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[ - ] What would it take for you to be happy with your husband? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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2 mm a year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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He makes 400k now and with the potential to go up so here's hoping but not holding my breath [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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He's hoping you'll start looking like a VS model but he's not holding his breath on that either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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I love you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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Ha, he knew what I looked like last when we married and isn't dumb enough to think my looks will get any better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:33 PM Flag
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Why that particular number? It seems very specific. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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Think that is what we would need for 3 in private and me to SAH. We have none of those things now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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NOKD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:26 AM Flag
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And you knew what he made. Get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:25 AM Flag
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if he were not moody and depressive and super sensitive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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This. Drama King [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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A third bedroom and a second bath room. And we're mostly happy now -- but that would ease some small frictions of life en famille. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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If I had one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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Separate apartments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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I'd take separate bathrooms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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My Auntie Regina said this was the key to a happy marriage! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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I want to be able to decorate and leave a dish in the sink in my apartment without an argument. I also miss clean floors, shower, and toilet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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We should trade husbands. I can't go to bed with a dish in the sink or a throw pillow out of place. It annoys my DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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I'll take your dh. You have no idea how aggrevating it is to be nagged by a man over household chores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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PP I don't nag, I just do it all myself. In exchange I don't have to work for money, so there is that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:21 AM Flag
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Good sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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I am :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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Another inch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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a husband [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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Already am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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His not having a girlfriend on the side and paying actual attention to the kids instead of texts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. My post sounds so trivial and shallow in hindsight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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Well just the kid part [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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Hot bod, face like Chris Hemsworth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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nothing really, he's pretty great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:05 AM Flag
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Happy, married a long time, our secret? Getting ready for work separately. And he has kissed me goodbye every morning since the day we married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 03:34 AM Flag
[ - ] What time does your 2-3y dc go to bed at night? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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8-9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:35 PM Flag
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ugh, i wish mine would go to bed earlier. could get more done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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Your 2 or 3 year old chooses bedtime for himself or herself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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3.9yo goes to bed 6:30/7:00. It was later, 8/9:00, but when she dropped the nap bedtime got way earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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Same here [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 01.23.17, 10:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 01.23.17, 10:55 PM Flag
[ - ] As a general rule, I think celebrities (particularly FILM celebrities) should stop commenting on politics. They hurt more than they help. They come off as too vulgar and deranged to communicate their underlying message. I watched Ashley Judd's "speech" - yikes. Some things are better left unsaid if you don't have the right messenger. And she wasn't. Nor Madonna. Etc. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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yes, like this tweet after the black shooter killed 5 Dallas cops....https://twitter.com/hillaryclinton/status/751542474972291072?lang=en [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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That's what I think about Ted Nugent. But Trump adores him, and so do his voters: "And in years past, Nugent has told President Obama (who he has dubbed a “piece of shit” and a “subhuman mongrel”) to “suck my tiger dick,” and to also “suck on my machine gun.” “Hey Hillary [Clinton], you might want to ride one of these [guns] into the sunset, you worthless bitch," he added for good measure during that same infamous mid-concert rant in 2007." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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Haha, this. So this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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I think it depends on the celebrity. If Morgan Freeman expresses a certain opinion, he probably helps the cause because he's Morgan Freeman. Morgan Fairchild? Not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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Agree. They are no more qualified to issue opinions than the local dog catcher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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The interesting part of the women's march is that the speakers in dc included celebrities and random people talking about their experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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so the "FILM" is how you make a distinction to justify Trump? way to reduce your cognitive dissonance, but really doesn't pass any objective test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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Yes. If Ted Nugent does something 100x as awful as Ashley Judd, it's just a joke to Trump-lovers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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And don't forget Trump himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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https://twitter.com/search?q=lsarsour%20sharia&src=typd Like this celebrity from the march? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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I guess only pro trump celebrities can have an opinion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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Yeah I think Madonna's comments about blowing things up went to far. It also just let's critics right off events as trendy and social when celebs are there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Scott Baio was in Zapped [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:42 PM Flag
[ - ] The pro-Trump propaganda trolls are expert in pivoting. The enormous success of the Women's March has made their head explode. They tried to pretend no one showed up, and then they pivoted to half the people showing up being pro-Trump. Now they are trying out their new "alternative fact" -- every man, woman and child was there to promote abortions on demand for all for free! That's not going to work so soon she will be saying it was to promote Black Lives Matter and hatred of cops. They won't work either so she will pivot to it being all about opening our borders to every illegal immigrant terrorist without any vetting. Sigh.....they are evil. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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Linda Sarsour is pro-sharia, and used the ISIS finger symbol. BAHHHHHH BAHHHHHHHHHHH sheeple [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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alternative facts.com has all the details, along with all the pro-Trump marchers in the women's march. Also, there were millions at Trump's inauguration [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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Fuck you, troll. collapse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:58 PM Flag
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I don't think OP is a troll actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:05 PM Flag
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They try lots of things, it's very frustrating (I still really want to kill someone when I see the words "Hillary wanted to bring Muslims") but I get interested when it's clear there is some panic going on over wherever they are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:05 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the ideal age you would want your dc to be married? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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30+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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We be old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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LOL. Why, you want your daughter to be all used up before she tries to find a husband? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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Ew, what's your DD doing that she's "used up"? You might want to talk to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:32 PM Flag
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I have two girls. I say 30ish. I had them both before I turned 30 and feel like I missed out on fun 20s stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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You didn't. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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The grass is always greener I guess. I had my first at 19 and my second at 28. Very little traveling and partying. And grad school was a pain with kids in tow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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Big fucking difference between 19 and 28. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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NP My brother got married at 19 and had three kids by 24. He's having his wild and crazy 20s now, in his 50s. He's married but otherwise it's the same -- travel, expensive hobbies, job-hopping, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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But his kids are gone correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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^^But even if they weren't gone from the house they wouldn't be "kids" and wouldn't need supervision. Same deal for someone who had kids at 19 and 28 when she reaches her 50s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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This. That's sort of me except 27&30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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IDK, my 20's were very fun and carefree. Got married at 32, have two dc's, and really love my life now. Everyone's path is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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IDK, my 20's were very fun and carefree. Got married at 32, have two dc's, and really love my life now. Everyone's path is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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27 [ Reply | More ]
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27-28. [ Reply | More ]
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27. 29 First kid, 32 second kid. I will be very happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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control freak [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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Boy 30-35 girl 27-30 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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Whenever it feels right to them, and they've met a wonderful person whom they want to spend their life with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:18 PM Flag
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16? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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or: obviously within the realm of "typical" marrying age. My point is that I'm not going to decide for my adult DC when they "should" get married; it's totally up to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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By 40. [ Reply | More ]
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28. Just like me. [ Reply | More ]
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28. Just like me. [ Reply | More ]
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28. Just like me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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Whenever they meet the right person for them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:32 PM Flag
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I have two boys - I would love for them to marry 30 - 32, enjoy a few years of kid-free marriage, then have kids! And I hope I'm in great health and can be a totally hands-on Grandma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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you people are such control freaks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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I want my boys to be happy and their own thing. I am afraid if they do what I did, wait until 40, then I will not be around to be a grandmother. Who knows what I'll be like at 82. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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Whenever makes her happy. Even if that's never. Marriage isn't for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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This. These other responses are ridiculous. The age doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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You are insane to ask such a ridiculous question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:39 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
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+1000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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How ridiculous! No wonder so many women here have messed up relationships with their mothers! LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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I do not care. 20, 30, 40, 50, 60.... If she never married that would be fine as well. It's her life and she's the one living it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:03 PM Flag
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as late as possible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:07 AM Flag
[ - ] I didn't march 1) because some of the organizing organizations actively fight against specific issues (regarding education) that are very dear to me 2) it seemed the march became a wholesale embrace of the progressive agenda, many pieces of which I do not support. BUT I am feeling like a social reject because literally 99% of the people I know went. AND I am terrified of Trump. How can I take action against him without simultaneously signaling embrace of entire progressive agenda? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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donate to causes you believe in, contact your Senators and Representatives on causes you believe in, support candidates who promote policies in line with your beliefs. I didn't go either, but i don't feel like a reject. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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Good advice - I kind of wish I lived in a red state though, so I could be hounding a Republican rep about holding Trump in check. Dems would be doing it regardless of the Republican in power, but this is a whole new level of scary and I feel that democratic disagreement on policy, while important, lessens their impact on when addressing the core threat of a populist demagogue who will incessantly lie and breed chaos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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Just choose one point of disagreement with him and work for change on that one. May I ask what the educational issues are that you mentioned? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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Just curious, what was the education issue? I ask because I'm pro-charter and I'm the odd person out often on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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yes charter schools, choice, teacher accountability, common core - etc etc. Finding a decent school for your child seems to me to be a major "woman's issue" for low-income women of color, and I have a problem with the fact that many organizations affiliated with the march (not to mention women I know who went to the march) actively fight against those things, particularly charter schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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they are all hypocrites. I wasn't even tempted to go for a second, regardless of my feelings about DT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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np: i think the problem is that charter schools and sdchool choice is really great in theory and some students are absolutely benefitting from it. HOWEVER, it drains funds from public schools and you end up w a situation where public schools get less and less funding and are only dealing w the most difficult to educate student population, which makes them more likely to "fail". IOW, for any ONE child, the option to choose a "better" school is great - but for society as a whole, we will end up privatizing education completely, which is not beneficial to everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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Well, that is your opinion. And the opinion of many progressives. Which is one reason why I don't embrace the progressive agenda. Even if that were true -- which it is not in places like New Orleans and DC for example, why do affluent parents get to think about their ONE child, but poor parents have to think about "society as a whole"? And btw, the point of choice is that some schools are supposed to be "put out of business" - granted districts in some places not able to downsize fast enough - but that is part of the problem -- every aspect of the sector is bloated, unwieldy, and inefficient. Unfortunately, vested interests prevent changes that would allow districts to be more nimble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:28 PM Flag
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no, i think ALL parents should think about society as a whole. but unfortunately, too many affluent parents do not care. what you are saying in theory, is true, bad schools do not need to exist - but in reality, many bad schools are that way bc of things that are wholly out of hteir control - NOT bc they don't care about students, not bc teachers are bad, not bc of administrative bloat, etc. to use a NYC-centric example - you cannot compare the school that caters to SN kids and Horace Mann and put down the SN school bc its college placement record is not as good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:37 PM Flag
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I'm with you. I'm not NY, but, a lot of the women I see who are most against charters and public school choice are people who want to preserve a system where they can easily buy their way into the best, and most segregated schools. Meanwhile they claim to be soooo liberal. Anyway, at our march, school stuff wasn't a major theme. It was more women's healthcare, immigration reform, basic decency and not cutting poverty alleviation spending. And... some puerile jokes about grabbing cats and small hands. I'd try to help causes you do agree with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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^^Should have said OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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Yes agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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charter schools are evil and sucking money into private hands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:08 AM Flag
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Most pro-charter folks have broken down into 2 camps and nearly all of the ethical non-profit pro-charter leaders have rejected Trump. One or two, like Eva Moskowitz, have completely embraced his anti-gay, anti students with disabilities, pro-Christian right Betsy DeVos appointment and are working hard to normalize Trump. So if you are one of the SA parents, you should feel good about embracing Trump and all he stands for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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OR I think there are more than 2 camps. I support charters, but not vouchers. I don't support charters being for profit, some do. There are lots of little policy issues on which we an disagree. But, as far as I'm concerned, we should be welcome at women's march. Though, IMO, people who are prolife were welcome too provided they didn't try to turn it into a prolife march. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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I am like you - do not support vouchers or for-profit charters. I'm sure I would be welcome -- but activists who were speaking are deeply hostile to causes that are very important to me. When they all these issues get lumped together, people embrace the whole "progressive" bandwagon because they don't want to be insulted and attacked by people like the hostile person you just responded to. e.g., if you support charters, you are anti-LGBTQ etc etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:24 PM Flag
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I didn't go and I didn't think twice about it. Zero problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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you must not have it all over your FB feed. I know, should not be looking there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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I didn't go for the same reason and I don't care. I am thinking of changing my party affiliation to Independent. As for specific civic actions - donate, vokunteer, and contact your local representatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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CALL YOUR REPRESENTATIVES and support the causes you care about! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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Admit it, you just couldn't be bothered to go. Millions of people who marched didn't all share ONE agenda. What they all shared was that they all gave a shit. You are social outcast now bc your friends figured you don't give a shit, and they all now are wondering behind your back if you even voted. If I'm out of line here, go march next time. Don't just say you care, take some action. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anybody know what will happen if I go on vacation and just let my car get a parking ticket in the meantime? If I get it on a Thursday can I leave it on the car until I get back on Sunday? Or is there some rule that you have to take it off or they'll give you another ticket? The next street cleaning day would be the following Thursday. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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You're fine. Cheaper than parking at the airport! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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This is the plan! I'm flying out of EWR and back into JFK, so parking at airport won't even work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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Your car can be towed. This is a hideous costly experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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They won't tow for not moving for street cleaning unless she has a bunch of unpaid tickets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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They might tow if car there too many days with ticket on it. She should hire someone to move it for her or put in garage. Work out a deal.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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She could just lend it to a carless friend with the understanding that said friend will move it. OP, why don't you lend it to that person who posted today about getting the bookcase home from Ikea? Is it big enough for a bookcase? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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just park in a lot. don't screw around. sure there are lots near you somewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:09 AM Flag
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NP But that will be $200 instead of $45. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Need some play date etiquette help. I WAH and have a PT nanny, who helps out when we host play dates, but she also has to watch my toddler at the same time, so drop off play dates are a challenge. I have to pretty much stop working to watch the other kid and when it's not a friendly SAHM, who is coming over to chat with me, so at least when I take a break from work, it feels like a break, I really hate the play dates. It seems like there is a trend among nannies to drop off the kids and not come in and watch them. How do I tell the WOH moms politely that they need their nannies to stay? Otherwise I have to play the nanny role and then work late after kids go to sleep to catch up with my work. 189 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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I don't think you can, honestly. If the play date is in your home, it's reasonable for the other family to assume you are providing the supervision. If you worked away from home, would your nanny be able to handle both of your kids plus a guest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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np: this explains why my DC has never been invited to a playdate ;-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:25 AM Flag
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Lucky you. These things are not much fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:57 AM Flag
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Can you avoid hosting play dates during "work hours"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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When would I host them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Weekends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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We do host on weekends, and adults are present, we usually do weekend play dates with kids, whose parents are also our friends. I am talking about play dates during the week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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so stop hosting play dates during the week. Why is this difficult to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:43 PM Flag
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You sort of have to when it comes to school friends, you are not friends with parents to hang out with them on the weekends, you must schedule playdates during week day. Especially in K, when you don't yet know many parents well enough to want to spend weekend time with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:50 AM Flag
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This. If you WOH you either don't host when you're at work, or you provide childcare arrangements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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Are you saying that WOHMS just don't host play dates at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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So how do they host them then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:37 PM Flag
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You're either home or you provide childcare arrangements. If you're not home, I'm assuming your kid wouldn't be sitting home by themselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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I provide childcare arrange game to for my kids, not for extra kids. They don't reciprocate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:21 PM Flag
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She's not capable of watching your toddler and the kids who are playing? Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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She is paid to watch 2 kids, not 3. The other nanny is actually paid to watch that kid, so she should stay and work, and fix the kid snacks and deal with kid's tantrums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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As a former nanny I was paid to watch two kids and also deal with the normal things kids that age might do. That includes having friends over. The host provides snacks, so I did that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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np-me too. This OP sounds like someone who did not grow up in the states. Why such a rigid interpretation and desire to make a low paid employee 'do her job' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:53 AM Flag
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Part of caring for kids is facilitating play dates. If the are of drop off age watching the child who was dropped off is a normal part of the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:18 PM Flag
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Job for who? For me? Then pay me my hourly rate, but instead you want to pamper your lazy nanny with paid time off, so that I have to work late or deal with my nanny being resentful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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I don't understand why your nanny would be resentful. This is part of her job. When your child goes to the other child's house she will continue getting paid an hourly rate for two kids while caring for only one, so you can "pamper" her in that way then. That's how it works. And fwiw when I was a nanny and did drop offs I wasn't being lazy. I was running errands for the family, etc with that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Great, so the other family gets their errands done, while I work late into the night and have to run my worn errands. Hosting play dates equals to getting a short end of the stick it seems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:39 PM Flag
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Your nanny could run errands during that time too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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No, you misunderstand. You should not have to supervise, because one nanny can watch three kids. If yours really can't, you should replace her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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+1!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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The thing is, it's not that she refuses. She just doesn't do a good job, she sort of ignores the other kid and doesn't watch closely. If my youngest wants to play something else, she takes him to the kids room and closes the door, while I am stuck watching the other kids. Also if youngest is hungry, she will feed him and ignore the other kids, even older sibling. She usually feeds older kids a snack know right after school, but ifor another kid comes home with him, she often wouldn't bother, if they get too hyper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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The problem is your nanny then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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As if other nannies are better, you just don't know know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:30 PM Flag
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mine is. I also WAH and have a part time nanny and she regularly watches my two and another that is dropped off. Though honestly, it is unusual that the other nannies I know leave, they usually stay and chat with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:50 AM Flag
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The problem is that I am home and see it and feel like we need to do a better job, so I end up doing it. If I were away from home, while my nanny hosted play dates, I would not have known and thought all is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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Exactly -- the problem is that you are home and see it. Go out next time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:23 AM Flag
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so tell her what you expect of her, by you jumping in and doing it for her, she thinks you are okay with the situation. So next play date - say Nanny, I have ot work and cannot help out this play date....please make sure if toddler wants to play you stay within range of the older kids and to make sure your child and friend gets a snack after about 45 mins or so into the playdate......see how it goes if she knows you won't jump in, sounds lazy and just needs a nudge.....now if she really cannot handle it and you don't want to get someone else, I would stop playdates at your house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:35 AM Flag
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She's doing that on purpose so you'll step in. Next time you host a playdate have a meeting out somewhere. I'm sure she'll give both kids a snack. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:22 AM Flag
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np-no, OP, you don't get it. It's normal to have a drop-off playdate. What's weird is the expectation that someone else's paid help is going to work at your house, where YOU are supposed to supervise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:54 AM Flag
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Doesn't she only have to watch one kid when yours is at a play date? Doesn't it balance out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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No, she goes over there, most people, who invite us for play dates have younger siblings. It seems to be a trend I guess, for the families with younger siblings to be the ones hosting play dates the most. Unfortunately, there also seems to be the trend of families with WOH parents and older siblings to not want to host a day not reciprocate. Not sure if this is lack of enthusiasm from their nannies to host, or different schedules, I don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:06 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I disagree. They're not your nannies. Either you commit to watching during the playdate or you have your nanny watch the toddler and oversee the playdate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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Wait, since what age is it considered a norm that if someone hosts a play date, they must supervise the invited kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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4-5ish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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That's too young, kids this age are still difficult and require supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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But the one adult supervising the host kids can handle one more. It's not like she's entertaining the whole K class singlehandedly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:18 PM Flag
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Look you are all missing the point. It's the NANNY, who drops off another kid, who is paid foe her time. Why should she have paid time off, while my nanny works harder and I am distracted from my job? Are you all nannies on here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Because it's the nature of play dates -- that's like saying it's not fair that YOU have to do all the cooking when you invite people for dinner. You are the host! Your family is hosting this playdate, and the nanny is your hired surrogate to watch the children during the time the playdate is taking place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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All right, thanks for clarifying, I will insist that my child is hosted if they want a play date, I am done hosting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:40 PM Flag
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See how long you keep getting invited. LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:48 AM Flag
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Of course, which is what the host mom or nanny provides. I nannied for years before having kids and that was always part of the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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age 5 and up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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i.e. once they're in k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:49 AM Flag
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+always. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:56 AM Flag
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Are the nannies getting paid? If they are paid for these hours, they should work. I seriously doubt that their WOHM employers are deducting these hours from their pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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Np-No....this is exasperating. Why are you obsessed with policing someone else's work. It's like you are defensive because deep down you know that YOU are in the wrong. YOU or YOUR nanny is supposed to be able to handle the supervision at your house, period. It's completely ridiculous to expect the other mom or nanny to supervise so you don't have to. Essentially, you want to be a working mom, while getting the benefits of a SAHM for your kid. YOU are the one not doing your job. The other party is doing nothing wrong. Source: Grew up here; was a nanny for different families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:58 AM Flag
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Hi lazy nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't she have her nanny supervise all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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Why should my nanny supervise 3 kids, while the other nanny chills and has coffee or whatever while getting paid. I have to pay extra or there will be resentment if this happens often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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You have no idea what the other nanny is doing with that time or what her payment arrangement is. If your child is old enough for drop off playdates (in K or older for sure) then the adult who is at the home supervising watches the kids. This is true be it a nanny. A sahm. Whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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+1. This poster is horrible. horrible. Why is she freaking out about 'resentment'. OP- This is a normal part of childcare. Accept this since various nannies and American mothers are telling you this. And stop being so horribly petty. If this is how you are about everything, there may be a reason playdates are not being reciprocated. You are being insufferable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:59 AM Flag
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Your nanny gets to chill and have coffee or whatever when the other family reciprocates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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They rarely do, it seems that it's always us hosting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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Well maybe that's the problem. Stop asking people. Or if someone has been to your house several times, say "Stewie would love to have a playdate with Igor, but since we've hosted the last seven times could you do it? Blanca could use a little break from watching extra kids." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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ding, ding, ding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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I think that she has shown her ultra negative and difficult personality on this thread, and there may be reasons that her daughter is not getting invited places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:00 AM Flag
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My nanny has another kid to watch and she always accompanies DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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Ok. That's why you pay her more. Because she's watching two kids so she doesn't have the same flexibility as a nanny who watches one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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She goes to play dates with both kids, she watches both kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:08 PM Flag
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It is not the norm for her to accompany dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:50 AM Flag
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IME the play date is reciprocated and it balances out. Drop off is so much better anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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This. Who wants to make tea for some random mom or nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:30 PM Flag
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I do. It's way easier than dealing with the tantrums or mood swings or picky eating of some 5 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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Ah. I have no problem disciplining other people's kids. It's often easier if the parents aren't there, because some of them are so wishy-washy, and I don't mind yelling when needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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I see. I find it difficult, because my be I am too PC and too worried if they get hurt, so feel the need to watch, which I find exhausting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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I don't understand why you would need a stop working. A nanny should be able to manage three kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Your nanny should be able to handle this. Mine does without issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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She is not resentful if you are always the one hosting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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I'm not always the one hosting. If you are, stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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why can't you nanny watch the kids play? how old are these kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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"Otherwise I play the nanny role..." yes, it's called being a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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Hi lazy nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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I work, just like a WOHM, who sends her nanny to my home with her kid, if she wants me to watch her kid, she has to pay my hourly rate or pay extra to my nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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When your child has drop off play dates the parents pay you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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If you send your kid to someone's house, you expect that there will be supervision, correct? Are you paying them to supervise your kid, or do you send your nanny with them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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I send my nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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And you watch your toddler? Once again playing the nanny role? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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No, nanny goes with the toddler, because families hosting also have young sibs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:33 PM Flag
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So nanny can handle toddler and other children when she's in other people's homes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:38 AM Flag
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She doesn't watch other children. She only watches my kids when she goes to other people's home for playdate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:53 AM Flag
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lol, k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:57 AM Flag
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np - no one thinks like this.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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Seriously. OP can't manage her nanny and wants to blame other people for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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And she is hilariously resentful, yet keeps insisting the nanny will be resentful. Major projection. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:02 AM Flag
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As I noted elsewhere in the thread, this poster clearly did not grow up here. What is worse, she is an incredibly petty, selfish person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:01 AM Flag
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You want their nanny to work for you for free? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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If it is part of an occasional play date that's just the nanny doing her job. When they reciprocate your nanny will get a break too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:32 PM Flag
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She has a younger sibling, while these nannies have older kids or no one to watch. I know one of the nannies just chills, because the older sibling is in after-school. I think she makes my nanny jealous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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Ok. Your nanny can go find a job like that if she wants it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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this thread is more and more absurd. OP, neither you nor your nanny should be spending the SLIGHTEST amount of time speculating about the other's family's nanny. It is NONE of your business and it's also bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:03 AM Flag
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She is getting paid, or do you subtract from her pay for the drop off play date hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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What if the other nanny has another child to watch? And she isn't being paid to watch your kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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I know for a fact that she doesn't. She has older sibling of the kid we host often, who is in afterschool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:11 PM Flag
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When your child has a playdate at a home with a WOHM and a younger sibling, what happens? Is the other nanny able to supervise solo? Your nanny sounds a little lame if she can't handle this. I always found my daughter needed less interaction with a friend over rather than more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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I always send my nanny to play dates with my child, she takes the toddler with her, she is fine watching my kids, just not fine to watch one extra kid when she sees the other nanny take off and get paid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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Sounds like the problem is between you and your nanny. Can't you tell her she can drop the older child off at playdates instead of staying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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She finds it not worth it, understandably so. If you already have to drag younger kid with you to drop off and pick up, why not just stay? It's not harder for her to stay. I would do the same thing if I were a SAHM, I would take my toddler with me and just stayet, less hassle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:49 PM Flag
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I'm a SAHM, and I would not. And I DEFINITELY would not assume all three of us are invited once the older child was school age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:52 PM Flag
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I would die if I invited a kid and the nanny and baby sibling came too. That is rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:28 AM Flag
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Are you a SAHM? What if this were a SAHM, not a nanny? Would you allow another SAHM to come in with a younger sibling, or would you insist, she dresses and undresses her young one to drop off her older kid and take the younger kid around, so not to inconvenience your highness? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:56 AM Flag
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Nobody is insisting -- they are inviting. You can accept or decline, but you can't bring extra people who were not invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 04:21 AM Flag
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yes, but this OP is exceedingly selfish and unwilling to accept that everyone has told her that things don't work the way she'd like them to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:04 AM Flag
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Not me. Also a SAHM. You drop off starting in k unless you and the other child are specifically invited to stay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:07 PM Flag
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So you as a SAHM with a young child or a baby would voluntarily indulge someone else's nanny, who has nobody to watch while she is paid? I would never do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:35 PM Flag
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Are you OP - stop talking about the other nanny. It is none of your concern. You do not have the right to police another family's nanny pay/labor arrangement. We are all telling you that the person hosting supervises. That's the convention. We understand you don't get that or like it, but that's the way it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:05 AM Flag
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You weren't invited. It's not a question of what's easier for you. You weren't invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:26 AM Flag
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You send your nanny and toddler to a play date of elementary school aged kids? That's not normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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Some of my child's classmates have younger siblings, they play together. Why is this not normal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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In that case it would be a play date for the toddlers in which case it would be normal for your nanny to stay. But your complaint above has been about nannies who do not have younger kids to watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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Yes, they drop off a day don't reciprocate. Also don't leave snack for a child or don't feed before play date and it's on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:36 PM Flag
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OMG, you sound so high maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:55 AM Flag
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of course they dont leave snacks. and of course it's on you. That's what hosting a playdate is. You need to get over your resentment of their 100% normal behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:06 AM Flag
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I'm a sahm and when kids come over I watch them and my younger kids who are not part of the play date. Unless there is some info we're missing I don't see why your nanny couldn't do this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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She is paid help, who sees other paid help have it easy and have grand paid time off while she has to work harder for the same pay. How is this so hard to understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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How do you know it's the same pay? What are you talking about? Part of her job is to supervise drop off play dates. That's part of what she is paid to do. When the family reciprocates and age drops off at their house it is the other nanny's job to watch them. That's just part of the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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Well, they don't reciprocate. What are you going to do? Are you going to tell the parents, hey its your turn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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If they don't reciprocate I'd stop doing play dates with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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Ok, what if both kids want to to, that brings my question, how do I ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:37 PM Flag
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Everyone has been answering your question. What is your problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:56 AM Flag
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My nanny watches my toddler along with any child my 6yo has over for a play date. Any competant nanny can do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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My nanny gets distracted with a toddler, the other kid wants a snack or gets hurt or has a tantrum. I am distracted and have to stop workingetting. It sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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It sounds like the issue is your nanny. Or you. Why would you have to stop working? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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Because having another young child in your home unsupervised is very distracting. You have to feed them, worry if they get hurt, e.g. watch what they are doing. Or is it OK etiquette for me to just ignore the other kid. If it's OK, hey, I agree, I've been doing good this all wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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Typos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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Yes and it's part of her job to deal with this as a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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So, what should I do, be more relaxed and stop paying attention to the older kids or demand my nanny to closely supervise 3 kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:30 AM Flag
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I used to nanny 4 kids as a twenty year old. She should be able to handle it, especially since 2 are playing together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:07 AM Flag
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None of this is at all beyond what a nanny can handle. Any adult who makes their profession in childcare can watch three kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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I guess I should just fire my nanny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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It sounds that way, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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Because of playdates, really? If she is great otherwise? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:31 AM Flag
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look, if you don't like our advice, don't ask. Everyone here is telling you to adjust your expectations, but you don't able to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:08 AM Flag
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You keep talking about kids who are four or five getting hurt if they aren't being watched every second. What are they doing to get hurt? Is your older child never allowed to be in a room alone? Kids that age aren't so injury-prone, unless something odd is going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 04:24 AM Flag
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How old are the kdis having the playdate? IME, once the kids are in K, playdates are drop off and supervised by whomever is hosting. YOur nanny should be capable of this. If not, do not invite kids over. In the same way, if your dc is invited to another's home, your nanny is not expected to stay, which you would not want her to, since she also has your toddler to watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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She accompanies my child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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She shouldn't though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:42 PM Flag
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I want her to, for several reasons. One, it's families with younger siblings and it is a double play date. Two, I feel terrible to have to burden another babysitter, who has a young kid and especially a SAHM with another kid to watch, when they have a little one. I feel bad about it, flame away. OK with sending my kid alone to another kids place, with older or no siblings, but they don't invite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:19 PM Flag
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They do not want to sit with your nanny. My ds is in K and when he has play dates, they play alone in his bedroom and I check on them. These are not toddlers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:31 AM Flag
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This. Your nanny and toddler are more of a burden. Your older kid was invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:05 AM Flag
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np: and who cares for your toddler? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:10 PM Flag
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She takes the toddler with her to playdates [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:31 AM Flag
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Simply say, "I would like to invite Johnny for a playdate. My nanny will be here. Please ask Johnny's nanny to stay while he's here. Thanks." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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I'm telling you as a nanny that the normal expectation would be for your nanny to supervise when they are at your house and the other nanny to supervise when they go there. That is the norm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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What do you as a nanny do when you drop off? Do you get a paid 2 hour break? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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It depends. Usually I run errands for the family or catch up on other work I have at their house (laundry etc). Sometimes I just get a break. Then when that family drops off at my boss' place I have to supervise while the other nanny does whatever she needs to do during that time. I assure you this is the norm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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(When I worked for a family with multiple kids I just continued caring for the other kids) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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We end up hosting vast majority of the time, the other nannies don't seem to want to reciprocate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:55 PM Flag
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They want PTO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:58 PM Flag
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Exactly, this is what I noticed. They know they can, because they watch older kids, so they look at it as a free ride. And my nanny knows this, so she drops teh ball, when it comes to watching other kids and passively aggressively letting me know she doesn't want to indulge other nannies. I am the one to suffer or my kid, because these playdates are getting to me and I need to stop them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:33 AM Flag
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You need to have some boundaries .For the tenth time - get over your nanny's petty concerns (if they even exist and this is not you projecting). Set some boundaries or suffer, but don't blame the other parties nanny. She is doing something completely normal. Or like you said, stop the play date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:10 AM Flag
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It's not the nanny's decision who the child has play dates with. If the family is not reciprocating and that bothers you stop offering to host [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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np - ita. once my kids were out of preschool, playdates were arranged by moms. IME, some families do not like to host and some families want playdates mostly at their own homes. but if you are inviting the same kids and it's never reciprocated, then stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:20 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, I've experienced that other moms don't want to setup playdates, but give their nanny's contact info and want me to deal with nannies directly. I get annoyed, but what can I do, I want my kid to be happy, so I deal, but it's getting old. One of the WOHMs does this all the time, the other one sometimes sets up playdates herself, but never offers to host. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:37 AM Flag
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np How does she set up playdats herself without offering to host? You mean she calls you and says Inga wants a playdate, when can I drop her off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:09 AM Flag
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The thing is, one of the WOHMs pretty much gave me her nanny's number to setup playdates, so I communicate with the nanny and the nanny doesn't seem to want to host, she asks right away when she can bring her kid over when I ask for a playdate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:34 AM Flag
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If YOU ask for the playdate, you ARE offering to host. I think the only way around it is to talk to the mom about how one-sided it has been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:10 AM Flag
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Your nanny's job is to supervise she appropriate activities for your child. That includes drop off play dates. Likewise the Putney nanny will supervise on her own when your nanny drops off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:37 PM Flag
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What you wrote does not make sense. How can your nanny supervise appropriate activities for her charge if she drops your child off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Omg. Her job is to host the children who are dropped off. Then the other nanny is in charge of hosting and supervising when they go to the other family's house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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OMG. That's not what was written in pp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:57 PM Flag
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What I meant was that it is her job to supervise children that are dropped off for play dates and it is the other nanny's job to supervise when you drop your dc off there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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They don't invite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:12 PM Flag
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Interesting. On a slightly different note, what if a child gets hurt on a drop off playdate? Wouldn't the parents blame the host? Seems like so many of you are comfortable with dropping off your very young children at other people homes, who may not be great babysitters, e.g. babysitters you hired and trust. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:16 PM Flag
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what is wrong with people. you act like we're discussing babies! school aged kids can play w their friends wo the need for multiple adults to supervise. and if you do not trust another parent or their babysitter to supervise, then just do not accept the invitation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:32 PM Flag
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I have three kids and have hosted many, many play dates. Kids play in my kid's room and I check periodically. Either you are hosting a very difficult child or you are a real helicoptor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:33 AM Flag
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So, you are ok, if kids play in someone else's kid's room without supervision? I don't need to be there? If something happens to your kid, lets say he drops stuff on his head or falls off the bunkbed, will you sue me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:44 AM Flag
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No, I would absolutely be ok with my k ds playing with a friend in his room with a mom or nanny checking periodically. I would not sue for an accident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:59 AM Flag
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Anything can go wrong, and if it does, who will you blame? That's why playdates stress me out, when I host, I stop what I am doing and have to watch, otherwise, I am liable. If they bring their nanny, it's her job and her responsibility, if something happens, blame the nanny, simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:39 AM Flag
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Most people wouldn't blame you. You are projecting because it's clear that you blame everyone else except for you in this context. The other mothers, the nannies, your nanny. Most people are reasonable and understand that kids get hurt. That's implicit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:11 AM Flag
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Wrong. If the other child is injured in your home, you would still be found liable. They would blame it on conditions in your home. But your homeowners insurance would cover it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:13 AM Flag
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^^You sound like someone who should have a LOT of insurance. I can picture you now, walking down the sidewalk looking up, expecting an anvil to land on your head. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:13 AM Flag
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Do nannies really do drop offs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:59 AM Flag
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Not where I come from. They stick around and take care of the kids along with host many or mom. This post is most likely fake. Host moms don't want to be responsible for the guest kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:10 AM Flag
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Of course it's not fake. What kind of weird world do two parents have to supervise children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:12 AM Flag
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I have kids over all the time and never have their parents. My kids go to friend's houses as well. The kids play and I go about my business. I don't expect my kid to supervised that closely in the house. If you are really concerned, have the kids play in the living room. Let them play while your nanny is there and you are working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 02:33 AM Flag
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NP So not true. avisiting kids I can handle on my own, but I do NOT want to be expected to drop everything and entertain another adult. The best thing about playdates for my only child is that it keeps her out of my hair for a couple hours -- the last thing I want is to spend that time in chit-chat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:15 AM Flag
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Stop hosting during the weekdays. The fact that there's very little reciprocation would bother me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:13 AM Flag
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Wtf. Thank god we moved to flyover. My dc in prek goes to drop off play dates and drop off birthday parties and they all act like normal children and enjoy normal childhoods. It is healthy for children's development to play freely together. I also think it's easier having a kid over for a play date, bc then they entertain each other, and I can have one on one time with my toddler [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 04:08 AM Flag
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We are in NYC but have a semi-normal life on weekends and summer in Connecticut. DD actually goes over to her friends' houses, knocks, and asks if they want to play. So much easier than the city. Please don't think everyone here is as nuts as op! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 05:17 AM Flag
[ - ] In 1 day Trump was able to get more fat women to go out walking than Michelle Obama did in 8 yrs. So I guess he is making america great again even when pissing pple off. He just can't stop winning! 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:03 PM Flag
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That's funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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copied from FB etc.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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A white man wrote that on his FB page and brook be out of a job soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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Spoken like a true Trump-supporting man. "Fat women" -- yep, I'm sure that was all the march was to you. Too bad the rest of the country and the world was awed by how many women of all ages, sizes, and backgrounds oppose Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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Not me, sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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we didn't think it was funny and facebook and we don't think it funny when you copy something unfunny and post it here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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My dh just peed himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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He should see a urologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:34 PM Flag
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He probably has bladder cancer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:43 PM Flag
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+ 1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Depends stat. Sale at piggly wiggly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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Really? is he dumb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:27 PM Flag
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No, he's emulating his fat hero TRUMPSKIN who wears depends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:44 PM Flag
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Emma Watson, what a fatty, amirite? Pass the cheetos, Amber. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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And this is why white women date black men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Copying internet crap here? Sad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Funny but bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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This isn't FB. Go troll there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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A trump supporter I know posted this to FB. The irony is she is obese, and literally not one women I know who marched was fat and I know over 100 women who marched. In fact most were thin! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:18 PM Flag
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no, no they werent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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no, no they werent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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FREE MELANIA!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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At least we don't look like a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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ummm did you march? there were plenty of shims there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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I marched in NYC and there were not many fat women there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:45 PM Flag
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I would suggest the inauguration had a bigger contingent of trailer park fatties [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone familiar with Newton, MA. Thinking of looking this house https://www.redfin.com/MA/Newton/19-Fessenden-St-02460/home/11417006 but unsure if its good location, price in general? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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Ran through Newton a couple times in the marathon but didn't stop (thank God) so I can't help. I love "Fessenden" as a street name though -- it would be worth it just to have that on your writing paper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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Ugly house and terrible yard for that price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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That kitchen is awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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my college roommate lives there. hate that bitch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:06 PM Flag
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ahahahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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Seems cheap, but looks like it needs a gut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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I lived in Boston years ago so my context is dated, but I remember it seemed a bit "striver-y". Take this with a grain of salt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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Completely wrong! House though nothing much to speak of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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Newton mom here. I think this is a desirable home for the neighborhood. Inventory moves quickly, price seems right. Would not be surprised if it went for more. You have a garage which is a luxury for the neighborhood. Looks like you are walkbke to the middle and elementary school too. Where are you moving from and how old are the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:11 PM Flag
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Move from NJ, kids 2 and 6. You seem to get much less for your money.. but at the same time a very environment for the kids? I know this particular location is not "prime-A", but looks convenient [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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I've been here 10 plus years. Schools are good, prices are high because the schools are desirable. Your neighborhood is family friendly. my youngest is in a nearby elementary school and the older too are in the middle school this home feeds into. Starter homes are btwn 600-800k. I would described this home is a step above a starter home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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Thanks! its still hard for me to wrap my head around "what you get" for the price. I would expect this in "Palo Alto, CA or Cupertino, CA" but harder to except this in Boston area! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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Yep. It's expensive here. All the desirable towns, Newton, Lexington, weston, Wellesley, Needham are very expensive. New construction moves super quick and starts at a minimum 1.3 mil and that's in the not fancy parts of town. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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Newton is a Palo Alto or at least Cupertino equivalent for Boston [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:38 PM Flag
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Ha, good luck getting something for that price in Palo Alto or Cupertino... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:02 AM Flag
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never thought I'd here a "garage" being a luxury for single family home (outside Manhattan!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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The nickname was always Jewton. Not nice and I don't know how accurate it is today. Pretty houses on small lots. Good commute to the city. One very excellent public school others less so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:17 PM Flag
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It's pretty Jewish. As is Brookline. But that won't impact your daily life or anything. By way of compensation you will have the best bagel places outside of NY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:06 PM Flag
[ - ] In the talk about DT ignoring Melania when they arrived at the White House I went on YouTube to watch the Bushes welcoming the Obamas eight years ago. Did anyone else remember that Michelle Obama brought a gift and handed it to Laura Bush? There was all this talk about how Melania is NOKD and didn't she realize she shouldn't carry the gift herself, how awkward, etc., and Mrs. O making a face about it, but she did the SAME THING! Funny. It's on YouTube if you search "Bushes Greet Obamas." 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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I was laughing when I saw that too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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We thought Melania bringing the gift was sweet. We don't like how DH charged up the stars ahead of her & didn't take her arm. No one is criticizing Melania. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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Not today, but the day of there was a lot of "why didn't she realize there's a better way to get them a gift than by handing it over at the door." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:00 PM Flag
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not from us here. Melania is not the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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No. I posted earlier and all I said was he should have walked up the stairs with his DW. I watched the video you talked about and Obama waited for Michelle to get out of the car & the walked up the stairs side by side. I thought the gift was sweet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:06 PM Flag
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& every post I have seen on MT is sympathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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This--it's DT people are unhappy with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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Free Melania! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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I think we have to go in ourselves and save her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:03 PM Flag
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I assumed it was protocol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:00 PM Flag
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the exact same scenario! The gift should not have come as a surprise at all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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There's probably a protocol for that and DT should have been briefed by his staff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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I just watched it BO stood at the car and WAITED FOR MO before he walked up the stairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
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OP knows. But she wants to distract you from the fact that Trump sees his wife as furniture not an equal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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OP: I wasn't trying to distract, I think how he treated her was awful. I was just pointing out the contradiction on the other matter. Joe Biden was really sweet in 2009 too -- waited by the car and then held Jill's hand. And she had on these boots that, I swear, were over the knee -- too hot for the White House! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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I hate Trump and found that stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:06 PM Flag
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yeah, I didn't think that was a big deal either. What was a big deal was Trump leaving MT in the dust while BO took care of taking her arm and escorting her like a gentleman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
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Once a whore always a whore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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That's the mother of his child. And his DW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:32 PM Flag
[ - ] May I ask for the next week or so that everyone use Velvet words? Whether you voted for Hillary or against her, it is possible we can create a friendly civil discussion group here (kind of like a book group, not a debating society) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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Nah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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:( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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:( :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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I think I do. However their are some posters who pepper their comments with "he is clearly uninformed and doesnt even know how ignorant he is." See? All nice words but very condescending and not furthering a discussion and understanding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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What are velvet words? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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"Eh" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:00 PM Flag
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Smooth, silky, gentle... Words that convey what you are trying to convey without hurting feelings.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:00 PM Flag
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I agree that the nasty, below-the-belt type of communicating with each other doesn't help anyone, regardless of their opinions/beliefs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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That sounds seductive! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Did you take theme pictures of your baby? Monthly pictures, Christmas , valentines day, easter, 4th of July" autumn, etc? Even if you didn't hire a photographer and just did it yourself using props ? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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No, but I have thousands of photos and videos of my dcs from birth to present. This weekend, we were just watching videos of my youngest (7yo) taking his first steps. So damn cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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Took 'I'm x months old' photos for about 5 months - then forgot/didn't get round to it for the following months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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Oh God no, there's no way I'd be that well organized. I'm the mom who has nothing in the baby book but a name and a footprint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
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Ha! I could have written this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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This. Except name and footprint. I don't care for that stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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OR: I thought it was a mandatory part of motherhood, because my mom was an obsessive archivist. It was years before I stopped feeling bad about my failure in that area and realized I have my own strengths and weaknesses as a parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:39 PM Flag
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No, just major holidays, sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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I did with the first but not the second or third lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] What percentage of people who marched on Saturday do you think were non-voters/third-party voters? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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My guess is 20%. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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More then enough to have turned the election. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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Agreed, sadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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You falsely assume they would have voted for Hillary had they paid attention or cared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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Given they came out to march, pretty much against Trump, I don't think that's a bad assumption. Another question is if there was an equal or larger group who didn't vote, but would have voted Trump had they voted (and maybe would have protested against Clinton had she won.) I think that may also be the case. Either side could clearly have won had they gotten more non-voters to vote their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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The point is Hillary hijacked the party out of a victory by inserting herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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The point is Hillary hijacked the party out of a victory by inserting herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:41 PM Flag
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Example, Bernie just tweeted a big thank you to Donald Trump for killing TPP (Something president Clinton never would have done) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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I think TPP was a good deal overall and we will rue it's demise. Time shall tell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:54 PM Flag
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Agreed. I don't think isolationism is the way to go. (Not the OR) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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our workers aren't skilled enough and are too lazy to learn it. There is some truthiness for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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Too lazy to learn what? Your post is vague. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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It is not possible for many of our workers to compete with workers in Korea. The average IQ of Koreans is much much higher than the average IQ in America. Not fair to make our workers compete. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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And stop calling American workers "Lazy" The problem is Americans born without the intelligence to learn a lot of things. Would you call a blind workers lazy? Would you call a worker whose hands were amputated lazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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But our (liberal) school system won't let us train them for useful occupations like automotive or cosmetology. Nope they must go to college to succeed and have thousands in debt after failing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:09 PM Flag
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I 100% agree with you that we need to be honest with each other about the intellectual abilities of our children. I am hopeful that our society will become realistic at some point in the future! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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+1 Isolationism never works especially in a global market where we no longer make superior products. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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Liberal by the way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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Frankly, I never thought tpp was all that bad. we will now never know if the presumed bad effect on jobs was a scare tactic or a reality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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Interesting - I don't believe I've ever seen this analyzed. (NP) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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less than 5% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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very few. the people who can't be bothered to vote, or voted knowing that their vote could make DJT president, are not the ones who will come out and march. mnaybe a handful of people bitter over Bernie, but that's about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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I personally know two Stein voters and a non-voter who marched. Wondering how many more were out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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Very few--why would you be too lazy to vote but energized enough to spend hours barely moving with no access to bathrooms etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:29 PM Flag
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There were several self-proclaimed Bernie Bros leading the protests against Trump immediately following the election. I was wondering if that was the case here too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Because voting isn't as sexy as marching. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:32 PM Flag
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hmm, everyone i know voted for hillary. and i know a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it odd that my SIL can't take her DS anywhere without another adult present? She won't take him to the store, the doctor or to music class without my brother or mom with her? My nephew is 18 months and is a perfectly well behaved little guy. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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She might have anxiety about something wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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OP- yes maybe but at some point you have to be able to handle your child solo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:49 PM Flag
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This sounds like a friend of mine that had PPD in the for of severe and irrational anxiety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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^^ sorry, "form" of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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STFU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:49 PM Flag
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Why don't you ask her ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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I have a friend with one D.C. And she takes a nanny everywhere. So weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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Anxiety or unresolved PPD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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Yes it's odd. But there may be a backstory that you are not aware of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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She might have a health issue you don't know about. If she has dizziness/fainting spells, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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What's really odd is that you have made this your business. Don't you have your own children to attend to? The fact that you don't know says more about the relationship you've cultivated with her (or lack there of) than anything else ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
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New? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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OP-yes i do have my own DC that I attend to without the constant need of an extra set of hands [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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Maybe she has anxiety issues? Not anyones's business though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
[ - ] When women last protested at the White House it was for the right to vote and to work. Now it's for abortions (which are already legal and will not change anymore than if Scalia was still there!) the right for a man to use the women's restroom with my DD in there. I'm not proud of that. This is the snowflake/PC culture you have become. Pathetic. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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What if it was your kid who was transsexual? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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The answer is not using the women's bathroom. My fear is predators who use this as an excuse to go in. Agreed we need to find a solution, like the family single bathrooms, but I wouldn't want any child to be put at risk of a sexual predator (straight, gay, trans, or whatever). My main concern is the children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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There isn't a guard at the door, these hypothetical predictors can walk in to any restroom any time no matter how they are dressed. And this has nothing to do with why we marched [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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Isn't it the so-called bathroom bills that do this? If you make it normal for people who look like men to use the women's room, how do you know which of them are trans and which of them are men who now have access? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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Are you going on damage control? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:49 PM Flag
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Obviously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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I voted. my job is done. i can kick back for four years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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Yep. They didn't succeed in convincing Americans that no people actually showed up for the march! Then they tried to say that most of them were Trump supporters misled into thinking the inauguration was saturday. That didn't work, so now the marchers ONLY care about abortion. Millions of women across the US. Trump people are so disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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That's what she said... and she lost. Cheers to your self destruction and bring on 2018 2020 and 2024 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:00 PM Flag
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Maybe you men can get Putin, the FBI and the judges you own to intervene for you again and smear whoever runs against Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:06 PM Flag
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ok, tell that to the voters. we all get one vote. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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Yup. We are all snowflakes. And buckle up bitch bc winter is coming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:49 PM Flag
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If you had ALL of America's support behind you, ur ass would have been able to get your savior elected. Move over cuz the Trump train is going full speed and there's a lot of bitches on board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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You mean a lot of Russian men aboard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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np. This is what makes me so sad, that the current state of politics is causing women to turn against each other even more :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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^and no group of people gets ahead if it's so divided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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Tell Donny not to release his taxes and we'll shut up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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ILY!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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Eh, I don't think so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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interestinglt, the right to contraception and the right to choose whether to keep or terminate a pregnancy, are 2 of the rights that allowed women to work esp in traditionally male careers. before that you could lose your job for getting pregnant, or not get hired, or not get a promotion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:13 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:00 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were a dog, which breed would you be? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:42 PM Flag
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Westy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:43 PM Flag
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Scottie here - I look so cute but I'm so mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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golden [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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Irish Setter -- Total moron, but great hair! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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You don't have great hair, Donald. You have yellow hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:47 PM Flag
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Golden retriever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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FREE MELANIA!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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That is such a docile breed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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Fat golden retriever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:49 PM Flag
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I feel like that some days already [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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Or: me too. I am friendly though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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Shiba. Stubborn, weird, loyal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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With that loud pitched scream to go with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:22 PM Flag
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I want DH to give it to me doggie style tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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Maybe finish your homework first! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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my old frenchie, who was loved, well fed and cared for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:54 PM Flag
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Leonberger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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Black Labrador [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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A poodle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:12 PM Flag
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Shih tzu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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Estonia Whore who happens to be the First Lady of the USA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:25 PM Flag
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Norwich Terrier...tenacious, chunky and stubby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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A pit bull so I could be put out of my misery as soon as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 01:57 AM Flag
[ - ] What happens after Trump leaves the White HOuse for people like Kelly Ann Conway and Sean Spicer - they have sold their souls. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:42 PM Flag
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Moreso than Obama's flunkies? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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Very much so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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Lol! Sad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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Some other tyrant wannabe will appreciate these sycophantic soul-less types and hire them to lie and spin for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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They'll both get great jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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KC can go back to her mansion and relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Work for Fox news [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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Fox News can always use another blonde. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:47 PM Flag
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She is FUGLY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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Seriously, she is a skull in a wig. Terrible underbite that was never corrected [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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Michelle has a bad open bite too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:14 PM Flag
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She not doing either. Who the fuck cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:21 PM Flag
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I wouldn't say bad. I would say it's a judgment call. KC should have had her bite corrected a long time ago, it gives her that witch look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:01 PM Flag
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Grandma Kelly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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KEEP JUDGING PEOPLE ON LOOKS, OH TOLERANT LIBERAL ONES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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She is so rich, she will go back to polling for fun. and winning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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She has very asymmetrical eyes and I find it distracting. One is much bigger than the other. Someone should teach her how to use makeup to balance it out and then I think she'll look fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.24.17, 12:18 AM Flag
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kellyanne [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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Kellyanne will finally become the animated beef jerky she strives to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I just found out from facebook that one of my best friends from high school died of stomach cancer. This is so sad and also so scary. I've never had a friend die before. We hadn't kept in touch much but we did exchange a few facebook message last year. She was only 30. And she was engaged. It all happened so fast. Everything was fine last year and then within the span of a few months she got thinner and thinner and then died. I am crying right now. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:42 PM Flag
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I am so sorry! That's terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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Hugs. I am so sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Hugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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cancer sucks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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I am really so sorry. I posted the other night about an old classmate whose family has undergone an unfathomable number of tragedies in a short period of time. My classmate died first in a motorcycle accident, leaving his family. Next his niece lost her husband of less than 6 months in a military helicopter crash. Then, last week, my classmate's widow and her youngest child with down syndrome were killed instantly in a car accident. Sometimes stuff is so tragic and random it is overwhelming. Hugs, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:54 PM Flag
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op: wow, that is terrible, that poor family [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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op: thank you everyone for the kind words. this is just so sad. And she was an only child too. her poor parents. this just breaks my heart. so many memories of her shining personality. she really brought me out of my shell and made me feel confident in myself in a way no one else before her ever had. i am so grateful to have known her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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Make sure you tell her parents that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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+1 op, getting a letter from someone like you with memories they didn't know about will make a huge difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:02 PM Flag
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JM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
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op: no, sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 11:27 PM Flag
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Sorry. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
[ - ] The exceptionally left wing liberal progressive Guardian newspaper has an honest article in which a black mom says that stop and frisk is the only possible way to save the lives of black children. Read it. If you don't cry you are heartless. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:39 PM Flag
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I didn't know they were exceptionally left wing liberal progressive, news to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:40 PM Flag
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Yes they are, they are on the far far far left of the spectrum in the UK. But respectable and honest left. Read them and judge for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:43 PM Flag
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I guess I'm heartless because every time I see you use the word "liberal" in a post I collapse it. Bye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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Quite all right if you want to collapse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 09:56 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:00 PM Flag
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I am a black person who has read the article and still feels vehemently that stop and frisk is the worst of racial profiling, overwhelmingly results in false arrests and a backlog of litigation against municipalities, and that there are numerous other ways to combat urban crime, including old-fashioned community policing. I know hundreds of black people who feel the way I do, so your sample size of one person in an article is not persuasive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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Dear black mom, I respect your opinion. And frankly your opinion counts to me. After hearing your perspective I am not quite as adamantly in favor of stop and frisk as I used to be... But still need to think... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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the problem is that cops and most other people have racial stereotypes and do racial profiling even subsconsciously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.23.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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