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[ - ] If a volunteer department never calls you back, after repeated attempts, it obviously means they don't want you, but I can't think of a reason why besides my Asian last name. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:34 PM Flag
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You're assuming they're on top of things - big assumption for non-profit volunteer coordination. [ Reply | More ]
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No, she called me back once and then never again. Almost like she did her duty and now she washed her hands of me. [ Reply | More ]
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I can think of a reason. They have no volunteer needs at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
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Plenty of need. It was advertised and not as many volunteers on sign up. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sally Field is such a gorgeous grandma. I hope I look like her when I'm a grandma 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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She's always been a cutie. [ Reply | More ]
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she was my role model when she was Gidget on TV [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I've always been a huge fan. Admirable in every way. [ Reply | More ]
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I love actresses who age really well and accept good parts without vanity. She played mother of the bride to Julia Roberts at 40. [ Reply | More ]
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You love her, you really love her! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Trump is going after human traffickers. Bless this man that he is doing this. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It's a front. [ Reply | More ]
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No Ivanka is in charge. [ Reply | More ]
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His daughter wife? [ Reply | More ]
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Ew. WHY? [ Reply | More ]
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She wants to get laid by a Mexican. [ Reply | More ]
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Personally? [ Reply | More ]
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Pizzagate going down [ Reply | More ]
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Pizza gate is alternative facts. You are aware of that correct? [ Reply | More ]
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Link? Facts? [ Reply | More ]
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Pizzagate, bro. Time to catch up w/ the non-fake news [ Reply | More ]
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That would be grat. It is a terrible thing. But if he only picks the ones in basement of pizza parlors then wasted effort [ Reply | More ]
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Did you mean grate:) [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's funny that you're still trying to deflect, but Trump and a bunch of other people are in a shit-ton of very real trouble. Stuff's about to get crazy. [ Reply | More ]
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Trouble 'bout what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Why is Trump freaking out about the US having trade deficits with so many countries? Of course there is a trade deficit - the US is best at exporting services and technology, not basic goods. The US is a consumer society. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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he doesnt understand economics but is such a blowhard that he doesnt let those that do understand make the policies and do the talking. He is truly a banana republic dictator [ Reply | More ]
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Did you watch the drunk history about banana republic And how the Chiquita banana formed? [ Reply | More ]
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no is it good? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Dh and I love watching this stoned. [ Reply | More ]
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The US has a large trade deficit even when counting services and technology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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So stop being such a materialistic, consumer society [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 12:38 AM Flag
[ - ] 9 days alone with DH at end of March. DH wants to travel prefers warmth, sunshine, but not dripping heat, humidity. I can't find any destinations or trips that interest. We did Costa Rica over the holidays. We're in California and Hawaii a lot for work. Asia seems too far away. Europe seems too cold. Help reframe one of those locations? Or other Ideas? 54 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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Anguilla [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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Spain, Portugal or Southern Italy/Malta/Croatia won't be too cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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^ Or Greece. [ Reply | More ]
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Greece still cold. Most places not yet open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:37 PM Flag
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It isn't cold. Not hot and muggy but not cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:39 PM Flag
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Water will be cold and air temp can be chilly. Many places still closed. But I was in Italy last year first week in April and it was gorgeous! Had an 80 degree day in Positano. Weather can be hit or miss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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Parisian who posted below - the weather can be very unpredictable, but maybe that OK for you OP? If you're not looking for a beach/resort type vacation. Go to southern Spain, Amalfi, Provence. Places where there are cultural activities if the weather is crappy. But I also suggest Morocco, which would be amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:55 PM Flag
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What did you like about Morocco? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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Everything? The beautiful small hotels, the food, the sights. It feels different and unique and interesting, but not overwhelming with a list a mile long of "must-see" sights (like Rome for example). Fun shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:06 PM Flag
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I loved morocco as well but the sexism was apparent I was invisible next to DH. I was buying some antiques for parents and had to keep telling shop keepers " talk to me not him. I have the $$$". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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Cancun, Mustique, Turks and Caicos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
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its not going to be "too cold" in europe in late march. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:31 PM Flag
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Hmmm.... maybe. It depends. I live in Paris and really don't go anywhere in late March in Europe for "warmth". How about Marrakech? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:34 PM Flag
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What are the warmest destinations in Europe? Greece? Italy? south of France? Spain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:37 PM Flag
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+1 We live in London and few places around Europe are warm-ish and by that I mean in low 60s late March [ Reply | More ]
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+1 The Med is chilly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:44 PM Flag
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+1. Temps in 60's, maybe 70's if lucky. To me that is great for sight seeing, but not beach weather. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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OP I agree. Great for sightseeing, hiking, walks. Not beach weather. Sounds good to me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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Safari to South Africa or Giraffe Manor which is on my bucket list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:32 PM Flag
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Croatia, Argentina, Brazil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:34 PM Flag
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one of those Huts over the water in Fiji [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:35 PM Flag
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Is that Bora Bora? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:38 PM Flag
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yes bora bora. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Is it rainy then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:31 PM Flag
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Maldives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:36 PM Flag
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Jumby Bay or Cap Juluca [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:36 PM Flag
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For 9 days? Yawn. [ Reply | More ]
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OP Yes I'm worried about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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Bermuda? Nice but not beach weather and so close! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:36 PM Flag
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Sicily, Middle East (you could do few days in dubai then maledives), Morocco (or Southern Spain and Morocco) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:37 PM Flag
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What do you like to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:38 PM Flag
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Be up at 6 am, start a hike or walking tour and just be non stop activities until 10 pm, have someone else to rely on for getting around and sorting details [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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Mexico [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:39 PM Flag
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are you a romantic "in love" couple ? do you want luxury or sporty or what ? hints please... [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks :) sporty, very busy body, we get enough city time, prefer beautiful scenery with stuff to do other than just look at it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:54 PM Flag
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No clue why this is double posting :( sorry [ Reply | More ]
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np. Cuba. Spend 3-4 days in Havana and to side trips. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks :) sporty, very busy body, we get enough city time, prefer beautiful scenery with stuff to do other than just look at it [ Reply | More ]
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So go to Italy - you'll have a great time! Or Provence or Andalucia - wherever you haven't been. [ Reply | More ]
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Goa, India. [ Reply | More ]
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Bocas del Toro [ Reply | More ]
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I would go to Cabo San Lucas or Punta Mita, [ Reply | More ]
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Marrakech [ Reply | More ]
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Sri Lanka [ Reply | More ]
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maybe one of those fancy bicycle trips [ Reply | More ]
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You have not mentioned Budget ? Is Budget no issue at all ? [ Reply | More ]
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I have my threshold, but usually no limit, just has to be worth it [ Reply | More ]
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I'm taking the kids to Buenos Aires and Uruguay in March...some city, some beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:33 PM Flag
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that sounds amazing. first time there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 01:08 AM Flag
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Thailand [ Reply | More ]
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where? also the news looks risky [ Reply | More ]
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Love Canada... [ Reply | More ]
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where? [ Reply | More ]
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Argentina? Don't have experience, but not dead of winter there, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 01:13 AM Flag
[ - ] 9 days alone with DH at end of March. DH wants to travel prefers warmth, sunshine, but not dripping heat, humidity. I can't find any destinations or trips that interest. We did Costa Rica over the holidays. We're in California and Hawaii a lot for work. Asia seems too far away. Europe seems too cold. Help reframe one of those locations? Or other Ideas? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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Greece wouldn't be cold? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:41 PM Flag
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Posted above. Greece weather could be nice, but water will be cold and many places (at least islands) will still be closed. Greece is very seasonal. Doesn't mean it can't be great, but might not be hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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Could be windy and chilly. Ditto Croatia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:52 PM Flag
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Greece weather was great to walk around in late May early June, but the water was too cold for me then [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
[ - ] This is horrible but I really hate visiting parents in their 80's with my DC's. Its incredibly stressful, they get so bored and act up , they are deaf and insist on driving and I am terrified driving with them. They are cheap and I cant buy any food I want without them making obnoxious comments. Going for 9 days in March, its my penance for not seeing them at the Holidays. 69 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:22 PM Flag
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Why do you go? Sounds like out of guilt and obligation. Do DCs want to see them? [ Reply | More ]
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yes of course it is guilt and obligation, i really dont want to cut them off. i have gone almost 10 months without seeing them, i kind of have to go. [ Reply | More ]
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Choose a time of year that you like that climate, festivals, activities, and just go annually. Make that the point. Seeing the grandparents will be a sort of ugly lining to that otherwise once a year adventure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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You people are gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:33 PM Flag
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Why in the world would you go for such a long time? And why would you allow them to drive you if you think it is dangerous? And who cares about their obnoxious comments? You're an adult now. They don't get to tell you what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:23 PM Flag
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41 and act like a 9 year old when i am around them. never snap back at them , i dont know why i let them boss me around. its bizarre i know. DH wont even come because he cant believe how i act so nice to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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Think of what you model to your children. Do you want them to act that way to people who treat them like that? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: You can turn that around pretty easily: Do you want them to think parents are disposable once they are old and "boring"? [ Reply | More ]
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It has nothing to do with being old. THey are rude to her and don't have proper boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
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She actually didn't give any such example. She said they are cheap and deaf. Hardly criminal. Sounds like she's making excuses. [ Reply | More ]
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Cheap and deaf and make rude comments about what she eats and her kids act up and go wild. This is not a situation one should spend nine days in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:48 PM Flag
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Enjoy growing old alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:49 PM Flag
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I have my husband and friends and of course if I outlive them all I will be alone one day. I didn't have children to be my lifetime companions. I hope they visit and I will treat them well when they come. But I would not expect them to stay for nine days if we don't even get along. [ Reply | More ]
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amazing. [ Reply | More ]
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Logic finally shut you up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:54 PM Flag
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I just feel sad for you. [ Reply | More ]
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Hm. Then you're overinvested in something you know little about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:08 PM Flag
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Why would you go? And why for so long? [ Reply | More ]
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Because they are her parents? This just makes me sad. [ Reply | More ]
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That doesn't mean she needs to go for nine days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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It is sad. For many different reasons. Parents. Boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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Parents or not taking her kids somewhere where they have no interesting activities and she doesn't get along with the people she's visiting is not something one should do for NINE days! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
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Remember that when you're over 80. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:32 PM Flag
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If when I'm 80 I'm rude to my children and have nothing for my grandchildren to do I would not expect them to visit me for nine days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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Lol, most people over 80 are rude! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
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Pp Huh. My parents, dh's parents,my great aunts and uncles, as well as his, not to mention the many elderly people I know through our church....I don't think I'd describe any of them as rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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Wow, so "interesting activities" > family now, huh? Amazing what we've come to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:39 PM Flag
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The options for stimulation for children certainly impacts the length of a stay. Kids spending nine days in a house with nothing to do for children is silly. I didn't say they should never see them. I said not for nine days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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This. It's not good for anyone. The kids act up. Grandparents get annoyed. Mom gets frazzled. And on top of that the grandparents mistreat their mother. [ Reply | More ]
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Go to kidville then. And don't be surprised when you're old and it hurts to get around and your own kids don't want to be around you because they have no idea what a grandparent is supposed to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:51 PM Flag
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pp My kids have a wonderful relationship with their grandparents. No idea what you're talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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Interesting activities?? This is so NY. When I was a kid my sister and I went to Maine for 2 weeks each summer to see our grandparents. We didn't have any interesting activities, beyond just doing things with and around them. We played cards, read books, collected insects, and kicked the ball around the school fields. It was fine. [ Reply | More ]
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those are all interesting activities. Doesn't sound like they have those options there. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, I'm sure books are outlawed at these grandparents' house. Eyeroll. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, let's have all of them read books for nine days at a house where the adults done get along in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
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A horror, lol. [ Reply | More ]
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You think books and nothing else for nine days is an ideal set up with young kids and elderly people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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I have young kids and I think expecting that your kids will be entertained for 24 hours a day, every day of their lives, is pretty sick. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree. There is middle ground between 24 hours a day and being in the home of an elderly person who mistreats your mother for nine days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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Complaining about her food choices is "mistreatment" now? Well I can tell you my parents would have a fit if I made them go to WF and pay those prices. Most old people would. Or insert any other food fad of the day here. I hardly think that qualifies as mistreatment. OP probably thinks she's mistreated if her parents won't go out for sushi with her. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not what the post says at all though. She refers to buying for for herself not asking them to dinner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:19 PM Flag
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Yeah, that's what I meant. I took my parents on a shopping trip to WF once. For myself, with my own money. They were horrified. The next time they came to visit, it was with a trunk full of crappy groceries from their local Key Food, lol. They still talk about how outrageous WF was, lol [ Reply | More ]
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^If I ever get a parking ticket around my mother, she'll talk about it for months. My dad once offered to sit in the car for an entire visit so that mom and kids and I could have lunch without feeding the meter! Yet, they love me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:23 PM Flag
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cant 'not' go - they complain i dont bring grandkids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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kids get bored not the parents ^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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We do 7 days a year with my in-laws, but split it 4 nights with them, 3 nights at a nearby resort hotel (Miami). Works out well. It's not without stress, but family is family. At age 80, odds are you have 4 - 7 visits left with them forever. They raised you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:34 PM Flag
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Honestly, it sounds like you see your parents as an inconvenience now that they're not useful to you in any way. If you really don't have any kind of feelings for them, do everyone a favor and cut them off completely. But I don't think that's it--I suspect you're a selfish brat and are just ready to throw them away. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Some obligations are at the core of our humanity. Did you used to like your parents before they got old? [ Reply | More ]
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^ spoken by somebody who must have great parents -lucky you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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I've had a very difficult relationship with my mother all my life, actually. But now that I have kids we are much closer because of the kids. It's precisely because I do know what it's like to have differences that I said what I said. Old people are cranky and often in pain. They are not supposed to be "fun" to be around. But they are your family, and that matters. [ Reply | More ]
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ALl the more reason not bring children around for long periods of time. I know I won't want that when I'm cranky and in pain. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: Who are these people? [ Reply | More ]
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You're not a NP [ Reply | More ]
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To this thread I am. I did post above though. [ Reply | More ]
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You won't want your family around you? Are you some kind of sociopath? [ Reply | More ]
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Young children in my home for nine days if I'm cranky and in pain? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:20 PM Flag
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That's not every grandparent grandchild dynamic. My father told all of his children he wasn't interested in a relationship with his grandchildren, and it shows. It's awkward for the children, it's awkward for him. Maybe once they're adults or teens that will change. My mother is bat shit crazy, and sadly confuses me for others, and that's not fair to put grandchildren through either. [ Reply | More ]
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Well then she should cut off relations, if they're that bad. I'm not saying everyone has to have their parents in their life. But something about OPs post just make me feel like that's not the case here. [ Reply | More ]
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Well then she should cut off relations, if they're that bad. I'm not saying everyone has to have their parents in their life. But something about OPs post just make me feel like that's not the case here. [ Reply | More ]
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OP back to give some info. Mother was physically abusive from 5 year old til 11. threw me down stairs a few times, smashed me across the face often and held me up by my hair and smacked me around. Father played dumb, worked his job and was depressed because she cuckhold him. I do not respect him or her. Older sister cut them off years ago. Mother criticizes things like, which pot did you use to boil the water, and why did you open those graham crackers when there is a perfectly good 6 month old package already, and why dont you put some makeup on , you look like a witch. and often " your just an idiot" - when i'm the most highly educated and successful person in my family . All I can really say is : I do feel obligation & I do feel guilt. I try with my kids to bring some joy to their home, and it always backfires. Oh - another thing - they dont open the shades at all. Its dark all day long like a funeral home. So thank you for those of you who seemed to understand the gist of my post. and to those of you who have had amazing parents , you are truly lucky. On another note; I've been able to have that close and warm and loving relationship wth my in-laws who are wonderful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:16 PM Flag
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OK, really, I posted a lot above about how family matters. But you're either a liar or delusional. Because if all this is true, how the fuck does your DH LET you take your kids to stay with these people?? I just don't believe you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:18 PM Flag
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DH hates them. He never sees them . He said he wont even go to their funerals. But we dont discuss it in front of DC's we actually never discuss it. I just say, DC's and I are going to florida March 6 and thats the last it is discussed. he knows I feel obligated and he knows they dont have anyone, in case they get sick , which in their 80's is inevitable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:48 PM Flag
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Well that didn't answer my question, did it? He hates them, won't see them, but is fine and dandy with his kids going there to see abusive people for 9 days?? Something about your story just doesn't check out, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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yes its a huge source of tension in our marriage if u must know! but my elderly parents aren't going to hit my kids wth me around & he knows that too. the situation is entirely different than a 40 year old strong mother hitting a 5 year old with no one in the house, than a 83 year old hitting her grandkids with mom there to protect them. obviously !!!! give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:00 PM Flag
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But they can call you an idiot? You need help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:23 PM Flag
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np - if this is all true, then fuck 'em. They're toxic and you and your children are best far, far away from them. They made their choices, now you make yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:36 PM Flag
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You need to be a little more forgiving. They're old, set in their ways and views, and dealing with a variety of infirmities. Their lives are difficult. They don't need you to add to it. You could try planning a couple of day trips for the DC or a couple of nights away in mid visit to break it up for the kids. You might make it an interesting project for them to get to know your parents. There are books for grand parents to record the stories of their lives growing up to leave to their grandkids. Get one and bring it with you. Have the kids ask the questions and you can record them in the book as your parents share their lives. This is one example: Memories for My Grandchild: A Keepsake to Remember (Grandparent's Memory Book) Hardcover-spiral – March 15, 2010 by Suzanne Zenkel (Author), Margaret Rubiano (Illustrator). I saw another version at B&N. To those who think you will not expect your DC and grDC to stay involved as you age, you have no idea how cold and lonely the world can become. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:40 PM Flag
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hi - op here. I am yes, trying to be forgiving. which is exactly why i am going. i spent my life being a good friend, an amazing mother and a good wife, specifically to not be one of those people who blames everything on a shitty childhood. I did not expect the post to be flamed or as discussed. thanks to those who understood. and to those who accused my of lying - huh ?? many times when somebody posts something real, they often get accused of lying. weird ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:46 PM Flag
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NP: Sounds like you're still trying to win them over by showing what a great daughter you are, and taking your kids along on this weird psycho ride. Stop visiting them, and seek help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone watching "Baskets" on FX? Heard about it on NPR and watched it for the first time last night. Almost fell out of my chair from laughing. Very "Best in Show," etc. if you're into that. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:20 PM Flag
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The show has really hit its stride - it was so weird in the beginning, but the writing has just zoomed into very funny stuff - it really grew on me. Louie Anderson is building a character for the ages. Galifinakis is great too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:31 PM Flag
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Nice work, publicist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:43 PM Flag
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op: Oh, shut the fuck up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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I thought I was the most cynical person in the world, but you really beat me on that one. I am the OR - used to be in the movie business, I know how stuff works, and FX has more efficient ways to publicize the show than pay people to post on UB. I just really like the show. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:26 PM Flag
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Most people on this stupid website wouldn't be able to appreciate it anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:28 PM Flag
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No I'm watching Taboo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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i LOVE TABOO! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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Tried to watch it, but couldn't get into it. It was too weird for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:58 PM Flag
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DH loves it, loves the Louis Anderson "mother" character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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it's excellent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 12:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Sorry in advance for the unmarried, childless post... WWYD: Bf and I are planning on moving in together this spring. Each of us would prefer to stay in our current neighborhood (but in a new apartment). He's in LIC, I'm on the UES. I know we could get a nicer/newer apartment in LIC but he works soooo much, he pretty much just gets home from work and goes right to bed. I have a more flexible schedule and actually spend quite a bit of time enjoying the neighborhood and feel there just isn't as much to do yet in LIC. Living with him is more important than getting my way, but I'm afraid I'm going to be unhappy sitting in an empty apartment in LIC every night. 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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Why is living together important? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:16 PM Flag
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FWIW when I was in his shoes eg the least amount of time and flexibility, proximity to work and general peace of mind, ease of use took priority over enjoying the neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:17 PM Flag
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NP: Because it is. Shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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There is a high likelihood that we get engaged within the next year (this isn't just my own delusions, this is confirmed by him), so if we're going to have this discussion next year anyway, I'd rather we move in together now and save money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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^^ but also, when I said "living together is more important than getting my way", I just meant that I'd rather come together and compromise and be in a happy relationship with him than be right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:15 PM Flag
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Ick- aren't there only a couple of streets that are really happening in LIC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:16 PM Flag
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Don't move to LIC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:17 PM Flag
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How much do both of you make? Is he doing this to save? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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We're roughly 60/40 split on just over $300k. (He also has a decent sized bonus on top of his base, but that's earmarked for paying off his b-school loans for at least 2018). We'd both like to save as much as we can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:24 PM Flag
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How old are you both? You sound really young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:47 PM Flag
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I'm 28, he's 32. Eek, I hope I don't sound really young in a bad way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:02 PM Flag
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where does BF work , what area ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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He's near Central Park South, I'm near Bryant Park, so both of us have about 15-20 min commutes from both of our current apartments. If we moved down to the E60s, he could walk to work, but that's apparently not a draw for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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this is what i was going to suggest - I live at CPS by the way - where does he work ;) I know you cant say - but I walk to the east side down 59th street all the time ; whats his problem! You really should convince him to move by you and rent his place out. Otherwise he is sending a major signal red flag - maybe very cheap - or very stubborn ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:34 PM Flag
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I'm in the E80s right now, so not really daily walking distance for either of us, but I would love to be in the E60s. I think he just likes to get some distance from the office because he's literally there 18+ hours a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:59 PM Flag
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you tell him what you told us. why does he want to stay in LIC other than habit and hassle of moving? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:19 PM Flag
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THIS! Also..Dont go to LIC if he's working all the time and all your friends are here...its not worth it. They will never come out there except for a random brunch and you will be coming in all the time to go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:23 PM Flag
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OR - this and if they say "we will come see you" take that as a code for "see you when you come to Manhattan" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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I have 2 friends who moved to brooklyn and although there are really cool places to go out there I go about 4 times a year because its just too far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:40 PM Flag
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OR - I didn't want to give Brooklyn as an example but that's exactly what I thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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OP here, that's my fear! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:01 PM Flag
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He likes watching the construction (? don't ask) and he has a good commute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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Are you the one who wants room for your friends and family to visit, but he wants a "luxury" apartment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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Nope that was me. He resigned his lease. Honestly don't really care about having people come stay as much as I just like having my own private space. It's a moot point until we are engaged anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:40 PM Flag
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^ FWIW, we'd like to keep rent s not a tie-breaker either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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You have a lot to consider here. First of all, do either of you own? What are your respective rents? Will you be sharing expenses (rent, utilities, etc)? Where are each of your offices? I will be honest, if you have a good deal on your apartment, I would stay put and save $$. If it goes south, you will have to start from scratch and that will suck. Just a word of advice from a 40-something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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Good deals will always be there in LIC. Not so much on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:24 PM Flag
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^^ this. My BF had me give up an amazing apartment in the west village. it was for sale and i wanted to buy it. i had rented it for years. it had a fireplace and a balcony river view! as soon as i moved in with him, he got cold feet - i had to look for a new place i was sooooooo mad, that i had given up my dream apartment - there is a happy ending though - we got married one year later . i would NOT give up your place if you own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:24 PM Flag
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I have an excellent deal on my apartment (studio for ~$1550), his is $2700. I don't know if it would be feasible for us to live together in either of our current apartments because they are both studios and there is no private space for when you just need to take a breather and be by yourself for a minute. We've decided to do a "shared bank account" the way my housemates and I did it in college- we both would open a new account and put a certain amount in every month, and that would be used for all shared expenses- rent, utilities, groceries, etc. His office is by Central Park South, mine by Bryant Park. I've thought a lot about what you're saying- even before I met him, I had done a lot of thinking about the headache involved with moving in with someone and then breaking up. We've both talked about it and we've both agreed that moving in with someone is something we only want to do once. Of course, that's not any guarantee that things work out, but at least we are on the same page that we would like this to end in marriage, and we're on the same timeline for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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Don't move to LIC. Did that, moved back in 18 months. It sucks being out there alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:38 PM Flag
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That's my fear. He works so late, and often on the weekends too. I don't have the most exciting life, but I get home from work, take the dog to the park, go shopping, get dinner. I think I would be really sad and bored in LIC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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It sounds important enough that I think you need to insist and need to be willing to stand up for this with him. Otherwise you are also setting a tone of not speaking up for what you want. You have to compromise but not go his way on everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:32 PM Flag
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That's great insight, thank you. I was planning on looking in both neighborhoods and making the decision based on whichever apartment we like best, but I'm really starting to rethink this. Oh great, a w/d in unit in LIC so I can stay home and do our laundry all night? Room for a dining table where I can host dinner parties for friends who will never cross the bridge to visit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for chronic UBers: What kind of analysis do you do to determine whether you think a poster has posted before? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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History Mom - ask her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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The search function doesn't work. I scroll the pages and look at MP. Sometimes filter conversations to scroll too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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OP: But how are people assuming that a whole slew of posts over time are the same person. And, truthfully, so what if they are? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:20 PM Flag
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One of the BIG reasons I come to UB is for anonymity. When sh!t like that happens, it makes we re-consider what I'm doing here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:23 PM Flag
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OP: I am asking not only because of the current situation where UBers say they have connected multiple posts to a single person, but also because I post periodically (benign stuff) and once someone correctly connected me to a different post, based on the syntax and structure of my post. Was both interesting and a little alarming that people spend this much effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:19 PM Flag
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Sometimes it doesn't take any effort. Writing styles can be very recognizable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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OP: yes, I get that. But are people spending time and energy keeping track of posts, like spreadheets? I just don't understand how this effort isn't as obsessive is what people think the poster is up to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:23 PM Flag
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I can't speak for other people. And no, it's not a hobby of mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:24 PM Flag
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Np: I'm not obsessive, but some people like the poster who always replies to herself in multiple paragraphs with links to random events in Europe, are very easy to recognize. Also the poster who was mad about her sister applying to med school and the one whose mother didn't stay long enough when ds was ill. The common theme is many repeated posts on related topics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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I have had people do that too, and it wasn't always my post, but looked like it could have been written by me. My guess is that some people are better at watching or bookmarking threads than I am. Also there's probably some very smart women here (any ivy is a ton of reading) who may or may not be employed outside the home but have enough time on their hands and boredom to be here. Idle hands are the devil's work! Although sometimes these abilities are useful, but usually it just seems to be a Lilly witch hunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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There isnt much risk of that. Far higher risk is when you give information only identifying to people who already know you- it doesn't trip you to the general readership here but others in your school or building who read UB might know it's you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:23 PM Flag
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OP: But even so, why are people so invested? It's an anonymous board, people can post whatever they want, anonymously (duh, lol). I mean, there are going to be plenty of posters who are posting fantasy, hypothetical, etc., information, for a variety of motivations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:25 PM Flag
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Yeah, those are the ones who are more recognizable than anyone. They need help. For Tourette's or other form of OCD or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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OP: Well, one might suggest that people who are obsessively trying to "out" and undermine a poster may need help, as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
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people love a mystery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
[ - ] The cruelty of South Africans is astonishing. The latest case is a home-invasion north of Pretoria in which an old retired British couple was beaten, robbed, TORTURED WITH A BLOWTORCH, and left for dead. This type of pointless sadism fairly common in South African "robberies." South Africa itself seems decreasingly-stable, econimically-troubled, and heading for some type of collapse/revolution/decay. What went wrong? After apartheid, things were supposed to IMPROVE. Instead... we have a failing atrocity exhibition. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:13 PM Flag
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Zzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:17 PM Flag
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Read the story. They burned an old woman on her BREASTS with a BLOWTORCH in front of her DH, who was also tortured with a blowtorch. You just don't want to confront the ugly reality of modern South Africa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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I think the O P is a troll everyone knows that blacks do the same thing in America. She is picking on South Africa [ Reply | More ]
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Dear O P you are a racist shit for pointing out blacks kidnapping and torturing to death other races. You are flagged and banned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:19 PM Flag
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Ok, Tomi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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I have said this before and gotten flamed, so many Africans are subhuman, like a different species, seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:22 PM Flag
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I used to work with a woman who grew up in South Africa. She said when they come to rob you, they are coming to kill you. According to her (and another SA friend) every house has "safe rooms" inside the house where you lock yourself in when you go to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:32 PM Flag
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Not just kill, but rape and torture. "Robbery" is only one aspect of the things these gangs do. It's sad, but it's time to officially declare South Africa a "failed state." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:47 PM Flag
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Everyone here hates you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Got our first (private) lower school report last week. Almost Always, Usually, Sometimes, and Improvement Needed are roughly the 4 categories for each item (for example: "Understands 2 digit subtraction - Usually" ). Is this typical? Just curious. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:08 PM Flag
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What grade? Not bad for k, not great for sixth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:11 PM Flag
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2nd (we transferred from a school in NJ). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:13 PM Flag
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Not private, but our ES uses exceeding, meeting, approaching, below expectations. Basically the 1-4 scale (4 being best). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:24 PM Flag
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our private uses that same general scale. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
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Yup and usually many "meetings" turn into "exceeding" by the end of year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:07 PM Flag
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Does Exceeding really mean it, or is everyone Exceeding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
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For us exceeding really means it. They grade on reading, writing, math and science. Separate section for behavior and attitude, homework on time, being late, etc and I think that may just go up to meeting (you really can't "exceed" being on time everyday). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:41 PM Flag
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Agreed, it doesn't help them to do too much false flattery. E.g., if you say a kid is "Exceeding" in math in 3rd, then you start tracking in math in 4th, you'd better be prepared to explain to parents why little Johnny isn't in the highest track. Applies to everything else: applying out, test scores, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
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This sounds better for behavior that academics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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Our Private report was pretty extensive. About 9 pages. Both academic and behavioral categories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:57 PM Flag
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what where the categories? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think this would be flattering on a moderately large bust/hourglass shape? Traditional peplums can sometimes look wonky but I like the tie detail... 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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(and for reference, when i say "moderately busty", I mean a 34FF bra size on 170lb/5'10" slim shape...) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:08 PM Flag
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If that's moderate what is extremely busty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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I'm about that size, and I am more than "moderately busty". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:36 PM Flag
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i think it is a cute top and would look nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:16 PM Flag
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LOVE need/supply - but this is meant for a very slim gal. You've got good taste, though. [ Reply | More ]
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Good call. I was thinking about my bust but not considering whole body...maybe not the best idea at my current weight. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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if you have narrow hips yes, otherwise probably not [ Reply | More ]
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I do! they are narrower than my shoulders, so I usually try to balance out on my bottom half with a fun print/color/attention and a darker color on top to minimize bust/shoulder width! now trying to figure out if this is too voluminous on top...gah! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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I just joined the mad men craze. Look at Joan. Her figure is what you describe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:29 PM Flag
[ - ] THANK YOU to the poster that recommended the Podcast watch what crappens. I seriously look forward to a new episode everyday. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:06 PM Flag
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I grew up with Ben from that show. He is hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:19 PM Flag
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BEEEEEN! [ Reply | More ]
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Is that the title? Im always looking for a new podcast. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, and it's hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:30 PM Flag
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I'm not as into the Bravo shows as I used to be. Would I still find it funny or do you have to see the episodes first? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:41 PM Flag
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I don't even watch most of the shows they make fun of but I listen to it anyways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Any way to protect wood floors from kids other than covering them in carpets? Like shellac or something? Ours are beautiful but have aged more in 6 months than in the past 125 years. Just deal with it and hope the gouges can be sanded out someday? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Unless they got jackhammers for their birthdays, what can they be doing to destroy floors? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: We are in the same boat - brand new wood floors being destroyed by the kids - trains, cars, toys, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I've never understood this. Normal wear and tear is normal, but destroyed? [ Reply | More ]
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this. my kids do not play "delicately" but what can they be doing to the floors? [ Reply | More ]
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NP +1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:11 PM Flag
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OK, destroyed is an exaggeration, but a lot more visible wear and tear than I would like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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Rugs. Telling kids to be careful. We weren't even allowed to sit on the living room sofa growing up unless it was a special occasion. I'm not that harsh but there's something about caring about your living environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:17 PM Flag
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chairs, kids, toys, dog. I will refinish when they leave for college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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OP- these are 125 year old floors that look immaculate. There are deep gouges here and there now from dropping toys and who knows what. Superficial scratches can be sanded- but not sure how much more sanding these can take. I would hate to have to replace them with new. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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And you shouldn't. That's extremely wasteful. Put down rugs and try to avoid nicks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:20 PM Flag
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OP- Well yeah, but the avoiding nicks and really the deep gouges that is the concern here. I believe the floor is white oak, so not the hardest wood. They really are beautiful, and we are not carpet people at all. DH's (foreign) family thinks any carpet at all is dirty and low class. I just don't like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:36 PM Flag
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You can fill the gouges and sand every few years. Don't sweat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:43 PM Flag
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Our hardware floors are sealed with polyurethane, and we don't wear shoes in the house. I vacuum often and wash very occasionally with water and vinegar or Bona. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:06 PM Flag
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DP we also have a roomba that goes off daily, and a handyman housekeeper that visits weekly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:18 PM Flag
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Oh please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:08 PM Flag
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Wrong post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:09 PM Flag
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Get wood that ages well. It will get scratched and scuffed, but you can polish and sand, and the floors can still look great even with some gouges. Also, we put Flor carpeting in the play area. We plan to pull it up in 2 years. [ Reply | More ]
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if real hard wood - let them age, you can always resand them when the kids are older...but geez tell them to becareful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:19 PM Flag
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Why can't kids be on wooden floors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:46 PM Flag
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Maybe contain kids to playing on the floor in one area. You can get those snap together foam squares that preschools have and make a room of them. When relatives come over they can be picked up and stacked in a closet. Something like this: http://www.americanfloormats.com/softfloors-interlocking-tiles/?gclid=CjwKEAiArbrFBRDL4Oiz97GP2nISJAAmJMFa6Va9HrfQSIJbzWMlGaAcgvASsvbtA4DcE1tQpXKy0RoC6KXw_wcB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:04 PM Flag
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OP- we actually do have that but we find that underneath gets incredibly dirty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:10 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is a November birthday in private lower school. We might be switching her to public. What happens grade-wise? Does she switch into the same grade in which case she will be a year older than everyone else in her class? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:03 PM Flag
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I think it depends on what grade and the school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:04 PM Flag
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If she will be turning 6 this calendar year they will say she needs to be in first grade. After that I've seen more variation and they will very likely let you enroll in the next grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:08 PM Flag
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If she's in private school, she's probably already 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:12 PM Flag
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^ what I mean is, if your child were in third grade right now and you switched for the fall, they would probably let you enroll her for fourth in the fall regardless of age. I don't know how old your child is, but most kids are 8 turning 9 during third grade, with a few that are 7 turning 8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:13 PM Flag
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I think this is a common strategy to "red shirt" kids into public. People do private for 1 or 2 years, and then switch the child into the grade they want. I even knew a family that switched into 2nd grade G&T "red shirted" from a private. Not a bad strategy when all is said and done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:13 PM Flag
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Yes publics will put her in the next grade regardless of age after she completes first grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:25 PM Flag
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with a November birthday she barely be the oldest. NBD. Skipping a grade would be crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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She won't skip a grade unless it's K (i.e., moving straight into 1st) and she's already reading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:35 PM Flag
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If you're in NY, placement for K and 1 is done on the basis of age. Placement for grades 2-8 is done on the basis of grade from transferring school (except for g&t where placements are made by age until grade 3). You may request a different grade placement for the lower grades from the principal who must appeal to the superintendent. Written documentation is required. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.24.17, 01:47 AM Flag
[ - ] what are the nicest areas of Princeton for a house ? TIA ! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:52 PM Flag
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right near the uni. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:04 PM Flag
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whats that called - montgomery ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] what is up with poors and hillbillies loving soda so much? serious question from kate the elitist mom. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:52 PM Flag
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They grow up with the habit usually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:53 PM Flag
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Old money here: fuck off, Kate. An ice cold Diet Coke is a simple pleasure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 08:56 PM Flag
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I think she's asking about those things Bloomie banned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:46 PM Flag
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Hillbilly here and we were only allowed soda (we called it "pop") on Sundays with our pizza and back to back episodes of Wide World of Sports and The Wonderful World of Disney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:05 PM Flag
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The hillbillies in my part of the country do NOT call it pop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:21 PM Flag
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Funny how you can't stereotype hillbillies! You do you and I'll do me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:25 PM Flag
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np Where do they call it pop? I think of them as calling it coke no matter what kind of soda it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:27 PM Flag
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They call it that upstate too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:28 PM Flag
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Call it what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:30 PM Flag
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pop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:39 PM Flag
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It's cheaper than milk, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:09 PM Flag
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I love my Tonic and refuse to give it up. Favorite is orange flavoured. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:15 PM Flag
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I went to school down south and still smile at the thought of a Jack 'n Coke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:16 PM Flag
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Is that a southern thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:22 PM Flag
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Who else would add Coke to Jack Daniels, I ask you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:22 PM Flag
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pp I don't know. My dh is from South Florida (is that the south?) and does it. It has never gotten a weird reaction here and some of our friends (NYCers) also drink it. I didn't realize it was southern in origin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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My dh. NYC lifer. NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:26 PM Flag
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Very. I had them too. Also jack and ginger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:33 PM Flag
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LOL, I still have a bourbon & ginger from time to time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:40 PM Flag
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Awful drink [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 09:45 PM Flag
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Cloyingly sweet - yuck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:45 PM Flag
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Sugar is a drug. Big Sugar in the US wants us all to be dependent, and corn syrup market too. So we feed our faces, create a dependency. thats how. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:05 PM Flag
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What's up with treating human beings like objects? I seriously hate that term "poors". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 10:50 PM Flag
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it's a joke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:40 PM Flag
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+1 Lighten up. Have a Jack & Coke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:47 PM Flag
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Read Hillbilly Elegy; badly written and a tad boring but it's quite a revelation too. Just such a different way of living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.23.17, 11:46 PM Flag
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