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[ - ] Does anyone have a link to the Swiss boarding school post from earlier today? I saw it when it was first posted, but I had to leave the computer, and now I can't find it. I want to see what people said, bc DH and I are considering Swiss boarding school for our kid too. tia 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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why swiss? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Not just Swiss. But we want to send her across the pond for high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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why on earth would you want to send your 14-15 year old kid so far away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Because I think that it would be a better environment for her. I will be sad to have her so far away, but I would visit her whenever possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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There are so many great boarding schools here in the US, if that's what you're into; it seems extreme to focus on Europe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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American schools just aren't what we are looking for. I want her to have a more international perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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You mean you think your environment would be better without her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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op: What? No! That is so ridiculous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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People who say "across the pond" make me stabby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Oops! Sorry! Didn't mean to say anything offensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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^2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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I think most people said it was a stupid idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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This. They said it was a lot of money to hang out with spoiled, ultra-rich kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Oh did they? All right, well that's too bad. I think that Swiss boarding school could be a good idea, but I have come to realize that my views generally diverge from the norm on this board! Thank you all-- post a link if you have it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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There's this thing...."Google" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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pp: I didn't watch it :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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I went to swiss boarding school. it was great. and most of the kids weren't that rich [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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So you enjoyed it? Could you say a little more about your experience there? Will you provide your children with the same kind of education. Thanks :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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I know, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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What? Honestly, it was a lot of ordinary Americans whose parents worked for oil companies and lived in saudi arabia and the company paid for their kids to attend school there. it was a great experience. i would definitely want to send my kids there because all of the exposure to other european countries, although i did drink a lot and smoke a lot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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"ordinary Americans" LMAO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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not that funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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op (of this post): Well I will be pretty upset if she starts smoking cigarettes!! I don't have any problem with a little experimentation with weed and alcohol though. I think that is a normal part of the adolescent experience. Thank you for your response! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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I went to boarding school as well and know they pay for boarding school education for those kids, but I seriously hope they're not paying for Le Rosey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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If you want to watch a post, press "watch." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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[ - ] Any chance to get in G&T program at ps 122 in queens with a non sibling 98?? TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Yes, I think you should be good with a 98! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Thanks!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] My NYC public school child (1st grade) has not advanced in reading levels since the end of last year (J/K). I'm concerned about the lack of progress- should I be? (Teacher gives useless replies when I ask her). 79 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 04.17.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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VBA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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this. Most kids are at K at the end of 1st grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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+1 even g&t [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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M is magic tree house. You can not possibly be a g&t parent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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magic tree house is not on 1st grade reading level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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Most g&t kids do read HP in 2nd grade with comprehension. It's not some UB myth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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It doesn't matter where most kids are. If her kid has stagnated at the same level for a year that suggests something is amiss - possibly the teacher is neglecting attention to the child in favor of those who need extra support, but all kids should move forward over a school year, especially during early elementary when kids make rapid progress (and BTW, my daughter is at L in first grade and many of her peers are at higher levels). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you for your input- that is in line with my thoughts. Any recommendation on how to help your child advance at this level? I'm not clear on what the teacher is doing, but doesn't sound like much (she lectures the class on some reading comprehension tips, and then they read by themselves in class everyday.-- no reading groups, no individual reading with teacher, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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See below. With the F&P scale it's not about reading fluency as much as it is about comprehension. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:56 PM Flag
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Read with your child and stop along the way to ask thoughtful questions - make inferences, predict things, etc. You can do this while your child reads to you, but personally I find it works best while reading to my child. The books are meatier -- so more to discuss -- and I think it helps inspire them to grow. You might even find something in the middle that you can co-read. My first grader loved the Clementine books, which I think are around O. She can read and understand them fluently, but she gets worn out more easily so I'll take turns. I'm also reading her the Harry Potter series and she'll read chunks of that, but mostly I read and we have lots to talk about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:05 PM Flag
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+2. my 2nd grader is on N and she is a good reader. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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OP: Definitely not a VBA. My kid is in a G&T, and I don't know other's reading levels, but plenty of kids who read better than him. I'm not asking about his specific reading level, but more the lack of "progress". Have others had kids whose reading levels stayed the same for almost the entire school year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Kids progress differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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totally this. My 1st grader progressed a lot during this year (skipped 6 levels) and plateaued now toward the end of school year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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OP: Can you see how I'm concerned than that my 1st grader has presumably not progressed at all in reading this year (the whole year has been a plateau) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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How is her reading comprehension? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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OP: I thought it was ok, but DC is not answering comprehension questions correctly on the 2 assessments so far this year I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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I see why you're concerned then. Could you let DC's teacher know that her answers are not satisfactory and try to escalate to principal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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It's possible that she was decoding at J/K at the end of kindergarten and the first grade teacher diagnosed that she wasn't comprehending there so has been working on that skill. But if that's the case, the teacher should be able to explain it and I would expect growth over the year for sure. My first grade DD went from H to L (and is likely to go to M/N at next assessment based on informal conversation with the teacher). She is also in GT and most of her classmates are ahead of her, but all have moved over the year based on what I observe on family reading days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you for the feedback. The teacher does state that he decodes very well, and she wants him to work on comprehension. However, when I read with him, he understands the material fine. When I ask her, she asks me vague questions like "well, when he reads, is he really thinking about what he is reading, and wondering about it?" My answer is, yes, as far as I can tell. And then she says, "Ok, well then keep asking him questions after he reads. We talk about this stuff all the time in the class.". All seems so vague to me, and she does not seem to share my concern that he is not progressing via levels during these assessments, or motivated to help him do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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I gave you some examples below. You'd be surprised. I went through an entire Guided Reading book with DS and he answered every question about "Ms. Spider is Jealous" until the last page when he went "What does jealous mean"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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OP: haha:) Tell me- any idea where I can get books that come with the questions to ask. PErhaps i am just asking him the wrong questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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If you Watch this post when I get home tonight I'll look in his book baggie to see if I can find any clues. Unless they switched books today I should have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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Maybe dc was placed in the high reading level incorrectly when he was in k. that happened to my dc one year...also g&t. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:16 PM Flag
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Teacher hasn't tested. Please listen to me. It's a game. The levels are meaningless. Teachers make them up stop testing when they get to level that will look good instead of actually seeing what level the child can achieve. Do not give it a second thought [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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BS this is not impressive at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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if dc is reading at or above grade level, nothing to worry about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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My guess: this is in a public school, right? No surprise there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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OP: Please tell me what you mean by this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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I mean you should not expect anything from public school. My DC went to a very popular public school and came home with a math sheet has 5 errors, but the sheet was marked "Excellent" by a teacher who has 10 years experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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The same teacher only asked 3rd grade kids to read for 20 mins, without giving any other homework. When I asked if she can possible give any math assignment, she made announcement to the whole class that Mary's mom asked for more homework. I should have reported her to the principal, but I was afraid of her revenge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Why ARE You asking for HW? Can't you just drill DC yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Don't you think it's teacher's responsibility to give out homework for a 3rd grade student? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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No. I can buy a workbook if she needs more homework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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np: i think she means that the teacher is useless. ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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too many kids to one teacher. probably can't help them all that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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OP: Probably true. Wish they at least did reading groups (weekly reading in small groups with the teacher to discuss the same book). I hear other schools do this. As far as I can tell, the teacher occasionally lectures to the whole class about reading comprehension, and the reads with your child individually 3 times a year at assessments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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She just wants to knock public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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i could have written the same post. I wish I knew what to do too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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It might be that K and 1 teachers have a difference in approach in assigning reading levels (word recognition/pronunciation vs. comprehension) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, I do think this was the case with our K and now 1st teachers. But still, it seems like a 1st grader should advance at least 1 reading level during the year, or he is not "learning". Is this thinking off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Btdt. The reason is your dc was advanced for K, and this year the teacher did not have to spend any effort on getting your dc to advance. Her goal is to get the weakest readers to grade level, not to push the advanced ones further. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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Doesn't it look bad for the teacher if there are kids who have not changed reading levels at all the whole year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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Not as bad as kids who are not passing grade level. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Our gen ed class splits up into reading groups, and the kids from upper grades come down and partner if the lower ones if there is an advanced reader. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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+3 DD is at an L in K but Im not going to post that she's not "advancing" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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^sorry this was meant for the VBA OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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OP: Sorry, I didn't realize that J/K was considered so advanced near the end of 1st grade, that this would be considered a VBA. I'm focused on the idea that a child should move up at least 1 reading level during the entire school year, or they are not learning sufficiently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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You know it's advanced because you got a 4 on your report card. Don't even pretend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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OP: No. He got mostly 3's on his most recent report card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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It's not. It's a little advanced, but I think people are giving you grief where none is deserved. There is no reason why your child shouldn't grow over the course of a year, even if she was a first grader reading at S in the fall. It is normal to expect kids to make progress over a school year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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She said DS was J/K at end of K, that IS advanced. By like 1.5 grade levels. She doesn't need to pretend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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OP: My understanding of kindergarten is that many kids enter at all sorts of levels. Some are already reading (mine) and some dont' read at all. However, all should advance over the course of the year, and the same should hold true for 1st grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:48 PM Flag
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OK again I'm talking about the assessment charts. By end of K they're a 4 if they're F and beyond. Obviously it'll vary within your class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:52 PM Flag
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Right, J/K is advanced for kindergarten, but by the end of first grade, not by much. The more concerning thing is that he didn't advance even one level in first grade and it's mid-April. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:10 PM Flag
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OP: That's the point I'm trying to make/ ask. Definitely not a VBA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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But she said her child IS growing, she's just dissatisfied with the assessments. I'm in the same boat but I know DS is reading at level L, I know he'll get a 4. What does it matter if it's a high or low 4? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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OP: He's not getting 4's right now, but perhaps he will at the end of the year? But regardless, I'm not focused on the grade he gets (as I don't think it matters for anything at this age). I'm focused only on the fact that he is learning and advancing. I think he is improving in reading, but it would be nice if the teacher also had the same opinion and it showed in assessments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:47 PM Flag
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To get a 4 in June by end of 1st Grade he needs an L. And again, I just want to point out that he IS advancing, but not being assessed where you think he should be. That's different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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OP: I'd like confirmation that the teacher thinks he is advancing in reading this year-- not just me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:51 PM Flag
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Did you bring it up at PTC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:56 PM Flag
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OP: Yes. She didn't seem concerned and gave some vague replies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:58 PM Flag
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Wait - he hasn't moved up an ASSESSED level or an actual reading level? DS had amazing K teacher but shitty 1st grader and I'm convinced her rating of I is wrong as he's reading L level books at home. He'll pull out a 4 at year end, and I know his reading is advanced, so why do I need teacher to tell me that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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OP: Hasn't moved up an "Assessed" reading level. I do think he is reading better than at the end of K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Oh, then who cares? He'll get a 4 on his report card either way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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OP: I don't really care much about the grades on his report card (my interest is that he is learning over the course of a year), but on his last report card in Feb he got mostly 3's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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I think it's only an issue if they didn't advance in other areas - doing better in math/other skills? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, definitely advancing in math, writing, and spelling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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I think you're right to be concerned. Is the teacher assessing him and not seeing any progress, or is she not assessing him because he is above grade level? Those are 2 very different issues and I would press the teacher until she gave you a definitive answer. And by the way, my dd was at the same level last year. Her current 1st grade teacher does not assess as often as the teacher in K, but she does assess all kids at least before report cards and parents get progress updates. This is in a district g&t. Something is definitely off here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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She's assessed him twice this year so far-- in September, and then again around January before report cards. My concern is that she doesn't not seem to work with him at all (in small groups or individually) to help him progress further. And she also doesn't seem interested in the fact that he is not progressing in her assessments. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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SHe doesn't do guided reading sessions with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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OP: No- not at all. Is that small group reading-- she doesn't do this either. What is guided reading-- individual reading with the teacher? Perhaps I should ask if she can do this with him to help him advance this year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:49 PM Flag
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DS gets home actual guided reading books. They are rated and there are questions they work on together: What makes you think Suzy is being bossy? How do the other children feel? What makes you think they feel that way?" When they say comprehension, this is what they mean. He gets a session with her once every two weeks. They're also broken into smaller reading groups, by ability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:54 PM Flag
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OP: Is this a DOE public school in NYC? We don't have ANY of that at our district G&T. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:59 PM Flag
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Yes, NYC gen ed (ironically we have a district G&T class in our school, too) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:01 PM Flag
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OP: Jealous. G&T in our case seems to mean that most of the teaching is expected to occur at home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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The expected response include looking at the other kids' facial expressions to determine that they're unhappy, to picking out words "they said angrily" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:02 PM Flag
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Most of the kids coming back from a summer break regress on their level (math & ela) because they spend the summer having fun not engaging enough on learning. Different teacher assesses differently, therefore, reading level drops a notch (some can be tougher than others). Plus, imho, teachers kind of give themselves some wiggle room to show progress at the end of year report card, that they did their job. So they do jump the gun to give high marks right away. A lot of these kids, my ds included, tend to be lazy when coming across new words. They simply skipped the looking up and understanding the meaning, went right into the story line. Basically swallowing the words without chewing. Large public school class size does not allow teachers to work with students individually. If you are so concerned, why don't you read with your dc? I started to have my ds to read to me loud and clear enough that I could understand what he was reading without me looking at the book, then I stopped him from time to time to ask him the intricate undertone in the paragraph he just read. I could spend up to 30 minutes going back and forth with him on one paragraph. It helped! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 10:30 PM Flag
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oops, typo. ....the teacher DON'T jump the gun.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 10:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Speaking of the Ben Affleck thing, I don't understand why people get upset if they find out some of their ancestors were slaveholders. My ancestors were big landholders back in Mexico, going way back to the days of the Spanish Empire, and if anything we're very PROUD of that fact. I don't endorse slaveholding, but it was the manner of the era, and it means that you come from prominent/well-heeled "stock." That's certainly not a point of shame anywhere in Latin America, but I guess in the US it's more of a guilt culture or something? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Yes. It's called white guilt. Everyone is supposed to partake, but even more so the offspring of the well to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Well, we're white too (to the extent that Spaniards are white I guess), but we don't have that kind of guilt for whatever reasons. It seems like a very northern Euro thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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It's a US thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Doubtful tbat you are pure white. Upper class Mexicans have alot of local indian blood in them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:05 AM Flag
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I'm pretty sure most of us have ancestors that were slaves. Most of us also had ancestors that had slaves. Everyone's family is as old as everyone else's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Um, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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You are bad at math. Going back 1000 years you could theoretically have up to over a billion ancestors, which is impossible of course since there weren't that many people on the planet then, but it does mean we are all related if you want to go back far enough. We've all got ancestors who owned slaves and who had slaves. Slavery goes back a long way babe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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You sound like an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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You're the ass. For real [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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African tribes sold their neighbors. Humans are bad and Africans in the past and now are just as bad as everyone else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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You think there are people who just sprung up from cabbage patches and had no ancestors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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You're probably one of of those white people who naively think their bloodline is full of nothing but English Aristocrats and Viking Warriors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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No, my bloodline is all white people. Quite likely no aristocrats or warriors. What's with your racist attitude lady? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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If your family has been here for at least 5 generations, chances are you have an african ancestor in your bloodline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:29 PM Flag
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It's not that common; that 23andMe study a couple months ago found that self-described "white" Americans average out to “98.6 percent European, 0.19 percent African and 0.18 percent Native American.” But the median white American has no African or NA ancestry (the averages are brought up by people who do). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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It's more regional. A white person from the South is more likely to have African heritage than a white person from the Northeast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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True. Why do you care? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:10 AM Flag
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More likely Native American. My friend is from Tennessee. She's 1/4 Cherokee [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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Actually if you are a white American you are more likely to have African blood than American Indian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:17 AM Flag
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Sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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Exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.18.15, 12:06 AM Flag
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People who brag about their ancestors are like carrots. The only useful part of them is under ground. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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Lol ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:06 PM Flag
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My 6 greats grandfather was Robert Morris who signed the declaration of independence. I always thought that was pretty interesting, then my Mom told me he was a big slaveholder. I'm not upset. Obviously slavery was awful, but what does that have to do with me? It's not my fault. I don't feel guilty at all. [ Reply | More ]
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I think that slavery and the slave trade in the US and the long term ramifications for it, not to mention the hypocrisy of it in THIS country, are very different from having been landholders in other countries. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, let me be clear - being a landholder in Old Mexico meant having "tenants" who were effectively slaves. No disputing that, and I won't even try. [ Reply | More ]
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In England the landowners had Tenants who were basically slaves. They lived short brutish lives. They also had servants who had no freedom [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best Broadway show you ever saw? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I liked jersey boys. [ Reply | More ]
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this was great. I saw it twice [ Reply | More ]
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Rent the year it came out with the original cast [ Reply | More ]
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+a zillion, but it sounds so dated now if you listen to the soundtrack. So good then though. [ Reply | More ]
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I still love it, but yeah definitely dated! My drama class in high school went, I had no clue what it was but very glad our teacher took us. [ Reply | More ]
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^^or [ Reply | More ]
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I saw it with the original cast too but just couldn't understand the hype [ Reply | More ]
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I absolutely hated Rent. I went with my friend and her mother who treated us to the tickets. I would have left at intermission if I had gone alone. [ Reply | More ]
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what did u hate about it? how old were you when you saw it, and was it in NY? [ Reply | More ]
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I saw while I was an undergrad in NYC around 1997 or 1998, in NYC. I absolutely hated the music and felt like everyone in the show was screaming at me. It gave me a headache. [ Reply | More ]
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I hated Rent. [ Reply | More ]
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Never understood the appeal. I thought the music sucked and all they did was yell. [ Reply | More ]
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I saw Deathtrap with Christopher Reeve [ Reply | More ]
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I saw that. [ Reply | More ]
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I still love A Chorus Line from back in the day. The Lion King was pretty amazing too. I prefer plays, but musicals win for overall best experience. [ Reply | More ]
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Ms. Saigan, Les Miserables, Phantom, Lion King. [ Reply | More ]
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loved ms. saigon... [ Reply | More ]
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streetcar named desire in the 90s with alec baldwin and famous blond lady... [ Reply | More ]
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was it Jessica lange? [ Reply | More ]
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i think so. yes. 1993 maybe. it was great. I just watched it with vivian leigh on tcm. great story. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow! I saw that too. But I wasn't that into it. [ Reply | More ]
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Book of Mormon and the Producers [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Theater sucks. But if it has to exist, it should at least be smart and funny. [ Reply | More ]
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Lion King! [ Reply | More ]
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August: Osage County [ Reply | More ]
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Barbie in Fairytopia. My spoiled niece who was 4 completely freaked out at the monster and had to be escorted from the theater. Good times. [ Reply | More ]
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Cats [ Reply | More ]
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Chicago, or, when I was a child, Camelot [ Reply | More ]
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Pippin [ Reply | More ]
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"The Phantom of the Opera is here - inside your mind!" Love, love, love! [ Reply | More ]
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The Trip to Bountiful with Cicily Tyson [ Reply | More ]
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Cabaret with Alan Cumming, the first time it was at Studio 54. [ Reply | More ]
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Brighton Beach Memoirs with Matthew Broderick, Chorus Line in the 80s, Proof [ Reply | More ]
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Passing strange, lion king. I actually loved how to succeed in business without really trying, thought daniel radcliffe was excellent. Off broadway - fun home and Hamilton. [ Reply | More ]
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^wit, the syringa tree. Avenue Q first run off broadway [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Here's what I don't understand about the death penalty: WHY would a person want to spend the rest of their life in prison instead of being put to death? If someone did something horrible to a loved one, I would want them to suffer for years in prison, not just slip off into a peaceful death. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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debatable how peaceful it is but agree in principle. [ Reply | More ]
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Humans are incredibly adaptable. People get used to prison after a while, and it just becomes their lives. They get to read, watch TV, exercise, see their families. It's not pleasant, but it's not constant torture day in and day out. This is why the argument that life in prison is worse than death is total bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
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I can't believe that tv is allowed. books and (I guess) exercise are fine. I also can't believe that that inmates get things like cookies for dessert every day. [ Reply | More ]
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Really? You lock a bunch of violent men in a building indefinitely and don't let them watch tv in their downtime? How do you think THAT would work out. How do you think they'd decide to fill their time? [ Reply | More ]
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Let them all kill each other then...What kind of punishment is sitting in front of the tube all day? that's kind of a great gig, if you can get it. [ Reply | More ]
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I hear you. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. And men find other men to have sex with. they adapt [ Reply | More ]
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None of this is relevant. A civilized society doesn't engage in state sponsored murder. It's not about them. It's about us. Capital punishment is a society scourge. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Some people think Yellow Fever is something white men have, which in some cases is true, but in my experience the opposite is much more common. If anything, Asian women perk up like crazy when a white man shows interest. If there's a "fetish," Asian women having one for white men is much more common than the other way around. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What do you call a white woman married to an Asian man? Do I have a yellow fever fetish? [ Reply | More ]
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small dck fetish? [ Reply | More ]
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LMAO. Oh honey, sorry your DH dumped ya. XOXO [ Reply | More ]
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Are you Asian? If not, why are you so interested in this? Unhappily married? Single? What's your story? [ Reply | More ]
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Dumped by bf for Asian woman. [ Reply | More ]
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ok- that makes sense. Sorry OP. But try not to make this all about race. He may have liked her better/ not liked you that much. Given your post, I think its highly likely you are not the nicest person out there. Perhaps work on that? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: No particular reason. DH is an attractive 6'3" fit white man and is mostly left alone by women in public, but he estimates that of the times he does get approached, it's mostly by Asian women (well, or gay men, lol). I just find the topic interesting. We often hear about Yellow Fever but not Asian women having... White Fever? And I think White Fever is much more common than Yellow, in my and DH's experience. [ Reply | More ]
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Don't kid yourself. Your DH is very flattered. [ Reply | More ]
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I think there is many more white men with Asian fetishes than the other way around. Signed Asian woman. [ Reply | More ]
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are you married to an asian or white? [ Reply | More ]
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PP: DH is also Asian. [ Reply | More ]
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How small is his dick and how many times a month do you cuck him with a alpha white guy? [ Reply | More ]
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Troll again in disguise. Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
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Bay Ridge used to be called Yellow Hook in the old days, but after the Yellow Fever epidemic, they changed the name. [ Reply | More ]
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You could probably go back to the original name, considering how Asian is has become. [ Reply | More ]
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this! just this week a big article in the NYT [ Reply | More ]
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I literally will not let azn women come within 20 ft of DH. He is tall (6'2") and still plays recreational rugby and attracts these hussies like moths to a flame. [ Reply | More ]
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Right. It's the women's fault. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. DH doesn't find Asian women attractive really at all (I mean there are exceptions on the extreme end of course) so it's really not an issue. But it's amazing to see. [ Reply | More ]
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You're a loser. [ Reply | More ]
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np: OMG...please be fake or a troll. [ Reply | More ]
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I bet it's See Through Shirt mom [ Reply | More ]
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my nippies are showing? [ Reply | More ]
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Are you aging badly. Why so insecure. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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well done mam, an image is worth a million words!! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: LOL! Exactly! [ Reply | More ]
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Not all asian women are so ugly, although I find that a lot of good looking white guys tend to be with ugly asian women. I am Asian myself and have no idea where the attraction is. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh honey you are the only ugly one. So sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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As a white man I'm constantly harassed and propositioned by Asian girls I am not into asian women so I find it frustrating. I think the myth of white men going for Asian women is that Asian girls are more active in looking for white guys so guys who cannot be bothered to chase white girls who will accuse them or rape and harassment will be quite happy to be an object of desire. White women see this and feel threatens and jealous and blame the white guys. Most white women are incredibly bitter and racist. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Oh you sound like a gem. [ Reply | More ]
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I am you'd wet your knickers at the sight me babe [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please [ Reply | More ]
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yawwwwn [ Reply | More ]
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catherder with ExDH banging a lithe 23 yo azn girl. [ Reply | More ]
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Lucky ! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Bored DH. Ask me anthing! 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do you like to flirt with hot moms? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not really much of a flirter - friendly and chatty with hot and non-hot moms alike, however. [ Reply | More ]
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What female celeb do you find most attractive? [ Reply | More ]
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Hmm. Raw looks-wise, Kate Upton? Charisma, maybe Anna Kendrick or Jennifer Lawrence? [ Reply | More ]
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You're so not a DH [ Reply | More ]
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Why's that? Certainly am. What, you don't like my taste? [ Reply | More ]
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My DH would say Kate Upton in a heartbeat. [ Reply | More ]
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pp: my DH wouldn't rate Anna Kendrick for anything [ Reply | More ]
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OP: lol - funny, oddly charming. I bet she's great in the sack. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you the engineer? This would make sense. [ Reply | More ]
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^NP [ Reply | More ]
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Nope, physician :) [ Reply | More ]
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You are a little writerly for a physician. Second career? [ Reply | More ]
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Nope, but an academic physician - do a fair amount of writing (papers, grants, etc.) and was a humanities major back in the day. [ Reply | More ]
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Ah. This makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
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What man talks like that? [ Reply | More ]
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I've dated guys who do. [ Reply | More ]
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Me, I guess? [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. Only dated DH in NYC. And to my knowledge, none of the guys ended up as a physician. But who knows? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I don't understand... [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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I don't get it. You think that guys don't imaging how good the sex would be with other people? Or you're just taking issue with my using the phrase "in the sack" instead of something more explicit? [ Reply | More ]
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I would guess that they take issue with "oddly charming," but that's just a guess. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh. Would definitely not have guessed that! [ Reply | More ]
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^was in reply to the suggestion that umbrage was taken with "oddly charming" not "in the sack" [ Reply | More ]
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Could you go without sex for ten years [ Reply | More ]
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Could I? Perhaps. But it'd be miserable, and I'd be resentful. We go through some pretty darn long dry spells, but thankfully not measurable in years! [ Reply | More ]
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np- what do you consider a long dry spell? [ Reply | More ]
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1-2 months. [ Reply | More ]
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Why? Post baby? Or something else? [ Reply | More ]
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3 kids, we're both often tired, and DWs libido is just lower than it used to be. When we're together, it's wonderful, she's just not often in the mood I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there any way I can get DH to start working out? Leaving him alone about it isn't working. Reminding him didn't work. [ Reply | More ]
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Is it something that you can do together? It has to be rewarding for him somehow. If he's already busy with work and/or home stuff, exercise can feel like another chore, and ends up just taking away from his other leisure time. Maybe you could tell him "I know your time is limited, and precious. I'd rather see you take the time for yourself to workout than [household chore x], so I'm totally willing to take that responsibility on to free you up for some time at the gym". Just a thought. [ Reply | More ]
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Does DH really not mind that I'm 15lbs heavier than I was pre pregnancy? He still wants to have sex everynight and he swears it doesn't matter, but I don't feel attractive. [ Reply | More ]
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and I am actually overweight, not UB fat. fwiw [ Reply | More ]
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You're clearly attractive to him... and he clearly still wants you! Why are you so convinced that being a little heavier makes you unattractive? [ Reply | More ]
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Because I don't look like me any more. Oh I know he wants sex. He would do it two times a day. I just feel like less than, because I'm heavier and everything droops more than when we met. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't look like you, to you. He looks at you and sees the woman he's into. Heavier, droopier, not nearly as big a deal to many DH as are charisma/confidence/desire/creativity/passion [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. I needed that. [ Reply | More ]
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You should go on a weight loss program not because your husband cares but because it's affecting how you think about yourself. Put together a diet program for the family, go on long walks with husband on the weekend and ask him to help support your efforts by keeping the foods for which you have no willpower out of the house and when you two are at a restaurant. [ Reply | More ]
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just imagine what he sees when you are in your 4s and then the answer will be obvious. [ Reply | More ]
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If you mean on all 4s, I imagine I look like a cow. If you mean in my 40s, honey, I'km already there. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you work or are you a SAHD? [ Reply | More ]
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Work, as does DW. [ Reply | More ]
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How/when did you realize that your wife was "the one?" [ Reply | More ]
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We started dating freshman year in college...dated others off and on through college and grad school, but kept gravitating back to her. No single moment, but I remember grappling with the question of whether to propose to her after dating for a long time (seven years at that point), and just coming to the decision that life with her would be good. [ Reply | More ]
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np: and is life still "good"? All you imagined, or are you restless? [ Reply | More ]
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I never would have imagined this life. But I never really knew what to imagine my life would be. I'm happy - she's a great partner and a good person, DC's are great, work is hard but satisfying. [ Reply | More ]
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what do you mean "never would have imagined this life"? Disappointed in the way things are in some way? [ Reply | More ]
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No, not disappointed. Just wouldn't have guessed it. Woudln't have guessed I'd be married with three kids, living in NYC, doing what I do. I was a bit of a punk in high school, smart but a bit of a screw-up! [ Reply | More ]
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Do you think a DH taking sides with SIL all the time is abnormal. [ Reply | More ]
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I presume you mean SIL over DW. Yeah...a little odd. I wonder how "all the time" it is, or if this is hyperbole, and I also wonder why there's so many things to take sides over. It of course depends on what the arguments are over, his role in them / how they affect him, etc. So: I guess I/we need more info. [ Reply | More ]
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How many times a week would you want to have sex if DW agreed? [ Reply | More ]
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At least daily. I take care of business on a daily basis, since the sex life has slown down. [ Reply | More ]
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How many times a week? [ Reply | More ]
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honestly? most days 1-2 times. [ Reply | More ]
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I figured that. I mean actual sex. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. Once a week, average. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Where can I find really good towels? (To buy, I mean, not like hotel towels) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Gilt [ Reply | More ]
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go to gracious home. feel them. get the ones you like best. [ Reply | More ]
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wow that store is overpriced. [ Reply | More ]
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But they have sales - just wait for one. [ Reply | More ]
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I just got some great ones from overstock. Try it, you can always return. [ Reply | More ]
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this! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] i went to a fancy grad school. while everyone else is a vice minister of Swedon or MD at a major bank, I am a single mom in a one bedroom apartment. Our reunion is next week. I really would like to go, if only for the networking factor, but am really afraid of just how awful I will feel afterwards. would you go? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Of course! But try to either get over the self-loathing, or at least pretend to be over it [ Reply | More ]
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that i know [ Reply | More ]
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is everyone else really that successful? I doubt it will be that extreme. Plus, I'm sure many of those MDs would love to have children but haven't been able to [ Reply | More ]
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This. They may have better handbags, but they will never likely have children. [ Reply | More ]
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it's harvard, so yes, about 90% are phenomenally successful [ Reply | More ]
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NP: i know so many women who went to TT MBA programs who are now SAHMs and definitely others who have either opted out of the fast track to be moms and have good but not phenomenal jobs. [ Reply | More ]
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A lot of them just work at Microsoft or Google. Tradeoffs. You have freedom, a family, and live in a great city. [ Reply | More ]
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Not "everyone" is the vice minister of Sweden. Yes, maybe even 50% of your class will have fancy jobs, but the other 50% will have regular/no jobs. You may be a single mom (not the only one), but your one-bedroom apt. is in NYC. So that's already better. [ Reply | More ]
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Would it be good for networking and better job opportunities? If they went to a good school and have good careers, I imagine most of them will be pretty gracious, so it is really more in your head than anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
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Could you just buy a very chic LBD, pair it with pearls, and say very little about yourself while there? Just try to look good-- that is what others notice (sadly). People mostly just want to talk about their own lives. On the rare occasions that the conversation turns to you, just smile and provide a vague answer. You will be fine :) [ Reply | More ]
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rent rent rent [ Reply | More ]
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Just go have fun. You never know when someone will die the next day. [ Reply | More ]
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they want to see you. A single woman is a very exotic thing at our age. Dress beautiful and be open and honest and brave, or whatever other adjective they use to describe women who attend events on their own. [ Reply | More ]
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How long has it been since you graduated? At five years out, everyone is comparing career progression to others. As you go further out, that sort of stuff becomes irrelevant. At my 20th business school reunion I was chatting with a classmate who I know has made a nine figure fortune in real estate. We mostly talked about the challenges he and his wife have with their only child who's severely autistic. I wouldn't trade his situation for mine. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any Korean moms on? Recs for a good Korean school? We are UES, but willing to travel. 5 yo DS. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I would be shocked if there was a Korean school in the ues. [ Reply | More ]
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My kids go to Korean School of New York in Riverdale. Surprisingly they've been around for 40 years which is amusing given the small Korean community in the Bronx. It's a healthy mix of Korean families with no English, 2nd generation who speak primarily English and mixed families. https://www.facebook.com/koreanschoolny/info?tab=overview They used to have a website but for some reason it's not working. There is also one in the East Village but not sure of the name. [ Reply | More ]
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TY! This is helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I LOVE when UB goes all hyper-local NYC with the gossip. Muah! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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right back ya, honey [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who lives in Sheepshead Bay. Seems like it would be cool to have a house and be on the water where you can keep a boat. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Very niche kind of an area [ Reply | More ]
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Striver Russians [ Reply | More ]
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this [ Reply | More ]
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EYE-talians [ Reply | More ]
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not anymore. Predominantly Russian, Asian, mid-east immigrants. [ Reply | More ]
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Where'd they go?? [ Reply | More ]
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Long Island? [ Reply | More ]
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Jersey; Long Island; Florida. [ Reply | More ]
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Carolinas after they got their lawsuit settlement/disability claim/pension. [ Reply | More ]
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That too! [ Reply | More ]
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Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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I have quite a few Jewish friends and family contacts that grew up there. It certainly is pretty out there, but I don't think it has as many resources as the rest of Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
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very isolated and clique-y [ Reply | More ]
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and then sandy comes knockin' [ Reply | More ]
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This. I barely want to stay in NY after [ Reply | More ]
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Too bad. Seems like it would be a cool place to live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh, the Beckhams. I'm so jelly. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yaaas. she does not look like a happy woman, though. never ever smiles in pictures. maybe ugly English teeth? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't care why she doesn't smile. I don't even care that his voice is so high that it makes you want to put him on mute. The pics of him and Harper and the boys just make me want to swooooon. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too!!!! I think they have to be a great couple. Otherwise, their kids would have turned out a mess. They seem like responsible, mature boys. David Beckham is gorge! The wife just needs a burger, but she's happy being hungry and skinny. Good for her for having the will power! [ Reply | More ]
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I think she is the one who keeps it all together [ Reply | More ]
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we really don't know yet how their kids will turn out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:33 PM Flag
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You have to rewatch some of the spice girls videos to appreciate how truly talentless she was. [ Reply | More ]
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Being where she is now clearly works for her [ Reply | More ]
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perfect [ Reply | More ]
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What happened? [ Reply | More ]
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they went to some fashion show all together and looked adorbs [ Reply | More ]
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She alwasys looks pissed and hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] My 17 yo son has a same age girlfriend who comes over to our house a lot. She drives herself and they usually keep to themselves in the basement rec room or his room, so I don't really always see her. I do see that they order a lot of pizza for themselves because I am usually the first to answer the door before my son comes with money to pay for it. I can see when the orders arrive that they are getting huge orders of mozarella sticks, fries, and a large pizza plus 2 liters of coke. I have never seen a salad, which surprised me because the girlfriend is barely 5 feet tall, and I wondered what portion of that food was hers. I just saw her today for the first time in what I realize now has probably been a couple of months, because she has easily put on at least 15 pounds since I saw her last, and on her frame that's a lot. I say nothing about this, right? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Um, really? Are you a busy person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:38 PM Flag
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OP. No, I've just been out driving all day, I have my iced tea and I just sat down to kill an hour before my other kid gets home from school. [ Reply | More ]
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Pp: sorry for the mean response. I'd say leave it. They'll be history soon. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL it's cool no worries [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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say nothing. ouch hard to watch. maybe you can provide some alternate food for them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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I have yogurts and salads and things, I've offered but they just like the takeout food. DS has the frame for it and he's very active, plus he's the kind of kid who often falls asleep after school and wants to sleep through dinner, so I know he balances out the times he eats 6 slices of pizza. But I feel bad for the girl. I was half wondering if she was throwing it up because she's always been so small, but I'm realizing it has indeed caught up with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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No you can't say a thing. But also wondering if she might be hiding a pregnancy? [ Reply | More ]
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op: are you feeling chest pain now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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LOL no she was wearing leggings and she was carrying it all in her hips, thighs and behind. She's definitely put on quite a bit, it just surprised me. She's a very pretty girl - but she's just so petite she doesn't have the room to put it on. I feel like I want to say hey, stop before it's too hard to take it off. I have healthy alternatives in the house and he pays for the food with his own money, so not sure what to do here. [ Reply | More ]
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At 17, its easy to take the weight off. Her next boyfriend will be a health nut, and she'll start jogging. [ Reply | More ]
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I hope so. Very nice girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Talk to him about saving his money to spend on other things. That you will give him snacks. That is as far as you can go. [ Reply | More ]
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I guess so. Just to be clear as well - I'm not stick thin myself at all. And I'm not a health nut. Just hard to see a pretty young person going down a slippery slope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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try putting out the snacks. Just try that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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I'm guessing they're smoking a ton of weed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+420 [ Reply | More ]
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
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OP. I think they do, a little. I haven't smelled it but I've seen a grinder. DS gets mostly A's so I let it slide. He's not my eldest so I'm a bit more relaxed on that count than I was with the first one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:49 PM Flag
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I'm starting to think this is fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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Sure hope so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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Not really. I'm just not that upset over weed anymore. I went crazy with my first one when I first caught him with it, but he ended up graduating HS and going to a good college, same with the next one. They had good SATs and grades. Don't get me wrong, it's not my favorite thing, but I'm more relaxed about it now that I've seen it's not the end of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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I don't think you should care about weed if he is still doing good in school. I'd much rather that then have my dd getting drunk. I like your attitude! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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+ 1000 (weed is no big deal imo) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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or: I agree, it only is if it's affecting your motivation to do well in school/work imo [ Reply | More ]
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really bad for adolescent boys' development and messes with serotonin. it's also horrible for your lungs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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not if you eat it lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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BTW I'm OP and if i were crafting a better fake, I'd be the one paying for the pizza and she would have put on 40lbs, not just 15 or so. It's just that 15 looks like a lot on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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FAKE [ Reply | More ]
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Nope! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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clueless mom here. what's a grinder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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1) a sandwich, 2) a device to crush sweet buds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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re: sweet buds- ILY [ Reply | More ]
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OP yes, second one. It's like the size of an oreo cookie and it breaks up the clumps of weed. You twist it back and forth. When I found my first one i was kind of fascinated by it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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Oooh! [ Reply | More ]
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yep, monday is a huge day for them lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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It's all about that bass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:51 PM Flag
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So they say [ Reply | More ]
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Hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Not your problem. Don't know why you would say anything. I do know that couples often get fat. [ Reply | More ]
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I was thinking more along the lines of pointing out to my son that they've been eating a lot of junk lately and it's not good for her on her frame ... but you're probably right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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If you say anything to him, he will tell her and it will be weird. You could still offer healthy snacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Yeah of course don't say anything. [ Reply | More ]
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What if you bring it up with DS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Help us name our soon-to-arrive puppy. Coton de Tulear, boy, with patches of black and tan on a white body. Joining a family w/3 kids and 2 cats, if that matters :) 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Jayden [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Should have clarified. Not into "regular person" names, but anything creative is cool. [even evil bastard, although if we're naming him that after getting him, it means something went terribly wrong!...] [ Reply | More ]
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Evil Bastard? Sorry. I've only known one. Her name was Daphne. My nickname for her was Crazy B@@@@. I'm an animal lover, but that dog was awful. [ Reply | More ]
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let DC name it. [ Reply | More ]
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We'll decide together as a family, DCs of course get a say. Just looking for some new ideas to add to the list! [ Reply | More ]
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We name our family pets after authors and composers. [ Reply | More ]
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I like that. Wolfgang, Grieg, Nielsen, [ Reply | More ]
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Patches, Apollo, Cotton Ball, [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Patches is cute! [ Reply | More ]
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We named our pets after spices (Vanilla, Ginger, Pepper) [ Reply | More ]
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cute! [ Reply | More ]
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Puff [ Reply | More ]
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Favorite childhood book character. [ Reply | More ]
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Enzo [ Reply | More ]
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Clinton, works for both a boy or girl [ Reply | More ]
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Pookie [ Reply | More ]
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Wouldn't your children want to name the dog? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do any SAHMs on here plan to never go back to work? At first, I felt like I had to apologize to the world and say that I'd start working as soon as the kids were in school, but I am not going to do this. I want to be around for my kids after school and in the mornings, and if they need something during school. DH works long hours, so I think it's important that one of us is around. By the time DCs are in college, DH will be on the verge of retirement. I also want to be available to help with aging family members whenever they need me. Sue me! 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I don't find this unusual. My mother did this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:33 PM Flag
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NP: Did she do it by choice and enjoy it (serious - no snark). Was she resentful that her entire life was putting others first (her kids, her husband, her parents/in-laws), with no time for herself/her needs. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think she resented it. I think she was a little overwhelmed in some respects because she refused help (she had this notion that everything had to be done by her). She was trained as an RN, so when everyone grew up, she went back to work but it was very flexible. [ Reply | More ]
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Uh.... [ Reply | More ]
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Like I said, her situation was very flexible. I remember that she did some home care visits but that was minimal. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. OR, you said that your mother did what the OP is doing, that is essentially retiring and not going back to work at all. But your mother went back to work when the kids were grown ... so, not exactly the OPs situation (unless you are saying that even when she returned to work, she was still "on call" for the family bc of her flexible work schedule). [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, see my post above. She was essentially not working in the traditional sense. She do a few home visits per week. Probably spent less time on that then on "hobbies." [ Reply | More ]
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I work pt now and am slightly nervous I won't be able to find FT work again. I feel like if something happened (my dh leaves me, my dh gets sick and can't work) we don't have enough saved up to be okay long term (short term, say 1 year, we'd be okay). If you feel like NO MATTER WHAT you are okay money-wise, good for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:34 PM Flag
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Ultimately, it is your own life. If you can financially do it, do it. Life is short. I know plenty of people who are are trying to do the work/life balance thing and are MISERABLE, especially in NYC. They do it because after having a few kids, they really don't have a choice if they want to send their kids to college, pay off the mortgage, and retire. Their situations are only viable if both parents work. It's not about "career". [ Reply | More ]
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op- it does work financially (even under worst case circumstances), and I am very fortunate for that. I just wish I hadn't spent so much time feeling guilty about it, when, not that I'm really thinking about it, I have plenty of reasons to not work again. I completely respect everyone's individual circumstances, whatever they may be, but just feel sad that women who don't have careers are seen as failures and drains on society. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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Everyone does what works in their own situation. I know that if finances allowed, I could totally fill my day between the kids stuff, the household, helping out my parents and managing some family owned real estate - and even get to work out! By the time my youngest goes to college, I'll be 57 and my parents will be around 90yo if they are still around. I think I'd have my hands full even without anyone at home! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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I know some who have due to divorce, etc. I do not plan to, however. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:37 PM Flag
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You're the 25 yo grad student right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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She'll go to lectures! Visit interesting museums! Read books and take online classes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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And find a man! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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No, I'm 33 and SAHM for 3 years... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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It's your life. I would never SAH once kids are in school, but that's my life. [ Reply | More ]
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I find there's always stuff that still comes up. I know working moms have the same issues and do it on other time, but honestly, if you don't have to be so stressed about it, why put that on yourself. When someone's car breaks down it's nice to say you take mine, I don't have to be anywhere, I will go get yours fixed etc. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you're just pretending you have reasons. I would have more respect for people like this if they just admitted they don't feel like going back to work. [ Reply | More ]
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Op- I definitely don't feel like it. I fully admit that. I am much more useful elsewhere, outside the workforce (in my particular case; obviously, everyone is different though) [ Reply | More ]
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NP - I don't pretend and people don't know what to say...it's like they WANT me to feel guilty. [ Reply | More ]
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One of the keys to happiness in life is accepting who and what you are. Do that and nothing else matters. If your DH is on board with you not working and you don't want to, dont. It's taht simple. [ Reply | More ]
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He definitely prefers me at home, so it is kind of a no-brainer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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Then who cares what other people think? Make no excuses. Say "I do not plan to return to work. I will make our home my first priority." And let them stew. [ Reply | More ]
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op- Thanks, you are right. I'm definitely at the point now where i'm done with excuses and explanations and apologies. [ Reply | More ]
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It is genuinely one of the mysteries of life to me why anyone cares what another person (nevermind an anon stranger on the internet) thinks about abstract SAH/WOH type stuff. If you say something to me that is hurtful, fine. But don't apologize to people who are your friends. They don't need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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DHs always prefer to have a wife at home. That way they don't have to worry 'bout nutin. [ Reply | More ]
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op- I know, i often think what a good deal it is for him. But I'm happy to do it and happy to be needed at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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Is having an absentee father a good deal for your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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no, but better than 2 absentee parents. [ Reply | More ]
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I am with you. I take classes that interest me at local community college. People are always asking if I am working towards something. [ Reply | More ]
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OP- that's kind of what I'm talking about...it often feels like others can't just accept that you're home, doing what you need to do for your family, enjoying your life, but not focused on a career/next career move, etc. Maybe it's an nyc thing? [ Reply | More ]
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I think sahp is most valuable in middle. I'm thrilled we can do this. In high school maybe part time work but our family functions better with sahp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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So does ours. Maybe it's because DH's job is so demanding, but it would be insane for both of us to be gone all of the time. [ Reply | More ]
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Same here. We are always pretty happy here AND have enough time to say acknowledge our happiness & be grateful. I see what other parents do, and it doesn't look too great. So. much. stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] OMG!!!! Jessica Droppa (the blonde who stole a UBer's husband) is the SA CHESS MOM!!!!! 67 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:31 PM Flag
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what UBer's husband? [ Reply | More ]
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OMG you sound like a total nut!I FEEL BAD FOR THIS GIRL! [ Reply | More ]
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Hi, J! [ Reply | More ]
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What? Spill! [ Reply | More ]
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One mom has been posting about a skank who stole her husband, linking her FB profile for all to see, and the UB consensus was that this chick was an insane b#tch. Then, separately, there was an insane b#tch on UB who was posting in all caps how her snowflake was not allowed to participate in chess because he was late, and she pulled him out of SA the following day and was treating him for PTSD. Total nutcase. Now, guess what? They are one and the same person!!! [ Reply | More ]
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how do you know? [ Reply | More ]
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How on earth do you know this for sure? [ Reply | More ]
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I am 100% sure. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm anthropologist mom and I would love love love to know how you can be so sure. Do you recognize a tone? Know the people involved IRL? W hat? [ Reply | More ]
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I replied below. I have access to her info due to the fact that she wrote about her SA situation publicly [ Reply | More ]
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Oh. OK So the poor person's whose facebook info has been posted, you know that SHE is chess mom. Gotcha. [ Reply | More ]
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This is why women should never post or email anything personal. They think that they can't be uncovered but they can. [ Reply | More ]
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Even her FB posts are public. What a nut! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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Ugh. If I were doing something shady I would never post on Facebook. Ugh, I hate Facebook. [ Reply | More ]
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psychic mom, is that you? [ Reply | More ]
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Are you sure the scorned wife didn't make up the SA Chess Mom post (which I didn't see) as part of her crazy ploy against this woman? [ Reply | More ]
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That kid will not grow up troubled. Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Lol, this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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Didn't she have her own husband? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:39 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:40 PM Flag
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Divorced or single mom by choice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:41 PM Flag
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Clearly she didn't want to stay single for long [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:47 PM Flag
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Question for OP...how do you know this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:43 PM Flag
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She recently went on record with her chess story and I have access to her info (her name, her dc's name) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:45 PM Flag
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Is there a link to her "going on record"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:50 PM Flag
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AHAHAHA! Attention whores will eventually be outed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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I'm ROFL right now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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Nice!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Snap! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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How do you know that's her though? Jessica is a very common name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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I know it's her because I have access to her info because of her going public with this story. Her full name, her dc's name... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Oy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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how do you have her sons name? This is scary??????!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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She VOLUNTEERED this info! Lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Ps 166? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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I hope your DH and his lawyer find these posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:44 PM Flag
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Nothing wrong with posting public fb pages [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:55 PM Flag
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Posting her name and child is illegal. SICKO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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can someone help me out. JD was posting her own FB account? she took someone's DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:52 PM Flag
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The person whose DH she "stole" is posting here about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:53 PM Flag
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can't blame her really [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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got it. and the chess posts were the ex wife too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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No, the chess posts were from crazy JD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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No the chess posts were Jessica herself, anonymously. Someone brilliant just made the connection after seeing story in the times! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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hi brilliant OP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:25 PM Flag
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the scorned wife is posting JD's facebook page [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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so both of these women were posting on here around the same time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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Yes, lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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who gives a shit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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I'm enjoying the catfight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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+1 me too, meowwwww pass the popcorn please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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The ladies at UWSA who post here all the time apparently love it. They are the ones who are posting here. Yuk, that school sounds like a sorority at a 3rd tier private college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:12 PM Flag
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She seems nice and like she cares about her son and wants him to be happy. So what, she "stole" another woman's DH? I'm going to guess that the now exDW is a crazy bitch who doxxes people, and DH would rather a non-crazy, warm, loving, attractive woman. Go figure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Yeah, ok, Jessica [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Lol, hi JD! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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It's crazy to me that people who post on UB are also real people... you are all so abstract to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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+1 i thought all of you guys were some sort of net bots that kept me entertained... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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and that anyone would actually bother to "dig" in to see who they are irl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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I dub thee "Sherlock Mom," carry on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:04 PM Flag
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TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:11 PM Flag
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Ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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who's the scorned ex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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Now there is a good question. If she outed the other, she should out herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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+ 1 -- and who is the stolen husband? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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henry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.17.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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