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[ - ] My almost 4 yo dc is still pretty clingy, has separation anxiety and is needy. Sometimes has tantrums especially if tired and hungry. He is more difficult than my older dc was (older is super easy, mature and psychologically balanced) but he is easier than many kids of my friends. Pre-school teacher had the nicest things to say about him etc. We hired a new nanny a few weeks ago and she told me that I should take dc to psych eval...she always talks about how he wasn't perfect etc. Honestly, I think she is a slacker and is using my younger dc to make herself sound more than what she is. She gets paid incredibly well and even though she is reliable and is pretty good she doesn't do anything out of the ordinary. Takes kids to the playground, feeds them, puts then down for a nap, rinse repeat. WWYD? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:58 PM Flag
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I had a nanny who didn't like one dc. Always made me uncomfortable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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I don't think she dislikes him. I think she is using him to make herself look busier than she really is. Our place is a bit of a mess, toys aren't put away, kids clothing isn't neatly organized. She agreed to supervise older kid doing some daily reading which she really isn't doing... All conversations with her revolve around younger kid being challenging. He is just being a normal 3/4 yo though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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Well, a normal 3-4 year old can be challenging at times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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absolutely. If they where both like my 5 yo I wouldn't really need a nanny [ Reply | More ]
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Were those other tasks spelled out in her contract? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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yes. 100% spelled out. [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like nanny is the problem. Who the hell is she to be qualified to suggest such a thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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This. Your 4 yo is going to understand what she is saying about him/her and also play into it. Get rid of her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] We have three DCs, oldest is 5, and last year I wrapped up my career of 20 years to spend more time with the family but also because my company had been sold and the timing was right. We also moved to the suburbs from NYC. DCs are happy and our lifestyle is very simple but I'm having such a hard time. Aside from missing being busy and stimulated, I feel like I just don't fit in with the school and PTA clique. I feel lonely and isolated and I miss my DH as his commute is much longer now. Any tips on how to make friends as an adult, also how to adjust to so many changes. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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How do you even have time to know about the PTA if you have 3 under 6? Are the younger 2 dcs with you all day long? I would feel so exhausted that I would miss my job for the balance of kids and office work (which is very different from childcare and kid neediness) [ Reply | More ]
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I have a nanny as I still do some consulting, and my 3yo goes to a program four mornings a week, nanny helps with 1yo. My income barely covers the nanny but I wanted to try to stay in the game, but working from home a few hours a week doesn't really accomplish that. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you feel like you don't fit in? Are they excluding you or are you making surface judgments and generalizations without really knowing them? I find that I am often surprised by people: the ones who you'd think you'd be a great fit with (based on similar tastes, styles, lifestyle, etc.) sometimes aren't the perfect friend-type. I'm in the city, but felt similar when we started our school - that I didn't really fit in with the PTA moms... turned out the more involved I got, they actually weren't a clique at all, but rather a group of very distinct and individual people who sometimes hung out together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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Thanks. This group is definitely a clique and I'm not the only one who feels excluded. There's a 'townie' mentality from the locals and they are suspicious of those of us who moved from NYC. Us transplants have our own group too, but most of the commons I like are still working and commuting to NYC so they're just not around that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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So if there are other transplanted NYC people there, why can't you form your own social group? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:18 PM Flag
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Maybe you are not cut out for SAH? Any way you can work PT? It is hard with kids those ages. We have lived a lot of places - I always felt lonely and isolated while I was SAH and looking for work in new places. It is also a grind with three kids that young. Most get togethers at that age are 90% child wrangling with 10% small talk mixed in. Try to see if you have facebook groups or meetups in your area and go out of your comfort zone. Also get a sitter once or twice a week and take a class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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Thank you. Yes there are lots of DC related activities but as you said not a lot of opportunity to really connect with people then. I do go to a gym I enjoy and I've actually become friends with a woman who's more than 20 years older than me, but we have a lot in common and enjoy talking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Good luck. Try to disregard the UB posters who characterize suburban people as a monolithic mass. There are all sorts of people everywhere. A lot of it is just a function of your kids' ages and being somewhere new, where you don't have a community already established [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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Thank you. Yes I agree and I do hope it will get better as DCs get older and there are more natural ways to meet new people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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Church? Some other neighborhood volunteer thing (non-kid related)? Sometimes it's better to keep friends and mom friends separate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Thank you. Yes I'm definitely looking for activities away from the school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:13 PM Flag
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Move back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:20 PM Flag
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Once your kids are in school you will have more friends than you can handle [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sometimes I read these posts on UES moms and think, how are they doing all this? Multiple kids, multiple classes for toddlers, camp, renting summer houses/going to resorts in the winter, lavish birthday and baptism celebrations. We have a hhi of $300k, no debt, one child, and I guess we could do this kind of thing too but we are pretty focused on saving - is that it or are we just super poor for this nbhd? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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Some have money, some have debt, some like to lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Op. I should add that the vast majority of these posters seem like they are living in rentals east of lex. So I'm not comparing to truly wealthy people on the UES. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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np: they're probably not saving much. My opinion on what's important: good school, some kind of camp so that kids aren't bored all summer. Classes for toddlers are a waste, as are lavish birthday parties (kids don't care as long as they're fun). We take modest vacations and kids have a great time anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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Np, what's your definition of lavish birthday? I try to stay under$400, but it's hard when I need indoor space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Op. I had cake in the park for family and close friends, and it was under $100. DC has a summer birthday though. I probably will do more when DC is in school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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grandparents pay for camps and parties sometimes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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This. My in-laws pay for camp, as it is a religious camp that is not my religion. I don't mind my kids going, but it isn't our financial priority. They also pay for all religious classes and celebrations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Op. I guess that must be relatively common. We have one set of parents who would love to help but can't, another set that could but won't (which is completely their right, of course, but would be nice). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:31 PM Flag
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Yeah, I think it is fairly common. It isn't a huge help to us, because those things just aren't our priorities. I'd love help with tuition a lot more! But it is a gift, and it is what they want to give, so I'm grateful. They've been very respectful about not forcing their religion on the kids, so I'm most grateful for that. [ Reply | More ]
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np: totally common. Lots of people on the UES and all over NYC already come from wealthy families. When they vacation with families, the grandparents foot the bill, when they visit grandparents, they pay for flights. It is easy to have an extra $1k to spend on a bday party if you didn't spend that $5k on the last ski trip. Also, I know a lot people whose parents have started gifting their kids $ every year as part of estate planning. Or bought their apartments for them. Don't feel bad. You are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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You can easily do camps for your child, enrichment activities and nice vacations, especially if one of you SAH and there are no daycare expenses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Op. I wah part time. DC is 2. We do one class per "term," which I think is plenty. I guess I'm just surprised how many people have classes for kids this age almost every day. Not cheap! [ Reply | More ]
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NP: A lot of people to have something to do or because they are afraid their nanny will not do enough with the DC. My DCs are older now and most parents I know now agree that those classes were unnecessary for the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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Op. I do understand that. Most nannies I see in playroom/playground settings don't really interact. They don't interact in the classes either, but at least there's socialization. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Some enrichment activities are important and camp is a good thing to have for kids over 5 yrs old, or they are bored if none of their friends are at the playground. It will be hard for you or nanny to entertain an older child all summer, especially with a young sibling in tow. Better to pay for the camp, it's worth it. For toddlers, classes are completely unnecessary IMHO, people just have lots of cash to spend or they are super paranoid or bored. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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Bored is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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+10000 kids need to figure out how to entertain themselves. They'll be happier for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Someone here once suggested that a HHI of 800k was too little to afford a country house. Another said that I was a troll because I cook dinner with that HHI. Basically, I think many people here must be full of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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UES mom here. It's expensive. With school fees, classes, decent apartment, a couple of vacations, nanny, housekeeper, and spending money its easy to blow through an income of $1m. And that's NOT the $100k Hamptons summer rental scene. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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You sound reasonable. These other posters either have greater sources of income, lie, or are up to their ears in debt. We have similar stats as you, except we have a big mortgage. We don't worry about what other people do. You don't have to be constantly on the go. [ Reply | More ]
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HHI 400K, we live in a 3 bedroom rental on the UES, 1 child in private K and one in pre-school, we take 2 international vacations/year, have a FT nanny and once/week housekeeper. Both kids take 2 enrichment classes. We have close to 1M in savings, no debt. That said I'm frugal about the little things, and don't take cabs often, eat out max 1/week, buy mostly Gap/Banana Republic/Zara for both kids and myself. I spend where it matters to me, but we feel pretty comfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:45 PM Flag
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Op. We have a 2/2 rental, make less but also have only 1 child, and also have close to $1m in assets, inclusive of retirement. Housekeeper every other week. I have similar beliefs as you about cabs, clothes and eating out. This makes me think maybe we could splash out a bit, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:56 PM Flag
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It's a nice way to live :) Since having our second, I loosened a bit on spending on things like the housekeeper and other little ways of making our lives easier. We have two busy careers and I was otherwise stressed out. Now I spend my weekend with the kids, and outsource most of the busy work. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. You're smart! That is so much more additive to your life than clothes and takeout. what I don't understand is people who spend on all this "lifestyle" consumption stuff but then have a 1 br with false wall for two kids. [ Reply | More ]
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I especially find expensive children's clothes and shoes to be so wasteful. They outgrow them so fast. It's typically these people that are in constant debt and complain about not being able to afford the things that matter. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Two kids from an identical non minority background trying to gain college admissions. One is an accomplished musician who plays in music completions etc and the other is a slightly better student with slightly higher test scores but no outstanding achievements (plays an instrument on a mediocre level, plays sport on a mediocre level) all other things are about equal. How much of an advantage does the musical kid have over the other kid? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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It's all a crapshoot. Depends on what random admissions person they get and what mood she's in. (seriously) [ Reply | More ]
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Teacher: My guess is that it is a 10-20% advantage. Hopefully it's changing, but admissions committees used to love 'well-rounded' kids--i.e. over-extended kids padding their resumes. If the school band is looking for a kid that plays the glockenspiel and kid b does, then a huge advantage. I had an incredible student who was upset because she didn't get into her first choice school, Brown, but the academically-mediocre girl she tutored did. I am guessing it is because the tutored kid happened to play a somewhat specialized and uncommon sport. [ Reply | More ]
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both kids play the piano so not a unique instrument. kid A is amazing - think professional pianist while kid B can play in the band... [ Reply | More ]
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Then I would think Kid A would have a huge advantage. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you saying that kid B (who just plays pretty well but nothing out of the ordinary) still have an advantage over kid C who is the same kid but doesn't play at all? [ Reply | More ]
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np: why wouldn't B have a slight advantage. You are describing exactly the circumstance in which they are looking for something, anything to distinguish one kid from another. You're suggesting this is the only difference and one has something thr other is lacking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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Thanks. I guess I didn't think that playing the piano is something one would list on a college app but I guess I am wrong. I have a simple kid B. Good but not amazing student, smart but prefers to read over working hard, enjoys playing the piano but not practice it for 2+ hrs a day. I guess your average smart normal kid. Not sure what colleges will take him in a couple of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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I'd encourage him to find something he's passionate about and go all-out on it. If he loves reading, maybe he'd be interested in summer creative writing programs and schools that are famous for their programs (Iowa, Kenyon, etc.). If he's into gaming, maybe think about learning how to code too. You may also want to have a come-to-Jesus talk with him, and let him know that admissions are very competitive these days, so if he doesn't want to work hard, that's ok, but he can't expect to get into Yale or Amherst or Rice or wherever. I had a talk like this with my students a few months back. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably. But I'm just a teacher, not an admissions officer. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Because it speaks to an ability to be disciplined, focused and excel at something. colleges are looking for future successful alumni and this is a good indicator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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You know what sucks, ultimately id probably rather hire the better test taker and grades, screw well rounded. But they would be better off for college admissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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My kid is the B kid. He is actually more well rounded IRL because he still plays an instrument but not at the level where it take hours of daily practice, he is the better student, better read, more well rounded. Non of that really shows on the app. He doesn't have a star talent in anything though. I am just wondering what college my kid could even get [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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These are the kids with bad admissions stories [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:56 PM Flag
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Admissions office priorities have made college crazy parents push their kids to focus all time and energy on a single area. What happened to the days when a football player would try out for the school play during the winter? Just encourage your child to be active in what he enjoys and if he has to go to a slightly less prestigious college as a result, so be it. [ Reply | More ]
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you don't know that. assuming kid a is amazing - she has likely been doing judged piano performances for years. that is a pretty high level of stress and kid a must manage well in that environment (FWIW, I have no musical talent). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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Colleges don't want well rounded individuals now. They want a well rounded class full of specialists [ Reply | More ]
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This. They will take some well rounded high test score kids, you have to have those things to even get a seat at the table. But concert level piano skills is a hook. Hooked kids have an advantage. Not for every school (depends what the individual schools need) but overall, yes they will have an advantage. [ Reply | More ]
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This is absolutely true. They need to be able to brag about the "olympian" or the "international piano competition winner" or whatever. Better marketing to have these extraordinary "best" types around then a bunch of typical umc "well-rounded" kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 08:12 PM Flag
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Depends on what instrument the college orchestra needs, and how much better other applicants are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm starting a new job next week and I'm mostly nervous about the rules (bit of an anti-authoritarian here). I'm a legal admin so I'm subject to middle management. I've worked in places with timeclocks that dock your pay if you come in 7 minutes past 9AM, no eating at your desk, no chit chatting allowed, lunch hour must be taken at same time everyday, phone must be picked up by 2nd ring, doctor's note required if out sick more than one day. What are some of the rules in your office? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Academia. No rules. Those places sound awful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:57 PM Flag
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I work in asset management and we don't have any of those rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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im in biglaw and these rules all make sense to me. Your job is to be available to someone (usually one rainmaker and a couple of others) from 9-5 (8:30 is common in our office) and to be unavailable only at predicable/regular times. You can't expect the same kid of autonomy that another profession might Have [ Reply | More ]
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^maybe not ALL but I imagine there is a difference between what is in the manual v enforced Chit chat within reason is customary. We don't have time clocks but I can imagine being put out if my assistant didn't really appreciate that she had a fixed starting time [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you consider ideal foreplay? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Compliments [ Reply | More ]
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seven SEVEN SEVENNNNNNN [ Reply | More ]
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he cleans the oven [ Reply | More ]
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Anything that results in my orgasm [ Reply | More ]
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Helping me with kids and housework. [ Reply | More ]
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Not having kids in the near vicinity, like in the room next to us. [ Reply | More ]
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Not having HIM in the near vicinity... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is there a brand of cast iron skillets that is better than others? What price range is reasonable? I don't want crap but $200 from WIlliams-Sonoma seems excessive. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lodge is a reliable brand. They are really mostly all the same. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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that is excessive - i have my grandma's and one i bought for $20 and they are identical [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah Target has $20 ones, I suspected they are all the same. Actually the Lodge ones (as recommended above) are only $26 so I'm going to go with that. Thanks UB!! [ Reply | More ]
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the best one was some kmart brand my mother got back in the 70s. it beats my stupid lodge which is not comp flat. [ Reply | More ]
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there's a great article in ny times about the difference between the "old" kind and the "new" kind as well as the new, made like old kind. worht reading. [ Reply | More ]
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TJ Maxx, Marshalls and Home Goods always have the Lodge brand in stock. [ Reply | More ]
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I found mine's at a neighbor's. She threw out a bunch of stuff and I took the car iron skillet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] shout out to te ladies who told me to try myfitnesspal. it's incredibly helpful and i lost 3 lbs the first week (yes, i know that is not sustainable). 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Good job. It is sustainable if you stick with it. I had two issue with the app, after a while you kinda get tired of counting calories and two, vegetables aren't free. [ Reply | More ]
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np. What do you mean free vegetables? They don't count calories of vegetables? [ Reply | More ]
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They do count vegetables. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: i find the exercise calories kind of random and hate that you get no credit for weight work. if i keep going i may invest in a fitbit or similar to save that effort. [ Reply | More ]
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Np - the weight training thing does suck but you can try to estimate the calories (lowball the amount) and add it as a custom exercise [ Reply | More ]
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Yay! It really does work and it is sustainable if you stick with it. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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It will teach you to be aware of calories, when you eat something. This is a good habit, that if you develop it, will help keeping weight down, you don't need to count every calorie, just be aware and teach yourself to eat less and get used to it. GL. [ Reply | More ]
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OP; yes, that is exactly it. some of the calorie counts for things i eat regularly were surprising and its a big help to have the information now. [ Reply | More ]
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Share? [ Reply | More ]
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Grapes! also brown rice. [ Reply | More ]
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What grains are best? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] "Serious" cartooning class for 11 yo, westchester or manhattan? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i woudl look at children's museum of the arts and HiArt! which does a lot of manga classes. [ Reply | More ]
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Try the School of Visual Arts or Cooper Union continuing education programs. Maybe MoMA as well. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Younger woman in my office asked me if I would write her a reference for grad school. I said absolutely and how I think its great she wants to pursue another degree. I asked if she had mentioned it to our supervisor and she said his response was why would she want to do that when she has a small child at home. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Great question! [ Reply | More ]
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Would he ask the same question of a male employee with a small child at home? [ Reply | More ]
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well, it's a valid response, esp if it isn't going to increase her income. [ Reply | More ]
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no, its not. its not his fucking business and we all know he'd never ask a man. she is capable of making this decision on her own. [ Reply | More ]
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+1000000000000 [ Reply | More ]
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+ infinity [ Reply | More ]
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how do you know that? i'd ask a man or a woman if i thought it a bad decision. [ Reply | More ]
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Fine - but the reason shouldn't be that the man or woman has a child at home. And that is not what you wrote - you wrote that it wouldn't increase the income. [ Reply | More ]
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i said esp if it didn't increase income b/c then the sacrifice isn't worth it. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you know whether the sacrifice is "worth it" for others? You don't. [ Reply | More ]
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i do. too many people get college degrees and it does nothing for them. [ Reply | More ]
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Not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, maybe they forgot that they have a small child. Good to remind them, would should also ask them every morning if they remembered to feed their child. They might have forgotten. Think of how many children we can save from parents who totally forget that they have them. [ Reply | More ]
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hearts. [ Reply | More ]
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^^we should [ Reply | More ]
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Do you realize that no one would ever ask this question of a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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maybe if he were a single parent (like widowed, not just sharing custody). but even then its unlikely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, he didn't say "that won't increase your income"... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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he was prob thinking that. any sane person would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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He sounds like a douche. [ Reply | More ]
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Lovely. When I was accepted into a Master's degree program at a well-regarded university, my female boss said, that sounds like it will be too challenging for you. Don't accept it and maybe someday you can do continuing education at a community college. I gave my notice the next day, got another job where the employer funded part of the degree, and graduated with an A- average. That old boss? She only had her BA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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what's the master's in? prob nothing remunerative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Meow [ Reply | More ]
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When I told head of the program at grad school that I will be having a child during the first term, she told me not to come (she is single s d childless). I came anyways, graduated this year and have a job already lined up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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When people say stuff like this it usually tells you what you need to know about their limitations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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When I was applying to medical school about 100 people asked me why don't I become a nurse. Nothing wrong with nursing but they would never question a man going to med school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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do you live with hicks? no one i know asks this of anyone. they wonder why nurses don't go to med school instead but we all know the answer to that. [ Reply | More ]
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Urban hicks on Long Island. I got out though. [ Reply | More ]
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No, you only think you know the answer to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] would you ever buy a house with one bathroom upstairs, no half bath on first floor for guests? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More ]
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me, no. but i have money. others, yes, they will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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it's a really hot town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Wow. You sound like a big cunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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no i don't think so, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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What is with the bizarre use of commas but the refusal to use a capital letter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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Sorry, i meant "No it's ok, I don't think she was being a cunt. I'm OP." [ Reply | More ]
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yes. ty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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you sound stupid. people buy what they can afford in the neighborhood they like. [ Reply | More ]
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Is that what you can afford in the place where you want to live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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Only if there were a possibility of adding a half bath [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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+1 Figure out where the plumbing goes, get a contractor if you have to and for god sakes don't listen to the realtors. Half bath can be $10k or it can be a LOT more if you don't have the lines in place. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! Good advice! We have bought 2 houses (we are suckers for older houses) and the realtors always say, oh you can just knock this wall out or finish the attic and convert it or whatever... and it is always a much, much more consuming task [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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another bath will raise your taxes.. just be ready for that. [ Reply | More ]
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ONLY when the town does a tax reassessment. We added a half bath and our taxes did not go up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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+2 And adjust my offer based on how much it will (truly) cost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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No. Definitely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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I had a house like this and it sucked. Wish I hadn't bought it. [ Reply | More ]
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did you lose money [ Reply | More ]
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I had one. We survived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Teacher here - I love what I do, but I love July and August more, have a great summer all, xox xo xox 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You too!!! Thanks for your service. [ Reply | More ]
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loser [ Reply | More ]
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You sound nice [ Reply | More ]
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You earned it! Couple more days for me... [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you! I hope you get some nice R&R over the summer. You deserve it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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+1 enjoy [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for all of your hard work. Enjoy your summer, you deserve it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Jealous! [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing like two months away from those little bastards, I mean, those darling children of yours. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't refer to your snowflakes like that darling.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] I just spent $12 on a turkey sandwich. :/ 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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WHY OH WHY...? Get Trader Joe's oven roasted turkey breast for only $3.29 and TJ's rustico bread for only $2.99. Put half of the bread on the freezer. Thank me later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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So... what did you do that for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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I was hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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Cool. Did it taste good? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:28 PM Flag
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I feel for you, I hate sending lots of money on a sandwich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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i carry my lunch to work everyday. I figure it saves me at least $10 a day. Plus I eat a little better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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hope it was the best turkey sandwich ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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You deserve it. Enjoy every penny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Are you at the airport? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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I think that makes you the turkey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.30.16, 12:04 AM Flag
[ - ] I sold a beautiful designer dress on poshmark for $150 and need to ship it out today/tomorrow. Problem is, DH apparently threw away its matching garment bag, which I had included in the listing. what would you do? I'd personally be irritated to buy something and not receive everything promised so I don't want to be a dick...yet, I am obviously selling stuff online to make $ as we are very tight right now and I'd like to fulfill the order if at all possible... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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tell what happened. prob won't care. [ Reply | More ]
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I would probably want you to adjust the price to reflect the missing garment bag. Offer $10 off the price. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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you could do this but 100% sure if you relisted it, there'd be no discount. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Well, then she can offer as-is to the buyer, give them a chance to back out, and re-list. But she can't just delivery part of the listing for the same price. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: What if I buy a $5 visa giftcard and include it in the package with a note explaining the issue with the lost garment bag? Or another value? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you think if a recent college grad walked into an interview with you with a Cartier or Rolex on their wrist? It seems that 10,000 watches are the graduation present du jour. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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You can get a Cartier for way less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:22 PM Flag
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we had someone like this, ferragamo shoes too, unqualified but he knew someone. couldn't pass the series 7 within 2 years so got canned. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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Lol. I passed the series 7 and 63... anyone can! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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I swear! he had three chances. went to a crappy overpriced private college in CT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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that is truly amazing. I thought the CFA was a breeze... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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not nice to talk about Yale that way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 08:43 PM Flag
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no. i have met people who cannot. differences in ability is real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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then they didn't study hard enough in school or during the FREE practice classes... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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no. innate intellectual differences are real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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he had a business degree from a bad college though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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that proves that schooling makes very little differences in our intellectual capabilities. [ Reply | More ]
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yes i agree. his parents moved to a great suburb and it did nothing. kid is in the family biz now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Aren't they all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:56 PM Flag
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the got lucky with the family they were born into. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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Family heirloom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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my family (parents, grandparents etc all chipped in) got me an expensive watch for my college graduation. i never thought wearing it would be considered a problem at an interview. that said, i live in nyc and they don't stand out nearly as much as if i lived elsewhere. funny thing is now i don't wear a watch at all. my dh's grandmother gave him his grandfather's watch for his college graduation (his grandfather died while he was in college) - he never though twice about wearing it either! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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Agree. Being from a wealthy family does not mean you are not a hard worker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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NP: does one need to be from a wealthy family to have this sort of watch? i mean obviously not poor, but wealthy? i know lots of older relatively middle class or UMC people who own a good watch, or pearls or a fur or another good piece of jewelry. my grandmother grew up an immigrant in brooklyn, her husband owned a store. but they were good savers and by later in life she had all of the above, but certainly wasn't wealthy. i now ahave her pearls and watch and my mom has her fur and wedding/engagement rings and plan to pass all down to my daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Call me LMC, but I'd think anyone wearing a 10k watch was wealthy. Can't imagine anyone wasting all that money to give a gift to a regular person who would benefit more from the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:35 PM Flag
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not every cartier or rolex costs $10K. and you can get vintage ones for less than half that. but there are tons of women runnning around with $10K engagement rings who are not wealthy. why is that different? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 09:52 PM Flag
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I would never notice this, so it's a moot point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Me either, weird. If you did why would you care? You think poor people work harder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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it would be a turn-off. i'd be wondering if they'd really give their all in this position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I would question their decision to wear it to an interview and not hire them, honestly. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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Wow, really? It's just a watch. [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Assume it was a generous gift. NBD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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I would think he didn't need the job and move on to a different candidate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 08:44 PM Flag
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I got a rolex for graduation 20 years ago. I didn't think anyone would notice. Who looks for things like that? On the other hand, I think it's very risky to walk into an interview with a huge engagement ring. [ Reply | More ]
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The Cartier tank is $4K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.30.16, 12:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone live in the Union Square area? How is it? I have two tweens who would be commuting by themselves and I wonder about the safety. I know there are always vagrants around, but it is also a very busy place, so plenty of people to help if they got harassed. How about the noise? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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totally safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:18 PM Flag
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It's noisy and it's dirty, I would not live there with little kids, but tweens might be ok, just make sure to keep them from all the shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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Very busy, lots of people about, very loud, there is a police station in the Union Sq subway stop. The vagrants mostly stick to inside the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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I don't like that area, too busy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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I avoid all of the squares as a rule (Herald, Times, Union)... but would you be on one of the side streets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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It would be 1 Union Square South. It is a large building where many of the apartments aren't overlooking the busy streets, but the entrance is on one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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That would be a no-go for me. I know the building and it's beautiful, but the neighborhood is just so random. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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Yeah. I am kind of uneasy. The area is so convenient to everything, but it is so crowded and there are all those methadone patients that hang around the east side of the park and the supermarket. Even if they don't bother me or the kids, it causes anxiety and would detract from the quality of life. I wish I could afford the West Village. [ Reply | More ]
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If you can afford 1 Union Square South, have you looked in Lower Manhattan (FiDi/BPC)? Not sure where your kids have to commute to, but rental prices are, on average, actually a bit cheaper than 1 Union Square, but with much more mellow vibe, near most major subway lines, great for kids of all ages. [ Reply | More ]
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I live in FiDi now. The construction and congestion is getting to me (they are putting up two buildings on my block). I will look around here too, but would love to be in the Village. BPC is too far from the subway. [ Reply | More ]
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lived here for 20+ years, seen big changes and raised a kid here. It's fne. kid commuted uptown to school and after school - never had an incident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] It's funny how Sharapova spins a 2 week non credit summer camp at Harvard Business School into a Harvard student on her resume. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:14 PM Flag
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On drug addiction? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:19 PM Flag
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I used to see that on resumes a lot. The business schools seem to design those short non-credit courses designed to attract people who want to list the university. You'd think it would weaken their brand, but I guess if you're Harvard, your brand can stand up to it and it is worth it for the money (they aren't cheap.) I'm in the midwest and used to see HBS, Kellogg, and Notre Dame listed all the time when it was just a short certificate class [ Reply | More ]
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She manages a brand (herself) that brings in tens of millions of dollars every year. Just what is it you've accomplished with that fancy degree of yours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I need some honest advice. I am on weight watchers and the ladies there think anyone with a normal BMI is at a perfect weight. I need to set a goal that is a good weight for me. I am 5'1 and in my 40s. Currently weigh 128 lbs. I have curves (DD bra). What weight would be a good goal? I want to look good. 67 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:09 PM Flag
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Completely depends on how muscular you are, your bone density, etc. I'd aim to lose inches/fat not base it on weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:10 PM Flag
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THIS - weight alone is just one factor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:53 PM Flag
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110? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:11 PM Flag
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prob this or 115, though i think if i were to define looking good as "best shape i was in in my 20s and 30s" it would be about 105. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:12 PM Flag
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Bodies tend to change after having kids, so don't count on a tiny waist. I'd follow more how you feel, energy levels, stamina... as guidance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:14 PM Flag
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I'm 115 lbs and my body can tell right away when goes up towards 120 lbs in a negative way (less fit, lower muscle tone, more letargic). Feel best at 112-113 lbs, but I seem to bounce in that 111lb - 117lb range since I was 18, 20 years ago (aside from pregnancies). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:16 PM Flag
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Actually, 105lb - 117lb range in the last 20 years. But during the last 5 years, my bottom has been 111 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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Thanks. I am thinking 114 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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I felt so low energy at 105... have several pictures of that period, embarrassing: skin and bones. AVOID! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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OP here - I have a a small waist. Wear a 26 jean now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:23 PM Flag
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GREAT!!! It's the best body asset to have imho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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no. it doesn't change with kids. it changes with putting on weight and losing muscle mass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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No. You have to be fat not to realize that body shape changes after kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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I think that is too low for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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I'm 3 inches taller than you. Very happy with my body at 115lb, also curvy. Only you know how you feel at each weight point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:11 PM Flag
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I'm you!!! Very happy at 115, too. Am very fit so a lot of it is muscle. Way to go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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for me at 5'2 the perfect weight is 120 (I am 135 right now:() [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:12 PM Flag
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You are me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:13 PM Flag
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also 5'2" and now over 140. Or maybe even 145, afraid to look. I know... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 11:55 PM Flag
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You're in your 40s. Time to stop asking strangers on the Internet what you should weigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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Wrong. The worst thing OP should do is the typical American thing of late: assume that being fat and obesity are normal and not undesirable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:18 PM Flag
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Reading comprehension issues? No one said she should be obese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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No. You tried to censor OP's "getting into a healthier weight" project, probably because you are fat and gave up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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Or maybe because I am a healthy nutritionist & know how crazy people here are about weight. And at 40 one should be able to determine what is good for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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You sound fat. Just own it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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BS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Self-serving asshole who wants to be paid for the advice people are sharing with OP here. LMAO!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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OP here. Thanks. I am not willing let it go just because I have had kids and am in my 40s. The scale was getting close to 130 lbs and I am totally reversing that trend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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I am in the best shape of my life after two kids. You can do it!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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You are doing it right!!! Keep it up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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No one said to give it up. This isn't a healthy board to ask for advice on weight. That is all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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Get out of here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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Warning: np is a fatso, this is classic fat talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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I am you and 115 was my perfect weight when I was younger. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:19 PM Flag
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Thanks. I suppose the best thing to do is get to 115 lbs and then see if I need to lose a few more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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i would take your measurements and go from there. i weigh more than i did at the same "size" bc i work out so much more now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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Honestly, you should be about 105. That's not even underweight. I'm 5'3" and curvy (very small waist) and eat normally. Even I am in the normal zone for BMI. I'm also muscular because I work out. Start exercising and you'll see where you should be because you'll feel and look great by your new appreciation for a fit body. A body that moves looks vastly different from a body that is sedentary. My doctor told me 100lbs for 5' and five pounds for every inch after that is a normal weight. Don't let the obese people sway you. They've normalized morbid obesity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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At our height, 5 lbs makes a huge difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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I actually do workout now. SoulCycle 2x a week, run 3.5 miles 2x a week and Bar Method 3x a week. I am afraid my face will look super gaunt at 105 lbs. I wear a 26 inch jean now and know at 115 lbs I can wear a size 24 jean. Because of the DDs, at that weight I am usually a size 2 in designer dresses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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If you do it slowly, you won't look gaunt. Are you Caucasusian? If so, then maybe don't be thin and just be slightly fluffy so as not to be haggard looking in the face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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Caucasian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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Yeah..I am a White girl though do have Olive skin. Most women I know who are my height and weigh under 110 lbs are Asian and have small boobs. They don't carry their weight well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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Why are Caucasians only at risk of ending with a gaunt face at 105 lbs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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NP: Asian ladies tend to have fuller faces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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What about Latinas? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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"Don't let the obese people sway you. They've normalized morbid obesity." THIS!!! My DH is from Oklahoma, EVERY woman from that area is fat after the 1st kid or even earlier. I recognize the FAT TALK a mile away! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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OP here. It's precisely why I asked on UB what would be a good goal. Sounds like somewhere between 105-115 lbs. Maybe I will split the difference. Weight Watcher ladies think I don't need to lose anything. I know I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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Exactly. USA has gone downhill when it comes to tackle fat. Most have given up or worse: gotten so used to it that consider being fat as normal and ideal. It's a terrible thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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You are overweight. You'll start looking awesome around 105-110 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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Gee thanks. I am actually not medically overweight but I do agree I need to lose weight to look my best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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You're huge compared to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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This isn't about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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It's very overweight and you asked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:42 PM Flag
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np: it is not very overweight, you know nothing about OP's muscle mass, and stfu [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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Ha, ha. This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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"not medically overweight" at this point, only the obese are. Wonder why doctors in USA don't put more attention into their patients weight. If the current obesity epidemic doesn't do it, then what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:44 PM Flag
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IMHO cigarettes smokers are worse than fatties. They actually manage to smell worse. Lady who smokes in my office makes me gag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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LMAO! Drunks are the worst, Rx and drug addicts probably about as damaging. You sound fat trying to argue that being fat isn't something to avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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At OP's height obese would be 158 lbs. Overweight 132 lbs. You might want educate yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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Smokers are worse than fatties. I want to build a wall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Drunks are the worst, Rx and drug addicts probably about as damaging. You sound fat trying to argue that being fat isn't something to avoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Watch out for fat people! They tend to make those around them fat as well. Try to surround yourself instead with healthy fit adults as much as possible. Let the fat ones hang among each other instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Abroad, between 132 lbs and 158 lbs is FAT as well. You guys sound like a bunch of fatsos in denial! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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That's way more than curves. It's fat not curves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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I wasn't trying to say I didn't need to lose weight, only trying to describe my body type, which is more of an hour glass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] France has 8 to 10 THOUSAND cases of mushroom poisoning every year. WTF is people so into mushrooms given the risk? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:07 PM Flag
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One in six people in the US get food poisoning each year. Most from meat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:12 PM Flag
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I'm not sure where you're getting your numbers, but read this: http://www.annieandre.com/2013/01/wild-mushroom-picking-in-france/ Harvesting wild mushrooms is a big pastime in France. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:12 PM Flag
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Risky one! Same with Italy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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Mushrooms must be poisonous for frogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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We are into mushrooming. Only a few varieties will do more than give you an upset stomach and those are easy to identify. Our mushroom club has tons of foreigners and they like to eat everything no matter how awful the taste as long as it won't kill you. Locals mainly go for the chanterelles, porcini, morels etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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they're delicious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 04:54 PM Flag
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ils adorent des champignons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.29.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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