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[ - ] I think it's hilarious that Lilly gives marriage/relationship advice when she has been married for like 2 seconds and has no kids yet. Lol. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:57 PM Flag
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Hi Lilly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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how long do you need to be married before you can give marriage advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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np. I would not take marriage advice from someone who has been married less than 10 years, much less Lilly (who says she was married in September 2016) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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Lilly: September 2016 was not the month I was married but whatever lol. I agree on the 10 year point, but I will still give advice to friends when they directly ask me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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November [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:29 AM Flag
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How do priests do marital counseling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:58 PM Flag
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Lilly here. lol All my single friends ask me for dating and marriage advice and say I should write a book about the topic. I think I will wait until I'm married at least 10 years before I wrote a book about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:03 PM Flag
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It's not surprising that your friends are as stupid as you are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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Lilly: lol 160 IQ, but go ahead with your jealous trolling. my friends are mostly 140+ IQ with a few exceptions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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np. I don't think she means "stupid" in regard to IQ necessarily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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Lilly: how do u imagine she means it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:09 PM Flag
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Common sense, maturity, awareness, life skills. Do you really need this spelled out for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:10 PM Flag
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Lilly: do you really think you have 100% accurate ability to know what another poster's intentions are? i guess you probably do think that. low IQ people tend to overestimate their ability in this arena [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:32 PM Flag
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How do you and your friends all know your IQs? Weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:13 PM Flag
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Lilly: my friends are interested in IQ since they are all high IQ themselves. they've been tested. we also compared GRE scores [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:25 PM Flag
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:53 PM Flag
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There is no way you have a 160 IQ. I am certain you made that up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:13 PM Flag
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Lilly: mmkay, you're free to think what you want. I'll trust my perfect GRE score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:27 PM Flag
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Then why do you write like a stupid teenager who is struggling to graduate from an inferior high school? lolz ya hun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:51 PM Flag
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Lilly: you're just old and out of touch so everything seems foreign to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:56 PM Flag
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CFA boyfriend said maybe he would meet me Friday. Never showed. Haven't heard from him in almost two days now. Do I text him or wait it out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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Lilly: don't text him. if he isn't obsessed with you from the beginning, he's not worth it. hold yourself to a high standard and cut out all guys below that standard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:08 PM Flag
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I'm sure he will be back. But for now he makes me feel worthless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:50 PM Flag
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Lilly: you deserve better. talk to other guys in the meantime. sorry he is being a dick to you :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:58 PM Flag
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jesus christ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:08 PM Flag
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Stephanie don't you have something better to do on Memorial Day weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:11 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:12 PM Flag
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@steph10 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:25 PM Flag
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Lilly: not Stephanie and never was lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:26 PM Flag
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No one believes you no matter how much you protest. And you outted yourself the other day which was hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:47 PM Flag
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Lilly: lol I numerous pen pals on UB who know my identity and who know I am not Steph, so you are just making yourself look mentally ill, dear. Only thing Steph and I have in common is that we are both married and both studied psychology, although she studied a different type of psychology. If you want to go ahead and keep embarrassing yourself like you are doing now, then be my guest lol. I kind of feel sorry for you that you are this stupid and slow. It's quite obvious to everyone else that Steph doesn't have an abusive mom given that steph's mom was in all her wedding photos. face it hun, you launched a bully campaign against a random girl and now you refuse to accept the truth because it means admitting how dumb you are. truth hurts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:53 PM Flag
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Why do you gout yourself to emailers but not on here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:08 PM Flag
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Out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:09 PM Flag
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Here is the problem. Your email linked back to Stephanie's blog...which disappeared after it got pointed out. Your instagram/FB pages all went private after those were discovered under Stephanie's name. Your details don't match up 100% because you have a fake online persona. After you got outted, you went manic and then said you were going to get help. Go get the help or go troll some other board. You got caught on this one. The gig is up. No one is bullying anyone...We just want you to stop lying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:24 PM Flag
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This. Just admit you are Stephanie. No is is mentioning the last name, we know it but aren't like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:42 PM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:54 PM Flag
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Lilly: i await this link too. lol. sadly, she won't post anything though lmfao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:55 PM Flag
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She said she searched her name but the post didn't say Lilly. Thr body of the post only mentioned Stephanie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yeap!! This is what I was referring to...Stephanie/ Lilly you are an idiot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:13 PM Flag
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Np how did she out herself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I just moved my SN brother into assisted living. He gets breakfast and dinner so he only needs food for lunch and random things. He's in south Florida. How much should I give him each week? I'm thinking $100? And I'll top up each week but not give an extra $100 each week? And for emergencies he has a credit card but he knows if it's abused he will lose it. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:52 PM Flag
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I think that is fine...about $15 a day. What about toiletries, entertainment, clothes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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I take him shopping when I visit and can send things on amazon as well. He can't drive so his entertainment is all onsite. I gave him change for bingo and other games. If he needs toiletries he can just let me know. I just bought new wardrobe but if he needs new it doesn't need to come out of his lunch money budget. I want to teach him how to use uber so he can go to the movies or bookstore once in awhile too but he's just learning how to use his iPhone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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I'd give a debit card so you can watch his purchases. I'd start with $50 and see how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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Where was he before now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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Living with parents. But dad died and mom needed to be in a nursing home. They're actually in the same complex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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That's nice that they get to continue to be together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:26 PM Flag
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What does SN stand for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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special needs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:04 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:06 PM Flag
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Special needs. No formal disagnosis as he's 50. Has an IQ of 71. A point too high for government assistance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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Can you get him retested? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:08 PM Flag
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That's the next project. See if we can get him on social security. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:20 PM Flag
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That's strange that they have pinpointed one number. Every time we have had our daughter tested she tests in a 15-20 point range depending on which area she is testing in. In some areas she performs in the 80s and 90s, in others, 70s and 80s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:29 PM Flag
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Isn't he eligible for disability through Social Security? Have you consulted an attorney? If he gets disability he can't have assets. I have a relative with similar demographics and he has been on disability since his 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:34 PM Flag
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WTF!>!>!>!!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:34 PM Flag
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We haven't checked in 20-something years. He was living with mom and dad in a paid off house. His main expense was food. He even worked for awhile. But now that things are changing we are working on retesting and applying for disability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:41 PM Flag
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Good for you, but be sure you don't disqualify him from disability with your gifts and financial support. See a lawyer ASAP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:55 PM Flag
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Last time I checked, he can't have over $2,000 in assets. Did you sell the family home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:03 PM Flag
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I hope your dad left everything to your mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:03 PM Flag
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Just wanted to say GL, this must have been a stressful time for you. It's hard when you have a dependent sibling and are torn in different directions. $100. week sounds pretty good to me, like most things, you'll probably adjust as it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:00 PM Flag
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May I ask how much AL costs and if you probably dont want to say the name of the facility , which town is it ? we are looking into options for a SN 22 year old family member. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Have any of you frozen eggs and used them? (Ivf not food. :)) 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:50 PM Flag
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I haven't laughed in a while. Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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You're welcome :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:38 PM Flag
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Just have a baby if you want one. Enough with the bizarro popsicle children with SN [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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and then the laughing stopped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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Whore comment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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what [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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Just have a baby. No need to turn yourself and your child into a science experiment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:59 PM Flag
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I hate the whole idea of egg freezing because it completely skirts the REAL issue, which is that it is so fucking hard for a woman to raise a child in American society (given the cost of childcare, pre-school, etc). Egg freezing is just another way for society to delay tackling these issues [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:00 PM Flag
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Well, for me it was a way to procreate after cancer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:30 PM Flag
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Amazing. Congratulations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:39 PM Flag
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Agreed. But there are other reasons. See below. Also, to keep the door open if you're young and almost sure you don't want dc but not completely sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm done. Like literally game over. I can't with the house and the kids and the full time job and the shopping and the laundry and the baby screaming and the cars breaking down and the lack of sleep and health issues, and the stress. What do I do? I feel like I need a week long vacation from my life. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:48 PM Flag
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Lower your standards. So what if the house is a mess. So what if you order in one night or eat pizza. The baby can cry for a minute before you run. Don't strive for perfection in all areas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:51 PM Flag
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+1 I served ramen noodles more nights than I care to admit. I'm doing fine now; kids are happy and thriving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:03 PM Flag
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also let the laundry go; wash the towels every third day, not every other day, or whatever; really -- ease up on yourself -- do NOT quit your job b/c life is long and I have seen too many women get royally screwed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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This is why I don't work. I take care of all this so DH can concentrate on career. Trade off is mt career ended, and less HHI. But quality of life for the family is fabulous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:51 PM Flag
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Not helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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It's very helpful. Consider quitting her job was my very helpful advice you dumb whore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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Wow unemployed and rude! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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Until you are left...temporary domestic bliss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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First take a deep breath. Then say over and over this too shall pass. It's so true that life can be unbearable at time but it doesn't always last forever. I had a kid with cancer while she was losing his job and I had health issues but you scale back and only focus on what you need to do and when things lighten up you can focus on the other stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:52 PM Flag
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Take a day. Call in sick on a Wednesday and spend it utterly alone. I crashed in a friends' spare room once and binged watch shows since DCs were home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:57 PM Flag
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Everyone gets overwhelmed sometimes. Lack of sleep is a killer. See if you can put your head down even for ten minutes and just lie there quietly. It can make a difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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James Mattis like like John Wayne and he is like your grandpa who wants to take you to get a root beer. He told John Dickerson that 'nothing keeps me awake at night; I keep other people awake at night' and was known as a young soldier to carry a copy of 'Meditations' everywhere he went. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:09 PM Flag
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is like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:09 PM Flag
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Can you take two or three days off work (keep the kids in school) AND GET SHIT DONE? One day is not enough. Tackle your house first. Come up with a plan to clean/declutter/organize. PURGE and DONATE. Buy what you need to create a more orderly laundry system. I had to buy a dresser for DB and 6 bug rubber tubs to manage the overwhelming hand-me downs situation. Best $500 i have spent in a long time. A home in disorder trickles down to all aspects of your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:19 PM Flag
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Organizing and decluttering can be a daunting task, it's easy to get overwhelmed even if you don't have FT job and kids. If she doesn't have family to watch the kids on weekends, it's likely to be even harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:35 PM Flag
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Thats why i said to take a couple of days off of work and keep the kids in school. You need a good chunk of focused, dedicated, uninterrupted time to work on it. Four hours here and there on the weekend while watching the kids isnt going to accomplish anything, just add to that feeling of 'never getting anything done'. Take time off, OP. You need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:05 PM Flag
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Can you afford to outsource any of this? Is there an online grocery delivery option where you live? (Fresh direct, instacart etc) Can you hire a house keeper once a a week who will do all your laundry? It doesn't have to cost a fortune. Also, agree with taking a few work personal days to rest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I read books and the author describes thin lips as attractive, but isn't it the opposite today? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:43 PM Flag
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:49 PM Flag
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Kate Middleton has thin lips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:52 PM Flag
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It was some English novel written a long time ago as well as a Murukami written recently [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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At some point small mouth was a standard of beauty, I think in Japan it's still true. In Asian cultures, it's all about doll face features, large eyes, oval face, small mouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:14 PM Flag
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It's all about those lip injections these days. I refuse to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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Different beauty standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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Models, who have small mouths are called "doll face" models, apparently it's a thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:22 PM Flag
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Beauty standards change. Breast size, ass size, focus on cleavage vs low waist etc., curly vs straight hair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Another slashing this time woman was with child near Grand Central. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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blqme deblasio [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a good therapist in Manhattan or Brooklyn? Any recommendations, marriage issue, perimenapause, etc. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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Watching this. Same issues here. I could use one too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:45 PM Flag
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i know a great one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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i wil post her nimber later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:48 PM Flag
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I bet NRA is paying people to have slashing to take away from gun law reform agendas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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[ - ] Anyone else resent having to help their in-laws? (And by "have to", I mean that DH refuses not to.). They are divorced now, so we are expected to help them maintain separate residences. They barely worked when they were young, made irresponsible decisions with money, weren't the greatest parents, and are now penniless. How can people live this way and expect their DCs to pick up the tab? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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How can you not help your penniless parents? What is your solution? Do you want them to live in a box under a viaduct somewhere? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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Op: I'm not sure what the solution is, but it makes me sick to watch my MIL rent a condo in FL for the winter and take 2 overseas trips a year, then turn around and whine about paying her bills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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Well, then, they aren't penniless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:57 PM Flag
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Can your DH afford it? What vacations did you take this year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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That's just outrageous. Are you billionaires? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:14 PM Flag
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Omg that's my situation too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:52 PM Flag
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And she never helped me ever so I'm NOT helping her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:53 PM Flag
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How much do you contribute to HHI? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:41 PM Flag
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WTF...you take care of your elders as well as small children..this is what family is about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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Many people are selfish. Encourage thd Dad to move in with a girlfriend. MIL probably won't be able to get a man. Look for low income senior housing and meals on wheels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:57 PM Flag
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If your DH wants to help, it's an uphill battle. However, if they are penniless, they should look for subsidized housing. They can live on very little that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:48 PM Flag
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They don't sound penniless with vacations and FL condos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] If Medicaid gets cut, children with Pediatric Cancer won't be able to get treatment and research will be cut at Sloan. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Trumps budget will change quite a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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I need help with my housing and high ed costs before I'm able to spend more on health care than I am already spending. Doctors and the pharma sector in the USA are probably earning way too much, that's where you should adjust downwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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Medicaid will have to get cut anyway, it's just about timing. Check out its trajectory. You also cannot demand the lower middle class to pay to provide free healthcare when they themselves are struggling with their own healthcare needs. There's so much that the declining middle class can support, and I doubt that asset owners will step in to make up the difference (say, real estate owners). Will an added property tax earmark towards healthcare be acceptable? It would be interesting to see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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I don't get this. My daughter was treated at Sloan on exereimental drug and it was not paid for by Medicaid. It was paid by the drug company looking to get FDA approval. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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That was experimental treatment and only available to those the drug company chooses as best for their purposes, without medicaid most will no longer be able to receive care and/or entire program will collapse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:17 PM Flag
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We will have to wait till pharma charges Americans what they charge say, Europeans. Many middle-class Europeans are already better off than American middle-class people. We cannot keep on wasting $$$ on healthcare like we've been doing. We need help with higher priorities: affordable housing in cities where the good jobs are and higher education for our kids. Once those two are solved, we will be able to move healthcare to a higher priority, not before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:30 PM Flag
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Those who cannot receive care for FREE paid by me through a system I don't qualify for... will push for single payer. It's a win-win long term because we need healthcare costs to go down around 50% across the board to be in line with what Europeans are paying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:33 PM Flag
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Exactly! It's time for pharma, doctors and hospitals to begin to show their generosity. Those young in the middle class have other priorities: cost of housing, college. Till these 2 are solved on behalf of young middle-class families, I don't see how they are going to spend more on healthcare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Ex has been unemployed for the last 6 months. I suggested he drive uber to make some money bc he could work when he wanted and still be able to intwrview. He didnt care for my suggestion and does not much of anything to my knowledge. Today, he asked if I would give ds $5 to get a snack at his baseball game (ex was taking ds to his game). How is a 50 yo man ok with not being able to affordb $5 in snacks for dc? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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He is your husband, you tell us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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He's her EX husband, and probably for good reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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If I were unemployed, I wouldn't drive for Uber, either. Do you really want strangers in your car? There are a lot of risks to life and property. No way. You hold your DH in such contempt that you should just draw a line under it and divorce. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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^^Oh, sorry. You're already divorced. Get over it already! He's not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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My friend drives for Uber. It's not really dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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Doesnt acquisitin of a proper vehicle take time and or capital? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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This would be my dh if we divorced, because this is my dh now too at 50 yrs old. I hear you and feel your pain, but at least you won't be supporting him in old age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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Men are selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] It's sad to watch the right wing trolls pretend that the Portland right wing murderer was a Bernie fan instead of a Trump fan. Here is how you can tell he was not a Bernie fan -- if he had spouted his right wing hate at a Bernie rally, he would have been roundly criticized by Bernie himself. If he had done it at a Trump rally he would have just been among many like-minded people. You only have to be of average intelligence to understand the difference. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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It's irrelevant. Hillary lost, you can contribute by forcing the DNC to run proper Primaries on 2020. We'll see if you succeed. [ Reply | More ]
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Some of us don't think it is irrelevant when someone who hated Hillary and goes to pro-Trump white power right wing rallies kills people who Trump tells us are bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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Maybe that's why you lost? Meaning, you still don't get it even though Nov 8th happened more than 6 months ago. [ Reply | More ]
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You are the stupid troll who keeps posting this stuff. Stop posting about it if you want everyone to get over it. [ Reply | More ]
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If you cared about Democracy, you would celebrate the fact that the candidate who rigged Primaries lost. Let that sink in. [ Reply | More ]
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He did not vote bc Bernie wasn't on ballot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:13 PM Flag
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Zzzzzz collapse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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He says himself on Facebook that he is a Bernie fan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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He was a Bernie fan because he was a mentally unstable person who hated everything establishment. He hated government. He hated all religions, including Christianity. He had a major head injury and wrote manifesto rants. He could just as well have stabbed two people in a Walmart. Stop trying to tie him into any kind of political movement. He was a dangerous nut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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Are you mentally unbalanced? You start off by saying he was a Bernie fan then end by saying stop trying to tie him to politics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm honestly torn. I attended private and public schools in NYC (and was not a fan of either). I had always assumed we would go private, but the tuition is crazy high compared to twenty or thirty years ago. Do any of these schools really justify 50k a year for a family making 350-400k? There seem to be many more decent public options now. We aren't legacies or donors, and our kids will have to work. I keep thinking the hundreds of thousands to million plus could be spent on extracurriculars, summer programs, grad school, or a down payment. I am truly curious to hear everyone's thoughts. For 10-20k I would do it, but 50-100k a year? That's serious money. 90 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 05.28.17, 04:46 PM Flag
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I dont think anyone is saying it has to be justified. It reflects increasing income stratification and reliance on the ultrarich who still think it is doable. The schools take the money and spend it on an increasing array of items in the educational arms race- trips, pottery kilns, staff benefits, photo darkrooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:51 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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OP- That's what I thought- it seems more and more an amenity for the ultra-rich, not a reasonable choice for UMC kids in the same way it was 20 years ago. Thank you for your insight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:12 PM Flag
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It is still this way in many US cities, just not NYC, which also has the issue of administrators feeling emboldened to advance their careers by exploring new progressions of educational rsch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:30 PM Flag
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Kilns- that's hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:21 AM Flag
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It's not worth it for the education itself -- students from top publics do just as well (often better) than students from privates when they get to TT privates. However, your kid will get an advantage in admissions with Ivies (except Cornell) and good LAC (but not MIT or Stanford). So that may be worth 500,000 to 750,000 to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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^^sorry, I mean when they get to TT COLLEGES and are competing on the same level. But in admissions, the Ivy admissions officer will give the student with a high GPA from a connected private a yes over a kid from Stuy with higher test scores and a similar GPA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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OP- I agree, and this has always been the case (I well remember it from my youth). I also remember lots of unconnected private school kids (and I'm talking TT) ending up at Wesleyan and University of Chicago and Vassar, which are all fine schools but not what parents wanted or expected. Since there aren't that many guaranteed careers any more, I don't know if the Ivy edge is worth it. STEM kids will do just fine from Caltech, UC, and Stony Brook. I guess I wish the world hadn't become this way, but it has. Do the TTs give kids that much better a life, or is just a reflection of the privilege they were born into? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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Chicago? It has been a top 5-10 school for decades and is typically ranked higher than many of the ivy schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:29 PM Flag
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OP- Yes, agreed. But it doesn't have the cachet of the small LACs, the Ivies, or Stanford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:57 PM Flag
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This. I interview UES applicants for alumni admissions. Smallish same size and I dont see the full file but the private kids have sone better than the Hunter/ElRo ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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Smallish sample size [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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Agreed. But is it worth it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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Depends if you think there is a huge quality difference btwn Wisconsin and Dartmouth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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If you can afford it, it's worth it. As much as I don't think it's fair, Dartmouth vs. U Wisconsin will have an impact on how you are perceived throughout your life. Beyond that, you will work very hard at a NYC public school and it's demoralizing when people around you who went private do so much better in college placement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 10:56 PM Flag
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Really? In what field? The one person from my HS class who went to Wisconsin is a major TV producer. What fields are you talking about? I am curious. I used to believe this, and went to a top ten university, but now I realize it's largely a bunch of crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:34 AM Flag
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I think it's actually true in any field -- just gives you an automatic credibility. I'm a lawyer and people still ask where I went to undergrad. Also, while there are certainly successful people from U Wisconsin, the alumni magazine from that school looks very different than from a top 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:00 AM Flag
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Bingo. I knew you were a lawyer! That is one of the few fields where I agree, it matters. But there are so few law jobs it seems irrelevant at this point. I am in medicine, and this question has never come up. I might add that outside the NE (including California) no one cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:23 AM Flag
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It also has ten times the number of students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:24 AM Flag
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Haha. People probably ask you where you went because you project the need to say it. (It's a common quality, much like dropping the hint that no one can guess your age so people will ask you and pretend to be shocked at how young you look). No one is genuinely asking where someone went to college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:37 AM Flag
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It's not going to get you in anywhere these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:11 PM Flag
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OP- I guess it might be. But the more I look at it, the more I think of using that money to supplement and save. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:07 PM Flag
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The few students that get into TTs from CWs are more often than not behind in every subject especially writing. The fact they get in is not proof that public education is equivalent because they are usually at the top of the class and had been getting outside enrichment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:40 PM Flag
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OP-Not concerned about writing as many members of the family are professional writers and/or work in publishing. We are happy to supplement and obviously could afford a ton for 50k a year. Actually more concerned about science education which seems harder to do at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:53 PM Flag
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The ability to write, to express yourself clearly and covey your arguments persuasively is of paramount importance in every field. Meanwhile. supplementing is never is as good as the real thing and there is always that problem of having to go to school twice per day. Your only winning argument is cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:29 PM Flag
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NP- I went to public (Hunter) and my writing skills were far ahead of most of my peers at a top ten university. We graduated tons of writers (including several editors of the "New Yorker"). I have to say I think you are overgeneralizing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:35 PM Flag
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1) Hunter is head and shoulders above SHS in this respect. 2) Things have changed dramatically in the last 20 years. No, I'm not generalizing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:45 PM Flag
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What has changed? The admissions landscape? Or the education at Hunter, TT, SHS. I agree the SHS are lacking in the humanities. But I also think the private schools are lacking in science education. Not an issue for the wealthy, but definitely an issue for kids who actually need jobs and careers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:36 AM Flag
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What has changed is that TTs got a lot more academic to match the changing college admissions landscape and now have much better science and math programs than they used to 20 years ago. Hunter tries to be more like a private school, but at the end of the day it is still an underfunded and understaffed public school. But if you can believe that a government institution can do more with less, then more power to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:42 AM Flag
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Agreed science education has improved. But why do I see so little research and so few contest winners coming from private school? Just curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:59 AM Flag
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You keep asking that same question and getting the same answer: college placement is much more important than winning contests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:14 AM Flag
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Lol. The best writer I know attended inner city public and then La Guardia. Yes, that's write, just who you thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:37 AM Flag
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You should get out more. But you are talking about an exception to the rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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No, hunter is a far inferior institution. Poor exmissions and academics are questionable. No worth no windows too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:36 AM Flag
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OP- Growing up in a literary household, the kids read and write constantly. It's not school twice a day- it's how we live our lives. I realize everyone's situation is different, but for us this is not an issue. Most high school teachers are not published authors (although some certainly are), and it's obvious that having a literary family means kids will have lots of opportunities to improve their writing and to receive excellent feedback and criticism. Not a worry for us- reading and writing infuse everything we do. I realize everyone's situation is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:41 PM Flag
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Not everyone is a s lucky as you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:57 PM Flag
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Exactly! Everyone is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:43 AM Flag
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Most people do not live in a literary household. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:45 AM Flag
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Covey? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:44 AM Flag
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OP- This is the best and most honest response. Thank you. I don't think it's worth it for us. It may be for others (although I do wish people would stop pretending the education is so vastly superior in private schools, and just admit that they want a leg up in college admissions), but 750k for us, invested, will give DC a huge start in life, more so in this day and age than the marginal advantage of an Ivy degree over another decent degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:48 AM Flag
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Go to a good public for K-8 and switch to private for HS. That way you'll have plenty of $$ for enrichment etc. Just pick you public wisely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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No, bc if you look at the demographics of a top ivy incoming class, kids from all over the country, not nyc TT schools make up the majority of the incoming class and there's not a real academic advantage to that (in fact, having had attended an ivy myself, I found the ny kids to be sort of anxiety ridden, competitive and overly neurotic as a bunch - the kids who seem to have the best balance were from top privates schools outside the northeast but that's a separate convo). Sending to a TT private is more about wanting to be in a particular echelon & wanting your kids in that environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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Please. NYC TT schls are a much greater pct of the classes than they are of the applicant pool or US HS population. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:48 PM Flag
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OP-I agree. NYC kids are neurotic. Agreed on echelon and environment. I just wonder if it really helps strivers, or if we are who we are. Kids I know who went to private did end up with better college placement for their ability than the folks from public, but the kids from public did decently enough for college. Beyond college, my peers' lives (and my own) seemed more determined by things beyond our control ( such as whether we could afford not to work for money), and our individual drives and talents. Thank you to everyone who chimed in. I really appreciate the insight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:00 PM Flag
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The opposite is true. I went to a top 10 school from public-- had to do really well at my public to get there. I was amazed at how many mediocre kids they took from private schools -- there is mass overrepresentation of private school kids in elite colleges. It is completely unfair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 10:58 PM Flag
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OR above: And this was at one of the "lower tier" Ivys. To get there from public, you had to be top of your class. To get there from private, you had to be middle. It's a huge difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 10:59 PM Flag
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It is unfair, and I'm not sure how old you are, but I can tell you that the mediocre private school kids don't do particularly well in life. I went to a private grade school and public high school in NYC, and honestly the kids who stayed in private did not do that well, except for the frat boys who followed Daddy to WS (a field of mediocre cheats). They all majored in art and don't do much, except teach preschool. It's kind of funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:33 AM Flag
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A few of the many TT benefits ... Kids can take latin courses in 6th grade, kids create clubs, tennis team travels to FL for practice, athletic competitions against other TT schools, parent networking and socializing, delicious food in the cafeteria, quality security. Faculty receive administrative support / training / retreats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:36 PM Flag
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OP-I agree (although my four years of Latin did nothing for me). As my original post stated, yes, there are benefits, but don't you think even 30k could buy tennis lessons, better athletic training, and good food? I have to disagree about the security issue- many publics are perfectly safe. I agree on the networking and socializing, but does that really help if the child is on the poorer end of the spectrum? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:57 PM Flag
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??? - there are NYC public schools where you can start taking Latin classes in 6th or 7th grades. It's not a private school thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:19 PM Flag
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Naw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:45 AM Flag
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Name one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:49 AM Flag
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Hunter. Center School. Also, I fucking hated Latin. Biggest waste of time ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:57 AM Flag
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I can tell you studied Latin. PS Center School does not publish their curriculum on their web site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:27 AM Flag
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PS Look at InsideSchools, or talk to parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:01 AM Flag
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Not interested in schools that cannot post their curriculum on their web site in this day and age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:53 AM Flag
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You mean like ICE high school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:16 AM Flag
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Also Booker T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:15 AM Flag
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Yet another school that doesn't publish it's curriculum on its Web site, so we're just going to havw to trust you right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:24 AM Flag
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eww latin is absurd in 6th grade or any grade these days! No value whatsoever! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:38 AM Flag
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Lots of value learning a language that is the basis of most of the European languages spoken today and quite desirable by top colleges. But then again you still think that top colleges want the highest SAT scores, eww how useless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:21 AM Flag
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This is public school speaking, regression at work... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:23 AM Flag
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And that's why private still has an edge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:24 AM Flag
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Not the OR, but I took latin from middle school onwards. Complete waste of time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:53 AM Flag
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My kids are in private school and we are happy with it, but I don't think it's worth it at all at your income level. Consider doing it for high school only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:17 PM Flag
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OP-This is the conclusion I have come to. That and I wish we were from California. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:37 PM Flag
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I considered doing this ourselves (rather than K-12, which is what we are doing). It is a lot of money, and while I really like the school a lot, it is clearly not "worth it" in the sense that it is $50k better than another school.I do think it gives you a big advantage for college. Curious -- what did you not like about the private and public schools you attended? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 10:53 PM Flag
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I agree it gives an advantage for college. I guess now I look at my classmates and friends (between my parents, friends, and activities, I knew a large variety of folks in NYC, from refugees, to striving immigrants, to true Knickerbockers and other movers and shakers) and realize that, for most kids, the undeniable advantage in college admissions isn't worth 750k. Going to Harvard didn't make my immigrant friends bluebloods, in other words. People ended up where they were going to end up, and the difference between Wisconsin and Yale didn't really make a difference. The kids who attended private had wealthier parents, and that really made their lives better and smoother, and the kids from elsewhere either made it or they didn't based on their talents. They all did well enough that their natural talents or failings led them to top grad schools or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:27 PM Flag
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Yeah, I don't know. I went to public myself and am surrounded by private school graduates. They end up doing better overall it seems. To you, Wall Street may be mediocre, but it's a lot better than the mediocre suburban office park jobs that my public high school classmates have. I also do believe the education is better, it's just not $50k better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:28 AM Flag
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Suburban public? Not the same as SHS, Hunter, Elro etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:36 AM Flag
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ElRo is no better than a decent suburban public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:54 AM Flag
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WS is highly remunerative, but appears to be full of fratboys without much upstairs. Not a job for intellectuals, that's for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:37 AM Flag
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Sorry, to answer your question about what I liked (or didn't). I might add that I think this may have changed. Really, what gets you through life are social skills, and to some degree athleticism. I am moving back to NYC, but spent many years all over the US, and the schools (both public and private) in NYC were so academically focused they really neglected everything else. I knew this at the time, and was frustrated by it, but it was impossible to convince anyone that my time would be better spent on things I enjoyed, not calculus and Latin. FWIW, I attended a top five university and top tier graduate school in my field. I could have done so with a less intense education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 11:31 PM Flag
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No you couldn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:28 AM Flag
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This was us. We make exactly that income. We did private for elementary and MS-- when we started in K 15 years ago DD's school was 15K a year. By 7th grade it was 40 or so a year and just killing us-- and we weren't saving for college. DD moved to public for HS-- not a specialized HS, a smallish selective HS, VERY diverse without a ton of resources but strong academics. We supplemented with theatre and music on weekends. DD's college acceptances were GREAT-- frankly much stronger then her friends at her old private. Honestly I think being at public gave her an edge-- her "story" was more interesting. She is heading to Wellesley --her first choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:45 AM Flag
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OP- Your story brings tears to my eyes. Thank you, and best of luck to your daughter. You sound, BTW, like great parents. I really think that nowadays the advantage in private is lost on the kids who aren't legacies or otherwise highly connected, even from TT and the best BS. Anecdotally, many private school grads of my generation appear to have thrown up their hands and are sending their kids to the much-improved NYC publics. It's just so pricey for anyone not working on Wall Street, and even those jobs can disappear. I so appreciate your input. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 12:56 AM Flag
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thank YOU for saying that! And the other thing is-- her peer group was just great at her public school. The kids were happy to be there, they took NOTHING for granted, and they worked really hard. DD realized how lucky she was and actually got a tad grateful for the resources we could provide! :). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:14 AM Flag
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this poster brings up an excellent point. by the time your dc would graduate private, the tuition will likely be 60-65k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:48 AM Flag
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You tell a lot of anecdotes here. Meanwhile 80% of TT grads go to top 30. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:19 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:22 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:22 AM Flag
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Lol. Her "story" is that her parents ran out of money so the poor thing was forced to go to public? How ever did she survive?? Golly, that really IS some story! Triumph over tragedy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:56 AM Flag
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Her story is completely fabricated, but whatever it is, she always winds up concluding that public is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:02 AM Flag
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Thank you to all who responded. It has actually been surprisingly helpful in our decision. Best of luck to all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 01:02 AM Flag
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I just went through the college process and I would say that TT definitely had a leg up in admissions to top colleges, so if that is super important to you, then it might be worth it. However, you could save the 750,000 and not check the FA box on your kid's college apps and get a leg up as well. At my dc's rigorous public, the wealthy or UMC white kids who were very good students and came from educated famililies did almost as well as TT kids in college admissions. Really, it comes down to your kids. If you can already tell that they are very smart and will be successful students, then you don't need private, particularly if your literate family can help them with the writing aspect. On the other hand, if you are not sure about your dcs abilities as a student, private school will definitely help them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:11 AM Flag
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also, using that 750,000 to help them buy a home or to support them while they pursue a career is probably more worthwhile than a TT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:12 AM Flag
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I seriously doubt you plan on giving your grown up kids 750k. All this talk is about something you don't have and are bitter about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 05:21 AM Flag
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Nobody will give their children the amount saved Private/Public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:10 AM Flag
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Np my parents had saved for graduate school and gave me that money. It was my first apt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:24 AM Flag
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We went from public to private because of the testing. The focus on testing sucked so much out of D.C. That it stressed them out and made the half the school year about that. It isn't a 40k difference for sure, but it is worth it to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Would this upset you? I was having lunch with two friends and the said I looked like I was dressed for the "Hamptons". They did not mean it in a good way. They followed up with at least you actually got dressed today. When I asked what they meant, they referred to me showing up at our mutual friend in leggings. We get together as a gang maybe three times a month at night and I didn't realize there was a dress code. I saw this mutual friend last night and asked if she cared and she said no but she wanted to see my "Hampton" wear...meaning the two friends had talked about this with her at some point. 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:41 PM Flag
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And these are your friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:42 PM Flag
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OP: I was pretty upset last night about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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Well, you know that they are gossiping about you. I'm not sure I would drop the friendship(s), but I'd tuck this information away and keep it mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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OP: This seems so petty. I can only imagine what they are saying about other aspects of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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You chose these petty people as friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:51 PM Flag
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Yikes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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I guess it would depend on if it came across as playful or mean. I have a couple friends where we can playfully bust each other's chops and it's all in good fun. But we've been friends for a long time. But with newer friends, it's easy for things like that to be misconstrued. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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OP: I brushed it off when it was the two friends...It's the telling the third friend about the conversation that struck me the wrong way. Long friends but I'm beginning to wonder about the friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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What's wrong with leggings ???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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OP: I don't know. I work a stressful professional job during the week. And I have been struggling to lose the weight from baby 2. Sometimes I wear leggings so I can not feel fat and be comfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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But leggings are the last thing that overweight women should wear. They highlight every extra pound that you carry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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OP: I have about 15 pounds to lose. I will take the highlights for comfort and I'm wearing them around what I thought was friends...not to the grocery store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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UGH. Take your leggings to the trash bin. You should not be wearing them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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Give. Me. A. Break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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SO not the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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OP: So I have some people I would like you to meet...I think you would get along with them... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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Good one. I like you. I wear leggings too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:02 PM Flag
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Who cares? I don't. They're comfortable. I'm not trying to impress anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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So what are you supposed to wear? Jeans? I think that looks worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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Depends on your body. I have big boobs and broad shoulders and thin legs. Tunics and leggings are flattering-no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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It would surprise me, because my friends aren't the type who would care about leggings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:51 PM Flag
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OP: We aren't a fashionista crowd. We are a solid jeans crowd and I literally don't give any thought to what the others are wearing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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Woah, that's pretty bitchy. I'd kind of start investing in other relationships. I don't like how these ladies speak to you. They feel comfortable making fun of you to your face. That's not cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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Curious. What is considered "Hamptons" outfit? White jeans, TB Tunic and Jack Rogers sandals?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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OP: Ha, it was a simple striped cotton dress with sandals. They also said I was matchy matchy with my daughter who had a different colored dress with a completely different pattern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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They sound jealous about something. Do you have more money than them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:01 PM Flag
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This was my thought too. It doesn't make it OK at all, but I'd guess that's where this is coming from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, more money and it recently highlighted itself when I had them over to my house and they went through my kitchen drawers and said I had terrible org skills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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That is why they are being jerks. You would probably be better off making friends with people in your socioeconomic class. The jealousy thing is very real and can ruin friendships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:12 PM Flag
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OP: It kind of bums me out. I was the super poor one in college. Literally no money and I have worked very hard to move up the ladder. I'm not flashy with money. We recently bought a very old house and renovated it. It's really nice now and probably the only indication if you knew me that we have money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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Tough. People change. Make new friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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Weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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Fade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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Are you the "easygoing" one in the trio? I've found that if you have a reputation as being easy going that people will say to your face what they might say behind your back. If this bothers you, I'd say something like: You know, your comments about my appearance really make me uncomfortable. And, don't take it too personally, I think many women put down other women to elevate themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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OP: I am definitely the type that you can say that I look like I'm going to the Hamptons or a bum and I will shrug and move on. It was the repeating of the conversation that gives me pause. As I said earlier...if my wardrobe is getting this kind of treatment...I can only imagine how other aspects of my life are being discussed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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How long have you known these women. My BFF and I have a strained relationship since our net worth has gone up. I never talk about money but clearly, when we're vacationing in Europe, and she's vacationing at the local beach, there are evident disparities. If you value these relationship, why not say something like: I've noticed that the two of you are increasingly critical of me. What gives? I can't believe that they criticized your housekeeping! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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OP: Since college. We are all about to turn 40. I think there is a bit of issue with money. We lived abroad for seven years and moved back three years ago. When we purchased our house, these issues started coming out...which is weird because I have always had a good job and so has my DH. And incomes vary within the circle of friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP: Since college. We are all about to turn 40. I think there is a bit of issue with money. We lived abroad for seven years and moved back three years ago. When we purchased our house, these issues started coming out...which is weird because I have always had a good job and so has my DH. And incomes vary within the circle of friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:35 PM Flag
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Alternatively, "kill 'em with kindness". "I always love the way you dress. Tell me your secret?" "You make Martha Stewart look like Pigpen, what's your secret." I don't think they can help themselves, but you can take the high road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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OP: At this point, I think I'm going to slow fade. This was the last of a thousand cuts. There has been a lot of other stuff I have just kind of brushed aside and ignored. I'm not sure why this bothers me so much but it really hurt my feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:37 PM Flag
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Maybe just let them grow up! You aren't the same person you were in college, and they haven't adapted to the changes in your circumstances. I had to distance myself from my friend since she treated me like a kid (she's 10 years older than I), and it took her a while to catch up to the face that I was no longer her little shadow. Now, we're cool...and I'm glad I didn't sever the ties. People who have known you that long are an important part of your history, and you don't want to totally lose that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:42 PM Flag
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good plan,OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Wedding is going to be majority DH's family - his family is much larger than mine and he has more friends than me too. Anyone else? A little worried about it. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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As long as h and his family pay for it. Otherwise, go small. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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Are your parents paying? Why would you agree.to this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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OP should go out and hire people to act as her family and friends. They should also be classy, quiet and well-behaved unlike DH2B crowd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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Are your parents paying? Why would you agree.to this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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His family pays for his guests, your family pays for yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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Me and my mom were the only family on my side. DH had 80% of the guest list. It's as big a deal as you make it. My mom and his parents went 50% on paying for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] If your parents were extradorinarily wealthy and DH's parents were struggling, would you feel comfortable asking your parents to ask them out? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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Probably not. Can you provide details? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:15 PM Flag
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Wouldn't know unless in that situation. Hate hypotheticals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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I wouldn't ask but my parents would offer. For sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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DH's parents are struggling and we help them out; I don't feel like it is really our responsibility much less that of my parent's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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Your parents no. Your dh ... yes it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:25 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:38 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:45 PM Flag
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Or: no, it's not. They had good jobs but blew their money on silly things, like 10k on a video to promote MIL's "Caberet Act". They didn't save a dime or buy a house. Each of their three kids gives them $800 a month, ours comes mostly out of our savings because we can't afford it. In the meantime, they refuse to cancel cable ( we don't have cable ) and are spending $1500 a month at the grocery store because they insist on salmon, and steak every single week, plus a ton of booze. I can barely manage to put $25 a month in my dd 529 plan but we are supporting them. they also bring in about $40k per year in pension and SS, but can't live on that. So, excuse me for being pissed. You bitches have NO idea what you are talking about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:16 PM Flag
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I would be mortified either way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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Ask them out to dinner or help them out with cash? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:41 PM Flag
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OP, why not clarify? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:50 PM Flag
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Ask them out for dinner? Or help them out financially? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:41 PM Flag
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No, but if my extraordinarily wealthy parents help me out, I would help since I am in a better position to help them. If it was a situation where my in-laws are nice and they might lose their house, I would ask my parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] How smart is Jessica Alba? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:05 PM Flag
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Smart or smart enough to get smart people working for her to create a billion dollar business [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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Is it really worth a billion dollars? How much annual revenue does it have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:12 PM Flag
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I'd say if your net worth is $340 million, you're pretty smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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Trump is stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:24 PM Flag
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We don't know his net worth... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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I wonder if he was smarter, or at least sharper at some point. Seems like he has dementia or some other issues now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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She is a distant relative of Alan Dershowitz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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yuck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Does AMA discourage doctors from dating or being friends with former patients? Is there a certain time limit imposed? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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no as long as they aren't currently treating you with the exception of a psychiatrist who should never date a past patient [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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No. You can also treat family members if you want. My DH has operated on pretty much everyone in our family, including the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:15 PM Flag
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This doesn't sound right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:45 PM Flag
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Slightly related, the summer after HS, I was dating this guy who's father was a doctor. A couple weeks into dating, I realized that his father was actually my primary doctor whom I'd been seeing for years. It was like OMG, your dad has seen me naked! Needless to say, the first time he invited me to his parents house, it was a tad awkward. But it ended up being NBD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] College senior here. Any questions? 352 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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BYDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:54 PM Flag
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Did you just graduate or are you a rising senior? What are you studying and what do you plan to do post college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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I just graduated a few days ago. I majored in history, I'm taking a year off and then I'm applying to law school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:58 PM Flag
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^By a "few days" ago I mean around mother's day haha. This sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:01 PM Flag
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What are you doing in your year off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:01 PM Flag
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I've been "on" since middle school, and I'm taking a year to decompress. I'm going to do a lot of traveling in Europe with an ex boyfriend, and then I have an internship lined up in the political sphere (so I have something to slap on my applications). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:05 PM Flag
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np: I traveled for a few years post college and then went to law school. I wish I would have gone straight into a PhD program after college and then just traveled intermittently during that. I chose law school since I was 27 and wanted to start a family by 30 whereas a PhD would take me until 33 or 34. Just something to consider if you are thinking of going the PhD route. Better to start that sooner rather than later. You can always travel during the numerous breaks and summers during grad school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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I considered that, but I don't think I could have handled another three straight years of academic pressure. In order to do well in grad school, I desperately needed some time off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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What college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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Top 5 public college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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So Michigan, UCLA, Berkeley, UNC, Virginia? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:06 PM Flag
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One of those exact schools, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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Not UCLA... still in school... maybe Cal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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Go Blue! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:42 PM Flag
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major? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:55 PM Flag
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History. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:58 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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I've always loved it for a myriad of reasons, and as a result I was able to get great grades and enjoy myself. I'm planning on going to law/grad school so my major didn't really matter long term, the GPA was the more important thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:02 PM Flag
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so you haven't applied to law school or grad school yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:06 PM Flag
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Nope, I considered applying this year and then deferring, but sometimes deferrals get denied and my slight college confidential obsession opened me up to the possibility of just taking a year off. I already took the LSAT and did most of the leg work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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you used the word "myriad" incorrectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:08 PM Flag
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Sue me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:09 PM Flag
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Nope, acceptable to use it two ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:13 AM Flag
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college lets out in early May. Did you just graduate or you're taking summer classes after junior year and are technically a senior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:56 PM Flag
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I graduated a bit ago, welp. I choose to identify as a college senior though, because I basically am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:59 PM Flag
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Are you in a relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:57 PM Flag
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No, I was casually dating somebody and we might meet up this summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:00 PM Flag
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u have a myriad of options don't worry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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what kind of DH do you imagine yourself with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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I don't really think about marriage that much. It will probably happen some day, but not right now. Who knows who I will like when I'm 30. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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Are you really planning on waiting until 30 to find someone? By 30 you will be too late to the game and all the top quality guys will be off the market married to women they met at 25 who were thinking ahead more than you are about marriage and their odds of landing a higher quality guy. It's simple economics. The longer you wait, the smaller and less desirable the pool of men gets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:14 PM Flag
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Not saying you can't get married at 30, but your chances of finding someone as smart as you will drastically go down at 30 since you will be competing with women 10 years younger than you. Men want youthful women. This is true across all cultures throughout history. Didn't you learn this in your history classes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:15 PM Flag
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NP: oh my god. Do not listen to this woman. Live your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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You can live your life and keep your eye out for a high quality DH at the same time. They aren't mutually exclusive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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You seem extremely high strung. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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Marriage really isn't that important to me, and I think it's very difficult to find long term success when life is so variable. I imagine I'll probably meet somebody in law school or work if that ever happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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what do you mean by "I think it's very difficult to find long term success when life is so variable." You think people who get married are less likely to be sucessful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:23 PM Flag
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I meant in a relationship, I'm not the person I was four years ago and I imagine I will say the same when I graduate from law school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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the brain continues to develop until around age 25. after that you are pretty much the same person. You should aim to find a DH around age 25. You will be at a much bigger disadvantage if you wait until age 30. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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I'll probably enter into a serious relationship around that time (later years of law school, jobs, etc.). That's when you meet people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:51 PM Flag
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Eye roll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:51 AM Flag
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You are correct. I am 34 and I am not the same person i was at 25. Do not listen to these people. BTW I am getting married in September to someone I met when I was 32. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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np 28 year old here. In what ways are you different at 34 than 25? I feel like I have similar values to when I was 25. I changed a lot from 18-25 but I think the past 3 years I have known who I am and what I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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Lilly, ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:58 PM Flag
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In a heartbeat, you'll be 40++ with v.limited prospects. Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:51 AM Flag
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Psycho moron [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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she's right and that makes you angry because you didn't follow this advice. Op is smart enough to see that she is right too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:42 PM Flag
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Hi lilly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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THIS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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SHUT UP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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if it weren't true, then it wouldn't make you so angry. you're angry because you know she is right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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It makes me angry because it's BAD ADVICE. I married at 25 and regret it. Most of my friends who married young (before late 20s) also have some regrets. I would have been better off waiting even if it meant I never got married. It's 2017, marriage is no longer "necessary" in order to live a normal, fun, fulfilling life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:53 PM Flag
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^To add to this - I think whomever is giving this "advice" must be young. And if you're young, you have no business telling this OP when she should get married. The jury is still out on YOUR marriage. Give it time -- once you hit 40s-50s, you'll see things differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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I'm 43, married 17 years. I'm glad I met my husband at 24 and got married at 26. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:53 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:50 AM Flag
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how many kids do you want? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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Maybe one, I've never really been one of the girls that really wanted kids. If I get married and I think I could provide a good life for a child, I might go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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How did you find UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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I was googling my middle school and it came up in the search results. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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why were you googling your middle school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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I don't know, I was probably looking up classmates or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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your middle school published a list of students? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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Why do you post on a mom forum? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:10 PM Flag
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The same reason I watch tv or browse reddit. It's fun drama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:13 PM Flag
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I love reddit. what are your favorite subreddits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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I follow a lot of tv subreddits for different fandoms. I'm partial to /r/iamverysmart /r/crappydesign /r/accidentalrenaissance and /r/badhistory among others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:21 PM Flag
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I'm reading /r/iamverysmart right now. this is good stuff. Can you give me some more recommendations on subreddits? I have 160 IQ and enjoy topics involving science, humor, interpersonal relationships, and existential thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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Lilly omg get a fucking life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:56 PM Flag
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Lilly again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:13 PM Flag
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What are your thoughts on contemporary feminism? What do you agree and disagree with when it comes to mainstream feminism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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I self identify as a feminist, but I strongly believe that it is important to look at both sides of an issue. I think a lot of people on my side of the political spectrum, especially in my feminist circles, are so linear in their line of thought that it kind of prevents any rationality. Modern feminism in my circles is about 10% women's rights and 90% "intersectional" gender/racial stuff. I support freedom of speech more than anything else, and I can't get down with the stupid 'white men' memey feminism that's so popular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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how old were you when you lost your virginity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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It was around winter break of my freshman year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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did you get in state tuition at your college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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No, I'm out of state but I had scholarship money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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how many AP classes did you take? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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7 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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What was your SAT and ACT score? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:11 PM Flag
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I got a 2210 on the SAT and a 33 on the ACT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:16 PM Flag
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Nice stats. Did you get a full scholarship to college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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No, I had a partial scholarship. My stats aren't that out of the ordinary for my school, but I did a lot of volunteer work/leadership crap and got awarded for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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What a nice and sincere person "volunteer work crap" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:55 AM Flag
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how many guys have you had sex with? or girls too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:12 PM Flag
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4 guys, 1 girl (depending on how you define 'sex'). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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have you ever hooked up with a girl? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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Yes, see the post above you. Wasn't for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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what traits did your ex boyfriend have that you liked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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I don't really have a specific type. The ex I legitimately loved was really into me and that was totally a fix for my daddy issues. He was really hot too, bit of a player (I'm the only girl he's actually dated), a bit wild where I'm more cautious, very smart. We both liked the same literature and were friends for a long time. He was the type of person I would sit up with at like 2am and have long conversations with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:25 PM Flag
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is he the one you are going to Europe with? Why did you break up? Just curious because my 16 yo DD is dating a boy who I think might be a player. I've been a little worried about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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Yes, that's the one. I responded to you below:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:44 PM Flag
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Thank you. I replied to you again. Sorry, but I'm really struggling with this and would love to hear the insights of a younger woman who has some experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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No problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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what social class were you raised? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:17 PM Flag
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It varied greatly throughout my life. I was raised legitimately middle class or lower middle class, but my step-dad (they got married when I was in middle school) makes like $400k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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was he a nice guy? how did you mom land a guy like that with a kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:24 PM Flag
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My mother is really really pretty. He's alright, they don't have the best relationship but she's no saint either. He's kind of OCD and a bit stingy, but she enjoys not working or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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did she work while you were young prior to meeting your step dad? why did you parents divorce? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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Yeah, she was in grad school when they met, worked at the college (she was 20 when I was born and my grandmother babysat me a lot). My biological parents were never married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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do you talk to your bio dad? how often did you see him growing up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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We don't, and like never. He's not a part of my life and I don't consider him family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:44 PM Flag
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are you facebook friends with him? did he ever remarry and have more kids? are you mad at him for being absent in your childhood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:47 PM Flag
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I don't use facebook for anything other than my college's groups. I honestly have no idea what he is up to these days, and I don't care to find out. Mad isn't the right word, I don't feel anything about him at this point in my life. It hurt when I was younger, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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What are your other alter egos? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:18 PM Flag
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??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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Lilly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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what other websites do you frequent besides UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:19 PM Flag
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Tumblr, reddit, and buzzfeed are my main spots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:27 PM Flag
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what do you like about each of those sites? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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Tumblr is great for fandom stuff (I make the occasional gifset in my free time), fanfiction recs, aesthetic posts, general shit. Reddit is a great place for discussing all sorts of stuff. Buzzfeed is just mindless entertainment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Have you ever had a one night stand or were all the guys you had sex with boyfriends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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They weren't boyfriends, but I knew all of them very well. I'm very cautious in that area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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Would you say that you are unusual? Are most of your friends (or other college students in general) very casual about sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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I'd say it's a mix. The people I'm friends with tend to be better about things like this, but a lot of people are lax with casual guyfriends. Everybody uses condoms for hookups. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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Did you use condoms every time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Yes, aside from in one long term relationship after seeing the STD check. I'm a bit paranoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:47 PM Flag
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How will you pay your living and travel expenses during your year off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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My mom is spotting me a lot of it, but I worked/saved for a while and my ex-boyfriend has money so he'll cover the big costs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:28 PM Flag
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why would you want to travel with your ex boyfriend? won't that be awkward if you want to hook up with a guy you meet abroad or if he wants to hook up with a girl he meets abroad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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It's not like that. We're very close friends and it's all pretty chill between us (or at least, it is on my end). It wouldn't bother me, I'm not really the jealous type when it comes to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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and you don't care if it bothers him if you hook up with other guys and that breaks his heart? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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I'm not likely to do that in general. Honestly, I don't want to hurt him but we're not together anymore, so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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so he's still in love with you and you are using him as a back up guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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We were friends before, and we're friends now. You know when you meet somebody and you just "click" with them? That's how we are, we just mesh well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:36 PM Flag
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so why is he an ex? why did you break up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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I figured it was better to break up sooner rather than later before things got too serious. We're obviously not going to be living near each other forever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:45 PM Flag
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what was your favorite aspect about your school? least favorite? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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I really like the campus vibe and the freedom to be whoever you want. My least favorite aspect is the overall administration department and not being able to get the classes I want/the registration system (so fucking annoying). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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how hot are you 1 - 10? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:20 PM Flag
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You'd have to define a 1 and a 10. I'm a really solid 6.5 without makeup, maybe a 7 with. Most people would describe me as cute, I'd say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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Did you use yik yak before it shut down? what are other anonymous apps like yik yak that college students use? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:21 PM Flag
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I used it, found it kind of boring (too much stupid spam in my area). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:29 PM Flag
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what do kids use now that yik yak is out of business? what are yik yak equivalent apps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:31 PM Flag
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I don't really think there is one. Nobody uses Yeti or any replacements as far as I'm aware. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:47 PM Flag
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DD is thinking of trying to stay with her HS boyfriend (they will be at different colleges). Did you know anyone who did this? How did it work out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:22 PM Flag
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Yeah, that never works. There was a breakup week in freshman year, but most people cut it off in June of their senior year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Meaning that they breakup in June before leaving for college? What do you mean a "breakup week" in Freshman year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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Yup, "we're going to stay together forever" relationships dropped like flies in the June of my senior year of high school. Somewhere around the second or third week of my freshman year of college everybody was breaking up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:38 PM Flag
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np: I know a few couples who were long distance all the way through college or multiple years through college when one went to grad school and then other was still finishing college. It definitely works if you want it to work. DH and I were long distance 2 years when I was in grad school. I know many couples who were long distances at least a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:32 PM Flag
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Interesting. Thanks. I'll be very curious to see how they handle this... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:33 PM Flag
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I knew people who did that and a lot of them cheated tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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I know plenty who didn't. Facetime makes it pretty easy to bridge the distance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:53 PM Flag
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what brand of birth control do you take? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:30 PM Flag
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Mirena IUD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:40 PM Flag
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what age did you get it implanted? how long does it last? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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Last year, like 5 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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what birth control were you on when you had sex with those 4 guys in college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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I was just on the pill back then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:40 PM Flag
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do you have any siblings? are they as smart as you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:34 PM Flag
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I'm an only child as far as I know. My mother is still trying, though, so we'll see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:41 PM Flag
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she's trying at age 43? yikes. did she freeze eggs when she was younger and is doing IVF now? I think you will remain an only child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:44 PM Flag
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They've been trying since I was in high school, so I tend to agree with you. They're doing a bunch of fertility treatments now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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my bf just got p at 42 after trying a lot so you never know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:24 PM Flag
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bff i meant :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:24 PM Flag
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They've been trying since I was in high school, so I tend to agree with you. They're doing a bunch of fertility treatments now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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sounds like they will probably end up divorced in the next 3-5 years and he will go find a younger woman to have kids with. do they have a pre-nup? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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Everybody thought that the day they got married. They just keep on staying together. No, they don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:40 PM Flag
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You said above that your ex-bf was a bit of a player. I'm a little worried that my 16 yo DD is dating a player. How did your boyfriend treat you? Was he loyal? Did you breakup because he was a player? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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He really loved me, but we were friends for a while so our dynamic was a lot different. He was always never affectionate towards me, and loyal as far as I'm aware. We broke up because I didn't see a long term future and figured it was better to break up sooner rather than later. In general, I'd steer clear of guys like that, though. Rarely ends up going well, esp in high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:43 PM Flag
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Thanks. DD and her boyfriend were also close friends for a while and during that time, he told her that he's had blowjobs from a few girls and has made out with lots of girls, but was still a virgin. He's never had a "real" girlfriend until DD--just girls he "hung out" with. Honestly, he seems to really like her--he's been very attentive and she spends a lot of time with his family (and he with us). But I can't shake the information he gave her when they were "just friends." I think she's really attached to him and I'm worried that he's going to be a womanizer. I've been really stressed about this and am wondering how to handle it with DD. I would welcome any insights you might have. I might be old fashioned. Maybe blowjobs and making out at 16 is no big deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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At 16, that's not really a big deal. Their friendship probably won't last (I remember high school drama) but if they are friends he's less likely to treat her like crap. Might turn out well, you never know. It could be A LOT worse at that age. I'd make sure to remind her that she should have a life outside of this guy, so many of my high school friends got all consumed by their boyfriends and as a result were completely devastated when they broke up. Also, you should probably get her on birth control. They're going to have sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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Thank you. I really appreciate this. Interesting that you don't necessarily think the BJs and make-outs with girls are that big of a deal. It wouldn't totally surprise me if they are one of those "off and on" couples through HS. Given their age, I would be surprised if it lasted all the way through HS without a "break" (or breakup) from time to time. But we'll see. They really seem to care about each other, I just hope she's not a conquest in his mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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They're really not a big deal at that age. My friends were doing way worse, and I was with the academic kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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Okay. Thank you. Seriously. You have helped someone today by responding to this thread. Good luck to you. I was a history major, too, and still love the subject. I've never regretted studying what I love. Enjoy your year off and safe travels! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:02 PM Flag
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Thank you, will do!! Glad to help out:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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is your ex boyfriend also a history major? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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No, political science/global something or another. He got really into the "how many minors can I cram into my degree" thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:46 PM Flag
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haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:49 PM Flag
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what do your parents do for work? general field is fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:35 PM Flag
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My mom doesn't work, my step dad has a small law firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:46 PM Flag
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what does she do all day now that her only child is an adult and she's only in her early forties? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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She talks on the phone to friends, watches HGTV, and grocery shops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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Do you feel like growing up with a stay at home mom made you want to go in the other direction and not take that route? or were you glad she was a stay at home mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:52 PM Flag
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By the time my mother was a stay at home mom I was old enough to do things on my own. She was able to bring me to stuff and that was nice, but it didn't have a major impact on my life. I've just never been the type of person who would do well as a stay at home mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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what type of person do you think does well as a stay at home mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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People who enjoy kids and staying in house/doing kid activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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did you lose your virginity to a guy who loved you and you were in a relationship with? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:36 PM Flag
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No, just a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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do you wish it had been with someone you loved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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Not really, there is too much pressure on how you lose your virginity. I was with somebody who was caring and I felt safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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do you still talk to him/are you still friends with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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We were friendly before he graduated. No hard feelings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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do you plan on having sex with your ex boyfriend during this year abroad with him? Would you have sex with him if he wanted to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:37 PM Flag
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If the moment called for it, probably. It was great sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:49 PM Flag
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How does your mom feel about your traveling with an ex boyfriend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:51 PM Flag
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My mom is pretty religious, but she just believes what she wants to. She doesn't care that much at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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Do you imagine yourself as a stay at home mom after having kids or a work outside the home mom after having kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:39 PM Flag
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SAHM and homeschooling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:49 PM Flag
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hi twin. I plan to also SAHM and homeschool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:49 PM Flag
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lilly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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I 100% don't see myself doing that. If anything, my husband would have to stay home. It's just not who I am as a person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:49 PM Flag
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why is it not who you are as a person. because you aren't nurturing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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I'm not that into kids (kids like me, but I find it exhausting). I don't think I would enjoy it any more than the averagely successful man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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describe your ideal husband or boyfriend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:40 PM Flag
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Nice, smart, intellectual, attractive, loyal, enjoys reading. Those are my basic requirements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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biggest turn off to you in a guy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:40 PM Flag
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Stupidity is pretty high up there. But basic requirements aside, my biggest turn off is when a guy pretends to be way cooler than he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:50 PM Flag
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what are you feelings on the fact that your mom is TTC when you are a grown adult and may have your own kids in a few years who would be around the same age as your brother or sister. is that icky to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:45 PM Flag
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I don't think they should be having kids in the first place, because they're not necessarily the best people to have kids. But yes, it really grosses me out. The times I found out she was pregnant (she miscarried) it never really felt real to me. Talking about it is so uncomfortable for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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how old were you when she miscarried? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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There were two that I know of and I'm sure a few more (she didn't tell me about the last one until afterwards). I think 15 or 16 and 18. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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how old were you when your parents split up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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Negative nine months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:57 PM Flag
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when is the last time you saw him? is he nice to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:59 PM Flag
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I think I was 13, maybe. He's nice enough in the moment, we've never spent significant amounts of time together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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were they in a relationship when you were conceived or was it just a hookup type of thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:01 PM Flag
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Just a hookup type of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:41 PM Flag
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how long has your step dad been in your life? do you love him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:48 PM Flag
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Since I was around 10 or 11. He's alright, I enjoy the time we occasionally spend together and I'd be sad if he died, but he doesn't really feel like a part of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:58 PM Flag
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do you have step siblings from him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:00 PM Flag
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I haven't spoken to him since I started college. I'm 99% sure he isn't married, but who knows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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huh? step siblings would be your step dad's kids. you haven't spoken to your step dad from staring college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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Oh, I thought this was about my biological father. Sorry. My step dad doesn't have any kids and my mom is his first wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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what do you like about UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:53 PM Flag
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It's fun to read through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:08 PM Flag
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what has been your biggest hardship in life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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My childhood was pretty rough, not the worst but very unstable. I feel like my life is split into two parts, as my later years (after my mom got married) were so normal compared to that time of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:09 PM Flag
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what was abnormal about your life prior to her marriage to your step dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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I was mostly raised by my grandmother on a daily basis, and they fought over me a lot. My mom was very young compared to most moms, and my father wasn't involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:17 PM Flag
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are you close with your grandma these days? do she and your mom still fight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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She actually passed away a couple years ago, which was devastating for me. They argued for most of my life, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:41 PM Flag
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I'm sorry for your loss. Seems like she helped raised a wonderful granddaughter and would be very proud of you for your graduation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:44 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:00 AM Flag
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what political causes do you most care about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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Freedom of speech, net neutrality, the education system, women's rights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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what worries you most about the future? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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That the political sphere will implode. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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what drugs have you done? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:54 PM Flag
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Weed, adderall, xanax, molly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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have you tried anal sex before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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No, it's just not appealing to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:10 PM Flag
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what TV shows do you like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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That's going to be a long list. Let's see, off the top of my head: Arrested Development, Castle, Chuck, White Collar, The Vampire Diaries (until season 4), Riverdale, Skam... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:12 PM Flag
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Do you talk to your mom about your sex life? Does she know you and ex boyfriend will likely be hooking up during your travels? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:55 PM Flag
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Oh god, no. We both prefer not to have that conversation, like ever. She chooses to believe what she wants to about me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:11 PM Flag
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so she thinks you're a virgin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:13 PM Flag
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I think she would like to think that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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what graduate programs are you considering? with a history major I would think maybe masters in social work or education? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:56 PM Flag
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I'm actually considering getting a MBA, or maybe diving deeper into the humanities (which I'm not going to do because I know there is no money in that). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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don't you need business experience for an MBA? traveling isn't exactly business experience [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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I actually minored in business (that's how I got my step father to foot a good chunk of the bill), but most MBA programs accept a wide variety of people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:43 PM Flag
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you sound smart but kind of boring and average and like you are living your life just following the crowd. what makes you exceptional? You're too smart to be this much of a conformist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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Nobody who knows me would describe me that way, I've never really been that person (and not necessarily in a positive way). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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do you masturbate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:03 PM Flag
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Yes, doesn't everybody? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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I don't. I've never been able to. I've tried about a dozen times, but it never works for me. I'm only turned on by sex with my DH. Any tips for how to be a sucessful masturbator? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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I'd suggest seeing a doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:28 PM Flag
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I don't think it's a medical issue since I orgasm just fine with DH, i think it's a psychological thing probably like I have to feel safe. maybe i don't feel safe and comfortable alone with myself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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Maybe, I think some things just don't work for people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:02 PM Flag
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favorite anonymous websites and apps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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Reddit is anonymous if you're doing it right. 4Chan is a cesspool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:19 PM Flag
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how do you do it right do that your posts on one subreddit don't appear in your history when you write on another subreddit? do you just delete all your posts after you make them? Does deleting the posts also delete the karma associated with those posts or does the karma remain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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Don't attach any person information, and overwrite your comment history regularly (several apps that will do this). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:27 PM Flag
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what apps? what does overwrite your comment history mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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favorite college class? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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I took this Intro Drama class to fill a requirement and it was my favorite because the professor was the most awesome person on the planet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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what is your most embarrassing memory from college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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Picked my nose accidentally in front of somebody on the first day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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have you ever had bad sex or a bad hookup experience? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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I've had fairly mediocre sex before. I haven't slept with that many people, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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did you know anyone who was raped at your school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:04 PM Flag
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Yes, in both high school and college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:21 PM Flag
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what are your thoughts on the dynamics of UB and the generation of women 10-20 years older than you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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I think they're more focused on family life and dating than we are. And women especially seem to care less about politics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:22 PM Flag
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do you use Bumble BFF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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No, I hate dating apps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:20 PM Flag
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Bumble BFF is not a dating app, it's a friendship app [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:23 PM Flag
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Oh, Bumble's a dating app though. I think it's stupid to use apps like that when you're on a college campus. I meet people constantly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:44 PM Flag
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well how are you going to meet people now that you aren't in college this summer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:42 PM Flag
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I'm pretty socially outgoing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:00 AM Flag
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have you ever been in trouble for anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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Not seriously in college, a few minor infractions in high school (got caught underage drinking but wasn't charged). Though I abide by the rules, I'm definitely a bit rebellious and have snapped back at my fair share of teachers throughout the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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why would you snap at a teacher? what happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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how often do you smoke weed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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Not that often these days, but most weekends my sophomore year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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what kind of music do you like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:05 PM Flag
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I like a little bit of everything. I'm very temperamental with food, people, music, etc. I'm in an early 2000s punk pop thing right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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How many guys have you been in love with? Have those same guys been in love with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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I've only actually been in love with one guy (he returned those feelings). As far as I'm aware, three guys (1 in high school) have loved me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:25 PM Flag
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did you love all 3 of those guys back? Is the guy you loved who loved you too your ex bf or someone else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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I thought I loved one of the other guys, but I didn't. He's my ex-boyfriend, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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what was your experience like with your college roommates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:06 PM Flag
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My freshman roommate was really type A. Great roommate, but we were never going to be best friends or anything. My other roommate was a girl I was friends with that was super chill and gone most of the time, which was awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:26 PM Flag
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what colleges did you apply to and which did you get accepted to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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I got accepted into Brown, Vanderbilt, (the school I'm currently attending), some other top five publics. Applied to Harvard, UPenn, Brown, Vanderbilt, Duke, and several public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:29 PM Flag
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if you could go back in time and give your 15 year old self some advice, what would it be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:07 PM Flag
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Stop to breathe sometimes, and don't feel the need to be friends with people who aren't nice to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:31 PM Flag
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what kind of guy does your mom think you should marry? what career path does she push your toward? or does she want you to be a stay at home mom like her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:13 PM Flag
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My mother's really into the marriage thing, she wants me to settle down with a Christian man more than anything. She approves of the law thing, any "practical" career is fine with her. She doesn't care if I stay at home or anything like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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Thanks for answering our questions. You seem like an awesome young lady. Good luck in your travels and graduate school endeavors. You have a bright future ahead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:14 PM Flag
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No problem, and thank you so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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did you feel lonely being an only child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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I worry a lot about being alone when I get older, because I don't really have a big family net. I think it shaped who I am today, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:32 PM Flag
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do you wish your parents had gotten married and tried to make it work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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I wish my father was a different person, but I can't imagine him married to my mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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Do you resent your bio dad for not sticking around? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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I felt a lot of grief over the whole situation when I was younger and insecure. I don't feel anything towards him these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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Do you call your step dad "dad" or by his first name? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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Absolutely not, I call him by his first name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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why absolutely not if he supported you and your mom through a majority of your upbringing and allowed your mom to stay home and raise you full time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:39 PM Flag
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We don't have that kind of relationship, he's just kind of there. And he didn't support my mom so she could raise me, he supported her because she didn't make enough money for the inconvenience to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:47 PM Flag
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Congratulations on your recent graduation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:15 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:33 PM Flag
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Did you like your step dad from the time you met him or not a first but then over time you liked him more? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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He's always been pleasant enough towards me, he's kind of off though and I don't really care that much about him. I liked him less the more I knew him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:34 PM Flag
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what is your mom's approximate IQ and education level? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:16 PM Flag
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My mother's actually incredibly smart, though it's not very obvious (her professionally tested IQ is in the 99.9%, we had an argument about this once). She's smarter than me at certain things, but I'm the better decision maker. She had a rough relationship with her father/childhood, and is very much obsessed with needing men to love her (in my non professional opinion). Growing up, it was always about guys more so than moving her life along. She has a master's degree, and was supposed to go to med school before she met my step dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:38 PM Flag
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supposed to go meaning she got accepted and never went or she never got around to applying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:42 PM Flag
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How's the lawsuit going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:18 PM Flag
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what lawsuit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:24 PM Flag
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What are your fandoms? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:54 PM Flag
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I was really into the Hunger Games when I was younger, but I've kind of fizzled out of that. Recently, I've been into Skam, but over the year I was really into Castle/TVD/PLL/Sherlock/the historical fandom (it's a thing on tumblr)/Reign. [ Reply | More ]
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what's Skam? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:41 PM Flag
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Skam is this Norwegian teen show that's bizarrely popular on tumblr/social media. I feel like most of my friends have heard about it, a lot of people are into it for this gay couple ship (Evak), but I'm in it for the earlier seasons. The current season 4 is kind of destroying all the characters, though. [ Reply | More ]
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what are fandoms and why do you like them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:41 PM Flag
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They're basically group networks of fans about tv/movies/celebs/etc. They're a lot of fun and people make gifs/fanvids/discussions/etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:13 AM Flag
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How prevalent is sports culture on your campus? Does it drastically affect your experience to make it either better or worse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 05:55 PM Flag
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I mean, it's there and people are pretty hype about it. I think it can be really fun sometimes, but I don't genuinely care if we win or lose tbh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:01 PM Flag
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FAKE. ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:05 PM Flag
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not a single post that gets more than 60 responses doesn't get called fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:09 PM Flag
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No, I don't think so. I have a college senior/just graduated DC. The OP sounds pretty authentic to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:17 PM Flag
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Ditto. I have a dd who is a college senior and this OP sounds very much like my dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:59 PM Flag
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Lilly and Stephanie are chatting again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:07 PM Flag
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which one is which? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:40 PM Flag
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what do you think of stay at home moms who are highly educated and choose not to work and to stay home full time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:45 PM Flag
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NP- I'm jealous, of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:17 AM Flag
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I have nothing against them, different strokes. It's just not a life choice for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:01 AM Flag
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what are you doing this summer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:45 PM Flag
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Traveling, mostly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:01 AM Flag
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are you living with your mom and step dad post graduation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 06:46 PM Flag
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Here and there, but I'll be away/with friends for more than a couple weeks. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you sad that you don't have a man in your life to call dad? Do you think this negatively affects you in any way? particularly when it comes to relationships with boyfriends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:08 PM Flag
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I think I certainly missed out on a lot of experiences and that bothers me. I'm not angry any more though, because there's nothing that can be done about it. Oh, I'm sure it has shaped who I am as a person in some way, as did a lot of other things. I think I'm overly protective of myself and too scared of being heart when it comes to guys. It's worked out a lot better for me than the alternative, though. [ Reply | More ]
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What were your top 5 college choices when you were applying? Was the school you attended one of your top choice schools or somewhere in the middle of the pack or a safety school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 07:09 PM Flag
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It was in the middle of my list. I got into better schools (I really wanted to go to Brown), but $$$ was vitally important to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:05 AM Flag
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Why law school? Curious as to your goals. I don't have any happy law friends outside public interest. BigLaw jobs are hard to get and harder to keep. Where would you like to be in ten years? [ Reply | More ]
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I actually plan on doing something in the public interest. I've taken the LSAT and have a good shot at a top tier law school, so I should have decent career options. I have a friend who just went into lobbying, and he seems to enjoy that. I'll probably go the clerkship to public sector work route that everybody else I know does. My step aunt went into federal law enforcement with her law degree. [ Reply | More ]
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No, I hate college seniors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 08:56 PM Flag
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I have a college senior dd and I'll bet the two of you would hit it off. You sound very similar to her. Good luck with your coming year and good luck whether you apply to law school, business school, masters/PhD program or just work! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:01 PM Flag
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Thank you, that's really sweet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 06:11 AM Flag
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how many men have you slept with? what do you think is the average number of partners a college senior has had? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:25 PM Flag
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I was you about 20 years ago; our stories are shockingly similar (down to your amateur psychological assessment of your mother!). It all turned out pretty well for me. Good luck, OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:39 PM Flag
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Hi OP. You sound very sweet and level-headed. Good luck to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:43 PM Flag
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Why the hell would you go to law school? Awful profession. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:50 PM Flag
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Yes, dying to know what the plan is with law. My frenemy just got fired from partnership at a mid-sized NYC firm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 09:54 PM Flag
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You should have questions for us... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 02:45 AM Flag
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Best response... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.17, 03:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I moved to NYC 12 years ago this week and paid $1250/month for a large alcove studio in a doorman building in Murray Hill a block from the subway. Has it really tripped in 12 years? I definitely think the mom who posted about her dd moving is naive but is it really that much more ridiculously expensive? I only made $35k and survived fine (granted it was only for a year and then I moved in with my bf who because my fiancé and now husband) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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A studio in my run of the mill building in Fort Greene is $2,150. No doorman. 7 year old building. It's a perfectly decent building (not luxury), but don't you think that's kind of ridiculous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:45 PM Flag
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Yes, totally ridiculous - Fort Greene is very nice, and a new building I'm sure is nicer in many ways than my old studio. The huge 1-bedroom dh and I had a block from the park on the uws 11 years ago was $2,200/month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 03:49 PM Flag
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Definitely tripped [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:01 PM Flag
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Meant tripled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.28.17, 04:02 PM Flag
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In 1996, I rented a large one bedroom in Carroll Gardens for $1050. I thought it was outrageous and that my landlords were taking advantage of me. [ Reply | More ]
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