!), somebody lost the remote, my daughter spilled juice on the carpet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Maybe she is not used to a large household. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Do you think you regard her whining the same as if your kids whine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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a lot of this sounds like you are just having trouble being patient right now (for which I have a lot of empathy - you have a baby, 3 middle graders and a husband who works a lot; I would lose my patience too -- and obviously in that scenario, your twins, whom you have parented since day 1 and for whom you have a natural empathy for and understanding of, are going to be easier to parent. Can you get a mother's helper some days? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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THIS, very good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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What if anything led to the hitting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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Mainly it's just freakouts over little things like this. She works herself up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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So not so much hitting? Big difference between whining and hitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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No, there is quite a bit of hitting/shoving/pushing. Mainly at me or DH (when she doesn't get her way she gets very frustrated and will shove me, start screaming and crying), sometimes at the other kids (she gets mad at them when they will not play what she wants to play) and she retaliates by biting or hitting (over stupid things like who gets to play with what doll). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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in an ideal world, the kids would work out the squabbles themselves, but in this situation -- twin power dynamic, plus a SD who is working through some emotional issues -- I would think you need to be more involved in game choice/toy usage. maybe by setting up a schedule or having a mother's helper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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I cant figure out what is going on. First you say hitting, then freakouts, now back to hitting. First you say DH not home much, now she is hitting him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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The hitting and freakouts are part of the same deal and it's not like she never sees DH, but he doesn't come home till late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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"I'm sorry. we aren't having pizza tonight. I understand it is frustrating when you can't eat what you want. Do you want to help me set the table/cut the vegetables?" if she doesn't, you let her be upset/cry. inappropriate, yes, but that big of a deal, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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How do you guys decide what is for dinner? Who gets any choice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Me, mainly. I plan meals ahead of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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So maybe your kids are used to what the routine is, and SD not so much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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Are your children cruel to her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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No! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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not op: it is probably more the twin power dynamic, being older, and likely being more emotionally mature - so likely it is not that they are being delibrately cruel -- they just have more power and social sophistication in this setting and the SD can't effectively feel any control so she resorts to biting/hitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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^ and now there is a baby. None of this makes the hitting/biting acceptable, but if OP acknwoledges what is going on, maybe they can figure out a way to solve it, give SD some sense of control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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Doesn't sound like OP cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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but hopefully she reads this and some of it sinks in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Doubtful. She thinks she is perfect, her kids are perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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NP: So many of you seem to have come from divorced homes and hate your SMs. You really lack perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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Maybe it is the relevant perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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No one ever answers yes to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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1) Lenient parenting at non-primary parent is often an issue when w primary parent - in this case made worse by the fact that stepmom is enforcing the rules; 2) only child, now living primarily in a house with 3 other kids - may not just be the adjustment to competing for attention/affection/toys/etc. but also, some kids get more easily overhwhelmed and frustrated and a larger household is goiing to be problematic and a much harder adjustment; 3) there may be a dynamic among the older kids that OP is unaware of - even if it's not intentional, there could be a 2 against 1 vibe there; 4) this child needs counseling pronto bc she's clearly having trouble dealing with the new family dynamic and should have someone she can talk to about it that's removed from the situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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A lot of good points, but I think OP refuses to accept that the dynamics of the situation might be tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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the dynamics of the situation ARE tough, but that doesn't make the behavior okay. and the OP/stepmom is not an ogre for being frustrated/fed up/etc. with it. on UB everyone assumes the stepmom hates her stepkids, but IMO, most of them just get themselves into situations they are unprepared for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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But they had a choice when they got themselves in the situation, the kids do not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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If you really want to make things better you have to reach out to her and let her know that she is a part of the family and that you want her to feel loved. The problem is, based on your responses to other posts, I don't know if that is true. It won't get better if you do nothing to improve your relationship with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Just spoil her and give her attention. She probably thinks you hate/resent her. Go for a mani/pedi or something else one on one and tell her that you aren't her parent but that you are her friend and she'll open up. Leave the parenting to bio parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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+1000. This kid is making a cry for help. Could you just start over with her, and try to love her a little bit. Her mother doesn't want her, and while her Dad maybe cannot control his schedule, she probably feels abandoned by him as well. How sad for a little girl. How does a child express anger and resentment? Probably just like her. If you can see past the behavior, and understand the motivation, it will make it easier. My guess is, that the safer she feel and the more loved, the quicker her behavior will turn around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 11:06 PM Flag
[ - ] The person posting about Palestine is a troll. I'm Muslim (posted a few days ago) and even I would not define Israel as a terrorist state. We are not all like this, I think our troll is just stupid and that's not exactly his/her fault, is it? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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I agree with the Troll. The US should isolate itself from that conflict. It puts our citizens at risk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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Isolating ourselves from the conflict and screaming all the BS the troll does are two very different things. The troll is annoying and all he/she does is spam this site. None of us want to hear it at this point, worse than RM (or maybe it is RM?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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No way is she worse than RM. She is criticizing a government for it's actions. How is this anything like RM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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You weren't on here last night. It's one crazy person... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:47 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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It is a terrorist state. And I'm Jewish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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No, you're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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you think we are going to fall for that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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The troll has been spamming his own posts for days. He keeps using the exact same writing style and terms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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lmao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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Riiiight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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Just ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:54 PM Flag
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The Hamas charter calls for eliminating it. About half of Palestinians support Hamas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Be honest. With so many images and news about the Palestinian suffering in Gaza and Israel's bellicosity... Isn't it time for our politicians to move to a neutral position with Israel? Being the ONLY country in the world that supports Israel while the rest calls it a "terrorist state" that's "illegally occupying Palestine's territory" says something right there. I'm not happy about our politicians working for Israel and AIPAC instead of working for USA. Your take? 66 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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Literally every country in the world, including us, has done things like Israel has. Stop allowing sad pictures to control your rational thinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:30 PM Flag
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This. The figures are very light considering, 1000 deaths is nothing compared to the hell going around in the world. UB used to be a place of intelligent discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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1000 recent deaths sweetie. Plus a laundry list of other massacres and the creation of the largest refugee population on earth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Occupied Palestinian land, build settlements illegally, keep Palestinians in open-air prisons (refugee camps) for 3 GENERATIONS... really?? When was the last time USA did a siege of a city and condemned 3 generations of people to a refugee camp? USA isn't Israel, we do have a moral compassl!!! But unfortunately that's how the world sees us because of supporting Israel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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"we have a moral compass" oh wow, you really know a lot (sarc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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Israel is widely considered to be a terrorist state. USA isn't as badly regarded if it weren't for its support to Israel, which alienated most people in the middle east. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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apparently all you care about is how others view things? wtf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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when USA is the only country voting NO to investigate Israel's war crimes in Gaza, you give a f*ck? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Considered a terrorist state by whom exactly? Israel's army is the only army in the world known today to worn civilians of impending attacks and giving them notice (sometimes days) to evacuate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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when was the last time USA conducted a genocide? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:46 PM Flag
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when was the last time firing at a territory who harbors the aggressors (terror tunnels/firing rockets at your civilians) is a genocide? Let's not forget that the Palestinian people are the ones who elected Hamas to govern them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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Oh brother, I'm debating whether or not I should engage with somebody this stupid. Do you remember what we did to the Japanese? What we are currently doing in the Middle East? African American treatment well into the 60s? Are you dull or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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this is actually kind of funny... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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There are a lot worse places to support than Israel, a LOT. Like Palestine, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Both America and Israel are horrible, violent states. Both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Hi op! You are so clever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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What does that make Palestine/Palestinians then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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My take is that you need to leave us the hell alone and stop trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Since when is Hamas on UrbanBaby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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I'm young, you are older. In USA 55% of older people are pro-Israel, only 23% of the young. We aren't as brainwashed as you are thanks to internet. You instead got all your news from highly concentrated TV media that didn't give the palestinian side any air-time. TV reporting isn't 50%-50% now even, but it's not as biased as it used to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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+1 the young don't seem as clueless of the world as the old are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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hi OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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I'm a NP and I agree with her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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sure you are! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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I'm 24. You think we aren't brainwashed, that our media isn't biased? lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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I'm 38, was pro-Palestinian as a teenager (when the first serious talks started around 1990) and have turned steadfastly pro-Israel since, seeing the Palestinians fuck up every opportunity to self-govern and accept a deal from various Israeli PMs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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flagged! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:31 PM Flag
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Remember the fiasco of the Iraq war? well... AIPAC, Israel's lobby, pressured Washington for an invasion of Iraq from the get go. Mossad gave USA and UK fake WMD proof arguing: "Iraq is a real threat to Israel, USA has to act against it!". The reality is that Iraq was a destroyed country w/out WMD suffering from a previous war and econ sanctions Israel kept on lobbying for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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np: Can you cite your "Mossad gave USA and UK fake WMD proof..." statement? I've never heard that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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"A prominent Israeli MP said yesterday that his country's intelligence services knew claims that Saddam Hussein was capable of swiftly launching weapons of mass destruction were wrong but withheld the information from Washington. "It was known in Israel that the story that weapons of mass destruction could be activated in 45 minutes was an old wives' tale," Yossi Sarid, a member of the foreign affairs and defence committee which is investigating the quality of Israeli intelligence on Iraq, told the Associated Press yesterday." http://www.theguardian.com/politics/2004/feb/04/iraq.israel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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"Another member of the committee, Ehud Yatom, said Israel had told the Americans it believed the weapons existed but had not seen them." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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pp: The article you have linked to does not say support you said. Your statement suggests Mossad/Israel/American Jews were responsible for misleading USA and UK into the Iraq War. That article says something very different. It says that Israel/Mossad WORKED WITH the USA/UK. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:04 PM Flag
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pp again: Just following up- were you able to find that information? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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EVERYBODY knows that abroad, you guys only read foreign media? seriously??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:43 PM Flag
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In 2002, the former head of the Mossad intelligence agency, Efraim Halevy, told a closed meeting of Nato that there were "clear indications" that Iraq had renewed its efforts to build WMD after the UN weapons inspections were halted in 1998. He also said Iraq had preserved elements of its ability to manufacture chemical and biological weapons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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Very smart strategy posing as a new poster and responding to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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What government hasn't done what Israel is currently doing? There are casualties to war, if Hamas throws children to the fire there is nothing we can do. We killed many civilians over there, so we aren't one to judge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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you mean take their land for their own settlements, keep 3 generations of displaced in refugee camps, concentrate the rest in the tiniest area possible surrounded by walls and army so there's no way to scape and bomb it? sounds like a genocide, doesn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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hundreds of thousands died in Syria. move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Now Israel through AIPAC is lobbying for USA to invade Iran. USA intel says that there's no proof of existence of nuclear weapons. But Mossad says for sure they have, so "Iran is the biggest threat that Israel ever faced" says Netanyahu and should be destroyed. This time around, USA is sticking with its own intel instead of trusting Mossad. Something I like after Mossad's WMD in Iraq BS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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Hamas please stop posting on UB. You have your work cut out for you back in Palestine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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You realize we all know this is you, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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The U.S. should actually focus on preventing Muslims from entering this country. All they want to do is kill anyone who isn't Muslim and, they abuse and torture their own women and children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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I disagree with that, there are many degrees of Muslims. However, I don't think we should be as liberal as France (look at the anti-israel riots going on). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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right, and orthodox jewish men kidnap and dismember kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Your politicians do not "work" for Israel, they are smart enough to realize supporting Israel benefits us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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HOW!? it's a complete liability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:39 PM Flag
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Israel is the only place in the Middle East that is semi normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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If Israel wanted to be like by its neighbors, would it be providing fake intel and lobbying USA to destroy them? A country can't do that and at the same time complain: "hey, they don't want me to exist". Well, sure thing, those countries would be better off without Israel because of Israel's behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:25 PM Flag
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Hi OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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The other neighbors don't want Hamas either, not Egpyt, not Lebanon, not Saudi Arabia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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If Israel is a terrorist state, what is the rest of the middle east? lmao! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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Well, Israel is the only one that depends on ethnic cleansing in order to exist... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:53 PM Flag
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+1 I think supporting Isreal is directly at odds with protecting our national interests. Why should we stand in the crossfire for one country? Isolationism now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:44 PM Flag
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you have the same writing style over and over [ Reply | More ]
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ITA!!! [ Reply | More ]
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of course you agree with this, you are the poster! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Oh, go to hell and stop bothering the rest of us with your crap - Signed, atheist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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leave us the fuck alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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+1 USA shouldn't be involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:40 PM Flag
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USA is giving aid for Palestinians, billions of dollars which is not used for aid and to improve infrastructure but to purchase rockets and build terrorist tunnels. You are right USA shouldn't be involved, leave the Hamas to figure out the Palestian problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Skin and hair question. I have experienced severe hair thinning over the past 2 years. Started taking biotin and silica about 3 weeks ago, no change yet in hair breakage/loss but my skin has become very oily in the past week. I read on line that biotin can cause breakouts. Anyone with similar experience? Really don't want to stop taking it as I am still hopeful that maybe it will help :( 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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Did your mother, grandmother, or other female relatives have thinning hair? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:21 PM Flag
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yes, mom did. Has been taking rogaine for decades and it helped her, but I don't want to go that route. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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You should check with your doctor. If it's androgenic alopecia (which it usually is, if your mother had it, too), you will need something that blocks the androgen receptors in the hair follicle. Which means you will likely need Rogaine, but you might be able to try something like Tagamet, first. Just know that anything you take internally will affect all hair follicles, on your whole body, while the topicals only affect the hair loss where you apply them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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What type of doctor would I go for this issue? Dermatologist? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Also, the sooner, the better. If it's AA, the damage is done over time, so if you catch it early, you can reverse it, but follicles that are let go for a long time can usually not be saved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:32 PM Flag
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How is your iron level? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:22 PM Flag
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I think they are ok. I was anemic when the hair thinning started, but not anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:36 PM Flag
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I started biotin and silica a month ago and noticed the oily skin, especially on my face. I also noticed that my hair is shinier. Luckily, no breakout because I have dry skin. My derm said it would take 3 mos of taking both to see a difference in hair quality. Wait it out. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks so much for posting this. It's crazy because 1 hour after I wash my face it's covered in oil. I have oily skin to begin with and noticed small breakouts and worried it will get worst :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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Get a few packs of blotting papers and keep them with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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op again: how much biotin and silica do you take? do you take daily? have you tried any topical treatments? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:42 PM Flag
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OR: biotin 10 mg and silica 500 mg daily. Topical treatment for hair - no. I have a prescription for antibiotic lotion to prevent breakout, but I haven't used it. [ Reply | More ]
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op here: I am taking over the counter biotin and taking 3000 mcg which is like 3 mg. So you are taking 3 times that, wow! I am assuming this is prescribed, correct? Are you happy with your derm? Would you be open with sharing the info if you don't think it will out you. I am looking for a new derm, mine spends 10 seconds with me. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: actually, my derm told me to go to the vitmain shoppe - so they are all over the counter. i'm not so happy with my derm in general (very little time per visit) but he is knowledgeable. When I complain about an ailment, he has a solution. Let me know if you still want the info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:51 PM Flag
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your derm is a quack if she said to take biotin instead of telling you to go buy some minoxidil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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thinning hair is a common symptom for anorexics [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:38 PM Flag
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I wish, I am pretty overweight :) [ Reply | More ]
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From WebMD, so take it with a grain of salt: "Also new is the HairMax Laser Comb. It's a red light therapy hairbrush-like device that increases circulation and the biological march that makes hair. It's only approved in men (though some women are using it) and in my experience, is not as good as minoxidil. But in one study, 45% of users reported improvement after eight weeks, and 90% saw improvement after 16 weeks." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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Could you have PCOS? [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like it. My friend had thinning hair and she had PCOS. OP said she is overweight too. Often goes together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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rogaine (sorry cannot remember the women's equivalent) also there are shampoos/conditions, etc. made for thinning hair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know of any places an 8 year old can play or learn netball in New York? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:23 PM Flag
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what's wrong with basketball? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:01 PM Flag
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Well it's a different game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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and great, but DD is a more timid girl and netball suits her perfectly as it is (in theory) a non-contact game and positional based. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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oh yeah, and in 2 years she is going back to Australia where netball is very popular, but basketball isn't really popular for girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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No I don't think so. I only saw one group downtown and it was for woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 09:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Next door neighbor cutting wood for the past 4 hours on her patio which my windows face. Didn't want to complain, but it has been non stop for the past 4 hours - very loud and dust is coming into my windows. Can one just do that on their patio? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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Be glad it's at a decent hour. My neighbors start this at 6:45 on Saturdays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:14 PM Flag
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Wow, I would think that someone would need a permit to do this. Have you tried complaining about this? 6:45 is insane! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:26 PM Flag
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I'm not sure that complaining would make it better; the dh is always outside, always doing something. To get an idea, in the winter, when there is snow on the ground and he can't do much else, we watch him moving the snow piles around to better distribute the snow!! The family is very forced cheery, to the point of hysteria, and they are manically friendly to others in the neighborhood. I'm not sure complaining would do anything but earn us enemies. Ho hum, life in the burbs! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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what a freak. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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Need a permit to cut wood? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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I have. Was laying new flooring on my terrace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:17 PM Flag
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Yeah it looks like she is redoing her living room floors. One one side I am very impressed with her skill set but on the other I am hating her;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:29 PM Flag
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That too. When we had floors done the contractor cut wood on the terrace for two days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:27 PM Flag
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Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:33 PM Flag
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Close your windows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:28 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, that's life unless you live on acreage. A few years ago, we completely reconfigured our back yard and rebuilt the patio, and the contractor was jackhammering for an entire day. Fortunately, our closest neighbors were doing similarly major work at the same time - same contractor, we coordinated. The dirt excavated for their pool was used to terrace our yard. But I'm sure the noise bothered the other neighbors, just as their occasional noise has bothered us. I like living in a somewhat densely populated area (1/4 to 1/2 acre lots) so hearing other people's noise comes with the territory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:34 PM Flag
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1/4 to 1/2 acre lots are "densely populated"? If houses have yards and pools, the place you live in isn't densely populated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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Of course she can. Close your windows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:35 PM Flag
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Is his house, he can do whatever he wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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All of these "eh, who cares" posters are clearly my neighbors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Or people who are used to dealing with others? It's just a project and it sounds like it might not even be a long one. Try living in an apartment with a gut renovation next door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:41 PM Flag
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I know, I have. It's just always something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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No..we're just answering her question. The neighbor has a right to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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Or people who just believe they don't have to be all quiet in the middle of the damn day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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A DIYer- I would not take umbrage with a neighbor letting me know that my sawdust was coming in her house. (That said, if you are getting dust and noise you should close your window. Especially if they are pretreated floors. That dust will have finish in it too, obviously. You don't want to breath that stuff.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:48 PM Flag
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WHat is she supposed to do about it though? So OP goes and tells the neighbor stuff is coming in her windows. Then what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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pp: I don't know how big the yard is. If it were me and I could, I would cut on the other end of my work table or move somewhere else so that my neighbor was not bothered any more than is necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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I don't understand. Do you and her not have screens? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:58 PM Flag
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They could at least have told you of their plans to do this in advance. Given that many of today's jobs require people to sleep at odd hours, that's just common courtesy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] When is SA's next WL pull? We are still WL for K at UWSA. Should I give up hope? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:18 PM Flag
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I wouldn't give up until October. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:37 PM Flag
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OP I would so much rather not put dc through the stress of changing schools in the fall, but oh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:55 PM Flag
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Agreed. Maybe DC will be OK with current school option and you won't have to move DC. I know a number of kids that were moved in October to different schools and they all adjusted fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Did you apply to other charters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:50 PM Flag
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Yes, applied broadly, but some were after deadlines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:49 PM Flag
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Are you in D3? Harlem Hebrew seems to have spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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I reached out to HH about 3 weeks ago, but so far was not offered a spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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Do you live in district 3? If so, call them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Is this English? [ Reply | More ]
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So many abbreviations so little time. I'll translate for OP. SA - Success Academy Charter Schools. UWSA - Upper West Success Academy School. WL - Waitlist list. K- Kindergarten. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 04:45 PM Flag
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OP thanks, I realize I was cryptic, but I didn't want people to think I was promoting anything, was just trying to ask an honest question. [ Reply | More ]
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