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[ - ] Dh owns a tech company and has been paying his employees and himself in stock only for 18 months now. At what point do you think these guys are going to say enough and just leave and go work for actual money instead of stock? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:53 PM Flag
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paid in stock of the company they all work for that is currently worth nothing but is hopefully going to worth something later down the road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:54 PM Flag
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This has to be fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Why would you think it's fake? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:25 AM Flag
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How do they survive? Programmers need money to survive in Palo Alto. Do they sell they sell the stock ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:20 AM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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2 years tops. 2.5 years at most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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I've read that most startups become sucessful in their fourth year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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Should be soon given it's a tight labor market and real companies can pay cash and stock. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:26 AM Flag
[ - ] My aunt is a retired secretary and her most favorite stories are about how she got bosses fired if she didn’t like them. Like it was some sort of power trip. What do you think about this? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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She ended up in that role due to limited option at the time- must have been difficult year after year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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Yes - her brother was allowed to go to university and he did very well. She was supposed to inherit the business which due to shifts in consumer preferences was basically shut down by the time she was supposed to take over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:34 PM Flag
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^ but she wasn’t allowed to go to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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I think your aunt is delusional. She never got anyone fired. The bosses realized how small-town the operation was with people like your aunt, regretted taking the job so they quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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Could be, lol. I am actually appalled that my aunt would float so much about her perceived power to have higher ups fired. Her fondest memory is when she passed an internal training session that someone with a business degree did not pass. I asked her whether she knew that he had actually time to study? Anything that happened in his family life? Etc. she said she has no clue but clearly she was smarter than him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:38 PM Flag
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^ gloat not float. I can’t type today! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:39 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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Typical secretary stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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her side of it, smile and nod [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:36 PM Flag
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It's typical. People who are powerless in life try to find ways to get power to make themselves feel more than they are. It's a sad existence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:39 PM Flag
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She very well may have done what she said. My career never quite recovered after my law firm believed I ignored a senior partners request to meet for an exit interview and review when transferring offices. Scathing dressing down from another partner at a later date which I accepted but I am certain my secretary never told me he contacted me to schedule a meeting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:48 PM Flag
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She very well may have done what she said. My career never quite recovered after my law firm believed I ignored a senior partners request to meet for an exit interview and review when transferring offices. Scathing dressing down from another partner at a later date which I accepted but I am certain my secretary never told me he contacted me to schedule a meeting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:48 PM Flag
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And that’s why I think my aunt is such an awful person. She is super happy to stick it to the big guys, doesn’t even care if she destroys someone’s career over it. She floated when this colleague with the big title failed a minor exam, but when her own DS flunked out of law school, it was because of nerves and because he had a bad experience with a teacher in elementary school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:54 PM Flag
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My Aunt's best story is how she got my uncle back after he left her for his fellow teacher and she had to raise 2 young boys while he was gone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:53 PM Flag
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yikes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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Oh it was a good story. She got him fired, plus the girlfriend. Then let them go. He came crawling back but the kids never fully accepted him again. They lived together to see a 55th wedding anniversary but they gradually became more and more disabled. He died two winters ago while watching TV in a wheelchair. She's 80 and only the youngest of her 3 kids (had after the reunion) cares for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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Insecurity. Those are the only strings she had to pull [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:21 AM Flag
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Don't give a shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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Her name doesn't start with M, does it? We had a secretary in my law firm, and that was one of her favorite topics: how she would have to tell the lawyers what to do, how she would "train" them and how she had hiring and firing power. Smile at her stories. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:43 PM Flag
[ - ] This is a really strange question but I am hoping someone can help. We put an offer in on an apartment right before I got pregnant. I initially really liked it. Then I got pregnant and got extremely nauseous pretty much right away. We made lots of visits to the new apartment for measurements, etc and with each visit i was obviously very nauseous and it was unoccupied so it was also musty which I'm sure didn't help. We closed about a week ago and we are moving in 2 weeks- but taking small trips just about every day to bring over books, clothing, etc. I'm still very nauseous. Now- the problem- looking at the apartment or even THINKING about it causes my nausea to come on in full force. Even typing this out, imagining the apartment in my head, my nausea is starting to rage. It's like a pregnancy food aversion but it's an aversion to our new apartment. Obviously this is something I need to get over since we freaking own it and are going to live there for a long time. Please, can anyone help me??? Any similar experience and reassurance that once my nausea subsides in a few weeks hopefully, this aversion will subside too??? I'm honestly nervous it won't. I can't even get excited about this apartment because it makes me nauseous to even think about it. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:30 PM Flag
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Did you thoroughly air the apartment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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We did this weekend, when the weather was crisp, yes. But I don't think it's just the smell- I think it's because I just associate the apartment with pregnancy nausea since I've basically never been in the apartment without being sick to my stomach other than the first time i visited it, before we put in the offer. It's truly like i tried a new food when pregnant, got nauseous, and now have a food aversion but am being forced to eat the food every day. I need to get over it but I can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:35 PM Flag
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I completely understand. I can’t eat smoked cheese anymore because it made me sick 10 years ago but there are other things that I can tolerate and even like again. If the nausea doesn’t subside, maybe hypnosis could help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:40 PM Flag
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Thank you. I feel silly but was honestly going to go to a therapist for something like that if it didn't improve soon. I am still in my first trimester so still nauseous all the time- I'm going to give it until the hormones level out and see if it makes me nauseous when I otherwise feel fine. So frustrating... makes me wish we'd just purchased at a different time. This will be an expensive problem if I can't fix it hence my mild panicking! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:43 PM Flag
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I think it will pass when you stop being nauseas in general. Can you wait to move a couple months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:43 PM Flag
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Thank you- I really, really hope so. I'm 10 weeks so hopefully by the time we move i'll be feeling a little better. My husband agreed to push it to 4 weeks if I really need to although I know he thinks I'm being crazy. It would be another month of rent we need to pay on our current place but honestly I'm willing to suck it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:45 PM Flag
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I'm also thinking of painting all the rooms even though I like the paint that's already there.... just to make it look different... and buying different furniture than I'd planned on buying just to give it a look that I haven't been imagining. I feel like such a crazy person but I am worried that i just really hate this apartment that, in theory, I loved when I first saw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:47 PM Flag
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for at time, oranges made me nauseous. then seeing them made me nauseous. then anything the COLOR orange made me sick. I was so weird and it lifted - immediately -- when baby was born and I, weirdly, asked DH to get me an orange soda. pregnancy is crazy. get the place painted and floors done before you move in -- but I say that to anyone moving. it's impossible to do the floors once you're there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:47 PM Flag
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Thank you. I think we will do all of the above. Just glancing at a picture of it this morning make me almost vomit. I'm like, I want to live anywhere BUT there. But it's a little late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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Wear a rubber band around your wrist for a few days and snap it whenever you feel the apartment nausea coming on. Each evening, get into a super relaxed state and meditate, taking deep breaths, picturing the apartment then have it fading into something fresh and relaxing and calming, like a beach or a meadow, then fading back into the apartment, back and forth. Breathe deeply, from the diaphragm, and focus on moving that stimulated feeling from your throat down into your abdomen, and then dissolving it with the contraction/expansion of your diaphragm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:47 PM Flag
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Thank you so much. I will do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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^^actually I think I will save this post and do it once my first trimester is over so that relaxing images of the beach don't start to make me sick too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:51 PM Flag
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Eat ginger candies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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Unfortunately I still have a strong ginger aversion from when I was pregnant with my first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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(because of all the ginger candies i consumed!!!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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Chewing gum helps me. Crackers too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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I think you now have anxiety-triggered nausea around the apartment. The only thing that will work is exposure therapy. Go slowly and little by little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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Also come up with a reward system for yourself for exposure...focus on that. Like: I get to go have a piece of cake right after. etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:08 AM Flag
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I'm sure that's part of it- the move is making me anxious in general (normal) and exacerbates everything. Just talking it out on here makes me feel a little less crazy and gives me hope it will subside so I really appreciate the responses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:03 AM Flag
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Seems like a silly problem. You might consider therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:06 AM Flag
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It's silly until I nearly vomit every time i think about my new home or walk through the front door after spending so much money!!! And yes I'm going to consider therapy if it doesn't resolve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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Do you have any friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:12 AM Flag
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I'm practical. And not prone to complaining. And yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:15 AM Flag
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Clockwork Orange! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:18 AM Flag
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Wow, this is the same plot as Rosemary's Baby. I'd avoid any tea Mrs. Cassavettes gives you. (just some advice). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:19 AM Flag
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Is this your first pregnancy? The aversions are insanely strong and then they pass. I know this sounds cruel but when I was pregnant and say, eating in a restaurant, the sight of an obese person would nauseate me. I would have to turn my chair to face away. This happened multiple times. Many other aversions that also nauseated me too. Your senses are so heightened. Of course now that the pregnancy is long over all those reactions seem like looney tunes but I still remember how visceral they were. I think it will be fine long term. The imagery sound one recommended sounds good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:18 AM Flag
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Thanks- it's not my first, although some of the aversions from my first stuck with me which is what's making me paranoid that this aversion to the house will stick with me too, but I know it's unlikely. I'm actually having big regrets about the purchase and I am assuming/hoping it's just the pregnancy talking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Are sororities as bad as I think they are? My view of fraternities (as sexist and basically existing for partying and sex) may be tainting my view, but I wonder if sororities basically exist to fulfill men's fantasies (for easy sex) or if there's more to it. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:28 PM Flag
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I was in a sorority in college. I didn't join until sophomore year. I really liked it. I didn't like the singing and clapping during rush. But everything else was good. Lots of fun people. Some community service stuff I wouldn't have initiated on my own. Sure there were parties, but no serious debauchery. I never felt unsafe, nor was I assaulted. I think it just is a case by case basis type of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:32 PM Flag
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Did you hang out with the fraternities a lot? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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I had a lot of guy friends in one particular fraternity and my friends and I hung with them a lot. They were all really nice guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:05 AM Flag
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Thanks. Tell me I'm wrong that it's just an orgy of random, alcohol-fueled sex...or if I'm right, just give it to me straight. DD wants to join a sorority (if that wasn't obvious) and I'm against it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:09 AM Flag
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I went to a college that was very heavy on greek life so most girls joined a sorority (like 70%). You just joined the same one all your friends joined and it was basically an excuse to hang out with your friends and have parties with your guy friends in your "brother" fraternity. That being said- I do think it bred a lot of exclusion uneccessarily, because girls I had been friends with before rushing (we couldn't rush until 2nd semester) basically stopped being my friends once we joined different sororities just because "oh well it's a Alpha Chi thing to have drinks at Kristin's tonight so you can't come... I'm sorry!" and it was just stupid exclusionary stuff like that. In retrospect I'd have preferred going to a school with minimal greek life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:33 PM Flag
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Poster above you. My school was a newer university and for some reason they didn't build actual fraternity houses. Because of this, I think there was a lot less hanging out 'just in your house.' We all had friends in all different houses. I think that actually made the greek system a bit better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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+1 but I was one of 2 girls who was rejected from all sororities [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:16 AM Flag
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:( how upset were you by this? why do you think it happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:19 AM Flag
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I was shocked but think it was because I was a pen angry, not confident 18yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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*an angry (not pen angry) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:25 AM Flag
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aww, that is a mature and useful way to look at it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:32 AM Flag
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i went to a very big school and the sorority was a good way to make it seem smaller. even if you weren’t friends with everyone at least you’d see some familiar faces around campus or you could contact an older sister for advice about a class or something. there was partying but isn’t that how it is st most colleges with or without greek life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:31 AM Flag
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Weirdo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:26 AM Flag
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Are you really so dumb that you think all sororities are the same everywhere? I was in one, I had a blast and made great friends. It was very empowering to be part of an organization that very much encouraged me to excel in school. There were girls in my pledge class who were at college to have fun and meet a husband, there were far more girls who were very serious students and have excelled in their chosen profession since college. In my pledge class there are several women who became doctors, lawyers, accountants, two architects, and a few who have excellent careers in advertising. The most peer pressure I felt from my sorority sisters was to get really good grades so we would have the highest gpa of all Greek organizations on campus. I did not attend a single alcohol fueled orgy, was never sexually assaulted by a fraternity guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:48 AM Flag
[ - ] At whits end with DH!! He is depressed, admitted it and went on meds. He is also unemployed and has been for almost one year. I am supporting the family. He got turned down from the last job he was interviewing for 2 weeks ago. I check his email to see if/who he is responding to from a recruiting standpoint, he has not replied to recruiters in 2 weeks! There was a good job that a recruiter sent him today that he should have jumped on(a retained/confidential search). I am freaking out and can’t understand why he doesn’t have a seense of urgency. We are going to be in a bad spot financially soon. I hate this. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:26 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, I would make sure he is seeing a therapist also, as well as exercising. Meds alone aren't usually enough, they just pick up the slack for the 75% that comes from exercise, clean diet, etc. My dh went through a depression years ago, after college when he couldn't find a good job. I would come home to our apartment and find him in pj's watching Buffy reruns. I lost it on him and told him to get out, go to Starbucks, sit on a park bench, anything to get out. It turned around eventually. A year is a long time for a man not to have the validation that comes from being productive. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:44 PM Flag
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I know how you feel. My dh is an idiot. I am actually suicidal, except I just remind myself that my dc need me too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:49 PM Flag
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Depression is hard. Maybe go with him to his doctor to learn more about so you can understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:01 AM Flag
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He doesn’t have a sense of urgency because he’s depressed. It’s the nature of depression to be blunted, flat, slowed up and feel hopeless about prospects. If his meds haven’t been adjusted recently, he needs to go back. The physician will not be able to tell you anything because of HIPPA, but you should speak to that person and tell him what’s going on because there’s a fair chance your dh is not telling him everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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He JUST went on the meds. Has been in therapy for a few months, last week he went to get meds. He has good weeks and bad, but I hate to see him let opportunities slip by. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:24 AM Flag
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It’s too soon for med to work yet then. Hang in there. Encourage him to follow up, but try not to be too critical or convey your panic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 02:10 AM Flag
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Depression plus no job starts a really vicious cycle that is seriously almost impossible to extract oneself from. He needs to do some work parttimesomehow. Help him. Don't get on him it will only make him feel worse about himself. Help him find something part time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:04 AM Flag
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Thanks-I have offered to help him find some work through my Dad that would be part time, he said no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:21 AM Flag
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PS- He JUST went on the meds last week, so most likely they are not kicking in yet and I didn't expect that to happen, but he is having such a hard time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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BTDT: the meds take at least 2-3 weeks to kick in and really worked for me. just hold on for a bit longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 02:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Have we discussed the death of Julia Louis-Dreyfus’ sister? She was a single social worker worth 23 million who died at 44 of cocaine and alcohol intoxication. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:19 PM Flag
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No, we haven't; not going to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:31 PM Flag
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Way to try to shut down a topic. I’m interested in that her sister was clearly not happy with all that money. There have been loads of discussions on here about how aimless trust fund babies are. Julia is the exception to the rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:42 PM Flag
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MYOB. Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:01 AM Flag
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That's sad. It's awfully hard to get out from under a fuck-ton of money. [ Reply | More ]
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it is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:23 AM Flag
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boo hoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:29 AM Flag
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You must have to do a lot of both to die from it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:32 AM Flag
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Substance abuse happens to the wealthy too. There is no mystery here. Money does not bring happiness. It makes life easier but not happier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:42 AM Flag
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Who gives a shit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
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Their father is a billionaire. It was shocking she was worth so little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:50 AM Flag
[ - ] What is your favorite Parka that would come in an XS ...Northface fits me...any other brands ? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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I wear kids' Patagonia. [ Reply | More ]
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Good grief. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound fat. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you get your shoulders in there? [ Reply | More ]
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Marmot [ Reply | More ]
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Bogner has great ski stuff, and fire and ice line less expensive [ Reply | More ]
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Woolrich [ Reply | More ]
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Loro Piana [ Reply | More ]
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Columbia. I have two of their jackets and I find the quality and fit comparable to North Face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:56 PM Flag
[ - ] DS has cousins in the burbs who play and love squash. Where can he play in the city? He’s 12. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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Mostly in private clubs like the Harmony or NYAC. josh squash in cobble hill. Poly prep also has something on weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:50 PM Flag
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Harmonie btw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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Is google broken? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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Yale Club, Racquet Club. I feel like there is a gym in lower Manhattan that has courts, but couldn't swear to it. Is there a NY Health and Racquet? Still around? Brooklyn Heights Casino. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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The YMCA [ Reply | More ]
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NY Sports in Cobble Hill [ Reply | More ]
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Equinox on 61st between 2nd and 1st has 7 squash courts. [ Reply | More ]
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Op here I’m looking for a learn to play program for a preteen [ Reply | More ]
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Heights Casino, brooklyn heights has the best junior program. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I was at the playground with 2 year old DS where two slightly older boys- probably 3 & 4- were going out of their way to be mean to DS. Ex: blocking him from going down the slide, pushing his toy car off the bench he was pushing it on... I left after having to tell one of the boys twice not to touch my DS. Their dad wasn’t paying any attention on a bench. At what point would you say something to the parent? Or do you just leave? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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I usually say something to the kids. "Wow that was rude". I move dc away. If the kids continues I do go up to the parent. Some kids are assholes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:50 PM Flag
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+1. i've reprimanded kids. parent or no parent. most times the parent is hundreds of feet away chatting away with friends not watching their bratty kid. i've told kids to behave yourself, your not being nice and so forth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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Sometimes you have to stop helicoptering though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:01 PM Flag
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np- of course, but for a toddler being blocked from going down the slide and having his toys thrown, it's not helicoptering to step in and make sure he is okay. For a 6 year old arguing about whose turn it is to go down the slide, of course, back off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:02 PM Flag
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You're supposed to helicopter a little bit with preschoolers, to teach them appropriate behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:09 PM Flag
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this. its not helicpotering! have you ever seen your kid at preschool? the teachers frequemtly intervene to teach kids boundaries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:36 AM Flag
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They were all basically babies. The bigger boys could have been bigger two year olds for all you know. I wouldn’t have intervened unless they were physically fighting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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It's perfectly appropriate for parents to intervene, nicely, when all the kids are 2 so that everyone gets along. Encouraging cooperation, etc., obviously, not making a big deal of things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:08 PM Flag
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Eh, I would still let them try to work it out. They are at the playground to learn social skills. I already know how to take turns on the slide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:10 PM Flag
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2 year olds can't even speak correctly, they are too young to be expected to learn social skills through repeated, unsupervised conflict with other preschoolers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:11 PM Flag
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Sure, sometimes you have to step in when there is conflict. Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:16 PM Flag
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I am pretty hands off, but for a 2 year old being blocked from going down the slide I'd just call out "he is allowed to go down the slide, please let him, thank you". After the second time calling out with no response I'd go over and assist him to go around the other kid. Same thing for the car- loudly call out "please don't throw his toys on the ground, thank you" and pick it up and hand it back to my kid. Once the "older" kids realize an adult is going to intervene every time they will move on to a different target. I wouldn't say anything to the parent, and I wouldn't leave either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:54 PM Flag
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this, but sometimes the kids wont stop. at that point, i bother the parent because their kid has annoyed me, and iits time for them to put down the iphone and step up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:37 AM Flag
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Just remember your child is growing too. One day he may do something not nice. You're kind of weird to pick on a 3yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:58 PM Flag
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Op- I wouldn’t call saying “please keep your hands to yourself” as picking on a 3 year old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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it's your tone. Acting surprised that other kids might behave here like this. Yours might be that kid one day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:18 PM Flag
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We go to the playground every day and it was the first time two kids went out of their way like that- following him around. They were nasty. It was surprising. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:22 PM Flag
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Lol at toddlers being nasty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:25 PM Flag
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I taught preK. They are bored and need a little TLC and redirection. Get them to want to be helpful etc or just move away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:02 AM Flag
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I would reprimand the kids then stay close w my kid so he could play. You’ll realize in a few years how young 3/4 year olds are. They are trying out personalities and testing boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:46 PM Flag
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some parents dont care how their kids behave. I step in and act as parent and authority figure, as if they were my own kid. If you dont correct your kids behavior, and it impacts my child, I will intervene. I'd probably move to another area of the playground if it continued, but I have asked parents to step in, asking in a nice way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:35 AM Flag
[ - ] I haven’t been to a Broadway show in awhile but going soon. Where is your favorite place to get dinner pre-show? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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Osteria al Doge for northern Italian or Cafe 123 for country French, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Flo, she don't know...'cause the boy she loves is a Romeo 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:37 PM Flag
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can anyone name the song without Googling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:37 PM Flag
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Maybe my grandma; let me get the ouija out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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supremes...back in your arms again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Paul Allen died 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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Young too. Only 65. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:38 PM Flag
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old news [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:39 PM Flag
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Everyone dies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Coming down escalators into grand central and I see this boy about 8 or 9 looking up at the escalators. He’s alone. I figure he’s waiting for someone but then I stop (feeling kind of foolish) and ask him if his mom is coming and he says yes. I walk away but turn to watch him. Mom finally shows up. Am I overreacting? Is this common NYC Mom behavior? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:30 PM Flag
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I don't see anything wrong with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:35 PM Flag
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Thanks. I feel like if someone has noticed that poor boy wandering alone in Brooklyn he wouldn’t have ended up in pieces in someone’s freezer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:39 PM Flag
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He wasn't wandering [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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You are overreacting. Also he might have been small for his age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:35 PM Flag
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Like 30 seconds or 10minutes? I don't see what big deal is. She could probably see him and didn't feel the need to run after him on escalator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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He was there alone with no Mom in sight for at least 4 minutes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:38 PM Flag
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np But he wasn’t in distress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:26 AM Flag
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I must be the sole person here who has a problem with this. That's exactly the kind of situation where you can easily lose sight of your kid and he either wanders off in the wrong direction expecting you to follow him, or worse. As the child's parent, I would appreciate you stopping to ask him if he needed help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:58 PM Flag
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To what? My kids have been running ahead of me for years. I'm sure it started well before 9 years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:37 PM Flag
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yes. at my preschool, boys would arrive on their scooters a full 5 minutes before the nanny who was walking ....these boys were 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:38 PM Flag
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There is no "behavior" here, good grief. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:39 PM Flag
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So you have zero concern about your kids. Amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 02:32 AM Flag
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The "behavior" is letting the kid wander out of sight in a crowded train station with strangers/homeless people, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:59 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:56 PM Flag
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What's the issue exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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You were right to stop and ask. What if he was lost or in trouble? It’s always right to try to help esp a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:44 PM Flag
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Fine to ask. She probably ran up to an ATM and he didn't want to go, but it's always OK to check in on a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:45 AM Flag
[ - ] OTM are you here? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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Go make something happen for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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Hi, yeah, I'm here :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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Can you do a reading for my DD? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:22 PM Flag
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Well, that depends. Ask me a question and give me some context and I will try to help. I can read to see how you can best help your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:30 PM Flag
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Will she be happy at her new school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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Hi OTM can you tell me about exdh and his gf? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:31 PM Flag
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No, sorry, I can't right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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Hi, will G and I ever work out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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Hi. I certainly can't say yes or no with any authority, but the cards I drew are not particularly promising. It looks like your history has been one where you felt isolated, even when ostensibly together (hermit reversed). Right now there is a lot of attraction and chemistry, but still a fair deal of obfuscation, confusion, false starts. I think for him in particular he's not clear on his motivations, may be behaving contrary to his gut feelings (the moon). The outcome card (king of coins, reversed) does not strike me as advantageous as all. The focus of the relationship is on money, assets, material things, but communication is haywire and opportunities missed. To get your best outcome, try to keep focus trained on emotional experiences and align the material goals to shared values. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:18 PM Flag
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Thanks! He worked for me and we had a mutual attraction. But I have not heard from him in two months. He texted me last time to see what's up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:55 PM Flag
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Oh, knowing that you worked together, the reversed king of coins makes more sense. The business connection is outweighing whatever other energy exists between you two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:11 AM Flag
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Do you have any insight for me on where things with DR are going? I am trying to decide if I should cut my losses, or if it is worth hanging on. Keep thinking about him, or I would just have moved on already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:43 PM Flag
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Oh, please please! Am I going to move after this school year and, if yes, am I going to live with J? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 03:29 AM Flag
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Is DD’s father in any sort of trouble? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] What’s the going babysitting rate for college students vs grad students? Does the rate depend on what the person is studying? TY! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:55 PM Flag
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Pay goes by the job, not the candidate. Would you pay someone with a PhD more to mow your lawn than a highschool drop out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Depends on the job. No to mow the lawn. Yes to teach kindergarten. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:05 PM Flag
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No teaching involved in babysitting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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Depends on the babysitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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There can be. Why is that so hard to imagine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:09 PM Flag
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I guess because I think of a babysitter as a once in a while, irregular situation. If you mean someone with whom you keep regular standing hours, I guess it makes more sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:36 PM Flag
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np: +1. I am thinking OP may be envisioning that homework help would be part of the babysitting. Many people would pay more for a babysitter who can also tutor an older kid while they are there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:15 PM Flag
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Why would either have any qualifications? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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A teacher? Depends on the kind of babysitting you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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Personally I don't think grad status would make any difference in what I'd be willing to pay for occasional babysitting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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15-20 per hour for both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:50 PM Flag
[ - ] At a new job and one of my staff members is extremely hard to manage. My boss warned me that she doesn’t work well with others but he can’t fire her because she’s been with the company for 10 years and she’s a single mom. Anyway - every time I ask her to do something, she gives me attitude and asks several times why I am asking her and why does she have to do this etc. How would you approach this? She is in charge of a relatively important section of my department and so far I haven’t even been able to extract from her what she actually does! 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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^ I could not ask my predecessor here what they do for this particular area because she left the company and there was no overlap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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Be nice, Your boss is screwing her. She outlasted the last dissatisfied supervisor, and she’ll outlast you too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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That’s what I think. She seems very flirtatious with him. I wonder how I handle this relatively important section though - because she doesn’t have the education or intellect to do this herself. If she does it wrong, the company gets in trouble. My boss told me about a major screw up of hers, but she is still around... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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Seriously, since when can single moms not be fired. start documenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:52 PM Flag
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when they are sleeping with the person who has the authority to fire them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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OP. As previous poster suggested, I think there may be a personal relationship. The last person in my position was apparently not happy with this situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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Then why did he not promote her, makes no sense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:00 PM Flag
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np: Do you mean why did he not promote the problem employee? Because he needs a buffer to supervise her and do her work for her. He doesn't want to do the screw-ups work for her, he wants someone else who he can control (i.e. OP) to do it. He just wants sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:05 PM Flag
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He can’t do her or my work because that’s not his job/education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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Promote her to what? The next level is me and you need a professional degree for the work. I doubt she has community college even. I couldn’t get her resume because she was taken on from a previous company they owned and never got her resume. But she is more of an admin assistant who has been given way too much authority already. She’s not on top of tithings and I I don’t manage her it will be a disaster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:06 PM Flag
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I would sit down with her and ask her, nicely, "We seem to be having a bit of a problem. I see your job as XYZ. Am I misunderstanding? I'm asking because you seems to push back on every request and direction I give you, and I'm not sure why. What do you think is the best way for me to give you direction as your manager?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:53 PM Flag
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Document everything you ask her to do but don’t follow up and let her combust. You will have documentation that she failed to meet obligations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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On Friday she just left at 12pm without telling me. What a joke - I am her direct supervisor and she doesn’t even tell me she’s leaving 6 hours early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:07 PM Flag
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Send her an email and copy HR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:19 PM Flag
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I agree you need to start documenting everything or start looking for a new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:20 PM Flag
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First impression is you should provide more context when delegating to her. It shows her more respect, so is likely to engender more from her, and circumvents her questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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I will try that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:18 PM Flag
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It's true that (a) she is in charge of an important section of your department, and (b) you don't know what she does? How can those both be true? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:10 PM Flag
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I have been here for all but 2.5 weeks. I am unable to find out what she does with her section (compliance). I don’t see any saved documents on the drive, no policies, nothing. When I ask her she says she does all filings. That’s it. A one line answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:14 PM Flag
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^ I focused on the other two areas that I am in charge of first, because they were more pressing and I can communicate with the other two reports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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OK, so you haven't really put in a lot of effort with this employee yet. Change is hard for everyone. I'm surprised you're blaming your staff person, instead of thinking "I need to figure out how to get the information I need." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:28 PM Flag
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I actually have put in effort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:34 PM Flag
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OK, just not as much as into other things. Now focus on this, I'm sure you'll do as well as you did on the things that came first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:50 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:52 PM Flag
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How badly do you want to stay in this job? It is highly unlikely that he will be willing to make her do more work. This is going to be your problem for the entire time that you are here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:17 PM Flag
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I see that this will never improve and that I either live with it or go elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:20 PM Flag
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You give something 2.5 weeks and then figure it will never improve I need to quit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:50 PM Flag
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Schedule a meeting with the topic "Compliance Management." Write her an email saying "Jane, as I get up to full speed here, I'd like to meet so you can explain to me the full scope of how you handle compliance filings. Does next Friday (give her about 4-5 days to prepare) work for you? Close the door to your office and let her present to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:27 PM Flag
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So email her, where exactly are the filings. My guess she did not do them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:30 PM Flag
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if she does not respond, copy GC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:37 PM Flag
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^^^this, what drive, what folder, etc. Not acceptable if she keeping on her personal hard drive, if she says that, contact IT, tell them you need copies made [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:41 PM Flag
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There are almost no filings. I already asked her. Just formation documents but nothing thereafter. It’s a joke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:43 PM Flag
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If required filings are not done, I would copy boss and GC. But I am guessing she may have done them and won't produce. I would send her email, just to confirm are these the only compliance documents? Is this public company, or registered advisor or B/D? Tax filings? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:45 PM Flag
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No, smallish private company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:47 PM Flag
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^ I am the only lawyer there, no GC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:48 PM Flag
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So what filings did not get done? Are you making a mountain out of a molehill? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:51 PM Flag
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Are you talking annual SOS filings? BFD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:51 PM Flag
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It’s a regulated industry and we need to maintain licenses in almost all states. The license in the largest state lapsed because she didn’t do the annual filing. It’s hard to get back. In Cali. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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^ sorry I am driving and can only type during red lights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:57 PM Flag
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Omg do not do this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:17 PM Flag
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So now you say. I asked about types of regulation and you dodged question. NOW you say. I can see why she thinks you are a bitch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:08 PM Flag
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You asked me what filings didn’t get done and I answered. I can only type as much as rednlighht phases allow - I am driving home. I already told you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:15 PM Flag
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And no one cared? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:12 PM Flag
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Yes, they care because right now we can’t get it back. It will be a few months. My boss is the CEO and if he lets it slide ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:19 PM Flag
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^ I know how to deal with herbpirtion of the work professionally, I just don’t know how to deal with a completely antagonistic person from a managerial perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:47 PM Flag
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The real problem here is that you are reporting to a guy who put his girlfriend in a place that jeopardize the department and makes your job more difficult. This does not sound like a winning situation. As previous posters have said, document every single thing you can (if you ask her to do something put it in an email, if she does not do something right talk to her and follow up with an email etc.). This may not end well and you need to be covered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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I would pull the boss in on this one and say, Joe what is the best way to handle this issue with Jane. Compliance filings are mandatory for our company and I dont want this coming back to bite you or me in the ass. Jane says she files but I need access to them. I will cc you on the next email I sent her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:48 AM Flag
[ - ] poopity scoop 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:41 PM Flag
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What are you doing here, Donald? Aren't you supposed to be running the country? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:45 PM Flag
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:54 PM Flag
[ - ] My boyfriend's son has developed really bad acne. I can't get him an appointment for a few weeks and am wondering if anyone has any over the counter products they have used successfully with older teen boys. I'd like to get him some relief asap. Thanks! 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:31 PM Flag
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does he want you to help him? either the son or the boyfriend? strange you are making a doctor's appointment for someone else's child. Where is his mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:34 PM Flag
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Yes, he asked for/wants help. Mom isn't in the picture, had two new kids and acts like the first two don't exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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Np: on this board, just refer to him as ds in the future. Otherwise, you will spend a lot of time being judged for your lifestyle choices by this supposedly progressive urban crowd before you actually get your question answered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:13 PM Flag
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Wash with cetaphil, moisturize with neutropenia oil free. Clearisil at night. Go to derm for manual clean out and eventually, antibiotics or accurate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:37 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:42 PM Flag
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Accutane, It works superbly but watch for side effects, even behavioral. Will need prescription. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 04:07 AM Flag
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Did your boyfriend's teenage son actually ask you for help? Or are you just deciding you need to make him feel some kind of way over a few zits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:40 PM Flag
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I didn't decide anything, I'm not pushy, just happy to help when asked! His face is beginning to get scars from how bad the acne is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:43 PM Flag
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You are being very good to help him out -don't listen to these people. Don't wait TO long to go to the meds. Acne seriously causes social isolation and depression in some kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:47 PM Flag
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This. Take care of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:57 PM Flag
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The Mighty Patch is amazing for pimples. Really works, and no chemicals.https://www.herocosmetics.us/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:54 PM Flag
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Not much over the counter. He may need rx things. My dd got them and it cleared up permanently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:56 PM Flag
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Any drug store brand benzoyl peroxide acne treatment will kill the bacteria causing his acne. The trick is to make sure he puts the benzoyl peroxide solution on his face 24 hours a day. A light layer in the morning after washing his face, and a heavier layer at night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:01 PM Flag
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That stuff can cause rashes. A dermatologist will give him something that isn't that harsh but will still get the job done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:04 PM Flag
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To prevent rashes, he should start with the lowest concentration of BP and work his way up after a few weeks. Also, he should use a toner so that his skin won't completely dry out. I recommend the drugstore version of ProActiv. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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Probably fine. But my dc's meds were covered by our insurance so no cost to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:59 PM Flag
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Be careful. Benzoyl peroxide can really irritate skin. Burned my face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:35 AM Flag
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Try the proactive line until you can get in with dermatologist. Ask if you can see pediatrician first for oral and topical abx. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:02 PM Flag
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Just designate specific towels for him because the benzoperoxide will bleach everything it touches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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I took my son to a dermatologist for acne and got two prescriptions, these same items are also now available over the counter, just google, and not expensive: Benzoyl peroxide Perrigo brand 2.5% and Differin adapalene gel 0.1%, alternate them daily. I used to get Differin for myself when I was younger as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:03 PM Flag
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Accutane changed my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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Almost everything OTC is a joke. Blue & red light therapy helped, but you have to be dedicated and you can't go with a cheap device. A lot of times with bad acne it's not a surface problem. It's something internal, like hormones. Just killing surface bacteria isn't going to cut it. In rare cases it's the symptom of some other problem. I turned out to have hyperthyroid and when that was taken care of, the raging acne stopped. That's probably not his problem, just saying that it's not always just a matter of bacteria or him being dirty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:21 PM Flag
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Apple cider vinegar and neutrogena wipes. The doc will prescribe antibiotics and a topical gel. takes about 6 wks to clear up but stays away id you keep up with the medicated pads and prescription gel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:10 PM Flag
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Get neutrogena benzoyl peroxide 2.5%. Nothing stronger. Stronger has the exact same effectiveness but will turn his skin an angry rashy red. Cerave moisturizer. Accutane script once you see a doc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 11:54 PM Flag
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Just curious, was the back story abt boyfriend's son really necessary? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 12:22 AM Flag
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Posters typically identify the subjects of their posts with DD, DH, OW, etc. Given there is no succinct designation for “boyfriend’s son,” what would you have preferred? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 02:38 AM Flag
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What I mean is that it was unnecessary to introduce him at all. Could have just asked a question abt best acne product. That is all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 08:25 PM Flag
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Find a dr who can see him sooner. Try Proactiv? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.16.18, 01:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Kindergarten Dc explained the bear drill to me they had at UES public school today. " you know, if the animals get out the zoo, this is what we are to do" 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:28 PM Flag
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Is that a Betsy DeVos policy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:48 PM Flag
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I guess that's a way of disguising it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:55 PM Flag
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Is that code for shooter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:58 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.16.18, 01:13 AM Flag
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General Topics 10.15.18, 10:08 PM Flag
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Why? It was a very funny story from a 5 yr old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:16 PM Flag
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We call it a lockdown and mention guns. We’re in the hood though. No need to sugar coat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 10:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me figure out what to do. Have been at the same employer for 13 years in several roles. Due to industry consolidation, there have been a handful of reorgs and mergers. Each time I've taken on a bigger job, there was no promotion tied to it. I approached my manager to discuss how I can get promoted or a salary adjustment, since I'm still compensated at a much junior level. She beat around the bush, said she'd talk to her supervisor, who promised nothing. I like my coworkers, like my job, but feel that I really got the short end of the stick. Short of quitting, is there anything else I can do to fix this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:27 PM Flag
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It's like marriage, you can't make the other person do anything. You can only behave in your own best interests. If you get another job offer will they match the salary? I'd go that route because if they don't offer a match, you know what you're worth to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:36 PM Flag
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Back about 10 years ago, I was in the exact same position as you are. I was doing the same work as people whose title had STARTING compensation at three times the amount I'd been making after being there for almost 8 years. I spoke to my boss about it, and she got me the correct title, and got my salary doubled. She expected me to be thrilled with that, but I pointed out it still was far below the "starting wage" for the position, per company guidelines. She said she had done her best. I found another job and moved on. I even gave them four weeks notice, instead of the customary two. Gave them every chance to make it right. But they didn't. In the end, I simply went on my merry way, was happy with the new place I was at, and I never looked back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:43 PM Flag
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Wow this is my story too, just a few years ago. Leaving is the best option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.15.18, 09:49 PM Flag
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