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[ - ] I have this old friend(from high school years) who is in his 50's( no kids,no wives) who has been dating a Russian girl literally half his age.They met in Europe and have been "long distance" dating.He says they are soul mates.He refuses to believe she is just trying to get in the US and citizenship.He's a successful Washington DC lawyer and whip smart (but a bit of an asshole and not really attractive)It all seems so cliche.How can he be so clueless ? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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Men have a weakness with women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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People are fools for "love." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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There's likely something there for both. He gets a young woman, she gets an American husband. If he's a jerk, as many men like this are, I'm sure he'll find a way to make her life miserable once he figures out he's been had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:34 PM Flag
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She'll come here. Pop out a couple of kids. Whe clearly doesn't have alot of options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Men have big egos. They prefer to believe that women actually find them attractive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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Yes. And whe works it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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He's a big boy. Let him have his fun... Not like she's about to ruin his life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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Doofus. She'll get pregnant and then he'll really be stuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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I hate to be the cynical one, but not all marriages are born of true love. Many are alliances with bargains made on either side. As long as it's legal and both parties consent, no one else' opinion needs to come into it. He's well aware of what he's doing. So is she, no doubt. But it's no one else's business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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Yeah. She is trading youth and fertility for a better life. Just she love this giy? No. Hopefully she is somewhat grateful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] If someone has a kid and names him John B. Smith, II - shouldn't it be John B. Smith, Jr? I just thought there was never a "II" only, Sr., Jr., III, IV, V. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Yes, Jr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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He's II if he was named after someone other than his father (grandpa, uncle). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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This is correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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OP: Oh ok, I never knew this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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^^Also, there shouldn't be any Vs unless it's an extremely long-lived family. When john Smith dies, John Smith, Jr. becomes John Smith, and John Smith, III becomes John Smith, Jr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:01 PM Flag
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This is not correct. The II, III, etc. are part of the legal name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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NP Wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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Then how did Henry VIII happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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That is only for royalty, so kings can e distinguished from each other. It is pretentious for the rest of us to yuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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There are plenty of reasons plain old ordinary folks need to be distinguished from each other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:43 PM Flag
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NP like with credit card companies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:05 PM Flag
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Doesn't bother me. DH's cousin is a third, his nephew the 4th and there is a baby, come to think of it, so he must be V. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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We have a VI in our family. I think it's laughable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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Are they Southern? This cousin is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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If it wasn't their legal name, then sure they could start calling themselves by the other. If the Jr, II, III are on the birth certificate then they would have to get a legal name change. I haven't known anyone who legally changed their own name when their father or grandfather died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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That's not true. They are still the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc of that name/family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:43 PM Flag
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This is wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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Wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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Jr. after father, "II" after another family member. http://www.differencebetween.net/miscellaneous/difference-between-jr-and-ii/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:01 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some of your own best parenting techniques / tricks to get your child to listen to you? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Just talk to them.Explain the reasons behind everything.If they know your rationale behind your actions they will listen to u.The worst parents just tell kids to do things without explanations.Those kids typically don't listen because they don't understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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NP: the challenge with this is giving them too much info, more than they want. You have to be paying careful attention to know when they have enough info. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:53 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:06 PM Flag
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I disagree. I think the worst parents are the ones who allow their children to think they are entitled to a reason for everything. These kids become insufferable in a group setting or school. Sometimes you have to do things because you have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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I totally agree. This gives kids that argue everything and everyone hates the kid that argues everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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These also become the millenials that question their bosses and won't just do what's asked of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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i do this all the time, explaining to my 5 year old. half the time she listens, and half the time she'll explain why an alternative choice works too. i wish i had taken the "because i said so" route, but i tend to be an "explainer". you pay the price. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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it really depends on the age. honestly, if they are in a hyper, playful mood, i use it to my advantage instead of trying to be a drill sargeant. Like, "the pricess parade has begun! all the princesses lets march to the bathroom in a line? who's first?" your kid will joyfullly drop what they are doing and march to the bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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Yes, I find keeping positive and making things "fun" can help with the drudgery. Also, not tolerating back talk, bad behavior, etc. You can either do things the fun way with me, or you can make them difficult - but if you do, there are consequences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Depends on the age. Especially as they get older, being respectful and listening to them is a big part of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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To get them to eat various foods we have them flex their bicep so we can feel how strong the broccoli or chicken made them after they eat a bite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you have to be a certain age to get a tattoo? DD, 16, is planning to get a teardrop tattoo under her left eye and I would like to be able to prevent that. Thanks. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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Oh stop it :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Yikes! In NYC, it's 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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oh, noooooooo.... tragic. forbid it! she will regret it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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She can't get a teardrop until she has killed someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:48 PM Flag
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Exactly, the tattoo artist will know this and will want proof. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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you guys are ridiculous [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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Or if her man is in jail. "One for each year he's away, she said..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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Like from Game of Thrones? Tear drop tattoo was a designation for slave prostitute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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In NYS, 18, even with parental consent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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is this for real? i feel awful for you. this is horrible. a very bad decision. very bad that will be with her the rest of her life. i once wanted to get a nude colored tattoo in my early 20's, and the tattoo parlor actually asked me to go back 3 times before they would consider doing it for me. They said they didn't do tattoos on young adults because most of them regret it. They said they asked them to keep revisiting the store to indicate to them their seriousness and by the 2nd visit most kids displayed signs of doubt and didn't want it anymore. It was the best place in the area and very serious. No serious parlor should give a kid a tattoo on their face. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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Very ethical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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why does she want that particular tatoo? speak to her about it, guess she does not want to be in corporate or professional field [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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Try to put it off as soon as possible until she hopefully changes her mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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Get her a temporary tattoo on the face and send her on some job interviews. See how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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Or draw the one she wants on with a Sharpie. Let her see how people respond to it for as long as it lasts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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Thus, great idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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She so sad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:48 PM Flag
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I second the idea of temporary tatoo I offer my kids that i will pay for temporary tats but if they get a permanent one they are cut off i will not pay for colleg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:00 PM Flag
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Google 'meaning of teardrop tattoo' and show her the results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:15 PM Flag
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Tattoo place won't do it until they have proof of age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] When will Hunter come out with the test score requirements? I realize it's harder to get into Hunter College High School than Harvard, but we still hope to try. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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It NOT harder to get into HCHS than Harvard, sadly. Signed mom of 2 HCHS kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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The # of applicants to spots is higher at Hunter making the odds of getting in harder. Good for you though! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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But quality tougher. Also can't just be smart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:15 PM Flag
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Ridiculous statement. Only top 10% of kids are allowed to apply. So the odds for those kids are much better than at Harvard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 09:59 PM Flag
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Website says early Seltember. Hope it's close to last year's scores! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 09:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What were some things you did to help your child love / enjoy / like doing homework? How did you get a child that resisted doing homework to actually do it? Some do's and don'ts when it comes this? THANKS! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Nobody loves/likes homework. I would focus on getting DCs to accept that they don't have to like it but it's their job and they have to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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how do you do that for a 1st/2nd grader? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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I don't know, sorry. I have a DB. But I always did my homework even though I didn't like or enjoy it. I never saw it as a choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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My DS (9yr old) loves homework.It is now optional and he still does it.That's just the way he rolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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That's pretty unusual. I was a great student and still hated homework, but I did it anyway. My point is that liking it is not required, but doing it is. Like all humans, kids sometimes have to do things they don't like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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How old is your DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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1st grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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I know you probably don't want to hear this, but there's the problem--first graders shouldn't even have homework. I know a mom who has her kids opt out of it (they're in a good public) until 3d grade. Is that possible? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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Would it be harder to get them to do homework at that age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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From what I see, it really can be--my DC don't get it until 4th grade in their school but have friends who have been getting it since K and it's a battle. And what's the point, anyway? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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I agree completely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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I think I'm sending my dcs to the same school as your friend, and I picked it specifically for its homework policy! With older dc, I was ignorant and therefore neutral about hw when she started school. That quickly changed as she actually started doing the work, which was mostly busywork or stuff that the teacher failed to get to in class (and was thereby pushing off on the parents). When we started looking at schools for younger dc, we specifically looked at schools that de-emphasized hw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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Set up a regular time to do homework.Stick to it.After it's done then he gets to do whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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Agre. This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] At what age do you feel comfortable expecting your DH to fully parent (meaning you can run errands anytime you want, have girls night, go away for the weekend). The feminist in me says birth but the practical me feels comfortable at 14 months. And I mean he can handle bedtime, wakeup time, watching time, feeding time, bath time..etc. The normal stuff moms do. 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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Once DD ate enough solids to get by without boobs in the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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felt comfortable at birth. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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this this essential [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:09 PM Flag
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Since birth. Whatever you do, your DH ought to be able to do when you're not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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^except breast feed, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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jsut pump and leave a bottle, not the end of the world and pretty easy to do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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When breastfeeding was well established and I had enough supply stockpiled to be away. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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DH was there from the beginning, so I have no guage on particular age of the child. He actually had a longer paternity leave than I had materinty leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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This. Dh's paternity leave set the tone for everything. He had grand plans to clean out the garage and all the closets and not one thing happened. Years later I became a SAHM when we had another baby and it helped that he knew first hand that it was hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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Whatever a mother does to take care of a child, with the exception of things assigned by nature like breast feeding, a dad can do since the day baby comes home. It's the 21st century. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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I don't know - maybe it's just us but my DH never hears her cry in the night like I do (and there is nothing wrong with his hearing). I think sometimes moms are a little more attuned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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Yes, that is true. Nature built us that way. But sounds like your husband can step it up a bit. He can certainly do baths, wakeup time, putting baby to bed, feed her a bottle. If he's a functioning adult, these things are not difficult : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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OR. He does. But I do think I am more sensitive to her needs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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you are. you're the mother. it's only natural. but you shouldn't feel you can't leave your husband to bathe her, put her to bed, give her a bottle feeding, change her diaper, etc. he ought to know how to do all of that and do it as much as he can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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I do all that, not sure why you think I don't. We're actually past the bottle stage but I didn't pump all that much because I found it to be more trouble than it was worth most of the time. But had I wanted to, he would have been happy to give her bottles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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NP: Hoo, boy. You may actually be faster to hear your DC cry -- but you are setting up a competition where you win! It won't be good for your marriage ... and, guess what, it's not good for your DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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I think you mean where I lose. In any case, I handled that and he handled other things. It worked for us, maybe something else worked for you. No need to be strident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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OP: I hear you and my DH is exactly the same. He can sleep through our DD crying where I'm immediately awake. Most the time I will get up and deal but I will also kick him and tell him to figure it out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:19 PM Flag
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14 mths is way too late. Don't help establish this pattern, you'll make a rod for your own back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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This. LOL [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:32 PM Flag
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OP: 14 months is the measure of my child being past "baby" stage. She is a young toddler and can do things like play by herself if need be which I think is the essential to not going crazy with kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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Baby needs to be 14 months before your husband can do that?! Or put them to bed? That makes no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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OP: I actually have a super hands on DH. There is no discussion in our house of "babysitting our kids" but it didn't happen all at once. I was our children's primary provider when they were babies. I would have not done a girls weekend away at 6 months. There is never a discussion of "can" I do x...more of a working around schedules. Reading the post about the SAHM who had to hire a sitter so she could have "me" time made me wonder about other DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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So if he is hands on and there is no question of his ability what's the problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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OP: There is no problem. I was curious about other arrangements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:18 PM Flag
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My DH has done anything I do since birth (except breast feed). There was no conversation about it. It was very natural. He would just get up and do things. Feeding, bedtime, cooking, cleaning, bath, etc. He always jumped in to do things to relieve me from my default care taking routine. I never have to ask him to do anything. We just both do it. I assume all DH's are this way today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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Never assume anything. Good rule to live by. Also, different setups work for different people. [ Reply | More ]
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That post made me sad. I SAH but would not have done so if my husband acted like that. It sounds like he maybe wasn't on board with her not working. [ Reply | More ]
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That was because she wanted time off during the day while the DH was at work. No one would expect a DH to come home from work in the middle of the day for 2 hours for a hair appointment or tennis lesson. [ Reply | More ]
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What if you die? Do you want someone else to have custody? DH can figure it out if he has to. [ Reply | More ]
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Basically birth, but practically speaking when I started pumping when DB was one or two weeks old (so I could leave milk for DH). [ Reply | More ]
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^ Neither of us knew what we were doing at first but I figured he could learn by doing just as well as I could. [ Reply | More ]
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Does he help you with other things around the house? Cooking? Cleaning? Laundry? Making the beds, etc? You shouldn't be ALL of the work inside the home. [ Reply | More ]
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I went on a business trip to Mexico for 5 days when oldest DS was five months old. The kid survived. [ Reply | More ]
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My husband did it at birth. I had complications with my second and had to hospitalized. He took care of everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:38 PM Flag
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Left dd with Dh for 5 hours every Saturday while I did errands from 6 days old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:41 PM Flag
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From day one. DH has great parental intuition. And DH cooks dinner 75% of the time and bathes kids, gives baby his bedtime bottle and puts him to bed while I put older DC to bed. However, i facilitate (prep work, clean-up) so DH can do this easily and readily. If he can't walk to the pantry, immediately see what he's looking for then forget about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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Birth. But neither of us ever thought the DB was my job that he might generously help me with one day if I felt comfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP: Thank ladies. You have restored my faith. My DH does domestic work as well because we both WOHM. However the split of domestic duties is 60/40 despite my best efforts. But one thing I don't worry about is "me" time. We both take turns where we pretend we don't have kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Great question. I think by the time DS gets his own drivers license. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Sitting in car for an hour in queens, family in museum, no parking because of Us open. How long is it safe to idle with a/c on? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:39 PM Flag
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Depends on the age and model of car. Totally safe for you, but overheating your car while in idle isn't the best thing for cars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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2008 odyssey thanks [ Reply | More ]
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Better to turn off in between idles? [ Reply | More ]
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Perhaps turn the ac off, then recirculate the cold air? [ Reply | More ]
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There are NYC laws against idling vehicles. You could get a ticket. [ Reply | More ]
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big waste of gas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O SIL post... I wonder what my SIL thinks of me. We are very nice to each other, but not very close and we have nothing in common. We are on opposite sides of the social/political spectrum too. I just imagine her and her husband bashing me in private, but who knows? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Take it from me, it doesn't matter. It is best to just not discuss politics at family gatherings. DH and I have a very civil relationship with his family even though we are at opposite ends of the spectrum. We just don't discuss it with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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NP what do you mean "Opposite Ends of the Spectrum?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:33 PM Flag
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Just don't want this to turn in to a flame war. Keep politics off UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:34 PM Flag
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Also do not discuss religion. That is a source of arguments as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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My inlaws never discuss religion. They're Episcopalians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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Werd. We feel no need to gloat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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they probably don't think of you as much as you think they do, why would they? they have their own lives.....stop being paranoid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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I'm hardly paranoid. It's just a thought. I'm not worried about it, if she hates me I really don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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Same with one of my SILs. Cordial, respectful, not super warm but more like a business relationship, which is fine by me. Then other of my SILs are like girlfriends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:42 PM Flag
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Don't worry about. I have the same thing. In fact my DH laughs about it. He said there's no way me and SIL would be friends if we met outside of this family situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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I can say that for almost 100% of my family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Me too. Luckily they are on the west coast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Why do you care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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My SIL recently gave me the silent treatment at a family event. When I pulled her aside it eventually came out that she was angry with me for "not letting my mom see enough". Mind you, my MIL sees DB almost every weekend and won't be happy until we are all living together, which will obviously never happen. DH and I just LOLd at her. She's pretty pathetic and clearly doesn't have enough going on in her life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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Why choose to think the worst? People can have different opinions without bashing. Sounds like a pleasant, appropriate woman. Let it be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] 4mo started rolling back to front a couple of weeks ago and she was doing it nonstop. In the past 2-3 days she stopped rolling. I shouldn't be worried, right? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be worried, no. DS is 5 months and some days is rolling all over and other days he is happy to just lie on his back or tummy and play without rolling around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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your kid is lazy, it lacks grit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Older WOHM here who really preferred blackberry to iPhone but iPhone 4S is dying (can't hold a charge) and I need a new phone. Interested to hear from those who chose something other than iPhone. I don't need all the apps and toys -- just a reliable usable phone. tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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I did iPhone 6 Plus because I have to read a lot of documents from work on it and it's better for my eyesight situation. I think Samsung produces a similar phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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+1, I got the 6 plus for the same reasons and am happy with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Thanks both -- I'll check it out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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If you've liked the size of the 4S, I have the iPhone SE, and I love it. Sorry - other than my work phone, I haven't used much else since the 4 came out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Grab the BlackBerry Classic while you can. I love it. Same great keyboard, and the Internet searching is not terrible. Not I phone level, but not terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o Do you agree or disagree with this statement, "If you are married to a millionaire, you too are a millionaire." 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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It depends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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In most states, everything is marital property, especially if obtained during the marriage and there are joint accounts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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Except when there's a prenup that covers these issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Well yes, but that wasn't OP's inquiry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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The OP is a pretty broad statement -- my point is there's often a lot more nuance to the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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OR: I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:35 PM Flag
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disagree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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the millionaire could leave, die, lose income. then what? you're either self-made or you aren't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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Being self-made isn't the only way to be a millionaire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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being married to one is wealth by association, it's fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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is inherited wealth fake too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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This. No way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:17 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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We keep separate finances, so disagree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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I am. If we divorced tomorrow I would still be worth north of 4m. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:20 PM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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That's what my 50% of the assets would add up to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Just curious, did you build any of that? Or was/is your deal that you're home with the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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No, I only contributed nominally. We lived on my income when he was in school, then a little later on I commingled some money I inherited from my parents, but just a few hundred thousand. It's all been his income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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In my marriage, agree (we met young, built our wealth together and have been together for over 25 years). Although if I married a man who was a millionaire when I met him (either from family money or his own earnings), I might feel differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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Totally depends on the circumstances. If you marry someone who already has that money and there is a prenup/separate finances, then no. If you together made the decision that you stay home with kids while he works, then yes. And if the money was acquired over the course of a marriage, then I'd say yes--unless there is that prenup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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That's not a marriage, that's a business arrangemwnt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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Happens, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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Agree in terms of lifestyle, but if you didn't help build the wealth I don't think you should describe yourself that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:28 PM Flag
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Of course not. Lots of men come to the marriage with family money and no earned income. If you divorce you end up with no alimony or real cs as they don't make money. Your kids may get private schools but you have zero claim to any wealth and better keep up career to support yourself for life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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^Also true if someone has premarital assets. You get zero in divorce. The only money you get is what is made during marriage or what is designated to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:46 PM Flag
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Even if you're the son of a millionaire, unless you have money in the bank already, you're still not a millionaire. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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I wouldn't consider myself a millionaire. I enjoy a more comfortable life with bigger house, nicer vacations, etc... but it due to what my partner is willing to share. Taking things for granted and feeling entitled is a slippery slope to divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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this, this, this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Do any of you keep a diary / journal? Do you find it helpful? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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yes, yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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can you elaborate on why it's helpful to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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I've kept a journal off and on since 7th grade (I'm now 43) and it has helped me become a sharper, more clear thinker. There is something about putting your thoughts, feelings, impressions and anguish into words that makes me feel more "organized" psychologically. My journal was my outlet for everything from my first kiss to fights with friends in HS; my first job and my first horrible boss; parenting and marital issues. Another side benefit is that I think I'm a better writer as a result. I'm not fancy. For years, I used spiral bound notebooks. Now I use OneNote on my laptop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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Sort of. I email myself (from one email address to another) anything I want to remember or thoughts or realizations I've had or resolutions or intents on how to live my life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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I don't keep a real diary, but I have a date book, and almost every night, I scrawl something about the day. Maybe what we did or something about the kids and their progress. I have gone back and looked at the old ones, and I'm so glad I did this because I forgot so much about when the kids were little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Does any have a daughter in law that was sweet as pie while dating DH, and then changed noticeably after getting engaged/married? Or similarly, was anyone lovely to DH before marrying (in order to get the ring) and then not so much so after marriage? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:08 PM Flag
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No MIL, I don't know anyone like this. Mainly because I'm related to normal people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:09 PM Flag
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Not a MIL. My question does make it sound like I'm one though- my bad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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I have a DH who turned into a nightmare after marrying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:11 PM Flag
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Story? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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Major depressive event; likely NPD. To make a long story short, the increased intimacy triggered an avalanche of issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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This happened to my brother. His wife was all sweet and smiling while dating and did a 180' when they got engaged. He has been married to a raging, controlling bitch for almost 20 years. So sad for him b/c he is not a bad guy. I remember seeing him on the morning of his wedding---he did not want to get married. And yes I realize he could have left and should have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:16 PM Flag
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That's tragic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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I know a couple of guys whose wives turned into really unlikable people after they married--graspy, socially competitive, enough money was never enough after all. The divorces were initiated by the wives and now they both shriek about their reduced lifestyles but neither one works. It happens, it's not just men who can be assh*le spouses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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This is so true, You really have to get to know a person for a long time before marrying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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And you need to pay attention to your own warning bells and especially the reaction of people around you to the person you think you want to marry. If your own family is basically nice and they don't like your intended, that should tell you something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:40 PM Flag
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It happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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My MIL is like this. She was very controlling and demanding with DH always (he is an only and she was a single mom for much of his childhood, so it's an intense dynamic). When DH and I were dating, she was very sweet to me though, and I gave her the benefit of the doubt. The second we got engaged, she started making tons of demands on me and treating me like she treats him. I guess I should have figured that would happen but I was honestly surprised. It's taken awhile to figure out how to deal with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:49 PM Flag
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Are you secretly referring to all of us on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I needed to use the restroom at TJ Maxx and then decided t take a walk in the store. I never shop in places like that. Serious question: who shops there? It seems to be so time consuming to wade through all the random garments of vastly varying quality. 75 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 01:53 PM Flag
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People who want to look as good as they can for as little money as possible. Question for you - HHI ? Age? Woh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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1.2mil, 37, self-employed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 01:58 PM Flag
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Then I guess it is hard for you to understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:10 PM Flag
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I pretty much only shop at H&M and Topshop, not on Madison Avenue or at Barneys. I'm very frugal and live a very low-key lifestyle. So money is not a reason for my lack of understanding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:12 PM Flag
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People do it. You don't need to understand. It is there. That's why they go. I buy coffee at the deli every day. Don't care if people stand in long lines at Starbucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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So you like garbage. To each her own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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Fuck you. I seriously hope a homeless person stabs you and you get AIDS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:21 AM Flag
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Wow, you have to wade through those stores too. The only difference is that TJ Maxx has stuff other than clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:58 PM Flag
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topshop costs 10x as much as tj Maxx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 09:56 PM Flag
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Who shops there? Who shops there? Who wants to shop there? More like who has to shop there, you stupid bitch. You stupid, self centered, Marie Antoinette, out-of-touch, disgusting little butch. Stupid bitch. So fucking stupid. You people DESERVE every robbery you get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:20 AM Flag
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I have $80 in my bank account to last my family of 4 the next five days and we're a bit low on groceries, so I get being poor and hearing how out of touch people can be. But your anger is going to hurt only you. Curses don't work. Life is not fair. Channel the rage into something productive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 05:37 AM Flag
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My mom does. I sometimes shop for sheets and home stuff there. We're a cheap people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 01:56 PM Flag
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Jewish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 01:59 AM Flag
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Now I know you're some stupid male troll. I wish Jeffrey Dahmer led you away for gay sex and then ate you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:23 AM Flag
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It's the treasure hunt syndrome. Depends on what kind of shopper you are. If you know what you are looking for, you're wasting your time at TJM. If you want to go see what might catch your eye, though, it's your place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 01:57 PM Flag
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This. Same reason why I go to yard sales every Saturday that I can. Thrill of the hunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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THIS. They cultivate that attitude and approach to shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:22 PM Flag
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I love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:27 PM Flag
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Probably why I am not attracted to that store. I like to get what I need and get out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 02:22 AM Flag
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People looking for better prices. Me. I get kids basics there, socks, underwear. I can can finds Nike t shirts and adidas pants for ds for half of what it would cost at a "regular" store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:02 PM Flag
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Me too! I buy my son Nike pants for $10 or $12 instead of $35 at sports stores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 09:38 PM Flag
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You are so poor. How do you even wake up knowing you are going to have to shop at such a poor store? I'd rather die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:32 AM Flag
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Yeah, you have to make time, really scrutinize the stuff you're looking at and be open to finding a good bargain for something you weren't specifically looking for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:02 PM Flag
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Back when I was making 17k a year in non profit, I was willing to take the time because I not only had the time, but had limited financial resources. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:05 PM Flag
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Darling, court you not have had a gentleman caller pay your way? My least expensive fur was twice your salary and I wouldn't be caught dead without it. There was that time I stole some Dalmatians and tried to make a coat but I've learned to leave it to the professionals. Nothing but the best for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:36 AM Flag
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OMG you're hilarious. I know it's a joke because no living human being would have the balls to say this. Or would they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:49 AM Flag
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I agree, could not be bothered. Would rather spend more and get in and out quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:06 PM Flag
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I love shopping at TJ Maxx! I can blow through the racks of clothing in no time because I can spot quality from junk in a nanosecond. I scan the racks without even touching the clothes. No polyester, no rayon, no prints..... Sometimes I do really well. I find great deals in the beauty and housewares departments. Sometimes I find really nice jewelry. I get zero thrill from going to Neiman Marcus or Bergdorf. I am just not going to spend $600 on a shirt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:12 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Same. Love the deals I've gotten there. I've been shopping TJs for over 20 years. Cannot imagine just paying retail...feh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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I've got you beat. I remember when my mother discovered Marshalls around 1975. Lifelong convert here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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Regular tjmaxx shopper here. The good stuff is separated from the regular stuff. Runway and contemporary brands usually have their own rack. Vince, theory, Tory burch, Calypso, rag and bone, etc. I almost never wade thru the random racks of stuff. I cant pay retail because I know I can get $200 jeans for $60-80 at tjmaxx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:13 PM Flag
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what's the runway section? high end stuff? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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Np: Yes. Some stores have this department. The stores near me that have it carry brands like Gucci, Pucci, Valentino, Burberry, Derek Lam, Dior, Reiss, Catherine Malandrino, etc. Hit or miss sizing. I rarely buy anything from that department because the clothes are too wacky/high maintenance/not the right size/expensive/impractical, but I look around for a few minutes just in case.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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The TJMaxx in Paramus is the shizzle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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I bet. I'm not in the tri-state area, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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But that runway stuff is in tatters and horrible shape. I'd rather go to Off Fifth or The Rack for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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That's because you don't shop there often enough to get the fresh stuff. You can also buy online and get never been taken out of the shipping plastic clothes. The Rack is a complete waste of time filled with junk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:32 PM Flag
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Oh lawd, my mom had a friend who knew all the TJM and Marshall's schedules when they restocked 'the new stuff' [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:47 PM Flag
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Not always it's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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Lots of times it is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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Most of those jeans are made specifically for discount stores and are sub-par compared to the full-priced jeans. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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Yeah, that may be the case for the Michael Kors or Ralph Lauren denim, but I'd like to think the current Elliott and rag and bone jeans I got there for a bargain price are the real deal ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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I just bought a VERY cute, very flattering pair of MK jeans there. I hate the brand but you can't tell and they look so good. Also I do think the RL stuff is the same as you find in department stores. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 11:19 PM Flag
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A friend who always looks great swears by it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:18 PM Flag
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what's her style? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:21 PM Flag
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Fabulous sense of color; relaxed upscale casual; always finds cashmere sweaters there that she wears with skinny jeans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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I go there for workout gear sometimes. It's really cheap, not that hard to get through and I always find good brands. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:25 PM Flag
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People who are looking for a deal and/or have to follow a budget. It sounds like you do not have those constraints. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:38 PM Flag
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And yet OP shops at H&M. I thought that store was filled with complete and utter crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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I knew someone like that. Would shop at Target but think TJMaxx is beneath her. The tide turned once she realized how great the kids clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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NP I have had a couple of things hold up, but not much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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Yeah, that stuff is garbage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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All kinds of people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:34 PM Flag
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I have bought Bottega Veneta bags there for 40% off. Didn't have to wade through a lot of stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:36 PM Flag
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Treasure hunt - some people like it. There was just an article posted here the other day about the food at TJ Maxx. I almost never buy food there but I wondered about it. http://www.bonappetit.com/entertaining-style/article/t-j-maxx-food-sources [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:38 PM Flag
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I posted that same article (that I read on Fox News) yesterday. It was the exact opposite of what I thought about the food stuff there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:02 PM Flag
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Thank you for posting it! I found it so interesting. I also thought the food was probably old! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:08 PM Flag
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I always scour the food aisle. I have discovered great things there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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Nannies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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My MIL is suing you for slander. How dare you insult TJMaxx. (She's old money, super rich btw. ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 08:41 PM Flag
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You really can't imagine why people shop at tj maxx but you shop st h&m and top shop exclusively?? Very odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 09:17 PM Flag
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+1 Bizarre [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 02:13 AM Flag
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this is because it is fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:01 AM Flag
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I love TJX and make six figures. I'm pretty seasoned shopper there so I know how to get in and get out when I need to. My two faves are the one near the Stock Exchange and the one on 57th and 8th(?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 09:36 PM Flag
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For a while there was some truly good stuff there now it is more chintzy. I bought sheets there that ripped upon the first washing and they would not take them back. So, they do not stand by their products. I still find it better than Macys or any mall store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 11:17 PM Flag
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It's for people who want branded stuff at lower prices but what they fail to understand is that the nice styles from those brands don't make it into TJMaxx. They're paying for the brand instead of the style. For example, you can get a Polo shirt there but it's in an ugly magenta or orange color instead of the nice blue and white stripes. If you do find it in blue and white stripes, it's usually in size XXXL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 12:22 AM Flag
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You sound snobby. We get it, you're too rich to shop at TJ maxx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 12:32 AM Flag
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And yet she shops at the Polyester Palace of H&M. Do they even sell clothes made from natural fabrics at H&M? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 01:49 AM Flag
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I do. NW 4.5 mil. I'm cheap!! Old habits die hard, or don't die, or something... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 02:45 AM Flag
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You may be rich on the outside but you're poor on the inside. Clothing penetrates through to the heart. You may think you've gotten a deal but everyone will see through it. Pay full retail price at Bergdorf and see how much more confident you feel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:30 AM Flag
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Those TJ Maxx bathrooms are only for the poors. How could lower yourself to that level to use a bathroom frequented by middle class bargain hunters and....nannies??! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:00 AM Flag
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So this OP. So this. I mean, if you aren't paying top dollar for the absolute best quality then you're not a TT person. Sometimes I ask to pay the full retail price so I won't feel like a poor paying sales prices. You are what you wear and if you want to feel quality you need to pay quality. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 04:28 AM Flag
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You are sad. Most of America is living paycheck to paycheck, you elitist snob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.29.16, 08:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone hate their SIL (DH's sister)? Can we commiserate? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 01:45 PM Flag
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Me. DHs brothers wife. She's a miserable person and we don't speak anymore. DH and I are still close to their kids but she refuses to have any relationship with ours. In fact, at DDs birthday party she actually ignored her - she is 3yrs old! This is how horrible she is... giving attitude to our 3yr old because she doesn't like me. It all started when DH and I met. She's incredibly jealous and can never be happy for anyone elses success. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:14 PM Flag
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Wow, why is she so jealous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:15 PM Flag
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She's a major striver and it irks her that DH is more successful than her husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:24 PM Flag
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Not DH's sister but my brother's wife. Despise her. We do not speak. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:19 PM Flag
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Hate DH's brother's wife, indifferent to but completely lack respect for DH's sister, adore brother's wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:23 PM Flag
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Big shock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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Don't hate her, but we're never going to be close. She's very brilliant and very judge-y. It's difficult to talk to her because she sets traps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:26 PM Flag
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What do you mean by 'sets traps'? I think this may be a good way to describe how my SIL is when we talk. She will bring up a subject and I feel like she has already planned a comeback for what I would say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:29 PM Flag
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That's exactly what I mean--she's laid out a path in her head that will lead others to a place where they say something foolish or just wrong. I've been on to her for some time and am not without my own verbal and intellectual skills, so she hasn't gotten the better of me for some time. But my other sister-in-law (DH's brother's wife) is literally terrified of her and I hate seeing that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:36 PM Flag
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^^^Also, it's just so exhausting and unnecessary to be like that. I wish she'd get some intense therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 02:37 PM Flag
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Hate BIL,does that count?Being around his know-it-all patronizing is torturous.His kids are annoying as hell too.They like to correct you on everything from grammar to definitions of things to historical facts.Doubt the family has many friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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