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[ - ] 3yo is whining and crying, nightmare. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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yeah and what else is new. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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How do you handle adult life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Op: constant manis and Pilates classes with some serious Bloomies retail tx! Fuck off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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Ignore, ignore, ignore. Act like being with his whiny person is you absolute favorite thing to do. If you are always positive around your kids, eventually they will be too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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NP I do the opposite. Ignore until they stop wining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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This too shall pass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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That describes my 2 yo DD as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What does "security" mean to you? I'm watching Eve Ensler's (writer of vagina monologues) TED talk on this. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Feeling safe, being able to pay all bills, go on vacation, ability to go to a doctor if I need one, knowing I can always pay our mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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feeling safe = go on vacation? sounds like to you, feeling safe is about your consumption level not changing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have no idea about other people. I grew up very poor. My goals were to be able to not stress about bills, not dodge phone calls from bill collectors, go to the dentist, go to a doctor if needed, have an apartment and to be able to go on a vacation (I had never been on one until my late 20s). So yes, these all fall under security to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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"I grew up very poor" i know many of them, they aren't all about whether they can go on vacation or not. if anything, they are much more resourceful than those who didn't and can handle much more changes. they value what really matters more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Yes and I am one of them. Being able to take a vacation now that I am older is still viewed as a luxury to me. Many people take them for granted. I never will. The post didn't say list everything you value. Not sure why some posters are itching for an argument. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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Jeez. OR has a point and is talking about her experience. Why are you harping on the vacation thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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np- i wouldnt feel a lot of financial security if i couldnt afford a week at the beach once a year. taking a yearly family vacation is a staple in our household. i dont understand families who view leisure family time as anything other than very important [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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high quality leisure time can happen in your home as well. you don't need to move out of your home to have it. now, i'd have expected more like "being able to save 15% of HHI per year" or say, 20%. more than "going on an annual vacation". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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security is a myth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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this! so refreshing to me to face it head on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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A myth. It can be taken away from you at a finger snap. Anyone can lose their money. Everyone who invested with Madoff did. I also grew up without money and I'm never secure. It has to come from within. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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True. But not everyone can make a good living. Some people aren't that intelligent, so a stable job in a factory with a pension and benefits was security to them. And that's disappearing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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It isn't a myth. You need to prepare though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Door man building on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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was thinking about them too! our doormen do more for us than our family members, making us happy with warm feelings when we leave and enter the building. how sad is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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this lady is brilliant!!! she says that focusing on "security" (which is a myth, elusive) not only makes you a dull person, but also a fundamentalist. completely agree with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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So the answer is to live freely and collect welfare in old age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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don't fool yourself, almost the entire safety net in USA goes to the elderly and is welfare. so far, it's barely income and asset tested. so every elderly person in USA collects welfare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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True, but some pay in more than others. Are we supposed to kill them or let them die in the cold? That's what animals do. They just die if they can't hunt anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:52 PM Flag
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I think the answer is to accept that you and everyone you know is going to die. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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of course. that's a given. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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but it's not always accepted. We treat sickness like a tragedy instead a normal part of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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this! we waste so much extending old people's lives and nothing on the very young in comparison. we have a higher infant mortality rate than Cuba. it's an embarrassing state of affairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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the white old aren't ready to die, so they take the resources a sane society would spend on its future: the young [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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True. They also vote in large numbers. But I will take all the benefits I can get when I'm old. If companies are going to push out the old for the young, then yeah, I'll take SS and Medicare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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very true. in USA many among the whites seem to think they can fool death. we can't, and the consequences of trying to extend life beyond what's reasonable aren't pretty. we end up with old people who don't even know their own names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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cultural flaw [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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True. I think part of it is that all the medications they take extend their lives longer than they would live in the past, so then they get dementia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:54 PM Flag
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i know. who wants to live for years with dementia? it's crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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What do you mean by fundamentalist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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Having the education and skills to come back from a complete crash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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i like this! self-empowerment and confidence that you can handle anything that comes your way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Also, decide that you can still be happy if you life suddenly takes a downward turn, and know that things are guaranteed to get worse at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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yes. it helps a lot if you give importance to what really matters, which isn't as volatile as how much we can afford to consume [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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I'm happy with what I have, but I realize I have more than most everyone else and I am not entitled to this elevated class of life. I hope that if I ever have to live like the other 99% of the world, I will have the strength of character to still be happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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the less you care about status, the better you will do when that moment comes. it's going to come to the lion share of us, when we retire, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] SIL rant. SIL grew up in suburbs, but after living in NYC a few years seems to have forgotten her childhood. I could NEVER drive a car around with these kids! So annoying. Suburbs seem so scary! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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sounds like you have a lot of issues unrelated to the burbs vs urban areas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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I grew up in the suburbs and now live in the city and feel more or less the same way. The idea of living out there is horrific to me. My childhood BFF can't understand how I love my life - everyone's different. Why does you SIL bother you so? Sounds like you're the one with an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Horrific? You're proving my point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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np: I totally agree. Grew up in the burbs. I'm in the city now and can't imagine living in a house with no one sharing my walls. It does seem scary. Plus the idea of driving kids worries me too. We take subway/bus or walk everywhere and I prefer it. I also agree that it sounds like OP has the issue, like she's insecure that she lives in the burbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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I don't understand your post. How are all these thoughts related? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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I grew up in the city and fled to the suburbs after more than three decades. such a better lifestyle there. still work in manhattan, but man - I'll never move back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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hi me! know what I don't miss? a lifetime of my building staff knowing everything about me. and smelling other people's cooking and random neighbors on the elevator either speaking to me or not speaking to me, depending on things I don't know anything about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Food cooking or any random fucking noise or smell or anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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But this SIL wouldn't bother you because you are confident in your decision. The fact that this bothers OP shows she feels like she in inferior in some way. I don't get that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] UB Moms, 11th grade DD has taken a college Psychology course and a Science course over the summer after 10th grade. Does she need to include those courses when she apply to colleges next year? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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What should she do? Does she ask the college to send a transcript to her HS or directly to the colleges she want to apply? [ Reply | More ]
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There will be instructions on the application. [ Reply | More ]
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on the common app? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yes. This is your dd job to figure out. I agree you need to calm down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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She is currently oversea in a semester long exchange program in Europe and the colleges there have earlier deadlines for international students. And the time zone difference makes it hard for her to coordinate with administrations here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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Jesus. Helicopter mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Every parent is heavily involved in their kids college admissions now. I've seen co-workers work on essays at work. Totally different than when I applied. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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*different from [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Go on the website for the colleges where she took the courses. They will have links to how to acquire transcripts and send them to the colleges she applies to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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She should, because it shows outside interest in one of "her passions." Colleges are into "your passions." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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^^and if one of the professors is willing to write her a letter, so much the better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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they ask about this on common app [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Is this common? Do kids take summer course in HS to have a leg up? What is this about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Yes. Elementary schools start middle school math and english. Middle school students take HS courses to pass the SHSAT. HS students take college electives, vice versa... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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When does this begin in MS? My oldest starts MS next year and I have never heard of this. She is at a TT too. I better get with the program. How do you find the classes to take? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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hello, wake up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, a sign of the times is that the college process is now several years long, and it includes summers spent on college campuses, etc. etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] What piece of advice do you most commonly give on UB? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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Mine is 'give up sugar' I've become an unlikely evangelist for this. It's made a huge difference in my diet/weight/overall health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Omg zzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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I'm just saying it worked for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Well I'm the opposite. I do best on a low calorie balanced diet. Not everyone is the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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how do you sweeten your coffee? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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why sweeten it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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np: one of mine is stop using sugar in your coffee. It will take a few days, but you will get adjusted quickly and will learn to love your coffee without sugar. I actualy have a sweet tooth but sugar in coffee is yuck to me now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Sweetened coffee? Who does this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Get a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Relax, it will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Weight loss is 80% diet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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It's not advice, but I find myself saying "your DH is terrible" more often than I thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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wash your hands before you eat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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after a certain point in which the basics are covered and can save enough as % of HHI... put quality of life 1st. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Get a pressure cooker instead of a crockpot. Or buy Clinique Black Honey almost lipstick! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Time heals most wounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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do what's best for your family, that's your dh and kids. not the extended family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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This too shall pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Probably that things will always get better and that the poster is not alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Don't type and hold your coffee with both hands when you are in a moving vehicle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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The ongoings want who they want (unless you're a capital B billionaire); psds aren't magicians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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If this is your worse problem, count yourself lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Live within your means. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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I tell all single girls on here that they are losers because I'm a washed up old shrew whose DH is cheating with someone younger, hotter, smarter, and nicer than me :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Why don't you leave him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Because then I'll have to go back to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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Comparisons between schools are generally stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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Those shoes are uglier than my velcro sneakers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] If you know you won't need your nanny once school starts in september, how much notice do you give her? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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I would let her know mid April. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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2 weeks, good reference and severance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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How is that fair to someone you like? They will be less likely to get a good spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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NP: It really depends how much severance you give. We are considering doing this (maybe a month) but we are giving her 4 months severance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Is 4 months typical? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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I have no idea, but it seems fair. We actually may do a little more. I don't think it will take her that long to find a new job, but after 6 years we pay her better than she could get starting out for a new family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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uh no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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The severance covers looking for a job. If you can afford to not have child care give as much notice as you like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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It depends on how much you like her and how likely you think it is she will quit on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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I like her very much. Don't know how likely she is to quit and I could do without (if necessary) after mid July. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Then maybe give her some notice and try to accommodate her next job if necessary. That's what I would/will do with my nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Np: she would have to quit to start her next job, only it may not be convenient for you when she goes if you give too much notice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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NP Then I think beginning of July let her know that a) you like her and want her to stick around all summer but b) understand if she finds something great and needs to do it sooner and c) you will be a reference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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will you be hiring pt nanny after that point or using after-school program? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Toddler will be in 3 long days. I'll be home 2 days a week. If he's sick, DH can cover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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I will be needing a Nanny starting in September (due with DB in July back to work beg of Oct). Do you love her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Yes but it's complicated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the Suburbs: Two moms who set their respective husbands up on a "blind date" because they've each decided that their husband needs more friends. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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I think that's nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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So awkward for the men. [ Reply | More ]
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I've had that scene in nyc [ Reply | More ]
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Weird [ Reply | More ]
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Terrible. You have dinner as a couple first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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Agree. Too forced. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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If you want to make this happen you need to change the story to a setup to see if the men would hook up. One way to clear up any question about whether your husband is into men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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sounds gay to me. [ Reply | More ]
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Hahahah love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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My mother is always scheming to get my father more friends. [ Reply | More ]
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Some women get off on bossing their husbands around as of they are play things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Spinoff on Summit post: When all the rich NJ suburbs were growing in that part of NJ, Summit was known as the most anti-Semitic. In many areas of Summit, the brokers told Jewish families they'd probably be happier in another area. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Ancient history. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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True. But I think that kind of "anti-minority" vibe lingers. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
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Dont they have 3 temples? [ Reply | More ]
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My dad grew up in Westchester and Bronxville and Scarsdale were known as anti-semitic. I don't think there are too many jews in bronxville but Scarsdale is all jewish these days! [ Reply | More ]
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There were a few jewish families in Bronxville during the 1950s. Now blacks on the other hand.... [ Reply | More ]
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My son went to Summit MS and HS and went to at least six Bar Mitzvahs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Are post-partum girdles bad for your abdomen? I've never worn one, but I have a friend who swears by them. I thought that they would mess up your muscles? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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i wore one after having a c section and loved it. I felt it gave me a little extra support when my body was at it's weakest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Mine gave me lower back pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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They are ok for a short time, but you need to use your abdominal muscles in order to regain strength and tone in that area. If you are relying on the brace for all your support and not your own musculature / connective tissue you could be creating more of a problem for yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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^^^for example if you have a c section, picking up a heavy baby in the beginning with very weak abdominals will be difficult. You can wear the support at times while also working separately on store thing your transverse so you don't have up rely on a brace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Sorry, restoring [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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I'm really curious about this. I wore spanx everyday in my 30's and now don't and my entire torso is a mess. I even have a fupa and never had bio kids! Basically I look like I've had kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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I posted above. Same applies to spanx. You need to use your own ab muscles and they need to function well w coordinating muscles. This is my expertise, physio. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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I also think that being in a constant state "held in) can throw off your posture and breathing which will certainly effect the way your abs look. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Do you work out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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I had a c section a week ago and am wearing one now. Makes a huge difference when coughing and laughing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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They help by holding in your transverse abdominals until they get stronger. Same reason why you should avoid certain ab exercises like crunches for a good while. Google Tupler Technique for a better explanation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Some would argue that tupler relies on bracing for too long. You also shouldn't brace if you have pelvic floor weakness as it increases the pressure in your abdomen, aggravating prolapse. A brief period of bracing is ok, but after that strenthen your transverse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:53 PM Flag
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^^^strengthen your transverse and rely on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:53 PM Flag
[ - ] At what point do I throw in the towel and surrender to white hair? I am so sick of coloring it. Every year I do lighter and lighter. I am now at dark blonde and I am tired of white roots showing after 2 weeks. I am 54. Should I hang on until 60 when it is completely white or cut it all off and let the white grow in now? I am about 80% gray, but 100% gray in parts. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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what color was your hair naturally? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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I'm going to let it go when i'm 80% gray/white. Right now I'm close to that on top, but my hair is only 20% gray in back. Biding my time over here, and hoping to end up snow white like my grandmother. It looked beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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When I'm 50 I'm cutting all of mine off and getting my Judi Dench cut. Six more years until freedom... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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I've beenfollowing a webiste and facebook page that "celebrates" letting your hair go naturally gray. A lot of the women look great, but I also think they definitely look noticably older. If I wan't an "old" mom with teenage kids, I'd be happy to go gray but I really think it would add 10 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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Here's one of the FB pages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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And here's one of the youtubes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BzJqAqAdC2c [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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She looks SO MUCH BETTER grey. Awkward as Hell transition, but totally worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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Maybe it's just semantics- but do they actually look older with grey hair, or do they look like they look? KWIM? You get older, you age, your hair gets grey. It is what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:46 PM Flag
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I highlight in my natural color. It leaves less of a line but still some. If I didn't have a toddler, I would let it go gray. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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This week I saw two women who were so glorious with their white hair. Their complexions looked better for it. Gorgeous women. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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You let it go whenever you're ready. I'm in my early forties with plenty of gray and have never colored. I get compliments on it from strangers and family/friends. I also hear from some friends that they think I'd look better if I colored. Same hair, different reactions. I'm happy with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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I'm 44 & have stopped coloring my hair to cover up the grey. I don't like to see roots coming in (out?), & colored hair starts to look weird after a while (esp in the sun.) I also think that when you accept it, & stop worrying about it, you look better. I actually LIKE it now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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PS, FWIW, I'm white, but love this Twitter feed for inspiration: https://twitter.com/GrayBaes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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Never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Go for it! I love having my hair this color. I was always a brunette, and now I'm a platinum blonde :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] How late in pregnancy can you fly? 6 months okay? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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I wouldn't. I had a friend who flew to Europe and went into labor when the plane landed. 6 months. Baby died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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but the plane probably had nothing to do with her early labor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Fine, but being in a strange country away from her doctors definitely played a role in the baby's death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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What? Only her personal doctors could have saved the baby's life? And not the European doctors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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^^^ That baby was 3 months pre-mature and could have just as easily died in the US. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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Probably more likely according WHO stats... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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I don't want to go into details in case she reads here, but the issue was that the European hospital did not have the proper equipment to deal with the birth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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But that didn't have anything to do with flying while pregnant. That had everything to do with pre-term labor in a country with inadequate medical supplies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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I'm not so sure it had nothing to do with the flight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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She could have been dehydrated. It's easy to get dehydrated on long flights and that can trigger preterm labor. It's easy to account for this though by buying some water at the airport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Omg. Dehydration is blamed for everything. This is highly unlikely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Depending on the country, I completely agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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+1. thats ridiculous. the flight definitely had nothing to do with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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That's very unusual. Depends on your doctor. With my first pregnancy, I was cleared to fly until 36 weeks, but with my 3rd, a different doctor didn't want me flying beyond 32 weeks. BTW, domestic airlines will allow you to fly until 38-39 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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This. Early labor can happen anywhere. I was cleared until 7 months with my first, and didn't have any trips planned with my second anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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At 24 weeks? Odds of survival are extremely slim. I wouldn't blame the baby's death on the plane trip as there's another reason why your friend went into labor preterm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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OR. The hospital did not even attempt to save the baby's life. They basically told her to go home and ttc again. It was terrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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^^the hospital did not even have an incubator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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in Europe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Yes. All European hospitals are not created equal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Something is fishy here. Eastern Europe or Western Europe? 20+ year ago? Viability is very low at 24 weeks, even with top-notch equipment. You're not telling us the whole story (or she's not telling you). Not to dismiss the terrible, terrible situation, but that pre-term labor was not a result of the flight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Op is not telling the whole story...that she is a TROLL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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This sounds like something that would happen in Greece. Or Italy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Ask your OB. Generally, flying in second trimester is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Yes. Most doctors don't want to you flying in your last month, so 36 weeks or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Sure, especially a short flight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Yes, fine. I wouldn't risk after about 30 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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I'm asking b/c we have been TTC for a few months. At this point, earliest possible due date is early December. Okay to book flights for August and September weddings? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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Yes. Even if you got pregnant today, would still be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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You will most likely be fine and if you are worried get a refundable ticket/ travel insurance. If you have a long flight and can splurge, get a business class seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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I'd say so. I just went on a 4+ plus flight at 21 wks. I'm fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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my dr grounded me at 34 weeks. signed, fly a lot for work mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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Yes. 6 months is perfectly fine and in fact an deal time to fly. You will feel your best in the second tri. I went to europe (and beyond) 6-7mo pregnant with both my pregnancies. not an issue. just wear compression stockings if long distance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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2nd trimester is considered the safest time to fly, so yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Huge amounts of radiation on airplanes. I would skip it if at all possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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And the earlier in the pregnancy the worse in terms of radiation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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OMG, do you ever go outside for fear of being hit by a car? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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Huge amounts?? Are you retarded? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 09:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Why doesn't SIL want me to host a baby welcoming party for her? I swear I am not a crazy SIL-hater. I am super excited to meet my niece, but my SIL is being really reticent about the whole thing. She won't set a date for the welcoming and she ignores all attempts to plan anything. What can I do? I want to do something nice for her and the whole family is excited to meet the little one. I'm just sad. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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Give her some time to settle in before you swoop in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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How much time do you think? Baby is now 1 month old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Let her uterus go down first, Then ask again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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When she invites you. [ Reply | More ]
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She probably feels like she is a mess and doesn't have the energy to rise to the level of being social [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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Give her some time; it's not about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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Most new mothers appreciate short visits from friends or family who can cook or do laundry. You throwing a party where she has to get showered and dressed and try to look good (when she is exhausted) is of no help at all to her and selfish of the rest of you. Also, the baby will also need to be fed or will be sleeping. So what's the point? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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Have you given birth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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You sound needy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Leave her alone! Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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^^meant for op [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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How is this doing something nice? I had a baby six weeks ago and would not want to deal with something like this at all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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She doesn't want a "baby welcoming" party and she's probably exhausted and does not want to deal with her whole freaking family descending on her and her newborn. Do something nice and drop off a meal, tell her to please let you know if she would like to go get her nails done or just take a nap or whatever and you will be happy to watch baby. And then leave! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Ok, I'm sorry! I didn't mean anything selfish by this at all!! I thought it would be nice to throw a party to show her how excited we are for her family. I am not trying to be a bitch, gosh! I thought she would find it nice and loving that we care so much. I also thought it would be nice to get everyone together, so we could have photos of the whole family together. I wouldn't ask her to help with anything. My mother and I were going to do everything. All she would need to do is show up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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You sound really sweet and well-intentioned. I know the fist few months after having my first DB, I was an emotional mess, rarely showered, and only wanted to see a very few visitors, and usually only one or two at a time. What I did love was my sis or SIL bringing me food and holding the baby so I could take a long shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Even just showing up is a lot when you just had a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Ok, that's fine. So maybe wait a few more weeks and bring it up again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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NO. FUCKING STOP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Does it cross your mind that she doesn't want a party? I know I wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Showing up in public to be photographed is not what a new mom wants. Stop forcing this party on her and go over there and do her dishes and watch the baby so she can nap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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No. Just stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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Who the hell has a baby welcoming party? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Back off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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it might stress her out. maybe do something for her that's relaxing and helpful instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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why do you want a party? can't you just go and visit - parties are overwhelming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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You're annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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I had a "sip and see" when my first baby was about 7 weeks (it coincided with my birthday). But I planned it around the baby's nap schedule, I felt fine and he was an especially good baby. Let your SIL decide when she wants to have a party -- she may feel great at 8 weeks, or she may feel like shit. Sounds like the latter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Ask your brother if she wants one. If he says no then send her an email if she would like to have a gift of a personal chef or cleaning person for the first 2 weeks after the baby is born. Then ask when would be an appropriate time to visit your new niece. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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IT'S OBVIOUS SHE DOESN'T. Christ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:55 PM Flag
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Because she is EXHAUSTED and LOOKS LIKE CRAP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Wow, your SIL sounds like my SIL about a decade later. When we brought DD back from the hospital, I was sick as a dog. My SIL said that we had to have a party, immediately, to "present her to the family" - those were her exact words - and she got bent out of shape when I said no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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I think you need to get a life. Why is this so important to you if she isn't interested??? Too much time on your hands? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] ECNS vs York Avenue Preschool ? What would you choose and why? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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ECNS. I liked this school when we toured. I like that Wendy meets all parents and students for a substantial period of time. That was very impressive to me and she was the only director that did that (we toured 8 schools). I did not like York so much because the preschool was incorporated too much into the other part of that business. It did not feel like a preschool to me. The director didn't do it for me either. We almost went to ECNS. Ultimately picked a school slightly closer to our apartment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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DD went to York Avenue, but, honestly, go with what's closer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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OP. Same distance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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I found them to be fairly similar on my visits. If choosing between thae two, I'd go with closest. If equidistant probably ECNS, not certain tho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Love York Avenue. Great teachers, nice families and great facilities. Definitely does not feel like it's just part of Gymtime. Admin is also very friendly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted about my otherwise-cheerful 5yo DS who has been extremely attached to me and cries whenever I have to leave the house (or not sit next to him at a meal). The post became about my debilitatingly depressed DH. I understand that is a huge factor. But, whether DH moves out or not, I could use any advice about how to help or respond to DS when he bursts into tears at my departure. I minimize it by trying to be home until he leaves with nanny and trying to avoid having to stay at work late, but sometimes it is not in my control (and I cannot risk losing my job). Any other suggestions, especially on what I should do when he is crying as I run off late for a meeting (for example -- meaning I can't really stay longer to continue comforting)? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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^^^ I mean I try to minimize how often it happens, not I minimize the importance of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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just keep the lines of communication open with him (ask general, open-ended questions so you can find out what is really going on in his head) and know that this too shall pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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i looked on amazon for you. The picture book "and I thought about you" looks good. i think it discusses mom-child rituals. at one point, I did a "i'm putting love in your pocket, please put some in my work bag" ritual with my DD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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DS's sensitivity must be rubbing off on me, because I teared up at your thoughtfulness. This looks terrific. Thank you so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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There was another book that I had when dd was young too. I haven't found it yet, but I will post it if I do. The book I did find above looked very good and it looked like a mom and a son so I thought that would be very appropriate. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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np: This is making me melt. So sweet. The Kissing Hand is a great book too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks for that recommendation too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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Is the nanny new? It's disturbing that he's not so comfortable with the nanny by this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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OP: Had to take a call, not sure if you're watching, but, no, he's very comfortable with the nanny. Goes off happily with her as long as they leave before me. It's only when I leave first that he gets upset, and that's a relatively recent development. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:15 PM Flag
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can you link to initial conversation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 10:30 PM Flag
[ - ] This is petty and it's going to seem fake, but whatever...I have a prison pen pal and I am finding him irritating lately. He wanted to know if I could send him books on South American indigenous tribes of Chile. I don't want to out myself here, but this is coincidental because I happen to be an anthropologist, have an ivy PhD and Latin America is my region of focus. So, I'm explaining some topics to him in a recent letter and he's arguing with me about basic stuff. It's really annoying because he keeps talking about wanting to learn more about his culture, but when I explain things and discuss why I chose a certain book for him, he negates everything I said with something different. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Omg lmfao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Lol, and you expected a prison pen pal to have excellent interpersonal skills? You sound low brain tone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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Ok, fair enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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So you want him to become a disciple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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No, I am just trying to help him explore this topic of interest. For example, he wants to know why I sent him a book about X tribe. I tell him that it's because that tribe conquered most of the region at the time period that he wanted to explore. He says, "Oh, that's interesting what you say, but I know that Chile was actually conquered by Y tribe." And I have to go into an explanation about modern state boundaries and such, but he won't have it. Very frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Just send him a book about Y tribe and let him read for himself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Well, Sugar, I think you're super-nice for working with someone less fortunate than you are. Not telling you what to do, but I would suggest a little more patience: being caged up like an animal makes some people tense, you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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Lolololol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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who are you? you always write sugar. you make me think you are on meds. tired of seeing your 'sugar' posts. drop the southern belle act. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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For real? It's inmate mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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It's Inmate Mom, brainiac. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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#duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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I hope you are weed mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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No, who is weed mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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He's not your grad student! BTW one of my friends has a LDR with the daughter of a Pewenche tribal chief. I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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lol - but he asked me for these books! It's not like I brought it up and started pushing it down his throat. He admitted that he had little knowledge on the subject and I was happy to help. Now he's arguing with me about everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Try to remember that this is probably his one single opportunity to argue with someone and not get written up for it. Signed Inmate Mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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What is LDR? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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long distance relationship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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learning-disabled relative? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:07 PM Flag
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this is hilarious! how did you get a prison pen pal?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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He's not a rule follower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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What'd he do to get in prison? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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I'm not sure. He hasn't discussed it with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Oy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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Please don't ask him that, Sugar. He's probably innocent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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again, use of 'sugar' is highly annoying. this is a nyc board. not atlanta. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Telling people how to talk isn't so great either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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You should be spending your time helping women get someone in the world, not with this idiot. God, you're an anthropologist? This has to be fake. OMG. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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What if she worked with female prisoners? They're not too smart, either, or they wouldn't be in jail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] When it is a snow day, the officially acceptable time to start drinking wine is moved up. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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there is an officially acceptable time to start drinking wine? are you sure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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Lunch time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Yes, quite sure. I think on a snow day it is moved up to 2pm. Have to check. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Unfortunately I'm on a pre-vacation crash diet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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ITA!!! Will be cracking open the vino shortly :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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where is it a snow day? [ Reply | More ]
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where are you??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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This is why I drink champagne. Totally acceptable breakfast drink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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Ily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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I wasn't even aware it was snowing in NYC until I saw the story about the plane skidding off the runway. I was out in my garden planting shrubs. :) You are entitled to a hot toddy sooner rather than later. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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it is always 5PM somewhere.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you be upset? BIL and his wife are having a "board game party" at their house on Saturday. They texted dh about it, but not me. Maybe they assumed dh would tell me about it? I'm not going b/c I don't want to, but it's irritating that they don't invite me. They simply tell dh as if they don't have my number and can send me the text also. Would this annoy you? This is just one example. they do it all the time. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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I would not be upset [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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no. I would actually think it odd if they sent two separate texts. the message to DH should say "can you guys come?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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This; you and DH are a unit. Two separate texts would be weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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+1 unless dh never ever gets back to them b/c he's a flake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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No, but I see it annoys you. I frequently just invite one spouse, usually the one I talk to the most. I assumed that was sufficient, and they could talk about it amongst themselves. Maybe I've offended people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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This happens ALL the time with my in laws, to the point where my SIL or MIL would call/text/email dh to ask me a question or ask what I was bringing to x event. I (nicely) asked them to please include me in plans because DH isn't always the best at passing things along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:42 PM Flag
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I prefer when my inlaws coordinate with DH. I like them just fine, but I feel he should be the one to deal with his family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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or - that's fine, if that is what works for you. My DH will forget to tell me things and then the morning when we're going to his parents for lunch suddenly ask me if I baked the dessert he said we would bring but never told me about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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You should have married an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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Lol, I did. He's just a very busy and somewhat absent-minded one. He also isn't a huge fan of his family (neither am I) so he tends to push things regarding them to the back of his mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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you are insane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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If you invite a couple to your home, do you email/text both of them or do you just coordinate with one of them? I think you need to chip those big giant chips off your shoulder hon! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Not at all. My in-laws only ever reach out to my DH and I love that. Less for me to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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actually I would find it weird if they texted both of you. Of course you are invited and unless you have a child care issue or another engagement, you should go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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You are one of those kind of people I see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be upset at all. Obviously they are inviting you both [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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Why would it annoy me? This is your DH's brother, yes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Would not annoy me at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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You're weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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Would not annoy me at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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What? Why would this possibly annoy you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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I really dislike people with this attitude. If I invite one spouse it obviously means the other spouse is also invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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I do this all the time to couples... just contact one of them.... Is that wrong? They live in the same house, after all - the message will spread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I just fell hard on the ice. I am so over winter. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Ouch. This winter really sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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I ripped my pants :-( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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And quickly posted to UB before getting up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Almost. I'm back in my office pouting now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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Lol. That would not surprise me. Remember the woman in the town car complaining about her coffee spilling - while typing on UB! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Be glad nothing is broken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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ICe grips for your shoes. I keep them in my purse all winter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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What? Where do you buy these. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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LL Bean/ Lands End/Eddie Bauer/ REI [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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Sorry. I busted my tailbone falling on ice in front of a vacant lot. It still gets sore from time to time. Can't wait for spring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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Dh dislocated his shoulder and mangled his hand on Monday, careful everyone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm at my wits end with my kids. My 4 yo is 43 inches tall and weighs 55 pounds, eats everything in sight. My 18 month old will not eat. He literally will go days without eating. He's falling off the growth curve in both height and weight. I don't know what to do. Anyone btdt? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:35 PM Flag
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Which one are you worried about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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The 18 month old worries me the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Have you had an eval of the younger one? Does he have texture issues with food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Yes, we've had evals because he was also slow to hit most physical milestones, and is not talking yet. They said not to worry and he is probably just a "late bloomer". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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I would seek another opinion, in all honesty. I know kids who were late bloomers and it could definitely be a factor, but the not eating is unusual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Pediatrician visit for both. Let her/him direct you from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Btdt. She basically blamed me for both kids' issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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New pediatrician. Kids will be fine, just feed 18mo whatever he will eat along with other things and eventually he will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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He will not eat anything. I've tried nuggets, pizza, mcdonalds. He closes his mouth and will not eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Why would you offer him crap? Plenty of kids like vegetables, fruits, meat, eggs, fish, pasta etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Because he wouldn't eat normal foods. So I broke down and offered junk food. He still would not eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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Just be consistent. Make food fun, he's at the age where he might enjoy "helping" you prepare things. Add butter and/or cheese to everything for calories. Make smoothies with him, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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^^Also, does he drink a lot of milk? That could be filling him up and making him feel like he doesnt' want to eat. Limit the milk especially around mealtimes. He will start eating. Put out a variety of good foods (make them look fun if you can) and give him range to eat what he wants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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He does not drink very much milk, but I try to push it because then at least he gets some calories. He will sometimes drink chocolate milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Try PediaSure. Normally I'm a natural foods kind of woman, but if my kid wasn't growing I'd try something like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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Btdt. He clenches his mouth and will not even attempt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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Have you seen a feeding specialist? Tried making silly faces with food? Having him cook with you, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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We have not see a specialist yet. Thinking it's time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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You would think having one kid on either side would clear your name. You can't be an overfeeder and an underfeeder right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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I know right?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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As long as the food your 4yo is getting is healthy I wouldn't worry about him. If he's eating chips and soda all day then there are issues. Normally I wouldn't worry about the bad eater esepcially at 18 months, but if he's falling on teh % charts then yes, you should speak to ped. All that said, please make sure you're not somehow projecting eating issues without realizing it. The level of frustration you seem to be feeling over kid and food issues, which like 90% of us deal with and are perfectly normal, seems a bit high to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:46 PM Flag
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I am frustrated because my child will not eat. It's upsetting to me. He weighs 17 pounds and is 3rd percentile for height. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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My point is that it's really really common for toddlers to stop eating or eat so little that we, adults, think they're going to starve. In RARE instances there are issues, but he could just be a small picky eater. I'm not poo-pooing you, truly, all I'm saying is to separate the emotion. If he's losing weight or dropping in percentile, that's alarming. If he's staying on track then he's probably where he's supposed to be. My older DS from the time he was 5 until 10 would not gain 1 single pound from the start to the end of the school year and I mean this quite literally. He was always healthy and active and the ped wasn't worried and so I wasn't. My younger DS was tiny, like 5th percentile, until around 30 months and then he suddenly started growing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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The issue is my ds was 25th to 30th percentile until the past few months, when he basically stopped eating and has fallen off his growth curve. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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That's the average age to stop eating in toddlerhood. Hope it works out just fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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YEs, then I agree that is alarming. what does the ped say? Have you done any tests? Was there any negative experience with food, for example, did he have a stomach bug and threw up after eating and has somehow associated the two? It's hard at 18m because he can't communicate so maybe he has a toothache or stomach ache or something. I don't want to go all to the extreme panic side, but has your ped done a physical or asked for non-invasive tests of him stomach to rule out anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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She was alarmed but she basically blamed me. Says I make too much of an issue and I should stop with the silly faces etc when I try to feed him. But I don't think she gets it. He literally will not eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Got it, but it comes back to what I said, which is make sure you're not projecting. I have a very DF that was already creating eating issue with her DD at 10 months. She didn't or couldn't see it but she was. If your ped says that I think you should at least give it weight. Can you try taking a step back and use another approach. For example, what if you left out healthy snacks at all times that he could access? Fruit, cheese, milk, yogurt, small pieces of chicken - whatever, don't push or talk to him about it, just see what he will do. Also can someone else feed him or be the 'food' person for a while? You MIGHt also consider, at the same time as trying the above, just taking him to another ped for a 2nd opinion. Be honest, say your ped thinks it's because you've created food power struggles but you want to make sure there's nothing physical coming into play. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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I had a heavy toddler who is now a skinny six year old. We just focused on eating healthy food and activity and eventually it evened out. Now that his toddler sister is on her way to chubby, I'm trying not to worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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I am more worried about my younger child. I'd rather have a fat child than a kid who won't eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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My doctor gave my non eater a supplement called duocal. It was a gastro. Look into this. Fwiw, at 2.5 my Ds does eat and no longer needs to supplement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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You need to make an appt. with a feeding specialist and an allergist for younger one. Could be something gives him stomach problems when eh eats, or did, and he's freaked about that. Could be a sensory thing. You need help, though. I'm surprised your pediatrician did not tell you the same. I'd switch that too. With the older one, I recommend more activity and cut down on the sugar and bread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Batman and Robin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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You are engaged in a battle of the wills with your 18 mo. And he will win every time. You have to just put out the food and make absolutely no comment about what is and isn't eaten. How would you like someone trying to force food in your face? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Judge Judy makes $47 million a year. Who would have thunk. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:30 PM Flag
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Books? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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Too bad she's probably the kind of grandma who won't leave her estate to her kids, it will spoil them not to earn it on their own [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:32 PM Flag
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She is the type to leave it to her dogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Her dogs probably treat her better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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I LOVE JUDGE JUDY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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Me too!! [ Reply | More ]
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This makes me think there is a money making scam for me out there, I just need to find it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Wow. Syndication? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.05.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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Most likely. [ Reply | More ]
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