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[ - ] Just moved downtown. Any recommendations for a really good MD? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:31 PM Flag
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Where downtown? I use Murray Hill Medical Group, 34th/2nd - mhmg.net - lots of subspecialists there. Jeff Friedman is good, as is Ed Barnes. Most the docs are on faculty at NYU and you can always get in to see someone. Both gyns are great too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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I like Ed Barnes there. Love that you can set an appt on-line for the next morning if you're sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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I just started using One Medical Group. Beautiful facilities and they email your bloodwork/test results. You can also email the doc with questions, etc. Says it's $199 per year but it's actually optional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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SPAM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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Uh, not spam. I was just answering the question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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Agreed. I am an MD at a major NYC hospital and use them so I can talk to my doctor without hours of drama and waiting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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Tribeca Skin center for Dermatology. Dr. Parekh is the best [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Met a guy at a party. He asked for my email address and then asked me out for coffee later. We went for coffee, then a few days later asks me out for another coffee. Weird? Shouldn't the next meeting be some type of meal? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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OP: Ok. How do I respond to this email? "Great seeing you. Let's have coffee again soon." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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That's not asking you out for a coffee. It is putting you off politely.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Same meaning as, "let's have lunch some time" in a more businessy context. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:06 PM Flag
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Say "you're the hardest person to plan a one night stand with". Ok jk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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"Why don't we have dinner instead?" These things don't need to be complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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I don't think he is that into you. Sorry. His email was just a polite..."let's have coffee again. If he was really interested he would,say.."are you free this Saturday for dinner" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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OP: So, better to just not respond? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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rude to not respond. do you want to have dinner with him? if so, ask him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Agree with this. Maybe say something noncommittal, like, Yes, so nice to talk with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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YES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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I find it more weird that he would ask for your email instead of phone number. That's like asking for someone's LinkedIn profile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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He asked for my phone number. I gave him my email address, just because I prefer emailing to texting. Is it better to give phone number? I'm newly divorced so new to this whole dating scene. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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Email just seems so business like/non-personal. I guess it's fine if that's what you're comfortable with but I don't see how email is that different from texting. Also giving your email to a guy when he asked for your number may give the impression that you're not looking for anything serious or ready to date yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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is he friends with your friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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OP: no. it was at some singles party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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OP be very wary of dating advice you get here. Please take it with a grain of salt. Each time that I've posted a question re how a guy is acting, the UB answers weren't correct. Not to say they were bad responses, but each man is different and sometimes you've just got to trust your instincts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Maybe he's not sure if you're interested in him. You first gave him your email, went out to coffee and he still doesn't have your #. If you are interested, just ask him something like, "How about getting together next Tuesday or Wednesday? Give me a call on ###-###-####." Give him something to work with if you want him! And next time give the guy your phone #. You should be speaking to these guys not emailing/texting as primary communication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Responder from a few posts up - agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] The other woman and the husband are not equally responsible for the affair. The person with vows carries 80% of the shame. 111 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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76% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Men always or often dupe the other woman into believing that the wife is a monster, that he has every intention of leaving, that the wife doesn't care, etc. So, the other women often have empathy from him and are not thinking of the wife. Only when you are a wife and have experienced the devastation of a cheating spouse, can you "relate". Most of these women are highly insecure and are being conned and don't know that level of pain they are contributing to the wife and family. BUT, harma is a bitch. And, yes, I most certainly believe in it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Written by the wife... One sided and bitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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It's not "bitterness" it's being honest and realistic. If there is any "bitterness" in the post, it's being righteously angry at someone who betrayed you physically, emotionally, financially and stole time and money from you behind your back. If you ask any woman who has been betrayed by their DH and raped by a stranger, they would tell you that the betrayal by their DH was far more painful. Would you call a rape victim "bitter" at her perpetrator? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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The very fact you are comparing rape and your DH having an affair says it all.... I feel sorry for you. And certain your monomaniacal attitude contributed significantly to your DH wanting out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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Obviously you know not of which you speak, so please stop judging and blaming the victim. You are obviously a person who lacks empathy. FYI, my DH has never "wanted out," but I know some women to whom this has happened to, and you can't imagine the devastation unless you see it firsthand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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You are a disgusting person. Comparing rape and an affair? Rot in hell, your husband cheating is not at all comparable to what happens to so many women. The other woman and your husband DID NOT FUCKING RAPE YOU. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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This is not MY experience, but what women have said. Have you ever been cheated on? See, for example: [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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"Wives have told me that their husband's affair was worse than being raped. Men have said their wifes affair was worse than losing a child. It's the ultimate betrayal." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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Obviously, you have never been the victim of infidelity or have had an affair yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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I have been, my husband left me. Rape was worse and any women who diminishes rape in that way sickens me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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That was your experience, but not everyone's. A psychologist who has done a lot of research into infidelity has written: "One of the most destructive and painful acts that one human can do to another is to have an affair with his or her spouse. I've been told by women who have experienced both their husband's infidelity and being gang raped that the infidelity was far more painful. I've been told by men who have experienced both their wife's infidelity and the loss of one of their arms or legs that the infidelity was a greater loss. That's why I am so much opposed to affairs, and why I try so hard to help couples prevent them." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:07 AM Flag
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There are women all over the Internet who who have been raped who say themselves in their own voices that their husband's infidelity was more painful to them than being raped. This is not minimizing rape at all but showing how utterly devastating infidelity can be. People who have affairs don't want to acknowledge the severe pain they are causing other people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:16 AM Flag
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For example: "I am NOT speaking on behalf of other rape/molestation victims. I am speaking for me. Having suffered the trifecta of rape, molestation and adultery. .... I would have to say: 1. The Betrayal 2. My mother's Death 3. Molestation 4. Date Rape In terms of how I experienced the trauma of these horrifically painful events." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:08 AM Flag
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You have no idea what you are talking about. It's not uncommon for people who have been betrayed to suffer PTSD, become depressed, hospitalized in a mental institution, commit suicide. Infidelity blows up your family, and the person who threw the bomb is the person who was supposed to love and care about you more than anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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YOU are the disgusting person. Telling a woman who was victimized by her DH's infidelity to rot in hell shows an utter lack of empathy. Let me guess: you're an OW who has also been raped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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+1. very cruel and classless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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If that woman chooses to diminish rape in such a callous, cruel way she honestly deserves to rot. These women are so out of touch, and yes, I have been cheated on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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That is very callous and cruel of you to say that another woman deserves to rot. It's not diminishing rape. It's emphasizing the pain and consequences of infidelity, which tend to get minimized these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 01:57 AM Flag
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What other women have said: "To the victim, an affair is like being raped." "this betrayal is FAR, FAR worse than my violent rape" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:11 AM Flag
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"We have read here of soldiers loosing dear friends in violent combat deaths, violent stories of rape and near death assaults that say discovering infidelity is/hurts much worse... I can only say in my experience it is BY FAR the worst pain of my life, and my life has been full of loss, sadness, and pain... Its emotional rape, and the the feeling of death done with malice and selfishness that can not be quantified." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:12 AM Flag
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This is not me who has done this. These are stories written by other women in their own voices, women who have been both raped and cheated on. Are you saying that they deserve to rot? You like to kick other women when their down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:21 AM Flag
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You're a horrible person and have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. I was unfortunately raped when I was a teenager. 20 years later, with 3 young DCs, I found out my DH was having a year-long affair with a 23 year-old co-worker. I can say without a doubt the affair was much more painful. Until you have lived it, you don't know, so you should just shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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it's a rape of the soul, which is arguably much more painful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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yeah.... i would leave you too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Such a lack of empathy for women who have been betrayed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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Infidelity isn't about leaving the spouse, because actually most of the time the cheater has the relationship behind the other spouse's back and is trying to maintain both relationships for as long as he can. He wants his cake and eat it,too. If he truly wants to leave, fine, then do it. But do it honestly, not while using your supposedly "unbearable" spouse as a back-up option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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My DH doesn't want to leave me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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If you ask any woman whose DH has had multi-year affair whether they would have preferred the affair or being raped by a stranger, I can guarantee you she would prefer the latter. If your DH has betrayed you and you disagree, please speak up now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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Written by a former or current OW trying to absolve herself of any guilt in helping to destroy a family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Nope. 55 and happily married. But just read what she wrote "it's always his fault". Relationships typically break down because of TWO people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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Not always. Sometimes some people really are pieces of shit and there is nothing you can do to stop someone from cheating or being an asshole. You could be gorgeous, give him sex, cook, be a mom, some men just want side sex. It's more about the power and control and their sense of entitlement and little to do with the wife... sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Sure. This is the minority case though. Much more often two people both start to take each other for granted. Then one cheats and - bang - the "cheater" broke the relationship... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Yeah, I think this is the majority and the minority is what you describe. I also believe that the cheater, "bang", does break the relationship, because it's a f'ing deal breaker. Two people taking each other for granted, treating each other poorly can be repaired easier than betrayal. So if you don't want the blame for the marriage's demise, then keep your goods in your pants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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Actually, this is more typical than not. These types of guys want attention from multiple women. A wife, no matter how good, just can't be multiple people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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And some women, too, in all fairness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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Yes, the married moms who have affairs love the attention of multiple men and some are willing to leave their kids in pursuit of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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I actually think that this is very empathic view of the other woman. And most people that i know who have betrayed someone have been betrayed in horrible ways themselves down the line. It comes back to you. It just does. And that's when it clicks (hopefully) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Tori Spelling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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No, it's pretty shameful for the OW, too, which is why OWives typically try to hide the fact that they were a former OW. It's not like the shame and responsibility have to be divided. DH is 100% responsible for his actions and the OW 100% for hers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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I agree with this. My husband had an affair and I could care less about the girl. I'm pissed squarely at him! We are divorcing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Is the affair over? Why are you divorcing and not trying to reconcile? Just curious. I'm in a similar boat and filed for divorced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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He never said he wanted to work to fight for our marriage. He said he had no hope that we could get through it. I wanted to work it out, but I needed him to be fiercely on board, he wasn't. Had a year from hell, still with flickering hope, and I just need closure. How about you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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You did the right thing. Good luck in making a new life for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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He lied about affair being over, said he needed time, rented another apartment. I filed for divorce, after which he begged to get back together again, but he wasn't to do anything to rebuild the trust, so am proceeding with divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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This sounds like my story. He lied about affair details, found more lies, rented another apartment. I plan on filing soon, at which point, I can picture he perhaps asking to be together, but without putting in the work. How do you feel? Do you feel like you can proceed, think you will have a change of heart? I vowed to never go back unless he was 1000% committed to doing whatever it took to rebuild, however, a year has already passed and I have suffered terribly and alone. He missed the opportunity. I'll never get this year back. I pulled myself through, not him. So him coming back would be great timing for him and him alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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It has been a year since I filed for divorce, and I still get emails from him that he doesn't want to divorce. To me, cheating is a dealbreaker, and that's the end of the story. Read Chump Lady's blog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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I definitely will read that blog. Thanks. What makes you think that he won't put in the work? Were you ever willing to try to repair with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:55 PM Flag
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Because he was given the opportunity but never did. Sorry is as sorry DOES not SAYS. I was willing for awhile, about 6 months, but that ship has sailed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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^^It's hard, but it's almost a gift, an opportunity to rebuild your life. The women in the worst situations are those who decide to reconcile and find out about another affair 5, 10, 20 years down the line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:15 PM Flag
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I totally agree with this. I agree. I couldn't bear reliving this again with him down the line when I am grayer, saggier, and already wounded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 01:28 AM Flag
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And, I honestly don't know if the affair is over. He was not forthright at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Probably still ongoing or at least he wants to keep his options open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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you have a healthy attitude [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Yes, the OW is just a bit player, but doesn't make her any less of a POS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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That's not the issue. The issue is that the wife probably still loves the DH even though she is angry at him. She has nothing but negative feelings toward the OW. That's why people blame the OW more than the DH. It's not rational but it is easy to understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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easier to blame OW than the person who is 100% her problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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This is what is wrong with our society. People don't want to accept rexponsibility for their choices. If OW knows he is married, she is certainly responsible for her decision to have a relationship with a man that is married to another. Just like she didn't force him to fall between her legs, he didn't force her to open them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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They are both jointly and severably liable for 100%. Whether the ex-wife or kids choose not to hold either accountable does not reduce the responsibility of the other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Eh, yeah.. he's worse but they are both shitty people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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My husband cheated on me, I gave like two thoughts to the woman. Why the fuck should I care about her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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DH. I cheated on my wife. All she cared about was the OW. Which is a perfect illustration of why our marriage broke down in the first place. Good luck in yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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How did you meet the OW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Work. DW started resenting the time I commit to my work. Nice to be with someone who understands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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Disgusting that you obviously cannot take 100% responsibility for your actions and continue to blame the wife for her reaction to your actions. Typical cheater thinking and behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Sad post. I take 100% responsibility for my decision to have an affair. I do NOT take 100% responsibility for the changes in my wife during our marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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how did she change? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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After we moved to the burbs (her insistence) she started to resent the time I spent away from home (at work). The commute added another hour each way. And I work long hours in law. She turned into a nagging complaining shrew. No one wants to come home to a someone like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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did she have help? did you try to be understanding? sounds like there were more issues than that! are you still with the other woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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She had nanny & housekeeper. Of course it was more complicated. But that was the essence. She had her dream and then it wasn't enough. Yes am still with ow. Her DH had similar resentments. High-power jobs are hard. Not everyone can stand being a partner of a senior exec. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Your OW was married, too? Was your wife a SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:10 PM Flag
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If she was so unbearable, then do the honest thing and divorce FIRST, not cheat behind her back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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her being "nagging" and "complaining" pales in comparison to what you did to her. but no use arguing with you, as you obviously do not take responsibility for betraying her. don't be surprised when your next wife becomes another "nagging complaining shrew" and you are "compelled" to have another affair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:36 PM Flag
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yes, this guys seems pretty self involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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Love the way people in here just pull arguments out of their ass. I was not "compelled" to do anything. I chose to. Our marriage was long over. After 10 years she was in no way the women I married. I filed for divorce shortly after starting a new relationship. After 5 years of no sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:46 PM Flag
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okay, five years of no sex. i get it now. did you guys try therapy or anyhting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:50 PM Flag
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Did you ever think that there was a reason she didn't want to have sex with you? Women who don't want to have sex with people they don't feel loved by. Don't be surprised that after you marry the OW that she doesn't want to have sex with you either 5-10 years from now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Of course I think about that... who wouldn't. She wanted more... wanted me home more than I could be. I understand that. Its just that I didn't change my habits. She knew what she was getting in to. From reading you all, I think she just wanted the biglaw (then) DH and the fantasy of that life. Then realized, when she got it, that fantasy isn't enough to sustain a relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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you say you were "compelled" to because you are blaming your wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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Nowhere did I say "compelled". Quite the opposite. I said I made a conscious choice. Jeez - half the people in here are barely literate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:33 PM Flag
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"wife didn't have sex with me." oldest lie in the book. you and the OW deserve each other. I give that relationship 3 years, absolute maximum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:18 PM Flag
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I'm amused but not surprised by all the wife support in here. Put it this way. We did everything she wanted - burbs, 3 kids, holidays, etc., - she turned into some one-upping person who only really cared about the $ and then realized it wasn't making her happy anyway. I wish she had never quit her job - at least that gave her some meaning to her life... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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You sound like someone who tries to escape from your problems. I guarantee you that within 5-7 years (but I actually predict much sooner) your current OW will be another problem you will need to escape from as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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Quite the opposite. I tried to take her to therapy about 10 times - she refused each time. I'm pretty good at facing problems in my life - personal or business. She wasn't. Sadly. As I loved her so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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Yeah, I wouldn't want to have sex with you either. You seem pretty selfish and narcissistic and immature. And anyone who is willing to cheat and lie (as you have obviously done) couldn't have been such a great husband beforehand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:09 PM Flag
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Again -this simplistic black/white wordview. And I never lied. Not once. She wasn't even interested at the end. All she cared about was shoes, bags, and one-upping the other moms in her town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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You sound like a decent and reasonable man. Do you get to see your kids enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 01:38 AM Flag
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sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 01:56 AM Flag
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100 % blame goes to the fact that we are human. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:38 PM Flag
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+ 100000. We are all subject to doing things we never thought we would when emotions take over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Oh bullshit. A one-time-things-had-gone-to-affair is human. An ongoing affair with a web of lies and manipulation is no accident and is narcissistic and shows lack of character, immaturity. You clearly have never been cheated on by a spouse and had a family broken because of it. if all the cheaters knew how many lives are damaged and changed forever before they decided to grab side sex... Consequences are huge. Some only learn the hard way. Some narcissists never learn. And some carry on without getting caught so as far as they can see, it's a ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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So true. If you haven't yet, go read Chump Lady's blog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:38 PM Flag
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I generally agree with your percentages, but marriage is hard; getting laid is not. There are a billion non married men for OW could sleep with. The choice speaks volume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Here is the problem. If there are children involved, the father may have some good points as a father. All the other woman is, is the other woman. She should not be around the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:02 PM Flag
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I don't agree. I think there are all kinds of reasons why people cheat. When a spouse withholds sex or acts uninterested in it, that spouse has some responsibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:06 PM Flag
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And how would you know if a spouse withholds sex? Because other spouse says so? LMAO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:08 PM Flag
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I wouldn't know!!! I don't claim to know! I am not having an affair, nor am I an OW. But in believe that in some cases this happens -- I'm not talking about anyone's particular relationship. LMAO yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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It's not black and White even though you would like it to be. In some cases, a spouse cheats because s/he can't be faithful in a relationship. In other cases, there are problems in the marriage that result in an affair - a spouse that's an unpleasant person, or a spouse that withholds sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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GET OVER YOURSELVES!!!! 50% of married men cheat. A high percentage of women cheat. If they are all so ammoral, evil and horrible than that's half the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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It is actually 70%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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I'll go out to try to find the 30% then. I am tired of the forgiving spouse. Maybe if men (especially) knew that most women would pick up and leave, then they would think twice. But, unfortunately, you hear of many women who stay. Many, many. So, they judge their woman.. Is she a good woman? Values the family? Do anything for them? Well, then more of a chance she will stay. It's called marriage vows, people! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 01:32 AM Flag
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90% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 02:06 AM Flag
[ - ] I see all these UB posts on cheating and honestly don't understand it. How/when do people find time for this? DH and I talk a few times per day. We both work and are home by 6:30. We are together almost all the time on the weekend with our kids. The occasional work trip. I know lives vary, but how do norms who don't travel for work constantly cheat? Seems exhausting. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:21 PM Flag
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In my case, the man lived in the burbs and worked in Manhattan. He owned the company, so had the autonomy to take a day off to be with me while the dw believed he was at work. We got together at least once a week and spent the whole day together. I believe most affairs are 80% emotional, several hours a week are spent texting, with occasional hookups. I am 27 and single, but I can imagine that when both parties are married it is more complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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I worked for my dh. He had no kids so easy to be gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] After a guy gets your email address/phone number, about how long afterwards would you expect him to contact you (if ever)? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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Within one week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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Sounds right. If he hasn't within a week, he probably won't (but you never know). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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within 3 days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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This. And not just 'hey what's up' but 'Id love to take you out' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Next morning if he's interested. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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No. Not saying that doesn't happen, but MOST guys who are interested don't contact the next day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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why is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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op- The ones who ask for my number always do, usually first thing in the morning with a "good morning" text. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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That's weird. I'd find it slightly creepy if I gave my number to some guy at a party, and he sent me a text saying "good morning" the next morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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depends on the circumstances, details? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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Within 3 days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Drinks with the guys. Overnight work trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Drinks with the guys. Overnight work trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll - your child's age and its favourite toy (length of use) / need this for birthday presents. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Roll-i-pop used daily for about a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Play kitchen with food, shopping cart, doll and stroller, wagon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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manga tiles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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Dress up outfits- princess, bride, super hero [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Playdoh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Playmobil - years of use [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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5 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Lego [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Lego [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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5 - art supplies - construction paper, markers, scissors and duct tape (with the occasional pipe cleaner) favorite toys for years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you react if you discovered that DH was sending photos of his penis to another woman, but based on the pictures it was clear he was using some kind of editing software to make himself appear bigger than he actually was? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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Huma, is that you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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NP: I just laughed until I got the hiccups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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"I didn't know he was that good on the computer." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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No two vibrato birkins are exactly alike. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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Stop it. I really wouldn't get to caring about the second part of your inquiry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Sick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] A moment after eating ice cream my belly becomes extended on left side and I get a slight runny nose. Anyone else? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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No, but when I eat Cheetos my left ankle swells and my right eye begins to droop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Is this code for something? Like a secret message. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Perhaps a secret message from the president that we are now under martial law [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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The same thing happens to me when I take LSD. I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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allergy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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lactose intolerant. i get headaches and horrible bloat/cramping [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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sadly, that's me, too. lactose intolerance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Why does Calhoun still have spots for 2014 Fall? Does not sound good. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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Hmmmm, interesting... I wonder what's going on there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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And advertised on their website, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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I saw that (because I wasn't sure if you were being truthful or just trying to stir the pot) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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I didn't see it on their website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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Look at the admissions page. There's a sentence about applying for 2015 and then another one saying they're still accepting apps for Sept, 2014! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Just bad website maintenance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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Isn't the answer obvious? Calhoun is a joke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:17 PM Flag
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No, it says please call for 2014 spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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They may have had a family leave at the last minute. I knew someone who got a spot about this time of year last year at another school for that reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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I wish our FC has a spot now. I don't even mind paying for the tuition again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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yes - this happens more than you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.01.14, 12:05 AM Flag
[ - ] S/O - Other woman here too. The one that texted his dw over 50 screen shots of your cheating details- you are really crazy! She did not deserve that. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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yes, she just deserves a cheating husband. nothing more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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She does not need to know all the details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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Dw with cheating dh here. I know all about it, all you ever gonna be is the ow. Enjoy my left overs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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Your left over could be someone else's treasure. In that case, it kind of works out for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Maybe I miss spoke. I am never filing for divorce, and if he does I will drag it as long as humanly possible. After I am done, you two would be lucky if you can manage a date night at Taco Bell. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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i like a woman with a plan! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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Why are you so vicious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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She isn't vicious. She just isn't going to make it easy for the douchebags. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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While I'm on your side it would never work out like this. You don't get every single penny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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It sounded to me like she was going more for Mutually Assured Destruction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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I didn't get every penny, BUT still made their life miserable. I got half of his assets, half of his pension, and he has to pay for all of DCs education up through and including grad school. I live a quiet life style, so I am fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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OW here. That sounds fair to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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how did you negotiate grad school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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I am in a similar position. I am separated from dh and he is living with ow (they even have a db together). However, I will file for divorce when I am ready to do so. Let her stew on the fact that he can't even be bothered to get a divorce, let alone marry her. The fear of losing money in a divorce is certainly not an issue for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Curious. Why not file for divorce and move on with your life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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We are married on paper only and I have my own life. When I need to get a divorce, I will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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Desperate and clingy. I bet she laughs at you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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Curious. Why not file for divorce and move on with your life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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His misery is worth more than your own happiness? Woman, let this loser go! Divorce him, take what is yours and move on. You are wasting YOUR precious time trying to be revengeful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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Maybe his misery IS her happiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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Hhi? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Not uncommon for OWs to have narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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ITD. That OP seemed ambivalent, remorseful even, about what she had done. The dh is the real scumbag in this situation string both women along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Wrong. I've been ow twice and was horrified by that post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:19 PM Flag
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Do you think your AP will leave his wife? Why hasn't he done so already? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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I actually did not want him to leave his dw. I did not know he was married when I initially got involved with him and took a while for me to cut it off. They have 2 dcs. I was not ready to be a step mother, nor did I think it was right to break someone's marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Where to go for vacation on a christmas break. 4 year old twins and want beach.. Caribbean out because we are to late with the bookings Thanks 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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too late for christmas booking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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you are not too late for booking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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5 star hotels yes i am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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gtfo. no way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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NO. Not at all. Are you serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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op, you just need to call around...there is always one cancellation somewhere! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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You're probably too late for most places that are warm in December, so you might just have to eat that. In US, there's always Hawaii. International, SE Asia. Was there for 3 weeks last December. Weather was amazing the entire time. Barely a drop of rain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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where in se asia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Bali. Phuket, Na Trang in Vietnam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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OR from above. This exactly. We were to Thailand, Malaysia and Vietnam. Next time would love to do Bali and the Philippines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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PR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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There are 5 star places there, snob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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I was thinking the same thing when travel agent at smithandfamily suggested dominican republic, but the resort we are going to is very secluded and safe and gorgeous. So if you just need sand, pretty beach and privacy, there are options. The Ritz in San Juan was nice when we stayed there a few years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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Dorado Beach and St Regis Bahia Beach are nice. Probably why they're off your radar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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Some awesome people on here recommended Smithandfamily.com to me when I asked this the other day. Most of the resorts/ hotels they have are further than caribbean, but they have a few...just booked a gorgeous resort in DR for xmas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Aruba or a cruise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Ritz Carlton in Aruba. Round Hill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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Turks and caicos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Foreign mom here. Long layover in NYC next Sunday (about 24 hours). What are some things I should do? Have done most of the typical things before. Thanks! : ) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Book a nice restaurant, get a massage and enjoy Central Park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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9/11 memorial if haven't been yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Active? How about a bike ride around Manhattan (on the bike trails mostly). I'll join you with my ds. Mostly flat terrain. Easy ride...go at your own pace. You'll see the city like never before and will find a cute neighborhood place uptown for lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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OP: Great suggestions! Any good ideas for restaurants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think Joan Rivers is gonna make a comeback? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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interesting when she said that people in Gaza should all be killed and this happens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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God is Muslim? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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Don't think any one religion has the sole rights to God. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:05 PM Flag
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No I meant the Muslim god is punishing joan for what she said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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Christians are dying, too... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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She said that? I wish her well but I'm not a fan and never understood the very mean spirited and vulgar things that came out of her mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Yes, she did. She said that the Palestinian civilians "deserved to die". Frankly, I don't really care what happens to her. This would be no great loss to society, IMHO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Is she awake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Libya is in incomparably worse shape now than it was under Qadafi. An Islamist "militia" just took over the old US embassy compound and posted mocking photos from the compound's swimming pool. Explain to me why, exactly, Obama BOMBED Qadafi? What the hell was he thinking? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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it is sad how these fucked up countries need those tyrants to keep things running. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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If only the US would leave well enough alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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the US doesn't get involved because it's benevolent. We get involved because it's financially expedient or the country has something we want. War is profitable and we've had one since WWII. And that isn't going to stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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not necessarily but it's for some gain. it could be that the country was a security threat to the country, as libya was ideologically, but that's because we have been involved in middle east politics for our own gain for very long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Real estate mom: is market in Manhattan still strong? Do you think it'll continue to be strong? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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yes yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Are you a realtor? Or is this a hope or a prediction based on some knowledge and research? [ Reply | More ]
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Laughing. Do you think realtors have knowledge and research? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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Unless Isis attacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yes. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying to get my 13 year old DS to use another word besides "sucks" -- he thinks "stinks" sounds nerdy. Any suggestions? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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blows [ Reply | More ]
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ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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how about no more complaining? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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Well, sometimes it's just, "That pitcher...is terrible?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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"is gay" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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That's obnoxious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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'Thats unfortunate' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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NP I love this... good luck getting him to say it though.. but it's funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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"lame" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:53 PM Flag
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What a bummer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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This is just between you two? He is going to say whatever he wants with his friends anyway. Also, he sounds closer to nine than 13 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:57 PM Flag
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Really? I hear adults saying, "That sucks" all the time. I just don't like it. [ Reply | More ]
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Retarded [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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"Is suboptimal." "Fails to meet my expectations." "Needs to be improved in order to meet minimum standards." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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"Non pareto optimal" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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La plume de ma tante [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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"Blows Chucks." Simultaneously (i) continues the sense of "sucks," but makes it more explicit, (ii) incorporates "is gay" (ifthe subject is putatively masculine, anyway), (iii) plays on "blows chunks" and (iv) embarrasses any kid with the misfortune of being named Charles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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Nerdy [ Reply | More ]
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That's so nigga [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I was drinking so much coffee at one point (4 pots per day or so) that I had fairly regular tachycardic "events" after 3pm or so. They vanished after I cut back. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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What is a tachycardic event? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Heart would suddenly leap in beats-per-minute, heartbeats would start to "flutter," etc. It was kind of scary. [ Reply | More ]
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Csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] 34, divorced, 2 DCs that are older as I was a very young mom. How would you feel about dating a 33 year old, never married, no kids? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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33 yr old guy without kids is pretty normal in NYC. If he's nice, mature and financially stable and ok w the kids, I'd say go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Yeah the fact that he doesn't have kids is certainly no surprise. The fact that he likes me as much as he seems to - and at least for now is OK with the fact that I have kids - is more of a surprise :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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Give it a whirl. You never know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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My advice is to gently clarify your expectations with each other. Are you dating just for fun now or are you dating to get re-married? What about him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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Broadly speaking, we both are interested in a committed relationship. The one time I asked him, he said he wasn't sure if he wanted kids of his own. That was a few months ago, haven't asked since. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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not sure he'd understand what it's like to be a parent, that your kids come first, etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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also, do you want more kids? because he might... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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Most likely no. As I said above, the one time we talked about it directly he said he wasn't sure if he wanted kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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well then I'd feel fine with it... I don't want more kids and don't care about getting remarried. but that's just my .02 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:36 PM Flag
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So far, he has been very understanding and seems to get that my kids come first. But for sure, he doesn't aactually know what it is like to be a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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I remarried at 37 - 17 yr old dc. Husb never married. Was great with my child - very generous with college tuition. 25 yrs and 2 kids later, we are very happy. He was 36 when we married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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Depends on whether or not you guys agree on whether you will have a family together. That is the crucial issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think will get a better return on our $? Buy apartment next door and combine or buy beach house? We don't "need" the extra space in the city but it would be nice to have and I'm thinking its a better investment. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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i concur [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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city is better investment. but then you have to figure in the price of a beach house rental each year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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where in the city? what beach? and what price are we looking at? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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Downtown. $1mm apt vs 1.5+ beach house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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where can you get a beach house for 1.5? the only reason why I ask it depends where your beach house is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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Not the hamptons if that's what you are asking but a very nice area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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Not the hamptons if that's what you are asking but a very nice area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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Not the hamptons if that's what you are asking but a very nice area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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Not the hamptons if that's what you are asking but a very nice area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Next door. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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i wish I had this dilemma [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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Double assessments? The math never works out on combining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Are you in NYC? If yes, I would buy the apartment next door because bigger units fetch higher $/square foot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 10:49 PM Flag
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Neither makes it as an investment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 11:06 PM Flag
[ - ] On the east end, in connecticut, single mom with toddler. A longtime friend invited me to her house on the north fork to stay for the night tonight -- this plan has been there for at least a month. I check in with her at noon today and she claims she's sick, not a good day to come. I didn't chew her out but man it hurts to be treated so cavalierly... 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Do you not believe she is sick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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After she told me she was sick she asked 'what about tomorrow? are you still free tomorrow?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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Maybe she's wiped out from too many guests, or just doesn't feel well. Not such a big deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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agreed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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oh boy... maybe there's a family problem going on? is she married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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No, it is a big deal. I'm sure you were looking forward to it and it does sound very cavalier. People show you who they are; believe them. Still, it might have been some serious illuel she doesn't want to tell you about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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If it's a serious illness how does she know she's going to be better tomorrow? OP, if she's someone you really care about, tell her you were disappointed and that "it hurt to be treated so cavalierly." If she's no one important to you, well, you know where you stand with her now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.31.14, 08:47 PM Flag
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